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Homework ReviewChild Centred Play
Was it hard?Was it different?How did your child react?Did you enjoy the time? Can this become a
routine?
In Groups Discuss:
What triggers you when parenting?
Are there common recurrences?
Pick one trigger to work on.
Pushing your buttons
Where are you vulnerable?Why?What are your un-trigger
options?Mindful parentingGet a planDon’t talkStay neutral
Options
Ignore Undesirable Behavior Structure Environment Direct Behavior Offer Choices Encourage Problem Solving Take Time Do not personalize the child’s problem Know your priorities (pick battles)
Positive Discipline
Goal is to increase the frequency of desired behavior.
Catch them doing it right Give feedback immediately Positive before negatives Increase frequency of
rewards/feedback Practice forgiveness Keep a disability perspective
Encouragement
Is a perspective of respect and growth as an individual.
Communication provides messages that relay: I trust you and I know you can
How you feel is important
Recognizes effort and that learning is a process. Making mistakes is how you learn.
Appreciates ones role and contribution. You count and things work better when you help.
Praise
You want to acknowledge success. Focus on the child’s perspective and
recognize the positive behavior without judgment or evaluation.
Possible underlying messages that could be relayed. You must please me to be worthwhile.
You must meet my standards to be successful.
You must be superior to others no matter what to be valued.
You are only good when you do what I want.
Communication Tool: ALIVE
Ask Questions
Listen
Use “I” Messages
Validate Feelings
Be aware how you are expressing yourself
Crisis Prevention
Empathy Clarify Respect Space Aware of non-verbal Permit reasonable venting Know and enforce limits Try not to over react Ignore challenges Use the least restrictive method
Stress
Assess the shoulds Set goals and priorities Assess time Assert self and communicate
needs Care for self Stress management strategies Change approach (Do it?)