TITLE: The Difference a Dad Makes TEXT: Ephesians 6:1-4 TEXT: A great father gives his children his faith

TITLE: The Difference a Dad Makes

• TEXT: Ephesians 6:1-4

• TEXT: A great father gives his children his faith.

How do Jr. High and High School kids get so smart?


• Around the 7th or 9th grade your normal child of average intelligence suddenly receives a dramatic infusion of intelligence


• Around the 7th or 9th grade your normal child of average intelligence suddenly receives a dramatic infusion of intelligence.

• You learn that there is a popular and all-knowing group called “everybody.



• You learn that there is a popular and all-knowing group called “everybody

• You learn that you are mean, or too strict, or “not with it.”




• You learn that you are mean, or too strict, or “not with it”

• Your learn your music, dress and entertainment are boring and out-dated.






• You also learn that your other children are idiots who are an embarrassment to the family






• You also learn that your other children are idiots who are an embarrassment to the family.

• You learn that school is boring, most teachers are unfair, church is a drag.






• You also learn that your other children are idiots who are an embarrassment to the family.

• You learn that school is boring, most teachers are unfair, church is a drag.

• You learn that there is never anything to do?

Question

• With all this valuable information at our disposal why have we not realized our total ignorance and allowed our youth to guide us in our decisions?

EPH 6:1-3

• 1 Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. [2] "Honor your father and mother"--which is the first commandment with a promise-- [3] "that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth."

I. Children, you are responsible to:

Children

• The word for children in the Greek is not referring to young children. It is referring to children who can communicate and respond but are still dependent on their parents for their well-being

Children, you are responsible to:

• Obey your parents. It speaks of one who is learning and being under the authority of another.


• Obey your parents. It speaks of one who is learning and being under the authority of another

• Honor your parents. To honor a person is to estimate and recognize their value



• Honor your parents. To honor a person is to estimate and recognize their value. – Honor is the attitude in which obedience is

born.



• Honor your parents. To honor a person is to estimate and recognize their value. – Honor is the attitude in which obedience is born

• To remember the promise

Young Boy

• “ I may be sitting down on the OUTSIDE but I am standing on the INSIDE!” commands.

“Dare to Discipline,” James Dobson, pg. 25

• “It is most important that a child respect his parents, not for the purpose of satisfying their egos, but because the child’s relationship with his parents provides the basis for his attitude for all other people. His view of parental authority becomes the cornerstone of his later outlook on school authority, police and law, the people whom he will eventually live and work, and for society in general.


• The parent-child relationship is the first and most important social interaction an infant will have, and the flaws and knots in that interaction can often be seen in later relationships. For example, suppose a child wants some candy but his parents refuse, so he falls down on the floor and screams and bangs his head on the carpet. Mamma then becomes upset by the display and says, “Here, Johnny, I guess one piece of candy won’t hurt you. Now stop crying.” She has made it profitable for Johnny to react emotionally. His yelling paid a tasty dividend. He challenged the system and won the battle.


• If good-hearted mom follows that same approach to his protests during the next fourteen years, little Johnny may gradually grow up to become Big Bad John, expecting everyone else to yield to his demands as his weak old mamma did. When rebuffed later by a less pliable authority the stage is set for a violent collision. Although this example is deliberately oversimplified, I could give many similar illustrations which would show how the early parent-child relationship is reflected in later human interaction.”

“What is God’s ideal for the nature of the relationship between

dependent children and parents?”

Fathers, you are responsible to:

EPH 6:4

• Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.

II. Fathers, you are responsible to:

• Treat them respectfully.

It may includes things like:

• Having a changing standard.



• Command something they know to be wrong.




• Giving a punishment more severe than the misdeed calls for.

• Allowing no freedom.






• Failing to allow for trust.






• Failing to allow for trust.

• Never finding reason to show acceptance and love.


• Having a changing standard.• Command something they know to be wrong.• Giving a punishment more severe than the misdeed

calls for.• Allowing no freedom.• Failing to allow for trust.• Never finding reason to show acceptance and love.• The Living Bible translates this, “Don’t keep on

scolding and nagging your children, making them angry and resentful.


• Having a changing standard.• Command something they know to be wrong.• Giving a punishment more severe than the misdeed

calls for.• Allowing no freedom.• Failing to allow for trust.• Never finding reason to show acceptance and love.• The Living Bible translates this, “Don’t keep on

scolding and nagging your children, making them angry and resentful.

• Pushing them too hard.


• Having a changing standard.• Command something they know to be wrong.• Giving a punishment more severe than the misdeed calls

for.• Allowing no freedom.• Failing to allow for trust.• Never finding reason to show acceptance and love.• The Living Bible translates this, “Don’t keep on scolding

and nagging your children, making them angry and resentful.

• Pushing them too hard.• Making it impossible for you kids to please you.

II. Fathers, you are responsible to:

• A. Treat them respectfully. The word means, “to make angry caused by an injustice or by severity of discipline or by making obedience impossible.

• Train them in the Lords instruction.

Careers and Colleges Magazine survey of teenagers

• Question: "Whom do you admire?"

• Among the males, 73% picked their fathers above everyone else.

• (Others who received first-place votes were Denzel Washington, Bill Clinton, and Charles Barkley

APPLICATION

1. Pray for Them

1. Pray for Them

– Jairus came to Jesus asking him to heal his daughter (Mark 5)

1. Pray for Them

– Jairus came to Jesus asking him to heal his daughter (Mark 5).

– The man whose son had an evil spirit came to Jesus asking him to deliver his son (Mark 9

1. Pray for Them


– The man whose son had an evil spirit came to Jesus asking him to deliver his son (Mark 9).

– Job 1:5 says that it was his custom to offer sacrifices for his children, in case they had sinned against the Lord.

1. Pray for Them


– The man whose son had an evil spirit came to Jesus asking him to deliver his son (Mark 9).

– Job 1:5 says that it was his custom to offer sacrifices for his children, in case they had sinned against the Lord.

– David's life prayed a special prayer for his Solomon.

I Chronicles 29:19

• "...give my son Solomon the wholehearted devotion to keep your commands, requirements and decrees and to do everything to build the palatial structure for which I have provided."

Ways we can pray for them

• We can pray for their protection, their salvation, their needs, and their happiness, and their success.

• We can ask God to give them the things that we want them to have.

• We can ask God to help them be good, strong, responsible Christians, to lead useful lives, and to glorify God in all they do





• We can ask God to give them the things that we want them to have



• We can ask God to give them the things that we want them to have.

• We can ask God to help them be good, strong, responsible Christians, to lead useful lives, and to glorify God in all they do.

Charles Mann, former lineman for the Washington Redskins

• "I think the power comes from them hearing my concern."

APPLICATION:

• 1. Pray for them.

• 2. Spend time with them.

Statistic:

• The average five-year-old spends only 25 minutes per week with his father. That equals less than three weeks total time together in 18 years! On the other hand, the average child watches TV for 25 hours per week, and will listen to 11,000 rock songs during his/her teenage years. No wonder we can't influence our kids!

Perspectives of Time with Children

• Charles Francis Adams "Went fishing with my son today—a day wasted."

• His son, Brook Adams, "Went fishing with my dad today—it was the most wonderful day of my life!"

Study

• One thousand teenage boys were asked what they wanted most from their parents. The number one answer was to spend more time with them.

Deuteronomy 6:6

• These commandments that I give you today are to be upon your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. (Deuteronomy 6:6)

APPLICATION:


• 2. Spend time with them

• 3. Give them responsibility.

Matthew 21

• Jesus told a story about a father who had two sons. He sent both of them to work in the vineyard. One said he would, but didn't. The other said he wouldn't, but later changed his mind and did. By giving his sons responsibility, the father learned which son was obedient and which one wasn't. He knew which son could handle responsibility and which son couldn't.

• Getting to carve the turkey was a Huxtable rite of passage, and Theo believed he was ready

The Cosby Show

• Getting to carve the turkey was a Huxtable rite of passage, and Theo believed he was ready

APPLICATION:



• 3. Give them responsibility.– Children want to be given responsibility.

APPLICATION:



• 3. Give them responsibility.– Children want to be given responsibility.

– Teaching your children responsibility takes time.

APPLICATION:



• 3. Give Them Responsibility

• 4. Give them a sense of identity.

Vacation,

• Chevy Chase inspires his family to continue in the face of setbacks because "we're Griswolds, and Griswolds don't quit

Exodus 10:2

• "...tell your children and grandchildren how I dealt harshly with the Egyptians and how I performed my signs among them, and that you may know that I am the Lord."

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TITLE: The Difference a Dad Makes TEXT: Ephesians 6:1-4 TEXT: A great father gives his children his faith