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Tim Clinton, Ed.D.Gary Sibcy, II, Ph.D.
Joshua Straub, Ph.D.
Mind
Relationship
Brain
Neural Networks—based on experience The Brain as a “social organ” Neural Plasticity Neural Integration Gene Expression Enriched Environments
How the brain grows◦ Bottom to top; right to left
Integrated, regulated brain◦ Top to bottom; left and right
Finding the Zone—◦ Support—safe, regulated◦ Challenge—emotional activation◦ Think—label, communicate, problem solve◦ Relate—attend, back-and-forth, collaborative
Brain wires itself based on experience Asks several questions:
◦ Is the world a safe place?◦ Can I count on my caregiver’s to help me in time
of need?◦ Can I get the care I need when I need it?
Care = Love
Implicit Memory—◦ Present at birth◦ Includes behavioral, emotional, perceptual, body◦ Mental models—states become traits◦ Conscious attention not required for encoding◦ No sense of recollection when memories recalled◦ Does not involve hippocampus—mostly amygdala
and limbic-motoric
Explicit Memory◦ Emerges in second year of life◦ Sense of recollection when recalled◦ If autobiographical, sense of self and time present◦ Includes semantic (factual) and episodic
(autobiographical)◦ Requires conscious attention◦ Involves hippocampus—converts to context◦ If autobiographical—involves prefrontal cortex
Sensitive, timely responses to child’s distress
Enhance regulation, brain stem, limbic system◦ Stimulate integration of these systems, ultimately
through integration of these systems with the middle prefrontal cortex
The Big FiveSeeks Proximity in times of trouble
Safe Haven ExperienceSecure BaseExplorationSeparationanxiety/angerLossGrief
Secure Base
Self-Confidence/Exploration
Perceived Threat
Felt security
Attachment System
Signaling
Proximity Seeking
Safe Haven
Caregiver’sSignal detection
The middle prefrontal cortex◦ Anterior cingualate◦ Orbital prefrontal cortex◦ The mediate prefrontal◦ Ventral lateral◦ All work together as a team
Body regulation-- Attuned communication-- Emotional balance-- Response Flexibility-- Insight— Empathy
Mindsight
Fear modulation Accessing intuition Morality
Inconsistent/Role reversal
Responsive/Attuned
Avoidant
Ambivalent
Disorganized
Secure
Frightening/Threatening/Dissociated
Rejecting/disengaged/overly Intrusive
Parent Responses Themes Attachment Style
AAI Classifications
of Pre-term Mothers in Third
Trimester of Pregnancy Child Strange
Situation Classification
At Twelve –Months
AAI Classification 16 To 20
Years Later
70% ACCURACY
75% TO 78%
ACCURACY
The Sacred Romance -- “Lover of our Soul”
Love and Marriage -- Genesis 2:18-25; SOS;
Matt.19; I Cor. 7; I Cor. 13; Eph.5:21 ff; I
Peter 3:1-10
The Family -- Deut. 6:6-9, Psalm 127; I Tim. 5:8
Self Other
•Am I worthy? •Am I capable?•Am I willing?
•Are you trustworthy?•Are accessible?•Are you capable?•Are you willing?
SECURE
Comfortable with intimacy and
autonomy
PREOCCUPIED
Preoccupied with relationships and
abandonment
DISMISSING
Downplays intimacy, overly
self-reliant
FEARFUL
Fearful of intimacy, socially avoidant
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Positive View Low Anxiety
Negative View High Anxiety
Figure 1.Bartholomew’s model of self and other
Secure AttachmentSecure AttachmentSelf DimensionSelf DimensionI’m worthy of loveI’m worthy of loveI’m capable of getting the love I needI’m capable of getting the love I need
Other DimensionOther DimensionOthers are willing and able to love meOthers are willing and able to love meI can count on you to be there for meI can count on you to be there for me
Avoidant AttachmentAvoidant AttachmentSelf DimensionSelf DimensionI’m worthy of love (false pride)I’m worthy of love (false pride)I’m capable of getting love I want and need I’m capable of getting love I want and need (false sense of mastery)(false sense of mastery)
Other DimensionOther DimensionOthers are incompetentOthers are incompetentOthers are untrustworthyOthers are untrustworthy
Ambivalent AttachmentAmbivalent AttachmentSelf DimensionSelf DimensionI am not worth of love (I feel flawed)I am not worth of love (I feel flawed)I’m not able to get love I need without being I’m not able to get love I need without being angry or clingyangry or clingy
Other DimensionOther DimensionCapable but unwilling (bc my flaws)Capable but unwilling (bc my flaws)May abandon me (bc my flaws)May abandon me (bc my flaws)
Fearful AttachmentFearful AttachmentSelf DimensionSelf DimensionI’m not worthy of loveI’m not worthy of loveI’m unable to get the love I needI’m unable to get the love I need
Other DimensionOther DimensionOthers are unwillingOthers are unwillingOthers are unableOthers are unableOthers are abusive, I deserve itOthers are abusive, I deserve it
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Secure AttachmentSecure Attachment Full rangeFull rangeGood controlGood controlSelf-soothesSelf-soothesShares feelingsShares feelingsOk with others’ feelingsOk with others’ feelingsCapable of accurate empathyCapable of accurate empathy
Avoidant AttachmentAvoidant AttachmentRestricted RangeRestricted RangeToo much controlToo much controlUses things to soothe self, prone to Uses things to soothe self, prone to addictionsaddictionsKeeps feelings at a distanceKeeps feelings at a distanceDoesn’t share feelingsDoesn’t share feelingsRestricted empathyRestricted empathy
Ambivalent AttachmentAmbivalent AttachmentFull rangeFull rangePoor controlPoor controlCan’t self sootheCan’t self sootheShares Feelings too muchShares Feelings too muchOverwhelms others with their feelingsOverwhelms others with their feelingsUses feelings instrumentally to gain Uses feelings instrumentally to gain proximityproximity
Disorganized AttachmentDisorganized AttachmentFull Range, but few positive feelingsFull Range, but few positive feelingsPoor controlPoor controlCan’t self-sootheCan’t self-sootheCan’t really share with othersCan’t really share with othersOverwhelmed by others feelingsOverwhelmed by others feelingsDissociates when in face of strong emotionDissociates when in face of strong emotion
Secure AttachmentSecure AttachmentComfortable with closenessComfortable with closenessShares feelings and dreamsShares feelings and dreamsWilling to commitWilling to commitBalances closeness and distanceBalances closeness and distance
Avoidant AttachmentAvoidant AttachmentNot comfortable with closenessNot comfortable with closenessWithholds feelings and dreamsWithholds feelings and dreamsDifficulty with commitmentDifficulty with commitmentDistances Distances
Ambivalent AttachmentAmbivalent AttachmentDesires closeness, but never seems to Desires closeness, but never seems to have enoughhave enoughWants to merge with otherWants to merge with otherPreoccupied with abandonmentPreoccupied with abandonmentClings and criticizesClings and criticizesCrisisCrisisattachmentattachment
Disorganized AttachmentDisorganized AttachmentDesires closeness, but fears and avoids Desires closeness, but fears and avoids ititWants to merge, then wants to Wants to merge, then wants to distancedistanceTerrified of abandonmentTerrified of abandonmentSabotages closenessSabotages closenessAttracted to people who victimizeAttracted to people who victimize
Kirkpatrick◦ Reframes attachment within religious context
Christian conception of God satisfies Ainsworth’s attachment criteria:Seeks closeness in times of troubleSafe Haven ExplorationSeparationanxiety/angerLossGrief
Christian Attachment Therapy 27
Philippians 4:4-7 Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice! Let your gentleness
be evident to all. The Lord is near. Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.(NIV)
Ps 17:6-10I call on you, O God, for you will answer me; give ear to me and hear my prayer. Show the wonder of your great love, you who save by your right hand those who take refuge in you from their foes. Keep me as the apple of your eye; hide me in the shadow of your wings from the wicked who assail me, from my mortal enemies who surround me. They close up their callous hearts, and their mouths speak with arrogance.(NIV)
Christian Attachment Therapy 28
Ps 46:1-4God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble. Therefore we will not fear, though the earth give way and the mountains fall into the heart of the sea, though its waters roar and foam and the mountains quake with their surging. Selah
Christian Attachment Therapy 29
-Research shows people seek God for a safe haven and secure base during times of stress.
Most researched area of attachment theory in the context of religion
In times of emotional distress or loss, it has been found that people:
-turn to prayer rather than the church -grieving persons tend to increase their faith and
religious devotion-soldiers pray more frequently in combat -times of death and divorce -fears associated with serious illness -emotional crises-relationship problems-other negative events
As substitute attachment figure (Kirkpatrick, 1992)
Provides “felt security” (Sroufe, 1977)
More similar to parent-child relationship but moderate and consistent link to romantic attachment (Kirkpatrick, 1992, 1999; Rowatt & Kirkpatrick, 2002)
Measured on two dimensions: Anxiety and Avoidance
(Beck & McDonald, 2004)
THE ATTACHMENT TO GOD INVENTORY(Beck and McDonald, 2004)
The Experiences in Close Relationships scale
(Brennan et al. 1998)-Avoidance of Intimacy-Anxiety about Abandonment
Increased Avoidance
A reluctance to communicate
Avoidance of emotionality
Obsessive self-reliance
Increased anxiety of abandonment
Preoccupation and worry
Angry protest
Increased jealousy
Resentment
Concerns that they are lovable
Fears of abandonment in love relationship with God
Attachment style impacts how God is viewed◦Secure: He is there, I can count on Him. He will
accepts me, in spite of my flaws◦Avoidant: He isn’t there for me when I need
Him. I will have to go at life alone. I don’t really need Him.
◦Ambivalent: I’m too flawed; God is sure to reject me. I probably committed the unpardonable sin
◦Disorganized: I’m flawed, beyond repair. God will strike me down if I turn toward Him. He will surely reject or punish me.
Christian Attachment Therapy 34
-God may serve as a compensatory attachment figure for individuals displaying insecure attachment patterns (Kirkpatrick & Shaver, 1997, 1998).
--avoidant attachment types had higher incidents of sudden conversions. These results indicate that God may serve the role of a substitute attachment figure (emotional compensation), compensating for the distant, unresponsive care-giving style they experienced in infancy and childhood. This hypothesis is based upon Ainsworth’s (1985) findings that those with insecure attachment styles seek substitute objects of attachment.
-proposes that individuals with secure attachment styles are more likely to sustain a future belief and relationship with God because a foundation has been established throughout childhood. This hypothesis is based on Bowlby’s (1969) idea that relationship permanence and stability stem from stable working models of attachment (Kirkpatrick & Shaver, 1997, 1998).
According to this hypothesis--the explanation to the root of
religiousness in securely attached individuals may be derived “from
without”, or socialization processes, whereas the religiousness of the
insecurely attached individual may be derived “from within”, or
emotional regulation (Granqvist & Hagekull).
The connection between attachment insecurity and sudden religious conversion
may be considered the most robust and corroborated finding from the research on
attachment and religion…This interpretation is in line with ambivalents’ observed tendency to desperately seek
care and easily fall in love, and may be a continuation of the inconsistency in
parental caregiving that has been shown to be characteristic of parents in
ambivalent dyads
Factual
Emotional
Volitional
Secure Childhood
Insecure Childhood
Insecure Adult/Romantic
Secure Adult/Romantic
Insecure God
Secure God
Trauma/Loss
Corrective Relational Experience
Warmth and security—responsiveness and attunement
Regulation so child is not overwhelmed Relatedness and engagement Back and forth emotional signaling and
gesturing Problem solving Using ideas in meaningful and functional
way Thinking and reasoning
Step I: Remember Your Story – Narrative Recall
Step II: Recognize Your Pain and Need for Healing – “Can’t heal what you don’t feel”
Step III: Reframe the Meaning of Your StoryStep IV: Repair Your Story – ‘forgiveness,
grace and acceptance’Step V: Reconnect – deepening emotional
strands of safety, trust and intimacy; able to accept influence from others.