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    Listening:

    Listen until the other person completes his

    sentence.

    Do not interrupt when some one is talking

    Respect others opinion - Never condemn in

    strong words

    Listen with patience and with interest

    Be open minded while listening

    Listen twice as much as you talk - God has

    given two ears and one mouth:-)

    Reading:

    Which books to read Informative,

    inspiring, thought provoking, humorous

    Make notes of what you read, tell the

    summary to friends

    Recollect what you read

    Study with other people

    Fast reading and understanding what you

    read

    Reading again and again

    Writing:

    Daily activities, special experiences

    Summary of the reading

    Expenses

    Any thought on that day

    Addresses, phone numbers, statistics of the

    work and the work area

    Report on the events Plans for programs

    Recognise Good:

    Constantly look out for good qualities in

    people and appreciate them

    Talk about good qualities of one karyakarta

    in front of others

    When you go for sampark with young

    karyakartas, on the way back, talk about

    some of the good things in that house. * On different occasions, ask karyakartas -

    "What are the good things you saw in that

    event/person?"

    Qualities:

    Respect for elders

    Closeness with colleagues

    Affection for youngsters

    Humility - "No one is smaller than me"

    Follow instructions from senior karyakartas

    Time consciousness

    Hard working, try new experiments

    Sense of humour. Tolerance for other's mistakes

    Sacrificing personal comforts.

    Be receptive to others ideas.

    Speech:

    Talk little

    Do not react. Think and answer

    Be polite - As far as possible, give hint to

    correct rather than telling on the face

    Words should carry weight

    Words should be inspiring

    Speech should not hurt anyone

    It should be like suggestions and requestsrather than order and instructions

    Be aware of what to say, how much to say,

    where to say, and how to say - This is

    wisdom

    When you are agitated, the mind does not

    function well, and therefore one should

    avoid speaking.

    When others are agitated, then also keep

    quiet.

    Pronunciation should be correct

    Words should bind the people.

    Your words should make you a likeable

    person by all.

    Remembering:

    Every night before sleep, reflect on the

    oath

    Overview o f the day's activities

    Tomorrow's plans

    Whether my words and deeds could have

    House:

    Cleanliness

    Things should be in their allotted place

    Inspiring photographs

    Good relations with others in the house

    Bath room - Clean

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    been better today Overall atmosphere

    Food

    * Good relations with neighbors

    Collections:

    Sayings, Quotations

    Poems, subhashitas, stotras, bhajans, songs

    Stories - inspiring incidents from people's

    lives. Humorous incidents and jokes,

    puzzles, general knowledge

    Samparka:

    Neglected sections of the society

    Parents of children attending our activities

    Karyakartas of other organizations of

    Sangh parivar

    Karyakartas of other Hindu organizations

    Prominent people in the community

    Good houses

    Skills for Samparaka Boldness and

    confidence Remembering the names

    Recognize their interest and aptitude

    Visiting without any work (casual)

    Liberal:

    Liberal - in thinking, in words, in conduct

    When inconvenience is caused to me byothers, forgive

    When others make mistakes, first thought

    should be "it could be an unconscious

    mistake"

    Be tolerant, when others talk about you

    Planning:

    Pre plan, plan completely

    Decide the targets and purpose Activities and means to achieve that,

    people and other resources needed

    Schedule sub items, co-ordination between

    groups, review and follow up

    Decisions:

    Independently after considering all facets

    Immediately informing concerned

    karyakartas about the decision.

    All should follow decisions made

    collectively with discussion.

    Thinking:

    Positive See what is there and not what is

    not there.

    I'm capable. I'm not weak

    On every occasion, think, "What did I

    learn?"

    There are people to tell about dos anddonts. I'll' think about myself.

    When we are hurt by some one, our

    thinking should be "How he,/she should

    behave is not in my hands, but how I

    should take it is in my

    hands". Think "What I can do"

    When some one has misunderstood me,

    don't think "It's his problem". How I should

    behave, so that there is no scope for others

    to misunderstand.

    "This is his mistake". Instead of starting

    our thinking that way start thinking with

    "May be it was my mistake"

    No investigation. Trust the karyakarta's

    words.

    "They" were responsible for success. "I"

    was responsible for failure.

    Do not add any intentions to the acts and

    words of other karyakartas. Have the

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    confidence that they are working with good

    intentions.

    Trust is life. Mistrust is death in

    organization.

    Needs of others come first .

    Rules are for me and not for others.

    "jahaan kaam, vahan ham"

    Impossible? We'll do it in no time.

    Miracles might take a little longer.

    I'll do it later, tomorrow. NO. Today and

    right now.

    * I'm here to solve society's problems and

    not to complain

    HeIp others Grow:

    Identify people, bind them

    Identify talents and skills. Encourage them.

    Give small tasks initially

    Make sure they succeed in whateverassignments they take

    When they make mistakes, be considerate

    Correcting is not exposing

    Say good things in front of everyone but

    find the right place and time to point out

    mistakes .

    Work with younger karyakartas, so that

    they learn

    Give details of work in advance and

    remind once in a while

    Make sure others don't get disappointed

    and discouraged Enquire about personal problems

    When in trouble, help them whole

    heartedly

    Increase the idealism and spirit of sacrifice

    Cut down mean thinking and develop

    broad & higher thinking

    Bring them in contact with senior

    karyakartas

    Fulfil their short comings

    Support their creative thinking and desires

    to achieve

    Not individualistic, collective work

    Signs of ego (External symbols):

    In speech repeated occurence of " I ,

    "Me", "My"

    Anger, short temper, becoming sad and

    depressed Getting "insulted"

    "I was not consulted", "I was not told, "I

    was ignored" "I was not recognized"Complaining and getting depressed on

    these points.

    When the mistake is pointed out., not

    admitting it and getting defensive

    Praising oneself and finding fault with

    others

    Not interested in doing 'small' work

    Taking light about decisions taken in

    Baitak Not following the instructions

    Behaving irresponsibly

    Always defending one's stand on all issues,

    Advising/Ordering every one, everywhere

    Not being polite with elders

    Not forgetting he bitter experiences

    Not tolerating praise for others

    Problems:

    Failure only means "delay" and not

    "defeat"

    One strong will is enough to face 100

    hurdles

    Do not mix issues and feelings

    Retreat or becoming inactive is no solution.

    Conclusion:

    Others follow our foot steps and not words

    Concern for all, attachment to none

    Ahead of every one in everything, but only

    one step

    Importance to small things

    Not history readers or writers, but history

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    Thinking should be centered around the

    work.

    Ship is safe at the shore. But , its purpose is

    not served

    The secret of winning is the courage to face

    failures

    Difficulties and failures will bring out the

    best in us

    We can tell stories tomorrow, only when

    we go through difficulties today

    Every problem will have many solutions

    We should keep trying until we find the

    right solution,

    Yes. Problems are there in society. That's

    why we became Sangh karyakartas

    I'm here to solve the problem. I should not

    become problem

    Discuss about the solution and not broodover the problem

    "I don't know. Do whatever you want to

    do" will only solve my problem and will

    not help the work.

    When confused, keep one step forward;

    you will see the second step, make that

    move. Only then you will see the third step.

    When failed, think of success in the past.

    When succeeded think of future plans

    To make mistake is human. But do not

    repeat the mistakes

    makers

    Do not give opinions, give facts

    Do not throw cold water on young

    karyakarta's ideas by your decisions

    Anyone can live by working from 10 to 5.

    Achievement is possible only by working 5

    to 10

    If I can change myself as I wish, then only

    I can change others also as per my wish

    There is no better lesson than being with

    younger workers

    Leader's speed is the team's speed

    Let's be "self inspired"

    Delegate, but don't forget

    Make others also "think" about the work.

    When people praise, remember it's the

    organization behind me, they are praising.

    Otherwise it's like a donkey carrying idolsin procession.

    Leadership is like a moving thread. You

    can only pull from front. You cannot push

    from back.

    Daily routine: Sleep

    Exercise

    Study

    Pratasmaran, Meditation and Bhajan

    Sampark