Solis, Patrisce Marie C.

Prescription: Maturity

From the recollection that I attended last July 12, I learned that getting into

relationships and deciding marriage are decisions that are very crucial for a couple. It

can make or break the relationship and the future that lies ahead of it. The couple

who spoke at the recollection talked about how their relationship revolved around

God. They emphasized that no matter how private their relationship can be, they

would still conform to their parents’ decisions not because they’re scared but

because they know that if they follow their parents, things will eventually put

themselves into place. It was also inspiring that no matter how much they were far

away from each other after deciding to end their relationship, they still ended up with

each other. This is evidence that when God is the foundation of a budding

relationship, nothing would go wrong, except for unavoidable circumstances that are

part of every relationship. I also learned that maturity plays a huge role in

maintaining a relationship especially when you are in college. A lot of people get into

relationships without thinking about how much they will be investing into the other

person and they end up throwing away everything over a childish fight over phone

call.

I learned all these by listening carefully to the speakers, but most importantly

through self reflection. I may not have been into many relationships in the past, but I

based my thoughts and realizations on the past mistakes that I made. I may never

get them back but at least, from the recollection, I will be carrying new wisdom that I

can apply to practically any relationship, may it be with my family and friends or with

a significant other.

Learning these things is very important because they serve as wisdom. Learning

from other people’s experiences gives me a different perspective on how to react

and go around different challenges and situations that I may be encountering in the

future. Most importantly, the activity taught us how relationships should be handled

by giving us a clear perspective on what happens “behind the scenes.” Keeping

these teachings with us would give help us understand other people better,

especially our partner in the future.

Some of the couple’s pieces of advice apply only when you are in a relationship

with someone, but if we think of it, these may actually be applied to our relationships

with other people. For example to our friends, keeping God in the center of our

friendship builds a strong foundation guided by God. These types of friendships last

long because everybody would love each other and avoid doing things that might

violate God’s teaching therefore violating each other. Another is being mature in

every decision that we make for these may result to consequences that we may not

like. Some good decisions may not turn out the way we want it but we have to take it

responsibly and trust God that these things happen for a reason. These decisions

make us better and give us better understanding on the people around us.

I could apply these in my life concretely by thinking about my decisions better and

making sure that they benefit not only me but the people that surround me. I also

realized that it is best for me not to go into relationships at this age because I think I

am still immature and childish that may lead to bad decisions that I may regret later

in life. I would also make sure that if ever in the future, I decide to love someone, I

would consider my family and friends in making decisions and not distance myself

away from them because building these types of relationships would strengthen my

bond with my significant other.