Sharla P. Macy, LMFT720-304-2731

sharlamacy.compursuitsncoaching.comsharlamacy@gmail.com

“Sharla has been a tremendous resource to us a couple. From pre-marital counseling, to the present, Sharla has helped clarify and implement our vision and life changes. We value the support, insight and expertise this has given to us! Thank you! You changed our lives!” 

Welcome to Designing Relationships, a couple’s counseling/coaching process to facilitate the guidance and direction you are seeking. Together we help you gain clarity, strength and effective tools and resources toward hope, resilience and greater connection and joy.

Our Work Together:

Assessments: There are several effective assessment resources I like to use to provide clarity: The following assessment is what we will use to guide our first session with one another.

In addition, I will provide additional assessments during our first session.It would be great if you could do the Relationship Check Up

We will then have the second session to get to know each of you separately during the first hour and together as a couple for summary in the second hour.

We will then design a customized plan to help achieve your goals and dreams.

To prepare for our first session, please fill out and bring to the session.

Couple Assessment

1. How and where did you meet?

2. What attracted you to one another?

3. Tell me how the two of you decided to get married or commit to each other. Of all the people in the world, what led you to decide that this was the person you wanted to be with? Was it an easy decision? Was it a difficult decision? Were you in love?

4. Tell me about your wedding or commitment ceremony. Did you have a honeymoon? What can you share about this?

5. When you think back to the first year you were married or living together, what do you remember? Were there adjustments to being married or living together?

6. Looking back over the years, what moments stand out as the really good times in your relationship? What were the really happy times? What is a good time for you as a couple? Has this changed over the years?

7. What have been the strengths of your relationship?

8. What have been the challenges?

9. How would you say your relationship is different from when you were first married or living together?

Part II. Your Philosophy of Relationship

10. What is your philosophy on why some relationships work? Think of a couple you know that has a particularly good relationship and one that you know who has particularly bad relationship. What is different about these tow relationships? How would you compare your own relationship to each of these couples?11.Tell me about your parent’s relationships. What was their relationship like? Would you say it’s very similar or different from your own relationship?

12. Make a map of the history of your relationship, its major turning points, and ups and downs. What were the happiest times? How has it changed over the years?

13. Tell me what you currently know about your partners’ major worries, stresses, hopes and aspirations. How do you stay in touch with one another on a daily basis? What are your routines for staying in emotional contact?

14. How would you describe your communication style?

15. What are some of the areas you would like to address in our counseling?

16. What would it take for you to be happier in your relationship?

Resources: Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, John Gottman, Ph.DThe Gottman Institute-gottman.comThe Five Love Languages: Dr. Gary ChapmanHold Me Tight, Sue Johnson, PhD.

Quarterly Payment for CounselingCouples are seen for 1.5 to 2 hour sessions for a 6 session commitment @

200.00 per session hour. A 5% discount is given when paid in a bundle. I accept Anthem BC/BS and Aetna.

Thank you for this opportunity to assist you. I look forward to our work together.

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