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HAPPINESSQUOTIENT
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THEHAPPINESSQUOTIENTLifesGreatestPrize Happiness
KingofBhutanCoinedthetermGrossNational
Happiness 1972ThisisonlyBody,MindandSoulyouwillbegiven.
Takecareofwhatisyoursandenjoyit.
Note:ThispresentationispreparedfrombookTheHappinessQuotient,viewsaretakenfromthebook
as
it
is
and
summarized
in
presentable
form
to
spread
happinessandtoguideyoutothestateof joyfulliving .With
Warm
Regards
YourColleagueMr.AshokMisal
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ConceptofHQ
Thehappinessquotient(HQ)isaconceptthatmeasureapproximately,themeasureofhappinesseachpersonhasachievedinhislife.Thepresentationprovidesa
blueprintto
increase
ones
HQ.
It
starts
by
describing
thecreationofpositivemindspace,onethatnurturesthepositiveemotionsthatincreasehappiness.Italsodiscussestheimpactofnegativefields
andhowto
avoidthem.
Antihappinesstraps,too,findspecialplaceinthispresentation.Theyrequirespecialidentificationastheycanbeverymisleading,likeacomfortablegoldencage
full
of
fruits.
Whatever
the
external
circumstancesmaybe,theindividualisresponsibleforhisinnerstate.Eventsarenotinourcontrol,butourperceptionsandreactionstothemare.This
presentationis
an
investment
in
Life's
Greatest
Prize
HAPPINESS
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7 Radiant Actions for
Joyful Living
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7RadiantActionsforJoyfulLiving
The1stRadiantActionforPhysicalWellness
The2ndRadiantActionforEmotionalWellness
The3rdRadiantActionforPersonalWellness
The4thRadiantActionforNurturingThe
Workplace
The5thRadiantActionforSocialBonding
The6th
Radiant
Action
for
Family
Bonding
The7thRadiantActionforDharmic (Spiritual)Living.
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The1stRadiantActionforPhysical
Wellness
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PhysicalWellness
Physicalfitnessisofutmostimportanceasit
is
the
starting
point
for
wellnessof
mind
and
spirit.Takecareofyourselfasnooneelse
cando
it
for
you.
Thebodyisourvehicleforthejourneyofour
soulin
this
world.
Body
vehiclehastobemaintainedingoodcondition,sothatwe
mayachieve
the
goals
for
whichwewerecreated.
Listentoyourbody.
Ifyou
are
tired,
rest.
Ifyouarehungry,eat.
Ifyouarelonely,communicate,askforhug.Ifyouareangry,dealwithyourangerconstructively,andresolve
it.
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PhysicalWellness
Food:YouarewhatyoueatRulesforeating:
Sit
down
peacefully
to
eat.
Closeyoureyesandallowyourmindtoleaveallothersubjectsandreturntothefoodbeforeyou.
Thankstheuniverseforcreatingthefoodthatwillgiveyoutheenergytoaccomplishyourgoals.
Focuson
the
sight,
smell,
feel,
touchandfinallythetasteofthefoodyouareeating.Asyouchew,becompletely
assuredthat
the
food
is
gently
repairingallthecellsofyourbody.
SomeAsanas
Padmasana
(LotusPose)
Sarvangasana
(Shoulderstand)
Matsyasana
(FishPose)
Dhanurasana
(BowPose)
Savasana
(Shanti
Asana)
Silence:Practicesilence
Themindisadrunkenmonkeythatisbittenbyascorpion
allowittorelaxintosilence.
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Padmasana
(Lotus Pose) Sarvangasana
(Shoulderstand)Matsyasana
(Fish Pose) Dhanurasana
(Bow Pose )
PhysicalWellness
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The2ndRadiantActionforEmotionalWellness
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EmotionalWellness Emotions&FieldofEnergy
Positivefieldbypositive
emotions.Apositivefilediscreatedbypositiveemotions.
Somepeoplealwayslook
radiant,and
everything
in
theirlifeflourishesandgrows.Theyhavepositiveenergyfieldaroundthem.
GreatMusicianTansen
sang,it
issaid
that
deer
wandered
into thepalacetolisten
ScientistJ.C.Boseshowedthatplantsgrowfasterwith
pleasant
music
and
their
growthis
retarded
in
noise
or
harshsound.
Negativefieldbynegative
emotions.Whenwearetired,ourenergylevelgoesdown;wedonotfeellikedoinganything.Whenfield
around
is
negative
with
anger,
hurt,possessiveness,greed,jealousy,fearandabhorrence(feelingofextremeaversion),wearelessabletoactwith
speedand
efficiency.
These
negativeemotionssucktheenergyandlifeforceoutofus.
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EmotionalWellness
ThePositiveField( )TheNegativeField(x)
!! Create !! !! Erase !!
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EmotionalWellness:+ve
Verbal,TonalandNonverbalBehaviors:Aprayer
Acommon
exercise,
a
company
song,commongoals.Ahandshake,afriendlylook,anencouragingword.Thinking,believingandactingina
positivemanner.Laughterandsharedjokes.
Meditation,practicedregularly,helpseliminatenegativefieldsbydevelopingthecapacitytobepositiveanddisciplined.
Positiveaffirmations:
ActsofappreciationsCompliments
Dontsayharshorhurtingwords,ifyouhavetosaysomething
unpleasant,say
it
as
kindly
as
possible.
ThroughLoveandReverenceEverydayexperiencecanbeelevatedtothe
level
of
sacredness
by
feeling
of
love
andreverence(Shraddha),Mentalbath,SacredPlace.
ConceptofDrala:
Itsaysthatanyspacecanbemadesacred.
When
person
treats
his
office
space
with
reverenceand
keep
it
clean
and
sparkling,heattractsdrala
intothat
space.Dralamakesthatspacepowerfulandattractive.Whenpersondressescarefully,speaks
and
acts
mindfully,
he
attracts
personal
Drala.DralaatHome
WhiteflowerpatternsdrawnattheentrancetoattractgoddessLakshmi(Goddessofgoodfortune)
Fragranceof
incense
and
joss
sticks
CertainsoundslikethatofMantrasorsoundofbellaresaidtopurifythefield.
Learn to create positive field is an important part of the climate of
wellbeing. A positive field is created by:
E ti l W ll
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EmotionalWellness
:+
ve StepstowelcomeDralaintoyourlife:
Keepyour
surrounding
and
living
spaces
clean
CreatebeautyinthemwithflowersandcrystalsKeepthemwellfurnished
Fillthem
with
music
Bemindfulofwhatpassesyourlips
foodandwords.Letthem
behealthyNurturingthePrana
:Prana
isthelifeforcethatflowsinall
livingthings,
when
prana leavesthebody,bodydies.WhenPrana
isfullflow,thepersonisfullofvitality,energyandenthusiasm.Prana
createsafieldofpossibilitieswherethe
seedofanyideadevelopsrapidly,whereouractivities
proceedssmoothly
and
bear
rich
dividends.
Todevelopprana,meditation,pranayama
andcalmattitude
arekeys.Eatingtoomuch,consumingstale(notfresh)food,exercisingtill
you
are
ready
to
drop
dead,
constant
arguments,
overworking,gettingemotionallyupset,breathingpollutedair,allinterferewithsmoothflowofprana.
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EmotionalWellness: veIfpeopleinthegroupfeelexcluded,theycannotcontributegoodideasorhelptocreateahappyatmosphere.Theymayevenchangethenatureofpositivefieldbytheirunhappiness.
Justas
a
drop
of
cyanide
can
poison
a
clear
pool
of
water
so
too
cantheunhappinessofasinglepersonpoisonthefieldinahomeoracompany.Negativitygivesofftoxicwavesofhostility
whichturnaflourishingfieldintodesert.In
the
negative
field,
individuals
are
afraid
to
think
differently;
newideasfadeawaybeforetheyareformulated.Insuchafield,onlythemostobviousideaswhichappearpracticalandsensiblewillbeshared.Allbutthemostobviousideaswillberejected.
Theseideasareusuallyoflittleuseastheyarestaleandoutdated.Achildneverpraisedorcomplimentedturnsintoaninsecureadultwithlittleselfesteem.Heiswaryaboutsayingordoing
anythingfor
fear
of
disapproval
or
scorn.
Continued
exposure
to
negativefieldcancausemanyhealthproblemstoo.
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EmotionalWellness: ve
Lackofenthusiasm.
Interesttoviolentoutburstsofrage,tosuspicion
andsour
look.
PoliticsandManipulationsbecometheorderof
theday.BeAWARE that:
Innegativefieldthebigfiveemotionsoflust,anger,obsession,greedandjealousyhaveafreerun.
//Inhabitingthisnegativefieldcanbeasoulsappingexperience //
Howtoidentifyanegativefieldinyourhomeand
organization?Lookforfollowingsignals:
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EmotionalWellness: ve
Negativefield
to
be
destroy
byfollowingErasingNegatives:
Eraseall
mental,visualandemotionaltapesthatarehurtful,upsetting
and
destructive.
Theyhavebeenputintherebyteachers,parents,friendsandenemiesinthepastand
present.
Each
time
you
play
them,consciously
or
otherwise,yourbodyisinundatedbytoxinsthatseriouslydamageit.
Negativefieldcanbereplacedusing
positive&bychangingyourself
?
Dealingwith
negative
emotions:
AngerRedLight
Stop,calmdownandthink
before
you
act.YellowLight
Statetheproblemandhowyoufeel
Setapositivegoal.
Thinkof
several
solutions
to
a
problem.
Thinkaheadtotheconsequencesofyouractions.
GreenLight
Goahead
and
execute
the
bestplan
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EmotionalWellness: ve
Dealingwithnegativeemotions:
Depression:
Lowmoodandlossofinterestin
everydayactivities.
How
to
treat
depression?
Recognizetheproblemandmakedeliberateeffortstoriseabovethegloom.
Calmyourself
by
talking
kindly
to
yourself
Drawonmemoriesoftimeswhenyoufelthappy,appreciatedandconfident.
Practice
some
form
of
meditation
or
silence
as
it
will
heal
andilluminateyourinnerspace.
The 3rd Radiant Action for Personal
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The3rdRadiantActionforPersonalWellness
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PersonalWellness
Beforeyouareahusband,afather,asonorateammate,youareaperson.Explorethe
self,the
you
in
your
life.
Eachofuscomesintotheworldwithaneedtolearn
manythings.
Life
is
the
ultimateclassroom.Eachofushasdifferentproblemstosolve,teststopass.Events
willswirl
around
us
uncontrolled,regardless.Ourresponseissomethingwecancontrol.
Followingfactorsareseriouslyjeopardizingtheindividualspersonalwellnesstoday.
Stress:Any
of
the
big
five
emotions
kama,kroda,madha,lobha,
matsarya
(Lust,Anger,Arrogance,
greed,jealousy)canfloodthebody
withthe
chemicals
of
stress.
Stress
isdestructive.Stressisageing.Stressisakiller.
WorkplaceandStress:Stressis
pricewe
pay
for
success
ModerntechnologyandStress
Theglobaleconomy
Replacingautocraticsystemswith
democraticModes
Thetriumphoftheindividual
Womenintheworkplace
Personal Wellness
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PersonalWellness
Yourlifeprovidesyouwithachancetoachievethehighestinyourself,byusingpainas
steppingstones
to
enlightenment.
Noonecanavoidbadtimes,but
youcan
ensure
that
you
look
at
thistimeasatimeforgrowthandlearning
Poor
music
into
your
soul.
Touchpeoplewholoveyou.Explorenewplaces.Reachintogreatbooksandstudyalternate
futures.Pamper
yourself
and
askyourlovedonesforhugs.
EverythinglifeoffersisPrasadblessedbygods.
GoodandBad
experiences,peoplewholove
youand
those
who
hate
you,
are
allsentheretoteachyou.Goontoachieveyourhighestpotential.
Look
for
the
highest
in
others.
Knowyourpurposeonearth,thehighestthatgodcreateyoutobecome.Questioninjustice,
standup
for
those
who
cannot
fight,speakforthosewhohavenovoice,speakgentlyandwithlove
HALT:(DontBetoo,Hungry,Angry,Lonely&Tired)
Howtosolvetheproblemsingreattextbookoflifetoachieve
personalwellness?
The 4th Radiant Action for Nurturing
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The4thRadiantActionforNurturingTheWorkplace
Nurturing the workplace
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NurturingtheworkplaceValuingHumanEffort:
Ahuman
effortdoesntmatterhowsmallshouldbetreatedwithrespect.Learntodealwithothersandtheir
feelings: Sympathyv/s empathy.DrugaddictonceexplainedYoucanneverfeelanythingbutsympathyformeandwhatIneedisempathy.Empathyisthecapacitytofeelmypaininyourheart.Tobesociallytone
deaf
can
lead
to
a
life
with
brokenrelationships.(Petersalovey).Developthecapacitytopickupsubtleverbal,tonalandnonverbalsignalsfromothers.Learnalsothe
ability
to
send
nurturing
signals
to
others,thus
creating
a
positive
interpersonalfield.
HealthAngle:
Todaysomuchofour
livesarespentintheoffice.Thecorporatejungletakesanunimaginabletollontheheart.Duetomodernurge
to
change
jobs
rapidly,
many
executivesfind
themselves
in
threateningenvironmentssurroundedbypotentialenemies.Theyhavehadnotimetodevelopfriendsortrustedsupports.Everydaytheywalkintothe
modernequivalent
of
a
jungle
infested
withwildanimalsanddanger.Familysupportsystemsarefaraway.Mostofusspendmostofourtimeatwork.Ifwedonotenjoyourwork,ifwefeeloverwhelmedbyit,itwillsurely
damageus.
The
constant
pressure
of
negativeemotionscausesinescapabledamagetoourarteriesandotherdelicatetissues.Italsoslowsdownthebodyscapacitytorepairthisdamage.
Politics
can
make
the
blood
boiled
with
suppressedrage
and
unexpressed
anxiety
Ways to enhance a positive work field :
Nurturing the workplace
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NurturingtheworkplaceMakeyourworkplacecleanandComfortable.Surrounditwithhappypictures.Ensureanatmospherefreeofair
and
sound
pollution.Haveanindoorgarden.StarttheworkingdaywithaprayerorplayVande
Mataram
Shareathoughfortheday.
Createa
friendly
atmosphere.
Greetpeoplewarmly.Respectothers.Haveanatmosphereofmutualunderstanding.Create
meaningful
personal
relationshipwithcoworkers.Keeppromises.Takeresponsibilityandownership
Beopen
minded
PlaysoftmusicinproductionareaMeetinrecreationalclubStartahumorclub,sharejokeoninternet
Starta
book
and
magazine
club
CelebratebirthdaysandanniversariesShareinterestingarticleswithyourcolleaguesAlwaysencourage,donotdiscourage.Appreciate,
not
criticize
people
SharestrengthandweaknessesAppreciatetalent.Eliminateselfishness
Neveruse
peoples
possessions
withouttellingthem.DonnotdisturbpeoplewhoareworkingBeintouch withbestpracticesinyour
fieldNetworkwiththebestprofessionalsinyourfield.
Ways to enhance a positive work field :
The 5th Radiant Action for Social
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The5thRadiantActionforSocialBonding
S i l B di
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SocialBondingSomepeoplehavetheabilitytoempathise
withothers.Theycan
recognizeand,tosomeextent,sharefeelingsthatarebeingexperienced
by
another.
This
skill
involvesbeingabletopickupthesubtleverbal,tonalandnonverbalsignalsthatpeoplegive.Charismaticleadersarewellversed
in
this
skill,
they
use
it
to
break
barriersbetween
people
and
reach
outtothem.Thosewhoaretonedeaftosignalsfromotherspayaheavyprice.Theymaystruggletounderstandwhytheir
relationships
do
not
last
and
whyeveryoneseemstofleefromthem.Apersonwithoutpersonalintelligence,trappedincaregivingprofessionsliketeaching,salesand
management,
is
likely
to
be
terribly
stressedout,
damaging
himself
by
wanderingthroughanemotionallandscapelittered withlandmines
Interpersonalintelligence:This istheabilitytounderstandotherpeople,tocommunicateeffectivelywiththem,toidentifywhatmotivatethem,andtowork
cooperatively
with
them.
Intrapersonalintelligence
:Thisisthe
inwardabilitytounderstandandformanaccuratemodelofonesselfandtooperatethatmodeleffectivelytolive
lifeNote:
Forthosewhodefinesuccessas
happiness,thesetwoelementsareessentialtolearnandpractice
Remarks:
Thebasisofsocialsuccessliesin
theability
to
build
successful,
pleasantlyharmonious,lifetimerelationshipswithall.Whenyoumeetanyone,alwayslookforwhatisgood.Listenforvalue.Celebratethepositiveinallinteractions.RestassuredthatGod
did
not
create
you
for
the
sole
purposeofcorrectingothersormakingthemunhappy.Youarenottheworlds oliceman
Man is a social animal and needs to live in harmony with fellow human beings.
Concept of personal intelligence Two aspects of personal intelligence
S i l B di
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SocialBondingPhrasesthatBuildingLifetimeRelationships
Iagree.
Ireally
enjoy
talking
to
you.
Thatsgood!
Goodjob!
Imadeamistake,Imsorry.
Ilike
the
way
you
left
your
room
cleantoday.
Thatsagreatidea!
Youareontherighttrack
Thatsa
winner!
Ibelieveyoucandoit!
Iknowyoucanmakeitwork!
Ifanyonecandoit,youcan.
Congratulations!Beautiful!
WhatIreallylikeaboutyouis
PhrasesthatDestroyRelationship:
WhatIcantstandaboutyouis
Youare
always
messing
things
up.
Trustyoutocomeupwithanimpossibleidea.
Everytimeyoucomehere,thereisamess.
Youhavenoideaaboutthis.
Wehavetriedallthatyousay.Itdoesntwork.
Itsoundsokay,butitisquite
impractical.Beserious.Bepractical.
Hasanyonedoneitbefore?
Letsaskfiftypeopleaboutit.
Youdont
understand
our
culture
Phrases that Building Lifetime Relationships v/s Destroy Relationship
S i l B di
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SocialBonding
Studythegrouptowhichyoubelongandseewhetheryoushare:
Commongoals,LanguageShare
jokes,
pet
names
Personalsuccess/failureAcommonshorthandofthinkingandspeakingCompliment,comfortandsupport
Affirmation
and
helpJOINSUCHAGROUP
(INCLUSION)
Groups
candamageuifthey
excludeu,by:
Constant
criticism,
never
paying
complimentsSpeakinginsecretcode,sharing
jokeswhichudontunderstandNotmakingeyecontactConstantteasing,notofferingseatNotsendinginvitationforgatheringsLaughingatyourideas,gangingupagainstyou
LEAVESUCH
A
GROUP
IMMEDIATELY(EXCLUSION)
Guidelines for Inclusion and Exclusion from groups -
Belonging to a supportive nurturing group is the best protection you can have againstdisease and unhappiness. Being loved can prevent you from the flood of negativeemotions that have a capacity to destroy you. Today many people have no friendsand are not in touch with their families either. Old people have to make do with dogs
instead of grandchildren. Keep in touch with your family and extended families.Join supportive groups
The 6th Radiant Action for Family
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The6th
Radiant
Action
for
Family
Bonding
Family bounding
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Familybounding
FamilyandChildren
Teenagersinthe
family
Timewithchildren
Roleof
wife
Thenewwomen:onthecuspofchange
CreatingJoyinfamilylife
Familyas
a
community
CelebrationsHappinesscreatingActivities
TheIdeal
Home
The 7th Radiant Action for Dharmic
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The7th
Radiant
Action
for
Dharmic (Spiritual)Living.
Dharmic Living
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Dharmic Living
Ashta
Lakshmis:
Adi
Lakshmi
orMaha
Lakshmi
an
ancientformofLakshmi
asdaughterof
sageBhrigu.
Dhana
Lakshmi
is
goddess
for
money
andgold.Dhanya
Lakshmi
isthegoddessofgrain
andgiverofagriculturalwealth.Gaja
Lakshmi
isgiverofanimalwealth
like
cattle
and
elephants.SantanaLakshmi
isthebestower
of
offspring.Veera
Lakshmi
isthebestower
of
valour
inbattlesandcouragefor
overcomingdifficultiesinlife
Vijaya
Lakshmi
is
the
giver
of
victory.
Vidya Lakshmi isbestower ofknowledgeabouttheartsandsciences.
TruewellbeingencompassestheAshta
Lakshmis.Eachofthese
Goddessessymbolizesaformof
wealth,
which
as
a
package,
can
giveyou
a
feeling
of
complete
contentmentandhappiness.Beinghappyisyourresponsibility.Youhavetotakeresponsibilityforthechanges,Allchangehastostartwith
you,
REMEMBER?
Weallfearextinction.Soweseektoleavealegacythatwillendure,afootprint,whichwillleavetheworld
a
better,
happier,
place.
To
bebornamanisprivilege,LetusthankGodforthisgiftoflife
Dharma is the Law of right living
You can fool everybody, but you cant fool yourself. Not even for the single minute.Doing your dharma as you understand it, alone can make you happy. If you feel thatwhat you are doing is adharma, you can never be happy. Unless you live by your owninternal standards you can never be happy. When you bend the rules you reduce your
chances for true, pure happiness.
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