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This Special Report details the fundamental principles underlying the FULLIVING (Coaching Your Self Healing) Program. It does so by introducing a powerful method provided to all members of the Coaching Your Self Healing community. This method, Shared-Intentional-Healing provides a daily opportunity for members from around the globe to support one another (& receive support) by way of healing intentions. A "Map of Intentional Healing" is included.
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SPECIAL REPORT
THRIVING BEYOND CHRONIC ILLNESS SHARED-INTENTIONAL-HEALINGtrade
PRAXIS
by Malcolm F Dayton LPC CHtcopy2009
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LEGAL
THIS PUBLICATION IS PROTECTED UNDER THE US COPYRIGHT ACT OF 1976
AND ALL OTHER APPLICABLE INTERNATIONAL FEDERAL STATE AND LOCAL
LAWS
and all rights are reserved including resale rights you are not allowed to give or sell this
Guide to anyone else If you received this publication from anyone other than
CoachingYourSelfHealing youve received a pirated copy Please contact us via e-mail
at mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom and notify us of the situation
Please note that much of this publication is based on clinical and personal experiences
and anecdotal evidence Although the author has made every reasonable attempt to
achieve complete accuracy of the content in this Guide he assumes no responsibility for
errors or omissions
Also you should use this information as you see fit and at your own risk Your particular
situation may not be exactly suited to the examples illustrated here in fact its likely that
they wont be the same and you should adjust your use of the information and
recommendations accordingly
Any trademarks service marks product names or named features are assumed to be the
property of their respective owners and are used only for reference
Finally nothing in this Guide is intended to replace common sense legal medical or other
professional advice and is meant to inform and entertain the reader So have fun and
learn with CoachingYourSelfHealing information
Copyright copy 2009 by MalcolmDayton LPC CHt All rights reserved worldwide
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TABLE OF CONTENTS
YOUR COMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION
INTRODUCTION
ANALYSIS
ldquoYOURrdquo
ldquoDAILYrdquo
ldquoSHAREDrdquo
ldquoINTENTIONALrdquo
ldquoHEALINGrdquo (beyond ldquobeing curedrdquo)
ldquoPRAXISrdquo
PRAXIS GUIDELINES
8-STEP PRAXIS REVIEW
REFERENCES
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
CONTACT INFORMATION
4
5
7
7
9
11
11
16
22
26
31
32
33
33
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YOUR COMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION
The following report provides a detailed introduction to the foundation of effective
principles and powerful tools that the author Malcolm Dayton LPC Cht has
learned developed and utilized in over 15 years of clinical work with individuals
facing chronic illness He has further honed his transformational approach by
discovering what is effective in enhancing his own daily living while addressing
chronic illness (asthma immune deficiency multiple sclerosis)
Although Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade (as described in this report) is a uniquely
powerful activity to engage in your daily wellness arsenal you can maximize
your benefits and progress more rapidly by learning to systematically apply
the broad range of Self Healing tools techniques and opportunities only available
through Coaching Your Self Healing
If you would like to maximize your results more quickly you may participate
multiple times each month in 11 coaching sessions Sessions are tailored to
your specific health and wellness situation to your specific goals and to your
abilities To experience how Your Self Healing Coaching will work for you you
may access your FREE Coaching Session (45 minutes in length) by clicking below
Yes Malcolm Im ready to discover
the benefits of Self Healing Coaching NOW
Sign me up now for myCOMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION
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INTRODUCTION
Welcome to Coaching Your Self Healing (CYSH) During your time with CYSH
you will have many opportunities to learn new and powerful self healing
tools which (when applied as you go through your daily living) will lead you
directly to experience more happiness health well-being and ease what I
call FULLIVINGtrade ndash that state of Being marked by THRIVING beyond chronic
illness
How can I make such a bold statement Because these are the same tools Ive
learned to apply over 4 decades to manage asthma immune disorder and
multiple sclerosis Moreover these are the same skills Ive taught hundreds of
others with chronic illness over the recent 15 years of my clinical practice and by
applying these abilities daily these folks too have learned to improve their daily
living beyond chronic illness to be FULLIVINGtrade
Please take time to read through this report more than once It is a rather quick
read yet so much of this information forms the foundation to your ongoing Self
Healing as much as it also lays out the process for performing your shared-
intentional-healingtrade praxis
Do take the time to apply these principles to your own daily encounter with
chronic illness Skillfully applying the process described in this report (together
with the tools provided in the article series Empower Your Self to Heal Chronic
Illness) you will at once powerfully launch and accelerate your personal
journey into Self Healing
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Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis
One of the more powerful (and empowering) practices CYSH offers you is your
daily Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis (SIHP) This compelling activity
provides various times throughout each day when you can stop the noise in your
life and focus your attention (and intention) on FULLIVINGtrade for your Self as
well as for all the members of your CYSH community At any of the scheduled
times you may take a break from the busyness of your day amp take 5 to 15
minutes to send (amp receive) shared healing intentions in concert with all the
other CYSH members The details of ldquohow tordquo participate in this shared activity
are provided later in this report
Before jumping into the mechanics however we will first take a few moments to
construct the foundation for your daily Shared-Intentional-Healingrdquotrade Praxis
Doing so will assist you in better understanding and skillfully applying this
empowering Self Healing approach
You may keep up-to-date on new or added information to this report by referring to
the tri-monthly Your Self Healing Journey News (you receive as part of your
CYSH membership) as well as by returning to the Coaching Your Self Healing blog
(httpwwwCoachingSelfHealingcomblog)
Note In this report I use the word ldquoselfrdquo in a capitalized form as ldquoSelfrdquo You may
find a detailed account on this use of ldquoSelfrdquo in the article Empower Your Self to Heal
Chronic Illness Part 1 Who is the self in Self Healing
For our purposes here Self is that deep core of you the essential being you were
at birth before defining yourself by the cultural identifiers thrust onto you growing-
up and beyond those you have used to create your place in the world
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ANALYSIS
of
Your Daily Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis
ldquoYOURrdquo
First this is truly YOUR activity You may do this at whatever times you choose
and on whatever days feel right for you You may choose to participate once per
day or more frequently on certain days This is YOUR Self Healing program
You access the benefits by proactively participating in SIHP FULLIVINGtrade
benefits accrue as you routinely apply and participate in this approach As you
feel more comfortable and natural during your sessions you may notice you are
more relaxed and calm as you carry out the remainder of your day Symptoms
may seem less troubling less intense and easier to manage You can notice an
improvement in your general mood and more felt-moments of happiness The
fact that you know you are participating not only for your own benefit but the
benefit of all other CYSH members will bring a smile to your face and a
meaningful sense of Self worth for giving so genuinely from your heart
You may also discover applying SIHP can help with the more difficult times you
face Imagine you have been participating in shared-intentional-healingtrade
sessions at about 1 session per day Then because of a virus or change in
medications you enter a more difficult period of heightened symptoms perhaps
leading to a drop-off in your participation Two things to keep in mind here
1 You may email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom) to request other CYSH
members keep YOU in our special intentions during the times we are
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participating in SIHP each day
You do not need to provide identifying information merely some information
about your age gender and what you may be going through at this time This
will assist other members to generate an image of who your are as we focus
our healing intentions for you
2 During these more challenging times you may discover you can access
even more energy and peace by actually increasing the number of times
each day you participate in sessions Please do test this out for yourself
over time
This is not only your program but the process itself is yours as well that is YOU
define what intentional healing is for you according to your history and
experiences your desires and goals No person outside of you can clarify the
means by which you define and measure healing progress nor what results or
goals are more or less important to you as you apply the skills you learn in the
Coaching Your Self Healing program
The steps outlined later in this report are merely guidelines to assist you in
participating in your daily Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis They serve as
guides suggestions to help you get started You will find your own unique way to
participate ndash the way that simply works best for you
So please do explore the process play with it and have fun Whenever you do
come across some variation that is particularly beneficial please send it along to
me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom) so I may pass it along to benefit other
members in our CYSH community
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ldquoDAILYrdquo
You may choose among eight times each day to participate in this practice
900 AM amp PM EST 1200 AM amp PM EST 300 AM amp PM EST and 600 AM amp
PM EST The eight times are provided in order for CYSH members from around
the globe to participate at a convenient time in your time zone as well as
convenient to your schedule around the clock each day Clearly you may
participate at any of the session times regardless of your location
If for some reason you cannot participate during any of these times please do
email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom) so I may be informed of any
scheduling problems that I am not currently taking into consideration My goal
here is to develop a daily schedule that works for everyone around the globe (and
around the clock each day) To start out I would encourage you to set a
reminder alarm a few minutes before your scheduled time ndash at least until you
have formed a comfortable habit of participating in the sessions
I will be present and participate during at least two sessions everyday and I will
rotate through session times each day That way at least every four days you
and I will be attending together at the same time Please understand however
there is never any expectation for you to participate at any particular time(s) nor
on any given day When you participate depends solely on your inner comfort
and your positive intention when you do take part
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Providing so many times is meant solely as a way to coordinate our attention and
energies in synchrony with other community members There is no need to be
concerned about the ldquorightrdquo time to participate As already noted your energies
are better-focused on being-present your comfort and on positive intention
There simply is no ldquorightrdquo time just the time that is right for you
Another advantage of having eight scheduled times each day is to provide
flexibility for you to adjust your participation in response to changes in your
symptom experiences As noted earlier when going through more difficult
symptomatic periods that are disrupting to your routine participating in
additional praxis times (rather than focusing on symptoms) may assist you with
limiting intensity and duration of the exacerbation ndash particularly by generating
more relaxation and rest
Still another helpful way you may consider your praxis ldquotimerdquo has been clarified
by Einstein physicists and spiritual leaders through history What they have
shown us is that ldquotimerdquo is a construct (a ldquoboxrdquo) and is not really ldquoout thererdquo at
all Indeed if ldquotimerdquo exists it can only be NOW
Such a perspective can be extremely nourishing when considering what Deepak
Chopra MD and Wayne Dyer PhD call the ldquogaprdquo The gap is that experience in
which you are ldquocenteredrdquo in the ldquosilent space between thoughtsrdquo When in the
gap you are at that ldquolevel of Being which is your essential staterdquo1 This
experience of being-in-the-gap is timeless ndash rdquothe womb of creationrdquo2 It is within
this state of experience that healing occurs
As you perform your praxis each day you will naturally and directly begin to
experience the timeless-being of the gap firsthand Once you recognize this
experience you will realize that whatever time of day you actually participate in
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SIHP you are doing it in the same NOW as all other CYSH members ndash even
though your session ldquoclock timesrdquo differ throughout the day
ldquoSHAREDrdquo
Remember the key here is that you are surrounding your Self with the one
heartbeat of all the other community members Your attention your energy
and your intentions are SHARED by all ndash just as their energies and intentions are
shared with and for you It is this attitude of sharing-with a wholehearted
giving-to that is key to this approach It is very simple As you give from
your heart-of-caring so you will receive
Be comforted in knowing that by simply participating once a day (after even a
few short days) you will begin to feel more comfortable more at ease more at
peace now than you may have experienced in years AND you know you are
contributing to the FULLIVINGtrade of others that is contributing beyond well-
being into the very heart of healing Trust me when I say your peace and your
giving heart provide a strong (and necessary) foundation on which to build
healing for each of us and of all of us together
ldquoINTENTIONALrdquo
So what does it mean to be INTENTIONAL One of the most helpful reviews of
ldquointentionrdquo is provided by Wayne Dyer PhD3 In Dyers The Power of Intention
(2005) he describes how we may ldquowishrdquo for something to occur in our lives but
such wishing is only a beginning
We may also choose to take the next step beyond wishing to ldquodesirerdquo Desire
results in taking action on the wish and is proactively distinct from wishing It is
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with desire that we now straight-forwardly make the ldquoaskrdquo (as in ldquoask and you
shall receiverdquo)
Still again we can step-up the intensity of our activity even more (beyond
wishing and asking) that is we may frame our desire in terms of what we
actually ldquointend to createrdquo Stop here for a moment close your eyes and feel
the power in these words I INTEND TO CREATE Period And again
I INTEND TO CREATE
We are very matter-of-fact about bringing the thing wished for desired
requested into experience No doubt No fear Creating healing now is simply a
given that occurs by way of you actively participating Period
Such intention-to-create by definition requires both commitment and passion
With commitment we are beyond ldquotryingrdquo to make the thing happen and
instead move into what I call devotion-to-creating (from the original French
devovere ldquodedicated by a vowrdquo) With such devotion we experience a much
deeper more profound state of being an awareness beyond ego
Devotion-to-creating allows you to act beyond the ldquooughtsrdquo and ldquoshouldsrdquo of
others beyond your own doubts and fears beyond obligation and guilt and
directly to the heart of being inspired (ldquodrawing in of airrdquo ldquoinspiritrdquo) that is you
are drawn into relation-with the powerful and empowering Source that creates
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It is by being inspired that you meet the paradox at the heart of ldquointendingrdquo As
you proactively intend-to-create you naturally come to experience being
committed devoted and inspired however you actually create only inasmuch as
you allow your Self to follow the flow of your inspiration naturally ndash that is as
you open your Self to receive Therefore as you intend to heal you must
also open to receive healing
As such it is important you recognize healing happens as you ldquoget out of your
own wayrdquo beyond intellect desire doubt and ego How do we do that How do
we get out of our own way beyond ego Very simply you do that by allowing
your Self to trust your healing
Please take a moment here to recall a time when you were injured in some way
(maybe a cut or broken bone) Beyond receiving necessary medical assistance
what did you do to mend to heal Once attended to medically its likely that you
never gave the actual processes of ldquohealingrdquo much thought ndash dying cells cleared
away new cells forming and eventually performing as if they had been there all
along as if nothing ever happened Healing just occurred your part was to trust
the process take good care of yourself and allow it Whether conscious or not
you simply trusted yourself to heal
It is that same trust you must have as you now commit-to-create intentional
healing Your whole Self system ldquoknowsrdquo how and what needs healing and in
what specific sequence of steps healing must occur Self does not need the
agreement of intellect or common sense to proceed naturally with healing Self
has been carrying out that process every nano-second of every day of your life ndash
simultaneously coordinating trillions of biochemical and energetic activities in
every cell of your entire being Heart beats lungs breath intestines digest and
your job is simply to get out of your own way and trust your Self to heal
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As you do alongside this intense Self-trust and commitment-to-create (our vow)
passion takes over and leads the way beyond common sense beyond
doubting intellect beyond beliefs and even beyond perceptions Such intense
passion emanating from your heart is very simply ldquoagaperdquo (selfless Love) In
this state you no longer experience others as separate bounded subject-object
(I-It) rather you share together in a living boundless oneness-of-relating
honoring the encounter by giving your present and your presence to the
sacredness of ldquoI-Thourdquo4
Map of HEALING INTENTION
I WISH
I DESIRE (ASK)
I INTEND-TO-CREATE
INCLUDES I COMMIT-TO-CREATE (I Vow = Devotion-to-creating)
I AM PASSIONATE
(I am Inspired)
PARADOX OF INTENDING (I Allow I Receive I Trust My Self to Heal)
I-THOU (Agape)
Figure copy2009 by MFDayton
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It is this deep experience of heartfelt passion and selfless Love you are aiming to
access directly (and share) when you intend from the heart when you are
performing your shared-intentional-healingtrade praxis
So once again stop for a moment now to imagine Imagine the tremendous
healing power at your disposal when you step into your shared session each day
with the intention-to-create healing It means you are committing to heal
vowing to heal trusting your Self to heal by way of your impassioned
heart You are giving your presence to merge as one-heartbeat in
synchrony and selfless love with all other CYSH members in this moment
now Therein lies the true power of your healing intention
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ldquoHEALINGrdquo (beyond ldquobeing curedrdquo)
Clearly what we intend to create during each praxis is HEALING your healing
healing for other members my healing and our healing together as one Yet do
you really know what you mean when you say ldquoI intend to healrdquo
Whenever we take time to reflect on the notion of ldquohealingrdquo typically one of the
first things that bubbles up into awareness is some hope of being ldquocuredrdquo Given
the difficulties and challenges we can face in just making it through even the
most simple of daily activities ldquocurerdquo can be so very inviting Indeed given the
opportunity who of us wouldnt want to be cured of a chronic illness And cured
NOW
Yet by seeking to ldquobe curedrdquo we can become entrenched in even more intense
challenges and symptom exacerbation How could that be What could
possibly be wrong with hoping for a cure
There is nothing wrong with hoping dreaming goal setting Indeed these
activities can provide momentum power purpose and direction to an otherwise
difficult day Yet the moment we turn our attention to ldquobeing curedrdquo our focus
immediately comes to rest on that which we desire to be ldquocured ofrdquo to ldquoget away
fromrdquo and it is here we become derailed Its like the age-old challenge to ldquonot
think of a blue elephantrdquo We must first conceive such a beast before we cannot
think about it
So too with ldquocurerdquo ndash We must first converge our attention and energies even
more intensely on the illness and the symptoms we wish to cease Clearly this
activity takes us in the opposite direction from the relief and health we are
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seeking In fact it is the same process described by Cheri Huber in one of her
more remarkable books entitled That Which You Are Seeking Is Causing You To
Seek (1990) Take a moment now to think about her title in relation to ldquoThe cure
I am seeking is rdquo In short to focus on cure heightens our experience of
dis-ease
To clarify even further when we focus on such moving-away-from-activities we
have no clear vision of what it is we are moving toward Without such clarity our
odds of failing escalate exponentially Success happens only as we also move
toward clearly-defined desires and goals A simple yet powerful example is this
years 40th anniversary of the Apollo 11 moon landing Was that ldquogiant steprdquo
successful because the leaders at NASA focused energy solely on how to create
escape velocity to ldquoget away fromrdquo earth ndash or also on how to get onto the moon
Another helpful example is wanting ldquoout ofrdquo a job Im sure you know of someone
(perhaps yourself) intent on getting away from the daily grind of hisher job Yet
when she did successfully leave that employment inevitably and much too soon
the same situation landslides into the daily grind of the next job Repeating old
patterns of struggle is a very clear sign of actions based on moving-away-
from goals This is a key principle to apply to all aspects of your daily living
The reason this occurs with the get-me-outta-here script is that whatever change
may happen generally does so from ldquowithoutrdquo At best we change scenery Its
the old grass-is-greener scenario ndash which is really no change at all
The inherent problem here can be even more perilous as we see when we take a
closer look at the wording ldquobeing curedrdquo We tend to redirect our attention from
within (our source of creative power) to some force outside that causes the cure
for us (whether that be by way of a physician a healer natural substances
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medications treatments or God)
On some level we tell ourselves if I could figure out what was happening to get
into this situation (ie chronic illness) I would be able to figure out how to get
out of it but (and heres the rub) since I cant I begin to believe less and less in
my innate healing power and more and more that such power must lie outside of
me ndash with an outside force greater than me (whether medical natural or
spiritual)
Please be clear on this point This is not to underplay the importance of qualified
medical professionals to your progress The same is true of the importance and
value of your spirituality and relation-with God Source Higher Power The point
to take away here is that you can only access the benefits of such healing
relations when YOU are first centered and strong in your own being ndash when you
approach your Self as a sacred Thou
Therefore in the situation where you reflexively turn over your power to heal (to
an outside agent) understand the ensuing damage you risk to your sense of Self
Not only are you diminishing belief in your inherent strength and healing power
you are also at risk of allowing others to determine what is best for your well-
being (perhaps even against your deeper intuitive knowing) all of which only
serves to further undermine Self-esteem and the tremendous power that comes
from believing in your Self
Even our religious upbringing can paradoxically weaken our beliefs regarding the
possibility of cure We learn at a deep level that ldquocurerdquo lies only in the realm of
the miraculous Such an orientation can weaken belief in the possibility of ldquome
being cured nowrdquo In fact when being completely honest many of us feel the
odds of ldquome being cured nowrdquo are as slim or slimmer than winning a million dollar
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lottery And when it does not happen were faced with the more daunting issue
of how I must somehow be ldquoflawedrdquo Clearly such underlying attitudes provide
no foundation on which to construct change much less the dramatic change
required with the desire to ldquobe curedrdquo [Here I recommend another Huber book
There Is Nothing Wrong with You Going Beyond Self-Hate (2001)]
In the end when focused on ldquobeing curedrdquo you may not only become separate
from your innate healing power within but you risk the ultimate medical
mistreatment becoming an object to be worked-on mechanically From here it
can be a rapid slide into the role of ldquovictimrdquo whereby you relinquish your
responsibility for choosing altogether (ie intending-to-create) how it is you truly
desire to be In short you risk losing the creative power of intention required to
give birth to healing
By the mid eighties I had been on daily prednisone for over a decade to control
severe bouts of status asthmaticus and recurrent pneumonia Because the
deleterious side-effects of prednisone included adrenal insufficiency (an impaired
stress response) I knew in my heart-of-hearts one key to my well-being lay in
recovering my atrophied stress axis by discontinuing daily prednisone For years
I pleaded with my pulmonary specialist to assist me in tapering off and relearning
how to live prednisone-free Together we did make a few unsuccessful attempts
only to recycle back into another respiratory infection and still higher doses of
prednisone By this time his posture was that I needed to remain on daily
prednisone ldquofor the rest of my liferdquo My posture was to fire him
Fortunately and in short-order I began working with an internist who over the
next two years laid out a plan to become prednisone-free ndash which we did
together successfully Two significant points must be clearly recognized here
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1 You must believe in your innate healing power and if you do not
currently this then becomes your launch pad for your healing journey ndash
relearning to empower your Self to heal
2 You are not in this alone You require the good works of others in
alignment with you to successfully heal As such you need to be very
selective in picking those others with whom you relate to enhance your
medical well-being
If you are feeling your medical support is sapping your power and authority
they probably are but you dont throw the baby out with the bath This is
not about releasing physicians this is about being in a healing
relationship-with your medical professional(s) of choice
Additional cultural biases arise with a focus on ldquocurerdquo Any true change with
regard to chronic illness implies a change ldquofor the betterrdquo That requires us to
believe with certainty that such change can and will bring improvement After
more than fifteen years working with individuals with chronic illness (including
my Self) it is the rare individual Ive encountered who truly believes (from the
core) ldquoI will be curedrdquo We wish for cure certainly but believing with certainty ldquoI
will be curedrdquo rarely
An origin of not believing in ldquobeing curedrdquo lies in the way we traditionally use the
term One problem in particular is that ldquocurerdquo is not a ldquonowrdquo concept -- that is
something I trust to experience now rather we tend to use ldquocurerdquo in a future-
oriented manner of hoping-for-something-to-happen or (at-best) asking-for
maybe praying for cure to happen Yet it is not in the future that you and I
create anything and this is particularly relevant to healing We only create in
the NOW
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Finally even greater issues arise when we attempt to determine precisely what
we mean by the term ldquocurerdquo As one example are you cured when there is ldquoan
end to the disease processrdquo or could that be ldquoremissionrdquo
Does ldquocurerdquo mean a ldquoreturn to full functioningrdquo (ie as I was before the process
started) Is that even possible Consider the case of a disease process that has
already resulted in disfigurement or amputation What does ldquocurerdquo mean in those
situations
Does ldquocurerdquo mean ldquosymptoms are gonerdquo If so are we then cured when
medications relieve or mask the symptoms altogether Do you understand the
quagmire here
It is for all these reasons above that few people are ever truly ldquocuredrdquo of
anything even if we do allow for those who have experienced ldquomiracle curesrdquo
(which are certainly the exception not the norm) Yet when you and I consider
ldquomy situation nowrdquo we need to have the strength of certainty that improvement
is not only possible but immanent
So if not ldquocurerdquo then what You already know the answer And the answer is
ldquohealingrdquo In the end if ldquocurerdquo is anything it is a future-oriented
disempowering mechanical phenomenon at the physical level In contrast
ldquohealingrdquo is an ongoing process (in this moment) of whole-Self transformation
Consider when we truly and proactively ldquohealrdquo we are creating (now) from the
very depths of our core within We are intending-to-create with all the intensity
and power of commitment passion and agape that arises in creative
transformation It is this innate source of inner power to which we must first
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return ldquoas little childrenrdquo in order to initiate healing
We mask nothing when healing now rather we take an active and response-able
role in bringing peace joy and love directly into our daily lives and the lives of
those we touch NOW this moment and in as many moments as we allow
It is from this strong shared intentional healing foundation that we live with the
most power any human being can possibly experience in alignment with in I-
Thou relation-with in the selfless Love that is the very Source of all creation
This process of transformational healing envelops and extends beyond cure at any
level and unlike ldquocurerdquo it is not some static condition at which we arrive (by
the grace of some outside benevolent authority) Rather such transformational
healing is an ongoing process of BEING-a-certain-way in strength in power
in wisdom in loving relation-with (not only Self but Source God Higher Power)
Let this loving empowered healing be the deep transformation you intend ndash your
moment-to-moment empowered healing transformation from core within
ldquoPRAXISrdquo
We finally come to the term PRAXIS Clients often ask why I use ldquopraxisrdquo rather
than something more familiar like ldquopracticerdquo or ldquoexerciserdquo My answer is very
simple and straight-forward
First we can quickly dispense with the term ldquoexerciserdquo Do you really want to
ldquoexerciserdquo intentional healing each day ndash or would you rather just skip having to
exercise any more than you already know you need to do Enough said
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Now imagine I invite you to ldquoplease make sure and practice your intentional
healing each dayrdquo How do you feel then For me it brings up that I must not
be very good at it especially if I need to be practicing every day
Consider now how you feel when I invite you to ldquoskillfully applyrdquo the intentional
healing process in comfort Doesnt ldquoskillful applicationrdquo feel much more
empowering than ldquopracticingrdquo Since ldquopraxisrdquo means ldquoskillful applicationrdquo isnt it
much more inviting to approach your intentional healing sessions with skill
And you will as you become more comfortable applying the process each day
Other folks also ask if shared-intentional-healingtrade wouldnt be better considered
an ldquoexperimentrdquo much like Lynn McTaggarts The Intention Experiment (2007) I
can see how the notion of an ldquoexperimentrdquo carries with it some sense of intrigue
but ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately represent the experience that is shared-
intentional-healingtrade
First (as we learned in our discussion of ldquointentionalrdquo above) when we participate
in Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade we are as a matter-of-fact intending-to-create
healing Such activity cannot be an ldquoexperimentrdquo or we lose the certainty
required for healing change Rather we set out to generate an experience-of-
relating that is powered by being committed empassioned and selflessly loving
You can likely identify such a committed passionate selflessly loving experience
from some time in your life ndash whether in love among family through an
impassioned hobby in seeking some goal or perhaps spiritually As you already
know such an experience is not something we wish-for or hope-for or need to
wait and see what happens It is simply a loving relating-with experience we
already know how to have We just be it and do it
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Moreover (as I suggested above) there is palpable transformation that occurs
within each of us as we gain comfort participating in shared-intentional-healingtrade
This transformational experience happens through your participation and it will
happen for you ndash no need to experiment just simply participate
Moreover at the heart of it the notion of ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately reflect
the research to date on ldquointentionrdquo and ldquohealingrdquo As an example a 1997 review
of research on ldquoIntercessory Prayer for the Alleviation of Ill Healthrdquo by Roberts
Ahmed Hall amp Davison reports individual studies suggest a positive effect of
intercessory prayer But since they viewed other reports in which the results
were equivocal they conclude no ldquo further trials of this intervention should be
takenrdquo5
Regrettably they miss the point The fact that studies DO exist reporting a
positive correlation between intercessory prayer and the alleviation of ill health is
precisely the reason more studies should be undertaken Edison found hundreds
of approaches that were equivocal before discovering a singular lighting solution
Thank goodness he did not conclude any further trials were unnecessary before
arriving at that solution
When it comes to this uniquely intimate subject of healing Eric Leskowitz MD
(in a review of the book Healing Intention amp Energy Medicine (2002) by Wayne
Jonas MD) explains how such conflicting conclusions like Roberts etal come
about Dr Leskowitz notes when he is in discussions with his allopathic medical
colleagues regarding ldquo inexplicable phenomena like energy healing or
intercessory prayer a sort of allopathic fear reflex kicks inrdquo6 Conclusions
become tunnel-visioned and skewed against even the possibility of such
correlation existing anywhere at any time Hence no further trials
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You may however verify for yourself such positively-correlated research does
indeed already exist by reviewing the studies in Jonas book (above) In
addition Marilyn Schlitz PhD provides a brief outline of just some of those
ldquopositive correlationrdquo studies that highlight the ldquointerface of science spirituality
and medicinerdquo7
If you would like an even more in-depth review I refer you to Consciousness amp
Healing Integral Approaches to Mind-Body Medicine (2005) by Schlitz Amorok
and Micozzi as well as the more recent (2008) Holistic Nursing A Handbook for Practice
5th edition by Dossey amp Keegan
In sum although experimental research has certainly not provided the final
answers on the relation between intention and healing the research to date is
most certainly beyond the ldquoequivocalrdquo suggested by those reflexively reacting
from allopathic fear Those studies completed to date which do display a positive
correlation between intention and healing are already providing a strong practical
foundation of powerful techniques and approaches that go far beyond
ldquoexperimentingrdquo and straight to the heart of skillful-application in daily living
Shared-Intentional-Healingrdquotrade is just one such approach you may access today
and everyday simply by participating in your daily praxis
With the above foundation in mind we can now move on to
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PRAXIS GUIDELINES
Having considered in some depth the foundation on which this method rests we
may now turn to the guidelines describing ldquohow tordquo participate in your daily
Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis
Before you approach your first intentional session please read through the
description and suggestions below Remember these opportunities are for YOU
to BENEFIT YOU Again there is no right way nor wrong way for you to
participate You simply participate in your own best way Therefore as noted
previously the description below is solely meant as a guided outline to assist you
in jump-starting your participation ndash sharing with you some ideas that have
already worked well for others in our Community
For this to be beneficial for everyone please do your best to allot at least 5 to
15 minutes for each intentional session If you are already seasoned at
sitting in quiet you certainly may choose to go longer (eg 30) and you can
trust there are other CYSH members continuing in synchrony with you
To start out let your sessions be for shorter periods of time You will experience
a natural increase in length of participation without having to think about it or
plan for it This is not a race nor a test of endurance This is a nourishing of
Self and a cultivation of your best healing intentions Be gentle
In the beginning it can also be helpful if you imagine sending out your healing
intentions in a particular direction around the globe and returning to you from
the opposite direction This way as you imagine can assist you in creating a
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ldquoflowrdquo with regard to directing intentional healing to all others around the globe
As you become more adept you will very naturally be able to generate healing
images radiating from your whole being equally in all directions You will
become aware there is no particular ldquoupdownrdquo in space-time There is just
ldquoeverywhere hererdquo that is always at the center of the universe ndash as you are at all
times and as is each member
Finally please know you may also invite your friends and loved ones to share
with you in these sessions If they cannot participate with you ask them (at
minimum) to set their healing intention for you and send it like a gift to you each
day This can be helpful to them as well knowing they are actively supporting
you with their selfless loving healing
So let us begin with a session description I have broken it down into 8 separate
action steps below
1 First make time to just sit and be comfortable (nothing ldquoto dordquo now)
Loosen any tight clothing
2 Begin breathing slowly until you relax into a comfortable natural pace
This is a time for gentleness Simply allow experience to happen and
follow experience moment-to-moment as you proceed
3 Slowly scan your entire being from head to toes inside and out If you
notice any part of you in tension just allow it to relax naturally and
dissolve with each out-breath
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Note It may take you 2 or more breathing cycles to notice the muscles in a
particular area begin to relax There are times as well when you may just
need to continue on with your scan trusting that the area will release as you
proceed Again this is time for gentle following
4 Once relaxed (as much as may be possible for now) INVITE your Self to
allow and receive healing intention and healing love
Note This may not feel natural or normal within and like a child the
knee-jerk reaction may indeed be to rebel You are merely sending an
invitation nothing more As you repeat this intentional healing invitation
each day you will soon begin to notice that you are indeed looking forward
to this opportunity
5 You are now comfortable relaxed and intentional within It is time now
to image all the other CYSH Members with whom you are sharing this
time Know they too are seeking to generate healing for your challenges
just as you are for theirs Depending on your beliefs it is here that you
may also invite connect with your source of spiritual power (God
Source Higher Power Buddha) to participate with you
6 Spend the next minutes imagining a Circle of Intentional Healing
Energy flowing into you from all the others and out from you to all
others Allow it to be easy natural like the earthrsquos flow of water
circulating from sky to earth and back to sky simply relax into this flow
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Note It may help to imagine your healing intentions emanating from about
2 finger-widths behind and about 3 finger-widths below your navel This
site (known as the ldquolower dan tienrdquo or ldquoharardquo) is considered the physical
center of gravity around which you are in perfect balance
From this point you can imagine healing intention flowing up your trunk
through your neck and head and out the top of your head to the other
CYSH members
The healing intention returning to you can be experienced as coming into
you at the same center of gravity point from which you started
Important Do not attempt to localize your intentions to any one region
within (brain heart liver etc) the reason being that a given illness process
occurs across and between physiological systems (even though we may talk
as if it is isolated to one system) It is best to imagine your entire Self
within a cocoon or bubble of flowing healing intention ndash everywhere within
you at once You may experience color warmth safety Luxuriate in your
experience Enjoy the moment
During this intentional time it can also be helpful on a given inout cycle of
breath to silently express I send out Loving Healing On the next
inout cycle silently express I receive Loving Healing and so on
In addition if your mind wanders off task (amp it will) just gently return to
the flow of loving healing intention Remember this experience is all about
being gentle Enjoy the process
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Continue in this state for as long as you desire and is easy comfortable
and natural With practice your will naturally be at ease for longer
periods of time during each session
7 When complete express gratitude to your Self as well as to all others
sharing in this moment with you Sit in this experience of gratitude for a
few moments
8 Savor the nourishing peace you have generated
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8-STEP PRAXIS REVIEW
1 SIT in comfort
2 BREATHE slowly rhythmically
3 SCAN (head to toes) to relax further still
4 INVITE SELF to allow healing intention
5 RELATE-WITH all other CYSH members amp Spiritual Power
6 SENDRECEIVE intentional healing
ldquoI send out Loving Healingrdquo ldquoI receive Loving Healingrdquo
7 Sit in GRATITUDE
8 SAVOR the nourishing peace
I genuinely look forward to your daily participation and to sharing this powerful
healing process with you I would love to hear your experiences with your praxis
Please do feel free to email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom)
My mission is to Coach You Well
Sincerely amp Caringly
MALCOLM
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REFERENCES
1 Chopra Deepak (1994) The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success ndash A Practical Guide to
the Fulfillment of Your Dreams p76
2 Chopra Deepak (1999) A Deepak Chopra Companion Illuminations on Health and
Human Consciousness p94
3 Dyer httpwwwyoutubecomwatchv=DC-FPorUW7gampfeature=related
4 Buber Martin (1971) I And Thou
5 Intercessory prayer httpwwwcochraneorgreviewsenab000368html
6 Leskowitz httpwholistichealingresearchcom42books12
7 Schlitz httpxnetkporgpermanentejournalsum05evidencepdf
copy2009byMFDayton
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ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Malcolm Dayton LPC Cht is a Licensed Counselor with more than two decades coaching individuals and families facing chronic illness He is also certified in MindBody Medicine and Hypnotherapy
Malcolms Coaching Self Healing program is unique in that he calls on his own lifelong journey with chronic illness (multiple sclerosis asthma immune deficiency) to assist you in accessing your unique healing solutions Very simply Malcolm walks his coaching
His coaching program is truly integral-- that is healing solutions are practical in focus and applied comprehensively incorporating all dimensions of your experience from symptoms to wellness from relations within self to social relations from the physical to spiritual--a truly ecological approach to Self Healing You learn to be FULLIVINGtrade ndash to thrive beyond chronic illness
Malcolms mission is to Coach You WELL
CONTACTMalcolm Dayton LPC CHt
email mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom
phone 970-689-4247
Yes Malcolm Im ready to discover
the benefits of Self Healing Coaching NOW
Sign me up now for myCOMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION
Be Well And THRIVE Beyond Chronic Illness Now
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LEGAL
THIS PUBLICATION IS PROTECTED UNDER THE US COPYRIGHT ACT OF 1976
AND ALL OTHER APPLICABLE INTERNATIONAL FEDERAL STATE AND LOCAL
LAWS
and all rights are reserved including resale rights you are not allowed to give or sell this
Guide to anyone else If you received this publication from anyone other than
CoachingYourSelfHealing youve received a pirated copy Please contact us via e-mail
at mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom and notify us of the situation
Please note that much of this publication is based on clinical and personal experiences
and anecdotal evidence Although the author has made every reasonable attempt to
achieve complete accuracy of the content in this Guide he assumes no responsibility for
errors or omissions
Also you should use this information as you see fit and at your own risk Your particular
situation may not be exactly suited to the examples illustrated here in fact its likely that
they wont be the same and you should adjust your use of the information and
recommendations accordingly
Any trademarks service marks product names or named features are assumed to be the
property of their respective owners and are used only for reference
Finally nothing in this Guide is intended to replace common sense legal medical or other
professional advice and is meant to inform and entertain the reader So have fun and
learn with CoachingYourSelfHealing information
Copyright copy 2009 by MalcolmDayton LPC CHt All rights reserved worldwide
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TABLE OF CONTENTS
YOUR COMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION
INTRODUCTION
ANALYSIS
ldquoYOURrdquo
ldquoDAILYrdquo
ldquoSHAREDrdquo
ldquoINTENTIONALrdquo
ldquoHEALINGrdquo (beyond ldquobeing curedrdquo)
ldquoPRAXISrdquo
PRAXIS GUIDELINES
8-STEP PRAXIS REVIEW
REFERENCES
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
CONTACT INFORMATION
4
5
7
7
9
11
11
16
22
26
31
32
33
33
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YOUR COMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION
The following report provides a detailed introduction to the foundation of effective
principles and powerful tools that the author Malcolm Dayton LPC Cht has
learned developed and utilized in over 15 years of clinical work with individuals
facing chronic illness He has further honed his transformational approach by
discovering what is effective in enhancing his own daily living while addressing
chronic illness (asthma immune deficiency multiple sclerosis)
Although Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade (as described in this report) is a uniquely
powerful activity to engage in your daily wellness arsenal you can maximize
your benefits and progress more rapidly by learning to systematically apply
the broad range of Self Healing tools techniques and opportunities only available
through Coaching Your Self Healing
If you would like to maximize your results more quickly you may participate
multiple times each month in 11 coaching sessions Sessions are tailored to
your specific health and wellness situation to your specific goals and to your
abilities To experience how Your Self Healing Coaching will work for you you
may access your FREE Coaching Session (45 minutes in length) by clicking below
Yes Malcolm Im ready to discover
the benefits of Self Healing Coaching NOW
Sign me up now for myCOMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION
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INTRODUCTION
Welcome to Coaching Your Self Healing (CYSH) During your time with CYSH
you will have many opportunities to learn new and powerful self healing
tools which (when applied as you go through your daily living) will lead you
directly to experience more happiness health well-being and ease what I
call FULLIVINGtrade ndash that state of Being marked by THRIVING beyond chronic
illness
How can I make such a bold statement Because these are the same tools Ive
learned to apply over 4 decades to manage asthma immune disorder and
multiple sclerosis Moreover these are the same skills Ive taught hundreds of
others with chronic illness over the recent 15 years of my clinical practice and by
applying these abilities daily these folks too have learned to improve their daily
living beyond chronic illness to be FULLIVINGtrade
Please take time to read through this report more than once It is a rather quick
read yet so much of this information forms the foundation to your ongoing Self
Healing as much as it also lays out the process for performing your shared-
intentional-healingtrade praxis
Do take the time to apply these principles to your own daily encounter with
chronic illness Skillfully applying the process described in this report (together
with the tools provided in the article series Empower Your Self to Heal Chronic
Illness) you will at once powerfully launch and accelerate your personal
journey into Self Healing
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Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis
One of the more powerful (and empowering) practices CYSH offers you is your
daily Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis (SIHP) This compelling activity
provides various times throughout each day when you can stop the noise in your
life and focus your attention (and intention) on FULLIVINGtrade for your Self as
well as for all the members of your CYSH community At any of the scheduled
times you may take a break from the busyness of your day amp take 5 to 15
minutes to send (amp receive) shared healing intentions in concert with all the
other CYSH members The details of ldquohow tordquo participate in this shared activity
are provided later in this report
Before jumping into the mechanics however we will first take a few moments to
construct the foundation for your daily Shared-Intentional-Healingrdquotrade Praxis
Doing so will assist you in better understanding and skillfully applying this
empowering Self Healing approach
You may keep up-to-date on new or added information to this report by referring to
the tri-monthly Your Self Healing Journey News (you receive as part of your
CYSH membership) as well as by returning to the Coaching Your Self Healing blog
(httpwwwCoachingSelfHealingcomblog)
Note In this report I use the word ldquoselfrdquo in a capitalized form as ldquoSelfrdquo You may
find a detailed account on this use of ldquoSelfrdquo in the article Empower Your Self to Heal
Chronic Illness Part 1 Who is the self in Self Healing
For our purposes here Self is that deep core of you the essential being you were
at birth before defining yourself by the cultural identifiers thrust onto you growing-
up and beyond those you have used to create your place in the world
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ANALYSIS
of
Your Daily Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis
ldquoYOURrdquo
First this is truly YOUR activity You may do this at whatever times you choose
and on whatever days feel right for you You may choose to participate once per
day or more frequently on certain days This is YOUR Self Healing program
You access the benefits by proactively participating in SIHP FULLIVINGtrade
benefits accrue as you routinely apply and participate in this approach As you
feel more comfortable and natural during your sessions you may notice you are
more relaxed and calm as you carry out the remainder of your day Symptoms
may seem less troubling less intense and easier to manage You can notice an
improvement in your general mood and more felt-moments of happiness The
fact that you know you are participating not only for your own benefit but the
benefit of all other CYSH members will bring a smile to your face and a
meaningful sense of Self worth for giving so genuinely from your heart
You may also discover applying SIHP can help with the more difficult times you
face Imagine you have been participating in shared-intentional-healingtrade
sessions at about 1 session per day Then because of a virus or change in
medications you enter a more difficult period of heightened symptoms perhaps
leading to a drop-off in your participation Two things to keep in mind here
1 You may email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom) to request other CYSH
members keep YOU in our special intentions during the times we are
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participating in SIHP each day
You do not need to provide identifying information merely some information
about your age gender and what you may be going through at this time This
will assist other members to generate an image of who your are as we focus
our healing intentions for you
2 During these more challenging times you may discover you can access
even more energy and peace by actually increasing the number of times
each day you participate in sessions Please do test this out for yourself
over time
This is not only your program but the process itself is yours as well that is YOU
define what intentional healing is for you according to your history and
experiences your desires and goals No person outside of you can clarify the
means by which you define and measure healing progress nor what results or
goals are more or less important to you as you apply the skills you learn in the
Coaching Your Self Healing program
The steps outlined later in this report are merely guidelines to assist you in
participating in your daily Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis They serve as
guides suggestions to help you get started You will find your own unique way to
participate ndash the way that simply works best for you
So please do explore the process play with it and have fun Whenever you do
come across some variation that is particularly beneficial please send it along to
me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom) so I may pass it along to benefit other
members in our CYSH community
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ldquoDAILYrdquo
You may choose among eight times each day to participate in this practice
900 AM amp PM EST 1200 AM amp PM EST 300 AM amp PM EST and 600 AM amp
PM EST The eight times are provided in order for CYSH members from around
the globe to participate at a convenient time in your time zone as well as
convenient to your schedule around the clock each day Clearly you may
participate at any of the session times regardless of your location
If for some reason you cannot participate during any of these times please do
email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom) so I may be informed of any
scheduling problems that I am not currently taking into consideration My goal
here is to develop a daily schedule that works for everyone around the globe (and
around the clock each day) To start out I would encourage you to set a
reminder alarm a few minutes before your scheduled time ndash at least until you
have formed a comfortable habit of participating in the sessions
I will be present and participate during at least two sessions everyday and I will
rotate through session times each day That way at least every four days you
and I will be attending together at the same time Please understand however
there is never any expectation for you to participate at any particular time(s) nor
on any given day When you participate depends solely on your inner comfort
and your positive intention when you do take part
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Providing so many times is meant solely as a way to coordinate our attention and
energies in synchrony with other community members There is no need to be
concerned about the ldquorightrdquo time to participate As already noted your energies
are better-focused on being-present your comfort and on positive intention
There simply is no ldquorightrdquo time just the time that is right for you
Another advantage of having eight scheduled times each day is to provide
flexibility for you to adjust your participation in response to changes in your
symptom experiences As noted earlier when going through more difficult
symptomatic periods that are disrupting to your routine participating in
additional praxis times (rather than focusing on symptoms) may assist you with
limiting intensity and duration of the exacerbation ndash particularly by generating
more relaxation and rest
Still another helpful way you may consider your praxis ldquotimerdquo has been clarified
by Einstein physicists and spiritual leaders through history What they have
shown us is that ldquotimerdquo is a construct (a ldquoboxrdquo) and is not really ldquoout thererdquo at
all Indeed if ldquotimerdquo exists it can only be NOW
Such a perspective can be extremely nourishing when considering what Deepak
Chopra MD and Wayne Dyer PhD call the ldquogaprdquo The gap is that experience in
which you are ldquocenteredrdquo in the ldquosilent space between thoughtsrdquo When in the
gap you are at that ldquolevel of Being which is your essential staterdquo1 This
experience of being-in-the-gap is timeless ndash rdquothe womb of creationrdquo2 It is within
this state of experience that healing occurs
As you perform your praxis each day you will naturally and directly begin to
experience the timeless-being of the gap firsthand Once you recognize this
experience you will realize that whatever time of day you actually participate in
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SIHP you are doing it in the same NOW as all other CYSH members ndash even
though your session ldquoclock timesrdquo differ throughout the day
ldquoSHAREDrdquo
Remember the key here is that you are surrounding your Self with the one
heartbeat of all the other community members Your attention your energy
and your intentions are SHARED by all ndash just as their energies and intentions are
shared with and for you It is this attitude of sharing-with a wholehearted
giving-to that is key to this approach It is very simple As you give from
your heart-of-caring so you will receive
Be comforted in knowing that by simply participating once a day (after even a
few short days) you will begin to feel more comfortable more at ease more at
peace now than you may have experienced in years AND you know you are
contributing to the FULLIVINGtrade of others that is contributing beyond well-
being into the very heart of healing Trust me when I say your peace and your
giving heart provide a strong (and necessary) foundation on which to build
healing for each of us and of all of us together
ldquoINTENTIONALrdquo
So what does it mean to be INTENTIONAL One of the most helpful reviews of
ldquointentionrdquo is provided by Wayne Dyer PhD3 In Dyers The Power of Intention
(2005) he describes how we may ldquowishrdquo for something to occur in our lives but
such wishing is only a beginning
We may also choose to take the next step beyond wishing to ldquodesirerdquo Desire
results in taking action on the wish and is proactively distinct from wishing It is
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with desire that we now straight-forwardly make the ldquoaskrdquo (as in ldquoask and you
shall receiverdquo)
Still again we can step-up the intensity of our activity even more (beyond
wishing and asking) that is we may frame our desire in terms of what we
actually ldquointend to createrdquo Stop here for a moment close your eyes and feel
the power in these words I INTEND TO CREATE Period And again
I INTEND TO CREATE
We are very matter-of-fact about bringing the thing wished for desired
requested into experience No doubt No fear Creating healing now is simply a
given that occurs by way of you actively participating Period
Such intention-to-create by definition requires both commitment and passion
With commitment we are beyond ldquotryingrdquo to make the thing happen and
instead move into what I call devotion-to-creating (from the original French
devovere ldquodedicated by a vowrdquo) With such devotion we experience a much
deeper more profound state of being an awareness beyond ego
Devotion-to-creating allows you to act beyond the ldquooughtsrdquo and ldquoshouldsrdquo of
others beyond your own doubts and fears beyond obligation and guilt and
directly to the heart of being inspired (ldquodrawing in of airrdquo ldquoinspiritrdquo) that is you
are drawn into relation-with the powerful and empowering Source that creates
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It is by being inspired that you meet the paradox at the heart of ldquointendingrdquo As
you proactively intend-to-create you naturally come to experience being
committed devoted and inspired however you actually create only inasmuch as
you allow your Self to follow the flow of your inspiration naturally ndash that is as
you open your Self to receive Therefore as you intend to heal you must
also open to receive healing
As such it is important you recognize healing happens as you ldquoget out of your
own wayrdquo beyond intellect desire doubt and ego How do we do that How do
we get out of our own way beyond ego Very simply you do that by allowing
your Self to trust your healing
Please take a moment here to recall a time when you were injured in some way
(maybe a cut or broken bone) Beyond receiving necessary medical assistance
what did you do to mend to heal Once attended to medically its likely that you
never gave the actual processes of ldquohealingrdquo much thought ndash dying cells cleared
away new cells forming and eventually performing as if they had been there all
along as if nothing ever happened Healing just occurred your part was to trust
the process take good care of yourself and allow it Whether conscious or not
you simply trusted yourself to heal
It is that same trust you must have as you now commit-to-create intentional
healing Your whole Self system ldquoknowsrdquo how and what needs healing and in
what specific sequence of steps healing must occur Self does not need the
agreement of intellect or common sense to proceed naturally with healing Self
has been carrying out that process every nano-second of every day of your life ndash
simultaneously coordinating trillions of biochemical and energetic activities in
every cell of your entire being Heart beats lungs breath intestines digest and
your job is simply to get out of your own way and trust your Self to heal
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As you do alongside this intense Self-trust and commitment-to-create (our vow)
passion takes over and leads the way beyond common sense beyond
doubting intellect beyond beliefs and even beyond perceptions Such intense
passion emanating from your heart is very simply ldquoagaperdquo (selfless Love) In
this state you no longer experience others as separate bounded subject-object
(I-It) rather you share together in a living boundless oneness-of-relating
honoring the encounter by giving your present and your presence to the
sacredness of ldquoI-Thourdquo4
Map of HEALING INTENTION
I WISH
I DESIRE (ASK)
I INTEND-TO-CREATE
INCLUDES I COMMIT-TO-CREATE (I Vow = Devotion-to-creating)
I AM PASSIONATE
(I am Inspired)
PARADOX OF INTENDING (I Allow I Receive I Trust My Self to Heal)
I-THOU (Agape)
Figure copy2009 by MFDayton
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It is this deep experience of heartfelt passion and selfless Love you are aiming to
access directly (and share) when you intend from the heart when you are
performing your shared-intentional-healingtrade praxis
So once again stop for a moment now to imagine Imagine the tremendous
healing power at your disposal when you step into your shared session each day
with the intention-to-create healing It means you are committing to heal
vowing to heal trusting your Self to heal by way of your impassioned
heart You are giving your presence to merge as one-heartbeat in
synchrony and selfless love with all other CYSH members in this moment
now Therein lies the true power of your healing intention
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ldquoHEALINGrdquo (beyond ldquobeing curedrdquo)
Clearly what we intend to create during each praxis is HEALING your healing
healing for other members my healing and our healing together as one Yet do
you really know what you mean when you say ldquoI intend to healrdquo
Whenever we take time to reflect on the notion of ldquohealingrdquo typically one of the
first things that bubbles up into awareness is some hope of being ldquocuredrdquo Given
the difficulties and challenges we can face in just making it through even the
most simple of daily activities ldquocurerdquo can be so very inviting Indeed given the
opportunity who of us wouldnt want to be cured of a chronic illness And cured
NOW
Yet by seeking to ldquobe curedrdquo we can become entrenched in even more intense
challenges and symptom exacerbation How could that be What could
possibly be wrong with hoping for a cure
There is nothing wrong with hoping dreaming goal setting Indeed these
activities can provide momentum power purpose and direction to an otherwise
difficult day Yet the moment we turn our attention to ldquobeing curedrdquo our focus
immediately comes to rest on that which we desire to be ldquocured ofrdquo to ldquoget away
fromrdquo and it is here we become derailed Its like the age-old challenge to ldquonot
think of a blue elephantrdquo We must first conceive such a beast before we cannot
think about it
So too with ldquocurerdquo ndash We must first converge our attention and energies even
more intensely on the illness and the symptoms we wish to cease Clearly this
activity takes us in the opposite direction from the relief and health we are
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seeking In fact it is the same process described by Cheri Huber in one of her
more remarkable books entitled That Which You Are Seeking Is Causing You To
Seek (1990) Take a moment now to think about her title in relation to ldquoThe cure
I am seeking is rdquo In short to focus on cure heightens our experience of
dis-ease
To clarify even further when we focus on such moving-away-from-activities we
have no clear vision of what it is we are moving toward Without such clarity our
odds of failing escalate exponentially Success happens only as we also move
toward clearly-defined desires and goals A simple yet powerful example is this
years 40th anniversary of the Apollo 11 moon landing Was that ldquogiant steprdquo
successful because the leaders at NASA focused energy solely on how to create
escape velocity to ldquoget away fromrdquo earth ndash or also on how to get onto the moon
Another helpful example is wanting ldquoout ofrdquo a job Im sure you know of someone
(perhaps yourself) intent on getting away from the daily grind of hisher job Yet
when she did successfully leave that employment inevitably and much too soon
the same situation landslides into the daily grind of the next job Repeating old
patterns of struggle is a very clear sign of actions based on moving-away-
from goals This is a key principle to apply to all aspects of your daily living
The reason this occurs with the get-me-outta-here script is that whatever change
may happen generally does so from ldquowithoutrdquo At best we change scenery Its
the old grass-is-greener scenario ndash which is really no change at all
The inherent problem here can be even more perilous as we see when we take a
closer look at the wording ldquobeing curedrdquo We tend to redirect our attention from
within (our source of creative power) to some force outside that causes the cure
for us (whether that be by way of a physician a healer natural substances
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medications treatments or God)
On some level we tell ourselves if I could figure out what was happening to get
into this situation (ie chronic illness) I would be able to figure out how to get
out of it but (and heres the rub) since I cant I begin to believe less and less in
my innate healing power and more and more that such power must lie outside of
me ndash with an outside force greater than me (whether medical natural or
spiritual)
Please be clear on this point This is not to underplay the importance of qualified
medical professionals to your progress The same is true of the importance and
value of your spirituality and relation-with God Source Higher Power The point
to take away here is that you can only access the benefits of such healing
relations when YOU are first centered and strong in your own being ndash when you
approach your Self as a sacred Thou
Therefore in the situation where you reflexively turn over your power to heal (to
an outside agent) understand the ensuing damage you risk to your sense of Self
Not only are you diminishing belief in your inherent strength and healing power
you are also at risk of allowing others to determine what is best for your well-
being (perhaps even against your deeper intuitive knowing) all of which only
serves to further undermine Self-esteem and the tremendous power that comes
from believing in your Self
Even our religious upbringing can paradoxically weaken our beliefs regarding the
possibility of cure We learn at a deep level that ldquocurerdquo lies only in the realm of
the miraculous Such an orientation can weaken belief in the possibility of ldquome
being cured nowrdquo In fact when being completely honest many of us feel the
odds of ldquome being cured nowrdquo are as slim or slimmer than winning a million dollar
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lottery And when it does not happen were faced with the more daunting issue
of how I must somehow be ldquoflawedrdquo Clearly such underlying attitudes provide
no foundation on which to construct change much less the dramatic change
required with the desire to ldquobe curedrdquo [Here I recommend another Huber book
There Is Nothing Wrong with You Going Beyond Self-Hate (2001)]
In the end when focused on ldquobeing curedrdquo you may not only become separate
from your innate healing power within but you risk the ultimate medical
mistreatment becoming an object to be worked-on mechanically From here it
can be a rapid slide into the role of ldquovictimrdquo whereby you relinquish your
responsibility for choosing altogether (ie intending-to-create) how it is you truly
desire to be In short you risk losing the creative power of intention required to
give birth to healing
By the mid eighties I had been on daily prednisone for over a decade to control
severe bouts of status asthmaticus and recurrent pneumonia Because the
deleterious side-effects of prednisone included adrenal insufficiency (an impaired
stress response) I knew in my heart-of-hearts one key to my well-being lay in
recovering my atrophied stress axis by discontinuing daily prednisone For years
I pleaded with my pulmonary specialist to assist me in tapering off and relearning
how to live prednisone-free Together we did make a few unsuccessful attempts
only to recycle back into another respiratory infection and still higher doses of
prednisone By this time his posture was that I needed to remain on daily
prednisone ldquofor the rest of my liferdquo My posture was to fire him
Fortunately and in short-order I began working with an internist who over the
next two years laid out a plan to become prednisone-free ndash which we did
together successfully Two significant points must be clearly recognized here
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1 You must believe in your innate healing power and if you do not
currently this then becomes your launch pad for your healing journey ndash
relearning to empower your Self to heal
2 You are not in this alone You require the good works of others in
alignment with you to successfully heal As such you need to be very
selective in picking those others with whom you relate to enhance your
medical well-being
If you are feeling your medical support is sapping your power and authority
they probably are but you dont throw the baby out with the bath This is
not about releasing physicians this is about being in a healing
relationship-with your medical professional(s) of choice
Additional cultural biases arise with a focus on ldquocurerdquo Any true change with
regard to chronic illness implies a change ldquofor the betterrdquo That requires us to
believe with certainty that such change can and will bring improvement After
more than fifteen years working with individuals with chronic illness (including
my Self) it is the rare individual Ive encountered who truly believes (from the
core) ldquoI will be curedrdquo We wish for cure certainly but believing with certainty ldquoI
will be curedrdquo rarely
An origin of not believing in ldquobeing curedrdquo lies in the way we traditionally use the
term One problem in particular is that ldquocurerdquo is not a ldquonowrdquo concept -- that is
something I trust to experience now rather we tend to use ldquocurerdquo in a future-
oriented manner of hoping-for-something-to-happen or (at-best) asking-for
maybe praying for cure to happen Yet it is not in the future that you and I
create anything and this is particularly relevant to healing We only create in
the NOW
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Finally even greater issues arise when we attempt to determine precisely what
we mean by the term ldquocurerdquo As one example are you cured when there is ldquoan
end to the disease processrdquo or could that be ldquoremissionrdquo
Does ldquocurerdquo mean a ldquoreturn to full functioningrdquo (ie as I was before the process
started) Is that even possible Consider the case of a disease process that has
already resulted in disfigurement or amputation What does ldquocurerdquo mean in those
situations
Does ldquocurerdquo mean ldquosymptoms are gonerdquo If so are we then cured when
medications relieve or mask the symptoms altogether Do you understand the
quagmire here
It is for all these reasons above that few people are ever truly ldquocuredrdquo of
anything even if we do allow for those who have experienced ldquomiracle curesrdquo
(which are certainly the exception not the norm) Yet when you and I consider
ldquomy situation nowrdquo we need to have the strength of certainty that improvement
is not only possible but immanent
So if not ldquocurerdquo then what You already know the answer And the answer is
ldquohealingrdquo In the end if ldquocurerdquo is anything it is a future-oriented
disempowering mechanical phenomenon at the physical level In contrast
ldquohealingrdquo is an ongoing process (in this moment) of whole-Self transformation
Consider when we truly and proactively ldquohealrdquo we are creating (now) from the
very depths of our core within We are intending-to-create with all the intensity
and power of commitment passion and agape that arises in creative
transformation It is this innate source of inner power to which we must first
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return ldquoas little childrenrdquo in order to initiate healing
We mask nothing when healing now rather we take an active and response-able
role in bringing peace joy and love directly into our daily lives and the lives of
those we touch NOW this moment and in as many moments as we allow
It is from this strong shared intentional healing foundation that we live with the
most power any human being can possibly experience in alignment with in I-
Thou relation-with in the selfless Love that is the very Source of all creation
This process of transformational healing envelops and extends beyond cure at any
level and unlike ldquocurerdquo it is not some static condition at which we arrive (by
the grace of some outside benevolent authority) Rather such transformational
healing is an ongoing process of BEING-a-certain-way in strength in power
in wisdom in loving relation-with (not only Self but Source God Higher Power)
Let this loving empowered healing be the deep transformation you intend ndash your
moment-to-moment empowered healing transformation from core within
ldquoPRAXISrdquo
We finally come to the term PRAXIS Clients often ask why I use ldquopraxisrdquo rather
than something more familiar like ldquopracticerdquo or ldquoexerciserdquo My answer is very
simple and straight-forward
First we can quickly dispense with the term ldquoexerciserdquo Do you really want to
ldquoexerciserdquo intentional healing each day ndash or would you rather just skip having to
exercise any more than you already know you need to do Enough said
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Now imagine I invite you to ldquoplease make sure and practice your intentional
healing each dayrdquo How do you feel then For me it brings up that I must not
be very good at it especially if I need to be practicing every day
Consider now how you feel when I invite you to ldquoskillfully applyrdquo the intentional
healing process in comfort Doesnt ldquoskillful applicationrdquo feel much more
empowering than ldquopracticingrdquo Since ldquopraxisrdquo means ldquoskillful applicationrdquo isnt it
much more inviting to approach your intentional healing sessions with skill
And you will as you become more comfortable applying the process each day
Other folks also ask if shared-intentional-healingtrade wouldnt be better considered
an ldquoexperimentrdquo much like Lynn McTaggarts The Intention Experiment (2007) I
can see how the notion of an ldquoexperimentrdquo carries with it some sense of intrigue
but ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately represent the experience that is shared-
intentional-healingtrade
First (as we learned in our discussion of ldquointentionalrdquo above) when we participate
in Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade we are as a matter-of-fact intending-to-create
healing Such activity cannot be an ldquoexperimentrdquo or we lose the certainty
required for healing change Rather we set out to generate an experience-of-
relating that is powered by being committed empassioned and selflessly loving
You can likely identify such a committed passionate selflessly loving experience
from some time in your life ndash whether in love among family through an
impassioned hobby in seeking some goal or perhaps spiritually As you already
know such an experience is not something we wish-for or hope-for or need to
wait and see what happens It is simply a loving relating-with experience we
already know how to have We just be it and do it
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Moreover (as I suggested above) there is palpable transformation that occurs
within each of us as we gain comfort participating in shared-intentional-healingtrade
This transformational experience happens through your participation and it will
happen for you ndash no need to experiment just simply participate
Moreover at the heart of it the notion of ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately reflect
the research to date on ldquointentionrdquo and ldquohealingrdquo As an example a 1997 review
of research on ldquoIntercessory Prayer for the Alleviation of Ill Healthrdquo by Roberts
Ahmed Hall amp Davison reports individual studies suggest a positive effect of
intercessory prayer But since they viewed other reports in which the results
were equivocal they conclude no ldquo further trials of this intervention should be
takenrdquo5
Regrettably they miss the point The fact that studies DO exist reporting a
positive correlation between intercessory prayer and the alleviation of ill health is
precisely the reason more studies should be undertaken Edison found hundreds
of approaches that were equivocal before discovering a singular lighting solution
Thank goodness he did not conclude any further trials were unnecessary before
arriving at that solution
When it comes to this uniquely intimate subject of healing Eric Leskowitz MD
(in a review of the book Healing Intention amp Energy Medicine (2002) by Wayne
Jonas MD) explains how such conflicting conclusions like Roberts etal come
about Dr Leskowitz notes when he is in discussions with his allopathic medical
colleagues regarding ldquo inexplicable phenomena like energy healing or
intercessory prayer a sort of allopathic fear reflex kicks inrdquo6 Conclusions
become tunnel-visioned and skewed against even the possibility of such
correlation existing anywhere at any time Hence no further trials
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You may however verify for yourself such positively-correlated research does
indeed already exist by reviewing the studies in Jonas book (above) In
addition Marilyn Schlitz PhD provides a brief outline of just some of those
ldquopositive correlationrdquo studies that highlight the ldquointerface of science spirituality
and medicinerdquo7
If you would like an even more in-depth review I refer you to Consciousness amp
Healing Integral Approaches to Mind-Body Medicine (2005) by Schlitz Amorok
and Micozzi as well as the more recent (2008) Holistic Nursing A Handbook for Practice
5th edition by Dossey amp Keegan
In sum although experimental research has certainly not provided the final
answers on the relation between intention and healing the research to date is
most certainly beyond the ldquoequivocalrdquo suggested by those reflexively reacting
from allopathic fear Those studies completed to date which do display a positive
correlation between intention and healing are already providing a strong practical
foundation of powerful techniques and approaches that go far beyond
ldquoexperimentingrdquo and straight to the heart of skillful-application in daily living
Shared-Intentional-Healingrdquotrade is just one such approach you may access today
and everyday simply by participating in your daily praxis
With the above foundation in mind we can now move on to
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PRAXIS GUIDELINES
Having considered in some depth the foundation on which this method rests we
may now turn to the guidelines describing ldquohow tordquo participate in your daily
Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis
Before you approach your first intentional session please read through the
description and suggestions below Remember these opportunities are for YOU
to BENEFIT YOU Again there is no right way nor wrong way for you to
participate You simply participate in your own best way Therefore as noted
previously the description below is solely meant as a guided outline to assist you
in jump-starting your participation ndash sharing with you some ideas that have
already worked well for others in our Community
For this to be beneficial for everyone please do your best to allot at least 5 to
15 minutes for each intentional session If you are already seasoned at
sitting in quiet you certainly may choose to go longer (eg 30) and you can
trust there are other CYSH members continuing in synchrony with you
To start out let your sessions be for shorter periods of time You will experience
a natural increase in length of participation without having to think about it or
plan for it This is not a race nor a test of endurance This is a nourishing of
Self and a cultivation of your best healing intentions Be gentle
In the beginning it can also be helpful if you imagine sending out your healing
intentions in a particular direction around the globe and returning to you from
the opposite direction This way as you imagine can assist you in creating a
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ldquoflowrdquo with regard to directing intentional healing to all others around the globe
As you become more adept you will very naturally be able to generate healing
images radiating from your whole being equally in all directions You will
become aware there is no particular ldquoupdownrdquo in space-time There is just
ldquoeverywhere hererdquo that is always at the center of the universe ndash as you are at all
times and as is each member
Finally please know you may also invite your friends and loved ones to share
with you in these sessions If they cannot participate with you ask them (at
minimum) to set their healing intention for you and send it like a gift to you each
day This can be helpful to them as well knowing they are actively supporting
you with their selfless loving healing
So let us begin with a session description I have broken it down into 8 separate
action steps below
1 First make time to just sit and be comfortable (nothing ldquoto dordquo now)
Loosen any tight clothing
2 Begin breathing slowly until you relax into a comfortable natural pace
This is a time for gentleness Simply allow experience to happen and
follow experience moment-to-moment as you proceed
3 Slowly scan your entire being from head to toes inside and out If you
notice any part of you in tension just allow it to relax naturally and
dissolve with each out-breath
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Note It may take you 2 or more breathing cycles to notice the muscles in a
particular area begin to relax There are times as well when you may just
need to continue on with your scan trusting that the area will release as you
proceed Again this is time for gentle following
4 Once relaxed (as much as may be possible for now) INVITE your Self to
allow and receive healing intention and healing love
Note This may not feel natural or normal within and like a child the
knee-jerk reaction may indeed be to rebel You are merely sending an
invitation nothing more As you repeat this intentional healing invitation
each day you will soon begin to notice that you are indeed looking forward
to this opportunity
5 You are now comfortable relaxed and intentional within It is time now
to image all the other CYSH Members with whom you are sharing this
time Know they too are seeking to generate healing for your challenges
just as you are for theirs Depending on your beliefs it is here that you
may also invite connect with your source of spiritual power (God
Source Higher Power Buddha) to participate with you
6 Spend the next minutes imagining a Circle of Intentional Healing
Energy flowing into you from all the others and out from you to all
others Allow it to be easy natural like the earthrsquos flow of water
circulating from sky to earth and back to sky simply relax into this flow
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Note It may help to imagine your healing intentions emanating from about
2 finger-widths behind and about 3 finger-widths below your navel This
site (known as the ldquolower dan tienrdquo or ldquoharardquo) is considered the physical
center of gravity around which you are in perfect balance
From this point you can imagine healing intention flowing up your trunk
through your neck and head and out the top of your head to the other
CYSH members
The healing intention returning to you can be experienced as coming into
you at the same center of gravity point from which you started
Important Do not attempt to localize your intentions to any one region
within (brain heart liver etc) the reason being that a given illness process
occurs across and between physiological systems (even though we may talk
as if it is isolated to one system) It is best to imagine your entire Self
within a cocoon or bubble of flowing healing intention ndash everywhere within
you at once You may experience color warmth safety Luxuriate in your
experience Enjoy the moment
During this intentional time it can also be helpful on a given inout cycle of
breath to silently express I send out Loving Healing On the next
inout cycle silently express I receive Loving Healing and so on
In addition if your mind wanders off task (amp it will) just gently return to
the flow of loving healing intention Remember this experience is all about
being gentle Enjoy the process
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Continue in this state for as long as you desire and is easy comfortable
and natural With practice your will naturally be at ease for longer
periods of time during each session
7 When complete express gratitude to your Self as well as to all others
sharing in this moment with you Sit in this experience of gratitude for a
few moments
8 Savor the nourishing peace you have generated
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8-STEP PRAXIS REVIEW
1 SIT in comfort
2 BREATHE slowly rhythmically
3 SCAN (head to toes) to relax further still
4 INVITE SELF to allow healing intention
5 RELATE-WITH all other CYSH members amp Spiritual Power
6 SENDRECEIVE intentional healing
ldquoI send out Loving Healingrdquo ldquoI receive Loving Healingrdquo
7 Sit in GRATITUDE
8 SAVOR the nourishing peace
I genuinely look forward to your daily participation and to sharing this powerful
healing process with you I would love to hear your experiences with your praxis
Please do feel free to email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom)
My mission is to Coach You Well
Sincerely amp Caringly
MALCOLM
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REFERENCES
1 Chopra Deepak (1994) The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success ndash A Practical Guide to
the Fulfillment of Your Dreams p76
2 Chopra Deepak (1999) A Deepak Chopra Companion Illuminations on Health and
Human Consciousness p94
3 Dyer httpwwwyoutubecomwatchv=DC-FPorUW7gampfeature=related
4 Buber Martin (1971) I And Thou
5 Intercessory prayer httpwwwcochraneorgreviewsenab000368html
6 Leskowitz httpwholistichealingresearchcom42books12
7 Schlitz httpxnetkporgpermanentejournalsum05evidencepdf
copy2009byMFDayton
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ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Malcolm Dayton LPC Cht is a Licensed Counselor with more than two decades coaching individuals and families facing chronic illness He is also certified in MindBody Medicine and Hypnotherapy
Malcolms Coaching Self Healing program is unique in that he calls on his own lifelong journey with chronic illness (multiple sclerosis asthma immune deficiency) to assist you in accessing your unique healing solutions Very simply Malcolm walks his coaching
His coaching program is truly integral-- that is healing solutions are practical in focus and applied comprehensively incorporating all dimensions of your experience from symptoms to wellness from relations within self to social relations from the physical to spiritual--a truly ecological approach to Self Healing You learn to be FULLIVINGtrade ndash to thrive beyond chronic illness
Malcolms mission is to Coach You WELL
CONTACTMalcolm Dayton LPC CHt
email mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom
phone 970-689-4247
Yes Malcolm Im ready to discover
the benefits of Self Healing Coaching NOW
Sign me up now for myCOMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION
Be Well And THRIVE Beyond Chronic Illness Now
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TABLE OF CONTENTS
YOUR COMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION
INTRODUCTION
ANALYSIS
ldquoYOURrdquo
ldquoDAILYrdquo
ldquoSHAREDrdquo
ldquoINTENTIONALrdquo
ldquoHEALINGrdquo (beyond ldquobeing curedrdquo)
ldquoPRAXISrdquo
PRAXIS GUIDELINES
8-STEP PRAXIS REVIEW
REFERENCES
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
CONTACT INFORMATION
4
5
7
7
9
11
11
16
22
26
31
32
33
33
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YOUR COMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION
The following report provides a detailed introduction to the foundation of effective
principles and powerful tools that the author Malcolm Dayton LPC Cht has
learned developed and utilized in over 15 years of clinical work with individuals
facing chronic illness He has further honed his transformational approach by
discovering what is effective in enhancing his own daily living while addressing
chronic illness (asthma immune deficiency multiple sclerosis)
Although Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade (as described in this report) is a uniquely
powerful activity to engage in your daily wellness arsenal you can maximize
your benefits and progress more rapidly by learning to systematically apply
the broad range of Self Healing tools techniques and opportunities only available
through Coaching Your Self Healing
If you would like to maximize your results more quickly you may participate
multiple times each month in 11 coaching sessions Sessions are tailored to
your specific health and wellness situation to your specific goals and to your
abilities To experience how Your Self Healing Coaching will work for you you
may access your FREE Coaching Session (45 minutes in length) by clicking below
Yes Malcolm Im ready to discover
the benefits of Self Healing Coaching NOW
Sign me up now for myCOMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION
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INTRODUCTION
Welcome to Coaching Your Self Healing (CYSH) During your time with CYSH
you will have many opportunities to learn new and powerful self healing
tools which (when applied as you go through your daily living) will lead you
directly to experience more happiness health well-being and ease what I
call FULLIVINGtrade ndash that state of Being marked by THRIVING beyond chronic
illness
How can I make such a bold statement Because these are the same tools Ive
learned to apply over 4 decades to manage asthma immune disorder and
multiple sclerosis Moreover these are the same skills Ive taught hundreds of
others with chronic illness over the recent 15 years of my clinical practice and by
applying these abilities daily these folks too have learned to improve their daily
living beyond chronic illness to be FULLIVINGtrade
Please take time to read through this report more than once It is a rather quick
read yet so much of this information forms the foundation to your ongoing Self
Healing as much as it also lays out the process for performing your shared-
intentional-healingtrade praxis
Do take the time to apply these principles to your own daily encounter with
chronic illness Skillfully applying the process described in this report (together
with the tools provided in the article series Empower Your Self to Heal Chronic
Illness) you will at once powerfully launch and accelerate your personal
journey into Self Healing
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Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis
One of the more powerful (and empowering) practices CYSH offers you is your
daily Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis (SIHP) This compelling activity
provides various times throughout each day when you can stop the noise in your
life and focus your attention (and intention) on FULLIVINGtrade for your Self as
well as for all the members of your CYSH community At any of the scheduled
times you may take a break from the busyness of your day amp take 5 to 15
minutes to send (amp receive) shared healing intentions in concert with all the
other CYSH members The details of ldquohow tordquo participate in this shared activity
are provided later in this report
Before jumping into the mechanics however we will first take a few moments to
construct the foundation for your daily Shared-Intentional-Healingrdquotrade Praxis
Doing so will assist you in better understanding and skillfully applying this
empowering Self Healing approach
You may keep up-to-date on new or added information to this report by referring to
the tri-monthly Your Self Healing Journey News (you receive as part of your
CYSH membership) as well as by returning to the Coaching Your Self Healing blog
(httpwwwCoachingSelfHealingcomblog)
Note In this report I use the word ldquoselfrdquo in a capitalized form as ldquoSelfrdquo You may
find a detailed account on this use of ldquoSelfrdquo in the article Empower Your Self to Heal
Chronic Illness Part 1 Who is the self in Self Healing
For our purposes here Self is that deep core of you the essential being you were
at birth before defining yourself by the cultural identifiers thrust onto you growing-
up and beyond those you have used to create your place in the world
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ANALYSIS
of
Your Daily Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis
ldquoYOURrdquo
First this is truly YOUR activity You may do this at whatever times you choose
and on whatever days feel right for you You may choose to participate once per
day or more frequently on certain days This is YOUR Self Healing program
You access the benefits by proactively participating in SIHP FULLIVINGtrade
benefits accrue as you routinely apply and participate in this approach As you
feel more comfortable and natural during your sessions you may notice you are
more relaxed and calm as you carry out the remainder of your day Symptoms
may seem less troubling less intense and easier to manage You can notice an
improvement in your general mood and more felt-moments of happiness The
fact that you know you are participating not only for your own benefit but the
benefit of all other CYSH members will bring a smile to your face and a
meaningful sense of Self worth for giving so genuinely from your heart
You may also discover applying SIHP can help with the more difficult times you
face Imagine you have been participating in shared-intentional-healingtrade
sessions at about 1 session per day Then because of a virus or change in
medications you enter a more difficult period of heightened symptoms perhaps
leading to a drop-off in your participation Two things to keep in mind here
1 You may email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom) to request other CYSH
members keep YOU in our special intentions during the times we are
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participating in SIHP each day
You do not need to provide identifying information merely some information
about your age gender and what you may be going through at this time This
will assist other members to generate an image of who your are as we focus
our healing intentions for you
2 During these more challenging times you may discover you can access
even more energy and peace by actually increasing the number of times
each day you participate in sessions Please do test this out for yourself
over time
This is not only your program but the process itself is yours as well that is YOU
define what intentional healing is for you according to your history and
experiences your desires and goals No person outside of you can clarify the
means by which you define and measure healing progress nor what results or
goals are more or less important to you as you apply the skills you learn in the
Coaching Your Self Healing program
The steps outlined later in this report are merely guidelines to assist you in
participating in your daily Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis They serve as
guides suggestions to help you get started You will find your own unique way to
participate ndash the way that simply works best for you
So please do explore the process play with it and have fun Whenever you do
come across some variation that is particularly beneficial please send it along to
me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom) so I may pass it along to benefit other
members in our CYSH community
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ldquoDAILYrdquo
You may choose among eight times each day to participate in this practice
900 AM amp PM EST 1200 AM amp PM EST 300 AM amp PM EST and 600 AM amp
PM EST The eight times are provided in order for CYSH members from around
the globe to participate at a convenient time in your time zone as well as
convenient to your schedule around the clock each day Clearly you may
participate at any of the session times regardless of your location
If for some reason you cannot participate during any of these times please do
email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom) so I may be informed of any
scheduling problems that I am not currently taking into consideration My goal
here is to develop a daily schedule that works for everyone around the globe (and
around the clock each day) To start out I would encourage you to set a
reminder alarm a few minutes before your scheduled time ndash at least until you
have formed a comfortable habit of participating in the sessions
I will be present and participate during at least two sessions everyday and I will
rotate through session times each day That way at least every four days you
and I will be attending together at the same time Please understand however
there is never any expectation for you to participate at any particular time(s) nor
on any given day When you participate depends solely on your inner comfort
and your positive intention when you do take part
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Providing so many times is meant solely as a way to coordinate our attention and
energies in synchrony with other community members There is no need to be
concerned about the ldquorightrdquo time to participate As already noted your energies
are better-focused on being-present your comfort and on positive intention
There simply is no ldquorightrdquo time just the time that is right for you
Another advantage of having eight scheduled times each day is to provide
flexibility for you to adjust your participation in response to changes in your
symptom experiences As noted earlier when going through more difficult
symptomatic periods that are disrupting to your routine participating in
additional praxis times (rather than focusing on symptoms) may assist you with
limiting intensity and duration of the exacerbation ndash particularly by generating
more relaxation and rest
Still another helpful way you may consider your praxis ldquotimerdquo has been clarified
by Einstein physicists and spiritual leaders through history What they have
shown us is that ldquotimerdquo is a construct (a ldquoboxrdquo) and is not really ldquoout thererdquo at
all Indeed if ldquotimerdquo exists it can only be NOW
Such a perspective can be extremely nourishing when considering what Deepak
Chopra MD and Wayne Dyer PhD call the ldquogaprdquo The gap is that experience in
which you are ldquocenteredrdquo in the ldquosilent space between thoughtsrdquo When in the
gap you are at that ldquolevel of Being which is your essential staterdquo1 This
experience of being-in-the-gap is timeless ndash rdquothe womb of creationrdquo2 It is within
this state of experience that healing occurs
As you perform your praxis each day you will naturally and directly begin to
experience the timeless-being of the gap firsthand Once you recognize this
experience you will realize that whatever time of day you actually participate in
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SIHP you are doing it in the same NOW as all other CYSH members ndash even
though your session ldquoclock timesrdquo differ throughout the day
ldquoSHAREDrdquo
Remember the key here is that you are surrounding your Self with the one
heartbeat of all the other community members Your attention your energy
and your intentions are SHARED by all ndash just as their energies and intentions are
shared with and for you It is this attitude of sharing-with a wholehearted
giving-to that is key to this approach It is very simple As you give from
your heart-of-caring so you will receive
Be comforted in knowing that by simply participating once a day (after even a
few short days) you will begin to feel more comfortable more at ease more at
peace now than you may have experienced in years AND you know you are
contributing to the FULLIVINGtrade of others that is contributing beyond well-
being into the very heart of healing Trust me when I say your peace and your
giving heart provide a strong (and necessary) foundation on which to build
healing for each of us and of all of us together
ldquoINTENTIONALrdquo
So what does it mean to be INTENTIONAL One of the most helpful reviews of
ldquointentionrdquo is provided by Wayne Dyer PhD3 In Dyers The Power of Intention
(2005) he describes how we may ldquowishrdquo for something to occur in our lives but
such wishing is only a beginning
We may also choose to take the next step beyond wishing to ldquodesirerdquo Desire
results in taking action on the wish and is proactively distinct from wishing It is
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with desire that we now straight-forwardly make the ldquoaskrdquo (as in ldquoask and you
shall receiverdquo)
Still again we can step-up the intensity of our activity even more (beyond
wishing and asking) that is we may frame our desire in terms of what we
actually ldquointend to createrdquo Stop here for a moment close your eyes and feel
the power in these words I INTEND TO CREATE Period And again
I INTEND TO CREATE
We are very matter-of-fact about bringing the thing wished for desired
requested into experience No doubt No fear Creating healing now is simply a
given that occurs by way of you actively participating Period
Such intention-to-create by definition requires both commitment and passion
With commitment we are beyond ldquotryingrdquo to make the thing happen and
instead move into what I call devotion-to-creating (from the original French
devovere ldquodedicated by a vowrdquo) With such devotion we experience a much
deeper more profound state of being an awareness beyond ego
Devotion-to-creating allows you to act beyond the ldquooughtsrdquo and ldquoshouldsrdquo of
others beyond your own doubts and fears beyond obligation and guilt and
directly to the heart of being inspired (ldquodrawing in of airrdquo ldquoinspiritrdquo) that is you
are drawn into relation-with the powerful and empowering Source that creates
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It is by being inspired that you meet the paradox at the heart of ldquointendingrdquo As
you proactively intend-to-create you naturally come to experience being
committed devoted and inspired however you actually create only inasmuch as
you allow your Self to follow the flow of your inspiration naturally ndash that is as
you open your Self to receive Therefore as you intend to heal you must
also open to receive healing
As such it is important you recognize healing happens as you ldquoget out of your
own wayrdquo beyond intellect desire doubt and ego How do we do that How do
we get out of our own way beyond ego Very simply you do that by allowing
your Self to trust your healing
Please take a moment here to recall a time when you were injured in some way
(maybe a cut or broken bone) Beyond receiving necessary medical assistance
what did you do to mend to heal Once attended to medically its likely that you
never gave the actual processes of ldquohealingrdquo much thought ndash dying cells cleared
away new cells forming and eventually performing as if they had been there all
along as if nothing ever happened Healing just occurred your part was to trust
the process take good care of yourself and allow it Whether conscious or not
you simply trusted yourself to heal
It is that same trust you must have as you now commit-to-create intentional
healing Your whole Self system ldquoknowsrdquo how and what needs healing and in
what specific sequence of steps healing must occur Self does not need the
agreement of intellect or common sense to proceed naturally with healing Self
has been carrying out that process every nano-second of every day of your life ndash
simultaneously coordinating trillions of biochemical and energetic activities in
every cell of your entire being Heart beats lungs breath intestines digest and
your job is simply to get out of your own way and trust your Self to heal
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As you do alongside this intense Self-trust and commitment-to-create (our vow)
passion takes over and leads the way beyond common sense beyond
doubting intellect beyond beliefs and even beyond perceptions Such intense
passion emanating from your heart is very simply ldquoagaperdquo (selfless Love) In
this state you no longer experience others as separate bounded subject-object
(I-It) rather you share together in a living boundless oneness-of-relating
honoring the encounter by giving your present and your presence to the
sacredness of ldquoI-Thourdquo4
Map of HEALING INTENTION
I WISH
I DESIRE (ASK)
I INTEND-TO-CREATE
INCLUDES I COMMIT-TO-CREATE (I Vow = Devotion-to-creating)
I AM PASSIONATE
(I am Inspired)
PARADOX OF INTENDING (I Allow I Receive I Trust My Self to Heal)
I-THOU (Agape)
Figure copy2009 by MFDayton
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It is this deep experience of heartfelt passion and selfless Love you are aiming to
access directly (and share) when you intend from the heart when you are
performing your shared-intentional-healingtrade praxis
So once again stop for a moment now to imagine Imagine the tremendous
healing power at your disposal when you step into your shared session each day
with the intention-to-create healing It means you are committing to heal
vowing to heal trusting your Self to heal by way of your impassioned
heart You are giving your presence to merge as one-heartbeat in
synchrony and selfless love with all other CYSH members in this moment
now Therein lies the true power of your healing intention
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ldquoHEALINGrdquo (beyond ldquobeing curedrdquo)
Clearly what we intend to create during each praxis is HEALING your healing
healing for other members my healing and our healing together as one Yet do
you really know what you mean when you say ldquoI intend to healrdquo
Whenever we take time to reflect on the notion of ldquohealingrdquo typically one of the
first things that bubbles up into awareness is some hope of being ldquocuredrdquo Given
the difficulties and challenges we can face in just making it through even the
most simple of daily activities ldquocurerdquo can be so very inviting Indeed given the
opportunity who of us wouldnt want to be cured of a chronic illness And cured
NOW
Yet by seeking to ldquobe curedrdquo we can become entrenched in even more intense
challenges and symptom exacerbation How could that be What could
possibly be wrong with hoping for a cure
There is nothing wrong with hoping dreaming goal setting Indeed these
activities can provide momentum power purpose and direction to an otherwise
difficult day Yet the moment we turn our attention to ldquobeing curedrdquo our focus
immediately comes to rest on that which we desire to be ldquocured ofrdquo to ldquoget away
fromrdquo and it is here we become derailed Its like the age-old challenge to ldquonot
think of a blue elephantrdquo We must first conceive such a beast before we cannot
think about it
So too with ldquocurerdquo ndash We must first converge our attention and energies even
more intensely on the illness and the symptoms we wish to cease Clearly this
activity takes us in the opposite direction from the relief and health we are
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seeking In fact it is the same process described by Cheri Huber in one of her
more remarkable books entitled That Which You Are Seeking Is Causing You To
Seek (1990) Take a moment now to think about her title in relation to ldquoThe cure
I am seeking is rdquo In short to focus on cure heightens our experience of
dis-ease
To clarify even further when we focus on such moving-away-from-activities we
have no clear vision of what it is we are moving toward Without such clarity our
odds of failing escalate exponentially Success happens only as we also move
toward clearly-defined desires and goals A simple yet powerful example is this
years 40th anniversary of the Apollo 11 moon landing Was that ldquogiant steprdquo
successful because the leaders at NASA focused energy solely on how to create
escape velocity to ldquoget away fromrdquo earth ndash or also on how to get onto the moon
Another helpful example is wanting ldquoout ofrdquo a job Im sure you know of someone
(perhaps yourself) intent on getting away from the daily grind of hisher job Yet
when she did successfully leave that employment inevitably and much too soon
the same situation landslides into the daily grind of the next job Repeating old
patterns of struggle is a very clear sign of actions based on moving-away-
from goals This is a key principle to apply to all aspects of your daily living
The reason this occurs with the get-me-outta-here script is that whatever change
may happen generally does so from ldquowithoutrdquo At best we change scenery Its
the old grass-is-greener scenario ndash which is really no change at all
The inherent problem here can be even more perilous as we see when we take a
closer look at the wording ldquobeing curedrdquo We tend to redirect our attention from
within (our source of creative power) to some force outside that causes the cure
for us (whether that be by way of a physician a healer natural substances
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medications treatments or God)
On some level we tell ourselves if I could figure out what was happening to get
into this situation (ie chronic illness) I would be able to figure out how to get
out of it but (and heres the rub) since I cant I begin to believe less and less in
my innate healing power and more and more that such power must lie outside of
me ndash with an outside force greater than me (whether medical natural or
spiritual)
Please be clear on this point This is not to underplay the importance of qualified
medical professionals to your progress The same is true of the importance and
value of your spirituality and relation-with God Source Higher Power The point
to take away here is that you can only access the benefits of such healing
relations when YOU are first centered and strong in your own being ndash when you
approach your Self as a sacred Thou
Therefore in the situation where you reflexively turn over your power to heal (to
an outside agent) understand the ensuing damage you risk to your sense of Self
Not only are you diminishing belief in your inherent strength and healing power
you are also at risk of allowing others to determine what is best for your well-
being (perhaps even against your deeper intuitive knowing) all of which only
serves to further undermine Self-esteem and the tremendous power that comes
from believing in your Self
Even our religious upbringing can paradoxically weaken our beliefs regarding the
possibility of cure We learn at a deep level that ldquocurerdquo lies only in the realm of
the miraculous Such an orientation can weaken belief in the possibility of ldquome
being cured nowrdquo In fact when being completely honest many of us feel the
odds of ldquome being cured nowrdquo are as slim or slimmer than winning a million dollar
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lottery And when it does not happen were faced with the more daunting issue
of how I must somehow be ldquoflawedrdquo Clearly such underlying attitudes provide
no foundation on which to construct change much less the dramatic change
required with the desire to ldquobe curedrdquo [Here I recommend another Huber book
There Is Nothing Wrong with You Going Beyond Self-Hate (2001)]
In the end when focused on ldquobeing curedrdquo you may not only become separate
from your innate healing power within but you risk the ultimate medical
mistreatment becoming an object to be worked-on mechanically From here it
can be a rapid slide into the role of ldquovictimrdquo whereby you relinquish your
responsibility for choosing altogether (ie intending-to-create) how it is you truly
desire to be In short you risk losing the creative power of intention required to
give birth to healing
By the mid eighties I had been on daily prednisone for over a decade to control
severe bouts of status asthmaticus and recurrent pneumonia Because the
deleterious side-effects of prednisone included adrenal insufficiency (an impaired
stress response) I knew in my heart-of-hearts one key to my well-being lay in
recovering my atrophied stress axis by discontinuing daily prednisone For years
I pleaded with my pulmonary specialist to assist me in tapering off and relearning
how to live prednisone-free Together we did make a few unsuccessful attempts
only to recycle back into another respiratory infection and still higher doses of
prednisone By this time his posture was that I needed to remain on daily
prednisone ldquofor the rest of my liferdquo My posture was to fire him
Fortunately and in short-order I began working with an internist who over the
next two years laid out a plan to become prednisone-free ndash which we did
together successfully Two significant points must be clearly recognized here
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1 You must believe in your innate healing power and if you do not
currently this then becomes your launch pad for your healing journey ndash
relearning to empower your Self to heal
2 You are not in this alone You require the good works of others in
alignment with you to successfully heal As such you need to be very
selective in picking those others with whom you relate to enhance your
medical well-being
If you are feeling your medical support is sapping your power and authority
they probably are but you dont throw the baby out with the bath This is
not about releasing physicians this is about being in a healing
relationship-with your medical professional(s) of choice
Additional cultural biases arise with a focus on ldquocurerdquo Any true change with
regard to chronic illness implies a change ldquofor the betterrdquo That requires us to
believe with certainty that such change can and will bring improvement After
more than fifteen years working with individuals with chronic illness (including
my Self) it is the rare individual Ive encountered who truly believes (from the
core) ldquoI will be curedrdquo We wish for cure certainly but believing with certainty ldquoI
will be curedrdquo rarely
An origin of not believing in ldquobeing curedrdquo lies in the way we traditionally use the
term One problem in particular is that ldquocurerdquo is not a ldquonowrdquo concept -- that is
something I trust to experience now rather we tend to use ldquocurerdquo in a future-
oriented manner of hoping-for-something-to-happen or (at-best) asking-for
maybe praying for cure to happen Yet it is not in the future that you and I
create anything and this is particularly relevant to healing We only create in
the NOW
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Finally even greater issues arise when we attempt to determine precisely what
we mean by the term ldquocurerdquo As one example are you cured when there is ldquoan
end to the disease processrdquo or could that be ldquoremissionrdquo
Does ldquocurerdquo mean a ldquoreturn to full functioningrdquo (ie as I was before the process
started) Is that even possible Consider the case of a disease process that has
already resulted in disfigurement or amputation What does ldquocurerdquo mean in those
situations
Does ldquocurerdquo mean ldquosymptoms are gonerdquo If so are we then cured when
medications relieve or mask the symptoms altogether Do you understand the
quagmire here
It is for all these reasons above that few people are ever truly ldquocuredrdquo of
anything even if we do allow for those who have experienced ldquomiracle curesrdquo
(which are certainly the exception not the norm) Yet when you and I consider
ldquomy situation nowrdquo we need to have the strength of certainty that improvement
is not only possible but immanent
So if not ldquocurerdquo then what You already know the answer And the answer is
ldquohealingrdquo In the end if ldquocurerdquo is anything it is a future-oriented
disempowering mechanical phenomenon at the physical level In contrast
ldquohealingrdquo is an ongoing process (in this moment) of whole-Self transformation
Consider when we truly and proactively ldquohealrdquo we are creating (now) from the
very depths of our core within We are intending-to-create with all the intensity
and power of commitment passion and agape that arises in creative
transformation It is this innate source of inner power to which we must first
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return ldquoas little childrenrdquo in order to initiate healing
We mask nothing when healing now rather we take an active and response-able
role in bringing peace joy and love directly into our daily lives and the lives of
those we touch NOW this moment and in as many moments as we allow
It is from this strong shared intentional healing foundation that we live with the
most power any human being can possibly experience in alignment with in I-
Thou relation-with in the selfless Love that is the very Source of all creation
This process of transformational healing envelops and extends beyond cure at any
level and unlike ldquocurerdquo it is not some static condition at which we arrive (by
the grace of some outside benevolent authority) Rather such transformational
healing is an ongoing process of BEING-a-certain-way in strength in power
in wisdom in loving relation-with (not only Self but Source God Higher Power)
Let this loving empowered healing be the deep transformation you intend ndash your
moment-to-moment empowered healing transformation from core within
ldquoPRAXISrdquo
We finally come to the term PRAXIS Clients often ask why I use ldquopraxisrdquo rather
than something more familiar like ldquopracticerdquo or ldquoexerciserdquo My answer is very
simple and straight-forward
First we can quickly dispense with the term ldquoexerciserdquo Do you really want to
ldquoexerciserdquo intentional healing each day ndash or would you rather just skip having to
exercise any more than you already know you need to do Enough said
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Now imagine I invite you to ldquoplease make sure and practice your intentional
healing each dayrdquo How do you feel then For me it brings up that I must not
be very good at it especially if I need to be practicing every day
Consider now how you feel when I invite you to ldquoskillfully applyrdquo the intentional
healing process in comfort Doesnt ldquoskillful applicationrdquo feel much more
empowering than ldquopracticingrdquo Since ldquopraxisrdquo means ldquoskillful applicationrdquo isnt it
much more inviting to approach your intentional healing sessions with skill
And you will as you become more comfortable applying the process each day
Other folks also ask if shared-intentional-healingtrade wouldnt be better considered
an ldquoexperimentrdquo much like Lynn McTaggarts The Intention Experiment (2007) I
can see how the notion of an ldquoexperimentrdquo carries with it some sense of intrigue
but ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately represent the experience that is shared-
intentional-healingtrade
First (as we learned in our discussion of ldquointentionalrdquo above) when we participate
in Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade we are as a matter-of-fact intending-to-create
healing Such activity cannot be an ldquoexperimentrdquo or we lose the certainty
required for healing change Rather we set out to generate an experience-of-
relating that is powered by being committed empassioned and selflessly loving
You can likely identify such a committed passionate selflessly loving experience
from some time in your life ndash whether in love among family through an
impassioned hobby in seeking some goal or perhaps spiritually As you already
know such an experience is not something we wish-for or hope-for or need to
wait and see what happens It is simply a loving relating-with experience we
already know how to have We just be it and do it
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Moreover (as I suggested above) there is palpable transformation that occurs
within each of us as we gain comfort participating in shared-intentional-healingtrade
This transformational experience happens through your participation and it will
happen for you ndash no need to experiment just simply participate
Moreover at the heart of it the notion of ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately reflect
the research to date on ldquointentionrdquo and ldquohealingrdquo As an example a 1997 review
of research on ldquoIntercessory Prayer for the Alleviation of Ill Healthrdquo by Roberts
Ahmed Hall amp Davison reports individual studies suggest a positive effect of
intercessory prayer But since they viewed other reports in which the results
were equivocal they conclude no ldquo further trials of this intervention should be
takenrdquo5
Regrettably they miss the point The fact that studies DO exist reporting a
positive correlation between intercessory prayer and the alleviation of ill health is
precisely the reason more studies should be undertaken Edison found hundreds
of approaches that were equivocal before discovering a singular lighting solution
Thank goodness he did not conclude any further trials were unnecessary before
arriving at that solution
When it comes to this uniquely intimate subject of healing Eric Leskowitz MD
(in a review of the book Healing Intention amp Energy Medicine (2002) by Wayne
Jonas MD) explains how such conflicting conclusions like Roberts etal come
about Dr Leskowitz notes when he is in discussions with his allopathic medical
colleagues regarding ldquo inexplicable phenomena like energy healing or
intercessory prayer a sort of allopathic fear reflex kicks inrdquo6 Conclusions
become tunnel-visioned and skewed against even the possibility of such
correlation existing anywhere at any time Hence no further trials
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You may however verify for yourself such positively-correlated research does
indeed already exist by reviewing the studies in Jonas book (above) In
addition Marilyn Schlitz PhD provides a brief outline of just some of those
ldquopositive correlationrdquo studies that highlight the ldquointerface of science spirituality
and medicinerdquo7
If you would like an even more in-depth review I refer you to Consciousness amp
Healing Integral Approaches to Mind-Body Medicine (2005) by Schlitz Amorok
and Micozzi as well as the more recent (2008) Holistic Nursing A Handbook for Practice
5th edition by Dossey amp Keegan
In sum although experimental research has certainly not provided the final
answers on the relation between intention and healing the research to date is
most certainly beyond the ldquoequivocalrdquo suggested by those reflexively reacting
from allopathic fear Those studies completed to date which do display a positive
correlation between intention and healing are already providing a strong practical
foundation of powerful techniques and approaches that go far beyond
ldquoexperimentingrdquo and straight to the heart of skillful-application in daily living
Shared-Intentional-Healingrdquotrade is just one such approach you may access today
and everyday simply by participating in your daily praxis
With the above foundation in mind we can now move on to
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PRAXIS GUIDELINES
Having considered in some depth the foundation on which this method rests we
may now turn to the guidelines describing ldquohow tordquo participate in your daily
Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis
Before you approach your first intentional session please read through the
description and suggestions below Remember these opportunities are for YOU
to BENEFIT YOU Again there is no right way nor wrong way for you to
participate You simply participate in your own best way Therefore as noted
previously the description below is solely meant as a guided outline to assist you
in jump-starting your participation ndash sharing with you some ideas that have
already worked well for others in our Community
For this to be beneficial for everyone please do your best to allot at least 5 to
15 minutes for each intentional session If you are already seasoned at
sitting in quiet you certainly may choose to go longer (eg 30) and you can
trust there are other CYSH members continuing in synchrony with you
To start out let your sessions be for shorter periods of time You will experience
a natural increase in length of participation without having to think about it or
plan for it This is not a race nor a test of endurance This is a nourishing of
Self and a cultivation of your best healing intentions Be gentle
In the beginning it can also be helpful if you imagine sending out your healing
intentions in a particular direction around the globe and returning to you from
the opposite direction This way as you imagine can assist you in creating a
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ldquoflowrdquo with regard to directing intentional healing to all others around the globe
As you become more adept you will very naturally be able to generate healing
images radiating from your whole being equally in all directions You will
become aware there is no particular ldquoupdownrdquo in space-time There is just
ldquoeverywhere hererdquo that is always at the center of the universe ndash as you are at all
times and as is each member
Finally please know you may also invite your friends and loved ones to share
with you in these sessions If they cannot participate with you ask them (at
minimum) to set their healing intention for you and send it like a gift to you each
day This can be helpful to them as well knowing they are actively supporting
you with their selfless loving healing
So let us begin with a session description I have broken it down into 8 separate
action steps below
1 First make time to just sit and be comfortable (nothing ldquoto dordquo now)
Loosen any tight clothing
2 Begin breathing slowly until you relax into a comfortable natural pace
This is a time for gentleness Simply allow experience to happen and
follow experience moment-to-moment as you proceed
3 Slowly scan your entire being from head to toes inside and out If you
notice any part of you in tension just allow it to relax naturally and
dissolve with each out-breath
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Note It may take you 2 or more breathing cycles to notice the muscles in a
particular area begin to relax There are times as well when you may just
need to continue on with your scan trusting that the area will release as you
proceed Again this is time for gentle following
4 Once relaxed (as much as may be possible for now) INVITE your Self to
allow and receive healing intention and healing love
Note This may not feel natural or normal within and like a child the
knee-jerk reaction may indeed be to rebel You are merely sending an
invitation nothing more As you repeat this intentional healing invitation
each day you will soon begin to notice that you are indeed looking forward
to this opportunity
5 You are now comfortable relaxed and intentional within It is time now
to image all the other CYSH Members with whom you are sharing this
time Know they too are seeking to generate healing for your challenges
just as you are for theirs Depending on your beliefs it is here that you
may also invite connect with your source of spiritual power (God
Source Higher Power Buddha) to participate with you
6 Spend the next minutes imagining a Circle of Intentional Healing
Energy flowing into you from all the others and out from you to all
others Allow it to be easy natural like the earthrsquos flow of water
circulating from sky to earth and back to sky simply relax into this flow
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Note It may help to imagine your healing intentions emanating from about
2 finger-widths behind and about 3 finger-widths below your navel This
site (known as the ldquolower dan tienrdquo or ldquoharardquo) is considered the physical
center of gravity around which you are in perfect balance
From this point you can imagine healing intention flowing up your trunk
through your neck and head and out the top of your head to the other
CYSH members
The healing intention returning to you can be experienced as coming into
you at the same center of gravity point from which you started
Important Do not attempt to localize your intentions to any one region
within (brain heart liver etc) the reason being that a given illness process
occurs across and between physiological systems (even though we may talk
as if it is isolated to one system) It is best to imagine your entire Self
within a cocoon or bubble of flowing healing intention ndash everywhere within
you at once You may experience color warmth safety Luxuriate in your
experience Enjoy the moment
During this intentional time it can also be helpful on a given inout cycle of
breath to silently express I send out Loving Healing On the next
inout cycle silently express I receive Loving Healing and so on
In addition if your mind wanders off task (amp it will) just gently return to
the flow of loving healing intention Remember this experience is all about
being gentle Enjoy the process
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Continue in this state for as long as you desire and is easy comfortable
and natural With practice your will naturally be at ease for longer
periods of time during each session
7 When complete express gratitude to your Self as well as to all others
sharing in this moment with you Sit in this experience of gratitude for a
few moments
8 Savor the nourishing peace you have generated
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8-STEP PRAXIS REVIEW
1 SIT in comfort
2 BREATHE slowly rhythmically
3 SCAN (head to toes) to relax further still
4 INVITE SELF to allow healing intention
5 RELATE-WITH all other CYSH members amp Spiritual Power
6 SENDRECEIVE intentional healing
ldquoI send out Loving Healingrdquo ldquoI receive Loving Healingrdquo
7 Sit in GRATITUDE
8 SAVOR the nourishing peace
I genuinely look forward to your daily participation and to sharing this powerful
healing process with you I would love to hear your experiences with your praxis
Please do feel free to email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom)
My mission is to Coach You Well
Sincerely amp Caringly
MALCOLM
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REFERENCES
1 Chopra Deepak (1994) The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success ndash A Practical Guide to
the Fulfillment of Your Dreams p76
2 Chopra Deepak (1999) A Deepak Chopra Companion Illuminations on Health and
Human Consciousness p94
3 Dyer httpwwwyoutubecomwatchv=DC-FPorUW7gampfeature=related
4 Buber Martin (1971) I And Thou
5 Intercessory prayer httpwwwcochraneorgreviewsenab000368html
6 Leskowitz httpwholistichealingresearchcom42books12
7 Schlitz httpxnetkporgpermanentejournalsum05evidencepdf
copy2009byMFDayton
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ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Malcolm Dayton LPC Cht is a Licensed Counselor with more than two decades coaching individuals and families facing chronic illness He is also certified in MindBody Medicine and Hypnotherapy
Malcolms Coaching Self Healing program is unique in that he calls on his own lifelong journey with chronic illness (multiple sclerosis asthma immune deficiency) to assist you in accessing your unique healing solutions Very simply Malcolm walks his coaching
His coaching program is truly integral-- that is healing solutions are practical in focus and applied comprehensively incorporating all dimensions of your experience from symptoms to wellness from relations within self to social relations from the physical to spiritual--a truly ecological approach to Self Healing You learn to be FULLIVINGtrade ndash to thrive beyond chronic illness
Malcolms mission is to Coach You WELL
CONTACTMalcolm Dayton LPC CHt
email mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom
phone 970-689-4247
Yes Malcolm Im ready to discover
the benefits of Self Healing Coaching NOW
Sign me up now for myCOMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION
Be Well And THRIVE Beyond Chronic Illness Now
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YOUR COMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION
The following report provides a detailed introduction to the foundation of effective
principles and powerful tools that the author Malcolm Dayton LPC Cht has
learned developed and utilized in over 15 years of clinical work with individuals
facing chronic illness He has further honed his transformational approach by
discovering what is effective in enhancing his own daily living while addressing
chronic illness (asthma immune deficiency multiple sclerosis)
Although Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade (as described in this report) is a uniquely
powerful activity to engage in your daily wellness arsenal you can maximize
your benefits and progress more rapidly by learning to systematically apply
the broad range of Self Healing tools techniques and opportunities only available
through Coaching Your Self Healing
If you would like to maximize your results more quickly you may participate
multiple times each month in 11 coaching sessions Sessions are tailored to
your specific health and wellness situation to your specific goals and to your
abilities To experience how Your Self Healing Coaching will work for you you
may access your FREE Coaching Session (45 minutes in length) by clicking below
Yes Malcolm Im ready to discover
the benefits of Self Healing Coaching NOW
Sign me up now for myCOMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION
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INTRODUCTION
Welcome to Coaching Your Self Healing (CYSH) During your time with CYSH
you will have many opportunities to learn new and powerful self healing
tools which (when applied as you go through your daily living) will lead you
directly to experience more happiness health well-being and ease what I
call FULLIVINGtrade ndash that state of Being marked by THRIVING beyond chronic
illness
How can I make such a bold statement Because these are the same tools Ive
learned to apply over 4 decades to manage asthma immune disorder and
multiple sclerosis Moreover these are the same skills Ive taught hundreds of
others with chronic illness over the recent 15 years of my clinical practice and by
applying these abilities daily these folks too have learned to improve their daily
living beyond chronic illness to be FULLIVINGtrade
Please take time to read through this report more than once It is a rather quick
read yet so much of this information forms the foundation to your ongoing Self
Healing as much as it also lays out the process for performing your shared-
intentional-healingtrade praxis
Do take the time to apply these principles to your own daily encounter with
chronic illness Skillfully applying the process described in this report (together
with the tools provided in the article series Empower Your Self to Heal Chronic
Illness) you will at once powerfully launch and accelerate your personal
journey into Self Healing
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Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis
One of the more powerful (and empowering) practices CYSH offers you is your
daily Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis (SIHP) This compelling activity
provides various times throughout each day when you can stop the noise in your
life and focus your attention (and intention) on FULLIVINGtrade for your Self as
well as for all the members of your CYSH community At any of the scheduled
times you may take a break from the busyness of your day amp take 5 to 15
minutes to send (amp receive) shared healing intentions in concert with all the
other CYSH members The details of ldquohow tordquo participate in this shared activity
are provided later in this report
Before jumping into the mechanics however we will first take a few moments to
construct the foundation for your daily Shared-Intentional-Healingrdquotrade Praxis
Doing so will assist you in better understanding and skillfully applying this
empowering Self Healing approach
You may keep up-to-date on new or added information to this report by referring to
the tri-monthly Your Self Healing Journey News (you receive as part of your
CYSH membership) as well as by returning to the Coaching Your Self Healing blog
(httpwwwCoachingSelfHealingcomblog)
Note In this report I use the word ldquoselfrdquo in a capitalized form as ldquoSelfrdquo You may
find a detailed account on this use of ldquoSelfrdquo in the article Empower Your Self to Heal
Chronic Illness Part 1 Who is the self in Self Healing
For our purposes here Self is that deep core of you the essential being you were
at birth before defining yourself by the cultural identifiers thrust onto you growing-
up and beyond those you have used to create your place in the world
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ANALYSIS
of
Your Daily Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis
ldquoYOURrdquo
First this is truly YOUR activity You may do this at whatever times you choose
and on whatever days feel right for you You may choose to participate once per
day or more frequently on certain days This is YOUR Self Healing program
You access the benefits by proactively participating in SIHP FULLIVINGtrade
benefits accrue as you routinely apply and participate in this approach As you
feel more comfortable and natural during your sessions you may notice you are
more relaxed and calm as you carry out the remainder of your day Symptoms
may seem less troubling less intense and easier to manage You can notice an
improvement in your general mood and more felt-moments of happiness The
fact that you know you are participating not only for your own benefit but the
benefit of all other CYSH members will bring a smile to your face and a
meaningful sense of Self worth for giving so genuinely from your heart
You may also discover applying SIHP can help with the more difficult times you
face Imagine you have been participating in shared-intentional-healingtrade
sessions at about 1 session per day Then because of a virus or change in
medications you enter a more difficult period of heightened symptoms perhaps
leading to a drop-off in your participation Two things to keep in mind here
1 You may email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom) to request other CYSH
members keep YOU in our special intentions during the times we are
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participating in SIHP each day
You do not need to provide identifying information merely some information
about your age gender and what you may be going through at this time This
will assist other members to generate an image of who your are as we focus
our healing intentions for you
2 During these more challenging times you may discover you can access
even more energy and peace by actually increasing the number of times
each day you participate in sessions Please do test this out for yourself
over time
This is not only your program but the process itself is yours as well that is YOU
define what intentional healing is for you according to your history and
experiences your desires and goals No person outside of you can clarify the
means by which you define and measure healing progress nor what results or
goals are more or less important to you as you apply the skills you learn in the
Coaching Your Self Healing program
The steps outlined later in this report are merely guidelines to assist you in
participating in your daily Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis They serve as
guides suggestions to help you get started You will find your own unique way to
participate ndash the way that simply works best for you
So please do explore the process play with it and have fun Whenever you do
come across some variation that is particularly beneficial please send it along to
me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom) so I may pass it along to benefit other
members in our CYSH community
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ldquoDAILYrdquo
You may choose among eight times each day to participate in this practice
900 AM amp PM EST 1200 AM amp PM EST 300 AM amp PM EST and 600 AM amp
PM EST The eight times are provided in order for CYSH members from around
the globe to participate at a convenient time in your time zone as well as
convenient to your schedule around the clock each day Clearly you may
participate at any of the session times regardless of your location
If for some reason you cannot participate during any of these times please do
email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom) so I may be informed of any
scheduling problems that I am not currently taking into consideration My goal
here is to develop a daily schedule that works for everyone around the globe (and
around the clock each day) To start out I would encourage you to set a
reminder alarm a few minutes before your scheduled time ndash at least until you
have formed a comfortable habit of participating in the sessions
I will be present and participate during at least two sessions everyday and I will
rotate through session times each day That way at least every four days you
and I will be attending together at the same time Please understand however
there is never any expectation for you to participate at any particular time(s) nor
on any given day When you participate depends solely on your inner comfort
and your positive intention when you do take part
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Providing so many times is meant solely as a way to coordinate our attention and
energies in synchrony with other community members There is no need to be
concerned about the ldquorightrdquo time to participate As already noted your energies
are better-focused on being-present your comfort and on positive intention
There simply is no ldquorightrdquo time just the time that is right for you
Another advantage of having eight scheduled times each day is to provide
flexibility for you to adjust your participation in response to changes in your
symptom experiences As noted earlier when going through more difficult
symptomatic periods that are disrupting to your routine participating in
additional praxis times (rather than focusing on symptoms) may assist you with
limiting intensity and duration of the exacerbation ndash particularly by generating
more relaxation and rest
Still another helpful way you may consider your praxis ldquotimerdquo has been clarified
by Einstein physicists and spiritual leaders through history What they have
shown us is that ldquotimerdquo is a construct (a ldquoboxrdquo) and is not really ldquoout thererdquo at
all Indeed if ldquotimerdquo exists it can only be NOW
Such a perspective can be extremely nourishing when considering what Deepak
Chopra MD and Wayne Dyer PhD call the ldquogaprdquo The gap is that experience in
which you are ldquocenteredrdquo in the ldquosilent space between thoughtsrdquo When in the
gap you are at that ldquolevel of Being which is your essential staterdquo1 This
experience of being-in-the-gap is timeless ndash rdquothe womb of creationrdquo2 It is within
this state of experience that healing occurs
As you perform your praxis each day you will naturally and directly begin to
experience the timeless-being of the gap firsthand Once you recognize this
experience you will realize that whatever time of day you actually participate in
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SIHP you are doing it in the same NOW as all other CYSH members ndash even
though your session ldquoclock timesrdquo differ throughout the day
ldquoSHAREDrdquo
Remember the key here is that you are surrounding your Self with the one
heartbeat of all the other community members Your attention your energy
and your intentions are SHARED by all ndash just as their energies and intentions are
shared with and for you It is this attitude of sharing-with a wholehearted
giving-to that is key to this approach It is very simple As you give from
your heart-of-caring so you will receive
Be comforted in knowing that by simply participating once a day (after even a
few short days) you will begin to feel more comfortable more at ease more at
peace now than you may have experienced in years AND you know you are
contributing to the FULLIVINGtrade of others that is contributing beyond well-
being into the very heart of healing Trust me when I say your peace and your
giving heart provide a strong (and necessary) foundation on which to build
healing for each of us and of all of us together
ldquoINTENTIONALrdquo
So what does it mean to be INTENTIONAL One of the most helpful reviews of
ldquointentionrdquo is provided by Wayne Dyer PhD3 In Dyers The Power of Intention
(2005) he describes how we may ldquowishrdquo for something to occur in our lives but
such wishing is only a beginning
We may also choose to take the next step beyond wishing to ldquodesirerdquo Desire
results in taking action on the wish and is proactively distinct from wishing It is
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with desire that we now straight-forwardly make the ldquoaskrdquo (as in ldquoask and you
shall receiverdquo)
Still again we can step-up the intensity of our activity even more (beyond
wishing and asking) that is we may frame our desire in terms of what we
actually ldquointend to createrdquo Stop here for a moment close your eyes and feel
the power in these words I INTEND TO CREATE Period And again
I INTEND TO CREATE
We are very matter-of-fact about bringing the thing wished for desired
requested into experience No doubt No fear Creating healing now is simply a
given that occurs by way of you actively participating Period
Such intention-to-create by definition requires both commitment and passion
With commitment we are beyond ldquotryingrdquo to make the thing happen and
instead move into what I call devotion-to-creating (from the original French
devovere ldquodedicated by a vowrdquo) With such devotion we experience a much
deeper more profound state of being an awareness beyond ego
Devotion-to-creating allows you to act beyond the ldquooughtsrdquo and ldquoshouldsrdquo of
others beyond your own doubts and fears beyond obligation and guilt and
directly to the heart of being inspired (ldquodrawing in of airrdquo ldquoinspiritrdquo) that is you
are drawn into relation-with the powerful and empowering Source that creates
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It is by being inspired that you meet the paradox at the heart of ldquointendingrdquo As
you proactively intend-to-create you naturally come to experience being
committed devoted and inspired however you actually create only inasmuch as
you allow your Self to follow the flow of your inspiration naturally ndash that is as
you open your Self to receive Therefore as you intend to heal you must
also open to receive healing
As such it is important you recognize healing happens as you ldquoget out of your
own wayrdquo beyond intellect desire doubt and ego How do we do that How do
we get out of our own way beyond ego Very simply you do that by allowing
your Self to trust your healing
Please take a moment here to recall a time when you were injured in some way
(maybe a cut or broken bone) Beyond receiving necessary medical assistance
what did you do to mend to heal Once attended to medically its likely that you
never gave the actual processes of ldquohealingrdquo much thought ndash dying cells cleared
away new cells forming and eventually performing as if they had been there all
along as if nothing ever happened Healing just occurred your part was to trust
the process take good care of yourself and allow it Whether conscious or not
you simply trusted yourself to heal
It is that same trust you must have as you now commit-to-create intentional
healing Your whole Self system ldquoknowsrdquo how and what needs healing and in
what specific sequence of steps healing must occur Self does not need the
agreement of intellect or common sense to proceed naturally with healing Self
has been carrying out that process every nano-second of every day of your life ndash
simultaneously coordinating trillions of biochemical and energetic activities in
every cell of your entire being Heart beats lungs breath intestines digest and
your job is simply to get out of your own way and trust your Self to heal
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As you do alongside this intense Self-trust and commitment-to-create (our vow)
passion takes over and leads the way beyond common sense beyond
doubting intellect beyond beliefs and even beyond perceptions Such intense
passion emanating from your heart is very simply ldquoagaperdquo (selfless Love) In
this state you no longer experience others as separate bounded subject-object
(I-It) rather you share together in a living boundless oneness-of-relating
honoring the encounter by giving your present and your presence to the
sacredness of ldquoI-Thourdquo4
Map of HEALING INTENTION
I WISH
I DESIRE (ASK)
I INTEND-TO-CREATE
INCLUDES I COMMIT-TO-CREATE (I Vow = Devotion-to-creating)
I AM PASSIONATE
(I am Inspired)
PARADOX OF INTENDING (I Allow I Receive I Trust My Self to Heal)
I-THOU (Agape)
Figure copy2009 by MFDayton
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It is this deep experience of heartfelt passion and selfless Love you are aiming to
access directly (and share) when you intend from the heart when you are
performing your shared-intentional-healingtrade praxis
So once again stop for a moment now to imagine Imagine the tremendous
healing power at your disposal when you step into your shared session each day
with the intention-to-create healing It means you are committing to heal
vowing to heal trusting your Self to heal by way of your impassioned
heart You are giving your presence to merge as one-heartbeat in
synchrony and selfless love with all other CYSH members in this moment
now Therein lies the true power of your healing intention
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ldquoHEALINGrdquo (beyond ldquobeing curedrdquo)
Clearly what we intend to create during each praxis is HEALING your healing
healing for other members my healing and our healing together as one Yet do
you really know what you mean when you say ldquoI intend to healrdquo
Whenever we take time to reflect on the notion of ldquohealingrdquo typically one of the
first things that bubbles up into awareness is some hope of being ldquocuredrdquo Given
the difficulties and challenges we can face in just making it through even the
most simple of daily activities ldquocurerdquo can be so very inviting Indeed given the
opportunity who of us wouldnt want to be cured of a chronic illness And cured
NOW
Yet by seeking to ldquobe curedrdquo we can become entrenched in even more intense
challenges and symptom exacerbation How could that be What could
possibly be wrong with hoping for a cure
There is nothing wrong with hoping dreaming goal setting Indeed these
activities can provide momentum power purpose and direction to an otherwise
difficult day Yet the moment we turn our attention to ldquobeing curedrdquo our focus
immediately comes to rest on that which we desire to be ldquocured ofrdquo to ldquoget away
fromrdquo and it is here we become derailed Its like the age-old challenge to ldquonot
think of a blue elephantrdquo We must first conceive such a beast before we cannot
think about it
So too with ldquocurerdquo ndash We must first converge our attention and energies even
more intensely on the illness and the symptoms we wish to cease Clearly this
activity takes us in the opposite direction from the relief and health we are
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seeking In fact it is the same process described by Cheri Huber in one of her
more remarkable books entitled That Which You Are Seeking Is Causing You To
Seek (1990) Take a moment now to think about her title in relation to ldquoThe cure
I am seeking is rdquo In short to focus on cure heightens our experience of
dis-ease
To clarify even further when we focus on such moving-away-from-activities we
have no clear vision of what it is we are moving toward Without such clarity our
odds of failing escalate exponentially Success happens only as we also move
toward clearly-defined desires and goals A simple yet powerful example is this
years 40th anniversary of the Apollo 11 moon landing Was that ldquogiant steprdquo
successful because the leaders at NASA focused energy solely on how to create
escape velocity to ldquoget away fromrdquo earth ndash or also on how to get onto the moon
Another helpful example is wanting ldquoout ofrdquo a job Im sure you know of someone
(perhaps yourself) intent on getting away from the daily grind of hisher job Yet
when she did successfully leave that employment inevitably and much too soon
the same situation landslides into the daily grind of the next job Repeating old
patterns of struggle is a very clear sign of actions based on moving-away-
from goals This is a key principle to apply to all aspects of your daily living
The reason this occurs with the get-me-outta-here script is that whatever change
may happen generally does so from ldquowithoutrdquo At best we change scenery Its
the old grass-is-greener scenario ndash which is really no change at all
The inherent problem here can be even more perilous as we see when we take a
closer look at the wording ldquobeing curedrdquo We tend to redirect our attention from
within (our source of creative power) to some force outside that causes the cure
for us (whether that be by way of a physician a healer natural substances
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medications treatments or God)
On some level we tell ourselves if I could figure out what was happening to get
into this situation (ie chronic illness) I would be able to figure out how to get
out of it but (and heres the rub) since I cant I begin to believe less and less in
my innate healing power and more and more that such power must lie outside of
me ndash with an outside force greater than me (whether medical natural or
spiritual)
Please be clear on this point This is not to underplay the importance of qualified
medical professionals to your progress The same is true of the importance and
value of your spirituality and relation-with God Source Higher Power The point
to take away here is that you can only access the benefits of such healing
relations when YOU are first centered and strong in your own being ndash when you
approach your Self as a sacred Thou
Therefore in the situation where you reflexively turn over your power to heal (to
an outside agent) understand the ensuing damage you risk to your sense of Self
Not only are you diminishing belief in your inherent strength and healing power
you are also at risk of allowing others to determine what is best for your well-
being (perhaps even against your deeper intuitive knowing) all of which only
serves to further undermine Self-esteem and the tremendous power that comes
from believing in your Self
Even our religious upbringing can paradoxically weaken our beliefs regarding the
possibility of cure We learn at a deep level that ldquocurerdquo lies only in the realm of
the miraculous Such an orientation can weaken belief in the possibility of ldquome
being cured nowrdquo In fact when being completely honest many of us feel the
odds of ldquome being cured nowrdquo are as slim or slimmer than winning a million dollar
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lottery And when it does not happen were faced with the more daunting issue
of how I must somehow be ldquoflawedrdquo Clearly such underlying attitudes provide
no foundation on which to construct change much less the dramatic change
required with the desire to ldquobe curedrdquo [Here I recommend another Huber book
There Is Nothing Wrong with You Going Beyond Self-Hate (2001)]
In the end when focused on ldquobeing curedrdquo you may not only become separate
from your innate healing power within but you risk the ultimate medical
mistreatment becoming an object to be worked-on mechanically From here it
can be a rapid slide into the role of ldquovictimrdquo whereby you relinquish your
responsibility for choosing altogether (ie intending-to-create) how it is you truly
desire to be In short you risk losing the creative power of intention required to
give birth to healing
By the mid eighties I had been on daily prednisone for over a decade to control
severe bouts of status asthmaticus and recurrent pneumonia Because the
deleterious side-effects of prednisone included adrenal insufficiency (an impaired
stress response) I knew in my heart-of-hearts one key to my well-being lay in
recovering my atrophied stress axis by discontinuing daily prednisone For years
I pleaded with my pulmonary specialist to assist me in tapering off and relearning
how to live prednisone-free Together we did make a few unsuccessful attempts
only to recycle back into another respiratory infection and still higher doses of
prednisone By this time his posture was that I needed to remain on daily
prednisone ldquofor the rest of my liferdquo My posture was to fire him
Fortunately and in short-order I began working with an internist who over the
next two years laid out a plan to become prednisone-free ndash which we did
together successfully Two significant points must be clearly recognized here
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1 You must believe in your innate healing power and if you do not
currently this then becomes your launch pad for your healing journey ndash
relearning to empower your Self to heal
2 You are not in this alone You require the good works of others in
alignment with you to successfully heal As such you need to be very
selective in picking those others with whom you relate to enhance your
medical well-being
If you are feeling your medical support is sapping your power and authority
they probably are but you dont throw the baby out with the bath This is
not about releasing physicians this is about being in a healing
relationship-with your medical professional(s) of choice
Additional cultural biases arise with a focus on ldquocurerdquo Any true change with
regard to chronic illness implies a change ldquofor the betterrdquo That requires us to
believe with certainty that such change can and will bring improvement After
more than fifteen years working with individuals with chronic illness (including
my Self) it is the rare individual Ive encountered who truly believes (from the
core) ldquoI will be curedrdquo We wish for cure certainly but believing with certainty ldquoI
will be curedrdquo rarely
An origin of not believing in ldquobeing curedrdquo lies in the way we traditionally use the
term One problem in particular is that ldquocurerdquo is not a ldquonowrdquo concept -- that is
something I trust to experience now rather we tend to use ldquocurerdquo in a future-
oriented manner of hoping-for-something-to-happen or (at-best) asking-for
maybe praying for cure to happen Yet it is not in the future that you and I
create anything and this is particularly relevant to healing We only create in
the NOW
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Finally even greater issues arise when we attempt to determine precisely what
we mean by the term ldquocurerdquo As one example are you cured when there is ldquoan
end to the disease processrdquo or could that be ldquoremissionrdquo
Does ldquocurerdquo mean a ldquoreturn to full functioningrdquo (ie as I was before the process
started) Is that even possible Consider the case of a disease process that has
already resulted in disfigurement or amputation What does ldquocurerdquo mean in those
situations
Does ldquocurerdquo mean ldquosymptoms are gonerdquo If so are we then cured when
medications relieve or mask the symptoms altogether Do you understand the
quagmire here
It is for all these reasons above that few people are ever truly ldquocuredrdquo of
anything even if we do allow for those who have experienced ldquomiracle curesrdquo
(which are certainly the exception not the norm) Yet when you and I consider
ldquomy situation nowrdquo we need to have the strength of certainty that improvement
is not only possible but immanent
So if not ldquocurerdquo then what You already know the answer And the answer is
ldquohealingrdquo In the end if ldquocurerdquo is anything it is a future-oriented
disempowering mechanical phenomenon at the physical level In contrast
ldquohealingrdquo is an ongoing process (in this moment) of whole-Self transformation
Consider when we truly and proactively ldquohealrdquo we are creating (now) from the
very depths of our core within We are intending-to-create with all the intensity
and power of commitment passion and agape that arises in creative
transformation It is this innate source of inner power to which we must first
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return ldquoas little childrenrdquo in order to initiate healing
We mask nothing when healing now rather we take an active and response-able
role in bringing peace joy and love directly into our daily lives and the lives of
those we touch NOW this moment and in as many moments as we allow
It is from this strong shared intentional healing foundation that we live with the
most power any human being can possibly experience in alignment with in I-
Thou relation-with in the selfless Love that is the very Source of all creation
This process of transformational healing envelops and extends beyond cure at any
level and unlike ldquocurerdquo it is not some static condition at which we arrive (by
the grace of some outside benevolent authority) Rather such transformational
healing is an ongoing process of BEING-a-certain-way in strength in power
in wisdom in loving relation-with (not only Self but Source God Higher Power)
Let this loving empowered healing be the deep transformation you intend ndash your
moment-to-moment empowered healing transformation from core within
ldquoPRAXISrdquo
We finally come to the term PRAXIS Clients often ask why I use ldquopraxisrdquo rather
than something more familiar like ldquopracticerdquo or ldquoexerciserdquo My answer is very
simple and straight-forward
First we can quickly dispense with the term ldquoexerciserdquo Do you really want to
ldquoexerciserdquo intentional healing each day ndash or would you rather just skip having to
exercise any more than you already know you need to do Enough said
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Now imagine I invite you to ldquoplease make sure and practice your intentional
healing each dayrdquo How do you feel then For me it brings up that I must not
be very good at it especially if I need to be practicing every day
Consider now how you feel when I invite you to ldquoskillfully applyrdquo the intentional
healing process in comfort Doesnt ldquoskillful applicationrdquo feel much more
empowering than ldquopracticingrdquo Since ldquopraxisrdquo means ldquoskillful applicationrdquo isnt it
much more inviting to approach your intentional healing sessions with skill
And you will as you become more comfortable applying the process each day
Other folks also ask if shared-intentional-healingtrade wouldnt be better considered
an ldquoexperimentrdquo much like Lynn McTaggarts The Intention Experiment (2007) I
can see how the notion of an ldquoexperimentrdquo carries with it some sense of intrigue
but ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately represent the experience that is shared-
intentional-healingtrade
First (as we learned in our discussion of ldquointentionalrdquo above) when we participate
in Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade we are as a matter-of-fact intending-to-create
healing Such activity cannot be an ldquoexperimentrdquo or we lose the certainty
required for healing change Rather we set out to generate an experience-of-
relating that is powered by being committed empassioned and selflessly loving
You can likely identify such a committed passionate selflessly loving experience
from some time in your life ndash whether in love among family through an
impassioned hobby in seeking some goal or perhaps spiritually As you already
know such an experience is not something we wish-for or hope-for or need to
wait and see what happens It is simply a loving relating-with experience we
already know how to have We just be it and do it
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Moreover (as I suggested above) there is palpable transformation that occurs
within each of us as we gain comfort participating in shared-intentional-healingtrade
This transformational experience happens through your participation and it will
happen for you ndash no need to experiment just simply participate
Moreover at the heart of it the notion of ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately reflect
the research to date on ldquointentionrdquo and ldquohealingrdquo As an example a 1997 review
of research on ldquoIntercessory Prayer for the Alleviation of Ill Healthrdquo by Roberts
Ahmed Hall amp Davison reports individual studies suggest a positive effect of
intercessory prayer But since they viewed other reports in which the results
were equivocal they conclude no ldquo further trials of this intervention should be
takenrdquo5
Regrettably they miss the point The fact that studies DO exist reporting a
positive correlation between intercessory prayer and the alleviation of ill health is
precisely the reason more studies should be undertaken Edison found hundreds
of approaches that were equivocal before discovering a singular lighting solution
Thank goodness he did not conclude any further trials were unnecessary before
arriving at that solution
When it comes to this uniquely intimate subject of healing Eric Leskowitz MD
(in a review of the book Healing Intention amp Energy Medicine (2002) by Wayne
Jonas MD) explains how such conflicting conclusions like Roberts etal come
about Dr Leskowitz notes when he is in discussions with his allopathic medical
colleagues regarding ldquo inexplicable phenomena like energy healing or
intercessory prayer a sort of allopathic fear reflex kicks inrdquo6 Conclusions
become tunnel-visioned and skewed against even the possibility of such
correlation existing anywhere at any time Hence no further trials
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You may however verify for yourself such positively-correlated research does
indeed already exist by reviewing the studies in Jonas book (above) In
addition Marilyn Schlitz PhD provides a brief outline of just some of those
ldquopositive correlationrdquo studies that highlight the ldquointerface of science spirituality
and medicinerdquo7
If you would like an even more in-depth review I refer you to Consciousness amp
Healing Integral Approaches to Mind-Body Medicine (2005) by Schlitz Amorok
and Micozzi as well as the more recent (2008) Holistic Nursing A Handbook for Practice
5th edition by Dossey amp Keegan
In sum although experimental research has certainly not provided the final
answers on the relation between intention and healing the research to date is
most certainly beyond the ldquoequivocalrdquo suggested by those reflexively reacting
from allopathic fear Those studies completed to date which do display a positive
correlation between intention and healing are already providing a strong practical
foundation of powerful techniques and approaches that go far beyond
ldquoexperimentingrdquo and straight to the heart of skillful-application in daily living
Shared-Intentional-Healingrdquotrade is just one such approach you may access today
and everyday simply by participating in your daily praxis
With the above foundation in mind we can now move on to
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PRAXIS GUIDELINES
Having considered in some depth the foundation on which this method rests we
may now turn to the guidelines describing ldquohow tordquo participate in your daily
Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis
Before you approach your first intentional session please read through the
description and suggestions below Remember these opportunities are for YOU
to BENEFIT YOU Again there is no right way nor wrong way for you to
participate You simply participate in your own best way Therefore as noted
previously the description below is solely meant as a guided outline to assist you
in jump-starting your participation ndash sharing with you some ideas that have
already worked well for others in our Community
For this to be beneficial for everyone please do your best to allot at least 5 to
15 minutes for each intentional session If you are already seasoned at
sitting in quiet you certainly may choose to go longer (eg 30) and you can
trust there are other CYSH members continuing in synchrony with you
To start out let your sessions be for shorter periods of time You will experience
a natural increase in length of participation without having to think about it or
plan for it This is not a race nor a test of endurance This is a nourishing of
Self and a cultivation of your best healing intentions Be gentle
In the beginning it can also be helpful if you imagine sending out your healing
intentions in a particular direction around the globe and returning to you from
the opposite direction This way as you imagine can assist you in creating a
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ldquoflowrdquo with regard to directing intentional healing to all others around the globe
As you become more adept you will very naturally be able to generate healing
images radiating from your whole being equally in all directions You will
become aware there is no particular ldquoupdownrdquo in space-time There is just
ldquoeverywhere hererdquo that is always at the center of the universe ndash as you are at all
times and as is each member
Finally please know you may also invite your friends and loved ones to share
with you in these sessions If they cannot participate with you ask them (at
minimum) to set their healing intention for you and send it like a gift to you each
day This can be helpful to them as well knowing they are actively supporting
you with their selfless loving healing
So let us begin with a session description I have broken it down into 8 separate
action steps below
1 First make time to just sit and be comfortable (nothing ldquoto dordquo now)
Loosen any tight clothing
2 Begin breathing slowly until you relax into a comfortable natural pace
This is a time for gentleness Simply allow experience to happen and
follow experience moment-to-moment as you proceed
3 Slowly scan your entire being from head to toes inside and out If you
notice any part of you in tension just allow it to relax naturally and
dissolve with each out-breath
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Note It may take you 2 or more breathing cycles to notice the muscles in a
particular area begin to relax There are times as well when you may just
need to continue on with your scan trusting that the area will release as you
proceed Again this is time for gentle following
4 Once relaxed (as much as may be possible for now) INVITE your Self to
allow and receive healing intention and healing love
Note This may not feel natural or normal within and like a child the
knee-jerk reaction may indeed be to rebel You are merely sending an
invitation nothing more As you repeat this intentional healing invitation
each day you will soon begin to notice that you are indeed looking forward
to this opportunity
5 You are now comfortable relaxed and intentional within It is time now
to image all the other CYSH Members with whom you are sharing this
time Know they too are seeking to generate healing for your challenges
just as you are for theirs Depending on your beliefs it is here that you
may also invite connect with your source of spiritual power (God
Source Higher Power Buddha) to participate with you
6 Spend the next minutes imagining a Circle of Intentional Healing
Energy flowing into you from all the others and out from you to all
others Allow it to be easy natural like the earthrsquos flow of water
circulating from sky to earth and back to sky simply relax into this flow
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Note It may help to imagine your healing intentions emanating from about
2 finger-widths behind and about 3 finger-widths below your navel This
site (known as the ldquolower dan tienrdquo or ldquoharardquo) is considered the physical
center of gravity around which you are in perfect balance
From this point you can imagine healing intention flowing up your trunk
through your neck and head and out the top of your head to the other
CYSH members
The healing intention returning to you can be experienced as coming into
you at the same center of gravity point from which you started
Important Do not attempt to localize your intentions to any one region
within (brain heart liver etc) the reason being that a given illness process
occurs across and between physiological systems (even though we may talk
as if it is isolated to one system) It is best to imagine your entire Self
within a cocoon or bubble of flowing healing intention ndash everywhere within
you at once You may experience color warmth safety Luxuriate in your
experience Enjoy the moment
During this intentional time it can also be helpful on a given inout cycle of
breath to silently express I send out Loving Healing On the next
inout cycle silently express I receive Loving Healing and so on
In addition if your mind wanders off task (amp it will) just gently return to
the flow of loving healing intention Remember this experience is all about
being gentle Enjoy the process
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Continue in this state for as long as you desire and is easy comfortable
and natural With practice your will naturally be at ease for longer
periods of time during each session
7 When complete express gratitude to your Self as well as to all others
sharing in this moment with you Sit in this experience of gratitude for a
few moments
8 Savor the nourishing peace you have generated
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8-STEP PRAXIS REVIEW
1 SIT in comfort
2 BREATHE slowly rhythmically
3 SCAN (head to toes) to relax further still
4 INVITE SELF to allow healing intention
5 RELATE-WITH all other CYSH members amp Spiritual Power
6 SENDRECEIVE intentional healing
ldquoI send out Loving Healingrdquo ldquoI receive Loving Healingrdquo
7 Sit in GRATITUDE
8 SAVOR the nourishing peace
I genuinely look forward to your daily participation and to sharing this powerful
healing process with you I would love to hear your experiences with your praxis
Please do feel free to email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom)
My mission is to Coach You Well
Sincerely amp Caringly
MALCOLM
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REFERENCES
1 Chopra Deepak (1994) The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success ndash A Practical Guide to
the Fulfillment of Your Dreams p76
2 Chopra Deepak (1999) A Deepak Chopra Companion Illuminations on Health and
Human Consciousness p94
3 Dyer httpwwwyoutubecomwatchv=DC-FPorUW7gampfeature=related
4 Buber Martin (1971) I And Thou
5 Intercessory prayer httpwwwcochraneorgreviewsenab000368html
6 Leskowitz httpwholistichealingresearchcom42books12
7 Schlitz httpxnetkporgpermanentejournalsum05evidencepdf
copy2009byMFDayton
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ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Malcolm Dayton LPC Cht is a Licensed Counselor with more than two decades coaching individuals and families facing chronic illness He is also certified in MindBody Medicine and Hypnotherapy
Malcolms Coaching Self Healing program is unique in that he calls on his own lifelong journey with chronic illness (multiple sclerosis asthma immune deficiency) to assist you in accessing your unique healing solutions Very simply Malcolm walks his coaching
His coaching program is truly integral-- that is healing solutions are practical in focus and applied comprehensively incorporating all dimensions of your experience from symptoms to wellness from relations within self to social relations from the physical to spiritual--a truly ecological approach to Self Healing You learn to be FULLIVINGtrade ndash to thrive beyond chronic illness
Malcolms mission is to Coach You WELL
CONTACTMalcolm Dayton LPC CHt
email mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom
phone 970-689-4247
Yes Malcolm Im ready to discover
the benefits of Self Healing Coaching NOW
Sign me up now for myCOMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION
Be Well And THRIVE Beyond Chronic Illness Now
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INTRODUCTION
Welcome to Coaching Your Self Healing (CYSH) During your time with CYSH
you will have many opportunities to learn new and powerful self healing
tools which (when applied as you go through your daily living) will lead you
directly to experience more happiness health well-being and ease what I
call FULLIVINGtrade ndash that state of Being marked by THRIVING beyond chronic
illness
How can I make such a bold statement Because these are the same tools Ive
learned to apply over 4 decades to manage asthma immune disorder and
multiple sclerosis Moreover these are the same skills Ive taught hundreds of
others with chronic illness over the recent 15 years of my clinical practice and by
applying these abilities daily these folks too have learned to improve their daily
living beyond chronic illness to be FULLIVINGtrade
Please take time to read through this report more than once It is a rather quick
read yet so much of this information forms the foundation to your ongoing Self
Healing as much as it also lays out the process for performing your shared-
intentional-healingtrade praxis
Do take the time to apply these principles to your own daily encounter with
chronic illness Skillfully applying the process described in this report (together
with the tools provided in the article series Empower Your Self to Heal Chronic
Illness) you will at once powerfully launch and accelerate your personal
journey into Self Healing
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Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis
One of the more powerful (and empowering) practices CYSH offers you is your
daily Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis (SIHP) This compelling activity
provides various times throughout each day when you can stop the noise in your
life and focus your attention (and intention) on FULLIVINGtrade for your Self as
well as for all the members of your CYSH community At any of the scheduled
times you may take a break from the busyness of your day amp take 5 to 15
minutes to send (amp receive) shared healing intentions in concert with all the
other CYSH members The details of ldquohow tordquo participate in this shared activity
are provided later in this report
Before jumping into the mechanics however we will first take a few moments to
construct the foundation for your daily Shared-Intentional-Healingrdquotrade Praxis
Doing so will assist you in better understanding and skillfully applying this
empowering Self Healing approach
You may keep up-to-date on new or added information to this report by referring to
the tri-monthly Your Self Healing Journey News (you receive as part of your
CYSH membership) as well as by returning to the Coaching Your Self Healing blog
(httpwwwCoachingSelfHealingcomblog)
Note In this report I use the word ldquoselfrdquo in a capitalized form as ldquoSelfrdquo You may
find a detailed account on this use of ldquoSelfrdquo in the article Empower Your Self to Heal
Chronic Illness Part 1 Who is the self in Self Healing
For our purposes here Self is that deep core of you the essential being you were
at birth before defining yourself by the cultural identifiers thrust onto you growing-
up and beyond those you have used to create your place in the world
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ANALYSIS
of
Your Daily Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis
ldquoYOURrdquo
First this is truly YOUR activity You may do this at whatever times you choose
and on whatever days feel right for you You may choose to participate once per
day or more frequently on certain days This is YOUR Self Healing program
You access the benefits by proactively participating in SIHP FULLIVINGtrade
benefits accrue as you routinely apply and participate in this approach As you
feel more comfortable and natural during your sessions you may notice you are
more relaxed and calm as you carry out the remainder of your day Symptoms
may seem less troubling less intense and easier to manage You can notice an
improvement in your general mood and more felt-moments of happiness The
fact that you know you are participating not only for your own benefit but the
benefit of all other CYSH members will bring a smile to your face and a
meaningful sense of Self worth for giving so genuinely from your heart
You may also discover applying SIHP can help with the more difficult times you
face Imagine you have been participating in shared-intentional-healingtrade
sessions at about 1 session per day Then because of a virus or change in
medications you enter a more difficult period of heightened symptoms perhaps
leading to a drop-off in your participation Two things to keep in mind here
1 You may email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom) to request other CYSH
members keep YOU in our special intentions during the times we are
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participating in SIHP each day
You do not need to provide identifying information merely some information
about your age gender and what you may be going through at this time This
will assist other members to generate an image of who your are as we focus
our healing intentions for you
2 During these more challenging times you may discover you can access
even more energy and peace by actually increasing the number of times
each day you participate in sessions Please do test this out for yourself
over time
This is not only your program but the process itself is yours as well that is YOU
define what intentional healing is for you according to your history and
experiences your desires and goals No person outside of you can clarify the
means by which you define and measure healing progress nor what results or
goals are more or less important to you as you apply the skills you learn in the
Coaching Your Self Healing program
The steps outlined later in this report are merely guidelines to assist you in
participating in your daily Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis They serve as
guides suggestions to help you get started You will find your own unique way to
participate ndash the way that simply works best for you
So please do explore the process play with it and have fun Whenever you do
come across some variation that is particularly beneficial please send it along to
me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom) so I may pass it along to benefit other
members in our CYSH community
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ldquoDAILYrdquo
You may choose among eight times each day to participate in this practice
900 AM amp PM EST 1200 AM amp PM EST 300 AM amp PM EST and 600 AM amp
PM EST The eight times are provided in order for CYSH members from around
the globe to participate at a convenient time in your time zone as well as
convenient to your schedule around the clock each day Clearly you may
participate at any of the session times regardless of your location
If for some reason you cannot participate during any of these times please do
email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom) so I may be informed of any
scheduling problems that I am not currently taking into consideration My goal
here is to develop a daily schedule that works for everyone around the globe (and
around the clock each day) To start out I would encourage you to set a
reminder alarm a few minutes before your scheduled time ndash at least until you
have formed a comfortable habit of participating in the sessions
I will be present and participate during at least two sessions everyday and I will
rotate through session times each day That way at least every four days you
and I will be attending together at the same time Please understand however
there is never any expectation for you to participate at any particular time(s) nor
on any given day When you participate depends solely on your inner comfort
and your positive intention when you do take part
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Providing so many times is meant solely as a way to coordinate our attention and
energies in synchrony with other community members There is no need to be
concerned about the ldquorightrdquo time to participate As already noted your energies
are better-focused on being-present your comfort and on positive intention
There simply is no ldquorightrdquo time just the time that is right for you
Another advantage of having eight scheduled times each day is to provide
flexibility for you to adjust your participation in response to changes in your
symptom experiences As noted earlier when going through more difficult
symptomatic periods that are disrupting to your routine participating in
additional praxis times (rather than focusing on symptoms) may assist you with
limiting intensity and duration of the exacerbation ndash particularly by generating
more relaxation and rest
Still another helpful way you may consider your praxis ldquotimerdquo has been clarified
by Einstein physicists and spiritual leaders through history What they have
shown us is that ldquotimerdquo is a construct (a ldquoboxrdquo) and is not really ldquoout thererdquo at
all Indeed if ldquotimerdquo exists it can only be NOW
Such a perspective can be extremely nourishing when considering what Deepak
Chopra MD and Wayne Dyer PhD call the ldquogaprdquo The gap is that experience in
which you are ldquocenteredrdquo in the ldquosilent space between thoughtsrdquo When in the
gap you are at that ldquolevel of Being which is your essential staterdquo1 This
experience of being-in-the-gap is timeless ndash rdquothe womb of creationrdquo2 It is within
this state of experience that healing occurs
As you perform your praxis each day you will naturally and directly begin to
experience the timeless-being of the gap firsthand Once you recognize this
experience you will realize that whatever time of day you actually participate in
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SIHP you are doing it in the same NOW as all other CYSH members ndash even
though your session ldquoclock timesrdquo differ throughout the day
ldquoSHAREDrdquo
Remember the key here is that you are surrounding your Self with the one
heartbeat of all the other community members Your attention your energy
and your intentions are SHARED by all ndash just as their energies and intentions are
shared with and for you It is this attitude of sharing-with a wholehearted
giving-to that is key to this approach It is very simple As you give from
your heart-of-caring so you will receive
Be comforted in knowing that by simply participating once a day (after even a
few short days) you will begin to feel more comfortable more at ease more at
peace now than you may have experienced in years AND you know you are
contributing to the FULLIVINGtrade of others that is contributing beyond well-
being into the very heart of healing Trust me when I say your peace and your
giving heart provide a strong (and necessary) foundation on which to build
healing for each of us and of all of us together
ldquoINTENTIONALrdquo
So what does it mean to be INTENTIONAL One of the most helpful reviews of
ldquointentionrdquo is provided by Wayne Dyer PhD3 In Dyers The Power of Intention
(2005) he describes how we may ldquowishrdquo for something to occur in our lives but
such wishing is only a beginning
We may also choose to take the next step beyond wishing to ldquodesirerdquo Desire
results in taking action on the wish and is proactively distinct from wishing It is
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with desire that we now straight-forwardly make the ldquoaskrdquo (as in ldquoask and you
shall receiverdquo)
Still again we can step-up the intensity of our activity even more (beyond
wishing and asking) that is we may frame our desire in terms of what we
actually ldquointend to createrdquo Stop here for a moment close your eyes and feel
the power in these words I INTEND TO CREATE Period And again
I INTEND TO CREATE
We are very matter-of-fact about bringing the thing wished for desired
requested into experience No doubt No fear Creating healing now is simply a
given that occurs by way of you actively participating Period
Such intention-to-create by definition requires both commitment and passion
With commitment we are beyond ldquotryingrdquo to make the thing happen and
instead move into what I call devotion-to-creating (from the original French
devovere ldquodedicated by a vowrdquo) With such devotion we experience a much
deeper more profound state of being an awareness beyond ego
Devotion-to-creating allows you to act beyond the ldquooughtsrdquo and ldquoshouldsrdquo of
others beyond your own doubts and fears beyond obligation and guilt and
directly to the heart of being inspired (ldquodrawing in of airrdquo ldquoinspiritrdquo) that is you
are drawn into relation-with the powerful and empowering Source that creates
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It is by being inspired that you meet the paradox at the heart of ldquointendingrdquo As
you proactively intend-to-create you naturally come to experience being
committed devoted and inspired however you actually create only inasmuch as
you allow your Self to follow the flow of your inspiration naturally ndash that is as
you open your Self to receive Therefore as you intend to heal you must
also open to receive healing
As such it is important you recognize healing happens as you ldquoget out of your
own wayrdquo beyond intellect desire doubt and ego How do we do that How do
we get out of our own way beyond ego Very simply you do that by allowing
your Self to trust your healing
Please take a moment here to recall a time when you were injured in some way
(maybe a cut or broken bone) Beyond receiving necessary medical assistance
what did you do to mend to heal Once attended to medically its likely that you
never gave the actual processes of ldquohealingrdquo much thought ndash dying cells cleared
away new cells forming and eventually performing as if they had been there all
along as if nothing ever happened Healing just occurred your part was to trust
the process take good care of yourself and allow it Whether conscious or not
you simply trusted yourself to heal
It is that same trust you must have as you now commit-to-create intentional
healing Your whole Self system ldquoknowsrdquo how and what needs healing and in
what specific sequence of steps healing must occur Self does not need the
agreement of intellect or common sense to proceed naturally with healing Self
has been carrying out that process every nano-second of every day of your life ndash
simultaneously coordinating trillions of biochemical and energetic activities in
every cell of your entire being Heart beats lungs breath intestines digest and
your job is simply to get out of your own way and trust your Self to heal
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As you do alongside this intense Self-trust and commitment-to-create (our vow)
passion takes over and leads the way beyond common sense beyond
doubting intellect beyond beliefs and even beyond perceptions Such intense
passion emanating from your heart is very simply ldquoagaperdquo (selfless Love) In
this state you no longer experience others as separate bounded subject-object
(I-It) rather you share together in a living boundless oneness-of-relating
honoring the encounter by giving your present and your presence to the
sacredness of ldquoI-Thourdquo4
Map of HEALING INTENTION
I WISH
I DESIRE (ASK)
I INTEND-TO-CREATE
INCLUDES I COMMIT-TO-CREATE (I Vow = Devotion-to-creating)
I AM PASSIONATE
(I am Inspired)
PARADOX OF INTENDING (I Allow I Receive I Trust My Self to Heal)
I-THOU (Agape)
Figure copy2009 by MFDayton
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It is this deep experience of heartfelt passion and selfless Love you are aiming to
access directly (and share) when you intend from the heart when you are
performing your shared-intentional-healingtrade praxis
So once again stop for a moment now to imagine Imagine the tremendous
healing power at your disposal when you step into your shared session each day
with the intention-to-create healing It means you are committing to heal
vowing to heal trusting your Self to heal by way of your impassioned
heart You are giving your presence to merge as one-heartbeat in
synchrony and selfless love with all other CYSH members in this moment
now Therein lies the true power of your healing intention
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ldquoHEALINGrdquo (beyond ldquobeing curedrdquo)
Clearly what we intend to create during each praxis is HEALING your healing
healing for other members my healing and our healing together as one Yet do
you really know what you mean when you say ldquoI intend to healrdquo
Whenever we take time to reflect on the notion of ldquohealingrdquo typically one of the
first things that bubbles up into awareness is some hope of being ldquocuredrdquo Given
the difficulties and challenges we can face in just making it through even the
most simple of daily activities ldquocurerdquo can be so very inviting Indeed given the
opportunity who of us wouldnt want to be cured of a chronic illness And cured
NOW
Yet by seeking to ldquobe curedrdquo we can become entrenched in even more intense
challenges and symptom exacerbation How could that be What could
possibly be wrong with hoping for a cure
There is nothing wrong with hoping dreaming goal setting Indeed these
activities can provide momentum power purpose and direction to an otherwise
difficult day Yet the moment we turn our attention to ldquobeing curedrdquo our focus
immediately comes to rest on that which we desire to be ldquocured ofrdquo to ldquoget away
fromrdquo and it is here we become derailed Its like the age-old challenge to ldquonot
think of a blue elephantrdquo We must first conceive such a beast before we cannot
think about it
So too with ldquocurerdquo ndash We must first converge our attention and energies even
more intensely on the illness and the symptoms we wish to cease Clearly this
activity takes us in the opposite direction from the relief and health we are
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seeking In fact it is the same process described by Cheri Huber in one of her
more remarkable books entitled That Which You Are Seeking Is Causing You To
Seek (1990) Take a moment now to think about her title in relation to ldquoThe cure
I am seeking is rdquo In short to focus on cure heightens our experience of
dis-ease
To clarify even further when we focus on such moving-away-from-activities we
have no clear vision of what it is we are moving toward Without such clarity our
odds of failing escalate exponentially Success happens only as we also move
toward clearly-defined desires and goals A simple yet powerful example is this
years 40th anniversary of the Apollo 11 moon landing Was that ldquogiant steprdquo
successful because the leaders at NASA focused energy solely on how to create
escape velocity to ldquoget away fromrdquo earth ndash or also on how to get onto the moon
Another helpful example is wanting ldquoout ofrdquo a job Im sure you know of someone
(perhaps yourself) intent on getting away from the daily grind of hisher job Yet
when she did successfully leave that employment inevitably and much too soon
the same situation landslides into the daily grind of the next job Repeating old
patterns of struggle is a very clear sign of actions based on moving-away-
from goals This is a key principle to apply to all aspects of your daily living
The reason this occurs with the get-me-outta-here script is that whatever change
may happen generally does so from ldquowithoutrdquo At best we change scenery Its
the old grass-is-greener scenario ndash which is really no change at all
The inherent problem here can be even more perilous as we see when we take a
closer look at the wording ldquobeing curedrdquo We tend to redirect our attention from
within (our source of creative power) to some force outside that causes the cure
for us (whether that be by way of a physician a healer natural substances
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medications treatments or God)
On some level we tell ourselves if I could figure out what was happening to get
into this situation (ie chronic illness) I would be able to figure out how to get
out of it but (and heres the rub) since I cant I begin to believe less and less in
my innate healing power and more and more that such power must lie outside of
me ndash with an outside force greater than me (whether medical natural or
spiritual)
Please be clear on this point This is not to underplay the importance of qualified
medical professionals to your progress The same is true of the importance and
value of your spirituality and relation-with God Source Higher Power The point
to take away here is that you can only access the benefits of such healing
relations when YOU are first centered and strong in your own being ndash when you
approach your Self as a sacred Thou
Therefore in the situation where you reflexively turn over your power to heal (to
an outside agent) understand the ensuing damage you risk to your sense of Self
Not only are you diminishing belief in your inherent strength and healing power
you are also at risk of allowing others to determine what is best for your well-
being (perhaps even against your deeper intuitive knowing) all of which only
serves to further undermine Self-esteem and the tremendous power that comes
from believing in your Self
Even our religious upbringing can paradoxically weaken our beliefs regarding the
possibility of cure We learn at a deep level that ldquocurerdquo lies only in the realm of
the miraculous Such an orientation can weaken belief in the possibility of ldquome
being cured nowrdquo In fact when being completely honest many of us feel the
odds of ldquome being cured nowrdquo are as slim or slimmer than winning a million dollar
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lottery And when it does not happen were faced with the more daunting issue
of how I must somehow be ldquoflawedrdquo Clearly such underlying attitudes provide
no foundation on which to construct change much less the dramatic change
required with the desire to ldquobe curedrdquo [Here I recommend another Huber book
There Is Nothing Wrong with You Going Beyond Self-Hate (2001)]
In the end when focused on ldquobeing curedrdquo you may not only become separate
from your innate healing power within but you risk the ultimate medical
mistreatment becoming an object to be worked-on mechanically From here it
can be a rapid slide into the role of ldquovictimrdquo whereby you relinquish your
responsibility for choosing altogether (ie intending-to-create) how it is you truly
desire to be In short you risk losing the creative power of intention required to
give birth to healing
By the mid eighties I had been on daily prednisone for over a decade to control
severe bouts of status asthmaticus and recurrent pneumonia Because the
deleterious side-effects of prednisone included adrenal insufficiency (an impaired
stress response) I knew in my heart-of-hearts one key to my well-being lay in
recovering my atrophied stress axis by discontinuing daily prednisone For years
I pleaded with my pulmonary specialist to assist me in tapering off and relearning
how to live prednisone-free Together we did make a few unsuccessful attempts
only to recycle back into another respiratory infection and still higher doses of
prednisone By this time his posture was that I needed to remain on daily
prednisone ldquofor the rest of my liferdquo My posture was to fire him
Fortunately and in short-order I began working with an internist who over the
next two years laid out a plan to become prednisone-free ndash which we did
together successfully Two significant points must be clearly recognized here
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1 You must believe in your innate healing power and if you do not
currently this then becomes your launch pad for your healing journey ndash
relearning to empower your Self to heal
2 You are not in this alone You require the good works of others in
alignment with you to successfully heal As such you need to be very
selective in picking those others with whom you relate to enhance your
medical well-being
If you are feeling your medical support is sapping your power and authority
they probably are but you dont throw the baby out with the bath This is
not about releasing physicians this is about being in a healing
relationship-with your medical professional(s) of choice
Additional cultural biases arise with a focus on ldquocurerdquo Any true change with
regard to chronic illness implies a change ldquofor the betterrdquo That requires us to
believe with certainty that such change can and will bring improvement After
more than fifteen years working with individuals with chronic illness (including
my Self) it is the rare individual Ive encountered who truly believes (from the
core) ldquoI will be curedrdquo We wish for cure certainly but believing with certainty ldquoI
will be curedrdquo rarely
An origin of not believing in ldquobeing curedrdquo lies in the way we traditionally use the
term One problem in particular is that ldquocurerdquo is not a ldquonowrdquo concept -- that is
something I trust to experience now rather we tend to use ldquocurerdquo in a future-
oriented manner of hoping-for-something-to-happen or (at-best) asking-for
maybe praying for cure to happen Yet it is not in the future that you and I
create anything and this is particularly relevant to healing We only create in
the NOW
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Finally even greater issues arise when we attempt to determine precisely what
we mean by the term ldquocurerdquo As one example are you cured when there is ldquoan
end to the disease processrdquo or could that be ldquoremissionrdquo
Does ldquocurerdquo mean a ldquoreturn to full functioningrdquo (ie as I was before the process
started) Is that even possible Consider the case of a disease process that has
already resulted in disfigurement or amputation What does ldquocurerdquo mean in those
situations
Does ldquocurerdquo mean ldquosymptoms are gonerdquo If so are we then cured when
medications relieve or mask the symptoms altogether Do you understand the
quagmire here
It is for all these reasons above that few people are ever truly ldquocuredrdquo of
anything even if we do allow for those who have experienced ldquomiracle curesrdquo
(which are certainly the exception not the norm) Yet when you and I consider
ldquomy situation nowrdquo we need to have the strength of certainty that improvement
is not only possible but immanent
So if not ldquocurerdquo then what You already know the answer And the answer is
ldquohealingrdquo In the end if ldquocurerdquo is anything it is a future-oriented
disempowering mechanical phenomenon at the physical level In contrast
ldquohealingrdquo is an ongoing process (in this moment) of whole-Self transformation
Consider when we truly and proactively ldquohealrdquo we are creating (now) from the
very depths of our core within We are intending-to-create with all the intensity
and power of commitment passion and agape that arises in creative
transformation It is this innate source of inner power to which we must first
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return ldquoas little childrenrdquo in order to initiate healing
We mask nothing when healing now rather we take an active and response-able
role in bringing peace joy and love directly into our daily lives and the lives of
those we touch NOW this moment and in as many moments as we allow
It is from this strong shared intentional healing foundation that we live with the
most power any human being can possibly experience in alignment with in I-
Thou relation-with in the selfless Love that is the very Source of all creation
This process of transformational healing envelops and extends beyond cure at any
level and unlike ldquocurerdquo it is not some static condition at which we arrive (by
the grace of some outside benevolent authority) Rather such transformational
healing is an ongoing process of BEING-a-certain-way in strength in power
in wisdom in loving relation-with (not only Self but Source God Higher Power)
Let this loving empowered healing be the deep transformation you intend ndash your
moment-to-moment empowered healing transformation from core within
ldquoPRAXISrdquo
We finally come to the term PRAXIS Clients often ask why I use ldquopraxisrdquo rather
than something more familiar like ldquopracticerdquo or ldquoexerciserdquo My answer is very
simple and straight-forward
First we can quickly dispense with the term ldquoexerciserdquo Do you really want to
ldquoexerciserdquo intentional healing each day ndash or would you rather just skip having to
exercise any more than you already know you need to do Enough said
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Now imagine I invite you to ldquoplease make sure and practice your intentional
healing each dayrdquo How do you feel then For me it brings up that I must not
be very good at it especially if I need to be practicing every day
Consider now how you feel when I invite you to ldquoskillfully applyrdquo the intentional
healing process in comfort Doesnt ldquoskillful applicationrdquo feel much more
empowering than ldquopracticingrdquo Since ldquopraxisrdquo means ldquoskillful applicationrdquo isnt it
much more inviting to approach your intentional healing sessions with skill
And you will as you become more comfortable applying the process each day
Other folks also ask if shared-intentional-healingtrade wouldnt be better considered
an ldquoexperimentrdquo much like Lynn McTaggarts The Intention Experiment (2007) I
can see how the notion of an ldquoexperimentrdquo carries with it some sense of intrigue
but ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately represent the experience that is shared-
intentional-healingtrade
First (as we learned in our discussion of ldquointentionalrdquo above) when we participate
in Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade we are as a matter-of-fact intending-to-create
healing Such activity cannot be an ldquoexperimentrdquo or we lose the certainty
required for healing change Rather we set out to generate an experience-of-
relating that is powered by being committed empassioned and selflessly loving
You can likely identify such a committed passionate selflessly loving experience
from some time in your life ndash whether in love among family through an
impassioned hobby in seeking some goal or perhaps spiritually As you already
know such an experience is not something we wish-for or hope-for or need to
wait and see what happens It is simply a loving relating-with experience we
already know how to have We just be it and do it
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Moreover (as I suggested above) there is palpable transformation that occurs
within each of us as we gain comfort participating in shared-intentional-healingtrade
This transformational experience happens through your participation and it will
happen for you ndash no need to experiment just simply participate
Moreover at the heart of it the notion of ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately reflect
the research to date on ldquointentionrdquo and ldquohealingrdquo As an example a 1997 review
of research on ldquoIntercessory Prayer for the Alleviation of Ill Healthrdquo by Roberts
Ahmed Hall amp Davison reports individual studies suggest a positive effect of
intercessory prayer But since they viewed other reports in which the results
were equivocal they conclude no ldquo further trials of this intervention should be
takenrdquo5
Regrettably they miss the point The fact that studies DO exist reporting a
positive correlation between intercessory prayer and the alleviation of ill health is
precisely the reason more studies should be undertaken Edison found hundreds
of approaches that were equivocal before discovering a singular lighting solution
Thank goodness he did not conclude any further trials were unnecessary before
arriving at that solution
When it comes to this uniquely intimate subject of healing Eric Leskowitz MD
(in a review of the book Healing Intention amp Energy Medicine (2002) by Wayne
Jonas MD) explains how such conflicting conclusions like Roberts etal come
about Dr Leskowitz notes when he is in discussions with his allopathic medical
colleagues regarding ldquo inexplicable phenomena like energy healing or
intercessory prayer a sort of allopathic fear reflex kicks inrdquo6 Conclusions
become tunnel-visioned and skewed against even the possibility of such
correlation existing anywhere at any time Hence no further trials
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You may however verify for yourself such positively-correlated research does
indeed already exist by reviewing the studies in Jonas book (above) In
addition Marilyn Schlitz PhD provides a brief outline of just some of those
ldquopositive correlationrdquo studies that highlight the ldquointerface of science spirituality
and medicinerdquo7
If you would like an even more in-depth review I refer you to Consciousness amp
Healing Integral Approaches to Mind-Body Medicine (2005) by Schlitz Amorok
and Micozzi as well as the more recent (2008) Holistic Nursing A Handbook for Practice
5th edition by Dossey amp Keegan
In sum although experimental research has certainly not provided the final
answers on the relation between intention and healing the research to date is
most certainly beyond the ldquoequivocalrdquo suggested by those reflexively reacting
from allopathic fear Those studies completed to date which do display a positive
correlation between intention and healing are already providing a strong practical
foundation of powerful techniques and approaches that go far beyond
ldquoexperimentingrdquo and straight to the heart of skillful-application in daily living
Shared-Intentional-Healingrdquotrade is just one such approach you may access today
and everyday simply by participating in your daily praxis
With the above foundation in mind we can now move on to
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PRAXIS GUIDELINES
Having considered in some depth the foundation on which this method rests we
may now turn to the guidelines describing ldquohow tordquo participate in your daily
Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis
Before you approach your first intentional session please read through the
description and suggestions below Remember these opportunities are for YOU
to BENEFIT YOU Again there is no right way nor wrong way for you to
participate You simply participate in your own best way Therefore as noted
previously the description below is solely meant as a guided outline to assist you
in jump-starting your participation ndash sharing with you some ideas that have
already worked well for others in our Community
For this to be beneficial for everyone please do your best to allot at least 5 to
15 minutes for each intentional session If you are already seasoned at
sitting in quiet you certainly may choose to go longer (eg 30) and you can
trust there are other CYSH members continuing in synchrony with you
To start out let your sessions be for shorter periods of time You will experience
a natural increase in length of participation without having to think about it or
plan for it This is not a race nor a test of endurance This is a nourishing of
Self and a cultivation of your best healing intentions Be gentle
In the beginning it can also be helpful if you imagine sending out your healing
intentions in a particular direction around the globe and returning to you from
the opposite direction This way as you imagine can assist you in creating a
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ldquoflowrdquo with regard to directing intentional healing to all others around the globe
As you become more adept you will very naturally be able to generate healing
images radiating from your whole being equally in all directions You will
become aware there is no particular ldquoupdownrdquo in space-time There is just
ldquoeverywhere hererdquo that is always at the center of the universe ndash as you are at all
times and as is each member
Finally please know you may also invite your friends and loved ones to share
with you in these sessions If they cannot participate with you ask them (at
minimum) to set their healing intention for you and send it like a gift to you each
day This can be helpful to them as well knowing they are actively supporting
you with their selfless loving healing
So let us begin with a session description I have broken it down into 8 separate
action steps below
1 First make time to just sit and be comfortable (nothing ldquoto dordquo now)
Loosen any tight clothing
2 Begin breathing slowly until you relax into a comfortable natural pace
This is a time for gentleness Simply allow experience to happen and
follow experience moment-to-moment as you proceed
3 Slowly scan your entire being from head to toes inside and out If you
notice any part of you in tension just allow it to relax naturally and
dissolve with each out-breath
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Note It may take you 2 or more breathing cycles to notice the muscles in a
particular area begin to relax There are times as well when you may just
need to continue on with your scan trusting that the area will release as you
proceed Again this is time for gentle following
4 Once relaxed (as much as may be possible for now) INVITE your Self to
allow and receive healing intention and healing love
Note This may not feel natural or normal within and like a child the
knee-jerk reaction may indeed be to rebel You are merely sending an
invitation nothing more As you repeat this intentional healing invitation
each day you will soon begin to notice that you are indeed looking forward
to this opportunity
5 You are now comfortable relaxed and intentional within It is time now
to image all the other CYSH Members with whom you are sharing this
time Know they too are seeking to generate healing for your challenges
just as you are for theirs Depending on your beliefs it is here that you
may also invite connect with your source of spiritual power (God
Source Higher Power Buddha) to participate with you
6 Spend the next minutes imagining a Circle of Intentional Healing
Energy flowing into you from all the others and out from you to all
others Allow it to be easy natural like the earthrsquos flow of water
circulating from sky to earth and back to sky simply relax into this flow
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Note It may help to imagine your healing intentions emanating from about
2 finger-widths behind and about 3 finger-widths below your navel This
site (known as the ldquolower dan tienrdquo or ldquoharardquo) is considered the physical
center of gravity around which you are in perfect balance
From this point you can imagine healing intention flowing up your trunk
through your neck and head and out the top of your head to the other
CYSH members
The healing intention returning to you can be experienced as coming into
you at the same center of gravity point from which you started
Important Do not attempt to localize your intentions to any one region
within (brain heart liver etc) the reason being that a given illness process
occurs across and between physiological systems (even though we may talk
as if it is isolated to one system) It is best to imagine your entire Self
within a cocoon or bubble of flowing healing intention ndash everywhere within
you at once You may experience color warmth safety Luxuriate in your
experience Enjoy the moment
During this intentional time it can also be helpful on a given inout cycle of
breath to silently express I send out Loving Healing On the next
inout cycle silently express I receive Loving Healing and so on
In addition if your mind wanders off task (amp it will) just gently return to
the flow of loving healing intention Remember this experience is all about
being gentle Enjoy the process
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Continue in this state for as long as you desire and is easy comfortable
and natural With practice your will naturally be at ease for longer
periods of time during each session
7 When complete express gratitude to your Self as well as to all others
sharing in this moment with you Sit in this experience of gratitude for a
few moments
8 Savor the nourishing peace you have generated
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8-STEP PRAXIS REVIEW
1 SIT in comfort
2 BREATHE slowly rhythmically
3 SCAN (head to toes) to relax further still
4 INVITE SELF to allow healing intention
5 RELATE-WITH all other CYSH members amp Spiritual Power
6 SENDRECEIVE intentional healing
ldquoI send out Loving Healingrdquo ldquoI receive Loving Healingrdquo
7 Sit in GRATITUDE
8 SAVOR the nourishing peace
I genuinely look forward to your daily participation and to sharing this powerful
healing process with you I would love to hear your experiences with your praxis
Please do feel free to email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom)
My mission is to Coach You Well
Sincerely amp Caringly
MALCOLM
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REFERENCES
1 Chopra Deepak (1994) The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success ndash A Practical Guide to
the Fulfillment of Your Dreams p76
2 Chopra Deepak (1999) A Deepak Chopra Companion Illuminations on Health and
Human Consciousness p94
3 Dyer httpwwwyoutubecomwatchv=DC-FPorUW7gampfeature=related
4 Buber Martin (1971) I And Thou
5 Intercessory prayer httpwwwcochraneorgreviewsenab000368html
6 Leskowitz httpwholistichealingresearchcom42books12
7 Schlitz httpxnetkporgpermanentejournalsum05evidencepdf
copy2009byMFDayton
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ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Malcolm Dayton LPC Cht is a Licensed Counselor with more than two decades coaching individuals and families facing chronic illness He is also certified in MindBody Medicine and Hypnotherapy
Malcolms Coaching Self Healing program is unique in that he calls on his own lifelong journey with chronic illness (multiple sclerosis asthma immune deficiency) to assist you in accessing your unique healing solutions Very simply Malcolm walks his coaching
His coaching program is truly integral-- that is healing solutions are practical in focus and applied comprehensively incorporating all dimensions of your experience from symptoms to wellness from relations within self to social relations from the physical to spiritual--a truly ecological approach to Self Healing You learn to be FULLIVINGtrade ndash to thrive beyond chronic illness
Malcolms mission is to Coach You WELL
CONTACTMalcolm Dayton LPC CHt
email mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom
phone 970-689-4247
Yes Malcolm Im ready to discover
the benefits of Self Healing Coaching NOW
Sign me up now for myCOMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION
Be Well And THRIVE Beyond Chronic Illness Now
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Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis
One of the more powerful (and empowering) practices CYSH offers you is your
daily Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis (SIHP) This compelling activity
provides various times throughout each day when you can stop the noise in your
life and focus your attention (and intention) on FULLIVINGtrade for your Self as
well as for all the members of your CYSH community At any of the scheduled
times you may take a break from the busyness of your day amp take 5 to 15
minutes to send (amp receive) shared healing intentions in concert with all the
other CYSH members The details of ldquohow tordquo participate in this shared activity
are provided later in this report
Before jumping into the mechanics however we will first take a few moments to
construct the foundation for your daily Shared-Intentional-Healingrdquotrade Praxis
Doing so will assist you in better understanding and skillfully applying this
empowering Self Healing approach
You may keep up-to-date on new or added information to this report by referring to
the tri-monthly Your Self Healing Journey News (you receive as part of your
CYSH membership) as well as by returning to the Coaching Your Self Healing blog
(httpwwwCoachingSelfHealingcomblog)
Note In this report I use the word ldquoselfrdquo in a capitalized form as ldquoSelfrdquo You may
find a detailed account on this use of ldquoSelfrdquo in the article Empower Your Self to Heal
Chronic Illness Part 1 Who is the self in Self Healing
For our purposes here Self is that deep core of you the essential being you were
at birth before defining yourself by the cultural identifiers thrust onto you growing-
up and beyond those you have used to create your place in the world
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ANALYSIS
of
Your Daily Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis
ldquoYOURrdquo
First this is truly YOUR activity You may do this at whatever times you choose
and on whatever days feel right for you You may choose to participate once per
day or more frequently on certain days This is YOUR Self Healing program
You access the benefits by proactively participating in SIHP FULLIVINGtrade
benefits accrue as you routinely apply and participate in this approach As you
feel more comfortable and natural during your sessions you may notice you are
more relaxed and calm as you carry out the remainder of your day Symptoms
may seem less troubling less intense and easier to manage You can notice an
improvement in your general mood and more felt-moments of happiness The
fact that you know you are participating not only for your own benefit but the
benefit of all other CYSH members will bring a smile to your face and a
meaningful sense of Self worth for giving so genuinely from your heart
You may also discover applying SIHP can help with the more difficult times you
face Imagine you have been participating in shared-intentional-healingtrade
sessions at about 1 session per day Then because of a virus or change in
medications you enter a more difficult period of heightened symptoms perhaps
leading to a drop-off in your participation Two things to keep in mind here
1 You may email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom) to request other CYSH
members keep YOU in our special intentions during the times we are
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participating in SIHP each day
You do not need to provide identifying information merely some information
about your age gender and what you may be going through at this time This
will assist other members to generate an image of who your are as we focus
our healing intentions for you
2 During these more challenging times you may discover you can access
even more energy and peace by actually increasing the number of times
each day you participate in sessions Please do test this out for yourself
over time
This is not only your program but the process itself is yours as well that is YOU
define what intentional healing is for you according to your history and
experiences your desires and goals No person outside of you can clarify the
means by which you define and measure healing progress nor what results or
goals are more or less important to you as you apply the skills you learn in the
Coaching Your Self Healing program
The steps outlined later in this report are merely guidelines to assist you in
participating in your daily Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis They serve as
guides suggestions to help you get started You will find your own unique way to
participate ndash the way that simply works best for you
So please do explore the process play with it and have fun Whenever you do
come across some variation that is particularly beneficial please send it along to
me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom) so I may pass it along to benefit other
members in our CYSH community
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ldquoDAILYrdquo
You may choose among eight times each day to participate in this practice
900 AM amp PM EST 1200 AM amp PM EST 300 AM amp PM EST and 600 AM amp
PM EST The eight times are provided in order for CYSH members from around
the globe to participate at a convenient time in your time zone as well as
convenient to your schedule around the clock each day Clearly you may
participate at any of the session times regardless of your location
If for some reason you cannot participate during any of these times please do
email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom) so I may be informed of any
scheduling problems that I am not currently taking into consideration My goal
here is to develop a daily schedule that works for everyone around the globe (and
around the clock each day) To start out I would encourage you to set a
reminder alarm a few minutes before your scheduled time ndash at least until you
have formed a comfortable habit of participating in the sessions
I will be present and participate during at least two sessions everyday and I will
rotate through session times each day That way at least every four days you
and I will be attending together at the same time Please understand however
there is never any expectation for you to participate at any particular time(s) nor
on any given day When you participate depends solely on your inner comfort
and your positive intention when you do take part
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Providing so many times is meant solely as a way to coordinate our attention and
energies in synchrony with other community members There is no need to be
concerned about the ldquorightrdquo time to participate As already noted your energies
are better-focused on being-present your comfort and on positive intention
There simply is no ldquorightrdquo time just the time that is right for you
Another advantage of having eight scheduled times each day is to provide
flexibility for you to adjust your participation in response to changes in your
symptom experiences As noted earlier when going through more difficult
symptomatic periods that are disrupting to your routine participating in
additional praxis times (rather than focusing on symptoms) may assist you with
limiting intensity and duration of the exacerbation ndash particularly by generating
more relaxation and rest
Still another helpful way you may consider your praxis ldquotimerdquo has been clarified
by Einstein physicists and spiritual leaders through history What they have
shown us is that ldquotimerdquo is a construct (a ldquoboxrdquo) and is not really ldquoout thererdquo at
all Indeed if ldquotimerdquo exists it can only be NOW
Such a perspective can be extremely nourishing when considering what Deepak
Chopra MD and Wayne Dyer PhD call the ldquogaprdquo The gap is that experience in
which you are ldquocenteredrdquo in the ldquosilent space between thoughtsrdquo When in the
gap you are at that ldquolevel of Being which is your essential staterdquo1 This
experience of being-in-the-gap is timeless ndash rdquothe womb of creationrdquo2 It is within
this state of experience that healing occurs
As you perform your praxis each day you will naturally and directly begin to
experience the timeless-being of the gap firsthand Once you recognize this
experience you will realize that whatever time of day you actually participate in
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SIHP you are doing it in the same NOW as all other CYSH members ndash even
though your session ldquoclock timesrdquo differ throughout the day
ldquoSHAREDrdquo
Remember the key here is that you are surrounding your Self with the one
heartbeat of all the other community members Your attention your energy
and your intentions are SHARED by all ndash just as their energies and intentions are
shared with and for you It is this attitude of sharing-with a wholehearted
giving-to that is key to this approach It is very simple As you give from
your heart-of-caring so you will receive
Be comforted in knowing that by simply participating once a day (after even a
few short days) you will begin to feel more comfortable more at ease more at
peace now than you may have experienced in years AND you know you are
contributing to the FULLIVINGtrade of others that is contributing beyond well-
being into the very heart of healing Trust me when I say your peace and your
giving heart provide a strong (and necessary) foundation on which to build
healing for each of us and of all of us together
ldquoINTENTIONALrdquo
So what does it mean to be INTENTIONAL One of the most helpful reviews of
ldquointentionrdquo is provided by Wayne Dyer PhD3 In Dyers The Power of Intention
(2005) he describes how we may ldquowishrdquo for something to occur in our lives but
such wishing is only a beginning
We may also choose to take the next step beyond wishing to ldquodesirerdquo Desire
results in taking action on the wish and is proactively distinct from wishing It is
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with desire that we now straight-forwardly make the ldquoaskrdquo (as in ldquoask and you
shall receiverdquo)
Still again we can step-up the intensity of our activity even more (beyond
wishing and asking) that is we may frame our desire in terms of what we
actually ldquointend to createrdquo Stop here for a moment close your eyes and feel
the power in these words I INTEND TO CREATE Period And again
I INTEND TO CREATE
We are very matter-of-fact about bringing the thing wished for desired
requested into experience No doubt No fear Creating healing now is simply a
given that occurs by way of you actively participating Period
Such intention-to-create by definition requires both commitment and passion
With commitment we are beyond ldquotryingrdquo to make the thing happen and
instead move into what I call devotion-to-creating (from the original French
devovere ldquodedicated by a vowrdquo) With such devotion we experience a much
deeper more profound state of being an awareness beyond ego
Devotion-to-creating allows you to act beyond the ldquooughtsrdquo and ldquoshouldsrdquo of
others beyond your own doubts and fears beyond obligation and guilt and
directly to the heart of being inspired (ldquodrawing in of airrdquo ldquoinspiritrdquo) that is you
are drawn into relation-with the powerful and empowering Source that creates
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It is by being inspired that you meet the paradox at the heart of ldquointendingrdquo As
you proactively intend-to-create you naturally come to experience being
committed devoted and inspired however you actually create only inasmuch as
you allow your Self to follow the flow of your inspiration naturally ndash that is as
you open your Self to receive Therefore as you intend to heal you must
also open to receive healing
As such it is important you recognize healing happens as you ldquoget out of your
own wayrdquo beyond intellect desire doubt and ego How do we do that How do
we get out of our own way beyond ego Very simply you do that by allowing
your Self to trust your healing
Please take a moment here to recall a time when you were injured in some way
(maybe a cut or broken bone) Beyond receiving necessary medical assistance
what did you do to mend to heal Once attended to medically its likely that you
never gave the actual processes of ldquohealingrdquo much thought ndash dying cells cleared
away new cells forming and eventually performing as if they had been there all
along as if nothing ever happened Healing just occurred your part was to trust
the process take good care of yourself and allow it Whether conscious or not
you simply trusted yourself to heal
It is that same trust you must have as you now commit-to-create intentional
healing Your whole Self system ldquoknowsrdquo how and what needs healing and in
what specific sequence of steps healing must occur Self does not need the
agreement of intellect or common sense to proceed naturally with healing Self
has been carrying out that process every nano-second of every day of your life ndash
simultaneously coordinating trillions of biochemical and energetic activities in
every cell of your entire being Heart beats lungs breath intestines digest and
your job is simply to get out of your own way and trust your Self to heal
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As you do alongside this intense Self-trust and commitment-to-create (our vow)
passion takes over and leads the way beyond common sense beyond
doubting intellect beyond beliefs and even beyond perceptions Such intense
passion emanating from your heart is very simply ldquoagaperdquo (selfless Love) In
this state you no longer experience others as separate bounded subject-object
(I-It) rather you share together in a living boundless oneness-of-relating
honoring the encounter by giving your present and your presence to the
sacredness of ldquoI-Thourdquo4
Map of HEALING INTENTION
I WISH
I DESIRE (ASK)
I INTEND-TO-CREATE
INCLUDES I COMMIT-TO-CREATE (I Vow = Devotion-to-creating)
I AM PASSIONATE
(I am Inspired)
PARADOX OF INTENDING (I Allow I Receive I Trust My Self to Heal)
I-THOU (Agape)
Figure copy2009 by MFDayton
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It is this deep experience of heartfelt passion and selfless Love you are aiming to
access directly (and share) when you intend from the heart when you are
performing your shared-intentional-healingtrade praxis
So once again stop for a moment now to imagine Imagine the tremendous
healing power at your disposal when you step into your shared session each day
with the intention-to-create healing It means you are committing to heal
vowing to heal trusting your Self to heal by way of your impassioned
heart You are giving your presence to merge as one-heartbeat in
synchrony and selfless love with all other CYSH members in this moment
now Therein lies the true power of your healing intention
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ldquoHEALINGrdquo (beyond ldquobeing curedrdquo)
Clearly what we intend to create during each praxis is HEALING your healing
healing for other members my healing and our healing together as one Yet do
you really know what you mean when you say ldquoI intend to healrdquo
Whenever we take time to reflect on the notion of ldquohealingrdquo typically one of the
first things that bubbles up into awareness is some hope of being ldquocuredrdquo Given
the difficulties and challenges we can face in just making it through even the
most simple of daily activities ldquocurerdquo can be so very inviting Indeed given the
opportunity who of us wouldnt want to be cured of a chronic illness And cured
NOW
Yet by seeking to ldquobe curedrdquo we can become entrenched in even more intense
challenges and symptom exacerbation How could that be What could
possibly be wrong with hoping for a cure
There is nothing wrong with hoping dreaming goal setting Indeed these
activities can provide momentum power purpose and direction to an otherwise
difficult day Yet the moment we turn our attention to ldquobeing curedrdquo our focus
immediately comes to rest on that which we desire to be ldquocured ofrdquo to ldquoget away
fromrdquo and it is here we become derailed Its like the age-old challenge to ldquonot
think of a blue elephantrdquo We must first conceive such a beast before we cannot
think about it
So too with ldquocurerdquo ndash We must first converge our attention and energies even
more intensely on the illness and the symptoms we wish to cease Clearly this
activity takes us in the opposite direction from the relief and health we are
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seeking In fact it is the same process described by Cheri Huber in one of her
more remarkable books entitled That Which You Are Seeking Is Causing You To
Seek (1990) Take a moment now to think about her title in relation to ldquoThe cure
I am seeking is rdquo In short to focus on cure heightens our experience of
dis-ease
To clarify even further when we focus on such moving-away-from-activities we
have no clear vision of what it is we are moving toward Without such clarity our
odds of failing escalate exponentially Success happens only as we also move
toward clearly-defined desires and goals A simple yet powerful example is this
years 40th anniversary of the Apollo 11 moon landing Was that ldquogiant steprdquo
successful because the leaders at NASA focused energy solely on how to create
escape velocity to ldquoget away fromrdquo earth ndash or also on how to get onto the moon
Another helpful example is wanting ldquoout ofrdquo a job Im sure you know of someone
(perhaps yourself) intent on getting away from the daily grind of hisher job Yet
when she did successfully leave that employment inevitably and much too soon
the same situation landslides into the daily grind of the next job Repeating old
patterns of struggle is a very clear sign of actions based on moving-away-
from goals This is a key principle to apply to all aspects of your daily living
The reason this occurs with the get-me-outta-here script is that whatever change
may happen generally does so from ldquowithoutrdquo At best we change scenery Its
the old grass-is-greener scenario ndash which is really no change at all
The inherent problem here can be even more perilous as we see when we take a
closer look at the wording ldquobeing curedrdquo We tend to redirect our attention from
within (our source of creative power) to some force outside that causes the cure
for us (whether that be by way of a physician a healer natural substances
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medications treatments or God)
On some level we tell ourselves if I could figure out what was happening to get
into this situation (ie chronic illness) I would be able to figure out how to get
out of it but (and heres the rub) since I cant I begin to believe less and less in
my innate healing power and more and more that such power must lie outside of
me ndash with an outside force greater than me (whether medical natural or
spiritual)
Please be clear on this point This is not to underplay the importance of qualified
medical professionals to your progress The same is true of the importance and
value of your spirituality and relation-with God Source Higher Power The point
to take away here is that you can only access the benefits of such healing
relations when YOU are first centered and strong in your own being ndash when you
approach your Self as a sacred Thou
Therefore in the situation where you reflexively turn over your power to heal (to
an outside agent) understand the ensuing damage you risk to your sense of Self
Not only are you diminishing belief in your inherent strength and healing power
you are also at risk of allowing others to determine what is best for your well-
being (perhaps even against your deeper intuitive knowing) all of which only
serves to further undermine Self-esteem and the tremendous power that comes
from believing in your Self
Even our religious upbringing can paradoxically weaken our beliefs regarding the
possibility of cure We learn at a deep level that ldquocurerdquo lies only in the realm of
the miraculous Such an orientation can weaken belief in the possibility of ldquome
being cured nowrdquo In fact when being completely honest many of us feel the
odds of ldquome being cured nowrdquo are as slim or slimmer than winning a million dollar
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lottery And when it does not happen were faced with the more daunting issue
of how I must somehow be ldquoflawedrdquo Clearly such underlying attitudes provide
no foundation on which to construct change much less the dramatic change
required with the desire to ldquobe curedrdquo [Here I recommend another Huber book
There Is Nothing Wrong with You Going Beyond Self-Hate (2001)]
In the end when focused on ldquobeing curedrdquo you may not only become separate
from your innate healing power within but you risk the ultimate medical
mistreatment becoming an object to be worked-on mechanically From here it
can be a rapid slide into the role of ldquovictimrdquo whereby you relinquish your
responsibility for choosing altogether (ie intending-to-create) how it is you truly
desire to be In short you risk losing the creative power of intention required to
give birth to healing
By the mid eighties I had been on daily prednisone for over a decade to control
severe bouts of status asthmaticus and recurrent pneumonia Because the
deleterious side-effects of prednisone included adrenal insufficiency (an impaired
stress response) I knew in my heart-of-hearts one key to my well-being lay in
recovering my atrophied stress axis by discontinuing daily prednisone For years
I pleaded with my pulmonary specialist to assist me in tapering off and relearning
how to live prednisone-free Together we did make a few unsuccessful attempts
only to recycle back into another respiratory infection and still higher doses of
prednisone By this time his posture was that I needed to remain on daily
prednisone ldquofor the rest of my liferdquo My posture was to fire him
Fortunately and in short-order I began working with an internist who over the
next two years laid out a plan to become prednisone-free ndash which we did
together successfully Two significant points must be clearly recognized here
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1 You must believe in your innate healing power and if you do not
currently this then becomes your launch pad for your healing journey ndash
relearning to empower your Self to heal
2 You are not in this alone You require the good works of others in
alignment with you to successfully heal As such you need to be very
selective in picking those others with whom you relate to enhance your
medical well-being
If you are feeling your medical support is sapping your power and authority
they probably are but you dont throw the baby out with the bath This is
not about releasing physicians this is about being in a healing
relationship-with your medical professional(s) of choice
Additional cultural biases arise with a focus on ldquocurerdquo Any true change with
regard to chronic illness implies a change ldquofor the betterrdquo That requires us to
believe with certainty that such change can and will bring improvement After
more than fifteen years working with individuals with chronic illness (including
my Self) it is the rare individual Ive encountered who truly believes (from the
core) ldquoI will be curedrdquo We wish for cure certainly but believing with certainty ldquoI
will be curedrdquo rarely
An origin of not believing in ldquobeing curedrdquo lies in the way we traditionally use the
term One problem in particular is that ldquocurerdquo is not a ldquonowrdquo concept -- that is
something I trust to experience now rather we tend to use ldquocurerdquo in a future-
oriented manner of hoping-for-something-to-happen or (at-best) asking-for
maybe praying for cure to happen Yet it is not in the future that you and I
create anything and this is particularly relevant to healing We only create in
the NOW
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Finally even greater issues arise when we attempt to determine precisely what
we mean by the term ldquocurerdquo As one example are you cured when there is ldquoan
end to the disease processrdquo or could that be ldquoremissionrdquo
Does ldquocurerdquo mean a ldquoreturn to full functioningrdquo (ie as I was before the process
started) Is that even possible Consider the case of a disease process that has
already resulted in disfigurement or amputation What does ldquocurerdquo mean in those
situations
Does ldquocurerdquo mean ldquosymptoms are gonerdquo If so are we then cured when
medications relieve or mask the symptoms altogether Do you understand the
quagmire here
It is for all these reasons above that few people are ever truly ldquocuredrdquo of
anything even if we do allow for those who have experienced ldquomiracle curesrdquo
(which are certainly the exception not the norm) Yet when you and I consider
ldquomy situation nowrdquo we need to have the strength of certainty that improvement
is not only possible but immanent
So if not ldquocurerdquo then what You already know the answer And the answer is
ldquohealingrdquo In the end if ldquocurerdquo is anything it is a future-oriented
disempowering mechanical phenomenon at the physical level In contrast
ldquohealingrdquo is an ongoing process (in this moment) of whole-Self transformation
Consider when we truly and proactively ldquohealrdquo we are creating (now) from the
very depths of our core within We are intending-to-create with all the intensity
and power of commitment passion and agape that arises in creative
transformation It is this innate source of inner power to which we must first
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return ldquoas little childrenrdquo in order to initiate healing
We mask nothing when healing now rather we take an active and response-able
role in bringing peace joy and love directly into our daily lives and the lives of
those we touch NOW this moment and in as many moments as we allow
It is from this strong shared intentional healing foundation that we live with the
most power any human being can possibly experience in alignment with in I-
Thou relation-with in the selfless Love that is the very Source of all creation
This process of transformational healing envelops and extends beyond cure at any
level and unlike ldquocurerdquo it is not some static condition at which we arrive (by
the grace of some outside benevolent authority) Rather such transformational
healing is an ongoing process of BEING-a-certain-way in strength in power
in wisdom in loving relation-with (not only Self but Source God Higher Power)
Let this loving empowered healing be the deep transformation you intend ndash your
moment-to-moment empowered healing transformation from core within
ldquoPRAXISrdquo
We finally come to the term PRAXIS Clients often ask why I use ldquopraxisrdquo rather
than something more familiar like ldquopracticerdquo or ldquoexerciserdquo My answer is very
simple and straight-forward
First we can quickly dispense with the term ldquoexerciserdquo Do you really want to
ldquoexerciserdquo intentional healing each day ndash or would you rather just skip having to
exercise any more than you already know you need to do Enough said
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Now imagine I invite you to ldquoplease make sure and practice your intentional
healing each dayrdquo How do you feel then For me it brings up that I must not
be very good at it especially if I need to be practicing every day
Consider now how you feel when I invite you to ldquoskillfully applyrdquo the intentional
healing process in comfort Doesnt ldquoskillful applicationrdquo feel much more
empowering than ldquopracticingrdquo Since ldquopraxisrdquo means ldquoskillful applicationrdquo isnt it
much more inviting to approach your intentional healing sessions with skill
And you will as you become more comfortable applying the process each day
Other folks also ask if shared-intentional-healingtrade wouldnt be better considered
an ldquoexperimentrdquo much like Lynn McTaggarts The Intention Experiment (2007) I
can see how the notion of an ldquoexperimentrdquo carries with it some sense of intrigue
but ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately represent the experience that is shared-
intentional-healingtrade
First (as we learned in our discussion of ldquointentionalrdquo above) when we participate
in Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade we are as a matter-of-fact intending-to-create
healing Such activity cannot be an ldquoexperimentrdquo or we lose the certainty
required for healing change Rather we set out to generate an experience-of-
relating that is powered by being committed empassioned and selflessly loving
You can likely identify such a committed passionate selflessly loving experience
from some time in your life ndash whether in love among family through an
impassioned hobby in seeking some goal or perhaps spiritually As you already
know such an experience is not something we wish-for or hope-for or need to
wait and see what happens It is simply a loving relating-with experience we
already know how to have We just be it and do it
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Moreover (as I suggested above) there is palpable transformation that occurs
within each of us as we gain comfort participating in shared-intentional-healingtrade
This transformational experience happens through your participation and it will
happen for you ndash no need to experiment just simply participate
Moreover at the heart of it the notion of ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately reflect
the research to date on ldquointentionrdquo and ldquohealingrdquo As an example a 1997 review
of research on ldquoIntercessory Prayer for the Alleviation of Ill Healthrdquo by Roberts
Ahmed Hall amp Davison reports individual studies suggest a positive effect of
intercessory prayer But since they viewed other reports in which the results
were equivocal they conclude no ldquo further trials of this intervention should be
takenrdquo5
Regrettably they miss the point The fact that studies DO exist reporting a
positive correlation between intercessory prayer and the alleviation of ill health is
precisely the reason more studies should be undertaken Edison found hundreds
of approaches that were equivocal before discovering a singular lighting solution
Thank goodness he did not conclude any further trials were unnecessary before
arriving at that solution
When it comes to this uniquely intimate subject of healing Eric Leskowitz MD
(in a review of the book Healing Intention amp Energy Medicine (2002) by Wayne
Jonas MD) explains how such conflicting conclusions like Roberts etal come
about Dr Leskowitz notes when he is in discussions with his allopathic medical
colleagues regarding ldquo inexplicable phenomena like energy healing or
intercessory prayer a sort of allopathic fear reflex kicks inrdquo6 Conclusions
become tunnel-visioned and skewed against even the possibility of such
correlation existing anywhere at any time Hence no further trials
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You may however verify for yourself such positively-correlated research does
indeed already exist by reviewing the studies in Jonas book (above) In
addition Marilyn Schlitz PhD provides a brief outline of just some of those
ldquopositive correlationrdquo studies that highlight the ldquointerface of science spirituality
and medicinerdquo7
If you would like an even more in-depth review I refer you to Consciousness amp
Healing Integral Approaches to Mind-Body Medicine (2005) by Schlitz Amorok
and Micozzi as well as the more recent (2008) Holistic Nursing A Handbook for Practice
5th edition by Dossey amp Keegan
In sum although experimental research has certainly not provided the final
answers on the relation between intention and healing the research to date is
most certainly beyond the ldquoequivocalrdquo suggested by those reflexively reacting
from allopathic fear Those studies completed to date which do display a positive
correlation between intention and healing are already providing a strong practical
foundation of powerful techniques and approaches that go far beyond
ldquoexperimentingrdquo and straight to the heart of skillful-application in daily living
Shared-Intentional-Healingrdquotrade is just one such approach you may access today
and everyday simply by participating in your daily praxis
With the above foundation in mind we can now move on to
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PRAXIS GUIDELINES
Having considered in some depth the foundation on which this method rests we
may now turn to the guidelines describing ldquohow tordquo participate in your daily
Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis
Before you approach your first intentional session please read through the
description and suggestions below Remember these opportunities are for YOU
to BENEFIT YOU Again there is no right way nor wrong way for you to
participate You simply participate in your own best way Therefore as noted
previously the description below is solely meant as a guided outline to assist you
in jump-starting your participation ndash sharing with you some ideas that have
already worked well for others in our Community
For this to be beneficial for everyone please do your best to allot at least 5 to
15 minutes for each intentional session If you are already seasoned at
sitting in quiet you certainly may choose to go longer (eg 30) and you can
trust there are other CYSH members continuing in synchrony with you
To start out let your sessions be for shorter periods of time You will experience
a natural increase in length of participation without having to think about it or
plan for it This is not a race nor a test of endurance This is a nourishing of
Self and a cultivation of your best healing intentions Be gentle
In the beginning it can also be helpful if you imagine sending out your healing
intentions in a particular direction around the globe and returning to you from
the opposite direction This way as you imagine can assist you in creating a
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ldquoflowrdquo with regard to directing intentional healing to all others around the globe
As you become more adept you will very naturally be able to generate healing
images radiating from your whole being equally in all directions You will
become aware there is no particular ldquoupdownrdquo in space-time There is just
ldquoeverywhere hererdquo that is always at the center of the universe ndash as you are at all
times and as is each member
Finally please know you may also invite your friends and loved ones to share
with you in these sessions If they cannot participate with you ask them (at
minimum) to set their healing intention for you and send it like a gift to you each
day This can be helpful to them as well knowing they are actively supporting
you with their selfless loving healing
So let us begin with a session description I have broken it down into 8 separate
action steps below
1 First make time to just sit and be comfortable (nothing ldquoto dordquo now)
Loosen any tight clothing
2 Begin breathing slowly until you relax into a comfortable natural pace
This is a time for gentleness Simply allow experience to happen and
follow experience moment-to-moment as you proceed
3 Slowly scan your entire being from head to toes inside and out If you
notice any part of you in tension just allow it to relax naturally and
dissolve with each out-breath
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Note It may take you 2 or more breathing cycles to notice the muscles in a
particular area begin to relax There are times as well when you may just
need to continue on with your scan trusting that the area will release as you
proceed Again this is time for gentle following
4 Once relaxed (as much as may be possible for now) INVITE your Self to
allow and receive healing intention and healing love
Note This may not feel natural or normal within and like a child the
knee-jerk reaction may indeed be to rebel You are merely sending an
invitation nothing more As you repeat this intentional healing invitation
each day you will soon begin to notice that you are indeed looking forward
to this opportunity
5 You are now comfortable relaxed and intentional within It is time now
to image all the other CYSH Members with whom you are sharing this
time Know they too are seeking to generate healing for your challenges
just as you are for theirs Depending on your beliefs it is here that you
may also invite connect with your source of spiritual power (God
Source Higher Power Buddha) to participate with you
6 Spend the next minutes imagining a Circle of Intentional Healing
Energy flowing into you from all the others and out from you to all
others Allow it to be easy natural like the earthrsquos flow of water
circulating from sky to earth and back to sky simply relax into this flow
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Note It may help to imagine your healing intentions emanating from about
2 finger-widths behind and about 3 finger-widths below your navel This
site (known as the ldquolower dan tienrdquo or ldquoharardquo) is considered the physical
center of gravity around which you are in perfect balance
From this point you can imagine healing intention flowing up your trunk
through your neck and head and out the top of your head to the other
CYSH members
The healing intention returning to you can be experienced as coming into
you at the same center of gravity point from which you started
Important Do not attempt to localize your intentions to any one region
within (brain heart liver etc) the reason being that a given illness process
occurs across and between physiological systems (even though we may talk
as if it is isolated to one system) It is best to imagine your entire Self
within a cocoon or bubble of flowing healing intention ndash everywhere within
you at once You may experience color warmth safety Luxuriate in your
experience Enjoy the moment
During this intentional time it can also be helpful on a given inout cycle of
breath to silently express I send out Loving Healing On the next
inout cycle silently express I receive Loving Healing and so on
In addition if your mind wanders off task (amp it will) just gently return to
the flow of loving healing intention Remember this experience is all about
being gentle Enjoy the process
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Continue in this state for as long as you desire and is easy comfortable
and natural With practice your will naturally be at ease for longer
periods of time during each session
7 When complete express gratitude to your Self as well as to all others
sharing in this moment with you Sit in this experience of gratitude for a
few moments
8 Savor the nourishing peace you have generated
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8-STEP PRAXIS REVIEW
1 SIT in comfort
2 BREATHE slowly rhythmically
3 SCAN (head to toes) to relax further still
4 INVITE SELF to allow healing intention
5 RELATE-WITH all other CYSH members amp Spiritual Power
6 SENDRECEIVE intentional healing
ldquoI send out Loving Healingrdquo ldquoI receive Loving Healingrdquo
7 Sit in GRATITUDE
8 SAVOR the nourishing peace
I genuinely look forward to your daily participation and to sharing this powerful
healing process with you I would love to hear your experiences with your praxis
Please do feel free to email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom)
My mission is to Coach You Well
Sincerely amp Caringly
MALCOLM
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REFERENCES
1 Chopra Deepak (1994) The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success ndash A Practical Guide to
the Fulfillment of Your Dreams p76
2 Chopra Deepak (1999) A Deepak Chopra Companion Illuminations on Health and
Human Consciousness p94
3 Dyer httpwwwyoutubecomwatchv=DC-FPorUW7gampfeature=related
4 Buber Martin (1971) I And Thou
5 Intercessory prayer httpwwwcochraneorgreviewsenab000368html
6 Leskowitz httpwholistichealingresearchcom42books12
7 Schlitz httpxnetkporgpermanentejournalsum05evidencepdf
copy2009byMFDayton
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ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Malcolm Dayton LPC Cht is a Licensed Counselor with more than two decades coaching individuals and families facing chronic illness He is also certified in MindBody Medicine and Hypnotherapy
Malcolms Coaching Self Healing program is unique in that he calls on his own lifelong journey with chronic illness (multiple sclerosis asthma immune deficiency) to assist you in accessing your unique healing solutions Very simply Malcolm walks his coaching
His coaching program is truly integral-- that is healing solutions are practical in focus and applied comprehensively incorporating all dimensions of your experience from symptoms to wellness from relations within self to social relations from the physical to spiritual--a truly ecological approach to Self Healing You learn to be FULLIVINGtrade ndash to thrive beyond chronic illness
Malcolms mission is to Coach You WELL
CONTACTMalcolm Dayton LPC CHt
email mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom
phone 970-689-4247
Yes Malcolm Im ready to discover
the benefits of Self Healing Coaching NOW
Sign me up now for myCOMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION
Be Well And THRIVE Beyond Chronic Illness Now
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ANALYSIS
of
Your Daily Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis
ldquoYOURrdquo
First this is truly YOUR activity You may do this at whatever times you choose
and on whatever days feel right for you You may choose to participate once per
day or more frequently on certain days This is YOUR Self Healing program
You access the benefits by proactively participating in SIHP FULLIVINGtrade
benefits accrue as you routinely apply and participate in this approach As you
feel more comfortable and natural during your sessions you may notice you are
more relaxed and calm as you carry out the remainder of your day Symptoms
may seem less troubling less intense and easier to manage You can notice an
improvement in your general mood and more felt-moments of happiness The
fact that you know you are participating not only for your own benefit but the
benefit of all other CYSH members will bring a smile to your face and a
meaningful sense of Self worth for giving so genuinely from your heart
You may also discover applying SIHP can help with the more difficult times you
face Imagine you have been participating in shared-intentional-healingtrade
sessions at about 1 session per day Then because of a virus or change in
medications you enter a more difficult period of heightened symptoms perhaps
leading to a drop-off in your participation Two things to keep in mind here
1 You may email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom) to request other CYSH
members keep YOU in our special intentions during the times we are
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participating in SIHP each day
You do not need to provide identifying information merely some information
about your age gender and what you may be going through at this time This
will assist other members to generate an image of who your are as we focus
our healing intentions for you
2 During these more challenging times you may discover you can access
even more energy and peace by actually increasing the number of times
each day you participate in sessions Please do test this out for yourself
over time
This is not only your program but the process itself is yours as well that is YOU
define what intentional healing is for you according to your history and
experiences your desires and goals No person outside of you can clarify the
means by which you define and measure healing progress nor what results or
goals are more or less important to you as you apply the skills you learn in the
Coaching Your Self Healing program
The steps outlined later in this report are merely guidelines to assist you in
participating in your daily Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis They serve as
guides suggestions to help you get started You will find your own unique way to
participate ndash the way that simply works best for you
So please do explore the process play with it and have fun Whenever you do
come across some variation that is particularly beneficial please send it along to
me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom) so I may pass it along to benefit other
members in our CYSH community
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ldquoDAILYrdquo
You may choose among eight times each day to participate in this practice
900 AM amp PM EST 1200 AM amp PM EST 300 AM amp PM EST and 600 AM amp
PM EST The eight times are provided in order for CYSH members from around
the globe to participate at a convenient time in your time zone as well as
convenient to your schedule around the clock each day Clearly you may
participate at any of the session times regardless of your location
If for some reason you cannot participate during any of these times please do
email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom) so I may be informed of any
scheduling problems that I am not currently taking into consideration My goal
here is to develop a daily schedule that works for everyone around the globe (and
around the clock each day) To start out I would encourage you to set a
reminder alarm a few minutes before your scheduled time ndash at least until you
have formed a comfortable habit of participating in the sessions
I will be present and participate during at least two sessions everyday and I will
rotate through session times each day That way at least every four days you
and I will be attending together at the same time Please understand however
there is never any expectation for you to participate at any particular time(s) nor
on any given day When you participate depends solely on your inner comfort
and your positive intention when you do take part
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Providing so many times is meant solely as a way to coordinate our attention and
energies in synchrony with other community members There is no need to be
concerned about the ldquorightrdquo time to participate As already noted your energies
are better-focused on being-present your comfort and on positive intention
There simply is no ldquorightrdquo time just the time that is right for you
Another advantage of having eight scheduled times each day is to provide
flexibility for you to adjust your participation in response to changes in your
symptom experiences As noted earlier when going through more difficult
symptomatic periods that are disrupting to your routine participating in
additional praxis times (rather than focusing on symptoms) may assist you with
limiting intensity and duration of the exacerbation ndash particularly by generating
more relaxation and rest
Still another helpful way you may consider your praxis ldquotimerdquo has been clarified
by Einstein physicists and spiritual leaders through history What they have
shown us is that ldquotimerdquo is a construct (a ldquoboxrdquo) and is not really ldquoout thererdquo at
all Indeed if ldquotimerdquo exists it can only be NOW
Such a perspective can be extremely nourishing when considering what Deepak
Chopra MD and Wayne Dyer PhD call the ldquogaprdquo The gap is that experience in
which you are ldquocenteredrdquo in the ldquosilent space between thoughtsrdquo When in the
gap you are at that ldquolevel of Being which is your essential staterdquo1 This
experience of being-in-the-gap is timeless ndash rdquothe womb of creationrdquo2 It is within
this state of experience that healing occurs
As you perform your praxis each day you will naturally and directly begin to
experience the timeless-being of the gap firsthand Once you recognize this
experience you will realize that whatever time of day you actually participate in
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SIHP you are doing it in the same NOW as all other CYSH members ndash even
though your session ldquoclock timesrdquo differ throughout the day
ldquoSHAREDrdquo
Remember the key here is that you are surrounding your Self with the one
heartbeat of all the other community members Your attention your energy
and your intentions are SHARED by all ndash just as their energies and intentions are
shared with and for you It is this attitude of sharing-with a wholehearted
giving-to that is key to this approach It is very simple As you give from
your heart-of-caring so you will receive
Be comforted in knowing that by simply participating once a day (after even a
few short days) you will begin to feel more comfortable more at ease more at
peace now than you may have experienced in years AND you know you are
contributing to the FULLIVINGtrade of others that is contributing beyond well-
being into the very heart of healing Trust me when I say your peace and your
giving heart provide a strong (and necessary) foundation on which to build
healing for each of us and of all of us together
ldquoINTENTIONALrdquo
So what does it mean to be INTENTIONAL One of the most helpful reviews of
ldquointentionrdquo is provided by Wayne Dyer PhD3 In Dyers The Power of Intention
(2005) he describes how we may ldquowishrdquo for something to occur in our lives but
such wishing is only a beginning
We may also choose to take the next step beyond wishing to ldquodesirerdquo Desire
results in taking action on the wish and is proactively distinct from wishing It is
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with desire that we now straight-forwardly make the ldquoaskrdquo (as in ldquoask and you
shall receiverdquo)
Still again we can step-up the intensity of our activity even more (beyond
wishing and asking) that is we may frame our desire in terms of what we
actually ldquointend to createrdquo Stop here for a moment close your eyes and feel
the power in these words I INTEND TO CREATE Period And again
I INTEND TO CREATE
We are very matter-of-fact about bringing the thing wished for desired
requested into experience No doubt No fear Creating healing now is simply a
given that occurs by way of you actively participating Period
Such intention-to-create by definition requires both commitment and passion
With commitment we are beyond ldquotryingrdquo to make the thing happen and
instead move into what I call devotion-to-creating (from the original French
devovere ldquodedicated by a vowrdquo) With such devotion we experience a much
deeper more profound state of being an awareness beyond ego
Devotion-to-creating allows you to act beyond the ldquooughtsrdquo and ldquoshouldsrdquo of
others beyond your own doubts and fears beyond obligation and guilt and
directly to the heart of being inspired (ldquodrawing in of airrdquo ldquoinspiritrdquo) that is you
are drawn into relation-with the powerful and empowering Source that creates
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It is by being inspired that you meet the paradox at the heart of ldquointendingrdquo As
you proactively intend-to-create you naturally come to experience being
committed devoted and inspired however you actually create only inasmuch as
you allow your Self to follow the flow of your inspiration naturally ndash that is as
you open your Self to receive Therefore as you intend to heal you must
also open to receive healing
As such it is important you recognize healing happens as you ldquoget out of your
own wayrdquo beyond intellect desire doubt and ego How do we do that How do
we get out of our own way beyond ego Very simply you do that by allowing
your Self to trust your healing
Please take a moment here to recall a time when you were injured in some way
(maybe a cut or broken bone) Beyond receiving necessary medical assistance
what did you do to mend to heal Once attended to medically its likely that you
never gave the actual processes of ldquohealingrdquo much thought ndash dying cells cleared
away new cells forming and eventually performing as if they had been there all
along as if nothing ever happened Healing just occurred your part was to trust
the process take good care of yourself and allow it Whether conscious or not
you simply trusted yourself to heal
It is that same trust you must have as you now commit-to-create intentional
healing Your whole Self system ldquoknowsrdquo how and what needs healing and in
what specific sequence of steps healing must occur Self does not need the
agreement of intellect or common sense to proceed naturally with healing Self
has been carrying out that process every nano-second of every day of your life ndash
simultaneously coordinating trillions of biochemical and energetic activities in
every cell of your entire being Heart beats lungs breath intestines digest and
your job is simply to get out of your own way and trust your Self to heal
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As you do alongside this intense Self-trust and commitment-to-create (our vow)
passion takes over and leads the way beyond common sense beyond
doubting intellect beyond beliefs and even beyond perceptions Such intense
passion emanating from your heart is very simply ldquoagaperdquo (selfless Love) In
this state you no longer experience others as separate bounded subject-object
(I-It) rather you share together in a living boundless oneness-of-relating
honoring the encounter by giving your present and your presence to the
sacredness of ldquoI-Thourdquo4
Map of HEALING INTENTION
I WISH
I DESIRE (ASK)
I INTEND-TO-CREATE
INCLUDES I COMMIT-TO-CREATE (I Vow = Devotion-to-creating)
I AM PASSIONATE
(I am Inspired)
PARADOX OF INTENDING (I Allow I Receive I Trust My Self to Heal)
I-THOU (Agape)
Figure copy2009 by MFDayton
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It is this deep experience of heartfelt passion and selfless Love you are aiming to
access directly (and share) when you intend from the heart when you are
performing your shared-intentional-healingtrade praxis
So once again stop for a moment now to imagine Imagine the tremendous
healing power at your disposal when you step into your shared session each day
with the intention-to-create healing It means you are committing to heal
vowing to heal trusting your Self to heal by way of your impassioned
heart You are giving your presence to merge as one-heartbeat in
synchrony and selfless love with all other CYSH members in this moment
now Therein lies the true power of your healing intention
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ldquoHEALINGrdquo (beyond ldquobeing curedrdquo)
Clearly what we intend to create during each praxis is HEALING your healing
healing for other members my healing and our healing together as one Yet do
you really know what you mean when you say ldquoI intend to healrdquo
Whenever we take time to reflect on the notion of ldquohealingrdquo typically one of the
first things that bubbles up into awareness is some hope of being ldquocuredrdquo Given
the difficulties and challenges we can face in just making it through even the
most simple of daily activities ldquocurerdquo can be so very inviting Indeed given the
opportunity who of us wouldnt want to be cured of a chronic illness And cured
NOW
Yet by seeking to ldquobe curedrdquo we can become entrenched in even more intense
challenges and symptom exacerbation How could that be What could
possibly be wrong with hoping for a cure
There is nothing wrong with hoping dreaming goal setting Indeed these
activities can provide momentum power purpose and direction to an otherwise
difficult day Yet the moment we turn our attention to ldquobeing curedrdquo our focus
immediately comes to rest on that which we desire to be ldquocured ofrdquo to ldquoget away
fromrdquo and it is here we become derailed Its like the age-old challenge to ldquonot
think of a blue elephantrdquo We must first conceive such a beast before we cannot
think about it
So too with ldquocurerdquo ndash We must first converge our attention and energies even
more intensely on the illness and the symptoms we wish to cease Clearly this
activity takes us in the opposite direction from the relief and health we are
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seeking In fact it is the same process described by Cheri Huber in one of her
more remarkable books entitled That Which You Are Seeking Is Causing You To
Seek (1990) Take a moment now to think about her title in relation to ldquoThe cure
I am seeking is rdquo In short to focus on cure heightens our experience of
dis-ease
To clarify even further when we focus on such moving-away-from-activities we
have no clear vision of what it is we are moving toward Without such clarity our
odds of failing escalate exponentially Success happens only as we also move
toward clearly-defined desires and goals A simple yet powerful example is this
years 40th anniversary of the Apollo 11 moon landing Was that ldquogiant steprdquo
successful because the leaders at NASA focused energy solely on how to create
escape velocity to ldquoget away fromrdquo earth ndash or also on how to get onto the moon
Another helpful example is wanting ldquoout ofrdquo a job Im sure you know of someone
(perhaps yourself) intent on getting away from the daily grind of hisher job Yet
when she did successfully leave that employment inevitably and much too soon
the same situation landslides into the daily grind of the next job Repeating old
patterns of struggle is a very clear sign of actions based on moving-away-
from goals This is a key principle to apply to all aspects of your daily living
The reason this occurs with the get-me-outta-here script is that whatever change
may happen generally does so from ldquowithoutrdquo At best we change scenery Its
the old grass-is-greener scenario ndash which is really no change at all
The inherent problem here can be even more perilous as we see when we take a
closer look at the wording ldquobeing curedrdquo We tend to redirect our attention from
within (our source of creative power) to some force outside that causes the cure
for us (whether that be by way of a physician a healer natural substances
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medications treatments or God)
On some level we tell ourselves if I could figure out what was happening to get
into this situation (ie chronic illness) I would be able to figure out how to get
out of it but (and heres the rub) since I cant I begin to believe less and less in
my innate healing power and more and more that such power must lie outside of
me ndash with an outside force greater than me (whether medical natural or
spiritual)
Please be clear on this point This is not to underplay the importance of qualified
medical professionals to your progress The same is true of the importance and
value of your spirituality and relation-with God Source Higher Power The point
to take away here is that you can only access the benefits of such healing
relations when YOU are first centered and strong in your own being ndash when you
approach your Self as a sacred Thou
Therefore in the situation where you reflexively turn over your power to heal (to
an outside agent) understand the ensuing damage you risk to your sense of Self
Not only are you diminishing belief in your inherent strength and healing power
you are also at risk of allowing others to determine what is best for your well-
being (perhaps even against your deeper intuitive knowing) all of which only
serves to further undermine Self-esteem and the tremendous power that comes
from believing in your Self
Even our religious upbringing can paradoxically weaken our beliefs regarding the
possibility of cure We learn at a deep level that ldquocurerdquo lies only in the realm of
the miraculous Such an orientation can weaken belief in the possibility of ldquome
being cured nowrdquo In fact when being completely honest many of us feel the
odds of ldquome being cured nowrdquo are as slim or slimmer than winning a million dollar
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lottery And when it does not happen were faced with the more daunting issue
of how I must somehow be ldquoflawedrdquo Clearly such underlying attitudes provide
no foundation on which to construct change much less the dramatic change
required with the desire to ldquobe curedrdquo [Here I recommend another Huber book
There Is Nothing Wrong with You Going Beyond Self-Hate (2001)]
In the end when focused on ldquobeing curedrdquo you may not only become separate
from your innate healing power within but you risk the ultimate medical
mistreatment becoming an object to be worked-on mechanically From here it
can be a rapid slide into the role of ldquovictimrdquo whereby you relinquish your
responsibility for choosing altogether (ie intending-to-create) how it is you truly
desire to be In short you risk losing the creative power of intention required to
give birth to healing
By the mid eighties I had been on daily prednisone for over a decade to control
severe bouts of status asthmaticus and recurrent pneumonia Because the
deleterious side-effects of prednisone included adrenal insufficiency (an impaired
stress response) I knew in my heart-of-hearts one key to my well-being lay in
recovering my atrophied stress axis by discontinuing daily prednisone For years
I pleaded with my pulmonary specialist to assist me in tapering off and relearning
how to live prednisone-free Together we did make a few unsuccessful attempts
only to recycle back into another respiratory infection and still higher doses of
prednisone By this time his posture was that I needed to remain on daily
prednisone ldquofor the rest of my liferdquo My posture was to fire him
Fortunately and in short-order I began working with an internist who over the
next two years laid out a plan to become prednisone-free ndash which we did
together successfully Two significant points must be clearly recognized here
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1 You must believe in your innate healing power and if you do not
currently this then becomes your launch pad for your healing journey ndash
relearning to empower your Self to heal
2 You are not in this alone You require the good works of others in
alignment with you to successfully heal As such you need to be very
selective in picking those others with whom you relate to enhance your
medical well-being
If you are feeling your medical support is sapping your power and authority
they probably are but you dont throw the baby out with the bath This is
not about releasing physicians this is about being in a healing
relationship-with your medical professional(s) of choice
Additional cultural biases arise with a focus on ldquocurerdquo Any true change with
regard to chronic illness implies a change ldquofor the betterrdquo That requires us to
believe with certainty that such change can and will bring improvement After
more than fifteen years working with individuals with chronic illness (including
my Self) it is the rare individual Ive encountered who truly believes (from the
core) ldquoI will be curedrdquo We wish for cure certainly but believing with certainty ldquoI
will be curedrdquo rarely
An origin of not believing in ldquobeing curedrdquo lies in the way we traditionally use the
term One problem in particular is that ldquocurerdquo is not a ldquonowrdquo concept -- that is
something I trust to experience now rather we tend to use ldquocurerdquo in a future-
oriented manner of hoping-for-something-to-happen or (at-best) asking-for
maybe praying for cure to happen Yet it is not in the future that you and I
create anything and this is particularly relevant to healing We only create in
the NOW
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Finally even greater issues arise when we attempt to determine precisely what
we mean by the term ldquocurerdquo As one example are you cured when there is ldquoan
end to the disease processrdquo or could that be ldquoremissionrdquo
Does ldquocurerdquo mean a ldquoreturn to full functioningrdquo (ie as I was before the process
started) Is that even possible Consider the case of a disease process that has
already resulted in disfigurement or amputation What does ldquocurerdquo mean in those
situations
Does ldquocurerdquo mean ldquosymptoms are gonerdquo If so are we then cured when
medications relieve or mask the symptoms altogether Do you understand the
quagmire here
It is for all these reasons above that few people are ever truly ldquocuredrdquo of
anything even if we do allow for those who have experienced ldquomiracle curesrdquo
(which are certainly the exception not the norm) Yet when you and I consider
ldquomy situation nowrdquo we need to have the strength of certainty that improvement
is not only possible but immanent
So if not ldquocurerdquo then what You already know the answer And the answer is
ldquohealingrdquo In the end if ldquocurerdquo is anything it is a future-oriented
disempowering mechanical phenomenon at the physical level In contrast
ldquohealingrdquo is an ongoing process (in this moment) of whole-Self transformation
Consider when we truly and proactively ldquohealrdquo we are creating (now) from the
very depths of our core within We are intending-to-create with all the intensity
and power of commitment passion and agape that arises in creative
transformation It is this innate source of inner power to which we must first
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return ldquoas little childrenrdquo in order to initiate healing
We mask nothing when healing now rather we take an active and response-able
role in bringing peace joy and love directly into our daily lives and the lives of
those we touch NOW this moment and in as many moments as we allow
It is from this strong shared intentional healing foundation that we live with the
most power any human being can possibly experience in alignment with in I-
Thou relation-with in the selfless Love that is the very Source of all creation
This process of transformational healing envelops and extends beyond cure at any
level and unlike ldquocurerdquo it is not some static condition at which we arrive (by
the grace of some outside benevolent authority) Rather such transformational
healing is an ongoing process of BEING-a-certain-way in strength in power
in wisdom in loving relation-with (not only Self but Source God Higher Power)
Let this loving empowered healing be the deep transformation you intend ndash your
moment-to-moment empowered healing transformation from core within
ldquoPRAXISrdquo
We finally come to the term PRAXIS Clients often ask why I use ldquopraxisrdquo rather
than something more familiar like ldquopracticerdquo or ldquoexerciserdquo My answer is very
simple and straight-forward
First we can quickly dispense with the term ldquoexerciserdquo Do you really want to
ldquoexerciserdquo intentional healing each day ndash or would you rather just skip having to
exercise any more than you already know you need to do Enough said
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Now imagine I invite you to ldquoplease make sure and practice your intentional
healing each dayrdquo How do you feel then For me it brings up that I must not
be very good at it especially if I need to be practicing every day
Consider now how you feel when I invite you to ldquoskillfully applyrdquo the intentional
healing process in comfort Doesnt ldquoskillful applicationrdquo feel much more
empowering than ldquopracticingrdquo Since ldquopraxisrdquo means ldquoskillful applicationrdquo isnt it
much more inviting to approach your intentional healing sessions with skill
And you will as you become more comfortable applying the process each day
Other folks also ask if shared-intentional-healingtrade wouldnt be better considered
an ldquoexperimentrdquo much like Lynn McTaggarts The Intention Experiment (2007) I
can see how the notion of an ldquoexperimentrdquo carries with it some sense of intrigue
but ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately represent the experience that is shared-
intentional-healingtrade
First (as we learned in our discussion of ldquointentionalrdquo above) when we participate
in Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade we are as a matter-of-fact intending-to-create
healing Such activity cannot be an ldquoexperimentrdquo or we lose the certainty
required for healing change Rather we set out to generate an experience-of-
relating that is powered by being committed empassioned and selflessly loving
You can likely identify such a committed passionate selflessly loving experience
from some time in your life ndash whether in love among family through an
impassioned hobby in seeking some goal or perhaps spiritually As you already
know such an experience is not something we wish-for or hope-for or need to
wait and see what happens It is simply a loving relating-with experience we
already know how to have We just be it and do it
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Moreover (as I suggested above) there is palpable transformation that occurs
within each of us as we gain comfort participating in shared-intentional-healingtrade
This transformational experience happens through your participation and it will
happen for you ndash no need to experiment just simply participate
Moreover at the heart of it the notion of ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately reflect
the research to date on ldquointentionrdquo and ldquohealingrdquo As an example a 1997 review
of research on ldquoIntercessory Prayer for the Alleviation of Ill Healthrdquo by Roberts
Ahmed Hall amp Davison reports individual studies suggest a positive effect of
intercessory prayer But since they viewed other reports in which the results
were equivocal they conclude no ldquo further trials of this intervention should be
takenrdquo5
Regrettably they miss the point The fact that studies DO exist reporting a
positive correlation between intercessory prayer and the alleviation of ill health is
precisely the reason more studies should be undertaken Edison found hundreds
of approaches that were equivocal before discovering a singular lighting solution
Thank goodness he did not conclude any further trials were unnecessary before
arriving at that solution
When it comes to this uniquely intimate subject of healing Eric Leskowitz MD
(in a review of the book Healing Intention amp Energy Medicine (2002) by Wayne
Jonas MD) explains how such conflicting conclusions like Roberts etal come
about Dr Leskowitz notes when he is in discussions with his allopathic medical
colleagues regarding ldquo inexplicable phenomena like energy healing or
intercessory prayer a sort of allopathic fear reflex kicks inrdquo6 Conclusions
become tunnel-visioned and skewed against even the possibility of such
correlation existing anywhere at any time Hence no further trials
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You may however verify for yourself such positively-correlated research does
indeed already exist by reviewing the studies in Jonas book (above) In
addition Marilyn Schlitz PhD provides a brief outline of just some of those
ldquopositive correlationrdquo studies that highlight the ldquointerface of science spirituality
and medicinerdquo7
If you would like an even more in-depth review I refer you to Consciousness amp
Healing Integral Approaches to Mind-Body Medicine (2005) by Schlitz Amorok
and Micozzi as well as the more recent (2008) Holistic Nursing A Handbook for Practice
5th edition by Dossey amp Keegan
In sum although experimental research has certainly not provided the final
answers on the relation between intention and healing the research to date is
most certainly beyond the ldquoequivocalrdquo suggested by those reflexively reacting
from allopathic fear Those studies completed to date which do display a positive
correlation between intention and healing are already providing a strong practical
foundation of powerful techniques and approaches that go far beyond
ldquoexperimentingrdquo and straight to the heart of skillful-application in daily living
Shared-Intentional-Healingrdquotrade is just one such approach you may access today
and everyday simply by participating in your daily praxis
With the above foundation in mind we can now move on to
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PRAXIS GUIDELINES
Having considered in some depth the foundation on which this method rests we
may now turn to the guidelines describing ldquohow tordquo participate in your daily
Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis
Before you approach your first intentional session please read through the
description and suggestions below Remember these opportunities are for YOU
to BENEFIT YOU Again there is no right way nor wrong way for you to
participate You simply participate in your own best way Therefore as noted
previously the description below is solely meant as a guided outline to assist you
in jump-starting your participation ndash sharing with you some ideas that have
already worked well for others in our Community
For this to be beneficial for everyone please do your best to allot at least 5 to
15 minutes for each intentional session If you are already seasoned at
sitting in quiet you certainly may choose to go longer (eg 30) and you can
trust there are other CYSH members continuing in synchrony with you
To start out let your sessions be for shorter periods of time You will experience
a natural increase in length of participation without having to think about it or
plan for it This is not a race nor a test of endurance This is a nourishing of
Self and a cultivation of your best healing intentions Be gentle
In the beginning it can also be helpful if you imagine sending out your healing
intentions in a particular direction around the globe and returning to you from
the opposite direction This way as you imagine can assist you in creating a
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ldquoflowrdquo with regard to directing intentional healing to all others around the globe
As you become more adept you will very naturally be able to generate healing
images radiating from your whole being equally in all directions You will
become aware there is no particular ldquoupdownrdquo in space-time There is just
ldquoeverywhere hererdquo that is always at the center of the universe ndash as you are at all
times and as is each member
Finally please know you may also invite your friends and loved ones to share
with you in these sessions If they cannot participate with you ask them (at
minimum) to set their healing intention for you and send it like a gift to you each
day This can be helpful to them as well knowing they are actively supporting
you with their selfless loving healing
So let us begin with a session description I have broken it down into 8 separate
action steps below
1 First make time to just sit and be comfortable (nothing ldquoto dordquo now)
Loosen any tight clothing
2 Begin breathing slowly until you relax into a comfortable natural pace
This is a time for gentleness Simply allow experience to happen and
follow experience moment-to-moment as you proceed
3 Slowly scan your entire being from head to toes inside and out If you
notice any part of you in tension just allow it to relax naturally and
dissolve with each out-breath
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Note It may take you 2 or more breathing cycles to notice the muscles in a
particular area begin to relax There are times as well when you may just
need to continue on with your scan trusting that the area will release as you
proceed Again this is time for gentle following
4 Once relaxed (as much as may be possible for now) INVITE your Self to
allow and receive healing intention and healing love
Note This may not feel natural or normal within and like a child the
knee-jerk reaction may indeed be to rebel You are merely sending an
invitation nothing more As you repeat this intentional healing invitation
each day you will soon begin to notice that you are indeed looking forward
to this opportunity
5 You are now comfortable relaxed and intentional within It is time now
to image all the other CYSH Members with whom you are sharing this
time Know they too are seeking to generate healing for your challenges
just as you are for theirs Depending on your beliefs it is here that you
may also invite connect with your source of spiritual power (God
Source Higher Power Buddha) to participate with you
6 Spend the next minutes imagining a Circle of Intentional Healing
Energy flowing into you from all the others and out from you to all
others Allow it to be easy natural like the earthrsquos flow of water
circulating from sky to earth and back to sky simply relax into this flow
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Note It may help to imagine your healing intentions emanating from about
2 finger-widths behind and about 3 finger-widths below your navel This
site (known as the ldquolower dan tienrdquo or ldquoharardquo) is considered the physical
center of gravity around which you are in perfect balance
From this point you can imagine healing intention flowing up your trunk
through your neck and head and out the top of your head to the other
CYSH members
The healing intention returning to you can be experienced as coming into
you at the same center of gravity point from which you started
Important Do not attempt to localize your intentions to any one region
within (brain heart liver etc) the reason being that a given illness process
occurs across and between physiological systems (even though we may talk
as if it is isolated to one system) It is best to imagine your entire Self
within a cocoon or bubble of flowing healing intention ndash everywhere within
you at once You may experience color warmth safety Luxuriate in your
experience Enjoy the moment
During this intentional time it can also be helpful on a given inout cycle of
breath to silently express I send out Loving Healing On the next
inout cycle silently express I receive Loving Healing and so on
In addition if your mind wanders off task (amp it will) just gently return to
the flow of loving healing intention Remember this experience is all about
being gentle Enjoy the process
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Continue in this state for as long as you desire and is easy comfortable
and natural With practice your will naturally be at ease for longer
periods of time during each session
7 When complete express gratitude to your Self as well as to all others
sharing in this moment with you Sit in this experience of gratitude for a
few moments
8 Savor the nourishing peace you have generated
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8-STEP PRAXIS REVIEW
1 SIT in comfort
2 BREATHE slowly rhythmically
3 SCAN (head to toes) to relax further still
4 INVITE SELF to allow healing intention
5 RELATE-WITH all other CYSH members amp Spiritual Power
6 SENDRECEIVE intentional healing
ldquoI send out Loving Healingrdquo ldquoI receive Loving Healingrdquo
7 Sit in GRATITUDE
8 SAVOR the nourishing peace
I genuinely look forward to your daily participation and to sharing this powerful
healing process with you I would love to hear your experiences with your praxis
Please do feel free to email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom)
My mission is to Coach You Well
Sincerely amp Caringly
MALCOLM
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REFERENCES
1 Chopra Deepak (1994) The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success ndash A Practical Guide to
the Fulfillment of Your Dreams p76
2 Chopra Deepak (1999) A Deepak Chopra Companion Illuminations on Health and
Human Consciousness p94
3 Dyer httpwwwyoutubecomwatchv=DC-FPorUW7gampfeature=related
4 Buber Martin (1971) I And Thou
5 Intercessory prayer httpwwwcochraneorgreviewsenab000368html
6 Leskowitz httpwholistichealingresearchcom42books12
7 Schlitz httpxnetkporgpermanentejournalsum05evidencepdf
copy2009byMFDayton
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ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Malcolm Dayton LPC Cht is a Licensed Counselor with more than two decades coaching individuals and families facing chronic illness He is also certified in MindBody Medicine and Hypnotherapy
Malcolms Coaching Self Healing program is unique in that he calls on his own lifelong journey with chronic illness (multiple sclerosis asthma immune deficiency) to assist you in accessing your unique healing solutions Very simply Malcolm walks his coaching
His coaching program is truly integral-- that is healing solutions are practical in focus and applied comprehensively incorporating all dimensions of your experience from symptoms to wellness from relations within self to social relations from the physical to spiritual--a truly ecological approach to Self Healing You learn to be FULLIVINGtrade ndash to thrive beyond chronic illness
Malcolms mission is to Coach You WELL
CONTACTMalcolm Dayton LPC CHt
email mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom
phone 970-689-4247
Yes Malcolm Im ready to discover
the benefits of Self Healing Coaching NOW
Sign me up now for myCOMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION
Be Well And THRIVE Beyond Chronic Illness Now
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participating in SIHP each day
You do not need to provide identifying information merely some information
about your age gender and what you may be going through at this time This
will assist other members to generate an image of who your are as we focus
our healing intentions for you
2 During these more challenging times you may discover you can access
even more energy and peace by actually increasing the number of times
each day you participate in sessions Please do test this out for yourself
over time
This is not only your program but the process itself is yours as well that is YOU
define what intentional healing is for you according to your history and
experiences your desires and goals No person outside of you can clarify the
means by which you define and measure healing progress nor what results or
goals are more or less important to you as you apply the skills you learn in the
Coaching Your Self Healing program
The steps outlined later in this report are merely guidelines to assist you in
participating in your daily Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis They serve as
guides suggestions to help you get started You will find your own unique way to
participate ndash the way that simply works best for you
So please do explore the process play with it and have fun Whenever you do
come across some variation that is particularly beneficial please send it along to
me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom) so I may pass it along to benefit other
members in our CYSH community
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ldquoDAILYrdquo
You may choose among eight times each day to participate in this practice
900 AM amp PM EST 1200 AM amp PM EST 300 AM amp PM EST and 600 AM amp
PM EST The eight times are provided in order for CYSH members from around
the globe to participate at a convenient time in your time zone as well as
convenient to your schedule around the clock each day Clearly you may
participate at any of the session times regardless of your location
If for some reason you cannot participate during any of these times please do
email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom) so I may be informed of any
scheduling problems that I am not currently taking into consideration My goal
here is to develop a daily schedule that works for everyone around the globe (and
around the clock each day) To start out I would encourage you to set a
reminder alarm a few minutes before your scheduled time ndash at least until you
have formed a comfortable habit of participating in the sessions
I will be present and participate during at least two sessions everyday and I will
rotate through session times each day That way at least every four days you
and I will be attending together at the same time Please understand however
there is never any expectation for you to participate at any particular time(s) nor
on any given day When you participate depends solely on your inner comfort
and your positive intention when you do take part
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Providing so many times is meant solely as a way to coordinate our attention and
energies in synchrony with other community members There is no need to be
concerned about the ldquorightrdquo time to participate As already noted your energies
are better-focused on being-present your comfort and on positive intention
There simply is no ldquorightrdquo time just the time that is right for you
Another advantage of having eight scheduled times each day is to provide
flexibility for you to adjust your participation in response to changes in your
symptom experiences As noted earlier when going through more difficult
symptomatic periods that are disrupting to your routine participating in
additional praxis times (rather than focusing on symptoms) may assist you with
limiting intensity and duration of the exacerbation ndash particularly by generating
more relaxation and rest
Still another helpful way you may consider your praxis ldquotimerdquo has been clarified
by Einstein physicists and spiritual leaders through history What they have
shown us is that ldquotimerdquo is a construct (a ldquoboxrdquo) and is not really ldquoout thererdquo at
all Indeed if ldquotimerdquo exists it can only be NOW
Such a perspective can be extremely nourishing when considering what Deepak
Chopra MD and Wayne Dyer PhD call the ldquogaprdquo The gap is that experience in
which you are ldquocenteredrdquo in the ldquosilent space between thoughtsrdquo When in the
gap you are at that ldquolevel of Being which is your essential staterdquo1 This
experience of being-in-the-gap is timeless ndash rdquothe womb of creationrdquo2 It is within
this state of experience that healing occurs
As you perform your praxis each day you will naturally and directly begin to
experience the timeless-being of the gap firsthand Once you recognize this
experience you will realize that whatever time of day you actually participate in
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SIHP you are doing it in the same NOW as all other CYSH members ndash even
though your session ldquoclock timesrdquo differ throughout the day
ldquoSHAREDrdquo
Remember the key here is that you are surrounding your Self with the one
heartbeat of all the other community members Your attention your energy
and your intentions are SHARED by all ndash just as their energies and intentions are
shared with and for you It is this attitude of sharing-with a wholehearted
giving-to that is key to this approach It is very simple As you give from
your heart-of-caring so you will receive
Be comforted in knowing that by simply participating once a day (after even a
few short days) you will begin to feel more comfortable more at ease more at
peace now than you may have experienced in years AND you know you are
contributing to the FULLIVINGtrade of others that is contributing beyond well-
being into the very heart of healing Trust me when I say your peace and your
giving heart provide a strong (and necessary) foundation on which to build
healing for each of us and of all of us together
ldquoINTENTIONALrdquo
So what does it mean to be INTENTIONAL One of the most helpful reviews of
ldquointentionrdquo is provided by Wayne Dyer PhD3 In Dyers The Power of Intention
(2005) he describes how we may ldquowishrdquo for something to occur in our lives but
such wishing is only a beginning
We may also choose to take the next step beyond wishing to ldquodesirerdquo Desire
results in taking action on the wish and is proactively distinct from wishing It is
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with desire that we now straight-forwardly make the ldquoaskrdquo (as in ldquoask and you
shall receiverdquo)
Still again we can step-up the intensity of our activity even more (beyond
wishing and asking) that is we may frame our desire in terms of what we
actually ldquointend to createrdquo Stop here for a moment close your eyes and feel
the power in these words I INTEND TO CREATE Period And again
I INTEND TO CREATE
We are very matter-of-fact about bringing the thing wished for desired
requested into experience No doubt No fear Creating healing now is simply a
given that occurs by way of you actively participating Period
Such intention-to-create by definition requires both commitment and passion
With commitment we are beyond ldquotryingrdquo to make the thing happen and
instead move into what I call devotion-to-creating (from the original French
devovere ldquodedicated by a vowrdquo) With such devotion we experience a much
deeper more profound state of being an awareness beyond ego
Devotion-to-creating allows you to act beyond the ldquooughtsrdquo and ldquoshouldsrdquo of
others beyond your own doubts and fears beyond obligation and guilt and
directly to the heart of being inspired (ldquodrawing in of airrdquo ldquoinspiritrdquo) that is you
are drawn into relation-with the powerful and empowering Source that creates
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It is by being inspired that you meet the paradox at the heart of ldquointendingrdquo As
you proactively intend-to-create you naturally come to experience being
committed devoted and inspired however you actually create only inasmuch as
you allow your Self to follow the flow of your inspiration naturally ndash that is as
you open your Self to receive Therefore as you intend to heal you must
also open to receive healing
As such it is important you recognize healing happens as you ldquoget out of your
own wayrdquo beyond intellect desire doubt and ego How do we do that How do
we get out of our own way beyond ego Very simply you do that by allowing
your Self to trust your healing
Please take a moment here to recall a time when you were injured in some way
(maybe a cut or broken bone) Beyond receiving necessary medical assistance
what did you do to mend to heal Once attended to medically its likely that you
never gave the actual processes of ldquohealingrdquo much thought ndash dying cells cleared
away new cells forming and eventually performing as if they had been there all
along as if nothing ever happened Healing just occurred your part was to trust
the process take good care of yourself and allow it Whether conscious or not
you simply trusted yourself to heal
It is that same trust you must have as you now commit-to-create intentional
healing Your whole Self system ldquoknowsrdquo how and what needs healing and in
what specific sequence of steps healing must occur Self does not need the
agreement of intellect or common sense to proceed naturally with healing Self
has been carrying out that process every nano-second of every day of your life ndash
simultaneously coordinating trillions of biochemical and energetic activities in
every cell of your entire being Heart beats lungs breath intestines digest and
your job is simply to get out of your own way and trust your Self to heal
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As you do alongside this intense Self-trust and commitment-to-create (our vow)
passion takes over and leads the way beyond common sense beyond
doubting intellect beyond beliefs and even beyond perceptions Such intense
passion emanating from your heart is very simply ldquoagaperdquo (selfless Love) In
this state you no longer experience others as separate bounded subject-object
(I-It) rather you share together in a living boundless oneness-of-relating
honoring the encounter by giving your present and your presence to the
sacredness of ldquoI-Thourdquo4
Map of HEALING INTENTION
I WISH
I DESIRE (ASK)
I INTEND-TO-CREATE
INCLUDES I COMMIT-TO-CREATE (I Vow = Devotion-to-creating)
I AM PASSIONATE
(I am Inspired)
PARADOX OF INTENDING (I Allow I Receive I Trust My Self to Heal)
I-THOU (Agape)
Figure copy2009 by MFDayton
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It is this deep experience of heartfelt passion and selfless Love you are aiming to
access directly (and share) when you intend from the heart when you are
performing your shared-intentional-healingtrade praxis
So once again stop for a moment now to imagine Imagine the tremendous
healing power at your disposal when you step into your shared session each day
with the intention-to-create healing It means you are committing to heal
vowing to heal trusting your Self to heal by way of your impassioned
heart You are giving your presence to merge as one-heartbeat in
synchrony and selfless love with all other CYSH members in this moment
now Therein lies the true power of your healing intention
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ldquoHEALINGrdquo (beyond ldquobeing curedrdquo)
Clearly what we intend to create during each praxis is HEALING your healing
healing for other members my healing and our healing together as one Yet do
you really know what you mean when you say ldquoI intend to healrdquo
Whenever we take time to reflect on the notion of ldquohealingrdquo typically one of the
first things that bubbles up into awareness is some hope of being ldquocuredrdquo Given
the difficulties and challenges we can face in just making it through even the
most simple of daily activities ldquocurerdquo can be so very inviting Indeed given the
opportunity who of us wouldnt want to be cured of a chronic illness And cured
NOW
Yet by seeking to ldquobe curedrdquo we can become entrenched in even more intense
challenges and symptom exacerbation How could that be What could
possibly be wrong with hoping for a cure
There is nothing wrong with hoping dreaming goal setting Indeed these
activities can provide momentum power purpose and direction to an otherwise
difficult day Yet the moment we turn our attention to ldquobeing curedrdquo our focus
immediately comes to rest on that which we desire to be ldquocured ofrdquo to ldquoget away
fromrdquo and it is here we become derailed Its like the age-old challenge to ldquonot
think of a blue elephantrdquo We must first conceive such a beast before we cannot
think about it
So too with ldquocurerdquo ndash We must first converge our attention and energies even
more intensely on the illness and the symptoms we wish to cease Clearly this
activity takes us in the opposite direction from the relief and health we are
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seeking In fact it is the same process described by Cheri Huber in one of her
more remarkable books entitled That Which You Are Seeking Is Causing You To
Seek (1990) Take a moment now to think about her title in relation to ldquoThe cure
I am seeking is rdquo In short to focus on cure heightens our experience of
dis-ease
To clarify even further when we focus on such moving-away-from-activities we
have no clear vision of what it is we are moving toward Without such clarity our
odds of failing escalate exponentially Success happens only as we also move
toward clearly-defined desires and goals A simple yet powerful example is this
years 40th anniversary of the Apollo 11 moon landing Was that ldquogiant steprdquo
successful because the leaders at NASA focused energy solely on how to create
escape velocity to ldquoget away fromrdquo earth ndash or also on how to get onto the moon
Another helpful example is wanting ldquoout ofrdquo a job Im sure you know of someone
(perhaps yourself) intent on getting away from the daily grind of hisher job Yet
when she did successfully leave that employment inevitably and much too soon
the same situation landslides into the daily grind of the next job Repeating old
patterns of struggle is a very clear sign of actions based on moving-away-
from goals This is a key principle to apply to all aspects of your daily living
The reason this occurs with the get-me-outta-here script is that whatever change
may happen generally does so from ldquowithoutrdquo At best we change scenery Its
the old grass-is-greener scenario ndash which is really no change at all
The inherent problem here can be even more perilous as we see when we take a
closer look at the wording ldquobeing curedrdquo We tend to redirect our attention from
within (our source of creative power) to some force outside that causes the cure
for us (whether that be by way of a physician a healer natural substances
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 17 of 33
medications treatments or God)
On some level we tell ourselves if I could figure out what was happening to get
into this situation (ie chronic illness) I would be able to figure out how to get
out of it but (and heres the rub) since I cant I begin to believe less and less in
my innate healing power and more and more that such power must lie outside of
me ndash with an outside force greater than me (whether medical natural or
spiritual)
Please be clear on this point This is not to underplay the importance of qualified
medical professionals to your progress The same is true of the importance and
value of your spirituality and relation-with God Source Higher Power The point
to take away here is that you can only access the benefits of such healing
relations when YOU are first centered and strong in your own being ndash when you
approach your Self as a sacred Thou
Therefore in the situation where you reflexively turn over your power to heal (to
an outside agent) understand the ensuing damage you risk to your sense of Self
Not only are you diminishing belief in your inherent strength and healing power
you are also at risk of allowing others to determine what is best for your well-
being (perhaps even against your deeper intuitive knowing) all of which only
serves to further undermine Self-esteem and the tremendous power that comes
from believing in your Self
Even our religious upbringing can paradoxically weaken our beliefs regarding the
possibility of cure We learn at a deep level that ldquocurerdquo lies only in the realm of
the miraculous Such an orientation can weaken belief in the possibility of ldquome
being cured nowrdquo In fact when being completely honest many of us feel the
odds of ldquome being cured nowrdquo are as slim or slimmer than winning a million dollar
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lottery And when it does not happen were faced with the more daunting issue
of how I must somehow be ldquoflawedrdquo Clearly such underlying attitudes provide
no foundation on which to construct change much less the dramatic change
required with the desire to ldquobe curedrdquo [Here I recommend another Huber book
There Is Nothing Wrong with You Going Beyond Self-Hate (2001)]
In the end when focused on ldquobeing curedrdquo you may not only become separate
from your innate healing power within but you risk the ultimate medical
mistreatment becoming an object to be worked-on mechanically From here it
can be a rapid slide into the role of ldquovictimrdquo whereby you relinquish your
responsibility for choosing altogether (ie intending-to-create) how it is you truly
desire to be In short you risk losing the creative power of intention required to
give birth to healing
By the mid eighties I had been on daily prednisone for over a decade to control
severe bouts of status asthmaticus and recurrent pneumonia Because the
deleterious side-effects of prednisone included adrenal insufficiency (an impaired
stress response) I knew in my heart-of-hearts one key to my well-being lay in
recovering my atrophied stress axis by discontinuing daily prednisone For years
I pleaded with my pulmonary specialist to assist me in tapering off and relearning
how to live prednisone-free Together we did make a few unsuccessful attempts
only to recycle back into another respiratory infection and still higher doses of
prednisone By this time his posture was that I needed to remain on daily
prednisone ldquofor the rest of my liferdquo My posture was to fire him
Fortunately and in short-order I began working with an internist who over the
next two years laid out a plan to become prednisone-free ndash which we did
together successfully Two significant points must be clearly recognized here
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1 You must believe in your innate healing power and if you do not
currently this then becomes your launch pad for your healing journey ndash
relearning to empower your Self to heal
2 You are not in this alone You require the good works of others in
alignment with you to successfully heal As such you need to be very
selective in picking those others with whom you relate to enhance your
medical well-being
If you are feeling your medical support is sapping your power and authority
they probably are but you dont throw the baby out with the bath This is
not about releasing physicians this is about being in a healing
relationship-with your medical professional(s) of choice
Additional cultural biases arise with a focus on ldquocurerdquo Any true change with
regard to chronic illness implies a change ldquofor the betterrdquo That requires us to
believe with certainty that such change can and will bring improvement After
more than fifteen years working with individuals with chronic illness (including
my Self) it is the rare individual Ive encountered who truly believes (from the
core) ldquoI will be curedrdquo We wish for cure certainly but believing with certainty ldquoI
will be curedrdquo rarely
An origin of not believing in ldquobeing curedrdquo lies in the way we traditionally use the
term One problem in particular is that ldquocurerdquo is not a ldquonowrdquo concept -- that is
something I trust to experience now rather we tend to use ldquocurerdquo in a future-
oriented manner of hoping-for-something-to-happen or (at-best) asking-for
maybe praying for cure to happen Yet it is not in the future that you and I
create anything and this is particularly relevant to healing We only create in
the NOW
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Finally even greater issues arise when we attempt to determine precisely what
we mean by the term ldquocurerdquo As one example are you cured when there is ldquoan
end to the disease processrdquo or could that be ldquoremissionrdquo
Does ldquocurerdquo mean a ldquoreturn to full functioningrdquo (ie as I was before the process
started) Is that even possible Consider the case of a disease process that has
already resulted in disfigurement or amputation What does ldquocurerdquo mean in those
situations
Does ldquocurerdquo mean ldquosymptoms are gonerdquo If so are we then cured when
medications relieve or mask the symptoms altogether Do you understand the
quagmire here
It is for all these reasons above that few people are ever truly ldquocuredrdquo of
anything even if we do allow for those who have experienced ldquomiracle curesrdquo
(which are certainly the exception not the norm) Yet when you and I consider
ldquomy situation nowrdquo we need to have the strength of certainty that improvement
is not only possible but immanent
So if not ldquocurerdquo then what You already know the answer And the answer is
ldquohealingrdquo In the end if ldquocurerdquo is anything it is a future-oriented
disempowering mechanical phenomenon at the physical level In contrast
ldquohealingrdquo is an ongoing process (in this moment) of whole-Self transformation
Consider when we truly and proactively ldquohealrdquo we are creating (now) from the
very depths of our core within We are intending-to-create with all the intensity
and power of commitment passion and agape that arises in creative
transformation It is this innate source of inner power to which we must first
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return ldquoas little childrenrdquo in order to initiate healing
We mask nothing when healing now rather we take an active and response-able
role in bringing peace joy and love directly into our daily lives and the lives of
those we touch NOW this moment and in as many moments as we allow
It is from this strong shared intentional healing foundation that we live with the
most power any human being can possibly experience in alignment with in I-
Thou relation-with in the selfless Love that is the very Source of all creation
This process of transformational healing envelops and extends beyond cure at any
level and unlike ldquocurerdquo it is not some static condition at which we arrive (by
the grace of some outside benevolent authority) Rather such transformational
healing is an ongoing process of BEING-a-certain-way in strength in power
in wisdom in loving relation-with (not only Self but Source God Higher Power)
Let this loving empowered healing be the deep transformation you intend ndash your
moment-to-moment empowered healing transformation from core within
ldquoPRAXISrdquo
We finally come to the term PRAXIS Clients often ask why I use ldquopraxisrdquo rather
than something more familiar like ldquopracticerdquo or ldquoexerciserdquo My answer is very
simple and straight-forward
First we can quickly dispense with the term ldquoexerciserdquo Do you really want to
ldquoexerciserdquo intentional healing each day ndash or would you rather just skip having to
exercise any more than you already know you need to do Enough said
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Now imagine I invite you to ldquoplease make sure and practice your intentional
healing each dayrdquo How do you feel then For me it brings up that I must not
be very good at it especially if I need to be practicing every day
Consider now how you feel when I invite you to ldquoskillfully applyrdquo the intentional
healing process in comfort Doesnt ldquoskillful applicationrdquo feel much more
empowering than ldquopracticingrdquo Since ldquopraxisrdquo means ldquoskillful applicationrdquo isnt it
much more inviting to approach your intentional healing sessions with skill
And you will as you become more comfortable applying the process each day
Other folks also ask if shared-intentional-healingtrade wouldnt be better considered
an ldquoexperimentrdquo much like Lynn McTaggarts The Intention Experiment (2007) I
can see how the notion of an ldquoexperimentrdquo carries with it some sense of intrigue
but ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately represent the experience that is shared-
intentional-healingtrade
First (as we learned in our discussion of ldquointentionalrdquo above) when we participate
in Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade we are as a matter-of-fact intending-to-create
healing Such activity cannot be an ldquoexperimentrdquo or we lose the certainty
required for healing change Rather we set out to generate an experience-of-
relating that is powered by being committed empassioned and selflessly loving
You can likely identify such a committed passionate selflessly loving experience
from some time in your life ndash whether in love among family through an
impassioned hobby in seeking some goal or perhaps spiritually As you already
know such an experience is not something we wish-for or hope-for or need to
wait and see what happens It is simply a loving relating-with experience we
already know how to have We just be it and do it
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Moreover (as I suggested above) there is palpable transformation that occurs
within each of us as we gain comfort participating in shared-intentional-healingtrade
This transformational experience happens through your participation and it will
happen for you ndash no need to experiment just simply participate
Moreover at the heart of it the notion of ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately reflect
the research to date on ldquointentionrdquo and ldquohealingrdquo As an example a 1997 review
of research on ldquoIntercessory Prayer for the Alleviation of Ill Healthrdquo by Roberts
Ahmed Hall amp Davison reports individual studies suggest a positive effect of
intercessory prayer But since they viewed other reports in which the results
were equivocal they conclude no ldquo further trials of this intervention should be
takenrdquo5
Regrettably they miss the point The fact that studies DO exist reporting a
positive correlation between intercessory prayer and the alleviation of ill health is
precisely the reason more studies should be undertaken Edison found hundreds
of approaches that were equivocal before discovering a singular lighting solution
Thank goodness he did not conclude any further trials were unnecessary before
arriving at that solution
When it comes to this uniquely intimate subject of healing Eric Leskowitz MD
(in a review of the book Healing Intention amp Energy Medicine (2002) by Wayne
Jonas MD) explains how such conflicting conclusions like Roberts etal come
about Dr Leskowitz notes when he is in discussions with his allopathic medical
colleagues regarding ldquo inexplicable phenomena like energy healing or
intercessory prayer a sort of allopathic fear reflex kicks inrdquo6 Conclusions
become tunnel-visioned and skewed against even the possibility of such
correlation existing anywhere at any time Hence no further trials
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You may however verify for yourself such positively-correlated research does
indeed already exist by reviewing the studies in Jonas book (above) In
addition Marilyn Schlitz PhD provides a brief outline of just some of those
ldquopositive correlationrdquo studies that highlight the ldquointerface of science spirituality
and medicinerdquo7
If you would like an even more in-depth review I refer you to Consciousness amp
Healing Integral Approaches to Mind-Body Medicine (2005) by Schlitz Amorok
and Micozzi as well as the more recent (2008) Holistic Nursing A Handbook for Practice
5th edition by Dossey amp Keegan
In sum although experimental research has certainly not provided the final
answers on the relation between intention and healing the research to date is
most certainly beyond the ldquoequivocalrdquo suggested by those reflexively reacting
from allopathic fear Those studies completed to date which do display a positive
correlation between intention and healing are already providing a strong practical
foundation of powerful techniques and approaches that go far beyond
ldquoexperimentingrdquo and straight to the heart of skillful-application in daily living
Shared-Intentional-Healingrdquotrade is just one such approach you may access today
and everyday simply by participating in your daily praxis
With the above foundation in mind we can now move on to
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PRAXIS GUIDELINES
Having considered in some depth the foundation on which this method rests we
may now turn to the guidelines describing ldquohow tordquo participate in your daily
Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis
Before you approach your first intentional session please read through the
description and suggestions below Remember these opportunities are for YOU
to BENEFIT YOU Again there is no right way nor wrong way for you to
participate You simply participate in your own best way Therefore as noted
previously the description below is solely meant as a guided outline to assist you
in jump-starting your participation ndash sharing with you some ideas that have
already worked well for others in our Community
For this to be beneficial for everyone please do your best to allot at least 5 to
15 minutes for each intentional session If you are already seasoned at
sitting in quiet you certainly may choose to go longer (eg 30) and you can
trust there are other CYSH members continuing in synchrony with you
To start out let your sessions be for shorter periods of time You will experience
a natural increase in length of participation without having to think about it or
plan for it This is not a race nor a test of endurance This is a nourishing of
Self and a cultivation of your best healing intentions Be gentle
In the beginning it can also be helpful if you imagine sending out your healing
intentions in a particular direction around the globe and returning to you from
the opposite direction This way as you imagine can assist you in creating a
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ldquoflowrdquo with regard to directing intentional healing to all others around the globe
As you become more adept you will very naturally be able to generate healing
images radiating from your whole being equally in all directions You will
become aware there is no particular ldquoupdownrdquo in space-time There is just
ldquoeverywhere hererdquo that is always at the center of the universe ndash as you are at all
times and as is each member
Finally please know you may also invite your friends and loved ones to share
with you in these sessions If they cannot participate with you ask them (at
minimum) to set their healing intention for you and send it like a gift to you each
day This can be helpful to them as well knowing they are actively supporting
you with their selfless loving healing
So let us begin with a session description I have broken it down into 8 separate
action steps below
1 First make time to just sit and be comfortable (nothing ldquoto dordquo now)
Loosen any tight clothing
2 Begin breathing slowly until you relax into a comfortable natural pace
This is a time for gentleness Simply allow experience to happen and
follow experience moment-to-moment as you proceed
3 Slowly scan your entire being from head to toes inside and out If you
notice any part of you in tension just allow it to relax naturally and
dissolve with each out-breath
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Note It may take you 2 or more breathing cycles to notice the muscles in a
particular area begin to relax There are times as well when you may just
need to continue on with your scan trusting that the area will release as you
proceed Again this is time for gentle following
4 Once relaxed (as much as may be possible for now) INVITE your Self to
allow and receive healing intention and healing love
Note This may not feel natural or normal within and like a child the
knee-jerk reaction may indeed be to rebel You are merely sending an
invitation nothing more As you repeat this intentional healing invitation
each day you will soon begin to notice that you are indeed looking forward
to this opportunity
5 You are now comfortable relaxed and intentional within It is time now
to image all the other CYSH Members with whom you are sharing this
time Know they too are seeking to generate healing for your challenges
just as you are for theirs Depending on your beliefs it is here that you
may also invite connect with your source of spiritual power (God
Source Higher Power Buddha) to participate with you
6 Spend the next minutes imagining a Circle of Intentional Healing
Energy flowing into you from all the others and out from you to all
others Allow it to be easy natural like the earthrsquos flow of water
circulating from sky to earth and back to sky simply relax into this flow
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Note It may help to imagine your healing intentions emanating from about
2 finger-widths behind and about 3 finger-widths below your navel This
site (known as the ldquolower dan tienrdquo or ldquoharardquo) is considered the physical
center of gravity around which you are in perfect balance
From this point you can imagine healing intention flowing up your trunk
through your neck and head and out the top of your head to the other
CYSH members
The healing intention returning to you can be experienced as coming into
you at the same center of gravity point from which you started
Important Do not attempt to localize your intentions to any one region
within (brain heart liver etc) the reason being that a given illness process
occurs across and between physiological systems (even though we may talk
as if it is isolated to one system) It is best to imagine your entire Self
within a cocoon or bubble of flowing healing intention ndash everywhere within
you at once You may experience color warmth safety Luxuriate in your
experience Enjoy the moment
During this intentional time it can also be helpful on a given inout cycle of
breath to silently express I send out Loving Healing On the next
inout cycle silently express I receive Loving Healing and so on
In addition if your mind wanders off task (amp it will) just gently return to
the flow of loving healing intention Remember this experience is all about
being gentle Enjoy the process
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Continue in this state for as long as you desire and is easy comfortable
and natural With practice your will naturally be at ease for longer
periods of time during each session
7 When complete express gratitude to your Self as well as to all others
sharing in this moment with you Sit in this experience of gratitude for a
few moments
8 Savor the nourishing peace you have generated
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8-STEP PRAXIS REVIEW
1 SIT in comfort
2 BREATHE slowly rhythmically
3 SCAN (head to toes) to relax further still
4 INVITE SELF to allow healing intention
5 RELATE-WITH all other CYSH members amp Spiritual Power
6 SENDRECEIVE intentional healing
ldquoI send out Loving Healingrdquo ldquoI receive Loving Healingrdquo
7 Sit in GRATITUDE
8 SAVOR the nourishing peace
I genuinely look forward to your daily participation and to sharing this powerful
healing process with you I would love to hear your experiences with your praxis
Please do feel free to email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom)
My mission is to Coach You Well
Sincerely amp Caringly
MALCOLM
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REFERENCES
1 Chopra Deepak (1994) The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success ndash A Practical Guide to
the Fulfillment of Your Dreams p76
2 Chopra Deepak (1999) A Deepak Chopra Companion Illuminations on Health and
Human Consciousness p94
3 Dyer httpwwwyoutubecomwatchv=DC-FPorUW7gampfeature=related
4 Buber Martin (1971) I And Thou
5 Intercessory prayer httpwwwcochraneorgreviewsenab000368html
6 Leskowitz httpwholistichealingresearchcom42books12
7 Schlitz httpxnetkporgpermanentejournalsum05evidencepdf
copy2009byMFDayton
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ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Malcolm Dayton LPC Cht is a Licensed Counselor with more than two decades coaching individuals and families facing chronic illness He is also certified in MindBody Medicine and Hypnotherapy
Malcolms Coaching Self Healing program is unique in that he calls on his own lifelong journey with chronic illness (multiple sclerosis asthma immune deficiency) to assist you in accessing your unique healing solutions Very simply Malcolm walks his coaching
His coaching program is truly integral-- that is healing solutions are practical in focus and applied comprehensively incorporating all dimensions of your experience from symptoms to wellness from relations within self to social relations from the physical to spiritual--a truly ecological approach to Self Healing You learn to be FULLIVINGtrade ndash to thrive beyond chronic illness
Malcolms mission is to Coach You WELL
CONTACTMalcolm Dayton LPC CHt
email mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom
phone 970-689-4247
Yes Malcolm Im ready to discover
the benefits of Self Healing Coaching NOW
Sign me up now for myCOMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION
Be Well And THRIVE Beyond Chronic Illness Now
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ldquoDAILYrdquo
You may choose among eight times each day to participate in this practice
900 AM amp PM EST 1200 AM amp PM EST 300 AM amp PM EST and 600 AM amp
PM EST The eight times are provided in order for CYSH members from around
the globe to participate at a convenient time in your time zone as well as
convenient to your schedule around the clock each day Clearly you may
participate at any of the session times regardless of your location
If for some reason you cannot participate during any of these times please do
email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom) so I may be informed of any
scheduling problems that I am not currently taking into consideration My goal
here is to develop a daily schedule that works for everyone around the globe (and
around the clock each day) To start out I would encourage you to set a
reminder alarm a few minutes before your scheduled time ndash at least until you
have formed a comfortable habit of participating in the sessions
I will be present and participate during at least two sessions everyday and I will
rotate through session times each day That way at least every four days you
and I will be attending together at the same time Please understand however
there is never any expectation for you to participate at any particular time(s) nor
on any given day When you participate depends solely on your inner comfort
and your positive intention when you do take part
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Providing so many times is meant solely as a way to coordinate our attention and
energies in synchrony with other community members There is no need to be
concerned about the ldquorightrdquo time to participate As already noted your energies
are better-focused on being-present your comfort and on positive intention
There simply is no ldquorightrdquo time just the time that is right for you
Another advantage of having eight scheduled times each day is to provide
flexibility for you to adjust your participation in response to changes in your
symptom experiences As noted earlier when going through more difficult
symptomatic periods that are disrupting to your routine participating in
additional praxis times (rather than focusing on symptoms) may assist you with
limiting intensity and duration of the exacerbation ndash particularly by generating
more relaxation and rest
Still another helpful way you may consider your praxis ldquotimerdquo has been clarified
by Einstein physicists and spiritual leaders through history What they have
shown us is that ldquotimerdquo is a construct (a ldquoboxrdquo) and is not really ldquoout thererdquo at
all Indeed if ldquotimerdquo exists it can only be NOW
Such a perspective can be extremely nourishing when considering what Deepak
Chopra MD and Wayne Dyer PhD call the ldquogaprdquo The gap is that experience in
which you are ldquocenteredrdquo in the ldquosilent space between thoughtsrdquo When in the
gap you are at that ldquolevel of Being which is your essential staterdquo1 This
experience of being-in-the-gap is timeless ndash rdquothe womb of creationrdquo2 It is within
this state of experience that healing occurs
As you perform your praxis each day you will naturally and directly begin to
experience the timeless-being of the gap firsthand Once you recognize this
experience you will realize that whatever time of day you actually participate in
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SIHP you are doing it in the same NOW as all other CYSH members ndash even
though your session ldquoclock timesrdquo differ throughout the day
ldquoSHAREDrdquo
Remember the key here is that you are surrounding your Self with the one
heartbeat of all the other community members Your attention your energy
and your intentions are SHARED by all ndash just as their energies and intentions are
shared with and for you It is this attitude of sharing-with a wholehearted
giving-to that is key to this approach It is very simple As you give from
your heart-of-caring so you will receive
Be comforted in knowing that by simply participating once a day (after even a
few short days) you will begin to feel more comfortable more at ease more at
peace now than you may have experienced in years AND you know you are
contributing to the FULLIVINGtrade of others that is contributing beyond well-
being into the very heart of healing Trust me when I say your peace and your
giving heart provide a strong (and necessary) foundation on which to build
healing for each of us and of all of us together
ldquoINTENTIONALrdquo
So what does it mean to be INTENTIONAL One of the most helpful reviews of
ldquointentionrdquo is provided by Wayne Dyer PhD3 In Dyers The Power of Intention
(2005) he describes how we may ldquowishrdquo for something to occur in our lives but
such wishing is only a beginning
We may also choose to take the next step beyond wishing to ldquodesirerdquo Desire
results in taking action on the wish and is proactively distinct from wishing It is
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with desire that we now straight-forwardly make the ldquoaskrdquo (as in ldquoask and you
shall receiverdquo)
Still again we can step-up the intensity of our activity even more (beyond
wishing and asking) that is we may frame our desire in terms of what we
actually ldquointend to createrdquo Stop here for a moment close your eyes and feel
the power in these words I INTEND TO CREATE Period And again
I INTEND TO CREATE
We are very matter-of-fact about bringing the thing wished for desired
requested into experience No doubt No fear Creating healing now is simply a
given that occurs by way of you actively participating Period
Such intention-to-create by definition requires both commitment and passion
With commitment we are beyond ldquotryingrdquo to make the thing happen and
instead move into what I call devotion-to-creating (from the original French
devovere ldquodedicated by a vowrdquo) With such devotion we experience a much
deeper more profound state of being an awareness beyond ego
Devotion-to-creating allows you to act beyond the ldquooughtsrdquo and ldquoshouldsrdquo of
others beyond your own doubts and fears beyond obligation and guilt and
directly to the heart of being inspired (ldquodrawing in of airrdquo ldquoinspiritrdquo) that is you
are drawn into relation-with the powerful and empowering Source that creates
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It is by being inspired that you meet the paradox at the heart of ldquointendingrdquo As
you proactively intend-to-create you naturally come to experience being
committed devoted and inspired however you actually create only inasmuch as
you allow your Self to follow the flow of your inspiration naturally ndash that is as
you open your Self to receive Therefore as you intend to heal you must
also open to receive healing
As such it is important you recognize healing happens as you ldquoget out of your
own wayrdquo beyond intellect desire doubt and ego How do we do that How do
we get out of our own way beyond ego Very simply you do that by allowing
your Self to trust your healing
Please take a moment here to recall a time when you were injured in some way
(maybe a cut or broken bone) Beyond receiving necessary medical assistance
what did you do to mend to heal Once attended to medically its likely that you
never gave the actual processes of ldquohealingrdquo much thought ndash dying cells cleared
away new cells forming and eventually performing as if they had been there all
along as if nothing ever happened Healing just occurred your part was to trust
the process take good care of yourself and allow it Whether conscious or not
you simply trusted yourself to heal
It is that same trust you must have as you now commit-to-create intentional
healing Your whole Self system ldquoknowsrdquo how and what needs healing and in
what specific sequence of steps healing must occur Self does not need the
agreement of intellect or common sense to proceed naturally with healing Self
has been carrying out that process every nano-second of every day of your life ndash
simultaneously coordinating trillions of biochemical and energetic activities in
every cell of your entire being Heart beats lungs breath intestines digest and
your job is simply to get out of your own way and trust your Self to heal
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As you do alongside this intense Self-trust and commitment-to-create (our vow)
passion takes over and leads the way beyond common sense beyond
doubting intellect beyond beliefs and even beyond perceptions Such intense
passion emanating from your heart is very simply ldquoagaperdquo (selfless Love) In
this state you no longer experience others as separate bounded subject-object
(I-It) rather you share together in a living boundless oneness-of-relating
honoring the encounter by giving your present and your presence to the
sacredness of ldquoI-Thourdquo4
Map of HEALING INTENTION
I WISH
I DESIRE (ASK)
I INTEND-TO-CREATE
INCLUDES I COMMIT-TO-CREATE (I Vow = Devotion-to-creating)
I AM PASSIONATE
(I am Inspired)
PARADOX OF INTENDING (I Allow I Receive I Trust My Self to Heal)
I-THOU (Agape)
Figure copy2009 by MFDayton
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It is this deep experience of heartfelt passion and selfless Love you are aiming to
access directly (and share) when you intend from the heart when you are
performing your shared-intentional-healingtrade praxis
So once again stop for a moment now to imagine Imagine the tremendous
healing power at your disposal when you step into your shared session each day
with the intention-to-create healing It means you are committing to heal
vowing to heal trusting your Self to heal by way of your impassioned
heart You are giving your presence to merge as one-heartbeat in
synchrony and selfless love with all other CYSH members in this moment
now Therein lies the true power of your healing intention
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ldquoHEALINGrdquo (beyond ldquobeing curedrdquo)
Clearly what we intend to create during each praxis is HEALING your healing
healing for other members my healing and our healing together as one Yet do
you really know what you mean when you say ldquoI intend to healrdquo
Whenever we take time to reflect on the notion of ldquohealingrdquo typically one of the
first things that bubbles up into awareness is some hope of being ldquocuredrdquo Given
the difficulties and challenges we can face in just making it through even the
most simple of daily activities ldquocurerdquo can be so very inviting Indeed given the
opportunity who of us wouldnt want to be cured of a chronic illness And cured
NOW
Yet by seeking to ldquobe curedrdquo we can become entrenched in even more intense
challenges and symptom exacerbation How could that be What could
possibly be wrong with hoping for a cure
There is nothing wrong with hoping dreaming goal setting Indeed these
activities can provide momentum power purpose and direction to an otherwise
difficult day Yet the moment we turn our attention to ldquobeing curedrdquo our focus
immediately comes to rest on that which we desire to be ldquocured ofrdquo to ldquoget away
fromrdquo and it is here we become derailed Its like the age-old challenge to ldquonot
think of a blue elephantrdquo We must first conceive such a beast before we cannot
think about it
So too with ldquocurerdquo ndash We must first converge our attention and energies even
more intensely on the illness and the symptoms we wish to cease Clearly this
activity takes us in the opposite direction from the relief and health we are
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seeking In fact it is the same process described by Cheri Huber in one of her
more remarkable books entitled That Which You Are Seeking Is Causing You To
Seek (1990) Take a moment now to think about her title in relation to ldquoThe cure
I am seeking is rdquo In short to focus on cure heightens our experience of
dis-ease
To clarify even further when we focus on such moving-away-from-activities we
have no clear vision of what it is we are moving toward Without such clarity our
odds of failing escalate exponentially Success happens only as we also move
toward clearly-defined desires and goals A simple yet powerful example is this
years 40th anniversary of the Apollo 11 moon landing Was that ldquogiant steprdquo
successful because the leaders at NASA focused energy solely on how to create
escape velocity to ldquoget away fromrdquo earth ndash or also on how to get onto the moon
Another helpful example is wanting ldquoout ofrdquo a job Im sure you know of someone
(perhaps yourself) intent on getting away from the daily grind of hisher job Yet
when she did successfully leave that employment inevitably and much too soon
the same situation landslides into the daily grind of the next job Repeating old
patterns of struggle is a very clear sign of actions based on moving-away-
from goals This is a key principle to apply to all aspects of your daily living
The reason this occurs with the get-me-outta-here script is that whatever change
may happen generally does so from ldquowithoutrdquo At best we change scenery Its
the old grass-is-greener scenario ndash which is really no change at all
The inherent problem here can be even more perilous as we see when we take a
closer look at the wording ldquobeing curedrdquo We tend to redirect our attention from
within (our source of creative power) to some force outside that causes the cure
for us (whether that be by way of a physician a healer natural substances
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medications treatments or God)
On some level we tell ourselves if I could figure out what was happening to get
into this situation (ie chronic illness) I would be able to figure out how to get
out of it but (and heres the rub) since I cant I begin to believe less and less in
my innate healing power and more and more that such power must lie outside of
me ndash with an outside force greater than me (whether medical natural or
spiritual)
Please be clear on this point This is not to underplay the importance of qualified
medical professionals to your progress The same is true of the importance and
value of your spirituality and relation-with God Source Higher Power The point
to take away here is that you can only access the benefits of such healing
relations when YOU are first centered and strong in your own being ndash when you
approach your Self as a sacred Thou
Therefore in the situation where you reflexively turn over your power to heal (to
an outside agent) understand the ensuing damage you risk to your sense of Self
Not only are you diminishing belief in your inherent strength and healing power
you are also at risk of allowing others to determine what is best for your well-
being (perhaps even against your deeper intuitive knowing) all of which only
serves to further undermine Self-esteem and the tremendous power that comes
from believing in your Self
Even our religious upbringing can paradoxically weaken our beliefs regarding the
possibility of cure We learn at a deep level that ldquocurerdquo lies only in the realm of
the miraculous Such an orientation can weaken belief in the possibility of ldquome
being cured nowrdquo In fact when being completely honest many of us feel the
odds of ldquome being cured nowrdquo are as slim or slimmer than winning a million dollar
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lottery And when it does not happen were faced with the more daunting issue
of how I must somehow be ldquoflawedrdquo Clearly such underlying attitudes provide
no foundation on which to construct change much less the dramatic change
required with the desire to ldquobe curedrdquo [Here I recommend another Huber book
There Is Nothing Wrong with You Going Beyond Self-Hate (2001)]
In the end when focused on ldquobeing curedrdquo you may not only become separate
from your innate healing power within but you risk the ultimate medical
mistreatment becoming an object to be worked-on mechanically From here it
can be a rapid slide into the role of ldquovictimrdquo whereby you relinquish your
responsibility for choosing altogether (ie intending-to-create) how it is you truly
desire to be In short you risk losing the creative power of intention required to
give birth to healing
By the mid eighties I had been on daily prednisone for over a decade to control
severe bouts of status asthmaticus and recurrent pneumonia Because the
deleterious side-effects of prednisone included adrenal insufficiency (an impaired
stress response) I knew in my heart-of-hearts one key to my well-being lay in
recovering my atrophied stress axis by discontinuing daily prednisone For years
I pleaded with my pulmonary specialist to assist me in tapering off and relearning
how to live prednisone-free Together we did make a few unsuccessful attempts
only to recycle back into another respiratory infection and still higher doses of
prednisone By this time his posture was that I needed to remain on daily
prednisone ldquofor the rest of my liferdquo My posture was to fire him
Fortunately and in short-order I began working with an internist who over the
next two years laid out a plan to become prednisone-free ndash which we did
together successfully Two significant points must be clearly recognized here
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1 You must believe in your innate healing power and if you do not
currently this then becomes your launch pad for your healing journey ndash
relearning to empower your Self to heal
2 You are not in this alone You require the good works of others in
alignment with you to successfully heal As such you need to be very
selective in picking those others with whom you relate to enhance your
medical well-being
If you are feeling your medical support is sapping your power and authority
they probably are but you dont throw the baby out with the bath This is
not about releasing physicians this is about being in a healing
relationship-with your medical professional(s) of choice
Additional cultural biases arise with a focus on ldquocurerdquo Any true change with
regard to chronic illness implies a change ldquofor the betterrdquo That requires us to
believe with certainty that such change can and will bring improvement After
more than fifteen years working with individuals with chronic illness (including
my Self) it is the rare individual Ive encountered who truly believes (from the
core) ldquoI will be curedrdquo We wish for cure certainly but believing with certainty ldquoI
will be curedrdquo rarely
An origin of not believing in ldquobeing curedrdquo lies in the way we traditionally use the
term One problem in particular is that ldquocurerdquo is not a ldquonowrdquo concept -- that is
something I trust to experience now rather we tend to use ldquocurerdquo in a future-
oriented manner of hoping-for-something-to-happen or (at-best) asking-for
maybe praying for cure to happen Yet it is not in the future that you and I
create anything and this is particularly relevant to healing We only create in
the NOW
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Finally even greater issues arise when we attempt to determine precisely what
we mean by the term ldquocurerdquo As one example are you cured when there is ldquoan
end to the disease processrdquo or could that be ldquoremissionrdquo
Does ldquocurerdquo mean a ldquoreturn to full functioningrdquo (ie as I was before the process
started) Is that even possible Consider the case of a disease process that has
already resulted in disfigurement or amputation What does ldquocurerdquo mean in those
situations
Does ldquocurerdquo mean ldquosymptoms are gonerdquo If so are we then cured when
medications relieve or mask the symptoms altogether Do you understand the
quagmire here
It is for all these reasons above that few people are ever truly ldquocuredrdquo of
anything even if we do allow for those who have experienced ldquomiracle curesrdquo
(which are certainly the exception not the norm) Yet when you and I consider
ldquomy situation nowrdquo we need to have the strength of certainty that improvement
is not only possible but immanent
So if not ldquocurerdquo then what You already know the answer And the answer is
ldquohealingrdquo In the end if ldquocurerdquo is anything it is a future-oriented
disempowering mechanical phenomenon at the physical level In contrast
ldquohealingrdquo is an ongoing process (in this moment) of whole-Self transformation
Consider when we truly and proactively ldquohealrdquo we are creating (now) from the
very depths of our core within We are intending-to-create with all the intensity
and power of commitment passion and agape that arises in creative
transformation It is this innate source of inner power to which we must first
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return ldquoas little childrenrdquo in order to initiate healing
We mask nothing when healing now rather we take an active and response-able
role in bringing peace joy and love directly into our daily lives and the lives of
those we touch NOW this moment and in as many moments as we allow
It is from this strong shared intentional healing foundation that we live with the
most power any human being can possibly experience in alignment with in I-
Thou relation-with in the selfless Love that is the very Source of all creation
This process of transformational healing envelops and extends beyond cure at any
level and unlike ldquocurerdquo it is not some static condition at which we arrive (by
the grace of some outside benevolent authority) Rather such transformational
healing is an ongoing process of BEING-a-certain-way in strength in power
in wisdom in loving relation-with (not only Self but Source God Higher Power)
Let this loving empowered healing be the deep transformation you intend ndash your
moment-to-moment empowered healing transformation from core within
ldquoPRAXISrdquo
We finally come to the term PRAXIS Clients often ask why I use ldquopraxisrdquo rather
than something more familiar like ldquopracticerdquo or ldquoexerciserdquo My answer is very
simple and straight-forward
First we can quickly dispense with the term ldquoexerciserdquo Do you really want to
ldquoexerciserdquo intentional healing each day ndash or would you rather just skip having to
exercise any more than you already know you need to do Enough said
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Now imagine I invite you to ldquoplease make sure and practice your intentional
healing each dayrdquo How do you feel then For me it brings up that I must not
be very good at it especially if I need to be practicing every day
Consider now how you feel when I invite you to ldquoskillfully applyrdquo the intentional
healing process in comfort Doesnt ldquoskillful applicationrdquo feel much more
empowering than ldquopracticingrdquo Since ldquopraxisrdquo means ldquoskillful applicationrdquo isnt it
much more inviting to approach your intentional healing sessions with skill
And you will as you become more comfortable applying the process each day
Other folks also ask if shared-intentional-healingtrade wouldnt be better considered
an ldquoexperimentrdquo much like Lynn McTaggarts The Intention Experiment (2007) I
can see how the notion of an ldquoexperimentrdquo carries with it some sense of intrigue
but ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately represent the experience that is shared-
intentional-healingtrade
First (as we learned in our discussion of ldquointentionalrdquo above) when we participate
in Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade we are as a matter-of-fact intending-to-create
healing Such activity cannot be an ldquoexperimentrdquo or we lose the certainty
required for healing change Rather we set out to generate an experience-of-
relating that is powered by being committed empassioned and selflessly loving
You can likely identify such a committed passionate selflessly loving experience
from some time in your life ndash whether in love among family through an
impassioned hobby in seeking some goal or perhaps spiritually As you already
know such an experience is not something we wish-for or hope-for or need to
wait and see what happens It is simply a loving relating-with experience we
already know how to have We just be it and do it
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Moreover (as I suggested above) there is palpable transformation that occurs
within each of us as we gain comfort participating in shared-intentional-healingtrade
This transformational experience happens through your participation and it will
happen for you ndash no need to experiment just simply participate
Moreover at the heart of it the notion of ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately reflect
the research to date on ldquointentionrdquo and ldquohealingrdquo As an example a 1997 review
of research on ldquoIntercessory Prayer for the Alleviation of Ill Healthrdquo by Roberts
Ahmed Hall amp Davison reports individual studies suggest a positive effect of
intercessory prayer But since they viewed other reports in which the results
were equivocal they conclude no ldquo further trials of this intervention should be
takenrdquo5
Regrettably they miss the point The fact that studies DO exist reporting a
positive correlation between intercessory prayer and the alleviation of ill health is
precisely the reason more studies should be undertaken Edison found hundreds
of approaches that were equivocal before discovering a singular lighting solution
Thank goodness he did not conclude any further trials were unnecessary before
arriving at that solution
When it comes to this uniquely intimate subject of healing Eric Leskowitz MD
(in a review of the book Healing Intention amp Energy Medicine (2002) by Wayne
Jonas MD) explains how such conflicting conclusions like Roberts etal come
about Dr Leskowitz notes when he is in discussions with his allopathic medical
colleagues regarding ldquo inexplicable phenomena like energy healing or
intercessory prayer a sort of allopathic fear reflex kicks inrdquo6 Conclusions
become tunnel-visioned and skewed against even the possibility of such
correlation existing anywhere at any time Hence no further trials
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You may however verify for yourself such positively-correlated research does
indeed already exist by reviewing the studies in Jonas book (above) In
addition Marilyn Schlitz PhD provides a brief outline of just some of those
ldquopositive correlationrdquo studies that highlight the ldquointerface of science spirituality
and medicinerdquo7
If you would like an even more in-depth review I refer you to Consciousness amp
Healing Integral Approaches to Mind-Body Medicine (2005) by Schlitz Amorok
and Micozzi as well as the more recent (2008) Holistic Nursing A Handbook for Practice
5th edition by Dossey amp Keegan
In sum although experimental research has certainly not provided the final
answers on the relation between intention and healing the research to date is
most certainly beyond the ldquoequivocalrdquo suggested by those reflexively reacting
from allopathic fear Those studies completed to date which do display a positive
correlation between intention and healing are already providing a strong practical
foundation of powerful techniques and approaches that go far beyond
ldquoexperimentingrdquo and straight to the heart of skillful-application in daily living
Shared-Intentional-Healingrdquotrade is just one such approach you may access today
and everyday simply by participating in your daily praxis
With the above foundation in mind we can now move on to
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PRAXIS GUIDELINES
Having considered in some depth the foundation on which this method rests we
may now turn to the guidelines describing ldquohow tordquo participate in your daily
Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis
Before you approach your first intentional session please read through the
description and suggestions below Remember these opportunities are for YOU
to BENEFIT YOU Again there is no right way nor wrong way for you to
participate You simply participate in your own best way Therefore as noted
previously the description below is solely meant as a guided outline to assist you
in jump-starting your participation ndash sharing with you some ideas that have
already worked well for others in our Community
For this to be beneficial for everyone please do your best to allot at least 5 to
15 minutes for each intentional session If you are already seasoned at
sitting in quiet you certainly may choose to go longer (eg 30) and you can
trust there are other CYSH members continuing in synchrony with you
To start out let your sessions be for shorter periods of time You will experience
a natural increase in length of participation without having to think about it or
plan for it This is not a race nor a test of endurance This is a nourishing of
Self and a cultivation of your best healing intentions Be gentle
In the beginning it can also be helpful if you imagine sending out your healing
intentions in a particular direction around the globe and returning to you from
the opposite direction This way as you imagine can assist you in creating a
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ldquoflowrdquo with regard to directing intentional healing to all others around the globe
As you become more adept you will very naturally be able to generate healing
images radiating from your whole being equally in all directions You will
become aware there is no particular ldquoupdownrdquo in space-time There is just
ldquoeverywhere hererdquo that is always at the center of the universe ndash as you are at all
times and as is each member
Finally please know you may also invite your friends and loved ones to share
with you in these sessions If they cannot participate with you ask them (at
minimum) to set their healing intention for you and send it like a gift to you each
day This can be helpful to them as well knowing they are actively supporting
you with their selfless loving healing
So let us begin with a session description I have broken it down into 8 separate
action steps below
1 First make time to just sit and be comfortable (nothing ldquoto dordquo now)
Loosen any tight clothing
2 Begin breathing slowly until you relax into a comfortable natural pace
This is a time for gentleness Simply allow experience to happen and
follow experience moment-to-moment as you proceed
3 Slowly scan your entire being from head to toes inside and out If you
notice any part of you in tension just allow it to relax naturally and
dissolve with each out-breath
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Note It may take you 2 or more breathing cycles to notice the muscles in a
particular area begin to relax There are times as well when you may just
need to continue on with your scan trusting that the area will release as you
proceed Again this is time for gentle following
4 Once relaxed (as much as may be possible for now) INVITE your Self to
allow and receive healing intention and healing love
Note This may not feel natural or normal within and like a child the
knee-jerk reaction may indeed be to rebel You are merely sending an
invitation nothing more As you repeat this intentional healing invitation
each day you will soon begin to notice that you are indeed looking forward
to this opportunity
5 You are now comfortable relaxed and intentional within It is time now
to image all the other CYSH Members with whom you are sharing this
time Know they too are seeking to generate healing for your challenges
just as you are for theirs Depending on your beliefs it is here that you
may also invite connect with your source of spiritual power (God
Source Higher Power Buddha) to participate with you
6 Spend the next minutes imagining a Circle of Intentional Healing
Energy flowing into you from all the others and out from you to all
others Allow it to be easy natural like the earthrsquos flow of water
circulating from sky to earth and back to sky simply relax into this flow
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Note It may help to imagine your healing intentions emanating from about
2 finger-widths behind and about 3 finger-widths below your navel This
site (known as the ldquolower dan tienrdquo or ldquoharardquo) is considered the physical
center of gravity around which you are in perfect balance
From this point you can imagine healing intention flowing up your trunk
through your neck and head and out the top of your head to the other
CYSH members
The healing intention returning to you can be experienced as coming into
you at the same center of gravity point from which you started
Important Do not attempt to localize your intentions to any one region
within (brain heart liver etc) the reason being that a given illness process
occurs across and between physiological systems (even though we may talk
as if it is isolated to one system) It is best to imagine your entire Self
within a cocoon or bubble of flowing healing intention ndash everywhere within
you at once You may experience color warmth safety Luxuriate in your
experience Enjoy the moment
During this intentional time it can also be helpful on a given inout cycle of
breath to silently express I send out Loving Healing On the next
inout cycle silently express I receive Loving Healing and so on
In addition if your mind wanders off task (amp it will) just gently return to
the flow of loving healing intention Remember this experience is all about
being gentle Enjoy the process
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Continue in this state for as long as you desire and is easy comfortable
and natural With practice your will naturally be at ease for longer
periods of time during each session
7 When complete express gratitude to your Self as well as to all others
sharing in this moment with you Sit in this experience of gratitude for a
few moments
8 Savor the nourishing peace you have generated
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8-STEP PRAXIS REVIEW
1 SIT in comfort
2 BREATHE slowly rhythmically
3 SCAN (head to toes) to relax further still
4 INVITE SELF to allow healing intention
5 RELATE-WITH all other CYSH members amp Spiritual Power
6 SENDRECEIVE intentional healing
ldquoI send out Loving Healingrdquo ldquoI receive Loving Healingrdquo
7 Sit in GRATITUDE
8 SAVOR the nourishing peace
I genuinely look forward to your daily participation and to sharing this powerful
healing process with you I would love to hear your experiences with your praxis
Please do feel free to email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom)
My mission is to Coach You Well
Sincerely amp Caringly
MALCOLM
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REFERENCES
1 Chopra Deepak (1994) The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success ndash A Practical Guide to
the Fulfillment of Your Dreams p76
2 Chopra Deepak (1999) A Deepak Chopra Companion Illuminations on Health and
Human Consciousness p94
3 Dyer httpwwwyoutubecomwatchv=DC-FPorUW7gampfeature=related
4 Buber Martin (1971) I And Thou
5 Intercessory prayer httpwwwcochraneorgreviewsenab000368html
6 Leskowitz httpwholistichealingresearchcom42books12
7 Schlitz httpxnetkporgpermanentejournalsum05evidencepdf
copy2009byMFDayton
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ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Malcolm Dayton LPC Cht is a Licensed Counselor with more than two decades coaching individuals and families facing chronic illness He is also certified in MindBody Medicine and Hypnotherapy
Malcolms Coaching Self Healing program is unique in that he calls on his own lifelong journey with chronic illness (multiple sclerosis asthma immune deficiency) to assist you in accessing your unique healing solutions Very simply Malcolm walks his coaching
His coaching program is truly integral-- that is healing solutions are practical in focus and applied comprehensively incorporating all dimensions of your experience from symptoms to wellness from relations within self to social relations from the physical to spiritual--a truly ecological approach to Self Healing You learn to be FULLIVINGtrade ndash to thrive beyond chronic illness
Malcolms mission is to Coach You WELL
CONTACTMalcolm Dayton LPC CHt
email mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom
phone 970-689-4247
Yes Malcolm Im ready to discover
the benefits of Self Healing Coaching NOW
Sign me up now for myCOMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION
Be Well And THRIVE Beyond Chronic Illness Now
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Providing so many times is meant solely as a way to coordinate our attention and
energies in synchrony with other community members There is no need to be
concerned about the ldquorightrdquo time to participate As already noted your energies
are better-focused on being-present your comfort and on positive intention
There simply is no ldquorightrdquo time just the time that is right for you
Another advantage of having eight scheduled times each day is to provide
flexibility for you to adjust your participation in response to changes in your
symptom experiences As noted earlier when going through more difficult
symptomatic periods that are disrupting to your routine participating in
additional praxis times (rather than focusing on symptoms) may assist you with
limiting intensity and duration of the exacerbation ndash particularly by generating
more relaxation and rest
Still another helpful way you may consider your praxis ldquotimerdquo has been clarified
by Einstein physicists and spiritual leaders through history What they have
shown us is that ldquotimerdquo is a construct (a ldquoboxrdquo) and is not really ldquoout thererdquo at
all Indeed if ldquotimerdquo exists it can only be NOW
Such a perspective can be extremely nourishing when considering what Deepak
Chopra MD and Wayne Dyer PhD call the ldquogaprdquo The gap is that experience in
which you are ldquocenteredrdquo in the ldquosilent space between thoughtsrdquo When in the
gap you are at that ldquolevel of Being which is your essential staterdquo1 This
experience of being-in-the-gap is timeless ndash rdquothe womb of creationrdquo2 It is within
this state of experience that healing occurs
As you perform your praxis each day you will naturally and directly begin to
experience the timeless-being of the gap firsthand Once you recognize this
experience you will realize that whatever time of day you actually participate in
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SIHP you are doing it in the same NOW as all other CYSH members ndash even
though your session ldquoclock timesrdquo differ throughout the day
ldquoSHAREDrdquo
Remember the key here is that you are surrounding your Self with the one
heartbeat of all the other community members Your attention your energy
and your intentions are SHARED by all ndash just as their energies and intentions are
shared with and for you It is this attitude of sharing-with a wholehearted
giving-to that is key to this approach It is very simple As you give from
your heart-of-caring so you will receive
Be comforted in knowing that by simply participating once a day (after even a
few short days) you will begin to feel more comfortable more at ease more at
peace now than you may have experienced in years AND you know you are
contributing to the FULLIVINGtrade of others that is contributing beyond well-
being into the very heart of healing Trust me when I say your peace and your
giving heart provide a strong (and necessary) foundation on which to build
healing for each of us and of all of us together
ldquoINTENTIONALrdquo
So what does it mean to be INTENTIONAL One of the most helpful reviews of
ldquointentionrdquo is provided by Wayne Dyer PhD3 In Dyers The Power of Intention
(2005) he describes how we may ldquowishrdquo for something to occur in our lives but
such wishing is only a beginning
We may also choose to take the next step beyond wishing to ldquodesirerdquo Desire
results in taking action on the wish and is proactively distinct from wishing It is
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with desire that we now straight-forwardly make the ldquoaskrdquo (as in ldquoask and you
shall receiverdquo)
Still again we can step-up the intensity of our activity even more (beyond
wishing and asking) that is we may frame our desire in terms of what we
actually ldquointend to createrdquo Stop here for a moment close your eyes and feel
the power in these words I INTEND TO CREATE Period And again
I INTEND TO CREATE
We are very matter-of-fact about bringing the thing wished for desired
requested into experience No doubt No fear Creating healing now is simply a
given that occurs by way of you actively participating Period
Such intention-to-create by definition requires both commitment and passion
With commitment we are beyond ldquotryingrdquo to make the thing happen and
instead move into what I call devotion-to-creating (from the original French
devovere ldquodedicated by a vowrdquo) With such devotion we experience a much
deeper more profound state of being an awareness beyond ego
Devotion-to-creating allows you to act beyond the ldquooughtsrdquo and ldquoshouldsrdquo of
others beyond your own doubts and fears beyond obligation and guilt and
directly to the heart of being inspired (ldquodrawing in of airrdquo ldquoinspiritrdquo) that is you
are drawn into relation-with the powerful and empowering Source that creates
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It is by being inspired that you meet the paradox at the heart of ldquointendingrdquo As
you proactively intend-to-create you naturally come to experience being
committed devoted and inspired however you actually create only inasmuch as
you allow your Self to follow the flow of your inspiration naturally ndash that is as
you open your Self to receive Therefore as you intend to heal you must
also open to receive healing
As such it is important you recognize healing happens as you ldquoget out of your
own wayrdquo beyond intellect desire doubt and ego How do we do that How do
we get out of our own way beyond ego Very simply you do that by allowing
your Self to trust your healing
Please take a moment here to recall a time when you were injured in some way
(maybe a cut or broken bone) Beyond receiving necessary medical assistance
what did you do to mend to heal Once attended to medically its likely that you
never gave the actual processes of ldquohealingrdquo much thought ndash dying cells cleared
away new cells forming and eventually performing as if they had been there all
along as if nothing ever happened Healing just occurred your part was to trust
the process take good care of yourself and allow it Whether conscious or not
you simply trusted yourself to heal
It is that same trust you must have as you now commit-to-create intentional
healing Your whole Self system ldquoknowsrdquo how and what needs healing and in
what specific sequence of steps healing must occur Self does not need the
agreement of intellect or common sense to proceed naturally with healing Self
has been carrying out that process every nano-second of every day of your life ndash
simultaneously coordinating trillions of biochemical and energetic activities in
every cell of your entire being Heart beats lungs breath intestines digest and
your job is simply to get out of your own way and trust your Self to heal
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As you do alongside this intense Self-trust and commitment-to-create (our vow)
passion takes over and leads the way beyond common sense beyond
doubting intellect beyond beliefs and even beyond perceptions Such intense
passion emanating from your heart is very simply ldquoagaperdquo (selfless Love) In
this state you no longer experience others as separate bounded subject-object
(I-It) rather you share together in a living boundless oneness-of-relating
honoring the encounter by giving your present and your presence to the
sacredness of ldquoI-Thourdquo4
Map of HEALING INTENTION
I WISH
I DESIRE (ASK)
I INTEND-TO-CREATE
INCLUDES I COMMIT-TO-CREATE (I Vow = Devotion-to-creating)
I AM PASSIONATE
(I am Inspired)
PARADOX OF INTENDING (I Allow I Receive I Trust My Self to Heal)
I-THOU (Agape)
Figure copy2009 by MFDayton
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It is this deep experience of heartfelt passion and selfless Love you are aiming to
access directly (and share) when you intend from the heart when you are
performing your shared-intentional-healingtrade praxis
So once again stop for a moment now to imagine Imagine the tremendous
healing power at your disposal when you step into your shared session each day
with the intention-to-create healing It means you are committing to heal
vowing to heal trusting your Self to heal by way of your impassioned
heart You are giving your presence to merge as one-heartbeat in
synchrony and selfless love with all other CYSH members in this moment
now Therein lies the true power of your healing intention
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ldquoHEALINGrdquo (beyond ldquobeing curedrdquo)
Clearly what we intend to create during each praxis is HEALING your healing
healing for other members my healing and our healing together as one Yet do
you really know what you mean when you say ldquoI intend to healrdquo
Whenever we take time to reflect on the notion of ldquohealingrdquo typically one of the
first things that bubbles up into awareness is some hope of being ldquocuredrdquo Given
the difficulties and challenges we can face in just making it through even the
most simple of daily activities ldquocurerdquo can be so very inviting Indeed given the
opportunity who of us wouldnt want to be cured of a chronic illness And cured
NOW
Yet by seeking to ldquobe curedrdquo we can become entrenched in even more intense
challenges and symptom exacerbation How could that be What could
possibly be wrong with hoping for a cure
There is nothing wrong with hoping dreaming goal setting Indeed these
activities can provide momentum power purpose and direction to an otherwise
difficult day Yet the moment we turn our attention to ldquobeing curedrdquo our focus
immediately comes to rest on that which we desire to be ldquocured ofrdquo to ldquoget away
fromrdquo and it is here we become derailed Its like the age-old challenge to ldquonot
think of a blue elephantrdquo We must first conceive such a beast before we cannot
think about it
So too with ldquocurerdquo ndash We must first converge our attention and energies even
more intensely on the illness and the symptoms we wish to cease Clearly this
activity takes us in the opposite direction from the relief and health we are
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seeking In fact it is the same process described by Cheri Huber in one of her
more remarkable books entitled That Which You Are Seeking Is Causing You To
Seek (1990) Take a moment now to think about her title in relation to ldquoThe cure
I am seeking is rdquo In short to focus on cure heightens our experience of
dis-ease
To clarify even further when we focus on such moving-away-from-activities we
have no clear vision of what it is we are moving toward Without such clarity our
odds of failing escalate exponentially Success happens only as we also move
toward clearly-defined desires and goals A simple yet powerful example is this
years 40th anniversary of the Apollo 11 moon landing Was that ldquogiant steprdquo
successful because the leaders at NASA focused energy solely on how to create
escape velocity to ldquoget away fromrdquo earth ndash or also on how to get onto the moon
Another helpful example is wanting ldquoout ofrdquo a job Im sure you know of someone
(perhaps yourself) intent on getting away from the daily grind of hisher job Yet
when she did successfully leave that employment inevitably and much too soon
the same situation landslides into the daily grind of the next job Repeating old
patterns of struggle is a very clear sign of actions based on moving-away-
from goals This is a key principle to apply to all aspects of your daily living
The reason this occurs with the get-me-outta-here script is that whatever change
may happen generally does so from ldquowithoutrdquo At best we change scenery Its
the old grass-is-greener scenario ndash which is really no change at all
The inherent problem here can be even more perilous as we see when we take a
closer look at the wording ldquobeing curedrdquo We tend to redirect our attention from
within (our source of creative power) to some force outside that causes the cure
for us (whether that be by way of a physician a healer natural substances
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medications treatments or God)
On some level we tell ourselves if I could figure out what was happening to get
into this situation (ie chronic illness) I would be able to figure out how to get
out of it but (and heres the rub) since I cant I begin to believe less and less in
my innate healing power and more and more that such power must lie outside of
me ndash with an outside force greater than me (whether medical natural or
spiritual)
Please be clear on this point This is not to underplay the importance of qualified
medical professionals to your progress The same is true of the importance and
value of your spirituality and relation-with God Source Higher Power The point
to take away here is that you can only access the benefits of such healing
relations when YOU are first centered and strong in your own being ndash when you
approach your Self as a sacred Thou
Therefore in the situation where you reflexively turn over your power to heal (to
an outside agent) understand the ensuing damage you risk to your sense of Self
Not only are you diminishing belief in your inherent strength and healing power
you are also at risk of allowing others to determine what is best for your well-
being (perhaps even against your deeper intuitive knowing) all of which only
serves to further undermine Self-esteem and the tremendous power that comes
from believing in your Self
Even our religious upbringing can paradoxically weaken our beliefs regarding the
possibility of cure We learn at a deep level that ldquocurerdquo lies only in the realm of
the miraculous Such an orientation can weaken belief in the possibility of ldquome
being cured nowrdquo In fact when being completely honest many of us feel the
odds of ldquome being cured nowrdquo are as slim or slimmer than winning a million dollar
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lottery And when it does not happen were faced with the more daunting issue
of how I must somehow be ldquoflawedrdquo Clearly such underlying attitudes provide
no foundation on which to construct change much less the dramatic change
required with the desire to ldquobe curedrdquo [Here I recommend another Huber book
There Is Nothing Wrong with You Going Beyond Self-Hate (2001)]
In the end when focused on ldquobeing curedrdquo you may not only become separate
from your innate healing power within but you risk the ultimate medical
mistreatment becoming an object to be worked-on mechanically From here it
can be a rapid slide into the role of ldquovictimrdquo whereby you relinquish your
responsibility for choosing altogether (ie intending-to-create) how it is you truly
desire to be In short you risk losing the creative power of intention required to
give birth to healing
By the mid eighties I had been on daily prednisone for over a decade to control
severe bouts of status asthmaticus and recurrent pneumonia Because the
deleterious side-effects of prednisone included adrenal insufficiency (an impaired
stress response) I knew in my heart-of-hearts one key to my well-being lay in
recovering my atrophied stress axis by discontinuing daily prednisone For years
I pleaded with my pulmonary specialist to assist me in tapering off and relearning
how to live prednisone-free Together we did make a few unsuccessful attempts
only to recycle back into another respiratory infection and still higher doses of
prednisone By this time his posture was that I needed to remain on daily
prednisone ldquofor the rest of my liferdquo My posture was to fire him
Fortunately and in short-order I began working with an internist who over the
next two years laid out a plan to become prednisone-free ndash which we did
together successfully Two significant points must be clearly recognized here
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1 You must believe in your innate healing power and if you do not
currently this then becomes your launch pad for your healing journey ndash
relearning to empower your Self to heal
2 You are not in this alone You require the good works of others in
alignment with you to successfully heal As such you need to be very
selective in picking those others with whom you relate to enhance your
medical well-being
If you are feeling your medical support is sapping your power and authority
they probably are but you dont throw the baby out with the bath This is
not about releasing physicians this is about being in a healing
relationship-with your medical professional(s) of choice
Additional cultural biases arise with a focus on ldquocurerdquo Any true change with
regard to chronic illness implies a change ldquofor the betterrdquo That requires us to
believe with certainty that such change can and will bring improvement After
more than fifteen years working with individuals with chronic illness (including
my Self) it is the rare individual Ive encountered who truly believes (from the
core) ldquoI will be curedrdquo We wish for cure certainly but believing with certainty ldquoI
will be curedrdquo rarely
An origin of not believing in ldquobeing curedrdquo lies in the way we traditionally use the
term One problem in particular is that ldquocurerdquo is not a ldquonowrdquo concept -- that is
something I trust to experience now rather we tend to use ldquocurerdquo in a future-
oriented manner of hoping-for-something-to-happen or (at-best) asking-for
maybe praying for cure to happen Yet it is not in the future that you and I
create anything and this is particularly relevant to healing We only create in
the NOW
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Finally even greater issues arise when we attempt to determine precisely what
we mean by the term ldquocurerdquo As one example are you cured when there is ldquoan
end to the disease processrdquo or could that be ldquoremissionrdquo
Does ldquocurerdquo mean a ldquoreturn to full functioningrdquo (ie as I was before the process
started) Is that even possible Consider the case of a disease process that has
already resulted in disfigurement or amputation What does ldquocurerdquo mean in those
situations
Does ldquocurerdquo mean ldquosymptoms are gonerdquo If so are we then cured when
medications relieve or mask the symptoms altogether Do you understand the
quagmire here
It is for all these reasons above that few people are ever truly ldquocuredrdquo of
anything even if we do allow for those who have experienced ldquomiracle curesrdquo
(which are certainly the exception not the norm) Yet when you and I consider
ldquomy situation nowrdquo we need to have the strength of certainty that improvement
is not only possible but immanent
So if not ldquocurerdquo then what You already know the answer And the answer is
ldquohealingrdquo In the end if ldquocurerdquo is anything it is a future-oriented
disempowering mechanical phenomenon at the physical level In contrast
ldquohealingrdquo is an ongoing process (in this moment) of whole-Self transformation
Consider when we truly and proactively ldquohealrdquo we are creating (now) from the
very depths of our core within We are intending-to-create with all the intensity
and power of commitment passion and agape that arises in creative
transformation It is this innate source of inner power to which we must first
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return ldquoas little childrenrdquo in order to initiate healing
We mask nothing when healing now rather we take an active and response-able
role in bringing peace joy and love directly into our daily lives and the lives of
those we touch NOW this moment and in as many moments as we allow
It is from this strong shared intentional healing foundation that we live with the
most power any human being can possibly experience in alignment with in I-
Thou relation-with in the selfless Love that is the very Source of all creation
This process of transformational healing envelops and extends beyond cure at any
level and unlike ldquocurerdquo it is not some static condition at which we arrive (by
the grace of some outside benevolent authority) Rather such transformational
healing is an ongoing process of BEING-a-certain-way in strength in power
in wisdom in loving relation-with (not only Self but Source God Higher Power)
Let this loving empowered healing be the deep transformation you intend ndash your
moment-to-moment empowered healing transformation from core within
ldquoPRAXISrdquo
We finally come to the term PRAXIS Clients often ask why I use ldquopraxisrdquo rather
than something more familiar like ldquopracticerdquo or ldquoexerciserdquo My answer is very
simple and straight-forward
First we can quickly dispense with the term ldquoexerciserdquo Do you really want to
ldquoexerciserdquo intentional healing each day ndash or would you rather just skip having to
exercise any more than you already know you need to do Enough said
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Now imagine I invite you to ldquoplease make sure and practice your intentional
healing each dayrdquo How do you feel then For me it brings up that I must not
be very good at it especially if I need to be practicing every day
Consider now how you feel when I invite you to ldquoskillfully applyrdquo the intentional
healing process in comfort Doesnt ldquoskillful applicationrdquo feel much more
empowering than ldquopracticingrdquo Since ldquopraxisrdquo means ldquoskillful applicationrdquo isnt it
much more inviting to approach your intentional healing sessions with skill
And you will as you become more comfortable applying the process each day
Other folks also ask if shared-intentional-healingtrade wouldnt be better considered
an ldquoexperimentrdquo much like Lynn McTaggarts The Intention Experiment (2007) I
can see how the notion of an ldquoexperimentrdquo carries with it some sense of intrigue
but ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately represent the experience that is shared-
intentional-healingtrade
First (as we learned in our discussion of ldquointentionalrdquo above) when we participate
in Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade we are as a matter-of-fact intending-to-create
healing Such activity cannot be an ldquoexperimentrdquo or we lose the certainty
required for healing change Rather we set out to generate an experience-of-
relating that is powered by being committed empassioned and selflessly loving
You can likely identify such a committed passionate selflessly loving experience
from some time in your life ndash whether in love among family through an
impassioned hobby in seeking some goal or perhaps spiritually As you already
know such an experience is not something we wish-for or hope-for or need to
wait and see what happens It is simply a loving relating-with experience we
already know how to have We just be it and do it
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Moreover (as I suggested above) there is palpable transformation that occurs
within each of us as we gain comfort participating in shared-intentional-healingtrade
This transformational experience happens through your participation and it will
happen for you ndash no need to experiment just simply participate
Moreover at the heart of it the notion of ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately reflect
the research to date on ldquointentionrdquo and ldquohealingrdquo As an example a 1997 review
of research on ldquoIntercessory Prayer for the Alleviation of Ill Healthrdquo by Roberts
Ahmed Hall amp Davison reports individual studies suggest a positive effect of
intercessory prayer But since they viewed other reports in which the results
were equivocal they conclude no ldquo further trials of this intervention should be
takenrdquo5
Regrettably they miss the point The fact that studies DO exist reporting a
positive correlation between intercessory prayer and the alleviation of ill health is
precisely the reason more studies should be undertaken Edison found hundreds
of approaches that were equivocal before discovering a singular lighting solution
Thank goodness he did not conclude any further trials were unnecessary before
arriving at that solution
When it comes to this uniquely intimate subject of healing Eric Leskowitz MD
(in a review of the book Healing Intention amp Energy Medicine (2002) by Wayne
Jonas MD) explains how such conflicting conclusions like Roberts etal come
about Dr Leskowitz notes when he is in discussions with his allopathic medical
colleagues regarding ldquo inexplicable phenomena like energy healing or
intercessory prayer a sort of allopathic fear reflex kicks inrdquo6 Conclusions
become tunnel-visioned and skewed against even the possibility of such
correlation existing anywhere at any time Hence no further trials
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You may however verify for yourself such positively-correlated research does
indeed already exist by reviewing the studies in Jonas book (above) In
addition Marilyn Schlitz PhD provides a brief outline of just some of those
ldquopositive correlationrdquo studies that highlight the ldquointerface of science spirituality
and medicinerdquo7
If you would like an even more in-depth review I refer you to Consciousness amp
Healing Integral Approaches to Mind-Body Medicine (2005) by Schlitz Amorok
and Micozzi as well as the more recent (2008) Holistic Nursing A Handbook for Practice
5th edition by Dossey amp Keegan
In sum although experimental research has certainly not provided the final
answers on the relation between intention and healing the research to date is
most certainly beyond the ldquoequivocalrdquo suggested by those reflexively reacting
from allopathic fear Those studies completed to date which do display a positive
correlation between intention and healing are already providing a strong practical
foundation of powerful techniques and approaches that go far beyond
ldquoexperimentingrdquo and straight to the heart of skillful-application in daily living
Shared-Intentional-Healingrdquotrade is just one such approach you may access today
and everyday simply by participating in your daily praxis
With the above foundation in mind we can now move on to
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PRAXIS GUIDELINES
Having considered in some depth the foundation on which this method rests we
may now turn to the guidelines describing ldquohow tordquo participate in your daily
Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis
Before you approach your first intentional session please read through the
description and suggestions below Remember these opportunities are for YOU
to BENEFIT YOU Again there is no right way nor wrong way for you to
participate You simply participate in your own best way Therefore as noted
previously the description below is solely meant as a guided outline to assist you
in jump-starting your participation ndash sharing with you some ideas that have
already worked well for others in our Community
For this to be beneficial for everyone please do your best to allot at least 5 to
15 minutes for each intentional session If you are already seasoned at
sitting in quiet you certainly may choose to go longer (eg 30) and you can
trust there are other CYSH members continuing in synchrony with you
To start out let your sessions be for shorter periods of time You will experience
a natural increase in length of participation without having to think about it or
plan for it This is not a race nor a test of endurance This is a nourishing of
Self and a cultivation of your best healing intentions Be gentle
In the beginning it can also be helpful if you imagine sending out your healing
intentions in a particular direction around the globe and returning to you from
the opposite direction This way as you imagine can assist you in creating a
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ldquoflowrdquo with regard to directing intentional healing to all others around the globe
As you become more adept you will very naturally be able to generate healing
images radiating from your whole being equally in all directions You will
become aware there is no particular ldquoupdownrdquo in space-time There is just
ldquoeverywhere hererdquo that is always at the center of the universe ndash as you are at all
times and as is each member
Finally please know you may also invite your friends and loved ones to share
with you in these sessions If they cannot participate with you ask them (at
minimum) to set their healing intention for you and send it like a gift to you each
day This can be helpful to them as well knowing they are actively supporting
you with their selfless loving healing
So let us begin with a session description I have broken it down into 8 separate
action steps below
1 First make time to just sit and be comfortable (nothing ldquoto dordquo now)
Loosen any tight clothing
2 Begin breathing slowly until you relax into a comfortable natural pace
This is a time for gentleness Simply allow experience to happen and
follow experience moment-to-moment as you proceed
3 Slowly scan your entire being from head to toes inside and out If you
notice any part of you in tension just allow it to relax naturally and
dissolve with each out-breath
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Note It may take you 2 or more breathing cycles to notice the muscles in a
particular area begin to relax There are times as well when you may just
need to continue on with your scan trusting that the area will release as you
proceed Again this is time for gentle following
4 Once relaxed (as much as may be possible for now) INVITE your Self to
allow and receive healing intention and healing love
Note This may not feel natural or normal within and like a child the
knee-jerk reaction may indeed be to rebel You are merely sending an
invitation nothing more As you repeat this intentional healing invitation
each day you will soon begin to notice that you are indeed looking forward
to this opportunity
5 You are now comfortable relaxed and intentional within It is time now
to image all the other CYSH Members with whom you are sharing this
time Know they too are seeking to generate healing for your challenges
just as you are for theirs Depending on your beliefs it is here that you
may also invite connect with your source of spiritual power (God
Source Higher Power Buddha) to participate with you
6 Spend the next minutes imagining a Circle of Intentional Healing
Energy flowing into you from all the others and out from you to all
others Allow it to be easy natural like the earthrsquos flow of water
circulating from sky to earth and back to sky simply relax into this flow
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Note It may help to imagine your healing intentions emanating from about
2 finger-widths behind and about 3 finger-widths below your navel This
site (known as the ldquolower dan tienrdquo or ldquoharardquo) is considered the physical
center of gravity around which you are in perfect balance
From this point you can imagine healing intention flowing up your trunk
through your neck and head and out the top of your head to the other
CYSH members
The healing intention returning to you can be experienced as coming into
you at the same center of gravity point from which you started
Important Do not attempt to localize your intentions to any one region
within (brain heart liver etc) the reason being that a given illness process
occurs across and between physiological systems (even though we may talk
as if it is isolated to one system) It is best to imagine your entire Self
within a cocoon or bubble of flowing healing intention ndash everywhere within
you at once You may experience color warmth safety Luxuriate in your
experience Enjoy the moment
During this intentional time it can also be helpful on a given inout cycle of
breath to silently express I send out Loving Healing On the next
inout cycle silently express I receive Loving Healing and so on
In addition if your mind wanders off task (amp it will) just gently return to
the flow of loving healing intention Remember this experience is all about
being gentle Enjoy the process
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Continue in this state for as long as you desire and is easy comfortable
and natural With practice your will naturally be at ease for longer
periods of time during each session
7 When complete express gratitude to your Self as well as to all others
sharing in this moment with you Sit in this experience of gratitude for a
few moments
8 Savor the nourishing peace you have generated
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8-STEP PRAXIS REVIEW
1 SIT in comfort
2 BREATHE slowly rhythmically
3 SCAN (head to toes) to relax further still
4 INVITE SELF to allow healing intention
5 RELATE-WITH all other CYSH members amp Spiritual Power
6 SENDRECEIVE intentional healing
ldquoI send out Loving Healingrdquo ldquoI receive Loving Healingrdquo
7 Sit in GRATITUDE
8 SAVOR the nourishing peace
I genuinely look forward to your daily participation and to sharing this powerful
healing process with you I would love to hear your experiences with your praxis
Please do feel free to email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom)
My mission is to Coach You Well
Sincerely amp Caringly
MALCOLM
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REFERENCES
1 Chopra Deepak (1994) The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success ndash A Practical Guide to
the Fulfillment of Your Dreams p76
2 Chopra Deepak (1999) A Deepak Chopra Companion Illuminations on Health and
Human Consciousness p94
3 Dyer httpwwwyoutubecomwatchv=DC-FPorUW7gampfeature=related
4 Buber Martin (1971) I And Thou
5 Intercessory prayer httpwwwcochraneorgreviewsenab000368html
6 Leskowitz httpwholistichealingresearchcom42books12
7 Schlitz httpxnetkporgpermanentejournalsum05evidencepdf
copy2009byMFDayton
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ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Malcolm Dayton LPC Cht is a Licensed Counselor with more than two decades coaching individuals and families facing chronic illness He is also certified in MindBody Medicine and Hypnotherapy
Malcolms Coaching Self Healing program is unique in that he calls on his own lifelong journey with chronic illness (multiple sclerosis asthma immune deficiency) to assist you in accessing your unique healing solutions Very simply Malcolm walks his coaching
His coaching program is truly integral-- that is healing solutions are practical in focus and applied comprehensively incorporating all dimensions of your experience from symptoms to wellness from relations within self to social relations from the physical to spiritual--a truly ecological approach to Self Healing You learn to be FULLIVINGtrade ndash to thrive beyond chronic illness
Malcolms mission is to Coach You WELL
CONTACTMalcolm Dayton LPC CHt
email mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom
phone 970-689-4247
Yes Malcolm Im ready to discover
the benefits of Self Healing Coaching NOW
Sign me up now for myCOMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION
Be Well And THRIVE Beyond Chronic Illness Now
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SIHP you are doing it in the same NOW as all other CYSH members ndash even
though your session ldquoclock timesrdquo differ throughout the day
ldquoSHAREDrdquo
Remember the key here is that you are surrounding your Self with the one
heartbeat of all the other community members Your attention your energy
and your intentions are SHARED by all ndash just as their energies and intentions are
shared with and for you It is this attitude of sharing-with a wholehearted
giving-to that is key to this approach It is very simple As you give from
your heart-of-caring so you will receive
Be comforted in knowing that by simply participating once a day (after even a
few short days) you will begin to feel more comfortable more at ease more at
peace now than you may have experienced in years AND you know you are
contributing to the FULLIVINGtrade of others that is contributing beyond well-
being into the very heart of healing Trust me when I say your peace and your
giving heart provide a strong (and necessary) foundation on which to build
healing for each of us and of all of us together
ldquoINTENTIONALrdquo
So what does it mean to be INTENTIONAL One of the most helpful reviews of
ldquointentionrdquo is provided by Wayne Dyer PhD3 In Dyers The Power of Intention
(2005) he describes how we may ldquowishrdquo for something to occur in our lives but
such wishing is only a beginning
We may also choose to take the next step beyond wishing to ldquodesirerdquo Desire
results in taking action on the wish and is proactively distinct from wishing It is
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with desire that we now straight-forwardly make the ldquoaskrdquo (as in ldquoask and you
shall receiverdquo)
Still again we can step-up the intensity of our activity even more (beyond
wishing and asking) that is we may frame our desire in terms of what we
actually ldquointend to createrdquo Stop here for a moment close your eyes and feel
the power in these words I INTEND TO CREATE Period And again
I INTEND TO CREATE
We are very matter-of-fact about bringing the thing wished for desired
requested into experience No doubt No fear Creating healing now is simply a
given that occurs by way of you actively participating Period
Such intention-to-create by definition requires both commitment and passion
With commitment we are beyond ldquotryingrdquo to make the thing happen and
instead move into what I call devotion-to-creating (from the original French
devovere ldquodedicated by a vowrdquo) With such devotion we experience a much
deeper more profound state of being an awareness beyond ego
Devotion-to-creating allows you to act beyond the ldquooughtsrdquo and ldquoshouldsrdquo of
others beyond your own doubts and fears beyond obligation and guilt and
directly to the heart of being inspired (ldquodrawing in of airrdquo ldquoinspiritrdquo) that is you
are drawn into relation-with the powerful and empowering Source that creates
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It is by being inspired that you meet the paradox at the heart of ldquointendingrdquo As
you proactively intend-to-create you naturally come to experience being
committed devoted and inspired however you actually create only inasmuch as
you allow your Self to follow the flow of your inspiration naturally ndash that is as
you open your Self to receive Therefore as you intend to heal you must
also open to receive healing
As such it is important you recognize healing happens as you ldquoget out of your
own wayrdquo beyond intellect desire doubt and ego How do we do that How do
we get out of our own way beyond ego Very simply you do that by allowing
your Self to trust your healing
Please take a moment here to recall a time when you were injured in some way
(maybe a cut or broken bone) Beyond receiving necessary medical assistance
what did you do to mend to heal Once attended to medically its likely that you
never gave the actual processes of ldquohealingrdquo much thought ndash dying cells cleared
away new cells forming and eventually performing as if they had been there all
along as if nothing ever happened Healing just occurred your part was to trust
the process take good care of yourself and allow it Whether conscious or not
you simply trusted yourself to heal
It is that same trust you must have as you now commit-to-create intentional
healing Your whole Self system ldquoknowsrdquo how and what needs healing and in
what specific sequence of steps healing must occur Self does not need the
agreement of intellect or common sense to proceed naturally with healing Self
has been carrying out that process every nano-second of every day of your life ndash
simultaneously coordinating trillions of biochemical and energetic activities in
every cell of your entire being Heart beats lungs breath intestines digest and
your job is simply to get out of your own way and trust your Self to heal
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As you do alongside this intense Self-trust and commitment-to-create (our vow)
passion takes over and leads the way beyond common sense beyond
doubting intellect beyond beliefs and even beyond perceptions Such intense
passion emanating from your heart is very simply ldquoagaperdquo (selfless Love) In
this state you no longer experience others as separate bounded subject-object
(I-It) rather you share together in a living boundless oneness-of-relating
honoring the encounter by giving your present and your presence to the
sacredness of ldquoI-Thourdquo4
Map of HEALING INTENTION
I WISH
I DESIRE (ASK)
I INTEND-TO-CREATE
INCLUDES I COMMIT-TO-CREATE (I Vow = Devotion-to-creating)
I AM PASSIONATE
(I am Inspired)
PARADOX OF INTENDING (I Allow I Receive I Trust My Self to Heal)
I-THOU (Agape)
Figure copy2009 by MFDayton
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It is this deep experience of heartfelt passion and selfless Love you are aiming to
access directly (and share) when you intend from the heart when you are
performing your shared-intentional-healingtrade praxis
So once again stop for a moment now to imagine Imagine the tremendous
healing power at your disposal when you step into your shared session each day
with the intention-to-create healing It means you are committing to heal
vowing to heal trusting your Self to heal by way of your impassioned
heart You are giving your presence to merge as one-heartbeat in
synchrony and selfless love with all other CYSH members in this moment
now Therein lies the true power of your healing intention
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ldquoHEALINGrdquo (beyond ldquobeing curedrdquo)
Clearly what we intend to create during each praxis is HEALING your healing
healing for other members my healing and our healing together as one Yet do
you really know what you mean when you say ldquoI intend to healrdquo
Whenever we take time to reflect on the notion of ldquohealingrdquo typically one of the
first things that bubbles up into awareness is some hope of being ldquocuredrdquo Given
the difficulties and challenges we can face in just making it through even the
most simple of daily activities ldquocurerdquo can be so very inviting Indeed given the
opportunity who of us wouldnt want to be cured of a chronic illness And cured
NOW
Yet by seeking to ldquobe curedrdquo we can become entrenched in even more intense
challenges and symptom exacerbation How could that be What could
possibly be wrong with hoping for a cure
There is nothing wrong with hoping dreaming goal setting Indeed these
activities can provide momentum power purpose and direction to an otherwise
difficult day Yet the moment we turn our attention to ldquobeing curedrdquo our focus
immediately comes to rest on that which we desire to be ldquocured ofrdquo to ldquoget away
fromrdquo and it is here we become derailed Its like the age-old challenge to ldquonot
think of a blue elephantrdquo We must first conceive such a beast before we cannot
think about it
So too with ldquocurerdquo ndash We must first converge our attention and energies even
more intensely on the illness and the symptoms we wish to cease Clearly this
activity takes us in the opposite direction from the relief and health we are
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seeking In fact it is the same process described by Cheri Huber in one of her
more remarkable books entitled That Which You Are Seeking Is Causing You To
Seek (1990) Take a moment now to think about her title in relation to ldquoThe cure
I am seeking is rdquo In short to focus on cure heightens our experience of
dis-ease
To clarify even further when we focus on such moving-away-from-activities we
have no clear vision of what it is we are moving toward Without such clarity our
odds of failing escalate exponentially Success happens only as we also move
toward clearly-defined desires and goals A simple yet powerful example is this
years 40th anniversary of the Apollo 11 moon landing Was that ldquogiant steprdquo
successful because the leaders at NASA focused energy solely on how to create
escape velocity to ldquoget away fromrdquo earth ndash or also on how to get onto the moon
Another helpful example is wanting ldquoout ofrdquo a job Im sure you know of someone
(perhaps yourself) intent on getting away from the daily grind of hisher job Yet
when she did successfully leave that employment inevitably and much too soon
the same situation landslides into the daily grind of the next job Repeating old
patterns of struggle is a very clear sign of actions based on moving-away-
from goals This is a key principle to apply to all aspects of your daily living
The reason this occurs with the get-me-outta-here script is that whatever change
may happen generally does so from ldquowithoutrdquo At best we change scenery Its
the old grass-is-greener scenario ndash which is really no change at all
The inherent problem here can be even more perilous as we see when we take a
closer look at the wording ldquobeing curedrdquo We tend to redirect our attention from
within (our source of creative power) to some force outside that causes the cure
for us (whether that be by way of a physician a healer natural substances
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medications treatments or God)
On some level we tell ourselves if I could figure out what was happening to get
into this situation (ie chronic illness) I would be able to figure out how to get
out of it but (and heres the rub) since I cant I begin to believe less and less in
my innate healing power and more and more that such power must lie outside of
me ndash with an outside force greater than me (whether medical natural or
spiritual)
Please be clear on this point This is not to underplay the importance of qualified
medical professionals to your progress The same is true of the importance and
value of your spirituality and relation-with God Source Higher Power The point
to take away here is that you can only access the benefits of such healing
relations when YOU are first centered and strong in your own being ndash when you
approach your Self as a sacred Thou
Therefore in the situation where you reflexively turn over your power to heal (to
an outside agent) understand the ensuing damage you risk to your sense of Self
Not only are you diminishing belief in your inherent strength and healing power
you are also at risk of allowing others to determine what is best for your well-
being (perhaps even against your deeper intuitive knowing) all of which only
serves to further undermine Self-esteem and the tremendous power that comes
from believing in your Self
Even our religious upbringing can paradoxically weaken our beliefs regarding the
possibility of cure We learn at a deep level that ldquocurerdquo lies only in the realm of
the miraculous Such an orientation can weaken belief in the possibility of ldquome
being cured nowrdquo In fact when being completely honest many of us feel the
odds of ldquome being cured nowrdquo are as slim or slimmer than winning a million dollar
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lottery And when it does not happen were faced with the more daunting issue
of how I must somehow be ldquoflawedrdquo Clearly such underlying attitudes provide
no foundation on which to construct change much less the dramatic change
required with the desire to ldquobe curedrdquo [Here I recommend another Huber book
There Is Nothing Wrong with You Going Beyond Self-Hate (2001)]
In the end when focused on ldquobeing curedrdquo you may not only become separate
from your innate healing power within but you risk the ultimate medical
mistreatment becoming an object to be worked-on mechanically From here it
can be a rapid slide into the role of ldquovictimrdquo whereby you relinquish your
responsibility for choosing altogether (ie intending-to-create) how it is you truly
desire to be In short you risk losing the creative power of intention required to
give birth to healing
By the mid eighties I had been on daily prednisone for over a decade to control
severe bouts of status asthmaticus and recurrent pneumonia Because the
deleterious side-effects of prednisone included adrenal insufficiency (an impaired
stress response) I knew in my heart-of-hearts one key to my well-being lay in
recovering my atrophied stress axis by discontinuing daily prednisone For years
I pleaded with my pulmonary specialist to assist me in tapering off and relearning
how to live prednisone-free Together we did make a few unsuccessful attempts
only to recycle back into another respiratory infection and still higher doses of
prednisone By this time his posture was that I needed to remain on daily
prednisone ldquofor the rest of my liferdquo My posture was to fire him
Fortunately and in short-order I began working with an internist who over the
next two years laid out a plan to become prednisone-free ndash which we did
together successfully Two significant points must be clearly recognized here
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1 You must believe in your innate healing power and if you do not
currently this then becomes your launch pad for your healing journey ndash
relearning to empower your Self to heal
2 You are not in this alone You require the good works of others in
alignment with you to successfully heal As such you need to be very
selective in picking those others with whom you relate to enhance your
medical well-being
If you are feeling your medical support is sapping your power and authority
they probably are but you dont throw the baby out with the bath This is
not about releasing physicians this is about being in a healing
relationship-with your medical professional(s) of choice
Additional cultural biases arise with a focus on ldquocurerdquo Any true change with
regard to chronic illness implies a change ldquofor the betterrdquo That requires us to
believe with certainty that such change can and will bring improvement After
more than fifteen years working with individuals with chronic illness (including
my Self) it is the rare individual Ive encountered who truly believes (from the
core) ldquoI will be curedrdquo We wish for cure certainly but believing with certainty ldquoI
will be curedrdquo rarely
An origin of not believing in ldquobeing curedrdquo lies in the way we traditionally use the
term One problem in particular is that ldquocurerdquo is not a ldquonowrdquo concept -- that is
something I trust to experience now rather we tend to use ldquocurerdquo in a future-
oriented manner of hoping-for-something-to-happen or (at-best) asking-for
maybe praying for cure to happen Yet it is not in the future that you and I
create anything and this is particularly relevant to healing We only create in
the NOW
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Finally even greater issues arise when we attempt to determine precisely what
we mean by the term ldquocurerdquo As one example are you cured when there is ldquoan
end to the disease processrdquo or could that be ldquoremissionrdquo
Does ldquocurerdquo mean a ldquoreturn to full functioningrdquo (ie as I was before the process
started) Is that even possible Consider the case of a disease process that has
already resulted in disfigurement or amputation What does ldquocurerdquo mean in those
situations
Does ldquocurerdquo mean ldquosymptoms are gonerdquo If so are we then cured when
medications relieve or mask the symptoms altogether Do you understand the
quagmire here
It is for all these reasons above that few people are ever truly ldquocuredrdquo of
anything even if we do allow for those who have experienced ldquomiracle curesrdquo
(which are certainly the exception not the norm) Yet when you and I consider
ldquomy situation nowrdquo we need to have the strength of certainty that improvement
is not only possible but immanent
So if not ldquocurerdquo then what You already know the answer And the answer is
ldquohealingrdquo In the end if ldquocurerdquo is anything it is a future-oriented
disempowering mechanical phenomenon at the physical level In contrast
ldquohealingrdquo is an ongoing process (in this moment) of whole-Self transformation
Consider when we truly and proactively ldquohealrdquo we are creating (now) from the
very depths of our core within We are intending-to-create with all the intensity
and power of commitment passion and agape that arises in creative
transformation It is this innate source of inner power to which we must first
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return ldquoas little childrenrdquo in order to initiate healing
We mask nothing when healing now rather we take an active and response-able
role in bringing peace joy and love directly into our daily lives and the lives of
those we touch NOW this moment and in as many moments as we allow
It is from this strong shared intentional healing foundation that we live with the
most power any human being can possibly experience in alignment with in I-
Thou relation-with in the selfless Love that is the very Source of all creation
This process of transformational healing envelops and extends beyond cure at any
level and unlike ldquocurerdquo it is not some static condition at which we arrive (by
the grace of some outside benevolent authority) Rather such transformational
healing is an ongoing process of BEING-a-certain-way in strength in power
in wisdom in loving relation-with (not only Self but Source God Higher Power)
Let this loving empowered healing be the deep transformation you intend ndash your
moment-to-moment empowered healing transformation from core within
ldquoPRAXISrdquo
We finally come to the term PRAXIS Clients often ask why I use ldquopraxisrdquo rather
than something more familiar like ldquopracticerdquo or ldquoexerciserdquo My answer is very
simple and straight-forward
First we can quickly dispense with the term ldquoexerciserdquo Do you really want to
ldquoexerciserdquo intentional healing each day ndash or would you rather just skip having to
exercise any more than you already know you need to do Enough said
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Now imagine I invite you to ldquoplease make sure and practice your intentional
healing each dayrdquo How do you feel then For me it brings up that I must not
be very good at it especially if I need to be practicing every day
Consider now how you feel when I invite you to ldquoskillfully applyrdquo the intentional
healing process in comfort Doesnt ldquoskillful applicationrdquo feel much more
empowering than ldquopracticingrdquo Since ldquopraxisrdquo means ldquoskillful applicationrdquo isnt it
much more inviting to approach your intentional healing sessions with skill
And you will as you become more comfortable applying the process each day
Other folks also ask if shared-intentional-healingtrade wouldnt be better considered
an ldquoexperimentrdquo much like Lynn McTaggarts The Intention Experiment (2007) I
can see how the notion of an ldquoexperimentrdquo carries with it some sense of intrigue
but ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately represent the experience that is shared-
intentional-healingtrade
First (as we learned in our discussion of ldquointentionalrdquo above) when we participate
in Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade we are as a matter-of-fact intending-to-create
healing Such activity cannot be an ldquoexperimentrdquo or we lose the certainty
required for healing change Rather we set out to generate an experience-of-
relating that is powered by being committed empassioned and selflessly loving
You can likely identify such a committed passionate selflessly loving experience
from some time in your life ndash whether in love among family through an
impassioned hobby in seeking some goal or perhaps spiritually As you already
know such an experience is not something we wish-for or hope-for or need to
wait and see what happens It is simply a loving relating-with experience we
already know how to have We just be it and do it
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Moreover (as I suggested above) there is palpable transformation that occurs
within each of us as we gain comfort participating in shared-intentional-healingtrade
This transformational experience happens through your participation and it will
happen for you ndash no need to experiment just simply participate
Moreover at the heart of it the notion of ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately reflect
the research to date on ldquointentionrdquo and ldquohealingrdquo As an example a 1997 review
of research on ldquoIntercessory Prayer for the Alleviation of Ill Healthrdquo by Roberts
Ahmed Hall amp Davison reports individual studies suggest a positive effect of
intercessory prayer But since they viewed other reports in which the results
were equivocal they conclude no ldquo further trials of this intervention should be
takenrdquo5
Regrettably they miss the point The fact that studies DO exist reporting a
positive correlation between intercessory prayer and the alleviation of ill health is
precisely the reason more studies should be undertaken Edison found hundreds
of approaches that were equivocal before discovering a singular lighting solution
Thank goodness he did not conclude any further trials were unnecessary before
arriving at that solution
When it comes to this uniquely intimate subject of healing Eric Leskowitz MD
(in a review of the book Healing Intention amp Energy Medicine (2002) by Wayne
Jonas MD) explains how such conflicting conclusions like Roberts etal come
about Dr Leskowitz notes when he is in discussions with his allopathic medical
colleagues regarding ldquo inexplicable phenomena like energy healing or
intercessory prayer a sort of allopathic fear reflex kicks inrdquo6 Conclusions
become tunnel-visioned and skewed against even the possibility of such
correlation existing anywhere at any time Hence no further trials
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You may however verify for yourself such positively-correlated research does
indeed already exist by reviewing the studies in Jonas book (above) In
addition Marilyn Schlitz PhD provides a brief outline of just some of those
ldquopositive correlationrdquo studies that highlight the ldquointerface of science spirituality
and medicinerdquo7
If you would like an even more in-depth review I refer you to Consciousness amp
Healing Integral Approaches to Mind-Body Medicine (2005) by Schlitz Amorok
and Micozzi as well as the more recent (2008) Holistic Nursing A Handbook for Practice
5th edition by Dossey amp Keegan
In sum although experimental research has certainly not provided the final
answers on the relation between intention and healing the research to date is
most certainly beyond the ldquoequivocalrdquo suggested by those reflexively reacting
from allopathic fear Those studies completed to date which do display a positive
correlation between intention and healing are already providing a strong practical
foundation of powerful techniques and approaches that go far beyond
ldquoexperimentingrdquo and straight to the heart of skillful-application in daily living
Shared-Intentional-Healingrdquotrade is just one such approach you may access today
and everyday simply by participating in your daily praxis
With the above foundation in mind we can now move on to
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PRAXIS GUIDELINES
Having considered in some depth the foundation on which this method rests we
may now turn to the guidelines describing ldquohow tordquo participate in your daily
Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis
Before you approach your first intentional session please read through the
description and suggestions below Remember these opportunities are for YOU
to BENEFIT YOU Again there is no right way nor wrong way for you to
participate You simply participate in your own best way Therefore as noted
previously the description below is solely meant as a guided outline to assist you
in jump-starting your participation ndash sharing with you some ideas that have
already worked well for others in our Community
For this to be beneficial for everyone please do your best to allot at least 5 to
15 minutes for each intentional session If you are already seasoned at
sitting in quiet you certainly may choose to go longer (eg 30) and you can
trust there are other CYSH members continuing in synchrony with you
To start out let your sessions be for shorter periods of time You will experience
a natural increase in length of participation without having to think about it or
plan for it This is not a race nor a test of endurance This is a nourishing of
Self and a cultivation of your best healing intentions Be gentle
In the beginning it can also be helpful if you imagine sending out your healing
intentions in a particular direction around the globe and returning to you from
the opposite direction This way as you imagine can assist you in creating a
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ldquoflowrdquo with regard to directing intentional healing to all others around the globe
As you become more adept you will very naturally be able to generate healing
images radiating from your whole being equally in all directions You will
become aware there is no particular ldquoupdownrdquo in space-time There is just
ldquoeverywhere hererdquo that is always at the center of the universe ndash as you are at all
times and as is each member
Finally please know you may also invite your friends and loved ones to share
with you in these sessions If they cannot participate with you ask them (at
minimum) to set their healing intention for you and send it like a gift to you each
day This can be helpful to them as well knowing they are actively supporting
you with their selfless loving healing
So let us begin with a session description I have broken it down into 8 separate
action steps below
1 First make time to just sit and be comfortable (nothing ldquoto dordquo now)
Loosen any tight clothing
2 Begin breathing slowly until you relax into a comfortable natural pace
This is a time for gentleness Simply allow experience to happen and
follow experience moment-to-moment as you proceed
3 Slowly scan your entire being from head to toes inside and out If you
notice any part of you in tension just allow it to relax naturally and
dissolve with each out-breath
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Note It may take you 2 or more breathing cycles to notice the muscles in a
particular area begin to relax There are times as well when you may just
need to continue on with your scan trusting that the area will release as you
proceed Again this is time for gentle following
4 Once relaxed (as much as may be possible for now) INVITE your Self to
allow and receive healing intention and healing love
Note This may not feel natural or normal within and like a child the
knee-jerk reaction may indeed be to rebel You are merely sending an
invitation nothing more As you repeat this intentional healing invitation
each day you will soon begin to notice that you are indeed looking forward
to this opportunity
5 You are now comfortable relaxed and intentional within It is time now
to image all the other CYSH Members with whom you are sharing this
time Know they too are seeking to generate healing for your challenges
just as you are for theirs Depending on your beliefs it is here that you
may also invite connect with your source of spiritual power (God
Source Higher Power Buddha) to participate with you
6 Spend the next minutes imagining a Circle of Intentional Healing
Energy flowing into you from all the others and out from you to all
others Allow it to be easy natural like the earthrsquos flow of water
circulating from sky to earth and back to sky simply relax into this flow
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Note It may help to imagine your healing intentions emanating from about
2 finger-widths behind and about 3 finger-widths below your navel This
site (known as the ldquolower dan tienrdquo or ldquoharardquo) is considered the physical
center of gravity around which you are in perfect balance
From this point you can imagine healing intention flowing up your trunk
through your neck and head and out the top of your head to the other
CYSH members
The healing intention returning to you can be experienced as coming into
you at the same center of gravity point from which you started
Important Do not attempt to localize your intentions to any one region
within (brain heart liver etc) the reason being that a given illness process
occurs across and between physiological systems (even though we may talk
as if it is isolated to one system) It is best to imagine your entire Self
within a cocoon or bubble of flowing healing intention ndash everywhere within
you at once You may experience color warmth safety Luxuriate in your
experience Enjoy the moment
During this intentional time it can also be helpful on a given inout cycle of
breath to silently express I send out Loving Healing On the next
inout cycle silently express I receive Loving Healing and so on
In addition if your mind wanders off task (amp it will) just gently return to
the flow of loving healing intention Remember this experience is all about
being gentle Enjoy the process
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Continue in this state for as long as you desire and is easy comfortable
and natural With practice your will naturally be at ease for longer
periods of time during each session
7 When complete express gratitude to your Self as well as to all others
sharing in this moment with you Sit in this experience of gratitude for a
few moments
8 Savor the nourishing peace you have generated
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8-STEP PRAXIS REVIEW
1 SIT in comfort
2 BREATHE slowly rhythmically
3 SCAN (head to toes) to relax further still
4 INVITE SELF to allow healing intention
5 RELATE-WITH all other CYSH members amp Spiritual Power
6 SENDRECEIVE intentional healing
ldquoI send out Loving Healingrdquo ldquoI receive Loving Healingrdquo
7 Sit in GRATITUDE
8 SAVOR the nourishing peace
I genuinely look forward to your daily participation and to sharing this powerful
healing process with you I would love to hear your experiences with your praxis
Please do feel free to email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom)
My mission is to Coach You Well
Sincerely amp Caringly
MALCOLM
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REFERENCES
1 Chopra Deepak (1994) The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success ndash A Practical Guide to
the Fulfillment of Your Dreams p76
2 Chopra Deepak (1999) A Deepak Chopra Companion Illuminations on Health and
Human Consciousness p94
3 Dyer httpwwwyoutubecomwatchv=DC-FPorUW7gampfeature=related
4 Buber Martin (1971) I And Thou
5 Intercessory prayer httpwwwcochraneorgreviewsenab000368html
6 Leskowitz httpwholistichealingresearchcom42books12
7 Schlitz httpxnetkporgpermanentejournalsum05evidencepdf
copy2009byMFDayton
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ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Malcolm Dayton LPC Cht is a Licensed Counselor with more than two decades coaching individuals and families facing chronic illness He is also certified in MindBody Medicine and Hypnotherapy
Malcolms Coaching Self Healing program is unique in that he calls on his own lifelong journey with chronic illness (multiple sclerosis asthma immune deficiency) to assist you in accessing your unique healing solutions Very simply Malcolm walks his coaching
His coaching program is truly integral-- that is healing solutions are practical in focus and applied comprehensively incorporating all dimensions of your experience from symptoms to wellness from relations within self to social relations from the physical to spiritual--a truly ecological approach to Self Healing You learn to be FULLIVINGtrade ndash to thrive beyond chronic illness
Malcolms mission is to Coach You WELL
CONTACTMalcolm Dayton LPC CHt
email mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom
phone 970-689-4247
Yes Malcolm Im ready to discover
the benefits of Self Healing Coaching NOW
Sign me up now for myCOMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION
Be Well And THRIVE Beyond Chronic Illness Now
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with desire that we now straight-forwardly make the ldquoaskrdquo (as in ldquoask and you
shall receiverdquo)
Still again we can step-up the intensity of our activity even more (beyond
wishing and asking) that is we may frame our desire in terms of what we
actually ldquointend to createrdquo Stop here for a moment close your eyes and feel
the power in these words I INTEND TO CREATE Period And again
I INTEND TO CREATE
We are very matter-of-fact about bringing the thing wished for desired
requested into experience No doubt No fear Creating healing now is simply a
given that occurs by way of you actively participating Period
Such intention-to-create by definition requires both commitment and passion
With commitment we are beyond ldquotryingrdquo to make the thing happen and
instead move into what I call devotion-to-creating (from the original French
devovere ldquodedicated by a vowrdquo) With such devotion we experience a much
deeper more profound state of being an awareness beyond ego
Devotion-to-creating allows you to act beyond the ldquooughtsrdquo and ldquoshouldsrdquo of
others beyond your own doubts and fears beyond obligation and guilt and
directly to the heart of being inspired (ldquodrawing in of airrdquo ldquoinspiritrdquo) that is you
are drawn into relation-with the powerful and empowering Source that creates
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It is by being inspired that you meet the paradox at the heart of ldquointendingrdquo As
you proactively intend-to-create you naturally come to experience being
committed devoted and inspired however you actually create only inasmuch as
you allow your Self to follow the flow of your inspiration naturally ndash that is as
you open your Self to receive Therefore as you intend to heal you must
also open to receive healing
As such it is important you recognize healing happens as you ldquoget out of your
own wayrdquo beyond intellect desire doubt and ego How do we do that How do
we get out of our own way beyond ego Very simply you do that by allowing
your Self to trust your healing
Please take a moment here to recall a time when you were injured in some way
(maybe a cut or broken bone) Beyond receiving necessary medical assistance
what did you do to mend to heal Once attended to medically its likely that you
never gave the actual processes of ldquohealingrdquo much thought ndash dying cells cleared
away new cells forming and eventually performing as if they had been there all
along as if nothing ever happened Healing just occurred your part was to trust
the process take good care of yourself and allow it Whether conscious or not
you simply trusted yourself to heal
It is that same trust you must have as you now commit-to-create intentional
healing Your whole Self system ldquoknowsrdquo how and what needs healing and in
what specific sequence of steps healing must occur Self does not need the
agreement of intellect or common sense to proceed naturally with healing Self
has been carrying out that process every nano-second of every day of your life ndash
simultaneously coordinating trillions of biochemical and energetic activities in
every cell of your entire being Heart beats lungs breath intestines digest and
your job is simply to get out of your own way and trust your Self to heal
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As you do alongside this intense Self-trust and commitment-to-create (our vow)
passion takes over and leads the way beyond common sense beyond
doubting intellect beyond beliefs and even beyond perceptions Such intense
passion emanating from your heart is very simply ldquoagaperdquo (selfless Love) In
this state you no longer experience others as separate bounded subject-object
(I-It) rather you share together in a living boundless oneness-of-relating
honoring the encounter by giving your present and your presence to the
sacredness of ldquoI-Thourdquo4
Map of HEALING INTENTION
I WISH
I DESIRE (ASK)
I INTEND-TO-CREATE
INCLUDES I COMMIT-TO-CREATE (I Vow = Devotion-to-creating)
I AM PASSIONATE
(I am Inspired)
PARADOX OF INTENDING (I Allow I Receive I Trust My Self to Heal)
I-THOU (Agape)
Figure copy2009 by MFDayton
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It is this deep experience of heartfelt passion and selfless Love you are aiming to
access directly (and share) when you intend from the heart when you are
performing your shared-intentional-healingtrade praxis
So once again stop for a moment now to imagine Imagine the tremendous
healing power at your disposal when you step into your shared session each day
with the intention-to-create healing It means you are committing to heal
vowing to heal trusting your Self to heal by way of your impassioned
heart You are giving your presence to merge as one-heartbeat in
synchrony and selfless love with all other CYSH members in this moment
now Therein lies the true power of your healing intention
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ldquoHEALINGrdquo (beyond ldquobeing curedrdquo)
Clearly what we intend to create during each praxis is HEALING your healing
healing for other members my healing and our healing together as one Yet do
you really know what you mean when you say ldquoI intend to healrdquo
Whenever we take time to reflect on the notion of ldquohealingrdquo typically one of the
first things that bubbles up into awareness is some hope of being ldquocuredrdquo Given
the difficulties and challenges we can face in just making it through even the
most simple of daily activities ldquocurerdquo can be so very inviting Indeed given the
opportunity who of us wouldnt want to be cured of a chronic illness And cured
NOW
Yet by seeking to ldquobe curedrdquo we can become entrenched in even more intense
challenges and symptom exacerbation How could that be What could
possibly be wrong with hoping for a cure
There is nothing wrong with hoping dreaming goal setting Indeed these
activities can provide momentum power purpose and direction to an otherwise
difficult day Yet the moment we turn our attention to ldquobeing curedrdquo our focus
immediately comes to rest on that which we desire to be ldquocured ofrdquo to ldquoget away
fromrdquo and it is here we become derailed Its like the age-old challenge to ldquonot
think of a blue elephantrdquo We must first conceive such a beast before we cannot
think about it
So too with ldquocurerdquo ndash We must first converge our attention and energies even
more intensely on the illness and the symptoms we wish to cease Clearly this
activity takes us in the opposite direction from the relief and health we are
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seeking In fact it is the same process described by Cheri Huber in one of her
more remarkable books entitled That Which You Are Seeking Is Causing You To
Seek (1990) Take a moment now to think about her title in relation to ldquoThe cure
I am seeking is rdquo In short to focus on cure heightens our experience of
dis-ease
To clarify even further when we focus on such moving-away-from-activities we
have no clear vision of what it is we are moving toward Without such clarity our
odds of failing escalate exponentially Success happens only as we also move
toward clearly-defined desires and goals A simple yet powerful example is this
years 40th anniversary of the Apollo 11 moon landing Was that ldquogiant steprdquo
successful because the leaders at NASA focused energy solely on how to create
escape velocity to ldquoget away fromrdquo earth ndash or also on how to get onto the moon
Another helpful example is wanting ldquoout ofrdquo a job Im sure you know of someone
(perhaps yourself) intent on getting away from the daily grind of hisher job Yet
when she did successfully leave that employment inevitably and much too soon
the same situation landslides into the daily grind of the next job Repeating old
patterns of struggle is a very clear sign of actions based on moving-away-
from goals This is a key principle to apply to all aspects of your daily living
The reason this occurs with the get-me-outta-here script is that whatever change
may happen generally does so from ldquowithoutrdquo At best we change scenery Its
the old grass-is-greener scenario ndash which is really no change at all
The inherent problem here can be even more perilous as we see when we take a
closer look at the wording ldquobeing curedrdquo We tend to redirect our attention from
within (our source of creative power) to some force outside that causes the cure
for us (whether that be by way of a physician a healer natural substances
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medications treatments or God)
On some level we tell ourselves if I could figure out what was happening to get
into this situation (ie chronic illness) I would be able to figure out how to get
out of it but (and heres the rub) since I cant I begin to believe less and less in
my innate healing power and more and more that such power must lie outside of
me ndash with an outside force greater than me (whether medical natural or
spiritual)
Please be clear on this point This is not to underplay the importance of qualified
medical professionals to your progress The same is true of the importance and
value of your spirituality and relation-with God Source Higher Power The point
to take away here is that you can only access the benefits of such healing
relations when YOU are first centered and strong in your own being ndash when you
approach your Self as a sacred Thou
Therefore in the situation where you reflexively turn over your power to heal (to
an outside agent) understand the ensuing damage you risk to your sense of Self
Not only are you diminishing belief in your inherent strength and healing power
you are also at risk of allowing others to determine what is best for your well-
being (perhaps even against your deeper intuitive knowing) all of which only
serves to further undermine Self-esteem and the tremendous power that comes
from believing in your Self
Even our religious upbringing can paradoxically weaken our beliefs regarding the
possibility of cure We learn at a deep level that ldquocurerdquo lies only in the realm of
the miraculous Such an orientation can weaken belief in the possibility of ldquome
being cured nowrdquo In fact when being completely honest many of us feel the
odds of ldquome being cured nowrdquo are as slim or slimmer than winning a million dollar
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lottery And when it does not happen were faced with the more daunting issue
of how I must somehow be ldquoflawedrdquo Clearly such underlying attitudes provide
no foundation on which to construct change much less the dramatic change
required with the desire to ldquobe curedrdquo [Here I recommend another Huber book
There Is Nothing Wrong with You Going Beyond Self-Hate (2001)]
In the end when focused on ldquobeing curedrdquo you may not only become separate
from your innate healing power within but you risk the ultimate medical
mistreatment becoming an object to be worked-on mechanically From here it
can be a rapid slide into the role of ldquovictimrdquo whereby you relinquish your
responsibility for choosing altogether (ie intending-to-create) how it is you truly
desire to be In short you risk losing the creative power of intention required to
give birth to healing
By the mid eighties I had been on daily prednisone for over a decade to control
severe bouts of status asthmaticus and recurrent pneumonia Because the
deleterious side-effects of prednisone included adrenal insufficiency (an impaired
stress response) I knew in my heart-of-hearts one key to my well-being lay in
recovering my atrophied stress axis by discontinuing daily prednisone For years
I pleaded with my pulmonary specialist to assist me in tapering off and relearning
how to live prednisone-free Together we did make a few unsuccessful attempts
only to recycle back into another respiratory infection and still higher doses of
prednisone By this time his posture was that I needed to remain on daily
prednisone ldquofor the rest of my liferdquo My posture was to fire him
Fortunately and in short-order I began working with an internist who over the
next two years laid out a plan to become prednisone-free ndash which we did
together successfully Two significant points must be clearly recognized here
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1 You must believe in your innate healing power and if you do not
currently this then becomes your launch pad for your healing journey ndash
relearning to empower your Self to heal
2 You are not in this alone You require the good works of others in
alignment with you to successfully heal As such you need to be very
selective in picking those others with whom you relate to enhance your
medical well-being
If you are feeling your medical support is sapping your power and authority
they probably are but you dont throw the baby out with the bath This is
not about releasing physicians this is about being in a healing
relationship-with your medical professional(s) of choice
Additional cultural biases arise with a focus on ldquocurerdquo Any true change with
regard to chronic illness implies a change ldquofor the betterrdquo That requires us to
believe with certainty that such change can and will bring improvement After
more than fifteen years working with individuals with chronic illness (including
my Self) it is the rare individual Ive encountered who truly believes (from the
core) ldquoI will be curedrdquo We wish for cure certainly but believing with certainty ldquoI
will be curedrdquo rarely
An origin of not believing in ldquobeing curedrdquo lies in the way we traditionally use the
term One problem in particular is that ldquocurerdquo is not a ldquonowrdquo concept -- that is
something I trust to experience now rather we tend to use ldquocurerdquo in a future-
oriented manner of hoping-for-something-to-happen or (at-best) asking-for
maybe praying for cure to happen Yet it is not in the future that you and I
create anything and this is particularly relevant to healing We only create in
the NOW
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Finally even greater issues arise when we attempt to determine precisely what
we mean by the term ldquocurerdquo As one example are you cured when there is ldquoan
end to the disease processrdquo or could that be ldquoremissionrdquo
Does ldquocurerdquo mean a ldquoreturn to full functioningrdquo (ie as I was before the process
started) Is that even possible Consider the case of a disease process that has
already resulted in disfigurement or amputation What does ldquocurerdquo mean in those
situations
Does ldquocurerdquo mean ldquosymptoms are gonerdquo If so are we then cured when
medications relieve or mask the symptoms altogether Do you understand the
quagmire here
It is for all these reasons above that few people are ever truly ldquocuredrdquo of
anything even if we do allow for those who have experienced ldquomiracle curesrdquo
(which are certainly the exception not the norm) Yet when you and I consider
ldquomy situation nowrdquo we need to have the strength of certainty that improvement
is not only possible but immanent
So if not ldquocurerdquo then what You already know the answer And the answer is
ldquohealingrdquo In the end if ldquocurerdquo is anything it is a future-oriented
disempowering mechanical phenomenon at the physical level In contrast
ldquohealingrdquo is an ongoing process (in this moment) of whole-Self transformation
Consider when we truly and proactively ldquohealrdquo we are creating (now) from the
very depths of our core within We are intending-to-create with all the intensity
and power of commitment passion and agape that arises in creative
transformation It is this innate source of inner power to which we must first
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return ldquoas little childrenrdquo in order to initiate healing
We mask nothing when healing now rather we take an active and response-able
role in bringing peace joy and love directly into our daily lives and the lives of
those we touch NOW this moment and in as many moments as we allow
It is from this strong shared intentional healing foundation that we live with the
most power any human being can possibly experience in alignment with in I-
Thou relation-with in the selfless Love that is the very Source of all creation
This process of transformational healing envelops and extends beyond cure at any
level and unlike ldquocurerdquo it is not some static condition at which we arrive (by
the grace of some outside benevolent authority) Rather such transformational
healing is an ongoing process of BEING-a-certain-way in strength in power
in wisdom in loving relation-with (not only Self but Source God Higher Power)
Let this loving empowered healing be the deep transformation you intend ndash your
moment-to-moment empowered healing transformation from core within
ldquoPRAXISrdquo
We finally come to the term PRAXIS Clients often ask why I use ldquopraxisrdquo rather
than something more familiar like ldquopracticerdquo or ldquoexerciserdquo My answer is very
simple and straight-forward
First we can quickly dispense with the term ldquoexerciserdquo Do you really want to
ldquoexerciserdquo intentional healing each day ndash or would you rather just skip having to
exercise any more than you already know you need to do Enough said
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Now imagine I invite you to ldquoplease make sure and practice your intentional
healing each dayrdquo How do you feel then For me it brings up that I must not
be very good at it especially if I need to be practicing every day
Consider now how you feel when I invite you to ldquoskillfully applyrdquo the intentional
healing process in comfort Doesnt ldquoskillful applicationrdquo feel much more
empowering than ldquopracticingrdquo Since ldquopraxisrdquo means ldquoskillful applicationrdquo isnt it
much more inviting to approach your intentional healing sessions with skill
And you will as you become more comfortable applying the process each day
Other folks also ask if shared-intentional-healingtrade wouldnt be better considered
an ldquoexperimentrdquo much like Lynn McTaggarts The Intention Experiment (2007) I
can see how the notion of an ldquoexperimentrdquo carries with it some sense of intrigue
but ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately represent the experience that is shared-
intentional-healingtrade
First (as we learned in our discussion of ldquointentionalrdquo above) when we participate
in Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade we are as a matter-of-fact intending-to-create
healing Such activity cannot be an ldquoexperimentrdquo or we lose the certainty
required for healing change Rather we set out to generate an experience-of-
relating that is powered by being committed empassioned and selflessly loving
You can likely identify such a committed passionate selflessly loving experience
from some time in your life ndash whether in love among family through an
impassioned hobby in seeking some goal or perhaps spiritually As you already
know such an experience is not something we wish-for or hope-for or need to
wait and see what happens It is simply a loving relating-with experience we
already know how to have We just be it and do it
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Moreover (as I suggested above) there is palpable transformation that occurs
within each of us as we gain comfort participating in shared-intentional-healingtrade
This transformational experience happens through your participation and it will
happen for you ndash no need to experiment just simply participate
Moreover at the heart of it the notion of ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately reflect
the research to date on ldquointentionrdquo and ldquohealingrdquo As an example a 1997 review
of research on ldquoIntercessory Prayer for the Alleviation of Ill Healthrdquo by Roberts
Ahmed Hall amp Davison reports individual studies suggest a positive effect of
intercessory prayer But since they viewed other reports in which the results
were equivocal they conclude no ldquo further trials of this intervention should be
takenrdquo5
Regrettably they miss the point The fact that studies DO exist reporting a
positive correlation between intercessory prayer and the alleviation of ill health is
precisely the reason more studies should be undertaken Edison found hundreds
of approaches that were equivocal before discovering a singular lighting solution
Thank goodness he did not conclude any further trials were unnecessary before
arriving at that solution
When it comes to this uniquely intimate subject of healing Eric Leskowitz MD
(in a review of the book Healing Intention amp Energy Medicine (2002) by Wayne
Jonas MD) explains how such conflicting conclusions like Roberts etal come
about Dr Leskowitz notes when he is in discussions with his allopathic medical
colleagues regarding ldquo inexplicable phenomena like energy healing or
intercessory prayer a sort of allopathic fear reflex kicks inrdquo6 Conclusions
become tunnel-visioned and skewed against even the possibility of such
correlation existing anywhere at any time Hence no further trials
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You may however verify for yourself such positively-correlated research does
indeed already exist by reviewing the studies in Jonas book (above) In
addition Marilyn Schlitz PhD provides a brief outline of just some of those
ldquopositive correlationrdquo studies that highlight the ldquointerface of science spirituality
and medicinerdquo7
If you would like an even more in-depth review I refer you to Consciousness amp
Healing Integral Approaches to Mind-Body Medicine (2005) by Schlitz Amorok
and Micozzi as well as the more recent (2008) Holistic Nursing A Handbook for Practice
5th edition by Dossey amp Keegan
In sum although experimental research has certainly not provided the final
answers on the relation between intention and healing the research to date is
most certainly beyond the ldquoequivocalrdquo suggested by those reflexively reacting
from allopathic fear Those studies completed to date which do display a positive
correlation between intention and healing are already providing a strong practical
foundation of powerful techniques and approaches that go far beyond
ldquoexperimentingrdquo and straight to the heart of skillful-application in daily living
Shared-Intentional-Healingrdquotrade is just one such approach you may access today
and everyday simply by participating in your daily praxis
With the above foundation in mind we can now move on to
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PRAXIS GUIDELINES
Having considered in some depth the foundation on which this method rests we
may now turn to the guidelines describing ldquohow tordquo participate in your daily
Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis
Before you approach your first intentional session please read through the
description and suggestions below Remember these opportunities are for YOU
to BENEFIT YOU Again there is no right way nor wrong way for you to
participate You simply participate in your own best way Therefore as noted
previously the description below is solely meant as a guided outline to assist you
in jump-starting your participation ndash sharing with you some ideas that have
already worked well for others in our Community
For this to be beneficial for everyone please do your best to allot at least 5 to
15 minutes for each intentional session If you are already seasoned at
sitting in quiet you certainly may choose to go longer (eg 30) and you can
trust there are other CYSH members continuing in synchrony with you
To start out let your sessions be for shorter periods of time You will experience
a natural increase in length of participation without having to think about it or
plan for it This is not a race nor a test of endurance This is a nourishing of
Self and a cultivation of your best healing intentions Be gentle
In the beginning it can also be helpful if you imagine sending out your healing
intentions in a particular direction around the globe and returning to you from
the opposite direction This way as you imagine can assist you in creating a
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ldquoflowrdquo with regard to directing intentional healing to all others around the globe
As you become more adept you will very naturally be able to generate healing
images radiating from your whole being equally in all directions You will
become aware there is no particular ldquoupdownrdquo in space-time There is just
ldquoeverywhere hererdquo that is always at the center of the universe ndash as you are at all
times and as is each member
Finally please know you may also invite your friends and loved ones to share
with you in these sessions If they cannot participate with you ask them (at
minimum) to set their healing intention for you and send it like a gift to you each
day This can be helpful to them as well knowing they are actively supporting
you with their selfless loving healing
So let us begin with a session description I have broken it down into 8 separate
action steps below
1 First make time to just sit and be comfortable (nothing ldquoto dordquo now)
Loosen any tight clothing
2 Begin breathing slowly until you relax into a comfortable natural pace
This is a time for gentleness Simply allow experience to happen and
follow experience moment-to-moment as you proceed
3 Slowly scan your entire being from head to toes inside and out If you
notice any part of you in tension just allow it to relax naturally and
dissolve with each out-breath
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Note It may take you 2 or more breathing cycles to notice the muscles in a
particular area begin to relax There are times as well when you may just
need to continue on with your scan trusting that the area will release as you
proceed Again this is time for gentle following
4 Once relaxed (as much as may be possible for now) INVITE your Self to
allow and receive healing intention and healing love
Note This may not feel natural or normal within and like a child the
knee-jerk reaction may indeed be to rebel You are merely sending an
invitation nothing more As you repeat this intentional healing invitation
each day you will soon begin to notice that you are indeed looking forward
to this opportunity
5 You are now comfortable relaxed and intentional within It is time now
to image all the other CYSH Members with whom you are sharing this
time Know they too are seeking to generate healing for your challenges
just as you are for theirs Depending on your beliefs it is here that you
may also invite connect with your source of spiritual power (God
Source Higher Power Buddha) to participate with you
6 Spend the next minutes imagining a Circle of Intentional Healing
Energy flowing into you from all the others and out from you to all
others Allow it to be easy natural like the earthrsquos flow of water
circulating from sky to earth and back to sky simply relax into this flow
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Note It may help to imagine your healing intentions emanating from about
2 finger-widths behind and about 3 finger-widths below your navel This
site (known as the ldquolower dan tienrdquo or ldquoharardquo) is considered the physical
center of gravity around which you are in perfect balance
From this point you can imagine healing intention flowing up your trunk
through your neck and head and out the top of your head to the other
CYSH members
The healing intention returning to you can be experienced as coming into
you at the same center of gravity point from which you started
Important Do not attempt to localize your intentions to any one region
within (brain heart liver etc) the reason being that a given illness process
occurs across and between physiological systems (even though we may talk
as if it is isolated to one system) It is best to imagine your entire Self
within a cocoon or bubble of flowing healing intention ndash everywhere within
you at once You may experience color warmth safety Luxuriate in your
experience Enjoy the moment
During this intentional time it can also be helpful on a given inout cycle of
breath to silently express I send out Loving Healing On the next
inout cycle silently express I receive Loving Healing and so on
In addition if your mind wanders off task (amp it will) just gently return to
the flow of loving healing intention Remember this experience is all about
being gentle Enjoy the process
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Continue in this state for as long as you desire and is easy comfortable
and natural With practice your will naturally be at ease for longer
periods of time during each session
7 When complete express gratitude to your Self as well as to all others
sharing in this moment with you Sit in this experience of gratitude for a
few moments
8 Savor the nourishing peace you have generated
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8-STEP PRAXIS REVIEW
1 SIT in comfort
2 BREATHE slowly rhythmically
3 SCAN (head to toes) to relax further still
4 INVITE SELF to allow healing intention
5 RELATE-WITH all other CYSH members amp Spiritual Power
6 SENDRECEIVE intentional healing
ldquoI send out Loving Healingrdquo ldquoI receive Loving Healingrdquo
7 Sit in GRATITUDE
8 SAVOR the nourishing peace
I genuinely look forward to your daily participation and to sharing this powerful
healing process with you I would love to hear your experiences with your praxis
Please do feel free to email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom)
My mission is to Coach You Well
Sincerely amp Caringly
MALCOLM
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REFERENCES
1 Chopra Deepak (1994) The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success ndash A Practical Guide to
the Fulfillment of Your Dreams p76
2 Chopra Deepak (1999) A Deepak Chopra Companion Illuminations on Health and
Human Consciousness p94
3 Dyer httpwwwyoutubecomwatchv=DC-FPorUW7gampfeature=related
4 Buber Martin (1971) I And Thou
5 Intercessory prayer httpwwwcochraneorgreviewsenab000368html
6 Leskowitz httpwholistichealingresearchcom42books12
7 Schlitz httpxnetkporgpermanentejournalsum05evidencepdf
copy2009byMFDayton
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ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Malcolm Dayton LPC Cht is a Licensed Counselor with more than two decades coaching individuals and families facing chronic illness He is also certified in MindBody Medicine and Hypnotherapy
Malcolms Coaching Self Healing program is unique in that he calls on his own lifelong journey with chronic illness (multiple sclerosis asthma immune deficiency) to assist you in accessing your unique healing solutions Very simply Malcolm walks his coaching
His coaching program is truly integral-- that is healing solutions are practical in focus and applied comprehensively incorporating all dimensions of your experience from symptoms to wellness from relations within self to social relations from the physical to spiritual--a truly ecological approach to Self Healing You learn to be FULLIVINGtrade ndash to thrive beyond chronic illness
Malcolms mission is to Coach You WELL
CONTACTMalcolm Dayton LPC CHt
email mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom
phone 970-689-4247
Yes Malcolm Im ready to discover
the benefits of Self Healing Coaching NOW
Sign me up now for myCOMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION
Be Well And THRIVE Beyond Chronic Illness Now
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It is by being inspired that you meet the paradox at the heart of ldquointendingrdquo As
you proactively intend-to-create you naturally come to experience being
committed devoted and inspired however you actually create only inasmuch as
you allow your Self to follow the flow of your inspiration naturally ndash that is as
you open your Self to receive Therefore as you intend to heal you must
also open to receive healing
As such it is important you recognize healing happens as you ldquoget out of your
own wayrdquo beyond intellect desire doubt and ego How do we do that How do
we get out of our own way beyond ego Very simply you do that by allowing
your Self to trust your healing
Please take a moment here to recall a time when you were injured in some way
(maybe a cut or broken bone) Beyond receiving necessary medical assistance
what did you do to mend to heal Once attended to medically its likely that you
never gave the actual processes of ldquohealingrdquo much thought ndash dying cells cleared
away new cells forming and eventually performing as if they had been there all
along as if nothing ever happened Healing just occurred your part was to trust
the process take good care of yourself and allow it Whether conscious or not
you simply trusted yourself to heal
It is that same trust you must have as you now commit-to-create intentional
healing Your whole Self system ldquoknowsrdquo how and what needs healing and in
what specific sequence of steps healing must occur Self does not need the
agreement of intellect or common sense to proceed naturally with healing Self
has been carrying out that process every nano-second of every day of your life ndash
simultaneously coordinating trillions of biochemical and energetic activities in
every cell of your entire being Heart beats lungs breath intestines digest and
your job is simply to get out of your own way and trust your Self to heal
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As you do alongside this intense Self-trust and commitment-to-create (our vow)
passion takes over and leads the way beyond common sense beyond
doubting intellect beyond beliefs and even beyond perceptions Such intense
passion emanating from your heart is very simply ldquoagaperdquo (selfless Love) In
this state you no longer experience others as separate bounded subject-object
(I-It) rather you share together in a living boundless oneness-of-relating
honoring the encounter by giving your present and your presence to the
sacredness of ldquoI-Thourdquo4
Map of HEALING INTENTION
I WISH
I DESIRE (ASK)
I INTEND-TO-CREATE
INCLUDES I COMMIT-TO-CREATE (I Vow = Devotion-to-creating)
I AM PASSIONATE
(I am Inspired)
PARADOX OF INTENDING (I Allow I Receive I Trust My Self to Heal)
I-THOU (Agape)
Figure copy2009 by MFDayton
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It is this deep experience of heartfelt passion and selfless Love you are aiming to
access directly (and share) when you intend from the heart when you are
performing your shared-intentional-healingtrade praxis
So once again stop for a moment now to imagine Imagine the tremendous
healing power at your disposal when you step into your shared session each day
with the intention-to-create healing It means you are committing to heal
vowing to heal trusting your Self to heal by way of your impassioned
heart You are giving your presence to merge as one-heartbeat in
synchrony and selfless love with all other CYSH members in this moment
now Therein lies the true power of your healing intention
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ldquoHEALINGrdquo (beyond ldquobeing curedrdquo)
Clearly what we intend to create during each praxis is HEALING your healing
healing for other members my healing and our healing together as one Yet do
you really know what you mean when you say ldquoI intend to healrdquo
Whenever we take time to reflect on the notion of ldquohealingrdquo typically one of the
first things that bubbles up into awareness is some hope of being ldquocuredrdquo Given
the difficulties and challenges we can face in just making it through even the
most simple of daily activities ldquocurerdquo can be so very inviting Indeed given the
opportunity who of us wouldnt want to be cured of a chronic illness And cured
NOW
Yet by seeking to ldquobe curedrdquo we can become entrenched in even more intense
challenges and symptom exacerbation How could that be What could
possibly be wrong with hoping for a cure
There is nothing wrong with hoping dreaming goal setting Indeed these
activities can provide momentum power purpose and direction to an otherwise
difficult day Yet the moment we turn our attention to ldquobeing curedrdquo our focus
immediately comes to rest on that which we desire to be ldquocured ofrdquo to ldquoget away
fromrdquo and it is here we become derailed Its like the age-old challenge to ldquonot
think of a blue elephantrdquo We must first conceive such a beast before we cannot
think about it
So too with ldquocurerdquo ndash We must first converge our attention and energies even
more intensely on the illness and the symptoms we wish to cease Clearly this
activity takes us in the opposite direction from the relief and health we are
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seeking In fact it is the same process described by Cheri Huber in one of her
more remarkable books entitled That Which You Are Seeking Is Causing You To
Seek (1990) Take a moment now to think about her title in relation to ldquoThe cure
I am seeking is rdquo In short to focus on cure heightens our experience of
dis-ease
To clarify even further when we focus on such moving-away-from-activities we
have no clear vision of what it is we are moving toward Without such clarity our
odds of failing escalate exponentially Success happens only as we also move
toward clearly-defined desires and goals A simple yet powerful example is this
years 40th anniversary of the Apollo 11 moon landing Was that ldquogiant steprdquo
successful because the leaders at NASA focused energy solely on how to create
escape velocity to ldquoget away fromrdquo earth ndash or also on how to get onto the moon
Another helpful example is wanting ldquoout ofrdquo a job Im sure you know of someone
(perhaps yourself) intent on getting away from the daily grind of hisher job Yet
when she did successfully leave that employment inevitably and much too soon
the same situation landslides into the daily grind of the next job Repeating old
patterns of struggle is a very clear sign of actions based on moving-away-
from goals This is a key principle to apply to all aspects of your daily living
The reason this occurs with the get-me-outta-here script is that whatever change
may happen generally does so from ldquowithoutrdquo At best we change scenery Its
the old grass-is-greener scenario ndash which is really no change at all
The inherent problem here can be even more perilous as we see when we take a
closer look at the wording ldquobeing curedrdquo We tend to redirect our attention from
within (our source of creative power) to some force outside that causes the cure
for us (whether that be by way of a physician a healer natural substances
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 17 of 33
medications treatments or God)
On some level we tell ourselves if I could figure out what was happening to get
into this situation (ie chronic illness) I would be able to figure out how to get
out of it but (and heres the rub) since I cant I begin to believe less and less in
my innate healing power and more and more that such power must lie outside of
me ndash with an outside force greater than me (whether medical natural or
spiritual)
Please be clear on this point This is not to underplay the importance of qualified
medical professionals to your progress The same is true of the importance and
value of your spirituality and relation-with God Source Higher Power The point
to take away here is that you can only access the benefits of such healing
relations when YOU are first centered and strong in your own being ndash when you
approach your Self as a sacred Thou
Therefore in the situation where you reflexively turn over your power to heal (to
an outside agent) understand the ensuing damage you risk to your sense of Self
Not only are you diminishing belief in your inherent strength and healing power
you are also at risk of allowing others to determine what is best for your well-
being (perhaps even against your deeper intuitive knowing) all of which only
serves to further undermine Self-esteem and the tremendous power that comes
from believing in your Self
Even our religious upbringing can paradoxically weaken our beliefs regarding the
possibility of cure We learn at a deep level that ldquocurerdquo lies only in the realm of
the miraculous Such an orientation can weaken belief in the possibility of ldquome
being cured nowrdquo In fact when being completely honest many of us feel the
odds of ldquome being cured nowrdquo are as slim or slimmer than winning a million dollar
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lottery And when it does not happen were faced with the more daunting issue
of how I must somehow be ldquoflawedrdquo Clearly such underlying attitudes provide
no foundation on which to construct change much less the dramatic change
required with the desire to ldquobe curedrdquo [Here I recommend another Huber book
There Is Nothing Wrong with You Going Beyond Self-Hate (2001)]
In the end when focused on ldquobeing curedrdquo you may not only become separate
from your innate healing power within but you risk the ultimate medical
mistreatment becoming an object to be worked-on mechanically From here it
can be a rapid slide into the role of ldquovictimrdquo whereby you relinquish your
responsibility for choosing altogether (ie intending-to-create) how it is you truly
desire to be In short you risk losing the creative power of intention required to
give birth to healing
By the mid eighties I had been on daily prednisone for over a decade to control
severe bouts of status asthmaticus and recurrent pneumonia Because the
deleterious side-effects of prednisone included adrenal insufficiency (an impaired
stress response) I knew in my heart-of-hearts one key to my well-being lay in
recovering my atrophied stress axis by discontinuing daily prednisone For years
I pleaded with my pulmonary specialist to assist me in tapering off and relearning
how to live prednisone-free Together we did make a few unsuccessful attempts
only to recycle back into another respiratory infection and still higher doses of
prednisone By this time his posture was that I needed to remain on daily
prednisone ldquofor the rest of my liferdquo My posture was to fire him
Fortunately and in short-order I began working with an internist who over the
next two years laid out a plan to become prednisone-free ndash which we did
together successfully Two significant points must be clearly recognized here
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1 You must believe in your innate healing power and if you do not
currently this then becomes your launch pad for your healing journey ndash
relearning to empower your Self to heal
2 You are not in this alone You require the good works of others in
alignment with you to successfully heal As such you need to be very
selective in picking those others with whom you relate to enhance your
medical well-being
If you are feeling your medical support is sapping your power and authority
they probably are but you dont throw the baby out with the bath This is
not about releasing physicians this is about being in a healing
relationship-with your medical professional(s) of choice
Additional cultural biases arise with a focus on ldquocurerdquo Any true change with
regard to chronic illness implies a change ldquofor the betterrdquo That requires us to
believe with certainty that such change can and will bring improvement After
more than fifteen years working with individuals with chronic illness (including
my Self) it is the rare individual Ive encountered who truly believes (from the
core) ldquoI will be curedrdquo We wish for cure certainly but believing with certainty ldquoI
will be curedrdquo rarely
An origin of not believing in ldquobeing curedrdquo lies in the way we traditionally use the
term One problem in particular is that ldquocurerdquo is not a ldquonowrdquo concept -- that is
something I trust to experience now rather we tend to use ldquocurerdquo in a future-
oriented manner of hoping-for-something-to-happen or (at-best) asking-for
maybe praying for cure to happen Yet it is not in the future that you and I
create anything and this is particularly relevant to healing We only create in
the NOW
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Finally even greater issues arise when we attempt to determine precisely what
we mean by the term ldquocurerdquo As one example are you cured when there is ldquoan
end to the disease processrdquo or could that be ldquoremissionrdquo
Does ldquocurerdquo mean a ldquoreturn to full functioningrdquo (ie as I was before the process
started) Is that even possible Consider the case of a disease process that has
already resulted in disfigurement or amputation What does ldquocurerdquo mean in those
situations
Does ldquocurerdquo mean ldquosymptoms are gonerdquo If so are we then cured when
medications relieve or mask the symptoms altogether Do you understand the
quagmire here
It is for all these reasons above that few people are ever truly ldquocuredrdquo of
anything even if we do allow for those who have experienced ldquomiracle curesrdquo
(which are certainly the exception not the norm) Yet when you and I consider
ldquomy situation nowrdquo we need to have the strength of certainty that improvement
is not only possible but immanent
So if not ldquocurerdquo then what You already know the answer And the answer is
ldquohealingrdquo In the end if ldquocurerdquo is anything it is a future-oriented
disempowering mechanical phenomenon at the physical level In contrast
ldquohealingrdquo is an ongoing process (in this moment) of whole-Self transformation
Consider when we truly and proactively ldquohealrdquo we are creating (now) from the
very depths of our core within We are intending-to-create with all the intensity
and power of commitment passion and agape that arises in creative
transformation It is this innate source of inner power to which we must first
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return ldquoas little childrenrdquo in order to initiate healing
We mask nothing when healing now rather we take an active and response-able
role in bringing peace joy and love directly into our daily lives and the lives of
those we touch NOW this moment and in as many moments as we allow
It is from this strong shared intentional healing foundation that we live with the
most power any human being can possibly experience in alignment with in I-
Thou relation-with in the selfless Love that is the very Source of all creation
This process of transformational healing envelops and extends beyond cure at any
level and unlike ldquocurerdquo it is not some static condition at which we arrive (by
the grace of some outside benevolent authority) Rather such transformational
healing is an ongoing process of BEING-a-certain-way in strength in power
in wisdom in loving relation-with (not only Self but Source God Higher Power)
Let this loving empowered healing be the deep transformation you intend ndash your
moment-to-moment empowered healing transformation from core within
ldquoPRAXISrdquo
We finally come to the term PRAXIS Clients often ask why I use ldquopraxisrdquo rather
than something more familiar like ldquopracticerdquo or ldquoexerciserdquo My answer is very
simple and straight-forward
First we can quickly dispense with the term ldquoexerciserdquo Do you really want to
ldquoexerciserdquo intentional healing each day ndash or would you rather just skip having to
exercise any more than you already know you need to do Enough said
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Now imagine I invite you to ldquoplease make sure and practice your intentional
healing each dayrdquo How do you feel then For me it brings up that I must not
be very good at it especially if I need to be practicing every day
Consider now how you feel when I invite you to ldquoskillfully applyrdquo the intentional
healing process in comfort Doesnt ldquoskillful applicationrdquo feel much more
empowering than ldquopracticingrdquo Since ldquopraxisrdquo means ldquoskillful applicationrdquo isnt it
much more inviting to approach your intentional healing sessions with skill
And you will as you become more comfortable applying the process each day
Other folks also ask if shared-intentional-healingtrade wouldnt be better considered
an ldquoexperimentrdquo much like Lynn McTaggarts The Intention Experiment (2007) I
can see how the notion of an ldquoexperimentrdquo carries with it some sense of intrigue
but ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately represent the experience that is shared-
intentional-healingtrade
First (as we learned in our discussion of ldquointentionalrdquo above) when we participate
in Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade we are as a matter-of-fact intending-to-create
healing Such activity cannot be an ldquoexperimentrdquo or we lose the certainty
required for healing change Rather we set out to generate an experience-of-
relating that is powered by being committed empassioned and selflessly loving
You can likely identify such a committed passionate selflessly loving experience
from some time in your life ndash whether in love among family through an
impassioned hobby in seeking some goal or perhaps spiritually As you already
know such an experience is not something we wish-for or hope-for or need to
wait and see what happens It is simply a loving relating-with experience we
already know how to have We just be it and do it
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Moreover (as I suggested above) there is palpable transformation that occurs
within each of us as we gain comfort participating in shared-intentional-healingtrade
This transformational experience happens through your participation and it will
happen for you ndash no need to experiment just simply participate
Moreover at the heart of it the notion of ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately reflect
the research to date on ldquointentionrdquo and ldquohealingrdquo As an example a 1997 review
of research on ldquoIntercessory Prayer for the Alleviation of Ill Healthrdquo by Roberts
Ahmed Hall amp Davison reports individual studies suggest a positive effect of
intercessory prayer But since they viewed other reports in which the results
were equivocal they conclude no ldquo further trials of this intervention should be
takenrdquo5
Regrettably they miss the point The fact that studies DO exist reporting a
positive correlation between intercessory prayer and the alleviation of ill health is
precisely the reason more studies should be undertaken Edison found hundreds
of approaches that were equivocal before discovering a singular lighting solution
Thank goodness he did not conclude any further trials were unnecessary before
arriving at that solution
When it comes to this uniquely intimate subject of healing Eric Leskowitz MD
(in a review of the book Healing Intention amp Energy Medicine (2002) by Wayne
Jonas MD) explains how such conflicting conclusions like Roberts etal come
about Dr Leskowitz notes when he is in discussions with his allopathic medical
colleagues regarding ldquo inexplicable phenomena like energy healing or
intercessory prayer a sort of allopathic fear reflex kicks inrdquo6 Conclusions
become tunnel-visioned and skewed against even the possibility of such
correlation existing anywhere at any time Hence no further trials
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You may however verify for yourself such positively-correlated research does
indeed already exist by reviewing the studies in Jonas book (above) In
addition Marilyn Schlitz PhD provides a brief outline of just some of those
ldquopositive correlationrdquo studies that highlight the ldquointerface of science spirituality
and medicinerdquo7
If you would like an even more in-depth review I refer you to Consciousness amp
Healing Integral Approaches to Mind-Body Medicine (2005) by Schlitz Amorok
and Micozzi as well as the more recent (2008) Holistic Nursing A Handbook for Practice
5th edition by Dossey amp Keegan
In sum although experimental research has certainly not provided the final
answers on the relation between intention and healing the research to date is
most certainly beyond the ldquoequivocalrdquo suggested by those reflexively reacting
from allopathic fear Those studies completed to date which do display a positive
correlation between intention and healing are already providing a strong practical
foundation of powerful techniques and approaches that go far beyond
ldquoexperimentingrdquo and straight to the heart of skillful-application in daily living
Shared-Intentional-Healingrdquotrade is just one such approach you may access today
and everyday simply by participating in your daily praxis
With the above foundation in mind we can now move on to
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 25 of 33
PRAXIS GUIDELINES
Having considered in some depth the foundation on which this method rests we
may now turn to the guidelines describing ldquohow tordquo participate in your daily
Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis
Before you approach your first intentional session please read through the
description and suggestions below Remember these opportunities are for YOU
to BENEFIT YOU Again there is no right way nor wrong way for you to
participate You simply participate in your own best way Therefore as noted
previously the description below is solely meant as a guided outline to assist you
in jump-starting your participation ndash sharing with you some ideas that have
already worked well for others in our Community
For this to be beneficial for everyone please do your best to allot at least 5 to
15 minutes for each intentional session If you are already seasoned at
sitting in quiet you certainly may choose to go longer (eg 30) and you can
trust there are other CYSH members continuing in synchrony with you
To start out let your sessions be for shorter periods of time You will experience
a natural increase in length of participation without having to think about it or
plan for it This is not a race nor a test of endurance This is a nourishing of
Self and a cultivation of your best healing intentions Be gentle
In the beginning it can also be helpful if you imagine sending out your healing
intentions in a particular direction around the globe and returning to you from
the opposite direction This way as you imagine can assist you in creating a
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 26 of 33
ldquoflowrdquo with regard to directing intentional healing to all others around the globe
As you become more adept you will very naturally be able to generate healing
images radiating from your whole being equally in all directions You will
become aware there is no particular ldquoupdownrdquo in space-time There is just
ldquoeverywhere hererdquo that is always at the center of the universe ndash as you are at all
times and as is each member
Finally please know you may also invite your friends and loved ones to share
with you in these sessions If they cannot participate with you ask them (at
minimum) to set their healing intention for you and send it like a gift to you each
day This can be helpful to them as well knowing they are actively supporting
you with their selfless loving healing
So let us begin with a session description I have broken it down into 8 separate
action steps below
1 First make time to just sit and be comfortable (nothing ldquoto dordquo now)
Loosen any tight clothing
2 Begin breathing slowly until you relax into a comfortable natural pace
This is a time for gentleness Simply allow experience to happen and
follow experience moment-to-moment as you proceed
3 Slowly scan your entire being from head to toes inside and out If you
notice any part of you in tension just allow it to relax naturally and
dissolve with each out-breath
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Note It may take you 2 or more breathing cycles to notice the muscles in a
particular area begin to relax There are times as well when you may just
need to continue on with your scan trusting that the area will release as you
proceed Again this is time for gentle following
4 Once relaxed (as much as may be possible for now) INVITE your Self to
allow and receive healing intention and healing love
Note This may not feel natural or normal within and like a child the
knee-jerk reaction may indeed be to rebel You are merely sending an
invitation nothing more As you repeat this intentional healing invitation
each day you will soon begin to notice that you are indeed looking forward
to this opportunity
5 You are now comfortable relaxed and intentional within It is time now
to image all the other CYSH Members with whom you are sharing this
time Know they too are seeking to generate healing for your challenges
just as you are for theirs Depending on your beliefs it is here that you
may also invite connect with your source of spiritual power (God
Source Higher Power Buddha) to participate with you
6 Spend the next minutes imagining a Circle of Intentional Healing
Energy flowing into you from all the others and out from you to all
others Allow it to be easy natural like the earthrsquos flow of water
circulating from sky to earth and back to sky simply relax into this flow
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Note It may help to imagine your healing intentions emanating from about
2 finger-widths behind and about 3 finger-widths below your navel This
site (known as the ldquolower dan tienrdquo or ldquoharardquo) is considered the physical
center of gravity around which you are in perfect balance
From this point you can imagine healing intention flowing up your trunk
through your neck and head and out the top of your head to the other
CYSH members
The healing intention returning to you can be experienced as coming into
you at the same center of gravity point from which you started
Important Do not attempt to localize your intentions to any one region
within (brain heart liver etc) the reason being that a given illness process
occurs across and between physiological systems (even though we may talk
as if it is isolated to one system) It is best to imagine your entire Self
within a cocoon or bubble of flowing healing intention ndash everywhere within
you at once You may experience color warmth safety Luxuriate in your
experience Enjoy the moment
During this intentional time it can also be helpful on a given inout cycle of
breath to silently express I send out Loving Healing On the next
inout cycle silently express I receive Loving Healing and so on
In addition if your mind wanders off task (amp it will) just gently return to
the flow of loving healing intention Remember this experience is all about
being gentle Enjoy the process
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Continue in this state for as long as you desire and is easy comfortable
and natural With practice your will naturally be at ease for longer
periods of time during each session
7 When complete express gratitude to your Self as well as to all others
sharing in this moment with you Sit in this experience of gratitude for a
few moments
8 Savor the nourishing peace you have generated
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8-STEP PRAXIS REVIEW
1 SIT in comfort
2 BREATHE slowly rhythmically
3 SCAN (head to toes) to relax further still
4 INVITE SELF to allow healing intention
5 RELATE-WITH all other CYSH members amp Spiritual Power
6 SENDRECEIVE intentional healing
ldquoI send out Loving Healingrdquo ldquoI receive Loving Healingrdquo
7 Sit in GRATITUDE
8 SAVOR the nourishing peace
I genuinely look forward to your daily participation and to sharing this powerful
healing process with you I would love to hear your experiences with your praxis
Please do feel free to email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom)
My mission is to Coach You Well
Sincerely amp Caringly
MALCOLM
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REFERENCES
1 Chopra Deepak (1994) The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success ndash A Practical Guide to
the Fulfillment of Your Dreams p76
2 Chopra Deepak (1999) A Deepak Chopra Companion Illuminations on Health and
Human Consciousness p94
3 Dyer httpwwwyoutubecomwatchv=DC-FPorUW7gampfeature=related
4 Buber Martin (1971) I And Thou
5 Intercessory prayer httpwwwcochraneorgreviewsenab000368html
6 Leskowitz httpwholistichealingresearchcom42books12
7 Schlitz httpxnetkporgpermanentejournalsum05evidencepdf
copy2009byMFDayton
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ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Malcolm Dayton LPC Cht is a Licensed Counselor with more than two decades coaching individuals and families facing chronic illness He is also certified in MindBody Medicine and Hypnotherapy
Malcolms Coaching Self Healing program is unique in that he calls on his own lifelong journey with chronic illness (multiple sclerosis asthma immune deficiency) to assist you in accessing your unique healing solutions Very simply Malcolm walks his coaching
His coaching program is truly integral-- that is healing solutions are practical in focus and applied comprehensively incorporating all dimensions of your experience from symptoms to wellness from relations within self to social relations from the physical to spiritual--a truly ecological approach to Self Healing You learn to be FULLIVINGtrade ndash to thrive beyond chronic illness
Malcolms mission is to Coach You WELL
CONTACTMalcolm Dayton LPC CHt
email mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom
phone 970-689-4247
Yes Malcolm Im ready to discover
the benefits of Self Healing Coaching NOW
Sign me up now for myCOMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION
Be Well And THRIVE Beyond Chronic Illness Now
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As you do alongside this intense Self-trust and commitment-to-create (our vow)
passion takes over and leads the way beyond common sense beyond
doubting intellect beyond beliefs and even beyond perceptions Such intense
passion emanating from your heart is very simply ldquoagaperdquo (selfless Love) In
this state you no longer experience others as separate bounded subject-object
(I-It) rather you share together in a living boundless oneness-of-relating
honoring the encounter by giving your present and your presence to the
sacredness of ldquoI-Thourdquo4
Map of HEALING INTENTION
I WISH
I DESIRE (ASK)
I INTEND-TO-CREATE
INCLUDES I COMMIT-TO-CREATE (I Vow = Devotion-to-creating)
I AM PASSIONATE
(I am Inspired)
PARADOX OF INTENDING (I Allow I Receive I Trust My Self to Heal)
I-THOU (Agape)
Figure copy2009 by MFDayton
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It is this deep experience of heartfelt passion and selfless Love you are aiming to
access directly (and share) when you intend from the heart when you are
performing your shared-intentional-healingtrade praxis
So once again stop for a moment now to imagine Imagine the tremendous
healing power at your disposal when you step into your shared session each day
with the intention-to-create healing It means you are committing to heal
vowing to heal trusting your Self to heal by way of your impassioned
heart You are giving your presence to merge as one-heartbeat in
synchrony and selfless love with all other CYSH members in this moment
now Therein lies the true power of your healing intention
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ldquoHEALINGrdquo (beyond ldquobeing curedrdquo)
Clearly what we intend to create during each praxis is HEALING your healing
healing for other members my healing and our healing together as one Yet do
you really know what you mean when you say ldquoI intend to healrdquo
Whenever we take time to reflect on the notion of ldquohealingrdquo typically one of the
first things that bubbles up into awareness is some hope of being ldquocuredrdquo Given
the difficulties and challenges we can face in just making it through even the
most simple of daily activities ldquocurerdquo can be so very inviting Indeed given the
opportunity who of us wouldnt want to be cured of a chronic illness And cured
NOW
Yet by seeking to ldquobe curedrdquo we can become entrenched in even more intense
challenges and symptom exacerbation How could that be What could
possibly be wrong with hoping for a cure
There is nothing wrong with hoping dreaming goal setting Indeed these
activities can provide momentum power purpose and direction to an otherwise
difficult day Yet the moment we turn our attention to ldquobeing curedrdquo our focus
immediately comes to rest on that which we desire to be ldquocured ofrdquo to ldquoget away
fromrdquo and it is here we become derailed Its like the age-old challenge to ldquonot
think of a blue elephantrdquo We must first conceive such a beast before we cannot
think about it
So too with ldquocurerdquo ndash We must first converge our attention and energies even
more intensely on the illness and the symptoms we wish to cease Clearly this
activity takes us in the opposite direction from the relief and health we are
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seeking In fact it is the same process described by Cheri Huber in one of her
more remarkable books entitled That Which You Are Seeking Is Causing You To
Seek (1990) Take a moment now to think about her title in relation to ldquoThe cure
I am seeking is rdquo In short to focus on cure heightens our experience of
dis-ease
To clarify even further when we focus on such moving-away-from-activities we
have no clear vision of what it is we are moving toward Without such clarity our
odds of failing escalate exponentially Success happens only as we also move
toward clearly-defined desires and goals A simple yet powerful example is this
years 40th anniversary of the Apollo 11 moon landing Was that ldquogiant steprdquo
successful because the leaders at NASA focused energy solely on how to create
escape velocity to ldquoget away fromrdquo earth ndash or also on how to get onto the moon
Another helpful example is wanting ldquoout ofrdquo a job Im sure you know of someone
(perhaps yourself) intent on getting away from the daily grind of hisher job Yet
when she did successfully leave that employment inevitably and much too soon
the same situation landslides into the daily grind of the next job Repeating old
patterns of struggle is a very clear sign of actions based on moving-away-
from goals This is a key principle to apply to all aspects of your daily living
The reason this occurs with the get-me-outta-here script is that whatever change
may happen generally does so from ldquowithoutrdquo At best we change scenery Its
the old grass-is-greener scenario ndash which is really no change at all
The inherent problem here can be even more perilous as we see when we take a
closer look at the wording ldquobeing curedrdquo We tend to redirect our attention from
within (our source of creative power) to some force outside that causes the cure
for us (whether that be by way of a physician a healer natural substances
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medications treatments or God)
On some level we tell ourselves if I could figure out what was happening to get
into this situation (ie chronic illness) I would be able to figure out how to get
out of it but (and heres the rub) since I cant I begin to believe less and less in
my innate healing power and more and more that such power must lie outside of
me ndash with an outside force greater than me (whether medical natural or
spiritual)
Please be clear on this point This is not to underplay the importance of qualified
medical professionals to your progress The same is true of the importance and
value of your spirituality and relation-with God Source Higher Power The point
to take away here is that you can only access the benefits of such healing
relations when YOU are first centered and strong in your own being ndash when you
approach your Self as a sacred Thou
Therefore in the situation where you reflexively turn over your power to heal (to
an outside agent) understand the ensuing damage you risk to your sense of Self
Not only are you diminishing belief in your inherent strength and healing power
you are also at risk of allowing others to determine what is best for your well-
being (perhaps even against your deeper intuitive knowing) all of which only
serves to further undermine Self-esteem and the tremendous power that comes
from believing in your Self
Even our religious upbringing can paradoxically weaken our beliefs regarding the
possibility of cure We learn at a deep level that ldquocurerdquo lies only in the realm of
the miraculous Such an orientation can weaken belief in the possibility of ldquome
being cured nowrdquo In fact when being completely honest many of us feel the
odds of ldquome being cured nowrdquo are as slim or slimmer than winning a million dollar
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lottery And when it does not happen were faced with the more daunting issue
of how I must somehow be ldquoflawedrdquo Clearly such underlying attitudes provide
no foundation on which to construct change much less the dramatic change
required with the desire to ldquobe curedrdquo [Here I recommend another Huber book
There Is Nothing Wrong with You Going Beyond Self-Hate (2001)]
In the end when focused on ldquobeing curedrdquo you may not only become separate
from your innate healing power within but you risk the ultimate medical
mistreatment becoming an object to be worked-on mechanically From here it
can be a rapid slide into the role of ldquovictimrdquo whereby you relinquish your
responsibility for choosing altogether (ie intending-to-create) how it is you truly
desire to be In short you risk losing the creative power of intention required to
give birth to healing
By the mid eighties I had been on daily prednisone for over a decade to control
severe bouts of status asthmaticus and recurrent pneumonia Because the
deleterious side-effects of prednisone included adrenal insufficiency (an impaired
stress response) I knew in my heart-of-hearts one key to my well-being lay in
recovering my atrophied stress axis by discontinuing daily prednisone For years
I pleaded with my pulmonary specialist to assist me in tapering off and relearning
how to live prednisone-free Together we did make a few unsuccessful attempts
only to recycle back into another respiratory infection and still higher doses of
prednisone By this time his posture was that I needed to remain on daily
prednisone ldquofor the rest of my liferdquo My posture was to fire him
Fortunately and in short-order I began working with an internist who over the
next two years laid out a plan to become prednisone-free ndash which we did
together successfully Two significant points must be clearly recognized here
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1 You must believe in your innate healing power and if you do not
currently this then becomes your launch pad for your healing journey ndash
relearning to empower your Self to heal
2 You are not in this alone You require the good works of others in
alignment with you to successfully heal As such you need to be very
selective in picking those others with whom you relate to enhance your
medical well-being
If you are feeling your medical support is sapping your power and authority
they probably are but you dont throw the baby out with the bath This is
not about releasing physicians this is about being in a healing
relationship-with your medical professional(s) of choice
Additional cultural biases arise with a focus on ldquocurerdquo Any true change with
regard to chronic illness implies a change ldquofor the betterrdquo That requires us to
believe with certainty that such change can and will bring improvement After
more than fifteen years working with individuals with chronic illness (including
my Self) it is the rare individual Ive encountered who truly believes (from the
core) ldquoI will be curedrdquo We wish for cure certainly but believing with certainty ldquoI
will be curedrdquo rarely
An origin of not believing in ldquobeing curedrdquo lies in the way we traditionally use the
term One problem in particular is that ldquocurerdquo is not a ldquonowrdquo concept -- that is
something I trust to experience now rather we tend to use ldquocurerdquo in a future-
oriented manner of hoping-for-something-to-happen or (at-best) asking-for
maybe praying for cure to happen Yet it is not in the future that you and I
create anything and this is particularly relevant to healing We only create in
the NOW
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Finally even greater issues arise when we attempt to determine precisely what
we mean by the term ldquocurerdquo As one example are you cured when there is ldquoan
end to the disease processrdquo or could that be ldquoremissionrdquo
Does ldquocurerdquo mean a ldquoreturn to full functioningrdquo (ie as I was before the process
started) Is that even possible Consider the case of a disease process that has
already resulted in disfigurement or amputation What does ldquocurerdquo mean in those
situations
Does ldquocurerdquo mean ldquosymptoms are gonerdquo If so are we then cured when
medications relieve or mask the symptoms altogether Do you understand the
quagmire here
It is for all these reasons above that few people are ever truly ldquocuredrdquo of
anything even if we do allow for those who have experienced ldquomiracle curesrdquo
(which are certainly the exception not the norm) Yet when you and I consider
ldquomy situation nowrdquo we need to have the strength of certainty that improvement
is not only possible but immanent
So if not ldquocurerdquo then what You already know the answer And the answer is
ldquohealingrdquo In the end if ldquocurerdquo is anything it is a future-oriented
disempowering mechanical phenomenon at the physical level In contrast
ldquohealingrdquo is an ongoing process (in this moment) of whole-Self transformation
Consider when we truly and proactively ldquohealrdquo we are creating (now) from the
very depths of our core within We are intending-to-create with all the intensity
and power of commitment passion and agape that arises in creative
transformation It is this innate source of inner power to which we must first
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return ldquoas little childrenrdquo in order to initiate healing
We mask nothing when healing now rather we take an active and response-able
role in bringing peace joy and love directly into our daily lives and the lives of
those we touch NOW this moment and in as many moments as we allow
It is from this strong shared intentional healing foundation that we live with the
most power any human being can possibly experience in alignment with in I-
Thou relation-with in the selfless Love that is the very Source of all creation
This process of transformational healing envelops and extends beyond cure at any
level and unlike ldquocurerdquo it is not some static condition at which we arrive (by
the grace of some outside benevolent authority) Rather such transformational
healing is an ongoing process of BEING-a-certain-way in strength in power
in wisdom in loving relation-with (not only Self but Source God Higher Power)
Let this loving empowered healing be the deep transformation you intend ndash your
moment-to-moment empowered healing transformation from core within
ldquoPRAXISrdquo
We finally come to the term PRAXIS Clients often ask why I use ldquopraxisrdquo rather
than something more familiar like ldquopracticerdquo or ldquoexerciserdquo My answer is very
simple and straight-forward
First we can quickly dispense with the term ldquoexerciserdquo Do you really want to
ldquoexerciserdquo intentional healing each day ndash or would you rather just skip having to
exercise any more than you already know you need to do Enough said
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Now imagine I invite you to ldquoplease make sure and practice your intentional
healing each dayrdquo How do you feel then For me it brings up that I must not
be very good at it especially if I need to be practicing every day
Consider now how you feel when I invite you to ldquoskillfully applyrdquo the intentional
healing process in comfort Doesnt ldquoskillful applicationrdquo feel much more
empowering than ldquopracticingrdquo Since ldquopraxisrdquo means ldquoskillful applicationrdquo isnt it
much more inviting to approach your intentional healing sessions with skill
And you will as you become more comfortable applying the process each day
Other folks also ask if shared-intentional-healingtrade wouldnt be better considered
an ldquoexperimentrdquo much like Lynn McTaggarts The Intention Experiment (2007) I
can see how the notion of an ldquoexperimentrdquo carries with it some sense of intrigue
but ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately represent the experience that is shared-
intentional-healingtrade
First (as we learned in our discussion of ldquointentionalrdquo above) when we participate
in Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade we are as a matter-of-fact intending-to-create
healing Such activity cannot be an ldquoexperimentrdquo or we lose the certainty
required for healing change Rather we set out to generate an experience-of-
relating that is powered by being committed empassioned and selflessly loving
You can likely identify such a committed passionate selflessly loving experience
from some time in your life ndash whether in love among family through an
impassioned hobby in seeking some goal or perhaps spiritually As you already
know such an experience is not something we wish-for or hope-for or need to
wait and see what happens It is simply a loving relating-with experience we
already know how to have We just be it and do it
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Moreover (as I suggested above) there is palpable transformation that occurs
within each of us as we gain comfort participating in shared-intentional-healingtrade
This transformational experience happens through your participation and it will
happen for you ndash no need to experiment just simply participate
Moreover at the heart of it the notion of ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately reflect
the research to date on ldquointentionrdquo and ldquohealingrdquo As an example a 1997 review
of research on ldquoIntercessory Prayer for the Alleviation of Ill Healthrdquo by Roberts
Ahmed Hall amp Davison reports individual studies suggest a positive effect of
intercessory prayer But since they viewed other reports in which the results
were equivocal they conclude no ldquo further trials of this intervention should be
takenrdquo5
Regrettably they miss the point The fact that studies DO exist reporting a
positive correlation between intercessory prayer and the alleviation of ill health is
precisely the reason more studies should be undertaken Edison found hundreds
of approaches that were equivocal before discovering a singular lighting solution
Thank goodness he did not conclude any further trials were unnecessary before
arriving at that solution
When it comes to this uniquely intimate subject of healing Eric Leskowitz MD
(in a review of the book Healing Intention amp Energy Medicine (2002) by Wayne
Jonas MD) explains how such conflicting conclusions like Roberts etal come
about Dr Leskowitz notes when he is in discussions with his allopathic medical
colleagues regarding ldquo inexplicable phenomena like energy healing or
intercessory prayer a sort of allopathic fear reflex kicks inrdquo6 Conclusions
become tunnel-visioned and skewed against even the possibility of such
correlation existing anywhere at any time Hence no further trials
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You may however verify for yourself such positively-correlated research does
indeed already exist by reviewing the studies in Jonas book (above) In
addition Marilyn Schlitz PhD provides a brief outline of just some of those
ldquopositive correlationrdquo studies that highlight the ldquointerface of science spirituality
and medicinerdquo7
If you would like an even more in-depth review I refer you to Consciousness amp
Healing Integral Approaches to Mind-Body Medicine (2005) by Schlitz Amorok
and Micozzi as well as the more recent (2008) Holistic Nursing A Handbook for Practice
5th edition by Dossey amp Keegan
In sum although experimental research has certainly not provided the final
answers on the relation between intention and healing the research to date is
most certainly beyond the ldquoequivocalrdquo suggested by those reflexively reacting
from allopathic fear Those studies completed to date which do display a positive
correlation between intention and healing are already providing a strong practical
foundation of powerful techniques and approaches that go far beyond
ldquoexperimentingrdquo and straight to the heart of skillful-application in daily living
Shared-Intentional-Healingrdquotrade is just one such approach you may access today
and everyday simply by participating in your daily praxis
With the above foundation in mind we can now move on to
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PRAXIS GUIDELINES
Having considered in some depth the foundation on which this method rests we
may now turn to the guidelines describing ldquohow tordquo participate in your daily
Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis
Before you approach your first intentional session please read through the
description and suggestions below Remember these opportunities are for YOU
to BENEFIT YOU Again there is no right way nor wrong way for you to
participate You simply participate in your own best way Therefore as noted
previously the description below is solely meant as a guided outline to assist you
in jump-starting your participation ndash sharing with you some ideas that have
already worked well for others in our Community
For this to be beneficial for everyone please do your best to allot at least 5 to
15 minutes for each intentional session If you are already seasoned at
sitting in quiet you certainly may choose to go longer (eg 30) and you can
trust there are other CYSH members continuing in synchrony with you
To start out let your sessions be for shorter periods of time You will experience
a natural increase in length of participation without having to think about it or
plan for it This is not a race nor a test of endurance This is a nourishing of
Self and a cultivation of your best healing intentions Be gentle
In the beginning it can also be helpful if you imagine sending out your healing
intentions in a particular direction around the globe and returning to you from
the opposite direction This way as you imagine can assist you in creating a
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ldquoflowrdquo with regard to directing intentional healing to all others around the globe
As you become more adept you will very naturally be able to generate healing
images radiating from your whole being equally in all directions You will
become aware there is no particular ldquoupdownrdquo in space-time There is just
ldquoeverywhere hererdquo that is always at the center of the universe ndash as you are at all
times and as is each member
Finally please know you may also invite your friends and loved ones to share
with you in these sessions If they cannot participate with you ask them (at
minimum) to set their healing intention for you and send it like a gift to you each
day This can be helpful to them as well knowing they are actively supporting
you with their selfless loving healing
So let us begin with a session description I have broken it down into 8 separate
action steps below
1 First make time to just sit and be comfortable (nothing ldquoto dordquo now)
Loosen any tight clothing
2 Begin breathing slowly until you relax into a comfortable natural pace
This is a time for gentleness Simply allow experience to happen and
follow experience moment-to-moment as you proceed
3 Slowly scan your entire being from head to toes inside and out If you
notice any part of you in tension just allow it to relax naturally and
dissolve with each out-breath
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Note It may take you 2 or more breathing cycles to notice the muscles in a
particular area begin to relax There are times as well when you may just
need to continue on with your scan trusting that the area will release as you
proceed Again this is time for gentle following
4 Once relaxed (as much as may be possible for now) INVITE your Self to
allow and receive healing intention and healing love
Note This may not feel natural or normal within and like a child the
knee-jerk reaction may indeed be to rebel You are merely sending an
invitation nothing more As you repeat this intentional healing invitation
each day you will soon begin to notice that you are indeed looking forward
to this opportunity
5 You are now comfortable relaxed and intentional within It is time now
to image all the other CYSH Members with whom you are sharing this
time Know they too are seeking to generate healing for your challenges
just as you are for theirs Depending on your beliefs it is here that you
may also invite connect with your source of spiritual power (God
Source Higher Power Buddha) to participate with you
6 Spend the next minutes imagining a Circle of Intentional Healing
Energy flowing into you from all the others and out from you to all
others Allow it to be easy natural like the earthrsquos flow of water
circulating from sky to earth and back to sky simply relax into this flow
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Note It may help to imagine your healing intentions emanating from about
2 finger-widths behind and about 3 finger-widths below your navel This
site (known as the ldquolower dan tienrdquo or ldquoharardquo) is considered the physical
center of gravity around which you are in perfect balance
From this point you can imagine healing intention flowing up your trunk
through your neck and head and out the top of your head to the other
CYSH members
The healing intention returning to you can be experienced as coming into
you at the same center of gravity point from which you started
Important Do not attempt to localize your intentions to any one region
within (brain heart liver etc) the reason being that a given illness process
occurs across and between physiological systems (even though we may talk
as if it is isolated to one system) It is best to imagine your entire Self
within a cocoon or bubble of flowing healing intention ndash everywhere within
you at once You may experience color warmth safety Luxuriate in your
experience Enjoy the moment
During this intentional time it can also be helpful on a given inout cycle of
breath to silently express I send out Loving Healing On the next
inout cycle silently express I receive Loving Healing and so on
In addition if your mind wanders off task (amp it will) just gently return to
the flow of loving healing intention Remember this experience is all about
being gentle Enjoy the process
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Continue in this state for as long as you desire and is easy comfortable
and natural With practice your will naturally be at ease for longer
periods of time during each session
7 When complete express gratitude to your Self as well as to all others
sharing in this moment with you Sit in this experience of gratitude for a
few moments
8 Savor the nourishing peace you have generated
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8-STEP PRAXIS REVIEW
1 SIT in comfort
2 BREATHE slowly rhythmically
3 SCAN (head to toes) to relax further still
4 INVITE SELF to allow healing intention
5 RELATE-WITH all other CYSH members amp Spiritual Power
6 SENDRECEIVE intentional healing
ldquoI send out Loving Healingrdquo ldquoI receive Loving Healingrdquo
7 Sit in GRATITUDE
8 SAVOR the nourishing peace
I genuinely look forward to your daily participation and to sharing this powerful
healing process with you I would love to hear your experiences with your praxis
Please do feel free to email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom)
My mission is to Coach You Well
Sincerely amp Caringly
MALCOLM
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REFERENCES
1 Chopra Deepak (1994) The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success ndash A Practical Guide to
the Fulfillment of Your Dreams p76
2 Chopra Deepak (1999) A Deepak Chopra Companion Illuminations on Health and
Human Consciousness p94
3 Dyer httpwwwyoutubecomwatchv=DC-FPorUW7gampfeature=related
4 Buber Martin (1971) I And Thou
5 Intercessory prayer httpwwwcochraneorgreviewsenab000368html
6 Leskowitz httpwholistichealingresearchcom42books12
7 Schlitz httpxnetkporgpermanentejournalsum05evidencepdf
copy2009byMFDayton
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ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Malcolm Dayton LPC Cht is a Licensed Counselor with more than two decades coaching individuals and families facing chronic illness He is also certified in MindBody Medicine and Hypnotherapy
Malcolms Coaching Self Healing program is unique in that he calls on his own lifelong journey with chronic illness (multiple sclerosis asthma immune deficiency) to assist you in accessing your unique healing solutions Very simply Malcolm walks his coaching
His coaching program is truly integral-- that is healing solutions are practical in focus and applied comprehensively incorporating all dimensions of your experience from symptoms to wellness from relations within self to social relations from the physical to spiritual--a truly ecological approach to Self Healing You learn to be FULLIVINGtrade ndash to thrive beyond chronic illness
Malcolms mission is to Coach You WELL
CONTACTMalcolm Dayton LPC CHt
email mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom
phone 970-689-4247
Yes Malcolm Im ready to discover
the benefits of Self Healing Coaching NOW
Sign me up now for myCOMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION
Be Well And THRIVE Beyond Chronic Illness Now
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 33 of 33
It is this deep experience of heartfelt passion and selfless Love you are aiming to
access directly (and share) when you intend from the heart when you are
performing your shared-intentional-healingtrade praxis
So once again stop for a moment now to imagine Imagine the tremendous
healing power at your disposal when you step into your shared session each day
with the intention-to-create healing It means you are committing to heal
vowing to heal trusting your Self to heal by way of your impassioned
heart You are giving your presence to merge as one-heartbeat in
synchrony and selfless love with all other CYSH members in this moment
now Therein lies the true power of your healing intention
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ldquoHEALINGrdquo (beyond ldquobeing curedrdquo)
Clearly what we intend to create during each praxis is HEALING your healing
healing for other members my healing and our healing together as one Yet do
you really know what you mean when you say ldquoI intend to healrdquo
Whenever we take time to reflect on the notion of ldquohealingrdquo typically one of the
first things that bubbles up into awareness is some hope of being ldquocuredrdquo Given
the difficulties and challenges we can face in just making it through even the
most simple of daily activities ldquocurerdquo can be so very inviting Indeed given the
opportunity who of us wouldnt want to be cured of a chronic illness And cured
NOW
Yet by seeking to ldquobe curedrdquo we can become entrenched in even more intense
challenges and symptom exacerbation How could that be What could
possibly be wrong with hoping for a cure
There is nothing wrong with hoping dreaming goal setting Indeed these
activities can provide momentum power purpose and direction to an otherwise
difficult day Yet the moment we turn our attention to ldquobeing curedrdquo our focus
immediately comes to rest on that which we desire to be ldquocured ofrdquo to ldquoget away
fromrdquo and it is here we become derailed Its like the age-old challenge to ldquonot
think of a blue elephantrdquo We must first conceive such a beast before we cannot
think about it
So too with ldquocurerdquo ndash We must first converge our attention and energies even
more intensely on the illness and the symptoms we wish to cease Clearly this
activity takes us in the opposite direction from the relief and health we are
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 16 of 33
seeking In fact it is the same process described by Cheri Huber in one of her
more remarkable books entitled That Which You Are Seeking Is Causing You To
Seek (1990) Take a moment now to think about her title in relation to ldquoThe cure
I am seeking is rdquo In short to focus on cure heightens our experience of
dis-ease
To clarify even further when we focus on such moving-away-from-activities we
have no clear vision of what it is we are moving toward Without such clarity our
odds of failing escalate exponentially Success happens only as we also move
toward clearly-defined desires and goals A simple yet powerful example is this
years 40th anniversary of the Apollo 11 moon landing Was that ldquogiant steprdquo
successful because the leaders at NASA focused energy solely on how to create
escape velocity to ldquoget away fromrdquo earth ndash or also on how to get onto the moon
Another helpful example is wanting ldquoout ofrdquo a job Im sure you know of someone
(perhaps yourself) intent on getting away from the daily grind of hisher job Yet
when she did successfully leave that employment inevitably and much too soon
the same situation landslides into the daily grind of the next job Repeating old
patterns of struggle is a very clear sign of actions based on moving-away-
from goals This is a key principle to apply to all aspects of your daily living
The reason this occurs with the get-me-outta-here script is that whatever change
may happen generally does so from ldquowithoutrdquo At best we change scenery Its
the old grass-is-greener scenario ndash which is really no change at all
The inherent problem here can be even more perilous as we see when we take a
closer look at the wording ldquobeing curedrdquo We tend to redirect our attention from
within (our source of creative power) to some force outside that causes the cure
for us (whether that be by way of a physician a healer natural substances
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 17 of 33
medications treatments or God)
On some level we tell ourselves if I could figure out what was happening to get
into this situation (ie chronic illness) I would be able to figure out how to get
out of it but (and heres the rub) since I cant I begin to believe less and less in
my innate healing power and more and more that such power must lie outside of
me ndash with an outside force greater than me (whether medical natural or
spiritual)
Please be clear on this point This is not to underplay the importance of qualified
medical professionals to your progress The same is true of the importance and
value of your spirituality and relation-with God Source Higher Power The point
to take away here is that you can only access the benefits of such healing
relations when YOU are first centered and strong in your own being ndash when you
approach your Self as a sacred Thou
Therefore in the situation where you reflexively turn over your power to heal (to
an outside agent) understand the ensuing damage you risk to your sense of Self
Not only are you diminishing belief in your inherent strength and healing power
you are also at risk of allowing others to determine what is best for your well-
being (perhaps even against your deeper intuitive knowing) all of which only
serves to further undermine Self-esteem and the tremendous power that comes
from believing in your Self
Even our religious upbringing can paradoxically weaken our beliefs regarding the
possibility of cure We learn at a deep level that ldquocurerdquo lies only in the realm of
the miraculous Such an orientation can weaken belief in the possibility of ldquome
being cured nowrdquo In fact when being completely honest many of us feel the
odds of ldquome being cured nowrdquo are as slim or slimmer than winning a million dollar
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 18 of 33
lottery And when it does not happen were faced with the more daunting issue
of how I must somehow be ldquoflawedrdquo Clearly such underlying attitudes provide
no foundation on which to construct change much less the dramatic change
required with the desire to ldquobe curedrdquo [Here I recommend another Huber book
There Is Nothing Wrong with You Going Beyond Self-Hate (2001)]
In the end when focused on ldquobeing curedrdquo you may not only become separate
from your innate healing power within but you risk the ultimate medical
mistreatment becoming an object to be worked-on mechanically From here it
can be a rapid slide into the role of ldquovictimrdquo whereby you relinquish your
responsibility for choosing altogether (ie intending-to-create) how it is you truly
desire to be In short you risk losing the creative power of intention required to
give birth to healing
By the mid eighties I had been on daily prednisone for over a decade to control
severe bouts of status asthmaticus and recurrent pneumonia Because the
deleterious side-effects of prednisone included adrenal insufficiency (an impaired
stress response) I knew in my heart-of-hearts one key to my well-being lay in
recovering my atrophied stress axis by discontinuing daily prednisone For years
I pleaded with my pulmonary specialist to assist me in tapering off and relearning
how to live prednisone-free Together we did make a few unsuccessful attempts
only to recycle back into another respiratory infection and still higher doses of
prednisone By this time his posture was that I needed to remain on daily
prednisone ldquofor the rest of my liferdquo My posture was to fire him
Fortunately and in short-order I began working with an internist who over the
next two years laid out a plan to become prednisone-free ndash which we did
together successfully Two significant points must be clearly recognized here
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1 You must believe in your innate healing power and if you do not
currently this then becomes your launch pad for your healing journey ndash
relearning to empower your Self to heal
2 You are not in this alone You require the good works of others in
alignment with you to successfully heal As such you need to be very
selective in picking those others with whom you relate to enhance your
medical well-being
If you are feeling your medical support is sapping your power and authority
they probably are but you dont throw the baby out with the bath This is
not about releasing physicians this is about being in a healing
relationship-with your medical professional(s) of choice
Additional cultural biases arise with a focus on ldquocurerdquo Any true change with
regard to chronic illness implies a change ldquofor the betterrdquo That requires us to
believe with certainty that such change can and will bring improvement After
more than fifteen years working with individuals with chronic illness (including
my Self) it is the rare individual Ive encountered who truly believes (from the
core) ldquoI will be curedrdquo We wish for cure certainly but believing with certainty ldquoI
will be curedrdquo rarely
An origin of not believing in ldquobeing curedrdquo lies in the way we traditionally use the
term One problem in particular is that ldquocurerdquo is not a ldquonowrdquo concept -- that is
something I trust to experience now rather we tend to use ldquocurerdquo in a future-
oriented manner of hoping-for-something-to-happen or (at-best) asking-for
maybe praying for cure to happen Yet it is not in the future that you and I
create anything and this is particularly relevant to healing We only create in
the NOW
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Finally even greater issues arise when we attempt to determine precisely what
we mean by the term ldquocurerdquo As one example are you cured when there is ldquoan
end to the disease processrdquo or could that be ldquoremissionrdquo
Does ldquocurerdquo mean a ldquoreturn to full functioningrdquo (ie as I was before the process
started) Is that even possible Consider the case of a disease process that has
already resulted in disfigurement or amputation What does ldquocurerdquo mean in those
situations
Does ldquocurerdquo mean ldquosymptoms are gonerdquo If so are we then cured when
medications relieve or mask the symptoms altogether Do you understand the
quagmire here
It is for all these reasons above that few people are ever truly ldquocuredrdquo of
anything even if we do allow for those who have experienced ldquomiracle curesrdquo
(which are certainly the exception not the norm) Yet when you and I consider
ldquomy situation nowrdquo we need to have the strength of certainty that improvement
is not only possible but immanent
So if not ldquocurerdquo then what You already know the answer And the answer is
ldquohealingrdquo In the end if ldquocurerdquo is anything it is a future-oriented
disempowering mechanical phenomenon at the physical level In contrast
ldquohealingrdquo is an ongoing process (in this moment) of whole-Self transformation
Consider when we truly and proactively ldquohealrdquo we are creating (now) from the
very depths of our core within We are intending-to-create with all the intensity
and power of commitment passion and agape that arises in creative
transformation It is this innate source of inner power to which we must first
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return ldquoas little childrenrdquo in order to initiate healing
We mask nothing when healing now rather we take an active and response-able
role in bringing peace joy and love directly into our daily lives and the lives of
those we touch NOW this moment and in as many moments as we allow
It is from this strong shared intentional healing foundation that we live with the
most power any human being can possibly experience in alignment with in I-
Thou relation-with in the selfless Love that is the very Source of all creation
This process of transformational healing envelops and extends beyond cure at any
level and unlike ldquocurerdquo it is not some static condition at which we arrive (by
the grace of some outside benevolent authority) Rather such transformational
healing is an ongoing process of BEING-a-certain-way in strength in power
in wisdom in loving relation-with (not only Self but Source God Higher Power)
Let this loving empowered healing be the deep transformation you intend ndash your
moment-to-moment empowered healing transformation from core within
ldquoPRAXISrdquo
We finally come to the term PRAXIS Clients often ask why I use ldquopraxisrdquo rather
than something more familiar like ldquopracticerdquo or ldquoexerciserdquo My answer is very
simple and straight-forward
First we can quickly dispense with the term ldquoexerciserdquo Do you really want to
ldquoexerciserdquo intentional healing each day ndash or would you rather just skip having to
exercise any more than you already know you need to do Enough said
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Now imagine I invite you to ldquoplease make sure and practice your intentional
healing each dayrdquo How do you feel then For me it brings up that I must not
be very good at it especially if I need to be practicing every day
Consider now how you feel when I invite you to ldquoskillfully applyrdquo the intentional
healing process in comfort Doesnt ldquoskillful applicationrdquo feel much more
empowering than ldquopracticingrdquo Since ldquopraxisrdquo means ldquoskillful applicationrdquo isnt it
much more inviting to approach your intentional healing sessions with skill
And you will as you become more comfortable applying the process each day
Other folks also ask if shared-intentional-healingtrade wouldnt be better considered
an ldquoexperimentrdquo much like Lynn McTaggarts The Intention Experiment (2007) I
can see how the notion of an ldquoexperimentrdquo carries with it some sense of intrigue
but ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately represent the experience that is shared-
intentional-healingtrade
First (as we learned in our discussion of ldquointentionalrdquo above) when we participate
in Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade we are as a matter-of-fact intending-to-create
healing Such activity cannot be an ldquoexperimentrdquo or we lose the certainty
required for healing change Rather we set out to generate an experience-of-
relating that is powered by being committed empassioned and selflessly loving
You can likely identify such a committed passionate selflessly loving experience
from some time in your life ndash whether in love among family through an
impassioned hobby in seeking some goal or perhaps spiritually As you already
know such an experience is not something we wish-for or hope-for or need to
wait and see what happens It is simply a loving relating-with experience we
already know how to have We just be it and do it
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Moreover (as I suggested above) there is palpable transformation that occurs
within each of us as we gain comfort participating in shared-intentional-healingtrade
This transformational experience happens through your participation and it will
happen for you ndash no need to experiment just simply participate
Moreover at the heart of it the notion of ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately reflect
the research to date on ldquointentionrdquo and ldquohealingrdquo As an example a 1997 review
of research on ldquoIntercessory Prayer for the Alleviation of Ill Healthrdquo by Roberts
Ahmed Hall amp Davison reports individual studies suggest a positive effect of
intercessory prayer But since they viewed other reports in which the results
were equivocal they conclude no ldquo further trials of this intervention should be
takenrdquo5
Regrettably they miss the point The fact that studies DO exist reporting a
positive correlation between intercessory prayer and the alleviation of ill health is
precisely the reason more studies should be undertaken Edison found hundreds
of approaches that were equivocal before discovering a singular lighting solution
Thank goodness he did not conclude any further trials were unnecessary before
arriving at that solution
When it comes to this uniquely intimate subject of healing Eric Leskowitz MD
(in a review of the book Healing Intention amp Energy Medicine (2002) by Wayne
Jonas MD) explains how such conflicting conclusions like Roberts etal come
about Dr Leskowitz notes when he is in discussions with his allopathic medical
colleagues regarding ldquo inexplicable phenomena like energy healing or
intercessory prayer a sort of allopathic fear reflex kicks inrdquo6 Conclusions
become tunnel-visioned and skewed against even the possibility of such
correlation existing anywhere at any time Hence no further trials
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You may however verify for yourself such positively-correlated research does
indeed already exist by reviewing the studies in Jonas book (above) In
addition Marilyn Schlitz PhD provides a brief outline of just some of those
ldquopositive correlationrdquo studies that highlight the ldquointerface of science spirituality
and medicinerdquo7
If you would like an even more in-depth review I refer you to Consciousness amp
Healing Integral Approaches to Mind-Body Medicine (2005) by Schlitz Amorok
and Micozzi as well as the more recent (2008) Holistic Nursing A Handbook for Practice
5th edition by Dossey amp Keegan
In sum although experimental research has certainly not provided the final
answers on the relation between intention and healing the research to date is
most certainly beyond the ldquoequivocalrdquo suggested by those reflexively reacting
from allopathic fear Those studies completed to date which do display a positive
correlation between intention and healing are already providing a strong practical
foundation of powerful techniques and approaches that go far beyond
ldquoexperimentingrdquo and straight to the heart of skillful-application in daily living
Shared-Intentional-Healingrdquotrade is just one such approach you may access today
and everyday simply by participating in your daily praxis
With the above foundation in mind we can now move on to
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PRAXIS GUIDELINES
Having considered in some depth the foundation on which this method rests we
may now turn to the guidelines describing ldquohow tordquo participate in your daily
Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis
Before you approach your first intentional session please read through the
description and suggestions below Remember these opportunities are for YOU
to BENEFIT YOU Again there is no right way nor wrong way for you to
participate You simply participate in your own best way Therefore as noted
previously the description below is solely meant as a guided outline to assist you
in jump-starting your participation ndash sharing with you some ideas that have
already worked well for others in our Community
For this to be beneficial for everyone please do your best to allot at least 5 to
15 minutes for each intentional session If you are already seasoned at
sitting in quiet you certainly may choose to go longer (eg 30) and you can
trust there are other CYSH members continuing in synchrony with you
To start out let your sessions be for shorter periods of time You will experience
a natural increase in length of participation without having to think about it or
plan for it This is not a race nor a test of endurance This is a nourishing of
Self and a cultivation of your best healing intentions Be gentle
In the beginning it can also be helpful if you imagine sending out your healing
intentions in a particular direction around the globe and returning to you from
the opposite direction This way as you imagine can assist you in creating a
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ldquoflowrdquo with regard to directing intentional healing to all others around the globe
As you become more adept you will very naturally be able to generate healing
images radiating from your whole being equally in all directions You will
become aware there is no particular ldquoupdownrdquo in space-time There is just
ldquoeverywhere hererdquo that is always at the center of the universe ndash as you are at all
times and as is each member
Finally please know you may also invite your friends and loved ones to share
with you in these sessions If they cannot participate with you ask them (at
minimum) to set their healing intention for you and send it like a gift to you each
day This can be helpful to them as well knowing they are actively supporting
you with their selfless loving healing
So let us begin with a session description I have broken it down into 8 separate
action steps below
1 First make time to just sit and be comfortable (nothing ldquoto dordquo now)
Loosen any tight clothing
2 Begin breathing slowly until you relax into a comfortable natural pace
This is a time for gentleness Simply allow experience to happen and
follow experience moment-to-moment as you proceed
3 Slowly scan your entire being from head to toes inside and out If you
notice any part of you in tension just allow it to relax naturally and
dissolve with each out-breath
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Note It may take you 2 or more breathing cycles to notice the muscles in a
particular area begin to relax There are times as well when you may just
need to continue on with your scan trusting that the area will release as you
proceed Again this is time for gentle following
4 Once relaxed (as much as may be possible for now) INVITE your Self to
allow and receive healing intention and healing love
Note This may not feel natural or normal within and like a child the
knee-jerk reaction may indeed be to rebel You are merely sending an
invitation nothing more As you repeat this intentional healing invitation
each day you will soon begin to notice that you are indeed looking forward
to this opportunity
5 You are now comfortable relaxed and intentional within It is time now
to image all the other CYSH Members with whom you are sharing this
time Know they too are seeking to generate healing for your challenges
just as you are for theirs Depending on your beliefs it is here that you
may also invite connect with your source of spiritual power (God
Source Higher Power Buddha) to participate with you
6 Spend the next minutes imagining a Circle of Intentional Healing
Energy flowing into you from all the others and out from you to all
others Allow it to be easy natural like the earthrsquos flow of water
circulating from sky to earth and back to sky simply relax into this flow
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Note It may help to imagine your healing intentions emanating from about
2 finger-widths behind and about 3 finger-widths below your navel This
site (known as the ldquolower dan tienrdquo or ldquoharardquo) is considered the physical
center of gravity around which you are in perfect balance
From this point you can imagine healing intention flowing up your trunk
through your neck and head and out the top of your head to the other
CYSH members
The healing intention returning to you can be experienced as coming into
you at the same center of gravity point from which you started
Important Do not attempt to localize your intentions to any one region
within (brain heart liver etc) the reason being that a given illness process
occurs across and between physiological systems (even though we may talk
as if it is isolated to one system) It is best to imagine your entire Self
within a cocoon or bubble of flowing healing intention ndash everywhere within
you at once You may experience color warmth safety Luxuriate in your
experience Enjoy the moment
During this intentional time it can also be helpful on a given inout cycle of
breath to silently express I send out Loving Healing On the next
inout cycle silently express I receive Loving Healing and so on
In addition if your mind wanders off task (amp it will) just gently return to
the flow of loving healing intention Remember this experience is all about
being gentle Enjoy the process
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Continue in this state for as long as you desire and is easy comfortable
and natural With practice your will naturally be at ease for longer
periods of time during each session
7 When complete express gratitude to your Self as well as to all others
sharing in this moment with you Sit in this experience of gratitude for a
few moments
8 Savor the nourishing peace you have generated
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8-STEP PRAXIS REVIEW
1 SIT in comfort
2 BREATHE slowly rhythmically
3 SCAN (head to toes) to relax further still
4 INVITE SELF to allow healing intention
5 RELATE-WITH all other CYSH members amp Spiritual Power
6 SENDRECEIVE intentional healing
ldquoI send out Loving Healingrdquo ldquoI receive Loving Healingrdquo
7 Sit in GRATITUDE
8 SAVOR the nourishing peace
I genuinely look forward to your daily participation and to sharing this powerful
healing process with you I would love to hear your experiences with your praxis
Please do feel free to email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom)
My mission is to Coach You Well
Sincerely amp Caringly
MALCOLM
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REFERENCES
1 Chopra Deepak (1994) The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success ndash A Practical Guide to
the Fulfillment of Your Dreams p76
2 Chopra Deepak (1999) A Deepak Chopra Companion Illuminations on Health and
Human Consciousness p94
3 Dyer httpwwwyoutubecomwatchv=DC-FPorUW7gampfeature=related
4 Buber Martin (1971) I And Thou
5 Intercessory prayer httpwwwcochraneorgreviewsenab000368html
6 Leskowitz httpwholistichealingresearchcom42books12
7 Schlitz httpxnetkporgpermanentejournalsum05evidencepdf
copy2009byMFDayton
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 32 of 33
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Malcolm Dayton LPC Cht is a Licensed Counselor with more than two decades coaching individuals and families facing chronic illness He is also certified in MindBody Medicine and Hypnotherapy
Malcolms Coaching Self Healing program is unique in that he calls on his own lifelong journey with chronic illness (multiple sclerosis asthma immune deficiency) to assist you in accessing your unique healing solutions Very simply Malcolm walks his coaching
His coaching program is truly integral-- that is healing solutions are practical in focus and applied comprehensively incorporating all dimensions of your experience from symptoms to wellness from relations within self to social relations from the physical to spiritual--a truly ecological approach to Self Healing You learn to be FULLIVINGtrade ndash to thrive beyond chronic illness
Malcolms mission is to Coach You WELL
CONTACTMalcolm Dayton LPC CHt
email mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom
phone 970-689-4247
Yes Malcolm Im ready to discover
the benefits of Self Healing Coaching NOW
Sign me up now for myCOMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION
Be Well And THRIVE Beyond Chronic Illness Now
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 33 of 33
ldquoHEALINGrdquo (beyond ldquobeing curedrdquo)
Clearly what we intend to create during each praxis is HEALING your healing
healing for other members my healing and our healing together as one Yet do
you really know what you mean when you say ldquoI intend to healrdquo
Whenever we take time to reflect on the notion of ldquohealingrdquo typically one of the
first things that bubbles up into awareness is some hope of being ldquocuredrdquo Given
the difficulties and challenges we can face in just making it through even the
most simple of daily activities ldquocurerdquo can be so very inviting Indeed given the
opportunity who of us wouldnt want to be cured of a chronic illness And cured
NOW
Yet by seeking to ldquobe curedrdquo we can become entrenched in even more intense
challenges and symptom exacerbation How could that be What could
possibly be wrong with hoping for a cure
There is nothing wrong with hoping dreaming goal setting Indeed these
activities can provide momentum power purpose and direction to an otherwise
difficult day Yet the moment we turn our attention to ldquobeing curedrdquo our focus
immediately comes to rest on that which we desire to be ldquocured ofrdquo to ldquoget away
fromrdquo and it is here we become derailed Its like the age-old challenge to ldquonot
think of a blue elephantrdquo We must first conceive such a beast before we cannot
think about it
So too with ldquocurerdquo ndash We must first converge our attention and energies even
more intensely on the illness and the symptoms we wish to cease Clearly this
activity takes us in the opposite direction from the relief and health we are
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 16 of 33
seeking In fact it is the same process described by Cheri Huber in one of her
more remarkable books entitled That Which You Are Seeking Is Causing You To
Seek (1990) Take a moment now to think about her title in relation to ldquoThe cure
I am seeking is rdquo In short to focus on cure heightens our experience of
dis-ease
To clarify even further when we focus on such moving-away-from-activities we
have no clear vision of what it is we are moving toward Without such clarity our
odds of failing escalate exponentially Success happens only as we also move
toward clearly-defined desires and goals A simple yet powerful example is this
years 40th anniversary of the Apollo 11 moon landing Was that ldquogiant steprdquo
successful because the leaders at NASA focused energy solely on how to create
escape velocity to ldquoget away fromrdquo earth ndash or also on how to get onto the moon
Another helpful example is wanting ldquoout ofrdquo a job Im sure you know of someone
(perhaps yourself) intent on getting away from the daily grind of hisher job Yet
when she did successfully leave that employment inevitably and much too soon
the same situation landslides into the daily grind of the next job Repeating old
patterns of struggle is a very clear sign of actions based on moving-away-
from goals This is a key principle to apply to all aspects of your daily living
The reason this occurs with the get-me-outta-here script is that whatever change
may happen generally does so from ldquowithoutrdquo At best we change scenery Its
the old grass-is-greener scenario ndash which is really no change at all
The inherent problem here can be even more perilous as we see when we take a
closer look at the wording ldquobeing curedrdquo We tend to redirect our attention from
within (our source of creative power) to some force outside that causes the cure
for us (whether that be by way of a physician a healer natural substances
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 17 of 33
medications treatments or God)
On some level we tell ourselves if I could figure out what was happening to get
into this situation (ie chronic illness) I would be able to figure out how to get
out of it but (and heres the rub) since I cant I begin to believe less and less in
my innate healing power and more and more that such power must lie outside of
me ndash with an outside force greater than me (whether medical natural or
spiritual)
Please be clear on this point This is not to underplay the importance of qualified
medical professionals to your progress The same is true of the importance and
value of your spirituality and relation-with God Source Higher Power The point
to take away here is that you can only access the benefits of such healing
relations when YOU are first centered and strong in your own being ndash when you
approach your Self as a sacred Thou
Therefore in the situation where you reflexively turn over your power to heal (to
an outside agent) understand the ensuing damage you risk to your sense of Self
Not only are you diminishing belief in your inherent strength and healing power
you are also at risk of allowing others to determine what is best for your well-
being (perhaps even against your deeper intuitive knowing) all of which only
serves to further undermine Self-esteem and the tremendous power that comes
from believing in your Self
Even our religious upbringing can paradoxically weaken our beliefs regarding the
possibility of cure We learn at a deep level that ldquocurerdquo lies only in the realm of
the miraculous Such an orientation can weaken belief in the possibility of ldquome
being cured nowrdquo In fact when being completely honest many of us feel the
odds of ldquome being cured nowrdquo are as slim or slimmer than winning a million dollar
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 18 of 33
lottery And when it does not happen were faced with the more daunting issue
of how I must somehow be ldquoflawedrdquo Clearly such underlying attitudes provide
no foundation on which to construct change much less the dramatic change
required with the desire to ldquobe curedrdquo [Here I recommend another Huber book
There Is Nothing Wrong with You Going Beyond Self-Hate (2001)]
In the end when focused on ldquobeing curedrdquo you may not only become separate
from your innate healing power within but you risk the ultimate medical
mistreatment becoming an object to be worked-on mechanically From here it
can be a rapid slide into the role of ldquovictimrdquo whereby you relinquish your
responsibility for choosing altogether (ie intending-to-create) how it is you truly
desire to be In short you risk losing the creative power of intention required to
give birth to healing
By the mid eighties I had been on daily prednisone for over a decade to control
severe bouts of status asthmaticus and recurrent pneumonia Because the
deleterious side-effects of prednisone included adrenal insufficiency (an impaired
stress response) I knew in my heart-of-hearts one key to my well-being lay in
recovering my atrophied stress axis by discontinuing daily prednisone For years
I pleaded with my pulmonary specialist to assist me in tapering off and relearning
how to live prednisone-free Together we did make a few unsuccessful attempts
only to recycle back into another respiratory infection and still higher doses of
prednisone By this time his posture was that I needed to remain on daily
prednisone ldquofor the rest of my liferdquo My posture was to fire him
Fortunately and in short-order I began working with an internist who over the
next two years laid out a plan to become prednisone-free ndash which we did
together successfully Two significant points must be clearly recognized here
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 19 of 33
1 You must believe in your innate healing power and if you do not
currently this then becomes your launch pad for your healing journey ndash
relearning to empower your Self to heal
2 You are not in this alone You require the good works of others in
alignment with you to successfully heal As such you need to be very
selective in picking those others with whom you relate to enhance your
medical well-being
If you are feeling your medical support is sapping your power and authority
they probably are but you dont throw the baby out with the bath This is
not about releasing physicians this is about being in a healing
relationship-with your medical professional(s) of choice
Additional cultural biases arise with a focus on ldquocurerdquo Any true change with
regard to chronic illness implies a change ldquofor the betterrdquo That requires us to
believe with certainty that such change can and will bring improvement After
more than fifteen years working with individuals with chronic illness (including
my Self) it is the rare individual Ive encountered who truly believes (from the
core) ldquoI will be curedrdquo We wish for cure certainly but believing with certainty ldquoI
will be curedrdquo rarely
An origin of not believing in ldquobeing curedrdquo lies in the way we traditionally use the
term One problem in particular is that ldquocurerdquo is not a ldquonowrdquo concept -- that is
something I trust to experience now rather we tend to use ldquocurerdquo in a future-
oriented manner of hoping-for-something-to-happen or (at-best) asking-for
maybe praying for cure to happen Yet it is not in the future that you and I
create anything and this is particularly relevant to healing We only create in
the NOW
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 20 of 33
Finally even greater issues arise when we attempt to determine precisely what
we mean by the term ldquocurerdquo As one example are you cured when there is ldquoan
end to the disease processrdquo or could that be ldquoremissionrdquo
Does ldquocurerdquo mean a ldquoreturn to full functioningrdquo (ie as I was before the process
started) Is that even possible Consider the case of a disease process that has
already resulted in disfigurement or amputation What does ldquocurerdquo mean in those
situations
Does ldquocurerdquo mean ldquosymptoms are gonerdquo If so are we then cured when
medications relieve or mask the symptoms altogether Do you understand the
quagmire here
It is for all these reasons above that few people are ever truly ldquocuredrdquo of
anything even if we do allow for those who have experienced ldquomiracle curesrdquo
(which are certainly the exception not the norm) Yet when you and I consider
ldquomy situation nowrdquo we need to have the strength of certainty that improvement
is not only possible but immanent
So if not ldquocurerdquo then what You already know the answer And the answer is
ldquohealingrdquo In the end if ldquocurerdquo is anything it is a future-oriented
disempowering mechanical phenomenon at the physical level In contrast
ldquohealingrdquo is an ongoing process (in this moment) of whole-Self transformation
Consider when we truly and proactively ldquohealrdquo we are creating (now) from the
very depths of our core within We are intending-to-create with all the intensity
and power of commitment passion and agape that arises in creative
transformation It is this innate source of inner power to which we must first
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 21 of 33
return ldquoas little childrenrdquo in order to initiate healing
We mask nothing when healing now rather we take an active and response-able
role in bringing peace joy and love directly into our daily lives and the lives of
those we touch NOW this moment and in as many moments as we allow
It is from this strong shared intentional healing foundation that we live with the
most power any human being can possibly experience in alignment with in I-
Thou relation-with in the selfless Love that is the very Source of all creation
This process of transformational healing envelops and extends beyond cure at any
level and unlike ldquocurerdquo it is not some static condition at which we arrive (by
the grace of some outside benevolent authority) Rather such transformational
healing is an ongoing process of BEING-a-certain-way in strength in power
in wisdom in loving relation-with (not only Self but Source God Higher Power)
Let this loving empowered healing be the deep transformation you intend ndash your
moment-to-moment empowered healing transformation from core within
ldquoPRAXISrdquo
We finally come to the term PRAXIS Clients often ask why I use ldquopraxisrdquo rather
than something more familiar like ldquopracticerdquo or ldquoexerciserdquo My answer is very
simple and straight-forward
First we can quickly dispense with the term ldquoexerciserdquo Do you really want to
ldquoexerciserdquo intentional healing each day ndash or would you rather just skip having to
exercise any more than you already know you need to do Enough said
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 22 of 33
Now imagine I invite you to ldquoplease make sure and practice your intentional
healing each dayrdquo How do you feel then For me it brings up that I must not
be very good at it especially if I need to be practicing every day
Consider now how you feel when I invite you to ldquoskillfully applyrdquo the intentional
healing process in comfort Doesnt ldquoskillful applicationrdquo feel much more
empowering than ldquopracticingrdquo Since ldquopraxisrdquo means ldquoskillful applicationrdquo isnt it
much more inviting to approach your intentional healing sessions with skill
And you will as you become more comfortable applying the process each day
Other folks also ask if shared-intentional-healingtrade wouldnt be better considered
an ldquoexperimentrdquo much like Lynn McTaggarts The Intention Experiment (2007) I
can see how the notion of an ldquoexperimentrdquo carries with it some sense of intrigue
but ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately represent the experience that is shared-
intentional-healingtrade
First (as we learned in our discussion of ldquointentionalrdquo above) when we participate
in Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade we are as a matter-of-fact intending-to-create
healing Such activity cannot be an ldquoexperimentrdquo or we lose the certainty
required for healing change Rather we set out to generate an experience-of-
relating that is powered by being committed empassioned and selflessly loving
You can likely identify such a committed passionate selflessly loving experience
from some time in your life ndash whether in love among family through an
impassioned hobby in seeking some goal or perhaps spiritually As you already
know such an experience is not something we wish-for or hope-for or need to
wait and see what happens It is simply a loving relating-with experience we
already know how to have We just be it and do it
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Moreover (as I suggested above) there is palpable transformation that occurs
within each of us as we gain comfort participating in shared-intentional-healingtrade
This transformational experience happens through your participation and it will
happen for you ndash no need to experiment just simply participate
Moreover at the heart of it the notion of ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately reflect
the research to date on ldquointentionrdquo and ldquohealingrdquo As an example a 1997 review
of research on ldquoIntercessory Prayer for the Alleviation of Ill Healthrdquo by Roberts
Ahmed Hall amp Davison reports individual studies suggest a positive effect of
intercessory prayer But since they viewed other reports in which the results
were equivocal they conclude no ldquo further trials of this intervention should be
takenrdquo5
Regrettably they miss the point The fact that studies DO exist reporting a
positive correlation between intercessory prayer and the alleviation of ill health is
precisely the reason more studies should be undertaken Edison found hundreds
of approaches that were equivocal before discovering a singular lighting solution
Thank goodness he did not conclude any further trials were unnecessary before
arriving at that solution
When it comes to this uniquely intimate subject of healing Eric Leskowitz MD
(in a review of the book Healing Intention amp Energy Medicine (2002) by Wayne
Jonas MD) explains how such conflicting conclusions like Roberts etal come
about Dr Leskowitz notes when he is in discussions with his allopathic medical
colleagues regarding ldquo inexplicable phenomena like energy healing or
intercessory prayer a sort of allopathic fear reflex kicks inrdquo6 Conclusions
become tunnel-visioned and skewed against even the possibility of such
correlation existing anywhere at any time Hence no further trials
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You may however verify for yourself such positively-correlated research does
indeed already exist by reviewing the studies in Jonas book (above) In
addition Marilyn Schlitz PhD provides a brief outline of just some of those
ldquopositive correlationrdquo studies that highlight the ldquointerface of science spirituality
and medicinerdquo7
If you would like an even more in-depth review I refer you to Consciousness amp
Healing Integral Approaches to Mind-Body Medicine (2005) by Schlitz Amorok
and Micozzi as well as the more recent (2008) Holistic Nursing A Handbook for Practice
5th edition by Dossey amp Keegan
In sum although experimental research has certainly not provided the final
answers on the relation between intention and healing the research to date is
most certainly beyond the ldquoequivocalrdquo suggested by those reflexively reacting
from allopathic fear Those studies completed to date which do display a positive
correlation between intention and healing are already providing a strong practical
foundation of powerful techniques and approaches that go far beyond
ldquoexperimentingrdquo and straight to the heart of skillful-application in daily living
Shared-Intentional-Healingrdquotrade is just one such approach you may access today
and everyday simply by participating in your daily praxis
With the above foundation in mind we can now move on to
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PRAXIS GUIDELINES
Having considered in some depth the foundation on which this method rests we
may now turn to the guidelines describing ldquohow tordquo participate in your daily
Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis
Before you approach your first intentional session please read through the
description and suggestions below Remember these opportunities are for YOU
to BENEFIT YOU Again there is no right way nor wrong way for you to
participate You simply participate in your own best way Therefore as noted
previously the description below is solely meant as a guided outline to assist you
in jump-starting your participation ndash sharing with you some ideas that have
already worked well for others in our Community
For this to be beneficial for everyone please do your best to allot at least 5 to
15 minutes for each intentional session If you are already seasoned at
sitting in quiet you certainly may choose to go longer (eg 30) and you can
trust there are other CYSH members continuing in synchrony with you
To start out let your sessions be for shorter periods of time You will experience
a natural increase in length of participation without having to think about it or
plan for it This is not a race nor a test of endurance This is a nourishing of
Self and a cultivation of your best healing intentions Be gentle
In the beginning it can also be helpful if you imagine sending out your healing
intentions in a particular direction around the globe and returning to you from
the opposite direction This way as you imagine can assist you in creating a
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 26 of 33
ldquoflowrdquo with regard to directing intentional healing to all others around the globe
As you become more adept you will very naturally be able to generate healing
images radiating from your whole being equally in all directions You will
become aware there is no particular ldquoupdownrdquo in space-time There is just
ldquoeverywhere hererdquo that is always at the center of the universe ndash as you are at all
times and as is each member
Finally please know you may also invite your friends and loved ones to share
with you in these sessions If they cannot participate with you ask them (at
minimum) to set their healing intention for you and send it like a gift to you each
day This can be helpful to them as well knowing they are actively supporting
you with their selfless loving healing
So let us begin with a session description I have broken it down into 8 separate
action steps below
1 First make time to just sit and be comfortable (nothing ldquoto dordquo now)
Loosen any tight clothing
2 Begin breathing slowly until you relax into a comfortable natural pace
This is a time for gentleness Simply allow experience to happen and
follow experience moment-to-moment as you proceed
3 Slowly scan your entire being from head to toes inside and out If you
notice any part of you in tension just allow it to relax naturally and
dissolve with each out-breath
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Note It may take you 2 or more breathing cycles to notice the muscles in a
particular area begin to relax There are times as well when you may just
need to continue on with your scan trusting that the area will release as you
proceed Again this is time for gentle following
4 Once relaxed (as much as may be possible for now) INVITE your Self to
allow and receive healing intention and healing love
Note This may not feel natural or normal within and like a child the
knee-jerk reaction may indeed be to rebel You are merely sending an
invitation nothing more As you repeat this intentional healing invitation
each day you will soon begin to notice that you are indeed looking forward
to this opportunity
5 You are now comfortable relaxed and intentional within It is time now
to image all the other CYSH Members with whom you are sharing this
time Know they too are seeking to generate healing for your challenges
just as you are for theirs Depending on your beliefs it is here that you
may also invite connect with your source of spiritual power (God
Source Higher Power Buddha) to participate with you
6 Spend the next minutes imagining a Circle of Intentional Healing
Energy flowing into you from all the others and out from you to all
others Allow it to be easy natural like the earthrsquos flow of water
circulating from sky to earth and back to sky simply relax into this flow
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 28 of 33
Note It may help to imagine your healing intentions emanating from about
2 finger-widths behind and about 3 finger-widths below your navel This
site (known as the ldquolower dan tienrdquo or ldquoharardquo) is considered the physical
center of gravity around which you are in perfect balance
From this point you can imagine healing intention flowing up your trunk
through your neck and head and out the top of your head to the other
CYSH members
The healing intention returning to you can be experienced as coming into
you at the same center of gravity point from which you started
Important Do not attempt to localize your intentions to any one region
within (brain heart liver etc) the reason being that a given illness process
occurs across and between physiological systems (even though we may talk
as if it is isolated to one system) It is best to imagine your entire Self
within a cocoon or bubble of flowing healing intention ndash everywhere within
you at once You may experience color warmth safety Luxuriate in your
experience Enjoy the moment
During this intentional time it can also be helpful on a given inout cycle of
breath to silently express I send out Loving Healing On the next
inout cycle silently express I receive Loving Healing and so on
In addition if your mind wanders off task (amp it will) just gently return to
the flow of loving healing intention Remember this experience is all about
being gentle Enjoy the process
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Continue in this state for as long as you desire and is easy comfortable
and natural With practice your will naturally be at ease for longer
periods of time during each session
7 When complete express gratitude to your Self as well as to all others
sharing in this moment with you Sit in this experience of gratitude for a
few moments
8 Savor the nourishing peace you have generated
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8-STEP PRAXIS REVIEW
1 SIT in comfort
2 BREATHE slowly rhythmically
3 SCAN (head to toes) to relax further still
4 INVITE SELF to allow healing intention
5 RELATE-WITH all other CYSH members amp Spiritual Power
6 SENDRECEIVE intentional healing
ldquoI send out Loving Healingrdquo ldquoI receive Loving Healingrdquo
7 Sit in GRATITUDE
8 SAVOR the nourishing peace
I genuinely look forward to your daily participation and to sharing this powerful
healing process with you I would love to hear your experiences with your praxis
Please do feel free to email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom)
My mission is to Coach You Well
Sincerely amp Caringly
MALCOLM
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 31 of 33
REFERENCES
1 Chopra Deepak (1994) The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success ndash A Practical Guide to
the Fulfillment of Your Dreams p76
2 Chopra Deepak (1999) A Deepak Chopra Companion Illuminations on Health and
Human Consciousness p94
3 Dyer httpwwwyoutubecomwatchv=DC-FPorUW7gampfeature=related
4 Buber Martin (1971) I And Thou
5 Intercessory prayer httpwwwcochraneorgreviewsenab000368html
6 Leskowitz httpwholistichealingresearchcom42books12
7 Schlitz httpxnetkporgpermanentejournalsum05evidencepdf
copy2009byMFDayton
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 32 of 33
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Malcolm Dayton LPC Cht is a Licensed Counselor with more than two decades coaching individuals and families facing chronic illness He is also certified in MindBody Medicine and Hypnotherapy
Malcolms Coaching Self Healing program is unique in that he calls on his own lifelong journey with chronic illness (multiple sclerosis asthma immune deficiency) to assist you in accessing your unique healing solutions Very simply Malcolm walks his coaching
His coaching program is truly integral-- that is healing solutions are practical in focus and applied comprehensively incorporating all dimensions of your experience from symptoms to wellness from relations within self to social relations from the physical to spiritual--a truly ecological approach to Self Healing You learn to be FULLIVINGtrade ndash to thrive beyond chronic illness
Malcolms mission is to Coach You WELL
CONTACTMalcolm Dayton LPC CHt
email mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom
phone 970-689-4247
Yes Malcolm Im ready to discover
the benefits of Self Healing Coaching NOW
Sign me up now for myCOMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION
Be Well And THRIVE Beyond Chronic Illness Now
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 33 of 33
seeking In fact it is the same process described by Cheri Huber in one of her
more remarkable books entitled That Which You Are Seeking Is Causing You To
Seek (1990) Take a moment now to think about her title in relation to ldquoThe cure
I am seeking is rdquo In short to focus on cure heightens our experience of
dis-ease
To clarify even further when we focus on such moving-away-from-activities we
have no clear vision of what it is we are moving toward Without such clarity our
odds of failing escalate exponentially Success happens only as we also move
toward clearly-defined desires and goals A simple yet powerful example is this
years 40th anniversary of the Apollo 11 moon landing Was that ldquogiant steprdquo
successful because the leaders at NASA focused energy solely on how to create
escape velocity to ldquoget away fromrdquo earth ndash or also on how to get onto the moon
Another helpful example is wanting ldquoout ofrdquo a job Im sure you know of someone
(perhaps yourself) intent on getting away from the daily grind of hisher job Yet
when she did successfully leave that employment inevitably and much too soon
the same situation landslides into the daily grind of the next job Repeating old
patterns of struggle is a very clear sign of actions based on moving-away-
from goals This is a key principle to apply to all aspects of your daily living
The reason this occurs with the get-me-outta-here script is that whatever change
may happen generally does so from ldquowithoutrdquo At best we change scenery Its
the old grass-is-greener scenario ndash which is really no change at all
The inherent problem here can be even more perilous as we see when we take a
closer look at the wording ldquobeing curedrdquo We tend to redirect our attention from
within (our source of creative power) to some force outside that causes the cure
for us (whether that be by way of a physician a healer natural substances
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 17 of 33
medications treatments or God)
On some level we tell ourselves if I could figure out what was happening to get
into this situation (ie chronic illness) I would be able to figure out how to get
out of it but (and heres the rub) since I cant I begin to believe less and less in
my innate healing power and more and more that such power must lie outside of
me ndash with an outside force greater than me (whether medical natural or
spiritual)
Please be clear on this point This is not to underplay the importance of qualified
medical professionals to your progress The same is true of the importance and
value of your spirituality and relation-with God Source Higher Power The point
to take away here is that you can only access the benefits of such healing
relations when YOU are first centered and strong in your own being ndash when you
approach your Self as a sacred Thou
Therefore in the situation where you reflexively turn over your power to heal (to
an outside agent) understand the ensuing damage you risk to your sense of Self
Not only are you diminishing belief in your inherent strength and healing power
you are also at risk of allowing others to determine what is best for your well-
being (perhaps even against your deeper intuitive knowing) all of which only
serves to further undermine Self-esteem and the tremendous power that comes
from believing in your Self
Even our religious upbringing can paradoxically weaken our beliefs regarding the
possibility of cure We learn at a deep level that ldquocurerdquo lies only in the realm of
the miraculous Such an orientation can weaken belief in the possibility of ldquome
being cured nowrdquo In fact when being completely honest many of us feel the
odds of ldquome being cured nowrdquo are as slim or slimmer than winning a million dollar
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 18 of 33
lottery And when it does not happen were faced with the more daunting issue
of how I must somehow be ldquoflawedrdquo Clearly such underlying attitudes provide
no foundation on which to construct change much less the dramatic change
required with the desire to ldquobe curedrdquo [Here I recommend another Huber book
There Is Nothing Wrong with You Going Beyond Self-Hate (2001)]
In the end when focused on ldquobeing curedrdquo you may not only become separate
from your innate healing power within but you risk the ultimate medical
mistreatment becoming an object to be worked-on mechanically From here it
can be a rapid slide into the role of ldquovictimrdquo whereby you relinquish your
responsibility for choosing altogether (ie intending-to-create) how it is you truly
desire to be In short you risk losing the creative power of intention required to
give birth to healing
By the mid eighties I had been on daily prednisone for over a decade to control
severe bouts of status asthmaticus and recurrent pneumonia Because the
deleterious side-effects of prednisone included adrenal insufficiency (an impaired
stress response) I knew in my heart-of-hearts one key to my well-being lay in
recovering my atrophied stress axis by discontinuing daily prednisone For years
I pleaded with my pulmonary specialist to assist me in tapering off and relearning
how to live prednisone-free Together we did make a few unsuccessful attempts
only to recycle back into another respiratory infection and still higher doses of
prednisone By this time his posture was that I needed to remain on daily
prednisone ldquofor the rest of my liferdquo My posture was to fire him
Fortunately and in short-order I began working with an internist who over the
next two years laid out a plan to become prednisone-free ndash which we did
together successfully Two significant points must be clearly recognized here
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 19 of 33
1 You must believe in your innate healing power and if you do not
currently this then becomes your launch pad for your healing journey ndash
relearning to empower your Self to heal
2 You are not in this alone You require the good works of others in
alignment with you to successfully heal As such you need to be very
selective in picking those others with whom you relate to enhance your
medical well-being
If you are feeling your medical support is sapping your power and authority
they probably are but you dont throw the baby out with the bath This is
not about releasing physicians this is about being in a healing
relationship-with your medical professional(s) of choice
Additional cultural biases arise with a focus on ldquocurerdquo Any true change with
regard to chronic illness implies a change ldquofor the betterrdquo That requires us to
believe with certainty that such change can and will bring improvement After
more than fifteen years working with individuals with chronic illness (including
my Self) it is the rare individual Ive encountered who truly believes (from the
core) ldquoI will be curedrdquo We wish for cure certainly but believing with certainty ldquoI
will be curedrdquo rarely
An origin of not believing in ldquobeing curedrdquo lies in the way we traditionally use the
term One problem in particular is that ldquocurerdquo is not a ldquonowrdquo concept -- that is
something I trust to experience now rather we tend to use ldquocurerdquo in a future-
oriented manner of hoping-for-something-to-happen or (at-best) asking-for
maybe praying for cure to happen Yet it is not in the future that you and I
create anything and this is particularly relevant to healing We only create in
the NOW
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 20 of 33
Finally even greater issues arise when we attempt to determine precisely what
we mean by the term ldquocurerdquo As one example are you cured when there is ldquoan
end to the disease processrdquo or could that be ldquoremissionrdquo
Does ldquocurerdquo mean a ldquoreturn to full functioningrdquo (ie as I was before the process
started) Is that even possible Consider the case of a disease process that has
already resulted in disfigurement or amputation What does ldquocurerdquo mean in those
situations
Does ldquocurerdquo mean ldquosymptoms are gonerdquo If so are we then cured when
medications relieve or mask the symptoms altogether Do you understand the
quagmire here
It is for all these reasons above that few people are ever truly ldquocuredrdquo of
anything even if we do allow for those who have experienced ldquomiracle curesrdquo
(which are certainly the exception not the norm) Yet when you and I consider
ldquomy situation nowrdquo we need to have the strength of certainty that improvement
is not only possible but immanent
So if not ldquocurerdquo then what You already know the answer And the answer is
ldquohealingrdquo In the end if ldquocurerdquo is anything it is a future-oriented
disempowering mechanical phenomenon at the physical level In contrast
ldquohealingrdquo is an ongoing process (in this moment) of whole-Self transformation
Consider when we truly and proactively ldquohealrdquo we are creating (now) from the
very depths of our core within We are intending-to-create with all the intensity
and power of commitment passion and agape that arises in creative
transformation It is this innate source of inner power to which we must first
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 21 of 33
return ldquoas little childrenrdquo in order to initiate healing
We mask nothing when healing now rather we take an active and response-able
role in bringing peace joy and love directly into our daily lives and the lives of
those we touch NOW this moment and in as many moments as we allow
It is from this strong shared intentional healing foundation that we live with the
most power any human being can possibly experience in alignment with in I-
Thou relation-with in the selfless Love that is the very Source of all creation
This process of transformational healing envelops and extends beyond cure at any
level and unlike ldquocurerdquo it is not some static condition at which we arrive (by
the grace of some outside benevolent authority) Rather such transformational
healing is an ongoing process of BEING-a-certain-way in strength in power
in wisdom in loving relation-with (not only Self but Source God Higher Power)
Let this loving empowered healing be the deep transformation you intend ndash your
moment-to-moment empowered healing transformation from core within
ldquoPRAXISrdquo
We finally come to the term PRAXIS Clients often ask why I use ldquopraxisrdquo rather
than something more familiar like ldquopracticerdquo or ldquoexerciserdquo My answer is very
simple and straight-forward
First we can quickly dispense with the term ldquoexerciserdquo Do you really want to
ldquoexerciserdquo intentional healing each day ndash or would you rather just skip having to
exercise any more than you already know you need to do Enough said
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 22 of 33
Now imagine I invite you to ldquoplease make sure and practice your intentional
healing each dayrdquo How do you feel then For me it brings up that I must not
be very good at it especially if I need to be practicing every day
Consider now how you feel when I invite you to ldquoskillfully applyrdquo the intentional
healing process in comfort Doesnt ldquoskillful applicationrdquo feel much more
empowering than ldquopracticingrdquo Since ldquopraxisrdquo means ldquoskillful applicationrdquo isnt it
much more inviting to approach your intentional healing sessions with skill
And you will as you become more comfortable applying the process each day
Other folks also ask if shared-intentional-healingtrade wouldnt be better considered
an ldquoexperimentrdquo much like Lynn McTaggarts The Intention Experiment (2007) I
can see how the notion of an ldquoexperimentrdquo carries with it some sense of intrigue
but ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately represent the experience that is shared-
intentional-healingtrade
First (as we learned in our discussion of ldquointentionalrdquo above) when we participate
in Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade we are as a matter-of-fact intending-to-create
healing Such activity cannot be an ldquoexperimentrdquo or we lose the certainty
required for healing change Rather we set out to generate an experience-of-
relating that is powered by being committed empassioned and selflessly loving
You can likely identify such a committed passionate selflessly loving experience
from some time in your life ndash whether in love among family through an
impassioned hobby in seeking some goal or perhaps spiritually As you already
know such an experience is not something we wish-for or hope-for or need to
wait and see what happens It is simply a loving relating-with experience we
already know how to have We just be it and do it
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 23 of 33
Moreover (as I suggested above) there is palpable transformation that occurs
within each of us as we gain comfort participating in shared-intentional-healingtrade
This transformational experience happens through your participation and it will
happen for you ndash no need to experiment just simply participate
Moreover at the heart of it the notion of ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately reflect
the research to date on ldquointentionrdquo and ldquohealingrdquo As an example a 1997 review
of research on ldquoIntercessory Prayer for the Alleviation of Ill Healthrdquo by Roberts
Ahmed Hall amp Davison reports individual studies suggest a positive effect of
intercessory prayer But since they viewed other reports in which the results
were equivocal they conclude no ldquo further trials of this intervention should be
takenrdquo5
Regrettably they miss the point The fact that studies DO exist reporting a
positive correlation between intercessory prayer and the alleviation of ill health is
precisely the reason more studies should be undertaken Edison found hundreds
of approaches that were equivocal before discovering a singular lighting solution
Thank goodness he did not conclude any further trials were unnecessary before
arriving at that solution
When it comes to this uniquely intimate subject of healing Eric Leskowitz MD
(in a review of the book Healing Intention amp Energy Medicine (2002) by Wayne
Jonas MD) explains how such conflicting conclusions like Roberts etal come
about Dr Leskowitz notes when he is in discussions with his allopathic medical
colleagues regarding ldquo inexplicable phenomena like energy healing or
intercessory prayer a sort of allopathic fear reflex kicks inrdquo6 Conclusions
become tunnel-visioned and skewed against even the possibility of such
correlation existing anywhere at any time Hence no further trials
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 24 of 33
You may however verify for yourself such positively-correlated research does
indeed already exist by reviewing the studies in Jonas book (above) In
addition Marilyn Schlitz PhD provides a brief outline of just some of those
ldquopositive correlationrdquo studies that highlight the ldquointerface of science spirituality
and medicinerdquo7
If you would like an even more in-depth review I refer you to Consciousness amp
Healing Integral Approaches to Mind-Body Medicine (2005) by Schlitz Amorok
and Micozzi as well as the more recent (2008) Holistic Nursing A Handbook for Practice
5th edition by Dossey amp Keegan
In sum although experimental research has certainly not provided the final
answers on the relation between intention and healing the research to date is
most certainly beyond the ldquoequivocalrdquo suggested by those reflexively reacting
from allopathic fear Those studies completed to date which do display a positive
correlation between intention and healing are already providing a strong practical
foundation of powerful techniques and approaches that go far beyond
ldquoexperimentingrdquo and straight to the heart of skillful-application in daily living
Shared-Intentional-Healingrdquotrade is just one such approach you may access today
and everyday simply by participating in your daily praxis
With the above foundation in mind we can now move on to
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 25 of 33
PRAXIS GUIDELINES
Having considered in some depth the foundation on which this method rests we
may now turn to the guidelines describing ldquohow tordquo participate in your daily
Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis
Before you approach your first intentional session please read through the
description and suggestions below Remember these opportunities are for YOU
to BENEFIT YOU Again there is no right way nor wrong way for you to
participate You simply participate in your own best way Therefore as noted
previously the description below is solely meant as a guided outline to assist you
in jump-starting your participation ndash sharing with you some ideas that have
already worked well for others in our Community
For this to be beneficial for everyone please do your best to allot at least 5 to
15 minutes for each intentional session If you are already seasoned at
sitting in quiet you certainly may choose to go longer (eg 30) and you can
trust there are other CYSH members continuing in synchrony with you
To start out let your sessions be for shorter periods of time You will experience
a natural increase in length of participation without having to think about it or
plan for it This is not a race nor a test of endurance This is a nourishing of
Self and a cultivation of your best healing intentions Be gentle
In the beginning it can also be helpful if you imagine sending out your healing
intentions in a particular direction around the globe and returning to you from
the opposite direction This way as you imagine can assist you in creating a
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 26 of 33
ldquoflowrdquo with regard to directing intentional healing to all others around the globe
As you become more adept you will very naturally be able to generate healing
images radiating from your whole being equally in all directions You will
become aware there is no particular ldquoupdownrdquo in space-time There is just
ldquoeverywhere hererdquo that is always at the center of the universe ndash as you are at all
times and as is each member
Finally please know you may also invite your friends and loved ones to share
with you in these sessions If they cannot participate with you ask them (at
minimum) to set their healing intention for you and send it like a gift to you each
day This can be helpful to them as well knowing they are actively supporting
you with their selfless loving healing
So let us begin with a session description I have broken it down into 8 separate
action steps below
1 First make time to just sit and be comfortable (nothing ldquoto dordquo now)
Loosen any tight clothing
2 Begin breathing slowly until you relax into a comfortable natural pace
This is a time for gentleness Simply allow experience to happen and
follow experience moment-to-moment as you proceed
3 Slowly scan your entire being from head to toes inside and out If you
notice any part of you in tension just allow it to relax naturally and
dissolve with each out-breath
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 27 of 33
Note It may take you 2 or more breathing cycles to notice the muscles in a
particular area begin to relax There are times as well when you may just
need to continue on with your scan trusting that the area will release as you
proceed Again this is time for gentle following
4 Once relaxed (as much as may be possible for now) INVITE your Self to
allow and receive healing intention and healing love
Note This may not feel natural or normal within and like a child the
knee-jerk reaction may indeed be to rebel You are merely sending an
invitation nothing more As you repeat this intentional healing invitation
each day you will soon begin to notice that you are indeed looking forward
to this opportunity
5 You are now comfortable relaxed and intentional within It is time now
to image all the other CYSH Members with whom you are sharing this
time Know they too are seeking to generate healing for your challenges
just as you are for theirs Depending on your beliefs it is here that you
may also invite connect with your source of spiritual power (God
Source Higher Power Buddha) to participate with you
6 Spend the next minutes imagining a Circle of Intentional Healing
Energy flowing into you from all the others and out from you to all
others Allow it to be easy natural like the earthrsquos flow of water
circulating from sky to earth and back to sky simply relax into this flow
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 28 of 33
Note It may help to imagine your healing intentions emanating from about
2 finger-widths behind and about 3 finger-widths below your navel This
site (known as the ldquolower dan tienrdquo or ldquoharardquo) is considered the physical
center of gravity around which you are in perfect balance
From this point you can imagine healing intention flowing up your trunk
through your neck and head and out the top of your head to the other
CYSH members
The healing intention returning to you can be experienced as coming into
you at the same center of gravity point from which you started
Important Do not attempt to localize your intentions to any one region
within (brain heart liver etc) the reason being that a given illness process
occurs across and between physiological systems (even though we may talk
as if it is isolated to one system) It is best to imagine your entire Self
within a cocoon or bubble of flowing healing intention ndash everywhere within
you at once You may experience color warmth safety Luxuriate in your
experience Enjoy the moment
During this intentional time it can also be helpful on a given inout cycle of
breath to silently express I send out Loving Healing On the next
inout cycle silently express I receive Loving Healing and so on
In addition if your mind wanders off task (amp it will) just gently return to
the flow of loving healing intention Remember this experience is all about
being gentle Enjoy the process
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 29 of 33
Continue in this state for as long as you desire and is easy comfortable
and natural With practice your will naturally be at ease for longer
periods of time during each session
7 When complete express gratitude to your Self as well as to all others
sharing in this moment with you Sit in this experience of gratitude for a
few moments
8 Savor the nourishing peace you have generated
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 30 of 33
8-STEP PRAXIS REVIEW
1 SIT in comfort
2 BREATHE slowly rhythmically
3 SCAN (head to toes) to relax further still
4 INVITE SELF to allow healing intention
5 RELATE-WITH all other CYSH members amp Spiritual Power
6 SENDRECEIVE intentional healing
ldquoI send out Loving Healingrdquo ldquoI receive Loving Healingrdquo
7 Sit in GRATITUDE
8 SAVOR the nourishing peace
I genuinely look forward to your daily participation and to sharing this powerful
healing process with you I would love to hear your experiences with your praxis
Please do feel free to email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom)
My mission is to Coach You Well
Sincerely amp Caringly
MALCOLM
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 31 of 33
REFERENCES
1 Chopra Deepak (1994) The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success ndash A Practical Guide to
the Fulfillment of Your Dreams p76
2 Chopra Deepak (1999) A Deepak Chopra Companion Illuminations on Health and
Human Consciousness p94
3 Dyer httpwwwyoutubecomwatchv=DC-FPorUW7gampfeature=related
4 Buber Martin (1971) I And Thou
5 Intercessory prayer httpwwwcochraneorgreviewsenab000368html
6 Leskowitz httpwholistichealingresearchcom42books12
7 Schlitz httpxnetkporgpermanentejournalsum05evidencepdf
copy2009byMFDayton
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 32 of 33
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Malcolm Dayton LPC Cht is a Licensed Counselor with more than two decades coaching individuals and families facing chronic illness He is also certified in MindBody Medicine and Hypnotherapy
Malcolms Coaching Self Healing program is unique in that he calls on his own lifelong journey with chronic illness (multiple sclerosis asthma immune deficiency) to assist you in accessing your unique healing solutions Very simply Malcolm walks his coaching
His coaching program is truly integral-- that is healing solutions are practical in focus and applied comprehensively incorporating all dimensions of your experience from symptoms to wellness from relations within self to social relations from the physical to spiritual--a truly ecological approach to Self Healing You learn to be FULLIVINGtrade ndash to thrive beyond chronic illness
Malcolms mission is to Coach You WELL
CONTACTMalcolm Dayton LPC CHt
email mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom
phone 970-689-4247
Yes Malcolm Im ready to discover
the benefits of Self Healing Coaching NOW
Sign me up now for myCOMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION
Be Well And THRIVE Beyond Chronic Illness Now
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 33 of 33
medications treatments or God)
On some level we tell ourselves if I could figure out what was happening to get
into this situation (ie chronic illness) I would be able to figure out how to get
out of it but (and heres the rub) since I cant I begin to believe less and less in
my innate healing power and more and more that such power must lie outside of
me ndash with an outside force greater than me (whether medical natural or
spiritual)
Please be clear on this point This is not to underplay the importance of qualified
medical professionals to your progress The same is true of the importance and
value of your spirituality and relation-with God Source Higher Power The point
to take away here is that you can only access the benefits of such healing
relations when YOU are first centered and strong in your own being ndash when you
approach your Self as a sacred Thou
Therefore in the situation where you reflexively turn over your power to heal (to
an outside agent) understand the ensuing damage you risk to your sense of Self
Not only are you diminishing belief in your inherent strength and healing power
you are also at risk of allowing others to determine what is best for your well-
being (perhaps even against your deeper intuitive knowing) all of which only
serves to further undermine Self-esteem and the tremendous power that comes
from believing in your Self
Even our religious upbringing can paradoxically weaken our beliefs regarding the
possibility of cure We learn at a deep level that ldquocurerdquo lies only in the realm of
the miraculous Such an orientation can weaken belief in the possibility of ldquome
being cured nowrdquo In fact when being completely honest many of us feel the
odds of ldquome being cured nowrdquo are as slim or slimmer than winning a million dollar
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 18 of 33
lottery And when it does not happen were faced with the more daunting issue
of how I must somehow be ldquoflawedrdquo Clearly such underlying attitudes provide
no foundation on which to construct change much less the dramatic change
required with the desire to ldquobe curedrdquo [Here I recommend another Huber book
There Is Nothing Wrong with You Going Beyond Self-Hate (2001)]
In the end when focused on ldquobeing curedrdquo you may not only become separate
from your innate healing power within but you risk the ultimate medical
mistreatment becoming an object to be worked-on mechanically From here it
can be a rapid slide into the role of ldquovictimrdquo whereby you relinquish your
responsibility for choosing altogether (ie intending-to-create) how it is you truly
desire to be In short you risk losing the creative power of intention required to
give birth to healing
By the mid eighties I had been on daily prednisone for over a decade to control
severe bouts of status asthmaticus and recurrent pneumonia Because the
deleterious side-effects of prednisone included adrenal insufficiency (an impaired
stress response) I knew in my heart-of-hearts one key to my well-being lay in
recovering my atrophied stress axis by discontinuing daily prednisone For years
I pleaded with my pulmonary specialist to assist me in tapering off and relearning
how to live prednisone-free Together we did make a few unsuccessful attempts
only to recycle back into another respiratory infection and still higher doses of
prednisone By this time his posture was that I needed to remain on daily
prednisone ldquofor the rest of my liferdquo My posture was to fire him
Fortunately and in short-order I began working with an internist who over the
next two years laid out a plan to become prednisone-free ndash which we did
together successfully Two significant points must be clearly recognized here
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 19 of 33
1 You must believe in your innate healing power and if you do not
currently this then becomes your launch pad for your healing journey ndash
relearning to empower your Self to heal
2 You are not in this alone You require the good works of others in
alignment with you to successfully heal As such you need to be very
selective in picking those others with whom you relate to enhance your
medical well-being
If you are feeling your medical support is sapping your power and authority
they probably are but you dont throw the baby out with the bath This is
not about releasing physicians this is about being in a healing
relationship-with your medical professional(s) of choice
Additional cultural biases arise with a focus on ldquocurerdquo Any true change with
regard to chronic illness implies a change ldquofor the betterrdquo That requires us to
believe with certainty that such change can and will bring improvement After
more than fifteen years working with individuals with chronic illness (including
my Self) it is the rare individual Ive encountered who truly believes (from the
core) ldquoI will be curedrdquo We wish for cure certainly but believing with certainty ldquoI
will be curedrdquo rarely
An origin of not believing in ldquobeing curedrdquo lies in the way we traditionally use the
term One problem in particular is that ldquocurerdquo is not a ldquonowrdquo concept -- that is
something I trust to experience now rather we tend to use ldquocurerdquo in a future-
oriented manner of hoping-for-something-to-happen or (at-best) asking-for
maybe praying for cure to happen Yet it is not in the future that you and I
create anything and this is particularly relevant to healing We only create in
the NOW
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 20 of 33
Finally even greater issues arise when we attempt to determine precisely what
we mean by the term ldquocurerdquo As one example are you cured when there is ldquoan
end to the disease processrdquo or could that be ldquoremissionrdquo
Does ldquocurerdquo mean a ldquoreturn to full functioningrdquo (ie as I was before the process
started) Is that even possible Consider the case of a disease process that has
already resulted in disfigurement or amputation What does ldquocurerdquo mean in those
situations
Does ldquocurerdquo mean ldquosymptoms are gonerdquo If so are we then cured when
medications relieve or mask the symptoms altogether Do you understand the
quagmire here
It is for all these reasons above that few people are ever truly ldquocuredrdquo of
anything even if we do allow for those who have experienced ldquomiracle curesrdquo
(which are certainly the exception not the norm) Yet when you and I consider
ldquomy situation nowrdquo we need to have the strength of certainty that improvement
is not only possible but immanent
So if not ldquocurerdquo then what You already know the answer And the answer is
ldquohealingrdquo In the end if ldquocurerdquo is anything it is a future-oriented
disempowering mechanical phenomenon at the physical level In contrast
ldquohealingrdquo is an ongoing process (in this moment) of whole-Self transformation
Consider when we truly and proactively ldquohealrdquo we are creating (now) from the
very depths of our core within We are intending-to-create with all the intensity
and power of commitment passion and agape that arises in creative
transformation It is this innate source of inner power to which we must first
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 21 of 33
return ldquoas little childrenrdquo in order to initiate healing
We mask nothing when healing now rather we take an active and response-able
role in bringing peace joy and love directly into our daily lives and the lives of
those we touch NOW this moment and in as many moments as we allow
It is from this strong shared intentional healing foundation that we live with the
most power any human being can possibly experience in alignment with in I-
Thou relation-with in the selfless Love that is the very Source of all creation
This process of transformational healing envelops and extends beyond cure at any
level and unlike ldquocurerdquo it is not some static condition at which we arrive (by
the grace of some outside benevolent authority) Rather such transformational
healing is an ongoing process of BEING-a-certain-way in strength in power
in wisdom in loving relation-with (not only Self but Source God Higher Power)
Let this loving empowered healing be the deep transformation you intend ndash your
moment-to-moment empowered healing transformation from core within
ldquoPRAXISrdquo
We finally come to the term PRAXIS Clients often ask why I use ldquopraxisrdquo rather
than something more familiar like ldquopracticerdquo or ldquoexerciserdquo My answer is very
simple and straight-forward
First we can quickly dispense with the term ldquoexerciserdquo Do you really want to
ldquoexerciserdquo intentional healing each day ndash or would you rather just skip having to
exercise any more than you already know you need to do Enough said
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 22 of 33
Now imagine I invite you to ldquoplease make sure and practice your intentional
healing each dayrdquo How do you feel then For me it brings up that I must not
be very good at it especially if I need to be practicing every day
Consider now how you feel when I invite you to ldquoskillfully applyrdquo the intentional
healing process in comfort Doesnt ldquoskillful applicationrdquo feel much more
empowering than ldquopracticingrdquo Since ldquopraxisrdquo means ldquoskillful applicationrdquo isnt it
much more inviting to approach your intentional healing sessions with skill
And you will as you become more comfortable applying the process each day
Other folks also ask if shared-intentional-healingtrade wouldnt be better considered
an ldquoexperimentrdquo much like Lynn McTaggarts The Intention Experiment (2007) I
can see how the notion of an ldquoexperimentrdquo carries with it some sense of intrigue
but ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately represent the experience that is shared-
intentional-healingtrade
First (as we learned in our discussion of ldquointentionalrdquo above) when we participate
in Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade we are as a matter-of-fact intending-to-create
healing Such activity cannot be an ldquoexperimentrdquo or we lose the certainty
required for healing change Rather we set out to generate an experience-of-
relating that is powered by being committed empassioned and selflessly loving
You can likely identify such a committed passionate selflessly loving experience
from some time in your life ndash whether in love among family through an
impassioned hobby in seeking some goal or perhaps spiritually As you already
know such an experience is not something we wish-for or hope-for or need to
wait and see what happens It is simply a loving relating-with experience we
already know how to have We just be it and do it
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 23 of 33
Moreover (as I suggested above) there is palpable transformation that occurs
within each of us as we gain comfort participating in shared-intentional-healingtrade
This transformational experience happens through your participation and it will
happen for you ndash no need to experiment just simply participate
Moreover at the heart of it the notion of ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately reflect
the research to date on ldquointentionrdquo and ldquohealingrdquo As an example a 1997 review
of research on ldquoIntercessory Prayer for the Alleviation of Ill Healthrdquo by Roberts
Ahmed Hall amp Davison reports individual studies suggest a positive effect of
intercessory prayer But since they viewed other reports in which the results
were equivocal they conclude no ldquo further trials of this intervention should be
takenrdquo5
Regrettably they miss the point The fact that studies DO exist reporting a
positive correlation between intercessory prayer and the alleviation of ill health is
precisely the reason more studies should be undertaken Edison found hundreds
of approaches that were equivocal before discovering a singular lighting solution
Thank goodness he did not conclude any further trials were unnecessary before
arriving at that solution
When it comes to this uniquely intimate subject of healing Eric Leskowitz MD
(in a review of the book Healing Intention amp Energy Medicine (2002) by Wayne
Jonas MD) explains how such conflicting conclusions like Roberts etal come
about Dr Leskowitz notes when he is in discussions with his allopathic medical
colleagues regarding ldquo inexplicable phenomena like energy healing or
intercessory prayer a sort of allopathic fear reflex kicks inrdquo6 Conclusions
become tunnel-visioned and skewed against even the possibility of such
correlation existing anywhere at any time Hence no further trials
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 24 of 33
You may however verify for yourself such positively-correlated research does
indeed already exist by reviewing the studies in Jonas book (above) In
addition Marilyn Schlitz PhD provides a brief outline of just some of those
ldquopositive correlationrdquo studies that highlight the ldquointerface of science spirituality
and medicinerdquo7
If you would like an even more in-depth review I refer you to Consciousness amp
Healing Integral Approaches to Mind-Body Medicine (2005) by Schlitz Amorok
and Micozzi as well as the more recent (2008) Holistic Nursing A Handbook for Practice
5th edition by Dossey amp Keegan
In sum although experimental research has certainly not provided the final
answers on the relation between intention and healing the research to date is
most certainly beyond the ldquoequivocalrdquo suggested by those reflexively reacting
from allopathic fear Those studies completed to date which do display a positive
correlation between intention and healing are already providing a strong practical
foundation of powerful techniques and approaches that go far beyond
ldquoexperimentingrdquo and straight to the heart of skillful-application in daily living
Shared-Intentional-Healingrdquotrade is just one such approach you may access today
and everyday simply by participating in your daily praxis
With the above foundation in mind we can now move on to
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 25 of 33
PRAXIS GUIDELINES
Having considered in some depth the foundation on which this method rests we
may now turn to the guidelines describing ldquohow tordquo participate in your daily
Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis
Before you approach your first intentional session please read through the
description and suggestions below Remember these opportunities are for YOU
to BENEFIT YOU Again there is no right way nor wrong way for you to
participate You simply participate in your own best way Therefore as noted
previously the description below is solely meant as a guided outline to assist you
in jump-starting your participation ndash sharing with you some ideas that have
already worked well for others in our Community
For this to be beneficial for everyone please do your best to allot at least 5 to
15 minutes for each intentional session If you are already seasoned at
sitting in quiet you certainly may choose to go longer (eg 30) and you can
trust there are other CYSH members continuing in synchrony with you
To start out let your sessions be for shorter periods of time You will experience
a natural increase in length of participation without having to think about it or
plan for it This is not a race nor a test of endurance This is a nourishing of
Self and a cultivation of your best healing intentions Be gentle
In the beginning it can also be helpful if you imagine sending out your healing
intentions in a particular direction around the globe and returning to you from
the opposite direction This way as you imagine can assist you in creating a
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 26 of 33
ldquoflowrdquo with regard to directing intentional healing to all others around the globe
As you become more adept you will very naturally be able to generate healing
images radiating from your whole being equally in all directions You will
become aware there is no particular ldquoupdownrdquo in space-time There is just
ldquoeverywhere hererdquo that is always at the center of the universe ndash as you are at all
times and as is each member
Finally please know you may also invite your friends and loved ones to share
with you in these sessions If they cannot participate with you ask them (at
minimum) to set their healing intention for you and send it like a gift to you each
day This can be helpful to them as well knowing they are actively supporting
you with their selfless loving healing
So let us begin with a session description I have broken it down into 8 separate
action steps below
1 First make time to just sit and be comfortable (nothing ldquoto dordquo now)
Loosen any tight clothing
2 Begin breathing slowly until you relax into a comfortable natural pace
This is a time for gentleness Simply allow experience to happen and
follow experience moment-to-moment as you proceed
3 Slowly scan your entire being from head to toes inside and out If you
notice any part of you in tension just allow it to relax naturally and
dissolve with each out-breath
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 27 of 33
Note It may take you 2 or more breathing cycles to notice the muscles in a
particular area begin to relax There are times as well when you may just
need to continue on with your scan trusting that the area will release as you
proceed Again this is time for gentle following
4 Once relaxed (as much as may be possible for now) INVITE your Self to
allow and receive healing intention and healing love
Note This may not feel natural or normal within and like a child the
knee-jerk reaction may indeed be to rebel You are merely sending an
invitation nothing more As you repeat this intentional healing invitation
each day you will soon begin to notice that you are indeed looking forward
to this opportunity
5 You are now comfortable relaxed and intentional within It is time now
to image all the other CYSH Members with whom you are sharing this
time Know they too are seeking to generate healing for your challenges
just as you are for theirs Depending on your beliefs it is here that you
may also invite connect with your source of spiritual power (God
Source Higher Power Buddha) to participate with you
6 Spend the next minutes imagining a Circle of Intentional Healing
Energy flowing into you from all the others and out from you to all
others Allow it to be easy natural like the earthrsquos flow of water
circulating from sky to earth and back to sky simply relax into this flow
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 28 of 33
Note It may help to imagine your healing intentions emanating from about
2 finger-widths behind and about 3 finger-widths below your navel This
site (known as the ldquolower dan tienrdquo or ldquoharardquo) is considered the physical
center of gravity around which you are in perfect balance
From this point you can imagine healing intention flowing up your trunk
through your neck and head and out the top of your head to the other
CYSH members
The healing intention returning to you can be experienced as coming into
you at the same center of gravity point from which you started
Important Do not attempt to localize your intentions to any one region
within (brain heart liver etc) the reason being that a given illness process
occurs across and between physiological systems (even though we may talk
as if it is isolated to one system) It is best to imagine your entire Self
within a cocoon or bubble of flowing healing intention ndash everywhere within
you at once You may experience color warmth safety Luxuriate in your
experience Enjoy the moment
During this intentional time it can also be helpful on a given inout cycle of
breath to silently express I send out Loving Healing On the next
inout cycle silently express I receive Loving Healing and so on
In addition if your mind wanders off task (amp it will) just gently return to
the flow of loving healing intention Remember this experience is all about
being gentle Enjoy the process
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 29 of 33
Continue in this state for as long as you desire and is easy comfortable
and natural With practice your will naturally be at ease for longer
periods of time during each session
7 When complete express gratitude to your Self as well as to all others
sharing in this moment with you Sit in this experience of gratitude for a
few moments
8 Savor the nourishing peace you have generated
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 30 of 33
8-STEP PRAXIS REVIEW
1 SIT in comfort
2 BREATHE slowly rhythmically
3 SCAN (head to toes) to relax further still
4 INVITE SELF to allow healing intention
5 RELATE-WITH all other CYSH members amp Spiritual Power
6 SENDRECEIVE intentional healing
ldquoI send out Loving Healingrdquo ldquoI receive Loving Healingrdquo
7 Sit in GRATITUDE
8 SAVOR the nourishing peace
I genuinely look forward to your daily participation and to sharing this powerful
healing process with you I would love to hear your experiences with your praxis
Please do feel free to email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom)
My mission is to Coach You Well
Sincerely amp Caringly
MALCOLM
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 31 of 33
REFERENCES
1 Chopra Deepak (1994) The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success ndash A Practical Guide to
the Fulfillment of Your Dreams p76
2 Chopra Deepak (1999) A Deepak Chopra Companion Illuminations on Health and
Human Consciousness p94
3 Dyer httpwwwyoutubecomwatchv=DC-FPorUW7gampfeature=related
4 Buber Martin (1971) I And Thou
5 Intercessory prayer httpwwwcochraneorgreviewsenab000368html
6 Leskowitz httpwholistichealingresearchcom42books12
7 Schlitz httpxnetkporgpermanentejournalsum05evidencepdf
copy2009byMFDayton
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 32 of 33
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Malcolm Dayton LPC Cht is a Licensed Counselor with more than two decades coaching individuals and families facing chronic illness He is also certified in MindBody Medicine and Hypnotherapy
Malcolms Coaching Self Healing program is unique in that he calls on his own lifelong journey with chronic illness (multiple sclerosis asthma immune deficiency) to assist you in accessing your unique healing solutions Very simply Malcolm walks his coaching
His coaching program is truly integral-- that is healing solutions are practical in focus and applied comprehensively incorporating all dimensions of your experience from symptoms to wellness from relations within self to social relations from the physical to spiritual--a truly ecological approach to Self Healing You learn to be FULLIVINGtrade ndash to thrive beyond chronic illness
Malcolms mission is to Coach You WELL
CONTACTMalcolm Dayton LPC CHt
email mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom
phone 970-689-4247
Yes Malcolm Im ready to discover
the benefits of Self Healing Coaching NOW
Sign me up now for myCOMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION
Be Well And THRIVE Beyond Chronic Illness Now
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 33 of 33
lottery And when it does not happen were faced with the more daunting issue
of how I must somehow be ldquoflawedrdquo Clearly such underlying attitudes provide
no foundation on which to construct change much less the dramatic change
required with the desire to ldquobe curedrdquo [Here I recommend another Huber book
There Is Nothing Wrong with You Going Beyond Self-Hate (2001)]
In the end when focused on ldquobeing curedrdquo you may not only become separate
from your innate healing power within but you risk the ultimate medical
mistreatment becoming an object to be worked-on mechanically From here it
can be a rapid slide into the role of ldquovictimrdquo whereby you relinquish your
responsibility for choosing altogether (ie intending-to-create) how it is you truly
desire to be In short you risk losing the creative power of intention required to
give birth to healing
By the mid eighties I had been on daily prednisone for over a decade to control
severe bouts of status asthmaticus and recurrent pneumonia Because the
deleterious side-effects of prednisone included adrenal insufficiency (an impaired
stress response) I knew in my heart-of-hearts one key to my well-being lay in
recovering my atrophied stress axis by discontinuing daily prednisone For years
I pleaded with my pulmonary specialist to assist me in tapering off and relearning
how to live prednisone-free Together we did make a few unsuccessful attempts
only to recycle back into another respiratory infection and still higher doses of
prednisone By this time his posture was that I needed to remain on daily
prednisone ldquofor the rest of my liferdquo My posture was to fire him
Fortunately and in short-order I began working with an internist who over the
next two years laid out a plan to become prednisone-free ndash which we did
together successfully Two significant points must be clearly recognized here
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 19 of 33
1 You must believe in your innate healing power and if you do not
currently this then becomes your launch pad for your healing journey ndash
relearning to empower your Self to heal
2 You are not in this alone You require the good works of others in
alignment with you to successfully heal As such you need to be very
selective in picking those others with whom you relate to enhance your
medical well-being
If you are feeling your medical support is sapping your power and authority
they probably are but you dont throw the baby out with the bath This is
not about releasing physicians this is about being in a healing
relationship-with your medical professional(s) of choice
Additional cultural biases arise with a focus on ldquocurerdquo Any true change with
regard to chronic illness implies a change ldquofor the betterrdquo That requires us to
believe with certainty that such change can and will bring improvement After
more than fifteen years working with individuals with chronic illness (including
my Self) it is the rare individual Ive encountered who truly believes (from the
core) ldquoI will be curedrdquo We wish for cure certainly but believing with certainty ldquoI
will be curedrdquo rarely
An origin of not believing in ldquobeing curedrdquo lies in the way we traditionally use the
term One problem in particular is that ldquocurerdquo is not a ldquonowrdquo concept -- that is
something I trust to experience now rather we tend to use ldquocurerdquo in a future-
oriented manner of hoping-for-something-to-happen or (at-best) asking-for
maybe praying for cure to happen Yet it is not in the future that you and I
create anything and this is particularly relevant to healing We only create in
the NOW
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 20 of 33
Finally even greater issues arise when we attempt to determine precisely what
we mean by the term ldquocurerdquo As one example are you cured when there is ldquoan
end to the disease processrdquo or could that be ldquoremissionrdquo
Does ldquocurerdquo mean a ldquoreturn to full functioningrdquo (ie as I was before the process
started) Is that even possible Consider the case of a disease process that has
already resulted in disfigurement or amputation What does ldquocurerdquo mean in those
situations
Does ldquocurerdquo mean ldquosymptoms are gonerdquo If so are we then cured when
medications relieve or mask the symptoms altogether Do you understand the
quagmire here
It is for all these reasons above that few people are ever truly ldquocuredrdquo of
anything even if we do allow for those who have experienced ldquomiracle curesrdquo
(which are certainly the exception not the norm) Yet when you and I consider
ldquomy situation nowrdquo we need to have the strength of certainty that improvement
is not only possible but immanent
So if not ldquocurerdquo then what You already know the answer And the answer is
ldquohealingrdquo In the end if ldquocurerdquo is anything it is a future-oriented
disempowering mechanical phenomenon at the physical level In contrast
ldquohealingrdquo is an ongoing process (in this moment) of whole-Self transformation
Consider when we truly and proactively ldquohealrdquo we are creating (now) from the
very depths of our core within We are intending-to-create with all the intensity
and power of commitment passion and agape that arises in creative
transformation It is this innate source of inner power to which we must first
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 21 of 33
return ldquoas little childrenrdquo in order to initiate healing
We mask nothing when healing now rather we take an active and response-able
role in bringing peace joy and love directly into our daily lives and the lives of
those we touch NOW this moment and in as many moments as we allow
It is from this strong shared intentional healing foundation that we live with the
most power any human being can possibly experience in alignment with in I-
Thou relation-with in the selfless Love that is the very Source of all creation
This process of transformational healing envelops and extends beyond cure at any
level and unlike ldquocurerdquo it is not some static condition at which we arrive (by
the grace of some outside benevolent authority) Rather such transformational
healing is an ongoing process of BEING-a-certain-way in strength in power
in wisdom in loving relation-with (not only Self but Source God Higher Power)
Let this loving empowered healing be the deep transformation you intend ndash your
moment-to-moment empowered healing transformation from core within
ldquoPRAXISrdquo
We finally come to the term PRAXIS Clients often ask why I use ldquopraxisrdquo rather
than something more familiar like ldquopracticerdquo or ldquoexerciserdquo My answer is very
simple and straight-forward
First we can quickly dispense with the term ldquoexerciserdquo Do you really want to
ldquoexerciserdquo intentional healing each day ndash or would you rather just skip having to
exercise any more than you already know you need to do Enough said
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 22 of 33
Now imagine I invite you to ldquoplease make sure and practice your intentional
healing each dayrdquo How do you feel then For me it brings up that I must not
be very good at it especially if I need to be practicing every day
Consider now how you feel when I invite you to ldquoskillfully applyrdquo the intentional
healing process in comfort Doesnt ldquoskillful applicationrdquo feel much more
empowering than ldquopracticingrdquo Since ldquopraxisrdquo means ldquoskillful applicationrdquo isnt it
much more inviting to approach your intentional healing sessions with skill
And you will as you become more comfortable applying the process each day
Other folks also ask if shared-intentional-healingtrade wouldnt be better considered
an ldquoexperimentrdquo much like Lynn McTaggarts The Intention Experiment (2007) I
can see how the notion of an ldquoexperimentrdquo carries with it some sense of intrigue
but ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately represent the experience that is shared-
intentional-healingtrade
First (as we learned in our discussion of ldquointentionalrdquo above) when we participate
in Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade we are as a matter-of-fact intending-to-create
healing Such activity cannot be an ldquoexperimentrdquo or we lose the certainty
required for healing change Rather we set out to generate an experience-of-
relating that is powered by being committed empassioned and selflessly loving
You can likely identify such a committed passionate selflessly loving experience
from some time in your life ndash whether in love among family through an
impassioned hobby in seeking some goal or perhaps spiritually As you already
know such an experience is not something we wish-for or hope-for or need to
wait and see what happens It is simply a loving relating-with experience we
already know how to have We just be it and do it
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 23 of 33
Moreover (as I suggested above) there is palpable transformation that occurs
within each of us as we gain comfort participating in shared-intentional-healingtrade
This transformational experience happens through your participation and it will
happen for you ndash no need to experiment just simply participate
Moreover at the heart of it the notion of ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately reflect
the research to date on ldquointentionrdquo and ldquohealingrdquo As an example a 1997 review
of research on ldquoIntercessory Prayer for the Alleviation of Ill Healthrdquo by Roberts
Ahmed Hall amp Davison reports individual studies suggest a positive effect of
intercessory prayer But since they viewed other reports in which the results
were equivocal they conclude no ldquo further trials of this intervention should be
takenrdquo5
Regrettably they miss the point The fact that studies DO exist reporting a
positive correlation between intercessory prayer and the alleviation of ill health is
precisely the reason more studies should be undertaken Edison found hundreds
of approaches that were equivocal before discovering a singular lighting solution
Thank goodness he did not conclude any further trials were unnecessary before
arriving at that solution
When it comes to this uniquely intimate subject of healing Eric Leskowitz MD
(in a review of the book Healing Intention amp Energy Medicine (2002) by Wayne
Jonas MD) explains how such conflicting conclusions like Roberts etal come
about Dr Leskowitz notes when he is in discussions with his allopathic medical
colleagues regarding ldquo inexplicable phenomena like energy healing or
intercessory prayer a sort of allopathic fear reflex kicks inrdquo6 Conclusions
become tunnel-visioned and skewed against even the possibility of such
correlation existing anywhere at any time Hence no further trials
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 24 of 33
You may however verify for yourself such positively-correlated research does
indeed already exist by reviewing the studies in Jonas book (above) In
addition Marilyn Schlitz PhD provides a brief outline of just some of those
ldquopositive correlationrdquo studies that highlight the ldquointerface of science spirituality
and medicinerdquo7
If you would like an even more in-depth review I refer you to Consciousness amp
Healing Integral Approaches to Mind-Body Medicine (2005) by Schlitz Amorok
and Micozzi as well as the more recent (2008) Holistic Nursing A Handbook for Practice
5th edition by Dossey amp Keegan
In sum although experimental research has certainly not provided the final
answers on the relation between intention and healing the research to date is
most certainly beyond the ldquoequivocalrdquo suggested by those reflexively reacting
from allopathic fear Those studies completed to date which do display a positive
correlation between intention and healing are already providing a strong practical
foundation of powerful techniques and approaches that go far beyond
ldquoexperimentingrdquo and straight to the heart of skillful-application in daily living
Shared-Intentional-Healingrdquotrade is just one such approach you may access today
and everyday simply by participating in your daily praxis
With the above foundation in mind we can now move on to
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 25 of 33
PRAXIS GUIDELINES
Having considered in some depth the foundation on which this method rests we
may now turn to the guidelines describing ldquohow tordquo participate in your daily
Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis
Before you approach your first intentional session please read through the
description and suggestions below Remember these opportunities are for YOU
to BENEFIT YOU Again there is no right way nor wrong way for you to
participate You simply participate in your own best way Therefore as noted
previously the description below is solely meant as a guided outline to assist you
in jump-starting your participation ndash sharing with you some ideas that have
already worked well for others in our Community
For this to be beneficial for everyone please do your best to allot at least 5 to
15 minutes for each intentional session If you are already seasoned at
sitting in quiet you certainly may choose to go longer (eg 30) and you can
trust there are other CYSH members continuing in synchrony with you
To start out let your sessions be for shorter periods of time You will experience
a natural increase in length of participation without having to think about it or
plan for it This is not a race nor a test of endurance This is a nourishing of
Self and a cultivation of your best healing intentions Be gentle
In the beginning it can also be helpful if you imagine sending out your healing
intentions in a particular direction around the globe and returning to you from
the opposite direction This way as you imagine can assist you in creating a
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 26 of 33
ldquoflowrdquo with regard to directing intentional healing to all others around the globe
As you become more adept you will very naturally be able to generate healing
images radiating from your whole being equally in all directions You will
become aware there is no particular ldquoupdownrdquo in space-time There is just
ldquoeverywhere hererdquo that is always at the center of the universe ndash as you are at all
times and as is each member
Finally please know you may also invite your friends and loved ones to share
with you in these sessions If they cannot participate with you ask them (at
minimum) to set their healing intention for you and send it like a gift to you each
day This can be helpful to them as well knowing they are actively supporting
you with their selfless loving healing
So let us begin with a session description I have broken it down into 8 separate
action steps below
1 First make time to just sit and be comfortable (nothing ldquoto dordquo now)
Loosen any tight clothing
2 Begin breathing slowly until you relax into a comfortable natural pace
This is a time for gentleness Simply allow experience to happen and
follow experience moment-to-moment as you proceed
3 Slowly scan your entire being from head to toes inside and out If you
notice any part of you in tension just allow it to relax naturally and
dissolve with each out-breath
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 27 of 33
Note It may take you 2 or more breathing cycles to notice the muscles in a
particular area begin to relax There are times as well when you may just
need to continue on with your scan trusting that the area will release as you
proceed Again this is time for gentle following
4 Once relaxed (as much as may be possible for now) INVITE your Self to
allow and receive healing intention and healing love
Note This may not feel natural or normal within and like a child the
knee-jerk reaction may indeed be to rebel You are merely sending an
invitation nothing more As you repeat this intentional healing invitation
each day you will soon begin to notice that you are indeed looking forward
to this opportunity
5 You are now comfortable relaxed and intentional within It is time now
to image all the other CYSH Members with whom you are sharing this
time Know they too are seeking to generate healing for your challenges
just as you are for theirs Depending on your beliefs it is here that you
may also invite connect with your source of spiritual power (God
Source Higher Power Buddha) to participate with you
6 Spend the next minutes imagining a Circle of Intentional Healing
Energy flowing into you from all the others and out from you to all
others Allow it to be easy natural like the earthrsquos flow of water
circulating from sky to earth and back to sky simply relax into this flow
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 28 of 33
Note It may help to imagine your healing intentions emanating from about
2 finger-widths behind and about 3 finger-widths below your navel This
site (known as the ldquolower dan tienrdquo or ldquoharardquo) is considered the physical
center of gravity around which you are in perfect balance
From this point you can imagine healing intention flowing up your trunk
through your neck and head and out the top of your head to the other
CYSH members
The healing intention returning to you can be experienced as coming into
you at the same center of gravity point from which you started
Important Do not attempt to localize your intentions to any one region
within (brain heart liver etc) the reason being that a given illness process
occurs across and between physiological systems (even though we may talk
as if it is isolated to one system) It is best to imagine your entire Self
within a cocoon or bubble of flowing healing intention ndash everywhere within
you at once You may experience color warmth safety Luxuriate in your
experience Enjoy the moment
During this intentional time it can also be helpful on a given inout cycle of
breath to silently express I send out Loving Healing On the next
inout cycle silently express I receive Loving Healing and so on
In addition if your mind wanders off task (amp it will) just gently return to
the flow of loving healing intention Remember this experience is all about
being gentle Enjoy the process
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 29 of 33
Continue in this state for as long as you desire and is easy comfortable
and natural With practice your will naturally be at ease for longer
periods of time during each session
7 When complete express gratitude to your Self as well as to all others
sharing in this moment with you Sit in this experience of gratitude for a
few moments
8 Savor the nourishing peace you have generated
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 30 of 33
8-STEP PRAXIS REVIEW
1 SIT in comfort
2 BREATHE slowly rhythmically
3 SCAN (head to toes) to relax further still
4 INVITE SELF to allow healing intention
5 RELATE-WITH all other CYSH members amp Spiritual Power
6 SENDRECEIVE intentional healing
ldquoI send out Loving Healingrdquo ldquoI receive Loving Healingrdquo
7 Sit in GRATITUDE
8 SAVOR the nourishing peace
I genuinely look forward to your daily participation and to sharing this powerful
healing process with you I would love to hear your experiences with your praxis
Please do feel free to email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom)
My mission is to Coach You Well
Sincerely amp Caringly
MALCOLM
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 31 of 33
REFERENCES
1 Chopra Deepak (1994) The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success ndash A Practical Guide to
the Fulfillment of Your Dreams p76
2 Chopra Deepak (1999) A Deepak Chopra Companion Illuminations on Health and
Human Consciousness p94
3 Dyer httpwwwyoutubecomwatchv=DC-FPorUW7gampfeature=related
4 Buber Martin (1971) I And Thou
5 Intercessory prayer httpwwwcochraneorgreviewsenab000368html
6 Leskowitz httpwholistichealingresearchcom42books12
7 Schlitz httpxnetkporgpermanentejournalsum05evidencepdf
copy2009byMFDayton
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 32 of 33
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Malcolm Dayton LPC Cht is a Licensed Counselor with more than two decades coaching individuals and families facing chronic illness He is also certified in MindBody Medicine and Hypnotherapy
Malcolms Coaching Self Healing program is unique in that he calls on his own lifelong journey with chronic illness (multiple sclerosis asthma immune deficiency) to assist you in accessing your unique healing solutions Very simply Malcolm walks his coaching
His coaching program is truly integral-- that is healing solutions are practical in focus and applied comprehensively incorporating all dimensions of your experience from symptoms to wellness from relations within self to social relations from the physical to spiritual--a truly ecological approach to Self Healing You learn to be FULLIVINGtrade ndash to thrive beyond chronic illness
Malcolms mission is to Coach You WELL
CONTACTMalcolm Dayton LPC CHt
email mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom
phone 970-689-4247
Yes Malcolm Im ready to discover
the benefits of Self Healing Coaching NOW
Sign me up now for myCOMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION
Be Well And THRIVE Beyond Chronic Illness Now
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 33 of 33
1 You must believe in your innate healing power and if you do not
currently this then becomes your launch pad for your healing journey ndash
relearning to empower your Self to heal
2 You are not in this alone You require the good works of others in
alignment with you to successfully heal As such you need to be very
selective in picking those others with whom you relate to enhance your
medical well-being
If you are feeling your medical support is sapping your power and authority
they probably are but you dont throw the baby out with the bath This is
not about releasing physicians this is about being in a healing
relationship-with your medical professional(s) of choice
Additional cultural biases arise with a focus on ldquocurerdquo Any true change with
regard to chronic illness implies a change ldquofor the betterrdquo That requires us to
believe with certainty that such change can and will bring improvement After
more than fifteen years working with individuals with chronic illness (including
my Self) it is the rare individual Ive encountered who truly believes (from the
core) ldquoI will be curedrdquo We wish for cure certainly but believing with certainty ldquoI
will be curedrdquo rarely
An origin of not believing in ldquobeing curedrdquo lies in the way we traditionally use the
term One problem in particular is that ldquocurerdquo is not a ldquonowrdquo concept -- that is
something I trust to experience now rather we tend to use ldquocurerdquo in a future-
oriented manner of hoping-for-something-to-happen or (at-best) asking-for
maybe praying for cure to happen Yet it is not in the future that you and I
create anything and this is particularly relevant to healing We only create in
the NOW
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 20 of 33
Finally even greater issues arise when we attempt to determine precisely what
we mean by the term ldquocurerdquo As one example are you cured when there is ldquoan
end to the disease processrdquo or could that be ldquoremissionrdquo
Does ldquocurerdquo mean a ldquoreturn to full functioningrdquo (ie as I was before the process
started) Is that even possible Consider the case of a disease process that has
already resulted in disfigurement or amputation What does ldquocurerdquo mean in those
situations
Does ldquocurerdquo mean ldquosymptoms are gonerdquo If so are we then cured when
medications relieve or mask the symptoms altogether Do you understand the
quagmire here
It is for all these reasons above that few people are ever truly ldquocuredrdquo of
anything even if we do allow for those who have experienced ldquomiracle curesrdquo
(which are certainly the exception not the norm) Yet when you and I consider
ldquomy situation nowrdquo we need to have the strength of certainty that improvement
is not only possible but immanent
So if not ldquocurerdquo then what You already know the answer And the answer is
ldquohealingrdquo In the end if ldquocurerdquo is anything it is a future-oriented
disempowering mechanical phenomenon at the physical level In contrast
ldquohealingrdquo is an ongoing process (in this moment) of whole-Self transformation
Consider when we truly and proactively ldquohealrdquo we are creating (now) from the
very depths of our core within We are intending-to-create with all the intensity
and power of commitment passion and agape that arises in creative
transformation It is this innate source of inner power to which we must first
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 21 of 33
return ldquoas little childrenrdquo in order to initiate healing
We mask nothing when healing now rather we take an active and response-able
role in bringing peace joy and love directly into our daily lives and the lives of
those we touch NOW this moment and in as many moments as we allow
It is from this strong shared intentional healing foundation that we live with the
most power any human being can possibly experience in alignment with in I-
Thou relation-with in the selfless Love that is the very Source of all creation
This process of transformational healing envelops and extends beyond cure at any
level and unlike ldquocurerdquo it is not some static condition at which we arrive (by
the grace of some outside benevolent authority) Rather such transformational
healing is an ongoing process of BEING-a-certain-way in strength in power
in wisdom in loving relation-with (not only Self but Source God Higher Power)
Let this loving empowered healing be the deep transformation you intend ndash your
moment-to-moment empowered healing transformation from core within
ldquoPRAXISrdquo
We finally come to the term PRAXIS Clients often ask why I use ldquopraxisrdquo rather
than something more familiar like ldquopracticerdquo or ldquoexerciserdquo My answer is very
simple and straight-forward
First we can quickly dispense with the term ldquoexerciserdquo Do you really want to
ldquoexerciserdquo intentional healing each day ndash or would you rather just skip having to
exercise any more than you already know you need to do Enough said
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 22 of 33
Now imagine I invite you to ldquoplease make sure and practice your intentional
healing each dayrdquo How do you feel then For me it brings up that I must not
be very good at it especially if I need to be practicing every day
Consider now how you feel when I invite you to ldquoskillfully applyrdquo the intentional
healing process in comfort Doesnt ldquoskillful applicationrdquo feel much more
empowering than ldquopracticingrdquo Since ldquopraxisrdquo means ldquoskillful applicationrdquo isnt it
much more inviting to approach your intentional healing sessions with skill
And you will as you become more comfortable applying the process each day
Other folks also ask if shared-intentional-healingtrade wouldnt be better considered
an ldquoexperimentrdquo much like Lynn McTaggarts The Intention Experiment (2007) I
can see how the notion of an ldquoexperimentrdquo carries with it some sense of intrigue
but ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately represent the experience that is shared-
intentional-healingtrade
First (as we learned in our discussion of ldquointentionalrdquo above) when we participate
in Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade we are as a matter-of-fact intending-to-create
healing Such activity cannot be an ldquoexperimentrdquo or we lose the certainty
required for healing change Rather we set out to generate an experience-of-
relating that is powered by being committed empassioned and selflessly loving
You can likely identify such a committed passionate selflessly loving experience
from some time in your life ndash whether in love among family through an
impassioned hobby in seeking some goal or perhaps spiritually As you already
know such an experience is not something we wish-for or hope-for or need to
wait and see what happens It is simply a loving relating-with experience we
already know how to have We just be it and do it
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 23 of 33
Moreover (as I suggested above) there is palpable transformation that occurs
within each of us as we gain comfort participating in shared-intentional-healingtrade
This transformational experience happens through your participation and it will
happen for you ndash no need to experiment just simply participate
Moreover at the heart of it the notion of ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately reflect
the research to date on ldquointentionrdquo and ldquohealingrdquo As an example a 1997 review
of research on ldquoIntercessory Prayer for the Alleviation of Ill Healthrdquo by Roberts
Ahmed Hall amp Davison reports individual studies suggest a positive effect of
intercessory prayer But since they viewed other reports in which the results
were equivocal they conclude no ldquo further trials of this intervention should be
takenrdquo5
Regrettably they miss the point The fact that studies DO exist reporting a
positive correlation between intercessory prayer and the alleviation of ill health is
precisely the reason more studies should be undertaken Edison found hundreds
of approaches that were equivocal before discovering a singular lighting solution
Thank goodness he did not conclude any further trials were unnecessary before
arriving at that solution
When it comes to this uniquely intimate subject of healing Eric Leskowitz MD
(in a review of the book Healing Intention amp Energy Medicine (2002) by Wayne
Jonas MD) explains how such conflicting conclusions like Roberts etal come
about Dr Leskowitz notes when he is in discussions with his allopathic medical
colleagues regarding ldquo inexplicable phenomena like energy healing or
intercessory prayer a sort of allopathic fear reflex kicks inrdquo6 Conclusions
become tunnel-visioned and skewed against even the possibility of such
correlation existing anywhere at any time Hence no further trials
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 24 of 33
You may however verify for yourself such positively-correlated research does
indeed already exist by reviewing the studies in Jonas book (above) In
addition Marilyn Schlitz PhD provides a brief outline of just some of those
ldquopositive correlationrdquo studies that highlight the ldquointerface of science spirituality
and medicinerdquo7
If you would like an even more in-depth review I refer you to Consciousness amp
Healing Integral Approaches to Mind-Body Medicine (2005) by Schlitz Amorok
and Micozzi as well as the more recent (2008) Holistic Nursing A Handbook for Practice
5th edition by Dossey amp Keegan
In sum although experimental research has certainly not provided the final
answers on the relation between intention and healing the research to date is
most certainly beyond the ldquoequivocalrdquo suggested by those reflexively reacting
from allopathic fear Those studies completed to date which do display a positive
correlation between intention and healing are already providing a strong practical
foundation of powerful techniques and approaches that go far beyond
ldquoexperimentingrdquo and straight to the heart of skillful-application in daily living
Shared-Intentional-Healingrdquotrade is just one such approach you may access today
and everyday simply by participating in your daily praxis
With the above foundation in mind we can now move on to
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 25 of 33
PRAXIS GUIDELINES
Having considered in some depth the foundation on which this method rests we
may now turn to the guidelines describing ldquohow tordquo participate in your daily
Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis
Before you approach your first intentional session please read through the
description and suggestions below Remember these opportunities are for YOU
to BENEFIT YOU Again there is no right way nor wrong way for you to
participate You simply participate in your own best way Therefore as noted
previously the description below is solely meant as a guided outline to assist you
in jump-starting your participation ndash sharing with you some ideas that have
already worked well for others in our Community
For this to be beneficial for everyone please do your best to allot at least 5 to
15 minutes for each intentional session If you are already seasoned at
sitting in quiet you certainly may choose to go longer (eg 30) and you can
trust there are other CYSH members continuing in synchrony with you
To start out let your sessions be for shorter periods of time You will experience
a natural increase in length of participation without having to think about it or
plan for it This is not a race nor a test of endurance This is a nourishing of
Self and a cultivation of your best healing intentions Be gentle
In the beginning it can also be helpful if you imagine sending out your healing
intentions in a particular direction around the globe and returning to you from
the opposite direction This way as you imagine can assist you in creating a
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 26 of 33
ldquoflowrdquo with regard to directing intentional healing to all others around the globe
As you become more adept you will very naturally be able to generate healing
images radiating from your whole being equally in all directions You will
become aware there is no particular ldquoupdownrdquo in space-time There is just
ldquoeverywhere hererdquo that is always at the center of the universe ndash as you are at all
times and as is each member
Finally please know you may also invite your friends and loved ones to share
with you in these sessions If they cannot participate with you ask them (at
minimum) to set their healing intention for you and send it like a gift to you each
day This can be helpful to them as well knowing they are actively supporting
you with their selfless loving healing
So let us begin with a session description I have broken it down into 8 separate
action steps below
1 First make time to just sit and be comfortable (nothing ldquoto dordquo now)
Loosen any tight clothing
2 Begin breathing slowly until you relax into a comfortable natural pace
This is a time for gentleness Simply allow experience to happen and
follow experience moment-to-moment as you proceed
3 Slowly scan your entire being from head to toes inside and out If you
notice any part of you in tension just allow it to relax naturally and
dissolve with each out-breath
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 27 of 33
Note It may take you 2 or more breathing cycles to notice the muscles in a
particular area begin to relax There are times as well when you may just
need to continue on with your scan trusting that the area will release as you
proceed Again this is time for gentle following
4 Once relaxed (as much as may be possible for now) INVITE your Self to
allow and receive healing intention and healing love
Note This may not feel natural or normal within and like a child the
knee-jerk reaction may indeed be to rebel You are merely sending an
invitation nothing more As you repeat this intentional healing invitation
each day you will soon begin to notice that you are indeed looking forward
to this opportunity
5 You are now comfortable relaxed and intentional within It is time now
to image all the other CYSH Members with whom you are sharing this
time Know they too are seeking to generate healing for your challenges
just as you are for theirs Depending on your beliefs it is here that you
may also invite connect with your source of spiritual power (God
Source Higher Power Buddha) to participate with you
6 Spend the next minutes imagining a Circle of Intentional Healing
Energy flowing into you from all the others and out from you to all
others Allow it to be easy natural like the earthrsquos flow of water
circulating from sky to earth and back to sky simply relax into this flow
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 28 of 33
Note It may help to imagine your healing intentions emanating from about
2 finger-widths behind and about 3 finger-widths below your navel This
site (known as the ldquolower dan tienrdquo or ldquoharardquo) is considered the physical
center of gravity around which you are in perfect balance
From this point you can imagine healing intention flowing up your trunk
through your neck and head and out the top of your head to the other
CYSH members
The healing intention returning to you can be experienced as coming into
you at the same center of gravity point from which you started
Important Do not attempt to localize your intentions to any one region
within (brain heart liver etc) the reason being that a given illness process
occurs across and between physiological systems (even though we may talk
as if it is isolated to one system) It is best to imagine your entire Self
within a cocoon or bubble of flowing healing intention ndash everywhere within
you at once You may experience color warmth safety Luxuriate in your
experience Enjoy the moment
During this intentional time it can also be helpful on a given inout cycle of
breath to silently express I send out Loving Healing On the next
inout cycle silently express I receive Loving Healing and so on
In addition if your mind wanders off task (amp it will) just gently return to
the flow of loving healing intention Remember this experience is all about
being gentle Enjoy the process
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 29 of 33
Continue in this state for as long as you desire and is easy comfortable
and natural With practice your will naturally be at ease for longer
periods of time during each session
7 When complete express gratitude to your Self as well as to all others
sharing in this moment with you Sit in this experience of gratitude for a
few moments
8 Savor the nourishing peace you have generated
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 30 of 33
8-STEP PRAXIS REVIEW
1 SIT in comfort
2 BREATHE slowly rhythmically
3 SCAN (head to toes) to relax further still
4 INVITE SELF to allow healing intention
5 RELATE-WITH all other CYSH members amp Spiritual Power
6 SENDRECEIVE intentional healing
ldquoI send out Loving Healingrdquo ldquoI receive Loving Healingrdquo
7 Sit in GRATITUDE
8 SAVOR the nourishing peace
I genuinely look forward to your daily participation and to sharing this powerful
healing process with you I would love to hear your experiences with your praxis
Please do feel free to email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom)
My mission is to Coach You Well
Sincerely amp Caringly
MALCOLM
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 31 of 33
REFERENCES
1 Chopra Deepak (1994) The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success ndash A Practical Guide to
the Fulfillment of Your Dreams p76
2 Chopra Deepak (1999) A Deepak Chopra Companion Illuminations on Health and
Human Consciousness p94
3 Dyer httpwwwyoutubecomwatchv=DC-FPorUW7gampfeature=related
4 Buber Martin (1971) I And Thou
5 Intercessory prayer httpwwwcochraneorgreviewsenab000368html
6 Leskowitz httpwholistichealingresearchcom42books12
7 Schlitz httpxnetkporgpermanentejournalsum05evidencepdf
copy2009byMFDayton
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 32 of 33
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Malcolm Dayton LPC Cht is a Licensed Counselor with more than two decades coaching individuals and families facing chronic illness He is also certified in MindBody Medicine and Hypnotherapy
Malcolms Coaching Self Healing program is unique in that he calls on his own lifelong journey with chronic illness (multiple sclerosis asthma immune deficiency) to assist you in accessing your unique healing solutions Very simply Malcolm walks his coaching
His coaching program is truly integral-- that is healing solutions are practical in focus and applied comprehensively incorporating all dimensions of your experience from symptoms to wellness from relations within self to social relations from the physical to spiritual--a truly ecological approach to Self Healing You learn to be FULLIVINGtrade ndash to thrive beyond chronic illness
Malcolms mission is to Coach You WELL
CONTACTMalcolm Dayton LPC CHt
email mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom
phone 970-689-4247
Yes Malcolm Im ready to discover
the benefits of Self Healing Coaching NOW
Sign me up now for myCOMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION
Be Well And THRIVE Beyond Chronic Illness Now
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 33 of 33
Finally even greater issues arise when we attempt to determine precisely what
we mean by the term ldquocurerdquo As one example are you cured when there is ldquoan
end to the disease processrdquo or could that be ldquoremissionrdquo
Does ldquocurerdquo mean a ldquoreturn to full functioningrdquo (ie as I was before the process
started) Is that even possible Consider the case of a disease process that has
already resulted in disfigurement or amputation What does ldquocurerdquo mean in those
situations
Does ldquocurerdquo mean ldquosymptoms are gonerdquo If so are we then cured when
medications relieve or mask the symptoms altogether Do you understand the
quagmire here
It is for all these reasons above that few people are ever truly ldquocuredrdquo of
anything even if we do allow for those who have experienced ldquomiracle curesrdquo
(which are certainly the exception not the norm) Yet when you and I consider
ldquomy situation nowrdquo we need to have the strength of certainty that improvement
is not only possible but immanent
So if not ldquocurerdquo then what You already know the answer And the answer is
ldquohealingrdquo In the end if ldquocurerdquo is anything it is a future-oriented
disempowering mechanical phenomenon at the physical level In contrast
ldquohealingrdquo is an ongoing process (in this moment) of whole-Self transformation
Consider when we truly and proactively ldquohealrdquo we are creating (now) from the
very depths of our core within We are intending-to-create with all the intensity
and power of commitment passion and agape that arises in creative
transformation It is this innate source of inner power to which we must first
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 21 of 33
return ldquoas little childrenrdquo in order to initiate healing
We mask nothing when healing now rather we take an active and response-able
role in bringing peace joy and love directly into our daily lives and the lives of
those we touch NOW this moment and in as many moments as we allow
It is from this strong shared intentional healing foundation that we live with the
most power any human being can possibly experience in alignment with in I-
Thou relation-with in the selfless Love that is the very Source of all creation
This process of transformational healing envelops and extends beyond cure at any
level and unlike ldquocurerdquo it is not some static condition at which we arrive (by
the grace of some outside benevolent authority) Rather such transformational
healing is an ongoing process of BEING-a-certain-way in strength in power
in wisdom in loving relation-with (not only Self but Source God Higher Power)
Let this loving empowered healing be the deep transformation you intend ndash your
moment-to-moment empowered healing transformation from core within
ldquoPRAXISrdquo
We finally come to the term PRAXIS Clients often ask why I use ldquopraxisrdquo rather
than something more familiar like ldquopracticerdquo or ldquoexerciserdquo My answer is very
simple and straight-forward
First we can quickly dispense with the term ldquoexerciserdquo Do you really want to
ldquoexerciserdquo intentional healing each day ndash or would you rather just skip having to
exercise any more than you already know you need to do Enough said
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 22 of 33
Now imagine I invite you to ldquoplease make sure and practice your intentional
healing each dayrdquo How do you feel then For me it brings up that I must not
be very good at it especially if I need to be practicing every day
Consider now how you feel when I invite you to ldquoskillfully applyrdquo the intentional
healing process in comfort Doesnt ldquoskillful applicationrdquo feel much more
empowering than ldquopracticingrdquo Since ldquopraxisrdquo means ldquoskillful applicationrdquo isnt it
much more inviting to approach your intentional healing sessions with skill
And you will as you become more comfortable applying the process each day
Other folks also ask if shared-intentional-healingtrade wouldnt be better considered
an ldquoexperimentrdquo much like Lynn McTaggarts The Intention Experiment (2007) I
can see how the notion of an ldquoexperimentrdquo carries with it some sense of intrigue
but ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately represent the experience that is shared-
intentional-healingtrade
First (as we learned in our discussion of ldquointentionalrdquo above) when we participate
in Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade we are as a matter-of-fact intending-to-create
healing Such activity cannot be an ldquoexperimentrdquo or we lose the certainty
required for healing change Rather we set out to generate an experience-of-
relating that is powered by being committed empassioned and selflessly loving
You can likely identify such a committed passionate selflessly loving experience
from some time in your life ndash whether in love among family through an
impassioned hobby in seeking some goal or perhaps spiritually As you already
know such an experience is not something we wish-for or hope-for or need to
wait and see what happens It is simply a loving relating-with experience we
already know how to have We just be it and do it
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 23 of 33
Moreover (as I suggested above) there is palpable transformation that occurs
within each of us as we gain comfort participating in shared-intentional-healingtrade
This transformational experience happens through your participation and it will
happen for you ndash no need to experiment just simply participate
Moreover at the heart of it the notion of ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately reflect
the research to date on ldquointentionrdquo and ldquohealingrdquo As an example a 1997 review
of research on ldquoIntercessory Prayer for the Alleviation of Ill Healthrdquo by Roberts
Ahmed Hall amp Davison reports individual studies suggest a positive effect of
intercessory prayer But since they viewed other reports in which the results
were equivocal they conclude no ldquo further trials of this intervention should be
takenrdquo5
Regrettably they miss the point The fact that studies DO exist reporting a
positive correlation between intercessory prayer and the alleviation of ill health is
precisely the reason more studies should be undertaken Edison found hundreds
of approaches that were equivocal before discovering a singular lighting solution
Thank goodness he did not conclude any further trials were unnecessary before
arriving at that solution
When it comes to this uniquely intimate subject of healing Eric Leskowitz MD
(in a review of the book Healing Intention amp Energy Medicine (2002) by Wayne
Jonas MD) explains how such conflicting conclusions like Roberts etal come
about Dr Leskowitz notes when he is in discussions with his allopathic medical
colleagues regarding ldquo inexplicable phenomena like energy healing or
intercessory prayer a sort of allopathic fear reflex kicks inrdquo6 Conclusions
become tunnel-visioned and skewed against even the possibility of such
correlation existing anywhere at any time Hence no further trials
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 24 of 33
You may however verify for yourself such positively-correlated research does
indeed already exist by reviewing the studies in Jonas book (above) In
addition Marilyn Schlitz PhD provides a brief outline of just some of those
ldquopositive correlationrdquo studies that highlight the ldquointerface of science spirituality
and medicinerdquo7
If you would like an even more in-depth review I refer you to Consciousness amp
Healing Integral Approaches to Mind-Body Medicine (2005) by Schlitz Amorok
and Micozzi as well as the more recent (2008) Holistic Nursing A Handbook for Practice
5th edition by Dossey amp Keegan
In sum although experimental research has certainly not provided the final
answers on the relation between intention and healing the research to date is
most certainly beyond the ldquoequivocalrdquo suggested by those reflexively reacting
from allopathic fear Those studies completed to date which do display a positive
correlation between intention and healing are already providing a strong practical
foundation of powerful techniques and approaches that go far beyond
ldquoexperimentingrdquo and straight to the heart of skillful-application in daily living
Shared-Intentional-Healingrdquotrade is just one such approach you may access today
and everyday simply by participating in your daily praxis
With the above foundation in mind we can now move on to
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 25 of 33
PRAXIS GUIDELINES
Having considered in some depth the foundation on which this method rests we
may now turn to the guidelines describing ldquohow tordquo participate in your daily
Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis
Before you approach your first intentional session please read through the
description and suggestions below Remember these opportunities are for YOU
to BENEFIT YOU Again there is no right way nor wrong way for you to
participate You simply participate in your own best way Therefore as noted
previously the description below is solely meant as a guided outline to assist you
in jump-starting your participation ndash sharing with you some ideas that have
already worked well for others in our Community
For this to be beneficial for everyone please do your best to allot at least 5 to
15 minutes for each intentional session If you are already seasoned at
sitting in quiet you certainly may choose to go longer (eg 30) and you can
trust there are other CYSH members continuing in synchrony with you
To start out let your sessions be for shorter periods of time You will experience
a natural increase in length of participation without having to think about it or
plan for it This is not a race nor a test of endurance This is a nourishing of
Self and a cultivation of your best healing intentions Be gentle
In the beginning it can also be helpful if you imagine sending out your healing
intentions in a particular direction around the globe and returning to you from
the opposite direction This way as you imagine can assist you in creating a
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 26 of 33
ldquoflowrdquo with regard to directing intentional healing to all others around the globe
As you become more adept you will very naturally be able to generate healing
images radiating from your whole being equally in all directions You will
become aware there is no particular ldquoupdownrdquo in space-time There is just
ldquoeverywhere hererdquo that is always at the center of the universe ndash as you are at all
times and as is each member
Finally please know you may also invite your friends and loved ones to share
with you in these sessions If they cannot participate with you ask them (at
minimum) to set their healing intention for you and send it like a gift to you each
day This can be helpful to them as well knowing they are actively supporting
you with their selfless loving healing
So let us begin with a session description I have broken it down into 8 separate
action steps below
1 First make time to just sit and be comfortable (nothing ldquoto dordquo now)
Loosen any tight clothing
2 Begin breathing slowly until you relax into a comfortable natural pace
This is a time for gentleness Simply allow experience to happen and
follow experience moment-to-moment as you proceed
3 Slowly scan your entire being from head to toes inside and out If you
notice any part of you in tension just allow it to relax naturally and
dissolve with each out-breath
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 27 of 33
Note It may take you 2 or more breathing cycles to notice the muscles in a
particular area begin to relax There are times as well when you may just
need to continue on with your scan trusting that the area will release as you
proceed Again this is time for gentle following
4 Once relaxed (as much as may be possible for now) INVITE your Self to
allow and receive healing intention and healing love
Note This may not feel natural or normal within and like a child the
knee-jerk reaction may indeed be to rebel You are merely sending an
invitation nothing more As you repeat this intentional healing invitation
each day you will soon begin to notice that you are indeed looking forward
to this opportunity
5 You are now comfortable relaxed and intentional within It is time now
to image all the other CYSH Members with whom you are sharing this
time Know they too are seeking to generate healing for your challenges
just as you are for theirs Depending on your beliefs it is here that you
may also invite connect with your source of spiritual power (God
Source Higher Power Buddha) to participate with you
6 Spend the next minutes imagining a Circle of Intentional Healing
Energy flowing into you from all the others and out from you to all
others Allow it to be easy natural like the earthrsquos flow of water
circulating from sky to earth and back to sky simply relax into this flow
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 28 of 33
Note It may help to imagine your healing intentions emanating from about
2 finger-widths behind and about 3 finger-widths below your navel This
site (known as the ldquolower dan tienrdquo or ldquoharardquo) is considered the physical
center of gravity around which you are in perfect balance
From this point you can imagine healing intention flowing up your trunk
through your neck and head and out the top of your head to the other
CYSH members
The healing intention returning to you can be experienced as coming into
you at the same center of gravity point from which you started
Important Do not attempt to localize your intentions to any one region
within (brain heart liver etc) the reason being that a given illness process
occurs across and between physiological systems (even though we may talk
as if it is isolated to one system) It is best to imagine your entire Self
within a cocoon or bubble of flowing healing intention ndash everywhere within
you at once You may experience color warmth safety Luxuriate in your
experience Enjoy the moment
During this intentional time it can also be helpful on a given inout cycle of
breath to silently express I send out Loving Healing On the next
inout cycle silently express I receive Loving Healing and so on
In addition if your mind wanders off task (amp it will) just gently return to
the flow of loving healing intention Remember this experience is all about
being gentle Enjoy the process
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 29 of 33
Continue in this state for as long as you desire and is easy comfortable
and natural With practice your will naturally be at ease for longer
periods of time during each session
7 When complete express gratitude to your Self as well as to all others
sharing in this moment with you Sit in this experience of gratitude for a
few moments
8 Savor the nourishing peace you have generated
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 30 of 33
8-STEP PRAXIS REVIEW
1 SIT in comfort
2 BREATHE slowly rhythmically
3 SCAN (head to toes) to relax further still
4 INVITE SELF to allow healing intention
5 RELATE-WITH all other CYSH members amp Spiritual Power
6 SENDRECEIVE intentional healing
ldquoI send out Loving Healingrdquo ldquoI receive Loving Healingrdquo
7 Sit in GRATITUDE
8 SAVOR the nourishing peace
I genuinely look forward to your daily participation and to sharing this powerful
healing process with you I would love to hear your experiences with your praxis
Please do feel free to email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom)
My mission is to Coach You Well
Sincerely amp Caringly
MALCOLM
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 31 of 33
REFERENCES
1 Chopra Deepak (1994) The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success ndash A Practical Guide to
the Fulfillment of Your Dreams p76
2 Chopra Deepak (1999) A Deepak Chopra Companion Illuminations on Health and
Human Consciousness p94
3 Dyer httpwwwyoutubecomwatchv=DC-FPorUW7gampfeature=related
4 Buber Martin (1971) I And Thou
5 Intercessory prayer httpwwwcochraneorgreviewsenab000368html
6 Leskowitz httpwholistichealingresearchcom42books12
7 Schlitz httpxnetkporgpermanentejournalsum05evidencepdf
copy2009byMFDayton
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 32 of 33
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Malcolm Dayton LPC Cht is a Licensed Counselor with more than two decades coaching individuals and families facing chronic illness He is also certified in MindBody Medicine and Hypnotherapy
Malcolms Coaching Self Healing program is unique in that he calls on his own lifelong journey with chronic illness (multiple sclerosis asthma immune deficiency) to assist you in accessing your unique healing solutions Very simply Malcolm walks his coaching
His coaching program is truly integral-- that is healing solutions are practical in focus and applied comprehensively incorporating all dimensions of your experience from symptoms to wellness from relations within self to social relations from the physical to spiritual--a truly ecological approach to Self Healing You learn to be FULLIVINGtrade ndash to thrive beyond chronic illness
Malcolms mission is to Coach You WELL
CONTACTMalcolm Dayton LPC CHt
email mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom
phone 970-689-4247
Yes Malcolm Im ready to discover
the benefits of Self Healing Coaching NOW
Sign me up now for myCOMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION
Be Well And THRIVE Beyond Chronic Illness Now
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 33 of 33
return ldquoas little childrenrdquo in order to initiate healing
We mask nothing when healing now rather we take an active and response-able
role in bringing peace joy and love directly into our daily lives and the lives of
those we touch NOW this moment and in as many moments as we allow
It is from this strong shared intentional healing foundation that we live with the
most power any human being can possibly experience in alignment with in I-
Thou relation-with in the selfless Love that is the very Source of all creation
This process of transformational healing envelops and extends beyond cure at any
level and unlike ldquocurerdquo it is not some static condition at which we arrive (by
the grace of some outside benevolent authority) Rather such transformational
healing is an ongoing process of BEING-a-certain-way in strength in power
in wisdom in loving relation-with (not only Self but Source God Higher Power)
Let this loving empowered healing be the deep transformation you intend ndash your
moment-to-moment empowered healing transformation from core within
ldquoPRAXISrdquo
We finally come to the term PRAXIS Clients often ask why I use ldquopraxisrdquo rather
than something more familiar like ldquopracticerdquo or ldquoexerciserdquo My answer is very
simple and straight-forward
First we can quickly dispense with the term ldquoexerciserdquo Do you really want to
ldquoexerciserdquo intentional healing each day ndash or would you rather just skip having to
exercise any more than you already know you need to do Enough said
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 22 of 33
Now imagine I invite you to ldquoplease make sure and practice your intentional
healing each dayrdquo How do you feel then For me it brings up that I must not
be very good at it especially if I need to be practicing every day
Consider now how you feel when I invite you to ldquoskillfully applyrdquo the intentional
healing process in comfort Doesnt ldquoskillful applicationrdquo feel much more
empowering than ldquopracticingrdquo Since ldquopraxisrdquo means ldquoskillful applicationrdquo isnt it
much more inviting to approach your intentional healing sessions with skill
And you will as you become more comfortable applying the process each day
Other folks also ask if shared-intentional-healingtrade wouldnt be better considered
an ldquoexperimentrdquo much like Lynn McTaggarts The Intention Experiment (2007) I
can see how the notion of an ldquoexperimentrdquo carries with it some sense of intrigue
but ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately represent the experience that is shared-
intentional-healingtrade
First (as we learned in our discussion of ldquointentionalrdquo above) when we participate
in Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade we are as a matter-of-fact intending-to-create
healing Such activity cannot be an ldquoexperimentrdquo or we lose the certainty
required for healing change Rather we set out to generate an experience-of-
relating that is powered by being committed empassioned and selflessly loving
You can likely identify such a committed passionate selflessly loving experience
from some time in your life ndash whether in love among family through an
impassioned hobby in seeking some goal or perhaps spiritually As you already
know such an experience is not something we wish-for or hope-for or need to
wait and see what happens It is simply a loving relating-with experience we
already know how to have We just be it and do it
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 23 of 33
Moreover (as I suggested above) there is palpable transformation that occurs
within each of us as we gain comfort participating in shared-intentional-healingtrade
This transformational experience happens through your participation and it will
happen for you ndash no need to experiment just simply participate
Moreover at the heart of it the notion of ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately reflect
the research to date on ldquointentionrdquo and ldquohealingrdquo As an example a 1997 review
of research on ldquoIntercessory Prayer for the Alleviation of Ill Healthrdquo by Roberts
Ahmed Hall amp Davison reports individual studies suggest a positive effect of
intercessory prayer But since they viewed other reports in which the results
were equivocal they conclude no ldquo further trials of this intervention should be
takenrdquo5
Regrettably they miss the point The fact that studies DO exist reporting a
positive correlation between intercessory prayer and the alleviation of ill health is
precisely the reason more studies should be undertaken Edison found hundreds
of approaches that were equivocal before discovering a singular lighting solution
Thank goodness he did not conclude any further trials were unnecessary before
arriving at that solution
When it comes to this uniquely intimate subject of healing Eric Leskowitz MD
(in a review of the book Healing Intention amp Energy Medicine (2002) by Wayne
Jonas MD) explains how such conflicting conclusions like Roberts etal come
about Dr Leskowitz notes when he is in discussions with his allopathic medical
colleagues regarding ldquo inexplicable phenomena like energy healing or
intercessory prayer a sort of allopathic fear reflex kicks inrdquo6 Conclusions
become tunnel-visioned and skewed against even the possibility of such
correlation existing anywhere at any time Hence no further trials
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 24 of 33
You may however verify for yourself such positively-correlated research does
indeed already exist by reviewing the studies in Jonas book (above) In
addition Marilyn Schlitz PhD provides a brief outline of just some of those
ldquopositive correlationrdquo studies that highlight the ldquointerface of science spirituality
and medicinerdquo7
If you would like an even more in-depth review I refer you to Consciousness amp
Healing Integral Approaches to Mind-Body Medicine (2005) by Schlitz Amorok
and Micozzi as well as the more recent (2008) Holistic Nursing A Handbook for Practice
5th edition by Dossey amp Keegan
In sum although experimental research has certainly not provided the final
answers on the relation between intention and healing the research to date is
most certainly beyond the ldquoequivocalrdquo suggested by those reflexively reacting
from allopathic fear Those studies completed to date which do display a positive
correlation between intention and healing are already providing a strong practical
foundation of powerful techniques and approaches that go far beyond
ldquoexperimentingrdquo and straight to the heart of skillful-application in daily living
Shared-Intentional-Healingrdquotrade is just one such approach you may access today
and everyday simply by participating in your daily praxis
With the above foundation in mind we can now move on to
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 25 of 33
PRAXIS GUIDELINES
Having considered in some depth the foundation on which this method rests we
may now turn to the guidelines describing ldquohow tordquo participate in your daily
Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis
Before you approach your first intentional session please read through the
description and suggestions below Remember these opportunities are for YOU
to BENEFIT YOU Again there is no right way nor wrong way for you to
participate You simply participate in your own best way Therefore as noted
previously the description below is solely meant as a guided outline to assist you
in jump-starting your participation ndash sharing with you some ideas that have
already worked well for others in our Community
For this to be beneficial for everyone please do your best to allot at least 5 to
15 minutes for each intentional session If you are already seasoned at
sitting in quiet you certainly may choose to go longer (eg 30) and you can
trust there are other CYSH members continuing in synchrony with you
To start out let your sessions be for shorter periods of time You will experience
a natural increase in length of participation without having to think about it or
plan for it This is not a race nor a test of endurance This is a nourishing of
Self and a cultivation of your best healing intentions Be gentle
In the beginning it can also be helpful if you imagine sending out your healing
intentions in a particular direction around the globe and returning to you from
the opposite direction This way as you imagine can assist you in creating a
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 26 of 33
ldquoflowrdquo with regard to directing intentional healing to all others around the globe
As you become more adept you will very naturally be able to generate healing
images radiating from your whole being equally in all directions You will
become aware there is no particular ldquoupdownrdquo in space-time There is just
ldquoeverywhere hererdquo that is always at the center of the universe ndash as you are at all
times and as is each member
Finally please know you may also invite your friends and loved ones to share
with you in these sessions If they cannot participate with you ask them (at
minimum) to set their healing intention for you and send it like a gift to you each
day This can be helpful to them as well knowing they are actively supporting
you with their selfless loving healing
So let us begin with a session description I have broken it down into 8 separate
action steps below
1 First make time to just sit and be comfortable (nothing ldquoto dordquo now)
Loosen any tight clothing
2 Begin breathing slowly until you relax into a comfortable natural pace
This is a time for gentleness Simply allow experience to happen and
follow experience moment-to-moment as you proceed
3 Slowly scan your entire being from head to toes inside and out If you
notice any part of you in tension just allow it to relax naturally and
dissolve with each out-breath
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 27 of 33
Note It may take you 2 or more breathing cycles to notice the muscles in a
particular area begin to relax There are times as well when you may just
need to continue on with your scan trusting that the area will release as you
proceed Again this is time for gentle following
4 Once relaxed (as much as may be possible for now) INVITE your Self to
allow and receive healing intention and healing love
Note This may not feel natural or normal within and like a child the
knee-jerk reaction may indeed be to rebel You are merely sending an
invitation nothing more As you repeat this intentional healing invitation
each day you will soon begin to notice that you are indeed looking forward
to this opportunity
5 You are now comfortable relaxed and intentional within It is time now
to image all the other CYSH Members with whom you are sharing this
time Know they too are seeking to generate healing for your challenges
just as you are for theirs Depending on your beliefs it is here that you
may also invite connect with your source of spiritual power (God
Source Higher Power Buddha) to participate with you
6 Spend the next minutes imagining a Circle of Intentional Healing
Energy flowing into you from all the others and out from you to all
others Allow it to be easy natural like the earthrsquos flow of water
circulating from sky to earth and back to sky simply relax into this flow
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 28 of 33
Note It may help to imagine your healing intentions emanating from about
2 finger-widths behind and about 3 finger-widths below your navel This
site (known as the ldquolower dan tienrdquo or ldquoharardquo) is considered the physical
center of gravity around which you are in perfect balance
From this point you can imagine healing intention flowing up your trunk
through your neck and head and out the top of your head to the other
CYSH members
The healing intention returning to you can be experienced as coming into
you at the same center of gravity point from which you started
Important Do not attempt to localize your intentions to any one region
within (brain heart liver etc) the reason being that a given illness process
occurs across and between physiological systems (even though we may talk
as if it is isolated to one system) It is best to imagine your entire Self
within a cocoon or bubble of flowing healing intention ndash everywhere within
you at once You may experience color warmth safety Luxuriate in your
experience Enjoy the moment
During this intentional time it can also be helpful on a given inout cycle of
breath to silently express I send out Loving Healing On the next
inout cycle silently express I receive Loving Healing and so on
In addition if your mind wanders off task (amp it will) just gently return to
the flow of loving healing intention Remember this experience is all about
being gentle Enjoy the process
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 29 of 33
Continue in this state for as long as you desire and is easy comfortable
and natural With practice your will naturally be at ease for longer
periods of time during each session
7 When complete express gratitude to your Self as well as to all others
sharing in this moment with you Sit in this experience of gratitude for a
few moments
8 Savor the nourishing peace you have generated
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 30 of 33
8-STEP PRAXIS REVIEW
1 SIT in comfort
2 BREATHE slowly rhythmically
3 SCAN (head to toes) to relax further still
4 INVITE SELF to allow healing intention
5 RELATE-WITH all other CYSH members amp Spiritual Power
6 SENDRECEIVE intentional healing
ldquoI send out Loving Healingrdquo ldquoI receive Loving Healingrdquo
7 Sit in GRATITUDE
8 SAVOR the nourishing peace
I genuinely look forward to your daily participation and to sharing this powerful
healing process with you I would love to hear your experiences with your praxis
Please do feel free to email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom)
My mission is to Coach You Well
Sincerely amp Caringly
MALCOLM
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 31 of 33
REFERENCES
1 Chopra Deepak (1994) The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success ndash A Practical Guide to
the Fulfillment of Your Dreams p76
2 Chopra Deepak (1999) A Deepak Chopra Companion Illuminations on Health and
Human Consciousness p94
3 Dyer httpwwwyoutubecomwatchv=DC-FPorUW7gampfeature=related
4 Buber Martin (1971) I And Thou
5 Intercessory prayer httpwwwcochraneorgreviewsenab000368html
6 Leskowitz httpwholistichealingresearchcom42books12
7 Schlitz httpxnetkporgpermanentejournalsum05evidencepdf
copy2009byMFDayton
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 32 of 33
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Malcolm Dayton LPC Cht is a Licensed Counselor with more than two decades coaching individuals and families facing chronic illness He is also certified in MindBody Medicine and Hypnotherapy
Malcolms Coaching Self Healing program is unique in that he calls on his own lifelong journey with chronic illness (multiple sclerosis asthma immune deficiency) to assist you in accessing your unique healing solutions Very simply Malcolm walks his coaching
His coaching program is truly integral-- that is healing solutions are practical in focus and applied comprehensively incorporating all dimensions of your experience from symptoms to wellness from relations within self to social relations from the physical to spiritual--a truly ecological approach to Self Healing You learn to be FULLIVINGtrade ndash to thrive beyond chronic illness
Malcolms mission is to Coach You WELL
CONTACTMalcolm Dayton LPC CHt
email mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom
phone 970-689-4247
Yes Malcolm Im ready to discover
the benefits of Self Healing Coaching NOW
Sign me up now for myCOMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION
Be Well And THRIVE Beyond Chronic Illness Now
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 33 of 33
Now imagine I invite you to ldquoplease make sure and practice your intentional
healing each dayrdquo How do you feel then For me it brings up that I must not
be very good at it especially if I need to be practicing every day
Consider now how you feel when I invite you to ldquoskillfully applyrdquo the intentional
healing process in comfort Doesnt ldquoskillful applicationrdquo feel much more
empowering than ldquopracticingrdquo Since ldquopraxisrdquo means ldquoskillful applicationrdquo isnt it
much more inviting to approach your intentional healing sessions with skill
And you will as you become more comfortable applying the process each day
Other folks also ask if shared-intentional-healingtrade wouldnt be better considered
an ldquoexperimentrdquo much like Lynn McTaggarts The Intention Experiment (2007) I
can see how the notion of an ldquoexperimentrdquo carries with it some sense of intrigue
but ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately represent the experience that is shared-
intentional-healingtrade
First (as we learned in our discussion of ldquointentionalrdquo above) when we participate
in Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade we are as a matter-of-fact intending-to-create
healing Such activity cannot be an ldquoexperimentrdquo or we lose the certainty
required for healing change Rather we set out to generate an experience-of-
relating that is powered by being committed empassioned and selflessly loving
You can likely identify such a committed passionate selflessly loving experience
from some time in your life ndash whether in love among family through an
impassioned hobby in seeking some goal or perhaps spiritually As you already
know such an experience is not something we wish-for or hope-for or need to
wait and see what happens It is simply a loving relating-with experience we
already know how to have We just be it and do it
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 23 of 33
Moreover (as I suggested above) there is palpable transformation that occurs
within each of us as we gain comfort participating in shared-intentional-healingtrade
This transformational experience happens through your participation and it will
happen for you ndash no need to experiment just simply participate
Moreover at the heart of it the notion of ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately reflect
the research to date on ldquointentionrdquo and ldquohealingrdquo As an example a 1997 review
of research on ldquoIntercessory Prayer for the Alleviation of Ill Healthrdquo by Roberts
Ahmed Hall amp Davison reports individual studies suggest a positive effect of
intercessory prayer But since they viewed other reports in which the results
were equivocal they conclude no ldquo further trials of this intervention should be
takenrdquo5
Regrettably they miss the point The fact that studies DO exist reporting a
positive correlation between intercessory prayer and the alleviation of ill health is
precisely the reason more studies should be undertaken Edison found hundreds
of approaches that were equivocal before discovering a singular lighting solution
Thank goodness he did not conclude any further trials were unnecessary before
arriving at that solution
When it comes to this uniquely intimate subject of healing Eric Leskowitz MD
(in a review of the book Healing Intention amp Energy Medicine (2002) by Wayne
Jonas MD) explains how such conflicting conclusions like Roberts etal come
about Dr Leskowitz notes when he is in discussions with his allopathic medical
colleagues regarding ldquo inexplicable phenomena like energy healing or
intercessory prayer a sort of allopathic fear reflex kicks inrdquo6 Conclusions
become tunnel-visioned and skewed against even the possibility of such
correlation existing anywhere at any time Hence no further trials
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 24 of 33
You may however verify for yourself such positively-correlated research does
indeed already exist by reviewing the studies in Jonas book (above) In
addition Marilyn Schlitz PhD provides a brief outline of just some of those
ldquopositive correlationrdquo studies that highlight the ldquointerface of science spirituality
and medicinerdquo7
If you would like an even more in-depth review I refer you to Consciousness amp
Healing Integral Approaches to Mind-Body Medicine (2005) by Schlitz Amorok
and Micozzi as well as the more recent (2008) Holistic Nursing A Handbook for Practice
5th edition by Dossey amp Keegan
In sum although experimental research has certainly not provided the final
answers on the relation between intention and healing the research to date is
most certainly beyond the ldquoequivocalrdquo suggested by those reflexively reacting
from allopathic fear Those studies completed to date which do display a positive
correlation between intention and healing are already providing a strong practical
foundation of powerful techniques and approaches that go far beyond
ldquoexperimentingrdquo and straight to the heart of skillful-application in daily living
Shared-Intentional-Healingrdquotrade is just one such approach you may access today
and everyday simply by participating in your daily praxis
With the above foundation in mind we can now move on to
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 25 of 33
PRAXIS GUIDELINES
Having considered in some depth the foundation on which this method rests we
may now turn to the guidelines describing ldquohow tordquo participate in your daily
Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis
Before you approach your first intentional session please read through the
description and suggestions below Remember these opportunities are for YOU
to BENEFIT YOU Again there is no right way nor wrong way for you to
participate You simply participate in your own best way Therefore as noted
previously the description below is solely meant as a guided outline to assist you
in jump-starting your participation ndash sharing with you some ideas that have
already worked well for others in our Community
For this to be beneficial for everyone please do your best to allot at least 5 to
15 minutes for each intentional session If you are already seasoned at
sitting in quiet you certainly may choose to go longer (eg 30) and you can
trust there are other CYSH members continuing in synchrony with you
To start out let your sessions be for shorter periods of time You will experience
a natural increase in length of participation without having to think about it or
plan for it This is not a race nor a test of endurance This is a nourishing of
Self and a cultivation of your best healing intentions Be gentle
In the beginning it can also be helpful if you imagine sending out your healing
intentions in a particular direction around the globe and returning to you from
the opposite direction This way as you imagine can assist you in creating a
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 26 of 33
ldquoflowrdquo with regard to directing intentional healing to all others around the globe
As you become more adept you will very naturally be able to generate healing
images radiating from your whole being equally in all directions You will
become aware there is no particular ldquoupdownrdquo in space-time There is just
ldquoeverywhere hererdquo that is always at the center of the universe ndash as you are at all
times and as is each member
Finally please know you may also invite your friends and loved ones to share
with you in these sessions If they cannot participate with you ask them (at
minimum) to set their healing intention for you and send it like a gift to you each
day This can be helpful to them as well knowing they are actively supporting
you with their selfless loving healing
So let us begin with a session description I have broken it down into 8 separate
action steps below
1 First make time to just sit and be comfortable (nothing ldquoto dordquo now)
Loosen any tight clothing
2 Begin breathing slowly until you relax into a comfortable natural pace
This is a time for gentleness Simply allow experience to happen and
follow experience moment-to-moment as you proceed
3 Slowly scan your entire being from head to toes inside and out If you
notice any part of you in tension just allow it to relax naturally and
dissolve with each out-breath
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 27 of 33
Note It may take you 2 or more breathing cycles to notice the muscles in a
particular area begin to relax There are times as well when you may just
need to continue on with your scan trusting that the area will release as you
proceed Again this is time for gentle following
4 Once relaxed (as much as may be possible for now) INVITE your Self to
allow and receive healing intention and healing love
Note This may not feel natural or normal within and like a child the
knee-jerk reaction may indeed be to rebel You are merely sending an
invitation nothing more As you repeat this intentional healing invitation
each day you will soon begin to notice that you are indeed looking forward
to this opportunity
5 You are now comfortable relaxed and intentional within It is time now
to image all the other CYSH Members with whom you are sharing this
time Know they too are seeking to generate healing for your challenges
just as you are for theirs Depending on your beliefs it is here that you
may also invite connect with your source of spiritual power (God
Source Higher Power Buddha) to participate with you
6 Spend the next minutes imagining a Circle of Intentional Healing
Energy flowing into you from all the others and out from you to all
others Allow it to be easy natural like the earthrsquos flow of water
circulating from sky to earth and back to sky simply relax into this flow
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 28 of 33
Note It may help to imagine your healing intentions emanating from about
2 finger-widths behind and about 3 finger-widths below your navel This
site (known as the ldquolower dan tienrdquo or ldquoharardquo) is considered the physical
center of gravity around which you are in perfect balance
From this point you can imagine healing intention flowing up your trunk
through your neck and head and out the top of your head to the other
CYSH members
The healing intention returning to you can be experienced as coming into
you at the same center of gravity point from which you started
Important Do not attempt to localize your intentions to any one region
within (brain heart liver etc) the reason being that a given illness process
occurs across and between physiological systems (even though we may talk
as if it is isolated to one system) It is best to imagine your entire Self
within a cocoon or bubble of flowing healing intention ndash everywhere within
you at once You may experience color warmth safety Luxuriate in your
experience Enjoy the moment
During this intentional time it can also be helpful on a given inout cycle of
breath to silently express I send out Loving Healing On the next
inout cycle silently express I receive Loving Healing and so on
In addition if your mind wanders off task (amp it will) just gently return to
the flow of loving healing intention Remember this experience is all about
being gentle Enjoy the process
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 29 of 33
Continue in this state for as long as you desire and is easy comfortable
and natural With practice your will naturally be at ease for longer
periods of time during each session
7 When complete express gratitude to your Self as well as to all others
sharing in this moment with you Sit in this experience of gratitude for a
few moments
8 Savor the nourishing peace you have generated
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 30 of 33
8-STEP PRAXIS REVIEW
1 SIT in comfort
2 BREATHE slowly rhythmically
3 SCAN (head to toes) to relax further still
4 INVITE SELF to allow healing intention
5 RELATE-WITH all other CYSH members amp Spiritual Power
6 SENDRECEIVE intentional healing
ldquoI send out Loving Healingrdquo ldquoI receive Loving Healingrdquo
7 Sit in GRATITUDE
8 SAVOR the nourishing peace
I genuinely look forward to your daily participation and to sharing this powerful
healing process with you I would love to hear your experiences with your praxis
Please do feel free to email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom)
My mission is to Coach You Well
Sincerely amp Caringly
MALCOLM
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 31 of 33
REFERENCES
1 Chopra Deepak (1994) The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success ndash A Practical Guide to
the Fulfillment of Your Dreams p76
2 Chopra Deepak (1999) A Deepak Chopra Companion Illuminations on Health and
Human Consciousness p94
3 Dyer httpwwwyoutubecomwatchv=DC-FPorUW7gampfeature=related
4 Buber Martin (1971) I And Thou
5 Intercessory prayer httpwwwcochraneorgreviewsenab000368html
6 Leskowitz httpwholistichealingresearchcom42books12
7 Schlitz httpxnetkporgpermanentejournalsum05evidencepdf
copy2009byMFDayton
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 32 of 33
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Malcolm Dayton LPC Cht is a Licensed Counselor with more than two decades coaching individuals and families facing chronic illness He is also certified in MindBody Medicine and Hypnotherapy
Malcolms Coaching Self Healing program is unique in that he calls on his own lifelong journey with chronic illness (multiple sclerosis asthma immune deficiency) to assist you in accessing your unique healing solutions Very simply Malcolm walks his coaching
His coaching program is truly integral-- that is healing solutions are practical in focus and applied comprehensively incorporating all dimensions of your experience from symptoms to wellness from relations within self to social relations from the physical to spiritual--a truly ecological approach to Self Healing You learn to be FULLIVINGtrade ndash to thrive beyond chronic illness
Malcolms mission is to Coach You WELL
CONTACTMalcolm Dayton LPC CHt
email mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom
phone 970-689-4247
Yes Malcolm Im ready to discover
the benefits of Self Healing Coaching NOW
Sign me up now for myCOMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION
Be Well And THRIVE Beyond Chronic Illness Now
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 33 of 33
Moreover (as I suggested above) there is palpable transformation that occurs
within each of us as we gain comfort participating in shared-intentional-healingtrade
This transformational experience happens through your participation and it will
happen for you ndash no need to experiment just simply participate
Moreover at the heart of it the notion of ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately reflect
the research to date on ldquointentionrdquo and ldquohealingrdquo As an example a 1997 review
of research on ldquoIntercessory Prayer for the Alleviation of Ill Healthrdquo by Roberts
Ahmed Hall amp Davison reports individual studies suggest a positive effect of
intercessory prayer But since they viewed other reports in which the results
were equivocal they conclude no ldquo further trials of this intervention should be
takenrdquo5
Regrettably they miss the point The fact that studies DO exist reporting a
positive correlation between intercessory prayer and the alleviation of ill health is
precisely the reason more studies should be undertaken Edison found hundreds
of approaches that were equivocal before discovering a singular lighting solution
Thank goodness he did not conclude any further trials were unnecessary before
arriving at that solution
When it comes to this uniquely intimate subject of healing Eric Leskowitz MD
(in a review of the book Healing Intention amp Energy Medicine (2002) by Wayne
Jonas MD) explains how such conflicting conclusions like Roberts etal come
about Dr Leskowitz notes when he is in discussions with his allopathic medical
colleagues regarding ldquo inexplicable phenomena like energy healing or
intercessory prayer a sort of allopathic fear reflex kicks inrdquo6 Conclusions
become tunnel-visioned and skewed against even the possibility of such
correlation existing anywhere at any time Hence no further trials
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 24 of 33
You may however verify for yourself such positively-correlated research does
indeed already exist by reviewing the studies in Jonas book (above) In
addition Marilyn Schlitz PhD provides a brief outline of just some of those
ldquopositive correlationrdquo studies that highlight the ldquointerface of science spirituality
and medicinerdquo7
If you would like an even more in-depth review I refer you to Consciousness amp
Healing Integral Approaches to Mind-Body Medicine (2005) by Schlitz Amorok
and Micozzi as well as the more recent (2008) Holistic Nursing A Handbook for Practice
5th edition by Dossey amp Keegan
In sum although experimental research has certainly not provided the final
answers on the relation between intention and healing the research to date is
most certainly beyond the ldquoequivocalrdquo suggested by those reflexively reacting
from allopathic fear Those studies completed to date which do display a positive
correlation between intention and healing are already providing a strong practical
foundation of powerful techniques and approaches that go far beyond
ldquoexperimentingrdquo and straight to the heart of skillful-application in daily living
Shared-Intentional-Healingrdquotrade is just one such approach you may access today
and everyday simply by participating in your daily praxis
With the above foundation in mind we can now move on to
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 25 of 33
PRAXIS GUIDELINES
Having considered in some depth the foundation on which this method rests we
may now turn to the guidelines describing ldquohow tordquo participate in your daily
Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis
Before you approach your first intentional session please read through the
description and suggestions below Remember these opportunities are for YOU
to BENEFIT YOU Again there is no right way nor wrong way for you to
participate You simply participate in your own best way Therefore as noted
previously the description below is solely meant as a guided outline to assist you
in jump-starting your participation ndash sharing with you some ideas that have
already worked well for others in our Community
For this to be beneficial for everyone please do your best to allot at least 5 to
15 minutes for each intentional session If you are already seasoned at
sitting in quiet you certainly may choose to go longer (eg 30) and you can
trust there are other CYSH members continuing in synchrony with you
To start out let your sessions be for shorter periods of time You will experience
a natural increase in length of participation without having to think about it or
plan for it This is not a race nor a test of endurance This is a nourishing of
Self and a cultivation of your best healing intentions Be gentle
In the beginning it can also be helpful if you imagine sending out your healing
intentions in a particular direction around the globe and returning to you from
the opposite direction This way as you imagine can assist you in creating a
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 26 of 33
ldquoflowrdquo with regard to directing intentional healing to all others around the globe
As you become more adept you will very naturally be able to generate healing
images radiating from your whole being equally in all directions You will
become aware there is no particular ldquoupdownrdquo in space-time There is just
ldquoeverywhere hererdquo that is always at the center of the universe ndash as you are at all
times and as is each member
Finally please know you may also invite your friends and loved ones to share
with you in these sessions If they cannot participate with you ask them (at
minimum) to set their healing intention for you and send it like a gift to you each
day This can be helpful to them as well knowing they are actively supporting
you with their selfless loving healing
So let us begin with a session description I have broken it down into 8 separate
action steps below
1 First make time to just sit and be comfortable (nothing ldquoto dordquo now)
Loosen any tight clothing
2 Begin breathing slowly until you relax into a comfortable natural pace
This is a time for gentleness Simply allow experience to happen and
follow experience moment-to-moment as you proceed
3 Slowly scan your entire being from head to toes inside and out If you
notice any part of you in tension just allow it to relax naturally and
dissolve with each out-breath
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 27 of 33
Note It may take you 2 or more breathing cycles to notice the muscles in a
particular area begin to relax There are times as well when you may just
need to continue on with your scan trusting that the area will release as you
proceed Again this is time for gentle following
4 Once relaxed (as much as may be possible for now) INVITE your Self to
allow and receive healing intention and healing love
Note This may not feel natural or normal within and like a child the
knee-jerk reaction may indeed be to rebel You are merely sending an
invitation nothing more As you repeat this intentional healing invitation
each day you will soon begin to notice that you are indeed looking forward
to this opportunity
5 You are now comfortable relaxed and intentional within It is time now
to image all the other CYSH Members with whom you are sharing this
time Know they too are seeking to generate healing for your challenges
just as you are for theirs Depending on your beliefs it is here that you
may also invite connect with your source of spiritual power (God
Source Higher Power Buddha) to participate with you
6 Spend the next minutes imagining a Circle of Intentional Healing
Energy flowing into you from all the others and out from you to all
others Allow it to be easy natural like the earthrsquos flow of water
circulating from sky to earth and back to sky simply relax into this flow
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 28 of 33
Note It may help to imagine your healing intentions emanating from about
2 finger-widths behind and about 3 finger-widths below your navel This
site (known as the ldquolower dan tienrdquo or ldquoharardquo) is considered the physical
center of gravity around which you are in perfect balance
From this point you can imagine healing intention flowing up your trunk
through your neck and head and out the top of your head to the other
CYSH members
The healing intention returning to you can be experienced as coming into
you at the same center of gravity point from which you started
Important Do not attempt to localize your intentions to any one region
within (brain heart liver etc) the reason being that a given illness process
occurs across and between physiological systems (even though we may talk
as if it is isolated to one system) It is best to imagine your entire Self
within a cocoon or bubble of flowing healing intention ndash everywhere within
you at once You may experience color warmth safety Luxuriate in your
experience Enjoy the moment
During this intentional time it can also be helpful on a given inout cycle of
breath to silently express I send out Loving Healing On the next
inout cycle silently express I receive Loving Healing and so on
In addition if your mind wanders off task (amp it will) just gently return to
the flow of loving healing intention Remember this experience is all about
being gentle Enjoy the process
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 29 of 33
Continue in this state for as long as you desire and is easy comfortable
and natural With practice your will naturally be at ease for longer
periods of time during each session
7 When complete express gratitude to your Self as well as to all others
sharing in this moment with you Sit in this experience of gratitude for a
few moments
8 Savor the nourishing peace you have generated
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 30 of 33
8-STEP PRAXIS REVIEW
1 SIT in comfort
2 BREATHE slowly rhythmically
3 SCAN (head to toes) to relax further still
4 INVITE SELF to allow healing intention
5 RELATE-WITH all other CYSH members amp Spiritual Power
6 SENDRECEIVE intentional healing
ldquoI send out Loving Healingrdquo ldquoI receive Loving Healingrdquo
7 Sit in GRATITUDE
8 SAVOR the nourishing peace
I genuinely look forward to your daily participation and to sharing this powerful
healing process with you I would love to hear your experiences with your praxis
Please do feel free to email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom)
My mission is to Coach You Well
Sincerely amp Caringly
MALCOLM
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 31 of 33
REFERENCES
1 Chopra Deepak (1994) The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success ndash A Practical Guide to
the Fulfillment of Your Dreams p76
2 Chopra Deepak (1999) A Deepak Chopra Companion Illuminations on Health and
Human Consciousness p94
3 Dyer httpwwwyoutubecomwatchv=DC-FPorUW7gampfeature=related
4 Buber Martin (1971) I And Thou
5 Intercessory prayer httpwwwcochraneorgreviewsenab000368html
6 Leskowitz httpwholistichealingresearchcom42books12
7 Schlitz httpxnetkporgpermanentejournalsum05evidencepdf
copy2009byMFDayton
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 32 of 33
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Malcolm Dayton LPC Cht is a Licensed Counselor with more than two decades coaching individuals and families facing chronic illness He is also certified in MindBody Medicine and Hypnotherapy
Malcolms Coaching Self Healing program is unique in that he calls on his own lifelong journey with chronic illness (multiple sclerosis asthma immune deficiency) to assist you in accessing your unique healing solutions Very simply Malcolm walks his coaching
His coaching program is truly integral-- that is healing solutions are practical in focus and applied comprehensively incorporating all dimensions of your experience from symptoms to wellness from relations within self to social relations from the physical to spiritual--a truly ecological approach to Self Healing You learn to be FULLIVINGtrade ndash to thrive beyond chronic illness
Malcolms mission is to Coach You WELL
CONTACTMalcolm Dayton LPC CHt
email mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom
phone 970-689-4247
Yes Malcolm Im ready to discover
the benefits of Self Healing Coaching NOW
Sign me up now for myCOMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION
Be Well And THRIVE Beyond Chronic Illness Now
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 33 of 33
You may however verify for yourself such positively-correlated research does
indeed already exist by reviewing the studies in Jonas book (above) In
addition Marilyn Schlitz PhD provides a brief outline of just some of those
ldquopositive correlationrdquo studies that highlight the ldquointerface of science spirituality
and medicinerdquo7
If you would like an even more in-depth review I refer you to Consciousness amp
Healing Integral Approaches to Mind-Body Medicine (2005) by Schlitz Amorok
and Micozzi as well as the more recent (2008) Holistic Nursing A Handbook for Practice
5th edition by Dossey amp Keegan
In sum although experimental research has certainly not provided the final
answers on the relation between intention and healing the research to date is
most certainly beyond the ldquoequivocalrdquo suggested by those reflexively reacting
from allopathic fear Those studies completed to date which do display a positive
correlation between intention and healing are already providing a strong practical
foundation of powerful techniques and approaches that go far beyond
ldquoexperimentingrdquo and straight to the heart of skillful-application in daily living
Shared-Intentional-Healingrdquotrade is just one such approach you may access today
and everyday simply by participating in your daily praxis
With the above foundation in mind we can now move on to
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 25 of 33
PRAXIS GUIDELINES
Having considered in some depth the foundation on which this method rests we
may now turn to the guidelines describing ldquohow tordquo participate in your daily
Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis
Before you approach your first intentional session please read through the
description and suggestions below Remember these opportunities are for YOU
to BENEFIT YOU Again there is no right way nor wrong way for you to
participate You simply participate in your own best way Therefore as noted
previously the description below is solely meant as a guided outline to assist you
in jump-starting your participation ndash sharing with you some ideas that have
already worked well for others in our Community
For this to be beneficial for everyone please do your best to allot at least 5 to
15 minutes for each intentional session If you are already seasoned at
sitting in quiet you certainly may choose to go longer (eg 30) and you can
trust there are other CYSH members continuing in synchrony with you
To start out let your sessions be for shorter periods of time You will experience
a natural increase in length of participation without having to think about it or
plan for it This is not a race nor a test of endurance This is a nourishing of
Self and a cultivation of your best healing intentions Be gentle
In the beginning it can also be helpful if you imagine sending out your healing
intentions in a particular direction around the globe and returning to you from
the opposite direction This way as you imagine can assist you in creating a
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 26 of 33
ldquoflowrdquo with regard to directing intentional healing to all others around the globe
As you become more adept you will very naturally be able to generate healing
images radiating from your whole being equally in all directions You will
become aware there is no particular ldquoupdownrdquo in space-time There is just
ldquoeverywhere hererdquo that is always at the center of the universe ndash as you are at all
times and as is each member
Finally please know you may also invite your friends and loved ones to share
with you in these sessions If they cannot participate with you ask them (at
minimum) to set their healing intention for you and send it like a gift to you each
day This can be helpful to them as well knowing they are actively supporting
you with their selfless loving healing
So let us begin with a session description I have broken it down into 8 separate
action steps below
1 First make time to just sit and be comfortable (nothing ldquoto dordquo now)
Loosen any tight clothing
2 Begin breathing slowly until you relax into a comfortable natural pace
This is a time for gentleness Simply allow experience to happen and
follow experience moment-to-moment as you proceed
3 Slowly scan your entire being from head to toes inside and out If you
notice any part of you in tension just allow it to relax naturally and
dissolve with each out-breath
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 27 of 33
Note It may take you 2 or more breathing cycles to notice the muscles in a
particular area begin to relax There are times as well when you may just
need to continue on with your scan trusting that the area will release as you
proceed Again this is time for gentle following
4 Once relaxed (as much as may be possible for now) INVITE your Self to
allow and receive healing intention and healing love
Note This may not feel natural or normal within and like a child the
knee-jerk reaction may indeed be to rebel You are merely sending an
invitation nothing more As you repeat this intentional healing invitation
each day you will soon begin to notice that you are indeed looking forward
to this opportunity
5 You are now comfortable relaxed and intentional within It is time now
to image all the other CYSH Members with whom you are sharing this
time Know they too are seeking to generate healing for your challenges
just as you are for theirs Depending on your beliefs it is here that you
may also invite connect with your source of spiritual power (God
Source Higher Power Buddha) to participate with you
6 Spend the next minutes imagining a Circle of Intentional Healing
Energy flowing into you from all the others and out from you to all
others Allow it to be easy natural like the earthrsquos flow of water
circulating from sky to earth and back to sky simply relax into this flow
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 28 of 33
Note It may help to imagine your healing intentions emanating from about
2 finger-widths behind and about 3 finger-widths below your navel This
site (known as the ldquolower dan tienrdquo or ldquoharardquo) is considered the physical
center of gravity around which you are in perfect balance
From this point you can imagine healing intention flowing up your trunk
through your neck and head and out the top of your head to the other
CYSH members
The healing intention returning to you can be experienced as coming into
you at the same center of gravity point from which you started
Important Do not attempt to localize your intentions to any one region
within (brain heart liver etc) the reason being that a given illness process
occurs across and between physiological systems (even though we may talk
as if it is isolated to one system) It is best to imagine your entire Self
within a cocoon or bubble of flowing healing intention ndash everywhere within
you at once You may experience color warmth safety Luxuriate in your
experience Enjoy the moment
During this intentional time it can also be helpful on a given inout cycle of
breath to silently express I send out Loving Healing On the next
inout cycle silently express I receive Loving Healing and so on
In addition if your mind wanders off task (amp it will) just gently return to
the flow of loving healing intention Remember this experience is all about
being gentle Enjoy the process
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 29 of 33
Continue in this state for as long as you desire and is easy comfortable
and natural With practice your will naturally be at ease for longer
periods of time during each session
7 When complete express gratitude to your Self as well as to all others
sharing in this moment with you Sit in this experience of gratitude for a
few moments
8 Savor the nourishing peace you have generated
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 30 of 33
8-STEP PRAXIS REVIEW
1 SIT in comfort
2 BREATHE slowly rhythmically
3 SCAN (head to toes) to relax further still
4 INVITE SELF to allow healing intention
5 RELATE-WITH all other CYSH members amp Spiritual Power
6 SENDRECEIVE intentional healing
ldquoI send out Loving Healingrdquo ldquoI receive Loving Healingrdquo
7 Sit in GRATITUDE
8 SAVOR the nourishing peace
I genuinely look forward to your daily participation and to sharing this powerful
healing process with you I would love to hear your experiences with your praxis
Please do feel free to email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom)
My mission is to Coach You Well
Sincerely amp Caringly
MALCOLM
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 31 of 33
REFERENCES
1 Chopra Deepak (1994) The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success ndash A Practical Guide to
the Fulfillment of Your Dreams p76
2 Chopra Deepak (1999) A Deepak Chopra Companion Illuminations on Health and
Human Consciousness p94
3 Dyer httpwwwyoutubecomwatchv=DC-FPorUW7gampfeature=related
4 Buber Martin (1971) I And Thou
5 Intercessory prayer httpwwwcochraneorgreviewsenab000368html
6 Leskowitz httpwholistichealingresearchcom42books12
7 Schlitz httpxnetkporgpermanentejournalsum05evidencepdf
copy2009byMFDayton
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 32 of 33
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Malcolm Dayton LPC Cht is a Licensed Counselor with more than two decades coaching individuals and families facing chronic illness He is also certified in MindBody Medicine and Hypnotherapy
Malcolms Coaching Self Healing program is unique in that he calls on his own lifelong journey with chronic illness (multiple sclerosis asthma immune deficiency) to assist you in accessing your unique healing solutions Very simply Malcolm walks his coaching
His coaching program is truly integral-- that is healing solutions are practical in focus and applied comprehensively incorporating all dimensions of your experience from symptoms to wellness from relations within self to social relations from the physical to spiritual--a truly ecological approach to Self Healing You learn to be FULLIVINGtrade ndash to thrive beyond chronic illness
Malcolms mission is to Coach You WELL
CONTACTMalcolm Dayton LPC CHt
email mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom
phone 970-689-4247
Yes Malcolm Im ready to discover
the benefits of Self Healing Coaching NOW
Sign me up now for myCOMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION
Be Well And THRIVE Beyond Chronic Illness Now
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 33 of 33
PRAXIS GUIDELINES
Having considered in some depth the foundation on which this method rests we
may now turn to the guidelines describing ldquohow tordquo participate in your daily
Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis
Before you approach your first intentional session please read through the
description and suggestions below Remember these opportunities are for YOU
to BENEFIT YOU Again there is no right way nor wrong way for you to
participate You simply participate in your own best way Therefore as noted
previously the description below is solely meant as a guided outline to assist you
in jump-starting your participation ndash sharing with you some ideas that have
already worked well for others in our Community
For this to be beneficial for everyone please do your best to allot at least 5 to
15 minutes for each intentional session If you are already seasoned at
sitting in quiet you certainly may choose to go longer (eg 30) and you can
trust there are other CYSH members continuing in synchrony with you
To start out let your sessions be for shorter periods of time You will experience
a natural increase in length of participation without having to think about it or
plan for it This is not a race nor a test of endurance This is a nourishing of
Self and a cultivation of your best healing intentions Be gentle
In the beginning it can also be helpful if you imagine sending out your healing
intentions in a particular direction around the globe and returning to you from
the opposite direction This way as you imagine can assist you in creating a
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 26 of 33
ldquoflowrdquo with regard to directing intentional healing to all others around the globe
As you become more adept you will very naturally be able to generate healing
images radiating from your whole being equally in all directions You will
become aware there is no particular ldquoupdownrdquo in space-time There is just
ldquoeverywhere hererdquo that is always at the center of the universe ndash as you are at all
times and as is each member
Finally please know you may also invite your friends and loved ones to share
with you in these sessions If they cannot participate with you ask them (at
minimum) to set their healing intention for you and send it like a gift to you each
day This can be helpful to them as well knowing they are actively supporting
you with their selfless loving healing
So let us begin with a session description I have broken it down into 8 separate
action steps below
1 First make time to just sit and be comfortable (nothing ldquoto dordquo now)
Loosen any tight clothing
2 Begin breathing slowly until you relax into a comfortable natural pace
This is a time for gentleness Simply allow experience to happen and
follow experience moment-to-moment as you proceed
3 Slowly scan your entire being from head to toes inside and out If you
notice any part of you in tension just allow it to relax naturally and
dissolve with each out-breath
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 27 of 33
Note It may take you 2 or more breathing cycles to notice the muscles in a
particular area begin to relax There are times as well when you may just
need to continue on with your scan trusting that the area will release as you
proceed Again this is time for gentle following
4 Once relaxed (as much as may be possible for now) INVITE your Self to
allow and receive healing intention and healing love
Note This may not feel natural or normal within and like a child the
knee-jerk reaction may indeed be to rebel You are merely sending an
invitation nothing more As you repeat this intentional healing invitation
each day you will soon begin to notice that you are indeed looking forward
to this opportunity
5 You are now comfortable relaxed and intentional within It is time now
to image all the other CYSH Members with whom you are sharing this
time Know they too are seeking to generate healing for your challenges
just as you are for theirs Depending on your beliefs it is here that you
may also invite connect with your source of spiritual power (God
Source Higher Power Buddha) to participate with you
6 Spend the next minutes imagining a Circle of Intentional Healing
Energy flowing into you from all the others and out from you to all
others Allow it to be easy natural like the earthrsquos flow of water
circulating from sky to earth and back to sky simply relax into this flow
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 28 of 33
Note It may help to imagine your healing intentions emanating from about
2 finger-widths behind and about 3 finger-widths below your navel This
site (known as the ldquolower dan tienrdquo or ldquoharardquo) is considered the physical
center of gravity around which you are in perfect balance
From this point you can imagine healing intention flowing up your trunk
through your neck and head and out the top of your head to the other
CYSH members
The healing intention returning to you can be experienced as coming into
you at the same center of gravity point from which you started
Important Do not attempt to localize your intentions to any one region
within (brain heart liver etc) the reason being that a given illness process
occurs across and between physiological systems (even though we may talk
as if it is isolated to one system) It is best to imagine your entire Self
within a cocoon or bubble of flowing healing intention ndash everywhere within
you at once You may experience color warmth safety Luxuriate in your
experience Enjoy the moment
During this intentional time it can also be helpful on a given inout cycle of
breath to silently express I send out Loving Healing On the next
inout cycle silently express I receive Loving Healing and so on
In addition if your mind wanders off task (amp it will) just gently return to
the flow of loving healing intention Remember this experience is all about
being gentle Enjoy the process
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 29 of 33
Continue in this state for as long as you desire and is easy comfortable
and natural With practice your will naturally be at ease for longer
periods of time during each session
7 When complete express gratitude to your Self as well as to all others
sharing in this moment with you Sit in this experience of gratitude for a
few moments
8 Savor the nourishing peace you have generated
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 30 of 33
8-STEP PRAXIS REVIEW
1 SIT in comfort
2 BREATHE slowly rhythmically
3 SCAN (head to toes) to relax further still
4 INVITE SELF to allow healing intention
5 RELATE-WITH all other CYSH members amp Spiritual Power
6 SENDRECEIVE intentional healing
ldquoI send out Loving Healingrdquo ldquoI receive Loving Healingrdquo
7 Sit in GRATITUDE
8 SAVOR the nourishing peace
I genuinely look forward to your daily participation and to sharing this powerful
healing process with you I would love to hear your experiences with your praxis
Please do feel free to email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom)
My mission is to Coach You Well
Sincerely amp Caringly
MALCOLM
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 31 of 33
REFERENCES
1 Chopra Deepak (1994) The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success ndash A Practical Guide to
the Fulfillment of Your Dreams p76
2 Chopra Deepak (1999) A Deepak Chopra Companion Illuminations on Health and
Human Consciousness p94
3 Dyer httpwwwyoutubecomwatchv=DC-FPorUW7gampfeature=related
4 Buber Martin (1971) I And Thou
5 Intercessory prayer httpwwwcochraneorgreviewsenab000368html
6 Leskowitz httpwholistichealingresearchcom42books12
7 Schlitz httpxnetkporgpermanentejournalsum05evidencepdf
copy2009byMFDayton
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 32 of 33
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Malcolm Dayton LPC Cht is a Licensed Counselor with more than two decades coaching individuals and families facing chronic illness He is also certified in MindBody Medicine and Hypnotherapy
Malcolms Coaching Self Healing program is unique in that he calls on his own lifelong journey with chronic illness (multiple sclerosis asthma immune deficiency) to assist you in accessing your unique healing solutions Very simply Malcolm walks his coaching
His coaching program is truly integral-- that is healing solutions are practical in focus and applied comprehensively incorporating all dimensions of your experience from symptoms to wellness from relations within self to social relations from the physical to spiritual--a truly ecological approach to Self Healing You learn to be FULLIVINGtrade ndash to thrive beyond chronic illness
Malcolms mission is to Coach You WELL
CONTACTMalcolm Dayton LPC CHt
email mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom
phone 970-689-4247
Yes Malcolm Im ready to discover
the benefits of Self Healing Coaching NOW
Sign me up now for myCOMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION
Be Well And THRIVE Beyond Chronic Illness Now
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 33 of 33
ldquoflowrdquo with regard to directing intentional healing to all others around the globe
As you become more adept you will very naturally be able to generate healing
images radiating from your whole being equally in all directions You will
become aware there is no particular ldquoupdownrdquo in space-time There is just
ldquoeverywhere hererdquo that is always at the center of the universe ndash as you are at all
times and as is each member
Finally please know you may also invite your friends and loved ones to share
with you in these sessions If they cannot participate with you ask them (at
minimum) to set their healing intention for you and send it like a gift to you each
day This can be helpful to them as well knowing they are actively supporting
you with their selfless loving healing
So let us begin with a session description I have broken it down into 8 separate
action steps below
1 First make time to just sit and be comfortable (nothing ldquoto dordquo now)
Loosen any tight clothing
2 Begin breathing slowly until you relax into a comfortable natural pace
This is a time for gentleness Simply allow experience to happen and
follow experience moment-to-moment as you proceed
3 Slowly scan your entire being from head to toes inside and out If you
notice any part of you in tension just allow it to relax naturally and
dissolve with each out-breath
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 27 of 33
Note It may take you 2 or more breathing cycles to notice the muscles in a
particular area begin to relax There are times as well when you may just
need to continue on with your scan trusting that the area will release as you
proceed Again this is time for gentle following
4 Once relaxed (as much as may be possible for now) INVITE your Self to
allow and receive healing intention and healing love
Note This may not feel natural or normal within and like a child the
knee-jerk reaction may indeed be to rebel You are merely sending an
invitation nothing more As you repeat this intentional healing invitation
each day you will soon begin to notice that you are indeed looking forward
to this opportunity
5 You are now comfortable relaxed and intentional within It is time now
to image all the other CYSH Members with whom you are sharing this
time Know they too are seeking to generate healing for your challenges
just as you are for theirs Depending on your beliefs it is here that you
may also invite connect with your source of spiritual power (God
Source Higher Power Buddha) to participate with you
6 Spend the next minutes imagining a Circle of Intentional Healing
Energy flowing into you from all the others and out from you to all
others Allow it to be easy natural like the earthrsquos flow of water
circulating from sky to earth and back to sky simply relax into this flow
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 28 of 33
Note It may help to imagine your healing intentions emanating from about
2 finger-widths behind and about 3 finger-widths below your navel This
site (known as the ldquolower dan tienrdquo or ldquoharardquo) is considered the physical
center of gravity around which you are in perfect balance
From this point you can imagine healing intention flowing up your trunk
through your neck and head and out the top of your head to the other
CYSH members
The healing intention returning to you can be experienced as coming into
you at the same center of gravity point from which you started
Important Do not attempt to localize your intentions to any one region
within (brain heart liver etc) the reason being that a given illness process
occurs across and between physiological systems (even though we may talk
as if it is isolated to one system) It is best to imagine your entire Self
within a cocoon or bubble of flowing healing intention ndash everywhere within
you at once You may experience color warmth safety Luxuriate in your
experience Enjoy the moment
During this intentional time it can also be helpful on a given inout cycle of
breath to silently express I send out Loving Healing On the next
inout cycle silently express I receive Loving Healing and so on
In addition if your mind wanders off task (amp it will) just gently return to
the flow of loving healing intention Remember this experience is all about
being gentle Enjoy the process
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 29 of 33
Continue in this state for as long as you desire and is easy comfortable
and natural With practice your will naturally be at ease for longer
periods of time during each session
7 When complete express gratitude to your Self as well as to all others
sharing in this moment with you Sit in this experience of gratitude for a
few moments
8 Savor the nourishing peace you have generated
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 30 of 33
8-STEP PRAXIS REVIEW
1 SIT in comfort
2 BREATHE slowly rhythmically
3 SCAN (head to toes) to relax further still
4 INVITE SELF to allow healing intention
5 RELATE-WITH all other CYSH members amp Spiritual Power
6 SENDRECEIVE intentional healing
ldquoI send out Loving Healingrdquo ldquoI receive Loving Healingrdquo
7 Sit in GRATITUDE
8 SAVOR the nourishing peace
I genuinely look forward to your daily participation and to sharing this powerful
healing process with you I would love to hear your experiences with your praxis
Please do feel free to email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom)
My mission is to Coach You Well
Sincerely amp Caringly
MALCOLM
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 31 of 33
REFERENCES
1 Chopra Deepak (1994) The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success ndash A Practical Guide to
the Fulfillment of Your Dreams p76
2 Chopra Deepak (1999) A Deepak Chopra Companion Illuminations on Health and
Human Consciousness p94
3 Dyer httpwwwyoutubecomwatchv=DC-FPorUW7gampfeature=related
4 Buber Martin (1971) I And Thou
5 Intercessory prayer httpwwwcochraneorgreviewsenab000368html
6 Leskowitz httpwholistichealingresearchcom42books12
7 Schlitz httpxnetkporgpermanentejournalsum05evidencepdf
copy2009byMFDayton
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 32 of 33
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Malcolm Dayton LPC Cht is a Licensed Counselor with more than two decades coaching individuals and families facing chronic illness He is also certified in MindBody Medicine and Hypnotherapy
Malcolms Coaching Self Healing program is unique in that he calls on his own lifelong journey with chronic illness (multiple sclerosis asthma immune deficiency) to assist you in accessing your unique healing solutions Very simply Malcolm walks his coaching
His coaching program is truly integral-- that is healing solutions are practical in focus and applied comprehensively incorporating all dimensions of your experience from symptoms to wellness from relations within self to social relations from the physical to spiritual--a truly ecological approach to Self Healing You learn to be FULLIVINGtrade ndash to thrive beyond chronic illness
Malcolms mission is to Coach You WELL
CONTACTMalcolm Dayton LPC CHt
email mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom
phone 970-689-4247
Yes Malcolm Im ready to discover
the benefits of Self Healing Coaching NOW
Sign me up now for myCOMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION
Be Well And THRIVE Beyond Chronic Illness Now
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 33 of 33
Note It may take you 2 or more breathing cycles to notice the muscles in a
particular area begin to relax There are times as well when you may just
need to continue on with your scan trusting that the area will release as you
proceed Again this is time for gentle following
4 Once relaxed (as much as may be possible for now) INVITE your Self to
allow and receive healing intention and healing love
Note This may not feel natural or normal within and like a child the
knee-jerk reaction may indeed be to rebel You are merely sending an
invitation nothing more As you repeat this intentional healing invitation
each day you will soon begin to notice that you are indeed looking forward
to this opportunity
5 You are now comfortable relaxed and intentional within It is time now
to image all the other CYSH Members with whom you are sharing this
time Know they too are seeking to generate healing for your challenges
just as you are for theirs Depending on your beliefs it is here that you
may also invite connect with your source of spiritual power (God
Source Higher Power Buddha) to participate with you
6 Spend the next minutes imagining a Circle of Intentional Healing
Energy flowing into you from all the others and out from you to all
others Allow it to be easy natural like the earthrsquos flow of water
circulating from sky to earth and back to sky simply relax into this flow
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 28 of 33
Note It may help to imagine your healing intentions emanating from about
2 finger-widths behind and about 3 finger-widths below your navel This
site (known as the ldquolower dan tienrdquo or ldquoharardquo) is considered the physical
center of gravity around which you are in perfect balance
From this point you can imagine healing intention flowing up your trunk
through your neck and head and out the top of your head to the other
CYSH members
The healing intention returning to you can be experienced as coming into
you at the same center of gravity point from which you started
Important Do not attempt to localize your intentions to any one region
within (brain heart liver etc) the reason being that a given illness process
occurs across and between physiological systems (even though we may talk
as if it is isolated to one system) It is best to imagine your entire Self
within a cocoon or bubble of flowing healing intention ndash everywhere within
you at once You may experience color warmth safety Luxuriate in your
experience Enjoy the moment
During this intentional time it can also be helpful on a given inout cycle of
breath to silently express I send out Loving Healing On the next
inout cycle silently express I receive Loving Healing and so on
In addition if your mind wanders off task (amp it will) just gently return to
the flow of loving healing intention Remember this experience is all about
being gentle Enjoy the process
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 29 of 33
Continue in this state for as long as you desire and is easy comfortable
and natural With practice your will naturally be at ease for longer
periods of time during each session
7 When complete express gratitude to your Self as well as to all others
sharing in this moment with you Sit in this experience of gratitude for a
few moments
8 Savor the nourishing peace you have generated
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 30 of 33
8-STEP PRAXIS REVIEW
1 SIT in comfort
2 BREATHE slowly rhythmically
3 SCAN (head to toes) to relax further still
4 INVITE SELF to allow healing intention
5 RELATE-WITH all other CYSH members amp Spiritual Power
6 SENDRECEIVE intentional healing
ldquoI send out Loving Healingrdquo ldquoI receive Loving Healingrdquo
7 Sit in GRATITUDE
8 SAVOR the nourishing peace
I genuinely look forward to your daily participation and to sharing this powerful
healing process with you I would love to hear your experiences with your praxis
Please do feel free to email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom)
My mission is to Coach You Well
Sincerely amp Caringly
MALCOLM
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 31 of 33
REFERENCES
1 Chopra Deepak (1994) The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success ndash A Practical Guide to
the Fulfillment of Your Dreams p76
2 Chopra Deepak (1999) A Deepak Chopra Companion Illuminations on Health and
Human Consciousness p94
3 Dyer httpwwwyoutubecomwatchv=DC-FPorUW7gampfeature=related
4 Buber Martin (1971) I And Thou
5 Intercessory prayer httpwwwcochraneorgreviewsenab000368html
6 Leskowitz httpwholistichealingresearchcom42books12
7 Schlitz httpxnetkporgpermanentejournalsum05evidencepdf
copy2009byMFDayton
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 32 of 33
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Malcolm Dayton LPC Cht is a Licensed Counselor with more than two decades coaching individuals and families facing chronic illness He is also certified in MindBody Medicine and Hypnotherapy
Malcolms Coaching Self Healing program is unique in that he calls on his own lifelong journey with chronic illness (multiple sclerosis asthma immune deficiency) to assist you in accessing your unique healing solutions Very simply Malcolm walks his coaching
His coaching program is truly integral-- that is healing solutions are practical in focus and applied comprehensively incorporating all dimensions of your experience from symptoms to wellness from relations within self to social relations from the physical to spiritual--a truly ecological approach to Self Healing You learn to be FULLIVINGtrade ndash to thrive beyond chronic illness
Malcolms mission is to Coach You WELL
CONTACTMalcolm Dayton LPC CHt
email mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom
phone 970-689-4247
Yes Malcolm Im ready to discover
the benefits of Self Healing Coaching NOW
Sign me up now for myCOMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION
Be Well And THRIVE Beyond Chronic Illness Now
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 33 of 33
Note It may help to imagine your healing intentions emanating from about
2 finger-widths behind and about 3 finger-widths below your navel This
site (known as the ldquolower dan tienrdquo or ldquoharardquo) is considered the physical
center of gravity around which you are in perfect balance
From this point you can imagine healing intention flowing up your trunk
through your neck and head and out the top of your head to the other
CYSH members
The healing intention returning to you can be experienced as coming into
you at the same center of gravity point from which you started
Important Do not attempt to localize your intentions to any one region
within (brain heart liver etc) the reason being that a given illness process
occurs across and between physiological systems (even though we may talk
as if it is isolated to one system) It is best to imagine your entire Self
within a cocoon or bubble of flowing healing intention ndash everywhere within
you at once You may experience color warmth safety Luxuriate in your
experience Enjoy the moment
During this intentional time it can also be helpful on a given inout cycle of
breath to silently express I send out Loving Healing On the next
inout cycle silently express I receive Loving Healing and so on
In addition if your mind wanders off task (amp it will) just gently return to
the flow of loving healing intention Remember this experience is all about
being gentle Enjoy the process
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Continue in this state for as long as you desire and is easy comfortable
and natural With practice your will naturally be at ease for longer
periods of time during each session
7 When complete express gratitude to your Self as well as to all others
sharing in this moment with you Sit in this experience of gratitude for a
few moments
8 Savor the nourishing peace you have generated
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8-STEP PRAXIS REVIEW
1 SIT in comfort
2 BREATHE slowly rhythmically
3 SCAN (head to toes) to relax further still
4 INVITE SELF to allow healing intention
5 RELATE-WITH all other CYSH members amp Spiritual Power
6 SENDRECEIVE intentional healing
ldquoI send out Loving Healingrdquo ldquoI receive Loving Healingrdquo
7 Sit in GRATITUDE
8 SAVOR the nourishing peace
I genuinely look forward to your daily participation and to sharing this powerful
healing process with you I would love to hear your experiences with your praxis
Please do feel free to email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom)
My mission is to Coach You Well
Sincerely amp Caringly
MALCOLM
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 31 of 33
REFERENCES
1 Chopra Deepak (1994) The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success ndash A Practical Guide to
the Fulfillment of Your Dreams p76
2 Chopra Deepak (1999) A Deepak Chopra Companion Illuminations on Health and
Human Consciousness p94
3 Dyer httpwwwyoutubecomwatchv=DC-FPorUW7gampfeature=related
4 Buber Martin (1971) I And Thou
5 Intercessory prayer httpwwwcochraneorgreviewsenab000368html
6 Leskowitz httpwholistichealingresearchcom42books12
7 Schlitz httpxnetkporgpermanentejournalsum05evidencepdf
copy2009byMFDayton
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 32 of 33
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Malcolm Dayton LPC Cht is a Licensed Counselor with more than two decades coaching individuals and families facing chronic illness He is also certified in MindBody Medicine and Hypnotherapy
Malcolms Coaching Self Healing program is unique in that he calls on his own lifelong journey with chronic illness (multiple sclerosis asthma immune deficiency) to assist you in accessing your unique healing solutions Very simply Malcolm walks his coaching
His coaching program is truly integral-- that is healing solutions are practical in focus and applied comprehensively incorporating all dimensions of your experience from symptoms to wellness from relations within self to social relations from the physical to spiritual--a truly ecological approach to Self Healing You learn to be FULLIVINGtrade ndash to thrive beyond chronic illness
Malcolms mission is to Coach You WELL
CONTACTMalcolm Dayton LPC CHt
email mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom
phone 970-689-4247
Yes Malcolm Im ready to discover
the benefits of Self Healing Coaching NOW
Sign me up now for myCOMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION
Be Well And THRIVE Beyond Chronic Illness Now
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 33 of 33
Continue in this state for as long as you desire and is easy comfortable
and natural With practice your will naturally be at ease for longer
periods of time during each session
7 When complete express gratitude to your Self as well as to all others
sharing in this moment with you Sit in this experience of gratitude for a
few moments
8 Savor the nourishing peace you have generated
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 30 of 33
8-STEP PRAXIS REVIEW
1 SIT in comfort
2 BREATHE slowly rhythmically
3 SCAN (head to toes) to relax further still
4 INVITE SELF to allow healing intention
5 RELATE-WITH all other CYSH members amp Spiritual Power
6 SENDRECEIVE intentional healing
ldquoI send out Loving Healingrdquo ldquoI receive Loving Healingrdquo
7 Sit in GRATITUDE
8 SAVOR the nourishing peace
I genuinely look forward to your daily participation and to sharing this powerful
healing process with you I would love to hear your experiences with your praxis
Please do feel free to email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom)
My mission is to Coach You Well
Sincerely amp Caringly
MALCOLM
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 31 of 33
REFERENCES
1 Chopra Deepak (1994) The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success ndash A Practical Guide to
the Fulfillment of Your Dreams p76
2 Chopra Deepak (1999) A Deepak Chopra Companion Illuminations on Health and
Human Consciousness p94
3 Dyer httpwwwyoutubecomwatchv=DC-FPorUW7gampfeature=related
4 Buber Martin (1971) I And Thou
5 Intercessory prayer httpwwwcochraneorgreviewsenab000368html
6 Leskowitz httpwholistichealingresearchcom42books12
7 Schlitz httpxnetkporgpermanentejournalsum05evidencepdf
copy2009byMFDayton
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 32 of 33
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Malcolm Dayton LPC Cht is a Licensed Counselor with more than two decades coaching individuals and families facing chronic illness He is also certified in MindBody Medicine and Hypnotherapy
Malcolms Coaching Self Healing program is unique in that he calls on his own lifelong journey with chronic illness (multiple sclerosis asthma immune deficiency) to assist you in accessing your unique healing solutions Very simply Malcolm walks his coaching
His coaching program is truly integral-- that is healing solutions are practical in focus and applied comprehensively incorporating all dimensions of your experience from symptoms to wellness from relations within self to social relations from the physical to spiritual--a truly ecological approach to Self Healing You learn to be FULLIVINGtrade ndash to thrive beyond chronic illness
Malcolms mission is to Coach You WELL
CONTACTMalcolm Dayton LPC CHt
email mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom
phone 970-689-4247
Yes Malcolm Im ready to discover
the benefits of Self Healing Coaching NOW
Sign me up now for myCOMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION
Be Well And THRIVE Beyond Chronic Illness Now
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 33 of 33
8-STEP PRAXIS REVIEW
1 SIT in comfort
2 BREATHE slowly rhythmically
3 SCAN (head to toes) to relax further still
4 INVITE SELF to allow healing intention
5 RELATE-WITH all other CYSH members amp Spiritual Power
6 SENDRECEIVE intentional healing
ldquoI send out Loving Healingrdquo ldquoI receive Loving Healingrdquo
7 Sit in GRATITUDE
8 SAVOR the nourishing peace
I genuinely look forward to your daily participation and to sharing this powerful
healing process with you I would love to hear your experiences with your praxis
Please do feel free to email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom)
My mission is to Coach You Well
Sincerely amp Caringly
MALCOLM
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 31 of 33
REFERENCES
1 Chopra Deepak (1994) The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success ndash A Practical Guide to
the Fulfillment of Your Dreams p76
2 Chopra Deepak (1999) A Deepak Chopra Companion Illuminations on Health and
Human Consciousness p94
3 Dyer httpwwwyoutubecomwatchv=DC-FPorUW7gampfeature=related
4 Buber Martin (1971) I And Thou
5 Intercessory prayer httpwwwcochraneorgreviewsenab000368html
6 Leskowitz httpwholistichealingresearchcom42books12
7 Schlitz httpxnetkporgpermanentejournalsum05evidencepdf
copy2009byMFDayton
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 32 of 33
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Malcolm Dayton LPC Cht is a Licensed Counselor with more than two decades coaching individuals and families facing chronic illness He is also certified in MindBody Medicine and Hypnotherapy
Malcolms Coaching Self Healing program is unique in that he calls on his own lifelong journey with chronic illness (multiple sclerosis asthma immune deficiency) to assist you in accessing your unique healing solutions Very simply Malcolm walks his coaching
His coaching program is truly integral-- that is healing solutions are practical in focus and applied comprehensively incorporating all dimensions of your experience from symptoms to wellness from relations within self to social relations from the physical to spiritual--a truly ecological approach to Self Healing You learn to be FULLIVINGtrade ndash to thrive beyond chronic illness
Malcolms mission is to Coach You WELL
CONTACTMalcolm Dayton LPC CHt
email mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom
phone 970-689-4247
Yes Malcolm Im ready to discover
the benefits of Self Healing Coaching NOW
Sign me up now for myCOMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION
Be Well And THRIVE Beyond Chronic Illness Now
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 33 of 33
REFERENCES
1 Chopra Deepak (1994) The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success ndash A Practical Guide to
the Fulfillment of Your Dreams p76
2 Chopra Deepak (1999) A Deepak Chopra Companion Illuminations on Health and
Human Consciousness p94
3 Dyer httpwwwyoutubecomwatchv=DC-FPorUW7gampfeature=related
4 Buber Martin (1971) I And Thou
5 Intercessory prayer httpwwwcochraneorgreviewsenab000368html
6 Leskowitz httpwholistichealingresearchcom42books12
7 Schlitz httpxnetkporgpermanentejournalsum05evidencepdf
copy2009byMFDayton
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 32 of 33
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Malcolm Dayton LPC Cht is a Licensed Counselor with more than two decades coaching individuals and families facing chronic illness He is also certified in MindBody Medicine and Hypnotherapy
Malcolms Coaching Self Healing program is unique in that he calls on his own lifelong journey with chronic illness (multiple sclerosis asthma immune deficiency) to assist you in accessing your unique healing solutions Very simply Malcolm walks his coaching
His coaching program is truly integral-- that is healing solutions are practical in focus and applied comprehensively incorporating all dimensions of your experience from symptoms to wellness from relations within self to social relations from the physical to spiritual--a truly ecological approach to Self Healing You learn to be FULLIVINGtrade ndash to thrive beyond chronic illness
Malcolms mission is to Coach You WELL
CONTACTMalcolm Dayton LPC CHt
email mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom
phone 970-689-4247
Yes Malcolm Im ready to discover
the benefits of Self Healing Coaching NOW
Sign me up now for myCOMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION
Be Well And THRIVE Beyond Chronic Illness Now
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 33 of 33
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Malcolm Dayton LPC Cht is a Licensed Counselor with more than two decades coaching individuals and families facing chronic illness He is also certified in MindBody Medicine and Hypnotherapy
Malcolms Coaching Self Healing program is unique in that he calls on his own lifelong journey with chronic illness (multiple sclerosis asthma immune deficiency) to assist you in accessing your unique healing solutions Very simply Malcolm walks his coaching
His coaching program is truly integral-- that is healing solutions are practical in focus and applied comprehensively incorporating all dimensions of your experience from symptoms to wellness from relations within self to social relations from the physical to spiritual--a truly ecological approach to Self Healing You learn to be FULLIVINGtrade ndash to thrive beyond chronic illness
Malcolms mission is to Coach You WELL
CONTACTMalcolm Dayton LPC CHt
email mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom
phone 970-689-4247
Yes Malcolm Im ready to discover
the benefits of Self Healing Coaching NOW
Sign me up now for myCOMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION
Be Well And THRIVE Beyond Chronic Illness Now
HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 33 of 33