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2 Table of Cont ent s Chapt er 1: Engagement Announcement s...................................................................................... 5 W r i t i ng a New spaper Engagement Announcement & W or di ng ............................................................... 5 Et i quet t e f or Acknow l edgi ng Fami l y ........................................................................................................ 6 W hen t o Announce Your Engagement ..................................................................................................... 7 W her e t o Announce Your Engagement ................................................................................................... 7 Gui del i nes f or Incl udi ng an Image ........................................................................................................... 7 Chapt er 2: Weddi ng Save t he Dat e Car ds ..................................................................................... 9 W hat t o Incl ude on a Save t he Dat e Car d ................................................................................................ 9 Et i quet t e f or Acknow l edgi ng Guest s ..................................................................................................... 11 W hen t o Or der W eddi ng Save t he Dat e Car ds....................................................................................... 11 W hen t o Send Save t he Dat e Car ds ....................................................................................................... 12 Popul ar Save t he Dat e Car d W or di ng .................................................................................................... 12 Chapt er 3: Weddi ng Invi t at i ons .................................................................................................. 14 W hat t o Incl ude i n a W eddi ng Invi t at i on ............................................................................................... 14 Et i quet t e f or Acknow l edgi ng Guest s ..................................................................................................... 15 W hen t o Or der W eddi ng Invi t at i ons...................................................................................................... 16 W hen t o Send W eddi ng Invi t at i ons ....................................................................................................... 16 Popul ar W eddi ng Invi t at i on W or di ng .................................................................................................... 17 Popul ar W eddi ng Invi t at i on W or di ng .................................................................................................... 21 Response Car ds..................................................................................................................................... 22 Popul ar w eddi ng i nvi t at i on r esponse car d w or di ng ............................................................................... 22 Invi t at i on Assembl y............................................................................................................................... 23 Post age................................................................................................................................................. 25 CHAPTER 4: W EDDI NG RECEPTI ON ONLY INVI TATI ONS ......................................................................... 26 W hat t o Incl ude on a W eddi ng Recept i on Invi t at i on ............................................................................. 26 W eddi ng Recept i on Invi t at i on For mat s ................................................................................................. 27 3 W hen t o Or der W eddi ng Recept i on Invi t at i ons ..................................................................................... 28 W hen t o Send Recept i on Onl y Invi t at i ons ............................................................................................. 28 Popul ar W eddi ng Recept i on Invi t at i on W or di ng.................................................................................... 29 CHAPTER 5: W EDDI NG REHEARSAL DI NNER INVI TATI ONS...................................................................... 31 W hat t o Incl ude i n a W eddi ng Rehear sal Di nner Invi t at i on .................................................................... 32 Rehear sal Di nner Invi t at i on For mat ....................................................................................................... 32 Et i quet t e f or Acknow l edgi ng Guest s ..................................................................................................... 33 W hen t o Or der Rehear sal Di nner Invi t at i ons ......................................................................................... 33 W hen t o Send W eddi ng Rehear sal Di nner Invi t at i ons............................................................................ 33 Popul ar W eddi ng Rehear sal Di nner Invi t at i on W or di ng......................................................................... 34 Ot her W eddi ng W eek Act i vi t i es ............................................................................................................ 35 Chapt er 6: Weddi ng Par t y Invi t at i ons ......................................................................................... 36 W hat t o Incl ude i n a W eddi ng Par t y Invi t at i on ...................................................................................... 37 W eddi ng Par t y Invi t at i on For mat .......................................................................................................... 37 W hen t o Or der W eddi ng Par t y Invi t at i ons............................................................................................. 38 W hen t o Send W eddi ng Par t y Invi t at i ons .............................................................................................. 38 Popul ar W eddi ng Par t y Invi t at i on W or di ng ........................................................................................... 38 CHAPTER 7: BRI DAL SHOW ER INVI TATI ONS ......................................................................................... 40 W hat t o Incl ude i n a Br i dal Show er Invi t at i on........................................................................................ 41 Br i dal Show er Invi t at i on For mat ............................................................................................................ 41 Et i quet t e f or Acknow l edgi ng Guest s ..................................................................................................... 41 W hen t o Or der Br i dal Show er Invi t at i ons .............................................................................................. 42 W hen t o Send Br i dal Show er Invi t at i ons ............................................................................................... 42 Popul ar Br i dal Show er Invi t at i on W or di ng............................................................................................. 43 Chapt er 8: Bachel or Par t y Invi t at i ons and Bachel or et t e Par t y Invi t at i ons.................................. 44 W hat t o Incl ude i n a Bachel or or Bachel or et t e Par t y Invi t at i on ............................................................. 44 Bachel or and Bachel or et t e Par t y Invi t at i on For mat ............................................................................... 45 4 Et i quet t e f or Acknow l edgi ng Guest s ..................................................................................................... 45 W hen t o Or der Bachel or and Bachel or et t e Par t y Invi t at i ons ................................................................. 45 W hen t o Send Bachel or and Bachel or et t e Par t y Invi t at i ons................................................................... 46 Popul ar Bachel or and Bachel or et t e Show er Invi t at i on W or di ng ............................................................ 46 CHAPTER 9: W EDDI NG CEREM ONY PROGRAM S ................................................................................... 47 W hat t o Incl ude i n a W eddi ng Pr ogr am ................................................................................................. 47 W eddi ng Cer emony Pr ogr am For mat .................................................................................................... 48 W eddi ng Pr ogr am Et i quet t e.................................................................................................................. 48 W hen t o Or der W eddi ng Pr ogr ams ....................................................................................................... 49 Popul ar W eddi ng Pr ogr am W or di ng...................................................................................................... 49 CHAPTER 10: W EDDI NG THANK YOU CARD ETI QUETTE......................................................................... 53 How t o Pr epar e f or W eddi ng Thank You Car ds...................................................................................... 53 W hat t o Incl ude i n a W eddi ng Thank You Car d ...................................................................................... 54 Et i quet t e f or Acknow l edgi ng Gi f t s......................................................................................................... 54 Et i quet t e f or Acknow l edgi ng M oney ..................................................................................................... 54 W ho Recei ves a W eddi ng Thank You Car d............................................................................................. 55 W hen t o Or der W eddi ng Thank You Car ds ............................................................................................ 55 W hen t o Send W eddi ng Thank You Car ds.............................................................................................. 55 Popul ar W eddi ng Thank You Car d W or di ng........................................................................................... 56 Chapt er 11: Weddi ng Announcement s........................................................................................ 59 W hat t o Incl ude i n a W eddi ng Announcement ...................................................................................... 59 W eddi ng Announcement For mat s......................................................................................................... 60 Et i quet t e f or Acknow l edgi ng Reci pi ent s................................................................................................ 60 W hen t o Or der W eddi ng Announcement s ............................................................................................ 60 W hen t o Send W eddi ng Announcement s.............................................................................................. 60 Popul ar W eddi ng Announcement W or di ng ........................................................................................... 61 5 CHAPTER 1: ENGAGEMENT ANNOUNCEMENTS New l y engaged and w ant t o t el l t he w or l d? Cr eat e an engagement announcement ! A new spaper engagement announcement i s one of t he f i r st oppor t uni t i es f or a coupl e t o announce t hei r engagement t o t he publ i c usi ng t hei r l ocal and ci t y pr ess. We ar e her e t o hel p t he pr ocess of choosi ng engagement announcement w or di ng and submi t t i ng t he announcement t o t he pr ess easy. To begi n, cont act t he new s sour ce i n w hi ch you pl an on pl aci ng t he announcement . You can r each t hem by phone or by usi ng an i nt er net sear ch engi ne w i t h t he quer y [ new spaper t o w hi ch you w oul d l i ke t o submi t ] + engagement announcement . In some cases such as t he Los Angel es Ti mes, t he new spaper pr ovi des a f or m f or you t o f i l l out , w hi ch t hey use t o compi l e your w eddi ng det ai l s i nt o t hei r ow n new spaper f or mat . In ot her i nst ances, par t i cul ar l y w i t h smal l er new spaper s, t he submi t t er may choose t he engagement announcement w or di ng. Wr it ing a Newspaper Engagement Announcement & Wor ding Si nce new spaper s char ge by col umn si ze, i t i s i n your best i nt er est t o be conci se. Typi cal l y w r i t t en i n t he past t ense (si nce t he engagement has al r eady occur r ed), t he announcement i s f r om t he poi nt -of -vi ew of t he par t y host i ng t he w eddi ng, t r adi t i onal l y t he par ent s of t he br i de-t o-be. Det ails t o include M ont h and year of expect ed w eddi ng dat e (onl y i ncl ude t he w eddi ng dat e i f w eddi ng venue i s secur e pr i or t o t he announcement ) Per son Of f i ci at i ng Pl ace and ci t y of w eddi ng Br i de' s name Br i de' s ci t y, st at e Br i de' s age Br i de' s par ent s Br i de' s par ent s' ci t y and st at e of r esi dence St or ki e Ti p: Whi l e t he br i des' i mmedi at e f ami l y t r adi t i onal l y t akes on t he r esponsi bi l i t y of f i ndi ng t he appr opr i at e new spaper (s) and w r i t i ng t he pi ece, t oday, mor e and mor e coupl es submi t t hei r ow n announcement s. 6 Br i de' s school s, degr ees and or gani zat i ons Br i de' s cur r ent empl oyer and occupat i on Gr oom' s name Gr oom' s ci t y, st at e Gr oom' s age Gr oom' s par ent s Gr oom' s par ent s' ci t y and st at e of r esi dence Gr oom' s school s, degr ees and or gani zat i ons Gr oom' s cur r ent empl oyer and occupat i on Honeymoon Coupl e' s f ut ur e ci t y of r esi dence Et iquet t e for Acknowledging Family Si nce t he announcement comes f r om t he poi nt -of -vi ew of t he w eddi ng host s, t he f i r st sent ence i n t he engagement announcement w or di ng may change based on t he f ami l y dynami cs. For i nst ance, a st andar d w eddi ng announcement mi ght say: M r . and M r s. Joseph Smi t h of New Yor k, New Yor k ar e pl eased t o announce t he engagement of t hei r daught er Jane Smi t h, t o Jonat han Jackson, son of Davi d and El ai ne Jackson of Cant er bur y, New Hampshi r e. M s. Smi t h, a gr aduat e of Wel l esl ey Col l ege, i s a cur at or f or a pr i vat e ar t gal l er y i n New Yor k Ci t y. M r . Jackson gr aduat ed cum l aude f r om Col umbi a, and pr act i ces i n t he Law Of f i ces of Fr ankl i n, M ur r ay i n Br ookl yn, New Yor k. An Oct ober w eddi ng i s pl anned. How ever , somet i mes f ami l y dynami cs ar e not as si mpl e. Bel ow ar e suggest ed announcement i nt r oduct i ons f or al t er nat i ve ci r cumst ances: Acknowledging a divor ced par ent of t he br ide or gr oom M s. Debor a Smi t h i s pl eased t o announce t he engagement of her daught er , Jane Smi t h, t o Jonat han Jackson M s. Smi t h i s al so t he daught er of Joseph Smi t h of New Yor k. (Pl ace t hi s l i ne at t he end of t he announcement .) Acknowledging a r emar r ied par ent of t he br ide or gr oom M s. Debor a Smi t h and M r . Geor ge Bel l announce t he engagement of M s. Smi t h' s daught er , Jane Smi t h t o Jonat han Jackson M s. Smi t h i s al so t he daught er of Joseph Smi t h of New Yor k. St or ki e Ti p: You ar e not obl i gat ed t o ment i on bot h bi ol ogi cal par ent s. 7 Acknowledging a deceased par ent of t he br ide or gr oom M r . and M r s. Joseph Smi t h of New Yor k, New Yor k ar e pl eased t o announce t he engagement of t hei r daught er Jane Smi t h t o Jonat han Jackson, son of El ai ne Jackson and t he l at e M r . Davi d Jackson of Cant er bur y, New Hampshi r e. If t he couple is host ing t he wedding, or if t his is a second or t hir d mar r iage Jane Smi t h, a cur at or f or a pr i vat e ar t gal l er y i n New Yor k Ci t y, i s t o be mar r i ed t o Jonat han Jackson, a par t ner at t he Law Of f i ces of Fr ankl i n, M ur r ay i n Br ookl yn, New Yor k. M s. Smi t h i s t he daught er of M r . Joseph Smi t h of Li ncol n, Nebr aska and M r s. Debor a Smi t h of Or l ando, Fl or i da. M r . Jackson i s t he son of Davi d and El ai ne Jackson of Cant er bur y, New Hampshi r e. An Oct ober weddi ng i s pl anned. When t o Announce Your Engagement Tr adi t i onal i st s r ecommend t hat you announce your engagement at l east t w o t o t hr ee mont hs pr i or t o t he w eddi ng dat e. Wher e t o Announce Your Engagement In t he l ocal new spaper w her e you cur r ent l y r esi de. If t he br i de and gr oom l i ve i n t w o di f f er ent ci t i es, cr eat e an announcement f or each paper . Al umni magazi nes or col l ege new spaper s especi al l y i f t he br i de and gr oom gr aduat ed f r om t he same school . New s sour ces near ext ended f r i ends or f ami l y member s. Guidelines for Including an Image Submi t t i ng a phot o w i t h your engagement announcement w i l l cost ext r a, but i t ' s an exci t i ng w ay t o make your announcement st and out i n t he new spaper and i nt r oduce f r i ends and r el at i ves t o your f i anc. Her e ar e a f ew gui del i nes f or submi t t i ng a phot o w i t h your engagement announcement : Submit t ing a phot o by mail Incl ude coupl e' s name and dat e of w eddi ng on back Incl ude phot ogr apher ' s name i f cr edi t i s r equi r ed Avoi d i mages w i t h r ed-eye Avoi d busy or l oud backgr ounds Images shoul d be shar p and i n f ocus Ideal phot os ar e an 8x10 ver t i cal pi ct ur e St or ki e Ti p: Sel ect i ng an i mage w her e coupl e s heads and eyes ar e on t he same l evel w i l l cr eat e symmet r y i n t he pi ct ur e. 8 Submit t ing a phot o by email Save phot o i n a JPEG f i l e f or mat M i ni mum 300 DPI at 8x10 si ze Incl ude phot ogr apher ' s name i f cr edi t i s r equi r ed Save t he i mage f i l e usi ng t he coupl e' s l ast name and " engagement announcement phot o" o Exampl e: Smi t h-Jackson_engagement _announcement _phot o.j pg 9 CHAPTER 2: WEDDING SAVE THE DATE CARDS Weddi ng save t he dat e car ds ar e desi gned t o gi ve key member s of your guest l i st a heads-up t hat your w eddi ng i s on t he hor i zon so t hey have ampl e t i me t o pl an f or i t . A r el at i ve new comer t o t he w eddi ng i nvi t at i on pr ocess, save t he dat e car ds bounded ont o t he scene i n t he ear l y 2000s w hen dest i nat i on w eddi ngs and t hr ee-day-w eekend w eddi ng event s i ncr eased i n popul ar i t y. In gener al , save t he dat e car ds i ncl ude enough i nf or mat i on on t he w eddi ng t o al l ow guest s t o make necessar y ar r angement s t o get t o your w eddi ng i n advance. Thi s i s especi al l y r el evant i f you ar e pl anni ng a dest i nat i on w eddi ng, i f t he maj or i t y of your guest s ar e comi ng f r om out of t ow n, or i f you' r e goi ng t o get mar r i ed i n a popul ar t our i st or vacat i on l ocal e w her e accommodat i ons may be har d t o come by. What t o Include on a Save t he Dat e Car d A w eddi ng save t he dat e car d needs t o i ncl ude t he i mpor t ant det ai l s of your w eddi ng: w ho i s get t i ng mar r i ed and w her e. Det ails t o include The names of engaged coupl e Dat e(s) of w eddi ng event Ci t y and st at e/ count r y of t he w eddi ng Venue of t he w eddi ng The phr ase f or mal i nvi t at i on t o come If you ar e pl anni ng on host i ng a l ar ge number of guest s f r om out -of -t ow n, or have deci ded t o have a dest i nat i on w eddi ng, i ncl udi ng i nf or mat i on on accommodat i ons and t r anspor t at i on i s appr eci at ed. Thi s coul d i ncl ude: Conveni ent ai r por t s Tr anspor t at i on opt i ons f r om ai r por t s t o l odgi ng St or ki e Ti p: Incl udi ng " f or mal i nvi t at i on t o f ol l ow ensur es guest s do not conf use t he Save t he Dat e car d w i t h a w eddi ng i nvi t e 10 Lodgi ng opt i ons Tr anspor t at i on f r om l odgi ng t o w eddi ng venue Phone number s and w ebsi t es f or r el evant busi nesses Wedding Save t he Dat e Car d For mat Because t her e i s not a l ong t r adi t i on ar ound t hem, t he et i quet t e r egar di ng save t he dat e car ds i s f l exi bl e. Even i n t he case of a ver y t r adi t i onal or f or mal w eddi ng, a save t he dat e car d can be i nf or mal and casual i f a coupl e w i shes. Coupl es can choose t o mat ch t he t heme or col or of t hei r f or mal w eddi ng i nvi t at i ons, or be mor e cr eat i ve. Popular Save t he Dat e car d for mat s: Phot o car ds f eat ur i ng t he engaged coupl e Post car ds M agnet s j ust make sur e t o i ncl ude " cont ai ns magnet " on t he envel ope Themed St or ki e Ti p: As coupl es become mor e i nt er net savvy, per sonal w eddi ng w ebsi t es ar e a popul ar and easy w ay t o di ssemi nat e i mpor t ant w eddi ng i nf o. Add " M or e Weddi ng Inf or mat i on at Our Websi t e" t o your save t he dat e car ds j ust be sur e al l t he r eci pi ent s have i nt er net access! 11 Et iquet t e for Acknowledging Guest s Who r eceives save t he dat e car ds You shoul d onl y send save t he dat e car ds t o peopl e w ho w i l l l at er r ecei ve an i nvi t at i on. It i s gauche t o send a save t he dat e car d and t hen negl ect t o send t hat per son an i nvi t at i on because you changed your mi nd i n addi t i on, i t w i l l be conf usi ng t o a guest w ho may t hi nk t he car d i s t hei r i nvi t at i on. Send save t he dat e car ds onl y t o t he peopl e you def i ni t el y w ant at your w eddi ng. Acknowledging guest s only invit ed t o t he wedding r ecept ion Guest s w ho ar e not i nvi t ed t o t he w eddi ng cer emony but w ho st i l l need t o make ar r angement s t o at t end t he w eddi ng r ecept i on shoul d r ecei ve a save t he dat e car d. Speci f y t hat t hese save t he dat e car ds ar e f or t he r ecept i on or par t y, and not t o t he cer emony so t her e i s no conf usi on as t o w hi ch even t he guest shoul d at t end. Acknowledging a guest and t heir significant ot her If guest s w i l l be r equi r ed t o t ake t i me of f f r om w or k or make ext ensi ve t r avel ar r angement s, use save t he dat e car ds t o i ndi cat e w ho w i l l be i nvi t ed t o t he upcomi ng w eddi ng. If a coupl e l i ves t oget her but have di f f er ent l ast names, addr ess t he envel ope t o bot h guest s. If a coupl e does not l i ve t oget her , you can send a save t he dat e car d t o one of t he guest ' s addr ess and i ncl ude t hei r si gni f i cant ot her i n t he sal ut at i on, or send i ndi vi dual save t he dat e car ds t o t w o addr esses. Acknowledging an Adult s-Only wedding An adul t s-onl y w eddi ng r equi r es guest s w i t h chi l dr en t o doubl e up on t hei r pl anni ng how t o get t hemsel ves t o your w eddi ng, and w her e t o l eave t hei r chi l dr en w hi l e t hey ar e gone. It i s i mper at i ve t o l et guest s know t hat t hey w i l l need t o make ot her pl ans f or t hei r ki ds. Addr ess t he save t he dat e car d t o t he adul t s you w i sh t o at t end and l eave of f t hei r chi l dr en' s names. In addi t i on, consi der usi ng t he f ol l ow i ng l i ne: We hope t he t w o of you w i l l be abl e t o j oi n us. When t o Or der Wedding Save t he Dat e Car ds Save t he dat e car ds shoul d be or der ed as soon t he w eddi ng pl ans have been f i nal i zed, i ncl udi ng dat es, t i mes, venues and any necessar y t r avel or l odgi ng ar r angement s. Or der enough t o i nvi t e your ent i r e guest l i st w i t h 15 t o 25 ext r a. Check out our Weddi ng Save t he Dat e Car ds at St or ki e.com w hen i t s t i me t o or der ! St or ki e Ti p: Sendi ng save t he dat e car ds mor e t han t w el ve mont hs i n advance i ncr eases t he r i sk t hat guest s w i l l f or get t he event . 12 When t o Send Save t he Dat e Car ds Weddi ng save t he Dat e car ds shoul d be sent out 4 t o 6 mont hs pr i or t o t he dat e of a l ocal w eddi ng, and 9 mont hs t o a year pr i or t o a dest i nat i on w eddi ng. Popular Save t he Dat e Car d Wor ding Local wedding Save t he Dat e f or t he w eddi ng of Jami e St ent on & Let t i e M ar yf i el d Sat ur day, M ay 25t h, 2010 Tacoma Tr ai n St at i on Invi t at i on t o f ol l ow 13 Dest inat ion wedding Save t he Dat e Sat ur day, Jul y 13t h For t he Weddi ng of Anna M ar i n and Ri cky Jones We l ook f or w ar d t o shar i ng our speci al day w i t h you! Speci al r at es have been ar r anged at t he Hyat t Inn i n dow nt ow n At l ant a. Pl ease ment i on t he M ar i n/ Jones Weddi ng Bl ock Rat e w hen maki ng r eser vat i ons. Hyat t Inn 2555 Cent r al Avenue At l ant a, Geor gi a 12354 559-848-4651 Invi t at i on t o Fol l ow 14 CHAPTER 3: WEDDING INVITATIONS Weddi ng i nvi t at i ons can be t he most mi nd-boggl i ng par t of t he w eddi ng pl anni ng pr ocess. Inner envel opes, out er envel opes, r esponse car ds, oh my! Fi r st t ake a deep br eat h and r emember t hat w eddi ng pl anni ng i s supposed t o be a j oyf ul t i me. And r ecr ui t r ei nf or cement s your w eddi ng par t y and par ent s can hel p you nar r ow dow n your guest l i st , f or mat , and addr ess your i nvi t at i ons. M ake i t f un and t hr ow an " i nvi t at i on cel ebr at i on" a Sunday af t er noon w her e your w eddi ng par t y gat her s t o assembl e and addr ess your i nvi t at i ons. (Ser ve f ood once ever yone i s done addr essi ng t he i nvi t at i ons - you don' t w ant cof f ee st ai ns on your w eddi ng i nvi t es). What t o Include in a Wedding Invit at ion Her e ar e t he component s you' l l need t o begi n const r uct i ng your i nvi t at i ons. Wedding invit at ion component s Inner Envel ope Out er Envel ope Weddi ng Seal Post age (f or out er envel ope) Post age (f or r esponse car d) St or ki e Ti p: If you w i sh t o i nvi t e a coupl e w ho do not l i ve t oget her , i t i s accept abl e t o send one i nvi t at i on t o t he per son t he mar r yi ng coupl e i s cl osest t o, f ol l ow i ng t hese same convent i ons. Sendi ng t w o separ at e i nvi t at i ons i s al so accept abl e. 15 Inser t i ons o Ti ssue Paper o Recept i on Car d o M ap or Di r ect i ons Car d o Response Ret ur n Envel ope o Response Car d Et iquet t e for Acknowledging Guest s Your w eddi ng i nvi t at i ons w i l l r ef l ect your w eddi ng, be i t a casual bar ef oot -on-t he-beach bash or a t r adi t i onal chur ch cer emony. Whi l e et i quet t e can be f l exi bl e w hen acknow l edgi ng guest s dependi ng on how f or mal t he cer emony i s, f ol l ow i ng t r adi t i onal convent i ons mean you w i l l avoi d any f aux pas no mat t er t he t heme. Acknowledging a couple wit h differ ent last names On t he out er envel ope, l i st t he r eci pi ent s i n al phabet i cal or der . Incl ude t i t l es, f i r st names, mi ddl e i ni t i al s and l ast name. M r s. Jane B. Keeni ng M r . Paul D. Si mon 2350 Wi cker Lane Nubl i e, Texas 45224 On t he i nner envel ope you can ei t her l i st i n al phabet i cal or der M r s. Keeni ng and M r . Si mon or Jane and Paul dependi ng on t he l evel of f or mal i t y you desi r e. Acknowledging a single woman, a divor ce or a widow Si ngl e w omen shoul d al w ays be r ef er r ed t o w i t h t he t i t l e " M s" on t he out er envel ope. Di vor ced and/ or w i dow ed w omen w ho have kept t hei r husband' s l ast name can be addr essed as ei t her " M r s." or " M s.," but i t i s pol i t e t o f i nd out w hi ch t i t l e t hey pr ef er bef or e you send your i nvi t at i ons. On t he i nner envel ope, t he same t i t l e w i t h her l ast name can be used, or j ust her f i r st and l ast name sans t i t l e. Acknowledging doct or s Doct or s ar e i ndi cat ed w i t h t he pr ef i x " Dr ." If t w o peopl e i n a coupl e ar e doct or s and shar e t he same l ast name, t he out er envel ope can r ead: Dr s. Rober t s 55 M ai n St r eet Wal t ham, M A 02885 If t he doct or s do not shar e t he same l ast name, l i st bot h guest s i n al phabet i cal or der w i t h t he pr ef i x " Dr ." l eadi ng bot h names. The i nner envel ope can r ead ei t her The Rober t s or Dr . M eyer s and Dr . St even accor di ngl y. St or ki e Ti p: No mat t er w hat t he t heme, you shoul d al w ays addr ess your i nvi t at i ons by hand i n a neat , l egi bl e scr i pt and use bl ack i nk. M any coupl es choose t o have t hei r envel opes pr of essi onal l y addr essed by a cal l i gr apher . Cal l i gr aphy i s t he ar t of el egant l y cur ved handw r i t i ng and adds a st yl i sh, sophi st i cat ed t ouch t o f or mal i nvi t at i ons. 16 Acknowledging childr en Young chi l dr en do not need t o be i ncl uded on t he out er envel ope, especi al l y i n t he case of a ver y f or mal w eddi ng. To ensur e your guest s know t hei r chi l dr en ar e i nvi t ed, i ncl ude t he chi l dr en' s names on t he i nner envel ope, f ol l ow i ng t he names of any adul t s. Acknowledging a guest ' s guest Par t i cul ar l y i n t he scenar i o of a ver y f or mal w eddi ng, i t can be consi der ed gauche t o i ncl ude " and Guest " anyw her e on t he w eddi ng i nvi t at i on. It i s encour aged t o f i nd out t he name of any si gni f i cant ot her t hat may be at t endi ng your w eddi ng, and w r i t e t hei r f ul l name on t he w eddi ng i nvi t at i on. When t o Or der Wedding Invit at ions Weddi ng i nvi t at i ons shoul d be or der ed as soon as t he dat e of t he cer emony i s set and t he guest l i st has been conf i r med. Thi s gener al l y shoul d occur t hr ee t o f our t h mont hs pr i or t o t he w eddi ng dat e. Take a l ook at our Weddi ng Invi t at i ons at St or ki e.com w hen i t s t i me t o or der ! When t o Send Wedding Invit at ions Weddi ng i nvi t at i ons shoul d be mai l ed si x w eeks pr i or t o t he w eddi ng dat e and i n t he case of dest i nat i on w eddi ngs, a f ew mont hs pr i or t o t he w eddi ng. Request t o r ecei ve guest s' r esponse car ds no l at er t han t hr ee w eeks pr i or t o t he w eddi ng dat e. St or ki e Ti p: Addr essi ng a w eddi ng i nvi t at i on t o onl y one per son w i l l i ndi cat e t hat you onl y expect t hat one per son w i l l at t end t he w eddi ng. For t hi s r eason, i t i s hel pf ul t o di scer n t he names of any si gni f i cant ot her s or chi l dr en and i ncl ude t hem on t he i nvi t at i on and/ or i t s i nner envel ope i f you w i sh t hem t o at t end. 17 Popular Wedding Invit at ion Wor ding Now t hat you under st and t he w eddi ng i nvi t at i on assembl y pr ocess, make ever y w or d count ! Even t he most seasoned gr ammar gi r l can f eel i nt i mi dat ed w hen i t comes t o w r i t i ng w eddi ng i nvi t at i ons, but al l you need t o do i s f ol l ow t hese si mpl e st eps. 1. Writ e t he invit at ion through the voice of the host Nor mal l y, t he f i r st t w o names t hat appear on a w eddi ng i nvi t at i on ar e t hose payi ng f or t he event . Tr adi t i onal l y, t hi s i s t he par ent s of t he br i de, so i t w oul d r ead: M r s. Sar ah and M r . James Buckl ey Ot her w i se, i f t he br i de and gr oom host t he event , t he i nvi t at i on w oul d r ead: M s. Jane Bet h Smi t h and M r . Samuel Law r ence M i chael s Or Toget her w i t h t hei r f ami l i es, Jane Smi t h and Sam M i chael s St or ki e Ti p: It ' s common f or w eddi ng i nvi t at i ons t o a Jew i sh cer emony t o f avor t he w or d " and" i n t he pl ace of " t o" . 18 St or ki e Ti p: Women al w ays go f i r st w hen usi ng t he f i r st name. For a mor e f or mal f eel , add t he mi ddl e name of t he br i de and gr oom t o t he i nt r oduct i on. 2. Request t hat your guest s at t end your wedding Common et i quet t e di ct at es t he w eddi ng cer emony venue det er mi nes t he " r equest l i ne" i n your i nvi t at i on. If your w eddi ng t akes pl ace i n a house of w or shi p, your i nvi t at i on shoul d r ead: Request t he honour of your pr esence at t he mar r i age of t hei r daught er If t he cer emony t akes pl ace i n a secul ar l ocat i on, t he w or di ng shoul d r ead: Request t he pl easur e of your company at t he mar r i age of t hei r daught er Or Woul d be el at ed f or you t o at t end t he mar r i age of t hei r daught er If t he cer emony i s i nf or mal and host ed by t he par ent s: Woul d be del i ght ed by your pr esence at t he w eddi ng of t hei r chi l dr en If t he br i de and gr oom ar e host i ng t he event : Invi t e you t o at t end t he cel ebr at i on of t hei r mar r i age 3. Tell your guest s who's get t ing married If t he par ent s of t he br i de ar e host i ng, w r i t e out t he f i r st and mi ddl e name of t he br i de, f ol l ow ed by t he gr oom' s t i t l e, hi s f i r st and mi ddl e name. Jane Bet h t o M r . Samuel Law r ence 19 4. When will you be get t ing married? When w r i t i ng a dat e and t i me i n an i nvi t at i on, i t i s mor e f or mal t o spel l out each el ement : Sat ur day, t he t w ent y-f our t h of Jul y, t w o t housand and t en at f i ve o' cl ock i n t he af t er noon Al w ays r emember t o capi t al i ze bot h t he day and t he mont h. If you pl an a w eddi ng at 3:30 pm, t he i nvi t at i on shoul d r ead: Hal f past t hr ee o' cl ock i n t he af t er noon 5. Where are you get t ing married? For smal l l ocat i ons, or i f t he w eddi ng t akes pl ace at a r esi dence, w r i t e out t he f ul l addr ess: The Gol f Cl ub Inn 7654 Thompson Road San Fr anci sco, Cal i f or ni a If t he w eddi ng t akes pl ace at a w el l -know n l ocat i on, you can choose not t o i ncl ude t he addr ess: The Space Needl e Seat t l e, Washi ngt on 6. When is it t ime t o part y? Whet her you choose t o i ncl ude your r ecept i on i nf or mat i on on t he w eddi ng i nvi t at i on, or on a separ at e r ecept i on car d, t he t ext shoul d not i f y t he guest s w her e t he r ecept i on w i l l t ake pl ace, and i f you w i l l be ser vi ng a f ul l meal . If t he r ecept i on t akes pl ace at t he same venue as t he cer emony: Recept i on t o f ol l ow i n t he Rose Room If you ar e not ser vi ng a f ul l meal at t he r ecept i on, t he i nvi t at i on w i l l r ead: Desser t and danci ng t o f ol l ow Or And af t er w ar ds f or cockt ai l s and cake i n t he Rose Room 20 If t he r ecept i on t akes pl ace at a separ at e l ocat i on, or i f t he r ecept i on doesn' t i mmedi at el y f ol l ow t he cer emony, t he i nvi t at i on w oul d r ead: Recept i on Seven o' cl ock Seasons Gr and Hot el 123 Al pi ne Road Roger s, M ont ana 21 Popular Wedding Invit at ion Wor ding Formal wedding invit at ion M r s. Sar ah and M r . James Buckl ey Request t he honour of your pr esence at t he mar r i age of t hei r daught er Jane Bet h t o M r . Samuel Law r ence On Sat ur day, t he t w ent y-f our t h of Jul y, t w o t housand and t en at f i ve o' cl ock i n t he af t er noon The Gol f Cl ub Inn 7654 Thompson Road San Fr anci sco, Cal i f or ni a Recept i on t o f ol l ow i n t he Rose Room Casual wedding invit at ion Toget her w i t h t hei r f ami l i es, Jane Smi t h and Sam M i chael s Invi t e you t o at t end t he cel ebr at i on of t hei r mar r i age On Sat ur day, t he t w ent y-f our t h of Jul y, t w o t housand and t en at Hal f past t hr ee o' cl ock i n t he af t er noon The Space Needl e Seat t l e, WA Recept i on Seven o' cl ock Seasons Gr and Hot el 123 Al pi ne Road Seat t l e, Washi ngt on 22 Response Car ds Response car ds ar e i ncl uded w i t h t he w eddi ng i nvi t at i on so guest s have an easy w ay t o i nf or m t hei r host s i f t hey w i l l be at t endi ng. Popular wedding invit at ion r esponse car d for mat s Post car ds or smal l car ds ar e t he most popul ar f or mat s f or r esponse car ds. Bot h shoul d come pr e-st amped and pr e-addr essed, and i n t he case of a car d, w i t h i t s ow n envel ope. The r et ur n addr ess on a r esponse car d can be pr i nt ed, r at her t han hand-w r i t t en. Popular wedding invit at ion r esponse car d wor ding Fi l l -i n-t he-bl ank r esponse car ds ar e t he most conveni ent w ay f or t he w eddi ng host t o conf i r m w ho w i l l be at t endi ng t he cer emony. Det ails t o include Space f or guest s t o w r i t e guest s' names Space t o i ndi cat e w het her guest s w i l l be at t endi ng or decl i ni ng Dat e by w hen guest s shoul d r epl y Space f or guest s t o i ncl ude a per sonal not e Popular wor ding examples Formal response card wording The f avour of a r epl y i s r equest ed by June 16, 2010. M __________________________ ____Accept s w i t h pl easur e ____Decl i nes w i t h r egr et s St or ki e Ti p: In t he i nst ance of a ver y f or mal w eddi ng, r esponse car ds can be consi der ed i nappr opr i at e. Incl ude The f avour of a r epl y i s r equest ed by June 16, 2006 on t he i nvi t at i on, and guest s w i l l be r esponsi bl e t o r espond i n t hei r ow n w ay. St or ki e Ti p: Number your guest l i st and penci l a t i ny, cor r espondi ng number on your r esponse car ds. That w ay, i f someone sends i n a bl ank r esponse car d, you can easi l y cr oss r ef er ence i t w i t h your guest l i st . 23 Casual response card wording ___________________________ ____i s/ ar e l ooki ng f or w ar d t o di ni ng, danci ng, and cel ebr at i ng ____has/ have t o mi ss t he f un Ki ndl y r epl y bef or e June 16, 2010 Invit at ion Assembly Get or gani zed bef or e you begi n addr essi ng, st ampi ng and seal i ng envel opes. Cl ear of f a t abl e and pl ace your i nser t i ons i n t he or der i n w hi ch t hey go. No mor e t han t w o peopl e shoul d be w or ki ng on your i nvi t at i ons at any t i me because i t cr eat es conf usi on. Cr eat e pi l es of your i nser t i ons and make sur e t hat each pi l e has t he same count i f you have a st ack of 150 i nvi t at i ons, make sur e you have a st ack of 150 of ever yt hi ng el se. Inser t s (in or der fr om t op t o bot t om) Ti ssue Paper Recept i on Car d M ap or Di r ect i ons Car d Response Ret ur n Envel ope Response Car d St or ki e Ti p: If you' r e suf f er i ng f r om envel ope over l oad, consi der our conveni ent Invent at i ons Weddi ng Invi t at i on Pocket s and Wr aps. 24 Weddi ng i nvi t at i ons have t w o envel opes - bot h an i nner and an out er . Al l of your i nser t i ons ar e encl osed i nsi de t he i nner envel ope w i t h t he pr i nt ed si de f aci ng t he f l ap. If your i nvi t at i ons ar e si ngl e f ol d (t hat i s, one si ngl e car d) w i t h t he w or di ng on t he out si de, your i nser t i ons ar e pl aced on t op. If your i nvi t at i ons ar e mul t i -f ol d w i t h t he w or di ng i nsi de t he f i r st f ol d, t hen your i nser t i ons ar e t ucked under t he f i r st f ol d. The inner envelope Al l f ami l y member s w ho ar e i nvi t ed shoul d be i ncl uded on t he i nsi de envel ope. The i nner envel ope cont ai ns t he w eddi ng i nvi t at i on, r ecept i on car d, r esponse car d, and/ or di r ect i on car ds. The out er envelope Out er envel ope encl oses t he i nner envel ope and t he ent i r e w eddi ng i nvi t at i on package. Reception car ds Recept i on car ds, pr i nt ed w i t h t he r ecept i on venue and t i me, ar e i nser t ed w i t h t he w eddi ng i nvi t at i on i nt o t he i nner envel ope. Dir ect ions and map car ds In t he age of GPS and onl i ne maps, sendi ng out di r ect i ons t o your w eddi ng i s no l onger a necessi t y, but i t i s a cour t esy. If you choose t o send out di r ect i ons or map car ds, encl ose t hem w i t h t he i nvi t at i ons no ext r a envel opes needed. Do not seal t he out er envel opes unt i l you make sur e al l your count s ar e even. That w ay, i f your i nser t i on pi l es don' t have t he same count , you coul d go back and see w hi ch i nvi t at i on i s mi ssi ng an i nser t . Response Car d/ Pr int ed Ret ur n Addr ess Envelope Response car ds, i f you choose t o have t hem, ar e encl osed w i t h t he i nvi t at i on, t ucked under t he f l ap of t he r esponse envel ope. Post age i s i ncl uded on t he r esponse envel ope and t he r esponse envel ope i s pr i nt ed w i t h t he addr ess of t he per son(s) or gani zi ng t he guest l i st . It does not have t o be t he same addr ess as on t he i nvi t at i on envel ope. Thi s w ay, your guest s can easi l y dr op t hei r r esponses of f at t he near est mai l box. Wedding Seals Weddi ng seal s add an el egant f i ni shi ng t ouch t o your i nvi t at i ons and hel p def i ne t he per sonal i t y of your bi g day. Af f i x your w eddi ng seal s t o t he back of t he out er envel opes w hen al l t he assembl i ng i s compl et e. You can al so put w eddi ng seal s on your t hank you not es, pr ogr ams, and w eddi ng f avor boxes. 25 Post age Your post age w i l l depend on t he number of encl osur es and t he w ei ght of your i nvi t at i on. You may need ext r a post age. When you f i r st pur chase your i nvi t at i ons, br i ng a f ul l y assembl ed i nvi t at i on t o your post of f i ce w her e t hey w i l l w ei gh i t and t el l you pr eci sel y how much post age i s r equi r ed. Per use t hei r decor at i ve st amps and see i f you coul d t i e i n t he st amps w i t h your w eddi ng t heme. We al so have cust omi zed w eddi ng st amps r eady-f or -or der t hat add a f un f i ni shi ng t ouch t o your w eddi ng i nvi t es. Al so, don' t f or get t o pur chase t he st amps you' l l need f or your r esponse envel opes! St or ki e Ti p: When you mai l your i nvi t at i ons, r equest t hat t hey be hand cancel ed w i t h a r ubber st amp. Your envel opes w i l l l ook mor e at t r act i ve and w on' t have any of t hose unsi ght l y, machi ne-made bl ack mar ks. 26 CHAPTER 4: WEDDING RECEPTION ONLY INVITATIONS One r omant i c (and cost -cut t i ng) w eddi ng t r end f or many coupl es i s t o pl an a smal l , pr i vat e w eddi ng cer emony f ol l ow ed by a l ar ger , mor e publ i c r ecept i on. As i deal as a pr i vat e w eddi ng mi ght seem, i t i s easy f or f eel i ngs t o get hur t and r esent ment t o br ew w hen cer t ai n f r i ends and f ami l y member s l ear n t hey w on' t get t o see you w al k dow n t he ai sl e. Weddi ng r ecept i on i nvi t at i ons can make some soon-t o-be new l yw eds t r embl e i n hor r or of hur t i ng a guest ' s f eel i ngs. Have no f ear ! Ther e i s a t ast ef ul and t act f ul w ay t o w r i t e r ecept i on onl y i nvi t at i ons. What t o Include on a Wedding Recept ion Invit at ion Recept i on onl y i nvi t at i ons need t o i ncl ude t he most i mpor t ant i nf or mat i on about t he r ecept i on: w ho t he r ecept i on cel ebr at es and w her e i t t akes pl ace. Det ails t o include The host ' s name The names of t he engaged coupl e Day, dat e of mont h and t i me Name of t he r ecept i on venue Recept i on venue addr ess St or ki e Ti p: For a f or mal f eel , al w ays spel l out t he number s i n t he dat e and t i me. For exampl e, " t he r ecept i on w i l l t ake pl ace at hal f af t er t w o o' cl ock on t he t went y-f i r st of June, t w o t housand and t en." 27 M any new l yw eds use w eddi ng r ecept i on i nvi t at i ons t o cel ebr at e nupt i al s af t er a dest i nat i on w eddi ng or an el opement . It i s common f or r ecept i on onl y i nvi t at i ons t o i ncl ude w her e and w hen t he w eddi ng t ook pl ace i f i t occur r ed on a separ at e dat e. You w i l l al so w ant t o i ncl ude some met hod f or your guest s t o R.S.V.P. t o r ecogni ze t hei r at t endance and t o pl an t he r ecept i on accor di ngl y. Al w ays i ncl ude t he name and phone number of t he per son host i ng t he event . Wedding Recept ion Invit at ion For mat s The r ul es of et i quet t e di ct at e t hat you have a f ew opt i ons w hen i nvi t i ng guest s t o a pr i vat e cer emony and a publ i c r ecept i on. One w ay i s t o i ssue t w o separ at e i nvi t at i ons: one onl y t o t he cer emony and one onl y t o t he r ecept i on. Those i nvi t ed t o bot h t he cer emony and t he r ecept i on shoul d r ecei ve an i nvi t at i on t o bot h event s, w hi l e t hose onl y i nvi t ed t o t he r ecept i on shoul d r ecei ve t he si ngl e r ecept i on i nvi t at i on. Anot her opt i on i s t o w r i t e speci al r ecept i on onl y i nvi t at i ons t hat acknow l edge t he w eddi ng i t sel f has al r eady t aken pl ace, and t hat t he guest i s w el come t o j oi n t he r ecept i on af t er w ar d. 28 When t o Or der Wedding Recept ion Invit at ions Or der r ecept i on onl y i nvi t at i ons at t he same t i me as your w eddi ng cer emony i nvi t at i ons. When t o Send Recept ion Only Invit at ions If you ar e pl anni ng a smal l cer emony w i t h a publ i c r ecept i on di r ect l y af t er , send t he r ecept i on onl y i nvi t at i ons al ong w i t h t he w eddi ng cer emony i nvi t at i ons no l ess t han t hr ee mont hs bef or e t he w eddi ng dat e (and at l east t en w eeks i n advance of t he w eddi ng f or guest s l i vi ng over seas.) As f or new l yw eds w ho cel ebr at e t hei r w eddi ng w el l i n advance of t he r ecept i on, send out r ecept i on onl y i nvi t at i ons t hr ee mont hs i n advance of t he r ecept i on dat e. St or ki e Ti p: To honor or t o honour ? It i s popul ar f or w eddi ng i nvi t at i ons t o f avor t he Br i t i sh " u" i n bot h honour and f avour . If you' r e sendi ng your i nvi t at i ons w i t hi n t he Uni t ed St at es, i t does not vi ol at e any et i quet t e code i f you' d l i ke t o dr op t he ext r a " u" f or t he mor e convent i onal spel l i ng. 29 Popular Wedding Recept ion Invit at ion Wor ding Formal - private ceremony with public recept ion M r . and M r s. Jef f r ey Wi l l i ams ar e honor ed t o announce t he mar r i age of t hei r daught er , Ar i el Wi l l i ams t o Jonat han Laur ence Br ow n on Sat ur day, Jul y Sevent eent h, Tw o-Thousand and Ten. The coupl e w i l l exchange vow s i n a pr i vat e cer emony. Pl ease j oi n t hem f or a r ecept i on cel ebr at i ng t hei r uni on at si x o' cl ock i n t he eveni ng The Gol f Cl ub at New cast l e 15500 Si x Penny Lane New cast l e, WA 98059 (425) 793-5566 Casual - privat e ceremony wit h public recept ion Guy M eet s Gi r l For t he r est of t he st or y Pl ease j oi n us at our r ecept i on f ol l ow i ng t he cer emony on Sat ur day, t he ni nt h of Oct ober , t wo-t housand and t en At f our o' cl ock i n t he af t er noon 424 N. Bel l evue Avenue Newpor t , RI 02840-6924 (407) 877-1000 As Robi n And Dani el Cel ebr at e t hei r mar r i age 30 Formal - destinat ion wedding wit h bleated public recept ion M r . and M r s. John Kel l y ar e pr i vi l eged t o announce t he mar r i age of t hei r daught er Jul i a Kel l y To M i chael Al ex Thompson on Sat ur day, t he t w el f t h of June , t w o-t housand and t en. The coupl e w as j oi ned i n mar r i age i n a pr i vat e cer emony i n Fl or ence, It al y. Pl ease j oi n t hem f or a r ecept i on cel ebr at i ng t hei r nupt i al s on Sat ur day, t he t w ent y-si xt h of June, t w o-t housand and t en at si x o' cl ock i n t he eveni ng The Space Needl e Seat t l e, WA Casual - dest inat ion wedding wit h belated public recept ion Laur i e and Rober t o ar e happy t o announce t hei r mar r i age t hat t ook pl ace i n a pr i vat e cer emony on Wednesday, t he t hi r d of November , t w o-t housand and t en i n Edi nbur gh, Scot l and Pl ease j oi n t hem f or a ni ght of mer r i ment and j ubi l at i on t o cel ebr at e t hei r uni on on Sat ur day, t he t w ent y-sevent h of November , t w o-t housand and t en at 6 o' cl ock i n t he eveni ng Cedar Count r y Est at e 123456 SE Li l ac Road Sandy, OR 97055 (303) 819-0761 31 CHAPTER 5: WEDDING REHEARSAL DINNER INVITATIONS Your w eddi ng w eekend has f i nal l y ar r i ved and w i t h i t a sl ew of act i vi t i es t he w eddi ng r ehear sal di nner , t he br i desmai d br unch, t he post -nupt i al br eakf ast and ot her gat her i ngs t o cel ebr at e your bi g day. Even t hough your w eddi ng w eekend act i vi t i es ar e smal l er and l ess f or mal t han your act ual w eddi ng, t her e i s a pr oper w ay t o i nvi t e your f r i ends and f ami l y t o your w eddi ng act i vi t i es - and i t doesn' t i nvol ve a mass Facebook message. Weddi ng r ehear sal i nvi t at i ons l et your f ami l i es, w eddi ng par t y, usher s and i mpor t ant ext r as w ho have t o be at t he r ehear sal know t he t i me, dat e, and l ocat i on of t he event . Rehear sal di nner i nvi t at i ons can be handw r i t t en or sent onl i ne. If you' r e havi ng a l ow -key r ehear sal at a bi st r o or pi zza par l or , handw r i t t en i nvi t es ar en' t necessar y. If you pl an on havi ng a l ot of out -of -t ow n guest s, send out f or mal r ehear sal di nner i nvi t at i ons. 32 What t o Include in a Wedding Rehear sal Dinner Invit at ion Thi nk of your w eddi ng r ehear sal di nner i nvi t at i ons l i ke a new s st or y. Cover t he f i ve W' s: t he w ho, w hat , w hen, w her e and w hy of your r ehear sal di nner . Det ails t o include Reason f or t he i nvi t at i on Host ' s name(s) Host ' s cont act i nf or mat i on The name of t he venue The addr ess of t he venue Ti me and dat e Br i de and gr oom' s names Theme (count r y ho-dow n? Haw ai i an Luau?) RSVP Name & Phone Number or Regr et s Onl y Name & Phone Number Rehear sal Dinner Invit at ion For mat Et i quet t e r ul es di ct at e t hat you have t hr ee opt i ons f or your w eddi ng r ehear sal di nner i nvi t at i ons: You can i ncl ude t he r ehear sal di nner i nvi t at i ons w i t h your w eddi ng i nvi t at i ons, send t hem as a separ at e i nvi t e or send an e-mai l i nvi t at i on. The smal l er t he par t y, t he l ess f or mal your i nvi t at i on needs t o be. Unl ess your guest l i st i s ver y smal l , you' l l w ant guest s t o R.S.V.P. f or t he di nner i n or der t o ant i ci pat e how much f ood t o or der and how many pl ace set t i ngs you w i l l need. Be sur e t o i ncl ude a name and phone number of t he per son host i ng t he event . St or ki e Ti p: It ' s not necessar y t o i ncl ude w het her i t ' s a ki ds onl y r ecept i on or w het her t her e' s an open bar st i ck t o t he mai n det ai l s St or ki e Ti p: If your budget w on' t al l ow ent er t ai ni ng al l your out -of -t ow n guest s dur i ng w eddi ng w eekend dow nt i me, i ncl ude a l i st of r est aur ant s or si ght s t o see i n t he ar ea on your w eddi ng w eb page, so t hey' l l keep busy w hi l e you' r e busy w i t h l ast mi nut e w eddi ng pr ep. 33 Et iquet t e for Acknowledging Guest s In t he past , t he i mmedi at e f ami l y and t he br i dal par t y w er e t he onl y ones i nvi t ed t o a r ehear sal di nner . Ti mes have changed and now t he guest l i st i s compl et el y up t o t he host . Consi der i nvi t i ng your out -of -t ow n guest s, t hose f r i ends and f ami l y w ho t r avel ed mi l es t o see you on your Bi g Day. Remember t he r ehear sal di nner i s a gr eat t i me t o gi ve out your br i dal par t y gi f t s. When t o Or der Rehear sal Dinner Invit at ions Weddi ng r ehear sal di nner i nvi t at i ons can be ver y f or mal or casual based on t he event . Vi si t our St or ki e page f or Rehear sal Di nner Invi t at i ons and or der your car ds one t o t hr ee mont hs bef or e t he event . When t o Send Wedding Rehear sal Dinner Invit at ions If you' r e sendi ng out pr i nt ed di nner i nvi t at i ons t o a l ar ge gr oup of peopl e, send t hem out a f ew days af t er t he w eddi ng i nvi t at i on goes out . If your guest l i st i s smal l , i nvi t e your guest s about a mont h bef or e t he event . 34 Popular Wedding Rehear sal Dinner Invit at ion Wor ding Formal rehearsal dinner invit at ion wording The pl easur e of your company i s r equest ed at a Rehear sal Di nner honor i ng M i ss Emi l y Kar en Rose and M r . Ryan Scot t St evens on Sat ur day, t he f our t h of June at si x o' cl ock The Gr and Bal l r oom Regent Hot el Rsvp M r s Nancy Rose 445-882-5445 Casual rehearsal dinner invitation wording The ni ght bef or e t hey t i e t he knot Pl ease come f or di nner and dr i nks We l l pr act i ce t he cer emony st ep by st ep, t o i r on out t he ki nks. Laur i e and M i chael Ri char ds i nvi t e you t o a r ehear sal di nner i n honor of Becky Ri char ds and Br yan Houf f l i n Sat ur day, t he f i r st of June 5:30 i n t he eveni ng M ama Paser el l i ' s Rest aur ant Regr et s onl y: Laur i e Ri char ds 665-858-2165 35 Ot her Wedding Week Act ivit ies Bef or e or af t er t he Bi g Day, you or your f i anc may host ot her w eddi ng act i vi t i es, such as: Pr e-w eddi ng br i desmai d l uncheon Af t er -Weddi ng Br unch Gr oomsmen Gol f Out i ng Weddi ng guest bar becue mi ngl e If you w ant your guest s t o par t i ci pat e i n f un w eddi ng w eekend act i vi t i es, your i nvi t at i on w i l l depend on how bi g and f or mal your occasi on j ust l i ke w i t h r ehear sal di nner i nvi t at i ons. Keep t hese i nvi t at i ons si mpl e and use t he same f or mat as your r ehear sal di nner . If you' r e havi ng a bi g w eddi ng and w ant t o easi l y i nf or m guest s w her e t hey have t o be and w hen, post i t on your w eddi ng w ebpage, as w el l as sendi ng your i nvi t at i ons. 36 CHAPTER 6: WEDDING PARTY INVITATIONS Your w eddi ng par t y i s an i mpor t ant par t of t he Bi g Day: your br i desmai ds, gr oomsmen, and " ver y i mpor t ant ext r as" w i l l be suppor t i ng you dur i ng t he cer emony and hel pi ng you pl an ever y det ai l l eadi ng up t o t he event . Thei r par t i ci pat i on i n your w eddi ng shoul d be r equest ed ear l y i n your pl anni ng pr ocess w i t h f un w eddi ng par t y i nvi t at i ons. The et i quet t e i n aski ng cl ose f r i ends and f ami l y t o be a par t of t he w eddi ng i s among t he most f l exi bl e i n your w eddi ng your car ds w i l l be ci r cul at i ng among t he peopl e w ho know you w el l and t her ef or e, your per sonal i t y can shi ne t hr ough. 37 What t o Include in a Wedding Par t y Invit at ion The w eddi ng par t y i nvi t at i on speci f i es w hat r ol e t he r eci pi ent s w i l l pl ay i n t he w eddi ng. Who t o send wedding par t y invit at ions M ai d/ M at r on of Honor Br i desmai ds Juni or Br i desmai ds Best M an Gr oomsmen Usher s Ri ng Bear er Fl ow er Gi r l (s) Guest book At t endant Reader s and per f or mer s Wedding Par t y Invit at ion For mat Because your w eddi ng par t y i nvi t at i ons w i l l not be i n w i de ci r cul at i on (meani ng your ent i r e guest l i st w on' t r ecei ve one), t her e i s no l ongst andi ng t r adi t i on r egar di ng f or mat or st yl e. Even ver y f or mal w eddi ngs or w eddi ngs w i t h a speci f i c t heme do not r equi r e mat chi ng w eddi ng par t y i nvi t at i ons, but sendi ng t hem out i s consi der ed a ni ce t ouch. It i s not necessar y t o have t he same car d and car d f or mat f or ever y r ol e (i .e. Wi l l You Be M y Fl ow er Gi r l car ds may be st yl ed t o appeal t o a young gi r l , w her eas Wi l l You Be M y Br i desmai d car ds may t ake a mor e adul t t one and desi gn). Popular wedding par t y invit at ion for mat s Car ds Edi bl e car ds Per sonal i zed gi f t s w i t h car ds Phot o al bums Pi ct ur e f r ames Cl ot hi ng St or ki e Ti p: It i s al so becomi ng a popul ar t r adi t i on t o ask t he w eddi ng par t y f or t hei r par t i ci pat i on at a br unch or f un get -t oget her . 38 When t o Or der Wedding Par t y Invit at ions Or der w eddi ng par t y i nvi t at i ons as soon as you have det er mi ned w hi ch w eddi ng par t y r ol es w i l l be i ncl uded i n t he w eddi ng. Or der enough f or each posi t i on t o r ecei ve a car d. It ' s pr udent t o have at l east one car d per posi t i on as ext r a, but not necessar y. When t o Send Wedding Par t y Invit at ions Weddi ng par t y i nvi t at i ons shoul d be sent out as soon as t he w eddi ng par t y has been det er mi ned. It i s i nappr opr i at e t o r eassi gn a member of your w eddi ng par t y af t er t he car ds have been r ecei ved (except under ext r eme ci r cumst ances) so be cer t ai n of your deci si on. For member s of t he w eddi ng par t y w ho w i l l pl ay a l ar ge par t i n t he w eddi ng pl anni ng pr ocess (most commonl y br i desmai ds, mai d/ mat r on of honor , best man and gr oomsmen), t hei r i nvi t es w oul d be sent as soon as possi bl e so your w eddi ng pl ans can get st ar t ed w i t h t hei r gui dance and assi st ance. Popular Wedding Par t y Invit at ion Wor ding Simple wedding part y invit at ion wording Wi l l You Be M y Gr oomsman? St or ki e Ti p: You ar en' t r equi r ed t o f i l l al l t hese r ol es and not ever yone needs a w eddi ng par t y i nvi t at i on 39 Wedding part y invit at ion wording in verse Wi l l you be my br i desmai d and shar e my w eddi ng day? Pl ease say you l l be my br i desmai d and make my dr eams come t r ue, I pr omi se not t o make you w ear an ugl y dr ess w i t h mat chi ng ugl y shoes! 40 CHAPTER 7: BRIDAL SHOWER INVITATIONS Li ke ever yt hi ng w i t hi n t he w eddi ng i ndust r y, t he convent i ons and t r adi t i ons of a w eddi ng br i dal show er have shi f t ed " Hen Par t i es" and gi r l s-onl y event s cer t ai nl y pr evai l , but co-ed guest l i st s and w eddi ng show er s f or t he mar r yi ng coupl e t oget her ar e mor e common t han ever . The boys no l onger have t o go w at ch f oot bal l or r un er r ands. They can be par t of t he show er ! Tr adi t i onal l y, br i dal show er s w er e a t i me w hen a br i de coul d st ar t col l ect i ng gi f t s as a dow r y i f her f ami l y coul d not pr ovi de one. Today, t hough, t he show er i s an occasi on f or t he br i de or mar r yi ng coupl e t o gat her some of t hei r r egi st er ed gi f t s and st ar t cel ebr at i ng t hei r w eddi ng. In gener al , t he mai d or mat r on of honor , a cl ose f r i end, or a member of t he w eddi ng par t y w i l l pl an and host t he br i dal show er i n her (or hi s) home or a l ocal venue. Whi l e t he host usual l y sends out t he br i dal show er i nvi t at i ons, t he mar r yi ng coupl e shoul d be i nvol ved i n hel pi ng det er mi ne t he guest l i st . 41 What t o Include in a Br idal Shower Invit at ion M uch l i ke t he w eddi ng r ecept i on i nvi t at i ons and t he r ehear sal di nner i nvi t at i ons, br i dal show er i nvi t at i ons shoul d i ncl ude al l t he i mpor t ant det ai l s of t he occasi on. Det ails t o include The event Host ' s name Locat i on Ti me (bot h begi nni ng and end, i f desi r ed) R.S.V.P i nf or mat i on Di r ect i ons (i f not w i del y know n) Br idal Shower Invit at ion For mat Tr adi t i onal car ds ar e t he most popul ar w ay t o i nvi t e guest s t o a br i dal show er . The mar r yi ng coupl e can deci de on t he desi gn t o mat ch t he t heme of t hei r w eddi ng, or f or mor e f un, t he coupl e and t hei r host can choose a new t heme j ust f or t he show er . Et iquet t e for Acknowledging Guest s Who r eceives br idal shower invit at ions The guest l i st f or t he w eddi ng cer emony and r ecept i on shoul d be t he onl y sour ce of guest s f or t he br i dal show er . Except f or uni que cases (such as an over seas w eddi ng), do not i nvi t e anyone w ho i s not al so i nvi t ed t o t he w eddi ng. 42 M ul t i pl e br i dal show er s ar e i ncr easi ng i n popul ar i t y, but shoul d be host ed by di f f er ent peopl e and each show er shoul d have compl et el y di f f er ent guest l i st s. Whi l e br i dal show er s w er e t ypi cal l y hel d f or t he cl ose f emal e f r i ends and f ami l y of t he br i de, t oday co-ed br i dal show er s ar e common, even i f t he gr oom w i l l not be pr esent . The show er ' s guest l i st shoul d, i n t he end, be det er mi ned by t he br i de or mar r yi ng coupl e. When t o Or der Br idal Shower Invit at ions The br i dal show er can t ake pl ace up t o f i ve or si x mont hs pr i or t o t he w eddi ng, or i n t he same w eek as t he cer emony and anyw her e i n bet w een. One mont h pr i or t o t he w eddi ng cer emony i s most common. Or der br i dal show er i nvi t at i ons w i t h enough t i me t o get t hem pr i nt ed, addr essed and sent out one mont h pr i or t o t he br i dal show er dat e. Vi si t St or ki e.com t o see our except i onal l i ne of Br i dal Show er Invi t at i ons. When t o Send Br idal Shower Invit at ions Guest s shoul d r ecei ve t hei r br i dal show i nvi t at i ons one mont h pr i or t o t he dat e of t he show er . St or ki e Ti p: Whi l e not compl et el y i nappr opr i at e, i t can be consi der ed cr ass t o i ncl ude gi f t r egi st r y i nf or mat i on. If you' r e w or r i ed, r el y on w or d-of -mout h. The host of t he br i dal show er shoul d be abl e t o suppl y t hi s i nf or mat i on t o i nqui r i ng par t i es. Al so consi der i ncl udi ng gi f t r egi st r y i nf or mat i on, si zes (f or l i nger i e par t i es), and gi f t i nf or mat i on on a w eddi ng w ebsi t e. 43 Popular Br idal Shower Invit at ion Wor ding Simple bridal shower invit at ion wording You ar e i nvi t ed t o a Gar den Br i dal Show er f or Becky Thur st on Sat ur day Apr i l 17, One o' cl ock 1524 East Cent er Road Sew i ckl ey, PA Host ed by her M ai d of Honor R.S.V.P. Rachel Sw eson 772 509 0988 Fun bridal shower invit at ion wording Bef or e t he M i ss Becomes t he M i ssus Let ' s show er Cour t ney w i t h l ove and good w i shes A Br i dal Luncheon Sat ur day, M ay 5t h 12 o' cl ock The Quacki ng Duck 455 5t h St r eet Dow nt ow n Bost on Host ed by Di ane Wambl y Pl ease R.S.V.P.208-997-8525 44 CHAPTER 8: BACHELOR PARTY INVITATIONS AND BACHELORETTE PARTY INVITATIONS Af t er many w eeks of w eddi ng pl anni ng, t he bachel or and bachel or et t e par t i es ar e w her e ever yone can f i nal l y l et l oose and have a good t i me. A l ast ' hur r ah' bef or e t he w eddi ng vow s t ake pl ace, t hese par t i es can r ange f r om peacef ul get -t oget her s t o out door advent ur es, a ni ght out on t he t ow n t o an af t er noon l unch. In gener al , t he mai d-of -honor and best man pl an and host t hese pr e-w eddi ng f est i vi t i es, but cl ose f r i ends or ot her member s of t he w eddi ng par t y can al so assume t he r esponsi bi l i t y. What t o Include in a Bachelor or Bachelor et t e Par t y Invit at ion Because bachel or par t i es and bachel or et t e par t i es ar e gener al l y f un and f est i ve occasi ons, i nvi t at i on et i quet t e i s pr et t y l ax. How ever , i t i s st i l l i mpor t ant t hat guest s know al l t he i mpor t ant event det ai l s so t hey can pl an accor di ngl y. Det ails t o include The event Host ' s name and R.S.V.P i nf or mat i on Locat i on(s) Ti me (bot h begi nni ng and endi ng, i f desi r ed) Di r ect i ons (i f not w i del y know n) 45 Bachelor and Bachelor et t e Par t y Invit at ion For mat Handw r i t t en bachel or / et t e par t y i nvi t at i ons ar e al w ays an opt i on, and t her e ar e many pl ayf ul and t hemed desi gns t o choose f r om. It i s al so an opt i on t o have a mor e casual i nvi t at i on f or mat f or t hi s t ype of par t y, t hough, such as an evi t e or even w or d-of -mout h among cl ose f r i ends. Et iquet t e for Acknowledging Guest s Who r eceives bachelor and bachelor et t e par t y invit at ions Except f or i n ext r eme cases, t her e shoul d be no one at t he bachel or and bachel or et t e par t i es w ho i s not al so i nvi t ed t o t he w eddi ng cer emony. Even i n t he case of a pr i vat e f ami l y-onl y w eddi ng cer emony, t he guest s of t he par t y shoul d at l east be i nvi t ed t o t he w eddi ng r ecept i on. The honor ee of t he par t y shoul d have t he f i nal say i n t he guest l i st , even i n t he case of a sur pr i se bachel or or bachel or et t e par t y. When t o Or der Bachelor and Bachelor et t e Par t y Invit at ions Bachel or and bachel or et t e par t i es most commonl y t ake pl ace a w eek or t w o bef or e t he w eddi ng cer emony. Car ds shoul d be or der ed w i t h enough t i me t o conf i r m pl ans and guest l i st and be sent out one mont h bef or e t he event . 46 When t o Send Bachelor and Bachelor et t e Par t y Invit at ions Invi t at i ons shoul d be r ecei ved by t hei r guest s no l at er t han one mont h pr i or t o t he dat e of t he par t y. Popular Bachelor and Bachelor et t e Shower Invit at ion Wor ding For bacheloret t es Whi l e El i zabet h' s Pr i nce Char mi ng i s aw ay We ar e t aki ng her out t o pl ay Ever yt hi ng w i l l be al r i ght y For one l ast w i l d and cr azy ni ght ! Joi n us f or El i zabet h' s Bachel or et t e Weekend! Fr i day June 12t h Sunday, June 14t h The Count r y Day Spa and Inn Bar Har bor , M ai ne Host ed by: Kat i e M cGee and Sar ah Doyl e r .s.v.p. by M ay 21st 207-558-8362 For bachelors The day i s dr aw i ng near Soon w eddi ng bel l s he' l l hear So come and mi ngl e Whi l e Andr ew ' s st i l l si ngl e! Andr ew ' s Bachel or Par t y Dr i nks, Di nner , and Car ds Sat ur day, August 12t h 8:00 pm 449 Sol l a Way, Sant a Fe r .s.v.p. Kel l an by August 8t h 606-885-2525 47 CHAPTER 9: WEDDING CEREMONY PROGRAMS Weddi ng cer emony pr ogr ams w el come guest s t o your cer emony and gi ve t hem somet hi ng t o per use bef or e t he pr ocessi onal . Pr ogr ams al so gi ve coupl es a w ay t o cr eat i vel y expr ess t hei r w eddi ng day t heme w eddi ng pr ogr ams coul d be el abor at e w i t h or nat e t ouches l i ke r i bbon and scr ol l i ng scr i pt or mor e sl eek and moder n. The st yl e of t he w eddi ng cer emony pr ogr ams i s compl et el y up t o t he coupl e and an oppor t uni t y t o show t he pl ayf ul si de of a w eddi ng cer emony. Weddi ng pr ogr ams al so gi ve guest s a keepsake of t he bi g day, so i t ' s i mpor t ant t hat t hey ar e put t oget her ni cel y. What t o Include in a Wedding Pr ogr am Weddi ng pr ogr ams expl ai n t he or der of t he event s, l i st t he songs and r eadi ngs, and name t he member s of t he w eddi ng par t y. Coupl es can use t he w eddi ng pr ogr am as a w ay t o make t hei r cer emony mor e per sonal . It i s accept abl e f or pr ogr ams t o i ncl ude songs or poems t hat have speci al meani ng t o t he coupl e, as w el l as l i st i ng t he br i de' s " somet hi ng ol d, somet hi ng new " t r i nket s and hear t f el t sent i ment s " i n memor y of ." Inser t s may i ncl ude di r ect i ons f r om t he w eddi ng cer emony t o t he r ecept i on, l yr i cs t o a song, or even expl anat i on of cer emony r i t ual s, i f t he maj or i t y of guest s ar e of a di f f er ent f ai t h t han t he coupl e. Det ails t o include The i nt r oduct i on Cer emony or der Names of of f i ci at es, musi ci ans, w eddi ng pl anner s, et c. Names of t he w eddi ng par t y Li st of songs and r eadi ngs Opt ional det ails M emor i al s Br i ef bi ogr aphi es Readi ngs/ quot at i ons Song l yr i cs Expl anat i on of r i t ual s A t hank you t o par ent s, guest s, and r el at i ves Fun Sent i ment s: o Shor t descr i pt i on on how you t w o met or a humor ous anecdot e about your f i r st dat e St or ki e Ti p: Be sur e t o get pr ogr am i nser t sampl es f r om your pr i nt er i f you t hi nk you w i l l need i nser t s. 48 Wedding Cer emony Pr ogr am For mat Ther e ar e many di f f er ent opt i ons f or w eddi ng cer emony pr ogr am f or mat s: a si ngl e car d, a mul t i pl e-page bookl et , or a t r i -f ol d, among ot her s. M ake sur e your w eddi ng pr ogr am coor di nat es w i t h t he r est of your w eddi ng st at i oner y and t hat you pr oof r ead your pr ogr ams ver y car ef ul l y bef or e you pr i nt t hem or submi t t he f i nal or der t o t he pr i nt i ng company. The cover i ncl udes t he dat e or names of t he coupl e, l ocat i on and t i me of t he cer emony, al ong w i t h an i mage and a desi gn el ement , such as a monogr am, pi ct ur e or scr ol l . Wedding Pr ogr am Et iquet t e M ost w eddi ng et i quet t e books w i l l not i nsi st on a w eddi ng pr ogr am, but f or cer t ai n t ypes of cer emoni es, pr ogr ams ar e mor e necessar y t han ot her s. If t he coupl e i s havi ng a t r adi t i onal cer emony, a l ar ge w eddi ng, or a par t i cul ar l y l ong cer emony, w eddi ng pr ogr ams gi ve guest s cl ear di r ect i on on t he var i ous event s and somet hi ng t o r ead as t hey w ai t . St or ki e Ti p: A ver y f or mal w eddi ng w oul d r equi r e t he pr ogr am t o have t he dat e w r i t t en out , not numer i cal . 49 Who r eceives a wedding cer emony pr ogr am The r ul e i s t o or der one pr ogr am per coupl e and one per si ngl e guest . M ost peopl e don' t mi nd shar i ng, and t hi s r educes w ast e and cost s. Al so consi der t hat not ever y guest t hat at t ends t he r ecept i on w i l l at t end t he cer emony. Who hands out wedding pr ogr ams Usher s or desi gnat ed f r i ends t ypi cal l y hand out t he w eddi ng pr ogr ams. Gi ve t hem cl ear di r ect i ons on how you w ant t hem handed out ; f or exampl e, at t he door of t he w eddi ng venue ver sus at t he head of each r ow of seat s. When t o Or der Wedding Pr ogr ams It i s r ecommended t hat coupl es or der w eddi ng pr ogr ams at t he same t i me as t he i nvi t at i ons. M any coupl es al so make t hei r ow n w eddi ng pr ogr ams usi ng a comput er t empl at e and pr i nt er t hi s saves money but can cause headaches i f t he coupl e i s not par t i cul ar l y ar t i st i c or t echni cal . Cl i ck her e t o f i nd our w i de sel ect i on of Weddi ng Pr ogr ams at St or ki e. Popular Wedding Pr ogr am Wor ding Wr i t i ng out t he dat e i s an opt i on f or ver y f or mal w eddi ngs but i t ' s not necessar y. Formal wedding program wording (LEFT SIDE) The M ar r i age Cer emony Uni t i ng Shannon Ni col e Har r i s and Joshua James Pet er son on Sat ur day, Jul y 21, 2010 at t hr ee o' cl ock i n t he af t er noon St . Paul ' s Chur ch Hi l l sbor o, Kent ucky 50 Pr el ude Seat i ng of Gr andpar ent s and M ot her s .......... " In Thi s Ver y Room" by Har r i s At t endant s' Pr ocessi onal .................................. " Canon i n D" by Pachel bel Br i de' s Pr ocessi onal ....................................... " Br i dal Chor us" by Wagner Gr eet i ng .......................................................................... Dr . Hami l t on Pr ayer ............................................................................. Dr . Hami l t on Uni t y Candl e - Par ent s .................................... " Par ent ' s Pr ayer " by Davi s Scr i pt ur e Readi ng - I Cor i nt hi ans 13 ................................... Dr . Hami l t on Exchangi ng of Vow s and Gi vi ng of Ri ngs ............................. Rev. Dove Uni t y Candl e - Br i de and Gr oom ........................................ Rev. Dove Pr ayer ............................................................................ Rev. Dove Pr onouncement and Benedi ct i on ........................................ Rev. Dove Pr esent at i on of Husband and Wi f e ..................................... Rev. Dove Recessi onal ......................................... " Weddi ng M ar ch" by M endel ssohn (RIGHT SIDE) The Weddi ng Par t y Par ent s M r . and M r s. John Har r i s Rev. and M r s. Jon J. Pet er son Gr andmot her of t he Br i de M r s. June Ber n Gr andpar ent s of t he Gr oom Cdr . and M r s. Chr i st opher C. Hi l t on M r . and M r s. Edw ar d Pet er son 51 Br i desmai ds M i ss Ki m M endel M i ss Emma Br adf or d M i ss Dakot a Pet er son, Gr oom' s si st er Gr oomsmen M r . Jon Tayl or , Br i de' s cousi n M r . Vl ad Pet er son, Gr oom' s br ot her M r . M ason Pet er son, Gr oom' s br ot her Fl ow er Gi r l M i ss Al i ya Hi l t on, Gr oom' s cousi n Ri ng Bear er M r . St eve Pappas Usher s M r . Al ex Ber n, Br i de' s cousi n M r . Rober t Pet er son, Gr oom' s cousi n Of f i ci at i ng M i ni st er s Dr . Jef f Hami l t on Rev. Dougl as Dove Pi ani st M r s. Joyce Car ol Lee Weddi ng Di r ect or M r s. Januar y Tayl or , Br i de' s aunt Guest book At t endant s M r s. Susan Tayl or M s. Tanya Tayl or 52 Casual wedding program wording The M ar r i age Cel ebr at i on of James G. New ber r y and Bel i nda Beecher Wel l sey Sept ember 25, 2010 St . Pat r i ck' s Cat hedr al , Ral ei gh, Nor t h Car ol i na The Weddi ng Par t y Par ent s: M r . and M r s. Gr egor y New ber r y M r . and M r s. Chr i st opher Wel l sey M at r on of Honor : Lucy Cunni ngham Best M an: Nat hani al New ber r y Br i desmai ds: Jessi e Cl ouden and M i r anda M cDonal d Gr oomsmen: Ral ph That cher and Lee Jor gensen Of f i ci ant : Rever end Joseph Car r i ngt on M usi c: The Ral ei gh St r i ng Quar t et The Weddi ng Cer emony Pr ocessi onal , Canon i n D, Pachel bel Wel come Openi ng Pr ayer Poem The Feast of Love," Bar bar a Wel l s Exchange of Vow s Exchange of Ri ngs Ri ngs Li ght i ng of Uni t y Candl e Bl essi ng Pr esent at i on of Coupl e Recessi onal , Symphony No. 4, Beet hoven 53 CHAPTER 10: WEDDING THANK YOU CARD ETIQUETTE Unf or t unat el y, w eddi ng pl anni ng doesn' t end w i t h t he r et ur n f l i ght f r om your Cancun honeymoon. As exci t i ng as i t sounds t o dash home and r i p open mor e gi f t s t han t he next f our Chr i st mases and bi r t hdays combi ned, you mi ght be over l ooki ng t he most i mpor t ant aspect of w eddi ng et i quet t e - t he w eddi ng t hank you car d. Get your pen and paper out because f or ever y Ki t chen Ai d, candl ehol der and non-st i ck cookw ar e you pul l out of a box, i t i s cust omar y t o send a hear t f el t handw r i t t en t hank you not e. We know how daunt i ng i t sounds t o w r i t e count l ess t hank you not es f or your new l i f et i me suppl y of sl ot t ed spoons, but i t ' s not as bi g of chor e as i t sounds. Just st i ck w i t h t hese t i ps and you' l l be enj oyi ng t hose w eddi ng gi f t s bef or e you know i t . How t o Pr epar e for Wedding Thank You Car ds Bef or e you r i p open your f i r st w eddi ng gi f t , f i nd your w eddi ng guest addr ess l i st (you know , t he same one you used t o send w eddi ng i nvi t at i ons i n chapt er 3.) Your w eddi ng guest l i st i s your hol y gr ai l w hen i t comes t o t hank you car ds. As you open t he gi f t s, make a not e w i t h t he guest ' s name and addr ess and pl ace i t by t hei r w eddi ng gi f t . 54 What t o Include in a Wedding Thank You Car d The t hank you car d ser ves t w o pur poses: i t t el l s your guest s t hat you di d r ecei ve t he gi f t and l et s t hem know t hat you ar e gr at ef ul f or t hei r gest ur e. Thi s i sn' t an essay, so don' t f eel t he need t o be w i t t y or or i gi nal . Just a f ew handw r i t t en w or ds of gr at i t ude ar e al l you need. Det ails t o include The name(s) of w ho suppl i ed t he gi f t The name of t he gi f t , and how i t w i l l be used How t hankf ul you and your spouse ar e f or t he gi f t Addit ional det ails t o include Ref er t o any addi t i onal ef f or t t he guest w ent t hr ough o Long t r avel o A speci al t oast Add a l i ne f or guest s unabl e t o at t end A separ at e not e f or show er and engagement gi f t s o Even i f you r ecei ve t w o gi f t s f r om t he same per son, each gi f t deser ves a not e Et iquet t e for Acknowledging Gift s Tr adi t i onal w eddi ng t hank you car ds ar e hand w r i t t en w i t h bl ue or bl ack i nk on i vor y or w hi t e not epaper . You may choose t o si gn w i t h your name or i ni t i al s, or you can use our Per sonal i zed Weddi ng Thank You Car ds f r om St or ki e f or an ext r a speci al t ouch. For ever y gi f t you r ecei ve, speci f y t he gi f t i n your t hank you not e. If you r ecei ved mul t i pl es of t he same gi f t , t r y t o be as speci f i c as you can: " We' ve al w ays w ant ed t he Chr ome 4 Sl i ce Br ead Toast er 4000." Et iquet t e for Acknowledging Money If you r ecei ve money, t her e i s no need t o acknow l edge t he amount . Et i quet t e di ct at es t hat you ment i on how you pl an t o use i t : " Thank you f or t he gener ous gi f t . We pl an on usi ng i t as par t of a dow n payment on a car ." St or ki e Ti p: If t he br i de pl ans on t aki ng on her husband' s name, onl y i ncl ude t he mar r i ed name on t hank you car ds sent af t er t he w eddi ng. 55 Who Receives a Wedding Thank You Car d Anyone w ho sends you a gi f t or hel ps you w i t h t he w eddi ng pl anni ng pr ocess shoul d r ecei ve a t hank you car d. You may al so choose t o send w eddi ng t hank you car ds t o any pr of essi onal t hat goes above and beyond your expect at i ons. When t o Or der Wedding Thank You Car ds If you pl an t o or der per sonal i zed t hank you car ds, i t i s best t o do so w i t h your or der of save t he dat e car ds and w eddi ng i nvi t at i ons. Al w ays or der mor e t hank you car ds t han i nvi t es because you w i l l use t hem t hr oughout your w eddi ng pl anni ng pr ocess. St or ki e has a w i de var i et y of cust om and per sonal i zed Weddi ng Thank You Car ds desi gned f or your convi nce. When t o Send Wedding Thank You Car ds Weddi ng t hank you car ds shoul d go out f or al l gi f t s r ecei ved bef or e t he w eddi ng at l east t w o-w eeks af t er t hei r ar r i val . For al l gi f t s r ecei ved dur i ng and af t er t he r ecept i on, new l yw ed coupl es have a mont h t o t w o-mont hs f r om t he end of t hei r honeymoon t o r epl y. 56 Popular Wedding Thank You Car d Wor ding Thank you t o a close friend or relat ive Dear Gr andma Ray, Thank you f or t he beaut i f ul Ti f f any Si l ver w ar e. It ' s l ovel y, and El w ood and I ar e honor ed t hat you gave us t hi s speci al f ami l y hei r l oom. It w as w onder f ul t o have you t r avel out f or our w eddi ng - and your t oast about Gr andpa at t he r ecept i on t ouched our hear t s. I can' t w ai t t o t el l you about t he honeymoon and mar r i ed l i f e. Wi t h l ove, Li ndsey 57 Thank you t o an acquaint ance or dist ant relat ive Dear M r . and M r s. Rober t s, Thank you f or t he l uxur i ous 500 count bed sheet s. We' ve never sl ept i n somet hi ng so r egal , and w e' r e sur e t o enj oy t hem f or many year s t o come. It w as w onder f ul t o meet you at t he w eddi ng, and w e appr eci at e t hat you w er e abl e t o shar e t hi s memor abl e day w i t h us and our f ami l i es. Wi t h Love, El w ood Thank you if you do not like t he gift Dear Aunt Rosi e, Thank you f or your gi f t of t he ant i que dol l . You' r e ver y gener ous, and I know t hi s gi f t means t he w or l d t o you. It w as l ovel y t o see you at our w eddi ng, and El w ood and I hope t o see you ver y soon. Wi t h l ove, Li ndsey Thank you for cash Dear Uncl e Ri ck, I w ant t o t hank you f or your gener ous gi f t f or our w eddi ng. We pl an on usi ng i t t ow ar d a dow n payment on a new house. It w as w onder f ul t o see you at t he w eddi ng, and Li ndsey and I hope t o see you ver y soon. Wi t h l ove, El w ood 58 Thank you t o a guest who did not att end t he wedding Dear Uncl e Ji mmy, Thank you so much f or t he season t i cket s t o t he M ar i ner s. I' m so sor r y you w er e unabl e t o at t end t he w eddi ng - i t w as as r omant i c and speci al as w e hoped. The next t i me you' r e i n t ow n, I' d l ove t o t ake you t o a game. Wi t h l ove, El w ood Thank you for a gift from t he regist ry Dear Aunt Rosi e, Thank you so much f or t he chi na set as a w eddi ng gi f t . Now El w ood and I have t he compl et e di nni ng set t o ser ve ei ght . I' m sur e w e' l l use i t f or many year s t o come. Wi t h l ove, Li ndsey 59 CHAPTER 11: WEDDING ANNOUNCEMENTS It s al most over : t he pl anni ng, t he i nvi t at i ons, t he par t i es, t he pr esent s, t he endl ess t hank you car ds. Af t er t hi s f i nal (and opt i onal ! ) w eddi ng announcement , you can say " goodbye" t o hand-addr essi ng envel opes and st ar t your new mar r i ed l i f e. Congr at ul at i ons! The w eddi ng announcement i s opt i onal . They ar e most commonl y sent w hen a w eddi ng cer emony i s ver y smal l or i n t he case of an el opement so ext ended f ami l y and f r i ends ar e aw ar e t hat a w eddi ng t ook pl ace and t hat t he br i de or gr oom t ook on a new , mar r i ed l ast name. The br i de' s par ent s t r adi t i onal l y w er e r esponsi bl e f or sendi ng out t he w eddi ng announcement s, but t hi s pr act i ce has evol ved w i t h ever yt hi ng el se so t hat convent i ons ar e mor e f l exi bl e. Now , i t i s soci al l y accept abl e f or ei t her t he par ent s of t he mar r i ed coupl e t o send out announcement s, or t he coupl e t hemsel ves. What t o Include in a Wedding Announcement Weddi ng announcement s ar e shor t and conci se. Thei r f unct i on i s t o i nf or m t hei r r eci pi ent s of t he basi c det ai l s of t he mar r i age. Det ails t o include Name of br i de and gr oom Name of t he par ent s (especi al l y i f t hey ar e sendi ng t he announcement s) The dat e of t he w eddi ng cer emony St or ki e Ti p: For a mor e casual w eddi ng announcement , consi der put t i ng an announcement i n a l ocal or communi t y new spaper . See chapt er one and engagement announcement s f or a f ew i deas. 60 Wedding Announcement For mat s For mal w eddi ng announcement car ds ar e sent i n much t he same w ay as w eddi ng i nvi t at i ons, w i t h bot h an i nner and out er envel ope. They can mat ch t he w eddi ng i nvi t at i ons (i f t he cer emony w asn' t an el opement ) or be uni que t o t hi s occasi on. Li ke t he w eddi ng i nvi t at i on, w eddi ng announcement s shoul d al l be hand addr essed. Et iquet t e for Acknowledging Recipient s Who r eceives wedding announcement s Weddi ng announcement s i nf or m t hose w ho w er e not i nvi t ed t o t he w eddi ng of your r ecent mar r i age. Thi s i ncl udes ext ended f ami l y, co-w or ker s, acquai nt ances and communi t y member s. Weddi ng announcement s shoul d be addr essed w i t h t he same convent i ons of t he w eddi ng i nvi t at i on. See chapt er 3 i f you need a r ef r esher ! When t o Or der Wedding Announcement s Because w eddi ng announcement s ar e t he l ast t hi ng a coupl e has t o w or r y about , t her e i s some f l exi bi l i t y r egar di ng w hen you can or der your w eddi ng announcement s. How ever , i t i s r ecommended t o pur chase w eddi ng announcement s as soon as al l t he det ai l s of t he w eddi ng ar e f i nal i zed so busy coupl es don' t f or get . Vi si t our w i de var i et y of Weddi ng Announcement f or mat s at St or ki e.com. When t o Send Wedding Announcement s Weddi ng announcement s ar e desi gned t o be sent out t he day f ol l ow i ng t he w eddi ng cer emony, but " as soon as possi bl e" i s t he r ul e of t humb. For smal l w eddi ngs w i t h pr i vat e cer emoni es, announcement s shoul d be sent out w i t hi n a coupl e of w eeks. For el opement s, announcement s can be sent out up t o year af t er t he event . Announcement s shoul d never be sent bef or e t he cer emony t akes pl ace. 61 Popular Wedding Announcement Wor ding Parent s sending wedding announcement s M r . and M r s. Ri ck St onson and M r . and M r s. Dani el Pet er son ar e honor ed t o announce t he mar r i age of Li l l y St onson t o M r . Ryan Pet er son on Sat ur day, t he si xt h of Sept ember t w o t housand and t en i n Lexi ngt on, Kent ucky The couple sending wedding announcement s Li l l y St onson and M r . Ryan Pet er son announce t hei r mar r i age on Sat ur day, t he si xt h of Sept ember t w o t housand and t en i n Lexi ngt on, Kent ucky