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Hierarchy Of RegardUnconditional Positive Regard



A Hierarchy Of Regard

● No Regard




● Negative Regard - Unconditional● No Regard




● Negative Regard - Conditional● Negative Regard - Unconditional● No Regard




● Positive Regard - Conditional● Negative Regard - Conditional● Negative Regard - Unconditional● No Regard




● Positive Regard - Unconditional● Positive Regard - Conditional● Negative Regard - Conditional● Negative Regard - Unconditional● No Regard



Unconditional?

Positive regards feels good ●



Unconditional?

Positive regards feels good ● ESPECIALLY IF GIVEN UNGRUDGINGLY



In Real Life

Some people are so unused to UnconditionalPositive Regard that it threatens them.

It unsettles their " Self Concept ". They don't trust it.



In Counselling

Maintain an unqualified positive attitude to theclient. Over time the intended effect is to break downand undermine the conditions that the clientplaces on their sense of self worth.

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In Counselling

Maintain an unqualified positive attitude to theclient. Over time the intended effect is to break downand undermine the conditions that the clientplaces on their sense of self worth.

● The client's " Organismic Self " gets stronger



Components of UPRUnconditional Positive Regard



Some Components of UPR● Respect● Non-judgmental● Acceptance

● Valuing

● Prizing● Caring● Nurturing

● Compassion

● Warmth● Love



Some Components of UPR● Respect : respecting a person in their dignity and brokenness as a person.● Non-judgmental : being neither judgmental against nor for.● Acceptance : accepting the person in all their fullness, missing nothing out, including

how they treat the relationship with you.● Valuing : embracing the person you encounter, and valuing them as a unique and

valuable person.● Prizing : celebrating achievements and what is of value in the person’s eyes.● Caring : being concerned for the person, and wanting the best for them.● Nurturing : wanting to help the person to grow in whatever ways are open for their

growth as a person (nurturing the actualising tendency).● Compassion : feeling compassion for how hard life can be for a person struggling to

cope, or to find what is important to them, in a world that they may experience ashostile.● Warmth : experiencing a warmth inside for the person in this relationship.● Love : experiencing the full richness of a non-possessive love for the person in this

relationship.



Questions about UPRUnconditional Positive Regard



Who in your life currently gives you:a) conditional positive regard?

b) unconditional positive regard?



Who in your past has given you:a) conditional positive regard?




For whom in your life currently do youhave:

a) conditional positive regard?b) unconditional positive regard?



For whom in your past have you had:a) conditional positive regard?




To what extent do you typicallycommunicate your:

a) conditional positive regard for a person?b) unconditional positive regard

for a person?



Questions about UPRWorksheet (5 minutes)



ConclusionUnconditional Positive Regard



Therapeutically the goal of PositiveSelf-Regard is based on positive

regard from others.



● regard from others may at times be negative● child concludes some actions and feelings are unworthy● these become excluded from the self-concept (even

though they are organismically valid)● results in a distorted self-concept● organismic experiences at variance with the self-

concept evoke anxiety● incongruent experiences are denied or distorted



Healing

1. in a completely non-threatening situation, theperson can examine all his inner experience.

2. when a person can accept all her inner experience, she becomes more accepting of others.

3. the person becomes involved in a

"continuing valuing process".



Things to avoid

● Confusing the client’s choices with your own- implies that you would make better choicesin the same circumstances.

● Judging the client’s actions to be detrimental- implies your view is more valuable thanyour empathy.

● The client's values change to match those of the counsellor - Accidental Persuasion.



UPRUnconditional Positive Regard

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