To Know from Kellas (2010)

• Tie b/w intergen. narrat’s & future Relat. Schemas• Be able to provide examples of each subtype w/i

the 4 main Memorable Message supratypes:– Value Self (4 subtypes: independ&time, self-esteem&don’tsettle,

progressive sex/rel views, more than 1)

– Charac’s of good rel. (5 subs: good qual’s, behav expect, emot/intim expect, homogamy, extend family)

– Warnings (3 subs: general, pers regret, judg/expect females)

– Sanctity of love (2 subs: virgin&morals, the “one”)

• 3 main implications drawn from results Discussed

CIRCUMPLEX MODEL (Olson, 2000)

Patterns & Environment

• Largely based on Cohesion/Flexibility dimension of family systems theory

• COHESION– Ability to

• FLEXIBILITY– Ability to

How to ID a Family System TYPE• COHESION

– Emotional bonding twrd one another• FLEXIBILITY

– Amount of change in leadership, roles, rules• COMMUNICATION

– Group norms • Listening• Speaking• Clarity• Self-disclosure• Continuity-tracking (meta-comm.)• Respect• Regard

• COMMUNICATION!– Continuum: Open to Closed (same as boundary permeability

covered next lecture)

COHESION types/levels•

– Extreme, emotional separateness & Little involvement b/w– Lot of personal separateness & indep. – Indiv’s “do their own thing” & have separate interests

• – Some emot. separateness but not as extreme – Time apart important, but some together & some joint decision-making– Activities/interests generally separate but few are shared

• – Some emot closeness & loyalty– Time together more important than time apart; Emphasis on togetherness– Separate friends, but also shared

• – Extreme emot closeness & loyalty demanded; Indiv’s very depend & reactive– General lack of personal separateness & little privacy permitted– Energy of indiv’s mainly focused inside family & few outside friends/interests

Olson (2006)

• Balanced• Rigidly Cohesive• Midrange• Flexibly Unbalanced• Chaotically Disengaged• Unbalanced

Family flexibility has four levels

• Chaotic

• Flexible

• Structured

• Rigid

Rigidly Enmeshed

• Strictly enforce • Negotiations are • Rules are • Roles are • Little separation of self• Time together & little private space• Few outside friends• Decisions made by the whole not individual

Chaotically Disengaged

• Little • Limited • Impulsive decision making• Little • Frequently • Emotional • Low • Private space • Individual friendships

But….

• Studies show these things are

• They’re

Family Communication Patterns(Chaffee et al., 1971)

• – Values open, controversial discussion– Kids stimulated to express ideas, even if disagree

• – Stresses mainten. of harmony & IP relations– Kids encouraged to avoid controversy & repress anger

• Pros?• Cons?