Trumpet Ezine - March'12

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A woman's whole life is history of affections :

as a daughter

as a sister

as a wife

as a mother

as a sister in law

as a mother in law ......................

and this endless history of affections go on..............

giving her strength to rule the world and bring everyone close to her with her love and

affection and transfers her power to the whole family and finally the world as a whole.

The Power of a WomanThe empowerment of a women begins within herself, if that women loves herself; shehas that authority to love anyone she chooses.

The power of a women becomes even stronger when she finds herself and knows whoshe is; and doesn't let anyone tell her otherwise.

The power of a women can make her strong enough to stand on her own two feet; and

finally that women is independent .She will not be afraid to ask for help or help herself.

The power of a women is stronger then the grip of a lions teeth when his prey is in hismouth.

The power of a women is endless;so stand tall, and represent for all the women in the world.

From the Editors Desk.

Tuticorin PALMS Toastmasters

Presidents Message 2

An Ideal Woman 2

3 Toastmasteringlessons from mylittle daughter...

3

Division Governors

Speech made attOTP

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Public Speaking 5

The Coke Salesmanin Israel

6

Overcoming fear ofpublic speaking

7

Inside this issue:

Why Join

Toastmasters?

Learn to communi-cate more effectively

Become a betterlistener.

Improve yourpresentation skills

Increase your leader-ship potential

Become more suc-cessful in your career

Build your ability tomotivate and per-suade

Increase your selfconfidence

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A-Z of Leadership

Behaviours

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8Birthday Wishes


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AN IDEAL WOMAN

Care, Compassion, Sympathy, Service, Sharing -- all qualities are fem-

inine. The women who was a personification of all these qualities was

Mother Teresa. In the war between the heart and the head, it is the

heart that will always win. Being kind, is not a sign of weakness but a

sign of strength. There is a vast difference between being soft hearted

and being weak hearted, and women should not confuse themselves

on this.

Woman have to realize their inner strength and potential that exists within their feminine qualities.

Women always perform better when they play on their strengths, rather than trying to cover up

their weakness. Women perform well, in areas that hasa emotional touch. One such area is PAR-

ENTING. It is always the mother who scores over the father when it comes to parenting. The fa-

ther provides, but the mother gives. There is a subtle difference. If God did not want to make a

difference, he would not have created two sexes. All qualities of the women are complementary to

that of a man and not against it.

Tears can melt a hardened heart. Gandhiji did not win freedom for this country, through the mas-

culine qualities of physical strength but through the feminine qualities of emotional strength (non

violence). Be proud to be a woman.

TM.D.Senthil Kannan

I am happy and feel privilleged to interact with all of you through the 2 nd edition of

Trumpet E-zine. I take this opportunity to wish all our Women Toastmasters Happy

Womens Day on the occasion of International Womens Day on 8 th March 2012. I

congratulate our TM Uma Maheshwari for having volunteered to be the Editor for the

month of March coninciding with Womens Day celebrations.

I hope empowering of Women to become leaders will be a reality through Toastmasters. The Trum-

pet shall serve all our Members for sharing their thoughts and to develop writing skills. It is in this

backdrop, I would urge all our Members to prepare their speech in writing and it shall be sent to a

Mentor within our Club or to any other Toastmaster in other Clubs for fine tuning and improving their

speech. We all can enhance our writing and speaking skills through such mentoring process.

During the month of March, it is time for Exams for the children and I convey my best wishes to all

the Children for doing their best in the Annual Exams. For Toastmasters, the month of March is the

time of renewal of Membership by payment of the dues within 25 th March 2012.

TM. C.Karthikeya Prabu

President

PRESIDENTS MESSAGE

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I got a message from our Chief Editor TM Uma... She requested (actually, ordered! ...) "Saro! We are producing a

newsletter this month. You are writing an article for that ... and it is going to be about Women's day. By the way, the

article is due next week".

I was thinking about it for a week. I don't want to give a gyan about Women's achievements and their importance in

our society. I wanted to write something about women which will also be relevant to toastmasters.

I'm fortunate to have seen the multiple faces of women - thanks to my mom, sister, wife and little daughter. Each

one of them is different and they make my life's equation complete. To stay away from controversies at home, I de-

cided to write about the toastmastering skills that I learned when raising my little daughter :)

1) Yes! You can do it: It was about 5 years ago. My wife and I were helping our little daughter to walk... she was10

months old, then. She took a few tentative steps, and fell down. My wife and I didn't show our disappointment on

our face, when she fell down. We continued to cheer her up "Mitra! You are doing great... try again..." "Mitra ! It is

OK... You can do it".... "Mitra! Only a few steps more... Common".

When Mitra took her first 5 steps continuously without falling, we became so proud.

Don't we do exactly the same thing in our toastmasters meetings? When a fellow member couldn't answer a TableTopic or forgets a speech in between, we continue to encourage them to talk. There are times when we even pray

that our fellow toastmaster shouldn't fail. We never criticize our toastmasters when they fail. Rather, we provide

them a constructive feedback. Thus, we provide a safe environment for everyone to experiment, fail, learn and im-

prove. We always tell them "Yes! You can".

2) Vocal Variety / Body Language : "Dad, I saw a HUGE elephant today when coming back from school"... My

daughter was narrating her experience of seeing an Elephant on the road... with her eye balls popping out and arms

stretched wide. I was quite impressed by the tone of her voice and her gesture. Her face was literally glowing when

she said that.

I'm sure all of us were expressive when we were kids. But, somehow we lost our voice and body language when we

grew up! I guess it was because our elders always told us to "lower our voice" or "not to raise our hands", when

speaking.

Now, we are trying to rediscover those skills by doing speeches in toastmasters :)

3) Getting repeatable good behaviors: I read a book called How to teach so that kids can listen. The book talks

about How to motivate kids to get repeatable behaviors?. The author says Dont just compliment your kid, but

compliment them for a specific reason.

I tried to experiment it. Most of the times, my daughter doesn't clean up her room before going to bed in the night.

There will be toys spread all around. My wife ends up cleaning them every day. One night, my daughter cleaned up

the room herself, without even being told. I wanted to appreciate her for that. Instead of just saying Great job Mi-

tra !, I said Mitra! I like the way you are keeping your room neat and clean. You are saving a lot of time for mom. I

wish you can do that every day. Great job. When I communicated the specific reason for which she is getting the

appreciation, she understood that Im getting this appreciation because I kept the room neat and clean. Now eve-

ryday night, she cleans her room before going to bed.

You can use the same technique for adults also. After all, we were also kids once upon a time.

For example, instead of saying Senthil! You did a great job of publishing our first newsletter, you can say Senthil!

You displayed extraordinary commitment and passion to produce our first newsletter. You were able to make it hap-

pen despite the challenges you had in getting articles from our friends. Your persistent follow-ups paid-off. Great

job. Now, Senthil will be motivated to display his commitment, passion, and persistency whenever he gets a

chance. I wish all the toastmasters of our Tuticorin Palms Toastmasters Club a very happy Womens day celebration.

3 Toastmastering lessons from my little daughterBy TM.Saro Velrajan, Division Governor

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I welcome all of you to the first major event of

Division G in the year 2012. Happy new year to all

of you.

Congratulations to all the new leaders of our

clubs!

Do not go where the path may lead, go instead

where there is no path and leave a trail a beauti-

ful quote from Ralph Waldo Emerson.

What kind of leader you would like to be? There

are 3 types of leaders in this

world:

1) You give them a vacant

land ... they involve a number of

people and build a beautiful cas-

tle, plant trees, develop gardens.

They do things that benefit NOT

only the current generation, but

also the rest of the generations

to come. They are the Builders.

2) You give them a vacant land; they put a fence

around it. They protect the land. They pay daily

visits and make sure that NO HARM is done to it.

However, the vacant land, continues to remain

vacant. They are the Maintainers.

3) You give them a vacant land. They don't do

anything with it. They don't care about the land.

They let weeds grow. They let people dump gar-

bage and waste into it. The land becomes a dump

yard. People don't love to visit the land, because

it stinks. They are the Destroyers.

Toastmasters, the club is a vacant land given to

you today. What kind of leader you want to be -

builder, maintainer or destroyer?! What do you

want to do with the club - build, maintain or de-

stroy?!

You may ask, "What do I get by spending time in

building the club"? NOTHING. Toastmasters is a

voluntary organization... you don't get paid for

your service, you aren't going to lose your promo-

tion if you don't do your job, you aren't going to

lose your pay hike or bonus when you fail here.

However, if you are able to

get members to attend

meetings, where you aren'tgetting paid... if you are able

to motivate your members

to complete their CCs/CLs,

when you aren't getting

paid... if you are able to

build a successful club, when

you aren't getting paid...

With all the skills and experience that you gain

here, imagine the difference you would make at

your workplace where you are getting paid.

Where you are getting paid - to build a great

product, where you are getting paid to build great

teams where you are getting paid to bring the

best out of people.

What toastmasters can DO to you, is largely de-

pendent on what you DO to toastmasters.

Todays training program will help you become a

great builder. With the skills that you gain today,

Im sure youll convert our clubs into castles a

place where everyone would like to visit, join and

discover their real communication and leadership

potential.

Speech of Divion Governor TM.Saro Velrajan,

made at the OTP on 22nd Jan 2012 @ Virtusa

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Public speaking requires both the ability to speak

up and to relate to others. It isnt just about stand-

ing in front of a podium and speaking to a large au-

dience. It also means speaking up in meetings, com-

municating effectively with clients, and answering

tough questions presented by a team of colleagues

and superiors. It means being able to convey your

ideas effectively on the telephone, one-on-one and

to small and large groups of people. It is the ability

to influence and inspire others and to effect change.

It means to speak with agency, credibility and au-

thority. It means to have impact. It means to be vis-

ible, to take a risk, to take a stand. It also means to

listen well and to establish a strong relationship and

connection with the audience. And, finally, it means

to be fully ourselves, to be authentic to be confi-

dent enough to show our humanity, our frailties andour vulnerabilities along with our strengths, wisdom

and knowledge.

As women, we are natural leaders. We have all the

skills and competencies necessary to influence and

inspire people to change and move forward. Howev-

er, to really get this out into the world, we must al-

low ourselves to be visible, to speak up, to speak

out, to simply speak While some women are natu-

ral extroverts who find their way back to their voice

with relative ease, many of us must make conscious

and courageous decisions and work very hard tomove away from the silence that holds us back and

to assume our natural roles as leaders.

Do you get that "nowhere to run, nowhere to hide"

feeling before you start a speech or presentation? If

you're stressed or nervous about that speaking gig,

you might want to factor in your speaker personality

type, since the introverts among us, especially, will

need to be by themselves before and after a speech

or presentation.

But any speaker who's nervous about speakingmight need to find a comfort zone right on the

spot at the meeting venue. Here are five comfort

zones that any speaker should be able to accessto help you regroup, calm your nerves and face

that audience:

The stall or the stairwell: Long favored by

speakers as a private place where they can

stretch, do some deep breathing, and generally

escape the other meeting attendees, those near-

by restroom stalls and stairwells offer inelegant

but practical places to gather your courage. Just

be sure you haven't been wired for sound in ad-

vance.

Your breathing: Can't say it enough, but your

breathing is essential to give you energy, calmyour nerves and focus your attention before a

presentation. So breathe in and out deeply a

dozen times before you go on. This is my favorite

pre-speech comfort zone, and it's largely invisible

to others, so can happen anywhere.

Closed eyes: Your comfort zone might need to

erase all that visual stimulation before a talk.

Closing your eyes for a few moments lets you

retreat from the crowds without having to leave

the room. Just make sure you're not facing the

audience when you do this one.The lectern: Lecterns are the original speakers'

armor, serving as a comfort zone right on stage

or at the front of the meeting room. They hide

two-thirds of you physically, give you a place to

keep a photo or other feel-good reminder near-

by, stash your script--all of which might make

you feel more in control. Not every speaker uses

or needs a lectern, but if it helps you, go for it.

A smile: Along with breathing deeply, smiling

does everything from mask those nerves to cre-

ate the feel-good chemicals that can internallyboost your mood and make you feel more re-

laxed. It also helps to counter the natural ten-

dency of most mouths to look either flatlined or

downturned when at rest. Get balance in all

senses of the word and smile before you speak.

PUBLIC SPEAKING

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According to most studies, peoples number one

fear is public speaking. Number two is death.- Jerry Seinfeld

If you have the fear of public speaking, you are not

alone. You must first recognize what fear is. Fear

is the anticipation of pain. Is your fear real or im-

agined? Here are some great insights into Over-

coming Fear of Public Speaking.

Fears - The fear of being judged, making a mis-

take, not measuring up, getting hurt either men-

tally or physically can get in the way of a good per-

formance (speech, seminar, sales presentation,

etc). Remember that people in the audience really

want you to succeed. Nobody is standing there

hoping youll be boring or bad. If you are coming

from an authentic place, and you cover the materi-

al with clarity, youve won 3/4 of your inner battle

with fear.

Learn how to enroll and engage your audi-

ence -If you havent yet taken a professional de-

velopment course on public speaking, consider

finding a public speaking training course appro-

priate for your needs. Learning the art of public

speaking can enhance your results in a board-

room, in a sales presentation, and even acceler-

ate your climb up the corporate ladder. It is a

must-skill for any executive and/or businessowner.

Practice - Find business organizations, networks

and clubs in your area (such as Toastmasters)

that can afford you the opportunity to practice.

Remember to choose topics that you are already

an expert on. Speaking on a topic that you are

not familiar with will increase your stress, and

impede on your performance.

Use recording software - Record everything onyour PC/laptop. Review it to see where you can

improve. Have speaking pros attend your live

presentation to give you feedback. Allow yourself

the opportunity to learn more every time you go

out.

Remember, even the top professionals learn

something new every single time they go out!

Overcoming Fear of Public Speaking

A-Z of Leadership Behaviours

A - Assertive, Approachable, AccountableB - Balanced, Brave

C - Creative, Coherent, Curious

D - Decisive, Delegating

E - Enthusiastic, Empowering, Encouraging

F - Focussed, Flexible

G - Goal-Orientated, Governing

H - Honest, Helpful, Happy

I - Intuitive, Intelligent

J - Just

K - Knowledgeable

L - Listener, Lawful

M - Motivational, Mindful, Mentor

N - Nurturing, NobleO - Objective, Open, Opportunist

P - Perceptive, Progressive, Personable

Q - Questioning

R - Reliable, rational

S - Self motivating, Strategist

T - Trustworthy, Thinker

U - Understanding

V - Versatile, Venerable

W - Willing, Wise

X Xenophilou

Y - Yearning

Z - Zealous

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HATS OFF, GIFTY!

We are proud of you

Our member, Dr.Gifty Immanuel MDfrom Tuticorin, India was

elected into the prestigious Pontifical Academy at Vatican. The Acade-

my deals with the defense of life in matters related to euthanasia,

stem cells research etc. Members are drawn from a diverse group of

physicians, bioethicists and scien-

tists worldwide. The picture was

taken during Papal audience after

induction of new members into the

Academy.

We wish him all the success fromTuticorin Palms Toastmasters.

BIRTHDAY WISHESTM. GIFTY IMMANUEL, celebrates his birthday on Mar 26.TM.SANTHA SAMUEL, celebrates her birthday on Mar 29.Mr. DINESH BALAJI, son of TM.Uma Maheswari celebrated his birthday on Mar 2.Mrs. KAVITHA, spouse of TM. Sagayaraj celebrated her birthday on Mar 17.Mrs. KAVITHA, spouse of TM. Ponvenkatesh celebrates her birthday on Mar 28.Mr. ARUMUGASAMY, spouse of TM.Uma Maheswari celebrates his birthday on Mar 23.

RUMPET MAR, 2012

TUTICORIN PALMS

TOASTMASTERS CLUB

www.toastmasters.org

Administrative Ofice:

20/1,VVD Road,

Tuticorin-628 003.

Tel.No.: 0461-2330856

Training Centre:

PALMS Centre,

84-D, South Raja Street,

Indian Chamber Building,

Tuticorin-628 001.

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