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Unlock Your MindAnd be

Free!A Practical Approach

To Hypnotherapy

Edgar A. Barnett M.D.



Also by Dr. Barnett:

Analytical Hypnotherapy: Principles and Practice

The Rapid Reintegration Procedure: Effective Ego StateHypnotherapy without Hypnosis

(With Dr. John R. Tkach M.D. to be released Dec 2005)

First published in 1 ! b" Do#inie $ress %i#ited.

$aperback edition published &pril 1 '2.

Reprinted 1 0. This edition 2005

op"ri ht * 2005 b" Junica $ublishin o#pan" %i#ited. &llri hts reser+ed. ,o part o- this publication #a" be reproduced

stored in a retrie+al s"ste# or trans#itted in an" -or# or b" an"#eans electronic #echanical photocop"in recordin orother/ise /ithout prior /ritten per#ission o- the $ublisher.



DED AT "#

To Margaret$

arolyn$ #igel and %udith



ACKN !"E#$%ENTS

The encoura e#ent to /rite this book ca#e -ro# -ello/ h"pnotherapists and -riends /hose -aith in #" abilit" to acco#plish thistask /as #atched b" their belie- that it /ould #eet a popularneed to understand the principles and ai#s o- h"pnoanal"sis.

a# e tre#el" rate-ul to #" -ello/ anadian h"pnoanal"stsDrs. Da+id rai and Daniel 3te/art /ho pro+ided constant

support and ad+ice throu hout this +enture.t is to Dr. Da+id heek o- 3an Francisco that o/e #" co##it

#ent to h"pnoanal"sis as a +alid approach to therap" -or it is -ro#his /orkshops se#inars and /ritin s that ha+e been able to-ashion the tools to disco+er the #aterial /ithin this book.

M" thanks o also to Mr. John ruickshanks and Mrs. 4+onneellar -or their in+aluable help in the editin and preparation o-

the ori inal #anuscript.

For each o- the three patients /hose e perience o- h"pnoanal"sishas been recorded in detail ha+e a special -eelin o- ratitudesince the" as /ith the #an" patients /hose stories ha+e used inan unreco ni6able /a" ha+e #ade a +aluable contribution to anunderstandin o- this therap".



Fore&ord to 'econd Edition

&nloc' (our %ind

and )e *ree

3ince the -irst edition o- 78nlock 4our Mind and 9e Free:; /ent out

o- print #an" "ears a o ha+e had #an" re<uests -or a secondedition. &lthou h it is so#e t/ent" -i+e "ears since -irst /rote it

-ind on re=readin it that the concepts e pressed therein are as-resh toda" as the" /ere /hen a/oke one #ornin in the latese+enties /ith the book title e#bla6oned in #" #ind.

There are #an" approaches to ps"chotherap" bein practicedtoda" but belie+e that the success-ul ones all adopt the conceptthat e#otional disturbances ha+e their ori ins in past trau#atice periences /hich ha+e ne+er been ade<uatel" dealt /ith. &s aresult a part o- the #ind has re#ained i#prisoned. 3uccess-ultherap" -inds a /a" to en ineer the escape o- that part -ro# itse#otional prison. This is precisel" /hat this book ai#s toacco#plish.

n #" #ost recent publication 7The Rapid Reinte ration$rocedure; especiall" /ritten -or practicin ps"chotherapists ha+e endea+ored to teach a #ethod b" /hich therapists can directsu--erers to a rapid #eans o- unlockin i#prisoned parts o- the#ind and settin the# -ree.

n this book the reader can disco+er -or hi#sel- that he has thepo/er to -ree his o/n #ind -ro# outdated e#otional prisons.

>d ar &. 9arnett M.D.



C NTENTS

Ac'nowledge+ents

,ntroduction---------------------------------------------------------.

Chapter .: Prisons of the %ind----------------------------- /

The prison o- -ear......................................... 5$hobias&n ieties

The prison o- an er..................................... 10Mi raine$eptic ulcer9ack pain?"pertension@besit"

The prison o- pain and sadness..................... 15&sth#aDepressionDru addiction&lcoholis#> cessi+e s#okin

The prison o- uilt....................................... 20#potence

Fri idit"@besit"3kin diseases3uicide

Chapter 0: The Cri+e---------------------------------------- 01

a# here a# a irlAbo" a# an r" a# a-raid hurt lo+e a# happ" a# curious



Chapter 2: The Court------------------------------------------32

Transactional anal"sis theor"The accused (The hild)The prosecutor (The $arent)The Bud e (The $arent)The de-ense (The &dult)

Chapter 3: The Sentence------------------------------------ /2

4ou #ust not e ist4ou #ust ne+er -eel an r"4ou are not lo+ableC"ou are 9&D:4ou #ust not succeed4ou #ust not be a-raid4ou #ust not lo+e4ou #ust not think

Chapter /: The Prison "oc's4$&,"T5----------------- 6/

Chapter 6: Release fro+ prison--------------------------67

The &ppealThe RetrialThe $ardon

Chapter 1: Reha8ilitation----------------------------------- 11

Chapter 9: *alse *reedo+---------------------------------- 92

$rison breaks@ut on 9ail@n $robationMini#u# 3ecurit"Death 3entence

Chapter 7: Continued ,+prison+ent failures of therapy----------------------- 71

Chapter .;: The Key Analytical Hypnotherapy-.;2

Chapter ..: The Prisoner--------------------------------- ...

$s"choso#atic disordersDiseases o- addictionThe e#otional disorders



Chapter .0: %anufacturing the Key------------------.0/

3el-=?"pnosisChapter .2: Turning the Key yourself---------------.2.

3el-=&nal"sis

Chapter .3: Escape Stories------------------------------ .3.

?. 9.M. >.M. .

Chapter ./: Healing----------------------------------------- .6/

Chapter .6: Su++ing &p--------------------------------- .1.



,NTR #&CT, N

When took up the eneral practice o- #edicine #ore than 50"ears a o it /as /idel" belie+ed that the pro-ession /as #akin

reat strides to/ards subduin #an" o- #ankind s #ost-ri htenin illnesses. $enicillin and related antibiotics /erere+olutioni6in the treat#ent o- diseases. $neu#onia once a#enacin killer /as no/ under control. $olio /ould soon be+an<uished b" +accine.

9ut a-ter se+eral "ears o- /orkin in a -ull and +aried practice beca#e a/are that #an" o- our hopes /ere ill -ounded. The/onder dru s re#ained po/erless a ainst a lar e proportion o-the illnesses a -a#il" practitioner -aced. soon reali6ed that hada poor understandin o- the causes /hich underla" nu#erous#aladies a--lictin #" patients and none o- #" #edical bookscarried an" e--ecti+e re#edies.

Durin an" one #ornin treated patients /ith recurrinheadaches #uscle pains and +a ue -eelin s o- disco#-ort. n ti#e learned that the presence o- these s"#pto#s did not necessaril"

indicate an" disco+erable disease o- the kind that had beentrained to detect. Medicine eared to deal e clusi+el" /ith ph"sicalco#plaints /as -ailin these su--erers.

n #" earl" "ears beca#e -a#iliar /ith another +ariet" o- disorders /hich /ere periodic in nature pri#aril" occurrin /hen

patients e perienced abnor#al tensions in their li+es. 9ut it /asal/a"s di--icult to disco+er /h" these patients /ho /ere su--erin-ro# such poorl" understood disorders as ulcers hi h bloodpressure #i raine and asth#a /ould reco+er <uickl" on so#eoccasions and respond slo/l" to treat#ent on others.

Then there /ere the -rankl" ps"chiatric proble#s -or /hich theter# 7ner+ous breakdo/n; /as and still is -re<uentl" used.These people /ere e tre#el" tense or depressed o-ten erratic

and unpredictable in their beha+iour.

%ackin the ti#e in a bus" eneral practice to pro+ide ade<uateattention to patients /ith ps"chiatric proble#s re-erred the# tops"chiatrists in the belie- that /ith a specialist the" /ould recei+e

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the assistance necessar" -or reco+er". To #" dis#a" it soonbeca#e clear that the ps"chiatrists #ade real and per#anent

pro ress /ith -e/ o- these patients their reatest successesarisin a#on those /ho /ere recepti+e to the kind and closeattention /hich but -or the /ant o- ti#e /ould ha+e been ableto ad#inister #"sel-.

Durin this period ps"chotropic dru s beca#e /idel" a+ailable andpro#ised to re+olutioni6e the treat#ent o- e#otional disorders inthe /a" that antibiotics had trans-or#ed or anic #edicine.Ealiu# %ibriu# and other tran<uili6ers in +ar"in stren ths /ere

use-ul in sedatin patients #akin the# #ore #ana eable andrecepti+e to treat#ent. 9ut the ps"chotropics -ailed to li+e up totheir earl" pro#ise. The" alle+iated the s"#pto#s o- e#otionaldistress /ithout addressin the causes. The real proble# o-de+elopin a cure -or e#otional illness re#ained.

Frustrated b" the -ailure o- ps"chotropics and con+entional#edical practices beca#e con+inced that a #ore personali6edtherap" /hich allo/ed the su--erer to deal constructi+el" /ith his

o/n proble#s #ust be -ound. n search o- a -or# o- therap"/hich could pro+ide indi+idual ans/ers to indi+idual proble#sso#e -ort" "ears a o be an to use h"pnosis in #" practice.

-irst beca#e interested in h"pnosis as a "oun bo" and -ro# thatti#e on/ard read e+er" treatise could obtain on the subBect. learned that #ere su estion in h"pnosis could #ake theparal"6ed /alk and cure the asth#atic s /hee6e. read that#others could deli+er babies painlessl" /ithout anaesthesia and

that a /ide +ariet" o- ills /hich apparentl" ste##ed -ro# or aniccauses could be de-eated throu h the po/er o- h"pnosis. 9ut #"collea ues sco--ed at these notions and re#ained uncertain asto the true +alue o- such a therap".

M" interest in the po/er o- su estion continued unabated and/hen disco+ered that an"one could beco#e pro-icient in thepractice o- h"pnosis be an to /onder /hether it #i ht pro+ide-resh ans/ers to the old proble#s -aced in #" practice. t /as

not ho/e+er until a patient su--erin -ro# a recurrin #i raineasked #e i- there /as nothin else could do -or her that su ested h"pnosis.

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M" patient naturall" /as surprised b" the su estion thath"pnosis #i ht pro+ide the ke" -or her cure and /as e+en #ore

astounded to learn that proposed to ad#inister treat#ent#"sel-. 9ut she assented to the e peri#ent little kno/in that /as a no+ice. deter#ined to conceal the -act until /e couldassess the results o- the treat#ent certain that success /ould be#ore likel" i- her con-idence in #e /ere #aintained.

M" -irst e perience /ith h"pnosis pro+ed to be an un<uali-iedsuccess -or #" patient #ade si ni-icant i#pro+e#ent. ?er#i raines /hich had responded onl" te#poraril" to dru therap"

di#inished in -re<uenc" and se+erit". 3he be an to sleep #oreeasil" and her e#otional s"#pto#s o- depression and an iet"beca#e #uch less pronounced. To conclude the treat#ent tau ht her ho/ to induce sel-=h"pnosis and she /as e+entuall"able to discontinue the use o- all the #edications upon /hich sherelied.

/as hi hl" i#pressed b" this initial +ictor" and o+er the "ears raduall" increased #" use o- h"pnosis. 3i#pl" b" learnin a

process to aid rela ation #an" o- #" patients /ere sa+ed "earso- #iser" -ro# tension induced co#plaints. 9ut so#e o- #"patients had #uch #ore serious and co#ple proble#s.

ncreased e perience /ith h"pnosis brou ht #e reater insi htinto the underl"in causes o- deep=seated e#otional distress.$atients /hose co#plaints /ere ob+iousl" serious re+ealed to #ea chillin de ree o- sel-=hatred. The" cra+ed relie- but /ere unableto escape sel-=destructi+e patterns o- beha+ior. Their ph"sical

s"#pto#s /ere not the result o- an" or anic disease but o-e#otional proble#s to /hich the" /ere indissolubl" tied. The" hadlost their -reedo# and their hope because the" hadn t e+enreali6ed the" /ere i#prisoned.

&-ter al#ost three decades in hospital and -a#il" practice resol+ed to de+ote the re#ainder o- #" #edical li-e solel" to thepractice o- therap" throu h h"pnosis. had e plored andappreciated the +alue o- direct su estion in h"pnosis but ha+e

co#e to reali6e that its anal"tical po/ers i+e -ar superior results.n #" e perience h"pnoanal"sis has pro+ided the #ost

dependable ke" -or unlockin the spirits and bodies o- those /hoare shackled in the prisons o- the #ind.



Throu h the use o- h"pnoanal"tic techni<ues ha+e had considerable success in helpin patients disco+er the critical

e periences in their back rounds /hich ha+e been responsible -ortheir distress. The procedures ha+e de+eloped allo/in patientsto understand the i#portance o- these critical e periences ha+eled to cures /hich /ould ha+e been i#possible /ith the use o-h"pnotic su estion alone.

ha+e /ritten this book in order to present #" understandin o-the con-licts /hich i#prison us and o- the #eans b" /hichh"pnoanal"tic techni<ues can be used to -ind -reedo#.

present these ideas so that "ou too can unlock "our #ind and be-ree.

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Chapter ne

Prisons of the Mind

The Prison of Fear

Pho8ias and An<ieties

Pho8ias

n the earl" "ears o- #" h"pnotherap" practice a "oun #anca#e to #e /ith a proble# that /as rapidl" destro"in his career.?e had heard o- #" success /ith h"pnosis and re<uested aconsultation since all other #easures to -ind a cure had -ailed.

7 # a sales#an doctor so # on the road a ood deal. like the/ork and it s been oin +er" /ell until recentl". +e Bust startedbrin in in bonus #one" but no/ . . . no/ #" ner+e see#s to be-ailin ; he said /ith a /eak atte#pt at a rin.

Heor e /as a ru ed ood=lookin -ello/ o- about thirt". ?e had/orked as a laborer -or se+eral "ears tra+elin /hene+er thespirit #o+ed hi#. ?e had then #arried and settled do/n to acareer in sales. & stron independent indi+idual he could hardl"ad#it to hi#sel- that he harbored a serious proble#.

7 don t kno/ /here to start. t sounds so stupid. Bust can tunderstand /h" this is happenin to #e. When # dri+in et apanick" -eelin . -eel as i- # oin to s/er+e into the onco#intra--ic. When this sensation co#es o+er #e start to shake. t

ets so bad no/ that ha+e to pull o-- the road and cal# do/n. can t dri+e an" -aster than -ort" #iles an hour on the hi h/a"s

an"#ore. # terri-ied. 9ecause keep ha+in to stop # late -ore+er" appoint#ent #ake and #" custo#ers are be innin tothink # unreliable. M" boss is upset. >+en #" /i-e is /onderinabout #e. can t possibl" o on like this.;

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t cost Heor e considerable e--ort to tell his stor". 9" the end he/as s/eatin hea+il" and ri#acin in e#otional distress.

encoura ed hi# to rela assured hi# that #" practice had #ade#e -a#iliar /ith proble#s o- this kind and be an to <uestion hi#about his terri-"in e periences.

7?o/ lon ha+e "ou been ha+in these attacks Heor eI; asked.

7The" be an about three "ears a o. didn t tell an"bod". didn t/ant an"bod" to kno/. The" /eren t as bad then and the" onl"happened once in a /hile. ,o/ the" occur al#ost an" ti#e # in

the car.;

7Do "ou e+er et these attacks at other ti#es /hen "ou re notdri+in I; <ueried.

7,o ... ah "es but Bust once a couple o- /eeks a o. /as up onthe roo- o- the house tr"in to -i the TE antennaCBust about 10-eet o-- the round. +e ne+er been a-raid o- hei hts but up there

ot the terrible -eelin that /as oin to leap o-- and s#ash

#"sel- on the round. took a -e/ deep breaths and ca#e do/nslo/l" but the e perience shook #e up. t /as so du#b but so-ri htenin .;

When Heor e -inished outlinin his s"#pto#s e plained to hi#that he had de+eloped a phobia.

7Heor e "ou #ust -irst understand that there s nothin stupid ordu#b about /hat "ou re oin throu h. This -ear is +er" real -or

"ou. n -act -ear is like a prison. - "ou don t tr" to break out/hen it has locked "ou in "ou ll ne+er be a -ree #an a ainC-reeto li+e "our li-e the /a" "ou /ant to.;

7$hobias are not reall" unco##on #an" people su--er -ro#the#. 4ou probabl" kno/ so#ebod" /ith an unnatural -ear o-snakes or hei hts or ele+ators . . . so#ethin like that. t see#ssill" on the outside but those people -eel the sa#e kind o- terrorthat "ou do about dri+in . ,o/ this #a" be a little di--icult to

understand but don t think "ou re reall" a-raid o- dri+inHeor e.;

79ut doctor it s so real.;

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7 don t doubt that but /ere "ou e+er a-raid o- dri+in three "earsa oI; asked.

7,o ne+er ; he assured #e.

7What s happened Heor e is that "ou +e de+eloped a deeper -ear/ithin. Dri+in the car is Bust the tri er -or it.;

7Then there s nothin to be doneI; he asked #iserabl".

7@h "es there s a reat deal to be done. We #ust unco+er that

deeper -ear and deter#ine /h" dri+in tri ers it. Then /e cansee about curin it -or ood.;

M" assurances that a cure /as possible brou ht about ani##ediate reaction in Heor e. 9e innin to rela he #et #" e"es/ith his -or the -irst ti#e durin our session. The po/er o-su estion o- course is a potent tool. on+incin a patient thathelp is at hand beco#es an i#portant step in aidin hi# todisco+er the root o- his proble#.

7Heor e in order to help "ou # oin to need #ore in-or#ationthan "ou +e been able to i+e #e ... in-or#ation that "ou #a" note+en reali6e "ou possess. # oin to use h"pnosis to secure thatin-or#ation. 4ou ll -ind that "ou can reach a +er" rela ed state b"concentratin /ith "our conscious #ind on a pleasant thou ht.When "our conscious #ind is -ocused on that idea and +er"rela ed ll be in to probe "our unconscious -or the causes o- thispanic.;

79ut can it reall" help doctorI don t understand ho/ ; Heor eprotested still sceptical.

74es. # sure it can. 9ut let #e e plain b" i+in "ou an analo ".3uppose "ou and a -riend are li+in in an &-rican Bun le hut. @neda". as "ou o out -or a /alk a lion suddenl" leaps out at "ou.4ou re terri-ied. 4ou reach -or "our un but it s not there andthat roarin lion is ettin closer e+er" second. 4ou take to "our

heels in -ri ht and race back to the hut as -ast as "ou can /iththat ho/lin beast at "our back. Reachin sa-et" in the nick o-ti#e "ou sla# the door behind "ou shakin /ith -ear.

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73ounds like a stor" /ith a happ" endin doesn t itI 9ut here sthe t/ist. 4our budd" is a practical Boker. While "ou +e been

chased b" the roarin lion he has recorded the terri-"ine perience on tape. Just /hen "ou +e re ained "our coura e andare read" to #arch throu h the door o- the hut he s/itches onthe recordin o- the lion s roar. ?o/ /ill "ou react /hen "ou hearthat roarI;

79ack a/a" -ro# the door uessCsta" inside.;

7That s ri ht. 4ou re#ain inside tre#blin /ith -ear. Most

e#otional distress results -ro# the unconscious recordin o- aproble# that hasn t been sol+ed. With a phobia like "oursHeor e that recordin is bein tri ered /hen "ou dri+e in thecar. 4ou re trapped b" that recordin Bust as i- "ou /ere shut up inthe Bun le hut. We need to -ind a /a" to -ree "ou -ro# the hut.;

7?o/ do /e do thatI;

79" shuttin o-- the tape recordin .;

Within a -e/ sessions /as able to deter#ine that Heor e sphobia /as caused b" t/o e periences in his past. &s a "oun#an he had <uarrelled terribl" /ith his -ather /ho had /antedHeor e to settle do/n and -ind a career durin a ti#e /hen theson /as still e periencin /anderlust. Fro# that ti#e on Heor eharboured a terrible -eelin o- uilt -or ha+in an ered his -ather.

The second incident one /hich contributed #ost directl" to

Heor e s dri+in phobia occurred the e+enin be-ore his -ather s-uneral. Heor e /as -l"in to Boin his #other -or the ser+ice /henthe plane /as bu--eted b" a tre#endous stor#. ?e -elt certainthat he /as oin to be killed because he had been an r" /ith his-ather. ?e /as especiall" -ri htened because he -elt that hedeser+ed to be punished -or his treat#ent o- his -ather.

Heor e /as i#prisoned in the cells o- uilt and -ear. >+er" ti#e hecli#bed into his car unconscious #e#ories o- his terrible plane

trip /ere released. n his unconscious #ind he /as up in thatplane read" to be killed -or ha+in an ered his -ather.

@nce Heor e and isolated and e a#ined his proble# a cure-ollo/ed rapidl". ?e /as able to unlock his #ind -ro# the uilt o-

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his natural an er and -ind -reedo# /hen h"pnoanal"sis pro+idedhi# /ith the ke".

?u#an bein s can -ind their #inds ine tricabl" trapped in se+eralkinds o- prisons. >--ecti+el" i##obili6in the su--erer /ithoutre+ealin an" direct connection to the outside /orld the" are theresult o- -ault" -unctionin o- the #ind in its co#prehension o- the/orld. Fear is probabl" present in all o- these prisons but ne+er sopro#inentl" as in the phobias.

An<ieties

&n iet" and acute an iet" attacks are another #ani-estation o- apo/er-ul -ear i#prisonin the #ind. 8nlike phobias the -ear is notrelated to an" speci-ic circu#stances althou h it #i ht be Bust asse+ere. - "ou can i#a ine "oursel- -eelin -ri htened orapprehensi+e -or no ob+ious reason "ou can appreciate thetensions /hich the an iet" su--erer e periences.

>d/ard ca#e to see #e because he had been ha+in di--iculties

sleepin -or o+er -i+e "ears. ?e could not re#e#ber /hat it /aslike to sleep soundl" throu hout the ni ht but he had no idea/hat kept hi# a/ake so o-ten. ?e /as onl" able to sleep i- hetook a +er" hea+" dose o- a sleepin #edication but this had thepredictable e--ect o- #akin hi# <uite dro/s" the -ollo/in da".?e e peri#ented -or a ti#e /ith alcohol but a+e this up /hen hesensed the possibilit" o- addiction.

>d/ard s da"s /ere also unpleasantl" collared b" constant -eelin s

o- tension. ?e su--ered -ro# headaches /hich usuall" started inthe back o- the neck. & constant /orrier he /as al/a"s preparinhi#sel- -or thin s to o /ron Cand o- course the" -re<uentl"did. ?e spent #uch o- his ti#e -rettin about thin s that #i ht nothappen but -elt that he #ust be #entall" prepared -or an"e+entualit".

When he did -ind rest he e perienced dread-ul drea#s in /hich he/as either bein chased b" so#e unna#ed and unidenti-iable

horror or he /as -allin -allin -allin . &s -ar as he couldre#e#ber he al/a"s a/akened be-ore hittin the round.

Durin the da" >d/ard -elt tired and e hausted. ?e /as seldo#able to co#plete sel-=appointed tasks and -re<uentl" had to lie



do/n to rest. ?e kne/ that he /as constantl" in a state o-ner+ous tension but -elt po/erless to do an"thin about it.

>d/ard s stor" has been repeated b" #an" o- #" patients o+erthe "ears. & ph"sician /ho has been in practice -or an" len th o-ti#e /ill ha+e encountered this proble# but usuall" has -ound itdi--icult to treat.

hronic an iet" another cell in the prison o- -ear can ensnare the#ind. Due to -ear less speci-ic than the -ear associated /ithphobias it is present constantl" re ardless o- e ternalcircu#stances.

The Prison of Anger

%igraine= Peptic &lcer= )ac' Pain= Hypertension= 8esity

&n er i#prisons the #ind as e--ecti+el" as -ear. t is a nor#alhu#an e#otion /hich ad#inisters its #ost cripplin e--ect /henits e pression is prohibited. &n er can be repressed but ne+ereradicated. t continues to seek release b" e pressin itsel- in anabnor#al but so#e/hat dis uised #anner. We /ill later consider/h" an er is so#eti#es not per#itted nor#al e pression buthere /e seek to understand /hat #a" happen /hen the nor#ala+enues o- e pression are blocked.

%igraine

Mi raine is a co##on -or# o- headache responsible -or anenor#ous a#ount o- hu#an distress. t is an e cellent e a#ple o-/hat #a" happen /hen an er is repressed instead o- rantednor#al e pression.

To# ca#e to see #e /ith a #i raine proble#. &part -ro# theseheadaches he declared he /as +er" happ". &t G0 "ears o- a e heenBo"ed a lo+el" /i-e and t/o health" teena e dau hters. ?is/orld appeared to be per-ect.

@nl" a #i raine su--erer can reall" appreciate the relentlessse+erit" o- an attack. To# e plained that he -re<uentl" /ent tobed -eelin <uite /ell but shortl" a-ter /akenin the ne t#ornin his head /ould be in to throb /ith pain situated o+er thele-t e"e. 8suall" the pain /ould increase unless his #edication

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al/a"s at hand /as i##ediatel" e--ecti+e. - it /as not he /ouldbe incapacitated -or the re#ainder o- that da" and so#eti#es /ell

into the -ollo/in da".3o#eti#es he /ould reach his o--ice and be able to /ork -or a -e/hours but then the headache /ould beco#e so intense that he/ould -ind it i#possible to continue. Returnin ho#e to bed he/ould re#ain in a darkened roo# /ith appropriate doses o-#edication. @n occasion he beca#e so ill that he called his doctor-or an inBection to relie+e the pain. @n other occasions he /ould+o#it /hich see#ed to relie+e hi#. 8suall" a-ter a ood sleep

To# /ould a/aken -eelin /ell able once a ain to continue hisnor#al li-e.

9e-ore consultin #e To# s headaches had beco#e #uch #ore-re<uent. n the pre+ious "ear the" had be un to recur atappro i#atel" t/o=/eek inter+als. ?e had tried #an" #edicationsand -ound that althou h none co#pletel" pre+ented the attackshe /ould o-ten e perience so#e relie- -ro# pain i- he took the#-ar enou h in ad+ance. ?e had under one all the in+esti ations

that /ere #edicall" reco##ended but no e+idence o- an" diseasehad been detected. ?e /as re arded as health" and ph"sicall"+er" -it. ,o one kne/ /hat brou ht on his headaches but the"certainl" caused hi# and his -a#il" e cessi+e #iser".

$rior to therap" did not kno/ the cause o- To# s headaches but suspected -ro# #" pre+ious e perience /ith this proble# that

the" /ere probabl" the result o- suppressed an er. To##aintained that he ne+er lost his te#per al/a"s keepin a ti ht

rein upon it because he could not bear to hurt an"one s -eelin s.?e reco ni6ed hi#sel- as a per-ectionist /ho #ust al/a"s dothin s absolutel" correctl" so that no one could possibl" -ind -ault/ith his /ork.

?appil" throu h anal"tical h"pnotherap" To# /as e+entuall"able to disco+er the cause o- his #i raine /hich indeed pro+ed tobe repressed an er and to -ind ne/ #eans o- dealin /ith it.

3uppressed an er is like a sleepin +olcano it can eruptperiodicall" in the -or# o- a headache backache or so#e otherph"sical disco#-ort.

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Peptic &lcer

& peptic ulcer is another ps"choso#atic illness /hich can result-ro# repressed an er.

&lan s histor" e e#pli-ies this proble# /ell. ?e ca#e to see #eso#e ti#e a o because he /as su--erin -ro# a reat deal o-abdo#inal pain in spite o- e tensi+e sur ical treat#ent -or asto#ach ulcer. 9ecause o- occasional bleedin -ro# the operationsite -urther sur er" had been reco##ended. ?e had co#e to theconclusion that repeated operations had not brou ht an"

per#anent i#pro+e#ent in his health so he /as desperate to tr"an alternati+e -or# o- therap".

&lan /as an en ineer in his late -orties /ho -elt -rustrated in a Bob/hich #ade -e/ de#ands upon hi# intellectuall". ?e -ound thathe /as -re<uentl" bein called upon to do his /ork in a #anner/hich he considered to be ine--icient and unsatis-actor". Fanc"inhi#sel- #ore in-or#ed than his superiors he /as -re<uentl"-orced to suppress his opposition to the# on i#portant issues.

@-ten depressed and lackin in ener " he persistentl" lookedupon hi#sel- as a personal -ailure.

&-ter talkin to &lan -or a short ti#e beca#e a/are o- thetre#endous potential that la" dor#ant in hi#. ?e had been ableto use this potential b" startin a s#all business in the sale o-tools /hich /ith the help o- his /i-e he operated in addition tohis Bob as an en ineer. &lthou h <uite success-ul he re#aineddissatis-ied /ith his e--orts. ?e /anted to chan e his li-e in so#e

/a" but did not kno/ ho/.

recei+ed the i#pression that &lan /as a #an /ith enor#ousener " /hich so#eho/ had been obstructed. This is the +er" kindo- personalit" o- course that is prone to su--er -ro#ps"choso#atic illnesses and /e /ill later learn ho/ people like&lan are i#prisoned b" the an er the" cannot e press. a#pleased to sa" that &lan /as e+entuall" able to escape -ro# hisprison and beco#e +irtuall" -ree o- his s"#pto#s.

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)ac' PainMan" people /ho su--er -ro# lo/ back pain can -ind no cause -orits ori in. Their =ra"s are nor#al and clinical si ns do not indicate an" disease "et the pain recurs inter#ittentl" "ear a-ter"ear.

Mar" ca#e to see #e because she had heard that h"pnosis couldhelp to relie+e pain. 3he /as -ed up /ith ha+in to take

#edication -or a back pain that had pla ued her -or o+er t/ent""ears. &t the ti#e #et her she /as in her #id=-orties /ith aro/n=up -a#il". recall that she displa"ed the resi ned look o-

e tensi+e su--erin .

3he /as <uite handso#e and /ell=dressed /ith a <uiet +oice andde#eanour /hich su ested so#eone /ho /ould pre-er not to benoticed. 3he told #e that her onl" periods o- -reedo# -ro# theback pain /hich /as so#eti#es <uite e cruciatin occurred

durin her pre nancies. This is o- course <uite unlike an or anicail#ent /hich /ould tend to /orsen durin pre nanc". 3head#itted to bein tense and depressed but she attributed this toher back pain /hich she -elt /ould #ake an"one -eel depressed.

t certainl" pre+ented her -ro# per-or#in a +ariet" o- tasks andit particularl" hindered her -ro# sharin in acti+ities /ith the resto- the -a#il". @-ten she had to retire to bed /hile her husbandand children /ent on their /a" /ithout her.

Mar" belie+ed that her back pain ph"sicall" i#prisoned her but intherap" she learned that her real prison /as one o- une pressedan er. @nce she /as able to +ent that an er she -reed hersel--ro# it and her back pain.

Hypertension

?i h blood pressure or h"pertension is a +er" serious #odern

disease /hich appears to be on the increase. We ph"sicians kno/that the strain /hich it i#poses upon the heart and the blood+essels is -re<uentl" responsible -or disabilit" and o-ten leads toearl" death.

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Modern #edical treat#ent is o-ten hi hl" e--ecti+e in controllinhi h blood pressure but rarel" succeeds in curin it. This is

because onl" in a #inorit" o- cases can a cause be -ound andtreated. n #" e perience the ori in o- h"pertension is usuall" ane#otional tension /hich results -ro# a blockin o- the e pressiono- an er.

$hillip /as thirt"=ei ht "ears o- a e /hen he -irst consulted #e.?e /as o+er/ei ht and su--erin -ro# hi h blood pressure /hich/ithout continuous #edication soared into a ran e /hich couldsoon lead to per#anent da#a e to his heart kidne"s or blood

+essels. ?e /as a/are that an" o- these e+entualities could causehis death and he /as told that losin so#e /ei ht /ould o alon /a" to achie+in control o- his blood pressure.

&lthou h a bi #an $hillip /as <uiet and retirin . ?e /as al/a"ss#ilin and /as +er" /ell liked. ?e /ould ne+er ar ue /ithan"one and /ould certainl" ne+er be the cause o- an ar u#ent.?e had ne+er been heard to de-end hi#sel- and it /ould re<uire a

reat e--ort o- i#a ination to think o- hi# beco#in an r". $hillip

did ad#it to a reat deal o- tension and to su--erin -ro# di--icult"in -allin asleep. ?e also -elt that he /as totall" unable to stophi#sel- -ro# eatin -attenin -oods.

n therap" /e -ound a seethin an er /ithin $hillip /hich /as keptso totall" controlled that he /as entirel" una/are o- it. The onl"e ternal e+idence o- the an er /as his raised blood pressure andhis sel-=destructi+e eatin pattern. ?e /as i#prisoned b" hisan er and onl" /hen he reali6ed this /as he able to do so#ethin

to release it and thus to -ree hi#sel- -ro# its prison. When thathappened he beca#e #ore rela ed his blood pressure started to-all and he /as at last able to sta" on a reducin diet pro ra#.

8esity

9ecause o+ereatin #a" result -ro# a +ariet" o- causes theproble# o- obesit" beco#es e ceedin l" co#ple . @ne o- the#ost co##on reasons -or obesit" is suppressed an er. T"picall"

the obese /o#an is one /ho al/a"s appears to be Bo+ial and/ithout a care in the /orld. 3he e+en shares in Bokes about beino+er/ei ht. Deep inside ho/e+er she is boilin /ith an er -ro#the hurts that she has recei+ed. 4et she continues to s/allo/ heran er /ith e+er" #outh-ul o- -ood.

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/ell re#e#ber $e " /ho at t/ent"=-i+e had attracti+e-eatures su estin that she #i ht ha+e been e tre#el" beauti-ul

/ith one hundred pounds less /ei ht. When she ca#e to #e -orhelp she e plained that she had been onl" one hundred and-i-teen pounds /hen she #arried at si teen.

$re nant at the ti#e o- her -irst +isit and ha+in t/o otherchildren she attributed #uch o- her e cess /ei ht to herpre nancies -or she had lost +er" little a-ter each. ?er "oun erchild /as then -our "ears o- a e and she e+entuall" ad#itted toputtin on about -i-t" pounds since his birth. %ike so #an" obese

people she -ound it di--icult to accept responsibilit" -or herincreased /ei ht.

$e " told #e a reat deal about hersel-. 3he had -e/ -riends butshe -re<uentl" +isited her #other /ho li+ed not -ar -ro# her. 3heseldo# enBo"ed these +isits because her #other /as e tre#el"critical o- her. 3he did not think that her #other intended to hurther but this /as si#pl" her /a". $e " -elt that nothin could bedone about it. ?er husband /orked at a distance -ro# ho#e and

/as rarel" at ho#e e cept on /eekends. 3he did not like this butkne/ that she had to tolerate it -or the ti#e bein . $e " hadne+er endured an" -inancial proble#s but she /as o-tendepressed -or no clear reason. Finall" she had a dau hter o- ei ht/ho presented her /ith discipline proble#s.

Durin h"pnoanal"sis /e disco+ered that $e " /as indeed seethin /ith tre#endous an er o- /hich she /as initiall" <uiteobli+ious. &n old an er /hich she could not let hersel- -eel let

alone e press it /as the -orce /hich dro+e her to eat e+en thou hshe /as not hun r". @nl" /hen she ca#e to ter#s /ith her an erand accepted it did she escape -ro# its prison. When she -irstca#e to #e she thou ht that she /ould et rid o- her co#pulsionto eat si#pl" b" #eans o- a post=h"pnotic su estion i+en inh"pnosis. 8n-ortunatel" solutions are not easil" a+ailable andsu estions i+en in this #anner are usuall" reBected or -ollo/ed-or a short ti#e onl".

3ince the proble# o- obesit" is so i#portant shall be discussinit in reater depth else/here in this book and /e /ill disco+erthat repressed an er is onl" one o- its possible causes.

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3tran el" enou h &lbert /as -ree o- all attacks o- asth#a -or one"ear. Durin this "ear he /as a/a" -ro# ho#e attendin colle e

in another cit". n the ei hteen #onths or so -ollo/in his return-ro# colle e his attacks increased in se+erit". Medications had tobe increased and he /as e+entuall" placed on cortisone therap"/hich a+e hi# so#e relie- -ro# the intensit" o- the attacks butdid not reduce their -re<uenc". ?e ca#e to see #e speci-icall" tohelp hi# reduce his attacks o- asth#a so that he could discontinueso#e o- his #edications.

Durin anal"sis /e disco+ered that the true cause o- his asth#a

/as his intense -eelin o- reBection. ?is asth#a represented asilent cr" o- pain e pressin a hurt /hich he could not allo/hi#sel- to -eel. t /as necessar" -or &lbert to deal /ith his painbe-ore his asth#a e+entuall" i#pro+ed.

#epression

>ach o- us has e perienced a -it o- #elanchol" but depressionpossesses a certain -utile and roundless <ualit" /hich sets it

apart -ro# ordinar" sadness. T"picall" the su--erer is unable to-unction properl". ?e beco#es easil" tired and does not sleep /ell.?e is irritable and -re<uentl" unaccountabl" tear-ul.

Durin periods o- depression the /orld appears an a/-ul andhopeless place in /hich nothin e+er oes ri ht. Depression iso-ten co#plicated b" -eelin s o- an er and uilt both o- /hich canbe traced to e periences o- earl" reBection. The reBection isresponsible -or the sadness and the an er but this an er #a" be

repressed or directed to/ard the su--erer.

&lternati+el" the sadness #a" be concealed b" the an er andneither the sadness nor the an er /ill be i+en appropriatee ternal e pression. For this reason the depressed person #a"e press his an er a ainst hi#sel- in the e tre#el" hostile act o-suicideCthe #urder o- the sel-.

3andra /as a tall attracti+e irl in her late t/enties /ho had li+ed

/ith se+eral #en but had ne+er #arried. 3he /as sustainin arelationship /ith a #arried #an /ho /as separated -ro# his /i-eat the ti#e that she consulted #e. ?er histor" /as an e#otionall"stor#" one. There had been #an" ad#issions to a hospital -orps"chiatric treat#ent durin her adolescence on one occasion she

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atte#pted suicide b" slashin her /rists and on another b" takinan o+erdose o- tran<uili6ers.

3he ca#e to see #e because once a ain -eelin depressed andhopeless she /as searchin -or a di--erent route to the solution o-her e#otional proble#s. 3he /as a/are o- her sadness but /asuna/are o- its true intensit" or o- the an er /hich acco#panied it.

suspected that she /ould ha+e di--icult" in co#in to ter#s /iththe i##ense a#ount o- repressed hurt that needed to be dealt/ith and so it pro+ed. 3he did ho/e+er e+entuall" succeed in

dealin /ith the pain and sadness /hich /as i#prisonin her in ali-e o- sel-=reBection and she /as ulti#atel" able to ain the-reedo# o- sel-=acceptance.

This has resulted in #an" chan es in her li-e and in herrelationships. 3he no/ possesses an understandin o- her -or#erbeha+iour and kno/s that it has ended -or ood.

Depression is a clear si n o- reBection ori inall" parental /hich

#ani-ests itsel- in the -or# o- sel-=reBection. Feelin s o- reBectionappear so co##onl" in anal"sis that dee# the# to be e+erpresent in e#otional disturbances.

#rug Addiction

3ociet" has al/a"s relied hea+il" on dru s. >+en pri#iti+e #anlearned that certain herbs could #odi-" the -eelin s in his bod"and #ind. Man has re ularl" turned to #edicines o- di--erent kinds

to help heal sickness and as a eneral ph"sician in -a#il" practice #ust ha+e prescribed #an" thousands o- dollars /orth o- dru s

o+er the "ears.

t is there-ore not surprisin that so#e o- us co#e to rel" sohea+il" on a particular dru -or its e--ecti+eness in relie+in aspeci-ic disco#-ort that /e cannot i+e it up. Dru addiction is aserious proble# since its side e--ects -re<uentl" create a situation-ar /orse than that the" /ere intended to relie+e. &lcohol

tobacco tran<uili6ers a#pheta#ines and heroin are but a -e/ o-the dru s /hose addicti+e properties ha+e created /orld/ideproble#s. There is little e+idence that the #an" le al restraintsha+e been success-ul in #odi-"in dru addiction in an" /a".

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&n understandin o- the reasons -or dru addiction #akes it clear/h" le al restraints are doo#ed to -ailure. &ll dru s are taken

+oluntaril" onl" i- the" succeed in relie+in a disco#-ort andAori+in a pleasurable -eelin . belie+e that those /ho beco#eaddicted to a dru are su--erin -ro# a se+ere pain /hich islar el" or entirel" unconscious. The pain is al/a"s intense but isconsciousl" onl" -elt as an uneasiness cla#ourin to be soothed.The dru is there-ore bein used b" the addict to suppress thisse+ere unconscious pain thou h its success is onl" te#porar".Further#ore the e--ecti+eness o- the dru -re<uentl" decreases sothat additional doses /ith a conco#itant increase in side e--ects

beco#e necessar" -or e--ecti+e control o- the unconscious pain.?o/e+er /hen unconscious pain re<uires relie- the thou ht o--uture disco#-ort -ro# the side e--ects o- the dru is rarel" ane--ecti+e deterrent to its use. This is particularl" the case i- suchpain is #ore se+ere than the side e--ects o- the dru or the le aldeterrents.

Alcoholis+

&lcoholis# is the #ost co##on e a#ple o- dru addiction.$robabl" e+er" one o- us kno/s or has kno/n an alcoholic andhas /ondered /h" he continues to treat hi#sel- in this sel-=destructi+e #anner.

John /as re-erred to #e because o- his s#okin habit butcon-ided that he reall" /anted help /ith his alcohol proble#. & bi#an both ph"sicall" and #entall" John has done +er" /ell in hisoccupation and /hen -irst sa/ hi# he had reached a +er"

i#portant e ecuti+e position in his -ir#. ?e /as then about -ort"=-i+e "ears o- a e and had e+er"thin that one could /ish -orCalo+el" /i-e three children /ho /ere all doin /ell at school andcolle e a house a cotta e and #an" other Bo"s o- li-e /hichshould ha+e #ade hi# -eel secure and happ".

4et he con-ided that e+er" so o-ten he /ould beco#e +er"depressed and /ould e#bark upon an alcoholic bin e /hich /ouldpre+ent hi# -ro# -unctionin -or se+eral da"s. Reco ni6in his

illness but incapable o- identi-"in its ori in he /as seekin #"help to assist hi# in controllin the habit.

uessed -ro# #" pre+ious e perience /ith alcoholics that John/as nursin a deep distress /hich periodicall" sur-aced but /hich

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he /as unable to -eel reco ni6e or -ace. This indeed pro+ed to bethe case. When John ca#e to ter#s /ith a reat deal o- hidden

pain he /as e+entuall" able to relin<uish it per#anentl". ?isproble#s /ith alcohol since then ha+e -aded because /ithout painhe no lon er needs the pain killer alcohol.

E<cessive S+ o 'ing

& hi h proportion o- hea+" s#okers can be persuaded to i+e ups#okin b" direct su estion in h"pnosis but a si ni-icant nu#bercannot. These people rel" upon ci arettes to ease unconscious

pain and distress. @nl" /hen that pain is resol+ed b" theapplication o- #ature understandin to the attendant proble# canthe tension creatin the co#pulsion to s#oke be relie+ed and thedirect su estion to i+e up s#okin be accepted. 3o it is /ith alldru addictions. The pain #ust be dealt /ith be-ore the habit canbe per#anentl" relin<uished.

The success rate -or h"pnotherap" in helpin people to <uits#okin or to i+e up an" other addiction #ust al/a"s be less

than satis-actor" until the" can be released -ro# their prison o-unconscious pain.

The Prison of Guilt

,+potence= *rigidity= 8esity= S'in #isease and Suicide

n order to #ake co#prehensible #" concept o- e#otional illness ha+e arti-iciall" separated the three prisons o- -ear an er and

hurt but belie+e that all o- these in e--ect are adBacent to ando+erlap each other /ith interco##unicatin doors so that an" orall o- these e#otions #i ht be in+ol+ed in the production o- illness-ro# #ental i#prison#ent.

co#e no/ to the -ourth prison that o- uilt /hich is al/a"sclosel" connected to the -irst three. We shall disco+er ho/ uilt isconsistentl" a potent -actor in the production o- all e#otional illnesses. 8nder certain conditions the -eelin o- uilt pla"s apro#inent part in the e#otional proble#.

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,+potence

n no other condition is uilt #ore likel" to be the #ain causati+e-actor in the production o- s"#pto#s than in the condition o-i#potence the -ailure o- the #ale to per-or# satis-actoril" durinse ual intercourse. t has been ackno/led ed #ore and #ore as acause o- considerable unhappiness -or #an" #arried couples andin these da"s o- reater acceptance o- e tra=#arital se has been+ie/ed as a source o- proble#s in these relationships also.

Toda" #an" therapies directed at resol+in this proble# are

#eetin /ith +ar"in de rees o- success. ?o/e+er persistentunconscious -eelin s o- uilt /ill continue to pre+ent success in asi ni-icant proportion o- cases.

>d/in /as re-erred to #e because at the a e o- -ort"=-i+e he had-ound hi#sel- to be i#potent. ?e did e perience penile erections-ro# ti#e to ti#e but he /as unable to #aintain an erection lonenou h to ha+e satis-actor" intercourse. ?e had been a /ido/er-or -i+e "ears. ?is /i-e had died -ro# cancer and he had nursed

her durin the illness. Theirs had been a lo+e #atch and se /ithher thou h in-re<uent had al/a"s been +er" ood until herillness /hen he had naturall" ceased #akin an" se ual de#andsupon her.

Terribl" depressed b" his /i-e s death a lon ti#e had elapsedbe-ore he had been able to sociali6e a ain. Reac<uaintance /ithan old irl-riend de+eloped a relationship /hich the" decided toce#ent b" #arria e. With that co##it#ent the" be an a se ual

relationship but >d/in disco+ered to his dis#a" ande#barrass#ent that he /as i#potent.

>d/in s doctor ad#inistered #edication inBections and ad+ice tono a+ail and >d/in /as doubt-ul /hether he should o ahead /ithhis plans -or re#arria e. ?e had e+en be un to /onder /hetherhe had beco#e too old to start a ne/ se ual relationship.

kne/ that this /as not true and also uessed that his proble#

/as too deep to be resol+ed #erel" b" direct su estion inh"pnosis /hich is o-ten <uite e--ecti+e. n -act his case re<uiredso#e thorou h in+esti ation usin anal"tical h"pnotic techni<uesbe-ore /e /ere able to locate and deal /ith the cause o- hisproble#.

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t /as o- course a stron -eelin o- uilt about this ne/relationship /hich he /as totall" una/are o- at a conscious le+el.

&-ter /e /ere able to relie+e the uilt -eelin >d/in /as able to-unction <uite nor#all" in his se ual relationship. ?e is no/happil" #arried.

*rigidity

This is the -e#ale e<ui+alent o- i#potence in the #ale andalthou h se ual proble#s in the -e#ale are probabl" Bust asco##on as in the #ale the" are less o-ten the presentin

proble# -or /hich therap" is sou ht. t is possible -or the -e#aleto -unction se uall" e+en thou h she is e#otionall" detached ore+en opposed to se . 8suall" this proble# co#es to li ht as parto- a /ider e#otional disturbance /hich is disruptin her li-e.

&n ela /as about thirt" "ears o- a e /hen she consulted #ebecause o- her recurrent depressions. 3he had been #arried -or#ore than ten "ears but throu hout that ti#e she had ne+erreall" enBo"ed her se ual li-e /ith her husband. 3he recalled that

their pre#arital se had been <uite ood.

Durin therap" -or her depression /e unco+ered an enor#ousa#ount o- uilt associated /ith se and it /as clear that she hadblocked o-- her se ual -eelin s because o- her uilt re ardinthe#. We also needed to understand /h" this uilt did notpre+ent her -ro# enBo"in her pre#arital se . With this -ullunderstandin she /as e+entuall" able to relin<uish all o- her uilt-eelin s. 3he not onl" stopped bein depressed but also once

a ain allo/ed hersel- to enBo" se /ith her husband.

&n" /o#an /ho is su--erin -ro# an inabilit" to enBo" nor#alse ual -eelin s is probabl" su--erin -ro# uilt and to this e tentshe is i#prisoned b" it.

8esity

We ha+e alread" spoken about the proble# o- obesit" but

#ention it a ain here because it is so#eti#es a #ani-estation o-i#prison#ent in the prison o- uilt. n such cases the su--erer isthe +icti# o- a co#pulsion to eat e+en /hen he is not a/are o-an" desire to eat. The co#pulsion /hich is sel-=punishin results-ro# an intense unconscious -eelin o- uilt.

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T/ent"=t/o="ear=old Rosal"n pro+ides a strikin histor" o-so#eone /ho beco#es a +icti# o- this co#pulsion. 3he re<uested

that i+e her a posth"pnotic su estion not to eat because she/as a/are that she /as eatin unconsciousl". 3he /ould o -orda"s on an e cellent diet pro ra# and then -or no apparentreason /ould beco#e obsessed b" the ur e to eat. 3toppin atthe local store she /ould bu" all kinds o- Bunk -oods take the#ho#e and or e hersel- on the# stu--in -ood into hersel- untilshe could hardl" #o+e. These /ere labeled 7bin es ; and she /asdeepl" asha#ed o- her -ailure to control the#. ,ot consciousl"a/are o- an" proble# that could tri er her or#andi6in she

a reed to anal"tical h"pnotherap".

Rosal"n /as <uite surprised /hen /e located an e perience /hichshe recalled consciousl" but did not at all associate /ith intense-eelin s o- uilt. The association had been suppressed. @nl" a-tershe beca#e a/are o- her uilt -eelin s and the reasons -or the#/as Rosal"n able to dis#iss the#. When she /as -reed -ro# herprison o- uilt she success-ull" #aintained her reducin diet andconsistentl" lost /ei ht.

When i#prisoned b" uilt the +icti# can onl" alle+iate that uiltb" so#e assault upon hi#sel-. @+ereatin is one co##on #eanso- sel-=a ression but there are #an" others.

S'in #iseases

t has lon been kno/n that skin diseases are stron l" a--ected b"e#otional -actors. n -act #an" o- the# are due to unconscious

-eelin s o- uilt. This #a" at -irst sound -ar=-etched but thei#pro+e#ent o- se+eral patients has been the direct result o-relin<uishin such uilt -eelin s.

re#e#ber the case o- Martha /ho at -ort"=-i+e "ears o- a e hadsu--ered -ro# urticaria popularl" kno/n as hi+es -or #an" "ears.

t -re<uentl" in+ol+es the #ucous #e#branes as /ell as the skin.3he e perienced these attacks at odd ti#es and the search -or analler ic cause pro+ed to be un-ruit-ul. @ccasionall" she beca#e so

s/elled up /ith urticaria attacks in+ol+in #outh and throat thather breathin /as threatened and e#er enc" treat#ent had to beadopted. Follo/in therap" durin /hich she /as able to deal/ith an apparentl" unrelated source o- uilt her urticaria stoppedrecurrin and she has re#ained -ree -ro# it e+er since.

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Suicide

We cannot lea+e a discussion o- the prison o- uilt /ithout takina brie- look at the proble# o- suicide /hich shall e plore inreater detail later.

Wh" should an"one /ish to kill hi#sel-I Those /ho ha+ethe#sel+es atte#pted suicide #a" understand its causes to acertain e tent but it is #" e perience that the reasons -or suicideare onl" di#l" understood e+en b" those /ho are deepl" in+ol+edin /orkin /ith the proble#.

3o#eti#es the +icti# has been kno/n to under o a prolon edperiod o- depression but o-ten there has been no prior /arnin .The indi+idual #a" e+en ha+e appeared to be the li-e and soul o-the part". ?e /as perhaps occasionall" a little #ood" but on the/hole he see#ed to enBo" li-e.

3uicide is the ulti#ate hostile act. t is the #urder o- onesel- and"et -or the perpetrator it see#s to be the ri ht and proper act to

per-or# at the ti#e. ?e -eels that he is killin a #onster that hasno ri ht to li+e and is thereb" doin the /orld a -a+our. n -act hedeclares that this #a" be the onl" positi+e -eat he has e+erper-or#ed. This sounds like absurd thinkin to the obser+er butone has to be inside the +icti# s #ind to reco ni6e his lo ic. Fro#his perspecti+e he has no alternati+e onl" because /e cannotpenetrate his rationale do /e -ail to understand hi#.

?e is li+in in a prison o- uilt certain that he can onl" escape

throu h death. Further#ore he is sure that this is an appropriateesture because he unconsciousl" belie+es that he has been

sentenced to death and this is onl" carr"in out that sentence. Weshall anal"6e this +ie/point in reater detail later atte#ptin tounderstand the suicide s thinkin at an unconscious le+el. Man" o-us li+in in prisons o- uilt are potential suicides but are usin+arious #ethods to /ard o-- the death sentence.

Jenni-er ca#e to see #e because she /as entertainin -ri htenin

thou hts that she should kill hersel-. &t t/ent"=-our "ears o- a eshe had recentl" raduated -ro# the uni+ersit" and /asapparentl" doin <uite /ell in her chosen pro-ession as a social/orker. 3he described her recent states o- depression andco#plained that she -ound it di--icult to concentrate upon her

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/ork. 3he had ood reason to seek help -ro# these suicidal-eelin s because so#e ten "ears or so be-ore she had #ade an

al#ost success-ul atte#pt to take her o/n li-e. 3he /as onl"sa+ed b" pro#pt and e--icient #edical treat#ent.

?a+in heard o- the -acilit" /ith /hich h"pnosis could unco+erunconscious thou ht Jenni-er hoped that could help. We -oundas e pected /e #i ht that she had al/a"s been in a prison o-

uilt and had e isted /ith a sentence o- death han in o+er herhead since birth. t had ne+er been co##uted but onl" postponedto the end o- her uni+ersit" trainin .

?er case /as +er" co#ple but /e /ere e+entuall" able to reacha resolution /hich enabled her to escape -ro# the prison o- uiltto a -reedo# she had ne+er pre+iousl" kno/n.

n discussin the #ain prisons o- the #ind ha+e onl" #entioneda -e/ o- the #an" proble#s /hich are presented to h"pnotherapists each da". n al#ost e+er" case a# able to -ind so#ee+idence o- e#otional incarceration in one or #ore o- the -our

prisons that ha+e described.

,o one chooses to o to prison so /hen disco+er a patienttucked a/a" in one o- these prisons naturall" ask ho/ did he

et thereI What cri#e did he co##it /hich led to his prisonsentenceI &nd /hat is his sentenceI

9" seekin and -indin ans/ers to <uestions such as these a#able to help the +icti# deter#ine the #eans o- securin a release

-ro# his prison. ?o/e+er be-ore /e et to that point /ant todiscuss the cri#es /hich are present in the e#otional codeC+er"di--erent -ro# o--ences listed in the cri#inal code o- an" #odernsociet" but nonetheless capable o- landin one in solitar"con-ine#ent.

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Chapter Two

The Crime

n the e"es o- the la/ a cri#e is an" act that endan ers thepeace and order o- societ". To #aintain its ood health societies

#ust apprehend and punish those /ho de-" its rules. ri#inals#ust not be allo/ed to repeat their o--enses.

intend to dra/ a close parallel bet/een this enerall" acceptedunderstandin o- cri#e and the cri#e /hich results in thei#prison#ent o- part o- our #inds. This latter cri#e di--ers -ro#the usual cri#e onl" in that the societ" in+ol+ed is an e tre#el"s#all one. t usuall" consists o- the indi+idual and one otherperson #ost o-ten #other.

3een -ro# outside the s#all societ" o- the persons in+ol+ed theseacts do not appear to be cri#es. >+en the indi+iduals in+ol+edha+e di--icult" in reco ni6in these e+ents as cri#es /hen the"+ie/ed the# -ro# the distance that ti#e e+entuall" i#poses.

, a+ here

&s beca#e #ore in+ol+ed in anal"tical h"pnotherap" disco+ered that a hi h proportion o- #" patients proble#sappeared to be in at birth or e+en be-ore. nitiall" had so#edi--icult" in -ull" acceptin this startlin disco+er". @ther /orkersin h"pnotherap" ha+e co#e to si#ilar conclusions in recent "ears.There no/ see#s to be little doubt that the circu#stances o- birthand so#eti#es o- pre nanc" can pro+ide us /ith solutions toe#otional proble#s /hich pre+iousl" appeared insoluble.

&s a result o- this -indin /hich is so i#portant to anal"ticalh"pnotherap" as to be al#ost re+olutionar" no/ routinel"e#plo" techni<ues /hich enable #" patients to e plore theseearl" e periences. n this #anner /e are able to disco+er /hether

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an" circu#stances associated /ith birth #i ht ha+e beenresponsible -or an e#otional proble#.

once belie+ed that the unborn child and ne/born in-ant could notbe a/are o- an" o- the e+ents occurrin so earl" in li-e. no/ ha+eabundant and irre-utable e+idence that /as /ron . Trueconsciousness does not de+elop until the earl" "ears o- childhoodbut no/ kno/ that the unconscious #ind is hi hl" de+eloped inthe prenatal period.

ndeed it is su--icientl" de+eloped to be able to record accuratel"

all si ni-icant e+ents occurrin at that ti#e. These e+ents /hich#a" ha+e a pro-ound e--ect on the re#ainder o- the indi+idual sli-e re<uire to be -ull" understood i- the resultin proble#s are tobe resol+ed.

>#otional proble#s can co##ence in the prenatal period. Man"patients -or instance ha+e taken #e to this period in /hich theunconscious #ind o- the unborn bab" has recorded a stroni#pression o- reBection. ?e is an un/elco#e burden. $erhaps the

bab" is not able to -ull" appreciate the si ni-icance o- the e+entsat the ti#e but do belie+e that the" are -aith-ull" recorded b"the unconscious #ind at the #o#ent o- occurrence. The" are laterunderstood and interpreted at an unconscious le+el in the li ht o-subse<uent e+ents.

The earliest cri#e that an indi+idual can co##it is the cri#e o-e istin . ?e is un/anted and there-ore should not be. We ha+ealread" de-ined a cri#e as an act /hich is a dan er to the peace

and order o- societ". &n un/anted in-ant has clearl" co##ittedsuch a cri#e -or his +er" presence disturbs the e istin order andpeace.

Ti#e a-ter ti#e ha+e -ound that -eelin s o- uilt ha+e ori inatedin prenatal reBection /hen the unborn bab" hears or in so#eother /a" senses that he is not /elco#e. 8na/are that theresponsibilit" -or e istence cannot be char ed to the in-ant he canonl" discern that his presence is causin distress to others and

that his +er" e istence is #eetin /ith ra+e disappro+al.

?e has co##itted a cri#e -or /hich he -eels intense uilt. Theonl" /a" in /hich he can e piate his cri#e is b" not e istin . t#a" be a lon ti#e be-ore he learns ho/ to acco#plish this b"

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killin hi#sel- but be-ore that he /ill disco+er that theco#pro#ise o- bein as insi ni-icant as possible #a" be

acceptable.Man" o- #" patients +a uel" sense that the" do not belon or thatthe" are /orthless and should not be here. The" harbourinsecurities /hich inti#ate that the" do not deser+e to be ali+e.This -eelin per+ades e+er" thou ht and action so that the" areunable to enBo" li-e. Ti#e and a ain #" anal"sis has +eri-ied thatthe" /ere subBected to a stron earl" reBection either be-ore or atbirth /hich #ade the# certain that the" had co##itted the cri#e

o- bein here. ?o/ o-ten ha+e /e heard people sa" 7 /ish hadne+er been bornI; 3o#e o- these people ha+e /ished this -ro#the #o#ent o- birth.

%et #e tell "ou about Ruth. 3he /as thirt"=ei ht "ears old /henshe ca#e to see #e. Luietl" dressed and <uietl" spoken sheal#ost appeared to #elt into the back round. had the distincti#pression that she could not bear to be looked at or noticed andit took a lon /hile be-ore /e could establish a rapport.

3he recounted se+eral liaisons /ith unsuitable #en but she hadne+er been #arried. athered that she seldo# #ade a successo- an" proBect that she had started. Thin s al/a"s see#ed to o/ron -or her. 3he had been ad#itted to se+eral hospitals -or thetreat#ent o- a depression /hich /as her constant co#panion.

3he looked <uite deBected at our -irst #eetin and /hen /etalked about her e periences it see#ed clear that she had

succeeded in -unctionin onl" #ar inall" throu hout her li-e. 3head#itted to stron -eelin s o- /orthlessness to the sensation thatli-e held nothin -or her. 3he could not #ake -riends easil" anddescribed hersel- as a loner.

@n the other hand she #ade no ene#ies because she /as al/a"sso care-ul to a+oid i+in o--ence. recei+ed a stron i#pressiono- e#ptiness as counselled /ith her but -ound it di--icult toco##unicate /ith her because she reBected the possibilit" that

an"one could be interested in her or her proble#s -or #ore than a-e/ #inutes at a ti#e. 3he a#pl" de#onstrated her lack o- sel-=estee# b" the repeated <uestion 7What ood a# to an"oneI;

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kne/ that therap" in such a case /ould be +er" di--icult e+enthou h her +er" presence in #" o--ice re-lected her personal

ad#ission that she should not continue in her present <uandar".&s part o- the initial anal"sis re ressed her to the #o#entsi##ediatel" a-ter birth askin her to recall /hether or not she-elt /elco#e at that ti#e. 3he indicated that she not onl" -elttotall" un/elco#e but harboured uilt -or bein there. When re ressed her to the ti#e that she -irst -elt un/elco#e shere+erted to a #o#ent shortl" be-ore birth. With a littleencoura e#ent she /as able to recall the e perience responsible

-or her -eelin o- reBection. 3he recollected her #other sa"in<uite +ehe#entl" to her -ather 7 ne+er /anted this bab": ?erpain in re#e#berin the incident /as +er" real. Feelinresponsible -or her #other s distress she kne/ that she hadco##itted a ra+e cri#e.

?a+in perpetrated the cri#e o- e istin Ruth had beenconde#ned to the prison o- uilt. The locks /ere secure and /ell

uarded. t took a reat deal o- in enuit" to -ree her to persuade

her to accept the ri ht to li+e. t #a" "et be so#e ti#e be-ore shecan -ull" accept her -reedo#.

This particular cri#e the cri#e o- e istin has recei+ed littleattention -ro# ps"chiatrists since it is onl" readil" reco ni6able b"the e#plo"#ent o- h"pnoanal"tical techni<ues. ts i#portance inthe etiolo " o- #ental illness ho/e+er cannot be o+eresti#ated.

no/led e o- the e istence o- this cri#e -re<uentl" i+es a #uchclearer understandin o- an e#otional proble#.

, a+ a girl>8oy

Durin h"pnoanal"sis /e o-ten disco+er that -eelin s o- reBectionare rooted in the patient s belie- that he or she is o- the /ronse . The uilt can be Bust as trau#atic as that discussed abo+e.9ecause the ne/born is not a/are that his se is an"one sresponsibilit" but his o/n he -eels a personal liabilit" -or thedistress that his se has brou ht to his parent. ?e -eels reBected at

a ti#e /hen acceptance is crucial.

- the in-ant is a bo" /hen the parents desired a irl he /ill tr"earnestl" to beha+e as a irl in order to recei+e acceptance.3uccess in this +enture o- course /ill be +er" li#ited apart -ro#

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those e ceptional cases in /hich this uilt can at last be e piatedlater in li-e b" a se chan e operation. belie+e that in #an"

cases ho#ose ualit" can be traced to this cri#e. ertainl" alltrans+estis# is rooted here.

%esle" ca#e to #e at the a e o- nineteen -or help in losin /ei ht.>arl" in h"pnoanal"sis she recalled her -ather s intense disappoint#ent shortl" a-ter her birth /hen he learned that she /as a

irl. 9ecause it /as i#portant to her that she be accepted b" hi#she /as crushed b" his reBection o- her -e#ale identit".

@ther later e periences rein-orced her uilt about not bein a bo".Throu hout her li-e she had desperatel" tried to #ake a#ends -orthe 7cri#e; b" beha+in as #uch like a bo" as possible.

%esle" recalled that she o-ten /ore #ale clothin and pla"edhocke" and -ootball /ith the bo"s. 3he see#ed to despise irlsand -elt co#pelled to co#pete /ith bo"s. 3he beca#e +er"depressed at pubert" /hen she be an to #enstruate and herbreasts started to de+elop -or she kne/ then that she could ne+er

reall" please her -ather and that he /ould not accept /hat shecould no lon er den"C that she /as a irl: &t this ti#e she sou htsolace in -ood /hich she later reco ni6ed as another /a" o-den"in her -e#ininit". @nl" /hen %esle" could learn to accepthersel- as a irl /as she able to control her eatin and lose/ei ht. Released -ro# her prison o- uilt she could +ie/ hersel-as a uni<ue indi+idual.

%esle" s stor" is bein repeated al#ost dail" in #" o--ice. 3e ual

di--iculties are naturall" <uite co##on /ith these people. Theiruilt about their o/n se pre+ents the# -ro# -unctionin

ade<uatel" as se ual bein s. Feelin s o- un/orthiness anddepression are natural responses to reBection and obesit" is aco##on /a" -or /o#en to den" their -e#ininit".

, a+ angry

Just as ender can create reBection certain hu#an traits #a"

occasion distress causin the indi+idual to -eel that he hasco##itted a cri#e. >+er" hu#an bein possesses e#otions/hich are his unconscious #eans o- respondin to the /orldaround hi# and -or# an essential part o- his sur+i+al #echanis#.

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The cri#e o- bein an r" is perpetrated /ith re ularit" because itis one o- the pri#ar" e#otions /hich -unction to protect us. t is

present in all hu#an bein s and #ost ani#als. 8ncontrolledan er ho/e+er produces alar#in conse<uences and allsocieties e ert so#e control o+er it. 3o#e re ard an er as soabhorrent that its e pression is e#phaticall" deplored.

n conductin h"pnoanal"sis o-ten deter#ine that the /orld o-the in-ant or child has been Bolted b" parental inBustice. &s aresult the child is -rustrated and beco#es an r". - the parent sresponses are e tre#e the patient #a" be se+erel" repri#anded

and subBected to a -ri htenin displa" o- an er and thus thein-ant or child /ill <uickl" beco#e a/are that he has co##itted acri#e. ?e -eels an r" but disco+ers that he #ust not e press thatan er. @nl" bad people are an r".

& s#all child does not understand bad or ood. ?o/e+er hereadil" co#prehends parental acceptance and reBection. We shalllater see ho/ the idea o- 7bein bad; is associated /ith parentalreBection. 3ince e+er" child needs parental acceptance because o-

the protection and securit" that it en enders he /ill repress hisnor#al an er in order to ain it.

We ha+e alread" seen that an er can be repressed but ne+erabolished. The child /ho has been con+icted o- the cri#e o- an erlearns that he #ust not e+en allo/ hi#sel- to -eel that e#otionand thus beco#es locked in a prison o- an er.

$h"llis ca#e to see #e because she had heard that h"pnosis /as

o-ten use-ul in helpin people lose /ei ht. 3he /as about -i-t""ears o- a e /hen /e #et a pleasant person /ith a entle air. &sit turned out she /as a deepl" reli ious /o#an /ho /ished to

enerate onl" kind thou hts and per-or# onl" kind deeds.

$h"llis conte#plated h"pnosis in desperation uncertain /hether it/as the /ork o- Hod or the De+il. >+entuall" assured that Hod hadsent her to #e she /as able to speak -reel" about her proble#.3he /as se+ent" pounds o+er/ei ht and the -act that she /as

unable to diet -or #ore than a -e/ da"s at a ti#e -illed her /ithreat sha#e.

?er husband she in-or#ed #e -ri htened her /ith his outburstso- te#per. ?e o-ten treated her /ith ridicule and conte#pt but

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she bore these assaults on her -eelin s /ith saint=like tolerance.3he /ondered ho/e+er /h" she so o-ten -elt i#pelled to eat

a-ter one o- these outbursts. uessed at the reason i##ediatel"but a/aited the outco#e o- h"pnoanal"sis to +eri-" #" suspicions.

n h"pnoanal"sis /e soon located the ori in o- her proble#. 3he/as -i+e "ears o- a e /hen her three="ear=old sister /anted totake a/a" a to" that she /as pla"in /ith. &s she scu--led /ithher sister o+er the to" it cau ht her sister Bust abo+e the e"elaceratin it se+erel". ?er sister screa#ed her #other screa#edand e+en her -ather nor#all" +er" cal# and i#partial "elled at

her. 3he /as terri-ied. 9anished to her roo# /hile her sister /asrushed to hospital under the i#pendin threat o- blindness $h"llisi##ediatel" reco ni6ed that she had co##itted the rie+ouscri#e o- an er.

&t that point $h"llis reali6ed that she #ust ne+er be an r" a ain.@thers #i ht be per#itted an outburst o- an er but not $h"llis.3he /as a bad irl /ho #ust not e+en -eel an er let alonee press it. ?er uilt locked her -ir#l" in the prison o- an er but

her an er ne+er reall" le-t her. We learned that her husband-re<uentl" #ade her -eel +er" an r" "et she /as ne+erconsciousl" a/are o- it. Resent#ent /as consistentl" subli#atedand controlled b" -ood.

t took so#e ti#e -or $h"llis to reali6e that she /as no #oreresponsible -or her sister s accident than her sister /as hersel-.3he also had to learn that her an er /as not reall" bad that shehad a ri ht to protect hersel- a ainst her husband s un-air attacks.

When she /as able to understand this she accepted her an erre#e#berin that hrist had also +ented ?is an er at theappropriate ti#e. &s a result she /as -reed -ro# her prison o-an er and /as at last able to adhere to a diet pro ra#.

, a+ afraid

We are all prone to -ear. t is an i#portant protecti+e e#otion/hich not onl" /arns us o- dan er but also #obili6es our -li ht

responses so that /e can -lee -ro# peril.

3o#eti#es an intensel" -ri htenin e perience has occurred but-or so#e reason the natural response o- -ear is unacceptable or#eets /ith #arked parental disappro+al pre+entin its -ull



e pression. Durin these circu#stances the -ri htened child -eelsthat he has co##itted a cri#e. ?e is a-raid but because his -ear

is unacceptable he #ust lock it up and beco#e incarcerated/ithin his prison o- -ear -ro# /hich he cannot escape in lieu o-parental disappro+al and the uilt that this in+ol+es.

3ince it is +er" eas" to co##it this cri#e #an" o- #" patientsturn out to be hardened cri#inals. recall a "oun #an o- aboutthirt" "ears o- a e /ho ca#e to #e -or help /ith a sta##er. &s-ar as Heor e kne/ he had al/a"s sta##ered <uite badl". ?eclearl" kne/ /hat he /anted to sa" but he /ould et stuck on

certain /ords utterin the# onl" a-ter a lon stru le or de+isinan alternati+e /ord. &t ti#es he spoke /ithout an" trace o- ani#pedi#ent but at other ti#es his speech pattern /ould cause

reat disco#-ort to the listener.

Heor e particularl" stressed that he had reat di--icult" talkin ina roup or addressin an"one /ho# he -elt /as his superior. ?epri#aril" sta##ered in ne/ situations and a#on stran ers. ?ehad no di--icult" in readin aloud /hen he /as b" hi#sel-. ?is

handicap /hich caused hi# a reat deal o- e#barrass#ent hadde-ied all treat#ent b" speech therapists.

n h"pnoanal"sis /e disco+ered the cause o- his sta##erin . &tthe a e o- -i+e he /as a/akened -ro# his sleep b" a terribleco##otion. ?is drunken -ather /as stor#in at his #other /ho/as cr"in and screa#in -or his -ather to lea+e her alone. WhenHeor e hurried do/nstairs to in+esti ate he sa/ his -atherpreparin to strike his #other. Rushin bet/een the# in an

atte#pt to stop his -ather he /as thro/n to the roundsubse<uentl" he picked hi#sel- up and hid behind the settee. &sthe -i ht re/ in intensit" Heor e /as terri-ied.

There /as a sudden cli#a to the noise and co##otion at /hichpoint his #other s +oice ceased. ?e /as sei6ed /ith an e+en

reater panic. ?ad his -ather killed herI ?e /anted to screa# buthe did not dare. When his -ather /ent out a -e/ #o#ents laterHeor e e#er ed -ro# his hidin place to -ind his #other conscious

but da6ed and bleedin -ro# a head /ound. ?e tried to ad#inisterco#-ort but he /as so -ri htened that he could not speak. ?e hadsta##ered e+er since.

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Heor e s speech i#pedi#ent /as corrected onl" a-ter he escaped-ro# the prison o- repressed -ear. When he reco ni6ed /hat had

been obstructin his natural e pression o- -ear the ph"sical de-ect-aded.

, hurt

@ur #ost -unda#ental e#otion in+ol+es an a/areness o- pain. Thetrau#a o- reBection /hether i#a ined or real is the #ost se+ere.We seldo# con+e" this hurt in a co#prehensible #anner and soits clu#s" e pression is #et /ith a stern ad#onish#ent. The

#essa e beco#es clear. ?urtin is /ron . Feelin pain is a cri#e.8n-ortunatel" the #ore /e tr" not to -eel hurt the #ore ourdisco#-ort ro/s.

&t t/ent"=three "ears o- a e 3arah /as an attracti+e /o#an /hohad stru led throu h an ad+enture=-illed and stor#" li-e. 3heca#e to see #e because o- her addiction to certain dru s.&lthou h she had recei+ed so#e ps"chiatric treat#ent -or this and-or depression three -airl" serious suicide atte#pts had dri+en her

to seek -urther counsel.

When #et her she /as di+orced had t/o children and /asli+in /ith a #an /ith a lon cri#inal record. 3he hersel- had beena Bu+enile o--ender and /as se<uestered in detention ho#es -orlen th" periods. n a -lat and casual tone she in-or#ed #e thatshe did not care about an"one or an"thin includin hersel-. &san a-terthou ht she e cluded her children -ro# this. 3he appearedto despise an" displa" o- e#otion and certainl" sho/ed none.

Therap" /ith her /as lon and di--icult -or it e#braced #an"trau#atic episodes. The earliest o- these occurred /hen she /asabout ei hteen #onths o- a e. &/akened suddenl" b" a sharppain bet/een her le s she suddenl" reali6ed that her brother /asattackin her se uall". 3he screa#ed out in terror and pain. ?erbrother -led but she continued to screa#.

& short ti#e later her -ather rushed into the roo#. 3ince she /as

too upset to be coherent he "elled at her -or /akin hi# up. ?eslapped her cruell" and /arned that he /ould 7beat the da"li htsout o- her; i- she /asn t <uiet. 3he <uickl" beca#e +er" <uietCand she is still <uiet.

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&lthou h unconsciousl" she kne/ that her hurt continued she /asunable to ad#it it. n her e"es the open a+o/al o- pain /as a

serious cri#e and she could not ad#it that to an"one not e+en tohersel-. Much o- her subse<uent beha+iour /as understandable asa #eans adopted to relie+e this unconscious hurt. Dru s ser+e asan e--ecti+e but te#porar" +ehicle -or doin this.

The cri#e o- hurtin is +er" co##on = so co##on indeed that tend to look -or it /hene+er hear a patient sa" that he 7does notcare.; This phrase is a stron clue that he is locked in a prison o-pain -or the cri#e o- hurtin .

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%o+in is a nor#al hu#an -eelin . We lo+e those /ith /ho# /e-eel a close bond people /ho help us to -eel ood about oursel+esand /ith /ho# /e -eel at ease. 9ein /ith the# i+es uspleasure. Whene+er lo+e is #isunderstood the insecure obser+er#a" re ard it as a threat /orth" onl" o- his e tre#e disappro+al.

n such circu#stances lo+in #a" be +ie/ed as /ron a cri#e asserious as the disappro+al it en enders. &n indi+idual /ho hasbeen accused o- the cri#e o- lo+in #a" be unable to den" it buthe can pre+ent it happenin a ain.

Jenni-er /as a +er" beauti-ul t/ent"=three="ear=old irl /ho ca#eto #e because o- her di--iculties /ith se . 3he is #arried and hasone child but she rarel" e perienced an" pleasure -ro# se . n-act she /as unable to achie+e an or as# durin intercourse /ith

her husband.

Jenni-er -elt that her li-e /as inco#plete. 3he ad#itted to ha+inbeen so#e/hat pro#iscuous prior to her #arria e and un-aith-uldurin it but her husband /as totall" una/are o- this. 4et she -elt+er" uilt" about her lapses and tried to #ake a#ends b" beinan e tre#el" e--icient house/i-e.

Much o- the ti#e she -elt depressed and restless. 3he /as irritable

/ith her -our="ear=old son a <uiet and ino--ensi+e child /ho shekne/ could not be held responsible -or her -eelin s o- -rustration.3he /as also -re<uentl" ill te#pered /ith her lon =su--erinhusband and picked <uarrels /ith hi# -or no ood reason.

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n h"pnoanal"sis Jenni-er /as able to locate an i#portante perience /hich occurred /hen she /as about the a e o- si . ?er

-ather /ho# she lo+ed +er" #uch /as sick in bed. 3he had Bustco#e ho#e -ro# school and decided to hurr" up to his bedroo#-or a +isit. ?er -ather /as sittin up in bed /hen she entered thebedroo#. 3ince she lo+ed her dadd" so #uch she took theopportunit" to cli#b into bed and snu le up to hi#.

Within a short period o- ti#e her #other ca#e ho#e and -oundthe t/o in bed to ether. &n r" and distrau ht her #otherscrea#ed 7Het the hell out o- there: Don t "ou e+er let #e -ind

"ou in there a ain:; 3obbin Jenni-er scooted out o- bed and -ledthe roo#.

For a lon ti#e a-ter that she could hear her parents screa#in ateach other and she /as terri-ied at the co##otion that she hadcaused. 3he had co##itted a terrible cri#e. 3he lo+ed her dadd"but that had an ered her #other and ot her dadd" into trouble.3he /as no/ certain that lo+in dadd" /as /ron e+en thou hshe could not help it. 3he /as a cri#inal and #ust hide her cri#e

Cher lo+e.

Jenni-er did not kno/ at that ti#e that her -ather /as a se uall"troubled #an and that her #other /as onl" tr"in to protect her.Jenni-er s -ather had #ade ad+ances to her older sister and her#other /as a-raid that he /ould atte#pt to #olest Jenni-er as/ell. Without an understandin o- these sorr" circu#stances shecould onl" conclude that her lo+e /as a serious cri#e.

t soon beca#e clear to Jenni-er that she had unconsciousl" lockedup her lo+e but a-ter -urther therap" she /as able to -ree hersel-and be an to lo+e /ithout constraint or uilt.

, a+ happy

9ein happ" is a special hu#an e perience. ?o/e+er it canso#eti#es create proble#s. ?appiness is -re<uentl" so rapidl"and re ularl" -ollo/ed b" cala#it" that it /ould appear /iser to

a+oid happ" e periences. %i-e is at least sa-e as lon as it re#ainsdull and prosaic.

3o#e o- #" patients ha+e unconsciousl" co#e to the conclusionthat happiness is a cri#e /hich the" #ust a+oid. Eera /as one o-

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these. 3he actuall" sou ht h"pnotherap" to et help in losin/ei ht. 3he /as thirt"=-i+e but because o- an e tra -i-t" pounds

looked #uch older. 3he had al/a"s attributed her tendenc"to/ard o+er/ei ht to the -act that she could not re#ain on a dietlon enou h to reach her ideal /ei ht. &s soon as she had shed a-e/ pounds she /ould be in to -eel an ious and tense onl"eatin so#e o- the -orbidden -oods /ould relie+e her an iet".

8pon -urther discussion /e -ound that throu hout her li-e she hadstarted proBects -ull o- enthusias# onl" to i+e the# up a-ter a/hile /hen thin s see#ed to be oin /ell. 3he /as ne+er able to

reach an" oals that she had set hersel-. $ropa atin -eelin s o-uselessness and stupidit" she /as enuinel" surprised at herrelati+e success in ha+in raised three health" and bri ht children.

?o/e+er she /orried about the# a reat deal and /as easil"depressed i- an"thin /as /ron /ith an" o- the#. ?er se li-e/as unsatis-actor" but she /ould not co#plain about that sinceher husband #ade -e/ de#ands upon her se uall". 3he su##edup her li-e as tedious and uninterestin . 7 - onl" could lose so#e

/ei ht perhaps thin s /ould be di--erent ; she si hed. /ascertain ho/e+er that her proble# /as #ore than -at deep.

n h"pnoanal"sis she took #e /ith her to a sunn" pleasant da"/hen she /as t/o and a hal- "ears old. ?er #other had let herout to pla" in the back "ard /here she /as ha+in -un on therockin horse /hen the ne t=door nei hbour s lo+el" bi dopoked his nose throu h the bars o- the ate. 3he hurried o+er totalk to hi# and stroke hi# but a-ter a -e/ #o#ents o- this Ro+er

decided to o -or a /alk.

9ein ad+enturous Eera -or ot that her #u##" had /arned herto sta" in the arden. 3he #ana ed to s<uee6e throu h the barso- the ate and -ollo/ed Ro+er alon a -ootpath. 3he recalled thatit /as a hot da" and that she had di--icult" keepin up /ith thedo . When he e+entuall" reached the /ater and /ent in -or as/i# Eera -ound the /ater so appealin that she -ollo/ed hi# in.

Just then Eera heard her #other s panic=stricken +oice screa#in 7Eera: Eera: o#e here at once:; 3he turned to reet her #other/ith a bi happ" s#ile but her #other /as clearl" +er" upset.3he looked an r" and -ri htened. Mother e clai#ed 74ou are a+er" +er" bad irl: 4ou #ust ne+er do that a ain.; Eera /as not

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sure /hat she #ust not do a ain or /h" she /as badCor e+en/hat 7bad; #eant. Whate+er it /as it upset #u##" a reat deal.

?er #other threatened 7Eera i- "ou e+er do that a ain /ill lock"ou up in the cupboard.;

&t this Eera beca#e -ri htened and sobbed +iolentl" because sherecalled the terror o- -indin hersel- accidentall" locked a#on thesilent han in clothes in pitch darkness. ,o she decided ri htthere she /ould ne+er do that a ain: 9ein happ" /as a cri#ethat she #ust ne+er repeat. 3he could not risk the terror o- thatcupboard: Eera had sol+ed her proble# b" lockin hersel- in an

al#ost e<uall" terrible place /here happiness /as -orbidden.

3he /as e+entuall" able to -ree hersel- -ro# this prison o- uiltand let hersel- be happ". &t the sa#e ti#e she -ound that shecould lose /ei ht and that such an acti+it" /as per#issible.

, a+ curious

&t -irst si ht it /ould appear that the desire to kno/ is innocent

enou h and could ne+er be construed as a cri#e. ?o/ can it be/ron to desire in-or#ation about thin s that are happenin in the/orld around usI an this reall" be a cri#eI 4es and /e are#ade a/are o- it in the sa#e /a" that /e identi-" other cri#esCb" the disappro+al o- those to /hose societ" /e are stri+in tobelon na#el" our parents.

3e+eral proble#s led %aura to seek #" help. First o- all she -elthersel- <uite inhibited se uall" and /as unable to rela durin

intercourse. 3he /as o+er/ei ht and ate co#pulsi+el". @-ten +er"depressed she ne+er -elt ood about hersel-. 3he /as a/are thatall o- these proble#s /ere puttin an al#ost intolerable strainupon her #arria e. 3he /as pla ued b" persistent -eelin s o-/orthlessness /hich contradicted her intellectual assess#ent o-hersel- as a co#petent and use-ul hu#an bein .

3uspectin an unconscious reason -or her -eelin s she /anted #eto help her to -ind it. With %aura had a -eelin that /as

preachin to the con+erted and that therap" /ould proceed/ithout di--icult"Cand so it pro+ed.

%aura located a critical e perience /hich occurred /hen she /asthree "ears o- a e. $la"in in the bedroo# /ith her dolls she



heard Dadd" co#e ho#e. 3he lo+ed her dadd" +er" #uch andkne/ that in a little /hile she /ould et her usual bi hu and a

kiss. When he did not i##ediatel" co#e to her she decided to oand look -or hi#. ?e /as not in the hall so /hen she heardsounds co#in -ro# the bathroo# she decided that he #ust bethere. @penin the bathroo# door /ith a ban she called

7Dadd" dadd":;

3uddenl" she stopped in her tracks. Dadd" /as there standin in-ront o- the toilet holdin a tube=like thin in his hand . . . and/onders upon /onders there /as /ater co#in out o- it #akin

a lo+el" noise. %aura had ne+er seen an"thin so re#arkablebe-ore. 3he a6ed spellbound /ith such consu#in interest thatshe did not hear Dadd" tellin her to et out.

n -act he /as "ellin 7Het the hell out o- here: Mar" co#e andet this blood" kid out o- here.; %aura /as so con-used that she

Bust stood there until she /as hauled uncere#oniousl" throu h thebathroo# door b" her #other.

%aura be an to screa# as her #other hit her repeatedl" and itsee#ed incessantl" takin no notice o- %aura s cries. Wh" /asshe hittin her soI Would she ne+er stopI ?er #other screa#ed

7 - "ou e+er do that a ain /ill kill "ou:; and /ith that she thre/%aura onto the bed.

&-ter/ards the pu66led little irl tried to disco+er /hat cri#e hadupset Mu##" and Dadd" so terribl". $erhaps she lo+ed Dadd" too#uch. Ma"be that /as /ron . More than likel" ho/e+er she had

-ound out /hat Dadd" did in the bathroo# and her #other did not/ant her to kno/. 3he #ust not be curious -or that /as hercri#e.

%aura ro/ understands /h" she had -elt so uilt" about se andcould not in+ol+e hersel- in it. 3he could not let hersel- kno/ aboutsuch thin s. >+entuall" she /as able to ain an absolute pardon-or bein curious and beca#e -ree to enBo" a se ual relationship.

n discussin the #ost co##on cri#es that hu#an bein sco##it #a" ha+e i+en the i#pression that the" arise sin l".&ctuall" the parental disappro+al b" /hich these cri#es arereco ni6ed #a" be su--icientl" stron to cause a hapless child toco##it se+eral /hether to ether or se<uentiall".

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@- the cri#es ha+e #entioned the #ost serious is that o- e istin . &n"one /ho is accused o- co##ittin this cri#e is trapped

because he continues to be a cri#inal e+er" da" o- his li-e. The+er" process o- li+in beco#es a constant re#inder o- his uilt.

n the -ore oin cases ha+e onl" re-erred to the cri#e /hichneeded to be reco ni6ed be-ore satis-actor" therap" could be in.&t ti#es /e disco+ered other cri#es /hich had to be understoodbe-ore therap" /as satis-actoril" concluded.

&ll o- these cri#es are reall" nor#al hu#an attributes and acti+i

ties but the indi+iduals accused o- the# are una/are o- this atthe ti#e o- the accusation. The" are #ade to -eel abnor#al andare -orced to shoulder direct responsibilit" -or the distress causedto the parent.

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Chapter Three

The Court

&ll societies de+ise a s"ste# -or ad#inisterin Bustice so that /henan indi+idual is accused o- a cri#e he can be tried and i- -ound

uilt" appropriatel" sentenced to a desi nated punish#ent. Thisusuall" takes place in a court o- la/ /here three essential participants can be identi-iedN the accused the prosecutor and the

Bud e.

The accused or the de-endant #a" en a e a kno/led eableassociate to help hi# the de-ense la/"er. n addition both thede-ense and the prosecution #a" solicit /itnesses to support theirrespecti+e cases. These are presented in a predeter#ined

se<uence be-ore the Bud e /ho /ill decide /hether the accused isuilt" and /hat the appropriate punish#ent should be.

The Court of the %ind

n #ost ci+ili6ed societies this process #a" take considerable ti#ein preparation and presentation be-ore a +erdict is reached. Weshall see ho/e+er that the court o- the #ind /orks #uch #ore<uickl" in processin all the a+ailable in-or#ation and reachin a

+erdictC so#eti#es onl" a -e/ seconds and rarel" #ore than a-e/ da"s.

The #ind #i ht be co#pared to a hi hl" co#ple co#puter ableto recei+e e+idence -or or a ainst an" particular course o- action inorder to /ei h one a ainst the other. t then #akes a decision-a+orin one or the other accordin to the e+idence. When anindi+idual is accused o- an e#otional cri#e his #ind #akes adecision in /hat pre-er to call the court o- the #ind. 3uch adecision is bindin and /ill deter#ine that indi+idual s -uture.

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Transactional Analysis Theory

9e-ore /e can e a#ine /hat happens durin the trial o- theaccused /e need to reco ni6e the #e#bers o- the court. We canidenti-" the accused but /ho is the prosecutorI Who ser+es as

Bud eI We ha+e alread" speci-ied the potential cri#es and theappropriate prisons should the accused be -ound uilt". We needno/ to understand the nature and the -unction o- each participantin the court o- the #ind. n order to ans/er so#e o- the ine+itable<uestions ha+e turned to >ric 9erne and his theories o-Transactional &nal"sis /hich ha+e recei+ed /ide support -ro#

ps"chotherapists in recent "ears.

$erhaps the reatest contribution that >ric 9erne #ade to theunderstandin o- hu#an beha+ior /as his reco nition that /e all-unction -ro# #ore than one e o state. &n e o state is a distinctset o- -eelin s and beha+iour patterns. >ach o- us has at leastthree e o states three di--erent +ie/points. These e o stateslabelled hild $arent and &dult are al/a"s i+en capital letters todistin uish the# -ro# our nor#al understandin o- the ter#s.

The Child

This is the ori inal and perhaps the central e o state the part o-us that /e re-er to /hen /e speak o- the 7real #e.; t is the-eelin part o- our bein . The hild -eels all our nor#al e#otionsNhurt an er and -ear as /ell as their opposites happiness lo+eand securit". &s the co#ponent that pro+ides the dri+e andener " -or our creati+e acti+ities it is probabl" the onl" e o state

obser+able at birth althou h belie+e that the other e o statesare de+elopin at this ti#e. The hild stands be-ore the bar o-

Bustice as the de-endant in our court o- the #ind because onl" thehild e o state e periences -eelin s. n -act the hild is bein

accused o- ha+in -eelin s.

The Parent

>arl" in li-e the $arent e o state de+elops in response to contact

/ith people in the outside /orld chie- o- /ho are our parents. Thise o state is #odelled upon people in the i##ediate en+iron#entthe #ost i#portant o- /ho# is usuall" #other since she is soclose to the hild durin the earl" learnin period.

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This internal $arent beco#es +er" si#ilar to the i#portant personsin the child s /orld. t #erits its na#e since it is al#ost identical in

thou ht and beha+iour to the true parents. & +er" i#portant e ostate to the indi+idual it pro+ides hi# /ith a read" re-erence tothe likel" responses o- the true parent. This enables the hild tokno/ in ad+ance /hat e--ect his beha+iour is likel" to produce inhis parent.

>ach indi+idual co##ences li-e /ith an instincti+e -eelin sel-. Thee pression o- that sel- the hild e o state is +er" #uch #odi-iedb" its interaction /ith the $arent e o state. The -unction o- the

$arent is to ather all the in-or#ation it can about the people inthe i##ediate en+iron#ent o- the hild so that the hild canrespond in a har#onious #anner to these people. The hild #ust

et on /ell /ith these i#portant people since it depends uponthe# -or its sur+i+al. The $arent e o state there-ore strictl"#i#ics these people and adopts their attitudes and belie-s.

t is +itall" i#portant -or the hild to #aintain his parentsappro+al and to a+oid their disappro+al. The internal $arent acts

as an e cellent #eans o- #onitorin and #odi-"in the hild sbeha+ior to con-or# to the true parents ideas and belie-s so thatit can et alon /ell /ith the#. The hild is a/are o- his reatdependence upon the true parents -or his +er" e istence and his

reatest -ear is that the" /ill abandon hi# to his o/n helplessnessand isolation. This possibilit" holds terror -or the hild.

The i#portance o- the $arent e o state can ne+er be underesti#ated. 9ecause o- its so#eti#es h"percritical attitudes it #a" be

Bud ed a ne ati+e and destructi+e ele#ent in the personalit". Thisis #ore apparent than real because the $arent e o state pri#aril"intends to protect the hild althou h the #anner in /hich it-ul-ills this -unction is -re<uentl" archaic and responsible -or #uch#ental ill health. The -ailure o- #an" therapists to appreciate thisi#portant point has li#ited their understandin o- the clinicalproble#s presented to the#.

&t -irst it is di--icult to accept the idea that each o- us has #ore

than one aspect to our personalit". We can rather easil" acceptthe hild e o state since #ost o- us are a/are o- so#e o- our-eelin s and /e can there-ore appreciate our -eelin sel- the

hild. ?o/e+er it #a" be di--icult to reco ni6e the other e o

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states in oursel+es and this is particularl" true /ith re ard to the$arent.

We can perhaps #ore readil" reco ni6e these e o states in othersthan in oursel+es. hildren at pla" -or instance are happ" sadan r" or scared clearl" in the hild e o state. &t other ti#es asthe" #i#ic parental attitudes and beha+ior the" are operatin/ithin the $arent e o state. Witness the little irl pla"in /ith herdolls. 3he /ill scold the# -or so#e i#a ined trans ression orpraise the# -or so#e notable acco#plish#ent.

Further obser+ation /ill re+eal that she lo+es her dolls and cuddlesthe#. ?er beha+ior re+eals her de+elopin internal $arent /hichhas #odeled itsel- upon her o/n parents. n addition she isadoptin so#e o- her parents attitudes to/ards hersel- and isbein critical praisin or lo+in o- hersel-. learl" her $arent isinteractin /ith her hild.

&s /e ro/ up these e o states are likel" to beco#e #ore and#ore unconscious so that /e are no lon er consciousl" a/are o-

their -unctionin . Their +i ilance /ill ne+er reall" cease and /e/ill later discuss ho/ their interaction #a" lead to e#otionalproble#s.

The Adult

We no/ co#e to the third i#portant e o state that can readil" bereco ni6ed in all o- us. $robabl" #aturin a little later than the$arent it de+elops -ro# that part o- the #ind concerned /ith

collectin in-or#ation about the /orld around us and -ilin it a/a"in the #e#or" banks -or -uture re-erence. >+er" #inute o- the da"/e are usin our -i+e senses and collectin in-or#ation /hichproli-erates e+er" da". This data accu#ulated /ithout preBudiceis independent o- other people s opinions and belie-s #uch likethe other kno/led e that co#es the indi+idual s /a". This is indirect contrast to the $arent e o state /hich is totall" concerned/ith learnin e actl" ho/ others think and -eel then recordinthis in-or#ation.

With a#ple data at its disposal the &dult e o state is si#ilar to ahi hl" co#ple co#puter /hich can and does arri+e at ne/conclusions /hene+er it is presented /ith a -resh proble#. Theseconclusions are based upon the i##ense a#ount o- in-or#ation

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/hich has been a#assed o+er the "ears. &n understandin o- the&dult role is particularl" i#portant -or the anal"tical

h"pnotherapist /ho #ust rel" upon this e o state to resol+e theproble#s /hich the $arent and hild ha+e created.

deall" all three e o states should be actin to ether in har#on"-or the reatest /ell=bein o- the indi+idual. t is the pri#eobBecti+e o- anal"tical h"pnotherap" that this ideal state ulti#atel"is reached b" the patient en a in in therap".

These three e o states are present in all o- us. The" can best be

understood as three separate points o- +ie/ /hich step -or/ard/hene+er a situation re<uires a de-inite course o- action. The hilde o state /ithin us /ill ha+e a de-inite -eelin about the situationo-ten e pressed as a like or a dislike. This e o state /ill o-tene press its -eelin s /ith such e#oti+e /ords as 7 like; or 7/ant ; or the opposite 7 don t like; or 7 don t /ant.;

The $arent e o state as /e ha+e said is +er" concerned /ith/hat others e pect and /ant and it utili6es /ords that indicate

this concern. When /e -ind oursel+es sa"in such thin s as 7ou ht; or 7 should; or alternati+el" 7 ou ht not; or 7 shouldnot ; /e are usin phrases that e press our concern -or otherpeople s e pectations o- us. We are usin our $arent e o state.This e o state also co#es into pla" /hen like the little irl /iththe dolls /e counsel ad+ise or critici6e others in a parental#anner or /hene+er /e take responsibilit" -or others.

When operatin -ro# our &dult +ie/point /e are either i+in

in-or#ation in a purel" -actual #anner or presentin conclusionsthat /e ha+e reached -ro# in-or#ation in our possession. We sa"thin s like 7 can; or 7 /ill; or 7it is; /e #a" o--er the oppositestate#ints o- -act or intention e. . 7 cannot ; 7 /ill not; or 7it isnot.; Fro# the -ore oin trust that "ou no/ accept the pre#isethat "ou are not Bust one person /ith a sin le point o- +ie/.

4ou carr" /ithin "ou #ore than one point o- +ie/ about an" i+ensituation and these +ie/points can declare /ar upon one another.

onsider ho/ <uickl" a hild s 7 /ant; #a" clash +iolentl" /iththe $arent s 7 should not.; ncidentall" this is the basis o- #uch$arentA hild con-lict o- /hich /e shall ha+e #ore to sa".

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,o/ that /e ha+e been introduced to the three e o states /hichall o- us possess it is possible to consider the role that each pla"s

in the continuin dra#a o- the court o- the #ind.The Accused

The accused is al/a"s the hild the central part o- the personalit"that is bein prosecuted -or a -eelin or so#e other attribute thathas caused o--ense. For e a#ple the hild #a" ha+e beenaccused o- e istin o- bein a irl or a bo" or e+en o- ha+incertain unacceptable hu#an -eelin s such as -ear an er or hurt.

The Prosecutor

The prosecutor is usuall" a parent #ore probabl" #other than-ather. Mother is the #ore likel" to be a--ected b" an" o- theaccused s (the hild s) attributes since she is in close dail" contact/ith hi#. 3iblin s randparents and teachers can also -unction asprosecutors. The accuser is al/a"s so#eone /ithin the hild si##ediate en+iron#ent /ho has been distressed b" /ho he is or

so#ethin he has done because o- /ho he is.

The #anner in /hich the prosecutor co##unicates his distress#a" +ar" considerabl" but /hate+er #ethod is used there is nodoubt le-t in the hild s #ind that he is considered entirel"responsible -or the distress caused to the prosecutor.

The ?udge

The unen+iable task o- Jud e -alls to the $arent. Wh"I 9ecausethe $arent -unctions to pre+ent the hild -ro# alienatin hi#sel--ro# the true parent. This #ust be a+oided at all costs. The $arent#ust there-ore Bud e /hether the accusation is indeed correct and/hether the prosecutor is su--icientl" distressed to consider/ithdra/al o- his support and carin . The $arent #ust alsodeter#ine /hether a punish#ent should be i#posed /hich /illpre+ent the recurrence o- the o--ence.

The Jud e #a" be called upon to #ake a +er" rapid decision or topostpone Bud #ent until one or #ore si#ilar accusations ha+ebeen #ade and it beco#es clear that alienation o- the parent islikel".

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The #efence

3ince there are t/o sides to e+er" <uestion in the court o- the#ind the case -or the de-ence is al/a"s -ull" considered.

The hild speaks up in his o/n de-ence and his testi#on" issi#pleN he /as onl" doin /hat see#ed ri ht to hi#. ?e /as Bustbein hi#sel-. This see#s to hi# a totall" ade<uate de-ence. -pressed he #i ht also plead that he did not kno/ that beinhi#sel- /as a cri#e or that it /ould distress an"one.

8n-ortunatel" i norance o- the la/ is not an ade<uate de-ence inan" le al s"ste#. The -act that the hild did not kno/ that beinhi#sel- could be considered a cri#e a+ails hi# nothin . ?is /eakde-ence is lau hed out o- court. The onlookers in the aller"C-riends relati+es and peersCbeco#e h"sterical. ?o/ could an"

hild think that bein itsel- could ser+e as a de-enceI That isunthinkable:

&ll is not lost ho/e+er. What about the &dultI What can he o--er

in de-enceI 8n-ortunatel" the accusations are usuall" #adebe-ore the &dult has athered enou h in-or#ation about the /orldto be o- #uch help. ?e too is acutel" a/are o- the hild sdependence upon the parent and #a" con-ir# that the hild stilllacks the ph"sical and e#otional stren th to sur+i+e the ha6ardso- the /orld /ithout the help o- the parent. ?e #a" rein-orce the

hild b" assurin hi# that he is not abnor#al and that others /iththe sa#e attributes are not considered cri#inals -or possessinthe#. 9ut this support is usuall" <uite #ini#al.

The @erdict

When the court retires to consider its +erdict it #a" spend aconsiderable ti#e in reachin it or decide in the -raction o- asecond.

& proportion o- these +erdicts are 7not uilt"; +erdicts. We do notneed to consider these since no proble# /ill arise. Eerdicts o-

7 uilt" ; ho/e+er /ill reatl" concern us in this book.

When the Bud eCthe $arentChas -ound the hild 7 uilt" ; he#ust pass a sentence /hich /ill ensure that the cri#e /ill not

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recur. Whate+er decision the $arent no/ #akes #ust be actedupon b" the $arent e o state.

n the court o- the #ind the punish#ent is al/a"s -ashioned to -itthe cri#e and #an" "ears later as /e anal"6e the punish#ent/hich the hild is under oin /e #a" ha6ard a uess at thecri#e that he /as accused o- co##ittin .

3o#eti#es the sentence is not i##ediatel" ad#inistered but isheld o+er the accused s head as a threat. We shall consider this in#ore detail /hen /e look #ore closel" at the -reedo#s a+ailable

to the accused.

The E+otions

&ll creatures are responsi+e in so#e /a" to har#-ul sti#uli.?u#an bein s are no e ception. $ossessin the abilit" to be a/areo- inBurious a ents /e translate this a/areness into hurt.Whene+er /e -eel hurt so#ethin is causin or threateninda#a e to us. @ur a/areness o- hurt is so sensiti+e that it enables

us to discern the dan er e+en be-ore it happens. That detection o-dan er can produce the response o- -ear /hich is the -eelin /eet /hen the bod" is preparin itsel- to e+ade a destructi+e -orce.

3o#eti#es it is not possible -or the indi+idual to escape thedan er so the bod" has de+eloped a -urther protecti+e#echanis#C an er. This state o- bod" and #ind occurs /hendan er #ust be -aced and repulsed. &ll the a ressi+e -i htininstincts are #obili6ed at this point. The obBecti+e o- the an er is

to either -ri hten the dan er a/a" or destro" it.

Thus three principal e#otions protect us -ro# dan er and enableus to sur+i+e. (1) ?urt is the a/areness o- pain and the presenceo- dan er. t has its hu#an counterpart in sadnessCthe continueda/areness o- hurt. (2) Fear deri+in its stren th -ro# the#e#or" o- pain pro#pts the indi+idual to a+oid -urther pain b"-leein its source as <uickl" as possible. ( ) &n er protects theindi+idual -ro# dan er either b" scarin it a/a" or annihilatin it.

These three e#otionsChurt -ear and an erCare o-ten rapidl"interchan eable. t /ould see# ho/e+er that hurt al/a"sprecedes the other t/o e#otions /hich are sti#ulated in directproportion to the hurt that antedates the#. Thus intense an er is

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preceded b" intense hurt or intense -ear is al/a"s preceded b"intense hurt. These e#otions #a" be deepl" unconscious /e

#ust re#e#ber and ne+er present in conscious a/areness. The"are there at birth and presu#abl" are present be-ore birth. 3o#eo- the cases that ha+e dealt /ith i+e stron support to such anotion.

&ll o- these e#otions belon to the hild e o state and /e ha+ealread" seen ho/ his e pression o- nor#al hu#an e#otion can beconsidered cri#inal.

The ne/born bab" is able to e press its pain b" cr"in . Thisusuall" results in the earl" arri+al o- help -ro# his #other /ho isable to locate the source o- disco#-ort and deal /ith it. For thene/born the e pression o- pain is a cr" -or help. 3adness and thee pression o- hurt b" an adult is e<uall" a cr" -or help.

&s the child ro/s older at ti#es help is not i##ediatel" -orthco#in and thus the pain or the threat o- pain re#ains. &t that#o#ent the reaction o- -ear /ill occur o-ten b" a #ore shrill and

piercin outburst. - he is old enou h he /ill run to #other /ho-or hi# represents securit". When he reaches #other he /ill -eelsa-e and secure. 3he /ill take care o- /hate+er is -ri htenin hi#re#o+in the source o- an" pain or hurt. $ersistent -ear in thechild or the adult is due to this e--ort to -ind securit".

The response o- -ear #a" not be ade<uate to obtain the securit"that the indi+idual seeks. t #a" then be necessar" -or hi# to deal/ith the dan er hi#sel- trans#utin his -ear into an er. This #a"

happen +er" <uickl" indeed and #an" an r" people are ne+era/are o- the -ear that has preceded their an er. The" are certainl"not a/are o- the hurt that preceded the -ear. - the indi+idual issuccess-ul in dealin /ith the dan er b" the use o- an er he /illonce a ain -eel secure. t no/ beco#es e+ident that the e#otionsare the de+ices b" /hich the indi+idual endea+ours to obtain thesecurit" essential -or his continued sur+i+al.

The basic e#otion that o- hurt has as it s opposite the -eelin o-

pleasure and co#-ort. The indi+idual e periences this -eelin /henhe no lon er senses an" disco#-ort and e+er"thin see#s to be atpeace. For the "oun child or in-ant #other is associated /iththese -eelin s.

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The second e#otion that o- -ear also seeks to achie+e securit"and sa-et" and once a ain the in-ant or child associates these

/ith the #other. Feelin s o- securit" are the antithesis o- -ear.The third e#otion an er has as its antithesis lo+e. While dealin/ith dan er b" the use o- an er the indi+idual /hether child oradult is unable to -eel lo+e. @nce he has resol+ed the dan er hecan once a ain e perience securit" and thus re ain the e#otion o-lo+e. Re#e#ber proble#s occasioned b" -ear and hurt #ust beresol+ed be-ore lo+e can be established.

We ha+e considered three pri#ar" e#otions as necessar" -or theproper detection o- and de-ence a ainst dan er. The <uestion no/arises /hat happens /hen the dan er the source o- hurt is#other hersel- /ho nor#all" uarantees securit" and reposeI Theans/er to this <uestion pro+ides the ke" to the basic con-lictcentral to all e#otional disorders.

When #other is the source o- hurt the hild cannot e press thathurt to her -or she /ill onl" increase it. ?e cannot run -ro# her

and utili6e his e#otion o- -ear to escape since he no lon er has are-u e. ?e cannot use an er to inti#idate or destro" her becausehe needs her -or his sur+i+al. There is onl" one course o- actionopen to hi#N he #ust block those e#otions. ?e si#pl" #ust not-eel the#.

The $arent e o state ser+es to repress -eelin s /hose e pression/ill in+ol+e the risk o- parental abandon#ent. We ha+e seen ho/the displa" o- e#otion can be re arded as a cri#e. We can no/

understand ho/ the repression o- e#otion that #eets /ithparental disappro+al is the onl" possible recourse. The $arent e ostate not onl" punishes the hild e o state -or the cri#e o-distressin his real parent but also protects hi# b" pre+entin hi#-ro# bein e posed to -urther disappro+al.

We shall see in the ne t chapter ho/ the $arent in its role o- Bud ei#poses appropriate punish#ent and in its subse<uent role o-

Bailor ensures that the punish#ent is #eted out.

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Chapter *our

The Sentence

7The +erdictN H8 %T4 &3 ?&RH>D.;

The ti#e has arri+ed /hich the accused has been dreadin . ?e hasbeen -ound uilt" o- the cri#e -or /hich he had been char ed and

no/ /aits -or the Bud e to hand do/n the sentence o- the court.

Durin the trial the prosecutor has painted the accused and hiscri#e in the /orst possible colors and has de#anded that herecei+e the #a i#u# punish#ent prescribable b" la/. The Bud eo- course has the ri ht to consider an" #iti atin circu#stancesand it is the prero ati+e o- the de-ense to dra/ his attention tothese.

The sentence is intended to teach the cri#inal throu h punish#ent that his cri#e /ill not be countenanced b" his peers. Thecri#inal /ill be isolated -ro# societ" so that he can no lon erbeco#e a threat to it. ?e is set up as an e a#ple to others so thatthe" #i ht learn that cri#e cannot be tolerated b" societ".

& Bud e #ust consider all the e+idence be-ore arri+in at theappropriate sentence. ?e /ill also ha+e to take into account theaccused s pre+ious cri#inal record.

n the court o- the #ind the $arent in the role o- Bud e has beenappointed to protect a representati+e societ" consistin onl" o- theaccused and the prosecutor. ?is pri#e obBecti+e is to protect theseparticipants -ro# each other. n #ost cases the sentence that hei#poses /ill be based +er" closel" upon the de#ands #ade b" theprosecution.

The punish#ent is usuall" #ade to -it the cri#e. - an e pressiono- -eelin has been -ound unacceptable the $arent #a" /elldecree that the accused be sentenced to /ithhold an" e pressiono- that -orbidden -eelin .

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The $arent #ust en-orce /hate+er sentence is handed do/n b"the court o- the #ind. ?is role then s/itches to that o- Bailor.

Throu hout the prison sentence the relationship o- $arent andhild /ill be #arkedl" a--ected b" this BailorAprisoner relationship/hich -or#s the basis o- the continuin $arentA hild con-lict. t isthe cause o- #uch e#otional ill health.

(ou +ust not e<ist

&s /e noted earlier the /orst cri#e that the hild can be accusedo- is that o- e istin . t is the $arent s dut" to en-orce this

sentence. ronicall" an e o state /hich ser+es to protect the hild-ro# the real parent #ust beco#e the instru#ent o- the realparent in subduin the hild. 9ut the actions o- the $arent e ostate appear necessar". Without its inter+ention the reaterdisaster o- abandon#ent b" the real parent is seen as a stronpossibilit".

The sentence 74ou #ust not e ist; is #ore co##on than an"onepre+iousl" reali6ed. &nal"tical h"pnotherap" /ith its uni<ue abilit"

to locate attitudes and -eelin s present at a +er" earl" a e (e. .at birth or e+en in the prenatal period) has enabledh"pnotherapists to disco+er the presence and the e--ect o- thissentence in #an" cases.

n carr"in out the sentence the $arent e o state usuall" is -orcedto #ake a co#pro#ise /hich is acceptable to the prosecution.When the sentence is i#posedCusuall" at birth or shortl"therea-ter Cthe $arent e o state is unable to carr" such a

sentence to its lo ical conclusion. t can ho/e+er #ake li-eunenBo"able and cause the hild to seek insi ni-icance so that -orall practical purposes he does not e ist. 8n-ortunatel" on #an"occasions the co#pro#ise appears insu--icient and the -ullsentence 74ou #ust not e ist ; is literall" carried out. We shallconsider this situation in #ore detail later on.

Martin /as in his late thirties /hen he ca#e to see #e about hisdrinkin . ?e did not kno/ /hat dro+e hi# into alcoholis# but he

/as certain that it had so#ethin to do /ith tension because heo-ten -elt /ound up be-ore one o- his drinkin bouts.

Martin had reat di--icult" in relatin to people. ?e /as sh" andlacked sel-=con-idence deliberatel" a+oidin situations in /hich he

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#i ht be thro/n into contact /ith ne/ people because he -elta/k/ard and ton ue=tied. ?is con+ersation in such instances /as

+irtuall" #onos"llabic. ?e /as al/a"s relie+ed /hen suchinterchan es ca#e to an end allo/in hi# to retire to so#e <uietcorner and re#ain unobser+ed.

?e had a clerical Bob in /hich he -elt <uite sa-e since it de#andedlittle contact /ith the public. ?e took the position a-ter lea+inhi h school kno/in that such an occupation a--orded littlechance o- pro#otion but acceptin this as his lot /ithoutco#plaint. ?e /as a ood /orker so his Bob /as secure.

Martin /as totall" non=asserti+e ne+er doin an"thin to upsetan"one. ?e had -e/ -riends and no one reall" close to hi#. ?ecalled hi#sel- a loner and ha+e ne+er #et an"one /ho better-itted that description.

Martin e plained that he had been put up -or adoption shortl"a-ter birth a -act he had not kno/n until he reached his teens.The in-or#ation had not bothered hi# undul" -or it had not co#e

as a surprise. ?e hastened to assure #e that this did not precludean" proble#s arisin bet/een hi# and his adoptin parents. ?elo+ed the# dearl" and he /as certain that the" lo+ed hi# butthe" /ere reatl" distressed b" a drinkin proble# /hich he -eltpo/erless to ter#inate. ?a+in heard that h"pnosis /as use-ul -orhelpin people to rela Martin -elt that rela in #i ht help hi# tocontrol his drinkin .

n h"pnoanal"sis /e earl" disco+ered that his #other did not /ant

hi# e+en be-ore he /as born. ?e sensed a stron -eelin o-reBection -ro# her. ?e later recalled his birth e perience and /asa/are that shortl" a-ter birth his #other /as unconscious. ?e-elt totall" reBected certain that he /as uilt" o- the /orst cri#ein the bookChe e isted. When his $arent e o state Bud ed hi#

uilt" he /as sentenced to not e istin .

Martin s -ailure to assert hi#sel- in e+er" sphere o- li-e /as totall"consistent /ith the punish#ent he /as sentenced to -or darin to

li+e. ?is alcoholis# /as the result o- an atte#pt b" his hild e ostate to nu#b the i##ense pain o- une pressed hurt caused b"his sensation o- reBection. ?is $arent e o state accepted thes"#bolic death o- drunkenness as a #eans o- atone#ent -ordarin to li+e.

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Therap" /as lon and arduous but e+entuall" his $arent e o state/as persuaded to relin<uish its dut" as Bailor and accept a #ore

protecti+e and supporti+e role. Martin /as then able to li+e a -ullerli-e. 9est o- all he could lea+e his da"s o- inebriation behind hi#.

The sentence 74ou #ust not e ist; can be i#posed at an" ti#edurin li-e. /ell re#e#ber another alcoholic /ho had sur+i+ed aplane crash in /hich his best -riend /as killed. 8nconsciousl" thealcoholic accepted responsibilit" -or his -riend s death but onl"a-ter #an" "ears o- producti+e li+in did his $arent e o statedecide that the ti#e had co#e -or hi# to be put to death slo/l"

+ia alcohol.

also recall %orne /ho ca#e to #e at the a e o- nineteen. ?e/anted help /ith h"pnosis to beco#e #ore e--ecti+e in his careeras a #usician -or his per-or#ances /ere deterioratin #arkedl".3ince lea+in school he had beco#e concerned /ith thede-iciencies in his education and /as stri+in to increase hiskno/led e. %orne s reatest proble# ho/e+er /as an inabilit" toconcentrate.

?e ad#itted that he /as not stron l" sel-=asserti+e but heattributed this to an in-eriorit" co#ple /hich #ade hi# -eel thathe /as not as ood as an" o- his peers. This sense o- in-eriorit"kept hi# -ro# establishin relationships /ith /o#en. ?is li-e /asa lonel" one.

%orne recalled that he had been #iserable at school /hich heladl" le-t a-ter co#pletin rade ten. 9ut no/ he o-ten -elt

depressed and /as positi+e that he /as no oodCand that he/ould ne+er be an" ood. %i-e did not see# to be /orth li+in .

n h"pnoanal"sis %orne re ressed to a -ri htenin e perience atthe a e o- -our "ears /hen he al#ost dro/ned. ?e reli+ed thisepisode /ith a reat deal o- distress /hich he had ne+erpre+iousl" e pressed e+en recallin the -ear on his rand-ather s-ace as he pulled %orne -ro# the /ater. %orne had decided thatan"one /ho could cause such distress did not deser+e to li+e.

Fro# that #o#ent he shut hi#sel- a/a" -ro# the li-e /hich his$arent had decided he did not #erit. ?e /as e+entuall" able tore+erse this decision and at last achie+e the obBecti+es that hesou ht.

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(ou +ust never feel angry

&n er is a /a" in /hich /e de-end oursel+es a ainst hurt and theener " o- that an er is directl" proportional to the hurt or -ear/hich en endered it. &n er is a natural de-ense /hich isinstincti+el" present in the hild. >ach o- us tea#s in his o/n /a"ho/ to use an er #ost e--ecti+el".

n the learnin process the hild #a" e press his an er clu#sil"and in doin so #a" inad+ertentl" threaten and -ri hten thoseupon /ho# he depends -or sustenance and securit". - their

response to the hild s an er is e tre#e he is liable to beco#econ+icted o- the cri#e o- bein an r". 9ecause he has sho/nhi#sel- unable to #ana e his an er the hild is sentenced b" the$arent to shun an er. This can be translated as 74ou #ust ne+er-eel an r".;

The repression o- a nor#al de-ense b" the $arent is a co##oncause o- #an" e#otional illnesses and o- a hi h proportion o-ps"choso#atic ail#ents. ha+e alread" i+en so#e e a#ples o-

this #echanis# but let #e add one #ore.

Jane /as a -ort"="ear=old /o#an /ho /as pla ued b" se+ereheadaches. &-ter thorou hl" subBectin the proble# to intensein+esti ation her ph"sician concluded that no or anic causee isted. When she -irst consulted #e Jane /as e periencin ase+ere attack al#ost e+er" /eek. 3he -re<uentl" had to retire tobed and /as unable to Boin in -a#il" -unctions or social outin s.

9et/een attacks Jane -elt health" but lethar ic and subBect todepression. 3he said that she /ould not #ind the depression solon as she did not su--er terrible headaches.

We discussed her attitudes to/ard hersel- and li-e in eneral. 3hedid not consider hersel- a +er" ood person althou h she tried+er" hard to be one. 3he al/a"s did /hat she -elt people e pectedo- her. - her sister called her to co#e and bab"=sit -or instanceshe co#plied /ithout co#plaint. - her #other /anted to +isit she

/as /elco#e at an" ti#e because Jane /ould al/a"s stop/hate+er she /as doin or plannin in order to acco##odate her.3he kne/ that her children #ade too #an" de#ands upon herbut she -elt that she #ust al/a"s do her best to be a ood#other. 3he also /orked hard to please her husband and belie+ed

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that i- it /ere not -or her headaches she /ould ha+e been as ooda /i-e as she /anted to be.

n h"pnoanal"sis /e disco+ered an i#portant e perience /hichhad deter#ined her attitudes. &t the a e o- -i+e Jane had<uarreled /ith her "oun er sister /ho had deliberatel" pulled anar# o-- Jane s -a+orite doll e+en thou h she had been told not topla" /ith it. Jane struck her sister -orce-ull". ,aturall" her sisterscrea#ed loudl" and be-ore lon #other ca#e runnin todisco+er the cause o- the co##otion. Jane told #other the truthbut instead o- /innin praise -or ha+in disciplined her sister Jane

beca#e the obBect o- her #other s /rath. Mother struck Janesharpl" and sent her to her roo# orderin her ne+er to hit hersister a ain.

Jane had ne+er been able to e press her an er since that incidentand until she sou ht help -or her headaches she /as totall"una/are that that e+ent had precipitated the proble#. 3he /asthen able to recall #an" instances /hen she had -elt un-airl"treated but had repressed her e#otions. 3he had been

conde#ned to the prison o- an er unable to -eel or be an r". 9utshe could entertain headaches:

Mi raine is a silent screa#in in the head. @nce Jane -ound thatshe could allo/ hersel- to screa# out loud she no lon er neededto screa# silentl" and her headaches disappeared. - e+er a hinto- a #i raine arises she i##ediatel" ets in touch /ith the an ershe is holdin back and -inds #eans o- e pressin it appropriatel"/hereupon her headache in+ariabl" disappears.

(ou are not lova8le4you are )A#5

The pain o- reBection is acute and intense. The reater the need-or acceptance the reater is the hurt o- reBection. Thus therepudiation o- the hild b" his #other creates in hi# the ra+esthurt and it is not assua ed b" the natural conclusion that the

hild is reBected b" his #other si#pl" because he is unlo+able.

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74ou are not lo+able; is the sentence deli+ered b" the $arent tothe hild /ho has co##itted the cri#e o- askin to be lo+ed b" a

#other /ho is unable to lo+e hi#. The sentence #ust be ser+ed inthe prison o- pain and sadness /ith the added restriction o- 74ou#ust not -eel sad; and the burden o- the accusation 74@8 &R>9&D:;

3usan /as thirt"=three "ears o- a e /hen she ca#e to #e -or helpin controllin her eatin habits. Fre<uentl" depressed ande hausted she could not locate the source o- her depression butshe ad#itted to bein constantl" tense. 3he -ound it +er" di--icult

to enBo" li-e and -elt in-erior to her -riends and ac<uaintances. 3he/as al/a"s irritable /ith her -a#il" and e pressed re#orse -orthis. When 3usan ca#e -or treat#ent she /as certain thatstron er dietin /ill po/er /ould sol+e #ost o- her proble#s.

n h"pnoanal"sis she unco+ered se+eral e periences in /hich shehad #ade atte#pts to persuade her #other to e press lo+e -orher. >ach ti#e she #et /ith a rebu--.

&t three "ears o- a e -or instance "oun 3usan rushed in -ro#the arden /ith the lo+el" -lo/ers that she had picked -or her#u##". nstead o- bein #et /ith lo+in appreciation she /asthrust a/a" /ith 74ou nau ht" irl 3usan.; This /as her -irste perience /ith reBection.

When she /as about si "ears old she had co#pleted a lo+el"paintin especiall" -or her #u##". When she entered the houseall e cited about presentin the paintin her #other took one

look at it and snapped 7$ut that #ess in the arba e.;

3he could ne+er persuade #other to lo+e her. When her #otherdied durin 3usan s t/entieth "ear the irl /as still tr"in to ainher lo+e. 3usan could not accept this de-eat because she belie+edthat until her #other pro-essed lo+e she /as unlo+able. This /asthe -ri ht-ul sentence that she had to ser+e and /as onl"ter#inated a-ter a reat deal o- therap".

(ou +ust not succeed

&t a conscious le+el e+er"one /ishes to be success-ul. 3uccessthe s"#bol o- public reco nition and acceptance is one o- li-e s#ost pleasant e periences.

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3o#eti#es ho/e+er acceptance in one area /ill result in reBection in another. 8nder such circu#stances acceptance and success

can be considered a cri#e punished b" the sentence 74ou #ustnot succeed.; This Bud #ent #a" be i#posed upon an" cri#inallocked /ithin the prison o- uilt. When the hild is sa-el"i#prisoned he #a" be allo/ed to beco#e enthusiastic about an"nu#ber o- proBects but should he approach an" de ree o-success the $arent /ill bar hi# -ro# it so that he -ails.

Ja#es labored under this sentence. ?e had done /ell at school inhis earl" "ears but <uit at the a e o- si teen /ithout an"

docu#entar" e+idence o- his abilit". ?e /orked at se+eral Bobs -ora /hile and then decided to start his uni+ersit" career as a#ature student. &-ter an initial burst o- enthusias# his studiesrapidl" -ell apart and he le-t the uni+ersit" be-ore co#pletin the-irst "ear.

3ince then Ja#es had /orked in se+eral di--erent Bobs but thesa#e pattern continued to repeat itsel-. ?e /ould al/a"s beco#e+er" e cited about a ne/ Bob and /ould do e tre#el" /ell -or a

-e/ /eeks. ?is ne/ e#plo"er /ould be +er" pleased /ith the"oun #an /ho /orked so dili entl" and /as so -ull o- ne/ ideas.9ut at the end o- se+eral /eeks or at the +er" #ost a -e/ #onths/hen his boss #i ht be considerin per#anent e#plo"#entJa#es /ould lose his enthusias# actin in /a"s that /ouldusuall" ensure his dis#issalC arri+in late -or i#portantassi n#ents -or ettin appoint#ents startin to drink hea+il".>+entuall" he /ould be sackedCor he /ould <uit /hen he -elt thathe had i+en his boss a hard enou h ti#e.

Durin this period his ori inal enthusias# /ould be replaced b"depression and irritabilit". @nce he le-t a Bob his spirits /ould

raduall" li-t and althou h he /ould al/a"s -eel uilt" aboutha+in loused up another chance his depression /ould -ade.9ecause Ja#es /as such an intelli ent "oun #an /ith #an"e cellent ideas and o- course plent" o- e perience he /asusuall" able to secure a ne/ Bob and start the sa#e c"cle oncea ain.

When he had under one ps"chotherap" durin a pre+ious bout o-depression the astute ps"chiatrist had pinpointed the a e o- -our"ears as a ti#e /hen so#ethin had happened to Ja#es to causehis proble#s. 8n-ortunatel" the ps"chiatrist had not been able to

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#o+e -urther. n h"pnoanal"sis /e /ere able to locate thee perience and brin it to consciousness. &t -our "ears o- a e

Ja#es had been surprised b" his -ather in a se ual act /ith anolder bo". ?e had been punished se+erel" b" his -ather but hadrepressed the /hole e perience -ro# his #e#or". The intense

uilt ho/e+er re#ained /ith hi#. ?e had been e iled to theprison o- uilt /ith the sentence 74ou shall not succeed.;

Ja#es could not achie+e success until he /as -reed -ro# theprison. Till then his $arent /ould not let hi# -ull" e ercise hisabilities. ?e /as not ood enou h.

(ou +ust not 8e afraid

Fear is a nor#al hu#an response to real or i#a ined dan er.8n-ortunatel" #an" parents do not understand -ear and aredisturbed b" it /hen the" percei+e it in their children. n additionsociet" -re<uentl" interprets nor#al -ear as co/ardice. For thesereasons -ear #a" be +ie/ed as a cri#e and the $arent is i+enthe task o- ensurin that it is not repeated b" passin the

sentence 74ou #ust not be a-raid.;

&n e#otion that is blocked b" the $arent in this /a" is o-tene pressed in so#e #ore acceptable /a". @+ereatin e cessi+es#okin alcoholis# and so#e ps"choso#atic illnesses can result-ro# the repression o- -ear.

>li6abeth /as a tall statel" irl o- about t/ent"=ei ht "ears o-a e. 3he had separated -ro# her husband a-ter a short and

stor#" #arria e se+eral "ears be-ore she ca#e to consult #e.3he o+erate and -elt constantl" irritable and her s"#pto#s hadbeco#e #uch /orse since she had heard that her husband /asback in to/n. ?e had been a/a" -or #an" "ears and she reall"had no /ish to see hi# a ain. ?e had -ailed to pro+ide support -ortheir ele+en="ear=old son or her since their separation.

n h"pnoanal"sis >li6abeth re ressed to a stor#" incident /hichhad occurred /hen she /as ei hteen "ears o- a e. ?er husband

in a drunken state /as "ellin +iolent abuse at her. 3he /ascr"in the bab" /as screa#in and the do /as barkin Caterri-"in co##otion. 3he cla#oured -or her husband to lea+e heralone and he did so -or a -e/ #inutes. When he returned he /asbrandishin a shot un /hich he assured her /as loaded. 3he /as

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no/ e+en #ore terri-ied but kne/ that she #ust not lose control.3he pleaded /ith hi# to put the un do/n but he i nored her

accused her o- in-idelit" and shouted that she did not deser+e toli+e. ?e /as deter#ined to kill her. &s she pushed hi# and theun a/a" the do Bu#ped up at hi#. 3he -led to a nei hbour s

house but as she ran a shot ran out. ?ad he killed hi#sel-I ?adhe killed the do I The bab"I

With these thou hts runnin throu h her head she -elt enor#ousuilt that she had le-t in a panic. 3he kne/ that she dared not o

back lest she beco#e the ne t +icti# so /hen she beca#e

su--icientl" coherent to con+e" to her nei hbour the ur enc" o- thesituation the police /ere called in.

When the police arri+ed the" -ound that nothin unto/ard hadoccurred. 8nco+erin no e+idence that a shot had been -ired the"

a+e her the distinct i#pression that the" did not belie+e herstor". The" assu#ed it had reall" been an ordinar" do#estic<uarrel in /hich no one s li-e had e+er been in dan er.

3hortl" a-ter this incident >li6abeth le-t her husband despite histhreats to 7 et her.; 3he had not allo/ed hersel- to think o- thise perience since that ti#e and e+en no/ kno/in that he hadreturned to the nei hbourhood she did not connect hi#consciousl" /ith her s"#pto#s. 3he onl" kne/ subconsciousl"that she #ust not be a-raid.

(ou +ust not love

>+er"one /ill a ree that lo+in is a per-ectl" nor#al hu#ane#otion "et #an" people are unable to e press it because o- asentence i#posed upon the#. The" ha+e been -ound uilt" o-lo+in and ha+e been sentenced ne+er to lo+e a ain. %o+in iso-ten con-used /ith se ual acti+it" so that this inabilit" to lo+e isacco#panied b" an inabilit" to enBo" se . This #a" be e pressedas a -ear o- relishin or bein in+ol+ed in se . Makin onesel-

unattracti+e is one /a" o- a+oidin se and den"in lo+e.

/ell re#e#ber Freda /ho at t/ent"=three "ears o- a e /ouldha+e been <uite attracti+e had she not been rossl" o+er/ei ht.3he had ne+er dated. 3he -elt co#pelled to eat al#ost as i- she

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/as a-raid to lose /ei ht. n h"pnoanal"sis the reason -or thisbeca#e clear.

&t -i+e "ears o- a e she /as a/akened b" the noise o- her parents<uarrelin +iolentl". Freda tried not to listen but she could nothelp o+erhearin her #other screa# 7Wh" don t "ou ha+e herI4ou /ant her #ore than "ou /ant #e:; 3he /ondered could#other be re-errin to #eI 3he -elt sure that she lo+ed her dadd"#ore than her #other did. &s she listened one accusation both-ri htened and pu66led her. 74ou like little irls too #uch. ,e tti#e the" /ill lock "ou up -or li-e:; When she heard that she kne/

that she #ust not allo/ hersel- to think lo+in thou hts about herdadd" e+er a ain. 3he #ust not lo+e -or lo+in is a cri#e. 3hekne/ then that i- she beca#e as -at as Mrs. Johnson ne t door/ho# dadd" hated she /ould be sa-e. 3he /ould si#pl" eat andeat. 3he #ust supplant lo+e /ith eatin .

t /as a lon ti#e be-ore Freda could -eel -ree to re+erse herdecision and let hersel- lose /ei ht. 3he had to learn that it /asper#issible to lo+e.

(ou +ust not thin'

To be considered stupid /ould nor#all" be dee#ed a handicapbut so#eti#es it is /iser to act stupid than to use one s nor#alintelli ence. 9ein intelli ent has on occasion pro+ed to be sodisastrous that it has been interpreted as a cri#e. The properpunish#ent -or such a cri#e is o- course 74ou #ust not think.;

can best illustrate this throu h the e perience o- 3te/art /hoca#e to see #e at the a e o- nineteen. ?e /as doin +er" badl"in his studies -indin it di--icult to concentrate upon acade#icassi n#ents and /onderin /hether he should drop out o- hi hschool rather than continue to /ork to/ard raduation.

3te/art /as -eelin +er" ner+ous and /as unable to sleep. @nl"in-re<uentl" could he relate to his class#ates #ost o- /ho# /ere"oun er and better students than he. ?o/e+er until he had

reached rade si he /as scholasticall" ahead o- hisconte#poraries and /as the "oun est and bri htest in the class.?e had no idea /h" his per-or#ance in school had deteriorated sobadl" since then.

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We disco+ered the clue in h"pnoanal"sis. 3te/art located a criticale perience at the a e o- ele+en "ears. ?e had not been in bed -or

lon /hen he heard a loud ban co#in -ro# do/nstairs. ?isparents had Bust returned ho#e <uarrellin +ehe#entl" his-ather shoutin abuse at his #other. ?e /as not sure he hadcau ht one state#ent accuratel" but his -ather shortl" repeateditN 7 al/a"s kne/ he /asn t #" kidChe s too s#art=assed:;

3te/art lo+ed his dad and he /anted no one else -or a -ather.9ein s#art #ust be a cri#e he decided so he #ust bepunished. ?e #ust not think. Fro# that ti#e on/ard althou h the

incident /as ne+er #entioned 3te/art be an to do poorl" atschool. ?e could not to perpetrate the cri#e o- bein s#art andrun the risk o- losin dad.

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Chapter *ive

The Prison Locks—GUILT!

entral to the /hole the#e o- this book is the con-lict bet/een the$arent e o state and the hild e o state /hich so o-ten leads tothe i#prison#ent o- the hild b" the $arent.

&lthou h e+er" prison has its Bailors the" /ould not be soe--ecti+e i- the prison /ere not securel" locked. t is natural to/onder ho/ the $arent is able to pre+ent the hild -ro# escapin .The ans/er is uilt /hich pro+ides locks secure -ro# ta#perin .

&lthou h all o- us ha+e e perienced -eelin s o- uilt it is +er"di--icult to de-ine the e act nature o- uilt. We /ould all a reeho/e+er that uilt -eelin s are intensel" unpleasant because the"re#ind us that /e ha+e done so#ethin /hich has #et /ith

intense disappro+al.

There is no inborn sense o- uilt. t is a learned response resultin-ro# an a/areness o- ha+in been responsible -or another sdistress. @ur ac<uaintance /ith this -eelin be ins /hen /e -irst/itness the distress o- so#eone upon /ho# /e rel" -or supportand protection. That person is usuall" #other and /e are soona/are o- our responsibilit" -or her distress b" indications that heran er is directed at us. ##ediatel" /e ad#it to the cri#e.

>+en thou h /e #a" not kno/ the e tent o- our cri#e /e kno/that it #ust be so#ethin terrible because o- the se+erit" o- thedistress associated /ith it. ?a+in been -ound uilt" o- co##ittina cri#e /e su--er rie+ousl" and #a" e+en shed tears. Mother isan r" or sad or a-raid and her /hole attitude +eri-ies that /e arethe source o- the proble#. >+en thou h /e did not /ish to causedistress /e are not absol+ed -ro# the responsibilit" /e -eel. Wesense that onl" a terrible person could ha+e occasioned suchcatastrophic results.

The -eelin o- uilt e#er es i##ediatel" a-ter one has been #adeto -eel badl" and has been -ound uilt" o- one o- the #an" cri#es

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alread" listed. Huilt creates se+ere disco#-ort and is co#poundedo- +arious e#otions the chie- o- /hich is -ear. The basic -ear is

that reBection b" #other /ill a#ount to total abandon#ent b" her.&lthou h uilt is pri#aril" a -eelin o- -ear it is co#pounded /ith-eelin s o- sadness as one conte#plates the possibilit" o- beinutterl" alone.

This -ear potentiall" ains its stren th -ro# an instincti+e a/areness probabl" -ounded on the #e#or" o- a total dependence onher durin intrauterine li-e that li-e /ithout #other can bee<uated /ith death. think that the in-ant is a/are o- his

dependence on #other particularl" /hen she does not pro#ptl"#eet his #an" de#ands. ?e is le-t /ith a -ri htenin sensation o-helplessness since he is unable to satis-" his o/n biolo ical needs.

Throu hout pre nanc" #other has pro+ided continued biolo icalsupport and -or us all the separation -ro# #other at birth is atrau#atic re#inder o- our dependence upon her. There-ore an"threat o- a #ore per#anent separation -ro# #other al/a"sbeco#es the source o- intense -ear /hich supplies the -eelin o-

uilt /ith its i##ense po/er.

The $arent e o state acts to pre+ent #other -ro# /ithdra/insupport -ro# the hild b" initiatin a beha+iour pattern /hich isacceptable to her. This is /h" the $arent e o state is so closel"#odelled upon #other or other parental -i ures upon /ho# the

hild depends -or sustenance. t also e plains /h" the $arent e ostate i#poses restrictions upon the beha+iour o- the hild throu hthe #echanis# o- repression. belie+e that the -eelin o- uilt

pro+ides that #echanis#.

Whene+er the hild /ishes to e press a -eelin that #i ht produceparental disappro+al the $arent -lashes the #e#or" o- theori inal cri#e /ith its acco#pan"in threat o- punish#ent b"abandon#ent o- the hild b" the #other. The #e#or" o- thatthreat -ills the hild /ith -orebodin and pro+ides the essence o-the -eelin /hich /e call uilt.

Huilt then resides at the centre o- the $arentA hild con-lict. t isthe pressure applied b" the $arent in opposition to and inresponse to the pressure o- the unacceptable e#otion /hich the

hild /ishes to e press. Huilt e--ecti+el" holds the hild in his

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prison and ser+es as the locks on the doors o- the outer /alls o-his prison.

ntense uilt is -elt as an iet". %esser le+els o- uilt #a" bee perienced as -eelin s o- sha#e or e#barrass#ent. &lthou hal/a"s present in cases o- $arentA hild con-lict responsible -ori#prison#ent o- the #ind uilt #a" not reach a/areness andso#eti#es can onl" be identi-iable at an unconscious le+el inh"pnosis.

t is the obBecti+e o- h"pnotherap" to pr" open the locks o- uilt so

that the hild #a" be -ree to e press hi#sel- as he is. 9e-ore thiscan be acco#plished ho/e+er the $arent #ust be con+inced thatit is no lon er necessar" -or the hild to be locked up in the#ental prison -or his o/n protection.

3ince the $arent e o state re ards the prison as a ha+en o-securit" as /ell as a place o- punish#ent it #ust be assured thatthe hild /ill not co#e to -ar reater har# should he be released.&n understandin o- this -unction o- the $arent enables us to

accept its +er" i#portant role as the pur+e"or o- uilt in theinterests o- the indi+idual.

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Chapter Si<

Release from Prison

The Appeal, the Retrial and the Pardon

The Appeal

The le al s"ste#s o- #ost ci+ili6ed societies contain pro+ision -orthe re+ie/ o- a sentence i#posed upon the alle ed cri#inal a-terthe trial. This #echanis# also pro+ides -or a re=e a#ination o- thecircu#stances o- the cri#e in order to deter#ine /hether theactions o- the prisoner /ere trul" cri#inal. The appeal procedureis desi ned to ensure that Bustice is upheld and that an" e+idencenot accessible at the ori inal trial can be #ade a+ailable to thecourt -or its deliberation.

&ll success-ul therap" in+ol+es a re+ie/ o- the proble# to -ind ne/and #ore satis-actor" solutions. This approach is crucial to successin the anal"tical h"pnotherap" o- e#otional proble#s.

>arl" $arentA hild con-licts o-ten continue unresol+ed throu houtthe li-eti#e o- the indi+idual. The &dult re#ains a helpless andunin-or#ed spectator o- the pain-ul stru le bet/een theoppressed and #iserable hild and the un"ieldin dut"=conscious

$arent. ,either hild nor $arent is able to co##unicate the truenature o- the con-lict to the &dult in order to allo/ this hi hl"resource-ul e o state to disco+er a solution to their con-lict.

nternal co##unication is clearl" inade<uate. Whenps"chotherapies /ork the" probabl" do so si#pl" b" utili6in&dult understandin o- the $arentA hild con-lict so that the $arentcan be supplied /ith the in-or#ation necessar" to #oderate itsposition and allo/ the hild increased or -ull -reedo#.

3uccess-ul therap" operates in the sa#e /a" as an appeal.Hrounds -or the appeal #a" include the -ollo/in N that the ori inaltrial /as conducted ineptl" that the sentence i+en /as toose+ere or that ne/ e+idence is no/ a+ailable to the court.

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9e-ore an appeal can proceed a report o- the pre+ious trial #ustbe #ade a+ailable to the de-ense -or stud" lar el" because the

#e#ories o- the ori inal e+ent /hich precipitated the e#otionalcon-lict are no lon er present at a conscious le+el. The" are o-tennot a+ailable to the &dult e+en at an unconscious le+el becausethe &dult e o state /as probabl" too i##ature at the ti#e o- theori inal e+ent to -or# an understandin .

n the reco+er" o- unconscious #e#ories h"pnosis possesses auni<ue ad+anta e o+er all other therapeutic approaches. /ouldsu est that an" approach /hich incorporates co##unication /ith

the unconscious #ind is in -act usin h"pnosis. ?"pnotictechni<ues are bein e#plo"ed success-ull" b" #an" therapists/ho are not a/are that h"pnosis is in+ol+ed and /ho ha+e no-or#al kno/led e o- h"pnosis. This state#ent in no /a" detracts-ro# the #erits o- these success-ul techni<ues but seeks toreco ni6e and identi-" the co##on path/a" necessar" -orsuccess.

&nal"tical h"pnotherap" depends upon direct co##unication /ith

the unconscious #ind -or its abilit" to locate in-or#ation re ardinthe ori inal proble#. Fortunatel" /e ha+e -ound that -or #ostpeople ade<uate co##unication /ith the unconscious #ind isrelati+el" eas" and that a deep state o- h"pnosis is not necessar"as /as once thou ht. Man" o- #" patients in -act are a#a6ed atthe ease /ith /hich this co##unication /ith the unconscious#ind can be established e+en /hen the conscious #ind isobser+ant and alert.

The unconscious #ind is like a +ideo tape recorder transcribine+er" si ni-icant happenin in -aith-ul detail. The -irst step inanal"tical h"pnotherap" is to locate the #e#ories o- thee periences -ro# /hich the so=called cri#e and the subse<uentsentence arose. The techni<ues o- anal"tical h"pnotherap" directthe unconscious #ind to search its #illions o- recordin s until itlocates the rele+ant critical e periences.

The ne t step is to brin that e perience to a le+el /here it can be

re+ie/ed b" the &dult e o state. 3o#eti#es this e perience is toopain-ul to be brou ht to a conscious le+el and #ust be e a#inedb" the &dult at an unconscious le+el onl". ha+e -ound ho/e+erthat this #a" be Bust as e--ecti+e as a re+ie/ o- the e perience ata conscious le+el but it is unsatis-"in in so#e respects -or the

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therapist /ho is le-t in i norance o- the basic proble# and cannotde+elop a -ull kno/led e and understandin o- it.

- a detailed re+ie/ o- the ori inal trial brin s -or/ard su--iciente+idence that so#e inBustice has occurred a retrial can beinsti ated. This retrial /ill reconsider the cri#e re+ie/ thee+idence -or the prosecution and an" ne/ e+idence -or thede-ence.

The Retrial

&t the ori inal trial the prosecution s case rested lar el" upon anad#ission b" the hild that the e+ents described did indeed takeplace and that his beha+iour caused his parent s distress. &t thatti#e no notice /hate+er /as taken o- the hild s pleas that hecould not help it.

The <uestion 7Were "ou in -act present /hen "our #othere pressed reat distress at "our presenceI; could onl" beans/ered a--ir#ati+el". ,o one sho/ed an" concern /ith the

hild s pleas that he did not kno/ ho/ he ot there.

&t the retrial the hild has a #ature &dult -or an ad+ocate /hocan no/ -ind #an" precedents to aid in the de-ence. on+icted o-the cri#e o- e istin the hild no/ has an e cellent de-ence. nshort he /as not responsible -or his presence in this /orld and a#ature &dult has a#ple e+idence to present in support o- this+ie/point. ?e kno/s the role that his parents pla"ed in hisconception and reali6es that his distressed #other had a -ar -ar

reater share in the responsibilit" -or his presence than he coulde+er ha+e had. 3he is hundreds o- ti#es #ore uilt" than he. Thisis an e tre#el" stron de-ence. Further#ore #other s distress/as #uch #ore in-luenced b" social and econo#ic -actors than b"the birth o- the hild.

$erhaps the hild co##itted the cri#e o- an er. n that case hisad+ocate the &dult can produce e+idence to sho/ that all hu#anbein s e perience an er and that it is a nor#al hu#an e#otion

/hich can be used -or bene-it as /ell as inBur". The &dult canpro+ide e+idence that an er is not in itsel- a cri#e since it is ane#otion pri#aril" desi ned -or protection.

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n -urther de-ence o- the hild the &dult can brin the sa#esupport o- an" nor#al health" hu#an -eelin s to an outdated

char e that such -eelin s are cri#es.Durin anal"tical h"pnotherap" #uch o- this is -re<uentl"acco#plished at a totall" unconscious le+el the patient is nota/are o- /hat has been done and indeed #a" not -eel +er"di--erent durin the process. @n the other hand unco#-ortable old-eelin s #a" be re=e perienced and he #a" be surprised at theirintensit" since he probabl" belie+ed that he had #ana ed todiscard these outdated -eelin s #an" "ears pre+iousl". The

conscious reaction #a" /ell occasion the re#ark 7Fanc" such astupid little thin like that still #akin #e so upset.;

This re+ie/ o- old e periences is o-ten acco#panied b" intense-eelin s since it re<uires that an e+ent /hich /as partl" or /holl"responsible -or the $arentA hild con-lict be e a#ined in detail. Thetechni<ues o- anal"tical h"pnotherap" are desi ned to ensure thata thorou h re=e a#ination o- the e perience is acco#plished. n-act a session o- h"pnotherap" #a" re+ie/ se+eral such critical

e periences. This initial phase o- h"pnoanal"sis cannot bere arded as co#plete until all such e periences ha+e beenthorou hl" e a#ined and the deep #odern understandin o- the#ature unconscious &dult e o state has been applied to each o-the#.

The purpose o- this re+ie/ is to persuade the $arent e o state tore+erse its ori inal +erdict o- uilt" since this had resulted in theincarceration o- the hild and the subse<uent con-lict bet/een

the#. The $arent usuall" /elco#es relie- -ro# the onerous dut" o-Jailor. @n the other hand it #a" -ind it di--icult to accept the ne/role o- -riend and supporter o- an e o state /hich -or "ears it hasheld in conte#pt as a co##on cri#inal.

Throu hout this process the &dult concentrates all o- its po/ers o-lo ic upon the $arentA hild con-lict. This phase o- anal"ticalh"pnotherap" calls -or the reatest e hibition o- skill and patience-ro# the h"pnotherapist. ?e is a/are that he cannot -ree the hild

hi#sel- but #ust rel" upon the &dult e o state s e--ort to persuadethe $arent to per#anentl" release the hild.

- the $arent cannot be -ull" con+inced that the hild is innocentor that he has been punished su--icientl" the hild /ill onl" be

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allo/ed out on probation. This is not ood enou h ho/e+er -or itproBects onl" a -alse -reedo# and /ill ine+itabl" be -ollo/ed b" a

relapse a-ter a brie- period o- re#ission. 8n-ortunatel" o- course/e are so#eti#es -orced to settle -or this probation rather thanthe total and unconditional pardon that /e seek.

The Pardon

,or#all" a pardon can onl" be obtained /hen a case has beenreopened and irre-utable ne/ e+idence o- innocence has beenpresented. The de-endant is then considered to ha+e been /ron l"

con+icted and unBustl" i#prisoned.

& pardon is essentiall" a sincere o--icial apolo " that an inBusticehas occurred. t is an a--ir#ation that the de-endant has al/a"sbeen totall" innocent o- the cri#e -or /hich he had been char edand sentenced. ?is ood na#e is once a ain restored to hi# andhe is re arded as a thorou hl" /orth" citi6en /ho is Bust asrespectable as an" o- his -ello/ citi6ens /ho ha+e not under onehis un-ortunate e perience.

t is this kind o- unconditional pardon that anal"tical h"pnotherap"seeks to secure -or the hild -ro# the $arent. n #ost cases a

hild has been con+icted o- #ultiple cri#es and it is i#perati+ethat a pardon be obtained -or each separate cri#e. When thishappens #an" /onder-ul thin s occurCthe chie- o- /hich is the$arent s acceptance o- the hild. @ur patient be ins to likehi#sel-.

The $arent #ust cease to act as a controllin repressi+e -orce and#ust beco#e an encoura in and supporti+e one. 3o#eti#es thisis acco#plished <uite rapidl" but o-ten it takes a reat deal o-persuasion -ro# the lo ical &dult e o state to achie+e a re+ersal o-beha+iour. 8ntil no/ the $arent s natural lo+in and nurturin-unctions ha+e been lar el" subordinated to its disciplinarian role.Teachin the $arent ne/ approaches is an i#portant part o-h"pnotherap".

& true pardon is per#anent. There /ill ne+er be an" need -or thehild to enter prison a ain. The $arentA hild con-lict is at an end

and the patient is cured. The sense o- -reedo# e perienced b" thepardoned hild can onl" be trul" understood b" so#eone /ho hasunder one it. We /ill be hearin -ro# pardoned prisoners /ho /ill

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describe their escape -ro# prison and their subse<uent e perienceo- -reedo#.

*reedo+

%ibert" is e+er" hu#an bein s birthri ht. To be -ree is to be onesel- to e press one s personalit" /ithout -ear or uilt. This shouldbe the ulti#ate obBecti+e o- all ps"chotherap".

The -reed hild is in har#on" /ith his $arent e o state and can betrusted to e perience his -eelin s -ull" and /ithout hindrance -ro#

the $arent. There is no lon er an" con-lict bet/een the hild e ostate and the $arent e o state and there re#ains little -or the&dult e o state to do but to pro+ide the hild /ith the in-or#ationnecessar" -or hi# to be able to -ull" utili6e all the creati+e ener "o- his -eelin s.

Thus the once unproducti+e artist is slo/l" trans-or#ed into acreati+e and -ull" producti+e cra-ts#an. The sh" retirinindi+idual beco#es open and co##unicati+e. The ps"choso#atic

ail#ents are no lon er necessar" and the nor#al health /hich/as pre+iousl" concealed b" these s"#pto#s e#er es. The-eelin o- /ell=bein that the -ree hild brin s to the personalit" is/ithout parallel. n so#e cases it borders on the #iraculous.

Freedo# can take place <uite suddenl" as /e ha+e o-ten noted inthe pheno#enon o- reli ious con+ersion. When it does such ane perience occurs <uickl" it appears #iraculous shockin the-a#il" and -riends o- the con+ert. The" #ust learn to adapt to the

-reed person /ho has suddenl" appeared in their #idst like astran er. This chan e in hi# o- course #a" strain their adapti+epo/ers.

8ntil the" reali6e that the -reed indi+idualCdespite his opennessChas no #alicious intent and /ill do the# no deliberate har# the"#a" not be able to handle hi#. 3o#eti#es #arria es that ha+enot been stable /ill collapse /hen a partner is -reed. t has been#" e perience ho/e+er that the other partner can usuall"

disco+er resources /ith /hich to deal /ith and adapt to thischan e. &ccordin l" the #arria e relationship /ill o-ten beco#e<uite beauti-ul.

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8suall" the trans-or#ation in the -reed personalit" is <uiteradual. The $arent persuaded to alter his role -ro# that o- Jailor

to 3upporter and $rotector o- the hild shi-ts roles slo/l". n suchcases the -a#il" still has to adBust but in subtler /a"s and o+er alon er period o- ti#e.

n the phase o- -reedo# the &dult e o assu#es reat i#portance.The hild is no/ at libert" in a ne/ /orld o- -ree e pression and isa/are o- e#otions /hich /ere pre+iousl" repressed. ?e re<uiresdirection -ro# the &dult in learnin /a"s to e hibit these e#otions/hich /ill not alienate hi# -ro# the co##unit" to /hich he

aspires to belon .

&n"one /ho has been released -ro# one o- the #ind s e#otionalprisons #ust learn ho/ to use that ne/l" released e#otion/ithout an" sense o- uilt. &n"thin short o- this is not true-reedo#. The ne/ role o- the $arent e o state is so i#portant inthe establish#ent o- the ne/ -reedo# that therap" #ust continueuntil this role is -ull" accepted. @ccasional relapses /ill result -ro#a -ailure to establish the $arent s ne/ role as 3upporter and

$rotector o- the hild e o state.

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Chapter Seven

REH ILIT TI"# $ Learnin% Ho& to

Remain 'ree

@ur prisons are -ull o- #en and /o#en /ho are unable to adapt toli-e in the -ree /orld. &s soon as their sentences end the" co##itne/ cri#es and are rei#prisoned.

Man" prisoners ha+e been isolated -ro# nor#al societ" so lonthat the" cannot co#prehend the established rules o- order andsoon run a-oul o- the#. @thers return to prison because the" lackthe skills /ith /hich to -unction ade<uatel" in a -ree societ". The"are untrained to li+e outside o- prison.

&nother roup o- released prisoners #iss the securit" o- prisonand are -ear-ul o- the de#ands that li+in in a -ree /orld i#posesupon the#. These prisoners #a" deliberatel" co##it o--enses/hich the" kno/ /ill ensure their reco##ittal to the sa-e ha+en o-prison.

The proble# o- recidi+is# has lon occupied the attention o-sociolo ists and cri#inolo ists. t see#s to be +irtuall" insolublebut there is eneral a ree#ent that i- satis-actor" rehabilitation/ere trul" possible the proble# /ould be reatl" reduced.

$risoners o- the #ind are uni<ue a#on cri#inals because the"/ere reall" ne+er uilt" o- an" cri#e. &-ter pardon theirrehabilitation beco#es an e tre#el" i#portant proble#. $risonerso- the #ind #ust be tau ht to #ake their /a" as -ree hu#anbein s in a stran e /orld /hich #a" be so#e/hat hostile to those/ho ha+e ne/l" been -reed.

T/o +er" i#portant phases o- rehabilitation #ust be satis-actoril"co#pleted be-ore the prisoner can be said to handle his -reedo#satis-actoril". n the -irst phase he #ust be con+inced that he hasthe ri ht and the abilit" to be -ree. n h"pnotherap" /e call thisprocess e o stren thenin -or it is a procedure -or increasin the

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stren th o- the hild e o state. The second phase is that o-asserti+eness trainin . t is necessar" to instruct the hild and the

$arent in ne/ /a"s o- handlin the proble#s o- li-e /ith theassistance o- the &dult. When these t/o phases ha+e beensatis-actoril" co#pleted the released indi+idual is properl"prepared to handle his ne/=-ound -reedo#.

Ego Strengthening

8ntil this point h"pnotherap" has been directed to locatin criticale periences /hich ha+e #ade nor#al hu#an -eelin s appear to be

cri#es. The hild e o state has been subBected to a punish#entconsistent /ith his cri#es and has had the e pression o- his-orbidden -eelin s se+erel" restricted b" uilt.

n obtainin -reedo# -or the hild the &dult e o state has at lastbeen able to con+ince the $arent e o state o- the hild sinnocence. For the $arent this is a no+el conception since it hadpre+iousl" listened onl" to the true parent and this idea isapparentl" in total contradiction to all it had heard. This

conception there-ore #ust be repeatedl" rein-orced -or it to beper#anentl" accepted b" the $arent.

@n the other hand the hild althou h al/a"s belie+in in his o/nessential innocence initiall" -inds it di--icult to concei+e that he isacceptable. ?e is not co#pletel" sure that he is reall" @. .

> o stren thenin is an i#portant and essential part o- therap"and h"pnosis pla"s a +ital role in retrainin both the hild and the

$arent to accept and #aintain belie- in the hild s basic innocenceand acceptabilit".

The e--ecti+e therapist hi#sel- #ust possess a deepl" rootedcon+iction o- the essential oodness and ri htness o- hu#annature. The tools o- h"pnosis /ill allo/ hi# to co##unicate thiscon+iction to the unconscious #ind o- the patient. This point o-+ie/ #a" ha+e to be repeated #an" ti#es until the pre+iousl"i#po+erished hild e o state ains su--icient stren th to #aintain

the belie- at all ti#es. The &dult e o state continues to aid thehild in this belie- in hi#sel- b" pro+idin hi# /ith a#ple

in-or#ation o- his e<ualit" /ith and essential rese#blance to otherhu#an bein s. ?e can there-ore be persuaded that he need nolon er -eel in-erior to his -ello/ hu#an bein s.

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9" usin h"pnosis to secure the attention o- e+er" part o- theunconscious #ind can be certain that each e o state is listenin

to #e. be in b" statin e#phaticall" that e+er" hu#an bein isi#portant. then ask -or a ree#ent /ith this +ie/point -ro#e+er" part o- the patient s unconscious #ind.

Follo/in this assert that #" patient is Bust as ood and i#portant as an" other hu#an bein li+in or dead. -ind this eas" tostate in a con+incin #anner because sincerel" belie+e it. - #"patient has reall" -reed hi#sel- -ro# all punishin restrictions hecan a ree /ith #e and accept this re+olutionar" point o- +ie/. The

belie- that one is reall" Bust as ood and i#portant as an" otherhu#an bein is al/a"s acco#panied b" positi+e -eelin s.

When a patient cannot concur that his si ni-icance #atches that o-an" other hu#an bein kno/ that his $arent e o state is ha+indi--icult" in "ieldin its accusto#ed role as Bailor. $artiala ree#ent /ith these principles indicates that the $arent has notbeen /holl" con+inced to pla" a supporti+e role and #a" resu#ethe -or#er restricti+e -unction at an" ti#e. &t such a point /e

#ust pursue -urther anal"tical h"pnotherap" -or the hild to betotall" and per#anentl" -ree.

n order to increase e o stren thenin in those /ho areapparentl" -ree al/a"s ask #" patient in h"pnosis i- he a reesthat he has a ri ht to respect and protect his nor#al hu#ane#otions /hether or not the" are pleasant. This <uestion is reall"directed to the $arent e o state. a# in<uirin /hether it acceptsthe ne/ role o- respectin and protectin the hild and his nor#al

hu#an e#otions. - ain an a--ir#ati+e response to this<uestion kno/ that the e o o- the hild has been i##easurabl"stren thened b" the kno/led e that its -eelin s ha+e beenaccepted. t no/ has the -ull support and protection o- the $arente o state.

Assertiveness Training

Man" courses and teachin s toda" address the#sel+es to the

subBect o- asserti+eness trainin . 8n-ortunatel" a #ental prisonercannot a+ail hi#sel- o- the ood ad+ice contained in these /ritin sand teachin s. That is his $arent /ill not allo/ hi# to indul e insel-=assertion since that is a pri+ile e reser+ed -or the -ree.

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When an indi+idual -ull" accepts hi#sel- ho/e+er he has no needto be particularl" asserti+e. ?is respect -or hi#sel- is e+ident and

he co##ands respect -ro# others. @nl" those /ho cannot respectthe#sel+es -ail to ain respect -ro# others. t is precisel" thisroup o- people /ho thou h needin asserti+eness trainin

cannot a+ail the#sel+es o- it because the" are i#prisoned.

When an indi+idual escapes -ro# his sel-=i#posed prison hee#er es into a stran e /orld /here no one reco ni6es hi#. &t-irst not e+en his -riends or relati+es see hi# -or /hat he trul" is-or the" ha+e onl" kno/n hi# as a prisoner. &s a -ree person he

no lon er -eels uilt about hi#sel- and this +er" -act #akes hi# astran er to his peers.

To o+erco#e this di--icult" the ne/l" released prisoner #ust learnto support and protect hi#sel- in the outside /orld. ?e /ill becalled upon #an" ti#es to Busti-" his presence outside prison /allsand /ill ha+e to kno/ ho/ to assert his ri ht to be -ree.

The liberated prisoner #ust learn three si#ple thin s. First o- all

he has to learn ho/ to pre+ent his $arent -ro# rei#prisonin hi#.This re<uires a reat deal o- alertness on the part o- the &dult/ho #ust constantl" re#ind the $arent that his old role o- Jailor is-inished.

3econdl" he #ust learn to rel" upon the $arent e o state toprotect hi# /hene+er others atte#pt to ha+e hi# reco##itted toprison. @nce a ain the &dult #ust be prepared to reco ni6e /henthis is happenin and to call upon the $arent to /ard o-- an" such

atte#pt in his proper role as the protector.

Thirdl" he #ust not be seduced into an" situation in /hich he#i ht be te#pted to use the tool o- uilt upon others in order tolock the# #ore securel" /ithin their o/n prisons as a reprisal -ortheir attacks upon hi#. &ll o- this re<uires e--ecti+e asserti+enesstrainin .

?"pnosis o--ers an e cellent #ediu# -or producti+e asserti+eness

trainin because su estions i+en in h"pnosis are attended to+er" closel" and /hen accepted are -ollo/ed /ith ut#ost -idelit".

n practice acco#plish this sta e o- therap" b" de#andin thatthe indi+idual #ake and keep three i#portant pro#ises.

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First he #ust pro#ise to stop puttin hi#sel- or his -eelin sdo/n. This is the #ost essential pro#ise that e tract -or it is the

#ost di--icult to keep. 8ntil no/ the $arent has repressed thehild and discounted his -eelin s. - the pro#ise is kept the hild/ill recei+e the essential support o- the $arent.

3econdl" ask the indi+idual to pro#ise ne+er a ain to allo/an"one to put hi# or his -eelin s do/n. Man" patients ha+eper#itted others to et a/a" /ith de+aluin and i norin their-eelin s or callin the# into <uestion. Their tor#entors ha+e hadno ri ht to do this but #" patients ha+e ne+er obBected to such

treat#ent. n -act the" probabl" in+ited others to de#ean the#.The" #ust no/ put a stop to this ne+er allo/in an"one to #akethe# -eel badl". sincerel" belie+e that #ost people do notintentionall" #ean to put others do/n and /hen the" are #adea/are o- the e--ect o- their actions on a -riend the" /illi##ediatel" desist. n an" case the +er" action o- in-or#inso#eone that he is causin hurt see#s to #ake it easier to keepthe -irst pro#ise not to put onesel- do/n. These -irst t/o pro#isessupple#ent each other in the asserti+eness trainin process.

The therapeutic process #ust e tract a third and -inal pro#iseNthat the indi+idual ne+er kno/in l" put an" one else do/n.

#prisoned subBects are accusto#ed to de#eanin the#sel+esand accordin l" ain so#e #easure o- co#-ort -ro# their abilit" todo the sa#e to others. Those /ho# the" attack o- course #ustinhabit prisons o- their o/n to be +ulnerable. Thus both sides-re<uentl" en a e in useless da#a in battles. & prere<uisite -ordisen a e#ent -ro# such -i htin de#ands an 7e =con+ict; no

lon er kno/in l" put others do/n.

For each o- these i#portant asserti+eness trainin pro#ises the&dult e o state #a" be pro+ided /ith an e cellent rationale /hichit can utili6e to ensure that there is al/a"s co#plete e oa ree#ent. This -urther enhances e o stren thenin . Fore a#ple the &dult accepts the hild as ood and as i#portant asan" other hu#an bein and there-ore no one has the ri ht to putthe hild do/nCnot e+en the $arent or &dult. t -ollo/s <uite

lo icall" that neither the $arent the hild nor the &dult has theri ht to put an"one else do/n.

This phase o- therap" is ad#inistered to e+er" patient re ardlesso- the proble# /ith /hich he -irst presented. - a patient can keep

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these three pro#ises he /ill re#ain -ree. on+ersel" i- he -ails tokeep an" one o- the three pro#ises he is in dan er o-

rei#prison#ent.This phase o- rehabilitation an essential part o- therap" isincluded at e+er" +isit o- e+er" patient. >ach ti#e an e =prisoneris attacked creatin a situation in /hich he /ould -or#erl" ha+ere#ained silent and thus i#plicitl" a reed /ith the attack he no/stands up -or hi#sel-. ?e ne+er re#ains unde-ended. ?is ne/ sel-=con-idence renders hi# both sel-=protecti+e and sel-=asserti+e. ?eno/ respects his o/n -eelin s thou hts and ideas ne+er

abandonin the#. 3peakin up -or hi#sel- he /ill not allo/ acriticis# o- his -eelin s to o unchallen ed.

>+er" da" that the -ree patient deals success-ull" /ith an in-rin e#ent upon his ne/l" de-ined ri hts he increases his sel-=con-idence. >ach subse<uent de-ence o- his -eelin s and opinionsbrin s ne/ respect -ro# those around hi# and consolidates hiso/n sel-=respect.

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Chapter Eight

'alse 'reedom

Prison )rea's= ut on )ail= n Pro8ation= %ini+u+ Securityand #eath Sentence

Man" prisoners -ind their -reedo# partiall" or inter#ittentl"

restricted -or +arious reasons. &#on prisoners o- the #ind /e-ind #an" indi+iduals in analo ous circu#stances the" are onl"able to achie+e -reedo# -or short periods o- ti#e.

Prison breaks

& prisoner can obtain te#porar" -reedo# b" slippin a/a" -ro#his Bailors /hen their +i ilance -la s. 8n-ortunatel" he is ne+ertrul" -ree. &l/a"s on the run -ro# the la/ he #a" be cau ht andreturned to prison to -ace an e+en #ore se+ere sentence. &noutla/ can ne+er reall" rela . ?e li+es in constant -ear o-disco+er" and is ne+er -ree o- a -eelin o- uilt.

n precisel" the sa#e /a" the enterprisin hild e o state canso#eti#es escape the +i ilance o- the $arent and -lee his prison.When he does so he presents the t"pical clinical picture o- theescapee /ho possesses o+er/hel#in sel-=con-idence. This is+astl" di--erent -ro# his appearance in prison under the control o-his Bailor the $arent.

a The +anic depressive

T"picall" the #anic depressi+e e periences periods o- deepdepression durin /hich he beco#es /ithdra/n inacti+e sad andpossibl" suicidal. These alternate /ith periods o- reat acti+it"durin /hich the patient beco#es increasin l" producti+e andcreati+e. 8n-ortunatel" throu hout each period the patientbeco#es so h"peracti+e #entall" and ph"sicall" that he e+entuall"loses control. &t such ti#es o- crisis he is no lon er able to thinkclearl" or constructi+el". ?e beco#es illo ical and #ust berestrained -or his o/n ood.

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The depression phase is essentiall" the sa#e as an" depressiondurin /hich the hild is under oin tre#endous pressure -ro# a

h"percritical puniti+e and restricti+e $arent /ho tortures the-reedo# lo+in hild b" constantl" re#indin hi# o- his cri#e/hile #etin out punish#ent. 9ut i- the $arent tires -ro# theri ors o- this dut" and rela es its usual +i ilance the hild cantake ad+anta e o- the $arent s absence -ro# his post to slip out o-prison.

&ll o- us ha+e /itnessed the /ear" harassed #other in thedepart#ent store tr"in to keep an unrul" three="ear=old in line

/ith threats o- punish#ent. When she has hi# -ir#l" b" the handhe cannot escape and a-ter a /hile he ad#its de-eat and appearsto beco#e cooperati+e. n realit" he is si#pl" a/aitin hisopportunit" to escape. >+entuall" #other s attention is distractedb" so#e article in the store and she releases her hold on hero--sprin . This is the #o#ent he has been /aitin -or and he is<uick to sei6e the opportunit". ?e sca#pers o-- deli htin in his-reedo# /anderin -ro# depart#ent to depart#ent hisi#a ination runnin riot as he e peri#ents /ith the oodies on

displa".

,o/ one o- t/o thin s #a" happen. - his departure is soon notedb" his #other she /ill i+e chase. n turn he /ill be in to rune+en -aster -ro# her althou h certain that she /ill e+entuall"catch hi# as she has done so #an" ti#es be-ore. &s his speed

athers he beco#es less coordinated and soon he -alls and isapprehended. n the process he has probabl" #ade ha+oc a#onthe #erchandise.

9ut i- #other does not notice his departure and <uickl" take upthe chase he /ill beco#e lost and -ri htened. ?e /ill cr" out -orhis #other desperatel" seekin her protection a ain no #atterho/ restricti+e it pro+es to be.

n either case he is e+entuall" recaptured and his #othere presses her anno"ance and an iet" at the e#barrass#ent and-ear that his e cursion has caused her. 3he #a" e+en spank hi#.

n an" case he /ill beco#e acutel" a/are o- her /rath and /illde#onstrate this b" cr"in and sobbin . For the duration o- theshoppin trip he /ill be contrite and al#ost docile. ?e is a bad bo"and he kno/s it.

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The #anic=depressi+e e periences a si#ilar dra#a internall". Thehild e o state te#poraril" escapes -ro# the $arent e o state and

beco#es uncontrolled as the #anic phase is reached. ?e -earsboth his lack o- control and the probabilit" o- rei#prison#ent.When the $arent does a ain i#prison hi# re#orse and uiltco#bine to render hi# e tre#el" depressed.

T"picall" the #anic depressi+e patient is +er" hi h in spirits in the#anic phase +er" lo/ in the depressi+e phase. t is #" clinicale perience that #an" people under o #ood s/in s /hich thou h-ar less dra#atic than those o- the #anic depressi+e are caused

b" the sa#e #echanis#. These #a" +ar" in intensit" and induration -ro# hours to "ears.

This pendulu# #echanis# is at the root o- all recurrent depression. t can onl" be inacti+ated b" the inter+ention o- the &dulte o in the continuin $arentA hild con-lict. &nal"ticalh"pnotherap" is one e--ecti+e /a" in /hich this can beacco#plished.

>rnest is a thirt"=three="ear=old accountant /ho ori inall"consulted /ith #e concernin inso#nia. ?e had not slept /ell -or"ears. 3o#eti#es he /ent to sleep -eelin <uite tired but -oundhi#sel- /ide a/ake onl" an hour a-ter oin to bed. &t other ti#eshe la" a/ake -or hours listenin to the clock strikin the earl"hours o- the #ornin .

>rnest li+ed alone. ?is #arria e broke do/n because o- thede#ands he put upon it. When sa/ hi# he told #e that he had

e perienced periods o- se+ere depression /hich see#ed to beheralded b" a poor sleepin pattern. @nl" #edications helped hi#to sleep and enabled hi# to co#bat the -eelin s o- hopelessnessand sadness /hich do#inated these periods o- inso#nia.

@+er the "ears he had been hospitali6ed on se+eral occasions -orperiods o- depression up to se+eral /eeks. 8nder oinelectroshock therap" on t/o occasions he belie+ed that this hadhastened his reco+er".

9et/een these periods o- depression his sleepin pattern alteredhe slept deepl" and -airl" /ell althou h he tended to a/akenearl". &t such ti#es he /as #uch #ore ener etic and producti+eb" -ar the #ost e--ecti+e partner in his -ir#. Durin the ood

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not in control o- hi#sel-. ?e beat 9ill" un#erci-ull" /ith a strapand >rnest could onl" co/er in abBect -ear a/aitin his turn. 9ut

he ne+er recei+ed his beatin because -ather /as distracted.nstead o- e periencin relie- ho/e+er >rnest -elt uilt" andresponsible -or his brother s hurt.

?e recalled se+eral other e+ents in /hich he /as 7bad;Cusuall"l"in or stealin thin s. n h"pnosis he /as able to use his &dultunderstandin to -or i+e hi#sel- -or these 7cri#es.; ?e reali6edthat such episodes /ere part o- an internal rebellion o- his hilda ainst his t"rannical $arent. ?is anti=social acts /ere not due to

an" #alice in his character but rather represented atte#pts toprotest the inBustice o- his situation.

t took <uite a /hile -or his $arent to be persuaded to accept hishild as nor#al and no /orse than an" other hild. 9ut onl" /hen

he ained the real -reedo# o- sel-=acceptance did his c"cles o-#anic depression cease.

&t the conclusion o- therap" >rnest /as able to sleep /ithout

#edication and to i+e up antidepressants or tran<uili6ers. ?e -elt+er" ood about hi#sel-. ?is /ork output i#pro+ed and le+elledo-- at a hi h but reasonable le+el so that neither he nor hise#plo"ees /ere under an" undue pressure. &t our last #eetin herelated /ith pleasure that he and his /i-e /ere seriousl"considerin co#in to ether a ain. ?e /as no lon er depressed.?is $arent e o state had at last accepted his hild and /as nolon er co#pelled to tell hi# ho/ bad he /as.

8 %ultiple personalities

$risoners ha+e been kno/n to -ind their /a" out o- poorl" uardedprisons and to re=enter b" the sa#e route lea+in no e+idence o-their te#porar" absence. 3uch prisoners ha+e e cellent alibis -oran" o--ence co##itted on the outside -or the" /ill be presu#edincarcerated all the /hile.

&uthorities consistentl" assu#e that their prison is escape proo-.

The" /ould not e+en consider the possibilit" that a prisoner couldelude their +i ilance. The" re#ain bliss-ull" una/are that one o-their char es has a #ethod o- escape and return /hich here ularl" e#plo"s.

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This /ould #ake a nice plot -or a no+el. n analo " ho/e+er thisis precisel" /hat happens /ith so#e cases o- #ultiple personalit".

The hild e o state has -ound a #eans o- escapin the oppressi+e+i ilance o- the $arent e o state. t ets -ree o- control in such a/a" that the $arent is totall" i norant o- ho/ it escapes and #a"be una/are that a breakout has in -act occurred.

The obser+er percei+es that the subBect has e perienced a suddenchan e o- #ood or personalit". 9ut the subBect su--ers -ro#periods o- a#nesia and onl" later learns that he has beha+ed in anuncharacteristic /a". ?e usuall" describes these periods as

blackouts.

&lthou h it is not eas" to understand ho/ this ri-t in the personalit" occurs so that separate and independent personalities ariseit is al/a"s the result o- reat internal con-lict due to the e tre#eoppressi+eness on the part o- the $arent e o state /hich leads the

hild to -or#ulate this unusual #eans o- te#porar" escape.

When /as -irst consulted b" >llen #an" "ears a o she /as

su--erin -ro# headaches /hich she had endured throu hout herli-e. 3he /as able to control the pain to so#e e tent throu h sel-=h"pnosis but she ca#e to #e -or anal"tical h"pnotherap" in thehope that she could eli#inate the# entirel". 3he re-erred to

7blackouts ; durin /hich she had little recollection o- /hat hadtranspired.

&-ter/ards she /ould be told that she had totall" i nored the-a#il". >n a in in a +ariet" o- artistic acti+ities she /ould

beco#e anta onistic to/ard her husband and <uite ne lect-ul o-her nor#al household duties. ?er 7blackout ; lastin -or t/o orthree da"s /ould be -ollo/ed b" an intense headache. The -a#il"she e plained e+entuall" adBusted to her 7-unn" #oods; becauseshe al/a"s see#ed to co#e out o- the# and reassu#e her usual#eticulous s/eet kind and proper sel-.

Durin anal"tical h"pnotherap" beca#e ac<uainted /ith asecondar" personalit" /ho# called Mar" (her proper -irst na#e).

Mar" in-or#ed #e that she had been i#prisoned b" >llen #an""ears pre+iousl" and that althou h she had learned to escape shecould onl" do so -or short periods.

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&t these ti#es she did /hat she trul" /anted to do. 3he con-essedthat she did not like >llen s husband and sa/ no reason /h" she

should do an"thin -or hi#. 3he did not e+en -eel #arried to hi#.3he ad#itted that she /as entirel" responsible -or >llen sheadaches /hich /ere i#posed in retaliation -or bein locked up.>llen the $arent personalit" /as a per-ectionist Mar" /as thehapp"= o=luck" hild.

With the help o- the &dult e o state /ho /as initiall" una/are o-/hat /as oin =on /e /ere able to arran e a kind o- ar#isticebet/een these t/o /arrin e o states /hich e+entuall" beca#e

-riends. Therap" took <uite a lon ti#e in this case but the headaches disappeared /hen Mar" /as -reed on a per#anent basis.Therap" ter#inated /hen Mar" >llen beca#e /hole and peace-ull"united.

ut on Bail

When the accused is put on bail he i+es an assurance to thecourt that he /ill appear at his trial. 9ail is secured /hen heplaces a #onetar" deposit /ith the court /hich /ill be -or-eited i-the accused -ails to return -or trial. 8ntil the trial date he /ill enBo"a te#porar" -reedo#. 9ut this is a -alse -reedo# -or the accusedis re<uired to report re ularl" to the court and cannot tra+el at/ill.

&lthou h he has the ri ht to be considered innocent until pro+enuilt" he ine+itabl" -eels al#ost as unco#-ortable as i- he had

alread" been con+icted. @n the de-ensi+e #uch o- the ti#e he isconstantl" thinkin o- the -orthco#in trial and the possibilit" o-an un-a+orable outco#e. Further#ore he is not certain /hen thetrial /ill take place. 8nder these circu#stances it is di--icult -orhi# to lead a nor#al li-e. ?e is onl" able to enBo" his -reedo# -orshort periods kno/in that at an" ti#e he /ill be tried perhaps-ound uilt" and i#prisoned.

&ll o- these e+ents #a" transpire in the #ental li-e o- thoseaccused o- e#otional cri#es. &n incident occurrin earl" in li-e#a" ha+e all the hall#arks o- an e#otional cri#e and "et not bebrou ht to trial until "ears later. t /ould appear as i- the hilde o state had #ana ed to bu" ti#e -ro# the $arent e o state b"pro#isin to be ood and b" pleadin -or lenienc". har es ha+e

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not been pressed at this ti#e probabl" because the +icti# o- thealle ed cri#e /as in a -or i+in -ra#e o- #ind at the ti#e o- its

co##ission.%ater in li-e /hen the char es are laid the hild is brou ht to trialand sentenced to i#prison#ent. &t this late date the ori inalchar e is pro+ed and the appropriate punish#ent ad#inistered b"the $arent.

Ma+is /as thirt"=-our "ears o- a e /hen -irst sa/ her -or treat#ent o- a persistent depression. 3he reported that she had -elt

depressed and hopeless e+er since the birth o- her son three "earspre+iousl". This state had occasionall" been so se+ere that itnecessitated hospitali6ation.

n h"pnoanal"sis /e disco+ered that Ma+is /as -our "ears o- a e/hen her brother /as born. 3he /as enuinel" deli hted b" thise+ent -or a ne/ bab" /as /elco#e in the house and she lo+edthe child intensel". &t least she did until she be an to reco ni6ethe unusual interest that her parents and her -a+orite

rand#other /ere takin in the ne/ bab". t see#ed to her thatthe" /ere particularl" pleased that he /as a bo". ?e dre/ all o-the attention o- the other -a#il" #e#bers apparentl" because he/as a bo". 3he -elt ne lected -ri htened and sad.

Full" a/are that her brother /as the cause o- her hurt one da"she screa#ed at hi# 7 hate "ou: hate "ou:; ?er #other heardher dischar e o- an er and ca#e to paci-" her. Ma+is detected thehurt in her #other s e"es and re retted her outburst. Rather than

punishin her #other picked her up and cuddled her. Ri ht thereand then Ma+is pro#ised that she /ould be ood. n -ul-ill#ent o-that pro#ise she ne+er a ain e pressed the hurt that she still-elt.

When Ma+is beca#e pre nant -or the -irst ti#e she desperatel"hoped that her bab" /ould be a irl /ho /ould e#otionall"co#pensate her -or the sister she ne+er had and /ho /ould notbe the ri+al that her brother had beco#e. ?er bab" /as a bo"

ho/e+er and Ma+is /as terribl" disappointed. 3he had so /anteda irl. 3he suddenl" -elt intensel" uilt" and be an to punishhersel- -or the cri#e co##itted thirt" "ears earlier. 3he had beenon bail all o- these "ears but no/ she had been tried and -ound

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uilt" o- hurtin her #other b" hatin her brotherCor /as it hersonI

Therap" helped Ma+is i+e hersel- an unconditional pardon -or hernatural ani#osit" to/ard her brother. 3he /as at last reall" -ree.3he no lon er needed to punish hersel- b" #eans o- depression.

n Probation

> tenuatin circu#stances #a" o-ten lead a court to be lenient/ith a con+icted cri#inal. 8nder such conditions he #a" be placedon probation /hich #eans that althou h he has broken the la/he /ill not be i#prisoned so lon as he continues to beha+ehi#sel-. Durin a certain period ho/e+er he #ust re#ain underthe super+ision o- an o--icer o- the court a probation o--icer.

n the court o- the #ind a si#ilar #echanis# #a" be set in#otion. ?o/e+er the super+ision period is not usuall" li#ited andthus continues throu hout li-e. The usual clinical picture is that o-an indi+idual /ho in in-anc" e perienced a trau#atic e#otionale+ent /hich has le-t a +er" stron i#pression. ?e has dealt /iththis e perience b" a #odi-ication o- his beha+iour /hich hasenabled hi# to -eel sa-e. This is an illusion he is not trul" sa-e. ?eis #erel" on probation.

/as consulted b" a #iddle=a ed ph"sician /ho# /ill re-er to asDa+id. ?e /as -eelin e tre#el" depressed and did not kno/ /h".?e related that he had applied -or an appoint#ent at a uni+ersit"since he had been assured that because o- his particulare pertise his application /as likel" to be success-ul.8n-ortunatel" this /as not to be the case. The uni+ersit" to /hichhe had applied sent hi# a letter o- re ret e plainin that the"/ere not able to utili6e his particular talents.

Da+id /as disappointed and surprised at the re-usal. ?o/e+er he/as e+en #ore startled b" his e#otional reaction. n the throes o-a pro-ound depression he -elt that his li-e had no real #eaninhe /as no ood. ntellectuall" he kne/ that he /as a #an o-

reat /orth but he could not -eel this at all. >#barrassed b"-indin hi#sel- constantl" in tears he ca#e to #e /ith the hopethat could help hi# disco+er the cause o- his #elanchol".

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n h"pnoanal"sis /e soon disco+ered an i#portant earl"e perience. &t his birth his #other had reBected hi#. 3he had not

e+en /anted to look at hi#. This -indin surprised hi# +er" #uchbecause consciousl" he had -elt that his #other had al/a"s been+er" proud o- his #an" achie+e#ents. ?e /as asha#ed o- the -actthat he had not been #ore concerned about her durin herli-eti#e and /as so little upset b" her death so#e -i+e "earspre+iousl". ?"pnoanal"sis led hi# to a ne/ understandin o- his#other. 3he had not been #arried to his -ather at the ti#e o- hisbirth and had probabl" -elt intensel" asha#ed o- her un#arriedstatus. &s an in-ant ho/e+er he had onl" been a/are o- her

reBection not the co#ple reasons behind it. ?e no/ understoodthat he had responded to this reBection b" decidin to e cel sothat one da" she /ould -ull" accept hi#. 8nconsciousl" ho/e+erhe had ne+er -elt that he deser+ed her acceptance.

We unco+ered a -urther e perience /hich contributed to Da+id ssense o- un/orthiness. &t the a e o- -our he en a ed in the a#eo- 7#others and -athers; /ith a little irl-riend. This is a ti#ehonoured a#e in /hich children disco+er Bust ho/ di--erent bo"s

and irls are. The" /ere disco+ered at a crucial point o- the a#eb" the little irl s #other. The shocked tone o- her +oice /as re=echoed b" his o/n #other s a little later and he concluded that hecould ne+er be trul" re arded as acceptable. 9ut he kne/ that he#ust continue to tr".

n therap" Da+id /as able to understand /h" he had al/a"s beeni#pelled to pro+e hi#sel- and he also disco+ered /h" he ne+ersee#ed to deri+e an" real satis-action -ro# his #an" triu#phs.

?is -ailure to obtain the post that he had ur entl" desiredsuddenl" precipitated hi# back into the #aelstro# o- #aternalreBectionCand all o- the pain and deBection associated /ith it. 3olon as he had been success-ul he had been able to re#ainoutside the prison o- pain and sadness but his -ailure si nalled there+ocation o- his probation. ?e /as i#prisoned but /ith the helpo- anal"tical h"pnotherap" he /as able to escape.

Da+id is no/ trul" -ree. ?e -eels that he is no lon er under a

co#pellin pressure to succeed and is pleased that he did notobtain the Bob that he had applied -or and had /anted so #uch.?e has #o+ed into a related specialt" in /hich he is happier thanhe has e+er been.

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!ini"u" Se#urity

,ot e+er"one in prison is closel" uarded at all ti#es. 3o#eprisoners ha+e da" passes /hich allo/ the# to /ork in the -ree/orld. >ach e+enin o- course these prisoners #ust return to ali htl" uarded prison but other/ise the" can consider the#sel+es-ree. 3o#e o- their -ello/ /orkers in -act #a" not kno/ thattheir #ates are prisoners althou h the" #a" be a/are that these-ello/s a+oid en a e#ents /hich /ould keep the# a/a" -ro#ho#e late in the e+enin s.

>#otional proble#s operate si#ilarl". For the +icti#s theseproble#s do not intrude #uch into their li+es. &t certain ti#esho/e+er the +icti#s are a/are o- di--iculties /hich do not appearto ha+e an" direct connection /ith their e periences o- the#o#ent. The" ha+e had to return to prison.

3ara /as a /ell=educated sel-=con-ident di+orcee in her earl"-orties enBo"in a success-ul career in Bournalis#. For so#ereason she occasionall" /ent on /hat she called -ood bin es.

When sa/ her she looked tri# and attracti+e but she con-idedthat she could put on se+eral pounds durin these bin es. The"-ri htened her because at such ti#es she -elt <uite out o- controle+en thou h she usuall" prided hersel- upon her discipline andsel-=restraint. Durin these bin es she /ould eat e+er"thin insi ht until she /as literall" so -ull that she -elt ill.

3arah did not ad#it to ha+in an" e#otional proble#s and couldnot understand /h" she should do this. 3he had been di+orced -or

#ore than -i+e "ears and e pressed no intention o- re#arr"inalthou h she had #an" opportunities. ?er teena e children /erehapp" and doin /ell at school. 3he /as -ul-illed in her /ork andher Bob /as <uite secure.

3ara kne/ these episodes o- co#pulsi+e eatin /ere i##inent/hen she e perienced -eelin s o- panic and depression. @nl" /henshe had i+en /a" to the co#pulsion to o+ereat did her nor#alrela ed cheer-ul #ood return.

n h"pnoanal"sis /e disco+ered that her apparent e#otional -reedo# /as an illusion. ?er #other had been e tre#el" disappointedin i+in birth to a irl -or both parents had reall" /anted a bo".Durin 3ara s childhood her -ather had e pressed disinterest in



her -e#inine acti+ities but /as supporti+e and enerous /ithpraise /hene+er she co#peted success-ull" in #ore #asculine

pasti#es.n therap" 3ara reco ni6ed that her -eelin s o- panic and

depression de+eloped /hene+er she allo/ed hersel- to beco#ein+ol+ed /ith a #an in a se ual /a". 3he /as con-ined to a#ini#u# securit" prison -or the cri#e o- bein a /o#an. 3hecould allo/ hersel- the appearance o- total -reedo# so lon as shedid not beco#e e cessi+el" -e#inine. ,o/ she reco ni6ed that thisrestriction upon her -e#ininit" had been a #aBor -actor in the

break=up o- her #arria e. 3he had ne+er allo/ed hersel- to bese uall" responsi+e to her husband and this had resulted in theire+entual estran e#ent.

Throu h h"pnoanal"sis she e+entuall" secured total -reedo# -ro#the prison o- reBection and sadness and /as able to enter into#ore #eanin -ul relationships /ithout the need to o+ereat.

Death Senten#e

n real li-e /hen the death penalt" has been deli+ered -or a cri#ethe e ecution is usuall" carried out <uite soon a-ter sentencinalthou h occasionall" #an" "ears and nu#erous le al /ran les#a" precede its i#ple#entation. The prisoner re#ains in hisprison cell /hile the le al process rinds on to/ards its ine+itableconclusion.

Durin the period o- /aitin the prisoner #a" recei+e pri+ile esnor#all" identi-ied /ith -reedo#. ?e can there-ore -oster theillusion o- -reedo# e+en thou h he is under a sentence o- death.

&t ti#es /e -ind a patient /ho is labourin si#ilarl" under thesentence o- death. 3uch people beha+e as i- the" ha+e a death/ish their beha+iour is suicidal. The" #a" take enor#ous risks/ith their li+es en a e in ph"sicall" dan erous occupations drinkhea+il" or take hi h doses o- dru s. The" #a" see# incapable o-#akin a nor#al reco+er" -ro# a tri+ial illness. There are #an"si#ilar /a"s in /hich the death sentence #a" #ake itsel- kno/nprior to bein carried out.

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@ne /ould ha+e thou ht that Jane co##anded all the #aterialac<uisitions she needed to be per-ectl" happ". The en+" o- her

-riends she had her o/n house and a husband /ho /ould la"do/n his li-e -or her. The t/o "oun children /ere health" andpositi+el" beauti-ul and she hersel- /as +er" attracti+e. &t thirt"she see#ed to lead a li-e o- content#entC"et she /as not happ".Jane /as o-ten e tre#el" depressed but she concealed this so/ell that -e/ o- her -riends could ha+e uessed that an"thin /asa#iss. &l/a"s s#ilin and cheer-ul Jane /as labourin under asentence o- death.

Jane ca#e to see #e because she had reat di--icult" sleepin .3he /ould a/aken earl" in the #ornin and could not et back tosleep a ain no #atter /hat #anoeu+re she e#plo"ed. onstantl"e hausted both ph"sicall" and e#otionall" she /as i#patient inher dealin s /ith her children and her husband.

@nl" a-ter a prolon ed discussion o- her sleepin proble# did shere+eal the real reason -or her +isit. 3he -re<uentl" e perienced thestron -eelin that she no lon er /anted to li+e. 3ince her

presence on earth #eant little to an"one she /ould not be #issedi- she /ere to die. 3he e plained that her #other=in=la/ enBo"ed aood relationship /ith the children and /ould be happ" to care -or

the#. ?er husband /ould soon be besie ed b" a #"riad o- /o#enea er to -ill her +acated shoes. ?er children she la#ented /ouldsoon -or et her.

in<uired /hether she /ould /ant to sta" ali+e -or her o/n sake.3he replied that she -ound li-e dull and unenBo"able death /ould

be a /elco#e release.

soon disco+ered that this stron -eelin o- /antin to step o-- theed e o- the /orld /as an old one. &t one ti#e she had beenstron l" te#pted to thro/ hersel- o-- a hi h buildin . &t anotherti#e she took a lar e <uantit" o- her #other s tran<uili6ers but#ana ed to sleep the e--ects o-- /ithout #edical treat#ent.

Jane ad#itted that she did enBo" li-e at ti#es but a part o- her

al/a"s re arded thin s c"nicall" and in a detached #anner. Thispart see#ed to conclude that the /hole business o- li+in /as Busta choreCa i antic /aste o- ti#e. &s Jane asserted repeatedl"

74ou are oin to die so#e da" so /h" /aste ti#e han inaroundI;

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&lthou h it /as clear that Jane had a stron death /ish it lateralso beca#e apparent that another part o- her /as intensel" a-raid

that she #i ht -ul-il this /ish and -or this reason she /as seekin#" help. Fortunatel" be-ore lon /e /ere able to disco+er /h"the sentence o- death had been placed upon her.

&t the a e o- t/o her older brother the onl" #ale child had beenkilled in a car accident. Man" ti#es she had heard her #other sob

7Dear Hod /h" did it ha+e to be the bo"I; The #essa e /as +er"clear to the t/o="ear=oldCHod had #ade a #istake: t shouldha+e been Jane not $eter /ho died. This #essa e had been rein

-orced b" her #other s co#plete indi--erence to her and her sisterdurin a prolon ed period o- rie-.

When Jane understood her past she /as able to et the sentenceo- death repealed and allo/ hersel- to enBo" li-e as she had a ri htto do. 3he slept co#-ortabl" and /as no lon er depressed.

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Chapter Nine

Continued Im(risonment

'ailures of Thera()

&lthou h anal"tical h"pnotherap" enBo"s a hi h success ratethere are all too #an" -ailures. Man" o- our triu#phs o- coursehad pre+iousl" -ailed to respond to an" other therapeuticapproach but so had #an" o- our -ailures. n this chapter /ouldlike to consider so#e reasons -or these -ailures because belie+ethat #uch can be learned -ro# the#.

$nade%uate Defense

&t a trial or an appeal the de-ense attorne" #ust be -ull" brie-edon all the -acts o- the case i- his presentation is to be e--ecti+e.3o#eti#es the prisoner has not re+ealed e+er"thin that he kne/about the e+ents o- /hich he stands accused. - cross=e a#inationre+eals that the de-endant kne/ #ore than he ad#itted hisde-ense collapses. Further reopenin o- the case al/a"s pro+es tobe <uite di--icult re<uirin tre#endous ener " on the part o- thead+ocate /ho #ust be con+inced o- his client s innocence.

n the practice o- anal"tical h"pnotherap" the sa#e situation canoccur. The hild #ust locate the critical e perience /hich brou htabout the ori inal cri#e and di+ul e e+er" aspect o- the e+ent tothe &dult. - -or e a#ple the hild has re+ealed that he -elt hurtdurin an e perience but concealed the -act that he /as also +er"an r" at his treat#ent his ad+ocate the &dult e o state #a" beable to persuade the $arent e o state to accept the hild s -eelin so- hurt as nor#al but the -eelin o- an er /ill still be reBected b"the $arent e o state since this has not been dealt /ith b" the

&dult. &s a conse<uence i#prison#ent continues and therap" has-ailed.

8ntil the &dult kno/s about the -eelin o- an er and can ar ue onbehal- o- the hild that this is a nor#al -eelin not a cri#e the

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$arent /ill continue /ith its ordained dut" o- restriction andrepression o- the hild. Failure to secure -reedo# can also occur

/hen an i#portant critical e perience is not re+ealed in h"pnosisso that the &dult has prepared no de-ense /hate+er to thechar es that are bein #ade.

3usan initiall" ca#e to #e because she su--ered -ro# se+ere#i raine headaches. The" usuall" be an earl" in the #ornin and/ould so#eti#es a/aken her -ro# sleep. We soon disco+ered alon -or otten e perience in /hich she had been se uall"#olested b" a "oun uncle o- /ho# she had been <uite -ond. We

decided that the repressed an er /as responsible -or herheadaches because she i##ediatel" i#pro+ed /hen she /as ableto e press these -eelin s. 3he /as deli hted at this i##ediatei#pro+e#ent but it /as inco#plete and to so#e e tent short=li+ed. &-ter a #onth o- -reedo# the headaches returned al#ost asse+erel" as be-ore.

@n -urther e a#ination /e disco+ered that she had kept back a+ital piece o- in-or#ation about the e perience. 3he no/ recalled

enBo"in considerable pleasure durin the se ual e perience and/as -eelin uilt" about her response. When she /as able toaccept that pleasure as a nor#al and ine+itable response to se ualsti#ulation and that she did not need to be asha#ed o- it shee perienced -urther relie- -ro# her headaches. When she le-ttherap" #ade it clear to her as do to all #" patients that /ould be happ" to see her a ain at an" ti#e should the needarise.

&bout a "ear later 3usan ca#e to +isit #e a ain. ?er headacheshad returned. 3he /as once a ain bottlin up her an er and her/ar# -eelin s beha+in as thou h she had no ri ht to her-eelin s. 3he reco ni6ed that her headaches /ere a conse<uenceo- the repression o- these nor#al responses.

&t this ti#e in #" career /as be innin to reali6e the i#portanceo- the birth and prenatal e periences. 3ince had not pre+iousl"e plored these /ith 3usan no/ did so and /e disco+ered that

her birth e perience /as critical. 3he had been the -ourth irl inthe -a#il" but her parents had been desperatel" hopin -or a bo".&s she ree perienced her birth 3usan heard the doctor sa" 7 t sanother irl:; Whereupon her #other e clai#ed in a disappointed+oice 7@h no not another irl:; To #ake #atters /orse her

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-ather repeated these /ords in #uch the sa#e tone. There andthen she reali6ed that she had done so#ethin <uite un-or i+able.

Fro# the #o#ent o- her birth 3usan /as on probation.@nl" /hen 3usan had passed throu h the second critical e perience /as she -inall" con+icted o- the cri#e o- bein a irl. - shehad not been a irl the #olestation /ould not ha+e occurred. Thean er and hurt o- this e perience /as repressed as /ere an"/ar# or lo+in -eelin s that she had e perienced at the ti#e. ?erpunish#ent /as #i raine.

3usan /as no/ able to #obili6e all o- her &dult understandin inthe de-ense o- her hild. 3he reco ni6ed that no #atter ho/disappointed her parents had been at her birth she had notco##itted an" cri#e b" bein born a irl and that this in an"case had nothin /hate+er to do /ith her uncle s #altreat#ent o-her. 3he reali6ed that she had reBected hersel- and her -e#ininit"and that #ost o- her headaches occurred /hene+er she /ascau ht up in this sel-=reBection.

Fear of Freedo"

We kno/ that #an" cri#inals beco#e an ious about theiri#pendin release to/ard the end o- their sentence pri#aril"because the" are -aced /ith the +er" real proble# o- #aintainintheir social and econo#ic independence. The" understand thatboth o- these tasks /ill be di--icult so#eti#es e+en insuperable.&n e =prisoner #ust be capable o- a tre#endous a#ount o-adBust#ent and adaptation. - he is not he #a" return to a li-e o-cri#e si#pl" to be a#on -riends in a -a#iliar en+iron#ent. %i-e/ithout the# is too -ri htenin l" isolated and lonel".

Most prisoners ha+e e perienced -reedo# prior to the cri#e thatled to their i#prison#ent. t is +er" rare -or a prisoner to ha+ebeen born in prison but this is precisel" /hat has happened to#an" o- #" patients. The" ha+e ne+er kno/n /hat it is like to be-ree. %ibert" -or the# carries all the -ears o- the unkno/n and isthus #ore -ri htenin than an"thin /hich prison has to o--er.

& si ni-icant nu#ber o- patients do not /ant to be -ree. nitiall"the" are +er" cooperati+e and appear to desire a cure. ?a+intried #an" therapies /ithout achie+in an" de ree o- success



the" bla#e the therapies -or their -ailures and co#e toh"pnotherap" as a last resort. t soon beco#es apparent that the"

-ear success /hen the" resist an" atte#pt to unco+er the criticale perience. @r i- such unco+erin has been success-ul the" /ill/ithstand an" atte#pt to deal /ith it e+en to the e tent o-discontinuin therap" on an" a+ailable prete t. 3uch e cuses as

7 t /asn t doin an" ood; or 7 t /asn t /hat had e pected.; areco##on. ha+e co#e to respect a patient s /ishes to re#ain inprison. ?e has the ri ht to #ake this choice and no lon er -eelthat the techni<ues o- h"pnotherap" can be held responsible -orthese -ailures. @- course hope that such people /ill e+entuall"

chan e their #inds and decide to tr" li-e on the outside.

ha+e al/a"s #ade it clear to these patients /hen ha+e beenable to reestablish co##unication /ith the# that should bepleased to resu#e /ork /ith the# at an" ti#e but -e/ ha+eaccepted this o--er. The prospect o- -reedo# has been too-ri htenin .

$nade%uate Rehabilitation

n so#e cases our prisoners ha+e escaped -ro# their con-ines+er" success-ull" and are s"#pto# -ree but the" are so ill=e<uipped to deal /ith proble#s i#posed b" -reedo# that the"relapse. The" ha+e returned to the onl" securit" the" ha+e kno/ne+en thou h this #eans relin<uishin the -reedo# so recentl"ac<uired. The 7cure; has been short=li+ed the therap" is re ardedas a -ailure.

can use Joan as an e a#ple. &t -ort"=-i+e she /as an alcoholic.3he had endured a +er" checkered li-e to sa" the least. ?erparents had separated /hen she /as three "ears o- a e and sheand her brothers had been split upCsent to -oster ho#es and atone ti#e an institution. When #et Joan her second #arria e/as on the rocks lar el" because o- her drinkin /hich hadcreated #an" proble#s -or her includin a serious dri+inaccident /hich had resulted in a prison sentence o- se+eral#onths duration. &t present she /as not takin proper care o-hersel- or o- her ho#e.

t /as ob+ious at our -irst #eetin that Joan /as a +er"disconsolate cheerless person. 3he /as apolo etic about

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e+er"thin that she said or did al#ost as i- she /as apolo i6in-or sharin the air /ith other people.

When asked Joan i- she liked hersel- she ans/ered /ith ane#phatic 7,o.; /ould ha+e been +er" surprised had sheresponded other/ise. Fortunatel" she /as able to enter h"pnosis<uite easil" and <uickl" located her -irst critical #o#ent in thebirth e perience.

3hortl" a-ter she /as born she heard her #other sa" 7 don t/ant his blood" kid:; 3he kne/ i##ediatel" that she had no

business bein born. This /as con-ir#ed later durin anothercritical e perience /hen she recalled hearin her #other and-ather in a drunken bra/l -i htin o+er her. ?er -ather bello/ed

73he s not #" blood" kid:; and her #other replied 7 /ish she/asn t. /ish d ne+er had her at all.; 3hortl" a-ter this episodeshe be an to -eel +er" desolate and a-raid as she /as beinshipped o-- to a stran e house and stran e people -ollo/in the-inal breakdo/n o- her parents #arria e. 3he /as no/ certain o-her cri#e. 3he should ne+er ha+e been born.

ncapable o- e pressin the hurt to an"one she e+en repressed it-ro# hersel-. n h"pnosis ho/e+er she /as able to et in touch/ith this -eelin -or the +er" -irst ti#e in her li-e. Withencoura e#ent she /as able to deal /ith it and relin<uish it as anoutdated and unnecessar" -eelin .

For a ti#e all /ent /ell. 3he stopped drinkin the alcohol sheactuall" disliked took care o- hersel- and her ho#e and be an to

like hersel-. 3he -elt so ood that she decided to discontinuetherap". For a ti#e she succeeded be"ond her /ildest drea#s butsuddenl" thin s /ent /ron and she turned once a ain to alcohol-or support. 3he /as back in prison.

When she returned to therap" /e asked oursel+es /hat /ent/ron I We soon disco+ered that she had not been read" -or the#an" accusations she had to endure. The /orst ca#e -ro# her/hen she had disco+ered that her o/n dau hter /as hea+il" into

dru takin C the direct result o- e#otional and ph"sical da#a ein-licted b" #other (Joan) /hen she /as drunk. Fortunatel" it didnot take Joan lon to reco+er the stron -eelin s o- sel-=/orth thatshe needed to shoulder the -ull responsibilities -or all o- heractions. 3uch -eelin s o- /orthiness #ust be /ell=established

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be-ore rehabilitation can be re arded as co#plete -or an"one /hohas been i#prisoned in the Bail o- the #ind.

a# pleased to report that Joan has e perienced no -urtherproble#s /ith alcohol and has been able to deal /ith #an" o- herproble#s /ithout losin an" o- the sel-=respect and sel-=acceptance /hich is +ital to -reedo#.

Those o- us /ho are /orkin intensi+el" /ith anal"tical h"pnotherap" are beco#in increasin l" a/are that it is ne+er su--icient#erel" to unco+er the critical e periences deal /ith the# and

e pect a per#anent cure. & lastin cure can onl" be ensured i-there has been ade<uate rehabilitation.

Apparent Therapeuti# Failure

,ot all therapeutic -ailures are real. n -act so#e o- the# are not-ailures at all. n certain cases the s"#pto#s -or /hich the patientattended therap" ha+e apparentl" not been eli#inated but onclose scrutin" the patient does indeed -eel entirel" -ree and hasresol+ed the proble# underl"in the presentin s"#pto#. t/ould see# that the patient has #erel" altered his oals.

ha+e o-ten seen this happen in cases o- obesit". &sh"pnoanal"sis proceeded it beca#e +er" clear that the <uestiono- #ental -reedo# not /ei ht loss /as central. When this-reedo# had been achie+ed the obesit" beca#e a #ini#alconcern. o#pulsi+e eatin and the co#pulsi+e need to dietceased. ha+e noted that these people ha+e -re<uentl" lost /ei ht

raduall" o+er the ne t -e/ "ears.

The onl" /a" to Bud e the true e--ecti+eness o- therap" is to askthe patient are "ou no/ satis-ied /ith "oursel-I - the ans/er tothis <uestion is an un<uali-ied 74es ; the treat#ent has been asuccess.

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Chapter Ten

The *e)

nal)tical H)(nothera()

This book is not about h"pnosis. t concerns the use o- h"pnosis ina particular sphere o- hu#an e perienceCe#otional distress anddisorder. ?"pnosis has probabl" been praised and decried #orethan an" other #edical treat#ent since it /as -irst i+en notoriet"b" Dr. &nton Mes#er under the na#e o- ani#al #a netis#.

Man" students o- h"pnosis ha+e clai#ed that the process /illproduce #ar+elous cures /hereas others ha+e countered thath"pnosis si#pl" does not e ist: 3o lon as /e continue to seek -ora speci-ic state o- #ind /hich /e can con-identl" label h"pnosisthis con-usion /ill continue and the contro+ers" about /hath"pnosis can achie+e /ill ra e unabated. ?"pnosis cannot andshould not be re arded as a clearl" de-inable state si#ilar -ore a#ple to anesthesia.

We kno/ that /hen a speci-ic dose o- an anesthetic such as etheror chloro-or# is ad#inistered certain predictable results occur.The patient beco#es dro/s" and e+entuall" loses consciousnessno lon er capable o- respondin to sti#ulation. - he isad#inistered an o+erdose he /ill die.

>+er since deter#ined e--orts to de-ine h"pnosis ha+e been #adea eneral understandin o- it has been ha#pered b" atte#pts todra/ parallels bet/een h"pnosis and anesthesia. This isun-ortunate since there is no si#ilarit" /hate+er bet/een the t/o.We still speak o- 7 oin under; h"pnosis e+en thou h there isne+er an" loss o- consciousness. ,o one oes to sleep in h"pnosisno #atter ho/ si#ilar the conditions #a" super-iciall" appear.

Man" o- our di--iculties in understandin h"pnosis ha+e arisen-ro# the use o- it as entertain#ent on the sta e in no+els and ontele+ision. When /e /itness a sta e de#onstration o- h"pnosis/e obser+e #an" pheno#ena /hich su est that the h"pnotist is

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e ertin reat po/ers o+er his subBect. ?e appears to be able toco##and his subBect to do an"thin he /ishes. Man" no+els

e#plo" this the#e o- the do#ination o- one person o+er anotherthrou h h"pnosis. We e+en use the /ord 7h"pnoti6ed; to indicatea state o- po/erlessness.

n realit" these entertain#ents teach us little about the truenature o- h"pnosis. & person in h"pnosis taps the i##ense andlar el" une plored po/ers o- his o/n unconscious #ind not thoseo- the #ind o- the person /ho ad#inistered a h"pnoticsu estion. ronicall" -e/ people ha+e reali6ed that this po/er

resides /ithin the#sel+es not /ithin the h"pnotist. n truth allh"pnosis is sel-=h"pnosis.

3tran e #"ths ha+e been e ploited and enlar ed b" the stor"teller and the sta e h"pnotist but the truth is -ar stran er thanthe -iction. hope in these pa es to i+e "ou so#e understandino- the real /onder o- h"pnosis.

?u#an bein s ha+e achie+ed their do#inant status in the ani#al

/orld b" de+elopin the brain to enco#pass a -ar superior intellience. Much o- the brain is anato#icall" and ph"siolo icall"si#ilar to that o- lo/er ani#als but the corte o- the brain is sohi hl" de+eloped that it possesses rational <ualities un#atched b"an" #an#ade co#puter and unsurpassed b" an"thin kno/n inthe rest o- the ani#al kin do#. This thinkin critical brain hasde+eloped -ro# a -ar less critical but ne+ertheless hi hl" co#plepri#iti+e ner+ous s"ste# /hose potential has ne+er -ull" beenreali6ed.

n h"pnosis the acti+it" o- this hi hl" critical part o- the brain isso#e/hat suspended. ?"pnosis occurs naturall" durin reatstress or /hene+er the deepl" i#a inati+e resources o- theunconscious #ind are called upon. This also happens /hen /e arein concentrated thou ht. Whene+er /e turn to these hi hl"i#a inati+e parts o- the #ind and te#poraril" suspend the criticalparts /e are e#plo"in the process o- h"pnosis.

For so#e reason at present not understood -i+e to ten percent o-the population can s/itch o-- their critical #ind co#pletel". Thesedeepl" h"pnoti6able people able to accept su estions <uiteuncriticall" are those /ho ha+e been the subBect o- e ploitation-or entertain#ent purposes b" the sta e h"pnotist. The" ha+e

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i+en h"pnosis a reputation it reall" does not deser+e. 3uchpeople can readil" i#a ine thin s that are su ested to the# so

that /hen the sta e h"pnotist tells the# the" are oin to sleepthe" si#ulate the act so /ell that the" belie+e the#sel+es to beasleep.

,inet" percent o- the population does not possess this re#arkable-acilit" to entirel" dis#iss the critical -acult". @nl" a s#all #inorit"o- deepl" h"pnoti6able subBects can s/itch o-- the conscious #indso co#pletel" that the" do not recall /hat transpired durin thatperiod.

Fortunatel" -or the h"pnotherapist and his patients the #aBorit"o- people are able to reduce their conscious critical #ental acti+it"su--icientl" to allo/ the unconscious i#a ination to -unction -reel".This enables su estions to be accepted and acted upon. Whenthe" are readil" accepted /e re-er to the subBect as beinsu estible.

We #ust not con-use su estibilit" /ith ullibilit". The ullible

person e ercises a poor and inade<uate critical -acult" at all ti#es/hereas the su estible person #a" ha+e an e cellent critical-acult" but is able to dis#iss it to so#e de ree /hen he sochooses.

?"pnosis is not a state but a process. t allo/s us to co##unicateideas or su estions to the inner and unconscious i#a inati+e parto- the #ind.

9" stud"in the abilit" o- the +er" hi hl" i#a inati+e people /hocan co#pletel" dis#iss the critical #ind /e ha+e been able tolearn #uch about the potential o- the unconscious i#a ination. tcan do #an" /onder-ul thin s in controllin the bod". Forinstance it can accept the idea o- anesthesia and produce itse--ect in a desi nated area o- the bod" as po/er-ull" as an"che#ical. When the unconscious #ind has accepted the idea o-pain relie- it can readil" acco#plish this. The process o-co##unicatin the idea is h"pnosis.

The co##unication o- an" acceptable idea its unconsciousacceptance and the subse<uent action is the process o- h"pnosis.9" this #eans the tre#endous resources o- the unconscious #indcan be tapped. &t this point /ould like to e press #" belie- that

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the reat -uture ad+ances in #edicine /ill -ocus stron l" upon thesi ni-icance o- h"pnosis. The unconscious #ind contains +ast and

see#in l" unli#ited resources -or healin /hich are "et to bee ploited.

n this book /e are concerned /ith the abilit" o- the unconscious#ind to unco+er #e#ories o- e periences /hich ha+e beenrecorded b" the brain but retained /ell belo/ the le+el o- ordinar"conscious #e#or". >+er" e perience that /e under o is -aith-ull"recorded so#e/here in the unconscious #ind.

&n" techni<ue /hich per#its or -acilitates co##unication /ith theunconscious #ind is a techni<ue o- h"pnosis. We o-ten hear o- the#ar+elous #editation practices o- the Far >ast /hich enable thepractitioners to control the heart rate lo/er the bod" te#peratureor sur+i+e so#e unusual ordeal. Transcendental #editation alsoenables people to -eel healthier and #ore at ease. &n" techni<ue/hich rela es the conscious #ind su--icientl" /ill enable theunconscious #ind to e#plo" its resources in i#pro+in #ental andph"sical health.

?"pnotherapists e#plo" #an" di--erent #ethods to -acilitate thisco##unication /ith the unconscious #ind. Whate+er techni<ue isused the pri#e obBecti+e is to rela the conscious #ind so that it/ill not inter-ere /ith the natural responses o- the unconscious.The #ore in+ol+ed the subBect beco#es in the process o-rela ation the easier the responses to su estion.

t should be e#phasi6ed that so#e people ha+e reat di--icult" in

relin<uishin +oluntar" control o- their #inds and cannot beco#edeepl" in+ol+ed in the h"pnotic process. The" #a" -eel that the"ha+e not been in-luenced b" su estions in an" /a". t so#eti#esco#es as a surprise to these people that the unconscious #ind istakin so#e heed o- the su estions and e+entuall" #akesappropriate and e--ecti+e responses.

&ypnoanalysis

ha+e -ound that certain i#portant steps #ust be co#pleted -ore--ecti+e h"pnoanal"sis to occur.

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.- "ocation of the first critical e<perience

@nce the appropriate co##unication has been established /iththe unconscious #ind the -irst step is to disco+er the patient sinitial critical e perience. The unconscious #ind #ust be directedto locate the +er" -irst e+ent /hich e+oked -eelin s o- uilt sha#eor e#barrass#ent. $rior to the ad+ent o- h"pnotherap" thisapproach /as +irtuall" i#possible because the e perience /as sorarel" accessible to the conscious #e#or" particularl" /hen the-irst critical e+ent /as natal or pre=natal.

This earliest critical e perience is usuall" associated /ith unco#-ortable -eelin s so#e o- /hich the patient #a" beco#e a/are o--or the -irst ti#e. @ccasionall" the e perience is so disco#-ortinthat perception o- it is e tre#el" li#ited. ?o/e+er a -ri hteninor pain-ul -eelin #ust be -aced /ith coura e. The unconscious#ind has located this e perience b" the si#ple process o- tracinthe unco#-ortable -eelin to its source.

The patient #a" or #a" not be able to deter#ine the details o-

this e perience at a conscious le+el. &part -ro# satis-"in hiscuriosit" his detailed conscious kno/led e o- the actualcircu#stances is not necessar" -or the ne t essential step.

0- ,dentification of the repressed feeling

When the critical e perience has been located the repressede#otionsCsadness an er -ear or a co#bination o- an" or all o-these -eelin sC/ill e#er e. 3o#eti#es the -eelin has all the

intensit" o- the ori inal e+ent and it is +er" i#portant to allo/ ane perience to -ull" release its associated -eelin s. &n intense-eelin reachin conscious a/areness is called an abreaction sinceit is a reaction -ro# the ori inal cause o- tension -ree -ro# an"repressi+e action.

2- Acceptance of the repressed e+otion

The ori inall" repressed e#otion has been un-elt and has there

-ore not been accepted. This ne t i#portant step in therap" is theacceptance o- this repressed e#otion. - the patient has been ableto e perience the e#otion in its ori inal intensit" he has alsobeen able to ad#it it. t is an e#otion that is ri ht-ull" his and heneed no lon er be asha#ed o- it. This acceptance #arks an

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The patient al/a"s attains a pro-ound sense o- peace at this sta e.When he has -ound a satis-actor" solution he /ill de+elop a sense

o- sel-=acceptance and /holeness /hich he had pre+iousl" lacked.?e /ill be able to sa" that he is as ood and as i#portant as an"other hu#an bein Cand he /ill no/ -eel that this is true.

- an" part o- the #ind has di--icult" acceptin its essential 7@. .=ness ; other critical e periences #ust be subBected toh"pnoanal"sis. The" #ust be located and e a#ined and therepressed e#otion reco ni6ed accepted and relin<uished. @nl"/hen all repressed e#otion has been -reed /ill the patient be -ree.

This phase o- h"pnoanal"sis #ust be co#pleted /ith care andthorou hness.

n sta e 1 throu h h"pnosis /e ha+e initiall" #ade contact /ith allthe #e#ories o- e+ents contained in the three e o states.

n sta e 2 the hild e o state "ields repressed -eelin s. &n" uilt/e disco+er is caused b" the $arent e o state /hich re#inds the

hild e o state that the e pression o- certain e#otions #a" brin

about the real parent s disappro+al. - the e#otion at therecollection o- this e perience is intense as in an abreaction thenthe $arent e o state s repressi+e -orces ha+e -ailed. The patient sreali6ation that the disaster -orecast b" the $arent does not -ollo/is therapeutic in per#anentl" -reein the pre+iousl" repressede#otion.

n sta e indications that the repressed e#otion has no/ beenaccepted usuall" -ollo/ &dult inter+ention on the hild s behal-

pleadin to the $arent that this e#otion is indeed per#issible. The&dult has been able to persuade the $arent that he need no lon erpre+ent the hild -ro# e pressin that -eelin .

n sta e G reco nition o- the current irrele+ance o- the pre+iousl"repressed e#otion -ollo/s the &dult reasonin /ith the hild thatthin s ha+e no/ chan ed that he is ro/n up. ?e can deal /iththe proble# in a #ore #ature #anner so that the particulare#otion /hich no lon er ser+es a use-ul purpose can be

discarded.

3ta e 5 #a" re<uired all o- the in enuit" o- the &dult e o state to-ind a #eans to i+e up an outdated e#otion. This sta e is +er"i#portant.

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Whate+er #eans the &dult e o state -inds it #ust be acceptableto both the $arent and the hild and #ust be utili6ed b" the#

be-ore the con-lict o+er this particular issue co#es to an end. &tthis Buncture h"pnoanal"sis proper is also co#pleted.

Throu hout the h"pnoanal"tical procedure the -unda#entalassu#ption #aintains that the &dult e o state can -ind a solutionunderl"in the $arentA hild con-lict pro+ided it is i+en su--icientin-or#ation. The h"pnotherapist #ust skil-ull" use thesetechni<ues to pr" such in-or#ation -ro# the unconscious#e#ories o- the $arent and the hild. ?e #ust also persuade both

the hild and the $arent that the resolution o- their con-lict is intheir #utual best interest.

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Chapter Eleven

The Prisoner

Psy#hoso"ati# disorders, Diseases of addi#tion,'"otional disorders

The prisoner in his cell spends lon hours broodin o+er his pastand drea#in about -reedo#. 9ut the re" /alls and the prisonbars brin hi# back to realit" be-ore his -antasies a--ord hi# an"relie-.

@nce he tried to escape. ?e laid elaborate sche#es -or eludin theuards and slippin throu h the door to -reedo# but he /as

unsuccess-ul. The uards /ere not -ooled b" his ruses and thechains that bound hi# /ithstood his assaults. ,o/ /ith all hope

one his sentence see#s to stretch on endlessl" ahead o- hi#.

- "ou -eel like this prisoner "ou are -ull" a/are that the onl" /a"to lea+e prison -ore+er is to ain a co#plete pardon. &ll otherescapes pro+ide but a te#porar" release. & -ull pardon in+ol+es areassess#ent o- the cri#e -or /hich "ou ha+e been i#prisoned.The e+idence -or con+iction #ust be reheard and all o- thear u#ents a ainst "our i#prison#ent #ust be +i orousl"presented b" a /ell=in-or#ed ad+ocate. ?"pnotherap" is an

e cellent #eans b" /hich this #a" be acco#plished.

- "ou are not certain /hether "our #ind is i#prisoned care-ull"re+ie/ the case histories alread" described. $ersons /ho su--er-ro# ps"choso#atic disorders are i#prisoned. &n"one /ho isstricken b" ine plicable an ieties and depressions phobias or an"o- the ph"sical disorders /hich are kno/n to ha+e an e#otionalori in or co#ponent is also i#prisoned. Medical practitioners toda"ackno/led e an i#portant e#otional co#ponent in the cause o-

such illnesses as heart disease arthritis h"pertension and e+encancer.

t is -airl" ob+ious that an"one su--erin -ro# a dru addiction isi#prisoned. The addiction itsel- is an additional chain that restricts

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and binds the su--erer. &n"one /ho is unable to -unction satis-actoril" in nor#al social or se ual settin s is a #ental prisoner. n

each o- these circu#stances the #ind is i#prisoned b" an idea/hich cripples and pre+ents it -ro# -unctionin -reel".

4ou #a" ha+e reco ni6ed "oursel- in one o- these cate ories butperhaps "ou are still not sure. ?o/ can "ou deter#ine /hether ornot "ou are i#prisonedI &sk "oursel- 7Do -eel -reeI &# able toe press #" -ull potentialI Do -eel content /ith the person that a#I Do like #"sel-I;

- "ou can ans/er 74es; to all o- these <uestions "ou enBo" reat-reedo#. trust that this book /ill enable "ou to direct others /hoare not so -ortunate.

3hould "ou reco ni6e "oursel- as a prisoner ho/e+er "ou need toact. The escapes that "ou ha+e read about ha+e been en ineered/ith the aid o- h"pnosis. belie+e that an"one /ho /ants to break-ree should seek the help o- a reputable h"pnotherapist /ho /illhelp hi# disco+er those e periences /hich ha+e led hi# to lock up

a part o- his -eelin #ind so that he no/ -unctions /ell belo/ hispotential.

8n-ortunatel" +er" -e/ people ha+e access to a skilled h"pnotherapist or to an" therapist /ho can help the# in this /a". &ll isnot lost ho/e+er. 4ou can do a reat deal -or "oursel- to locate"our prison and identi-" the #eans o- escape.

n each o- us there is an i#partial part o- the personalit" /hich

assesses in-or#ation and e perience in a rational non=Bud #ental-ashion. @ur &dult e o state is continuousl" atherin ne/in-or#ation about the /orld /e li+e in. This e o state reco ni6esinconsistencies in our +ie/s and helps us to #ake intelli entreasonable decisions.

3o#e o- the li-e decisions /e base our present +ie/s upon /ere#ade lon be-ore this part o- us /as in possession o- the +asta#ount o- in-or#ation it no/ possesses. Whene+er it is called

upon to do so our &dult can render an updated opinion on an olddecision. t can al/a"s help us re+ise a decision that has resultedin #ental i#prison#ent.

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Self !orth

Do "ou -eel that "ou are as ood and as i#portant as e+er" otherhu#an bein I - "ou are a #ental prisoner "ou probabl" do not-eel that ood. &t ti#es "ou #a" -eel like an intruder an outsiderCno sense o- belon in no secure habitation.

4et "ou kno/ that this cannot be true. 4ou are a hu#an bein andha+e as #uch ri ht on this planet as an"one else. $erhaps "oulack so#e ph"sical attributes enBo"ed b" others but "ou canreadil" see that all hu#an bein s ha+e so#e i#per-ections. 4ou

#a" not be as i-ted as so#e o- "our -riends but neither are "ouas dull or unin-or#ed as others.

Despite the -act that "ou 7kno/; "ou are as ood and asi#portant as others "ou are unable to -eel that /a". Wh"I9ecause "ou ha+e been i#prisoned -or a cri#e resultin -ro# "oure periences and "our $arent e o state is constantl" su##oninup "our uilt /hich pre+ents "ou -ro# -eelin as ood as "ouha+e a ri ht to -eel.

There is no den"in that "ou once acted in a /a" that /asunacceptable to so#eone close to "ou or "ou +ented a -eelinthat could not be ad#itted. 9ut /as that reall" a cri#eI >+en i- it/ere #ust "ou continue to punish "oursel- a-ter these #an""earsI

Huilt ensues /hen "ou lock up a part o- "our #ind so e--ecti+el"that it cannot accept "our proper /orth. 4ou /ould like to heed

"our &dult /hich i+es assurance that "ou are Bust as ood asan"one else but uilt -eelin s inter-ere. 8ntil "ou can -ind out /h""ou still -eel uilt" "ou cannot accept the liberated -eelin o-bein a /orth/hile hu#an bein .

?o/ can "ou reach the source o- the proble#I ?"pnosis can besthelp us obtain the in-or#ation /e seek. >+en li ht h"pnosis ise tre#el" e--ecti+e in this respect and since ninet"=-i+e percent o-the population can enter this state h"pnoanal"tical techni<ues can

be used /ith the #aBorit" o- #ental prisoners.

9e-ore /e e a#ine ho/ to do this ho/e+er let us look #oreclosel" at the -ace o- the prisoner.

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The *ace of the Prisoner

The troubled prisoner usuall" turns to a ph"sician or so#e othercounselor -or help. 9ut the e#otional ele#ent o- his proble# #a"be so /ell concealed that it escapes the detection o- the #ostastute obser+er.

The Psychoso+atic #isorders

&ll ps"choso#atic disorders are b" de-inition the result o- #entali#prison#ent. The list o- illnesses /hich can be ter#ed

ps"choso#atic ro/s lon er e+er" da". 3uch disorders#as<uerade as purel" ph"sical illnesses but are directl" related toe#otional proble#s. &lthou h all illnesses probabl" ha+e ane#otional co#ponent this ele#ent is the precipitatin -actor inps"choso#atic illness.

%igraine and Tension Headaches

&lon /ith tension headaches #i raine is the co##onest

proble# -or /hich the help o- h"pnotherap" is sou ht. Mi raine isbelie+ed to result -ro# the e--ects o- tension upon the blood+essels o- the head. This tension initiall" causes the +essels tocontract but rela ation at a later ti#e allo/s the# to dilatecausin the t"pical pain. When the #uscles o- the head ratherthan the blood +essels contract tension headaches result.

on+entional therap" is restricted to ad#inisterin rest or dru s-or the relie- o- pain and tension. >r ot and its deri+ati+es are

used speci-icall" -or #i raine because o- their abilit" to contractthe pain-ull" dilated blood +essels relie+in the pressure -ro#tender ner+e endin s in the head. 9" contrast direct su estion inh"pnosis sti#ulates the healin po/ers o- the unconscious #ind.These po/ers can duplicate an" o- the use-ul e--ects o- dru s/ithout causin side e--ects.

$h"sicians reco ni6e that treatin a #i raine headache a-ter it hasbeco#e established is #uch like closin the stable door a-ter the

horse has bolted. The" atte#pt to pre+ent attacks b" counsellinthe patient to a+oid con-licts /hich create tension or the"prescribe dru s /hich keep the patient rela ed. The anal"ticalh"pnotherapist reco ni6es that the tension /hich precipitates#i raine is present -or a ood reason e+en thou h that reason is

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probabl" out o- date and out o- step /ith the patient s presentadult li-e. The +icti# is una/are o- the e#otional trap in /hich he

is i#prisoned. @nl" /hen he has unlocked his #ind can he be -ree-ro# the headaches.

&ll anal"tical h"pnotherap" patients are tau ht sel-=h"pnosis sothat the" #a" use autosu estion durin an attack to relie+e pain.?o/e+er /e do not -eel that therap" is totall" success-ul until the#i raine su--erer is co#pletel" -ree o- headaches. The patient canthen use his sel-=h"pnosis to et in touch /ith his o/n +ast unconscious resources -or other use-ul purposes.

Mi raine su--erers are usuall" trapped in the prison o- an er. The"stubbornl" retain old repressed an er about /hich the" still -eel

uilt". Whene+er the" -ind the#sel+es in a situation in /hich the"e perience nor#al hu#an an er it too is repressed /ith uilt. Theresultin tension causes the initial contraction o- the blood +esselso- the head and #i raine naturall" -ollo/s.

Rarel" do #i raine su--erers reali6e the po+ert" o- their li+es until

the" resol+e their tensions. 3uddenl" the" be in to e perience a Bo" in li+in that the" had not pre+iousl" kno/n includin an increased sense o- sel-=con-idence and /ell=bein .

Asth+a

&sth#a is enerall" considered an aller ic condition. The bronchialtubes o- the asth#atic respondin in an o+erl" sensiti+e #annerto substances in the air contract so stron l" on #eetin these

substances that the" block the su--erer s -lo/ o- air #akinbreathin di--icult. The no ious substance is e--ecti+el" kept outbut so is +ital o " en. &sth#a is a classic e a#ple o- a protecti+eresponse /hich has beco#e har#-ul.

&lthou h asth#a is considered to be pri#aril" o- aller ic ori inand thus #a" be controlled b" dru s include it here becauseattacks o- asth#a can be precipitated b" purel" e#otional -actors.

n -act al#ost an" aller ic response can be reproduced b" purel"

e#otional -actors and all aller ic illnesses #a" be associated /itha #ore or less si ni-icant e#otional ele#ent.

8n-ortunatel" the asth#a su--erer is usuall" una/are o- thee istence o- an" e#otional proble#. ?e is -re<uentl" #isled into

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restrictin his search -or the cause to aller ic -actors /here -e/ ornone reall" e ist.

When the si ni-icance o- the e#otional -actors has been reconi6ed doctors /arn patients to a+oid con-licts and prescribesedati+es or tran<uili6ers. This approach is so#eti#es e--ecti+ebut is rarel" co#pletel" satis-actor".

&nal"tical h"pnotherap" enables the asth#a su--erer to locate thee#otional causes o- his asth#a so that he can deal /ith the# inan appropriate /a". Mean/hile the asth#a su--erer can be tau ht

to use sel-=h"pnosis to control the spas# o- the bronchial tubesdurin attacks.

The asth#atic is trapped in a prison o- pain and sadness. ?e is notallo/ed to -eel his hurt. ?e is unable to cr" -or his bronchial tubesare holdin back his tears b" their contractions. &n" situationrese#blin that in /hich he unconsciousl" -eels hurt or reBection#a" precipitate this repressi+e #echanis#.

Peptic &lcer

3to#ach and duodenal ulcers strike ner+ous indi+iduals. &ll o- usha+e e perienced 7butter-lies in the sto#ach; and /e all ha+ebeen a/are o- tension in the abdo#en. 3o#e people /ill e+en+o#it or ha+e diarrhea /hen the" are e#otionall" disturbed.There-ore it is eas" to understand ho/ sto#ach ulcers occur inthose /ho are constantl" tense.

The usual therap" -or peptic ulcers consists in the ad#inistrationo- #edicines and a diet /hich reduces the acid content o- thesto#ach. Tension=reducin tran<uili6ers are also -re<uentl"ad#inistered. 8lcer su--erers are ad+ised to a+oid con-lict.

Direct su estion in h"pnosis can o-ten duplicate the acco#plish#ent o- dru s. &nal"tical h"pnotherap" patients additionall"bene-it -ro# learnin to use sel-=h"pnosis -or these e--ects /hilesi#ultaneousl" disco+erin the source o- the tension responsible

-or their sto#ach disorder. Most o- these patients are locked in theprison o- an er.

Colitis

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There are #an" na#es -or the di--erent disturbances o- the bo/elin /hich recurrent diarrhea constipation and abdo#inal pain are

present. 3o#e o- these ha+e a de-inite or anic basis but the#aBorit" can properl" be considered ps"choso#atic. 3uch cases/ill probabl" respond te#poraril" to the rela in e--ect o- directsu estion in h"pnosis but success-ul h"pnoanal"sis /ill produce#ore per#anent results.

When the patient is -reed -ro# his prisonClikel" one o- -earChe isonce a ain able to ha+e nor#al bo/el -unction /ithout disco#-ortand can dispense /ith the dru s /hich ha+e pre+iousl" pla"ed

such an i#portant part in his therap".Cardiovascular #iseases

The reatest killers in #odern ti#es are the cardio+asculardiseases includin diseases o- the heart and blood +essels. 3o#eo- these are due to in-ection or to so#e structural or con enitalde-or#it" but the #aBorit" are at least in part ps"choso#atic.

& certain t"pe o- personalit" distin uished b" his attitude to/ardli-e is #ost susceptible to hi h blood pressure and heartproble#s. ?e is likel" to be a hard dri+in a#bitious indi+idual.

?i h blood pressure nor#all" occasioned b" e tre#e tension isph"siolo icall" achie+ed /hen the heart /orks e tra hard and theblood +essels contract so that it is harder -or the blood to -lo/throu hout the bod". When increased blood -lo/in to certainor ans is ur entl" re<uired -or e tre#e ph"sical e ertion this is a

nor#al response but it is certainl" unnecessar" -or the business#an sittin in his o--ice.

&lthou h he does not need raised blood pressure his bod" /orkse tra hard in direct response to the sa#e suppressed e#otion/hich #akes hi# a#bitious and intense. ?e is likel" to ha+ee cessi+e cholesterol in his blood /hich /ill cause his blood+essels to harden pre#aturel" and beco#e constricted /ith atendenc" to block up. 9locka e o- the blood +essels in the heart

/ill cause a heart attack.

?"pnosis can lo/er the blood pressure and slo/ the heart rate. tacts upon the ner+ous s"ste# throu h its co##unication /ith theunconscious #ind. These e--ects thou h use-ul tend to be

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te#porar" in the patient /ho is a candidate -or cardio+asculardisease. ?e #ust alter his attitude to/ards hi#sel- -or #ore

per#anent results.n order to do this he #ust -irst escape -ro# the prison in /hich

he is trapped. The co##onest prison is that o- uilt. 3uch aperson does not -eel that he has the ri ht to e ist. ?e #ustconstantl" pro+e that he should ha+e the pri+ile e o- li-e.

&nal"tical h"pnotherap" /ill help such a person to accept hi#sel-and allo/ hi# to rela and enBo" his e istence as a nor#al hu#an

bein . When he has acco#plished this he can per#it his bloodpressure to return to nor#al and his heart to slo/ do/n since theneed to dri+e hi#sel- /ill ha+e +anished.

S'in #iseases

3o#e skin diseases result -ro# e ternal irritation. 3cabies iscaused b" a s#all parasite /hich in+ades the skin. ertain aller icskin disorders are brou ht about b" the skin s o+ersensiti+it" to a

#ild irritant. n #ost cases the patient a ra+ates the da#a e b"scratchin the itch.

@ther skin disorders are caused b" internal disturbances. Theseskin disorders are ps"choso#atic and doctors usuall" treat the#/ith soothin applications or tran<uili6ers.

?"pnotherap" /ill help these skin conditions /hen direct su estion is used. ?o/e+er this approach /ill rarel" be per#anentl"

e--ecti+e until the reasons -or the underl"in tension ha+e beendealt /ith.

?"pnoanal"sis -re<uentl" enables skin disease su--erers to escape-ro# their prison o- an er -ro# /hich their repressed hostilit"directed at the sel- is usuall" e pressed throu h scratchin .

%enstrual Pro8le+s

Man" readers #a" be surprised that ha+e listed #enstrual disorders a#on the ps"choso#atic diseases but in a reat nu#bero- cases no or anic cause can be -ound -or pain-ul conditions o-irre ular e cessi+e or absent #enstruation.

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?"pnosis can be used to correct these disorders b" the si#ple#ethod o- i+in direct su estions. The i#pro+e#ent /ill be

te#porar" /hen the underl"in e#otional proble# persists butanal"tical h"pnotherap" can resol+e these proble#s /hich o-tenare due to sel-=reBection and incarceration in the prison o- uilt.

Se<ual #ysfunction

n /o#en se ual d"s-unction includes -ri idit" -ailure to achie+ean or as# and pain durin intercourse. The latter #i ht be sose+ere as to cause a spas# o- the +a ina called +a inis#us

/hich pre+ents nor#al se ual intercourse.n #en se ual d"s-unction includes -ailure to achie+e or #aintain

an erection pre#ature eBaculation or -ailure to eBaculate.

&l#ost in+ariabl" se ual d"s-unction is the result o- uilt h"pnotherap" o--ers the best hope o- release -ro# this prison.

The Ha8it #isorders

o#pulsi+e beha+iour creates a reat ran e o- proble#s har#-ulto the indi+idual. 9ed/ettin nail bitin and thu#b suckin areco#pulsi+e acti+ities /hich are not serious but beco#e the sourceo- disco#-ort.

@ther habits pose a real health ha6ard "et co#pulsi+es o-tenresist e+er" e--ort to end the#. > cessi+e s#okin dru addictionand alcoholis# are the #ost co##on e a#ples. Eicti#s #a"

reco ni6e the conse<uences o- their habits and "et be po/erlessto -ore o the# -or the habit ser+es a purpose so +ital tounconscious e#otional needs that the attain#ent o- ood ph"sicalhealth re#ains secondar". ha+e seen patients /hose s#okinhad caused se+ere heart disease /hose alcoholis# had da#a edtheir li+ers and /hose dru takin had brou ht the# /ithininches o- death persist in these habits in a co#pulsi+e #anner.

Wh" should this be soI &ll o- these un-ortunate people are locked

in a prison o- pain and sadness. ,ot per#itted to accept theserepressed -eelin s the" can onl" e perience the# at a deepl"unconscious le+el and keep the# -ro# consciousness b" #eans o-the de+ices /hich -or# the bad habit. The" ha+e been conde#ned

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to their habit as their #eans o- toleratin li-e e+en i- suchbeha+iour shortens li-e or renders it e tre#el" unco#-ortable.

9" locatin the critical e periences causin unconscious pain andsadness and b" allo/in acceptance o- that pain anal"tical h"pnotherap" can per#it patients to escape to -reedo# -ro# theirprison. The dru s the ci arettes the alcohol used to repress thepain are no lon er re<uired.

8esity

@besit" is such an e tre#el" co##on proble# that a# treatinit separatel". t #i es -eatures o- a ps"choso#atic as /ell as ahabit disorder.

&s a eneral ph"sician ha+e treated #an" people -or obesit"usin all kinds o- diet pro ra#s #edications and e hortations. ha+e bullied caBoled used inBections and #ade direct h"pnoticsu estions. Man" patients ha+e initiall" lost /ei ht <uite /elland so#e ha+e e+en reached their tar et /ei ht but sad to sa"

nearl" all o- the# re ained their pre+ious /ei ht and so#eti#ese+en #ore a-ter a "ear or t/o.

3ince ha+e con-ined #" practice to a purel" h"pnoanal"ticalapproach ha+e -inall" reali6ed /h" the obese e perience suchdi--icult" in losin /ei ht and sta"in sli#. &l#ost e+er" obesepatient is unconsciousl" a-raid to be sli# and is deliberatel" eatinin order to re#ain -at: 3uch people #a" consciousl" sta" on a diet-or a /hile but /hen the" start to lose /ei ht the -ear o- bein

thin beco#es so stron that the" are i#pelled to eat and put the/ei ht back on a ain. &t a conscious le+el o- course the" areonl" a/are o- another -ailure. 3o lon as this -ear o- beco#in thinpersists the" are doo#ed to -ailure.

Most obese people e pect the h"pnotherapist to cure the# b"i+in their unconscious #ind a su estion not to eat. n #"

e perience this approach has ne+er /orked. & post=h"pnoticsu estion o- this kind rarel" persists -or an" len th o- ti#e si#pl"

because it /ill not be acceptable to the unconscious #ind o- theobese patient until the -ear o- beco#in sli# has been con-ronted.

Wh" are the obese a-raid to beco#e sli#I The" ha+e learned touse their -at as a protection -ro# the dan er o- e pressin a

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-orbidden -eelin . Without the -at the" /ill be e posed to thei#a ined dan ers that the re+ealed -eelin /ill incur. The -at is

the ph"sical e pression o- the #ental /alls that i#prison the#ind. n a s#all proportion o- cases o- obesit" -ood is stron l"associated /ith co#-ort and is used to assua e unconscious-eelin s o- reBection and depri+ation. n these cases such -eelin s#ust be reco ni6ed and relin<uished i- a success-ul reduction to areasonable eatin pattern is to be established.

When the patient is -ree to -eel his pre+iousl" concealed e#otionshe no lon er has the co#pulsion to o+ereat. &t the sa#e ti#e he

#a" lose the dri+in need to shed /ei ht /hich thre/ hi# into theseesa/ o- /ei ht chan es o+er the "ears. ?e /ill usuall" accept ane/ and #ore sensible pattern o- eatin raduall" and perhapsi#perceptibl" losin /ei ht. @ne da" a sli##er indi+idual /illreco ni6e that he need not be an ious about his dietin .

The E+otional #isorders

This third roup o- prisoners is e tre#el" i#portant. Depression

an ieties phobias and obsessions are so#e o- the e#otionaldisorders responsible -or an i##ense a#ount o- hu#an #iser".

#epressions

Those o- us /ho ha+e su--ered -ro# a deep depression kno/ ho/trapped one -eels /ithin it. There see#s to be no escape no hopeand no -uture. ,othin see#s to be o- +alue or i#portance andonl" a sense o- dut" keeps one oin . For so#e +er" depressed

people e+en this beco#es inade<uate to pro+ide the# /ithsu--icient #oti+ation to carr" on and thus the" e perience astron te#ptation to drop out o- li-e alto ether.

The depressed patient is su--erin -ro# a stron parental reBection. ?e has probabl" atte#pted to e cel and #a" ha+esucceeded but /hene+er he -ails he -inds hi#sel- -ace to -ace/ith his sel-=reBection and once a ain belie+es that he has no ri htto be. ?e is bad unlo+ed and unlo+able. ?e kne/ this in the

be innin and despite all o- his e--orts nothin has chan ed.

&nal"tical h"pnotherap" i+es the depressed patient the opportunit" to re=e a#ine his ori inal assu#ptions about hi#sel-. ?ehas the chance to appl" to hi#sel- so#e o- the /isdo# that he

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/ould o--er a collea ue or a -riend. ?e can see hi#sel- as he reall"is and reco ni6e the need to break out o- his burdenso#e prison

-or ood. ?"pnoanal"sis does this b" locatin and dealin /ith theparental reBection /hich lies at the source o- all depressions.

When the depression su--erer is able to et in touch /ith the realpain /hich his de-ences ha+e success-ull" concealed -ro# hi# heis at last able to relin<uish it and accept hi#sel- despite hisparent s reBection. ?e is at last -ree.

An<iety

&ll o- us e perience -ear at so#e ti#e but the an iet" su--erer isin an al#ost constant state o- -ear. ?e is /alled in b" his proble#.?e /orries about e+er"thin C"esterda" toda" to#orro/.Whate+er "ou can na#e he has /orried to death lon a o. Thisconstant state o- an iet" #a" be associated /ith speci-ic phobias/hich ha+e their o/n particular brand o- paral"6in an iet". Thesu--erer -ro# an iet" is al/a"s tense and re-lects #an" o- thes"#pto#s that are popularl" associated /ith tension. ?e /ill o-ten

respond surprisin l" /ell to direct su estions -or rela ation i+enin h"pnosis /hich attests to the po/er o- the unconscious #ind.3uch relie- is usuall" short=li+ed ho/e+er unless the true causeo- the an iet" is disco+ered and dealt /ith per#anentl".

The +icti# o- an iet" is ob+iousl" li+in in a prison o- -earCindread o- -ear itsel-. When he is brou ht -ace to -ace /ith the truecause o- his -ear his #ind is capable o- handlin the pressureonce he has allo/ed hi#sel- to be reall" a-raid. ?e no/ reco ni6es

that he has a ri ht to be a-raidCas /ell as a ri ht to relin<uishthat -ear once it has ser+ed its purpose. &t last he can accept theidea that he no lon er needs it. t is outdated and totall"irrele+ant to the present.

Pho8ias

Most o- those /ho su--er -ro# a phobia do not talk about it.&sha#ed o- their proble# the" dread the possibilit" o- ha+in

their /eakness e posed in public. The" #a" -ear ele+atorsairplanes certain ani#als spaces hei hts etc. The list oes onand on. ?o/ did it ori inateI

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Most probabl" an e tre#el" -ri htenin e perience happened/hich #ade the patient -eel +er" uilt"Cso uilt" that he /as no

lon er able to -eel his -ear. ertain e+ents precipitate his -ear inthe #ost intense #anner "et the intensit" o- the phobia pre+entshi# -ro# kno/in and -eelin the ori inal -ear about /hich he eperiences so #uch uilt.

&lthou h the phobic +icti# is e tre#el" a-raid he is ne+erconsciousl" a/are o- his ori inal -ear /hich is repressed b" uiltand the phobia. n h"pnoanal"sis he can unco+er the criticale periences and the uilt associated /ith the#. When the phobia

is no lon er necessar" the subBect /ill kno/ his true -ear and nolon er -eel uilt" about it.

8sessions

@bsessi+e or co#pulsi+e beha+iour is a ain a protecti+e de+ice torepress the kno/led e o- so#ethin about /hich the patient -eels

uilt". @nce he can let hi#sel- kno/ about it he can #akepro ress to/ards not -eelin uilt" and e+entuall" control his

co#pulsi+e beha+iour.

Much o- our discussion o- the di--erent proble#s that a h"pnotherapist sees in his practice #a" #ake the solution appear +er"si#ple. n realit" solutions are o-ten si#ple. The reatestdi--icult" lies in disco+erin the solution and kno/in ho/ to appl"it.

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Chapter Twelve

Manufacturin% the *e)

Self$H)(nosis

&lthou h one can #ore easil" learn h"pnosis -ro# an e pertrather than -ro# the #ute pa es o- a book it is unlikel" that #orethan a s#all proportion o- the readers o- this book /ill ha+e read"access to such an e pert. a# there-ore oin to detail aprocedure /hich ha+e -ound success-ul in enablin #ost peopleto reach a li ht or #ediu# sta e o- h"pnosis ade<uate -or theanal"tical procedures /hich -ollo/.

Physical Rela<ation

The -irst step is to brin "ou to a state o- co#plete ph"sicalrela ation. 3o#e people /ill -ind this eas" to acco#plish /hileothers need to practice repeatedl". Do not beco#e discoura ed i-"ou do not i##ediatel" succeed.

3eat "oursel- in a co#-ortable chair at a ti#e /hen "ou /ill beundisturbed -or a /hileCat least a hal- hour. t is reall" i#portantthat "ou are ph"sicall" co#-ortable and that nothin is oin on/hich /ill distract "ou -ro# de+otin "our #a i#u# attention tosel-=h"pnosis.

a #eep )reathing

When "ou are co#-ortable take a lon +er" deep breath hold it-or a -e/ seconds and then let it out +er" slo/l". - "ou are orha+e been a s#oker "ou /ill probabl" reco ni6e that this ise actl" /hat "ou do /hen "ou are tense and inhale on a ci arette.4ou #a" be surprised to -ind that this deep breath is Bust asrela in /ithout tobacco s#oke.

Repeat the lon deep breath hold it and then let it out slo/l". &s"ou do allo/ "our /hole bod" to sink deepl" into the chair until

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"ou -eel literall" lued to the chair b" "our /ei ht. &lread" "ou/ill ha+e achie+ed a reat deal o- ph"sical rela ation.

,o/ take a third lon deep breath and -eel that rela ationspreadin to e+er" area o- "our bod". - "our e"es are not alread"shut then let the# close as "our breath -lo/s -ro# "our chest.>nBo" this beauti-ul rela ation -or a -e/ #o#ents.

8 Eyelid Rela<ation

When "ou are read" turn "our attention to "our e"elids and

concentrate on the -eelin in the#. The" #a" alread" be so hea+"and rela ed that "ou do not /ant to open the#. #a ine that the"are so hea+" that the" /ill not open. Tr" to re#e#ber the -eelin"our e"es ha+e /hen so#eone /ants to a/aken "ou -ro# alo+el" deep sleep. The" no/ -eel so hea+" that the" si#pl" do not/ant to open. Wait until "ou are certain that the" are so rela edthat the" cannot open be-ore "ou test the#. 4ou /ill -ind that "ouha+e used "our i#a ination so /ell that the" /ill re#ain closeduntil "ou direct the# other/ise.

@nce "ou ha+e tested "our e"es and ha+e -ound that the" /ill notopen "ou kno/ that "our unconscious i#a ination has takenchar e and "ou ha+e allo/ed "our conscious #ind to relin<uish itsusual control.

c )ody Rela<ation

The ne t step is to spread that rela ation in "our e"es and e"elids

all the /a" throu h "our bod" Bust like a blanket o- rela ation-ro# the top o- "our head do/n to the tips o- "our toes. 4ou canco#pletel" rela "our entire bod". ,one o- the #uscles /ill ha+ean" desire to #o+e at all. >nBo" that beauti-ul rela ation -or aslon as "ou /ish. &t -irst "ou #a" -ind that one or t/o #inutes/ill be su--icient. &t the end o- this period tell "oursel- that /hen"ou count silentl" and slo/l" -ro# one to -i+e "our i#a ination/ill allo/ "our e"es to open /hen "ou reach -i+e and that /henthe" do "ou /ill -eel reall" reatC better than "ou ha+e -elt -or a

lon ti#e. Then count to -i+e silentl" "our e"es /ill open and "ou/ill -eel +er" ood.

Do not pro ress be"ond this sta e until "ou ha+e practiced itse+eral ti#es and -eel pro-icient at it. >+en i- "ou ne+er pro ress

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be"ond this sta e "ou /ill ha+e learned ho/ to rela "our bod"<uickl" and easil". This de ree o- rela ation can be used to relie+e

the #inor tensions and an ieties /hich are -re<uentl" associated/ith all kinds o- stress-ul circu#stances. 4ou /ill ne+er re retha+in learned this rela ation techni<ue. t is the -irst essentialstep in #odern h"pnosis.

- "ou e perience an" di--icult" in persuadin "our e"es to sta"closed i#a ine that the" are /ei hed do/n b" hea+" leadshuttersCso hea+" that the" si#pl" cannot be li-ted. 4ou #i ht-ind it help-ul to i#a ine that a la"er o- lue bet/een the lids has

stuck the# -ir#l" to ether. Re#e#ber "ou ha+e a responsi+eunconscious i#a ination. - all else -ails pretend that the e"elidscannot open so lon as "ou keep up this pretence the" /illre#ain closed.

n this si#ple e ercise "ou ha+e a#pl" de#onstrated that "ourunconscious #ind and i#a ination can be i+en control o- "ourbod" and that it can be asked to return that control on shortnotice. 9" rela in conscious control "ou ha+e #ade a bi step

-or/ard to -reein "our unconscious i#a ination.

%ental Rela<ation

@nl" /hen "ou are certain that "ou ha+e #astered the -irst step o-ph"sical rela ation and can produce it at /ill should "ou proceedto the second sta e o- sel-=h"pnosis #ental rela ation. Whetherthe -irst sta e has taken "ou se+eral #inutes or se+eral da"s to#aster does not #atter. 4ou /ill onl" bene-it -ro# the second

sta e /hen "ou ha+e #astered the -irst so do not act in haste.When "ou return once a ain to the ph"sicall" rela ed sta e "ou/ill be read" to enter the second sta eCrela ation o- the #ind/hich /ill co#ple#ent the tran<uillit" o- the bod".

#a ine "oursel- lookin at a blackboard on /hich all o- thenu#bers -ro# -i-t" do/n to one are /ritten. When "ou cani#a ine the# clearl" rub the nu#ber -i-t" o-- the blackboard soco#pletel" that it has one co#pletel" out o- "our #ind. $roceed

to the ne t nu#ber. >rase that -ro# "our i#a inar" blackboardbe-ore continuin #akin sure that it too has +anished -ro# "our#ind and has co#pletel" disappeared. ontinue /ith this processerasin all the nu#bers co#pletel".

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Durin the process "ou /ill -ind that "ou are beco#in #orerela ed #entall" as each nu#ber -ades. 4ou /ill soon -eel so

#entall" tired that "ou /ill /ant to erase all o- the re#aininnu#bers o-- the blackboard at once. ,o/ "ou ha+e a co#pletel"blank blackboard and a +er" rela ed #indCso rela ed that "ouare read" -or the third sta e /hich /ill use "our i#a ination to its-ull capacit". 9rin the nu#bers back and count silentl" -ro# oneto -i+e as be-ore "ou /ill be /ide a/ake -eelin e+en better than"ou did pre+iousl".

9e-ore "ou proceed to the third sta e practice /hat "ou ha+e

alread" learned at least three ti#es so that "ou can produce#ental rela ation as o-ten as "ou /ish.

,+agery

n the third sta e the production o- i#a er" "ou /ill recei+e anindication o- "our abilit" to use sel-=h"pnosis. n this sta esu estions are accepted b" the i#a ination. The positi+esu estions that "ou /ill learn to i+e "oursel- /ill recei+e

#a i#u# unconscious attention.

Return once a ain to sta e t/o. When "ou ha+e #ade "our #indtotall" blank picture "oursel- in a pleasant place doin so#ethinthat "ou reall" like. - "ou ha+e chosen a /aterside scene see the/ater clearl". ,ote /hether it is s#ooth or /a+". - it is /a+"hear the sounds o- the /a+es /hether <uiet or rather loud. - thesun is shinin -eel the /ar#th o- the sun. - it ets too hot -eel"oursel- #o+e into the shade. 3ince it is "our picture be totall"

co#-ortable in it. %ook around i- an"one else is there note /hatthe" are doin . $a" attention to e+er" sound -eelin or s#ell that"ou notice. >nBo" it. @nce a ain /hen "ou ha+e re+elled in thescene as #uch as "ou need to count back -ro# one to -i+e and"ou /ill be /ide a/ake but perhaps a#a6ed at the +i+idness o- all"ou ha+e seen and e perienced.

4ou ha+e no/ learned all that "ou need to kno/ about enterinsel-=h"pnosis. 4ou /ill ain reat bene-it b" i+in "oursel-

positi+e su estions /hen "ou are in this rela ed state. Tell"oursel- that "ou /ill -eel cheer-ul rela ed sel-=con-ident andener etic /hen "ou a/aken. 4ou /ill soon be surprised ho/e--ecti+e these su estions pro+e to be. This -eature has beenkno/n -or centuries and used in #an" uises. t is e--ecti+e

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because "our unconscious #ind is listenin care-ull" in h"pnosisacceptin su estions and actin upon the#.

This third sta e o- this pro ra# o- sel- h"pnosis is probabl" the#ost po/er-ul. t is also the sta e in /hich post h"pnoticsu estions are #ost likel" to be e--ecti+e. 4ou are there-ore to beencoura ed to practice until "ou are pro-icient at reachin andusin this sta e o- sel- h"pnosis.

Much o- the histor" o- the success o- h"pnosis has been due to thee--ecti+eness o- su estions i+en in this hi hl" recepti+e sta e o-

unconscious i#a er". 9" incorporatin i#a es o- the person that"ou /ould /ish to beco#e and i#a inin "oursel- beha+in in apositi+e #anner in situations in /hich "ou /ere pre+iousl"ne ati+e these i#a es /ill ha+e a potent posth"pnotic e--ect/hose po/er /ill so#eti#es surprise "ou. For e a#ple should "ouha+e a proble# /ith o+ereatin b" si#pl" +isuali6in "oursel- assli# and seein "oursel- bein satis-ied b" non=-attenin -oods /illha+e a stron posth"pnotic e--ect.

ertainl" su estions o- /ellbein con-idence rela ation and-reedo# -ro# disco#-ort can al/a"s be e#phasi6ed b"appropriate i#a er" in+ol+in these su estions.

t #a" /ell be that this li#ited use o- sel- h"pnosis /ill #eet all o-"our present therapeutic needs and that anal"sis is not re<uired in"our case. ,e+ertheless /ould ur e "ou not to -or o the e ostren thenin and asserti+eness trainin pro ra#s detailed at theend o- the -ollo/in chapter on sel- anal"sis.

- "ou are a prisoner o- the #ind it is hi hl" probable that thesesu estions /ill not be as e--ecti+e as the" could be. The" #a"onl" be te#poraril" success-ul because a part o- "our unconscious#ind reBects the#. This is /h" h"pnotherap" usin onl" directsu estion is less e--ecti+e than anal"tical h"pnotherap" /hich isdirected at re#o+in an" obBection to the acceptance o- a directsu estion.

- "ou are not a prisoner o- the #ind "ou /ill be able to adopt an"o- the positi+e su estions that "ou choose to i+e "oursel-.> peri#ent /ith the si#ple su estions ha+e alread" outlinedbe-ore pro ressin to #ore co#ple ones such as those -or therelie- o- pain and the de+elop#ent o- anaesthesia.

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a# concerned here /ith the prisoner o- the #ind and his need tobe -ree. n the ne t chapter /ill e a#ine sel-=h"pnosis as a

channel o- co##unication /ith the unconscious #ind. 9" "oursel-"ou can turn the ke" in the lock o- "our prison and -ree "oursel--ro# the bonds o- uilt.

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Chapter Thirteen

Turnin% the *e) +ourself

4ou ha+e learned to rela "our conscious #ind su--icientl" to allo/use-ul su estions to reach "our unconscious #ind. 4ou ha+e putits reat resources to /ork in translatin thou ht into actionpracticin until "ou ha+e beco#e pro-icient. ,o/ "ou are read" -or

the #ost i#portant sta eCsel-=anal"sis usin h"pnosis.

Esta8lishing &nconscious Signalling

n order to locate unconscious #e#ories as an anal"tical h"pnotherapist /ould "ou /ill need to establish a si nalin s"ste#/hich "our unconscious #ind can use in order to co##unicate/ith "ou at a conscious le+el. We kno/ that unconscious#o+e#ents are related to unconscious ideas. - /e can set up an

unconscious #o+e#ent /hich indicates the unconscious idea 7"es ; and another /hich si nals the unconscious idea 7no ; /e/ill establish an e cellent channel o- co##unication.

The procedure -or establishin this si nalin is si#ple but re<uiresa little patience. Read the -ollo/in instructions se+eral ti#escare-ull" be-ore atte#ptin to carr" the# out.

Return once a ain to the deep rela ed state in /hich "ou /ereable to blank "our #ind and accept i#a es. Then start to think

7"es ; 7"es ; 7"es; o+er and o+er a ain until "ou -eel the need tolet "our head nod in a ree#ent. When this happens ask "ourinner #ind to raise one o- "our -in ers on "our do#inant hand asa si nal -or 7"es.; 4ou #a" ha+e to /ait -or this to occur but#ean/hile continue to think 7"es; repeatedl". >+entuall" one o-the -in ers on "our do#inant hand /ill be in to -eel li ht and /illslo/l" Berk up/ard as "our unconscious #ind allo/s the idea o-

7"es; to -lo/ into it. ,ote /hich -in er that is because -ro# no/on "ou /ill think o- it as "our 7"es; -in er.

Repeat this process but this ti#e think 7no; continuousl" until"our head be ins to -eel like shakin 7no; and another -in er on

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the sa#e hand be ins to -eel li ht and li-ts. This is "our 7no;-in er. Make a #ental note o- it.

&t ti#es "ou #a" ask "our unconscious #ind a <uestion but -orreasons o- its o/n it does not /ant to ans/er. 4ou need a si nalto let "ou kno/ this. Repeat the abo+e process once a ain butthis ti#e keep thinkin 7 don t /ant to ans/er ; 7 don t /ant toans/er.; Mean/hile ask "our unconscious #ind to select another-in er. 4ou ha+e no/ established "our si nalin s"ste# and areread" -or anal"sis.

&sing the Signals

,o/ that "our unconscious #ind possesses a set o- si nals /hichit can use to respond to "our <uestions "ou can obtain ad#ittanceto in-or#ation /hich had pre+iousl" been inaccessible to "ou at aconscious le+el. >ach ti#e "ou /ish to <uestion "our unconscious#ind return to the rela ed state.

First ask "our unconscious #ind so#e eneral <uestions in order

to et used to this si nalin s"ste#. 4our -irst <uestion should be 7 s it all ri ht -or #e to ask <uestions about #" proble#I; n #ostcases the ans/er /ill be 7"es ; and "ou ha+e #ade a ood startto/ard anal"sis. ?o/e+er i- the ans/er is 7no ; "ou ha+e aproble#. &sk the <uestion a ain to #ake sure. - the ans/er isstill 7no ; "ou /ill not secure the cooperation o- "our unconscious#ind on "our o/n and /ill ha+e to seek the aid o- ah"pnotherapist.

%et us assu#e that "ou ain an a--ir#ati+e ans/er to the<uestion 7 s it all ri ht to ask <uestionsI; $roceed to the ne t<uestion /hich /ill establish -urther unconscious cooperation.$ick the s"#pto# /hich concerns "ou #ost and ask 7 s #"s"#pto# due to an e#otional proble#I; & ain "ou should et a

7"es; ans/er be-ore proceedin .

,e t in<uire 7 s it all ri ht -or #e to kno/ the cause o- thise#otional proble#I; &/ait a positi+e response be-ore proceedin .

4ou are no/ read" -or the -irst step in sel-=anal"sis usinh"pnosis. &llo/ "oursel- a -ull hour -or this process. 4ou #a" notneed it but since "ou /ill not kno/ be-orehand it is best topro+ide plent" o- ti#e.

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SE"* ANA"(S,S

.- The "ocation of the Critical E<perience

The -irst sta e in an" anal"sis is the identi-ication o- the criticale perience durin /hich the crisis responsible -or the e#otionalproble# occurred. This is the ti#e at /hich the cri#e liable -or thei#prison#ent /as co##itted. t is the e perience /hich #ade"ou -eel uilt" producin the constraints /hich ha+e bound "oue+er since.

t is i#portant that "ou -ollo/ these directions in -aith-ul detail inorder to be co#pletel" success-ul. 9ut it is not necessar" toco#plete the /hole sta e at an" one ti#e.

a) The re+ie/ o- all unconscious tensionsN &sk "our unconscious#ind to re+ie/ all o- "our old outdated unconscious tensions andtoindicate /hen this has been acco#plished b" li-tin the 7"es;-in er.

b) %ocation o- the earliest tensionN &sk "our unconscious #ind todeter#ine the earliest o- these tensions and to indicate /hen thishas been acco#plished b" once a ain raisin the 7"es; -in er.

c) Re+ie/ o- the earliest tensionN &sk "our unconscious #ind tore+ie/ this earliest tension and the e perience responsible -or it inco#plete detail and to let "ou kno/ /hen this has been done b"raisin the 7"es; -in er.

d) >le+ation o- the unconscious #e#or" to consciousnessN First o- all ask "our unconscious #ind i- it is all ri ht -or "ou to kno/about the e perience /hich is responsible -or "our proble# and i-so to indicate b" a 7"es; si nal. - "ou recei+e an a--ir#ati+eresponse direct "our unconscious #ind to brin the #e#or" o-this e perience to a le+el /here "ou can re#e#ber it consciousl".

&t this sta e o- the anal"sis "ou #a" /ell be in to -eel unusual

e#otions /hich are o-ten unclear at -irst. The" /ill latera#al a#ate into a speci-ic -eelin /hich is likel" to be <uiteunco#-ortable. The e perience causin this -eelin /ill at -irst be-ra #entar" but /ill soon beco#e #ore clearl" de-ined. The-eelin s that acco#pan" it #a" be those o- desolation sadness

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an er or -ear. Whate+er the -eelin s #a" be do not "ield to thete#ptation to block the# o--. With perse+erance "ou /ill

e+entuall" kno/ all o- the e perience /hich has been responsible-or the -eelin s. - this does not occur and the critical circu#stancestill re#ains hidden repeat the abo+e steps as described.

n #" e perience the unco+erin o- the pre+iousl" repressede#otion #a" in itsel- be -ollo/ed b" intense relie-. 3hould this beso it is because "ou ha+e unconsciousl" pro ressed throu h thesta es o- acceptance o- the -orbidden and repressed e#otion tothe sta e o- discardin it. 4ou #a" ha+e e+en resol+ed the

proble# ori inall" causin it. n an" case the succeedin stepsshould be -ollo/ed in strict se<uence but can be postponed to "ourne t anal"tical session.

0- Review and Acceptance of the Previously RepressedE+otion

4ou ha+e succeeded in locatin the critical e perience and thepre+iousl" concealed e#otion associated /ith it. 4our ne t task is

to ain unconscious acceptance o- this e#otion. To do this si#pl"ask "our unconscious #ind to use all o- "our unconscious /isdo#understandin and co#passion to look at and re+ie/ all o- the no/+isible e perience indicatin /hen this has been acco#plished b"li-tin the 7"es; -in er.

2- Recognition of the Present ,rrelevance of the PreviouslyRepressed E+otion

The ti#e has co#e -or "ou to use "our unconscious #ind to disco+er /hether "ou no/ ha+e an" -urther need -or the old e#otion/hich had been repressed.

To do this ask "our unconscious #ind 7With the understandin no/ possess #ust preser+e that old tensionI; 4ou shouldrecei+e a 7no; to this <uestion be-ore proceedin /ith the ne tstep. - "ou do not once a ain ask "our unconscious #ind tore+ie/ the e perience usin all o- "our unconscious /isdo#.

When this has been done once a ain in<uire /hether "ou stillneed to keep that old and outdated e#otion. 4ou /ill probabl"no/ obtain the 7no; that "ou are seekin .

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unconscious #ind to i#a ine the solution that has been acceptedbein applied in three di--erent rele+ant proble#atic situations

and to si nal /hen this has been acco#plished.4ou #a" ha+e been able to co#plete all o- these sta es in onesession. Whether or not this is possible it is ti#e to take a rest.4ou ha+e done /ell. Rein-orce "our eneral /ell=bein b" directsu estions and return to the re#ainder o- "our sel-=anal"sis assoon as "ou a ain ha+e su--icient ti#e to de+ote to it.

Durin the procedure "ou #a" ha+e been a/are o- each line o-

thou ht that "our unconscious #ind has pursued. t is <uite likel"ho/e+er that #uch has re#ained unconscious.

- "ou ha+e not been success-ul in co#pletin all o- these sta esdo not be do/nhearted. Hi+e "oursel- direct su estions that "ou/ill be success-ul and tr" once a ain a-ter a rest -ro# the anal"sis.

- "our pro ress re#ains disappointin l" slo/ "ou should rene/"our e--orts to obtain e pert h"pnotherapeutic assistance.

*urther Analysis

?a+in resol+ed a lon standin proble# "ou /ill no doubt be-eelin +er" ood. t is probable ho/e+er that "ou ha+e otherunconscious tensions /hich #ust be dealt /ith be-ore "ou canenBo" the true relie- o- co#plete -reedo#.

?o/ are "ou to kno/ i- -urther anal"sis should be pursuedI &totall" -ree hu#an bein /ith a co#pletel" unlocked #ind

belie+es that he is Bust as ood as an" other hu#an bein and-eels con+inced that this is so.

&sk "our unconscious #ind 7Does e+er" part o- #" inner #indno/ -eel and belie+e that a# Bust as ood and i#portant as an"other hu#an bein li+in or deadI; - the ans/er to thisi#portant <uestion is an i##ediate 7"es ; then "ou are read" -orthe -inal sta es o- sel-=therap". ?o/e+er i- a ne ati+e responsearises a part o- "our #ind is still harbourin a proble# and "ou

should continue anal"sis.

n order to proceed ask "our unconscious #ind to re+ie/ all o-"our unconscious #e#ories and to stop at an" e perience /hich ispre+entin "ou -ro# -eelin as ood and as i#portant as an"

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other hu#an bein . &sk that it +eri-" its location o- the e perienceb" raisin the 7"es; -in er. Deal /ith this e perience in precisel"

the sa#e /a" that "ou handled the -irst one -ollo/in each o- thesi steps outlined. 4ou #a" -ind that it /ill not take as lon toresol+e this proble# -or "our unconscious #ind no/ kno/se actl" /hat is re<uired o- it. 4ou should ha+e no di--icult" inco#pletin "our /ork /ith it in one session.

Repeat the <uestion about sel-=/orth and deal /ith e+er" e perience /hich is pre+entin "ou -ro# -ull" acceptin "oursel-.>+entuall" "ou /ill ha+e dealt /ith all o- the e periences /hich

ha+e been responsible -or "our present tensions and /ill ha+eresol+ed the# satis-actoril".

& ain let #e reiterate that i- "ou run into an" di--icult" /hatsoe+er "ou #ust seek e pert h"pnotherapeutic help.

Ego Strengthening

For #ost o- "our li-e "our e o has taken a back seat se+erel"

restricted b" the proble#s "ou ha+e no/ resol+ed. 4ou /ill surel"encounter #an" ne/ challen es alon li-e s stor#" path ho/e+erand "ou #ust be able to deal /ith the#. @ther/ise "ou /ill a ainseek re-u e in the onl" secure place "ou ha+e kno/nCprison: 4ou#ust de+elop in "our e o su--icient stren th to deal /ith theseproble#s appropriatel" so that "our ne/ -ound -reedo# /ill beper#anent.

,o #atter ho/ sel-=con-ident "ou -eel it does no har# to repeat

this e o stren thenin procedure <uite -re<uentl".

First o- all ask "our unconscious #ind 7Does e+er" part o- #"unconscious #ind no/ belie+e that a# Bust as i#portant and

ood as an" other hu#an bein li+in or deadI; 4ou should no/recei+e a stron 7"es; si nal. n an" case ask "our unconscious#ind to repeat se+eral ti#es 7 a# Bust as ood and i#portant asan" other hu#an bein li+in or dead.; belie+e that therecordin o- a po/er-ul positi+e #essa e like this tends to erase

all o- the other ne ati+e recordin s that "ou ha+e been carr"in in"our unconscious #ind throu hout "our li-e.

Return to "our deep rela ation and ask "our unconscious #ind the-ollo/in <uestionsN

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1. Does #" inner #ind a ree that ha+e the ri ht to e+er" one o-#" nor#al hu#an -eelin s /hether or not the" are pleasantI

2. Does #" inner #ind a ree that ha+e the ri ht and the dut"to respect and protect e+er" one o- #" nor#al hu#an -eelin s/hether the" are pleasant or unpleasantI

. Does #" inner #ind a ree that ha+e the ri ht to keep an" o- #" nor#al hu#an -eelin s as lon as need the# and a ri ht tolet the# o /hene+er the" beco#e unnecessar"I

- each o- these <uestions recei+es the appropriate a--ir#ati+eresponse proceed /ith the ne t <uestionN

G. Do need to -eel uilt" asha#ed or e#barrassed b" an" o- #" nor#al hu#an -eelin sI This <uestion should no/ recei+e astron 7no; ans/er.

4ou #a" ha+e obtained a ne ati+e repl" to an" one o- the -irstthree <uestions. - so "ou #ust disco+er the reason in order -or

e o stren thenin to be entirel" success-ul.

4ou /ill need to ask <uestions /hich /ill enable "ou to identi-"/hich basic e#otion is still unacceptable. For e a#ple 7Do ha+ea ri ht to #" nor#al hu#an -eelin s o- sadnessI; $rescribe si#ilar<uestions in order to identi-" "our unconscious attitudes re ardinthe other e#otions o- happiness an er lo+e -ear and securit".When "ou ha+e speci-ied the -eelin that troubles "ou still utili6ethe anal"tical techni<ues "ou ha+e learned to locate the

e perience in+ol+in the unacceptable e#otion. 4ou should beable to relin<uish the outdated e#otion and the uilt associated/ith it thus resol+in "our inner con-lict.

Return then to e o stren thenin obtainin a 7"es; to all o- the-irst three <uestions and a 7no; to the -ourth.

When this e o stren thenin phase has been satis-actoril"co#pleted "ou /ill be read" -or the -inal phase o- therap"C

asserti+e=ness trainin .

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Assertiveness Training

For "ears "ou ha+e considered "oursel- in-erior to others and ha+ebeha+ed as i- "ou /ere in-erior. n realit" "ou are as /orth" asothers. t is essential that "ou o+erco#e -eelin s o- in-eriorit" i-"our ne/-ound -reedo# is to beco#e per#anent. 4ou are in needo- ne/ uidelines to replace the old sel-=reBectin ones. This is/h" asserti+e=ness trainin is so i#portant. ncidentall" do notcon-use asserti+e=ness /ith a ressi+eness. The -ree asserti+eindi+idual is ne+er a ressi+e althou h his sel-=con-idence #i htbe #istaken -or a ressi+eness b" the casual obser+er.

@nce a ain en a e the techni<ues o- sel-=h"pnosis to co##unicate /ith "our unconscious #ind /hich #ust be read" toundertake three i#portant resolutions. $ut the# to "ourunconscious #ind in the -ollo/in #annerN

1. 7Will e+er" part o- #" inner #ind pro#ise ne+er to put an"other part do/nI;

2. 7Will e+er" part o- #" inner #ind pro#ise ne+er to allo/an"one to put #e do/nI;

. 7Will #" inner #ind pro#ise ne+er to allo/ #e kno/in l" toput an"one else do/nI;

The phrase 7put do/n; is usuall" understood <uite /ell at anunconscious le+el. t re-ers to the discountin or de+aluin o--eelin s and not to proper and Bust criticis#. - "ou call "oursel-

stupid or use so#e other dero ator" na#e "ou are puttin"oursel- do/n. ?o/e+er i- "ou reco ni6e that "ou ha+e #ade a#istake "ou are not de#eanin "oursel- b" bein a/are o- it. 4oualso dispara e "oursel- /hen "ou discount "our -eelin s and sa"such thin s as 7 should not -eel an r" (hurt or a-raid etc.).; 4ouha+e a ri ht to "our -eelin s an" ti#e "ou discount the# or allo/so#eone else to do so "ou are puttin "oursel- do/n.

- "ou ha+e recei+ed stron 7"es; si nals to these <uestions this

-inal part o- therap" has been satis-actoril" co#pleted.,e+ertheless /ould ad+ise that "ou repeat the e ostren thenin and the asserti+e=ness trainin su estions e+er"da" until "ou are certain that "ou can keep these three pro#isesunder all circu#stances.

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- "ou ha+e co#e this -ar success-ull" /ith #e "ou /ill no doubtbe a/are o- a tre#endous increase in "our -eelin s o- /ell=bein

and sel-=con-idence. Without an" conscious e--ort "ou arebe innin to stick up -or "oursel- and people /ho pre+iousl"i nored "our +ie/s and opinions no/ ob+iousl" respect "ou. %essconcerned about others opinions "ou /ill re#ain interested intheir +ie/s /ithout sacri-icin "ours to theirs. Most o- all "ou /ill-ind "oursel- doin thin s /ith increased ener " actin because"ou /ant to and not because a certain response is e pected o-"ou.

&n"one /ho has been locked up in a #ental prison #ost o- his li-e/ill disco+er that this -reedo# is a /onder-ul e perience. 3o#e-or#er patients /ill suppl" indi+idual tales o- escape to -reedo#.

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>+er" #ornin a/oke /ith that a/-ul ti ht -eelin that anotherda" had to be endured. Would #ake itI Would be able to do all

that /as e pected o- #eI The da" /ould stretch -ar ahead o- #e-ull o- pit-alls /hich /ould be +er" luck" to a+oid. -eared thatthin s /ould surel" o /ron and /ould -eel +er" uilt".

>ach ni ht -ound so#e escape -ro# the ordeals o- the da" b"readin o-ten until the earl" hours o- the #ornin . Did do thatto de+ise so#e li-e that could enBo" e+en i- it /ere not real or/as den"in #"sel- the sleep that -elt did not deser+eI cannot ans/er. Wh" did dislike #"sel- so #uchI did not kno/

the ans/er to that <uestion either. #erel" kne/ that did notlike #" li-e as it /as and desperatel" /anted it to chan eCalthou h onl" a #iracle could do that:

heard that h"pnosis /as bein used to relie+e tension and kne/ that i- could Bust shed that a/-ul tension li-e /ould beeasier. /as apprehensi+e and rather sceptical about the /holethin . Would it /ork -or #eI Would be a -ailure at h"pnosis as /as at so #an" other thin sI When consulted #" ph"sician he

told #e that h"pnosis could help people learn to rela /ithout theaid o- dru s.

&-ter so#e soul searchin and /ith considerable trepidation e+entuall" #ade an appoint#ent to see Dr. 9urnett. Eer" ner+ousas /as about that appoint#ent there /ere #an" ti#es -ound#"sel- thinkin o- an e cuse to break it. Was so bad that needed h"pnosisI /as. e+en recall sendin #" husband a cardsi ned 74our #iserable /i-e:; 9ut perhaps h"pnosis /as not -or

#e. had heard that not e+er"one could respond. n the end didnot break that appoint#ent and as e+ents turned out a# +er"

rate-ul to #" uardian an el -or #akin sure that kept it.

Durin that -irst +isit /as in a -o . didn t notice #uch o- thesurroundin s o- the /aitin roo# and /as too tense to take heedo- the entle back round #usic /hich later reali6ed /as aninte ral part o- the soothin at#osphere o- Dr. 9arnett s o--ice.@nl" /hen -elt the /ar#th o- the doctor s handshake did be in

to rela .

Hlancin around his consultin roo# sa/ nothin unusual. didnot -ind an" h"pnoti6in ad ets but /as still too tense to notice+er" #uch. %ater recalled its /ell=lit sunn" appearance and the

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sounds o- the tra--ic on the thorou h-are outside. /as sittin inan eas" chair /hen Dr. 9arnett returned to his desk.

When he asked /hat he could do -or #e be an to -eel that had#ade a #istake and should not be there at all. /as lookin -orso#e e cuse to lea+e as #ur#ured that /as a-raid /as/astin his ti#e. did not -eel that could discuss all the thin sthat /ere botherin #e so Bust told hi# that #" ner+es /erebad and that /as al/a"s tense.

Dr. 9arnett see#ed to understand that reall" did not understand

#" irritabilit" and unhapp" #oods. 9e-ore lon -elt #ore at easeand /as discussin #" proble#s in a /a" /hich had pre+iousl"been i#possible.

Dr. 9urnett pointed out ho/ -re<uentl" put #"seldo/n andasked i- kne/ /h" did that. 3o#eho/ this had al/a"s see#ednatural -or #e to do but told hi# could not speci-" the#oti+ation -or it. ?e told #e that had learned to do this and thatthe i#pulse /as probabl" concealed in #" unconscious #ind.

?e /ent on to e plain that h"pnosis /as si#pl" a process o- co##unicatin /ith the inner #ind /hene+er the conscious #ind /assu--icientl" rela ed to allo/ that co##unication. Throu h the useo- h"pnosis he thou ht /e #i ht disco+er the reasons -or #"proble#s and sol+e the# i- /as prepared to cooperate. #ustad#it that didn t -eel cooperati+e at -irst but as /e talked be an to e perience a -eelin o- trust and ea erness to cooperate.

ontinuin to speak in his so-t rela in +oice Dr. 9arnett asked#e to close #" e"es and co#pletel" rela #" /hole bod". -elt#"sel- dri-t into a +er" rela ed state and re#e#ber -ollo/inhis su estion to i#a ine a +er" pleasant scene /hich see#ed tobe real and enBo"able. ?e continued to talk to #e and kno/ that

responded but e+er"thin see#ed +a ue and distant.

heard hi# tellin #e to open #" e"es and be /ide a/ake. &s did so -elt that had a/akened -ro# a deep sleep and "et

parado icall" it see#ed as i- had si#pl" closed #" e"es -or a-e/ #inutes. When opened #" e"es /as a/are that hadbeen cr"in and "et -elt an enor#ous sense o- relie-Cas i- atre#endous burden had been li-ted -ro# #" shoulders.

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e perienced a #ild sense o- surprise /hen looked at the clockand suddenl" reali6ed that had been in his o--ice -or o+er an

hour. Where had the ti#e oneI What had been happenin I asked these <uestions o- #"sel- but /as not concerned that could -ind no i##ediate ans/er.

When Dr. 9arnett asked ho/ /as -eelin told hi# that /as-eelin reatCand that surprised #e. /anted to lau h and sin Can e traordinar" -eelin . Dr. 9arnett instructed #e to return inone /eek. ?e told #e that he belie+ed that /ould do +er" /elland so#eho/ -elt sure that he /as ri ht.

&s #ade arran e#ents /ith his secretar" -or the ne t appoint#ent could think o- little but ho/ ood e+er"thin see#ed.When /alked outside the sounds and colours o- the /orldsee#ed no+el and interestin Cas i- had ne+er noticed the#be-ore. M" senses /ere hei htened in a /onderin and /onder-ul/a". had al/a"s hated noises but suddenl" /as enBo"in all o-the bustle and clatter.

That /as a #e#orable da" -or #e. can best describe it and the/eek that -ollo/ed b" <uotin -ro# #" diar".

Tuesday

sense that a #ental and ph"sical o+erhaul has be un since sa/Dr. 9arnett. -eel literall" /run out and "et a# serenel"content. -elt so ood this a-ternoon that -ound #"sel- sin in

7 # sittin on top o- the /orld.;

&ll throu h the da" this -eelin o- /ell=bein has persisted. ha+ea stran e sense that one part o- #e is <uietl" obser+in another.

,or#all" # a restless indi+idual and can t sit <uietl" "et thise+enin # restin <uietl" and co#-ortabl" and the noise o- thechildren s ar u#ents is not an erin #e as it usuall" does. -eelrela ed and dro/s" /ithout #" usual desire to read and read.

!ednesday

ha+e enBo"ed a da" -ull o- inner content#entC/ithout the usual-eelin s o- stress at all. a# a/are o- #" usual an r" or unhapp"thou hts but the" are #ini#al and rapidl" dissol+e. ha+e the

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stran e -eelin that a ne/ M> has arisen -ro# deep inside and hastaken control. t is like the an el o- #erc" has supplanted the

de+il. a# not -ri htened. n -act a# at peace /ith #"sel- -orthe -irst ti#e in "ears.

Thursday

a# still happ" and contented. ha+e had a #ar+ellous ti#epreparin and or ani6in Mar" s birthda" part". /as able to Boinin the -un o- the part" and had /onder-ul /ar# -eelin s all theti#e. a# deli hted at this ne/ +ie/. like #"sel-.

*riday

&s think o- the chan es that ha+e occurred /ithin #e sensethat ha+e at last beco#e untan led and un/ound. suddenl"-eel as i- a# no lon er on trial that e+er"thin that a# isacceptable. When use those /ords 7no lon er on trial ; e perience so#e stran e -eelin s that cannot identi-".

Saturday

$atience lo+e and understandin ha+e set the tone -or toda".

The children /ere ho#e and /e ha+e shared in so #uch -un andlau hter. a# tappin ne/ resources as the patience lo+e andunderstandin are -ar #ore pronounced. ha+e produced theseattributes in the past but not /ithout reat e--ort. ,o/ a# notactin a role -or toda" these -eelin s -lo/ed easil" and

spontaneousl".Sunday

reall" ble/ it toda": belie+ed that #" personalit" /as chan inbut the 7ne/ bein ; /as de-initel" not in char e. &-tere periencin se+eral an r" outbursts durin the da" a# -eelin+er" apprehensi+e.

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$erhaps can take so#e consolation -ro# the -act that #" an er/as not as intense as it used to be and it /as ne+er a cruel

an er. ,e+ertheless -eel reall" disappointed in #"sel-particularl" since cannot disco+er /h" beha+ed this /a". tsee#ed as i- Bust couldn t (or /ouldn t) let that petulant #ood oall da".

%onday

M" thou hts aren t positi+e toda". -eel that part o- #e is superi#posin -eelin s upon another part o- #e and is stri+in -orreco nition. This /ould account -or #" actions "esterda". Toda" sdisco#-orts ha+e been tri ered b" the e#barrass#ent o-"esterda" s outbursts and a# tr"in to -ind ans/ers to the#. #ust learn to accept #" i#per-ections as /ell as #" <ualitiesother/ise continuous discoura e#ent is ine+itable.

/ill no/ lea+e #" diar" /hile recall #" ne t appoint#ent /ith

Dr. 9arnett. /as +er" uncertain /hether should relate ho/ badl" thin s

see#ed to o on 3unda" but in his o--ice it see#ed natural that should discuss e+er"thin that happened. Dr. 9arnett con-ir#ed/hat had alread" suspectedCthat the e+ents on 3unda"de#onstrated that ha+e unpleasant as /ell as pleasant -eelin sand that a# no better or /orse than an" other hu#an beinsi#pl" because ha+e these entirel" nor#al hu#an -eelin s.

/as particularl" assured and relie+ed /hen Dr. 9arnett pointedout that had not used #" an er a ressi+el" or destructi+el"but onl" asserti+el". We talked about #" positi+e -eelin s about#e and ho/ had actuall" be un to like #"sel-. ?e then asked i- /ished to re=enter h"pnosis. a reed and /hen he asked #e toclose #" e"es once a ain -elt that /ar# peace-ul andco#-ortable -eelin dri-t o+er #e as his rela in +oice continued.

&lthou h kno/ that listened to e+er" /ord +er" care-ull" itsee#ed onl" a -e/ #o#ents later that he /as askin #e to open#" e"es and be /ide a/ake. sensed e+en be-ore looked at theclock that another hour had probabl" oneCand it had:

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Dr. 9arnett told #e that he /as +er" pleased at the pro ress had#ade and that he /as no/ con-ident that e+er"thin /ould be

-ine. n -act he /as so con-ident that he asked #e to dela" #"ne t appoint#ent -or -our /eeks. could not help -eelin a littledoubt-ul that could re#ain /ell -or -our #ore /eeks /ithouthelp but tried not to sho/ it.

Tuesday

Hood -eelin s persisted toda". ha+e -elt con-ident capable andsel-=assured. t see#s as i- ha+e relin<uished #an" o- #"personal inhibitions. a# -reeC-ree to e press -eelin s that /aspre+iousl" co#pelled to hide.

For the -irst ti#e in a es /as -ree to sa" the /ords 7 lo+e "ou;to #" husband. @nl" can appreciate the /onder#ent o- beinable to do that. The -eelin has al/a"s been there but the spoken/ords ha+e i+en it such a pro-ound #eanin .

!ednesday

Toda" -eel the need -or a deeper understandin o- Mar". /antto earn her respectCnot de#and it. 9eco#in #ore a/are o- theinteraction bet/een us ha+e tried to Bud e it obBecti+el". M"husband and ha+e discussed the proble# this e+enin at len th.

Throu h the re#ainder o- #" diar" record o- the -our /eeks

bet/een appoint#ents note that ha+e recorded so#e +er"interestin chan es. beca#e #ore co#-ortable bein #"sel-.There see#ed to be no -urther need to pla" an" role or to do an"pretendin . t beca#e @. . to be #e: see#ed to ease up and-eel less pressure "et acco#plished as #uch as be-ore /ithoutan" undue an iet".

be an to look -or/ard to each da". stopped /orr"in aboutho/ /as oin to cope. 8npleasant thin s continued to happen

but that see#ed all ri ht. could deal /ith the# in a controlled#anner acceptin #" unco#-ortable -eelin s /ithoute periencin uilt.

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beca#e a/are o- a chan e takin place in #" children andreali6ed that the" /ere respondin to the #odi-ications occurrin

in #e. /as at last in har#on" /ith the /orld.There /as still a doubtin part o- #e /hich /ondered /hether this/as all #erel" a drea# -ro# /hich /ould shortl" a/aken. Thisdoubt -aded ho/e+er /ith the passa e o- ti#e #erel" re#indin#e that had ne+er /anted the old #e.

be an to deli ht in ha+in une pected uests drop b". Ratherthan panickin in #" usual -ashion enBo"ed the#Cand be an

to belie+e that the" enBo"ed #e too:

@ne da" #" husband enthusiasticall" noted that he had beena/are o- a pro-ound chan e in #e since #" -irst session o- h"pnotherap". ?e had al/a"s /ondered /hether had reall" lo+ed hi#but no/ the pronounced alteration in #" outlook #ade it possible-or hi# to broach the subBect. ?e /ent on to con-ess that o+erthe "ears he had -ound it di--icult to speak to #e about sensiti+e#atters because /ouldn t e press #" hurt but al/a"s /ithdre/

behind a /all o- -ur". /ould /alk around like a ti#e bo#b read"to e plode and thus no one dared approach #e. kne/ that he/as ri ht -or #an" ti#es a disa ree#ent bet/een us arousedsuch intense -eelin s o- hatred /ithin #e that didn t dare toe press the#. &nd at such ti#es -elt reBected b" hi#.

be an to understand /hat had been boilin inside #e durinthose "ears. had been con+inced that /as unlo+able that couldn t i+e or recei+e lo+e. no/ kno/ that this had ne+er reall"

been true. &s a result can accept his lo+e and i+e #ine -reel"in return. The chan e has like/ise had a pro-ound e--ect uponMar" /ho see#s happier and #ore content.

Much happened in those -our /eeks bet/een sessions. &t ti#esthe old hate -eelin s returned and -elt a-raid. 9ut raduall" learned to talk #" -eelin s out and beca#e less a-raid o- the#particularl" /hen be an to reco ni6e that other people accepted#" unpleasant -eelin s. &-ter all the" shared the# too:

When the -our /eeks /ere up there /as so #uch to tell Dr.9arnett that hardl" kne/ /here to be in. &-ter con-essed that /as still troubled b" an er he assured #e that /ould raduall"co#e to accept it as a health" part o- #e and no lon er so#ethin

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to -ear. reali6e that he /as ri ht because each da" a# -indin#" an er easier to accept and control.

?e asked #e to close #" e"es and rela . @nce a ain dri-teddeepl" into that interestin and pleasant state o- a/areness /hereinternal thou hts and -eelin s assu#e such i#portance. This ti#eit see#ed as i- /as there -or a +er" lon ti#e. recall his +oiceaskin #e i- it /ould be all ri ht -or #e to re#e#ber no/ and #"head nodded 7"es.;

When he asked #e to open #" e"es #" #ind -looded /ith pain-ul

#e#ories. The" /ere like scenes -ro# a horror #o+ie but the"/ere realCparticularl" a picture o- a #other burnin a little irl/ith a red hot poker. That #other /as #" #other and the little

irl /as #e. could -eel her terror. &nd then that horrible thin/ith dad. ?e should not ha+e #ade #e do that: hate hi# and-ear hi#C at least used to. &nd then it /as #other a ainCandal/a"s those #en: Wh" couldn t ha+e a proper #otherI so/anted a proper #other:

ha+e no/ put all o- those horrible pictures in their ri ht-ul placeCinto the past /here the" no lon er reall" #atter. ha+eunderstood -ather. understand #other. no lon er bear the#an" resent#ent althou h can ne+er condone /hat the" did to#e. Most o- all ha+e -or i+en #"sel-. no/ -ull" understandthat all o- us ha+e a ri ht to our -eelin s. t is not the -eelin s thatare /ron but the e pression o- -eelin s in a destructi+e #anner.

/ill al/a"s re#e#ber the three pro#ises Dr. 9arnett asked #e

to #ake to #"sel-N ne+er to put #"sel- or #" -eelin s do/nne+er to allo/ an"one else to put #e or #" -eelin s do/n andne+er to put an"one else or their -eelin s do/n. t all see#ed#ar+ellousl" clear and si#ple.

?e asked i- he could talk /ith #" husband so brou ht hi# /ith#e the -ollo/in /eek. M" husband ad#itted that so#e /onder-ulthin s had indeed happened but he e pressed a little o- his o/nuncertaint" as to /hether such a tre#endous chan e /ould be

per#anent. We all a reed that should return -or a -ollo/=upappoint#ent t/o #onths later.

e perienced a /onder-ul hrist#as that "ear and /hen returned -or #" -ollo/=up appoint#ent in the ne/ "ear reported

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that there had been no proble#s that had not been able tohandle. had to ad#it that /as still a little unco#-ortable /hen

thou ht about the past and the old #e but that +isit /as #" last-or#al h"pnotherap". had reached a stable understandin o-#"sel- and /as -ull" able to accept #"sel- as a /orth/hile hu#anbein . /as reall" -ree:

,o/ so#e three "ears later look upon these "ears as thehappiest o- #" li-e. >ach da" see#s as ood as or better than theda" be-ore. Toda" the ti#es o- tension no lon er see#o+er/hel#in and a# al/a"s con-ident that can handle the#.

ha+e de+ised a /hole di--erent set o- +alues to/ard li-e. -eelrela ed /ith other people and no lon er /orr" about /hat the"/ill think o- #e. nterestin l" enou h ha+e -ound that peoplesee# to -ind it eas" to accept #e Bust as a#. Man" o- #"-riendships ha+e beco#e #uch deeper and #ore #eanin -ul. -eel secure /ithin #"sel- and continue to enBo" sel-=con-idence. no/ ha+e the abilit" to sa" 7no; /hen asked to do so#ethin that

/ould pre-er not to do and no lon er e perience an" uilt

-eelin s about #" re-usal.

To an"one seekin h"pnotherap" /ould sa" 7Do not be a-raid.;4ou #a" as did disco+er unpleasant #e#ories /hich "ou ha+espent "our li-e -ilterin out o- "our #ind /ithout bein able toescape -eelin s o- uilt. 4ou #ust allo/ "oursel- to -ace and deal/ith those #e#ories -reein "oursel- -ro# their cripplin e--ectson "our li-e and happiness.

a# no/ able to look back at the old #e /ithout an" distressbecause reali6e that /ithout certain e periences /ould not bethe person a# pleased to be toda". a# surprised /hen peopleseek #e out to help the# /ith their proble#s but Dr. 9arnetttells #e that this is because onl" an e =con+ict can -ull"understand a prisoner. kno/ no/ /hat he #eans b" that.

Dr. Barnett )o""ents:

Fortunatel" ?.9. /as able to enter +er" deep h"pnosis <uickl".This enabled her to -ull" e ploit her unconscious resources in theunderstandin o- her proble#s. t also allo/ed her to deal rapidl"/ith the critical e periences /hich had been responsible -or the

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ori inal cripplin decisions she had #ade about hersel-. >arl" inli-e she had locked hersel- /ithin the prison o- an er. Decidin

that she /as a bad person and thus undeser+in o- lo+e she triedto s#other an" e pression o- an er or sadness. 3he e+enatte#pted not to -eel these e#otions. When she -ailed anenor#ous sense o- uilt o+erca#e her.

n our +er" -irst session she /as able to locate and recall the hurtand an er she had -elt at her #istreat#ent. 3he could also understand that it reall" /as not her -ault. The disco+er" that she couldaccept her ri ht to be hersel- no #atter /hat her -eelin s #i ht

be instilled a positi+e attitude -or the -irst -e/ da"s a-ter therap".?o/e+er she had to tr" all o- her -eelin s out particularl" /henshe had pro#ised not to put the# do/n or let an"one else deridethe#. &t this ti#e she beca#e a/are o- insistent unpleasant-eelin s /hich cla#oured to be e pressed. 3he learned that shecould +ent the# /ithout losin control o- the#.

%ike #an" people /ho are able to enter a deep le+el o- h"pnosis?.9. /as able to -or et the e periences /hich /ere recalled durin

the h"pnotic state. 3ince she had this abilit" used it deliberatel"so that she /as not initiall" -orced to handle the #e#ories inaddition to the decisions that she had #ade. Durin the thirdsession asked her to re#e#ber all that had transpired inpre+ious sessionsCand she /as able to deal /ith her past <uite/ell.

The deep h"pnosis /hich ?.9. #ana ed to reach enabled her todeal /ith her proble#s rapidl". n other e a#ples o- rapid

resolution o- proble#s h"pnosis has been #uch li hter. t usuall"takes lon er to deal /ith proble#s /hen the le+el o- h"pnosis isnot so deep but as /e shall see the ulti#ate result is e<uall"satis-actor".

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To her -riends and -a#il" she /as Mar" a /ell=#eanin practical/o#an /ho tried hard to be a per-ect /i-e and #other. 9ut deepinside Mar" /as a spontaneous i#a inati+e child na#ed >li6abethC that part o- Mar" /hich her #other could ne+er tolerate.

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>li6abeth lon ed to be lo+ed and ad#ired -or hersel- but Mar" C/ithout e+er bein a/are o- the tension -er#entin /ithinC

repressed >li6abeth s /ishes. >+er since she ceased to use thena#e >li6abeth as a child Mar" had kno/n that her #other /ouldonl" tolerate her i- she a+e up her deepest /ishes and beca#eco#pliant in all thin s.

&s Mar" re/ older earl" #e#ories -aded. 9" the ti#e she /ed>li6abeth /as nearl" -or otten.

Mar" s relationship /ith her husband /as ade<uate as lon as she

de-erred to his Bud #ents at e+er" turn. @ccasionall" she heard>li6abeth s rebellious +oice cr"in out a ainst this une<ual re i#ebut Mar" <uickl" silenced it. &nother +oice /as needed to shatterthe co#placent li-e o- the -a#il".

Mar" s #other=in=la/ accused Mar" o- do#inatin her husbandbecause she didn t reall" care -or hi#. Further#ore she clai#edthat Mar" had #ade hersel- a sla+e to her children. 3uchaccusations le-t Mar" in a state o- shock. ?a+in tried to nurture a

spontaneous lo+e -or her husband and deepl" concerned -or herchildren s /el-are she couldn t understand this attack.

n her ho#e Mar" s #other had do#inated bad erin herhusband and bein unreasonabl" de#andin o- her children. Mar"learned as a little irl to bur" her an er to/ard her #other and todo e+er"thin possible to please her. 3he beca#e art-ul at hidinher an ieties and presentin a personalit" that her #other couldaccept. Thrustin >li6abeth into the recesses o- her consciousness

/hen the pressures beca#e too reat she adopted her secondna#e Mar" and atte#pted to con-or#.

Mar" could not tell her #other=in=la/ ho/ deepl" the accusationshad hurt and -ri htened her. @ne ni ht ho/e+er she a/oke in anall=consu#in ra e to/ard the /o#an. ?er -ierce e#otionscon-used and surprised her -urther -or she had al/a"s consideredhersel- a entle person. ,o/ she /as learnin so#ethin abouthersel- that did not -it the picture.

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Mar" had al/a"s been -ri htened o- #en. To be honest she hadne+er belie+ed that an" #an /ould /ant her -or his /i-e. @nce

#arried she tried desperatel" to #aintain her husband s (John)a--ection -earin that he /ould lea+e her. 3he could not riskre+ealin >li6abeth s /orld to hi#.

Mar" s e#otional li-e /ith John see#ed un-ul-illin to her. ?isobstinac" and his inabilit" to disco+er /hat /as reall" i#portant toher -i ed a reat ul- bet/een the#. @ut o- loneliness Mar"de+eloped a -riendship /ith another #an /ho /as able to sensethe e istence o- Mar" s inner /orld the do#ain o- >li6abeth. Torn

b" -eelin s o- -ear and e hilaration Mar" /as relie+ed /hen the#an #o+ed a/a". ,o/ she /as sa-e -ro# -urther disco+eries/hich she -eared she could not accept. 9ut >li6abeth still lon ed-or lo+e and attention.

The lon hard /inter /ore do/n Mar" s spirit. 3he -eared that she/ould ne+er sur+i+e the succession o- ic" re" da"s. The chill o-the season see#ed to s<uee6e the li-e -ro# her and shedespaired o- e+er seein another sprin . 4et she clun to li-e. &

+oice inside /hispered that she could not dieC-or she had ne+erli+ed.

n that desolate season she be an to understand that she haddone nothin -or hersel-. 3he /as al/a"s i+in but ne+er allo/edhersel- to accept an"thin in return. &--ection threatened her-uellin >li6abeth s deter#ination to be ackno/led ed.

3prin brou ht Mar" ne/ hope and ener ". 3he had sur+i+ed. 9ut

the season also brou ht her ne/ pain. & sel-=a/areness classclari-ied -or her the parado es she had reco ni6ed in her li-e. nthe roup she brou ht support and e#otional nourish#ent toothers but could accept none -or hersel-.

Mar" and John participated in a #arria e encounter roup durinthe su##er. Throu hout #ost o- the sessions Mar" /ept. 3he -eltas thou h she sat atop an e#otional +olcano due -or eruption butshe couldn t locate the source o- her pain. 3lo/l" she beca#e

a/are o- needs that she could not -ull" understand. To e pressthese e#er in desires and -eelin s she be an to /rite poetr".

&s a little irl >li6abeth had /ritten poe#s and son s until her#other s dislike o- her e--orts had dri+en her creati+e needs

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inside. ,o/ she returned to her poetr" /ith a -ierce rebelliousener " and this brou ht her a -eelin o- /holeness she had not

pre+iousl" kno/n.9ut Mar" could not allo/ an"one to read her /ritin s. 3he couldnot share these ne/ e periences /ith John -or she -eared that hiscriticis# /ould destro" the +alue o- the poetr" -or her.

Mar" attended another encounter roup and the pain thatsur-aced shattered her resol+e to keep her an ieties hidden. ?erpoetr" be an to su--er. Fear-ul that this ne/ source o- /holeness

in her li-e /as about to be lost she sou ht help /ith #e.

sensed earl" in our therapeutic relationship that Mar" /asdesperate. 3he /anted to de+elop her independence -ro# theobli ations placed upon her b" the -a#il" but she e<uall" sou htto dra/ closer e#otionall" to her -a#il".

Mar" #entioned >li6abeth <uite casuall" in our -irst session. 3he/as surprised b" #" interest in her irlhood sel- and at -irst /as

con-used /hen asked /hether Mar" and >li6abeth /ere di--erentpeople. 3he had ne+er been able to appreciate the separateness o-these t/o li+es /ithin her personalit". 3lo/l" Mar" learned that it/as >li6abeth /ho su--ered pain /ho needed to e press hersel- in/ritin /ho lo+ed and hated -iercel" and needed to be ad#iredand cared -or.

suspected that so#e o- Mar" s proble#s could be traced ri htback to her birth e perience. There-ore in our -irst session /ith

h"pnosis asked her to re ress to her natal hour.

7 -eel sad ; Mar" told #e /hen asked her to e plore her -eelin sat birth. 7 -eel as thou h should ne+er ha+e co#eCne+er ha+ebeen born. 3he doesn t /ant #e. see rubber lo+es and a#asked -ace -i ures in /hite and then there is no one there. M"#other is dead # alone. /ish #" -ather /ere here.; &t a latersession she e panded her +ision o- that #o#ent. 7 thou ht hadkilled her /hen /as bornCshe la" so cold and still under

anaesthesia. -elt i#pelled to i+e #" li-e -or her to be /hate+ershe /anted.;

The e perience o- reBection and hurt /as +er" stron -or Mar".3ensin that her birth e perience had le-t her /ith the -eelin that

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she should not e ist tried to i#press upon her that she had ari ht to li+eCthat it /as @ to be.

When Mar" -reed hersel- -ro# the -eelin that she had killed her#other at birth dra#atic chan es occurred in the /a" she relatedto her o/n bod". 3he had associated her uilt and -ear /ith thethreatenin +iolence o- her breech birth. &s she ca#e tounderstand the natural conditions o- her -irst -e/ hours o- li-e herbreathin beca#e #ore rela ed. &t the openin o- our ne tsession she e clai#ed 7For #an" "ears +e under one bouts o-ha+in to asp -or air. 3uddenl" can breathe easil".;

When Mar" beca#e #ore rela ed /ith her earliest #e#ories /epro ressed on to a ti#e at /hich she /as three "ears old. 7 a#little and a# in the /ater ; Mar" announced. 7 a# tr"in todecide /hether to -loat out -ore+er or to o back to shore. decideto co#e back to land but as reach the shore it is Bust as scar"as the open /ater.; 3he be an to reali6e that e+en a child canharbour a death /ish.

&t ten Mar" had an un-ortunate debilitatin se ual e perience/ith her -ather. 7 see #"sel- /earin #" /hite saddle shoes ;she reported. 7 # lookin at #" -ather s bare -eet as he lies inbed. ?e /ants #e to co#e to hi#. Dad need "ou so #uch.Mother is killin #e. 9ut a# a-raid o- "ou.;

instructed Mar" to use all her /isdo# and inner stren th to helpthat little irl. 3he responded slo/l" and -ear-ull".

n a later session Mar" +i+idl" recalled still another -ri hteninse ual encounter /ith her -ather /hich re<uired #uchencoura e#ent to deal /ith.

n s#all an ious steps Mar" ca#e to -or i+e the little irl>li6abeth. 3he learned that she needn t -eel uilt -or the#olestation she su--ered. n ti#e she consciousl" recalled theassault b" her -ather at -i+e "ears o- a e and her thou hts o- thatperiod be an to e#er e.

n one o- our -inal sessions Mar" s -eelin s about her #other s-ear-ul po/er o+er her beca#e per-ectl" clear. 3he /ent <uickl"do/n to the le+el o- h"pnosis that #ost suited her and be an toreport /hat she sa/ and -elt.

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7 t s #" #otherCher Ro"al ?i hnessCa ain ; she obser+ed. 7think she #ust sit at the ri ht hand o- Hod. 3he is bendin do/n

to #e and /hisperin O don t lo+e hi# so "ou #ust. 7 asked Mar" /hat she /ould sa" to her #other.

7%o+e hi# "oursel- "ou old /itch ; she replied /ith a thrill o-an er. 7That s "our Bob not #ine.;

&s Mar" /orked throu h these proble#s o+er the ne t -e/#onths #an" chan es occurred in her li-e. 3he /as able to /rite

#ore -reel" and securel". 3oon she could allo/ her poe#s to beread. 3he reported that her -ear o- #en raduall" di#inished. 3hebeca#e #uch #ore sel-=asserti+e and enBo"ed ne/ sensations o-e#otional securit". 9ut nothin she said a+e her #ore pleasurethan the -eelin s o- -reedo# she e perienced.

@ne o- Mar" s an ieties concerned her son Jason. ?e /as a sh"retirin bo" /ho /as al#ost totall" lackin in sel-=assurance. 7 t/as as i- he /as a-raid o- his bod". n h"pnosis /as able to see

the /orld throu h his e"es and disco+er that /as his proble#.9ecause o- #" con-usion about lo+e and #" o/n se ualit" hadreBected hi# since had unconsciousl" -elt it /as /ron to lo+ehi# in an" ph"sical /a".;

Mar" /as enor#ousl" relie+ed to learn that it /as per#issible toe press all o- her -eelin s to/ard her son. 3he be an to hu andcaress hi# as she had al/a"s /antedC/ith dra#atic results.Jason blosso#ed out beco#in a #ore con-ident and open

"oun ster.

>li6abeth had ro/n and #atured durin therap" until she /asable to deal /ith li-e realisticall" rather than #erel" indul e her-antasies. Mar" re istered appro+al o- >li6abeth s intuiti+eperceptions and relied increasin l" upon the -eelin s o- the innerpersonalit".

Whene+er a person chan es his or her na#e a subtle chan e in

identit" ine+itabl" -ollo/s. This occurs /hen a /o#an #arries andadopts her husband s -a#il" na#e or /hen a nickna#e isaccepted or reBected. & na#e carries /ith it #an" unconsciousassociations and thus the chan in o- one s na#e can result inthe repression o- so#e or all o- its #an" associations. Thus /hen

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>li6abeth beca#e Mar" she con-or#ed to the beha+iourse pected o- her and repressed the #an" -eelin s attributable to

>li6abeth /hich /ere not acceptable to her #other.&n"one /ho has a nickna#e can distin uish the di--erent -eelin s

enerated b" the nickna#e and the i+en na#e. Mothers #ustunconsciousl" reco ni6e this -act /hen the" use their children s-ull i+en na#e to address a serious proble# rather than the petna#e used -or #ore -ri+olous #atters.

Mar"=>li6abeth s h"pnoanal"sis a#pl" de#onstrated the po/er o-

the sentence 74ou #ust not e ist ; i+en -or the cri#e o- beinborn /hen un/anted. ?er /hole li-e prior to therap" had beendedicated to concealin part o- hersel- -ro# the /orld ande posin a -ront that /as -alse but acceptable. This denial o- hertrue sel- /as ine+itabl" the cause o- #uch pain.

Mar" s protection o- >li6abeth /as seen as necessar" in order toa+oid bein abandoned. 3he did this b" concealin >li6abeth anddeclarin to her that she had no ri hts /hate+er to hersel- or her

-eelin s. >li6abeth s cries e+entuall" beca#e too stron to besuppressed /hen in the encounter roup situation she reali6edthat Mar" /as <uite /ron . >+er" hu#an bein has a ri ht to belo+ed.

Throu hout therap" this ri ht /as stressed repeatedl". Whene+er/e located an e perience /hich /as renderin it di--icult to retainacceptance o- this -unda#ental ri ht /e called upon her presentincreased kno/led e and understandin to sol+e the di--icult". 3he

/as al/a"s success-ul.

Mar" s histor" also e#phasi6es the i#portance o- the birthe perience in the de+elop#ent o- an indi+idual s concept o-hersel-. n one o- our later #eetin s Mar" reli+ed her birth+i+idl". t /as clear that she /as e periencin a breech birth (i.e.a -eet -irst birth) /ith all o- the intense and -ri htenin disco#-ortthat a di--icult breech birth #ust in-lict upon a bab". There isal/a"s a period o- su--ocation -or instance bet/een the

co#pression o- the u#bilical cord and the e+entual e#er ence o-the head /hich does not occur in a nor#al head -irst birth.

t /as clear that #uch o- Mar" s -ear o- her #other be an at thisti#e -or her birth see#ed like a li-e=and=death stru le bet/een

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bab" and #other and she concluded that her #other had al#ost/on. 3he could there-ore ne+er risk reen a in in battle /ith her

#other. This accounted -or the i##ense po/er that Mar" s#other /ielded o+er her throu h the "ears. To re#ain >li6abeth/as to risk the annihilation that had al#ost occurred at birth.

>li6abeth s conte#plation o- suicide at the a e o- three probabl"arose -ro# the unconscious -eelin that #other s deepl" neededappro+al could in the last resort be obtained b" concedin +ictor"and lea+in the scene -ore+er. Fortunatel" -or Mar" she dealt /iththis proble# b" the e cellent co#pro#ise o- concealin >li6abeth

and presentin her #other /ith the non=co#batant Mar".

& +er" interestin -eature o- Mar"=>li6abeth s stor" is the #annerin /hich her children responded so dra#aticall" to her therap". t/as <uite apparent that the in-or#ation re ardin her children sproble#s and the solutions /ere a+ailable to her at anunconscious le+el. ha+e con-ir#ed this on #an" occasions /hiletreatin other patients /ith proble# children.

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3o#e people #i ht ha+e called #e an alcoholic but /ould ne+erha+e applied that label to #"sel-. /ould o -or lon periods/ithout a drink but then -or no reason that could disco+erdeliberatel" et +er" drunk and re#ain in that condition -or a -e/da"s. &s look back on this period no/ reco ni6e ho/ used tobeco#e increasin l" depressed until kne/ /as headin -oranother bin e. &round the a e o- t/ent"=one Boined roupdrinkin in bars. More recentl" be an to drink alone.

ha+e al/a"s been a loner and "et a -e/ dear -riends reall" see#to care about #e. 3ince /ould do nothin to hurt the# -elt+er" asha#ed /hen kne/ ho/ #" drinkin sprees a--ectedthe#. o-ten pro#ised #" irl-riend that /ould tr" to re#ainsober but al/a"s kne/ that /ould let her do/nCand o-course did. &t ti#es /hen -elt sure that could lick #"drinkin proble# could ne+er understand /h" #" resolutionspro+ed to be so /eak. /ould ha+e done an"thin to #ake herhapp" but sel-=control see#ed be"ond #e.

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&t her su estion called Dr. 9arnett s o--ice -or an appoint#entto see i- he could help -or he had been able to understand her

s#okin habit. Durin #" -irst +isit underpla"ed #" drinkinproble# because had not been on a bin e -or t/o #onths and /as -eelin that reall" had it licked. nstead talked aboutanother proble# that had e perienced -or "earsC-eelin +er"unco#-ortable /ith people especiall" i- #ore than t/o or threepeople /ere present. &t parties si#pl" -ro6e and couldn t /ait toslip a/a" unnoticed. onl" /ent to parties because #" -riendsthou ht should.

Dr. 9arnett asked #e /hether -elt that did not belon . a reedthat this /as e actl" ho/ -elt. @n #an" occasions in a roup had sensed that had nothin in co##on /ith an" o- the#. t/as al#ost as i- the" /ere talkin a lan ua e could notunderstand. 4et kno/ that a# a reasonabl" intelli ent personand althou h lar el" sel-=educated possess a -air kno/led e o-the /orld around #e. 9ut al/a"s -elt inade<uate /hen co#paredto e+er"one else no #atter /ho the" /ere. e+en -elt in-erior to#" irl-riend at ti#es and she ne+er did an"thin to put #e

do/n.

Dr. 9arnett asked #e i- liked #"sel-. had to consider that<uestion care-ull" -or a /hile. t /as a ne/ thou ht but in the end

concluded that reall" did not think hi hl" o- #"sel-.

&t the a e o- ei hteen /as told b" #" parents that the" hadadopted #e shortl" a-ter birth. The" ha+e al/a"s been +er" oodto #e and ha+e al/a"s enBo"ed a stron relationship /ith the#.

do not think that the in-or#ation about #" adoption bothered#e at all. &ctuall" ne+er thou ht #uch about #" real parents.

When Dr. 9arnett tested #e -or #" abilit" to enter h"pnosis -eared that /ould not be able to respond to an" o- hissu estions. &ssurin #e that si#pl" needed to rela he asked#e to close #" e"es and let #" unconscious #ind i+e one si nal-or 7"es; and another -or 7no.; To #" surprise #" ri ht inde-in er li-ted /hen thou ht 7"es ; #" ri ht thu#b /hen thou ht

7no.; t /as an uncann" -eelin particularl" since kne/ that /as /ide a/ake. Dr. 9arnett see#ed to be satis-ied and he asked#e to let #" -in ers #o+e in an" /a" the" /anted.

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?e asked #" unconscious #e#or" to return to #" birth and /as surprised to -eel #" -in er li-t indicatin that #" unconscious

#ind /as there. /as shocked /hen it si nalled that had -eltun/anted at #" birth. Dr. 9urnett /ent on to ask #e i- -eltuilt" about bein born and #" -in ers ans/ered /ith an

e#phatic 7"es.; &ns/ers to -urther <uestions su ested thatbe-ore /as born had heard #" #other sa" that she did not/ant #e at all. /as surprised and con-used b" these ans/ersand /ondered /hether #" unconscious #ind could reall" becooperatin .

Dr. 9arnett asked #e i- could accept #"sel- as a person as oodand as i#portant as an" other hu#an bein . re#e#ber that #" 7no; thu#b li-tedCand /as not surprised.

/as be/ildered b" #" -irst +isit concludin that had not beenh"pnoti6ed at all. could ha+e opened #" e"es at an" ti#e and/alked out o- the o--iceC a# sure o- that. 9ut -ound thein+oluntar" #o+e#ents o- #" -in ers surprisin . The" see#ed toha+e a li-e and #ind o- their o/n. To sa" that /as shocked b"

the ans/ers the" supplied /ould be an understate#ent.

/as ea er to return -or -urther therap" in order to hear /hat #"unconscious #ind /ould re+eal throu h #" -in ers. &t subse<uentsessions beca#e con+inced that #" unconscious #ind /ith itsa#a6in access to buried #e#ories /as indeed ans/erin Dr.9arnett s penetratin <uestions. We #et e+er" t/o /eeks at -irstlater once a #onth. Dr. 9arnett e plained that the unconscious#ind cannot be pushed. t /ill #o+e at its o/n pace and

e cessi+el" -re<uent sessions acco#plish no #ore than /isel"spaced appoint#ents.

n the -irst -e/ #eetin s #" unconscious #ind consistentl"located all o- #" proble#s in the period be-ore birth. t later /enton to de-ine #" #other s reBection o- #e in e+en #ore positi+eter#s. &s ti#e /ent on see#ed to be han in on to an intensehurt that resisted all o- Dr. 9arnett s e--ort to persuade #e torelin<uish.

%ittle b" little learned that #" #other #ade three deter#inedatte#pts to kill #e be-ore #" birth. 8nconsciousl" /as a-raid o-#" #other and +er" an r" /ith her. t see#ed that had dealt/ith this an er b" -ocusin it upon #"sel-. n other /ords /as

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an r" at #"sel- -or bein born. learned that b" settin #"sel-apart -ro# the /orld /as punishin #"sel- -or enterin this

/orld.We later disco+ered an e+en deeper part o- #" unconscious sel-that /as hurtin +er" badl" as a result o- all this. This partdesperatel" /anted to be a part o- li-e but had disco+ered anescape -ro# all o- its pain throu h alcohol.

&bout this ti#e in therap" reco ni6ed the hopeless -eelin that had al/a"s kno/n Bust be-ore oin on an alcoholic bin e and it

no/ #ade sense. /as usin alcohol to 7die; in the /a" /assupposed to ha+e done be-ore birth.

Three #onths a-ter therap" be an /e e perienced the -irst realbreakthrou h. Dr. 9arnett -orced the punishin part o- #e toad#it that had been tor#ented lon enou h -or allo/in #"sel-to li+e. ?o/e+er he could not et it to a ree to end punish#ent atthat session.

&t the +er" ne t session #" unconscious #ind indicated a cleari#a e o- #" #other at #" birth. 3he appeared to be deadalthou h she /as probabl" onl" unconscious. t see#ed as i- -eltresponsible -or her 7death; and had to o on punishin #"sel-.@nce a ain Dr. 9arnett had reat di--icult" in persuadin #"unconscious #ind that #" #other /as probabl" not dead andthat e+en i- she /ere could not be held responsible.

More than si #onths a-ter the co##ence#ent o- therap" #"

unconscious si nals indicated a #arked lessenin o- uilt and areal opti#is# about its e+entual disappearance. Durin this period

drank onl" inter#ittentl" and noticed se+eral other i#portantchan es occurrin /ithin #e. be an to -eel #ore rela ed in theco#pan" o- others durin so#e periods -ound #"sel- -eelin+er" ood to/ard #"sel-. &t ti#es e+en asserted #"sel- as hadne+er done be-ore. /as be innin to be able to tell peoplee actl" ho/ -elt /hereas had al/a"s kept #" true -eelin scare-ull" hidden -or -ear that the" /ould upset people. no/

-ound that people /ere respondin to #e. t /as an e citin ne/-eelin and /as likin #e.

More than nine #onths a-ter /e started therap" the bi da" hadbeen /aitin -or arri+ed. M" unconscious #ind si nalled that had

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been co#pletel" -or i+en and that there /ould be no -urtherpunish#ent. /as -ree at last. could -inall" accept #"sel- as a

nor#al hu#an bein .3ince that da" thin s ha+e i#pro+ed re#arkabl"Cso #uch so that1 so#eti#es /onder i- it has all been true. @- course still su--er

7do/n; periods but the" are ne+er bad enou h to #ake #e o onbin es. kno/ that /ill continue to drink occasionall" but ha+ean absolute con+iction /ithin #e that /ill ne+er need to succu#bto another bin e. That -or #e spells -reedo#. a# enBo"in eachda" that co#es and no lon er ha+e an" disco#-ort in a cro/d o-

people. n -act rather like #eetin ne/ people -or ne+er see#to ha+e di--icult" -indin so#ethin to talk about.

The last ti#e that +isited Dr. 9arnett s o--ice kne/ /ouldn tneed to return. had stron positi+e -eelin s. &lthou h /ascertain then as a# no/ that proble#s /ould ine+itabl" arise -elt con-ident that could deal /ith the# /ithout -urther help. told Dr. 9urnett that had at last reached #" obBecti+e and /ouldnot be returnin unless ran into a proble# could not handle.

Dr. Barnett )o""ents:

M. . s case illustrates that h"pnoanal"sis can help e+en thepatient /ho is de#onstrabl" an unsatis-actor" h"pnotic subBect.Man" h"pnotherapists /ould ha+e re arded M. . asunh"pnoti6able because o- his poor responses to su estion. nspite o- this he /as able to locate and deal /ith se+ere prenataltrau#aCanal"sts /ould ha+e considered this unthinkable a -e/"ears a o.

M. . s e periences had locked hi# up in the prison o- uilt /iththe a/-ul sentence 74ou #ust not e ist; o+er his head. kno/ o-no other therap" /hich could ha+e success-ull" en ineered hisescape -ro# this prison.

learned -ro# M. . that no #atter ho/ black thin s appearinitiall" durin therap" persistence /ill #eet /ith success. ?edeser+es co##endation -or perse+erin /ith therap" /hen theinitial pro ress /as slo/. &s one considers that the total period o-therap" /as less than a "ear this does not see# to be sounusual particularl" /hen one hears o- other less success-ul

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M. . has re#ained /ell and belie+e that he /ill continue -ree-ro# the need -or alcoholic bin es.

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/as #ini#al applaud the e--orts o- those /ho oppose theincreasin #echani6ation o- obstetrics. do so on the basis o- the

belie- i#plicit throu hout this bookCthat /e possess resources todeal /ith our proble#s so lon as /e allo/ oursel+es to call uponthe#.

@ur s"#pto#atic control o- disease is i#pro+in steadil" so thatb" the use o- dru s and sur er" /e can secure a #easure o-co#-ort /here be-ore there /as none. 9ut the non=in-ecti+ediseases /hich include cancer heart disease ps"choso#aticdiseases and the de enerati+e disorders continue to pose

proble#s in therap" /hich ha+e "et to be resol+ed.

Medical science understands so#e o- the #echanis#s b" /hichthe bod" conducts its healin . The action o- the leucoc"tes inde+ourin -orei n in+aders is certainl" /ell=docu#ented and the-or#ation o- speci-ic en6"#es to pro#ote che#ical chan es-a+ourable -or healin and the production o- antibodies to helpi##obili6e the anta onists ha+e also been subBected to intensi+estud". ,ot clearl" understood is the /ide +ariation o- healin

responses in di--erent indi+iduals so that in an epide#ic o- anin-ecti+e disease so#e /ill sur+i+e unscathed and others /illsuccu#b. &lso /e do not kno/ /h" non=in-ecti+e diseases /illoccur #ore readil" in so#e indi+iduals than in others.

Without a doubt the ps"choso#atic disorders re-lect a distincte#otional back round. t is also a reed that personalit" pla"s apart in cardio+ascular diseases and e+en in such a purel" ph"sicalpheno#enon as proneness to inBur". There is e+en so#e e+idence

to support the contention that cancer su--erers ha+e a tendenc"to/ards a uilt ridden ne ati+e personalit".

This su ests that disease is +er" #uch in-luenced b" #entalattitudes. >+er" ph"sician at so#e ti#e in his career has #et thepatient /hose reco+er" -ro# an illness has been undul"prolon ed. n such people a 7/ill to die; retards reco+er" and #a"e+en e--ecti+el" pre+ent it. $h"sicians ha+e -re<uentl" beena#a6ed at the rapidit" /ith /hich so#e deter#ined indi+iduals

/ill reco+er -ro# a se+ere illness or sur ical procedure.

These -indin s indicate that the unconscious #ind can pla" adirect part in the process o- healin . @ur unconscious resourcesare still onl" +a uel" understood and re#ain lar el" untapped.

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Those o- us /ho /ork /ith h"pnosis ha+e accrued e perience /ithpatients /ho under the in-luence o- h"pnotic su estion ha+e

#ade an unusual reco+er" -ro# chronic illnesses /hich ha+ede-ied con+entional therap".

t has also been conclusi+el" pro+en that the bod" /ill heal #uch#ore rapidl" -ro# #inor inBuries and burns i- h"pnotic su estionis used as an ele#ent o- the therap". The unconscious #ind ispresu#abl" pa"in closer attention in h"pnosis to /hat is beinsaid than it /ould nor#all".

$atients /ho ha+e been i+en instructions to heal /hile under anaesthetic /ill o-ten do better than those /ho ha+e not been i+ensuch su estions. Dentists /ho ad#inister su estions in h"pnosisha+e repeatedl" noted the decrease in bleedin and disco#-ortthat occurs a-ter dental sur er". The" ha+e also obser+ed that the

u#s heal +er" <uickl".

3u estion s potent e--ect on reco+er" is labelled b" orthodo#edicine as the placebo e--ect. Whene+er an" #edication or

procedure is ad#inistered /ith the e pectation that it /ill ha+e ai+en e--ect a proportion o- patients /ill indeed e perience thate--ect re ardless o- the #edication e#plo"ed. n so#e cases itappears su--icient onl" -or the patient to belie+e that the #edicine/ill produce the desired e--ect -or it to occur. This 7placebo; e--ect#akes it e tre#el" di--icult to e+aluate the intrinsic +alue o- a ne/dru in hu#an bein s. Totall" inert su ar pills -or instance ha+ebeen e--ecti+e in relie+in se+ere post=operati+e pain in aboutthirt" percent o- patients /ho belie+ed that the" /ere recei+in

stron pain=relie+in #edication.

?o/ the unconscious #ind can carr" out these instructions topro#ote healin is still so#e/hat o- a #"ster" althou h so#ee+idence su ests that it operates +ia the autono#ic ner+ouss"ste#C that part o- the ner+ous s"ste# /hich thou h +er"co#ple is not under conscious control. &ll e a#ples o- -aithhealin #a" act in this #anner -or there is al/a"s the hope as/ell as the e pectation o- healin prior to the cere#on" /hich

pro+ides the si nal -or the unconscious #ind to set the healinprocess in #otion.

t has lon been kno/n that /arts can be cured b" +arious procedures recorded in -olklore. @nce a ain it is probable that the

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e pectation o- healin initiates the unconscious #echanis#s. nthe case o- /arts /e can speculate that b" controllin the blood

+essels to the /arts and reducin the suppl" o- blood in the areathe unconscious #ind causes the# to die -ro# star+ation. Wekno/ that this particular #echanis# is possible since blanchin o-the skin due to constriction o- the blood +essels in the skin-ollo/in appropriate su estions is de#onstrable in certainpeople.

More recentl" /e ha+e learned that so#e people d"in o- 7incurable; cancer ha+e been able to arrest and e+en re+erse the

pro ress o- their disease b" usin i#a er" techni<ues si#ilar tothose utili6ed in sel-=h"pnosis.

n all cases /here su estion ho/e+er applied e--ects healin/e can assu#e that the resources -or healin /ere alread"present but /ere either not bein used at all or /ere insu--icientl"#obili6ed. The su estion then #erel" encoura es the bod" to-ull" acti+ate its a+ailable resources.

?ae#ophilia a /ell=kno/n bleedin disorder results -ro# ahereditar" de-icienc" o- an i#portant clottin -actor. This -actor#a" be #ore de-icient at so#e ti#es than others /hich accounts-or the periodicit" o- the disease. 3u estion in h"pnosis /illencoura e the bod" to increase the a#ount o- the de-icient -actorsu--icientl" to control bleedin . ?ae#ophiliacs there-ore can usethis #echanis# in addition to unconscious control o- da#a edblood +essels to re ulate bleedin /hen subBected to inBur".

n li ht o- all the e+idence a+ailable to t/entieth centur" science/e #ust ask. Wh" do /e not al/a"s -ull" use our unconsciousresources -or healin I Luite possibl" the bod" s nor#al healinresources are unconsciousl" inhibited in certain cases. 9ut /henanal"tical #ethods are applied a need -or sel-=punish#entresultin -ro# unresol+ed -eelin s o- uilt #a" be unco+ered.3uch a need /ill account -or the 7/ill to die; that ha+e alread"#entioned.

@nl" b" the resolution o- e#otional proble#s /hich #a" still e istat the unconscious le+el can the inhibition o- the unconsciousresources -or healin be re#o+ed and nor#al healin established.Fortunatel" co##unication /ith the unconscious #ind is-acilitated b" h"pnosis and su estions i+en in this

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unconsciousl" attenti+e state can /hen acceptable be e tre#el"e--ecti+e.

3ince /e #ust reco ni6e that dru s and sur er" /ill ne+er pro+idethe ans/er to #ore than a si ni-icant #inorit" o- disorders it ishoped that orthodo #edicine /ill e+entuall" reco ni6e that theenor#ous potential o- the unconscious #ind -or healin isa+ailable -or the askin . t is #" sincere hope that all o- thea+enues -or tappin these resources /ill e+entuall" be -ull"researched. &n e+en #ore e--ecti+e #eans o- acco#plishin thisthan b" the use o- h"pnosis #a" e+entuall" be disco+ered.

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Much o- our initial /ork to ether is taken up /ith disco+erin the 7 ; and deter#inin his 7thin .; ?ere the initial unco+erin tech

ni<ues o- anal"tical h"pnotherap" are e tre#el" i#portant. 9"deter#inin the critical e periences /hen the 7 ; /as hidden /ecan #ake the chan e -ro# i#prison#ent to -reedo#.

I am not in this world to live up to your expectations . Mosto- #" patients ha+e eared their li+es to the e pectations o-othersC especiall" #other. This thou ht co#es as a blindinre+elation to the# -or the" ha+e ne+er be-ore considered thatthere could be an" other reason -or e istence. 4et it is onl" /hen

one ceases to li+e up to the e pectations o- others that the atesto -reedo# be in to s/in open and the chains o- uilt -all a/a".This idea is so ne/ to people that onl" the ne t sentence enablesthe# to accept itC And you are not in this world to live up tomine. The -airness o- this phrase is strikin l" irresistible.

n this phrase appears the essential e<ualit" o- #an /hich is alsostressed b" the ne t phrase. You are you and I am I. 3uch ana--ir#ation e presses the essential i#portance and oodness o-hu#an bein s /hich is stressed durin therap". n it can be heardthe sense o- purpose in each hu#an bein s e istence /hich isunderlined b" the -inal phrase And if by chance we find eachother it is beautiful. %i-e is Bust a series o- chances "et itspurpose is de-ined b" the chance #eetin o- independent -reei#portant sel-=acceptin indi+iduals. The beaut" o- these#eetin s cannot be described. t can onl" be -elt. Freed prisonerscan e perience this beaut" and the happiness it brin s #an" ti#es

each da".

&lthou h this book de#onstrates the /a" in /hich anal"ticalh"pnotherap" can be used to ain -reedo# h"pnosis is onl" oneo- the #an" /a"s in /hich an escape -ro# the prisons o- the #indcan be a--ected. Man" reli ions can attest to the -act that sel-=acceptance has led to the beaut" o- -reedo#. M" #ain oal hasbeen to sho/ that #an" o- us are li+in needlessl" i#po+erishedli+es. We are /astin ti#e /hich could be li+ed -ull".

ritics o- the anal"tical approach to therap" ha+e repeatedl"insisted that the past is -inished that /e should -or et it and eton /ith li+in in the present. ha+e no <uarrel /ith this point o-+ie/. ?o/e+er anal"tical h"pnotherap" reco ni6es that #an" o-

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us are unconsciousl" bound to and ruled b" our past /hichpre+ents us -ro# li+in -ull" in the present. The -ree indi+idual is

unshackled -ro# his past. ?is -or#er da"s ser+e as interestinhistor" nothin #ore. The" no lon er ha+e the po/er to pre+enthi# -ro# respondin to the present si#pl" and honestl". ?e hasno -urther need to protect hi#sel- -ro# the past.

The -reed indi+idual can -ull" respect all o- his internal responses.The" are ood Hod= i+enCpresent in all o- us to protect and

uide us each keepin us in-or#ed about the /orld in /hich /eli+e. &lthou h /e represent +ar"in +ie/points /e can a ree to

respect both our +ie/s and those o- our -ello/ hu#an bein s.

Freed indi+iduals beco#e #uch #ore tolerant o- their -ello/s.The" al/a"s appear to be at peace /ith the#sel+es and do not#ake undue de#ands upon others. The" are able to accept painand deal /ith it. &s hi hl" sel-=protecti+e people the" ne+er allo/an"one to cause the# to de+alue the#sel+es. ,ot belie+in inessential e+il the" are a/are that prisoners in tor#ent /illendea+our to in-lict so#e o- their pain upon their -ello/s. The"

-ir#l" belie+e that the /orld /ould indeed be at peace should eachhu#an bein -ull" accept hi#sel-.

M" /ork /ith anal"tical h"pnotherap" has tau ht #e thetre#endous i#portance o- the #otherAchild relationship. t hasrepeatedl" e#phasi6ed that proble#s occur /hen a child has -eltreBected b" its #other -ollo/in conception and indicates that arace o- -ree people /ill probabl" ne+er reall" arise until /e cancreate a race o- -ree #othersC#others /ho reall" accept and

respect the#sel+es as people.

So"e Thoughts on oneliness

>+er"one is alone. Fe/ o- us are 7all one.; 9ut /hen /e beco#eall one /e no lon er -eel lonel" e+en /hen /e are alone.

%oneliness results -ro# reBection o- part o- the sel- so that oneportion -eels cut o-- isolated and a-raid. To banish loneliness /eneed to be totall" and unreser+edl" sel-=acceptin . We can thenbeco#e and re#ain all one. This /ill be di--icult i- /hen reBectedb" others /e reBect oursel+es.

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We there-ore need to continue to accept oursel+es in the -ace o-reBection b" others. We #ust not depend upon their acceptance in

order to ain sel-=appro+al.When /e beco#e a/are o- our #oti+ation -or cra+in acceptanceb" others o-ten at the cost o- sel-=reBection /e disco+er the#eans to -ree oursel+es -ro# that need. The e orbitant price o-sel-=reBection that o- e#otional and ph"sical ill health need nolon er be paid.

So"e Thoughts on Responsibility

Within our personalities certain assets and liabilities -or# aninte ral part o- nature. We alone are responsible -or the person /eare and /e cannot trans-er that responsibilit" to an"one else. Weare also accountable -or our actions and -eelin s /e cannot bla#ethe# on others.

The -reed indi+idual accepts his -unda#ental responsibilities/hereas the prisoner o- the #ind constantl" seeks to assi n his toothers. The -reed indi+idual re-uses to accept the responsibilitieso- another since he belie+es in the abilit" o- each indi+idual to -ul-ilhis o/n responsibilities.

&lthou h a -reed indi+idual #a" respond to another person sactions /ith -eelin s o- an er hurt or -ear he does not bla#e thatperson -or his disco#-ort. ?e accepts responsibilit" -or it hi#sel-and deals /ith it appropriatel". on+ersel" should his o/n actionsresult in a ne ati+e response -ro# another person he #a" ruethat -act but he /ill not accept responsibilit" -or it and is under nopressure to resol+e it.

The -reed indi+idual can be o- reat help to his co#rades since hene+er seeks to -ind solutions to their proble#s but instead encoura es the# to use their o/n resources to resol+e personalproble#s.

So"e Thoughts on o-ingTo lo+e so#eone is to be at peace /ith the#. The reater thepeace the reater the lo+e. %o+in cannot e ist in the presence o-

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an er -or an er ine+itabl" disrupts peace. ?o/e+er it is al/a"spossible to dissol+e an er and to return to lo+in .

Fre<uentl" con-used /ith needin /hich creates a de#andinrelationship in /hich peace is a rare in redient lo+in #akes node#ands upon an"one. t is totall" acceptin o- the person lo+ed.

The -reed indi+idual -irst and -ore#ost is at peace /ith hi#sel- andthere-ore lo+es hi#sel-. ?e is totall" sel-=acceptin . 9ecause o-this he does not constantl" need to be co#-orted. This de#and-or co#-ortin is o-ten con-used /ith lo+e b" those /ho are

i#prisoned.

9ecause he is at peace /ith hi#sel- the -reed indi+idual /ill enBo"a tran<uil relationship /ith #an" o- his -ello/ hu#an bein s. ?e isable to lo+e the# and his capacit" -or lo+in is li#itless.

%i+in is lo+in . The person /ho cannot lo+e is dead. The -reedindi+idual is li+in because he ne+er ceases lo+in .

So"e Thoughts on '%uality in &u"an Beings

The philosoph" upon /hich anal"tical h"pnotherap" is basedstresses the basic oodness and uni-or# i#portance o- hu#anit".The co#ple it" o- hu#an bein s #akes the# the #ost /onder-ulproduct that /e kno/ o- in this trul" /onder-ul uni+erse. Thedi--erences a#on us all /hich re-lect the e tre#e co#ple it" o-each hu#an bein are #ini#alCand relati+el" insi ni-icant. Thetendenc" to re ard the /ealth" the cle+er the beauti-ul or thestron as 7#ore e<ual; than others #ust be resisted -or it cloudsthe reco nition o- the basic -act o- hu#an si#ilarit" andi#portance.

>ach o- us enters and lea+es this /orld in the sa#e /a". The st"leo- our entrance and e it /ill di--er but this +ariance is not underour control. We all possess si#ilar #ental ph"sical and e#otionale<uip#ent /hich di--ers in detail onl". The philosoph" o- basichu#an e<ualit" is -unda#ental to success-ul therap".

The -reed indi+idual s acceptance o- his e<ualit" /ith his -ello/hu#an bein s liberates hi# -ro# the co#pulsion to pro+e hi#sel-better than others. Thus he is a totall" inte rated personalit"

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