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Welcome To Discover Your

Giftedness!

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What do you think?Why did God create

us with specific giftedness?

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The Bible teaches That everyone

is gifted!1 Cor. 7:7

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“Every man has his proper gift of God.”

1 Cor. 7:7

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Only God gives perfect gifts —

“Every good gift and every perfect gift is

from above,” James 1:17

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The Psalmist reminds us —

“It is He Who has made us and not we ourselves,” Psa. 100:3

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“And He gave some apostles and some

prophets, and some pastors and teachers,”

Eph. 4:11

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“For the perfecting of the saints, for the work of the ministry, for the edifying of the body,”

Eph. 4:12

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“Till we all come to the unity of the faith and of

the knowledge of the Son of God unto a perfect

(mature) man,” Eph. 4:13

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The path of every search must pass

beyond yourself toward knowing God better.

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How does the Bible describe our condition without God?

“All we like sheep have gone astray; we have turned

everyone to his own way,”Isa. 53:6

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Search The Scriptures — Eph. 4:11-13

Why did God give Spiritual Gifts to Christians?

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What do you think?

Why should we concentrate on a few gifts, rather than

every gift listed in the Scriptures?

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Discovering spiritual gifts helps identify your motivations and abilities

from a supernatural perspective.

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"I tend to motivate others to get involved." • 5 — Almost Always true;• 4 — Often true;• 3 — Sometimes true;• 2 — Seldom true;• 1 — Almost Never true.

Spiritual Gifts Profile

Instructions:

Concerning the following statements, ask yourself how you feel about each one — How true is each statement about you? Simply respond with the numerical rating as follows:

Avoid, as much as possible, a 3 "Sometimes" choice. Don't hesitate choosing 5 (Almost Always) or 1 (Almost Never). Your desire to be humble or not exaggerate may cause you to choose more moderate responses. This may affect your results. Try to be as honest and accurate as possible.

Is this statement "Almost Always", "Often", "Sometimes", "Seldom" or "Almost Never" true

about you? Try to choose the "5, 4, 2 or 1." Avoid choosing the 3 "Sometimes."

Place your choice in the appropriate numbered box in the Numerical Ratings Chart. Notice the Scoring and Plotting Instructions and Example.

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Instructions:

• 5 — Almost Always true • 4 — Often true • 3 — Sometimes true • 2 — Seldom true • 1 — Almost Never true

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Instructions:

Example: "I tend to motivate others to

get involved."

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Instructions:

• Is this statement “Almost Always” “Often” “Sometimes” “Seldom” or

“Almost Never” true about you?

• Try to choose the “5, 4, 2 or 1.” Avoid choosing the 3 “Sometimes.”

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Scoring Instructions:

Be sure to rate your response to each choice from your Spiritual Gifts questionnaire. Record your

choice 5, 4, 3, 2 or 1 in the appropriate blank space in front of each statement.

1. ___ I love to hear evangelistic messages.

2. ___ I tend to be irritated when people sin.

3. ___ Education is very important to me..

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Scoring Instructions:

Be sure to rate your response to each choice from the separate Spiritual Gifts questionnaire. Record your choice 5, 4, 3, 2 or 1 in the appropriate numbered

question box. Total each column. Then follow the Plotting Instructions.

1. ___ I love to hear evangelistic message

2. ___ I tend to be irritated when people sin.

3. ___ Education is very important to me.

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Total the columns A through G below and use those totals to plot your graph.

To plot your Spiritual Gifts Profile, use the totals above. Find the appropriate letter A - G in the SGP graph (left) and circle the number of the total under each letter. Notice Plotting Example.

Numerical Ratings Chart

Plotting Instructions:

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Spiritual Gifts Graph

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Total the columns A through G below and use those totals to plot your graph.

To plot your Spiritual Gifts Profile, use the totals above. Find the appropriate letter A - G in the SGP graph (left) and circle the number of the total under each letter.

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Reading Your Graph: To determine which gifts are most like you, connect the circles. Notice which gifts are most intense. The higher on the profile, the more intense that gift describes you. Also notice your next highest and lowest plotting points to learn more about your overall gift tendencies.

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Plotting Instructions To plot your Spiritual Gifts Graph, first complete the Scoring Instructions at 1 . Then use the totals from your Numerical Ratings Chart to plot your graph below. Find the appropriate letter A, B, C, D, E, F, G, H, I, J, K, L, M, N, O or P in the Spiritual Gifts Graph below and circle the number of the total under each letter. Notice Plotting Example.

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“For who the whole body fitly joined together and compacted by that which

every joint supplies,” Eph. 4:16

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Become more Christ-like by serving the Lord

through your giftedness!

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What do you think?How has identifying your

spiritual giftedness helped you?

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ReviewWhich are the three

highest gifts on your SG graphs?

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1 Cor. 1:27

But God hath chosen the foolish things of the world to confound the wise; and God hath chosen the weak things of the world to confound the things which are mighty.

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“Everybody is somebody in His body!”

Every member is a minister!

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The Gift of Administration / Ruling is seen in those who either like to

organize or delegate to others.

Administration / Ruling —

In a word: InitiatorOveruse: Expects too muchGoal: Lead by example, not manipulationScripture: Rom. 12:8, 1 Cor. 12:28; Acts 6:1-7

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Unlike Apostles of old, who actually saw the Lord and spread the Word from place to place, Apostles /

Pioneers today have a clear vision to start new ministries where others may not.

Apostleship / Pioneering

In a word: Pioneer / VisionaryOveruse: Pushes too hard / Too much authorityGoal: Build deeper and strongerScripture: Eph. 4:7,11; 1 Cor. 9:1-2; Gal. 2:8-10; 1 Cor. 12:28-29

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The Gift of Craftsmanship is evident in those who are very handy at making things. They have the unusual ability to design and

assemble things.

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In a word: HandyOveruse: Too focused on work, and not on othersGoal: Create things to bless others, not glorify selfScripture: Ex. 31:3; 34:31-35; Acts 9:36-39; 2 Kings 22:5-6

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The Gift of Creative Communication is obvious in those who enjoy performing or

directing drama presentations. They love to express themselves and teach lessons

through role playing and skits.

Creative Communication —

In a word: Actors or ActressesOveruse: Dramatic expression that leads to self gloryGoal: Teach lessons, rather than focus on talentScripture: Psa. 150:3-5; 2 Sam. 6:14-15; Mark 4:2, 33

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The Gift of Discernment is evident in those who have unusual ability to see through a lot of confusion and pinpoint problems and solutions.

They are mostly concerned about right and wrong.

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Discernment —

In a word: Listeners / PerceiversOveruse: Too critical or too quick to shareGoal: Get more information before respondingScripture: 1 Cor. 12:7,10b; 1 Cor. 2:14

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The Gift of Encouraging find themselves exhorting others. They are compelled to give

advice. As counselors, they seem to often have steps-of-action.

Encouraging / Exhorting —

In a word: EncouragerOveruse: Talks too muchGoal: Apply truth, not create expectationsScripture: Rom. 12:6,8; Acts 11:23-24; Heb. 10:24-25

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The Gift of Evangelism feel compelled to win souls. They seem to have the ability to communicate the gospel better than others. Their concern for witnessing to a lost

and dying world is evident.

Evangelism —

In a word: DynamicOveruse: ZealGoal: Build disciples, not statisticsScripture: Eph. 4:7,11; Acts 8:26-40; Luke 19:1-10

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The Gift of Faith is often found in those with the obvious ability to trust God in the most adverse

circumstances. Every Christian has a measure of saving faith, but those with the Gift of Faith have a

deeper dependence upon God and His Word.

Faith —

In a word: OptimistOveruse: Overly trusting and often proud of their faithGoal: Combine faith with works. Learn to be patient with othersScripture: 1 Cor. 12:7,9; Matt. 8:5-16; Heb. 11:1

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Givers tend to be seriously concerned about financial matters. The Gift of Giving also involves the "gift of getting." Givers are

sensitive to how money is spent and saved.

Giving —

In a word: StewardOveruse: The power of moneyGoal: Sincere stewardship, not financial harassmentScripture: Rom. 12:6, 8b; Acts 4:32-35; 2 Cor. 9:7-8

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The Gift of Healing is evident in those with the divine power to pray and see people healed.

They have unusual faith that God can heal anyone.

Healing —

In a word: RestorerOveruse: Teaching everyone should be healedGoal: Focus on God's power and not their gift to healScripture: 1 Cor. 12:9, 28, 30; Acts. 3:1-16; Mark 2:1-12

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The Gift of Hospitality is that special interest in opening one's home for food and

fellowship, or to just provide a place to stay for someone in need.

Hospitality —

In a word: SociableOveruse: Take on too much / Get worn outGoal: Provide fellowship without sacrificing family timeScripture: 1 Pet. 4:9-10; Acts 16:13-15; Luke 14:12-14

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The Gift of Intercession is found in those with a passion to pray. They feel compelled to intercede

on behalf of those in distress. They faithfully petition God on a daily basis for specific needs.

Intercession —

In a word: Prayer WarriorOveruse: Neglect other practical needs and responsibilitiesGoal: Put feet on their prayers and do what needs to be doneScripture: Rom. 8:26-27; John 17:9-26; 1 Tim. 2:1-2; Col. 1:9-12, 4:12

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The Gift of Interpretation is found in those who can translate what others speak in tongues. They have the unusual ability to glorify God through

their miraculous interpretation of what would be otherwise unknown.

Interpretation —

In a word: TranslatorOveruse: Use translations to push own agendaGoal: Clarify what is spoken in tongues and build believersScripture: 1 Cor. 12:10; 14:5; 14:26-28

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The Gift of Knowledge is a supernatural revelation of certain facts in the mind of God, which gives instant and specific information that one would have no

other way of knowing, except from God.

Knowledge —

In a word: Divine InsightsOveruse: Make others feel inferior or ignorantGoal: Change lives, rather than impress othersScripture: 1 Cor. 12:7-8; 8:1b-2; Mark 2:6-8; John 1:45-50

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The Gift of Leadership, much like the Gift of Administration / Ruling, is evident in those who

demonstrate an unusual ability to influence others. They seem to have an independent determination to challenge

and direct others toward a specific goal.

Leadership —

In a word: DreamerOveruse: Too demanding and impatientGoal: Lead by example and willingness to be a servantScripture: Rom. 12:6,8c; John 13:13-17; Heb. 13:17; John 1:45-50

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The Gift of Miracles is obvious in those who do powerful deeds. They have the

unusual enablement to authenticate through miracles a specific ministry or

message of God.

Miracles —

In a word: PowerfulOveruse: Expecting God to always perform miraclesGoal: Trust God, with or without the miracleScripture: 1 Cor. 12:10, 28-29; John 2:1-11; Luke 5:1-11

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The Gift of Pastor / Shepherding is obvious in those who really enjoy leading others in serving the Lord. Unlike the Gift of Ministry / Serving / Helps, this gift

involves the motivation to lead.

Pastor / Shepherding —

In a word: LeaderOveruse: Takes advantage of other's trustGoal: Strong leadership, not manipulating the flockScripture: Eph. 4:11; 1 Pet. 5:2-4

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Prophets / Perceivers today are not exactly like prophets of old. Old Testament Prophets spoke the literal Word of God. Today people with the Gift of

Prophecy / Perceiving seem to have the same seriousness and straight forward

attitude toward truth.

Prophecy / Perceiving / Proclaiming —

In a word: BoldOveruse: FighterGoal: Declare truth, not divide ChristiansScripture: Eph. 4:7,11; 1 Cor. 14:1,3; 2 Pet 1:19-21

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When you think of Christians who serve faithfully behind the scenes, you think of those with the Gift of Serving / Ministry / Helps. They are interested in blessing others to serve the Lord.

They love to help others.

Serving / Ministry / Helps —

In a word: SelflessOveruse: Takes on too muchGoal: Be a servant, not a martyrScripture: 1 Cor. 12:28; Act. 6:1-3; Rom. 16:1-2

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The Gift of Showing Mercy demonstrates genuine sensitivity to suffering. They are

compelled to help people reduce pain. They are concerned more with the person, than

the reason for the suffering.

Showing Mercy —

In a word: CaringOveruse: Too sensitiveGoal: Wise insights, not foolish responsesScripture: Rom. 12:6,8d; Matt. 5:7

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The Gift of Teaching prefers explaining why things are true. While the prophet declares truth, the teacher

explains the reasons it is true. Interested in research, those with the Gift of Teaching like to dig into

seemingly insignificant details.

Teaching —

In a word: In-depthOveruse: Digs too deepGoal: Reveal truth, not exhaust itScripture: Rom. 12:6,7b; Col. 3:16; Jam. 3:1; 2; 2 Tim. 2:2

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The Gift of Tongues is found in those with the divine ability to speak other languages. They have the

unusual endowment to speak in a language that is not understood by most everyone present.

Tongues —

In a word: ConduitOveruse: Disruptive, overbearing and confusingGoal: Edify and encourage believers through positive messagesScripture: 1 Cor. 12:10, 28-30, 13:1, 14:1-33; Acts 2:1-11

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The Gift of Wisdom is the unique ability to use knowledge in a practical way. Those with this gift like to combine what they know with a serious reverence of God in order

to influence others.

Wisdom —

In a word: PerceptiveOveruse: Speak down to peopleGoal: Consistently trust and ask God for wisdomScripture: 1 Cor. 12:7-8; Jam. 3:13-18

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What do you think? What have you learned about your

spiritual motivations?

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What do you think? How do you think knowing this can help you serve the Lord better?

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What do you think?

Why did God create us with specific personalities?

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Psalms 139:13 describes us as “knit” in the womb. “For You

covered me in my mother’s womb.”

The word “knit” means we were intricately “embroidered.”

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What do you think?

How have you become more Christ-like since becoming a Christian?

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Reading People

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Kind, Nice, Caring Proper, Formal

Demanding, Asserting Outgoing, Active

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Choose only ONE "Most" and only ONE "Least"

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Kind, Nice, Caring Proper, Formal

Demanding, Asserting Outgoing, Active

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Take your D, I, S & C Totals from your Total Boxes and plot Graphs 1 & 2. Count, but do not plot the "B"s. If a number is not on the graph, plot the closest number.

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Understanding YourNatural Motivations

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What do you think?

How much effect does divine design and environmental

influences have on developing our personalities?

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Passive Types

Active Types

• Introvertive• Reserved• Realistic• Withdrawn

• Extrovertive• Outgoing• Optimistic• Involved

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What do you think?

How do you exhibit active and passive behavior?

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“And whatsoever you do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men;”

Col. 3:23

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Task-Oriented Types

High-Touch

Form & Function Feeling & Fellowship

High-Tech

• Caring• Sharing• Relationships• Emotions

• Plans• Programs• Projects• Process

People-Oriented Types

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How do you exhibittask and people skills?

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People-Oriented Types

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Study in your profile booklet the page that

explains “How To Read The DISC Graphs” and

“Understanding The Two Graphs.”

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“D” Type Behavior

Active /Task-Oriented

• Dominant• Direct• Decisive• Demanding

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“I” Type Behavior

Active /People-Oriented

• Inspiring• Influencing• Inducing• Impressive

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“S” Type Behavior

Passive /People -Oriented• Submissive

• Steady• Sensitive• Shy

“Sucker”

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“C” Type Behavior

Passive /Task-Oriented • Competent

• Compliant• Cautious• Correct

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What do you think?

Which of the four types, D, I, S, & C is most like

you in Graph 1?

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What do you think?

Which of the four types, D. I, S, & C is most like

you in Graph 2?

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What do you think?

Describe in your own words your overall “D” type behavior?

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What do you think?

Describe in your own words your overall “I” type behavior?

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What do you think?

Describe in your own words your overall “S” type behavior?

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What do you think?

Describe in your own words your overall “C” type behavior?

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How has understanding the different

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Each graph describes a personality in a different way. Look at each graph and find the highest plotting point.

Notice in Example A, the highest point is "C." The next highest point is "S." This profile is a "C/S" type personality. "C/S"s are cautious and steady. They like to do one thing at a time and do it right the first time. They also like stable and secure-oriented surroundings. They don't like to take risks or cause trouble. "C/S"s need to be more outgoing and positive. Their Behavioral Blend is "Competent Specialist."

Example A

How To Read The DISC Graphs

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BIBLICAL EXAMPLES OF PERSONALITY TYPES

Mary and Martha are good examples of opposite types. Martha was more active and task-oriented, while her sister, Mary, was more passive and

people-oriented. Martha demonstrated "D" type behavior while Mary showed

"S" behavior (John 11:20).

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What do you think?Give another example of

someone you know of who might be an example of a

“D” type?

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The Apostle Paul was definitely a "D" type. He was left for dead, imprisoned, stoned, forsaken and forgotten, yet he pressed on toward the high calling of God.


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Sarah exhibited “D” behavior. She grew tired of waiting for God to give her the child He promised. So she “dominated” and devised her own way. She ordered Hagar to have a child. Sarah then raised it as her own.


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Peter demonstrated "I" type behavior when he often spoke-up for the disciples. He was also very dramatic. One moment Peter promises, in front of a crowd, to never forsake Christ, then a little later he denies the Lord. Yet God used Peter in a great way at Pentecost.


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Ruth showed “I” behavior when she enticed Naomi to let her travel with her. Ruth demonstrated family loyalty and an adventurous spirit by her willingness to move to a foreign country.


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Moses seemed to show "S" behavior when God told him to lead the children of Israel out of Egypt. Moses was unsure of himself. He even tried to get Aaron to be the leader.


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Hannah is a good example of “S” behavior. She was submissive and remained faithful, even though her dreams were not fulfilled. She may have appeared “unstable” when she prayed in the temple. Her reaction after praying shows she was very stable.


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Thomas, the Disciple, exhibited "C" behavior when he doubted Christ's resurrection. Jesus didn't belittle Thomas, but gave him the evidence needed to serve the Lord in a great way.


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Esther seems to be a good example of “C” behavior. As the Queen, she was willing to comply with the rules and requirements of her position. Yet, when it became necessary to “bend” those rules, she wanted to make sure that it was done correctly.

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What do you think?Give another example of

someone you know of who might be an example of

“C” behavior?

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Study the Interpretation page in relation to your highest plotting

points on your two graphs. Which is your “DISC” personality type

(which plotting point/s is/are above the mid-line) in both graphs?

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ReviewTake a moment to read through your favorite Bible passage. Can you spot specific DISC behavior with which you might relate?

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What is your “DISC” personality type (which

plotting point/s is/are above the mid-line) in both graphs?

Graph 1 ? Graph 2?

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What stands out about your personality type?

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What are the differences in your two graphs, if

any in your two graphs?

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What are your Behavioral Blend/s in

Graph 1 & 2?

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More ReviewStudy the Interpretation page in relations to your highest plotting points on your two

graphs?

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What is your favoriteScripture reference?

How does that referencerelate to your

Behavioral Blend?

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With your Behavioral Blend in mind, what

stand out in your Behavioral Blend

description?

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What do you think?

Which Scriptures challengeyou the most and why?

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DISCOVERING YOUR BEHAVIORAL BLEND

D: DETERMINED DOERSD I S C

• "D"s are dominant and demanding.• They win at all costs.• They do not care as much about what people think as they care about getting the job done.• Their insensitivity to feelings makes them too strong.• They are great at developing things, but they need to improve their ability to do things correctly.• Their strong will should be disciplined to prepare and

think more accurately about what they are doing.• They are motivated by serious challenges to accomplish

tasks.

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What did you learn fromyour Behavioral Blend?

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What do you think?

Why does God give somepeople spiritual gifts that seem not to match theirpersonality type?

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Combination Personality and Spiritual Gift

Take it — Or leave it! Heaven — Or Hell,the choice is yours! No challenge is too

big!" Commando For Christ"Enjoys "Confrontational Evangelism"

"I" Type Personality With The Gift of Evangelism

Christ has come to give you LIFEabundantly! Trust Christ and you'll be a

better athlete, businessperson, etc."Cheerleaders For Christ"

"C" Type Personality With The Gift of Evangelism

Come now and let us reason together!Ready always to give an answer!Process and structured approach.

"Walking Encyclopedias For Christ"Prefers "One-on-one discussion / debate"

"S" Type Personality With The Gift of Evangelism

Christ is a friend who stickscloser than a brother! He will never leaveyou or forsake you! "Martyr For Christ"

Desires "Friendship / RelationshipEvangelism" Not confrontation!

"D" Type Personality With The Gift of Evangelism

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What do you think?

How well does your combination personality and Spiritual Giftsdescribe you?

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What do you think?

What other combinationsseem to be contradictory?

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What are the advantages and disadvantages to

having similar and different kinds of motivations?

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• Be careful to not offend when you take charge— "The servant of the Lord must not strive (be pushy), but be gentle," 2 Tim. 2:24.

• Anger is normal, but must be controlled— "Be angry and sin not," Eph. 4:26.

• Be motivated to purity and peace— "Wisdom from above is first pure, peaceable . . .," James 3:17.

• Focus on doing ONE thing well—"This ONE thing I do," Phil. 3:13.

• Always remember, God is the Master of your fate— "The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom," Prov. 1:7.

CONTROLLING YOUR BEHAVIORAL BLEND

D: DETERMINED DOERS

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What did you learn from studying your

Behavioral Blend?

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Why does God give some people spiritual gifts that seem not to match their personality type?

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How well does your combination personality and Spiritual Gifts describe you?

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• Take it — Or leave it! Heaven — Or Hell, the choice is yours!

• No challenge is too big!”

• Commando For Christ"

• Enjoys "Confrontational Evangelism"

"D" Type Personality With The Gift of Evangelism

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"I" Type Personality With The Gift of Evangelism

• Christ has come to give you LIFE abundantly!

• Trust Christ and you'll be a better athlete, businessperson, etc.

• "Cheerleaders For Christ"

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"S" Type Personality With The Gift of Evangelism

• Christ is a friend who sticks closer than a brother!

• He will never leave you or forsake you!

• "Martyr For Christ"

• Desires "Friendship / Relationship Evangelism” Not confrontation!

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"C" Type Personality With The Gift of Evangelism

• Come now and let us reason together!

• Ready always to give an answer!

• Process and structured approach.

• Walking Encyclopedias For Christ"

• Prefers "One-on-one discussion / debate"

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What do you think?

How well does your combination personality and Spiritual Gifts describe you?

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What do you think?

What other combinations seem to be contradictory?

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What are the advantages and disadvantages to having

similar and different kinds of motivations?

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Search The Scriptures—Joshua 1:8

This Book of the Law shall not depart from your mouth, but you shall meditate in it day and night, that you may observe to do according to all that is written in it. For then you will make your way prosperous, and then you will have good success.

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What do you think?

How do you think God canuse your combinationgiftedness?

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What do you think?

Why should every member be involved in a ministry of the church?

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Search The Scriptures — Hebrews 5:12 - 6:1

How would you describe maturity in Christ?

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"D" BEHAVIOR

Reward: Follow your spiritual leaders. Allow Christ to be the Lord of your life, and God will use you in a great way to move the ministry forward.

Warning: You want to control everyone, but must first control yourself. Remember "to have authority, you must be under authority.” Be loyal to your leaders.

Opportunities: Organize needed ministry , chair Stewardship Committee, head Usher's Committee, commit to specific challenge.

Abilities: Lead, take stand, confront issue, persevere, dictate, make decisions and control.

Prayer: “Dear God, control my driving, demanding and dominant personality, so I can be a strong and peace-making leader for your glory.”

Involvement / Personality Perspective

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"Choose You This Day Who and Where You Will Serve"

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“I” Types —

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MediaMen's Min.

MissionsMusic

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OrchestraOrganPhotography

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CoachingCollege/Career

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Supper ClubSupport GroupTeacherTelephone Call.TrusteeUsherVideoVisitationWomen's Min.WorshipYouthYouth Choir

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“S” Types —

Altar Counselr.BaptismBenevolenceBereavingBig BrothersBook StoreBowlingCarpentryChildrenChild CareCleaningClericalCollege/CareerCommunionConcertsCounselingDeacons

PreschoolPrintingRecordsReceptionistRefug/Hmless.Scripture Read.Search Com.SecretarySenior AdultsServing MealsSet-upShut-insSingle AdultsSmall GroupsSound SystemSummer CampSupper Club

Kid Kamp/VBSKitchenLibraryMailingsMaintenanceMeals

MissionsNewcomers

New Mem.NewsletterNurseNurseryOffice Machn.OrchestraOrganPhysicianPiano

DecoratingDiscipleshipEldersElementaryEncouragemt.EvangelismFollow-upFoodsGroundsHispanic Min.HospitalHospiceHousingVisitorsInfant/Todd.InterpretingInterc. Pray.

SuppliesSupport GroupsTape MinistryTeachingTelephone Call.TutorTransportationTrusteesUshersVehiclesVisitationVisitors CardsWeddingsWomen's Min.WorshipWritingYard WorkYouth Choir

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“C” Types —

Steering Com.Tape MinistryTeachingTransportationTutorTrusteeVehiclesVideoVisitors CardsWeddingsWorshipWritingYard Work

PhysicianPianoPrayerPreschoolPrintingPublicityRecordsScrip. ReaderSearch Com.SecretarialSecurityServing MealsSet-upSound SystemSupplies

LibraryMailingsLong Rng. Pln.MaintenanceMealsMissionsMusicNewsletterNurseNurseryOffice Machin.OrchestraOrganPersonnelPhotography

DiscipleshipDramaEldersElectricalEMTEvangelismFinancesFollow-upFoodFloral ArrangGraphic ArtsGroundsInfants Todd.InterpretingKitchen

AccountingBandBenevolenceBook StoreCarpentryChildrenCleaningClericalCommunionComputerConcertsConstructionCurriculumDeaconsDecorating

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Fitly Joined Together

Altar Counsel.Adult ChoirBandBig BrothersChoirCoachingCollege/CareerCommunicationConcertsCounselingDeaconsDiscipleshipDramaEldersEncouragementEvangelismHigh School

Jr. HighMediaMen's MinistryNewsletterNursePrayerPrintingReceptionistScript. ReaderSingle ParentsTape MinistryTeachingTrusteesVideoVisitationWomen's Min.WorshipWriting


Encouraging / Exhorting

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KitchenMealsNewcomersNurseNurseryOrganPhysicianPianoPrayerPreschoolRefug./HomelessServing MealsSet-upShut-insTelephone Call.Tutoring

TrusteesWeddingsWomen's Min.WorshipWritingYard Work

BereavingBig BrothersCarpentryChild CareChildrenCleaningCommunionConstructionCounselingDeaconsDiscipleshipEldersElementaryEMTEvangelismFoodsGreetersHousing Visit.HospitalHospice

Infants/ToddlerInterpretingIntercess. PrayerKids Kamp / VBS


Showing Mercy

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VehiclesVideoVisitationVisitors CardsWeddingsWomen’s Min.WorshipWritingYard WorkYouthYouth Choir

Single ParentsSmall GroupsSong LeaderSound SystemSteering Comm.SuppliesSupper ClubTape MinistryTeachingTelephone Call.TutoringTransportationTrusteesUshers

EMTEncouragementEvangelismFloral Arrange.FoodsGraphic ArtsGreetersGroundsHispanic Min.High SchoolHousing Visitor

HospitalHospitalityHospiceInfants/ToddlersInterpretingIntercess. PrayerJr. HighKids Camp/VBSKitchenLibraryMailingsMaintenanceMartial ArtsMealsMediaMen MinistryMissionsMusicianNewcomers

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Senior AdultsServing MealsSet-upShut-insSingle Adults

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CounselingDecoratingDeaconsDiscipleshipDramaEldersElectricalElementary


Serving / Ministry

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Teaching

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What do you think?

When and how are you happiest in the church?

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Search The Scriptures —Ex. 4:10-15What lesson did God want Moses to learn?And Moses said unto the LORD, O my LORD, I am not eloquent, neither heretofore, nor since thou hast spoken unto thy servant: but I am slow of speech, and of a slow tongue. And the LORD said unto him, Who hath made man's mouth? or who maketh the dumb, or deaf, or the seeing, or the blind? have not I the LORD? Now therefore go, and I will be with thy mouth, and teach thee what thou shalt say. And he said, O my LORD, send, I pray thee, by the hand of him whom thou wilt send. And the anger of the LORD was kindled against Moses, and he said, Is not Aaron the Levite thy brother? I know that he can speak well. And also, behold, he cometh forth to meet thee: and when he seeth thee, he will be glad in his heart. And thou shalt speak unto him, and put words in his mouth: and I will be with thy mouth, and with his mouth, and will teach you what ye shall do. And he shall be thy spokesman unto the people: and he shall be, even he shall be to thee instead of a mouth, and thou shalt be to him instead of God.

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Search The Scriptures —Hebrews 10:23-25What can we learn from this passage? Let us hold fast the profession of our faith without wavering; (for he is faithful that promised;) And let us consider one another to provoke unto love and to good works: Not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together, as the manner of some is; but exhorting one another: and so much the more, as ye see the day approaching.

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What do you think?

How have some Christians been frustrated by certain

ministries?

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Choose you this day Who and where you

will serve?

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In what ministries are you gifted to serve?

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What do you think?

How can your giftedness help these ministries?

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What can we learn from this passage? Deut. 30:19

“I call heaven and earth to record this day against you, that I have set before

you life and death, blessing and cursing: therefore choose life, that both thou and thy seed may live”

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Joy in Ministry

God gifted you to glorify Himself. He also blesses you for honoring Him.

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111. ___ Summer Camp112. ___ Supplies113. ___ Supper Club114. ___ Support Groups115. ___ Tape Ministry116. ___ Teaching117. ___ Telephone Call.118. ___ Tutoring119. ___ Transportation120. ___ Trustees121. ___ Ushers122. ___ Vehicles123. ___ Video124. ___ Visitation125. ___ Visitor Cards126. ___ Weddings

Place an "E" next to each area you have experience.Place an "I" in the areas you find interesting.Place an "H" in the areas that are your heart’s passions.

Opportunities For Ministry

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39. ___ Floral Arrang.40. ___ Follow-up41. ___ Foods42. ___ Graphic Arts43. ___ Greeters44. ___ Grounds45. ___ Hispanic Min. High School 46. ___ Sunday 47. ___ Mid-week 48. ___ Special Evts.49. ___ Housing Visitor50. ___ Hospitals51. ___ Hospitality52. ___ Hospice Infants / Toddlers

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What do you think?How do conflicts affect churches?

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What do you think?How would your giftedness been affected on the Day of Pentecost?

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God's specific will is that every Christian honor

and serve Him! We glorify God best when we allow Him to use our giftedness in ministry.

Joy In Ministry

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Joy In Ministry

"If any man serve me, him will my

Father honor," John 12:26.

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"D" Leaders —

Leadership Styles

• Take control• Seek power and authority• Don't like being told what to do• Can be too pushy and forceful• Are hard workers• Accomplish difficult tasks• Are direct and decisive• Need to control their demanding ways• Need to slow down and be gentle• Need to be more sensitive to others

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Leadership Styles

"I" Leaders —• Are inspiring and enthusiastic• Love to be up-front and influence• Are persuasive and articulate• Talk too much• Need to listen more• Need to not be so sensitive to rejection• Are impressive and positive• Love crowds and seek attention• Need to be interested in individuals• Often proud and self-center

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Leadership Styles

• Are more kind and nicer• Seldom demanding• Friendly and loyal• Need to be more aggressive• Need to be more assertive• Overly sensitive to their shortcomings• Need to be more confident• Dislike taking risks• Are reliable, relaxed and reserved• Submissive and security-oriented

"S" Leaders —

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Leadership Styles

• Are competent and compliant• Go by the book• Want to do everything just right• Are thorough and detailed-oriented• Often informative and opinionated

• Need to be more positive• Need to be more enthusiastic

• Answer questions people aren't asking

• Extremely influential• Need to see solutions, not problems

"C" Leaders —

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Leadership Styles

“D” Followers —

• "D"s respect strong leaders. • They want to be part of a winning team. • They follow with power and authority in mind. • They wonder, "Will this action make me more respected and / or get the job done?" • "D" followers need choices, rather than "get-in

or get-out" ultimatums. • They need opportunities to do their own thing.

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Leadership Styles

“I” Followers —• "I"s follow with their hearts. • They tend to be impulsive followers. • They want opportunities that will make them look

good. • "I" followers talk a lot. They make great first

impressions. • Their high egos and ability to persuade often turn them into the leaders in order to rise to the top. • Sometimes you don't know who's leading whom.

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Leadership Styles

“S” Followers —

• "S" followers don't make quick decisions. • They like leaders who are understanding and

gentle. • They want to establish a relationship with a

leader who will be around for a long time. • "S"s are concerned about service and stability. • When it comes to sensible and slow judgment,

"S" followers feel right at home. • They like familiar and low-key environments.

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Leadership Styles

“C” Followers —• "C"s are "Consumer Report" type followers. • They analyze each decision. • They love research and development. • "C"s are quality oriented followers. • They don't like quick or costly decisions. • Picky and precise, they follow with their minds,

rather than hearts. "C"s seldom respond positively at first.

• They often want time to think about their decisions.

• Once convinced, they follow best.

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Most of the problems in the church today

are not theological, they are relational — personality clashes among members!

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How To Handle Conflicts

"D" Behavior —

Under Pressure: Becomes dictatorial, domineering, demanding, angry, intense, forceful, direct, bossy.

Sources of Irritation: Weakness, indecisiveness, laziness Lack of — discipline, plan, purpose, direction, authority, control, challenge.

Needs To: Back off, seek peace, relax, think before reacting, control self, be — patient, loving friendly, loyal, kind, sensitive.

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"I" Behavior —

Under Pressure: Becomes hyper, overly optimistic, immature, emotional, irrational, silly, wordy, selfish.

Sources of Irritation: Disinterest, slowness, pessimism, details, time restraints, antagonism, doubt, structure, lack of — enthusiasm, team participation.

Needs To: Listen, count the cost, control emotions, be — humble, strong, disciplined, punctual, careful with words, conscientious.

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"S" Behavior —Under Pressure: Becomes subservient, insecure, fearful, weak-willed, withdrawn, sympathizer, sucker.

Sources of Irritation: Pushiness, instability, inflexibility, anger, disloyalty, insensitivity, pride, discrimination, unfairness.

Needs To: Be — strong, courageous, challenging, aggressive, assertive, confrontational, enthusiastic, outgoing, expressive, cautious, bold.

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"C" Behavior —

Under Pressure: Becomes moody, critical, contemplative, negative, worrisome.

Sources of Irritation: Incompetence, disorganization, foolishness, dishonesty, inaccuracy, wastefulness, inconsistency, blind faith, false impressions.

Needs To: Loosen up, communicate, be — joyful, positive, tolerant, compromising, open, trusting, enthusiastic.

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Search The Scriptures —Job 14:1

“Man who is born of woman will have troubles!”

Why do you think everyone has

trials and troubles in life?

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What do you think?

How do you respond under pressure?

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What do you think?

What are your specific sources of irritation?

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What do you think?

What do you need to do with your

specific personality type in mind

when in conflict?

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Covenant —• Follow the Principle of Priorities.

• Glorify God, build harmony in the church and avoid conflicts.

• Do as Matthew 18 admonishes—go to an offending brother "first alone."

Biblical Resolution Management

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First Step —

• I will not first share the offense with another person.

• I am committed to restoring the relationship, rather than exposing possible sin

• I recognize most problems with people are personality clashes.

• I will try to understand their actions based upon their perspective.


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Why is this first stepabsolutely vital?

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Second Step —• Seek a neutral and mature individual who will listen to each of our perspectives. • This person will hopefully be able to shed light on one or both of our blind spots or areas of needed growth in order to glorify God.• Recognize that the "witness" may reveal or say things I won't like.• Believe God is using him or her to resolve the conflict, rather than take sides.

(The "witness" must be an individual with deep spiritual wisdom and highly respected by everyone involved.)


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Warning —• Don't seek to find others who have also been offended.• Don't share concerns with potential "witnesses" prior to

the meeting. • The purpose of having a "witness" is not to validate hurts, but rather open hearts and minds to the possible needs

regarding our relationships with others.• Realize friends may naturally listen to concerns, but also

take up offense.• Whenever I feel an urge to share the offense with my

friends, I will pray and commune with God about my hurt.


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Why is this second stepand warning absolutely vital?

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Confronting Ministry Leaders —• I believe in the scriptural admonition to not

rebuke an Elder (spiritual leader), other than in grave matters of misconduct and open sin (1 Timothy 5:19).

• I will earnestly pray for and follow those God has placed in leadership over me.

• I will not allow anyone to criticize them without following the principles in Matthew 18 and without the specific person present.


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If I have a problem with my ministry leader, • I will go "first alone" to them. • I will not share my concern with anyone. • I will listen and try to understand their perspective of the problem. • If I am not satisfied with their explanation and continue to have animosity, • I will ask permission and counsel to find a "witness" who may help our conflict.


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• If the "witness" finds I have misunderstood the situation and should continue no further, I will trust God to complete His work in my life by casting my burden on the Lord and leaving it there.


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• If the "witness" agrees with my concern and finds the ministry leader wrong and the leader refuses to hear the "witness," we will then find a group of two or three other "witnesses" who will hear the matter and determine what God is doing through this conflict.


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Serious Step —• If I continue to find fault with a ministry leader and cannot worship in "spirit and truth," I will seek to join another ministry, rather than cause any conflict and disharmony.

• I am committed to pleasing God through resolving my conflicts, even if it means separating myself from the source of my irritations.


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Ultimate Goal —• I commit myself to be spiritual, rather than "normal" and supernatural, rather than "natural" when it comes to solving my problems with others.

• I want God's will and way to resolve my conflicts and will do as the Holy Bible teaches, regardless of my normal and natural feelings.


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My ultimate goal is to glorify God through bearing much

fruit, getting involved in ministry, and avoiding and

resolving conflicts.


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Call For Commitment"Present your bodies living

sacrifices to God . . . to discover what is that good

and acceptable will of God,” Rom.

12: 1, 2

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What do you think?Why is giving God our giftedness important to

discovering the will of God in our lives?

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Search The Scriptures —Eph. 4:16

How will discovering and exercising our giftedness help us and our churches?

”From whom the whole body fitly joined together and compacted by that which every joint supplies, according to the effectual working in the measure of every part, makes increase of the body unto the

edifying of itself in love.”

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Success or Failure“I have set before you life and death, blessings and cursings; therefore choose life, that both you and your seed may live,”

Deut. 30:19

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Above all, allow God to use your giftedness

for His glory!

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