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SPECIAL REPORT THRIVING BEYOND CHRONIC ILLNESS: SHARED-INTENTIONAL-HEALINGPRAXIS by Malcolm F. Dayton, LPC, CHt ©2009 Http://CoachingSelfHealing.com/qualification Page 1 of 33

Thriving Beyond Chronic Illness: Shared-Intentional-Healing Praxis

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This Special Report details the fundamental principles underlying the FULLIVING (Coaching Your Self Healing) Program. It does so by introducing a powerful method provided to all members of the Coaching Your Self Healing community. This method, Shared-Intentional-Healing provides a daily opportunity for members from around the globe to support one another (& receive support) by way of healing intentions. A "Map of Intentional Healing" is included.

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Page 1: Thriving Beyond Chronic Illness:  Shared-Intentional-Healing Praxis

SPECIAL REPORT

THRIVING BEYOND CHRONIC ILLNESS SHARED-INTENTIONAL-HEALINGtrade

PRAXIS

by Malcolm F Dayton LPC CHtcopy2009

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LEGAL

THIS PUBLICATION IS PROTECTED UNDER THE US COPYRIGHT ACT OF 1976

AND ALL OTHER APPLICABLE INTERNATIONAL FEDERAL STATE AND LOCAL

LAWS

and all rights are reserved including resale rights you are not allowed to give or sell this

Guide to anyone else If you received this publication from anyone other than

CoachingYourSelfHealing youve received a pirated copy Please contact us via e-mail

at mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom and notify us of the situation

Please note that much of this publication is based on clinical and personal experiences

and anecdotal evidence Although the author has made every reasonable attempt to

achieve complete accuracy of the content in this Guide he assumes no responsibility for

errors or omissions

Also you should use this information as you see fit and at your own risk Your particular

situation may not be exactly suited to the examples illustrated here in fact its likely that

they wont be the same and you should adjust your use of the information and

recommendations accordingly

Any trademarks service marks product names or named features are assumed to be the

property of their respective owners and are used only for reference

Finally nothing in this Guide is intended to replace common sense legal medical or other

professional advice and is meant to inform and entertain the reader So have fun and

learn with CoachingYourSelfHealing information

Copyright copy 2009 by MalcolmDayton LPC CHt All rights reserved worldwide

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TABLE OF CONTENTS

YOUR COMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION

INTRODUCTION

ANALYSIS

ldquoYOURrdquo

ldquoDAILYrdquo

ldquoSHAREDrdquo

ldquoINTENTIONALrdquo

ldquoHEALINGrdquo (beyond ldquobeing curedrdquo)

ldquoPRAXISrdquo

PRAXIS GUIDELINES

8-STEP PRAXIS REVIEW

REFERENCES

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

CONTACT INFORMATION

4

5

7

7

9

11

11

16

22

26

31

32

33

33

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YOUR COMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION

The following report provides a detailed introduction to the foundation of effective

principles and powerful tools that the author Malcolm Dayton LPC Cht has

learned developed and utilized in over 15 years of clinical work with individuals

facing chronic illness He has further honed his transformational approach by

discovering what is effective in enhancing his own daily living while addressing

chronic illness (asthma immune deficiency multiple sclerosis)

Although Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade (as described in this report) is a uniquely

powerful activity to engage in your daily wellness arsenal you can maximize

your benefits and progress more rapidly by learning to systematically apply

the broad range of Self Healing tools techniques and opportunities only available

through Coaching Your Self Healing

If you would like to maximize your results more quickly you may participate

multiple times each month in 11 coaching sessions Sessions are tailored to

your specific health and wellness situation to your specific goals and to your

abilities To experience how Your Self Healing Coaching will work for you you

may access your FREE Coaching Session (45 minutes in length) by clicking below

Yes Malcolm Im ready to discover

the benefits of Self Healing Coaching NOW

Sign me up now for myCOMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION

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INTRODUCTION

Welcome to Coaching Your Self Healing (CYSH) During your time with CYSH

you will have many opportunities to learn new and powerful self healing

tools which (when applied as you go through your daily living) will lead you

directly to experience more happiness health well-being and ease what I

call FULLIVINGtrade ndash that state of Being marked by THRIVING beyond chronic

illness

How can I make such a bold statement Because these are the same tools Ive

learned to apply over 4 decades to manage asthma immune disorder and

multiple sclerosis Moreover these are the same skills Ive taught hundreds of

others with chronic illness over the recent 15 years of my clinical practice and by

applying these abilities daily these folks too have learned to improve their daily

living beyond chronic illness to be FULLIVINGtrade

Please take time to read through this report more than once It is a rather quick

read yet so much of this information forms the foundation to your ongoing Self

Healing as much as it also lays out the process for performing your shared-

intentional-healingtrade praxis

Do take the time to apply these principles to your own daily encounter with

chronic illness Skillfully applying the process described in this report (together

with the tools provided in the article series Empower Your Self to Heal Chronic

Illness) you will at once powerfully launch and accelerate your personal

journey into Self Healing

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Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis

One of the more powerful (and empowering) practices CYSH offers you is your

daily Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis (SIHP) This compelling activity

provides various times throughout each day when you can stop the noise in your

life and focus your attention (and intention) on FULLIVINGtrade for your Self as

well as for all the members of your CYSH community At any of the scheduled

times you may take a break from the busyness of your day amp take 5 to 15

minutes to send (amp receive) shared healing intentions in concert with all the

other CYSH members The details of ldquohow tordquo participate in this shared activity

are provided later in this report

Before jumping into the mechanics however we will first take a few moments to

construct the foundation for your daily Shared-Intentional-Healingrdquotrade Praxis

Doing so will assist you in better understanding and skillfully applying this

empowering Self Healing approach

You may keep up-to-date on new or added information to this report by referring to

the tri-monthly Your Self Healing Journey News (you receive as part of your

CYSH membership) as well as by returning to the Coaching Your Self Healing blog

(httpwwwCoachingSelfHealingcomblog)

Note In this report I use the word ldquoselfrdquo in a capitalized form as ldquoSelfrdquo You may

find a detailed account on this use of ldquoSelfrdquo in the article Empower Your Self to Heal

Chronic Illness Part 1 Who is the self in Self Healing

For our purposes here Self is that deep core of you the essential being you were

at birth before defining yourself by the cultural identifiers thrust onto you growing-

up and beyond those you have used to create your place in the world

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ANALYSIS

of

Your Daily Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis

ldquoYOURrdquo

First this is truly YOUR activity You may do this at whatever times you choose

and on whatever days feel right for you You may choose to participate once per

day or more frequently on certain days This is YOUR Self Healing program

You access the benefits by proactively participating in SIHP FULLIVINGtrade

benefits accrue as you routinely apply and participate in this approach As you

feel more comfortable and natural during your sessions you may notice you are

more relaxed and calm as you carry out the remainder of your day Symptoms

may seem less troubling less intense and easier to manage You can notice an

improvement in your general mood and more felt-moments of happiness The

fact that you know you are participating not only for your own benefit but the

benefit of all other CYSH members will bring a smile to your face and a

meaningful sense of Self worth for giving so genuinely from your heart

You may also discover applying SIHP can help with the more difficult times you

face Imagine you have been participating in shared-intentional-healingtrade

sessions at about 1 session per day Then because of a virus or change in

medications you enter a more difficult period of heightened symptoms perhaps

leading to a drop-off in your participation Two things to keep in mind here

1 You may email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom) to request other CYSH

members keep YOU in our special intentions during the times we are

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participating in SIHP each day

You do not need to provide identifying information merely some information

about your age gender and what you may be going through at this time This

will assist other members to generate an image of who your are as we focus

our healing intentions for you

2 During these more challenging times you may discover you can access

even more energy and peace by actually increasing the number of times

each day you participate in sessions Please do test this out for yourself

over time

This is not only your program but the process itself is yours as well that is YOU

define what intentional healing is for you according to your history and

experiences your desires and goals No person outside of you can clarify the

means by which you define and measure healing progress nor what results or

goals are more or less important to you as you apply the skills you learn in the

Coaching Your Self Healing program

The steps outlined later in this report are merely guidelines to assist you in

participating in your daily Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis They serve as

guides suggestions to help you get started You will find your own unique way to

participate ndash the way that simply works best for you

So please do explore the process play with it and have fun Whenever you do

come across some variation that is particularly beneficial please send it along to

me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom) so I may pass it along to benefit other

members in our CYSH community

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ldquoDAILYrdquo

You may choose among eight times each day to participate in this practice

900 AM amp PM EST 1200 AM amp PM EST 300 AM amp PM EST and 600 AM amp

PM EST The eight times are provided in order for CYSH members from around

the globe to participate at a convenient time in your time zone as well as

convenient to your schedule around the clock each day Clearly you may

participate at any of the session times regardless of your location

If for some reason you cannot participate during any of these times please do

email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom) so I may be informed of any

scheduling problems that I am not currently taking into consideration My goal

here is to develop a daily schedule that works for everyone around the globe (and

around the clock each day) To start out I would encourage you to set a

reminder alarm a few minutes before your scheduled time ndash at least until you

have formed a comfortable habit of participating in the sessions

I will be present and participate during at least two sessions everyday and I will

rotate through session times each day That way at least every four days you

and I will be attending together at the same time Please understand however

there is never any expectation for you to participate at any particular time(s) nor

on any given day When you participate depends solely on your inner comfort

and your positive intention when you do take part

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Providing so many times is meant solely as a way to coordinate our attention and

energies in synchrony with other community members There is no need to be

concerned about the ldquorightrdquo time to participate As already noted your energies

are better-focused on being-present your comfort and on positive intention

There simply is no ldquorightrdquo time just the time that is right for you

Another advantage of having eight scheduled times each day is to provide

flexibility for you to adjust your participation in response to changes in your

symptom experiences As noted earlier when going through more difficult

symptomatic periods that are disrupting to your routine participating in

additional praxis times (rather than focusing on symptoms) may assist you with

limiting intensity and duration of the exacerbation ndash particularly by generating

more relaxation and rest

Still another helpful way you may consider your praxis ldquotimerdquo has been clarified

by Einstein physicists and spiritual leaders through history What they have

shown us is that ldquotimerdquo is a construct (a ldquoboxrdquo) and is not really ldquoout thererdquo at

all Indeed if ldquotimerdquo exists it can only be NOW

Such a perspective can be extremely nourishing when considering what Deepak

Chopra MD and Wayne Dyer PhD call the ldquogaprdquo The gap is that experience in

which you are ldquocenteredrdquo in the ldquosilent space between thoughtsrdquo When in the

gap you are at that ldquolevel of Being which is your essential staterdquo1 This

experience of being-in-the-gap is timeless ndash rdquothe womb of creationrdquo2 It is within

this state of experience that healing occurs

As you perform your praxis each day you will naturally and directly begin to

experience the timeless-being of the gap firsthand Once you recognize this

experience you will realize that whatever time of day you actually participate in

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SIHP you are doing it in the same NOW as all other CYSH members ndash even

though your session ldquoclock timesrdquo differ throughout the day

ldquoSHAREDrdquo

Remember the key here is that you are surrounding your Self with the one

heartbeat of all the other community members Your attention your energy

and your intentions are SHARED by all ndash just as their energies and intentions are

shared with and for you It is this attitude of sharing-with a wholehearted

giving-to that is key to this approach It is very simple As you give from

your heart-of-caring so you will receive

Be comforted in knowing that by simply participating once a day (after even a

few short days) you will begin to feel more comfortable more at ease more at

peace now than you may have experienced in years AND you know you are

contributing to the FULLIVINGtrade of others that is contributing beyond well-

being into the very heart of healing Trust me when I say your peace and your

giving heart provide a strong (and necessary) foundation on which to build

healing for each of us and of all of us together

ldquoINTENTIONALrdquo

So what does it mean to be INTENTIONAL One of the most helpful reviews of

ldquointentionrdquo is provided by Wayne Dyer PhD3 In Dyers The Power of Intention

(2005) he describes how we may ldquowishrdquo for something to occur in our lives but

such wishing is only a beginning

We may also choose to take the next step beyond wishing to ldquodesirerdquo Desire

results in taking action on the wish and is proactively distinct from wishing It is

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with desire that we now straight-forwardly make the ldquoaskrdquo (as in ldquoask and you

shall receiverdquo)

Still again we can step-up the intensity of our activity even more (beyond

wishing and asking) that is we may frame our desire in terms of what we

actually ldquointend to createrdquo Stop here for a moment close your eyes and feel

the power in these words I INTEND TO CREATE Period And again

I INTEND TO CREATE

We are very matter-of-fact about bringing the thing wished for desired

requested into experience No doubt No fear Creating healing now is simply a

given that occurs by way of you actively participating Period

Such intention-to-create by definition requires both commitment and passion

With commitment we are beyond ldquotryingrdquo to make the thing happen and

instead move into what I call devotion-to-creating (from the original French

devovere ldquodedicated by a vowrdquo) With such devotion we experience a much

deeper more profound state of being an awareness beyond ego

Devotion-to-creating allows you to act beyond the ldquooughtsrdquo and ldquoshouldsrdquo of

others beyond your own doubts and fears beyond obligation and guilt and

directly to the heart of being inspired (ldquodrawing in of airrdquo ldquoinspiritrdquo) that is you

are drawn into relation-with the powerful and empowering Source that creates

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It is by being inspired that you meet the paradox at the heart of ldquointendingrdquo As

you proactively intend-to-create you naturally come to experience being

committed devoted and inspired however you actually create only inasmuch as

you allow your Self to follow the flow of your inspiration naturally ndash that is as

you open your Self to receive Therefore as you intend to heal you must

also open to receive healing

As such it is important you recognize healing happens as you ldquoget out of your

own wayrdquo beyond intellect desire doubt and ego How do we do that How do

we get out of our own way beyond ego Very simply you do that by allowing

your Self to trust your healing

Please take a moment here to recall a time when you were injured in some way

(maybe a cut or broken bone) Beyond receiving necessary medical assistance

what did you do to mend to heal Once attended to medically its likely that you

never gave the actual processes of ldquohealingrdquo much thought ndash dying cells cleared

away new cells forming and eventually performing as if they had been there all

along as if nothing ever happened Healing just occurred your part was to trust

the process take good care of yourself and allow it Whether conscious or not

you simply trusted yourself to heal

It is that same trust you must have as you now commit-to-create intentional

healing Your whole Self system ldquoknowsrdquo how and what needs healing and in

what specific sequence of steps healing must occur Self does not need the

agreement of intellect or common sense to proceed naturally with healing Self

has been carrying out that process every nano-second of every day of your life ndash

simultaneously coordinating trillions of biochemical and energetic activities in

every cell of your entire being Heart beats lungs breath intestines digest and

your job is simply to get out of your own way and trust your Self to heal

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As you do alongside this intense Self-trust and commitment-to-create (our vow)

passion takes over and leads the way beyond common sense beyond

doubting intellect beyond beliefs and even beyond perceptions Such intense

passion emanating from your heart is very simply ldquoagaperdquo (selfless Love) In

this state you no longer experience others as separate bounded subject-object

(I-It) rather you share together in a living boundless oneness-of-relating

honoring the encounter by giving your present and your presence to the

sacredness of ldquoI-Thourdquo4

Map of HEALING INTENTION

I WISH

I DESIRE (ASK)

I INTEND-TO-CREATE

INCLUDES I COMMIT-TO-CREATE (I Vow = Devotion-to-creating)

I AM PASSIONATE

(I am Inspired)

PARADOX OF INTENDING (I Allow I Receive I Trust My Self to Heal)

I-THOU (Agape)

Figure copy2009 by MFDayton

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It is this deep experience of heartfelt passion and selfless Love you are aiming to

access directly (and share) when you intend from the heart when you are

performing your shared-intentional-healingtrade praxis

So once again stop for a moment now to imagine Imagine the tremendous

healing power at your disposal when you step into your shared session each day

with the intention-to-create healing It means you are committing to heal

vowing to heal trusting your Self to heal by way of your impassioned

heart You are giving your presence to merge as one-heartbeat in

synchrony and selfless love with all other CYSH members in this moment

now Therein lies the true power of your healing intention

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ldquoHEALINGrdquo (beyond ldquobeing curedrdquo)

Clearly what we intend to create during each praxis is HEALING your healing

healing for other members my healing and our healing together as one Yet do

you really know what you mean when you say ldquoI intend to healrdquo

Whenever we take time to reflect on the notion of ldquohealingrdquo typically one of the

first things that bubbles up into awareness is some hope of being ldquocuredrdquo Given

the difficulties and challenges we can face in just making it through even the

most simple of daily activities ldquocurerdquo can be so very inviting Indeed given the

opportunity who of us wouldnt want to be cured of a chronic illness And cured

NOW

Yet by seeking to ldquobe curedrdquo we can become entrenched in even more intense

challenges and symptom exacerbation How could that be What could

possibly be wrong with hoping for a cure

There is nothing wrong with hoping dreaming goal setting Indeed these

activities can provide momentum power purpose and direction to an otherwise

difficult day Yet the moment we turn our attention to ldquobeing curedrdquo our focus

immediately comes to rest on that which we desire to be ldquocured ofrdquo to ldquoget away

fromrdquo and it is here we become derailed Its like the age-old challenge to ldquonot

think of a blue elephantrdquo We must first conceive such a beast before we cannot

think about it

So too with ldquocurerdquo ndash We must first converge our attention and energies even

more intensely on the illness and the symptoms we wish to cease Clearly this

activity takes us in the opposite direction from the relief and health we are

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seeking In fact it is the same process described by Cheri Huber in one of her

more remarkable books entitled That Which You Are Seeking Is Causing You To

Seek (1990) Take a moment now to think about her title in relation to ldquoThe cure

I am seeking is rdquo In short to focus on cure heightens our experience of

dis-ease

To clarify even further when we focus on such moving-away-from-activities we

have no clear vision of what it is we are moving toward Without such clarity our

odds of failing escalate exponentially Success happens only as we also move

toward clearly-defined desires and goals A simple yet powerful example is this

years 40th anniversary of the Apollo 11 moon landing Was that ldquogiant steprdquo

successful because the leaders at NASA focused energy solely on how to create

escape velocity to ldquoget away fromrdquo earth ndash or also on how to get onto the moon

Another helpful example is wanting ldquoout ofrdquo a job Im sure you know of someone

(perhaps yourself) intent on getting away from the daily grind of hisher job Yet

when she did successfully leave that employment inevitably and much too soon

the same situation landslides into the daily grind of the next job Repeating old

patterns of struggle is a very clear sign of actions based on moving-away-

from goals This is a key principle to apply to all aspects of your daily living

The reason this occurs with the get-me-outta-here script is that whatever change

may happen generally does so from ldquowithoutrdquo At best we change scenery Its

the old grass-is-greener scenario ndash which is really no change at all

The inherent problem here can be even more perilous as we see when we take a

closer look at the wording ldquobeing curedrdquo We tend to redirect our attention from

within (our source of creative power) to some force outside that causes the cure

for us (whether that be by way of a physician a healer natural substances

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medications treatments or God)

On some level we tell ourselves if I could figure out what was happening to get

into this situation (ie chronic illness) I would be able to figure out how to get

out of it but (and heres the rub) since I cant I begin to believe less and less in

my innate healing power and more and more that such power must lie outside of

me ndash with an outside force greater than me (whether medical natural or

spiritual)

Please be clear on this point This is not to underplay the importance of qualified

medical professionals to your progress The same is true of the importance and

value of your spirituality and relation-with God Source Higher Power The point

to take away here is that you can only access the benefits of such healing

relations when YOU are first centered and strong in your own being ndash when you

approach your Self as a sacred Thou

Therefore in the situation where you reflexively turn over your power to heal (to

an outside agent) understand the ensuing damage you risk to your sense of Self

Not only are you diminishing belief in your inherent strength and healing power

you are also at risk of allowing others to determine what is best for your well-

being (perhaps even against your deeper intuitive knowing) all of which only

serves to further undermine Self-esteem and the tremendous power that comes

from believing in your Self

Even our religious upbringing can paradoxically weaken our beliefs regarding the

possibility of cure We learn at a deep level that ldquocurerdquo lies only in the realm of

the miraculous Such an orientation can weaken belief in the possibility of ldquome

being cured nowrdquo In fact when being completely honest many of us feel the

odds of ldquome being cured nowrdquo are as slim or slimmer than winning a million dollar

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lottery And when it does not happen were faced with the more daunting issue

of how I must somehow be ldquoflawedrdquo Clearly such underlying attitudes provide

no foundation on which to construct change much less the dramatic change

required with the desire to ldquobe curedrdquo [Here I recommend another Huber book

There Is Nothing Wrong with You Going Beyond Self-Hate (2001)]

In the end when focused on ldquobeing curedrdquo you may not only become separate

from your innate healing power within but you risk the ultimate medical

mistreatment becoming an object to be worked-on mechanically From here it

can be a rapid slide into the role of ldquovictimrdquo whereby you relinquish your

responsibility for choosing altogether (ie intending-to-create) how it is you truly

desire to be In short you risk losing the creative power of intention required to

give birth to healing

By the mid eighties I had been on daily prednisone for over a decade to control

severe bouts of status asthmaticus and recurrent pneumonia Because the

deleterious side-effects of prednisone included adrenal insufficiency (an impaired

stress response) I knew in my heart-of-hearts one key to my well-being lay in

recovering my atrophied stress axis by discontinuing daily prednisone For years

I pleaded with my pulmonary specialist to assist me in tapering off and relearning

how to live prednisone-free Together we did make a few unsuccessful attempts

only to recycle back into another respiratory infection and still higher doses of

prednisone By this time his posture was that I needed to remain on daily

prednisone ldquofor the rest of my liferdquo My posture was to fire him

Fortunately and in short-order I began working with an internist who over the

next two years laid out a plan to become prednisone-free ndash which we did

together successfully Two significant points must be clearly recognized here

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1 You must believe in your innate healing power and if you do not

currently this then becomes your launch pad for your healing journey ndash

relearning to empower your Self to heal

2 You are not in this alone You require the good works of others in

alignment with you to successfully heal As such you need to be very

selective in picking those others with whom you relate to enhance your

medical well-being

If you are feeling your medical support is sapping your power and authority

they probably are but you dont throw the baby out with the bath This is

not about releasing physicians this is about being in a healing

relationship-with your medical professional(s) of choice

Additional cultural biases arise with a focus on ldquocurerdquo Any true change with

regard to chronic illness implies a change ldquofor the betterrdquo That requires us to

believe with certainty that such change can and will bring improvement After

more than fifteen years working with individuals with chronic illness (including

my Self) it is the rare individual Ive encountered who truly believes (from the

core) ldquoI will be curedrdquo We wish for cure certainly but believing with certainty ldquoI

will be curedrdquo rarely

An origin of not believing in ldquobeing curedrdquo lies in the way we traditionally use the

term One problem in particular is that ldquocurerdquo is not a ldquonowrdquo concept -- that is

something I trust to experience now rather we tend to use ldquocurerdquo in a future-

oriented manner of hoping-for-something-to-happen or (at-best) asking-for

maybe praying for cure to happen Yet it is not in the future that you and I

create anything and this is particularly relevant to healing We only create in

the NOW

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Finally even greater issues arise when we attempt to determine precisely what

we mean by the term ldquocurerdquo As one example are you cured when there is ldquoan

end to the disease processrdquo or could that be ldquoremissionrdquo

Does ldquocurerdquo mean a ldquoreturn to full functioningrdquo (ie as I was before the process

started) Is that even possible Consider the case of a disease process that has

already resulted in disfigurement or amputation What does ldquocurerdquo mean in those

situations

Does ldquocurerdquo mean ldquosymptoms are gonerdquo If so are we then cured when

medications relieve or mask the symptoms altogether Do you understand the

quagmire here

It is for all these reasons above that few people are ever truly ldquocuredrdquo of

anything even if we do allow for those who have experienced ldquomiracle curesrdquo

(which are certainly the exception not the norm) Yet when you and I consider

ldquomy situation nowrdquo we need to have the strength of certainty that improvement

is not only possible but immanent

So if not ldquocurerdquo then what You already know the answer And the answer is

ldquohealingrdquo In the end if ldquocurerdquo is anything it is a future-oriented

disempowering mechanical phenomenon at the physical level In contrast

ldquohealingrdquo is an ongoing process (in this moment) of whole-Self transformation

Consider when we truly and proactively ldquohealrdquo we are creating (now) from the

very depths of our core within We are intending-to-create with all the intensity

and power of commitment passion and agape that arises in creative

transformation It is this innate source of inner power to which we must first

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return ldquoas little childrenrdquo in order to initiate healing

We mask nothing when healing now rather we take an active and response-able

role in bringing peace joy and love directly into our daily lives and the lives of

those we touch NOW this moment and in as many moments as we allow

It is from this strong shared intentional healing foundation that we live with the

most power any human being can possibly experience in alignment with in I-

Thou relation-with in the selfless Love that is the very Source of all creation

This process of transformational healing envelops and extends beyond cure at any

level and unlike ldquocurerdquo it is not some static condition at which we arrive (by

the grace of some outside benevolent authority) Rather such transformational

healing is an ongoing process of BEING-a-certain-way in strength in power

in wisdom in loving relation-with (not only Self but Source God Higher Power)

Let this loving empowered healing be the deep transformation you intend ndash your

moment-to-moment empowered healing transformation from core within

ldquoPRAXISrdquo

We finally come to the term PRAXIS Clients often ask why I use ldquopraxisrdquo rather

than something more familiar like ldquopracticerdquo or ldquoexerciserdquo My answer is very

simple and straight-forward

First we can quickly dispense with the term ldquoexerciserdquo Do you really want to

ldquoexerciserdquo intentional healing each day ndash or would you rather just skip having to

exercise any more than you already know you need to do Enough said

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Now imagine I invite you to ldquoplease make sure and practice your intentional

healing each dayrdquo How do you feel then For me it brings up that I must not

be very good at it especially if I need to be practicing every day

Consider now how you feel when I invite you to ldquoskillfully applyrdquo the intentional

healing process in comfort Doesnt ldquoskillful applicationrdquo feel much more

empowering than ldquopracticingrdquo Since ldquopraxisrdquo means ldquoskillful applicationrdquo isnt it

much more inviting to approach your intentional healing sessions with skill

And you will as you become more comfortable applying the process each day

Other folks also ask if shared-intentional-healingtrade wouldnt be better considered

an ldquoexperimentrdquo much like Lynn McTaggarts The Intention Experiment (2007) I

can see how the notion of an ldquoexperimentrdquo carries with it some sense of intrigue

but ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately represent the experience that is shared-

intentional-healingtrade

First (as we learned in our discussion of ldquointentionalrdquo above) when we participate

in Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade we are as a matter-of-fact intending-to-create

healing Such activity cannot be an ldquoexperimentrdquo or we lose the certainty

required for healing change Rather we set out to generate an experience-of-

relating that is powered by being committed empassioned and selflessly loving

You can likely identify such a committed passionate selflessly loving experience

from some time in your life ndash whether in love among family through an

impassioned hobby in seeking some goal or perhaps spiritually As you already

know such an experience is not something we wish-for or hope-for or need to

wait and see what happens It is simply a loving relating-with experience we

already know how to have We just be it and do it

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Moreover (as I suggested above) there is palpable transformation that occurs

within each of us as we gain comfort participating in shared-intentional-healingtrade

This transformational experience happens through your participation and it will

happen for you ndash no need to experiment just simply participate

Moreover at the heart of it the notion of ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately reflect

the research to date on ldquointentionrdquo and ldquohealingrdquo As an example a 1997 review

of research on ldquoIntercessory Prayer for the Alleviation of Ill Healthrdquo by Roberts

Ahmed Hall amp Davison reports individual studies suggest a positive effect of

intercessory prayer But since they viewed other reports in which the results

were equivocal they conclude no ldquo further trials of this intervention should be

takenrdquo5

Regrettably they miss the point The fact that studies DO exist reporting a

positive correlation between intercessory prayer and the alleviation of ill health is

precisely the reason more studies should be undertaken Edison found hundreds

of approaches that were equivocal before discovering a singular lighting solution

Thank goodness he did not conclude any further trials were unnecessary before

arriving at that solution

When it comes to this uniquely intimate subject of healing Eric Leskowitz MD

(in a review of the book Healing Intention amp Energy Medicine (2002) by Wayne

Jonas MD) explains how such conflicting conclusions like Roberts etal come

about Dr Leskowitz notes when he is in discussions with his allopathic medical

colleagues regarding ldquo inexplicable phenomena like energy healing or

intercessory prayer a sort of allopathic fear reflex kicks inrdquo6 Conclusions

become tunnel-visioned and skewed against even the possibility of such

correlation existing anywhere at any time Hence no further trials

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You may however verify for yourself such positively-correlated research does

indeed already exist by reviewing the studies in Jonas book (above) In

addition Marilyn Schlitz PhD provides a brief outline of just some of those

ldquopositive correlationrdquo studies that highlight the ldquointerface of science spirituality

and medicinerdquo7

If you would like an even more in-depth review I refer you to Consciousness amp

Healing Integral Approaches to Mind-Body Medicine (2005) by Schlitz Amorok

and Micozzi as well as the more recent (2008) Holistic Nursing A Handbook for Practice

5th edition by Dossey amp Keegan

In sum although experimental research has certainly not provided the final

answers on the relation between intention and healing the research to date is

most certainly beyond the ldquoequivocalrdquo suggested by those reflexively reacting

from allopathic fear Those studies completed to date which do display a positive

correlation between intention and healing are already providing a strong practical

foundation of powerful techniques and approaches that go far beyond

ldquoexperimentingrdquo and straight to the heart of skillful-application in daily living

Shared-Intentional-Healingrdquotrade is just one such approach you may access today

and everyday simply by participating in your daily praxis

With the above foundation in mind we can now move on to

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PRAXIS GUIDELINES

Having considered in some depth the foundation on which this method rests we

may now turn to the guidelines describing ldquohow tordquo participate in your daily

Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis

Before you approach your first intentional session please read through the

description and suggestions below Remember these opportunities are for YOU

to BENEFIT YOU Again there is no right way nor wrong way for you to

participate You simply participate in your own best way Therefore as noted

previously the description below is solely meant as a guided outline to assist you

in jump-starting your participation ndash sharing with you some ideas that have

already worked well for others in our Community

For this to be beneficial for everyone please do your best to allot at least 5 to

15 minutes for each intentional session If you are already seasoned at

sitting in quiet you certainly may choose to go longer (eg 30) and you can

trust there are other CYSH members continuing in synchrony with you

To start out let your sessions be for shorter periods of time You will experience

a natural increase in length of participation without having to think about it or

plan for it This is not a race nor a test of endurance This is a nourishing of

Self and a cultivation of your best healing intentions Be gentle

In the beginning it can also be helpful if you imagine sending out your healing

intentions in a particular direction around the globe and returning to you from

the opposite direction This way as you imagine can assist you in creating a

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ldquoflowrdquo with regard to directing intentional healing to all others around the globe

As you become more adept you will very naturally be able to generate healing

images radiating from your whole being equally in all directions You will

become aware there is no particular ldquoupdownrdquo in space-time There is just

ldquoeverywhere hererdquo that is always at the center of the universe ndash as you are at all

times and as is each member

Finally please know you may also invite your friends and loved ones to share

with you in these sessions If they cannot participate with you ask them (at

minimum) to set their healing intention for you and send it like a gift to you each

day This can be helpful to them as well knowing they are actively supporting

you with their selfless loving healing

So let us begin with a session description I have broken it down into 8 separate

action steps below

1 First make time to just sit and be comfortable (nothing ldquoto dordquo now)

Loosen any tight clothing

2 Begin breathing slowly until you relax into a comfortable natural pace

This is a time for gentleness Simply allow experience to happen and

follow experience moment-to-moment as you proceed

3 Slowly scan your entire being from head to toes inside and out If you

notice any part of you in tension just allow it to relax naturally and

dissolve with each out-breath

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Note It may take you 2 or more breathing cycles to notice the muscles in a

particular area begin to relax There are times as well when you may just

need to continue on with your scan trusting that the area will release as you

proceed Again this is time for gentle following

4 Once relaxed (as much as may be possible for now) INVITE your Self to

allow and receive healing intention and healing love

Note This may not feel natural or normal within and like a child the

knee-jerk reaction may indeed be to rebel You are merely sending an

invitation nothing more As you repeat this intentional healing invitation

each day you will soon begin to notice that you are indeed looking forward

to this opportunity

5 You are now comfortable relaxed and intentional within It is time now

to image all the other CYSH Members with whom you are sharing this

time Know they too are seeking to generate healing for your challenges

just as you are for theirs Depending on your beliefs it is here that you

may also invite connect with your source of spiritual power (God

Source Higher Power Buddha) to participate with you

6 Spend the next minutes imagining a Circle of Intentional Healing

Energy flowing into you from all the others and out from you to all

others Allow it to be easy natural like the earthrsquos flow of water

circulating from sky to earth and back to sky simply relax into this flow

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Note It may help to imagine your healing intentions emanating from about

2 finger-widths behind and about 3 finger-widths below your navel This

site (known as the ldquolower dan tienrdquo or ldquoharardquo) is considered the physical

center of gravity around which you are in perfect balance

From this point you can imagine healing intention flowing up your trunk

through your neck and head and out the top of your head to the other

CYSH members

The healing intention returning to you can be experienced as coming into

you at the same center of gravity point from which you started

Important Do not attempt to localize your intentions to any one region

within (brain heart liver etc) the reason being that a given illness process

occurs across and between physiological systems (even though we may talk

as if it is isolated to one system) It is best to imagine your entire Self

within a cocoon or bubble of flowing healing intention ndash everywhere within

you at once You may experience color warmth safety Luxuriate in your

experience Enjoy the moment

During this intentional time it can also be helpful on a given inout cycle of

breath to silently express I send out Loving Healing On the next

inout cycle silently express I receive Loving Healing and so on

In addition if your mind wanders off task (amp it will) just gently return to

the flow of loving healing intention Remember this experience is all about

being gentle Enjoy the process

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Continue in this state for as long as you desire and is easy comfortable

and natural With practice your will naturally be at ease for longer

periods of time during each session

7 When complete express gratitude to your Self as well as to all others

sharing in this moment with you Sit in this experience of gratitude for a

few moments

8 Savor the nourishing peace you have generated

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8-STEP PRAXIS REVIEW

1 SIT in comfort

2 BREATHE slowly rhythmically

3 SCAN (head to toes) to relax further still

4 INVITE SELF to allow healing intention

5 RELATE-WITH all other CYSH members amp Spiritual Power

6 SENDRECEIVE intentional healing

ldquoI send out Loving Healingrdquo ldquoI receive Loving Healingrdquo

7 Sit in GRATITUDE

8 SAVOR the nourishing peace

I genuinely look forward to your daily participation and to sharing this powerful

healing process with you I would love to hear your experiences with your praxis

Please do feel free to email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom)

My mission is to Coach You Well

Sincerely amp Caringly

MALCOLM

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REFERENCES

1 Chopra Deepak (1994) The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success ndash A Practical Guide to

the Fulfillment of Your Dreams p76

2 Chopra Deepak (1999) A Deepak Chopra Companion Illuminations on Health and

Human Consciousness p94

3 Dyer httpwwwyoutubecomwatchv=DC-FPorUW7gampfeature=related

4 Buber Martin (1971) I And Thou

5 Intercessory prayer httpwwwcochraneorgreviewsenab000368html

6 Leskowitz httpwholistichealingresearchcom42books12

7 Schlitz httpxnetkporgpermanentejournalsum05evidencepdf

copy2009byMFDayton

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ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Malcolm Dayton LPC Cht is a Licensed Counselor with more than two decades coaching individuals and families facing chronic illness He is also certified in MindBody Medicine and Hypnotherapy

Malcolms Coaching Self Healing program is unique in that he calls on his own lifelong journey with chronic illness (multiple sclerosis asthma immune deficiency) to assist you in accessing your unique healing solutions Very simply Malcolm walks his coaching

His coaching program is truly integral-- that is healing solutions are practical in focus and applied comprehensively incorporating all dimensions of your experience from symptoms to wellness from relations within self to social relations from the physical to spiritual--a truly ecological approach to Self Healing You learn to be FULLIVINGtrade ndash to thrive beyond chronic illness

Malcolms mission is to Coach You WELL

CONTACTMalcolm Dayton LPC CHt

email mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom

phone 970-689-4247

Yes Malcolm Im ready to discover

the benefits of Self Healing Coaching NOW

Sign me up now for myCOMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION

Be Well And THRIVE Beyond Chronic Illness Now

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LEGAL

THIS PUBLICATION IS PROTECTED UNDER THE US COPYRIGHT ACT OF 1976

AND ALL OTHER APPLICABLE INTERNATIONAL FEDERAL STATE AND LOCAL

LAWS

and all rights are reserved including resale rights you are not allowed to give or sell this

Guide to anyone else If you received this publication from anyone other than

CoachingYourSelfHealing youve received a pirated copy Please contact us via e-mail

at mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom and notify us of the situation

Please note that much of this publication is based on clinical and personal experiences

and anecdotal evidence Although the author has made every reasonable attempt to

achieve complete accuracy of the content in this Guide he assumes no responsibility for

errors or omissions

Also you should use this information as you see fit and at your own risk Your particular

situation may not be exactly suited to the examples illustrated here in fact its likely that

they wont be the same and you should adjust your use of the information and

recommendations accordingly

Any trademarks service marks product names or named features are assumed to be the

property of their respective owners and are used only for reference

Finally nothing in this Guide is intended to replace common sense legal medical or other

professional advice and is meant to inform and entertain the reader So have fun and

learn with CoachingYourSelfHealing information

Copyright copy 2009 by MalcolmDayton LPC CHt All rights reserved worldwide

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TABLE OF CONTENTS

YOUR COMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION

INTRODUCTION

ANALYSIS

ldquoYOURrdquo

ldquoDAILYrdquo

ldquoSHAREDrdquo

ldquoINTENTIONALrdquo

ldquoHEALINGrdquo (beyond ldquobeing curedrdquo)

ldquoPRAXISrdquo

PRAXIS GUIDELINES

8-STEP PRAXIS REVIEW

REFERENCES

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

CONTACT INFORMATION

4

5

7

7

9

11

11

16

22

26

31

32

33

33

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YOUR COMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION

The following report provides a detailed introduction to the foundation of effective

principles and powerful tools that the author Malcolm Dayton LPC Cht has

learned developed and utilized in over 15 years of clinical work with individuals

facing chronic illness He has further honed his transformational approach by

discovering what is effective in enhancing his own daily living while addressing

chronic illness (asthma immune deficiency multiple sclerosis)

Although Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade (as described in this report) is a uniquely

powerful activity to engage in your daily wellness arsenal you can maximize

your benefits and progress more rapidly by learning to systematically apply

the broad range of Self Healing tools techniques and opportunities only available

through Coaching Your Self Healing

If you would like to maximize your results more quickly you may participate

multiple times each month in 11 coaching sessions Sessions are tailored to

your specific health and wellness situation to your specific goals and to your

abilities To experience how Your Self Healing Coaching will work for you you

may access your FREE Coaching Session (45 minutes in length) by clicking below

Yes Malcolm Im ready to discover

the benefits of Self Healing Coaching NOW

Sign me up now for myCOMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION

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INTRODUCTION

Welcome to Coaching Your Self Healing (CYSH) During your time with CYSH

you will have many opportunities to learn new and powerful self healing

tools which (when applied as you go through your daily living) will lead you

directly to experience more happiness health well-being and ease what I

call FULLIVINGtrade ndash that state of Being marked by THRIVING beyond chronic

illness

How can I make such a bold statement Because these are the same tools Ive

learned to apply over 4 decades to manage asthma immune disorder and

multiple sclerosis Moreover these are the same skills Ive taught hundreds of

others with chronic illness over the recent 15 years of my clinical practice and by

applying these abilities daily these folks too have learned to improve their daily

living beyond chronic illness to be FULLIVINGtrade

Please take time to read through this report more than once It is a rather quick

read yet so much of this information forms the foundation to your ongoing Self

Healing as much as it also lays out the process for performing your shared-

intentional-healingtrade praxis

Do take the time to apply these principles to your own daily encounter with

chronic illness Skillfully applying the process described in this report (together

with the tools provided in the article series Empower Your Self to Heal Chronic

Illness) you will at once powerfully launch and accelerate your personal

journey into Self Healing

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Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis

One of the more powerful (and empowering) practices CYSH offers you is your

daily Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis (SIHP) This compelling activity

provides various times throughout each day when you can stop the noise in your

life and focus your attention (and intention) on FULLIVINGtrade for your Self as

well as for all the members of your CYSH community At any of the scheduled

times you may take a break from the busyness of your day amp take 5 to 15

minutes to send (amp receive) shared healing intentions in concert with all the

other CYSH members The details of ldquohow tordquo participate in this shared activity

are provided later in this report

Before jumping into the mechanics however we will first take a few moments to

construct the foundation for your daily Shared-Intentional-Healingrdquotrade Praxis

Doing so will assist you in better understanding and skillfully applying this

empowering Self Healing approach

You may keep up-to-date on new or added information to this report by referring to

the tri-monthly Your Self Healing Journey News (you receive as part of your

CYSH membership) as well as by returning to the Coaching Your Self Healing blog

(httpwwwCoachingSelfHealingcomblog)

Note In this report I use the word ldquoselfrdquo in a capitalized form as ldquoSelfrdquo You may

find a detailed account on this use of ldquoSelfrdquo in the article Empower Your Self to Heal

Chronic Illness Part 1 Who is the self in Self Healing

For our purposes here Self is that deep core of you the essential being you were

at birth before defining yourself by the cultural identifiers thrust onto you growing-

up and beyond those you have used to create your place in the world

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ANALYSIS

of

Your Daily Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis

ldquoYOURrdquo

First this is truly YOUR activity You may do this at whatever times you choose

and on whatever days feel right for you You may choose to participate once per

day or more frequently on certain days This is YOUR Self Healing program

You access the benefits by proactively participating in SIHP FULLIVINGtrade

benefits accrue as you routinely apply and participate in this approach As you

feel more comfortable and natural during your sessions you may notice you are

more relaxed and calm as you carry out the remainder of your day Symptoms

may seem less troubling less intense and easier to manage You can notice an

improvement in your general mood and more felt-moments of happiness The

fact that you know you are participating not only for your own benefit but the

benefit of all other CYSH members will bring a smile to your face and a

meaningful sense of Self worth for giving so genuinely from your heart

You may also discover applying SIHP can help with the more difficult times you

face Imagine you have been participating in shared-intentional-healingtrade

sessions at about 1 session per day Then because of a virus or change in

medications you enter a more difficult period of heightened symptoms perhaps

leading to a drop-off in your participation Two things to keep in mind here

1 You may email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom) to request other CYSH

members keep YOU in our special intentions during the times we are

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participating in SIHP each day

You do not need to provide identifying information merely some information

about your age gender and what you may be going through at this time This

will assist other members to generate an image of who your are as we focus

our healing intentions for you

2 During these more challenging times you may discover you can access

even more energy and peace by actually increasing the number of times

each day you participate in sessions Please do test this out for yourself

over time

This is not only your program but the process itself is yours as well that is YOU

define what intentional healing is for you according to your history and

experiences your desires and goals No person outside of you can clarify the

means by which you define and measure healing progress nor what results or

goals are more or less important to you as you apply the skills you learn in the

Coaching Your Self Healing program

The steps outlined later in this report are merely guidelines to assist you in

participating in your daily Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis They serve as

guides suggestions to help you get started You will find your own unique way to

participate ndash the way that simply works best for you

So please do explore the process play with it and have fun Whenever you do

come across some variation that is particularly beneficial please send it along to

me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom) so I may pass it along to benefit other

members in our CYSH community

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ldquoDAILYrdquo

You may choose among eight times each day to participate in this practice

900 AM amp PM EST 1200 AM amp PM EST 300 AM amp PM EST and 600 AM amp

PM EST The eight times are provided in order for CYSH members from around

the globe to participate at a convenient time in your time zone as well as

convenient to your schedule around the clock each day Clearly you may

participate at any of the session times regardless of your location

If for some reason you cannot participate during any of these times please do

email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom) so I may be informed of any

scheduling problems that I am not currently taking into consideration My goal

here is to develop a daily schedule that works for everyone around the globe (and

around the clock each day) To start out I would encourage you to set a

reminder alarm a few minutes before your scheduled time ndash at least until you

have formed a comfortable habit of participating in the sessions

I will be present and participate during at least two sessions everyday and I will

rotate through session times each day That way at least every four days you

and I will be attending together at the same time Please understand however

there is never any expectation for you to participate at any particular time(s) nor

on any given day When you participate depends solely on your inner comfort

and your positive intention when you do take part

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Providing so many times is meant solely as a way to coordinate our attention and

energies in synchrony with other community members There is no need to be

concerned about the ldquorightrdquo time to participate As already noted your energies

are better-focused on being-present your comfort and on positive intention

There simply is no ldquorightrdquo time just the time that is right for you

Another advantage of having eight scheduled times each day is to provide

flexibility for you to adjust your participation in response to changes in your

symptom experiences As noted earlier when going through more difficult

symptomatic periods that are disrupting to your routine participating in

additional praxis times (rather than focusing on symptoms) may assist you with

limiting intensity and duration of the exacerbation ndash particularly by generating

more relaxation and rest

Still another helpful way you may consider your praxis ldquotimerdquo has been clarified

by Einstein physicists and spiritual leaders through history What they have

shown us is that ldquotimerdquo is a construct (a ldquoboxrdquo) and is not really ldquoout thererdquo at

all Indeed if ldquotimerdquo exists it can only be NOW

Such a perspective can be extremely nourishing when considering what Deepak

Chopra MD and Wayne Dyer PhD call the ldquogaprdquo The gap is that experience in

which you are ldquocenteredrdquo in the ldquosilent space between thoughtsrdquo When in the

gap you are at that ldquolevel of Being which is your essential staterdquo1 This

experience of being-in-the-gap is timeless ndash rdquothe womb of creationrdquo2 It is within

this state of experience that healing occurs

As you perform your praxis each day you will naturally and directly begin to

experience the timeless-being of the gap firsthand Once you recognize this

experience you will realize that whatever time of day you actually participate in

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SIHP you are doing it in the same NOW as all other CYSH members ndash even

though your session ldquoclock timesrdquo differ throughout the day

ldquoSHAREDrdquo

Remember the key here is that you are surrounding your Self with the one

heartbeat of all the other community members Your attention your energy

and your intentions are SHARED by all ndash just as their energies and intentions are

shared with and for you It is this attitude of sharing-with a wholehearted

giving-to that is key to this approach It is very simple As you give from

your heart-of-caring so you will receive

Be comforted in knowing that by simply participating once a day (after even a

few short days) you will begin to feel more comfortable more at ease more at

peace now than you may have experienced in years AND you know you are

contributing to the FULLIVINGtrade of others that is contributing beyond well-

being into the very heart of healing Trust me when I say your peace and your

giving heart provide a strong (and necessary) foundation on which to build

healing for each of us and of all of us together

ldquoINTENTIONALrdquo

So what does it mean to be INTENTIONAL One of the most helpful reviews of

ldquointentionrdquo is provided by Wayne Dyer PhD3 In Dyers The Power of Intention

(2005) he describes how we may ldquowishrdquo for something to occur in our lives but

such wishing is only a beginning

We may also choose to take the next step beyond wishing to ldquodesirerdquo Desire

results in taking action on the wish and is proactively distinct from wishing It is

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with desire that we now straight-forwardly make the ldquoaskrdquo (as in ldquoask and you

shall receiverdquo)

Still again we can step-up the intensity of our activity even more (beyond

wishing and asking) that is we may frame our desire in terms of what we

actually ldquointend to createrdquo Stop here for a moment close your eyes and feel

the power in these words I INTEND TO CREATE Period And again

I INTEND TO CREATE

We are very matter-of-fact about bringing the thing wished for desired

requested into experience No doubt No fear Creating healing now is simply a

given that occurs by way of you actively participating Period

Such intention-to-create by definition requires both commitment and passion

With commitment we are beyond ldquotryingrdquo to make the thing happen and

instead move into what I call devotion-to-creating (from the original French

devovere ldquodedicated by a vowrdquo) With such devotion we experience a much

deeper more profound state of being an awareness beyond ego

Devotion-to-creating allows you to act beyond the ldquooughtsrdquo and ldquoshouldsrdquo of

others beyond your own doubts and fears beyond obligation and guilt and

directly to the heart of being inspired (ldquodrawing in of airrdquo ldquoinspiritrdquo) that is you

are drawn into relation-with the powerful and empowering Source that creates

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It is by being inspired that you meet the paradox at the heart of ldquointendingrdquo As

you proactively intend-to-create you naturally come to experience being

committed devoted and inspired however you actually create only inasmuch as

you allow your Self to follow the flow of your inspiration naturally ndash that is as

you open your Self to receive Therefore as you intend to heal you must

also open to receive healing

As such it is important you recognize healing happens as you ldquoget out of your

own wayrdquo beyond intellect desire doubt and ego How do we do that How do

we get out of our own way beyond ego Very simply you do that by allowing

your Self to trust your healing

Please take a moment here to recall a time when you were injured in some way

(maybe a cut or broken bone) Beyond receiving necessary medical assistance

what did you do to mend to heal Once attended to medically its likely that you

never gave the actual processes of ldquohealingrdquo much thought ndash dying cells cleared

away new cells forming and eventually performing as if they had been there all

along as if nothing ever happened Healing just occurred your part was to trust

the process take good care of yourself and allow it Whether conscious or not

you simply trusted yourself to heal

It is that same trust you must have as you now commit-to-create intentional

healing Your whole Self system ldquoknowsrdquo how and what needs healing and in

what specific sequence of steps healing must occur Self does not need the

agreement of intellect or common sense to proceed naturally with healing Self

has been carrying out that process every nano-second of every day of your life ndash

simultaneously coordinating trillions of biochemical and energetic activities in

every cell of your entire being Heart beats lungs breath intestines digest and

your job is simply to get out of your own way and trust your Self to heal

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As you do alongside this intense Self-trust and commitment-to-create (our vow)

passion takes over and leads the way beyond common sense beyond

doubting intellect beyond beliefs and even beyond perceptions Such intense

passion emanating from your heart is very simply ldquoagaperdquo (selfless Love) In

this state you no longer experience others as separate bounded subject-object

(I-It) rather you share together in a living boundless oneness-of-relating

honoring the encounter by giving your present and your presence to the

sacredness of ldquoI-Thourdquo4

Map of HEALING INTENTION

I WISH

I DESIRE (ASK)

I INTEND-TO-CREATE

INCLUDES I COMMIT-TO-CREATE (I Vow = Devotion-to-creating)

I AM PASSIONATE

(I am Inspired)

PARADOX OF INTENDING (I Allow I Receive I Trust My Self to Heal)

I-THOU (Agape)

Figure copy2009 by MFDayton

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It is this deep experience of heartfelt passion and selfless Love you are aiming to

access directly (and share) when you intend from the heart when you are

performing your shared-intentional-healingtrade praxis

So once again stop for a moment now to imagine Imagine the tremendous

healing power at your disposal when you step into your shared session each day

with the intention-to-create healing It means you are committing to heal

vowing to heal trusting your Self to heal by way of your impassioned

heart You are giving your presence to merge as one-heartbeat in

synchrony and selfless love with all other CYSH members in this moment

now Therein lies the true power of your healing intention

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ldquoHEALINGrdquo (beyond ldquobeing curedrdquo)

Clearly what we intend to create during each praxis is HEALING your healing

healing for other members my healing and our healing together as one Yet do

you really know what you mean when you say ldquoI intend to healrdquo

Whenever we take time to reflect on the notion of ldquohealingrdquo typically one of the

first things that bubbles up into awareness is some hope of being ldquocuredrdquo Given

the difficulties and challenges we can face in just making it through even the

most simple of daily activities ldquocurerdquo can be so very inviting Indeed given the

opportunity who of us wouldnt want to be cured of a chronic illness And cured

NOW

Yet by seeking to ldquobe curedrdquo we can become entrenched in even more intense

challenges and symptom exacerbation How could that be What could

possibly be wrong with hoping for a cure

There is nothing wrong with hoping dreaming goal setting Indeed these

activities can provide momentum power purpose and direction to an otherwise

difficult day Yet the moment we turn our attention to ldquobeing curedrdquo our focus

immediately comes to rest on that which we desire to be ldquocured ofrdquo to ldquoget away

fromrdquo and it is here we become derailed Its like the age-old challenge to ldquonot

think of a blue elephantrdquo We must first conceive such a beast before we cannot

think about it

So too with ldquocurerdquo ndash We must first converge our attention and energies even

more intensely on the illness and the symptoms we wish to cease Clearly this

activity takes us in the opposite direction from the relief and health we are

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seeking In fact it is the same process described by Cheri Huber in one of her

more remarkable books entitled That Which You Are Seeking Is Causing You To

Seek (1990) Take a moment now to think about her title in relation to ldquoThe cure

I am seeking is rdquo In short to focus on cure heightens our experience of

dis-ease

To clarify even further when we focus on such moving-away-from-activities we

have no clear vision of what it is we are moving toward Without such clarity our

odds of failing escalate exponentially Success happens only as we also move

toward clearly-defined desires and goals A simple yet powerful example is this

years 40th anniversary of the Apollo 11 moon landing Was that ldquogiant steprdquo

successful because the leaders at NASA focused energy solely on how to create

escape velocity to ldquoget away fromrdquo earth ndash or also on how to get onto the moon

Another helpful example is wanting ldquoout ofrdquo a job Im sure you know of someone

(perhaps yourself) intent on getting away from the daily grind of hisher job Yet

when she did successfully leave that employment inevitably and much too soon

the same situation landslides into the daily grind of the next job Repeating old

patterns of struggle is a very clear sign of actions based on moving-away-

from goals This is a key principle to apply to all aspects of your daily living

The reason this occurs with the get-me-outta-here script is that whatever change

may happen generally does so from ldquowithoutrdquo At best we change scenery Its

the old grass-is-greener scenario ndash which is really no change at all

The inherent problem here can be even more perilous as we see when we take a

closer look at the wording ldquobeing curedrdquo We tend to redirect our attention from

within (our source of creative power) to some force outside that causes the cure

for us (whether that be by way of a physician a healer natural substances

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medications treatments or God)

On some level we tell ourselves if I could figure out what was happening to get

into this situation (ie chronic illness) I would be able to figure out how to get

out of it but (and heres the rub) since I cant I begin to believe less and less in

my innate healing power and more and more that such power must lie outside of

me ndash with an outside force greater than me (whether medical natural or

spiritual)

Please be clear on this point This is not to underplay the importance of qualified

medical professionals to your progress The same is true of the importance and

value of your spirituality and relation-with God Source Higher Power The point

to take away here is that you can only access the benefits of such healing

relations when YOU are first centered and strong in your own being ndash when you

approach your Self as a sacred Thou

Therefore in the situation where you reflexively turn over your power to heal (to

an outside agent) understand the ensuing damage you risk to your sense of Self

Not only are you diminishing belief in your inherent strength and healing power

you are also at risk of allowing others to determine what is best for your well-

being (perhaps even against your deeper intuitive knowing) all of which only

serves to further undermine Self-esteem and the tremendous power that comes

from believing in your Self

Even our religious upbringing can paradoxically weaken our beliefs regarding the

possibility of cure We learn at a deep level that ldquocurerdquo lies only in the realm of

the miraculous Such an orientation can weaken belief in the possibility of ldquome

being cured nowrdquo In fact when being completely honest many of us feel the

odds of ldquome being cured nowrdquo are as slim or slimmer than winning a million dollar

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lottery And when it does not happen were faced with the more daunting issue

of how I must somehow be ldquoflawedrdquo Clearly such underlying attitudes provide

no foundation on which to construct change much less the dramatic change

required with the desire to ldquobe curedrdquo [Here I recommend another Huber book

There Is Nothing Wrong with You Going Beyond Self-Hate (2001)]

In the end when focused on ldquobeing curedrdquo you may not only become separate

from your innate healing power within but you risk the ultimate medical

mistreatment becoming an object to be worked-on mechanically From here it

can be a rapid slide into the role of ldquovictimrdquo whereby you relinquish your

responsibility for choosing altogether (ie intending-to-create) how it is you truly

desire to be In short you risk losing the creative power of intention required to

give birth to healing

By the mid eighties I had been on daily prednisone for over a decade to control

severe bouts of status asthmaticus and recurrent pneumonia Because the

deleterious side-effects of prednisone included adrenal insufficiency (an impaired

stress response) I knew in my heart-of-hearts one key to my well-being lay in

recovering my atrophied stress axis by discontinuing daily prednisone For years

I pleaded with my pulmonary specialist to assist me in tapering off and relearning

how to live prednisone-free Together we did make a few unsuccessful attempts

only to recycle back into another respiratory infection and still higher doses of

prednisone By this time his posture was that I needed to remain on daily

prednisone ldquofor the rest of my liferdquo My posture was to fire him

Fortunately and in short-order I began working with an internist who over the

next two years laid out a plan to become prednisone-free ndash which we did

together successfully Two significant points must be clearly recognized here

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1 You must believe in your innate healing power and if you do not

currently this then becomes your launch pad for your healing journey ndash

relearning to empower your Self to heal

2 You are not in this alone You require the good works of others in

alignment with you to successfully heal As such you need to be very

selective in picking those others with whom you relate to enhance your

medical well-being

If you are feeling your medical support is sapping your power and authority

they probably are but you dont throw the baby out with the bath This is

not about releasing physicians this is about being in a healing

relationship-with your medical professional(s) of choice

Additional cultural biases arise with a focus on ldquocurerdquo Any true change with

regard to chronic illness implies a change ldquofor the betterrdquo That requires us to

believe with certainty that such change can and will bring improvement After

more than fifteen years working with individuals with chronic illness (including

my Self) it is the rare individual Ive encountered who truly believes (from the

core) ldquoI will be curedrdquo We wish for cure certainly but believing with certainty ldquoI

will be curedrdquo rarely

An origin of not believing in ldquobeing curedrdquo lies in the way we traditionally use the

term One problem in particular is that ldquocurerdquo is not a ldquonowrdquo concept -- that is

something I trust to experience now rather we tend to use ldquocurerdquo in a future-

oriented manner of hoping-for-something-to-happen or (at-best) asking-for

maybe praying for cure to happen Yet it is not in the future that you and I

create anything and this is particularly relevant to healing We only create in

the NOW

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Finally even greater issues arise when we attempt to determine precisely what

we mean by the term ldquocurerdquo As one example are you cured when there is ldquoan

end to the disease processrdquo or could that be ldquoremissionrdquo

Does ldquocurerdquo mean a ldquoreturn to full functioningrdquo (ie as I was before the process

started) Is that even possible Consider the case of a disease process that has

already resulted in disfigurement or amputation What does ldquocurerdquo mean in those

situations

Does ldquocurerdquo mean ldquosymptoms are gonerdquo If so are we then cured when

medications relieve or mask the symptoms altogether Do you understand the

quagmire here

It is for all these reasons above that few people are ever truly ldquocuredrdquo of

anything even if we do allow for those who have experienced ldquomiracle curesrdquo

(which are certainly the exception not the norm) Yet when you and I consider

ldquomy situation nowrdquo we need to have the strength of certainty that improvement

is not only possible but immanent

So if not ldquocurerdquo then what You already know the answer And the answer is

ldquohealingrdquo In the end if ldquocurerdquo is anything it is a future-oriented

disempowering mechanical phenomenon at the physical level In contrast

ldquohealingrdquo is an ongoing process (in this moment) of whole-Self transformation

Consider when we truly and proactively ldquohealrdquo we are creating (now) from the

very depths of our core within We are intending-to-create with all the intensity

and power of commitment passion and agape that arises in creative

transformation It is this innate source of inner power to which we must first

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return ldquoas little childrenrdquo in order to initiate healing

We mask nothing when healing now rather we take an active and response-able

role in bringing peace joy and love directly into our daily lives and the lives of

those we touch NOW this moment and in as many moments as we allow

It is from this strong shared intentional healing foundation that we live with the

most power any human being can possibly experience in alignment with in I-

Thou relation-with in the selfless Love that is the very Source of all creation

This process of transformational healing envelops and extends beyond cure at any

level and unlike ldquocurerdquo it is not some static condition at which we arrive (by

the grace of some outside benevolent authority) Rather such transformational

healing is an ongoing process of BEING-a-certain-way in strength in power

in wisdom in loving relation-with (not only Self but Source God Higher Power)

Let this loving empowered healing be the deep transformation you intend ndash your

moment-to-moment empowered healing transformation from core within

ldquoPRAXISrdquo

We finally come to the term PRAXIS Clients often ask why I use ldquopraxisrdquo rather

than something more familiar like ldquopracticerdquo or ldquoexerciserdquo My answer is very

simple and straight-forward

First we can quickly dispense with the term ldquoexerciserdquo Do you really want to

ldquoexerciserdquo intentional healing each day ndash or would you rather just skip having to

exercise any more than you already know you need to do Enough said

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Now imagine I invite you to ldquoplease make sure and practice your intentional

healing each dayrdquo How do you feel then For me it brings up that I must not

be very good at it especially if I need to be practicing every day

Consider now how you feel when I invite you to ldquoskillfully applyrdquo the intentional

healing process in comfort Doesnt ldquoskillful applicationrdquo feel much more

empowering than ldquopracticingrdquo Since ldquopraxisrdquo means ldquoskillful applicationrdquo isnt it

much more inviting to approach your intentional healing sessions with skill

And you will as you become more comfortable applying the process each day

Other folks also ask if shared-intentional-healingtrade wouldnt be better considered

an ldquoexperimentrdquo much like Lynn McTaggarts The Intention Experiment (2007) I

can see how the notion of an ldquoexperimentrdquo carries with it some sense of intrigue

but ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately represent the experience that is shared-

intentional-healingtrade

First (as we learned in our discussion of ldquointentionalrdquo above) when we participate

in Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade we are as a matter-of-fact intending-to-create

healing Such activity cannot be an ldquoexperimentrdquo or we lose the certainty

required for healing change Rather we set out to generate an experience-of-

relating that is powered by being committed empassioned and selflessly loving

You can likely identify such a committed passionate selflessly loving experience

from some time in your life ndash whether in love among family through an

impassioned hobby in seeking some goal or perhaps spiritually As you already

know such an experience is not something we wish-for or hope-for or need to

wait and see what happens It is simply a loving relating-with experience we

already know how to have We just be it and do it

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Moreover (as I suggested above) there is palpable transformation that occurs

within each of us as we gain comfort participating in shared-intentional-healingtrade

This transformational experience happens through your participation and it will

happen for you ndash no need to experiment just simply participate

Moreover at the heart of it the notion of ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately reflect

the research to date on ldquointentionrdquo and ldquohealingrdquo As an example a 1997 review

of research on ldquoIntercessory Prayer for the Alleviation of Ill Healthrdquo by Roberts

Ahmed Hall amp Davison reports individual studies suggest a positive effect of

intercessory prayer But since they viewed other reports in which the results

were equivocal they conclude no ldquo further trials of this intervention should be

takenrdquo5

Regrettably they miss the point The fact that studies DO exist reporting a

positive correlation between intercessory prayer and the alleviation of ill health is

precisely the reason more studies should be undertaken Edison found hundreds

of approaches that were equivocal before discovering a singular lighting solution

Thank goodness he did not conclude any further trials were unnecessary before

arriving at that solution

When it comes to this uniquely intimate subject of healing Eric Leskowitz MD

(in a review of the book Healing Intention amp Energy Medicine (2002) by Wayne

Jonas MD) explains how such conflicting conclusions like Roberts etal come

about Dr Leskowitz notes when he is in discussions with his allopathic medical

colleagues regarding ldquo inexplicable phenomena like energy healing or

intercessory prayer a sort of allopathic fear reflex kicks inrdquo6 Conclusions

become tunnel-visioned and skewed against even the possibility of such

correlation existing anywhere at any time Hence no further trials

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You may however verify for yourself such positively-correlated research does

indeed already exist by reviewing the studies in Jonas book (above) In

addition Marilyn Schlitz PhD provides a brief outline of just some of those

ldquopositive correlationrdquo studies that highlight the ldquointerface of science spirituality

and medicinerdquo7

If you would like an even more in-depth review I refer you to Consciousness amp

Healing Integral Approaches to Mind-Body Medicine (2005) by Schlitz Amorok

and Micozzi as well as the more recent (2008) Holistic Nursing A Handbook for Practice

5th edition by Dossey amp Keegan

In sum although experimental research has certainly not provided the final

answers on the relation between intention and healing the research to date is

most certainly beyond the ldquoequivocalrdquo suggested by those reflexively reacting

from allopathic fear Those studies completed to date which do display a positive

correlation between intention and healing are already providing a strong practical

foundation of powerful techniques and approaches that go far beyond

ldquoexperimentingrdquo and straight to the heart of skillful-application in daily living

Shared-Intentional-Healingrdquotrade is just one such approach you may access today

and everyday simply by participating in your daily praxis

With the above foundation in mind we can now move on to

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PRAXIS GUIDELINES

Having considered in some depth the foundation on which this method rests we

may now turn to the guidelines describing ldquohow tordquo participate in your daily

Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis

Before you approach your first intentional session please read through the

description and suggestions below Remember these opportunities are for YOU

to BENEFIT YOU Again there is no right way nor wrong way for you to

participate You simply participate in your own best way Therefore as noted

previously the description below is solely meant as a guided outline to assist you

in jump-starting your participation ndash sharing with you some ideas that have

already worked well for others in our Community

For this to be beneficial for everyone please do your best to allot at least 5 to

15 minutes for each intentional session If you are already seasoned at

sitting in quiet you certainly may choose to go longer (eg 30) and you can

trust there are other CYSH members continuing in synchrony with you

To start out let your sessions be for shorter periods of time You will experience

a natural increase in length of participation without having to think about it or

plan for it This is not a race nor a test of endurance This is a nourishing of

Self and a cultivation of your best healing intentions Be gentle

In the beginning it can also be helpful if you imagine sending out your healing

intentions in a particular direction around the globe and returning to you from

the opposite direction This way as you imagine can assist you in creating a

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ldquoflowrdquo with regard to directing intentional healing to all others around the globe

As you become more adept you will very naturally be able to generate healing

images radiating from your whole being equally in all directions You will

become aware there is no particular ldquoupdownrdquo in space-time There is just

ldquoeverywhere hererdquo that is always at the center of the universe ndash as you are at all

times and as is each member

Finally please know you may also invite your friends and loved ones to share

with you in these sessions If they cannot participate with you ask them (at

minimum) to set their healing intention for you and send it like a gift to you each

day This can be helpful to them as well knowing they are actively supporting

you with their selfless loving healing

So let us begin with a session description I have broken it down into 8 separate

action steps below

1 First make time to just sit and be comfortable (nothing ldquoto dordquo now)

Loosen any tight clothing

2 Begin breathing slowly until you relax into a comfortable natural pace

This is a time for gentleness Simply allow experience to happen and

follow experience moment-to-moment as you proceed

3 Slowly scan your entire being from head to toes inside and out If you

notice any part of you in tension just allow it to relax naturally and

dissolve with each out-breath

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Note It may take you 2 or more breathing cycles to notice the muscles in a

particular area begin to relax There are times as well when you may just

need to continue on with your scan trusting that the area will release as you

proceed Again this is time for gentle following

4 Once relaxed (as much as may be possible for now) INVITE your Self to

allow and receive healing intention and healing love

Note This may not feel natural or normal within and like a child the

knee-jerk reaction may indeed be to rebel You are merely sending an

invitation nothing more As you repeat this intentional healing invitation

each day you will soon begin to notice that you are indeed looking forward

to this opportunity

5 You are now comfortable relaxed and intentional within It is time now

to image all the other CYSH Members with whom you are sharing this

time Know they too are seeking to generate healing for your challenges

just as you are for theirs Depending on your beliefs it is here that you

may also invite connect with your source of spiritual power (God

Source Higher Power Buddha) to participate with you

6 Spend the next minutes imagining a Circle of Intentional Healing

Energy flowing into you from all the others and out from you to all

others Allow it to be easy natural like the earthrsquos flow of water

circulating from sky to earth and back to sky simply relax into this flow

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Note It may help to imagine your healing intentions emanating from about

2 finger-widths behind and about 3 finger-widths below your navel This

site (known as the ldquolower dan tienrdquo or ldquoharardquo) is considered the physical

center of gravity around which you are in perfect balance

From this point you can imagine healing intention flowing up your trunk

through your neck and head and out the top of your head to the other

CYSH members

The healing intention returning to you can be experienced as coming into

you at the same center of gravity point from which you started

Important Do not attempt to localize your intentions to any one region

within (brain heart liver etc) the reason being that a given illness process

occurs across and between physiological systems (even though we may talk

as if it is isolated to one system) It is best to imagine your entire Self

within a cocoon or bubble of flowing healing intention ndash everywhere within

you at once You may experience color warmth safety Luxuriate in your

experience Enjoy the moment

During this intentional time it can also be helpful on a given inout cycle of

breath to silently express I send out Loving Healing On the next

inout cycle silently express I receive Loving Healing and so on

In addition if your mind wanders off task (amp it will) just gently return to

the flow of loving healing intention Remember this experience is all about

being gentle Enjoy the process

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Continue in this state for as long as you desire and is easy comfortable

and natural With practice your will naturally be at ease for longer

periods of time during each session

7 When complete express gratitude to your Self as well as to all others

sharing in this moment with you Sit in this experience of gratitude for a

few moments

8 Savor the nourishing peace you have generated

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8-STEP PRAXIS REVIEW

1 SIT in comfort

2 BREATHE slowly rhythmically

3 SCAN (head to toes) to relax further still

4 INVITE SELF to allow healing intention

5 RELATE-WITH all other CYSH members amp Spiritual Power

6 SENDRECEIVE intentional healing

ldquoI send out Loving Healingrdquo ldquoI receive Loving Healingrdquo

7 Sit in GRATITUDE

8 SAVOR the nourishing peace

I genuinely look forward to your daily participation and to sharing this powerful

healing process with you I would love to hear your experiences with your praxis

Please do feel free to email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom)

My mission is to Coach You Well

Sincerely amp Caringly

MALCOLM

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REFERENCES

1 Chopra Deepak (1994) The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success ndash A Practical Guide to

the Fulfillment of Your Dreams p76

2 Chopra Deepak (1999) A Deepak Chopra Companion Illuminations on Health and

Human Consciousness p94

3 Dyer httpwwwyoutubecomwatchv=DC-FPorUW7gampfeature=related

4 Buber Martin (1971) I And Thou

5 Intercessory prayer httpwwwcochraneorgreviewsenab000368html

6 Leskowitz httpwholistichealingresearchcom42books12

7 Schlitz httpxnetkporgpermanentejournalsum05evidencepdf

copy2009byMFDayton

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ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Malcolm Dayton LPC Cht is a Licensed Counselor with more than two decades coaching individuals and families facing chronic illness He is also certified in MindBody Medicine and Hypnotherapy

Malcolms Coaching Self Healing program is unique in that he calls on his own lifelong journey with chronic illness (multiple sclerosis asthma immune deficiency) to assist you in accessing your unique healing solutions Very simply Malcolm walks his coaching

His coaching program is truly integral-- that is healing solutions are practical in focus and applied comprehensively incorporating all dimensions of your experience from symptoms to wellness from relations within self to social relations from the physical to spiritual--a truly ecological approach to Self Healing You learn to be FULLIVINGtrade ndash to thrive beyond chronic illness

Malcolms mission is to Coach You WELL

CONTACTMalcolm Dayton LPC CHt

email mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom

phone 970-689-4247

Yes Malcolm Im ready to discover

the benefits of Self Healing Coaching NOW

Sign me up now for myCOMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION

Be Well And THRIVE Beyond Chronic Illness Now

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Page 3: Thriving Beyond Chronic Illness:  Shared-Intentional-Healing Praxis

TABLE OF CONTENTS

YOUR COMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION

INTRODUCTION

ANALYSIS

ldquoYOURrdquo

ldquoDAILYrdquo

ldquoSHAREDrdquo

ldquoINTENTIONALrdquo

ldquoHEALINGrdquo (beyond ldquobeing curedrdquo)

ldquoPRAXISrdquo

PRAXIS GUIDELINES

8-STEP PRAXIS REVIEW

REFERENCES

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

CONTACT INFORMATION

4

5

7

7

9

11

11

16

22

26

31

32

33

33

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YOUR COMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION

The following report provides a detailed introduction to the foundation of effective

principles and powerful tools that the author Malcolm Dayton LPC Cht has

learned developed and utilized in over 15 years of clinical work with individuals

facing chronic illness He has further honed his transformational approach by

discovering what is effective in enhancing his own daily living while addressing

chronic illness (asthma immune deficiency multiple sclerosis)

Although Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade (as described in this report) is a uniquely

powerful activity to engage in your daily wellness arsenal you can maximize

your benefits and progress more rapidly by learning to systematically apply

the broad range of Self Healing tools techniques and opportunities only available

through Coaching Your Self Healing

If you would like to maximize your results more quickly you may participate

multiple times each month in 11 coaching sessions Sessions are tailored to

your specific health and wellness situation to your specific goals and to your

abilities To experience how Your Self Healing Coaching will work for you you

may access your FREE Coaching Session (45 minutes in length) by clicking below

Yes Malcolm Im ready to discover

the benefits of Self Healing Coaching NOW

Sign me up now for myCOMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 4 of 33

INTRODUCTION

Welcome to Coaching Your Self Healing (CYSH) During your time with CYSH

you will have many opportunities to learn new and powerful self healing

tools which (when applied as you go through your daily living) will lead you

directly to experience more happiness health well-being and ease what I

call FULLIVINGtrade ndash that state of Being marked by THRIVING beyond chronic

illness

How can I make such a bold statement Because these are the same tools Ive

learned to apply over 4 decades to manage asthma immune disorder and

multiple sclerosis Moreover these are the same skills Ive taught hundreds of

others with chronic illness over the recent 15 years of my clinical practice and by

applying these abilities daily these folks too have learned to improve their daily

living beyond chronic illness to be FULLIVINGtrade

Please take time to read through this report more than once It is a rather quick

read yet so much of this information forms the foundation to your ongoing Self

Healing as much as it also lays out the process for performing your shared-

intentional-healingtrade praxis

Do take the time to apply these principles to your own daily encounter with

chronic illness Skillfully applying the process described in this report (together

with the tools provided in the article series Empower Your Self to Heal Chronic

Illness) you will at once powerfully launch and accelerate your personal

journey into Self Healing

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Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis

One of the more powerful (and empowering) practices CYSH offers you is your

daily Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis (SIHP) This compelling activity

provides various times throughout each day when you can stop the noise in your

life and focus your attention (and intention) on FULLIVINGtrade for your Self as

well as for all the members of your CYSH community At any of the scheduled

times you may take a break from the busyness of your day amp take 5 to 15

minutes to send (amp receive) shared healing intentions in concert with all the

other CYSH members The details of ldquohow tordquo participate in this shared activity

are provided later in this report

Before jumping into the mechanics however we will first take a few moments to

construct the foundation for your daily Shared-Intentional-Healingrdquotrade Praxis

Doing so will assist you in better understanding and skillfully applying this

empowering Self Healing approach

You may keep up-to-date on new or added information to this report by referring to

the tri-monthly Your Self Healing Journey News (you receive as part of your

CYSH membership) as well as by returning to the Coaching Your Self Healing blog

(httpwwwCoachingSelfHealingcomblog)

Note In this report I use the word ldquoselfrdquo in a capitalized form as ldquoSelfrdquo You may

find a detailed account on this use of ldquoSelfrdquo in the article Empower Your Self to Heal

Chronic Illness Part 1 Who is the self in Self Healing

For our purposes here Self is that deep core of you the essential being you were

at birth before defining yourself by the cultural identifiers thrust onto you growing-

up and beyond those you have used to create your place in the world

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ANALYSIS

of

Your Daily Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis

ldquoYOURrdquo

First this is truly YOUR activity You may do this at whatever times you choose

and on whatever days feel right for you You may choose to participate once per

day or more frequently on certain days This is YOUR Self Healing program

You access the benefits by proactively participating in SIHP FULLIVINGtrade

benefits accrue as you routinely apply and participate in this approach As you

feel more comfortable and natural during your sessions you may notice you are

more relaxed and calm as you carry out the remainder of your day Symptoms

may seem less troubling less intense and easier to manage You can notice an

improvement in your general mood and more felt-moments of happiness The

fact that you know you are participating not only for your own benefit but the

benefit of all other CYSH members will bring a smile to your face and a

meaningful sense of Self worth for giving so genuinely from your heart

You may also discover applying SIHP can help with the more difficult times you

face Imagine you have been participating in shared-intentional-healingtrade

sessions at about 1 session per day Then because of a virus or change in

medications you enter a more difficult period of heightened symptoms perhaps

leading to a drop-off in your participation Two things to keep in mind here

1 You may email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom) to request other CYSH

members keep YOU in our special intentions during the times we are

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 7 of 33

participating in SIHP each day

You do not need to provide identifying information merely some information

about your age gender and what you may be going through at this time This

will assist other members to generate an image of who your are as we focus

our healing intentions for you

2 During these more challenging times you may discover you can access

even more energy and peace by actually increasing the number of times

each day you participate in sessions Please do test this out for yourself

over time

This is not only your program but the process itself is yours as well that is YOU

define what intentional healing is for you according to your history and

experiences your desires and goals No person outside of you can clarify the

means by which you define and measure healing progress nor what results or

goals are more or less important to you as you apply the skills you learn in the

Coaching Your Self Healing program

The steps outlined later in this report are merely guidelines to assist you in

participating in your daily Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis They serve as

guides suggestions to help you get started You will find your own unique way to

participate ndash the way that simply works best for you

So please do explore the process play with it and have fun Whenever you do

come across some variation that is particularly beneficial please send it along to

me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom) so I may pass it along to benefit other

members in our CYSH community

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ldquoDAILYrdquo

You may choose among eight times each day to participate in this practice

900 AM amp PM EST 1200 AM amp PM EST 300 AM amp PM EST and 600 AM amp

PM EST The eight times are provided in order for CYSH members from around

the globe to participate at a convenient time in your time zone as well as

convenient to your schedule around the clock each day Clearly you may

participate at any of the session times regardless of your location

If for some reason you cannot participate during any of these times please do

email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom) so I may be informed of any

scheduling problems that I am not currently taking into consideration My goal

here is to develop a daily schedule that works for everyone around the globe (and

around the clock each day) To start out I would encourage you to set a

reminder alarm a few minutes before your scheduled time ndash at least until you

have formed a comfortable habit of participating in the sessions

I will be present and participate during at least two sessions everyday and I will

rotate through session times each day That way at least every four days you

and I will be attending together at the same time Please understand however

there is never any expectation for you to participate at any particular time(s) nor

on any given day When you participate depends solely on your inner comfort

and your positive intention when you do take part

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Providing so many times is meant solely as a way to coordinate our attention and

energies in synchrony with other community members There is no need to be

concerned about the ldquorightrdquo time to participate As already noted your energies

are better-focused on being-present your comfort and on positive intention

There simply is no ldquorightrdquo time just the time that is right for you

Another advantage of having eight scheduled times each day is to provide

flexibility for you to adjust your participation in response to changes in your

symptom experiences As noted earlier when going through more difficult

symptomatic periods that are disrupting to your routine participating in

additional praxis times (rather than focusing on symptoms) may assist you with

limiting intensity and duration of the exacerbation ndash particularly by generating

more relaxation and rest

Still another helpful way you may consider your praxis ldquotimerdquo has been clarified

by Einstein physicists and spiritual leaders through history What they have

shown us is that ldquotimerdquo is a construct (a ldquoboxrdquo) and is not really ldquoout thererdquo at

all Indeed if ldquotimerdquo exists it can only be NOW

Such a perspective can be extremely nourishing when considering what Deepak

Chopra MD and Wayne Dyer PhD call the ldquogaprdquo The gap is that experience in

which you are ldquocenteredrdquo in the ldquosilent space between thoughtsrdquo When in the

gap you are at that ldquolevel of Being which is your essential staterdquo1 This

experience of being-in-the-gap is timeless ndash rdquothe womb of creationrdquo2 It is within

this state of experience that healing occurs

As you perform your praxis each day you will naturally and directly begin to

experience the timeless-being of the gap firsthand Once you recognize this

experience you will realize that whatever time of day you actually participate in

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SIHP you are doing it in the same NOW as all other CYSH members ndash even

though your session ldquoclock timesrdquo differ throughout the day

ldquoSHAREDrdquo

Remember the key here is that you are surrounding your Self with the one

heartbeat of all the other community members Your attention your energy

and your intentions are SHARED by all ndash just as their energies and intentions are

shared with and for you It is this attitude of sharing-with a wholehearted

giving-to that is key to this approach It is very simple As you give from

your heart-of-caring so you will receive

Be comforted in knowing that by simply participating once a day (after even a

few short days) you will begin to feel more comfortable more at ease more at

peace now than you may have experienced in years AND you know you are

contributing to the FULLIVINGtrade of others that is contributing beyond well-

being into the very heart of healing Trust me when I say your peace and your

giving heart provide a strong (and necessary) foundation on which to build

healing for each of us and of all of us together

ldquoINTENTIONALrdquo

So what does it mean to be INTENTIONAL One of the most helpful reviews of

ldquointentionrdquo is provided by Wayne Dyer PhD3 In Dyers The Power of Intention

(2005) he describes how we may ldquowishrdquo for something to occur in our lives but

such wishing is only a beginning

We may also choose to take the next step beyond wishing to ldquodesirerdquo Desire

results in taking action on the wish and is proactively distinct from wishing It is

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with desire that we now straight-forwardly make the ldquoaskrdquo (as in ldquoask and you

shall receiverdquo)

Still again we can step-up the intensity of our activity even more (beyond

wishing and asking) that is we may frame our desire in terms of what we

actually ldquointend to createrdquo Stop here for a moment close your eyes and feel

the power in these words I INTEND TO CREATE Period And again

I INTEND TO CREATE

We are very matter-of-fact about bringing the thing wished for desired

requested into experience No doubt No fear Creating healing now is simply a

given that occurs by way of you actively participating Period

Such intention-to-create by definition requires both commitment and passion

With commitment we are beyond ldquotryingrdquo to make the thing happen and

instead move into what I call devotion-to-creating (from the original French

devovere ldquodedicated by a vowrdquo) With such devotion we experience a much

deeper more profound state of being an awareness beyond ego

Devotion-to-creating allows you to act beyond the ldquooughtsrdquo and ldquoshouldsrdquo of

others beyond your own doubts and fears beyond obligation and guilt and

directly to the heart of being inspired (ldquodrawing in of airrdquo ldquoinspiritrdquo) that is you

are drawn into relation-with the powerful and empowering Source that creates

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It is by being inspired that you meet the paradox at the heart of ldquointendingrdquo As

you proactively intend-to-create you naturally come to experience being

committed devoted and inspired however you actually create only inasmuch as

you allow your Self to follow the flow of your inspiration naturally ndash that is as

you open your Self to receive Therefore as you intend to heal you must

also open to receive healing

As such it is important you recognize healing happens as you ldquoget out of your

own wayrdquo beyond intellect desire doubt and ego How do we do that How do

we get out of our own way beyond ego Very simply you do that by allowing

your Self to trust your healing

Please take a moment here to recall a time when you were injured in some way

(maybe a cut or broken bone) Beyond receiving necessary medical assistance

what did you do to mend to heal Once attended to medically its likely that you

never gave the actual processes of ldquohealingrdquo much thought ndash dying cells cleared

away new cells forming and eventually performing as if they had been there all

along as if nothing ever happened Healing just occurred your part was to trust

the process take good care of yourself and allow it Whether conscious or not

you simply trusted yourself to heal

It is that same trust you must have as you now commit-to-create intentional

healing Your whole Self system ldquoknowsrdquo how and what needs healing and in

what specific sequence of steps healing must occur Self does not need the

agreement of intellect or common sense to proceed naturally with healing Self

has been carrying out that process every nano-second of every day of your life ndash

simultaneously coordinating trillions of biochemical and energetic activities in

every cell of your entire being Heart beats lungs breath intestines digest and

your job is simply to get out of your own way and trust your Self to heal

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As you do alongside this intense Self-trust and commitment-to-create (our vow)

passion takes over and leads the way beyond common sense beyond

doubting intellect beyond beliefs and even beyond perceptions Such intense

passion emanating from your heart is very simply ldquoagaperdquo (selfless Love) In

this state you no longer experience others as separate bounded subject-object

(I-It) rather you share together in a living boundless oneness-of-relating

honoring the encounter by giving your present and your presence to the

sacredness of ldquoI-Thourdquo4

Map of HEALING INTENTION

I WISH

I DESIRE (ASK)

I INTEND-TO-CREATE

INCLUDES I COMMIT-TO-CREATE (I Vow = Devotion-to-creating)

I AM PASSIONATE

(I am Inspired)

PARADOX OF INTENDING (I Allow I Receive I Trust My Self to Heal)

I-THOU (Agape)

Figure copy2009 by MFDayton

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It is this deep experience of heartfelt passion and selfless Love you are aiming to

access directly (and share) when you intend from the heart when you are

performing your shared-intentional-healingtrade praxis

So once again stop for a moment now to imagine Imagine the tremendous

healing power at your disposal when you step into your shared session each day

with the intention-to-create healing It means you are committing to heal

vowing to heal trusting your Self to heal by way of your impassioned

heart You are giving your presence to merge as one-heartbeat in

synchrony and selfless love with all other CYSH members in this moment

now Therein lies the true power of your healing intention

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ldquoHEALINGrdquo (beyond ldquobeing curedrdquo)

Clearly what we intend to create during each praxis is HEALING your healing

healing for other members my healing and our healing together as one Yet do

you really know what you mean when you say ldquoI intend to healrdquo

Whenever we take time to reflect on the notion of ldquohealingrdquo typically one of the

first things that bubbles up into awareness is some hope of being ldquocuredrdquo Given

the difficulties and challenges we can face in just making it through even the

most simple of daily activities ldquocurerdquo can be so very inviting Indeed given the

opportunity who of us wouldnt want to be cured of a chronic illness And cured

NOW

Yet by seeking to ldquobe curedrdquo we can become entrenched in even more intense

challenges and symptom exacerbation How could that be What could

possibly be wrong with hoping for a cure

There is nothing wrong with hoping dreaming goal setting Indeed these

activities can provide momentum power purpose and direction to an otherwise

difficult day Yet the moment we turn our attention to ldquobeing curedrdquo our focus

immediately comes to rest on that which we desire to be ldquocured ofrdquo to ldquoget away

fromrdquo and it is here we become derailed Its like the age-old challenge to ldquonot

think of a blue elephantrdquo We must first conceive such a beast before we cannot

think about it

So too with ldquocurerdquo ndash We must first converge our attention and energies even

more intensely on the illness and the symptoms we wish to cease Clearly this

activity takes us in the opposite direction from the relief and health we are

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seeking In fact it is the same process described by Cheri Huber in one of her

more remarkable books entitled That Which You Are Seeking Is Causing You To

Seek (1990) Take a moment now to think about her title in relation to ldquoThe cure

I am seeking is rdquo In short to focus on cure heightens our experience of

dis-ease

To clarify even further when we focus on such moving-away-from-activities we

have no clear vision of what it is we are moving toward Without such clarity our

odds of failing escalate exponentially Success happens only as we also move

toward clearly-defined desires and goals A simple yet powerful example is this

years 40th anniversary of the Apollo 11 moon landing Was that ldquogiant steprdquo

successful because the leaders at NASA focused energy solely on how to create

escape velocity to ldquoget away fromrdquo earth ndash or also on how to get onto the moon

Another helpful example is wanting ldquoout ofrdquo a job Im sure you know of someone

(perhaps yourself) intent on getting away from the daily grind of hisher job Yet

when she did successfully leave that employment inevitably and much too soon

the same situation landslides into the daily grind of the next job Repeating old

patterns of struggle is a very clear sign of actions based on moving-away-

from goals This is a key principle to apply to all aspects of your daily living

The reason this occurs with the get-me-outta-here script is that whatever change

may happen generally does so from ldquowithoutrdquo At best we change scenery Its

the old grass-is-greener scenario ndash which is really no change at all

The inherent problem here can be even more perilous as we see when we take a

closer look at the wording ldquobeing curedrdquo We tend to redirect our attention from

within (our source of creative power) to some force outside that causes the cure

for us (whether that be by way of a physician a healer natural substances

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medications treatments or God)

On some level we tell ourselves if I could figure out what was happening to get

into this situation (ie chronic illness) I would be able to figure out how to get

out of it but (and heres the rub) since I cant I begin to believe less and less in

my innate healing power and more and more that such power must lie outside of

me ndash with an outside force greater than me (whether medical natural or

spiritual)

Please be clear on this point This is not to underplay the importance of qualified

medical professionals to your progress The same is true of the importance and

value of your spirituality and relation-with God Source Higher Power The point

to take away here is that you can only access the benefits of such healing

relations when YOU are first centered and strong in your own being ndash when you

approach your Self as a sacred Thou

Therefore in the situation where you reflexively turn over your power to heal (to

an outside agent) understand the ensuing damage you risk to your sense of Self

Not only are you diminishing belief in your inherent strength and healing power

you are also at risk of allowing others to determine what is best for your well-

being (perhaps even against your deeper intuitive knowing) all of which only

serves to further undermine Self-esteem and the tremendous power that comes

from believing in your Self

Even our religious upbringing can paradoxically weaken our beliefs regarding the

possibility of cure We learn at a deep level that ldquocurerdquo lies only in the realm of

the miraculous Such an orientation can weaken belief in the possibility of ldquome

being cured nowrdquo In fact when being completely honest many of us feel the

odds of ldquome being cured nowrdquo are as slim or slimmer than winning a million dollar

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lottery And when it does not happen were faced with the more daunting issue

of how I must somehow be ldquoflawedrdquo Clearly such underlying attitudes provide

no foundation on which to construct change much less the dramatic change

required with the desire to ldquobe curedrdquo [Here I recommend another Huber book

There Is Nothing Wrong with You Going Beyond Self-Hate (2001)]

In the end when focused on ldquobeing curedrdquo you may not only become separate

from your innate healing power within but you risk the ultimate medical

mistreatment becoming an object to be worked-on mechanically From here it

can be a rapid slide into the role of ldquovictimrdquo whereby you relinquish your

responsibility for choosing altogether (ie intending-to-create) how it is you truly

desire to be In short you risk losing the creative power of intention required to

give birth to healing

By the mid eighties I had been on daily prednisone for over a decade to control

severe bouts of status asthmaticus and recurrent pneumonia Because the

deleterious side-effects of prednisone included adrenal insufficiency (an impaired

stress response) I knew in my heart-of-hearts one key to my well-being lay in

recovering my atrophied stress axis by discontinuing daily prednisone For years

I pleaded with my pulmonary specialist to assist me in tapering off and relearning

how to live prednisone-free Together we did make a few unsuccessful attempts

only to recycle back into another respiratory infection and still higher doses of

prednisone By this time his posture was that I needed to remain on daily

prednisone ldquofor the rest of my liferdquo My posture was to fire him

Fortunately and in short-order I began working with an internist who over the

next two years laid out a plan to become prednisone-free ndash which we did

together successfully Two significant points must be clearly recognized here

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1 You must believe in your innate healing power and if you do not

currently this then becomes your launch pad for your healing journey ndash

relearning to empower your Self to heal

2 You are not in this alone You require the good works of others in

alignment with you to successfully heal As such you need to be very

selective in picking those others with whom you relate to enhance your

medical well-being

If you are feeling your medical support is sapping your power and authority

they probably are but you dont throw the baby out with the bath This is

not about releasing physicians this is about being in a healing

relationship-with your medical professional(s) of choice

Additional cultural biases arise with a focus on ldquocurerdquo Any true change with

regard to chronic illness implies a change ldquofor the betterrdquo That requires us to

believe with certainty that such change can and will bring improvement After

more than fifteen years working with individuals with chronic illness (including

my Self) it is the rare individual Ive encountered who truly believes (from the

core) ldquoI will be curedrdquo We wish for cure certainly but believing with certainty ldquoI

will be curedrdquo rarely

An origin of not believing in ldquobeing curedrdquo lies in the way we traditionally use the

term One problem in particular is that ldquocurerdquo is not a ldquonowrdquo concept -- that is

something I trust to experience now rather we tend to use ldquocurerdquo in a future-

oriented manner of hoping-for-something-to-happen or (at-best) asking-for

maybe praying for cure to happen Yet it is not in the future that you and I

create anything and this is particularly relevant to healing We only create in

the NOW

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Finally even greater issues arise when we attempt to determine precisely what

we mean by the term ldquocurerdquo As one example are you cured when there is ldquoan

end to the disease processrdquo or could that be ldquoremissionrdquo

Does ldquocurerdquo mean a ldquoreturn to full functioningrdquo (ie as I was before the process

started) Is that even possible Consider the case of a disease process that has

already resulted in disfigurement or amputation What does ldquocurerdquo mean in those

situations

Does ldquocurerdquo mean ldquosymptoms are gonerdquo If so are we then cured when

medications relieve or mask the symptoms altogether Do you understand the

quagmire here

It is for all these reasons above that few people are ever truly ldquocuredrdquo of

anything even if we do allow for those who have experienced ldquomiracle curesrdquo

(which are certainly the exception not the norm) Yet when you and I consider

ldquomy situation nowrdquo we need to have the strength of certainty that improvement

is not only possible but immanent

So if not ldquocurerdquo then what You already know the answer And the answer is

ldquohealingrdquo In the end if ldquocurerdquo is anything it is a future-oriented

disempowering mechanical phenomenon at the physical level In contrast

ldquohealingrdquo is an ongoing process (in this moment) of whole-Self transformation

Consider when we truly and proactively ldquohealrdquo we are creating (now) from the

very depths of our core within We are intending-to-create with all the intensity

and power of commitment passion and agape that arises in creative

transformation It is this innate source of inner power to which we must first

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return ldquoas little childrenrdquo in order to initiate healing

We mask nothing when healing now rather we take an active and response-able

role in bringing peace joy and love directly into our daily lives and the lives of

those we touch NOW this moment and in as many moments as we allow

It is from this strong shared intentional healing foundation that we live with the

most power any human being can possibly experience in alignment with in I-

Thou relation-with in the selfless Love that is the very Source of all creation

This process of transformational healing envelops and extends beyond cure at any

level and unlike ldquocurerdquo it is not some static condition at which we arrive (by

the grace of some outside benevolent authority) Rather such transformational

healing is an ongoing process of BEING-a-certain-way in strength in power

in wisdom in loving relation-with (not only Self but Source God Higher Power)

Let this loving empowered healing be the deep transformation you intend ndash your

moment-to-moment empowered healing transformation from core within

ldquoPRAXISrdquo

We finally come to the term PRAXIS Clients often ask why I use ldquopraxisrdquo rather

than something more familiar like ldquopracticerdquo or ldquoexerciserdquo My answer is very

simple and straight-forward

First we can quickly dispense with the term ldquoexerciserdquo Do you really want to

ldquoexerciserdquo intentional healing each day ndash or would you rather just skip having to

exercise any more than you already know you need to do Enough said

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Now imagine I invite you to ldquoplease make sure and practice your intentional

healing each dayrdquo How do you feel then For me it brings up that I must not

be very good at it especially if I need to be practicing every day

Consider now how you feel when I invite you to ldquoskillfully applyrdquo the intentional

healing process in comfort Doesnt ldquoskillful applicationrdquo feel much more

empowering than ldquopracticingrdquo Since ldquopraxisrdquo means ldquoskillful applicationrdquo isnt it

much more inviting to approach your intentional healing sessions with skill

And you will as you become more comfortable applying the process each day

Other folks also ask if shared-intentional-healingtrade wouldnt be better considered

an ldquoexperimentrdquo much like Lynn McTaggarts The Intention Experiment (2007) I

can see how the notion of an ldquoexperimentrdquo carries with it some sense of intrigue

but ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately represent the experience that is shared-

intentional-healingtrade

First (as we learned in our discussion of ldquointentionalrdquo above) when we participate

in Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade we are as a matter-of-fact intending-to-create

healing Such activity cannot be an ldquoexperimentrdquo or we lose the certainty

required for healing change Rather we set out to generate an experience-of-

relating that is powered by being committed empassioned and selflessly loving

You can likely identify such a committed passionate selflessly loving experience

from some time in your life ndash whether in love among family through an

impassioned hobby in seeking some goal or perhaps spiritually As you already

know such an experience is not something we wish-for or hope-for or need to

wait and see what happens It is simply a loving relating-with experience we

already know how to have We just be it and do it

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Moreover (as I suggested above) there is palpable transformation that occurs

within each of us as we gain comfort participating in shared-intentional-healingtrade

This transformational experience happens through your participation and it will

happen for you ndash no need to experiment just simply participate

Moreover at the heart of it the notion of ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately reflect

the research to date on ldquointentionrdquo and ldquohealingrdquo As an example a 1997 review

of research on ldquoIntercessory Prayer for the Alleviation of Ill Healthrdquo by Roberts

Ahmed Hall amp Davison reports individual studies suggest a positive effect of

intercessory prayer But since they viewed other reports in which the results

were equivocal they conclude no ldquo further trials of this intervention should be

takenrdquo5

Regrettably they miss the point The fact that studies DO exist reporting a

positive correlation between intercessory prayer and the alleviation of ill health is

precisely the reason more studies should be undertaken Edison found hundreds

of approaches that were equivocal before discovering a singular lighting solution

Thank goodness he did not conclude any further trials were unnecessary before

arriving at that solution

When it comes to this uniquely intimate subject of healing Eric Leskowitz MD

(in a review of the book Healing Intention amp Energy Medicine (2002) by Wayne

Jonas MD) explains how such conflicting conclusions like Roberts etal come

about Dr Leskowitz notes when he is in discussions with his allopathic medical

colleagues regarding ldquo inexplicable phenomena like energy healing or

intercessory prayer a sort of allopathic fear reflex kicks inrdquo6 Conclusions

become tunnel-visioned and skewed against even the possibility of such

correlation existing anywhere at any time Hence no further trials

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You may however verify for yourself such positively-correlated research does

indeed already exist by reviewing the studies in Jonas book (above) In

addition Marilyn Schlitz PhD provides a brief outline of just some of those

ldquopositive correlationrdquo studies that highlight the ldquointerface of science spirituality

and medicinerdquo7

If you would like an even more in-depth review I refer you to Consciousness amp

Healing Integral Approaches to Mind-Body Medicine (2005) by Schlitz Amorok

and Micozzi as well as the more recent (2008) Holistic Nursing A Handbook for Practice

5th edition by Dossey amp Keegan

In sum although experimental research has certainly not provided the final

answers on the relation between intention and healing the research to date is

most certainly beyond the ldquoequivocalrdquo suggested by those reflexively reacting

from allopathic fear Those studies completed to date which do display a positive

correlation between intention and healing are already providing a strong practical

foundation of powerful techniques and approaches that go far beyond

ldquoexperimentingrdquo and straight to the heart of skillful-application in daily living

Shared-Intentional-Healingrdquotrade is just one such approach you may access today

and everyday simply by participating in your daily praxis

With the above foundation in mind we can now move on to

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PRAXIS GUIDELINES

Having considered in some depth the foundation on which this method rests we

may now turn to the guidelines describing ldquohow tordquo participate in your daily

Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis

Before you approach your first intentional session please read through the

description and suggestions below Remember these opportunities are for YOU

to BENEFIT YOU Again there is no right way nor wrong way for you to

participate You simply participate in your own best way Therefore as noted

previously the description below is solely meant as a guided outline to assist you

in jump-starting your participation ndash sharing with you some ideas that have

already worked well for others in our Community

For this to be beneficial for everyone please do your best to allot at least 5 to

15 minutes for each intentional session If you are already seasoned at

sitting in quiet you certainly may choose to go longer (eg 30) and you can

trust there are other CYSH members continuing in synchrony with you

To start out let your sessions be for shorter periods of time You will experience

a natural increase in length of participation without having to think about it or

plan for it This is not a race nor a test of endurance This is a nourishing of

Self and a cultivation of your best healing intentions Be gentle

In the beginning it can also be helpful if you imagine sending out your healing

intentions in a particular direction around the globe and returning to you from

the opposite direction This way as you imagine can assist you in creating a

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ldquoflowrdquo with regard to directing intentional healing to all others around the globe

As you become more adept you will very naturally be able to generate healing

images radiating from your whole being equally in all directions You will

become aware there is no particular ldquoupdownrdquo in space-time There is just

ldquoeverywhere hererdquo that is always at the center of the universe ndash as you are at all

times and as is each member

Finally please know you may also invite your friends and loved ones to share

with you in these sessions If they cannot participate with you ask them (at

minimum) to set their healing intention for you and send it like a gift to you each

day This can be helpful to them as well knowing they are actively supporting

you with their selfless loving healing

So let us begin with a session description I have broken it down into 8 separate

action steps below

1 First make time to just sit and be comfortable (nothing ldquoto dordquo now)

Loosen any tight clothing

2 Begin breathing slowly until you relax into a comfortable natural pace

This is a time for gentleness Simply allow experience to happen and

follow experience moment-to-moment as you proceed

3 Slowly scan your entire being from head to toes inside and out If you

notice any part of you in tension just allow it to relax naturally and

dissolve with each out-breath

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Note It may take you 2 or more breathing cycles to notice the muscles in a

particular area begin to relax There are times as well when you may just

need to continue on with your scan trusting that the area will release as you

proceed Again this is time for gentle following

4 Once relaxed (as much as may be possible for now) INVITE your Self to

allow and receive healing intention and healing love

Note This may not feel natural or normal within and like a child the

knee-jerk reaction may indeed be to rebel You are merely sending an

invitation nothing more As you repeat this intentional healing invitation

each day you will soon begin to notice that you are indeed looking forward

to this opportunity

5 You are now comfortable relaxed and intentional within It is time now

to image all the other CYSH Members with whom you are sharing this

time Know they too are seeking to generate healing for your challenges

just as you are for theirs Depending on your beliefs it is here that you

may also invite connect with your source of spiritual power (God

Source Higher Power Buddha) to participate with you

6 Spend the next minutes imagining a Circle of Intentional Healing

Energy flowing into you from all the others and out from you to all

others Allow it to be easy natural like the earthrsquos flow of water

circulating from sky to earth and back to sky simply relax into this flow

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Note It may help to imagine your healing intentions emanating from about

2 finger-widths behind and about 3 finger-widths below your navel This

site (known as the ldquolower dan tienrdquo or ldquoharardquo) is considered the physical

center of gravity around which you are in perfect balance

From this point you can imagine healing intention flowing up your trunk

through your neck and head and out the top of your head to the other

CYSH members

The healing intention returning to you can be experienced as coming into

you at the same center of gravity point from which you started

Important Do not attempt to localize your intentions to any one region

within (brain heart liver etc) the reason being that a given illness process

occurs across and between physiological systems (even though we may talk

as if it is isolated to one system) It is best to imagine your entire Self

within a cocoon or bubble of flowing healing intention ndash everywhere within

you at once You may experience color warmth safety Luxuriate in your

experience Enjoy the moment

During this intentional time it can also be helpful on a given inout cycle of

breath to silently express I send out Loving Healing On the next

inout cycle silently express I receive Loving Healing and so on

In addition if your mind wanders off task (amp it will) just gently return to

the flow of loving healing intention Remember this experience is all about

being gentle Enjoy the process

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Continue in this state for as long as you desire and is easy comfortable

and natural With practice your will naturally be at ease for longer

periods of time during each session

7 When complete express gratitude to your Self as well as to all others

sharing in this moment with you Sit in this experience of gratitude for a

few moments

8 Savor the nourishing peace you have generated

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8-STEP PRAXIS REVIEW

1 SIT in comfort

2 BREATHE slowly rhythmically

3 SCAN (head to toes) to relax further still

4 INVITE SELF to allow healing intention

5 RELATE-WITH all other CYSH members amp Spiritual Power

6 SENDRECEIVE intentional healing

ldquoI send out Loving Healingrdquo ldquoI receive Loving Healingrdquo

7 Sit in GRATITUDE

8 SAVOR the nourishing peace

I genuinely look forward to your daily participation and to sharing this powerful

healing process with you I would love to hear your experiences with your praxis

Please do feel free to email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom)

My mission is to Coach You Well

Sincerely amp Caringly

MALCOLM

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REFERENCES

1 Chopra Deepak (1994) The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success ndash A Practical Guide to

the Fulfillment of Your Dreams p76

2 Chopra Deepak (1999) A Deepak Chopra Companion Illuminations on Health and

Human Consciousness p94

3 Dyer httpwwwyoutubecomwatchv=DC-FPorUW7gampfeature=related

4 Buber Martin (1971) I And Thou

5 Intercessory prayer httpwwwcochraneorgreviewsenab000368html

6 Leskowitz httpwholistichealingresearchcom42books12

7 Schlitz httpxnetkporgpermanentejournalsum05evidencepdf

copy2009byMFDayton

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ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Malcolm Dayton LPC Cht is a Licensed Counselor with more than two decades coaching individuals and families facing chronic illness He is also certified in MindBody Medicine and Hypnotherapy

Malcolms Coaching Self Healing program is unique in that he calls on his own lifelong journey with chronic illness (multiple sclerosis asthma immune deficiency) to assist you in accessing your unique healing solutions Very simply Malcolm walks his coaching

His coaching program is truly integral-- that is healing solutions are practical in focus and applied comprehensively incorporating all dimensions of your experience from symptoms to wellness from relations within self to social relations from the physical to spiritual--a truly ecological approach to Self Healing You learn to be FULLIVINGtrade ndash to thrive beyond chronic illness

Malcolms mission is to Coach You WELL

CONTACTMalcolm Dayton LPC CHt

email mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom

phone 970-689-4247

Yes Malcolm Im ready to discover

the benefits of Self Healing Coaching NOW

Sign me up now for myCOMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION

Be Well And THRIVE Beyond Chronic Illness Now

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Page 4: Thriving Beyond Chronic Illness:  Shared-Intentional-Healing Praxis

YOUR COMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION

The following report provides a detailed introduction to the foundation of effective

principles and powerful tools that the author Malcolm Dayton LPC Cht has

learned developed and utilized in over 15 years of clinical work with individuals

facing chronic illness He has further honed his transformational approach by

discovering what is effective in enhancing his own daily living while addressing

chronic illness (asthma immune deficiency multiple sclerosis)

Although Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade (as described in this report) is a uniquely

powerful activity to engage in your daily wellness arsenal you can maximize

your benefits and progress more rapidly by learning to systematically apply

the broad range of Self Healing tools techniques and opportunities only available

through Coaching Your Self Healing

If you would like to maximize your results more quickly you may participate

multiple times each month in 11 coaching sessions Sessions are tailored to

your specific health and wellness situation to your specific goals and to your

abilities To experience how Your Self Healing Coaching will work for you you

may access your FREE Coaching Session (45 minutes in length) by clicking below

Yes Malcolm Im ready to discover

the benefits of Self Healing Coaching NOW

Sign me up now for myCOMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION

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INTRODUCTION

Welcome to Coaching Your Self Healing (CYSH) During your time with CYSH

you will have many opportunities to learn new and powerful self healing

tools which (when applied as you go through your daily living) will lead you

directly to experience more happiness health well-being and ease what I

call FULLIVINGtrade ndash that state of Being marked by THRIVING beyond chronic

illness

How can I make such a bold statement Because these are the same tools Ive

learned to apply over 4 decades to manage asthma immune disorder and

multiple sclerosis Moreover these are the same skills Ive taught hundreds of

others with chronic illness over the recent 15 years of my clinical practice and by

applying these abilities daily these folks too have learned to improve their daily

living beyond chronic illness to be FULLIVINGtrade

Please take time to read through this report more than once It is a rather quick

read yet so much of this information forms the foundation to your ongoing Self

Healing as much as it also lays out the process for performing your shared-

intentional-healingtrade praxis

Do take the time to apply these principles to your own daily encounter with

chronic illness Skillfully applying the process described in this report (together

with the tools provided in the article series Empower Your Self to Heal Chronic

Illness) you will at once powerfully launch and accelerate your personal

journey into Self Healing

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Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis

One of the more powerful (and empowering) practices CYSH offers you is your

daily Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis (SIHP) This compelling activity

provides various times throughout each day when you can stop the noise in your

life and focus your attention (and intention) on FULLIVINGtrade for your Self as

well as for all the members of your CYSH community At any of the scheduled

times you may take a break from the busyness of your day amp take 5 to 15

minutes to send (amp receive) shared healing intentions in concert with all the

other CYSH members The details of ldquohow tordquo participate in this shared activity

are provided later in this report

Before jumping into the mechanics however we will first take a few moments to

construct the foundation for your daily Shared-Intentional-Healingrdquotrade Praxis

Doing so will assist you in better understanding and skillfully applying this

empowering Self Healing approach

You may keep up-to-date on new or added information to this report by referring to

the tri-monthly Your Self Healing Journey News (you receive as part of your

CYSH membership) as well as by returning to the Coaching Your Self Healing blog

(httpwwwCoachingSelfHealingcomblog)

Note In this report I use the word ldquoselfrdquo in a capitalized form as ldquoSelfrdquo You may

find a detailed account on this use of ldquoSelfrdquo in the article Empower Your Self to Heal

Chronic Illness Part 1 Who is the self in Self Healing

For our purposes here Self is that deep core of you the essential being you were

at birth before defining yourself by the cultural identifiers thrust onto you growing-

up and beyond those you have used to create your place in the world

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ANALYSIS

of

Your Daily Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis

ldquoYOURrdquo

First this is truly YOUR activity You may do this at whatever times you choose

and on whatever days feel right for you You may choose to participate once per

day or more frequently on certain days This is YOUR Self Healing program

You access the benefits by proactively participating in SIHP FULLIVINGtrade

benefits accrue as you routinely apply and participate in this approach As you

feel more comfortable and natural during your sessions you may notice you are

more relaxed and calm as you carry out the remainder of your day Symptoms

may seem less troubling less intense and easier to manage You can notice an

improvement in your general mood and more felt-moments of happiness The

fact that you know you are participating not only for your own benefit but the

benefit of all other CYSH members will bring a smile to your face and a

meaningful sense of Self worth for giving so genuinely from your heart

You may also discover applying SIHP can help with the more difficult times you

face Imagine you have been participating in shared-intentional-healingtrade

sessions at about 1 session per day Then because of a virus or change in

medications you enter a more difficult period of heightened symptoms perhaps

leading to a drop-off in your participation Two things to keep in mind here

1 You may email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom) to request other CYSH

members keep YOU in our special intentions during the times we are

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participating in SIHP each day

You do not need to provide identifying information merely some information

about your age gender and what you may be going through at this time This

will assist other members to generate an image of who your are as we focus

our healing intentions for you

2 During these more challenging times you may discover you can access

even more energy and peace by actually increasing the number of times

each day you participate in sessions Please do test this out for yourself

over time

This is not only your program but the process itself is yours as well that is YOU

define what intentional healing is for you according to your history and

experiences your desires and goals No person outside of you can clarify the

means by which you define and measure healing progress nor what results or

goals are more or less important to you as you apply the skills you learn in the

Coaching Your Self Healing program

The steps outlined later in this report are merely guidelines to assist you in

participating in your daily Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis They serve as

guides suggestions to help you get started You will find your own unique way to

participate ndash the way that simply works best for you

So please do explore the process play with it and have fun Whenever you do

come across some variation that is particularly beneficial please send it along to

me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom) so I may pass it along to benefit other

members in our CYSH community

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ldquoDAILYrdquo

You may choose among eight times each day to participate in this practice

900 AM amp PM EST 1200 AM amp PM EST 300 AM amp PM EST and 600 AM amp

PM EST The eight times are provided in order for CYSH members from around

the globe to participate at a convenient time in your time zone as well as

convenient to your schedule around the clock each day Clearly you may

participate at any of the session times regardless of your location

If for some reason you cannot participate during any of these times please do

email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom) so I may be informed of any

scheduling problems that I am not currently taking into consideration My goal

here is to develop a daily schedule that works for everyone around the globe (and

around the clock each day) To start out I would encourage you to set a

reminder alarm a few minutes before your scheduled time ndash at least until you

have formed a comfortable habit of participating in the sessions

I will be present and participate during at least two sessions everyday and I will

rotate through session times each day That way at least every four days you

and I will be attending together at the same time Please understand however

there is never any expectation for you to participate at any particular time(s) nor

on any given day When you participate depends solely on your inner comfort

and your positive intention when you do take part

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Providing so many times is meant solely as a way to coordinate our attention and

energies in synchrony with other community members There is no need to be

concerned about the ldquorightrdquo time to participate As already noted your energies

are better-focused on being-present your comfort and on positive intention

There simply is no ldquorightrdquo time just the time that is right for you

Another advantage of having eight scheduled times each day is to provide

flexibility for you to adjust your participation in response to changes in your

symptom experiences As noted earlier when going through more difficult

symptomatic periods that are disrupting to your routine participating in

additional praxis times (rather than focusing on symptoms) may assist you with

limiting intensity and duration of the exacerbation ndash particularly by generating

more relaxation and rest

Still another helpful way you may consider your praxis ldquotimerdquo has been clarified

by Einstein physicists and spiritual leaders through history What they have

shown us is that ldquotimerdquo is a construct (a ldquoboxrdquo) and is not really ldquoout thererdquo at

all Indeed if ldquotimerdquo exists it can only be NOW

Such a perspective can be extremely nourishing when considering what Deepak

Chopra MD and Wayne Dyer PhD call the ldquogaprdquo The gap is that experience in

which you are ldquocenteredrdquo in the ldquosilent space between thoughtsrdquo When in the

gap you are at that ldquolevel of Being which is your essential staterdquo1 This

experience of being-in-the-gap is timeless ndash rdquothe womb of creationrdquo2 It is within

this state of experience that healing occurs

As you perform your praxis each day you will naturally and directly begin to

experience the timeless-being of the gap firsthand Once you recognize this

experience you will realize that whatever time of day you actually participate in

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SIHP you are doing it in the same NOW as all other CYSH members ndash even

though your session ldquoclock timesrdquo differ throughout the day

ldquoSHAREDrdquo

Remember the key here is that you are surrounding your Self with the one

heartbeat of all the other community members Your attention your energy

and your intentions are SHARED by all ndash just as their energies and intentions are

shared with and for you It is this attitude of sharing-with a wholehearted

giving-to that is key to this approach It is very simple As you give from

your heart-of-caring so you will receive

Be comforted in knowing that by simply participating once a day (after even a

few short days) you will begin to feel more comfortable more at ease more at

peace now than you may have experienced in years AND you know you are

contributing to the FULLIVINGtrade of others that is contributing beyond well-

being into the very heart of healing Trust me when I say your peace and your

giving heart provide a strong (and necessary) foundation on which to build

healing for each of us and of all of us together

ldquoINTENTIONALrdquo

So what does it mean to be INTENTIONAL One of the most helpful reviews of

ldquointentionrdquo is provided by Wayne Dyer PhD3 In Dyers The Power of Intention

(2005) he describes how we may ldquowishrdquo for something to occur in our lives but

such wishing is only a beginning

We may also choose to take the next step beyond wishing to ldquodesirerdquo Desire

results in taking action on the wish and is proactively distinct from wishing It is

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with desire that we now straight-forwardly make the ldquoaskrdquo (as in ldquoask and you

shall receiverdquo)

Still again we can step-up the intensity of our activity even more (beyond

wishing and asking) that is we may frame our desire in terms of what we

actually ldquointend to createrdquo Stop here for a moment close your eyes and feel

the power in these words I INTEND TO CREATE Period And again

I INTEND TO CREATE

We are very matter-of-fact about bringing the thing wished for desired

requested into experience No doubt No fear Creating healing now is simply a

given that occurs by way of you actively participating Period

Such intention-to-create by definition requires both commitment and passion

With commitment we are beyond ldquotryingrdquo to make the thing happen and

instead move into what I call devotion-to-creating (from the original French

devovere ldquodedicated by a vowrdquo) With such devotion we experience a much

deeper more profound state of being an awareness beyond ego

Devotion-to-creating allows you to act beyond the ldquooughtsrdquo and ldquoshouldsrdquo of

others beyond your own doubts and fears beyond obligation and guilt and

directly to the heart of being inspired (ldquodrawing in of airrdquo ldquoinspiritrdquo) that is you

are drawn into relation-with the powerful and empowering Source that creates

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It is by being inspired that you meet the paradox at the heart of ldquointendingrdquo As

you proactively intend-to-create you naturally come to experience being

committed devoted and inspired however you actually create only inasmuch as

you allow your Self to follow the flow of your inspiration naturally ndash that is as

you open your Self to receive Therefore as you intend to heal you must

also open to receive healing

As such it is important you recognize healing happens as you ldquoget out of your

own wayrdquo beyond intellect desire doubt and ego How do we do that How do

we get out of our own way beyond ego Very simply you do that by allowing

your Self to trust your healing

Please take a moment here to recall a time when you were injured in some way

(maybe a cut or broken bone) Beyond receiving necessary medical assistance

what did you do to mend to heal Once attended to medically its likely that you

never gave the actual processes of ldquohealingrdquo much thought ndash dying cells cleared

away new cells forming and eventually performing as if they had been there all

along as if nothing ever happened Healing just occurred your part was to trust

the process take good care of yourself and allow it Whether conscious or not

you simply trusted yourself to heal

It is that same trust you must have as you now commit-to-create intentional

healing Your whole Self system ldquoknowsrdquo how and what needs healing and in

what specific sequence of steps healing must occur Self does not need the

agreement of intellect or common sense to proceed naturally with healing Self

has been carrying out that process every nano-second of every day of your life ndash

simultaneously coordinating trillions of biochemical and energetic activities in

every cell of your entire being Heart beats lungs breath intestines digest and

your job is simply to get out of your own way and trust your Self to heal

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As you do alongside this intense Self-trust and commitment-to-create (our vow)

passion takes over and leads the way beyond common sense beyond

doubting intellect beyond beliefs and even beyond perceptions Such intense

passion emanating from your heart is very simply ldquoagaperdquo (selfless Love) In

this state you no longer experience others as separate bounded subject-object

(I-It) rather you share together in a living boundless oneness-of-relating

honoring the encounter by giving your present and your presence to the

sacredness of ldquoI-Thourdquo4

Map of HEALING INTENTION

I WISH

I DESIRE (ASK)

I INTEND-TO-CREATE

INCLUDES I COMMIT-TO-CREATE (I Vow = Devotion-to-creating)

I AM PASSIONATE

(I am Inspired)

PARADOX OF INTENDING (I Allow I Receive I Trust My Self to Heal)

I-THOU (Agape)

Figure copy2009 by MFDayton

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 14 of 33

It is this deep experience of heartfelt passion and selfless Love you are aiming to

access directly (and share) when you intend from the heart when you are

performing your shared-intentional-healingtrade praxis

So once again stop for a moment now to imagine Imagine the tremendous

healing power at your disposal when you step into your shared session each day

with the intention-to-create healing It means you are committing to heal

vowing to heal trusting your Self to heal by way of your impassioned

heart You are giving your presence to merge as one-heartbeat in

synchrony and selfless love with all other CYSH members in this moment

now Therein lies the true power of your healing intention

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ldquoHEALINGrdquo (beyond ldquobeing curedrdquo)

Clearly what we intend to create during each praxis is HEALING your healing

healing for other members my healing and our healing together as one Yet do

you really know what you mean when you say ldquoI intend to healrdquo

Whenever we take time to reflect on the notion of ldquohealingrdquo typically one of the

first things that bubbles up into awareness is some hope of being ldquocuredrdquo Given

the difficulties and challenges we can face in just making it through even the

most simple of daily activities ldquocurerdquo can be so very inviting Indeed given the

opportunity who of us wouldnt want to be cured of a chronic illness And cured

NOW

Yet by seeking to ldquobe curedrdquo we can become entrenched in even more intense

challenges and symptom exacerbation How could that be What could

possibly be wrong with hoping for a cure

There is nothing wrong with hoping dreaming goal setting Indeed these

activities can provide momentum power purpose and direction to an otherwise

difficult day Yet the moment we turn our attention to ldquobeing curedrdquo our focus

immediately comes to rest on that which we desire to be ldquocured ofrdquo to ldquoget away

fromrdquo and it is here we become derailed Its like the age-old challenge to ldquonot

think of a blue elephantrdquo We must first conceive such a beast before we cannot

think about it

So too with ldquocurerdquo ndash We must first converge our attention and energies even

more intensely on the illness and the symptoms we wish to cease Clearly this

activity takes us in the opposite direction from the relief and health we are

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seeking In fact it is the same process described by Cheri Huber in one of her

more remarkable books entitled That Which You Are Seeking Is Causing You To

Seek (1990) Take a moment now to think about her title in relation to ldquoThe cure

I am seeking is rdquo In short to focus on cure heightens our experience of

dis-ease

To clarify even further when we focus on such moving-away-from-activities we

have no clear vision of what it is we are moving toward Without such clarity our

odds of failing escalate exponentially Success happens only as we also move

toward clearly-defined desires and goals A simple yet powerful example is this

years 40th anniversary of the Apollo 11 moon landing Was that ldquogiant steprdquo

successful because the leaders at NASA focused energy solely on how to create

escape velocity to ldquoget away fromrdquo earth ndash or also on how to get onto the moon

Another helpful example is wanting ldquoout ofrdquo a job Im sure you know of someone

(perhaps yourself) intent on getting away from the daily grind of hisher job Yet

when she did successfully leave that employment inevitably and much too soon

the same situation landslides into the daily grind of the next job Repeating old

patterns of struggle is a very clear sign of actions based on moving-away-

from goals This is a key principle to apply to all aspects of your daily living

The reason this occurs with the get-me-outta-here script is that whatever change

may happen generally does so from ldquowithoutrdquo At best we change scenery Its

the old grass-is-greener scenario ndash which is really no change at all

The inherent problem here can be even more perilous as we see when we take a

closer look at the wording ldquobeing curedrdquo We tend to redirect our attention from

within (our source of creative power) to some force outside that causes the cure

for us (whether that be by way of a physician a healer natural substances

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 17 of 33

medications treatments or God)

On some level we tell ourselves if I could figure out what was happening to get

into this situation (ie chronic illness) I would be able to figure out how to get

out of it but (and heres the rub) since I cant I begin to believe less and less in

my innate healing power and more and more that such power must lie outside of

me ndash with an outside force greater than me (whether medical natural or

spiritual)

Please be clear on this point This is not to underplay the importance of qualified

medical professionals to your progress The same is true of the importance and

value of your spirituality and relation-with God Source Higher Power The point

to take away here is that you can only access the benefits of such healing

relations when YOU are first centered and strong in your own being ndash when you

approach your Self as a sacred Thou

Therefore in the situation where you reflexively turn over your power to heal (to

an outside agent) understand the ensuing damage you risk to your sense of Self

Not only are you diminishing belief in your inherent strength and healing power

you are also at risk of allowing others to determine what is best for your well-

being (perhaps even against your deeper intuitive knowing) all of which only

serves to further undermine Self-esteem and the tremendous power that comes

from believing in your Self

Even our religious upbringing can paradoxically weaken our beliefs regarding the

possibility of cure We learn at a deep level that ldquocurerdquo lies only in the realm of

the miraculous Such an orientation can weaken belief in the possibility of ldquome

being cured nowrdquo In fact when being completely honest many of us feel the

odds of ldquome being cured nowrdquo are as slim or slimmer than winning a million dollar

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 18 of 33

lottery And when it does not happen were faced with the more daunting issue

of how I must somehow be ldquoflawedrdquo Clearly such underlying attitudes provide

no foundation on which to construct change much less the dramatic change

required with the desire to ldquobe curedrdquo [Here I recommend another Huber book

There Is Nothing Wrong with You Going Beyond Self-Hate (2001)]

In the end when focused on ldquobeing curedrdquo you may not only become separate

from your innate healing power within but you risk the ultimate medical

mistreatment becoming an object to be worked-on mechanically From here it

can be a rapid slide into the role of ldquovictimrdquo whereby you relinquish your

responsibility for choosing altogether (ie intending-to-create) how it is you truly

desire to be In short you risk losing the creative power of intention required to

give birth to healing

By the mid eighties I had been on daily prednisone for over a decade to control

severe bouts of status asthmaticus and recurrent pneumonia Because the

deleterious side-effects of prednisone included adrenal insufficiency (an impaired

stress response) I knew in my heart-of-hearts one key to my well-being lay in

recovering my atrophied stress axis by discontinuing daily prednisone For years

I pleaded with my pulmonary specialist to assist me in tapering off and relearning

how to live prednisone-free Together we did make a few unsuccessful attempts

only to recycle back into another respiratory infection and still higher doses of

prednisone By this time his posture was that I needed to remain on daily

prednisone ldquofor the rest of my liferdquo My posture was to fire him

Fortunately and in short-order I began working with an internist who over the

next two years laid out a plan to become prednisone-free ndash which we did

together successfully Two significant points must be clearly recognized here

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1 You must believe in your innate healing power and if you do not

currently this then becomes your launch pad for your healing journey ndash

relearning to empower your Self to heal

2 You are not in this alone You require the good works of others in

alignment with you to successfully heal As such you need to be very

selective in picking those others with whom you relate to enhance your

medical well-being

If you are feeling your medical support is sapping your power and authority

they probably are but you dont throw the baby out with the bath This is

not about releasing physicians this is about being in a healing

relationship-with your medical professional(s) of choice

Additional cultural biases arise with a focus on ldquocurerdquo Any true change with

regard to chronic illness implies a change ldquofor the betterrdquo That requires us to

believe with certainty that such change can and will bring improvement After

more than fifteen years working with individuals with chronic illness (including

my Self) it is the rare individual Ive encountered who truly believes (from the

core) ldquoI will be curedrdquo We wish for cure certainly but believing with certainty ldquoI

will be curedrdquo rarely

An origin of not believing in ldquobeing curedrdquo lies in the way we traditionally use the

term One problem in particular is that ldquocurerdquo is not a ldquonowrdquo concept -- that is

something I trust to experience now rather we tend to use ldquocurerdquo in a future-

oriented manner of hoping-for-something-to-happen or (at-best) asking-for

maybe praying for cure to happen Yet it is not in the future that you and I

create anything and this is particularly relevant to healing We only create in

the NOW

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Finally even greater issues arise when we attempt to determine precisely what

we mean by the term ldquocurerdquo As one example are you cured when there is ldquoan

end to the disease processrdquo or could that be ldquoremissionrdquo

Does ldquocurerdquo mean a ldquoreturn to full functioningrdquo (ie as I was before the process

started) Is that even possible Consider the case of a disease process that has

already resulted in disfigurement or amputation What does ldquocurerdquo mean in those

situations

Does ldquocurerdquo mean ldquosymptoms are gonerdquo If so are we then cured when

medications relieve or mask the symptoms altogether Do you understand the

quagmire here

It is for all these reasons above that few people are ever truly ldquocuredrdquo of

anything even if we do allow for those who have experienced ldquomiracle curesrdquo

(which are certainly the exception not the norm) Yet when you and I consider

ldquomy situation nowrdquo we need to have the strength of certainty that improvement

is not only possible but immanent

So if not ldquocurerdquo then what You already know the answer And the answer is

ldquohealingrdquo In the end if ldquocurerdquo is anything it is a future-oriented

disempowering mechanical phenomenon at the physical level In contrast

ldquohealingrdquo is an ongoing process (in this moment) of whole-Self transformation

Consider when we truly and proactively ldquohealrdquo we are creating (now) from the

very depths of our core within We are intending-to-create with all the intensity

and power of commitment passion and agape that arises in creative

transformation It is this innate source of inner power to which we must first

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return ldquoas little childrenrdquo in order to initiate healing

We mask nothing when healing now rather we take an active and response-able

role in bringing peace joy and love directly into our daily lives and the lives of

those we touch NOW this moment and in as many moments as we allow

It is from this strong shared intentional healing foundation that we live with the

most power any human being can possibly experience in alignment with in I-

Thou relation-with in the selfless Love that is the very Source of all creation

This process of transformational healing envelops and extends beyond cure at any

level and unlike ldquocurerdquo it is not some static condition at which we arrive (by

the grace of some outside benevolent authority) Rather such transformational

healing is an ongoing process of BEING-a-certain-way in strength in power

in wisdom in loving relation-with (not only Self but Source God Higher Power)

Let this loving empowered healing be the deep transformation you intend ndash your

moment-to-moment empowered healing transformation from core within

ldquoPRAXISrdquo

We finally come to the term PRAXIS Clients often ask why I use ldquopraxisrdquo rather

than something more familiar like ldquopracticerdquo or ldquoexerciserdquo My answer is very

simple and straight-forward

First we can quickly dispense with the term ldquoexerciserdquo Do you really want to

ldquoexerciserdquo intentional healing each day ndash or would you rather just skip having to

exercise any more than you already know you need to do Enough said

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Now imagine I invite you to ldquoplease make sure and practice your intentional

healing each dayrdquo How do you feel then For me it brings up that I must not

be very good at it especially if I need to be practicing every day

Consider now how you feel when I invite you to ldquoskillfully applyrdquo the intentional

healing process in comfort Doesnt ldquoskillful applicationrdquo feel much more

empowering than ldquopracticingrdquo Since ldquopraxisrdquo means ldquoskillful applicationrdquo isnt it

much more inviting to approach your intentional healing sessions with skill

And you will as you become more comfortable applying the process each day

Other folks also ask if shared-intentional-healingtrade wouldnt be better considered

an ldquoexperimentrdquo much like Lynn McTaggarts The Intention Experiment (2007) I

can see how the notion of an ldquoexperimentrdquo carries with it some sense of intrigue

but ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately represent the experience that is shared-

intentional-healingtrade

First (as we learned in our discussion of ldquointentionalrdquo above) when we participate

in Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade we are as a matter-of-fact intending-to-create

healing Such activity cannot be an ldquoexperimentrdquo or we lose the certainty

required for healing change Rather we set out to generate an experience-of-

relating that is powered by being committed empassioned and selflessly loving

You can likely identify such a committed passionate selflessly loving experience

from some time in your life ndash whether in love among family through an

impassioned hobby in seeking some goal or perhaps spiritually As you already

know such an experience is not something we wish-for or hope-for or need to

wait and see what happens It is simply a loving relating-with experience we

already know how to have We just be it and do it

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Moreover (as I suggested above) there is palpable transformation that occurs

within each of us as we gain comfort participating in shared-intentional-healingtrade

This transformational experience happens through your participation and it will

happen for you ndash no need to experiment just simply participate

Moreover at the heart of it the notion of ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately reflect

the research to date on ldquointentionrdquo and ldquohealingrdquo As an example a 1997 review

of research on ldquoIntercessory Prayer for the Alleviation of Ill Healthrdquo by Roberts

Ahmed Hall amp Davison reports individual studies suggest a positive effect of

intercessory prayer But since they viewed other reports in which the results

were equivocal they conclude no ldquo further trials of this intervention should be

takenrdquo5

Regrettably they miss the point The fact that studies DO exist reporting a

positive correlation between intercessory prayer and the alleviation of ill health is

precisely the reason more studies should be undertaken Edison found hundreds

of approaches that were equivocal before discovering a singular lighting solution

Thank goodness he did not conclude any further trials were unnecessary before

arriving at that solution

When it comes to this uniquely intimate subject of healing Eric Leskowitz MD

(in a review of the book Healing Intention amp Energy Medicine (2002) by Wayne

Jonas MD) explains how such conflicting conclusions like Roberts etal come

about Dr Leskowitz notes when he is in discussions with his allopathic medical

colleagues regarding ldquo inexplicable phenomena like energy healing or

intercessory prayer a sort of allopathic fear reflex kicks inrdquo6 Conclusions

become tunnel-visioned and skewed against even the possibility of such

correlation existing anywhere at any time Hence no further trials

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You may however verify for yourself such positively-correlated research does

indeed already exist by reviewing the studies in Jonas book (above) In

addition Marilyn Schlitz PhD provides a brief outline of just some of those

ldquopositive correlationrdquo studies that highlight the ldquointerface of science spirituality

and medicinerdquo7

If you would like an even more in-depth review I refer you to Consciousness amp

Healing Integral Approaches to Mind-Body Medicine (2005) by Schlitz Amorok

and Micozzi as well as the more recent (2008) Holistic Nursing A Handbook for Practice

5th edition by Dossey amp Keegan

In sum although experimental research has certainly not provided the final

answers on the relation between intention and healing the research to date is

most certainly beyond the ldquoequivocalrdquo suggested by those reflexively reacting

from allopathic fear Those studies completed to date which do display a positive

correlation between intention and healing are already providing a strong practical

foundation of powerful techniques and approaches that go far beyond

ldquoexperimentingrdquo and straight to the heart of skillful-application in daily living

Shared-Intentional-Healingrdquotrade is just one such approach you may access today

and everyday simply by participating in your daily praxis

With the above foundation in mind we can now move on to

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PRAXIS GUIDELINES

Having considered in some depth the foundation on which this method rests we

may now turn to the guidelines describing ldquohow tordquo participate in your daily

Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis

Before you approach your first intentional session please read through the

description and suggestions below Remember these opportunities are for YOU

to BENEFIT YOU Again there is no right way nor wrong way for you to

participate You simply participate in your own best way Therefore as noted

previously the description below is solely meant as a guided outline to assist you

in jump-starting your participation ndash sharing with you some ideas that have

already worked well for others in our Community

For this to be beneficial for everyone please do your best to allot at least 5 to

15 minutes for each intentional session If you are already seasoned at

sitting in quiet you certainly may choose to go longer (eg 30) and you can

trust there are other CYSH members continuing in synchrony with you

To start out let your sessions be for shorter periods of time You will experience

a natural increase in length of participation without having to think about it or

plan for it This is not a race nor a test of endurance This is a nourishing of

Self and a cultivation of your best healing intentions Be gentle

In the beginning it can also be helpful if you imagine sending out your healing

intentions in a particular direction around the globe and returning to you from

the opposite direction This way as you imagine can assist you in creating a

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ldquoflowrdquo with regard to directing intentional healing to all others around the globe

As you become more adept you will very naturally be able to generate healing

images radiating from your whole being equally in all directions You will

become aware there is no particular ldquoupdownrdquo in space-time There is just

ldquoeverywhere hererdquo that is always at the center of the universe ndash as you are at all

times and as is each member

Finally please know you may also invite your friends and loved ones to share

with you in these sessions If they cannot participate with you ask them (at

minimum) to set their healing intention for you and send it like a gift to you each

day This can be helpful to them as well knowing they are actively supporting

you with their selfless loving healing

So let us begin with a session description I have broken it down into 8 separate

action steps below

1 First make time to just sit and be comfortable (nothing ldquoto dordquo now)

Loosen any tight clothing

2 Begin breathing slowly until you relax into a comfortable natural pace

This is a time for gentleness Simply allow experience to happen and

follow experience moment-to-moment as you proceed

3 Slowly scan your entire being from head to toes inside and out If you

notice any part of you in tension just allow it to relax naturally and

dissolve with each out-breath

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Note It may take you 2 or more breathing cycles to notice the muscles in a

particular area begin to relax There are times as well when you may just

need to continue on with your scan trusting that the area will release as you

proceed Again this is time for gentle following

4 Once relaxed (as much as may be possible for now) INVITE your Self to

allow and receive healing intention and healing love

Note This may not feel natural or normal within and like a child the

knee-jerk reaction may indeed be to rebel You are merely sending an

invitation nothing more As you repeat this intentional healing invitation

each day you will soon begin to notice that you are indeed looking forward

to this opportunity

5 You are now comfortable relaxed and intentional within It is time now

to image all the other CYSH Members with whom you are sharing this

time Know they too are seeking to generate healing for your challenges

just as you are for theirs Depending on your beliefs it is here that you

may also invite connect with your source of spiritual power (God

Source Higher Power Buddha) to participate with you

6 Spend the next minutes imagining a Circle of Intentional Healing

Energy flowing into you from all the others and out from you to all

others Allow it to be easy natural like the earthrsquos flow of water

circulating from sky to earth and back to sky simply relax into this flow

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Note It may help to imagine your healing intentions emanating from about

2 finger-widths behind and about 3 finger-widths below your navel This

site (known as the ldquolower dan tienrdquo or ldquoharardquo) is considered the physical

center of gravity around which you are in perfect balance

From this point you can imagine healing intention flowing up your trunk

through your neck and head and out the top of your head to the other

CYSH members

The healing intention returning to you can be experienced as coming into

you at the same center of gravity point from which you started

Important Do not attempt to localize your intentions to any one region

within (brain heart liver etc) the reason being that a given illness process

occurs across and between physiological systems (even though we may talk

as if it is isolated to one system) It is best to imagine your entire Self

within a cocoon or bubble of flowing healing intention ndash everywhere within

you at once You may experience color warmth safety Luxuriate in your

experience Enjoy the moment

During this intentional time it can also be helpful on a given inout cycle of

breath to silently express I send out Loving Healing On the next

inout cycle silently express I receive Loving Healing and so on

In addition if your mind wanders off task (amp it will) just gently return to

the flow of loving healing intention Remember this experience is all about

being gentle Enjoy the process

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Continue in this state for as long as you desire and is easy comfortable

and natural With practice your will naturally be at ease for longer

periods of time during each session

7 When complete express gratitude to your Self as well as to all others

sharing in this moment with you Sit in this experience of gratitude for a

few moments

8 Savor the nourishing peace you have generated

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8-STEP PRAXIS REVIEW

1 SIT in comfort

2 BREATHE slowly rhythmically

3 SCAN (head to toes) to relax further still

4 INVITE SELF to allow healing intention

5 RELATE-WITH all other CYSH members amp Spiritual Power

6 SENDRECEIVE intentional healing

ldquoI send out Loving Healingrdquo ldquoI receive Loving Healingrdquo

7 Sit in GRATITUDE

8 SAVOR the nourishing peace

I genuinely look forward to your daily participation and to sharing this powerful

healing process with you I would love to hear your experiences with your praxis

Please do feel free to email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom)

My mission is to Coach You Well

Sincerely amp Caringly

MALCOLM

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REFERENCES

1 Chopra Deepak (1994) The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success ndash A Practical Guide to

the Fulfillment of Your Dreams p76

2 Chopra Deepak (1999) A Deepak Chopra Companion Illuminations on Health and

Human Consciousness p94

3 Dyer httpwwwyoutubecomwatchv=DC-FPorUW7gampfeature=related

4 Buber Martin (1971) I And Thou

5 Intercessory prayer httpwwwcochraneorgreviewsenab000368html

6 Leskowitz httpwholistichealingresearchcom42books12

7 Schlitz httpxnetkporgpermanentejournalsum05evidencepdf

copy2009byMFDayton

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ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Malcolm Dayton LPC Cht is a Licensed Counselor with more than two decades coaching individuals and families facing chronic illness He is also certified in MindBody Medicine and Hypnotherapy

Malcolms Coaching Self Healing program is unique in that he calls on his own lifelong journey with chronic illness (multiple sclerosis asthma immune deficiency) to assist you in accessing your unique healing solutions Very simply Malcolm walks his coaching

His coaching program is truly integral-- that is healing solutions are practical in focus and applied comprehensively incorporating all dimensions of your experience from symptoms to wellness from relations within self to social relations from the physical to spiritual--a truly ecological approach to Self Healing You learn to be FULLIVINGtrade ndash to thrive beyond chronic illness

Malcolms mission is to Coach You WELL

CONTACTMalcolm Dayton LPC CHt

email mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom

phone 970-689-4247

Yes Malcolm Im ready to discover

the benefits of Self Healing Coaching NOW

Sign me up now for myCOMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION

Be Well And THRIVE Beyond Chronic Illness Now

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Page 5: Thriving Beyond Chronic Illness:  Shared-Intentional-Healing Praxis

INTRODUCTION

Welcome to Coaching Your Self Healing (CYSH) During your time with CYSH

you will have many opportunities to learn new and powerful self healing

tools which (when applied as you go through your daily living) will lead you

directly to experience more happiness health well-being and ease what I

call FULLIVINGtrade ndash that state of Being marked by THRIVING beyond chronic

illness

How can I make such a bold statement Because these are the same tools Ive

learned to apply over 4 decades to manage asthma immune disorder and

multiple sclerosis Moreover these are the same skills Ive taught hundreds of

others with chronic illness over the recent 15 years of my clinical practice and by

applying these abilities daily these folks too have learned to improve their daily

living beyond chronic illness to be FULLIVINGtrade

Please take time to read through this report more than once It is a rather quick

read yet so much of this information forms the foundation to your ongoing Self

Healing as much as it also lays out the process for performing your shared-

intentional-healingtrade praxis

Do take the time to apply these principles to your own daily encounter with

chronic illness Skillfully applying the process described in this report (together

with the tools provided in the article series Empower Your Self to Heal Chronic

Illness) you will at once powerfully launch and accelerate your personal

journey into Self Healing

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Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis

One of the more powerful (and empowering) practices CYSH offers you is your

daily Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis (SIHP) This compelling activity

provides various times throughout each day when you can stop the noise in your

life and focus your attention (and intention) on FULLIVINGtrade for your Self as

well as for all the members of your CYSH community At any of the scheduled

times you may take a break from the busyness of your day amp take 5 to 15

minutes to send (amp receive) shared healing intentions in concert with all the

other CYSH members The details of ldquohow tordquo participate in this shared activity

are provided later in this report

Before jumping into the mechanics however we will first take a few moments to

construct the foundation for your daily Shared-Intentional-Healingrdquotrade Praxis

Doing so will assist you in better understanding and skillfully applying this

empowering Self Healing approach

You may keep up-to-date on new or added information to this report by referring to

the tri-monthly Your Self Healing Journey News (you receive as part of your

CYSH membership) as well as by returning to the Coaching Your Self Healing blog

(httpwwwCoachingSelfHealingcomblog)

Note In this report I use the word ldquoselfrdquo in a capitalized form as ldquoSelfrdquo You may

find a detailed account on this use of ldquoSelfrdquo in the article Empower Your Self to Heal

Chronic Illness Part 1 Who is the self in Self Healing

For our purposes here Self is that deep core of you the essential being you were

at birth before defining yourself by the cultural identifiers thrust onto you growing-

up and beyond those you have used to create your place in the world

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ANALYSIS

of

Your Daily Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis

ldquoYOURrdquo

First this is truly YOUR activity You may do this at whatever times you choose

and on whatever days feel right for you You may choose to participate once per

day or more frequently on certain days This is YOUR Self Healing program

You access the benefits by proactively participating in SIHP FULLIVINGtrade

benefits accrue as you routinely apply and participate in this approach As you

feel more comfortable and natural during your sessions you may notice you are

more relaxed and calm as you carry out the remainder of your day Symptoms

may seem less troubling less intense and easier to manage You can notice an

improvement in your general mood and more felt-moments of happiness The

fact that you know you are participating not only for your own benefit but the

benefit of all other CYSH members will bring a smile to your face and a

meaningful sense of Self worth for giving so genuinely from your heart

You may also discover applying SIHP can help with the more difficult times you

face Imagine you have been participating in shared-intentional-healingtrade

sessions at about 1 session per day Then because of a virus or change in

medications you enter a more difficult period of heightened symptoms perhaps

leading to a drop-off in your participation Two things to keep in mind here

1 You may email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom) to request other CYSH

members keep YOU in our special intentions during the times we are

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participating in SIHP each day

You do not need to provide identifying information merely some information

about your age gender and what you may be going through at this time This

will assist other members to generate an image of who your are as we focus

our healing intentions for you

2 During these more challenging times you may discover you can access

even more energy and peace by actually increasing the number of times

each day you participate in sessions Please do test this out for yourself

over time

This is not only your program but the process itself is yours as well that is YOU

define what intentional healing is for you according to your history and

experiences your desires and goals No person outside of you can clarify the

means by which you define and measure healing progress nor what results or

goals are more or less important to you as you apply the skills you learn in the

Coaching Your Self Healing program

The steps outlined later in this report are merely guidelines to assist you in

participating in your daily Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis They serve as

guides suggestions to help you get started You will find your own unique way to

participate ndash the way that simply works best for you

So please do explore the process play with it and have fun Whenever you do

come across some variation that is particularly beneficial please send it along to

me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom) so I may pass it along to benefit other

members in our CYSH community

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ldquoDAILYrdquo

You may choose among eight times each day to participate in this practice

900 AM amp PM EST 1200 AM amp PM EST 300 AM amp PM EST and 600 AM amp

PM EST The eight times are provided in order for CYSH members from around

the globe to participate at a convenient time in your time zone as well as

convenient to your schedule around the clock each day Clearly you may

participate at any of the session times regardless of your location

If for some reason you cannot participate during any of these times please do

email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom) so I may be informed of any

scheduling problems that I am not currently taking into consideration My goal

here is to develop a daily schedule that works for everyone around the globe (and

around the clock each day) To start out I would encourage you to set a

reminder alarm a few minutes before your scheduled time ndash at least until you

have formed a comfortable habit of participating in the sessions

I will be present and participate during at least two sessions everyday and I will

rotate through session times each day That way at least every four days you

and I will be attending together at the same time Please understand however

there is never any expectation for you to participate at any particular time(s) nor

on any given day When you participate depends solely on your inner comfort

and your positive intention when you do take part

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Providing so many times is meant solely as a way to coordinate our attention and

energies in synchrony with other community members There is no need to be

concerned about the ldquorightrdquo time to participate As already noted your energies

are better-focused on being-present your comfort and on positive intention

There simply is no ldquorightrdquo time just the time that is right for you

Another advantage of having eight scheduled times each day is to provide

flexibility for you to adjust your participation in response to changes in your

symptom experiences As noted earlier when going through more difficult

symptomatic periods that are disrupting to your routine participating in

additional praxis times (rather than focusing on symptoms) may assist you with

limiting intensity and duration of the exacerbation ndash particularly by generating

more relaxation and rest

Still another helpful way you may consider your praxis ldquotimerdquo has been clarified

by Einstein physicists and spiritual leaders through history What they have

shown us is that ldquotimerdquo is a construct (a ldquoboxrdquo) and is not really ldquoout thererdquo at

all Indeed if ldquotimerdquo exists it can only be NOW

Such a perspective can be extremely nourishing when considering what Deepak

Chopra MD and Wayne Dyer PhD call the ldquogaprdquo The gap is that experience in

which you are ldquocenteredrdquo in the ldquosilent space between thoughtsrdquo When in the

gap you are at that ldquolevel of Being which is your essential staterdquo1 This

experience of being-in-the-gap is timeless ndash rdquothe womb of creationrdquo2 It is within

this state of experience that healing occurs

As you perform your praxis each day you will naturally and directly begin to

experience the timeless-being of the gap firsthand Once you recognize this

experience you will realize that whatever time of day you actually participate in

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SIHP you are doing it in the same NOW as all other CYSH members ndash even

though your session ldquoclock timesrdquo differ throughout the day

ldquoSHAREDrdquo

Remember the key here is that you are surrounding your Self with the one

heartbeat of all the other community members Your attention your energy

and your intentions are SHARED by all ndash just as their energies and intentions are

shared with and for you It is this attitude of sharing-with a wholehearted

giving-to that is key to this approach It is very simple As you give from

your heart-of-caring so you will receive

Be comforted in knowing that by simply participating once a day (after even a

few short days) you will begin to feel more comfortable more at ease more at

peace now than you may have experienced in years AND you know you are

contributing to the FULLIVINGtrade of others that is contributing beyond well-

being into the very heart of healing Trust me when I say your peace and your

giving heart provide a strong (and necessary) foundation on which to build

healing for each of us and of all of us together

ldquoINTENTIONALrdquo

So what does it mean to be INTENTIONAL One of the most helpful reviews of

ldquointentionrdquo is provided by Wayne Dyer PhD3 In Dyers The Power of Intention

(2005) he describes how we may ldquowishrdquo for something to occur in our lives but

such wishing is only a beginning

We may also choose to take the next step beyond wishing to ldquodesirerdquo Desire

results in taking action on the wish and is proactively distinct from wishing It is

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with desire that we now straight-forwardly make the ldquoaskrdquo (as in ldquoask and you

shall receiverdquo)

Still again we can step-up the intensity of our activity even more (beyond

wishing and asking) that is we may frame our desire in terms of what we

actually ldquointend to createrdquo Stop here for a moment close your eyes and feel

the power in these words I INTEND TO CREATE Period And again

I INTEND TO CREATE

We are very matter-of-fact about bringing the thing wished for desired

requested into experience No doubt No fear Creating healing now is simply a

given that occurs by way of you actively participating Period

Such intention-to-create by definition requires both commitment and passion

With commitment we are beyond ldquotryingrdquo to make the thing happen and

instead move into what I call devotion-to-creating (from the original French

devovere ldquodedicated by a vowrdquo) With such devotion we experience a much

deeper more profound state of being an awareness beyond ego

Devotion-to-creating allows you to act beyond the ldquooughtsrdquo and ldquoshouldsrdquo of

others beyond your own doubts and fears beyond obligation and guilt and

directly to the heart of being inspired (ldquodrawing in of airrdquo ldquoinspiritrdquo) that is you

are drawn into relation-with the powerful and empowering Source that creates

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It is by being inspired that you meet the paradox at the heart of ldquointendingrdquo As

you proactively intend-to-create you naturally come to experience being

committed devoted and inspired however you actually create only inasmuch as

you allow your Self to follow the flow of your inspiration naturally ndash that is as

you open your Self to receive Therefore as you intend to heal you must

also open to receive healing

As such it is important you recognize healing happens as you ldquoget out of your

own wayrdquo beyond intellect desire doubt and ego How do we do that How do

we get out of our own way beyond ego Very simply you do that by allowing

your Self to trust your healing

Please take a moment here to recall a time when you were injured in some way

(maybe a cut or broken bone) Beyond receiving necessary medical assistance

what did you do to mend to heal Once attended to medically its likely that you

never gave the actual processes of ldquohealingrdquo much thought ndash dying cells cleared

away new cells forming and eventually performing as if they had been there all

along as if nothing ever happened Healing just occurred your part was to trust

the process take good care of yourself and allow it Whether conscious or not

you simply trusted yourself to heal

It is that same trust you must have as you now commit-to-create intentional

healing Your whole Self system ldquoknowsrdquo how and what needs healing and in

what specific sequence of steps healing must occur Self does not need the

agreement of intellect or common sense to proceed naturally with healing Self

has been carrying out that process every nano-second of every day of your life ndash

simultaneously coordinating trillions of biochemical and energetic activities in

every cell of your entire being Heart beats lungs breath intestines digest and

your job is simply to get out of your own way and trust your Self to heal

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As you do alongside this intense Self-trust and commitment-to-create (our vow)

passion takes over and leads the way beyond common sense beyond

doubting intellect beyond beliefs and even beyond perceptions Such intense

passion emanating from your heart is very simply ldquoagaperdquo (selfless Love) In

this state you no longer experience others as separate bounded subject-object

(I-It) rather you share together in a living boundless oneness-of-relating

honoring the encounter by giving your present and your presence to the

sacredness of ldquoI-Thourdquo4

Map of HEALING INTENTION

I WISH

I DESIRE (ASK)

I INTEND-TO-CREATE

INCLUDES I COMMIT-TO-CREATE (I Vow = Devotion-to-creating)

I AM PASSIONATE

(I am Inspired)

PARADOX OF INTENDING (I Allow I Receive I Trust My Self to Heal)

I-THOU (Agape)

Figure copy2009 by MFDayton

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 14 of 33

It is this deep experience of heartfelt passion and selfless Love you are aiming to

access directly (and share) when you intend from the heart when you are

performing your shared-intentional-healingtrade praxis

So once again stop for a moment now to imagine Imagine the tremendous

healing power at your disposal when you step into your shared session each day

with the intention-to-create healing It means you are committing to heal

vowing to heal trusting your Self to heal by way of your impassioned

heart You are giving your presence to merge as one-heartbeat in

synchrony and selfless love with all other CYSH members in this moment

now Therein lies the true power of your healing intention

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ldquoHEALINGrdquo (beyond ldquobeing curedrdquo)

Clearly what we intend to create during each praxis is HEALING your healing

healing for other members my healing and our healing together as one Yet do

you really know what you mean when you say ldquoI intend to healrdquo

Whenever we take time to reflect on the notion of ldquohealingrdquo typically one of the

first things that bubbles up into awareness is some hope of being ldquocuredrdquo Given

the difficulties and challenges we can face in just making it through even the

most simple of daily activities ldquocurerdquo can be so very inviting Indeed given the

opportunity who of us wouldnt want to be cured of a chronic illness And cured

NOW

Yet by seeking to ldquobe curedrdquo we can become entrenched in even more intense

challenges and symptom exacerbation How could that be What could

possibly be wrong with hoping for a cure

There is nothing wrong with hoping dreaming goal setting Indeed these

activities can provide momentum power purpose and direction to an otherwise

difficult day Yet the moment we turn our attention to ldquobeing curedrdquo our focus

immediately comes to rest on that which we desire to be ldquocured ofrdquo to ldquoget away

fromrdquo and it is here we become derailed Its like the age-old challenge to ldquonot

think of a blue elephantrdquo We must first conceive such a beast before we cannot

think about it

So too with ldquocurerdquo ndash We must first converge our attention and energies even

more intensely on the illness and the symptoms we wish to cease Clearly this

activity takes us in the opposite direction from the relief and health we are

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seeking In fact it is the same process described by Cheri Huber in one of her

more remarkable books entitled That Which You Are Seeking Is Causing You To

Seek (1990) Take a moment now to think about her title in relation to ldquoThe cure

I am seeking is rdquo In short to focus on cure heightens our experience of

dis-ease

To clarify even further when we focus on such moving-away-from-activities we

have no clear vision of what it is we are moving toward Without such clarity our

odds of failing escalate exponentially Success happens only as we also move

toward clearly-defined desires and goals A simple yet powerful example is this

years 40th anniversary of the Apollo 11 moon landing Was that ldquogiant steprdquo

successful because the leaders at NASA focused energy solely on how to create

escape velocity to ldquoget away fromrdquo earth ndash or also on how to get onto the moon

Another helpful example is wanting ldquoout ofrdquo a job Im sure you know of someone

(perhaps yourself) intent on getting away from the daily grind of hisher job Yet

when she did successfully leave that employment inevitably and much too soon

the same situation landslides into the daily grind of the next job Repeating old

patterns of struggle is a very clear sign of actions based on moving-away-

from goals This is a key principle to apply to all aspects of your daily living

The reason this occurs with the get-me-outta-here script is that whatever change

may happen generally does so from ldquowithoutrdquo At best we change scenery Its

the old grass-is-greener scenario ndash which is really no change at all

The inherent problem here can be even more perilous as we see when we take a

closer look at the wording ldquobeing curedrdquo We tend to redirect our attention from

within (our source of creative power) to some force outside that causes the cure

for us (whether that be by way of a physician a healer natural substances

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medications treatments or God)

On some level we tell ourselves if I could figure out what was happening to get

into this situation (ie chronic illness) I would be able to figure out how to get

out of it but (and heres the rub) since I cant I begin to believe less and less in

my innate healing power and more and more that such power must lie outside of

me ndash with an outside force greater than me (whether medical natural or

spiritual)

Please be clear on this point This is not to underplay the importance of qualified

medical professionals to your progress The same is true of the importance and

value of your spirituality and relation-with God Source Higher Power The point

to take away here is that you can only access the benefits of such healing

relations when YOU are first centered and strong in your own being ndash when you

approach your Self as a sacred Thou

Therefore in the situation where you reflexively turn over your power to heal (to

an outside agent) understand the ensuing damage you risk to your sense of Self

Not only are you diminishing belief in your inherent strength and healing power

you are also at risk of allowing others to determine what is best for your well-

being (perhaps even against your deeper intuitive knowing) all of which only

serves to further undermine Self-esteem and the tremendous power that comes

from believing in your Self

Even our religious upbringing can paradoxically weaken our beliefs regarding the

possibility of cure We learn at a deep level that ldquocurerdquo lies only in the realm of

the miraculous Such an orientation can weaken belief in the possibility of ldquome

being cured nowrdquo In fact when being completely honest many of us feel the

odds of ldquome being cured nowrdquo are as slim or slimmer than winning a million dollar

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lottery And when it does not happen were faced with the more daunting issue

of how I must somehow be ldquoflawedrdquo Clearly such underlying attitudes provide

no foundation on which to construct change much less the dramatic change

required with the desire to ldquobe curedrdquo [Here I recommend another Huber book

There Is Nothing Wrong with You Going Beyond Self-Hate (2001)]

In the end when focused on ldquobeing curedrdquo you may not only become separate

from your innate healing power within but you risk the ultimate medical

mistreatment becoming an object to be worked-on mechanically From here it

can be a rapid slide into the role of ldquovictimrdquo whereby you relinquish your

responsibility for choosing altogether (ie intending-to-create) how it is you truly

desire to be In short you risk losing the creative power of intention required to

give birth to healing

By the mid eighties I had been on daily prednisone for over a decade to control

severe bouts of status asthmaticus and recurrent pneumonia Because the

deleterious side-effects of prednisone included adrenal insufficiency (an impaired

stress response) I knew in my heart-of-hearts one key to my well-being lay in

recovering my atrophied stress axis by discontinuing daily prednisone For years

I pleaded with my pulmonary specialist to assist me in tapering off and relearning

how to live prednisone-free Together we did make a few unsuccessful attempts

only to recycle back into another respiratory infection and still higher doses of

prednisone By this time his posture was that I needed to remain on daily

prednisone ldquofor the rest of my liferdquo My posture was to fire him

Fortunately and in short-order I began working with an internist who over the

next two years laid out a plan to become prednisone-free ndash which we did

together successfully Two significant points must be clearly recognized here

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1 You must believe in your innate healing power and if you do not

currently this then becomes your launch pad for your healing journey ndash

relearning to empower your Self to heal

2 You are not in this alone You require the good works of others in

alignment with you to successfully heal As such you need to be very

selective in picking those others with whom you relate to enhance your

medical well-being

If you are feeling your medical support is sapping your power and authority

they probably are but you dont throw the baby out with the bath This is

not about releasing physicians this is about being in a healing

relationship-with your medical professional(s) of choice

Additional cultural biases arise with a focus on ldquocurerdquo Any true change with

regard to chronic illness implies a change ldquofor the betterrdquo That requires us to

believe with certainty that such change can and will bring improvement After

more than fifteen years working with individuals with chronic illness (including

my Self) it is the rare individual Ive encountered who truly believes (from the

core) ldquoI will be curedrdquo We wish for cure certainly but believing with certainty ldquoI

will be curedrdquo rarely

An origin of not believing in ldquobeing curedrdquo lies in the way we traditionally use the

term One problem in particular is that ldquocurerdquo is not a ldquonowrdquo concept -- that is

something I trust to experience now rather we tend to use ldquocurerdquo in a future-

oriented manner of hoping-for-something-to-happen or (at-best) asking-for

maybe praying for cure to happen Yet it is not in the future that you and I

create anything and this is particularly relevant to healing We only create in

the NOW

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Finally even greater issues arise when we attempt to determine precisely what

we mean by the term ldquocurerdquo As one example are you cured when there is ldquoan

end to the disease processrdquo or could that be ldquoremissionrdquo

Does ldquocurerdquo mean a ldquoreturn to full functioningrdquo (ie as I was before the process

started) Is that even possible Consider the case of a disease process that has

already resulted in disfigurement or amputation What does ldquocurerdquo mean in those

situations

Does ldquocurerdquo mean ldquosymptoms are gonerdquo If so are we then cured when

medications relieve or mask the symptoms altogether Do you understand the

quagmire here

It is for all these reasons above that few people are ever truly ldquocuredrdquo of

anything even if we do allow for those who have experienced ldquomiracle curesrdquo

(which are certainly the exception not the norm) Yet when you and I consider

ldquomy situation nowrdquo we need to have the strength of certainty that improvement

is not only possible but immanent

So if not ldquocurerdquo then what You already know the answer And the answer is

ldquohealingrdquo In the end if ldquocurerdquo is anything it is a future-oriented

disempowering mechanical phenomenon at the physical level In contrast

ldquohealingrdquo is an ongoing process (in this moment) of whole-Self transformation

Consider when we truly and proactively ldquohealrdquo we are creating (now) from the

very depths of our core within We are intending-to-create with all the intensity

and power of commitment passion and agape that arises in creative

transformation It is this innate source of inner power to which we must first

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return ldquoas little childrenrdquo in order to initiate healing

We mask nothing when healing now rather we take an active and response-able

role in bringing peace joy and love directly into our daily lives and the lives of

those we touch NOW this moment and in as many moments as we allow

It is from this strong shared intentional healing foundation that we live with the

most power any human being can possibly experience in alignment with in I-

Thou relation-with in the selfless Love that is the very Source of all creation

This process of transformational healing envelops and extends beyond cure at any

level and unlike ldquocurerdquo it is not some static condition at which we arrive (by

the grace of some outside benevolent authority) Rather such transformational

healing is an ongoing process of BEING-a-certain-way in strength in power

in wisdom in loving relation-with (not only Self but Source God Higher Power)

Let this loving empowered healing be the deep transformation you intend ndash your

moment-to-moment empowered healing transformation from core within

ldquoPRAXISrdquo

We finally come to the term PRAXIS Clients often ask why I use ldquopraxisrdquo rather

than something more familiar like ldquopracticerdquo or ldquoexerciserdquo My answer is very

simple and straight-forward

First we can quickly dispense with the term ldquoexerciserdquo Do you really want to

ldquoexerciserdquo intentional healing each day ndash or would you rather just skip having to

exercise any more than you already know you need to do Enough said

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Now imagine I invite you to ldquoplease make sure and practice your intentional

healing each dayrdquo How do you feel then For me it brings up that I must not

be very good at it especially if I need to be practicing every day

Consider now how you feel when I invite you to ldquoskillfully applyrdquo the intentional

healing process in comfort Doesnt ldquoskillful applicationrdquo feel much more

empowering than ldquopracticingrdquo Since ldquopraxisrdquo means ldquoskillful applicationrdquo isnt it

much more inviting to approach your intentional healing sessions with skill

And you will as you become more comfortable applying the process each day

Other folks also ask if shared-intentional-healingtrade wouldnt be better considered

an ldquoexperimentrdquo much like Lynn McTaggarts The Intention Experiment (2007) I

can see how the notion of an ldquoexperimentrdquo carries with it some sense of intrigue

but ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately represent the experience that is shared-

intentional-healingtrade

First (as we learned in our discussion of ldquointentionalrdquo above) when we participate

in Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade we are as a matter-of-fact intending-to-create

healing Such activity cannot be an ldquoexperimentrdquo or we lose the certainty

required for healing change Rather we set out to generate an experience-of-

relating that is powered by being committed empassioned and selflessly loving

You can likely identify such a committed passionate selflessly loving experience

from some time in your life ndash whether in love among family through an

impassioned hobby in seeking some goal or perhaps spiritually As you already

know such an experience is not something we wish-for or hope-for or need to

wait and see what happens It is simply a loving relating-with experience we

already know how to have We just be it and do it

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Moreover (as I suggested above) there is palpable transformation that occurs

within each of us as we gain comfort participating in shared-intentional-healingtrade

This transformational experience happens through your participation and it will

happen for you ndash no need to experiment just simply participate

Moreover at the heart of it the notion of ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately reflect

the research to date on ldquointentionrdquo and ldquohealingrdquo As an example a 1997 review

of research on ldquoIntercessory Prayer for the Alleviation of Ill Healthrdquo by Roberts

Ahmed Hall amp Davison reports individual studies suggest a positive effect of

intercessory prayer But since they viewed other reports in which the results

were equivocal they conclude no ldquo further trials of this intervention should be

takenrdquo5

Regrettably they miss the point The fact that studies DO exist reporting a

positive correlation between intercessory prayer and the alleviation of ill health is

precisely the reason more studies should be undertaken Edison found hundreds

of approaches that were equivocal before discovering a singular lighting solution

Thank goodness he did not conclude any further trials were unnecessary before

arriving at that solution

When it comes to this uniquely intimate subject of healing Eric Leskowitz MD

(in a review of the book Healing Intention amp Energy Medicine (2002) by Wayne

Jonas MD) explains how such conflicting conclusions like Roberts etal come

about Dr Leskowitz notes when he is in discussions with his allopathic medical

colleagues regarding ldquo inexplicable phenomena like energy healing or

intercessory prayer a sort of allopathic fear reflex kicks inrdquo6 Conclusions

become tunnel-visioned and skewed against even the possibility of such

correlation existing anywhere at any time Hence no further trials

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You may however verify for yourself such positively-correlated research does

indeed already exist by reviewing the studies in Jonas book (above) In

addition Marilyn Schlitz PhD provides a brief outline of just some of those

ldquopositive correlationrdquo studies that highlight the ldquointerface of science spirituality

and medicinerdquo7

If you would like an even more in-depth review I refer you to Consciousness amp

Healing Integral Approaches to Mind-Body Medicine (2005) by Schlitz Amorok

and Micozzi as well as the more recent (2008) Holistic Nursing A Handbook for Practice

5th edition by Dossey amp Keegan

In sum although experimental research has certainly not provided the final

answers on the relation between intention and healing the research to date is

most certainly beyond the ldquoequivocalrdquo suggested by those reflexively reacting

from allopathic fear Those studies completed to date which do display a positive

correlation between intention and healing are already providing a strong practical

foundation of powerful techniques and approaches that go far beyond

ldquoexperimentingrdquo and straight to the heart of skillful-application in daily living

Shared-Intentional-Healingrdquotrade is just one such approach you may access today

and everyday simply by participating in your daily praxis

With the above foundation in mind we can now move on to

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PRAXIS GUIDELINES

Having considered in some depth the foundation on which this method rests we

may now turn to the guidelines describing ldquohow tordquo participate in your daily

Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis

Before you approach your first intentional session please read through the

description and suggestions below Remember these opportunities are for YOU

to BENEFIT YOU Again there is no right way nor wrong way for you to

participate You simply participate in your own best way Therefore as noted

previously the description below is solely meant as a guided outline to assist you

in jump-starting your participation ndash sharing with you some ideas that have

already worked well for others in our Community

For this to be beneficial for everyone please do your best to allot at least 5 to

15 minutes for each intentional session If you are already seasoned at

sitting in quiet you certainly may choose to go longer (eg 30) and you can

trust there are other CYSH members continuing in synchrony with you

To start out let your sessions be for shorter periods of time You will experience

a natural increase in length of participation without having to think about it or

plan for it This is not a race nor a test of endurance This is a nourishing of

Self and a cultivation of your best healing intentions Be gentle

In the beginning it can also be helpful if you imagine sending out your healing

intentions in a particular direction around the globe and returning to you from

the opposite direction This way as you imagine can assist you in creating a

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ldquoflowrdquo with regard to directing intentional healing to all others around the globe

As you become more adept you will very naturally be able to generate healing

images radiating from your whole being equally in all directions You will

become aware there is no particular ldquoupdownrdquo in space-time There is just

ldquoeverywhere hererdquo that is always at the center of the universe ndash as you are at all

times and as is each member

Finally please know you may also invite your friends and loved ones to share

with you in these sessions If they cannot participate with you ask them (at

minimum) to set their healing intention for you and send it like a gift to you each

day This can be helpful to them as well knowing they are actively supporting

you with their selfless loving healing

So let us begin with a session description I have broken it down into 8 separate

action steps below

1 First make time to just sit and be comfortable (nothing ldquoto dordquo now)

Loosen any tight clothing

2 Begin breathing slowly until you relax into a comfortable natural pace

This is a time for gentleness Simply allow experience to happen and

follow experience moment-to-moment as you proceed

3 Slowly scan your entire being from head to toes inside and out If you

notice any part of you in tension just allow it to relax naturally and

dissolve with each out-breath

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Note It may take you 2 or more breathing cycles to notice the muscles in a

particular area begin to relax There are times as well when you may just

need to continue on with your scan trusting that the area will release as you

proceed Again this is time for gentle following

4 Once relaxed (as much as may be possible for now) INVITE your Self to

allow and receive healing intention and healing love

Note This may not feel natural or normal within and like a child the

knee-jerk reaction may indeed be to rebel You are merely sending an

invitation nothing more As you repeat this intentional healing invitation

each day you will soon begin to notice that you are indeed looking forward

to this opportunity

5 You are now comfortable relaxed and intentional within It is time now

to image all the other CYSH Members with whom you are sharing this

time Know they too are seeking to generate healing for your challenges

just as you are for theirs Depending on your beliefs it is here that you

may also invite connect with your source of spiritual power (God

Source Higher Power Buddha) to participate with you

6 Spend the next minutes imagining a Circle of Intentional Healing

Energy flowing into you from all the others and out from you to all

others Allow it to be easy natural like the earthrsquos flow of water

circulating from sky to earth and back to sky simply relax into this flow

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Note It may help to imagine your healing intentions emanating from about

2 finger-widths behind and about 3 finger-widths below your navel This

site (known as the ldquolower dan tienrdquo or ldquoharardquo) is considered the physical

center of gravity around which you are in perfect balance

From this point you can imagine healing intention flowing up your trunk

through your neck and head and out the top of your head to the other

CYSH members

The healing intention returning to you can be experienced as coming into

you at the same center of gravity point from which you started

Important Do not attempt to localize your intentions to any one region

within (brain heart liver etc) the reason being that a given illness process

occurs across and between physiological systems (even though we may talk

as if it is isolated to one system) It is best to imagine your entire Self

within a cocoon or bubble of flowing healing intention ndash everywhere within

you at once You may experience color warmth safety Luxuriate in your

experience Enjoy the moment

During this intentional time it can also be helpful on a given inout cycle of

breath to silently express I send out Loving Healing On the next

inout cycle silently express I receive Loving Healing and so on

In addition if your mind wanders off task (amp it will) just gently return to

the flow of loving healing intention Remember this experience is all about

being gentle Enjoy the process

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Continue in this state for as long as you desire and is easy comfortable

and natural With practice your will naturally be at ease for longer

periods of time during each session

7 When complete express gratitude to your Self as well as to all others

sharing in this moment with you Sit in this experience of gratitude for a

few moments

8 Savor the nourishing peace you have generated

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8-STEP PRAXIS REVIEW

1 SIT in comfort

2 BREATHE slowly rhythmically

3 SCAN (head to toes) to relax further still

4 INVITE SELF to allow healing intention

5 RELATE-WITH all other CYSH members amp Spiritual Power

6 SENDRECEIVE intentional healing

ldquoI send out Loving Healingrdquo ldquoI receive Loving Healingrdquo

7 Sit in GRATITUDE

8 SAVOR the nourishing peace

I genuinely look forward to your daily participation and to sharing this powerful

healing process with you I would love to hear your experiences with your praxis

Please do feel free to email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom)

My mission is to Coach You Well

Sincerely amp Caringly

MALCOLM

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REFERENCES

1 Chopra Deepak (1994) The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success ndash A Practical Guide to

the Fulfillment of Your Dreams p76

2 Chopra Deepak (1999) A Deepak Chopra Companion Illuminations on Health and

Human Consciousness p94

3 Dyer httpwwwyoutubecomwatchv=DC-FPorUW7gampfeature=related

4 Buber Martin (1971) I And Thou

5 Intercessory prayer httpwwwcochraneorgreviewsenab000368html

6 Leskowitz httpwholistichealingresearchcom42books12

7 Schlitz httpxnetkporgpermanentejournalsum05evidencepdf

copy2009byMFDayton

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ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Malcolm Dayton LPC Cht is a Licensed Counselor with more than two decades coaching individuals and families facing chronic illness He is also certified in MindBody Medicine and Hypnotherapy

Malcolms Coaching Self Healing program is unique in that he calls on his own lifelong journey with chronic illness (multiple sclerosis asthma immune deficiency) to assist you in accessing your unique healing solutions Very simply Malcolm walks his coaching

His coaching program is truly integral-- that is healing solutions are practical in focus and applied comprehensively incorporating all dimensions of your experience from symptoms to wellness from relations within self to social relations from the physical to spiritual--a truly ecological approach to Self Healing You learn to be FULLIVINGtrade ndash to thrive beyond chronic illness

Malcolms mission is to Coach You WELL

CONTACTMalcolm Dayton LPC CHt

email mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom

phone 970-689-4247

Yes Malcolm Im ready to discover

the benefits of Self Healing Coaching NOW

Sign me up now for myCOMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION

Be Well And THRIVE Beyond Chronic Illness Now

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Page 6: Thriving Beyond Chronic Illness:  Shared-Intentional-Healing Praxis

Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis

One of the more powerful (and empowering) practices CYSH offers you is your

daily Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis (SIHP) This compelling activity

provides various times throughout each day when you can stop the noise in your

life and focus your attention (and intention) on FULLIVINGtrade for your Self as

well as for all the members of your CYSH community At any of the scheduled

times you may take a break from the busyness of your day amp take 5 to 15

minutes to send (amp receive) shared healing intentions in concert with all the

other CYSH members The details of ldquohow tordquo participate in this shared activity

are provided later in this report

Before jumping into the mechanics however we will first take a few moments to

construct the foundation for your daily Shared-Intentional-Healingrdquotrade Praxis

Doing so will assist you in better understanding and skillfully applying this

empowering Self Healing approach

You may keep up-to-date on new or added information to this report by referring to

the tri-monthly Your Self Healing Journey News (you receive as part of your

CYSH membership) as well as by returning to the Coaching Your Self Healing blog

(httpwwwCoachingSelfHealingcomblog)

Note In this report I use the word ldquoselfrdquo in a capitalized form as ldquoSelfrdquo You may

find a detailed account on this use of ldquoSelfrdquo in the article Empower Your Self to Heal

Chronic Illness Part 1 Who is the self in Self Healing

For our purposes here Self is that deep core of you the essential being you were

at birth before defining yourself by the cultural identifiers thrust onto you growing-

up and beyond those you have used to create your place in the world

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ANALYSIS

of

Your Daily Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis

ldquoYOURrdquo

First this is truly YOUR activity You may do this at whatever times you choose

and on whatever days feel right for you You may choose to participate once per

day or more frequently on certain days This is YOUR Self Healing program

You access the benefits by proactively participating in SIHP FULLIVINGtrade

benefits accrue as you routinely apply and participate in this approach As you

feel more comfortable and natural during your sessions you may notice you are

more relaxed and calm as you carry out the remainder of your day Symptoms

may seem less troubling less intense and easier to manage You can notice an

improvement in your general mood and more felt-moments of happiness The

fact that you know you are participating not only for your own benefit but the

benefit of all other CYSH members will bring a smile to your face and a

meaningful sense of Self worth for giving so genuinely from your heart

You may also discover applying SIHP can help with the more difficult times you

face Imagine you have been participating in shared-intentional-healingtrade

sessions at about 1 session per day Then because of a virus or change in

medications you enter a more difficult period of heightened symptoms perhaps

leading to a drop-off in your participation Two things to keep in mind here

1 You may email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom) to request other CYSH

members keep YOU in our special intentions during the times we are

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 7 of 33

participating in SIHP each day

You do not need to provide identifying information merely some information

about your age gender and what you may be going through at this time This

will assist other members to generate an image of who your are as we focus

our healing intentions for you

2 During these more challenging times you may discover you can access

even more energy and peace by actually increasing the number of times

each day you participate in sessions Please do test this out for yourself

over time

This is not only your program but the process itself is yours as well that is YOU

define what intentional healing is for you according to your history and

experiences your desires and goals No person outside of you can clarify the

means by which you define and measure healing progress nor what results or

goals are more or less important to you as you apply the skills you learn in the

Coaching Your Self Healing program

The steps outlined later in this report are merely guidelines to assist you in

participating in your daily Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis They serve as

guides suggestions to help you get started You will find your own unique way to

participate ndash the way that simply works best for you

So please do explore the process play with it and have fun Whenever you do

come across some variation that is particularly beneficial please send it along to

me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom) so I may pass it along to benefit other

members in our CYSH community

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 8 of 33

ldquoDAILYrdquo

You may choose among eight times each day to participate in this practice

900 AM amp PM EST 1200 AM amp PM EST 300 AM amp PM EST and 600 AM amp

PM EST The eight times are provided in order for CYSH members from around

the globe to participate at a convenient time in your time zone as well as

convenient to your schedule around the clock each day Clearly you may

participate at any of the session times regardless of your location

If for some reason you cannot participate during any of these times please do

email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom) so I may be informed of any

scheduling problems that I am not currently taking into consideration My goal

here is to develop a daily schedule that works for everyone around the globe (and

around the clock each day) To start out I would encourage you to set a

reminder alarm a few minutes before your scheduled time ndash at least until you

have formed a comfortable habit of participating in the sessions

I will be present and participate during at least two sessions everyday and I will

rotate through session times each day That way at least every four days you

and I will be attending together at the same time Please understand however

there is never any expectation for you to participate at any particular time(s) nor

on any given day When you participate depends solely on your inner comfort

and your positive intention when you do take part

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Providing so many times is meant solely as a way to coordinate our attention and

energies in synchrony with other community members There is no need to be

concerned about the ldquorightrdquo time to participate As already noted your energies

are better-focused on being-present your comfort and on positive intention

There simply is no ldquorightrdquo time just the time that is right for you

Another advantage of having eight scheduled times each day is to provide

flexibility for you to adjust your participation in response to changes in your

symptom experiences As noted earlier when going through more difficult

symptomatic periods that are disrupting to your routine participating in

additional praxis times (rather than focusing on symptoms) may assist you with

limiting intensity and duration of the exacerbation ndash particularly by generating

more relaxation and rest

Still another helpful way you may consider your praxis ldquotimerdquo has been clarified

by Einstein physicists and spiritual leaders through history What they have

shown us is that ldquotimerdquo is a construct (a ldquoboxrdquo) and is not really ldquoout thererdquo at

all Indeed if ldquotimerdquo exists it can only be NOW

Such a perspective can be extremely nourishing when considering what Deepak

Chopra MD and Wayne Dyer PhD call the ldquogaprdquo The gap is that experience in

which you are ldquocenteredrdquo in the ldquosilent space between thoughtsrdquo When in the

gap you are at that ldquolevel of Being which is your essential staterdquo1 This

experience of being-in-the-gap is timeless ndash rdquothe womb of creationrdquo2 It is within

this state of experience that healing occurs

As you perform your praxis each day you will naturally and directly begin to

experience the timeless-being of the gap firsthand Once you recognize this

experience you will realize that whatever time of day you actually participate in

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SIHP you are doing it in the same NOW as all other CYSH members ndash even

though your session ldquoclock timesrdquo differ throughout the day

ldquoSHAREDrdquo

Remember the key here is that you are surrounding your Self with the one

heartbeat of all the other community members Your attention your energy

and your intentions are SHARED by all ndash just as their energies and intentions are

shared with and for you It is this attitude of sharing-with a wholehearted

giving-to that is key to this approach It is very simple As you give from

your heart-of-caring so you will receive

Be comforted in knowing that by simply participating once a day (after even a

few short days) you will begin to feel more comfortable more at ease more at

peace now than you may have experienced in years AND you know you are

contributing to the FULLIVINGtrade of others that is contributing beyond well-

being into the very heart of healing Trust me when I say your peace and your

giving heart provide a strong (and necessary) foundation on which to build

healing for each of us and of all of us together

ldquoINTENTIONALrdquo

So what does it mean to be INTENTIONAL One of the most helpful reviews of

ldquointentionrdquo is provided by Wayne Dyer PhD3 In Dyers The Power of Intention

(2005) he describes how we may ldquowishrdquo for something to occur in our lives but

such wishing is only a beginning

We may also choose to take the next step beyond wishing to ldquodesirerdquo Desire

results in taking action on the wish and is proactively distinct from wishing It is

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with desire that we now straight-forwardly make the ldquoaskrdquo (as in ldquoask and you

shall receiverdquo)

Still again we can step-up the intensity of our activity even more (beyond

wishing and asking) that is we may frame our desire in terms of what we

actually ldquointend to createrdquo Stop here for a moment close your eyes and feel

the power in these words I INTEND TO CREATE Period And again

I INTEND TO CREATE

We are very matter-of-fact about bringing the thing wished for desired

requested into experience No doubt No fear Creating healing now is simply a

given that occurs by way of you actively participating Period

Such intention-to-create by definition requires both commitment and passion

With commitment we are beyond ldquotryingrdquo to make the thing happen and

instead move into what I call devotion-to-creating (from the original French

devovere ldquodedicated by a vowrdquo) With such devotion we experience a much

deeper more profound state of being an awareness beyond ego

Devotion-to-creating allows you to act beyond the ldquooughtsrdquo and ldquoshouldsrdquo of

others beyond your own doubts and fears beyond obligation and guilt and

directly to the heart of being inspired (ldquodrawing in of airrdquo ldquoinspiritrdquo) that is you

are drawn into relation-with the powerful and empowering Source that creates

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It is by being inspired that you meet the paradox at the heart of ldquointendingrdquo As

you proactively intend-to-create you naturally come to experience being

committed devoted and inspired however you actually create only inasmuch as

you allow your Self to follow the flow of your inspiration naturally ndash that is as

you open your Self to receive Therefore as you intend to heal you must

also open to receive healing

As such it is important you recognize healing happens as you ldquoget out of your

own wayrdquo beyond intellect desire doubt and ego How do we do that How do

we get out of our own way beyond ego Very simply you do that by allowing

your Self to trust your healing

Please take a moment here to recall a time when you were injured in some way

(maybe a cut or broken bone) Beyond receiving necessary medical assistance

what did you do to mend to heal Once attended to medically its likely that you

never gave the actual processes of ldquohealingrdquo much thought ndash dying cells cleared

away new cells forming and eventually performing as if they had been there all

along as if nothing ever happened Healing just occurred your part was to trust

the process take good care of yourself and allow it Whether conscious or not

you simply trusted yourself to heal

It is that same trust you must have as you now commit-to-create intentional

healing Your whole Self system ldquoknowsrdquo how and what needs healing and in

what specific sequence of steps healing must occur Self does not need the

agreement of intellect or common sense to proceed naturally with healing Self

has been carrying out that process every nano-second of every day of your life ndash

simultaneously coordinating trillions of biochemical and energetic activities in

every cell of your entire being Heart beats lungs breath intestines digest and

your job is simply to get out of your own way and trust your Self to heal

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As you do alongside this intense Self-trust and commitment-to-create (our vow)

passion takes over and leads the way beyond common sense beyond

doubting intellect beyond beliefs and even beyond perceptions Such intense

passion emanating from your heart is very simply ldquoagaperdquo (selfless Love) In

this state you no longer experience others as separate bounded subject-object

(I-It) rather you share together in a living boundless oneness-of-relating

honoring the encounter by giving your present and your presence to the

sacredness of ldquoI-Thourdquo4

Map of HEALING INTENTION

I WISH

I DESIRE (ASK)

I INTEND-TO-CREATE

INCLUDES I COMMIT-TO-CREATE (I Vow = Devotion-to-creating)

I AM PASSIONATE

(I am Inspired)

PARADOX OF INTENDING (I Allow I Receive I Trust My Self to Heal)

I-THOU (Agape)

Figure copy2009 by MFDayton

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It is this deep experience of heartfelt passion and selfless Love you are aiming to

access directly (and share) when you intend from the heart when you are

performing your shared-intentional-healingtrade praxis

So once again stop for a moment now to imagine Imagine the tremendous

healing power at your disposal when you step into your shared session each day

with the intention-to-create healing It means you are committing to heal

vowing to heal trusting your Self to heal by way of your impassioned

heart You are giving your presence to merge as one-heartbeat in

synchrony and selfless love with all other CYSH members in this moment

now Therein lies the true power of your healing intention

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ldquoHEALINGrdquo (beyond ldquobeing curedrdquo)

Clearly what we intend to create during each praxis is HEALING your healing

healing for other members my healing and our healing together as one Yet do

you really know what you mean when you say ldquoI intend to healrdquo

Whenever we take time to reflect on the notion of ldquohealingrdquo typically one of the

first things that bubbles up into awareness is some hope of being ldquocuredrdquo Given

the difficulties and challenges we can face in just making it through even the

most simple of daily activities ldquocurerdquo can be so very inviting Indeed given the

opportunity who of us wouldnt want to be cured of a chronic illness And cured

NOW

Yet by seeking to ldquobe curedrdquo we can become entrenched in even more intense

challenges and symptom exacerbation How could that be What could

possibly be wrong with hoping for a cure

There is nothing wrong with hoping dreaming goal setting Indeed these

activities can provide momentum power purpose and direction to an otherwise

difficult day Yet the moment we turn our attention to ldquobeing curedrdquo our focus

immediately comes to rest on that which we desire to be ldquocured ofrdquo to ldquoget away

fromrdquo and it is here we become derailed Its like the age-old challenge to ldquonot

think of a blue elephantrdquo We must first conceive such a beast before we cannot

think about it

So too with ldquocurerdquo ndash We must first converge our attention and energies even

more intensely on the illness and the symptoms we wish to cease Clearly this

activity takes us in the opposite direction from the relief and health we are

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seeking In fact it is the same process described by Cheri Huber in one of her

more remarkable books entitled That Which You Are Seeking Is Causing You To

Seek (1990) Take a moment now to think about her title in relation to ldquoThe cure

I am seeking is rdquo In short to focus on cure heightens our experience of

dis-ease

To clarify even further when we focus on such moving-away-from-activities we

have no clear vision of what it is we are moving toward Without such clarity our

odds of failing escalate exponentially Success happens only as we also move

toward clearly-defined desires and goals A simple yet powerful example is this

years 40th anniversary of the Apollo 11 moon landing Was that ldquogiant steprdquo

successful because the leaders at NASA focused energy solely on how to create

escape velocity to ldquoget away fromrdquo earth ndash or also on how to get onto the moon

Another helpful example is wanting ldquoout ofrdquo a job Im sure you know of someone

(perhaps yourself) intent on getting away from the daily grind of hisher job Yet

when she did successfully leave that employment inevitably and much too soon

the same situation landslides into the daily grind of the next job Repeating old

patterns of struggle is a very clear sign of actions based on moving-away-

from goals This is a key principle to apply to all aspects of your daily living

The reason this occurs with the get-me-outta-here script is that whatever change

may happen generally does so from ldquowithoutrdquo At best we change scenery Its

the old grass-is-greener scenario ndash which is really no change at all

The inherent problem here can be even more perilous as we see when we take a

closer look at the wording ldquobeing curedrdquo We tend to redirect our attention from

within (our source of creative power) to some force outside that causes the cure

for us (whether that be by way of a physician a healer natural substances

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medications treatments or God)

On some level we tell ourselves if I could figure out what was happening to get

into this situation (ie chronic illness) I would be able to figure out how to get

out of it but (and heres the rub) since I cant I begin to believe less and less in

my innate healing power and more and more that such power must lie outside of

me ndash with an outside force greater than me (whether medical natural or

spiritual)

Please be clear on this point This is not to underplay the importance of qualified

medical professionals to your progress The same is true of the importance and

value of your spirituality and relation-with God Source Higher Power The point

to take away here is that you can only access the benefits of such healing

relations when YOU are first centered and strong in your own being ndash when you

approach your Self as a sacred Thou

Therefore in the situation where you reflexively turn over your power to heal (to

an outside agent) understand the ensuing damage you risk to your sense of Self

Not only are you diminishing belief in your inherent strength and healing power

you are also at risk of allowing others to determine what is best for your well-

being (perhaps even against your deeper intuitive knowing) all of which only

serves to further undermine Self-esteem and the tremendous power that comes

from believing in your Self

Even our religious upbringing can paradoxically weaken our beliefs regarding the

possibility of cure We learn at a deep level that ldquocurerdquo lies only in the realm of

the miraculous Such an orientation can weaken belief in the possibility of ldquome

being cured nowrdquo In fact when being completely honest many of us feel the

odds of ldquome being cured nowrdquo are as slim or slimmer than winning a million dollar

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lottery And when it does not happen were faced with the more daunting issue

of how I must somehow be ldquoflawedrdquo Clearly such underlying attitudes provide

no foundation on which to construct change much less the dramatic change

required with the desire to ldquobe curedrdquo [Here I recommend another Huber book

There Is Nothing Wrong with You Going Beyond Self-Hate (2001)]

In the end when focused on ldquobeing curedrdquo you may not only become separate

from your innate healing power within but you risk the ultimate medical

mistreatment becoming an object to be worked-on mechanically From here it

can be a rapid slide into the role of ldquovictimrdquo whereby you relinquish your

responsibility for choosing altogether (ie intending-to-create) how it is you truly

desire to be In short you risk losing the creative power of intention required to

give birth to healing

By the mid eighties I had been on daily prednisone for over a decade to control

severe bouts of status asthmaticus and recurrent pneumonia Because the

deleterious side-effects of prednisone included adrenal insufficiency (an impaired

stress response) I knew in my heart-of-hearts one key to my well-being lay in

recovering my atrophied stress axis by discontinuing daily prednisone For years

I pleaded with my pulmonary specialist to assist me in tapering off and relearning

how to live prednisone-free Together we did make a few unsuccessful attempts

only to recycle back into another respiratory infection and still higher doses of

prednisone By this time his posture was that I needed to remain on daily

prednisone ldquofor the rest of my liferdquo My posture was to fire him

Fortunately and in short-order I began working with an internist who over the

next two years laid out a plan to become prednisone-free ndash which we did

together successfully Two significant points must be clearly recognized here

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1 You must believe in your innate healing power and if you do not

currently this then becomes your launch pad for your healing journey ndash

relearning to empower your Self to heal

2 You are not in this alone You require the good works of others in

alignment with you to successfully heal As such you need to be very

selective in picking those others with whom you relate to enhance your

medical well-being

If you are feeling your medical support is sapping your power and authority

they probably are but you dont throw the baby out with the bath This is

not about releasing physicians this is about being in a healing

relationship-with your medical professional(s) of choice

Additional cultural biases arise with a focus on ldquocurerdquo Any true change with

regard to chronic illness implies a change ldquofor the betterrdquo That requires us to

believe with certainty that such change can and will bring improvement After

more than fifteen years working with individuals with chronic illness (including

my Self) it is the rare individual Ive encountered who truly believes (from the

core) ldquoI will be curedrdquo We wish for cure certainly but believing with certainty ldquoI

will be curedrdquo rarely

An origin of not believing in ldquobeing curedrdquo lies in the way we traditionally use the

term One problem in particular is that ldquocurerdquo is not a ldquonowrdquo concept -- that is

something I trust to experience now rather we tend to use ldquocurerdquo in a future-

oriented manner of hoping-for-something-to-happen or (at-best) asking-for

maybe praying for cure to happen Yet it is not in the future that you and I

create anything and this is particularly relevant to healing We only create in

the NOW

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Finally even greater issues arise when we attempt to determine precisely what

we mean by the term ldquocurerdquo As one example are you cured when there is ldquoan

end to the disease processrdquo or could that be ldquoremissionrdquo

Does ldquocurerdquo mean a ldquoreturn to full functioningrdquo (ie as I was before the process

started) Is that even possible Consider the case of a disease process that has

already resulted in disfigurement or amputation What does ldquocurerdquo mean in those

situations

Does ldquocurerdquo mean ldquosymptoms are gonerdquo If so are we then cured when

medications relieve or mask the symptoms altogether Do you understand the

quagmire here

It is for all these reasons above that few people are ever truly ldquocuredrdquo of

anything even if we do allow for those who have experienced ldquomiracle curesrdquo

(which are certainly the exception not the norm) Yet when you and I consider

ldquomy situation nowrdquo we need to have the strength of certainty that improvement

is not only possible but immanent

So if not ldquocurerdquo then what You already know the answer And the answer is

ldquohealingrdquo In the end if ldquocurerdquo is anything it is a future-oriented

disempowering mechanical phenomenon at the physical level In contrast

ldquohealingrdquo is an ongoing process (in this moment) of whole-Self transformation

Consider when we truly and proactively ldquohealrdquo we are creating (now) from the

very depths of our core within We are intending-to-create with all the intensity

and power of commitment passion and agape that arises in creative

transformation It is this innate source of inner power to which we must first

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return ldquoas little childrenrdquo in order to initiate healing

We mask nothing when healing now rather we take an active and response-able

role in bringing peace joy and love directly into our daily lives and the lives of

those we touch NOW this moment and in as many moments as we allow

It is from this strong shared intentional healing foundation that we live with the

most power any human being can possibly experience in alignment with in I-

Thou relation-with in the selfless Love that is the very Source of all creation

This process of transformational healing envelops and extends beyond cure at any

level and unlike ldquocurerdquo it is not some static condition at which we arrive (by

the grace of some outside benevolent authority) Rather such transformational

healing is an ongoing process of BEING-a-certain-way in strength in power

in wisdom in loving relation-with (not only Self but Source God Higher Power)

Let this loving empowered healing be the deep transformation you intend ndash your

moment-to-moment empowered healing transformation from core within

ldquoPRAXISrdquo

We finally come to the term PRAXIS Clients often ask why I use ldquopraxisrdquo rather

than something more familiar like ldquopracticerdquo or ldquoexerciserdquo My answer is very

simple and straight-forward

First we can quickly dispense with the term ldquoexerciserdquo Do you really want to

ldquoexerciserdquo intentional healing each day ndash or would you rather just skip having to

exercise any more than you already know you need to do Enough said

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Now imagine I invite you to ldquoplease make sure and practice your intentional

healing each dayrdquo How do you feel then For me it brings up that I must not

be very good at it especially if I need to be practicing every day

Consider now how you feel when I invite you to ldquoskillfully applyrdquo the intentional

healing process in comfort Doesnt ldquoskillful applicationrdquo feel much more

empowering than ldquopracticingrdquo Since ldquopraxisrdquo means ldquoskillful applicationrdquo isnt it

much more inviting to approach your intentional healing sessions with skill

And you will as you become more comfortable applying the process each day

Other folks also ask if shared-intentional-healingtrade wouldnt be better considered

an ldquoexperimentrdquo much like Lynn McTaggarts The Intention Experiment (2007) I

can see how the notion of an ldquoexperimentrdquo carries with it some sense of intrigue

but ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately represent the experience that is shared-

intentional-healingtrade

First (as we learned in our discussion of ldquointentionalrdquo above) when we participate

in Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade we are as a matter-of-fact intending-to-create

healing Such activity cannot be an ldquoexperimentrdquo or we lose the certainty

required for healing change Rather we set out to generate an experience-of-

relating that is powered by being committed empassioned and selflessly loving

You can likely identify such a committed passionate selflessly loving experience

from some time in your life ndash whether in love among family through an

impassioned hobby in seeking some goal or perhaps spiritually As you already

know such an experience is not something we wish-for or hope-for or need to

wait and see what happens It is simply a loving relating-with experience we

already know how to have We just be it and do it

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Moreover (as I suggested above) there is palpable transformation that occurs

within each of us as we gain comfort participating in shared-intentional-healingtrade

This transformational experience happens through your participation and it will

happen for you ndash no need to experiment just simply participate

Moreover at the heart of it the notion of ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately reflect

the research to date on ldquointentionrdquo and ldquohealingrdquo As an example a 1997 review

of research on ldquoIntercessory Prayer for the Alleviation of Ill Healthrdquo by Roberts

Ahmed Hall amp Davison reports individual studies suggest a positive effect of

intercessory prayer But since they viewed other reports in which the results

were equivocal they conclude no ldquo further trials of this intervention should be

takenrdquo5

Regrettably they miss the point The fact that studies DO exist reporting a

positive correlation between intercessory prayer and the alleviation of ill health is

precisely the reason more studies should be undertaken Edison found hundreds

of approaches that were equivocal before discovering a singular lighting solution

Thank goodness he did not conclude any further trials were unnecessary before

arriving at that solution

When it comes to this uniquely intimate subject of healing Eric Leskowitz MD

(in a review of the book Healing Intention amp Energy Medicine (2002) by Wayne

Jonas MD) explains how such conflicting conclusions like Roberts etal come

about Dr Leskowitz notes when he is in discussions with his allopathic medical

colleagues regarding ldquo inexplicable phenomena like energy healing or

intercessory prayer a sort of allopathic fear reflex kicks inrdquo6 Conclusions

become tunnel-visioned and skewed against even the possibility of such

correlation existing anywhere at any time Hence no further trials

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You may however verify for yourself such positively-correlated research does

indeed already exist by reviewing the studies in Jonas book (above) In

addition Marilyn Schlitz PhD provides a brief outline of just some of those

ldquopositive correlationrdquo studies that highlight the ldquointerface of science spirituality

and medicinerdquo7

If you would like an even more in-depth review I refer you to Consciousness amp

Healing Integral Approaches to Mind-Body Medicine (2005) by Schlitz Amorok

and Micozzi as well as the more recent (2008) Holistic Nursing A Handbook for Practice

5th edition by Dossey amp Keegan

In sum although experimental research has certainly not provided the final

answers on the relation between intention and healing the research to date is

most certainly beyond the ldquoequivocalrdquo suggested by those reflexively reacting

from allopathic fear Those studies completed to date which do display a positive

correlation between intention and healing are already providing a strong practical

foundation of powerful techniques and approaches that go far beyond

ldquoexperimentingrdquo and straight to the heart of skillful-application in daily living

Shared-Intentional-Healingrdquotrade is just one such approach you may access today

and everyday simply by participating in your daily praxis

With the above foundation in mind we can now move on to

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PRAXIS GUIDELINES

Having considered in some depth the foundation on which this method rests we

may now turn to the guidelines describing ldquohow tordquo participate in your daily

Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis

Before you approach your first intentional session please read through the

description and suggestions below Remember these opportunities are for YOU

to BENEFIT YOU Again there is no right way nor wrong way for you to

participate You simply participate in your own best way Therefore as noted

previously the description below is solely meant as a guided outline to assist you

in jump-starting your participation ndash sharing with you some ideas that have

already worked well for others in our Community

For this to be beneficial for everyone please do your best to allot at least 5 to

15 minutes for each intentional session If you are already seasoned at

sitting in quiet you certainly may choose to go longer (eg 30) and you can

trust there are other CYSH members continuing in synchrony with you

To start out let your sessions be for shorter periods of time You will experience

a natural increase in length of participation without having to think about it or

plan for it This is not a race nor a test of endurance This is a nourishing of

Self and a cultivation of your best healing intentions Be gentle

In the beginning it can also be helpful if you imagine sending out your healing

intentions in a particular direction around the globe and returning to you from

the opposite direction This way as you imagine can assist you in creating a

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ldquoflowrdquo with regard to directing intentional healing to all others around the globe

As you become more adept you will very naturally be able to generate healing

images radiating from your whole being equally in all directions You will

become aware there is no particular ldquoupdownrdquo in space-time There is just

ldquoeverywhere hererdquo that is always at the center of the universe ndash as you are at all

times and as is each member

Finally please know you may also invite your friends and loved ones to share

with you in these sessions If they cannot participate with you ask them (at

minimum) to set their healing intention for you and send it like a gift to you each

day This can be helpful to them as well knowing they are actively supporting

you with their selfless loving healing

So let us begin with a session description I have broken it down into 8 separate

action steps below

1 First make time to just sit and be comfortable (nothing ldquoto dordquo now)

Loosen any tight clothing

2 Begin breathing slowly until you relax into a comfortable natural pace

This is a time for gentleness Simply allow experience to happen and

follow experience moment-to-moment as you proceed

3 Slowly scan your entire being from head to toes inside and out If you

notice any part of you in tension just allow it to relax naturally and

dissolve with each out-breath

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Note It may take you 2 or more breathing cycles to notice the muscles in a

particular area begin to relax There are times as well when you may just

need to continue on with your scan trusting that the area will release as you

proceed Again this is time for gentle following

4 Once relaxed (as much as may be possible for now) INVITE your Self to

allow and receive healing intention and healing love

Note This may not feel natural or normal within and like a child the

knee-jerk reaction may indeed be to rebel You are merely sending an

invitation nothing more As you repeat this intentional healing invitation

each day you will soon begin to notice that you are indeed looking forward

to this opportunity

5 You are now comfortable relaxed and intentional within It is time now

to image all the other CYSH Members with whom you are sharing this

time Know they too are seeking to generate healing for your challenges

just as you are for theirs Depending on your beliefs it is here that you

may also invite connect with your source of spiritual power (God

Source Higher Power Buddha) to participate with you

6 Spend the next minutes imagining a Circle of Intentional Healing

Energy flowing into you from all the others and out from you to all

others Allow it to be easy natural like the earthrsquos flow of water

circulating from sky to earth and back to sky simply relax into this flow

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Note It may help to imagine your healing intentions emanating from about

2 finger-widths behind and about 3 finger-widths below your navel This

site (known as the ldquolower dan tienrdquo or ldquoharardquo) is considered the physical

center of gravity around which you are in perfect balance

From this point you can imagine healing intention flowing up your trunk

through your neck and head and out the top of your head to the other

CYSH members

The healing intention returning to you can be experienced as coming into

you at the same center of gravity point from which you started

Important Do not attempt to localize your intentions to any one region

within (brain heart liver etc) the reason being that a given illness process

occurs across and between physiological systems (even though we may talk

as if it is isolated to one system) It is best to imagine your entire Self

within a cocoon or bubble of flowing healing intention ndash everywhere within

you at once You may experience color warmth safety Luxuriate in your

experience Enjoy the moment

During this intentional time it can also be helpful on a given inout cycle of

breath to silently express I send out Loving Healing On the next

inout cycle silently express I receive Loving Healing and so on

In addition if your mind wanders off task (amp it will) just gently return to

the flow of loving healing intention Remember this experience is all about

being gentle Enjoy the process

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Continue in this state for as long as you desire and is easy comfortable

and natural With practice your will naturally be at ease for longer

periods of time during each session

7 When complete express gratitude to your Self as well as to all others

sharing in this moment with you Sit in this experience of gratitude for a

few moments

8 Savor the nourishing peace you have generated

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8-STEP PRAXIS REVIEW

1 SIT in comfort

2 BREATHE slowly rhythmically

3 SCAN (head to toes) to relax further still

4 INVITE SELF to allow healing intention

5 RELATE-WITH all other CYSH members amp Spiritual Power

6 SENDRECEIVE intentional healing

ldquoI send out Loving Healingrdquo ldquoI receive Loving Healingrdquo

7 Sit in GRATITUDE

8 SAVOR the nourishing peace

I genuinely look forward to your daily participation and to sharing this powerful

healing process with you I would love to hear your experiences with your praxis

Please do feel free to email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom)

My mission is to Coach You Well

Sincerely amp Caringly

MALCOLM

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REFERENCES

1 Chopra Deepak (1994) The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success ndash A Practical Guide to

the Fulfillment of Your Dreams p76

2 Chopra Deepak (1999) A Deepak Chopra Companion Illuminations on Health and

Human Consciousness p94

3 Dyer httpwwwyoutubecomwatchv=DC-FPorUW7gampfeature=related

4 Buber Martin (1971) I And Thou

5 Intercessory prayer httpwwwcochraneorgreviewsenab000368html

6 Leskowitz httpwholistichealingresearchcom42books12

7 Schlitz httpxnetkporgpermanentejournalsum05evidencepdf

copy2009byMFDayton

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ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Malcolm Dayton LPC Cht is a Licensed Counselor with more than two decades coaching individuals and families facing chronic illness He is also certified in MindBody Medicine and Hypnotherapy

Malcolms Coaching Self Healing program is unique in that he calls on his own lifelong journey with chronic illness (multiple sclerosis asthma immune deficiency) to assist you in accessing your unique healing solutions Very simply Malcolm walks his coaching

His coaching program is truly integral-- that is healing solutions are practical in focus and applied comprehensively incorporating all dimensions of your experience from symptoms to wellness from relations within self to social relations from the physical to spiritual--a truly ecological approach to Self Healing You learn to be FULLIVINGtrade ndash to thrive beyond chronic illness

Malcolms mission is to Coach You WELL

CONTACTMalcolm Dayton LPC CHt

email mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom

phone 970-689-4247

Yes Malcolm Im ready to discover

the benefits of Self Healing Coaching NOW

Sign me up now for myCOMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION

Be Well And THRIVE Beyond Chronic Illness Now

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ANALYSIS

of

Your Daily Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis

ldquoYOURrdquo

First this is truly YOUR activity You may do this at whatever times you choose

and on whatever days feel right for you You may choose to participate once per

day or more frequently on certain days This is YOUR Self Healing program

You access the benefits by proactively participating in SIHP FULLIVINGtrade

benefits accrue as you routinely apply and participate in this approach As you

feel more comfortable and natural during your sessions you may notice you are

more relaxed and calm as you carry out the remainder of your day Symptoms

may seem less troubling less intense and easier to manage You can notice an

improvement in your general mood and more felt-moments of happiness The

fact that you know you are participating not only for your own benefit but the

benefit of all other CYSH members will bring a smile to your face and a

meaningful sense of Self worth for giving so genuinely from your heart

You may also discover applying SIHP can help with the more difficult times you

face Imagine you have been participating in shared-intentional-healingtrade

sessions at about 1 session per day Then because of a virus or change in

medications you enter a more difficult period of heightened symptoms perhaps

leading to a drop-off in your participation Two things to keep in mind here

1 You may email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom) to request other CYSH

members keep YOU in our special intentions during the times we are

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participating in SIHP each day

You do not need to provide identifying information merely some information

about your age gender and what you may be going through at this time This

will assist other members to generate an image of who your are as we focus

our healing intentions for you

2 During these more challenging times you may discover you can access

even more energy and peace by actually increasing the number of times

each day you participate in sessions Please do test this out for yourself

over time

This is not only your program but the process itself is yours as well that is YOU

define what intentional healing is for you according to your history and

experiences your desires and goals No person outside of you can clarify the

means by which you define and measure healing progress nor what results or

goals are more or less important to you as you apply the skills you learn in the

Coaching Your Self Healing program

The steps outlined later in this report are merely guidelines to assist you in

participating in your daily Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis They serve as

guides suggestions to help you get started You will find your own unique way to

participate ndash the way that simply works best for you

So please do explore the process play with it and have fun Whenever you do

come across some variation that is particularly beneficial please send it along to

me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom) so I may pass it along to benefit other

members in our CYSH community

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ldquoDAILYrdquo

You may choose among eight times each day to participate in this practice

900 AM amp PM EST 1200 AM amp PM EST 300 AM amp PM EST and 600 AM amp

PM EST The eight times are provided in order for CYSH members from around

the globe to participate at a convenient time in your time zone as well as

convenient to your schedule around the clock each day Clearly you may

participate at any of the session times regardless of your location

If for some reason you cannot participate during any of these times please do

email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom) so I may be informed of any

scheduling problems that I am not currently taking into consideration My goal

here is to develop a daily schedule that works for everyone around the globe (and

around the clock each day) To start out I would encourage you to set a

reminder alarm a few minutes before your scheduled time ndash at least until you

have formed a comfortable habit of participating in the sessions

I will be present and participate during at least two sessions everyday and I will

rotate through session times each day That way at least every four days you

and I will be attending together at the same time Please understand however

there is never any expectation for you to participate at any particular time(s) nor

on any given day When you participate depends solely on your inner comfort

and your positive intention when you do take part

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Providing so many times is meant solely as a way to coordinate our attention and

energies in synchrony with other community members There is no need to be

concerned about the ldquorightrdquo time to participate As already noted your energies

are better-focused on being-present your comfort and on positive intention

There simply is no ldquorightrdquo time just the time that is right for you

Another advantage of having eight scheduled times each day is to provide

flexibility for you to adjust your participation in response to changes in your

symptom experiences As noted earlier when going through more difficult

symptomatic periods that are disrupting to your routine participating in

additional praxis times (rather than focusing on symptoms) may assist you with

limiting intensity and duration of the exacerbation ndash particularly by generating

more relaxation and rest

Still another helpful way you may consider your praxis ldquotimerdquo has been clarified

by Einstein physicists and spiritual leaders through history What they have

shown us is that ldquotimerdquo is a construct (a ldquoboxrdquo) and is not really ldquoout thererdquo at

all Indeed if ldquotimerdquo exists it can only be NOW

Such a perspective can be extremely nourishing when considering what Deepak

Chopra MD and Wayne Dyer PhD call the ldquogaprdquo The gap is that experience in

which you are ldquocenteredrdquo in the ldquosilent space between thoughtsrdquo When in the

gap you are at that ldquolevel of Being which is your essential staterdquo1 This

experience of being-in-the-gap is timeless ndash rdquothe womb of creationrdquo2 It is within

this state of experience that healing occurs

As you perform your praxis each day you will naturally and directly begin to

experience the timeless-being of the gap firsthand Once you recognize this

experience you will realize that whatever time of day you actually participate in

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SIHP you are doing it in the same NOW as all other CYSH members ndash even

though your session ldquoclock timesrdquo differ throughout the day

ldquoSHAREDrdquo

Remember the key here is that you are surrounding your Self with the one

heartbeat of all the other community members Your attention your energy

and your intentions are SHARED by all ndash just as their energies and intentions are

shared with and for you It is this attitude of sharing-with a wholehearted

giving-to that is key to this approach It is very simple As you give from

your heart-of-caring so you will receive

Be comforted in knowing that by simply participating once a day (after even a

few short days) you will begin to feel more comfortable more at ease more at

peace now than you may have experienced in years AND you know you are

contributing to the FULLIVINGtrade of others that is contributing beyond well-

being into the very heart of healing Trust me when I say your peace and your

giving heart provide a strong (and necessary) foundation on which to build

healing for each of us and of all of us together

ldquoINTENTIONALrdquo

So what does it mean to be INTENTIONAL One of the most helpful reviews of

ldquointentionrdquo is provided by Wayne Dyer PhD3 In Dyers The Power of Intention

(2005) he describes how we may ldquowishrdquo for something to occur in our lives but

such wishing is only a beginning

We may also choose to take the next step beyond wishing to ldquodesirerdquo Desire

results in taking action on the wish and is proactively distinct from wishing It is

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with desire that we now straight-forwardly make the ldquoaskrdquo (as in ldquoask and you

shall receiverdquo)

Still again we can step-up the intensity of our activity even more (beyond

wishing and asking) that is we may frame our desire in terms of what we

actually ldquointend to createrdquo Stop here for a moment close your eyes and feel

the power in these words I INTEND TO CREATE Period And again

I INTEND TO CREATE

We are very matter-of-fact about bringing the thing wished for desired

requested into experience No doubt No fear Creating healing now is simply a

given that occurs by way of you actively participating Period

Such intention-to-create by definition requires both commitment and passion

With commitment we are beyond ldquotryingrdquo to make the thing happen and

instead move into what I call devotion-to-creating (from the original French

devovere ldquodedicated by a vowrdquo) With such devotion we experience a much

deeper more profound state of being an awareness beyond ego

Devotion-to-creating allows you to act beyond the ldquooughtsrdquo and ldquoshouldsrdquo of

others beyond your own doubts and fears beyond obligation and guilt and

directly to the heart of being inspired (ldquodrawing in of airrdquo ldquoinspiritrdquo) that is you

are drawn into relation-with the powerful and empowering Source that creates

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It is by being inspired that you meet the paradox at the heart of ldquointendingrdquo As

you proactively intend-to-create you naturally come to experience being

committed devoted and inspired however you actually create only inasmuch as

you allow your Self to follow the flow of your inspiration naturally ndash that is as

you open your Self to receive Therefore as you intend to heal you must

also open to receive healing

As such it is important you recognize healing happens as you ldquoget out of your

own wayrdquo beyond intellect desire doubt and ego How do we do that How do

we get out of our own way beyond ego Very simply you do that by allowing

your Self to trust your healing

Please take a moment here to recall a time when you were injured in some way

(maybe a cut or broken bone) Beyond receiving necessary medical assistance

what did you do to mend to heal Once attended to medically its likely that you

never gave the actual processes of ldquohealingrdquo much thought ndash dying cells cleared

away new cells forming and eventually performing as if they had been there all

along as if nothing ever happened Healing just occurred your part was to trust

the process take good care of yourself and allow it Whether conscious or not

you simply trusted yourself to heal

It is that same trust you must have as you now commit-to-create intentional

healing Your whole Self system ldquoknowsrdquo how and what needs healing and in

what specific sequence of steps healing must occur Self does not need the

agreement of intellect or common sense to proceed naturally with healing Self

has been carrying out that process every nano-second of every day of your life ndash

simultaneously coordinating trillions of biochemical and energetic activities in

every cell of your entire being Heart beats lungs breath intestines digest and

your job is simply to get out of your own way and trust your Self to heal

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As you do alongside this intense Self-trust and commitment-to-create (our vow)

passion takes over and leads the way beyond common sense beyond

doubting intellect beyond beliefs and even beyond perceptions Such intense

passion emanating from your heart is very simply ldquoagaperdquo (selfless Love) In

this state you no longer experience others as separate bounded subject-object

(I-It) rather you share together in a living boundless oneness-of-relating

honoring the encounter by giving your present and your presence to the

sacredness of ldquoI-Thourdquo4

Map of HEALING INTENTION

I WISH

I DESIRE (ASK)

I INTEND-TO-CREATE

INCLUDES I COMMIT-TO-CREATE (I Vow = Devotion-to-creating)

I AM PASSIONATE

(I am Inspired)

PARADOX OF INTENDING (I Allow I Receive I Trust My Self to Heal)

I-THOU (Agape)

Figure copy2009 by MFDayton

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It is this deep experience of heartfelt passion and selfless Love you are aiming to

access directly (and share) when you intend from the heart when you are

performing your shared-intentional-healingtrade praxis

So once again stop for a moment now to imagine Imagine the tremendous

healing power at your disposal when you step into your shared session each day

with the intention-to-create healing It means you are committing to heal

vowing to heal trusting your Self to heal by way of your impassioned

heart You are giving your presence to merge as one-heartbeat in

synchrony and selfless love with all other CYSH members in this moment

now Therein lies the true power of your healing intention

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ldquoHEALINGrdquo (beyond ldquobeing curedrdquo)

Clearly what we intend to create during each praxis is HEALING your healing

healing for other members my healing and our healing together as one Yet do

you really know what you mean when you say ldquoI intend to healrdquo

Whenever we take time to reflect on the notion of ldquohealingrdquo typically one of the

first things that bubbles up into awareness is some hope of being ldquocuredrdquo Given

the difficulties and challenges we can face in just making it through even the

most simple of daily activities ldquocurerdquo can be so very inviting Indeed given the

opportunity who of us wouldnt want to be cured of a chronic illness And cured

NOW

Yet by seeking to ldquobe curedrdquo we can become entrenched in even more intense

challenges and symptom exacerbation How could that be What could

possibly be wrong with hoping for a cure

There is nothing wrong with hoping dreaming goal setting Indeed these

activities can provide momentum power purpose and direction to an otherwise

difficult day Yet the moment we turn our attention to ldquobeing curedrdquo our focus

immediately comes to rest on that which we desire to be ldquocured ofrdquo to ldquoget away

fromrdquo and it is here we become derailed Its like the age-old challenge to ldquonot

think of a blue elephantrdquo We must first conceive such a beast before we cannot

think about it

So too with ldquocurerdquo ndash We must first converge our attention and energies even

more intensely on the illness and the symptoms we wish to cease Clearly this

activity takes us in the opposite direction from the relief and health we are

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seeking In fact it is the same process described by Cheri Huber in one of her

more remarkable books entitled That Which You Are Seeking Is Causing You To

Seek (1990) Take a moment now to think about her title in relation to ldquoThe cure

I am seeking is rdquo In short to focus on cure heightens our experience of

dis-ease

To clarify even further when we focus on such moving-away-from-activities we

have no clear vision of what it is we are moving toward Without such clarity our

odds of failing escalate exponentially Success happens only as we also move

toward clearly-defined desires and goals A simple yet powerful example is this

years 40th anniversary of the Apollo 11 moon landing Was that ldquogiant steprdquo

successful because the leaders at NASA focused energy solely on how to create

escape velocity to ldquoget away fromrdquo earth ndash or also on how to get onto the moon

Another helpful example is wanting ldquoout ofrdquo a job Im sure you know of someone

(perhaps yourself) intent on getting away from the daily grind of hisher job Yet

when she did successfully leave that employment inevitably and much too soon

the same situation landslides into the daily grind of the next job Repeating old

patterns of struggle is a very clear sign of actions based on moving-away-

from goals This is a key principle to apply to all aspects of your daily living

The reason this occurs with the get-me-outta-here script is that whatever change

may happen generally does so from ldquowithoutrdquo At best we change scenery Its

the old grass-is-greener scenario ndash which is really no change at all

The inherent problem here can be even more perilous as we see when we take a

closer look at the wording ldquobeing curedrdquo We tend to redirect our attention from

within (our source of creative power) to some force outside that causes the cure

for us (whether that be by way of a physician a healer natural substances

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medications treatments or God)

On some level we tell ourselves if I could figure out what was happening to get

into this situation (ie chronic illness) I would be able to figure out how to get

out of it but (and heres the rub) since I cant I begin to believe less and less in

my innate healing power and more and more that such power must lie outside of

me ndash with an outside force greater than me (whether medical natural or

spiritual)

Please be clear on this point This is not to underplay the importance of qualified

medical professionals to your progress The same is true of the importance and

value of your spirituality and relation-with God Source Higher Power The point

to take away here is that you can only access the benefits of such healing

relations when YOU are first centered and strong in your own being ndash when you

approach your Self as a sacred Thou

Therefore in the situation where you reflexively turn over your power to heal (to

an outside agent) understand the ensuing damage you risk to your sense of Self

Not only are you diminishing belief in your inherent strength and healing power

you are also at risk of allowing others to determine what is best for your well-

being (perhaps even against your deeper intuitive knowing) all of which only

serves to further undermine Self-esteem and the tremendous power that comes

from believing in your Self

Even our religious upbringing can paradoxically weaken our beliefs regarding the

possibility of cure We learn at a deep level that ldquocurerdquo lies only in the realm of

the miraculous Such an orientation can weaken belief in the possibility of ldquome

being cured nowrdquo In fact when being completely honest many of us feel the

odds of ldquome being cured nowrdquo are as slim or slimmer than winning a million dollar

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lottery And when it does not happen were faced with the more daunting issue

of how I must somehow be ldquoflawedrdquo Clearly such underlying attitudes provide

no foundation on which to construct change much less the dramatic change

required with the desire to ldquobe curedrdquo [Here I recommend another Huber book

There Is Nothing Wrong with You Going Beyond Self-Hate (2001)]

In the end when focused on ldquobeing curedrdquo you may not only become separate

from your innate healing power within but you risk the ultimate medical

mistreatment becoming an object to be worked-on mechanically From here it

can be a rapid slide into the role of ldquovictimrdquo whereby you relinquish your

responsibility for choosing altogether (ie intending-to-create) how it is you truly

desire to be In short you risk losing the creative power of intention required to

give birth to healing

By the mid eighties I had been on daily prednisone for over a decade to control

severe bouts of status asthmaticus and recurrent pneumonia Because the

deleterious side-effects of prednisone included adrenal insufficiency (an impaired

stress response) I knew in my heart-of-hearts one key to my well-being lay in

recovering my atrophied stress axis by discontinuing daily prednisone For years

I pleaded with my pulmonary specialist to assist me in tapering off and relearning

how to live prednisone-free Together we did make a few unsuccessful attempts

only to recycle back into another respiratory infection and still higher doses of

prednisone By this time his posture was that I needed to remain on daily

prednisone ldquofor the rest of my liferdquo My posture was to fire him

Fortunately and in short-order I began working with an internist who over the

next two years laid out a plan to become prednisone-free ndash which we did

together successfully Two significant points must be clearly recognized here

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1 You must believe in your innate healing power and if you do not

currently this then becomes your launch pad for your healing journey ndash

relearning to empower your Self to heal

2 You are not in this alone You require the good works of others in

alignment with you to successfully heal As such you need to be very

selective in picking those others with whom you relate to enhance your

medical well-being

If you are feeling your medical support is sapping your power and authority

they probably are but you dont throw the baby out with the bath This is

not about releasing physicians this is about being in a healing

relationship-with your medical professional(s) of choice

Additional cultural biases arise with a focus on ldquocurerdquo Any true change with

regard to chronic illness implies a change ldquofor the betterrdquo That requires us to

believe with certainty that such change can and will bring improvement After

more than fifteen years working with individuals with chronic illness (including

my Self) it is the rare individual Ive encountered who truly believes (from the

core) ldquoI will be curedrdquo We wish for cure certainly but believing with certainty ldquoI

will be curedrdquo rarely

An origin of not believing in ldquobeing curedrdquo lies in the way we traditionally use the

term One problem in particular is that ldquocurerdquo is not a ldquonowrdquo concept -- that is

something I trust to experience now rather we tend to use ldquocurerdquo in a future-

oriented manner of hoping-for-something-to-happen or (at-best) asking-for

maybe praying for cure to happen Yet it is not in the future that you and I

create anything and this is particularly relevant to healing We only create in

the NOW

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Finally even greater issues arise when we attempt to determine precisely what

we mean by the term ldquocurerdquo As one example are you cured when there is ldquoan

end to the disease processrdquo or could that be ldquoremissionrdquo

Does ldquocurerdquo mean a ldquoreturn to full functioningrdquo (ie as I was before the process

started) Is that even possible Consider the case of a disease process that has

already resulted in disfigurement or amputation What does ldquocurerdquo mean in those

situations

Does ldquocurerdquo mean ldquosymptoms are gonerdquo If so are we then cured when

medications relieve or mask the symptoms altogether Do you understand the

quagmire here

It is for all these reasons above that few people are ever truly ldquocuredrdquo of

anything even if we do allow for those who have experienced ldquomiracle curesrdquo

(which are certainly the exception not the norm) Yet when you and I consider

ldquomy situation nowrdquo we need to have the strength of certainty that improvement

is not only possible but immanent

So if not ldquocurerdquo then what You already know the answer And the answer is

ldquohealingrdquo In the end if ldquocurerdquo is anything it is a future-oriented

disempowering mechanical phenomenon at the physical level In contrast

ldquohealingrdquo is an ongoing process (in this moment) of whole-Self transformation

Consider when we truly and proactively ldquohealrdquo we are creating (now) from the

very depths of our core within We are intending-to-create with all the intensity

and power of commitment passion and agape that arises in creative

transformation It is this innate source of inner power to which we must first

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return ldquoas little childrenrdquo in order to initiate healing

We mask nothing when healing now rather we take an active and response-able

role in bringing peace joy and love directly into our daily lives and the lives of

those we touch NOW this moment and in as many moments as we allow

It is from this strong shared intentional healing foundation that we live with the

most power any human being can possibly experience in alignment with in I-

Thou relation-with in the selfless Love that is the very Source of all creation

This process of transformational healing envelops and extends beyond cure at any

level and unlike ldquocurerdquo it is not some static condition at which we arrive (by

the grace of some outside benevolent authority) Rather such transformational

healing is an ongoing process of BEING-a-certain-way in strength in power

in wisdom in loving relation-with (not only Self but Source God Higher Power)

Let this loving empowered healing be the deep transformation you intend ndash your

moment-to-moment empowered healing transformation from core within

ldquoPRAXISrdquo

We finally come to the term PRAXIS Clients often ask why I use ldquopraxisrdquo rather

than something more familiar like ldquopracticerdquo or ldquoexerciserdquo My answer is very

simple and straight-forward

First we can quickly dispense with the term ldquoexerciserdquo Do you really want to

ldquoexerciserdquo intentional healing each day ndash or would you rather just skip having to

exercise any more than you already know you need to do Enough said

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Now imagine I invite you to ldquoplease make sure and practice your intentional

healing each dayrdquo How do you feel then For me it brings up that I must not

be very good at it especially if I need to be practicing every day

Consider now how you feel when I invite you to ldquoskillfully applyrdquo the intentional

healing process in comfort Doesnt ldquoskillful applicationrdquo feel much more

empowering than ldquopracticingrdquo Since ldquopraxisrdquo means ldquoskillful applicationrdquo isnt it

much more inviting to approach your intentional healing sessions with skill

And you will as you become more comfortable applying the process each day

Other folks also ask if shared-intentional-healingtrade wouldnt be better considered

an ldquoexperimentrdquo much like Lynn McTaggarts The Intention Experiment (2007) I

can see how the notion of an ldquoexperimentrdquo carries with it some sense of intrigue

but ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately represent the experience that is shared-

intentional-healingtrade

First (as we learned in our discussion of ldquointentionalrdquo above) when we participate

in Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade we are as a matter-of-fact intending-to-create

healing Such activity cannot be an ldquoexperimentrdquo or we lose the certainty

required for healing change Rather we set out to generate an experience-of-

relating that is powered by being committed empassioned and selflessly loving

You can likely identify such a committed passionate selflessly loving experience

from some time in your life ndash whether in love among family through an

impassioned hobby in seeking some goal or perhaps spiritually As you already

know such an experience is not something we wish-for or hope-for or need to

wait and see what happens It is simply a loving relating-with experience we

already know how to have We just be it and do it

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Moreover (as I suggested above) there is palpable transformation that occurs

within each of us as we gain comfort participating in shared-intentional-healingtrade

This transformational experience happens through your participation and it will

happen for you ndash no need to experiment just simply participate

Moreover at the heart of it the notion of ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately reflect

the research to date on ldquointentionrdquo and ldquohealingrdquo As an example a 1997 review

of research on ldquoIntercessory Prayer for the Alleviation of Ill Healthrdquo by Roberts

Ahmed Hall amp Davison reports individual studies suggest a positive effect of

intercessory prayer But since they viewed other reports in which the results

were equivocal they conclude no ldquo further trials of this intervention should be

takenrdquo5

Regrettably they miss the point The fact that studies DO exist reporting a

positive correlation between intercessory prayer and the alleviation of ill health is

precisely the reason more studies should be undertaken Edison found hundreds

of approaches that were equivocal before discovering a singular lighting solution

Thank goodness he did not conclude any further trials were unnecessary before

arriving at that solution

When it comes to this uniquely intimate subject of healing Eric Leskowitz MD

(in a review of the book Healing Intention amp Energy Medicine (2002) by Wayne

Jonas MD) explains how such conflicting conclusions like Roberts etal come

about Dr Leskowitz notes when he is in discussions with his allopathic medical

colleagues regarding ldquo inexplicable phenomena like energy healing or

intercessory prayer a sort of allopathic fear reflex kicks inrdquo6 Conclusions

become tunnel-visioned and skewed against even the possibility of such

correlation existing anywhere at any time Hence no further trials

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You may however verify for yourself such positively-correlated research does

indeed already exist by reviewing the studies in Jonas book (above) In

addition Marilyn Schlitz PhD provides a brief outline of just some of those

ldquopositive correlationrdquo studies that highlight the ldquointerface of science spirituality

and medicinerdquo7

If you would like an even more in-depth review I refer you to Consciousness amp

Healing Integral Approaches to Mind-Body Medicine (2005) by Schlitz Amorok

and Micozzi as well as the more recent (2008) Holistic Nursing A Handbook for Practice

5th edition by Dossey amp Keegan

In sum although experimental research has certainly not provided the final

answers on the relation between intention and healing the research to date is

most certainly beyond the ldquoequivocalrdquo suggested by those reflexively reacting

from allopathic fear Those studies completed to date which do display a positive

correlation between intention and healing are already providing a strong practical

foundation of powerful techniques and approaches that go far beyond

ldquoexperimentingrdquo and straight to the heart of skillful-application in daily living

Shared-Intentional-Healingrdquotrade is just one such approach you may access today

and everyday simply by participating in your daily praxis

With the above foundation in mind we can now move on to

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PRAXIS GUIDELINES

Having considered in some depth the foundation on which this method rests we

may now turn to the guidelines describing ldquohow tordquo participate in your daily

Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis

Before you approach your first intentional session please read through the

description and suggestions below Remember these opportunities are for YOU

to BENEFIT YOU Again there is no right way nor wrong way for you to

participate You simply participate in your own best way Therefore as noted

previously the description below is solely meant as a guided outline to assist you

in jump-starting your participation ndash sharing with you some ideas that have

already worked well for others in our Community

For this to be beneficial for everyone please do your best to allot at least 5 to

15 minutes for each intentional session If you are already seasoned at

sitting in quiet you certainly may choose to go longer (eg 30) and you can

trust there are other CYSH members continuing in synchrony with you

To start out let your sessions be for shorter periods of time You will experience

a natural increase in length of participation without having to think about it or

plan for it This is not a race nor a test of endurance This is a nourishing of

Self and a cultivation of your best healing intentions Be gentle

In the beginning it can also be helpful if you imagine sending out your healing

intentions in a particular direction around the globe and returning to you from

the opposite direction This way as you imagine can assist you in creating a

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ldquoflowrdquo with regard to directing intentional healing to all others around the globe

As you become more adept you will very naturally be able to generate healing

images radiating from your whole being equally in all directions You will

become aware there is no particular ldquoupdownrdquo in space-time There is just

ldquoeverywhere hererdquo that is always at the center of the universe ndash as you are at all

times and as is each member

Finally please know you may also invite your friends and loved ones to share

with you in these sessions If they cannot participate with you ask them (at

minimum) to set their healing intention for you and send it like a gift to you each

day This can be helpful to them as well knowing they are actively supporting

you with their selfless loving healing

So let us begin with a session description I have broken it down into 8 separate

action steps below

1 First make time to just sit and be comfortable (nothing ldquoto dordquo now)

Loosen any tight clothing

2 Begin breathing slowly until you relax into a comfortable natural pace

This is a time for gentleness Simply allow experience to happen and

follow experience moment-to-moment as you proceed

3 Slowly scan your entire being from head to toes inside and out If you

notice any part of you in tension just allow it to relax naturally and

dissolve with each out-breath

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Note It may take you 2 or more breathing cycles to notice the muscles in a

particular area begin to relax There are times as well when you may just

need to continue on with your scan trusting that the area will release as you

proceed Again this is time for gentle following

4 Once relaxed (as much as may be possible for now) INVITE your Self to

allow and receive healing intention and healing love

Note This may not feel natural or normal within and like a child the

knee-jerk reaction may indeed be to rebel You are merely sending an

invitation nothing more As you repeat this intentional healing invitation

each day you will soon begin to notice that you are indeed looking forward

to this opportunity

5 You are now comfortable relaxed and intentional within It is time now

to image all the other CYSH Members with whom you are sharing this

time Know they too are seeking to generate healing for your challenges

just as you are for theirs Depending on your beliefs it is here that you

may also invite connect with your source of spiritual power (God

Source Higher Power Buddha) to participate with you

6 Spend the next minutes imagining a Circle of Intentional Healing

Energy flowing into you from all the others and out from you to all

others Allow it to be easy natural like the earthrsquos flow of water

circulating from sky to earth and back to sky simply relax into this flow

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Note It may help to imagine your healing intentions emanating from about

2 finger-widths behind and about 3 finger-widths below your navel This

site (known as the ldquolower dan tienrdquo or ldquoharardquo) is considered the physical

center of gravity around which you are in perfect balance

From this point you can imagine healing intention flowing up your trunk

through your neck and head and out the top of your head to the other

CYSH members

The healing intention returning to you can be experienced as coming into

you at the same center of gravity point from which you started

Important Do not attempt to localize your intentions to any one region

within (brain heart liver etc) the reason being that a given illness process

occurs across and between physiological systems (even though we may talk

as if it is isolated to one system) It is best to imagine your entire Self

within a cocoon or bubble of flowing healing intention ndash everywhere within

you at once You may experience color warmth safety Luxuriate in your

experience Enjoy the moment

During this intentional time it can also be helpful on a given inout cycle of

breath to silently express I send out Loving Healing On the next

inout cycle silently express I receive Loving Healing and so on

In addition if your mind wanders off task (amp it will) just gently return to

the flow of loving healing intention Remember this experience is all about

being gentle Enjoy the process

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Continue in this state for as long as you desire and is easy comfortable

and natural With practice your will naturally be at ease for longer

periods of time during each session

7 When complete express gratitude to your Self as well as to all others

sharing in this moment with you Sit in this experience of gratitude for a

few moments

8 Savor the nourishing peace you have generated

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8-STEP PRAXIS REVIEW

1 SIT in comfort

2 BREATHE slowly rhythmically

3 SCAN (head to toes) to relax further still

4 INVITE SELF to allow healing intention

5 RELATE-WITH all other CYSH members amp Spiritual Power

6 SENDRECEIVE intentional healing

ldquoI send out Loving Healingrdquo ldquoI receive Loving Healingrdquo

7 Sit in GRATITUDE

8 SAVOR the nourishing peace

I genuinely look forward to your daily participation and to sharing this powerful

healing process with you I would love to hear your experiences with your praxis

Please do feel free to email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom)

My mission is to Coach You Well

Sincerely amp Caringly

MALCOLM

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REFERENCES

1 Chopra Deepak (1994) The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success ndash A Practical Guide to

the Fulfillment of Your Dreams p76

2 Chopra Deepak (1999) A Deepak Chopra Companion Illuminations on Health and

Human Consciousness p94

3 Dyer httpwwwyoutubecomwatchv=DC-FPorUW7gampfeature=related

4 Buber Martin (1971) I And Thou

5 Intercessory prayer httpwwwcochraneorgreviewsenab000368html

6 Leskowitz httpwholistichealingresearchcom42books12

7 Schlitz httpxnetkporgpermanentejournalsum05evidencepdf

copy2009byMFDayton

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ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Malcolm Dayton LPC Cht is a Licensed Counselor with more than two decades coaching individuals and families facing chronic illness He is also certified in MindBody Medicine and Hypnotherapy

Malcolms Coaching Self Healing program is unique in that he calls on his own lifelong journey with chronic illness (multiple sclerosis asthma immune deficiency) to assist you in accessing your unique healing solutions Very simply Malcolm walks his coaching

His coaching program is truly integral-- that is healing solutions are practical in focus and applied comprehensively incorporating all dimensions of your experience from symptoms to wellness from relations within self to social relations from the physical to spiritual--a truly ecological approach to Self Healing You learn to be FULLIVINGtrade ndash to thrive beyond chronic illness

Malcolms mission is to Coach You WELL

CONTACTMalcolm Dayton LPC CHt

email mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom

phone 970-689-4247

Yes Malcolm Im ready to discover

the benefits of Self Healing Coaching NOW

Sign me up now for myCOMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION

Be Well And THRIVE Beyond Chronic Illness Now

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Page 8: Thriving Beyond Chronic Illness:  Shared-Intentional-Healing Praxis

participating in SIHP each day

You do not need to provide identifying information merely some information

about your age gender and what you may be going through at this time This

will assist other members to generate an image of who your are as we focus

our healing intentions for you

2 During these more challenging times you may discover you can access

even more energy and peace by actually increasing the number of times

each day you participate in sessions Please do test this out for yourself

over time

This is not only your program but the process itself is yours as well that is YOU

define what intentional healing is for you according to your history and

experiences your desires and goals No person outside of you can clarify the

means by which you define and measure healing progress nor what results or

goals are more or less important to you as you apply the skills you learn in the

Coaching Your Self Healing program

The steps outlined later in this report are merely guidelines to assist you in

participating in your daily Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis They serve as

guides suggestions to help you get started You will find your own unique way to

participate ndash the way that simply works best for you

So please do explore the process play with it and have fun Whenever you do

come across some variation that is particularly beneficial please send it along to

me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom) so I may pass it along to benefit other

members in our CYSH community

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ldquoDAILYrdquo

You may choose among eight times each day to participate in this practice

900 AM amp PM EST 1200 AM amp PM EST 300 AM amp PM EST and 600 AM amp

PM EST The eight times are provided in order for CYSH members from around

the globe to participate at a convenient time in your time zone as well as

convenient to your schedule around the clock each day Clearly you may

participate at any of the session times regardless of your location

If for some reason you cannot participate during any of these times please do

email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom) so I may be informed of any

scheduling problems that I am not currently taking into consideration My goal

here is to develop a daily schedule that works for everyone around the globe (and

around the clock each day) To start out I would encourage you to set a

reminder alarm a few minutes before your scheduled time ndash at least until you

have formed a comfortable habit of participating in the sessions

I will be present and participate during at least two sessions everyday and I will

rotate through session times each day That way at least every four days you

and I will be attending together at the same time Please understand however

there is never any expectation for you to participate at any particular time(s) nor

on any given day When you participate depends solely on your inner comfort

and your positive intention when you do take part

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Providing so many times is meant solely as a way to coordinate our attention and

energies in synchrony with other community members There is no need to be

concerned about the ldquorightrdquo time to participate As already noted your energies

are better-focused on being-present your comfort and on positive intention

There simply is no ldquorightrdquo time just the time that is right for you

Another advantage of having eight scheduled times each day is to provide

flexibility for you to adjust your participation in response to changes in your

symptom experiences As noted earlier when going through more difficult

symptomatic periods that are disrupting to your routine participating in

additional praxis times (rather than focusing on symptoms) may assist you with

limiting intensity and duration of the exacerbation ndash particularly by generating

more relaxation and rest

Still another helpful way you may consider your praxis ldquotimerdquo has been clarified

by Einstein physicists and spiritual leaders through history What they have

shown us is that ldquotimerdquo is a construct (a ldquoboxrdquo) and is not really ldquoout thererdquo at

all Indeed if ldquotimerdquo exists it can only be NOW

Such a perspective can be extremely nourishing when considering what Deepak

Chopra MD and Wayne Dyer PhD call the ldquogaprdquo The gap is that experience in

which you are ldquocenteredrdquo in the ldquosilent space between thoughtsrdquo When in the

gap you are at that ldquolevel of Being which is your essential staterdquo1 This

experience of being-in-the-gap is timeless ndash rdquothe womb of creationrdquo2 It is within

this state of experience that healing occurs

As you perform your praxis each day you will naturally and directly begin to

experience the timeless-being of the gap firsthand Once you recognize this

experience you will realize that whatever time of day you actually participate in

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SIHP you are doing it in the same NOW as all other CYSH members ndash even

though your session ldquoclock timesrdquo differ throughout the day

ldquoSHAREDrdquo

Remember the key here is that you are surrounding your Self with the one

heartbeat of all the other community members Your attention your energy

and your intentions are SHARED by all ndash just as their energies and intentions are

shared with and for you It is this attitude of sharing-with a wholehearted

giving-to that is key to this approach It is very simple As you give from

your heart-of-caring so you will receive

Be comforted in knowing that by simply participating once a day (after even a

few short days) you will begin to feel more comfortable more at ease more at

peace now than you may have experienced in years AND you know you are

contributing to the FULLIVINGtrade of others that is contributing beyond well-

being into the very heart of healing Trust me when I say your peace and your

giving heart provide a strong (and necessary) foundation on which to build

healing for each of us and of all of us together

ldquoINTENTIONALrdquo

So what does it mean to be INTENTIONAL One of the most helpful reviews of

ldquointentionrdquo is provided by Wayne Dyer PhD3 In Dyers The Power of Intention

(2005) he describes how we may ldquowishrdquo for something to occur in our lives but

such wishing is only a beginning

We may also choose to take the next step beyond wishing to ldquodesirerdquo Desire

results in taking action on the wish and is proactively distinct from wishing It is

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with desire that we now straight-forwardly make the ldquoaskrdquo (as in ldquoask and you

shall receiverdquo)

Still again we can step-up the intensity of our activity even more (beyond

wishing and asking) that is we may frame our desire in terms of what we

actually ldquointend to createrdquo Stop here for a moment close your eyes and feel

the power in these words I INTEND TO CREATE Period And again

I INTEND TO CREATE

We are very matter-of-fact about bringing the thing wished for desired

requested into experience No doubt No fear Creating healing now is simply a

given that occurs by way of you actively participating Period

Such intention-to-create by definition requires both commitment and passion

With commitment we are beyond ldquotryingrdquo to make the thing happen and

instead move into what I call devotion-to-creating (from the original French

devovere ldquodedicated by a vowrdquo) With such devotion we experience a much

deeper more profound state of being an awareness beyond ego

Devotion-to-creating allows you to act beyond the ldquooughtsrdquo and ldquoshouldsrdquo of

others beyond your own doubts and fears beyond obligation and guilt and

directly to the heart of being inspired (ldquodrawing in of airrdquo ldquoinspiritrdquo) that is you

are drawn into relation-with the powerful and empowering Source that creates

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 12 of 33

It is by being inspired that you meet the paradox at the heart of ldquointendingrdquo As

you proactively intend-to-create you naturally come to experience being

committed devoted and inspired however you actually create only inasmuch as

you allow your Self to follow the flow of your inspiration naturally ndash that is as

you open your Self to receive Therefore as you intend to heal you must

also open to receive healing

As such it is important you recognize healing happens as you ldquoget out of your

own wayrdquo beyond intellect desire doubt and ego How do we do that How do

we get out of our own way beyond ego Very simply you do that by allowing

your Self to trust your healing

Please take a moment here to recall a time when you were injured in some way

(maybe a cut or broken bone) Beyond receiving necessary medical assistance

what did you do to mend to heal Once attended to medically its likely that you

never gave the actual processes of ldquohealingrdquo much thought ndash dying cells cleared

away new cells forming and eventually performing as if they had been there all

along as if nothing ever happened Healing just occurred your part was to trust

the process take good care of yourself and allow it Whether conscious or not

you simply trusted yourself to heal

It is that same trust you must have as you now commit-to-create intentional

healing Your whole Self system ldquoknowsrdquo how and what needs healing and in

what specific sequence of steps healing must occur Self does not need the

agreement of intellect or common sense to proceed naturally with healing Self

has been carrying out that process every nano-second of every day of your life ndash

simultaneously coordinating trillions of biochemical and energetic activities in

every cell of your entire being Heart beats lungs breath intestines digest and

your job is simply to get out of your own way and trust your Self to heal

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As you do alongside this intense Self-trust and commitment-to-create (our vow)

passion takes over and leads the way beyond common sense beyond

doubting intellect beyond beliefs and even beyond perceptions Such intense

passion emanating from your heart is very simply ldquoagaperdquo (selfless Love) In

this state you no longer experience others as separate bounded subject-object

(I-It) rather you share together in a living boundless oneness-of-relating

honoring the encounter by giving your present and your presence to the

sacredness of ldquoI-Thourdquo4

Map of HEALING INTENTION

I WISH

I DESIRE (ASK)

I INTEND-TO-CREATE

INCLUDES I COMMIT-TO-CREATE (I Vow = Devotion-to-creating)

I AM PASSIONATE

(I am Inspired)

PARADOX OF INTENDING (I Allow I Receive I Trust My Self to Heal)

I-THOU (Agape)

Figure copy2009 by MFDayton

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 14 of 33

It is this deep experience of heartfelt passion and selfless Love you are aiming to

access directly (and share) when you intend from the heart when you are

performing your shared-intentional-healingtrade praxis

So once again stop for a moment now to imagine Imagine the tremendous

healing power at your disposal when you step into your shared session each day

with the intention-to-create healing It means you are committing to heal

vowing to heal trusting your Self to heal by way of your impassioned

heart You are giving your presence to merge as one-heartbeat in

synchrony and selfless love with all other CYSH members in this moment

now Therein lies the true power of your healing intention

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ldquoHEALINGrdquo (beyond ldquobeing curedrdquo)

Clearly what we intend to create during each praxis is HEALING your healing

healing for other members my healing and our healing together as one Yet do

you really know what you mean when you say ldquoI intend to healrdquo

Whenever we take time to reflect on the notion of ldquohealingrdquo typically one of the

first things that bubbles up into awareness is some hope of being ldquocuredrdquo Given

the difficulties and challenges we can face in just making it through even the

most simple of daily activities ldquocurerdquo can be so very inviting Indeed given the

opportunity who of us wouldnt want to be cured of a chronic illness And cured

NOW

Yet by seeking to ldquobe curedrdquo we can become entrenched in even more intense

challenges and symptom exacerbation How could that be What could

possibly be wrong with hoping for a cure

There is nothing wrong with hoping dreaming goal setting Indeed these

activities can provide momentum power purpose and direction to an otherwise

difficult day Yet the moment we turn our attention to ldquobeing curedrdquo our focus

immediately comes to rest on that which we desire to be ldquocured ofrdquo to ldquoget away

fromrdquo and it is here we become derailed Its like the age-old challenge to ldquonot

think of a blue elephantrdquo We must first conceive such a beast before we cannot

think about it

So too with ldquocurerdquo ndash We must first converge our attention and energies even

more intensely on the illness and the symptoms we wish to cease Clearly this

activity takes us in the opposite direction from the relief and health we are

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 16 of 33

seeking In fact it is the same process described by Cheri Huber in one of her

more remarkable books entitled That Which You Are Seeking Is Causing You To

Seek (1990) Take a moment now to think about her title in relation to ldquoThe cure

I am seeking is rdquo In short to focus on cure heightens our experience of

dis-ease

To clarify even further when we focus on such moving-away-from-activities we

have no clear vision of what it is we are moving toward Without such clarity our

odds of failing escalate exponentially Success happens only as we also move

toward clearly-defined desires and goals A simple yet powerful example is this

years 40th anniversary of the Apollo 11 moon landing Was that ldquogiant steprdquo

successful because the leaders at NASA focused energy solely on how to create

escape velocity to ldquoget away fromrdquo earth ndash or also on how to get onto the moon

Another helpful example is wanting ldquoout ofrdquo a job Im sure you know of someone

(perhaps yourself) intent on getting away from the daily grind of hisher job Yet

when she did successfully leave that employment inevitably and much too soon

the same situation landslides into the daily grind of the next job Repeating old

patterns of struggle is a very clear sign of actions based on moving-away-

from goals This is a key principle to apply to all aspects of your daily living

The reason this occurs with the get-me-outta-here script is that whatever change

may happen generally does so from ldquowithoutrdquo At best we change scenery Its

the old grass-is-greener scenario ndash which is really no change at all

The inherent problem here can be even more perilous as we see when we take a

closer look at the wording ldquobeing curedrdquo We tend to redirect our attention from

within (our source of creative power) to some force outside that causes the cure

for us (whether that be by way of a physician a healer natural substances

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 17 of 33

medications treatments or God)

On some level we tell ourselves if I could figure out what was happening to get

into this situation (ie chronic illness) I would be able to figure out how to get

out of it but (and heres the rub) since I cant I begin to believe less and less in

my innate healing power and more and more that such power must lie outside of

me ndash with an outside force greater than me (whether medical natural or

spiritual)

Please be clear on this point This is not to underplay the importance of qualified

medical professionals to your progress The same is true of the importance and

value of your spirituality and relation-with God Source Higher Power The point

to take away here is that you can only access the benefits of such healing

relations when YOU are first centered and strong in your own being ndash when you

approach your Self as a sacred Thou

Therefore in the situation where you reflexively turn over your power to heal (to

an outside agent) understand the ensuing damage you risk to your sense of Self

Not only are you diminishing belief in your inherent strength and healing power

you are also at risk of allowing others to determine what is best for your well-

being (perhaps even against your deeper intuitive knowing) all of which only

serves to further undermine Self-esteem and the tremendous power that comes

from believing in your Self

Even our religious upbringing can paradoxically weaken our beliefs regarding the

possibility of cure We learn at a deep level that ldquocurerdquo lies only in the realm of

the miraculous Such an orientation can weaken belief in the possibility of ldquome

being cured nowrdquo In fact when being completely honest many of us feel the

odds of ldquome being cured nowrdquo are as slim or slimmer than winning a million dollar

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 18 of 33

lottery And when it does not happen were faced with the more daunting issue

of how I must somehow be ldquoflawedrdquo Clearly such underlying attitudes provide

no foundation on which to construct change much less the dramatic change

required with the desire to ldquobe curedrdquo [Here I recommend another Huber book

There Is Nothing Wrong with You Going Beyond Self-Hate (2001)]

In the end when focused on ldquobeing curedrdquo you may not only become separate

from your innate healing power within but you risk the ultimate medical

mistreatment becoming an object to be worked-on mechanically From here it

can be a rapid slide into the role of ldquovictimrdquo whereby you relinquish your

responsibility for choosing altogether (ie intending-to-create) how it is you truly

desire to be In short you risk losing the creative power of intention required to

give birth to healing

By the mid eighties I had been on daily prednisone for over a decade to control

severe bouts of status asthmaticus and recurrent pneumonia Because the

deleterious side-effects of prednisone included adrenal insufficiency (an impaired

stress response) I knew in my heart-of-hearts one key to my well-being lay in

recovering my atrophied stress axis by discontinuing daily prednisone For years

I pleaded with my pulmonary specialist to assist me in tapering off and relearning

how to live prednisone-free Together we did make a few unsuccessful attempts

only to recycle back into another respiratory infection and still higher doses of

prednisone By this time his posture was that I needed to remain on daily

prednisone ldquofor the rest of my liferdquo My posture was to fire him

Fortunately and in short-order I began working with an internist who over the

next two years laid out a plan to become prednisone-free ndash which we did

together successfully Two significant points must be clearly recognized here

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1 You must believe in your innate healing power and if you do not

currently this then becomes your launch pad for your healing journey ndash

relearning to empower your Self to heal

2 You are not in this alone You require the good works of others in

alignment with you to successfully heal As such you need to be very

selective in picking those others with whom you relate to enhance your

medical well-being

If you are feeling your medical support is sapping your power and authority

they probably are but you dont throw the baby out with the bath This is

not about releasing physicians this is about being in a healing

relationship-with your medical professional(s) of choice

Additional cultural biases arise with a focus on ldquocurerdquo Any true change with

regard to chronic illness implies a change ldquofor the betterrdquo That requires us to

believe with certainty that such change can and will bring improvement After

more than fifteen years working with individuals with chronic illness (including

my Self) it is the rare individual Ive encountered who truly believes (from the

core) ldquoI will be curedrdquo We wish for cure certainly but believing with certainty ldquoI

will be curedrdquo rarely

An origin of not believing in ldquobeing curedrdquo lies in the way we traditionally use the

term One problem in particular is that ldquocurerdquo is not a ldquonowrdquo concept -- that is

something I trust to experience now rather we tend to use ldquocurerdquo in a future-

oriented manner of hoping-for-something-to-happen or (at-best) asking-for

maybe praying for cure to happen Yet it is not in the future that you and I

create anything and this is particularly relevant to healing We only create in

the NOW

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Finally even greater issues arise when we attempt to determine precisely what

we mean by the term ldquocurerdquo As one example are you cured when there is ldquoan

end to the disease processrdquo or could that be ldquoremissionrdquo

Does ldquocurerdquo mean a ldquoreturn to full functioningrdquo (ie as I was before the process

started) Is that even possible Consider the case of a disease process that has

already resulted in disfigurement or amputation What does ldquocurerdquo mean in those

situations

Does ldquocurerdquo mean ldquosymptoms are gonerdquo If so are we then cured when

medications relieve or mask the symptoms altogether Do you understand the

quagmire here

It is for all these reasons above that few people are ever truly ldquocuredrdquo of

anything even if we do allow for those who have experienced ldquomiracle curesrdquo

(which are certainly the exception not the norm) Yet when you and I consider

ldquomy situation nowrdquo we need to have the strength of certainty that improvement

is not only possible but immanent

So if not ldquocurerdquo then what You already know the answer And the answer is

ldquohealingrdquo In the end if ldquocurerdquo is anything it is a future-oriented

disempowering mechanical phenomenon at the physical level In contrast

ldquohealingrdquo is an ongoing process (in this moment) of whole-Self transformation

Consider when we truly and proactively ldquohealrdquo we are creating (now) from the

very depths of our core within We are intending-to-create with all the intensity

and power of commitment passion and agape that arises in creative

transformation It is this innate source of inner power to which we must first

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 21 of 33

return ldquoas little childrenrdquo in order to initiate healing

We mask nothing when healing now rather we take an active and response-able

role in bringing peace joy and love directly into our daily lives and the lives of

those we touch NOW this moment and in as many moments as we allow

It is from this strong shared intentional healing foundation that we live with the

most power any human being can possibly experience in alignment with in I-

Thou relation-with in the selfless Love that is the very Source of all creation

This process of transformational healing envelops and extends beyond cure at any

level and unlike ldquocurerdquo it is not some static condition at which we arrive (by

the grace of some outside benevolent authority) Rather such transformational

healing is an ongoing process of BEING-a-certain-way in strength in power

in wisdom in loving relation-with (not only Self but Source God Higher Power)

Let this loving empowered healing be the deep transformation you intend ndash your

moment-to-moment empowered healing transformation from core within

ldquoPRAXISrdquo

We finally come to the term PRAXIS Clients often ask why I use ldquopraxisrdquo rather

than something more familiar like ldquopracticerdquo or ldquoexerciserdquo My answer is very

simple and straight-forward

First we can quickly dispense with the term ldquoexerciserdquo Do you really want to

ldquoexerciserdquo intentional healing each day ndash or would you rather just skip having to

exercise any more than you already know you need to do Enough said

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Now imagine I invite you to ldquoplease make sure and practice your intentional

healing each dayrdquo How do you feel then For me it brings up that I must not

be very good at it especially if I need to be practicing every day

Consider now how you feel when I invite you to ldquoskillfully applyrdquo the intentional

healing process in comfort Doesnt ldquoskillful applicationrdquo feel much more

empowering than ldquopracticingrdquo Since ldquopraxisrdquo means ldquoskillful applicationrdquo isnt it

much more inviting to approach your intentional healing sessions with skill

And you will as you become more comfortable applying the process each day

Other folks also ask if shared-intentional-healingtrade wouldnt be better considered

an ldquoexperimentrdquo much like Lynn McTaggarts The Intention Experiment (2007) I

can see how the notion of an ldquoexperimentrdquo carries with it some sense of intrigue

but ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately represent the experience that is shared-

intentional-healingtrade

First (as we learned in our discussion of ldquointentionalrdquo above) when we participate

in Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade we are as a matter-of-fact intending-to-create

healing Such activity cannot be an ldquoexperimentrdquo or we lose the certainty

required for healing change Rather we set out to generate an experience-of-

relating that is powered by being committed empassioned and selflessly loving

You can likely identify such a committed passionate selflessly loving experience

from some time in your life ndash whether in love among family through an

impassioned hobby in seeking some goal or perhaps spiritually As you already

know such an experience is not something we wish-for or hope-for or need to

wait and see what happens It is simply a loving relating-with experience we

already know how to have We just be it and do it

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Moreover (as I suggested above) there is palpable transformation that occurs

within each of us as we gain comfort participating in shared-intentional-healingtrade

This transformational experience happens through your participation and it will

happen for you ndash no need to experiment just simply participate

Moreover at the heart of it the notion of ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately reflect

the research to date on ldquointentionrdquo and ldquohealingrdquo As an example a 1997 review

of research on ldquoIntercessory Prayer for the Alleviation of Ill Healthrdquo by Roberts

Ahmed Hall amp Davison reports individual studies suggest a positive effect of

intercessory prayer But since they viewed other reports in which the results

were equivocal they conclude no ldquo further trials of this intervention should be

takenrdquo5

Regrettably they miss the point The fact that studies DO exist reporting a

positive correlation between intercessory prayer and the alleviation of ill health is

precisely the reason more studies should be undertaken Edison found hundreds

of approaches that were equivocal before discovering a singular lighting solution

Thank goodness he did not conclude any further trials were unnecessary before

arriving at that solution

When it comes to this uniquely intimate subject of healing Eric Leskowitz MD

(in a review of the book Healing Intention amp Energy Medicine (2002) by Wayne

Jonas MD) explains how such conflicting conclusions like Roberts etal come

about Dr Leskowitz notes when he is in discussions with his allopathic medical

colleagues regarding ldquo inexplicable phenomena like energy healing or

intercessory prayer a sort of allopathic fear reflex kicks inrdquo6 Conclusions

become tunnel-visioned and skewed against even the possibility of such

correlation existing anywhere at any time Hence no further trials

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 24 of 33

You may however verify for yourself such positively-correlated research does

indeed already exist by reviewing the studies in Jonas book (above) In

addition Marilyn Schlitz PhD provides a brief outline of just some of those

ldquopositive correlationrdquo studies that highlight the ldquointerface of science spirituality

and medicinerdquo7

If you would like an even more in-depth review I refer you to Consciousness amp

Healing Integral Approaches to Mind-Body Medicine (2005) by Schlitz Amorok

and Micozzi as well as the more recent (2008) Holistic Nursing A Handbook for Practice

5th edition by Dossey amp Keegan

In sum although experimental research has certainly not provided the final

answers on the relation between intention and healing the research to date is

most certainly beyond the ldquoequivocalrdquo suggested by those reflexively reacting

from allopathic fear Those studies completed to date which do display a positive

correlation between intention and healing are already providing a strong practical

foundation of powerful techniques and approaches that go far beyond

ldquoexperimentingrdquo and straight to the heart of skillful-application in daily living

Shared-Intentional-Healingrdquotrade is just one such approach you may access today

and everyday simply by participating in your daily praxis

With the above foundation in mind we can now move on to

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PRAXIS GUIDELINES

Having considered in some depth the foundation on which this method rests we

may now turn to the guidelines describing ldquohow tordquo participate in your daily

Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis

Before you approach your first intentional session please read through the

description and suggestions below Remember these opportunities are for YOU

to BENEFIT YOU Again there is no right way nor wrong way for you to

participate You simply participate in your own best way Therefore as noted

previously the description below is solely meant as a guided outline to assist you

in jump-starting your participation ndash sharing with you some ideas that have

already worked well for others in our Community

For this to be beneficial for everyone please do your best to allot at least 5 to

15 minutes for each intentional session If you are already seasoned at

sitting in quiet you certainly may choose to go longer (eg 30) and you can

trust there are other CYSH members continuing in synchrony with you

To start out let your sessions be for shorter periods of time You will experience

a natural increase in length of participation without having to think about it or

plan for it This is not a race nor a test of endurance This is a nourishing of

Self and a cultivation of your best healing intentions Be gentle

In the beginning it can also be helpful if you imagine sending out your healing

intentions in a particular direction around the globe and returning to you from

the opposite direction This way as you imagine can assist you in creating a

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ldquoflowrdquo with regard to directing intentional healing to all others around the globe

As you become more adept you will very naturally be able to generate healing

images radiating from your whole being equally in all directions You will

become aware there is no particular ldquoupdownrdquo in space-time There is just

ldquoeverywhere hererdquo that is always at the center of the universe ndash as you are at all

times and as is each member

Finally please know you may also invite your friends and loved ones to share

with you in these sessions If they cannot participate with you ask them (at

minimum) to set their healing intention for you and send it like a gift to you each

day This can be helpful to them as well knowing they are actively supporting

you with their selfless loving healing

So let us begin with a session description I have broken it down into 8 separate

action steps below

1 First make time to just sit and be comfortable (nothing ldquoto dordquo now)

Loosen any tight clothing

2 Begin breathing slowly until you relax into a comfortable natural pace

This is a time for gentleness Simply allow experience to happen and

follow experience moment-to-moment as you proceed

3 Slowly scan your entire being from head to toes inside and out If you

notice any part of you in tension just allow it to relax naturally and

dissolve with each out-breath

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Note It may take you 2 or more breathing cycles to notice the muscles in a

particular area begin to relax There are times as well when you may just

need to continue on with your scan trusting that the area will release as you

proceed Again this is time for gentle following

4 Once relaxed (as much as may be possible for now) INVITE your Self to

allow and receive healing intention and healing love

Note This may not feel natural or normal within and like a child the

knee-jerk reaction may indeed be to rebel You are merely sending an

invitation nothing more As you repeat this intentional healing invitation

each day you will soon begin to notice that you are indeed looking forward

to this opportunity

5 You are now comfortable relaxed and intentional within It is time now

to image all the other CYSH Members with whom you are sharing this

time Know they too are seeking to generate healing for your challenges

just as you are for theirs Depending on your beliefs it is here that you

may also invite connect with your source of spiritual power (God

Source Higher Power Buddha) to participate with you

6 Spend the next minutes imagining a Circle of Intentional Healing

Energy flowing into you from all the others and out from you to all

others Allow it to be easy natural like the earthrsquos flow of water

circulating from sky to earth and back to sky simply relax into this flow

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Note It may help to imagine your healing intentions emanating from about

2 finger-widths behind and about 3 finger-widths below your navel This

site (known as the ldquolower dan tienrdquo or ldquoharardquo) is considered the physical

center of gravity around which you are in perfect balance

From this point you can imagine healing intention flowing up your trunk

through your neck and head and out the top of your head to the other

CYSH members

The healing intention returning to you can be experienced as coming into

you at the same center of gravity point from which you started

Important Do not attempt to localize your intentions to any one region

within (brain heart liver etc) the reason being that a given illness process

occurs across and between physiological systems (even though we may talk

as if it is isolated to one system) It is best to imagine your entire Self

within a cocoon or bubble of flowing healing intention ndash everywhere within

you at once You may experience color warmth safety Luxuriate in your

experience Enjoy the moment

During this intentional time it can also be helpful on a given inout cycle of

breath to silently express I send out Loving Healing On the next

inout cycle silently express I receive Loving Healing and so on

In addition if your mind wanders off task (amp it will) just gently return to

the flow of loving healing intention Remember this experience is all about

being gentle Enjoy the process

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Continue in this state for as long as you desire and is easy comfortable

and natural With practice your will naturally be at ease for longer

periods of time during each session

7 When complete express gratitude to your Self as well as to all others

sharing in this moment with you Sit in this experience of gratitude for a

few moments

8 Savor the nourishing peace you have generated

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8-STEP PRAXIS REVIEW

1 SIT in comfort

2 BREATHE slowly rhythmically

3 SCAN (head to toes) to relax further still

4 INVITE SELF to allow healing intention

5 RELATE-WITH all other CYSH members amp Spiritual Power

6 SENDRECEIVE intentional healing

ldquoI send out Loving Healingrdquo ldquoI receive Loving Healingrdquo

7 Sit in GRATITUDE

8 SAVOR the nourishing peace

I genuinely look forward to your daily participation and to sharing this powerful

healing process with you I would love to hear your experiences with your praxis

Please do feel free to email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom)

My mission is to Coach You Well

Sincerely amp Caringly

MALCOLM

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REFERENCES

1 Chopra Deepak (1994) The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success ndash A Practical Guide to

the Fulfillment of Your Dreams p76

2 Chopra Deepak (1999) A Deepak Chopra Companion Illuminations on Health and

Human Consciousness p94

3 Dyer httpwwwyoutubecomwatchv=DC-FPorUW7gampfeature=related

4 Buber Martin (1971) I And Thou

5 Intercessory prayer httpwwwcochraneorgreviewsenab000368html

6 Leskowitz httpwholistichealingresearchcom42books12

7 Schlitz httpxnetkporgpermanentejournalsum05evidencepdf

copy2009byMFDayton

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ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Malcolm Dayton LPC Cht is a Licensed Counselor with more than two decades coaching individuals and families facing chronic illness He is also certified in MindBody Medicine and Hypnotherapy

Malcolms Coaching Self Healing program is unique in that he calls on his own lifelong journey with chronic illness (multiple sclerosis asthma immune deficiency) to assist you in accessing your unique healing solutions Very simply Malcolm walks his coaching

His coaching program is truly integral-- that is healing solutions are practical in focus and applied comprehensively incorporating all dimensions of your experience from symptoms to wellness from relations within self to social relations from the physical to spiritual--a truly ecological approach to Self Healing You learn to be FULLIVINGtrade ndash to thrive beyond chronic illness

Malcolms mission is to Coach You WELL

CONTACTMalcolm Dayton LPC CHt

email mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom

phone 970-689-4247

Yes Malcolm Im ready to discover

the benefits of Self Healing Coaching NOW

Sign me up now for myCOMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION

Be Well And THRIVE Beyond Chronic Illness Now

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Page 9: Thriving Beyond Chronic Illness:  Shared-Intentional-Healing Praxis

ldquoDAILYrdquo

You may choose among eight times each day to participate in this practice

900 AM amp PM EST 1200 AM amp PM EST 300 AM amp PM EST and 600 AM amp

PM EST The eight times are provided in order for CYSH members from around

the globe to participate at a convenient time in your time zone as well as

convenient to your schedule around the clock each day Clearly you may

participate at any of the session times regardless of your location

If for some reason you cannot participate during any of these times please do

email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom) so I may be informed of any

scheduling problems that I am not currently taking into consideration My goal

here is to develop a daily schedule that works for everyone around the globe (and

around the clock each day) To start out I would encourage you to set a

reminder alarm a few minutes before your scheduled time ndash at least until you

have formed a comfortable habit of participating in the sessions

I will be present and participate during at least two sessions everyday and I will

rotate through session times each day That way at least every four days you

and I will be attending together at the same time Please understand however

there is never any expectation for you to participate at any particular time(s) nor

on any given day When you participate depends solely on your inner comfort

and your positive intention when you do take part

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Providing so many times is meant solely as a way to coordinate our attention and

energies in synchrony with other community members There is no need to be

concerned about the ldquorightrdquo time to participate As already noted your energies

are better-focused on being-present your comfort and on positive intention

There simply is no ldquorightrdquo time just the time that is right for you

Another advantage of having eight scheduled times each day is to provide

flexibility for you to adjust your participation in response to changes in your

symptom experiences As noted earlier when going through more difficult

symptomatic periods that are disrupting to your routine participating in

additional praxis times (rather than focusing on symptoms) may assist you with

limiting intensity and duration of the exacerbation ndash particularly by generating

more relaxation and rest

Still another helpful way you may consider your praxis ldquotimerdquo has been clarified

by Einstein physicists and spiritual leaders through history What they have

shown us is that ldquotimerdquo is a construct (a ldquoboxrdquo) and is not really ldquoout thererdquo at

all Indeed if ldquotimerdquo exists it can only be NOW

Such a perspective can be extremely nourishing when considering what Deepak

Chopra MD and Wayne Dyer PhD call the ldquogaprdquo The gap is that experience in

which you are ldquocenteredrdquo in the ldquosilent space between thoughtsrdquo When in the

gap you are at that ldquolevel of Being which is your essential staterdquo1 This

experience of being-in-the-gap is timeless ndash rdquothe womb of creationrdquo2 It is within

this state of experience that healing occurs

As you perform your praxis each day you will naturally and directly begin to

experience the timeless-being of the gap firsthand Once you recognize this

experience you will realize that whatever time of day you actually participate in

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SIHP you are doing it in the same NOW as all other CYSH members ndash even

though your session ldquoclock timesrdquo differ throughout the day

ldquoSHAREDrdquo

Remember the key here is that you are surrounding your Self with the one

heartbeat of all the other community members Your attention your energy

and your intentions are SHARED by all ndash just as their energies and intentions are

shared with and for you It is this attitude of sharing-with a wholehearted

giving-to that is key to this approach It is very simple As you give from

your heart-of-caring so you will receive

Be comforted in knowing that by simply participating once a day (after even a

few short days) you will begin to feel more comfortable more at ease more at

peace now than you may have experienced in years AND you know you are

contributing to the FULLIVINGtrade of others that is contributing beyond well-

being into the very heart of healing Trust me when I say your peace and your

giving heart provide a strong (and necessary) foundation on which to build

healing for each of us and of all of us together

ldquoINTENTIONALrdquo

So what does it mean to be INTENTIONAL One of the most helpful reviews of

ldquointentionrdquo is provided by Wayne Dyer PhD3 In Dyers The Power of Intention

(2005) he describes how we may ldquowishrdquo for something to occur in our lives but

such wishing is only a beginning

We may also choose to take the next step beyond wishing to ldquodesirerdquo Desire

results in taking action on the wish and is proactively distinct from wishing It is

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with desire that we now straight-forwardly make the ldquoaskrdquo (as in ldquoask and you

shall receiverdquo)

Still again we can step-up the intensity of our activity even more (beyond

wishing and asking) that is we may frame our desire in terms of what we

actually ldquointend to createrdquo Stop here for a moment close your eyes and feel

the power in these words I INTEND TO CREATE Period And again

I INTEND TO CREATE

We are very matter-of-fact about bringing the thing wished for desired

requested into experience No doubt No fear Creating healing now is simply a

given that occurs by way of you actively participating Period

Such intention-to-create by definition requires both commitment and passion

With commitment we are beyond ldquotryingrdquo to make the thing happen and

instead move into what I call devotion-to-creating (from the original French

devovere ldquodedicated by a vowrdquo) With such devotion we experience a much

deeper more profound state of being an awareness beyond ego

Devotion-to-creating allows you to act beyond the ldquooughtsrdquo and ldquoshouldsrdquo of

others beyond your own doubts and fears beyond obligation and guilt and

directly to the heart of being inspired (ldquodrawing in of airrdquo ldquoinspiritrdquo) that is you

are drawn into relation-with the powerful and empowering Source that creates

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It is by being inspired that you meet the paradox at the heart of ldquointendingrdquo As

you proactively intend-to-create you naturally come to experience being

committed devoted and inspired however you actually create only inasmuch as

you allow your Self to follow the flow of your inspiration naturally ndash that is as

you open your Self to receive Therefore as you intend to heal you must

also open to receive healing

As such it is important you recognize healing happens as you ldquoget out of your

own wayrdquo beyond intellect desire doubt and ego How do we do that How do

we get out of our own way beyond ego Very simply you do that by allowing

your Self to trust your healing

Please take a moment here to recall a time when you were injured in some way

(maybe a cut or broken bone) Beyond receiving necessary medical assistance

what did you do to mend to heal Once attended to medically its likely that you

never gave the actual processes of ldquohealingrdquo much thought ndash dying cells cleared

away new cells forming and eventually performing as if they had been there all

along as if nothing ever happened Healing just occurred your part was to trust

the process take good care of yourself and allow it Whether conscious or not

you simply trusted yourself to heal

It is that same trust you must have as you now commit-to-create intentional

healing Your whole Self system ldquoknowsrdquo how and what needs healing and in

what specific sequence of steps healing must occur Self does not need the

agreement of intellect or common sense to proceed naturally with healing Self

has been carrying out that process every nano-second of every day of your life ndash

simultaneously coordinating trillions of biochemical and energetic activities in

every cell of your entire being Heart beats lungs breath intestines digest and

your job is simply to get out of your own way and trust your Self to heal

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As you do alongside this intense Self-trust and commitment-to-create (our vow)

passion takes over and leads the way beyond common sense beyond

doubting intellect beyond beliefs and even beyond perceptions Such intense

passion emanating from your heart is very simply ldquoagaperdquo (selfless Love) In

this state you no longer experience others as separate bounded subject-object

(I-It) rather you share together in a living boundless oneness-of-relating

honoring the encounter by giving your present and your presence to the

sacredness of ldquoI-Thourdquo4

Map of HEALING INTENTION

I WISH

I DESIRE (ASK)

I INTEND-TO-CREATE

INCLUDES I COMMIT-TO-CREATE (I Vow = Devotion-to-creating)

I AM PASSIONATE

(I am Inspired)

PARADOX OF INTENDING (I Allow I Receive I Trust My Self to Heal)

I-THOU (Agape)

Figure copy2009 by MFDayton

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It is this deep experience of heartfelt passion and selfless Love you are aiming to

access directly (and share) when you intend from the heart when you are

performing your shared-intentional-healingtrade praxis

So once again stop for a moment now to imagine Imagine the tremendous

healing power at your disposal when you step into your shared session each day

with the intention-to-create healing It means you are committing to heal

vowing to heal trusting your Self to heal by way of your impassioned

heart You are giving your presence to merge as one-heartbeat in

synchrony and selfless love with all other CYSH members in this moment

now Therein lies the true power of your healing intention

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ldquoHEALINGrdquo (beyond ldquobeing curedrdquo)

Clearly what we intend to create during each praxis is HEALING your healing

healing for other members my healing and our healing together as one Yet do

you really know what you mean when you say ldquoI intend to healrdquo

Whenever we take time to reflect on the notion of ldquohealingrdquo typically one of the

first things that bubbles up into awareness is some hope of being ldquocuredrdquo Given

the difficulties and challenges we can face in just making it through even the

most simple of daily activities ldquocurerdquo can be so very inviting Indeed given the

opportunity who of us wouldnt want to be cured of a chronic illness And cured

NOW

Yet by seeking to ldquobe curedrdquo we can become entrenched in even more intense

challenges and symptom exacerbation How could that be What could

possibly be wrong with hoping for a cure

There is nothing wrong with hoping dreaming goal setting Indeed these

activities can provide momentum power purpose and direction to an otherwise

difficult day Yet the moment we turn our attention to ldquobeing curedrdquo our focus

immediately comes to rest on that which we desire to be ldquocured ofrdquo to ldquoget away

fromrdquo and it is here we become derailed Its like the age-old challenge to ldquonot

think of a blue elephantrdquo We must first conceive such a beast before we cannot

think about it

So too with ldquocurerdquo ndash We must first converge our attention and energies even

more intensely on the illness and the symptoms we wish to cease Clearly this

activity takes us in the opposite direction from the relief and health we are

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seeking In fact it is the same process described by Cheri Huber in one of her

more remarkable books entitled That Which You Are Seeking Is Causing You To

Seek (1990) Take a moment now to think about her title in relation to ldquoThe cure

I am seeking is rdquo In short to focus on cure heightens our experience of

dis-ease

To clarify even further when we focus on such moving-away-from-activities we

have no clear vision of what it is we are moving toward Without such clarity our

odds of failing escalate exponentially Success happens only as we also move

toward clearly-defined desires and goals A simple yet powerful example is this

years 40th anniversary of the Apollo 11 moon landing Was that ldquogiant steprdquo

successful because the leaders at NASA focused energy solely on how to create

escape velocity to ldquoget away fromrdquo earth ndash or also on how to get onto the moon

Another helpful example is wanting ldquoout ofrdquo a job Im sure you know of someone

(perhaps yourself) intent on getting away from the daily grind of hisher job Yet

when she did successfully leave that employment inevitably and much too soon

the same situation landslides into the daily grind of the next job Repeating old

patterns of struggle is a very clear sign of actions based on moving-away-

from goals This is a key principle to apply to all aspects of your daily living

The reason this occurs with the get-me-outta-here script is that whatever change

may happen generally does so from ldquowithoutrdquo At best we change scenery Its

the old grass-is-greener scenario ndash which is really no change at all

The inherent problem here can be even more perilous as we see when we take a

closer look at the wording ldquobeing curedrdquo We tend to redirect our attention from

within (our source of creative power) to some force outside that causes the cure

for us (whether that be by way of a physician a healer natural substances

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medications treatments or God)

On some level we tell ourselves if I could figure out what was happening to get

into this situation (ie chronic illness) I would be able to figure out how to get

out of it but (and heres the rub) since I cant I begin to believe less and less in

my innate healing power and more and more that such power must lie outside of

me ndash with an outside force greater than me (whether medical natural or

spiritual)

Please be clear on this point This is not to underplay the importance of qualified

medical professionals to your progress The same is true of the importance and

value of your spirituality and relation-with God Source Higher Power The point

to take away here is that you can only access the benefits of such healing

relations when YOU are first centered and strong in your own being ndash when you

approach your Self as a sacred Thou

Therefore in the situation where you reflexively turn over your power to heal (to

an outside agent) understand the ensuing damage you risk to your sense of Self

Not only are you diminishing belief in your inherent strength and healing power

you are also at risk of allowing others to determine what is best for your well-

being (perhaps even against your deeper intuitive knowing) all of which only

serves to further undermine Self-esteem and the tremendous power that comes

from believing in your Self

Even our religious upbringing can paradoxically weaken our beliefs regarding the

possibility of cure We learn at a deep level that ldquocurerdquo lies only in the realm of

the miraculous Such an orientation can weaken belief in the possibility of ldquome

being cured nowrdquo In fact when being completely honest many of us feel the

odds of ldquome being cured nowrdquo are as slim or slimmer than winning a million dollar

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lottery And when it does not happen were faced with the more daunting issue

of how I must somehow be ldquoflawedrdquo Clearly such underlying attitudes provide

no foundation on which to construct change much less the dramatic change

required with the desire to ldquobe curedrdquo [Here I recommend another Huber book

There Is Nothing Wrong with You Going Beyond Self-Hate (2001)]

In the end when focused on ldquobeing curedrdquo you may not only become separate

from your innate healing power within but you risk the ultimate medical

mistreatment becoming an object to be worked-on mechanically From here it

can be a rapid slide into the role of ldquovictimrdquo whereby you relinquish your

responsibility for choosing altogether (ie intending-to-create) how it is you truly

desire to be In short you risk losing the creative power of intention required to

give birth to healing

By the mid eighties I had been on daily prednisone for over a decade to control

severe bouts of status asthmaticus and recurrent pneumonia Because the

deleterious side-effects of prednisone included adrenal insufficiency (an impaired

stress response) I knew in my heart-of-hearts one key to my well-being lay in

recovering my atrophied stress axis by discontinuing daily prednisone For years

I pleaded with my pulmonary specialist to assist me in tapering off and relearning

how to live prednisone-free Together we did make a few unsuccessful attempts

only to recycle back into another respiratory infection and still higher doses of

prednisone By this time his posture was that I needed to remain on daily

prednisone ldquofor the rest of my liferdquo My posture was to fire him

Fortunately and in short-order I began working with an internist who over the

next two years laid out a plan to become prednisone-free ndash which we did

together successfully Two significant points must be clearly recognized here

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1 You must believe in your innate healing power and if you do not

currently this then becomes your launch pad for your healing journey ndash

relearning to empower your Self to heal

2 You are not in this alone You require the good works of others in

alignment with you to successfully heal As such you need to be very

selective in picking those others with whom you relate to enhance your

medical well-being

If you are feeling your medical support is sapping your power and authority

they probably are but you dont throw the baby out with the bath This is

not about releasing physicians this is about being in a healing

relationship-with your medical professional(s) of choice

Additional cultural biases arise with a focus on ldquocurerdquo Any true change with

regard to chronic illness implies a change ldquofor the betterrdquo That requires us to

believe with certainty that such change can and will bring improvement After

more than fifteen years working with individuals with chronic illness (including

my Self) it is the rare individual Ive encountered who truly believes (from the

core) ldquoI will be curedrdquo We wish for cure certainly but believing with certainty ldquoI

will be curedrdquo rarely

An origin of not believing in ldquobeing curedrdquo lies in the way we traditionally use the

term One problem in particular is that ldquocurerdquo is not a ldquonowrdquo concept -- that is

something I trust to experience now rather we tend to use ldquocurerdquo in a future-

oriented manner of hoping-for-something-to-happen or (at-best) asking-for

maybe praying for cure to happen Yet it is not in the future that you and I

create anything and this is particularly relevant to healing We only create in

the NOW

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Finally even greater issues arise when we attempt to determine precisely what

we mean by the term ldquocurerdquo As one example are you cured when there is ldquoan

end to the disease processrdquo or could that be ldquoremissionrdquo

Does ldquocurerdquo mean a ldquoreturn to full functioningrdquo (ie as I was before the process

started) Is that even possible Consider the case of a disease process that has

already resulted in disfigurement or amputation What does ldquocurerdquo mean in those

situations

Does ldquocurerdquo mean ldquosymptoms are gonerdquo If so are we then cured when

medications relieve or mask the symptoms altogether Do you understand the

quagmire here

It is for all these reasons above that few people are ever truly ldquocuredrdquo of

anything even if we do allow for those who have experienced ldquomiracle curesrdquo

(which are certainly the exception not the norm) Yet when you and I consider

ldquomy situation nowrdquo we need to have the strength of certainty that improvement

is not only possible but immanent

So if not ldquocurerdquo then what You already know the answer And the answer is

ldquohealingrdquo In the end if ldquocurerdquo is anything it is a future-oriented

disempowering mechanical phenomenon at the physical level In contrast

ldquohealingrdquo is an ongoing process (in this moment) of whole-Self transformation

Consider when we truly and proactively ldquohealrdquo we are creating (now) from the

very depths of our core within We are intending-to-create with all the intensity

and power of commitment passion and agape that arises in creative

transformation It is this innate source of inner power to which we must first

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return ldquoas little childrenrdquo in order to initiate healing

We mask nothing when healing now rather we take an active and response-able

role in bringing peace joy and love directly into our daily lives and the lives of

those we touch NOW this moment and in as many moments as we allow

It is from this strong shared intentional healing foundation that we live with the

most power any human being can possibly experience in alignment with in I-

Thou relation-with in the selfless Love that is the very Source of all creation

This process of transformational healing envelops and extends beyond cure at any

level and unlike ldquocurerdquo it is not some static condition at which we arrive (by

the grace of some outside benevolent authority) Rather such transformational

healing is an ongoing process of BEING-a-certain-way in strength in power

in wisdom in loving relation-with (not only Self but Source God Higher Power)

Let this loving empowered healing be the deep transformation you intend ndash your

moment-to-moment empowered healing transformation from core within

ldquoPRAXISrdquo

We finally come to the term PRAXIS Clients often ask why I use ldquopraxisrdquo rather

than something more familiar like ldquopracticerdquo or ldquoexerciserdquo My answer is very

simple and straight-forward

First we can quickly dispense with the term ldquoexerciserdquo Do you really want to

ldquoexerciserdquo intentional healing each day ndash or would you rather just skip having to

exercise any more than you already know you need to do Enough said

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Now imagine I invite you to ldquoplease make sure and practice your intentional

healing each dayrdquo How do you feel then For me it brings up that I must not

be very good at it especially if I need to be practicing every day

Consider now how you feel when I invite you to ldquoskillfully applyrdquo the intentional

healing process in comfort Doesnt ldquoskillful applicationrdquo feel much more

empowering than ldquopracticingrdquo Since ldquopraxisrdquo means ldquoskillful applicationrdquo isnt it

much more inviting to approach your intentional healing sessions with skill

And you will as you become more comfortable applying the process each day

Other folks also ask if shared-intentional-healingtrade wouldnt be better considered

an ldquoexperimentrdquo much like Lynn McTaggarts The Intention Experiment (2007) I

can see how the notion of an ldquoexperimentrdquo carries with it some sense of intrigue

but ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately represent the experience that is shared-

intentional-healingtrade

First (as we learned in our discussion of ldquointentionalrdquo above) when we participate

in Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade we are as a matter-of-fact intending-to-create

healing Such activity cannot be an ldquoexperimentrdquo or we lose the certainty

required for healing change Rather we set out to generate an experience-of-

relating that is powered by being committed empassioned and selflessly loving

You can likely identify such a committed passionate selflessly loving experience

from some time in your life ndash whether in love among family through an

impassioned hobby in seeking some goal or perhaps spiritually As you already

know such an experience is not something we wish-for or hope-for or need to

wait and see what happens It is simply a loving relating-with experience we

already know how to have We just be it and do it

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Moreover (as I suggested above) there is palpable transformation that occurs

within each of us as we gain comfort participating in shared-intentional-healingtrade

This transformational experience happens through your participation and it will

happen for you ndash no need to experiment just simply participate

Moreover at the heart of it the notion of ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately reflect

the research to date on ldquointentionrdquo and ldquohealingrdquo As an example a 1997 review

of research on ldquoIntercessory Prayer for the Alleviation of Ill Healthrdquo by Roberts

Ahmed Hall amp Davison reports individual studies suggest a positive effect of

intercessory prayer But since they viewed other reports in which the results

were equivocal they conclude no ldquo further trials of this intervention should be

takenrdquo5

Regrettably they miss the point The fact that studies DO exist reporting a

positive correlation between intercessory prayer and the alleviation of ill health is

precisely the reason more studies should be undertaken Edison found hundreds

of approaches that were equivocal before discovering a singular lighting solution

Thank goodness he did not conclude any further trials were unnecessary before

arriving at that solution

When it comes to this uniquely intimate subject of healing Eric Leskowitz MD

(in a review of the book Healing Intention amp Energy Medicine (2002) by Wayne

Jonas MD) explains how such conflicting conclusions like Roberts etal come

about Dr Leskowitz notes when he is in discussions with his allopathic medical

colleagues regarding ldquo inexplicable phenomena like energy healing or

intercessory prayer a sort of allopathic fear reflex kicks inrdquo6 Conclusions

become tunnel-visioned and skewed against even the possibility of such

correlation existing anywhere at any time Hence no further trials

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You may however verify for yourself such positively-correlated research does

indeed already exist by reviewing the studies in Jonas book (above) In

addition Marilyn Schlitz PhD provides a brief outline of just some of those

ldquopositive correlationrdquo studies that highlight the ldquointerface of science spirituality

and medicinerdquo7

If you would like an even more in-depth review I refer you to Consciousness amp

Healing Integral Approaches to Mind-Body Medicine (2005) by Schlitz Amorok

and Micozzi as well as the more recent (2008) Holistic Nursing A Handbook for Practice

5th edition by Dossey amp Keegan

In sum although experimental research has certainly not provided the final

answers on the relation between intention and healing the research to date is

most certainly beyond the ldquoequivocalrdquo suggested by those reflexively reacting

from allopathic fear Those studies completed to date which do display a positive

correlation between intention and healing are already providing a strong practical

foundation of powerful techniques and approaches that go far beyond

ldquoexperimentingrdquo and straight to the heart of skillful-application in daily living

Shared-Intentional-Healingrdquotrade is just one such approach you may access today

and everyday simply by participating in your daily praxis

With the above foundation in mind we can now move on to

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PRAXIS GUIDELINES

Having considered in some depth the foundation on which this method rests we

may now turn to the guidelines describing ldquohow tordquo participate in your daily

Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis

Before you approach your first intentional session please read through the

description and suggestions below Remember these opportunities are for YOU

to BENEFIT YOU Again there is no right way nor wrong way for you to

participate You simply participate in your own best way Therefore as noted

previously the description below is solely meant as a guided outline to assist you

in jump-starting your participation ndash sharing with you some ideas that have

already worked well for others in our Community

For this to be beneficial for everyone please do your best to allot at least 5 to

15 minutes for each intentional session If you are already seasoned at

sitting in quiet you certainly may choose to go longer (eg 30) and you can

trust there are other CYSH members continuing in synchrony with you

To start out let your sessions be for shorter periods of time You will experience

a natural increase in length of participation without having to think about it or

plan for it This is not a race nor a test of endurance This is a nourishing of

Self and a cultivation of your best healing intentions Be gentle

In the beginning it can also be helpful if you imagine sending out your healing

intentions in a particular direction around the globe and returning to you from

the opposite direction This way as you imagine can assist you in creating a

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ldquoflowrdquo with regard to directing intentional healing to all others around the globe

As you become more adept you will very naturally be able to generate healing

images radiating from your whole being equally in all directions You will

become aware there is no particular ldquoupdownrdquo in space-time There is just

ldquoeverywhere hererdquo that is always at the center of the universe ndash as you are at all

times and as is each member

Finally please know you may also invite your friends and loved ones to share

with you in these sessions If they cannot participate with you ask them (at

minimum) to set their healing intention for you and send it like a gift to you each

day This can be helpful to them as well knowing they are actively supporting

you with their selfless loving healing

So let us begin with a session description I have broken it down into 8 separate

action steps below

1 First make time to just sit and be comfortable (nothing ldquoto dordquo now)

Loosen any tight clothing

2 Begin breathing slowly until you relax into a comfortable natural pace

This is a time for gentleness Simply allow experience to happen and

follow experience moment-to-moment as you proceed

3 Slowly scan your entire being from head to toes inside and out If you

notice any part of you in tension just allow it to relax naturally and

dissolve with each out-breath

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Note It may take you 2 or more breathing cycles to notice the muscles in a

particular area begin to relax There are times as well when you may just

need to continue on with your scan trusting that the area will release as you

proceed Again this is time for gentle following

4 Once relaxed (as much as may be possible for now) INVITE your Self to

allow and receive healing intention and healing love

Note This may not feel natural or normal within and like a child the

knee-jerk reaction may indeed be to rebel You are merely sending an

invitation nothing more As you repeat this intentional healing invitation

each day you will soon begin to notice that you are indeed looking forward

to this opportunity

5 You are now comfortable relaxed and intentional within It is time now

to image all the other CYSH Members with whom you are sharing this

time Know they too are seeking to generate healing for your challenges

just as you are for theirs Depending on your beliefs it is here that you

may also invite connect with your source of spiritual power (God

Source Higher Power Buddha) to participate with you

6 Spend the next minutes imagining a Circle of Intentional Healing

Energy flowing into you from all the others and out from you to all

others Allow it to be easy natural like the earthrsquos flow of water

circulating from sky to earth and back to sky simply relax into this flow

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Note It may help to imagine your healing intentions emanating from about

2 finger-widths behind and about 3 finger-widths below your navel This

site (known as the ldquolower dan tienrdquo or ldquoharardquo) is considered the physical

center of gravity around which you are in perfect balance

From this point you can imagine healing intention flowing up your trunk

through your neck and head and out the top of your head to the other

CYSH members

The healing intention returning to you can be experienced as coming into

you at the same center of gravity point from which you started

Important Do not attempt to localize your intentions to any one region

within (brain heart liver etc) the reason being that a given illness process

occurs across and between physiological systems (even though we may talk

as if it is isolated to one system) It is best to imagine your entire Self

within a cocoon or bubble of flowing healing intention ndash everywhere within

you at once You may experience color warmth safety Luxuriate in your

experience Enjoy the moment

During this intentional time it can also be helpful on a given inout cycle of

breath to silently express I send out Loving Healing On the next

inout cycle silently express I receive Loving Healing and so on

In addition if your mind wanders off task (amp it will) just gently return to

the flow of loving healing intention Remember this experience is all about

being gentle Enjoy the process

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Continue in this state for as long as you desire and is easy comfortable

and natural With practice your will naturally be at ease for longer

periods of time during each session

7 When complete express gratitude to your Self as well as to all others

sharing in this moment with you Sit in this experience of gratitude for a

few moments

8 Savor the nourishing peace you have generated

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8-STEP PRAXIS REVIEW

1 SIT in comfort

2 BREATHE slowly rhythmically

3 SCAN (head to toes) to relax further still

4 INVITE SELF to allow healing intention

5 RELATE-WITH all other CYSH members amp Spiritual Power

6 SENDRECEIVE intentional healing

ldquoI send out Loving Healingrdquo ldquoI receive Loving Healingrdquo

7 Sit in GRATITUDE

8 SAVOR the nourishing peace

I genuinely look forward to your daily participation and to sharing this powerful

healing process with you I would love to hear your experiences with your praxis

Please do feel free to email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom)

My mission is to Coach You Well

Sincerely amp Caringly

MALCOLM

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REFERENCES

1 Chopra Deepak (1994) The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success ndash A Practical Guide to

the Fulfillment of Your Dreams p76

2 Chopra Deepak (1999) A Deepak Chopra Companion Illuminations on Health and

Human Consciousness p94

3 Dyer httpwwwyoutubecomwatchv=DC-FPorUW7gampfeature=related

4 Buber Martin (1971) I And Thou

5 Intercessory prayer httpwwwcochraneorgreviewsenab000368html

6 Leskowitz httpwholistichealingresearchcom42books12

7 Schlitz httpxnetkporgpermanentejournalsum05evidencepdf

copy2009byMFDayton

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ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Malcolm Dayton LPC Cht is a Licensed Counselor with more than two decades coaching individuals and families facing chronic illness He is also certified in MindBody Medicine and Hypnotherapy

Malcolms Coaching Self Healing program is unique in that he calls on his own lifelong journey with chronic illness (multiple sclerosis asthma immune deficiency) to assist you in accessing your unique healing solutions Very simply Malcolm walks his coaching

His coaching program is truly integral-- that is healing solutions are practical in focus and applied comprehensively incorporating all dimensions of your experience from symptoms to wellness from relations within self to social relations from the physical to spiritual--a truly ecological approach to Self Healing You learn to be FULLIVINGtrade ndash to thrive beyond chronic illness

Malcolms mission is to Coach You WELL

CONTACTMalcolm Dayton LPC CHt

email mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom

phone 970-689-4247

Yes Malcolm Im ready to discover

the benefits of Self Healing Coaching NOW

Sign me up now for myCOMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION

Be Well And THRIVE Beyond Chronic Illness Now

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Page 10: Thriving Beyond Chronic Illness:  Shared-Intentional-Healing Praxis

Providing so many times is meant solely as a way to coordinate our attention and

energies in synchrony with other community members There is no need to be

concerned about the ldquorightrdquo time to participate As already noted your energies

are better-focused on being-present your comfort and on positive intention

There simply is no ldquorightrdquo time just the time that is right for you

Another advantage of having eight scheduled times each day is to provide

flexibility for you to adjust your participation in response to changes in your

symptom experiences As noted earlier when going through more difficult

symptomatic periods that are disrupting to your routine participating in

additional praxis times (rather than focusing on symptoms) may assist you with

limiting intensity and duration of the exacerbation ndash particularly by generating

more relaxation and rest

Still another helpful way you may consider your praxis ldquotimerdquo has been clarified

by Einstein physicists and spiritual leaders through history What they have

shown us is that ldquotimerdquo is a construct (a ldquoboxrdquo) and is not really ldquoout thererdquo at

all Indeed if ldquotimerdquo exists it can only be NOW

Such a perspective can be extremely nourishing when considering what Deepak

Chopra MD and Wayne Dyer PhD call the ldquogaprdquo The gap is that experience in

which you are ldquocenteredrdquo in the ldquosilent space between thoughtsrdquo When in the

gap you are at that ldquolevel of Being which is your essential staterdquo1 This

experience of being-in-the-gap is timeless ndash rdquothe womb of creationrdquo2 It is within

this state of experience that healing occurs

As you perform your praxis each day you will naturally and directly begin to

experience the timeless-being of the gap firsthand Once you recognize this

experience you will realize that whatever time of day you actually participate in

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SIHP you are doing it in the same NOW as all other CYSH members ndash even

though your session ldquoclock timesrdquo differ throughout the day

ldquoSHAREDrdquo

Remember the key here is that you are surrounding your Self with the one

heartbeat of all the other community members Your attention your energy

and your intentions are SHARED by all ndash just as their energies and intentions are

shared with and for you It is this attitude of sharing-with a wholehearted

giving-to that is key to this approach It is very simple As you give from

your heart-of-caring so you will receive

Be comforted in knowing that by simply participating once a day (after even a

few short days) you will begin to feel more comfortable more at ease more at

peace now than you may have experienced in years AND you know you are

contributing to the FULLIVINGtrade of others that is contributing beyond well-

being into the very heart of healing Trust me when I say your peace and your

giving heart provide a strong (and necessary) foundation on which to build

healing for each of us and of all of us together

ldquoINTENTIONALrdquo

So what does it mean to be INTENTIONAL One of the most helpful reviews of

ldquointentionrdquo is provided by Wayne Dyer PhD3 In Dyers The Power of Intention

(2005) he describes how we may ldquowishrdquo for something to occur in our lives but

such wishing is only a beginning

We may also choose to take the next step beyond wishing to ldquodesirerdquo Desire

results in taking action on the wish and is proactively distinct from wishing It is

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with desire that we now straight-forwardly make the ldquoaskrdquo (as in ldquoask and you

shall receiverdquo)

Still again we can step-up the intensity of our activity even more (beyond

wishing and asking) that is we may frame our desire in terms of what we

actually ldquointend to createrdquo Stop here for a moment close your eyes and feel

the power in these words I INTEND TO CREATE Period And again

I INTEND TO CREATE

We are very matter-of-fact about bringing the thing wished for desired

requested into experience No doubt No fear Creating healing now is simply a

given that occurs by way of you actively participating Period

Such intention-to-create by definition requires both commitment and passion

With commitment we are beyond ldquotryingrdquo to make the thing happen and

instead move into what I call devotion-to-creating (from the original French

devovere ldquodedicated by a vowrdquo) With such devotion we experience a much

deeper more profound state of being an awareness beyond ego

Devotion-to-creating allows you to act beyond the ldquooughtsrdquo and ldquoshouldsrdquo of

others beyond your own doubts and fears beyond obligation and guilt and

directly to the heart of being inspired (ldquodrawing in of airrdquo ldquoinspiritrdquo) that is you

are drawn into relation-with the powerful and empowering Source that creates

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It is by being inspired that you meet the paradox at the heart of ldquointendingrdquo As

you proactively intend-to-create you naturally come to experience being

committed devoted and inspired however you actually create only inasmuch as

you allow your Self to follow the flow of your inspiration naturally ndash that is as

you open your Self to receive Therefore as you intend to heal you must

also open to receive healing

As such it is important you recognize healing happens as you ldquoget out of your

own wayrdquo beyond intellect desire doubt and ego How do we do that How do

we get out of our own way beyond ego Very simply you do that by allowing

your Self to trust your healing

Please take a moment here to recall a time when you were injured in some way

(maybe a cut or broken bone) Beyond receiving necessary medical assistance

what did you do to mend to heal Once attended to medically its likely that you

never gave the actual processes of ldquohealingrdquo much thought ndash dying cells cleared

away new cells forming and eventually performing as if they had been there all

along as if nothing ever happened Healing just occurred your part was to trust

the process take good care of yourself and allow it Whether conscious or not

you simply trusted yourself to heal

It is that same trust you must have as you now commit-to-create intentional

healing Your whole Self system ldquoknowsrdquo how and what needs healing and in

what specific sequence of steps healing must occur Self does not need the

agreement of intellect or common sense to proceed naturally with healing Self

has been carrying out that process every nano-second of every day of your life ndash

simultaneously coordinating trillions of biochemical and energetic activities in

every cell of your entire being Heart beats lungs breath intestines digest and

your job is simply to get out of your own way and trust your Self to heal

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As you do alongside this intense Self-trust and commitment-to-create (our vow)

passion takes over and leads the way beyond common sense beyond

doubting intellect beyond beliefs and even beyond perceptions Such intense

passion emanating from your heart is very simply ldquoagaperdquo (selfless Love) In

this state you no longer experience others as separate bounded subject-object

(I-It) rather you share together in a living boundless oneness-of-relating

honoring the encounter by giving your present and your presence to the

sacredness of ldquoI-Thourdquo4

Map of HEALING INTENTION

I WISH

I DESIRE (ASK)

I INTEND-TO-CREATE

INCLUDES I COMMIT-TO-CREATE (I Vow = Devotion-to-creating)

I AM PASSIONATE

(I am Inspired)

PARADOX OF INTENDING (I Allow I Receive I Trust My Self to Heal)

I-THOU (Agape)

Figure copy2009 by MFDayton

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It is this deep experience of heartfelt passion and selfless Love you are aiming to

access directly (and share) when you intend from the heart when you are

performing your shared-intentional-healingtrade praxis

So once again stop for a moment now to imagine Imagine the tremendous

healing power at your disposal when you step into your shared session each day

with the intention-to-create healing It means you are committing to heal

vowing to heal trusting your Self to heal by way of your impassioned

heart You are giving your presence to merge as one-heartbeat in

synchrony and selfless love with all other CYSH members in this moment

now Therein lies the true power of your healing intention

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ldquoHEALINGrdquo (beyond ldquobeing curedrdquo)

Clearly what we intend to create during each praxis is HEALING your healing

healing for other members my healing and our healing together as one Yet do

you really know what you mean when you say ldquoI intend to healrdquo

Whenever we take time to reflect on the notion of ldquohealingrdquo typically one of the

first things that bubbles up into awareness is some hope of being ldquocuredrdquo Given

the difficulties and challenges we can face in just making it through even the

most simple of daily activities ldquocurerdquo can be so very inviting Indeed given the

opportunity who of us wouldnt want to be cured of a chronic illness And cured

NOW

Yet by seeking to ldquobe curedrdquo we can become entrenched in even more intense

challenges and symptom exacerbation How could that be What could

possibly be wrong with hoping for a cure

There is nothing wrong with hoping dreaming goal setting Indeed these

activities can provide momentum power purpose and direction to an otherwise

difficult day Yet the moment we turn our attention to ldquobeing curedrdquo our focus

immediately comes to rest on that which we desire to be ldquocured ofrdquo to ldquoget away

fromrdquo and it is here we become derailed Its like the age-old challenge to ldquonot

think of a blue elephantrdquo We must first conceive such a beast before we cannot

think about it

So too with ldquocurerdquo ndash We must first converge our attention and energies even

more intensely on the illness and the symptoms we wish to cease Clearly this

activity takes us in the opposite direction from the relief and health we are

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seeking In fact it is the same process described by Cheri Huber in one of her

more remarkable books entitled That Which You Are Seeking Is Causing You To

Seek (1990) Take a moment now to think about her title in relation to ldquoThe cure

I am seeking is rdquo In short to focus on cure heightens our experience of

dis-ease

To clarify even further when we focus on such moving-away-from-activities we

have no clear vision of what it is we are moving toward Without such clarity our

odds of failing escalate exponentially Success happens only as we also move

toward clearly-defined desires and goals A simple yet powerful example is this

years 40th anniversary of the Apollo 11 moon landing Was that ldquogiant steprdquo

successful because the leaders at NASA focused energy solely on how to create

escape velocity to ldquoget away fromrdquo earth ndash or also on how to get onto the moon

Another helpful example is wanting ldquoout ofrdquo a job Im sure you know of someone

(perhaps yourself) intent on getting away from the daily grind of hisher job Yet

when she did successfully leave that employment inevitably and much too soon

the same situation landslides into the daily grind of the next job Repeating old

patterns of struggle is a very clear sign of actions based on moving-away-

from goals This is a key principle to apply to all aspects of your daily living

The reason this occurs with the get-me-outta-here script is that whatever change

may happen generally does so from ldquowithoutrdquo At best we change scenery Its

the old grass-is-greener scenario ndash which is really no change at all

The inherent problem here can be even more perilous as we see when we take a

closer look at the wording ldquobeing curedrdquo We tend to redirect our attention from

within (our source of creative power) to some force outside that causes the cure

for us (whether that be by way of a physician a healer natural substances

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medications treatments or God)

On some level we tell ourselves if I could figure out what was happening to get

into this situation (ie chronic illness) I would be able to figure out how to get

out of it but (and heres the rub) since I cant I begin to believe less and less in

my innate healing power and more and more that such power must lie outside of

me ndash with an outside force greater than me (whether medical natural or

spiritual)

Please be clear on this point This is not to underplay the importance of qualified

medical professionals to your progress The same is true of the importance and

value of your spirituality and relation-with God Source Higher Power The point

to take away here is that you can only access the benefits of such healing

relations when YOU are first centered and strong in your own being ndash when you

approach your Self as a sacred Thou

Therefore in the situation where you reflexively turn over your power to heal (to

an outside agent) understand the ensuing damage you risk to your sense of Self

Not only are you diminishing belief in your inherent strength and healing power

you are also at risk of allowing others to determine what is best for your well-

being (perhaps even against your deeper intuitive knowing) all of which only

serves to further undermine Self-esteem and the tremendous power that comes

from believing in your Self

Even our religious upbringing can paradoxically weaken our beliefs regarding the

possibility of cure We learn at a deep level that ldquocurerdquo lies only in the realm of

the miraculous Such an orientation can weaken belief in the possibility of ldquome

being cured nowrdquo In fact when being completely honest many of us feel the

odds of ldquome being cured nowrdquo are as slim or slimmer than winning a million dollar

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 18 of 33

lottery And when it does not happen were faced with the more daunting issue

of how I must somehow be ldquoflawedrdquo Clearly such underlying attitudes provide

no foundation on which to construct change much less the dramatic change

required with the desire to ldquobe curedrdquo [Here I recommend another Huber book

There Is Nothing Wrong with You Going Beyond Self-Hate (2001)]

In the end when focused on ldquobeing curedrdquo you may not only become separate

from your innate healing power within but you risk the ultimate medical

mistreatment becoming an object to be worked-on mechanically From here it

can be a rapid slide into the role of ldquovictimrdquo whereby you relinquish your

responsibility for choosing altogether (ie intending-to-create) how it is you truly

desire to be In short you risk losing the creative power of intention required to

give birth to healing

By the mid eighties I had been on daily prednisone for over a decade to control

severe bouts of status asthmaticus and recurrent pneumonia Because the

deleterious side-effects of prednisone included adrenal insufficiency (an impaired

stress response) I knew in my heart-of-hearts one key to my well-being lay in

recovering my atrophied stress axis by discontinuing daily prednisone For years

I pleaded with my pulmonary specialist to assist me in tapering off and relearning

how to live prednisone-free Together we did make a few unsuccessful attempts

only to recycle back into another respiratory infection and still higher doses of

prednisone By this time his posture was that I needed to remain on daily

prednisone ldquofor the rest of my liferdquo My posture was to fire him

Fortunately and in short-order I began working with an internist who over the

next two years laid out a plan to become prednisone-free ndash which we did

together successfully Two significant points must be clearly recognized here

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1 You must believe in your innate healing power and if you do not

currently this then becomes your launch pad for your healing journey ndash

relearning to empower your Self to heal

2 You are not in this alone You require the good works of others in

alignment with you to successfully heal As such you need to be very

selective in picking those others with whom you relate to enhance your

medical well-being

If you are feeling your medical support is sapping your power and authority

they probably are but you dont throw the baby out with the bath This is

not about releasing physicians this is about being in a healing

relationship-with your medical professional(s) of choice

Additional cultural biases arise with a focus on ldquocurerdquo Any true change with

regard to chronic illness implies a change ldquofor the betterrdquo That requires us to

believe with certainty that such change can and will bring improvement After

more than fifteen years working with individuals with chronic illness (including

my Self) it is the rare individual Ive encountered who truly believes (from the

core) ldquoI will be curedrdquo We wish for cure certainly but believing with certainty ldquoI

will be curedrdquo rarely

An origin of not believing in ldquobeing curedrdquo lies in the way we traditionally use the

term One problem in particular is that ldquocurerdquo is not a ldquonowrdquo concept -- that is

something I trust to experience now rather we tend to use ldquocurerdquo in a future-

oriented manner of hoping-for-something-to-happen or (at-best) asking-for

maybe praying for cure to happen Yet it is not in the future that you and I

create anything and this is particularly relevant to healing We only create in

the NOW

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Finally even greater issues arise when we attempt to determine precisely what

we mean by the term ldquocurerdquo As one example are you cured when there is ldquoan

end to the disease processrdquo or could that be ldquoremissionrdquo

Does ldquocurerdquo mean a ldquoreturn to full functioningrdquo (ie as I was before the process

started) Is that even possible Consider the case of a disease process that has

already resulted in disfigurement or amputation What does ldquocurerdquo mean in those

situations

Does ldquocurerdquo mean ldquosymptoms are gonerdquo If so are we then cured when

medications relieve or mask the symptoms altogether Do you understand the

quagmire here

It is for all these reasons above that few people are ever truly ldquocuredrdquo of

anything even if we do allow for those who have experienced ldquomiracle curesrdquo

(which are certainly the exception not the norm) Yet when you and I consider

ldquomy situation nowrdquo we need to have the strength of certainty that improvement

is not only possible but immanent

So if not ldquocurerdquo then what You already know the answer And the answer is

ldquohealingrdquo In the end if ldquocurerdquo is anything it is a future-oriented

disempowering mechanical phenomenon at the physical level In contrast

ldquohealingrdquo is an ongoing process (in this moment) of whole-Self transformation

Consider when we truly and proactively ldquohealrdquo we are creating (now) from the

very depths of our core within We are intending-to-create with all the intensity

and power of commitment passion and agape that arises in creative

transformation It is this innate source of inner power to which we must first

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return ldquoas little childrenrdquo in order to initiate healing

We mask nothing when healing now rather we take an active and response-able

role in bringing peace joy and love directly into our daily lives and the lives of

those we touch NOW this moment and in as many moments as we allow

It is from this strong shared intentional healing foundation that we live with the

most power any human being can possibly experience in alignment with in I-

Thou relation-with in the selfless Love that is the very Source of all creation

This process of transformational healing envelops and extends beyond cure at any

level and unlike ldquocurerdquo it is not some static condition at which we arrive (by

the grace of some outside benevolent authority) Rather such transformational

healing is an ongoing process of BEING-a-certain-way in strength in power

in wisdom in loving relation-with (not only Self but Source God Higher Power)

Let this loving empowered healing be the deep transformation you intend ndash your

moment-to-moment empowered healing transformation from core within

ldquoPRAXISrdquo

We finally come to the term PRAXIS Clients often ask why I use ldquopraxisrdquo rather

than something more familiar like ldquopracticerdquo or ldquoexerciserdquo My answer is very

simple and straight-forward

First we can quickly dispense with the term ldquoexerciserdquo Do you really want to

ldquoexerciserdquo intentional healing each day ndash or would you rather just skip having to

exercise any more than you already know you need to do Enough said

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Now imagine I invite you to ldquoplease make sure and practice your intentional

healing each dayrdquo How do you feel then For me it brings up that I must not

be very good at it especially if I need to be practicing every day

Consider now how you feel when I invite you to ldquoskillfully applyrdquo the intentional

healing process in comfort Doesnt ldquoskillful applicationrdquo feel much more

empowering than ldquopracticingrdquo Since ldquopraxisrdquo means ldquoskillful applicationrdquo isnt it

much more inviting to approach your intentional healing sessions with skill

And you will as you become more comfortable applying the process each day

Other folks also ask if shared-intentional-healingtrade wouldnt be better considered

an ldquoexperimentrdquo much like Lynn McTaggarts The Intention Experiment (2007) I

can see how the notion of an ldquoexperimentrdquo carries with it some sense of intrigue

but ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately represent the experience that is shared-

intentional-healingtrade

First (as we learned in our discussion of ldquointentionalrdquo above) when we participate

in Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade we are as a matter-of-fact intending-to-create

healing Such activity cannot be an ldquoexperimentrdquo or we lose the certainty

required for healing change Rather we set out to generate an experience-of-

relating that is powered by being committed empassioned and selflessly loving

You can likely identify such a committed passionate selflessly loving experience

from some time in your life ndash whether in love among family through an

impassioned hobby in seeking some goal or perhaps spiritually As you already

know such an experience is not something we wish-for or hope-for or need to

wait and see what happens It is simply a loving relating-with experience we

already know how to have We just be it and do it

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Moreover (as I suggested above) there is palpable transformation that occurs

within each of us as we gain comfort participating in shared-intentional-healingtrade

This transformational experience happens through your participation and it will

happen for you ndash no need to experiment just simply participate

Moreover at the heart of it the notion of ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately reflect

the research to date on ldquointentionrdquo and ldquohealingrdquo As an example a 1997 review

of research on ldquoIntercessory Prayer for the Alleviation of Ill Healthrdquo by Roberts

Ahmed Hall amp Davison reports individual studies suggest a positive effect of

intercessory prayer But since they viewed other reports in which the results

were equivocal they conclude no ldquo further trials of this intervention should be

takenrdquo5

Regrettably they miss the point The fact that studies DO exist reporting a

positive correlation between intercessory prayer and the alleviation of ill health is

precisely the reason more studies should be undertaken Edison found hundreds

of approaches that were equivocal before discovering a singular lighting solution

Thank goodness he did not conclude any further trials were unnecessary before

arriving at that solution

When it comes to this uniquely intimate subject of healing Eric Leskowitz MD

(in a review of the book Healing Intention amp Energy Medicine (2002) by Wayne

Jonas MD) explains how such conflicting conclusions like Roberts etal come

about Dr Leskowitz notes when he is in discussions with his allopathic medical

colleagues regarding ldquo inexplicable phenomena like energy healing or

intercessory prayer a sort of allopathic fear reflex kicks inrdquo6 Conclusions

become tunnel-visioned and skewed against even the possibility of such

correlation existing anywhere at any time Hence no further trials

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You may however verify for yourself such positively-correlated research does

indeed already exist by reviewing the studies in Jonas book (above) In

addition Marilyn Schlitz PhD provides a brief outline of just some of those

ldquopositive correlationrdquo studies that highlight the ldquointerface of science spirituality

and medicinerdquo7

If you would like an even more in-depth review I refer you to Consciousness amp

Healing Integral Approaches to Mind-Body Medicine (2005) by Schlitz Amorok

and Micozzi as well as the more recent (2008) Holistic Nursing A Handbook for Practice

5th edition by Dossey amp Keegan

In sum although experimental research has certainly not provided the final

answers on the relation between intention and healing the research to date is

most certainly beyond the ldquoequivocalrdquo suggested by those reflexively reacting

from allopathic fear Those studies completed to date which do display a positive

correlation between intention and healing are already providing a strong practical

foundation of powerful techniques and approaches that go far beyond

ldquoexperimentingrdquo and straight to the heart of skillful-application in daily living

Shared-Intentional-Healingrdquotrade is just one such approach you may access today

and everyday simply by participating in your daily praxis

With the above foundation in mind we can now move on to

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PRAXIS GUIDELINES

Having considered in some depth the foundation on which this method rests we

may now turn to the guidelines describing ldquohow tordquo participate in your daily

Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis

Before you approach your first intentional session please read through the

description and suggestions below Remember these opportunities are for YOU

to BENEFIT YOU Again there is no right way nor wrong way for you to

participate You simply participate in your own best way Therefore as noted

previously the description below is solely meant as a guided outline to assist you

in jump-starting your participation ndash sharing with you some ideas that have

already worked well for others in our Community

For this to be beneficial for everyone please do your best to allot at least 5 to

15 minutes for each intentional session If you are already seasoned at

sitting in quiet you certainly may choose to go longer (eg 30) and you can

trust there are other CYSH members continuing in synchrony with you

To start out let your sessions be for shorter periods of time You will experience

a natural increase in length of participation without having to think about it or

plan for it This is not a race nor a test of endurance This is a nourishing of

Self and a cultivation of your best healing intentions Be gentle

In the beginning it can also be helpful if you imagine sending out your healing

intentions in a particular direction around the globe and returning to you from

the opposite direction This way as you imagine can assist you in creating a

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ldquoflowrdquo with regard to directing intentional healing to all others around the globe

As you become more adept you will very naturally be able to generate healing

images radiating from your whole being equally in all directions You will

become aware there is no particular ldquoupdownrdquo in space-time There is just

ldquoeverywhere hererdquo that is always at the center of the universe ndash as you are at all

times and as is each member

Finally please know you may also invite your friends and loved ones to share

with you in these sessions If they cannot participate with you ask them (at

minimum) to set their healing intention for you and send it like a gift to you each

day This can be helpful to them as well knowing they are actively supporting

you with their selfless loving healing

So let us begin with a session description I have broken it down into 8 separate

action steps below

1 First make time to just sit and be comfortable (nothing ldquoto dordquo now)

Loosen any tight clothing

2 Begin breathing slowly until you relax into a comfortable natural pace

This is a time for gentleness Simply allow experience to happen and

follow experience moment-to-moment as you proceed

3 Slowly scan your entire being from head to toes inside and out If you

notice any part of you in tension just allow it to relax naturally and

dissolve with each out-breath

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Note It may take you 2 or more breathing cycles to notice the muscles in a

particular area begin to relax There are times as well when you may just

need to continue on with your scan trusting that the area will release as you

proceed Again this is time for gentle following

4 Once relaxed (as much as may be possible for now) INVITE your Self to

allow and receive healing intention and healing love

Note This may not feel natural or normal within and like a child the

knee-jerk reaction may indeed be to rebel You are merely sending an

invitation nothing more As you repeat this intentional healing invitation

each day you will soon begin to notice that you are indeed looking forward

to this opportunity

5 You are now comfortable relaxed and intentional within It is time now

to image all the other CYSH Members with whom you are sharing this

time Know they too are seeking to generate healing for your challenges

just as you are for theirs Depending on your beliefs it is here that you

may also invite connect with your source of spiritual power (God

Source Higher Power Buddha) to participate with you

6 Spend the next minutes imagining a Circle of Intentional Healing

Energy flowing into you from all the others and out from you to all

others Allow it to be easy natural like the earthrsquos flow of water

circulating from sky to earth and back to sky simply relax into this flow

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Note It may help to imagine your healing intentions emanating from about

2 finger-widths behind and about 3 finger-widths below your navel This

site (known as the ldquolower dan tienrdquo or ldquoharardquo) is considered the physical

center of gravity around which you are in perfect balance

From this point you can imagine healing intention flowing up your trunk

through your neck and head and out the top of your head to the other

CYSH members

The healing intention returning to you can be experienced as coming into

you at the same center of gravity point from which you started

Important Do not attempt to localize your intentions to any one region

within (brain heart liver etc) the reason being that a given illness process

occurs across and between physiological systems (even though we may talk

as if it is isolated to one system) It is best to imagine your entire Self

within a cocoon or bubble of flowing healing intention ndash everywhere within

you at once You may experience color warmth safety Luxuriate in your

experience Enjoy the moment

During this intentional time it can also be helpful on a given inout cycle of

breath to silently express I send out Loving Healing On the next

inout cycle silently express I receive Loving Healing and so on

In addition if your mind wanders off task (amp it will) just gently return to

the flow of loving healing intention Remember this experience is all about

being gentle Enjoy the process

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Continue in this state for as long as you desire and is easy comfortable

and natural With practice your will naturally be at ease for longer

periods of time during each session

7 When complete express gratitude to your Self as well as to all others

sharing in this moment with you Sit in this experience of gratitude for a

few moments

8 Savor the nourishing peace you have generated

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8-STEP PRAXIS REVIEW

1 SIT in comfort

2 BREATHE slowly rhythmically

3 SCAN (head to toes) to relax further still

4 INVITE SELF to allow healing intention

5 RELATE-WITH all other CYSH members amp Spiritual Power

6 SENDRECEIVE intentional healing

ldquoI send out Loving Healingrdquo ldquoI receive Loving Healingrdquo

7 Sit in GRATITUDE

8 SAVOR the nourishing peace

I genuinely look forward to your daily participation and to sharing this powerful

healing process with you I would love to hear your experiences with your praxis

Please do feel free to email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom)

My mission is to Coach You Well

Sincerely amp Caringly

MALCOLM

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REFERENCES

1 Chopra Deepak (1994) The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success ndash A Practical Guide to

the Fulfillment of Your Dreams p76

2 Chopra Deepak (1999) A Deepak Chopra Companion Illuminations on Health and

Human Consciousness p94

3 Dyer httpwwwyoutubecomwatchv=DC-FPorUW7gampfeature=related

4 Buber Martin (1971) I And Thou

5 Intercessory prayer httpwwwcochraneorgreviewsenab000368html

6 Leskowitz httpwholistichealingresearchcom42books12

7 Schlitz httpxnetkporgpermanentejournalsum05evidencepdf

copy2009byMFDayton

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ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Malcolm Dayton LPC Cht is a Licensed Counselor with more than two decades coaching individuals and families facing chronic illness He is also certified in MindBody Medicine and Hypnotherapy

Malcolms Coaching Self Healing program is unique in that he calls on his own lifelong journey with chronic illness (multiple sclerosis asthma immune deficiency) to assist you in accessing your unique healing solutions Very simply Malcolm walks his coaching

His coaching program is truly integral-- that is healing solutions are practical in focus and applied comprehensively incorporating all dimensions of your experience from symptoms to wellness from relations within self to social relations from the physical to spiritual--a truly ecological approach to Self Healing You learn to be FULLIVINGtrade ndash to thrive beyond chronic illness

Malcolms mission is to Coach You WELL

CONTACTMalcolm Dayton LPC CHt

email mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom

phone 970-689-4247

Yes Malcolm Im ready to discover

the benefits of Self Healing Coaching NOW

Sign me up now for myCOMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION

Be Well And THRIVE Beyond Chronic Illness Now

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Page 11: Thriving Beyond Chronic Illness:  Shared-Intentional-Healing Praxis

SIHP you are doing it in the same NOW as all other CYSH members ndash even

though your session ldquoclock timesrdquo differ throughout the day

ldquoSHAREDrdquo

Remember the key here is that you are surrounding your Self with the one

heartbeat of all the other community members Your attention your energy

and your intentions are SHARED by all ndash just as their energies and intentions are

shared with and for you It is this attitude of sharing-with a wholehearted

giving-to that is key to this approach It is very simple As you give from

your heart-of-caring so you will receive

Be comforted in knowing that by simply participating once a day (after even a

few short days) you will begin to feel more comfortable more at ease more at

peace now than you may have experienced in years AND you know you are

contributing to the FULLIVINGtrade of others that is contributing beyond well-

being into the very heart of healing Trust me when I say your peace and your

giving heart provide a strong (and necessary) foundation on which to build

healing for each of us and of all of us together

ldquoINTENTIONALrdquo

So what does it mean to be INTENTIONAL One of the most helpful reviews of

ldquointentionrdquo is provided by Wayne Dyer PhD3 In Dyers The Power of Intention

(2005) he describes how we may ldquowishrdquo for something to occur in our lives but

such wishing is only a beginning

We may also choose to take the next step beyond wishing to ldquodesirerdquo Desire

results in taking action on the wish and is proactively distinct from wishing It is

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with desire that we now straight-forwardly make the ldquoaskrdquo (as in ldquoask and you

shall receiverdquo)

Still again we can step-up the intensity of our activity even more (beyond

wishing and asking) that is we may frame our desire in terms of what we

actually ldquointend to createrdquo Stop here for a moment close your eyes and feel

the power in these words I INTEND TO CREATE Period And again

I INTEND TO CREATE

We are very matter-of-fact about bringing the thing wished for desired

requested into experience No doubt No fear Creating healing now is simply a

given that occurs by way of you actively participating Period

Such intention-to-create by definition requires both commitment and passion

With commitment we are beyond ldquotryingrdquo to make the thing happen and

instead move into what I call devotion-to-creating (from the original French

devovere ldquodedicated by a vowrdquo) With such devotion we experience a much

deeper more profound state of being an awareness beyond ego

Devotion-to-creating allows you to act beyond the ldquooughtsrdquo and ldquoshouldsrdquo of

others beyond your own doubts and fears beyond obligation and guilt and

directly to the heart of being inspired (ldquodrawing in of airrdquo ldquoinspiritrdquo) that is you

are drawn into relation-with the powerful and empowering Source that creates

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It is by being inspired that you meet the paradox at the heart of ldquointendingrdquo As

you proactively intend-to-create you naturally come to experience being

committed devoted and inspired however you actually create only inasmuch as

you allow your Self to follow the flow of your inspiration naturally ndash that is as

you open your Self to receive Therefore as you intend to heal you must

also open to receive healing

As such it is important you recognize healing happens as you ldquoget out of your

own wayrdquo beyond intellect desire doubt and ego How do we do that How do

we get out of our own way beyond ego Very simply you do that by allowing

your Self to trust your healing

Please take a moment here to recall a time when you were injured in some way

(maybe a cut or broken bone) Beyond receiving necessary medical assistance

what did you do to mend to heal Once attended to medically its likely that you

never gave the actual processes of ldquohealingrdquo much thought ndash dying cells cleared

away new cells forming and eventually performing as if they had been there all

along as if nothing ever happened Healing just occurred your part was to trust

the process take good care of yourself and allow it Whether conscious or not

you simply trusted yourself to heal

It is that same trust you must have as you now commit-to-create intentional

healing Your whole Self system ldquoknowsrdquo how and what needs healing and in

what specific sequence of steps healing must occur Self does not need the

agreement of intellect or common sense to proceed naturally with healing Self

has been carrying out that process every nano-second of every day of your life ndash

simultaneously coordinating trillions of biochemical and energetic activities in

every cell of your entire being Heart beats lungs breath intestines digest and

your job is simply to get out of your own way and trust your Self to heal

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As you do alongside this intense Self-trust and commitment-to-create (our vow)

passion takes over and leads the way beyond common sense beyond

doubting intellect beyond beliefs and even beyond perceptions Such intense

passion emanating from your heart is very simply ldquoagaperdquo (selfless Love) In

this state you no longer experience others as separate bounded subject-object

(I-It) rather you share together in a living boundless oneness-of-relating

honoring the encounter by giving your present and your presence to the

sacredness of ldquoI-Thourdquo4

Map of HEALING INTENTION

I WISH

I DESIRE (ASK)

I INTEND-TO-CREATE

INCLUDES I COMMIT-TO-CREATE (I Vow = Devotion-to-creating)

I AM PASSIONATE

(I am Inspired)

PARADOX OF INTENDING (I Allow I Receive I Trust My Self to Heal)

I-THOU (Agape)

Figure copy2009 by MFDayton

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It is this deep experience of heartfelt passion and selfless Love you are aiming to

access directly (and share) when you intend from the heart when you are

performing your shared-intentional-healingtrade praxis

So once again stop for a moment now to imagine Imagine the tremendous

healing power at your disposal when you step into your shared session each day

with the intention-to-create healing It means you are committing to heal

vowing to heal trusting your Self to heal by way of your impassioned

heart You are giving your presence to merge as one-heartbeat in

synchrony and selfless love with all other CYSH members in this moment

now Therein lies the true power of your healing intention

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ldquoHEALINGrdquo (beyond ldquobeing curedrdquo)

Clearly what we intend to create during each praxis is HEALING your healing

healing for other members my healing and our healing together as one Yet do

you really know what you mean when you say ldquoI intend to healrdquo

Whenever we take time to reflect on the notion of ldquohealingrdquo typically one of the

first things that bubbles up into awareness is some hope of being ldquocuredrdquo Given

the difficulties and challenges we can face in just making it through even the

most simple of daily activities ldquocurerdquo can be so very inviting Indeed given the

opportunity who of us wouldnt want to be cured of a chronic illness And cured

NOW

Yet by seeking to ldquobe curedrdquo we can become entrenched in even more intense

challenges and symptom exacerbation How could that be What could

possibly be wrong with hoping for a cure

There is nothing wrong with hoping dreaming goal setting Indeed these

activities can provide momentum power purpose and direction to an otherwise

difficult day Yet the moment we turn our attention to ldquobeing curedrdquo our focus

immediately comes to rest on that which we desire to be ldquocured ofrdquo to ldquoget away

fromrdquo and it is here we become derailed Its like the age-old challenge to ldquonot

think of a blue elephantrdquo We must first conceive such a beast before we cannot

think about it

So too with ldquocurerdquo ndash We must first converge our attention and energies even

more intensely on the illness and the symptoms we wish to cease Clearly this

activity takes us in the opposite direction from the relief and health we are

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seeking In fact it is the same process described by Cheri Huber in one of her

more remarkable books entitled That Which You Are Seeking Is Causing You To

Seek (1990) Take a moment now to think about her title in relation to ldquoThe cure

I am seeking is rdquo In short to focus on cure heightens our experience of

dis-ease

To clarify even further when we focus on such moving-away-from-activities we

have no clear vision of what it is we are moving toward Without such clarity our

odds of failing escalate exponentially Success happens only as we also move

toward clearly-defined desires and goals A simple yet powerful example is this

years 40th anniversary of the Apollo 11 moon landing Was that ldquogiant steprdquo

successful because the leaders at NASA focused energy solely on how to create

escape velocity to ldquoget away fromrdquo earth ndash or also on how to get onto the moon

Another helpful example is wanting ldquoout ofrdquo a job Im sure you know of someone

(perhaps yourself) intent on getting away from the daily grind of hisher job Yet

when she did successfully leave that employment inevitably and much too soon

the same situation landslides into the daily grind of the next job Repeating old

patterns of struggle is a very clear sign of actions based on moving-away-

from goals This is a key principle to apply to all aspects of your daily living

The reason this occurs with the get-me-outta-here script is that whatever change

may happen generally does so from ldquowithoutrdquo At best we change scenery Its

the old grass-is-greener scenario ndash which is really no change at all

The inherent problem here can be even more perilous as we see when we take a

closer look at the wording ldquobeing curedrdquo We tend to redirect our attention from

within (our source of creative power) to some force outside that causes the cure

for us (whether that be by way of a physician a healer natural substances

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medications treatments or God)

On some level we tell ourselves if I could figure out what was happening to get

into this situation (ie chronic illness) I would be able to figure out how to get

out of it but (and heres the rub) since I cant I begin to believe less and less in

my innate healing power and more and more that such power must lie outside of

me ndash with an outside force greater than me (whether medical natural or

spiritual)

Please be clear on this point This is not to underplay the importance of qualified

medical professionals to your progress The same is true of the importance and

value of your spirituality and relation-with God Source Higher Power The point

to take away here is that you can only access the benefits of such healing

relations when YOU are first centered and strong in your own being ndash when you

approach your Self as a sacred Thou

Therefore in the situation where you reflexively turn over your power to heal (to

an outside agent) understand the ensuing damage you risk to your sense of Self

Not only are you diminishing belief in your inherent strength and healing power

you are also at risk of allowing others to determine what is best for your well-

being (perhaps even against your deeper intuitive knowing) all of which only

serves to further undermine Self-esteem and the tremendous power that comes

from believing in your Self

Even our religious upbringing can paradoxically weaken our beliefs regarding the

possibility of cure We learn at a deep level that ldquocurerdquo lies only in the realm of

the miraculous Such an orientation can weaken belief in the possibility of ldquome

being cured nowrdquo In fact when being completely honest many of us feel the

odds of ldquome being cured nowrdquo are as slim or slimmer than winning a million dollar

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lottery And when it does not happen were faced with the more daunting issue

of how I must somehow be ldquoflawedrdquo Clearly such underlying attitudes provide

no foundation on which to construct change much less the dramatic change

required with the desire to ldquobe curedrdquo [Here I recommend another Huber book

There Is Nothing Wrong with You Going Beyond Self-Hate (2001)]

In the end when focused on ldquobeing curedrdquo you may not only become separate

from your innate healing power within but you risk the ultimate medical

mistreatment becoming an object to be worked-on mechanically From here it

can be a rapid slide into the role of ldquovictimrdquo whereby you relinquish your

responsibility for choosing altogether (ie intending-to-create) how it is you truly

desire to be In short you risk losing the creative power of intention required to

give birth to healing

By the mid eighties I had been on daily prednisone for over a decade to control

severe bouts of status asthmaticus and recurrent pneumonia Because the

deleterious side-effects of prednisone included adrenal insufficiency (an impaired

stress response) I knew in my heart-of-hearts one key to my well-being lay in

recovering my atrophied stress axis by discontinuing daily prednisone For years

I pleaded with my pulmonary specialist to assist me in tapering off and relearning

how to live prednisone-free Together we did make a few unsuccessful attempts

only to recycle back into another respiratory infection and still higher doses of

prednisone By this time his posture was that I needed to remain on daily

prednisone ldquofor the rest of my liferdquo My posture was to fire him

Fortunately and in short-order I began working with an internist who over the

next two years laid out a plan to become prednisone-free ndash which we did

together successfully Two significant points must be clearly recognized here

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1 You must believe in your innate healing power and if you do not

currently this then becomes your launch pad for your healing journey ndash

relearning to empower your Self to heal

2 You are not in this alone You require the good works of others in

alignment with you to successfully heal As such you need to be very

selective in picking those others with whom you relate to enhance your

medical well-being

If you are feeling your medical support is sapping your power and authority

they probably are but you dont throw the baby out with the bath This is

not about releasing physicians this is about being in a healing

relationship-with your medical professional(s) of choice

Additional cultural biases arise with a focus on ldquocurerdquo Any true change with

regard to chronic illness implies a change ldquofor the betterrdquo That requires us to

believe with certainty that such change can and will bring improvement After

more than fifteen years working with individuals with chronic illness (including

my Self) it is the rare individual Ive encountered who truly believes (from the

core) ldquoI will be curedrdquo We wish for cure certainly but believing with certainty ldquoI

will be curedrdquo rarely

An origin of not believing in ldquobeing curedrdquo lies in the way we traditionally use the

term One problem in particular is that ldquocurerdquo is not a ldquonowrdquo concept -- that is

something I trust to experience now rather we tend to use ldquocurerdquo in a future-

oriented manner of hoping-for-something-to-happen or (at-best) asking-for

maybe praying for cure to happen Yet it is not in the future that you and I

create anything and this is particularly relevant to healing We only create in

the NOW

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Finally even greater issues arise when we attempt to determine precisely what

we mean by the term ldquocurerdquo As one example are you cured when there is ldquoan

end to the disease processrdquo or could that be ldquoremissionrdquo

Does ldquocurerdquo mean a ldquoreturn to full functioningrdquo (ie as I was before the process

started) Is that even possible Consider the case of a disease process that has

already resulted in disfigurement or amputation What does ldquocurerdquo mean in those

situations

Does ldquocurerdquo mean ldquosymptoms are gonerdquo If so are we then cured when

medications relieve or mask the symptoms altogether Do you understand the

quagmire here

It is for all these reasons above that few people are ever truly ldquocuredrdquo of

anything even if we do allow for those who have experienced ldquomiracle curesrdquo

(which are certainly the exception not the norm) Yet when you and I consider

ldquomy situation nowrdquo we need to have the strength of certainty that improvement

is not only possible but immanent

So if not ldquocurerdquo then what You already know the answer And the answer is

ldquohealingrdquo In the end if ldquocurerdquo is anything it is a future-oriented

disempowering mechanical phenomenon at the physical level In contrast

ldquohealingrdquo is an ongoing process (in this moment) of whole-Self transformation

Consider when we truly and proactively ldquohealrdquo we are creating (now) from the

very depths of our core within We are intending-to-create with all the intensity

and power of commitment passion and agape that arises in creative

transformation It is this innate source of inner power to which we must first

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return ldquoas little childrenrdquo in order to initiate healing

We mask nothing when healing now rather we take an active and response-able

role in bringing peace joy and love directly into our daily lives and the lives of

those we touch NOW this moment and in as many moments as we allow

It is from this strong shared intentional healing foundation that we live with the

most power any human being can possibly experience in alignment with in I-

Thou relation-with in the selfless Love that is the very Source of all creation

This process of transformational healing envelops and extends beyond cure at any

level and unlike ldquocurerdquo it is not some static condition at which we arrive (by

the grace of some outside benevolent authority) Rather such transformational

healing is an ongoing process of BEING-a-certain-way in strength in power

in wisdom in loving relation-with (not only Self but Source God Higher Power)

Let this loving empowered healing be the deep transformation you intend ndash your

moment-to-moment empowered healing transformation from core within

ldquoPRAXISrdquo

We finally come to the term PRAXIS Clients often ask why I use ldquopraxisrdquo rather

than something more familiar like ldquopracticerdquo or ldquoexerciserdquo My answer is very

simple and straight-forward

First we can quickly dispense with the term ldquoexerciserdquo Do you really want to

ldquoexerciserdquo intentional healing each day ndash or would you rather just skip having to

exercise any more than you already know you need to do Enough said

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Now imagine I invite you to ldquoplease make sure and practice your intentional

healing each dayrdquo How do you feel then For me it brings up that I must not

be very good at it especially if I need to be practicing every day

Consider now how you feel when I invite you to ldquoskillfully applyrdquo the intentional

healing process in comfort Doesnt ldquoskillful applicationrdquo feel much more

empowering than ldquopracticingrdquo Since ldquopraxisrdquo means ldquoskillful applicationrdquo isnt it

much more inviting to approach your intentional healing sessions with skill

And you will as you become more comfortable applying the process each day

Other folks also ask if shared-intentional-healingtrade wouldnt be better considered

an ldquoexperimentrdquo much like Lynn McTaggarts The Intention Experiment (2007) I

can see how the notion of an ldquoexperimentrdquo carries with it some sense of intrigue

but ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately represent the experience that is shared-

intentional-healingtrade

First (as we learned in our discussion of ldquointentionalrdquo above) when we participate

in Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade we are as a matter-of-fact intending-to-create

healing Such activity cannot be an ldquoexperimentrdquo or we lose the certainty

required for healing change Rather we set out to generate an experience-of-

relating that is powered by being committed empassioned and selflessly loving

You can likely identify such a committed passionate selflessly loving experience

from some time in your life ndash whether in love among family through an

impassioned hobby in seeking some goal or perhaps spiritually As you already

know such an experience is not something we wish-for or hope-for or need to

wait and see what happens It is simply a loving relating-with experience we

already know how to have We just be it and do it

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Moreover (as I suggested above) there is palpable transformation that occurs

within each of us as we gain comfort participating in shared-intentional-healingtrade

This transformational experience happens through your participation and it will

happen for you ndash no need to experiment just simply participate

Moreover at the heart of it the notion of ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately reflect

the research to date on ldquointentionrdquo and ldquohealingrdquo As an example a 1997 review

of research on ldquoIntercessory Prayer for the Alleviation of Ill Healthrdquo by Roberts

Ahmed Hall amp Davison reports individual studies suggest a positive effect of

intercessory prayer But since they viewed other reports in which the results

were equivocal they conclude no ldquo further trials of this intervention should be

takenrdquo5

Regrettably they miss the point The fact that studies DO exist reporting a

positive correlation between intercessory prayer and the alleviation of ill health is

precisely the reason more studies should be undertaken Edison found hundreds

of approaches that were equivocal before discovering a singular lighting solution

Thank goodness he did not conclude any further trials were unnecessary before

arriving at that solution

When it comes to this uniquely intimate subject of healing Eric Leskowitz MD

(in a review of the book Healing Intention amp Energy Medicine (2002) by Wayne

Jonas MD) explains how such conflicting conclusions like Roberts etal come

about Dr Leskowitz notes when he is in discussions with his allopathic medical

colleagues regarding ldquo inexplicable phenomena like energy healing or

intercessory prayer a sort of allopathic fear reflex kicks inrdquo6 Conclusions

become tunnel-visioned and skewed against even the possibility of such

correlation existing anywhere at any time Hence no further trials

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You may however verify for yourself such positively-correlated research does

indeed already exist by reviewing the studies in Jonas book (above) In

addition Marilyn Schlitz PhD provides a brief outline of just some of those

ldquopositive correlationrdquo studies that highlight the ldquointerface of science spirituality

and medicinerdquo7

If you would like an even more in-depth review I refer you to Consciousness amp

Healing Integral Approaches to Mind-Body Medicine (2005) by Schlitz Amorok

and Micozzi as well as the more recent (2008) Holistic Nursing A Handbook for Practice

5th edition by Dossey amp Keegan

In sum although experimental research has certainly not provided the final

answers on the relation between intention and healing the research to date is

most certainly beyond the ldquoequivocalrdquo suggested by those reflexively reacting

from allopathic fear Those studies completed to date which do display a positive

correlation between intention and healing are already providing a strong practical

foundation of powerful techniques and approaches that go far beyond

ldquoexperimentingrdquo and straight to the heart of skillful-application in daily living

Shared-Intentional-Healingrdquotrade is just one such approach you may access today

and everyday simply by participating in your daily praxis

With the above foundation in mind we can now move on to

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PRAXIS GUIDELINES

Having considered in some depth the foundation on which this method rests we

may now turn to the guidelines describing ldquohow tordquo participate in your daily

Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis

Before you approach your first intentional session please read through the

description and suggestions below Remember these opportunities are for YOU

to BENEFIT YOU Again there is no right way nor wrong way for you to

participate You simply participate in your own best way Therefore as noted

previously the description below is solely meant as a guided outline to assist you

in jump-starting your participation ndash sharing with you some ideas that have

already worked well for others in our Community

For this to be beneficial for everyone please do your best to allot at least 5 to

15 minutes for each intentional session If you are already seasoned at

sitting in quiet you certainly may choose to go longer (eg 30) and you can

trust there are other CYSH members continuing in synchrony with you

To start out let your sessions be for shorter periods of time You will experience

a natural increase in length of participation without having to think about it or

plan for it This is not a race nor a test of endurance This is a nourishing of

Self and a cultivation of your best healing intentions Be gentle

In the beginning it can also be helpful if you imagine sending out your healing

intentions in a particular direction around the globe and returning to you from

the opposite direction This way as you imagine can assist you in creating a

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ldquoflowrdquo with regard to directing intentional healing to all others around the globe

As you become more adept you will very naturally be able to generate healing

images radiating from your whole being equally in all directions You will

become aware there is no particular ldquoupdownrdquo in space-time There is just

ldquoeverywhere hererdquo that is always at the center of the universe ndash as you are at all

times and as is each member

Finally please know you may also invite your friends and loved ones to share

with you in these sessions If they cannot participate with you ask them (at

minimum) to set their healing intention for you and send it like a gift to you each

day This can be helpful to them as well knowing they are actively supporting

you with their selfless loving healing

So let us begin with a session description I have broken it down into 8 separate

action steps below

1 First make time to just sit and be comfortable (nothing ldquoto dordquo now)

Loosen any tight clothing

2 Begin breathing slowly until you relax into a comfortable natural pace

This is a time for gentleness Simply allow experience to happen and

follow experience moment-to-moment as you proceed

3 Slowly scan your entire being from head to toes inside and out If you

notice any part of you in tension just allow it to relax naturally and

dissolve with each out-breath

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Note It may take you 2 or more breathing cycles to notice the muscles in a

particular area begin to relax There are times as well when you may just

need to continue on with your scan trusting that the area will release as you

proceed Again this is time for gentle following

4 Once relaxed (as much as may be possible for now) INVITE your Self to

allow and receive healing intention and healing love

Note This may not feel natural or normal within and like a child the

knee-jerk reaction may indeed be to rebel You are merely sending an

invitation nothing more As you repeat this intentional healing invitation

each day you will soon begin to notice that you are indeed looking forward

to this opportunity

5 You are now comfortable relaxed and intentional within It is time now

to image all the other CYSH Members with whom you are sharing this

time Know they too are seeking to generate healing for your challenges

just as you are for theirs Depending on your beliefs it is here that you

may also invite connect with your source of spiritual power (God

Source Higher Power Buddha) to participate with you

6 Spend the next minutes imagining a Circle of Intentional Healing

Energy flowing into you from all the others and out from you to all

others Allow it to be easy natural like the earthrsquos flow of water

circulating from sky to earth and back to sky simply relax into this flow

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Note It may help to imagine your healing intentions emanating from about

2 finger-widths behind and about 3 finger-widths below your navel This

site (known as the ldquolower dan tienrdquo or ldquoharardquo) is considered the physical

center of gravity around which you are in perfect balance

From this point you can imagine healing intention flowing up your trunk

through your neck and head and out the top of your head to the other

CYSH members

The healing intention returning to you can be experienced as coming into

you at the same center of gravity point from which you started

Important Do not attempt to localize your intentions to any one region

within (brain heart liver etc) the reason being that a given illness process

occurs across and between physiological systems (even though we may talk

as if it is isolated to one system) It is best to imagine your entire Self

within a cocoon or bubble of flowing healing intention ndash everywhere within

you at once You may experience color warmth safety Luxuriate in your

experience Enjoy the moment

During this intentional time it can also be helpful on a given inout cycle of

breath to silently express I send out Loving Healing On the next

inout cycle silently express I receive Loving Healing and so on

In addition if your mind wanders off task (amp it will) just gently return to

the flow of loving healing intention Remember this experience is all about

being gentle Enjoy the process

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Continue in this state for as long as you desire and is easy comfortable

and natural With practice your will naturally be at ease for longer

periods of time during each session

7 When complete express gratitude to your Self as well as to all others

sharing in this moment with you Sit in this experience of gratitude for a

few moments

8 Savor the nourishing peace you have generated

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8-STEP PRAXIS REVIEW

1 SIT in comfort

2 BREATHE slowly rhythmically

3 SCAN (head to toes) to relax further still

4 INVITE SELF to allow healing intention

5 RELATE-WITH all other CYSH members amp Spiritual Power

6 SENDRECEIVE intentional healing

ldquoI send out Loving Healingrdquo ldquoI receive Loving Healingrdquo

7 Sit in GRATITUDE

8 SAVOR the nourishing peace

I genuinely look forward to your daily participation and to sharing this powerful

healing process with you I would love to hear your experiences with your praxis

Please do feel free to email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom)

My mission is to Coach You Well

Sincerely amp Caringly

MALCOLM

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REFERENCES

1 Chopra Deepak (1994) The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success ndash A Practical Guide to

the Fulfillment of Your Dreams p76

2 Chopra Deepak (1999) A Deepak Chopra Companion Illuminations on Health and

Human Consciousness p94

3 Dyer httpwwwyoutubecomwatchv=DC-FPorUW7gampfeature=related

4 Buber Martin (1971) I And Thou

5 Intercessory prayer httpwwwcochraneorgreviewsenab000368html

6 Leskowitz httpwholistichealingresearchcom42books12

7 Schlitz httpxnetkporgpermanentejournalsum05evidencepdf

copy2009byMFDayton

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ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Malcolm Dayton LPC Cht is a Licensed Counselor with more than two decades coaching individuals and families facing chronic illness He is also certified in MindBody Medicine and Hypnotherapy

Malcolms Coaching Self Healing program is unique in that he calls on his own lifelong journey with chronic illness (multiple sclerosis asthma immune deficiency) to assist you in accessing your unique healing solutions Very simply Malcolm walks his coaching

His coaching program is truly integral-- that is healing solutions are practical in focus and applied comprehensively incorporating all dimensions of your experience from symptoms to wellness from relations within self to social relations from the physical to spiritual--a truly ecological approach to Self Healing You learn to be FULLIVINGtrade ndash to thrive beyond chronic illness

Malcolms mission is to Coach You WELL

CONTACTMalcolm Dayton LPC CHt

email mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom

phone 970-689-4247

Yes Malcolm Im ready to discover

the benefits of Self Healing Coaching NOW

Sign me up now for myCOMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION

Be Well And THRIVE Beyond Chronic Illness Now

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Page 12: Thriving Beyond Chronic Illness:  Shared-Intentional-Healing Praxis

with desire that we now straight-forwardly make the ldquoaskrdquo (as in ldquoask and you

shall receiverdquo)

Still again we can step-up the intensity of our activity even more (beyond

wishing and asking) that is we may frame our desire in terms of what we

actually ldquointend to createrdquo Stop here for a moment close your eyes and feel

the power in these words I INTEND TO CREATE Period And again

I INTEND TO CREATE

We are very matter-of-fact about bringing the thing wished for desired

requested into experience No doubt No fear Creating healing now is simply a

given that occurs by way of you actively participating Period

Such intention-to-create by definition requires both commitment and passion

With commitment we are beyond ldquotryingrdquo to make the thing happen and

instead move into what I call devotion-to-creating (from the original French

devovere ldquodedicated by a vowrdquo) With such devotion we experience a much

deeper more profound state of being an awareness beyond ego

Devotion-to-creating allows you to act beyond the ldquooughtsrdquo and ldquoshouldsrdquo of

others beyond your own doubts and fears beyond obligation and guilt and

directly to the heart of being inspired (ldquodrawing in of airrdquo ldquoinspiritrdquo) that is you

are drawn into relation-with the powerful and empowering Source that creates

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It is by being inspired that you meet the paradox at the heart of ldquointendingrdquo As

you proactively intend-to-create you naturally come to experience being

committed devoted and inspired however you actually create only inasmuch as

you allow your Self to follow the flow of your inspiration naturally ndash that is as

you open your Self to receive Therefore as you intend to heal you must

also open to receive healing

As such it is important you recognize healing happens as you ldquoget out of your

own wayrdquo beyond intellect desire doubt and ego How do we do that How do

we get out of our own way beyond ego Very simply you do that by allowing

your Self to trust your healing

Please take a moment here to recall a time when you were injured in some way

(maybe a cut or broken bone) Beyond receiving necessary medical assistance

what did you do to mend to heal Once attended to medically its likely that you

never gave the actual processes of ldquohealingrdquo much thought ndash dying cells cleared

away new cells forming and eventually performing as if they had been there all

along as if nothing ever happened Healing just occurred your part was to trust

the process take good care of yourself and allow it Whether conscious or not

you simply trusted yourself to heal

It is that same trust you must have as you now commit-to-create intentional

healing Your whole Self system ldquoknowsrdquo how and what needs healing and in

what specific sequence of steps healing must occur Self does not need the

agreement of intellect or common sense to proceed naturally with healing Self

has been carrying out that process every nano-second of every day of your life ndash

simultaneously coordinating trillions of biochemical and energetic activities in

every cell of your entire being Heart beats lungs breath intestines digest and

your job is simply to get out of your own way and trust your Self to heal

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As you do alongside this intense Self-trust and commitment-to-create (our vow)

passion takes over and leads the way beyond common sense beyond

doubting intellect beyond beliefs and even beyond perceptions Such intense

passion emanating from your heart is very simply ldquoagaperdquo (selfless Love) In

this state you no longer experience others as separate bounded subject-object

(I-It) rather you share together in a living boundless oneness-of-relating

honoring the encounter by giving your present and your presence to the

sacredness of ldquoI-Thourdquo4

Map of HEALING INTENTION

I WISH

I DESIRE (ASK)

I INTEND-TO-CREATE

INCLUDES I COMMIT-TO-CREATE (I Vow = Devotion-to-creating)

I AM PASSIONATE

(I am Inspired)

PARADOX OF INTENDING (I Allow I Receive I Trust My Self to Heal)

I-THOU (Agape)

Figure copy2009 by MFDayton

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It is this deep experience of heartfelt passion and selfless Love you are aiming to

access directly (and share) when you intend from the heart when you are

performing your shared-intentional-healingtrade praxis

So once again stop for a moment now to imagine Imagine the tremendous

healing power at your disposal when you step into your shared session each day

with the intention-to-create healing It means you are committing to heal

vowing to heal trusting your Self to heal by way of your impassioned

heart You are giving your presence to merge as one-heartbeat in

synchrony and selfless love with all other CYSH members in this moment

now Therein lies the true power of your healing intention

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ldquoHEALINGrdquo (beyond ldquobeing curedrdquo)

Clearly what we intend to create during each praxis is HEALING your healing

healing for other members my healing and our healing together as one Yet do

you really know what you mean when you say ldquoI intend to healrdquo

Whenever we take time to reflect on the notion of ldquohealingrdquo typically one of the

first things that bubbles up into awareness is some hope of being ldquocuredrdquo Given

the difficulties and challenges we can face in just making it through even the

most simple of daily activities ldquocurerdquo can be so very inviting Indeed given the

opportunity who of us wouldnt want to be cured of a chronic illness And cured

NOW

Yet by seeking to ldquobe curedrdquo we can become entrenched in even more intense

challenges and symptom exacerbation How could that be What could

possibly be wrong with hoping for a cure

There is nothing wrong with hoping dreaming goal setting Indeed these

activities can provide momentum power purpose and direction to an otherwise

difficult day Yet the moment we turn our attention to ldquobeing curedrdquo our focus

immediately comes to rest on that which we desire to be ldquocured ofrdquo to ldquoget away

fromrdquo and it is here we become derailed Its like the age-old challenge to ldquonot

think of a blue elephantrdquo We must first conceive such a beast before we cannot

think about it

So too with ldquocurerdquo ndash We must first converge our attention and energies even

more intensely on the illness and the symptoms we wish to cease Clearly this

activity takes us in the opposite direction from the relief and health we are

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seeking In fact it is the same process described by Cheri Huber in one of her

more remarkable books entitled That Which You Are Seeking Is Causing You To

Seek (1990) Take a moment now to think about her title in relation to ldquoThe cure

I am seeking is rdquo In short to focus on cure heightens our experience of

dis-ease

To clarify even further when we focus on such moving-away-from-activities we

have no clear vision of what it is we are moving toward Without such clarity our

odds of failing escalate exponentially Success happens only as we also move

toward clearly-defined desires and goals A simple yet powerful example is this

years 40th anniversary of the Apollo 11 moon landing Was that ldquogiant steprdquo

successful because the leaders at NASA focused energy solely on how to create

escape velocity to ldquoget away fromrdquo earth ndash or also on how to get onto the moon

Another helpful example is wanting ldquoout ofrdquo a job Im sure you know of someone

(perhaps yourself) intent on getting away from the daily grind of hisher job Yet

when she did successfully leave that employment inevitably and much too soon

the same situation landslides into the daily grind of the next job Repeating old

patterns of struggle is a very clear sign of actions based on moving-away-

from goals This is a key principle to apply to all aspects of your daily living

The reason this occurs with the get-me-outta-here script is that whatever change

may happen generally does so from ldquowithoutrdquo At best we change scenery Its

the old grass-is-greener scenario ndash which is really no change at all

The inherent problem here can be even more perilous as we see when we take a

closer look at the wording ldquobeing curedrdquo We tend to redirect our attention from

within (our source of creative power) to some force outside that causes the cure

for us (whether that be by way of a physician a healer natural substances

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 17 of 33

medications treatments or God)

On some level we tell ourselves if I could figure out what was happening to get

into this situation (ie chronic illness) I would be able to figure out how to get

out of it but (and heres the rub) since I cant I begin to believe less and less in

my innate healing power and more and more that such power must lie outside of

me ndash with an outside force greater than me (whether medical natural or

spiritual)

Please be clear on this point This is not to underplay the importance of qualified

medical professionals to your progress The same is true of the importance and

value of your spirituality and relation-with God Source Higher Power The point

to take away here is that you can only access the benefits of such healing

relations when YOU are first centered and strong in your own being ndash when you

approach your Self as a sacred Thou

Therefore in the situation where you reflexively turn over your power to heal (to

an outside agent) understand the ensuing damage you risk to your sense of Self

Not only are you diminishing belief in your inherent strength and healing power

you are also at risk of allowing others to determine what is best for your well-

being (perhaps even against your deeper intuitive knowing) all of which only

serves to further undermine Self-esteem and the tremendous power that comes

from believing in your Self

Even our religious upbringing can paradoxically weaken our beliefs regarding the

possibility of cure We learn at a deep level that ldquocurerdquo lies only in the realm of

the miraculous Such an orientation can weaken belief in the possibility of ldquome

being cured nowrdquo In fact when being completely honest many of us feel the

odds of ldquome being cured nowrdquo are as slim or slimmer than winning a million dollar

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 18 of 33

lottery And when it does not happen were faced with the more daunting issue

of how I must somehow be ldquoflawedrdquo Clearly such underlying attitudes provide

no foundation on which to construct change much less the dramatic change

required with the desire to ldquobe curedrdquo [Here I recommend another Huber book

There Is Nothing Wrong with You Going Beyond Self-Hate (2001)]

In the end when focused on ldquobeing curedrdquo you may not only become separate

from your innate healing power within but you risk the ultimate medical

mistreatment becoming an object to be worked-on mechanically From here it

can be a rapid slide into the role of ldquovictimrdquo whereby you relinquish your

responsibility for choosing altogether (ie intending-to-create) how it is you truly

desire to be In short you risk losing the creative power of intention required to

give birth to healing

By the mid eighties I had been on daily prednisone for over a decade to control

severe bouts of status asthmaticus and recurrent pneumonia Because the

deleterious side-effects of prednisone included adrenal insufficiency (an impaired

stress response) I knew in my heart-of-hearts one key to my well-being lay in

recovering my atrophied stress axis by discontinuing daily prednisone For years

I pleaded with my pulmonary specialist to assist me in tapering off and relearning

how to live prednisone-free Together we did make a few unsuccessful attempts

only to recycle back into another respiratory infection and still higher doses of

prednisone By this time his posture was that I needed to remain on daily

prednisone ldquofor the rest of my liferdquo My posture was to fire him

Fortunately and in short-order I began working with an internist who over the

next two years laid out a plan to become prednisone-free ndash which we did

together successfully Two significant points must be clearly recognized here

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1 You must believe in your innate healing power and if you do not

currently this then becomes your launch pad for your healing journey ndash

relearning to empower your Self to heal

2 You are not in this alone You require the good works of others in

alignment with you to successfully heal As such you need to be very

selective in picking those others with whom you relate to enhance your

medical well-being

If you are feeling your medical support is sapping your power and authority

they probably are but you dont throw the baby out with the bath This is

not about releasing physicians this is about being in a healing

relationship-with your medical professional(s) of choice

Additional cultural biases arise with a focus on ldquocurerdquo Any true change with

regard to chronic illness implies a change ldquofor the betterrdquo That requires us to

believe with certainty that such change can and will bring improvement After

more than fifteen years working with individuals with chronic illness (including

my Self) it is the rare individual Ive encountered who truly believes (from the

core) ldquoI will be curedrdquo We wish for cure certainly but believing with certainty ldquoI

will be curedrdquo rarely

An origin of not believing in ldquobeing curedrdquo lies in the way we traditionally use the

term One problem in particular is that ldquocurerdquo is not a ldquonowrdquo concept -- that is

something I trust to experience now rather we tend to use ldquocurerdquo in a future-

oriented manner of hoping-for-something-to-happen or (at-best) asking-for

maybe praying for cure to happen Yet it is not in the future that you and I

create anything and this is particularly relevant to healing We only create in

the NOW

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Finally even greater issues arise when we attempt to determine precisely what

we mean by the term ldquocurerdquo As one example are you cured when there is ldquoan

end to the disease processrdquo or could that be ldquoremissionrdquo

Does ldquocurerdquo mean a ldquoreturn to full functioningrdquo (ie as I was before the process

started) Is that even possible Consider the case of a disease process that has

already resulted in disfigurement or amputation What does ldquocurerdquo mean in those

situations

Does ldquocurerdquo mean ldquosymptoms are gonerdquo If so are we then cured when

medications relieve or mask the symptoms altogether Do you understand the

quagmire here

It is for all these reasons above that few people are ever truly ldquocuredrdquo of

anything even if we do allow for those who have experienced ldquomiracle curesrdquo

(which are certainly the exception not the norm) Yet when you and I consider

ldquomy situation nowrdquo we need to have the strength of certainty that improvement

is not only possible but immanent

So if not ldquocurerdquo then what You already know the answer And the answer is

ldquohealingrdquo In the end if ldquocurerdquo is anything it is a future-oriented

disempowering mechanical phenomenon at the physical level In contrast

ldquohealingrdquo is an ongoing process (in this moment) of whole-Self transformation

Consider when we truly and proactively ldquohealrdquo we are creating (now) from the

very depths of our core within We are intending-to-create with all the intensity

and power of commitment passion and agape that arises in creative

transformation It is this innate source of inner power to which we must first

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return ldquoas little childrenrdquo in order to initiate healing

We mask nothing when healing now rather we take an active and response-able

role in bringing peace joy and love directly into our daily lives and the lives of

those we touch NOW this moment and in as many moments as we allow

It is from this strong shared intentional healing foundation that we live with the

most power any human being can possibly experience in alignment with in I-

Thou relation-with in the selfless Love that is the very Source of all creation

This process of transformational healing envelops and extends beyond cure at any

level and unlike ldquocurerdquo it is not some static condition at which we arrive (by

the grace of some outside benevolent authority) Rather such transformational

healing is an ongoing process of BEING-a-certain-way in strength in power

in wisdom in loving relation-with (not only Self but Source God Higher Power)

Let this loving empowered healing be the deep transformation you intend ndash your

moment-to-moment empowered healing transformation from core within

ldquoPRAXISrdquo

We finally come to the term PRAXIS Clients often ask why I use ldquopraxisrdquo rather

than something more familiar like ldquopracticerdquo or ldquoexerciserdquo My answer is very

simple and straight-forward

First we can quickly dispense with the term ldquoexerciserdquo Do you really want to

ldquoexerciserdquo intentional healing each day ndash or would you rather just skip having to

exercise any more than you already know you need to do Enough said

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Now imagine I invite you to ldquoplease make sure and practice your intentional

healing each dayrdquo How do you feel then For me it brings up that I must not

be very good at it especially if I need to be practicing every day

Consider now how you feel when I invite you to ldquoskillfully applyrdquo the intentional

healing process in comfort Doesnt ldquoskillful applicationrdquo feel much more

empowering than ldquopracticingrdquo Since ldquopraxisrdquo means ldquoskillful applicationrdquo isnt it

much more inviting to approach your intentional healing sessions with skill

And you will as you become more comfortable applying the process each day

Other folks also ask if shared-intentional-healingtrade wouldnt be better considered

an ldquoexperimentrdquo much like Lynn McTaggarts The Intention Experiment (2007) I

can see how the notion of an ldquoexperimentrdquo carries with it some sense of intrigue

but ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately represent the experience that is shared-

intentional-healingtrade

First (as we learned in our discussion of ldquointentionalrdquo above) when we participate

in Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade we are as a matter-of-fact intending-to-create

healing Such activity cannot be an ldquoexperimentrdquo or we lose the certainty

required for healing change Rather we set out to generate an experience-of-

relating that is powered by being committed empassioned and selflessly loving

You can likely identify such a committed passionate selflessly loving experience

from some time in your life ndash whether in love among family through an

impassioned hobby in seeking some goal or perhaps spiritually As you already

know such an experience is not something we wish-for or hope-for or need to

wait and see what happens It is simply a loving relating-with experience we

already know how to have We just be it and do it

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Moreover (as I suggested above) there is palpable transformation that occurs

within each of us as we gain comfort participating in shared-intentional-healingtrade

This transformational experience happens through your participation and it will

happen for you ndash no need to experiment just simply participate

Moreover at the heart of it the notion of ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately reflect

the research to date on ldquointentionrdquo and ldquohealingrdquo As an example a 1997 review

of research on ldquoIntercessory Prayer for the Alleviation of Ill Healthrdquo by Roberts

Ahmed Hall amp Davison reports individual studies suggest a positive effect of

intercessory prayer But since they viewed other reports in which the results

were equivocal they conclude no ldquo further trials of this intervention should be

takenrdquo5

Regrettably they miss the point The fact that studies DO exist reporting a

positive correlation between intercessory prayer and the alleviation of ill health is

precisely the reason more studies should be undertaken Edison found hundreds

of approaches that were equivocal before discovering a singular lighting solution

Thank goodness he did not conclude any further trials were unnecessary before

arriving at that solution

When it comes to this uniquely intimate subject of healing Eric Leskowitz MD

(in a review of the book Healing Intention amp Energy Medicine (2002) by Wayne

Jonas MD) explains how such conflicting conclusions like Roberts etal come

about Dr Leskowitz notes when he is in discussions with his allopathic medical

colleagues regarding ldquo inexplicable phenomena like energy healing or

intercessory prayer a sort of allopathic fear reflex kicks inrdquo6 Conclusions

become tunnel-visioned and skewed against even the possibility of such

correlation existing anywhere at any time Hence no further trials

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You may however verify for yourself such positively-correlated research does

indeed already exist by reviewing the studies in Jonas book (above) In

addition Marilyn Schlitz PhD provides a brief outline of just some of those

ldquopositive correlationrdquo studies that highlight the ldquointerface of science spirituality

and medicinerdquo7

If you would like an even more in-depth review I refer you to Consciousness amp

Healing Integral Approaches to Mind-Body Medicine (2005) by Schlitz Amorok

and Micozzi as well as the more recent (2008) Holistic Nursing A Handbook for Practice

5th edition by Dossey amp Keegan

In sum although experimental research has certainly not provided the final

answers on the relation between intention and healing the research to date is

most certainly beyond the ldquoequivocalrdquo suggested by those reflexively reacting

from allopathic fear Those studies completed to date which do display a positive

correlation between intention and healing are already providing a strong practical

foundation of powerful techniques and approaches that go far beyond

ldquoexperimentingrdquo and straight to the heart of skillful-application in daily living

Shared-Intentional-Healingrdquotrade is just one such approach you may access today

and everyday simply by participating in your daily praxis

With the above foundation in mind we can now move on to

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PRAXIS GUIDELINES

Having considered in some depth the foundation on which this method rests we

may now turn to the guidelines describing ldquohow tordquo participate in your daily

Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis

Before you approach your first intentional session please read through the

description and suggestions below Remember these opportunities are for YOU

to BENEFIT YOU Again there is no right way nor wrong way for you to

participate You simply participate in your own best way Therefore as noted

previously the description below is solely meant as a guided outline to assist you

in jump-starting your participation ndash sharing with you some ideas that have

already worked well for others in our Community

For this to be beneficial for everyone please do your best to allot at least 5 to

15 minutes for each intentional session If you are already seasoned at

sitting in quiet you certainly may choose to go longer (eg 30) and you can

trust there are other CYSH members continuing in synchrony with you

To start out let your sessions be for shorter periods of time You will experience

a natural increase in length of participation without having to think about it or

plan for it This is not a race nor a test of endurance This is a nourishing of

Self and a cultivation of your best healing intentions Be gentle

In the beginning it can also be helpful if you imagine sending out your healing

intentions in a particular direction around the globe and returning to you from

the opposite direction This way as you imagine can assist you in creating a

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ldquoflowrdquo with regard to directing intentional healing to all others around the globe

As you become more adept you will very naturally be able to generate healing

images radiating from your whole being equally in all directions You will

become aware there is no particular ldquoupdownrdquo in space-time There is just

ldquoeverywhere hererdquo that is always at the center of the universe ndash as you are at all

times and as is each member

Finally please know you may also invite your friends and loved ones to share

with you in these sessions If they cannot participate with you ask them (at

minimum) to set their healing intention for you and send it like a gift to you each

day This can be helpful to them as well knowing they are actively supporting

you with their selfless loving healing

So let us begin with a session description I have broken it down into 8 separate

action steps below

1 First make time to just sit and be comfortable (nothing ldquoto dordquo now)

Loosen any tight clothing

2 Begin breathing slowly until you relax into a comfortable natural pace

This is a time for gentleness Simply allow experience to happen and

follow experience moment-to-moment as you proceed

3 Slowly scan your entire being from head to toes inside and out If you

notice any part of you in tension just allow it to relax naturally and

dissolve with each out-breath

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Note It may take you 2 or more breathing cycles to notice the muscles in a

particular area begin to relax There are times as well when you may just

need to continue on with your scan trusting that the area will release as you

proceed Again this is time for gentle following

4 Once relaxed (as much as may be possible for now) INVITE your Self to

allow and receive healing intention and healing love

Note This may not feel natural or normal within and like a child the

knee-jerk reaction may indeed be to rebel You are merely sending an

invitation nothing more As you repeat this intentional healing invitation

each day you will soon begin to notice that you are indeed looking forward

to this opportunity

5 You are now comfortable relaxed and intentional within It is time now

to image all the other CYSH Members with whom you are sharing this

time Know they too are seeking to generate healing for your challenges

just as you are for theirs Depending on your beliefs it is here that you

may also invite connect with your source of spiritual power (God

Source Higher Power Buddha) to participate with you

6 Spend the next minutes imagining a Circle of Intentional Healing

Energy flowing into you from all the others and out from you to all

others Allow it to be easy natural like the earthrsquos flow of water

circulating from sky to earth and back to sky simply relax into this flow

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Note It may help to imagine your healing intentions emanating from about

2 finger-widths behind and about 3 finger-widths below your navel This

site (known as the ldquolower dan tienrdquo or ldquoharardquo) is considered the physical

center of gravity around which you are in perfect balance

From this point you can imagine healing intention flowing up your trunk

through your neck and head and out the top of your head to the other

CYSH members

The healing intention returning to you can be experienced as coming into

you at the same center of gravity point from which you started

Important Do not attempt to localize your intentions to any one region

within (brain heart liver etc) the reason being that a given illness process

occurs across and between physiological systems (even though we may talk

as if it is isolated to one system) It is best to imagine your entire Self

within a cocoon or bubble of flowing healing intention ndash everywhere within

you at once You may experience color warmth safety Luxuriate in your

experience Enjoy the moment

During this intentional time it can also be helpful on a given inout cycle of

breath to silently express I send out Loving Healing On the next

inout cycle silently express I receive Loving Healing and so on

In addition if your mind wanders off task (amp it will) just gently return to

the flow of loving healing intention Remember this experience is all about

being gentle Enjoy the process

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Continue in this state for as long as you desire and is easy comfortable

and natural With practice your will naturally be at ease for longer

periods of time during each session

7 When complete express gratitude to your Self as well as to all others

sharing in this moment with you Sit in this experience of gratitude for a

few moments

8 Savor the nourishing peace you have generated

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8-STEP PRAXIS REVIEW

1 SIT in comfort

2 BREATHE slowly rhythmically

3 SCAN (head to toes) to relax further still

4 INVITE SELF to allow healing intention

5 RELATE-WITH all other CYSH members amp Spiritual Power

6 SENDRECEIVE intentional healing

ldquoI send out Loving Healingrdquo ldquoI receive Loving Healingrdquo

7 Sit in GRATITUDE

8 SAVOR the nourishing peace

I genuinely look forward to your daily participation and to sharing this powerful

healing process with you I would love to hear your experiences with your praxis

Please do feel free to email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom)

My mission is to Coach You Well

Sincerely amp Caringly

MALCOLM

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REFERENCES

1 Chopra Deepak (1994) The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success ndash A Practical Guide to

the Fulfillment of Your Dreams p76

2 Chopra Deepak (1999) A Deepak Chopra Companion Illuminations on Health and

Human Consciousness p94

3 Dyer httpwwwyoutubecomwatchv=DC-FPorUW7gampfeature=related

4 Buber Martin (1971) I And Thou

5 Intercessory prayer httpwwwcochraneorgreviewsenab000368html

6 Leskowitz httpwholistichealingresearchcom42books12

7 Schlitz httpxnetkporgpermanentejournalsum05evidencepdf

copy2009byMFDayton

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ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Malcolm Dayton LPC Cht is a Licensed Counselor with more than two decades coaching individuals and families facing chronic illness He is also certified in MindBody Medicine and Hypnotherapy

Malcolms Coaching Self Healing program is unique in that he calls on his own lifelong journey with chronic illness (multiple sclerosis asthma immune deficiency) to assist you in accessing your unique healing solutions Very simply Malcolm walks his coaching

His coaching program is truly integral-- that is healing solutions are practical in focus and applied comprehensively incorporating all dimensions of your experience from symptoms to wellness from relations within self to social relations from the physical to spiritual--a truly ecological approach to Self Healing You learn to be FULLIVINGtrade ndash to thrive beyond chronic illness

Malcolms mission is to Coach You WELL

CONTACTMalcolm Dayton LPC CHt

email mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom

phone 970-689-4247

Yes Malcolm Im ready to discover

the benefits of Self Healing Coaching NOW

Sign me up now for myCOMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION

Be Well And THRIVE Beyond Chronic Illness Now

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Page 13: Thriving Beyond Chronic Illness:  Shared-Intentional-Healing Praxis

It is by being inspired that you meet the paradox at the heart of ldquointendingrdquo As

you proactively intend-to-create you naturally come to experience being

committed devoted and inspired however you actually create only inasmuch as

you allow your Self to follow the flow of your inspiration naturally ndash that is as

you open your Self to receive Therefore as you intend to heal you must

also open to receive healing

As such it is important you recognize healing happens as you ldquoget out of your

own wayrdquo beyond intellect desire doubt and ego How do we do that How do

we get out of our own way beyond ego Very simply you do that by allowing

your Self to trust your healing

Please take a moment here to recall a time when you were injured in some way

(maybe a cut or broken bone) Beyond receiving necessary medical assistance

what did you do to mend to heal Once attended to medically its likely that you

never gave the actual processes of ldquohealingrdquo much thought ndash dying cells cleared

away new cells forming and eventually performing as if they had been there all

along as if nothing ever happened Healing just occurred your part was to trust

the process take good care of yourself and allow it Whether conscious or not

you simply trusted yourself to heal

It is that same trust you must have as you now commit-to-create intentional

healing Your whole Self system ldquoknowsrdquo how and what needs healing and in

what specific sequence of steps healing must occur Self does not need the

agreement of intellect or common sense to proceed naturally with healing Self

has been carrying out that process every nano-second of every day of your life ndash

simultaneously coordinating trillions of biochemical and energetic activities in

every cell of your entire being Heart beats lungs breath intestines digest and

your job is simply to get out of your own way and trust your Self to heal

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As you do alongside this intense Self-trust and commitment-to-create (our vow)

passion takes over and leads the way beyond common sense beyond

doubting intellect beyond beliefs and even beyond perceptions Such intense

passion emanating from your heart is very simply ldquoagaperdquo (selfless Love) In

this state you no longer experience others as separate bounded subject-object

(I-It) rather you share together in a living boundless oneness-of-relating

honoring the encounter by giving your present and your presence to the

sacredness of ldquoI-Thourdquo4

Map of HEALING INTENTION

I WISH

I DESIRE (ASK)

I INTEND-TO-CREATE

INCLUDES I COMMIT-TO-CREATE (I Vow = Devotion-to-creating)

I AM PASSIONATE

(I am Inspired)

PARADOX OF INTENDING (I Allow I Receive I Trust My Self to Heal)

I-THOU (Agape)

Figure copy2009 by MFDayton

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 14 of 33

It is this deep experience of heartfelt passion and selfless Love you are aiming to

access directly (and share) when you intend from the heart when you are

performing your shared-intentional-healingtrade praxis

So once again stop for a moment now to imagine Imagine the tremendous

healing power at your disposal when you step into your shared session each day

with the intention-to-create healing It means you are committing to heal

vowing to heal trusting your Self to heal by way of your impassioned

heart You are giving your presence to merge as one-heartbeat in

synchrony and selfless love with all other CYSH members in this moment

now Therein lies the true power of your healing intention

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ldquoHEALINGrdquo (beyond ldquobeing curedrdquo)

Clearly what we intend to create during each praxis is HEALING your healing

healing for other members my healing and our healing together as one Yet do

you really know what you mean when you say ldquoI intend to healrdquo

Whenever we take time to reflect on the notion of ldquohealingrdquo typically one of the

first things that bubbles up into awareness is some hope of being ldquocuredrdquo Given

the difficulties and challenges we can face in just making it through even the

most simple of daily activities ldquocurerdquo can be so very inviting Indeed given the

opportunity who of us wouldnt want to be cured of a chronic illness And cured

NOW

Yet by seeking to ldquobe curedrdquo we can become entrenched in even more intense

challenges and symptom exacerbation How could that be What could

possibly be wrong with hoping for a cure

There is nothing wrong with hoping dreaming goal setting Indeed these

activities can provide momentum power purpose and direction to an otherwise

difficult day Yet the moment we turn our attention to ldquobeing curedrdquo our focus

immediately comes to rest on that which we desire to be ldquocured ofrdquo to ldquoget away

fromrdquo and it is here we become derailed Its like the age-old challenge to ldquonot

think of a blue elephantrdquo We must first conceive such a beast before we cannot

think about it

So too with ldquocurerdquo ndash We must first converge our attention and energies even

more intensely on the illness and the symptoms we wish to cease Clearly this

activity takes us in the opposite direction from the relief and health we are

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 16 of 33

seeking In fact it is the same process described by Cheri Huber in one of her

more remarkable books entitled That Which You Are Seeking Is Causing You To

Seek (1990) Take a moment now to think about her title in relation to ldquoThe cure

I am seeking is rdquo In short to focus on cure heightens our experience of

dis-ease

To clarify even further when we focus on such moving-away-from-activities we

have no clear vision of what it is we are moving toward Without such clarity our

odds of failing escalate exponentially Success happens only as we also move

toward clearly-defined desires and goals A simple yet powerful example is this

years 40th anniversary of the Apollo 11 moon landing Was that ldquogiant steprdquo

successful because the leaders at NASA focused energy solely on how to create

escape velocity to ldquoget away fromrdquo earth ndash or also on how to get onto the moon

Another helpful example is wanting ldquoout ofrdquo a job Im sure you know of someone

(perhaps yourself) intent on getting away from the daily grind of hisher job Yet

when she did successfully leave that employment inevitably and much too soon

the same situation landslides into the daily grind of the next job Repeating old

patterns of struggle is a very clear sign of actions based on moving-away-

from goals This is a key principle to apply to all aspects of your daily living

The reason this occurs with the get-me-outta-here script is that whatever change

may happen generally does so from ldquowithoutrdquo At best we change scenery Its

the old grass-is-greener scenario ndash which is really no change at all

The inherent problem here can be even more perilous as we see when we take a

closer look at the wording ldquobeing curedrdquo We tend to redirect our attention from

within (our source of creative power) to some force outside that causes the cure

for us (whether that be by way of a physician a healer natural substances

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 17 of 33

medications treatments or God)

On some level we tell ourselves if I could figure out what was happening to get

into this situation (ie chronic illness) I would be able to figure out how to get

out of it but (and heres the rub) since I cant I begin to believe less and less in

my innate healing power and more and more that such power must lie outside of

me ndash with an outside force greater than me (whether medical natural or

spiritual)

Please be clear on this point This is not to underplay the importance of qualified

medical professionals to your progress The same is true of the importance and

value of your spirituality and relation-with God Source Higher Power The point

to take away here is that you can only access the benefits of such healing

relations when YOU are first centered and strong in your own being ndash when you

approach your Self as a sacred Thou

Therefore in the situation where you reflexively turn over your power to heal (to

an outside agent) understand the ensuing damage you risk to your sense of Self

Not only are you diminishing belief in your inherent strength and healing power

you are also at risk of allowing others to determine what is best for your well-

being (perhaps even against your deeper intuitive knowing) all of which only

serves to further undermine Self-esteem and the tremendous power that comes

from believing in your Self

Even our religious upbringing can paradoxically weaken our beliefs regarding the

possibility of cure We learn at a deep level that ldquocurerdquo lies only in the realm of

the miraculous Such an orientation can weaken belief in the possibility of ldquome

being cured nowrdquo In fact when being completely honest many of us feel the

odds of ldquome being cured nowrdquo are as slim or slimmer than winning a million dollar

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 18 of 33

lottery And when it does not happen were faced with the more daunting issue

of how I must somehow be ldquoflawedrdquo Clearly such underlying attitudes provide

no foundation on which to construct change much less the dramatic change

required with the desire to ldquobe curedrdquo [Here I recommend another Huber book

There Is Nothing Wrong with You Going Beyond Self-Hate (2001)]

In the end when focused on ldquobeing curedrdquo you may not only become separate

from your innate healing power within but you risk the ultimate medical

mistreatment becoming an object to be worked-on mechanically From here it

can be a rapid slide into the role of ldquovictimrdquo whereby you relinquish your

responsibility for choosing altogether (ie intending-to-create) how it is you truly

desire to be In short you risk losing the creative power of intention required to

give birth to healing

By the mid eighties I had been on daily prednisone for over a decade to control

severe bouts of status asthmaticus and recurrent pneumonia Because the

deleterious side-effects of prednisone included adrenal insufficiency (an impaired

stress response) I knew in my heart-of-hearts one key to my well-being lay in

recovering my atrophied stress axis by discontinuing daily prednisone For years

I pleaded with my pulmonary specialist to assist me in tapering off and relearning

how to live prednisone-free Together we did make a few unsuccessful attempts

only to recycle back into another respiratory infection and still higher doses of

prednisone By this time his posture was that I needed to remain on daily

prednisone ldquofor the rest of my liferdquo My posture was to fire him

Fortunately and in short-order I began working with an internist who over the

next two years laid out a plan to become prednisone-free ndash which we did

together successfully Two significant points must be clearly recognized here

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1 You must believe in your innate healing power and if you do not

currently this then becomes your launch pad for your healing journey ndash

relearning to empower your Self to heal

2 You are not in this alone You require the good works of others in

alignment with you to successfully heal As such you need to be very

selective in picking those others with whom you relate to enhance your

medical well-being

If you are feeling your medical support is sapping your power and authority

they probably are but you dont throw the baby out with the bath This is

not about releasing physicians this is about being in a healing

relationship-with your medical professional(s) of choice

Additional cultural biases arise with a focus on ldquocurerdquo Any true change with

regard to chronic illness implies a change ldquofor the betterrdquo That requires us to

believe with certainty that such change can and will bring improvement After

more than fifteen years working with individuals with chronic illness (including

my Self) it is the rare individual Ive encountered who truly believes (from the

core) ldquoI will be curedrdquo We wish for cure certainly but believing with certainty ldquoI

will be curedrdquo rarely

An origin of not believing in ldquobeing curedrdquo lies in the way we traditionally use the

term One problem in particular is that ldquocurerdquo is not a ldquonowrdquo concept -- that is

something I trust to experience now rather we tend to use ldquocurerdquo in a future-

oriented manner of hoping-for-something-to-happen or (at-best) asking-for

maybe praying for cure to happen Yet it is not in the future that you and I

create anything and this is particularly relevant to healing We only create in

the NOW

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Finally even greater issues arise when we attempt to determine precisely what

we mean by the term ldquocurerdquo As one example are you cured when there is ldquoan

end to the disease processrdquo or could that be ldquoremissionrdquo

Does ldquocurerdquo mean a ldquoreturn to full functioningrdquo (ie as I was before the process

started) Is that even possible Consider the case of a disease process that has

already resulted in disfigurement or amputation What does ldquocurerdquo mean in those

situations

Does ldquocurerdquo mean ldquosymptoms are gonerdquo If so are we then cured when

medications relieve or mask the symptoms altogether Do you understand the

quagmire here

It is for all these reasons above that few people are ever truly ldquocuredrdquo of

anything even if we do allow for those who have experienced ldquomiracle curesrdquo

(which are certainly the exception not the norm) Yet when you and I consider

ldquomy situation nowrdquo we need to have the strength of certainty that improvement

is not only possible but immanent

So if not ldquocurerdquo then what You already know the answer And the answer is

ldquohealingrdquo In the end if ldquocurerdquo is anything it is a future-oriented

disempowering mechanical phenomenon at the physical level In contrast

ldquohealingrdquo is an ongoing process (in this moment) of whole-Self transformation

Consider when we truly and proactively ldquohealrdquo we are creating (now) from the

very depths of our core within We are intending-to-create with all the intensity

and power of commitment passion and agape that arises in creative

transformation It is this innate source of inner power to which we must first

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return ldquoas little childrenrdquo in order to initiate healing

We mask nothing when healing now rather we take an active and response-able

role in bringing peace joy and love directly into our daily lives and the lives of

those we touch NOW this moment and in as many moments as we allow

It is from this strong shared intentional healing foundation that we live with the

most power any human being can possibly experience in alignment with in I-

Thou relation-with in the selfless Love that is the very Source of all creation

This process of transformational healing envelops and extends beyond cure at any

level and unlike ldquocurerdquo it is not some static condition at which we arrive (by

the grace of some outside benevolent authority) Rather such transformational

healing is an ongoing process of BEING-a-certain-way in strength in power

in wisdom in loving relation-with (not only Self but Source God Higher Power)

Let this loving empowered healing be the deep transformation you intend ndash your

moment-to-moment empowered healing transformation from core within

ldquoPRAXISrdquo

We finally come to the term PRAXIS Clients often ask why I use ldquopraxisrdquo rather

than something more familiar like ldquopracticerdquo or ldquoexerciserdquo My answer is very

simple and straight-forward

First we can quickly dispense with the term ldquoexerciserdquo Do you really want to

ldquoexerciserdquo intentional healing each day ndash or would you rather just skip having to

exercise any more than you already know you need to do Enough said

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Now imagine I invite you to ldquoplease make sure and practice your intentional

healing each dayrdquo How do you feel then For me it brings up that I must not

be very good at it especially if I need to be practicing every day

Consider now how you feel when I invite you to ldquoskillfully applyrdquo the intentional

healing process in comfort Doesnt ldquoskillful applicationrdquo feel much more

empowering than ldquopracticingrdquo Since ldquopraxisrdquo means ldquoskillful applicationrdquo isnt it

much more inviting to approach your intentional healing sessions with skill

And you will as you become more comfortable applying the process each day

Other folks also ask if shared-intentional-healingtrade wouldnt be better considered

an ldquoexperimentrdquo much like Lynn McTaggarts The Intention Experiment (2007) I

can see how the notion of an ldquoexperimentrdquo carries with it some sense of intrigue

but ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately represent the experience that is shared-

intentional-healingtrade

First (as we learned in our discussion of ldquointentionalrdquo above) when we participate

in Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade we are as a matter-of-fact intending-to-create

healing Such activity cannot be an ldquoexperimentrdquo or we lose the certainty

required for healing change Rather we set out to generate an experience-of-

relating that is powered by being committed empassioned and selflessly loving

You can likely identify such a committed passionate selflessly loving experience

from some time in your life ndash whether in love among family through an

impassioned hobby in seeking some goal or perhaps spiritually As you already

know such an experience is not something we wish-for or hope-for or need to

wait and see what happens It is simply a loving relating-with experience we

already know how to have We just be it and do it

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Moreover (as I suggested above) there is palpable transformation that occurs

within each of us as we gain comfort participating in shared-intentional-healingtrade

This transformational experience happens through your participation and it will

happen for you ndash no need to experiment just simply participate

Moreover at the heart of it the notion of ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately reflect

the research to date on ldquointentionrdquo and ldquohealingrdquo As an example a 1997 review

of research on ldquoIntercessory Prayer for the Alleviation of Ill Healthrdquo by Roberts

Ahmed Hall amp Davison reports individual studies suggest a positive effect of

intercessory prayer But since they viewed other reports in which the results

were equivocal they conclude no ldquo further trials of this intervention should be

takenrdquo5

Regrettably they miss the point The fact that studies DO exist reporting a

positive correlation between intercessory prayer and the alleviation of ill health is

precisely the reason more studies should be undertaken Edison found hundreds

of approaches that were equivocal before discovering a singular lighting solution

Thank goodness he did not conclude any further trials were unnecessary before

arriving at that solution

When it comes to this uniquely intimate subject of healing Eric Leskowitz MD

(in a review of the book Healing Intention amp Energy Medicine (2002) by Wayne

Jonas MD) explains how such conflicting conclusions like Roberts etal come

about Dr Leskowitz notes when he is in discussions with his allopathic medical

colleagues regarding ldquo inexplicable phenomena like energy healing or

intercessory prayer a sort of allopathic fear reflex kicks inrdquo6 Conclusions

become tunnel-visioned and skewed against even the possibility of such

correlation existing anywhere at any time Hence no further trials

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 24 of 33

You may however verify for yourself such positively-correlated research does

indeed already exist by reviewing the studies in Jonas book (above) In

addition Marilyn Schlitz PhD provides a brief outline of just some of those

ldquopositive correlationrdquo studies that highlight the ldquointerface of science spirituality

and medicinerdquo7

If you would like an even more in-depth review I refer you to Consciousness amp

Healing Integral Approaches to Mind-Body Medicine (2005) by Schlitz Amorok

and Micozzi as well as the more recent (2008) Holistic Nursing A Handbook for Practice

5th edition by Dossey amp Keegan

In sum although experimental research has certainly not provided the final

answers on the relation between intention and healing the research to date is

most certainly beyond the ldquoequivocalrdquo suggested by those reflexively reacting

from allopathic fear Those studies completed to date which do display a positive

correlation between intention and healing are already providing a strong practical

foundation of powerful techniques and approaches that go far beyond

ldquoexperimentingrdquo and straight to the heart of skillful-application in daily living

Shared-Intentional-Healingrdquotrade is just one such approach you may access today

and everyday simply by participating in your daily praxis

With the above foundation in mind we can now move on to

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 25 of 33

PRAXIS GUIDELINES

Having considered in some depth the foundation on which this method rests we

may now turn to the guidelines describing ldquohow tordquo participate in your daily

Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis

Before you approach your first intentional session please read through the

description and suggestions below Remember these opportunities are for YOU

to BENEFIT YOU Again there is no right way nor wrong way for you to

participate You simply participate in your own best way Therefore as noted

previously the description below is solely meant as a guided outline to assist you

in jump-starting your participation ndash sharing with you some ideas that have

already worked well for others in our Community

For this to be beneficial for everyone please do your best to allot at least 5 to

15 minutes for each intentional session If you are already seasoned at

sitting in quiet you certainly may choose to go longer (eg 30) and you can

trust there are other CYSH members continuing in synchrony with you

To start out let your sessions be for shorter periods of time You will experience

a natural increase in length of participation without having to think about it or

plan for it This is not a race nor a test of endurance This is a nourishing of

Self and a cultivation of your best healing intentions Be gentle

In the beginning it can also be helpful if you imagine sending out your healing

intentions in a particular direction around the globe and returning to you from

the opposite direction This way as you imagine can assist you in creating a

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 26 of 33

ldquoflowrdquo with regard to directing intentional healing to all others around the globe

As you become more adept you will very naturally be able to generate healing

images radiating from your whole being equally in all directions You will

become aware there is no particular ldquoupdownrdquo in space-time There is just

ldquoeverywhere hererdquo that is always at the center of the universe ndash as you are at all

times and as is each member

Finally please know you may also invite your friends and loved ones to share

with you in these sessions If they cannot participate with you ask them (at

minimum) to set their healing intention for you and send it like a gift to you each

day This can be helpful to them as well knowing they are actively supporting

you with their selfless loving healing

So let us begin with a session description I have broken it down into 8 separate

action steps below

1 First make time to just sit and be comfortable (nothing ldquoto dordquo now)

Loosen any tight clothing

2 Begin breathing slowly until you relax into a comfortable natural pace

This is a time for gentleness Simply allow experience to happen and

follow experience moment-to-moment as you proceed

3 Slowly scan your entire being from head to toes inside and out If you

notice any part of you in tension just allow it to relax naturally and

dissolve with each out-breath

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Note It may take you 2 or more breathing cycles to notice the muscles in a

particular area begin to relax There are times as well when you may just

need to continue on with your scan trusting that the area will release as you

proceed Again this is time for gentle following

4 Once relaxed (as much as may be possible for now) INVITE your Self to

allow and receive healing intention and healing love

Note This may not feel natural or normal within and like a child the

knee-jerk reaction may indeed be to rebel You are merely sending an

invitation nothing more As you repeat this intentional healing invitation

each day you will soon begin to notice that you are indeed looking forward

to this opportunity

5 You are now comfortable relaxed and intentional within It is time now

to image all the other CYSH Members with whom you are sharing this

time Know they too are seeking to generate healing for your challenges

just as you are for theirs Depending on your beliefs it is here that you

may also invite connect with your source of spiritual power (God

Source Higher Power Buddha) to participate with you

6 Spend the next minutes imagining a Circle of Intentional Healing

Energy flowing into you from all the others and out from you to all

others Allow it to be easy natural like the earthrsquos flow of water

circulating from sky to earth and back to sky simply relax into this flow

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Note It may help to imagine your healing intentions emanating from about

2 finger-widths behind and about 3 finger-widths below your navel This

site (known as the ldquolower dan tienrdquo or ldquoharardquo) is considered the physical

center of gravity around which you are in perfect balance

From this point you can imagine healing intention flowing up your trunk

through your neck and head and out the top of your head to the other

CYSH members

The healing intention returning to you can be experienced as coming into

you at the same center of gravity point from which you started

Important Do not attempt to localize your intentions to any one region

within (brain heart liver etc) the reason being that a given illness process

occurs across and between physiological systems (even though we may talk

as if it is isolated to one system) It is best to imagine your entire Self

within a cocoon or bubble of flowing healing intention ndash everywhere within

you at once You may experience color warmth safety Luxuriate in your

experience Enjoy the moment

During this intentional time it can also be helpful on a given inout cycle of

breath to silently express I send out Loving Healing On the next

inout cycle silently express I receive Loving Healing and so on

In addition if your mind wanders off task (amp it will) just gently return to

the flow of loving healing intention Remember this experience is all about

being gentle Enjoy the process

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Continue in this state for as long as you desire and is easy comfortable

and natural With practice your will naturally be at ease for longer

periods of time during each session

7 When complete express gratitude to your Self as well as to all others

sharing in this moment with you Sit in this experience of gratitude for a

few moments

8 Savor the nourishing peace you have generated

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8-STEP PRAXIS REVIEW

1 SIT in comfort

2 BREATHE slowly rhythmically

3 SCAN (head to toes) to relax further still

4 INVITE SELF to allow healing intention

5 RELATE-WITH all other CYSH members amp Spiritual Power

6 SENDRECEIVE intentional healing

ldquoI send out Loving Healingrdquo ldquoI receive Loving Healingrdquo

7 Sit in GRATITUDE

8 SAVOR the nourishing peace

I genuinely look forward to your daily participation and to sharing this powerful

healing process with you I would love to hear your experiences with your praxis

Please do feel free to email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom)

My mission is to Coach You Well

Sincerely amp Caringly

MALCOLM

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REFERENCES

1 Chopra Deepak (1994) The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success ndash A Practical Guide to

the Fulfillment of Your Dreams p76

2 Chopra Deepak (1999) A Deepak Chopra Companion Illuminations on Health and

Human Consciousness p94

3 Dyer httpwwwyoutubecomwatchv=DC-FPorUW7gampfeature=related

4 Buber Martin (1971) I And Thou

5 Intercessory prayer httpwwwcochraneorgreviewsenab000368html

6 Leskowitz httpwholistichealingresearchcom42books12

7 Schlitz httpxnetkporgpermanentejournalsum05evidencepdf

copy2009byMFDayton

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ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Malcolm Dayton LPC Cht is a Licensed Counselor with more than two decades coaching individuals and families facing chronic illness He is also certified in MindBody Medicine and Hypnotherapy

Malcolms Coaching Self Healing program is unique in that he calls on his own lifelong journey with chronic illness (multiple sclerosis asthma immune deficiency) to assist you in accessing your unique healing solutions Very simply Malcolm walks his coaching

His coaching program is truly integral-- that is healing solutions are practical in focus and applied comprehensively incorporating all dimensions of your experience from symptoms to wellness from relations within self to social relations from the physical to spiritual--a truly ecological approach to Self Healing You learn to be FULLIVINGtrade ndash to thrive beyond chronic illness

Malcolms mission is to Coach You WELL

CONTACTMalcolm Dayton LPC CHt

email mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom

phone 970-689-4247

Yes Malcolm Im ready to discover

the benefits of Self Healing Coaching NOW

Sign me up now for myCOMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION

Be Well And THRIVE Beyond Chronic Illness Now

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Page 14: Thriving Beyond Chronic Illness:  Shared-Intentional-Healing Praxis

As you do alongside this intense Self-trust and commitment-to-create (our vow)

passion takes over and leads the way beyond common sense beyond

doubting intellect beyond beliefs and even beyond perceptions Such intense

passion emanating from your heart is very simply ldquoagaperdquo (selfless Love) In

this state you no longer experience others as separate bounded subject-object

(I-It) rather you share together in a living boundless oneness-of-relating

honoring the encounter by giving your present and your presence to the

sacredness of ldquoI-Thourdquo4

Map of HEALING INTENTION

I WISH

I DESIRE (ASK)

I INTEND-TO-CREATE

INCLUDES I COMMIT-TO-CREATE (I Vow = Devotion-to-creating)

I AM PASSIONATE

(I am Inspired)

PARADOX OF INTENDING (I Allow I Receive I Trust My Self to Heal)

I-THOU (Agape)

Figure copy2009 by MFDayton

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It is this deep experience of heartfelt passion and selfless Love you are aiming to

access directly (and share) when you intend from the heart when you are

performing your shared-intentional-healingtrade praxis

So once again stop for a moment now to imagine Imagine the tremendous

healing power at your disposal when you step into your shared session each day

with the intention-to-create healing It means you are committing to heal

vowing to heal trusting your Self to heal by way of your impassioned

heart You are giving your presence to merge as one-heartbeat in

synchrony and selfless love with all other CYSH members in this moment

now Therein lies the true power of your healing intention

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ldquoHEALINGrdquo (beyond ldquobeing curedrdquo)

Clearly what we intend to create during each praxis is HEALING your healing

healing for other members my healing and our healing together as one Yet do

you really know what you mean when you say ldquoI intend to healrdquo

Whenever we take time to reflect on the notion of ldquohealingrdquo typically one of the

first things that bubbles up into awareness is some hope of being ldquocuredrdquo Given

the difficulties and challenges we can face in just making it through even the

most simple of daily activities ldquocurerdquo can be so very inviting Indeed given the

opportunity who of us wouldnt want to be cured of a chronic illness And cured

NOW

Yet by seeking to ldquobe curedrdquo we can become entrenched in even more intense

challenges and symptom exacerbation How could that be What could

possibly be wrong with hoping for a cure

There is nothing wrong with hoping dreaming goal setting Indeed these

activities can provide momentum power purpose and direction to an otherwise

difficult day Yet the moment we turn our attention to ldquobeing curedrdquo our focus

immediately comes to rest on that which we desire to be ldquocured ofrdquo to ldquoget away

fromrdquo and it is here we become derailed Its like the age-old challenge to ldquonot

think of a blue elephantrdquo We must first conceive such a beast before we cannot

think about it

So too with ldquocurerdquo ndash We must first converge our attention and energies even

more intensely on the illness and the symptoms we wish to cease Clearly this

activity takes us in the opposite direction from the relief and health we are

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seeking In fact it is the same process described by Cheri Huber in one of her

more remarkable books entitled That Which You Are Seeking Is Causing You To

Seek (1990) Take a moment now to think about her title in relation to ldquoThe cure

I am seeking is rdquo In short to focus on cure heightens our experience of

dis-ease

To clarify even further when we focus on such moving-away-from-activities we

have no clear vision of what it is we are moving toward Without such clarity our

odds of failing escalate exponentially Success happens only as we also move

toward clearly-defined desires and goals A simple yet powerful example is this

years 40th anniversary of the Apollo 11 moon landing Was that ldquogiant steprdquo

successful because the leaders at NASA focused energy solely on how to create

escape velocity to ldquoget away fromrdquo earth ndash or also on how to get onto the moon

Another helpful example is wanting ldquoout ofrdquo a job Im sure you know of someone

(perhaps yourself) intent on getting away from the daily grind of hisher job Yet

when she did successfully leave that employment inevitably and much too soon

the same situation landslides into the daily grind of the next job Repeating old

patterns of struggle is a very clear sign of actions based on moving-away-

from goals This is a key principle to apply to all aspects of your daily living

The reason this occurs with the get-me-outta-here script is that whatever change

may happen generally does so from ldquowithoutrdquo At best we change scenery Its

the old grass-is-greener scenario ndash which is really no change at all

The inherent problem here can be even more perilous as we see when we take a

closer look at the wording ldquobeing curedrdquo We tend to redirect our attention from

within (our source of creative power) to some force outside that causes the cure

for us (whether that be by way of a physician a healer natural substances

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medications treatments or God)

On some level we tell ourselves if I could figure out what was happening to get

into this situation (ie chronic illness) I would be able to figure out how to get

out of it but (and heres the rub) since I cant I begin to believe less and less in

my innate healing power and more and more that such power must lie outside of

me ndash with an outside force greater than me (whether medical natural or

spiritual)

Please be clear on this point This is not to underplay the importance of qualified

medical professionals to your progress The same is true of the importance and

value of your spirituality and relation-with God Source Higher Power The point

to take away here is that you can only access the benefits of such healing

relations when YOU are first centered and strong in your own being ndash when you

approach your Self as a sacred Thou

Therefore in the situation where you reflexively turn over your power to heal (to

an outside agent) understand the ensuing damage you risk to your sense of Self

Not only are you diminishing belief in your inherent strength and healing power

you are also at risk of allowing others to determine what is best for your well-

being (perhaps even against your deeper intuitive knowing) all of which only

serves to further undermine Self-esteem and the tremendous power that comes

from believing in your Self

Even our religious upbringing can paradoxically weaken our beliefs regarding the

possibility of cure We learn at a deep level that ldquocurerdquo lies only in the realm of

the miraculous Such an orientation can weaken belief in the possibility of ldquome

being cured nowrdquo In fact when being completely honest many of us feel the

odds of ldquome being cured nowrdquo are as slim or slimmer than winning a million dollar

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 18 of 33

lottery And when it does not happen were faced with the more daunting issue

of how I must somehow be ldquoflawedrdquo Clearly such underlying attitudes provide

no foundation on which to construct change much less the dramatic change

required with the desire to ldquobe curedrdquo [Here I recommend another Huber book

There Is Nothing Wrong with You Going Beyond Self-Hate (2001)]

In the end when focused on ldquobeing curedrdquo you may not only become separate

from your innate healing power within but you risk the ultimate medical

mistreatment becoming an object to be worked-on mechanically From here it

can be a rapid slide into the role of ldquovictimrdquo whereby you relinquish your

responsibility for choosing altogether (ie intending-to-create) how it is you truly

desire to be In short you risk losing the creative power of intention required to

give birth to healing

By the mid eighties I had been on daily prednisone for over a decade to control

severe bouts of status asthmaticus and recurrent pneumonia Because the

deleterious side-effects of prednisone included adrenal insufficiency (an impaired

stress response) I knew in my heart-of-hearts one key to my well-being lay in

recovering my atrophied stress axis by discontinuing daily prednisone For years

I pleaded with my pulmonary specialist to assist me in tapering off and relearning

how to live prednisone-free Together we did make a few unsuccessful attempts

only to recycle back into another respiratory infection and still higher doses of

prednisone By this time his posture was that I needed to remain on daily

prednisone ldquofor the rest of my liferdquo My posture was to fire him

Fortunately and in short-order I began working with an internist who over the

next two years laid out a plan to become prednisone-free ndash which we did

together successfully Two significant points must be clearly recognized here

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1 You must believe in your innate healing power and if you do not

currently this then becomes your launch pad for your healing journey ndash

relearning to empower your Self to heal

2 You are not in this alone You require the good works of others in

alignment with you to successfully heal As such you need to be very

selective in picking those others with whom you relate to enhance your

medical well-being

If you are feeling your medical support is sapping your power and authority

they probably are but you dont throw the baby out with the bath This is

not about releasing physicians this is about being in a healing

relationship-with your medical professional(s) of choice

Additional cultural biases arise with a focus on ldquocurerdquo Any true change with

regard to chronic illness implies a change ldquofor the betterrdquo That requires us to

believe with certainty that such change can and will bring improvement After

more than fifteen years working with individuals with chronic illness (including

my Self) it is the rare individual Ive encountered who truly believes (from the

core) ldquoI will be curedrdquo We wish for cure certainly but believing with certainty ldquoI

will be curedrdquo rarely

An origin of not believing in ldquobeing curedrdquo lies in the way we traditionally use the

term One problem in particular is that ldquocurerdquo is not a ldquonowrdquo concept -- that is

something I trust to experience now rather we tend to use ldquocurerdquo in a future-

oriented manner of hoping-for-something-to-happen or (at-best) asking-for

maybe praying for cure to happen Yet it is not in the future that you and I

create anything and this is particularly relevant to healing We only create in

the NOW

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Finally even greater issues arise when we attempt to determine precisely what

we mean by the term ldquocurerdquo As one example are you cured when there is ldquoan

end to the disease processrdquo or could that be ldquoremissionrdquo

Does ldquocurerdquo mean a ldquoreturn to full functioningrdquo (ie as I was before the process

started) Is that even possible Consider the case of a disease process that has

already resulted in disfigurement or amputation What does ldquocurerdquo mean in those

situations

Does ldquocurerdquo mean ldquosymptoms are gonerdquo If so are we then cured when

medications relieve or mask the symptoms altogether Do you understand the

quagmire here

It is for all these reasons above that few people are ever truly ldquocuredrdquo of

anything even if we do allow for those who have experienced ldquomiracle curesrdquo

(which are certainly the exception not the norm) Yet when you and I consider

ldquomy situation nowrdquo we need to have the strength of certainty that improvement

is not only possible but immanent

So if not ldquocurerdquo then what You already know the answer And the answer is

ldquohealingrdquo In the end if ldquocurerdquo is anything it is a future-oriented

disempowering mechanical phenomenon at the physical level In contrast

ldquohealingrdquo is an ongoing process (in this moment) of whole-Self transformation

Consider when we truly and proactively ldquohealrdquo we are creating (now) from the

very depths of our core within We are intending-to-create with all the intensity

and power of commitment passion and agape that arises in creative

transformation It is this innate source of inner power to which we must first

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return ldquoas little childrenrdquo in order to initiate healing

We mask nothing when healing now rather we take an active and response-able

role in bringing peace joy and love directly into our daily lives and the lives of

those we touch NOW this moment and in as many moments as we allow

It is from this strong shared intentional healing foundation that we live with the

most power any human being can possibly experience in alignment with in I-

Thou relation-with in the selfless Love that is the very Source of all creation

This process of transformational healing envelops and extends beyond cure at any

level and unlike ldquocurerdquo it is not some static condition at which we arrive (by

the grace of some outside benevolent authority) Rather such transformational

healing is an ongoing process of BEING-a-certain-way in strength in power

in wisdom in loving relation-with (not only Self but Source God Higher Power)

Let this loving empowered healing be the deep transformation you intend ndash your

moment-to-moment empowered healing transformation from core within

ldquoPRAXISrdquo

We finally come to the term PRAXIS Clients often ask why I use ldquopraxisrdquo rather

than something more familiar like ldquopracticerdquo or ldquoexerciserdquo My answer is very

simple and straight-forward

First we can quickly dispense with the term ldquoexerciserdquo Do you really want to

ldquoexerciserdquo intentional healing each day ndash or would you rather just skip having to

exercise any more than you already know you need to do Enough said

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Now imagine I invite you to ldquoplease make sure and practice your intentional

healing each dayrdquo How do you feel then For me it brings up that I must not

be very good at it especially if I need to be practicing every day

Consider now how you feel when I invite you to ldquoskillfully applyrdquo the intentional

healing process in comfort Doesnt ldquoskillful applicationrdquo feel much more

empowering than ldquopracticingrdquo Since ldquopraxisrdquo means ldquoskillful applicationrdquo isnt it

much more inviting to approach your intentional healing sessions with skill

And you will as you become more comfortable applying the process each day

Other folks also ask if shared-intentional-healingtrade wouldnt be better considered

an ldquoexperimentrdquo much like Lynn McTaggarts The Intention Experiment (2007) I

can see how the notion of an ldquoexperimentrdquo carries with it some sense of intrigue

but ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately represent the experience that is shared-

intentional-healingtrade

First (as we learned in our discussion of ldquointentionalrdquo above) when we participate

in Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade we are as a matter-of-fact intending-to-create

healing Such activity cannot be an ldquoexperimentrdquo or we lose the certainty

required for healing change Rather we set out to generate an experience-of-

relating that is powered by being committed empassioned and selflessly loving

You can likely identify such a committed passionate selflessly loving experience

from some time in your life ndash whether in love among family through an

impassioned hobby in seeking some goal or perhaps spiritually As you already

know such an experience is not something we wish-for or hope-for or need to

wait and see what happens It is simply a loving relating-with experience we

already know how to have We just be it and do it

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Moreover (as I suggested above) there is palpable transformation that occurs

within each of us as we gain comfort participating in shared-intentional-healingtrade

This transformational experience happens through your participation and it will

happen for you ndash no need to experiment just simply participate

Moreover at the heart of it the notion of ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately reflect

the research to date on ldquointentionrdquo and ldquohealingrdquo As an example a 1997 review

of research on ldquoIntercessory Prayer for the Alleviation of Ill Healthrdquo by Roberts

Ahmed Hall amp Davison reports individual studies suggest a positive effect of

intercessory prayer But since they viewed other reports in which the results

were equivocal they conclude no ldquo further trials of this intervention should be

takenrdquo5

Regrettably they miss the point The fact that studies DO exist reporting a

positive correlation between intercessory prayer and the alleviation of ill health is

precisely the reason more studies should be undertaken Edison found hundreds

of approaches that were equivocal before discovering a singular lighting solution

Thank goodness he did not conclude any further trials were unnecessary before

arriving at that solution

When it comes to this uniquely intimate subject of healing Eric Leskowitz MD

(in a review of the book Healing Intention amp Energy Medicine (2002) by Wayne

Jonas MD) explains how such conflicting conclusions like Roberts etal come

about Dr Leskowitz notes when he is in discussions with his allopathic medical

colleagues regarding ldquo inexplicable phenomena like energy healing or

intercessory prayer a sort of allopathic fear reflex kicks inrdquo6 Conclusions

become tunnel-visioned and skewed against even the possibility of such

correlation existing anywhere at any time Hence no further trials

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You may however verify for yourself such positively-correlated research does

indeed already exist by reviewing the studies in Jonas book (above) In

addition Marilyn Schlitz PhD provides a brief outline of just some of those

ldquopositive correlationrdquo studies that highlight the ldquointerface of science spirituality

and medicinerdquo7

If you would like an even more in-depth review I refer you to Consciousness amp

Healing Integral Approaches to Mind-Body Medicine (2005) by Schlitz Amorok

and Micozzi as well as the more recent (2008) Holistic Nursing A Handbook for Practice

5th edition by Dossey amp Keegan

In sum although experimental research has certainly not provided the final

answers on the relation between intention and healing the research to date is

most certainly beyond the ldquoequivocalrdquo suggested by those reflexively reacting

from allopathic fear Those studies completed to date which do display a positive

correlation between intention and healing are already providing a strong practical

foundation of powerful techniques and approaches that go far beyond

ldquoexperimentingrdquo and straight to the heart of skillful-application in daily living

Shared-Intentional-Healingrdquotrade is just one such approach you may access today

and everyday simply by participating in your daily praxis

With the above foundation in mind we can now move on to

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PRAXIS GUIDELINES

Having considered in some depth the foundation on which this method rests we

may now turn to the guidelines describing ldquohow tordquo participate in your daily

Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis

Before you approach your first intentional session please read through the

description and suggestions below Remember these opportunities are for YOU

to BENEFIT YOU Again there is no right way nor wrong way for you to

participate You simply participate in your own best way Therefore as noted

previously the description below is solely meant as a guided outline to assist you

in jump-starting your participation ndash sharing with you some ideas that have

already worked well for others in our Community

For this to be beneficial for everyone please do your best to allot at least 5 to

15 minutes for each intentional session If you are already seasoned at

sitting in quiet you certainly may choose to go longer (eg 30) and you can

trust there are other CYSH members continuing in synchrony with you

To start out let your sessions be for shorter periods of time You will experience

a natural increase in length of participation without having to think about it or

plan for it This is not a race nor a test of endurance This is a nourishing of

Self and a cultivation of your best healing intentions Be gentle

In the beginning it can also be helpful if you imagine sending out your healing

intentions in a particular direction around the globe and returning to you from

the opposite direction This way as you imagine can assist you in creating a

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 26 of 33

ldquoflowrdquo with regard to directing intentional healing to all others around the globe

As you become more adept you will very naturally be able to generate healing

images radiating from your whole being equally in all directions You will

become aware there is no particular ldquoupdownrdquo in space-time There is just

ldquoeverywhere hererdquo that is always at the center of the universe ndash as you are at all

times and as is each member

Finally please know you may also invite your friends and loved ones to share

with you in these sessions If they cannot participate with you ask them (at

minimum) to set their healing intention for you and send it like a gift to you each

day This can be helpful to them as well knowing they are actively supporting

you with their selfless loving healing

So let us begin with a session description I have broken it down into 8 separate

action steps below

1 First make time to just sit and be comfortable (nothing ldquoto dordquo now)

Loosen any tight clothing

2 Begin breathing slowly until you relax into a comfortable natural pace

This is a time for gentleness Simply allow experience to happen and

follow experience moment-to-moment as you proceed

3 Slowly scan your entire being from head to toes inside and out If you

notice any part of you in tension just allow it to relax naturally and

dissolve with each out-breath

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 27 of 33

Note It may take you 2 or more breathing cycles to notice the muscles in a

particular area begin to relax There are times as well when you may just

need to continue on with your scan trusting that the area will release as you

proceed Again this is time for gentle following

4 Once relaxed (as much as may be possible for now) INVITE your Self to

allow and receive healing intention and healing love

Note This may not feel natural or normal within and like a child the

knee-jerk reaction may indeed be to rebel You are merely sending an

invitation nothing more As you repeat this intentional healing invitation

each day you will soon begin to notice that you are indeed looking forward

to this opportunity

5 You are now comfortable relaxed and intentional within It is time now

to image all the other CYSH Members with whom you are sharing this

time Know they too are seeking to generate healing for your challenges

just as you are for theirs Depending on your beliefs it is here that you

may also invite connect with your source of spiritual power (God

Source Higher Power Buddha) to participate with you

6 Spend the next minutes imagining a Circle of Intentional Healing

Energy flowing into you from all the others and out from you to all

others Allow it to be easy natural like the earthrsquos flow of water

circulating from sky to earth and back to sky simply relax into this flow

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 28 of 33

Note It may help to imagine your healing intentions emanating from about

2 finger-widths behind and about 3 finger-widths below your navel This

site (known as the ldquolower dan tienrdquo or ldquoharardquo) is considered the physical

center of gravity around which you are in perfect balance

From this point you can imagine healing intention flowing up your trunk

through your neck and head and out the top of your head to the other

CYSH members

The healing intention returning to you can be experienced as coming into

you at the same center of gravity point from which you started

Important Do not attempt to localize your intentions to any one region

within (brain heart liver etc) the reason being that a given illness process

occurs across and between physiological systems (even though we may talk

as if it is isolated to one system) It is best to imagine your entire Self

within a cocoon or bubble of flowing healing intention ndash everywhere within

you at once You may experience color warmth safety Luxuriate in your

experience Enjoy the moment

During this intentional time it can also be helpful on a given inout cycle of

breath to silently express I send out Loving Healing On the next

inout cycle silently express I receive Loving Healing and so on

In addition if your mind wanders off task (amp it will) just gently return to

the flow of loving healing intention Remember this experience is all about

being gentle Enjoy the process

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 29 of 33

Continue in this state for as long as you desire and is easy comfortable

and natural With practice your will naturally be at ease for longer

periods of time during each session

7 When complete express gratitude to your Self as well as to all others

sharing in this moment with you Sit in this experience of gratitude for a

few moments

8 Savor the nourishing peace you have generated

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8-STEP PRAXIS REVIEW

1 SIT in comfort

2 BREATHE slowly rhythmically

3 SCAN (head to toes) to relax further still

4 INVITE SELF to allow healing intention

5 RELATE-WITH all other CYSH members amp Spiritual Power

6 SENDRECEIVE intentional healing

ldquoI send out Loving Healingrdquo ldquoI receive Loving Healingrdquo

7 Sit in GRATITUDE

8 SAVOR the nourishing peace

I genuinely look forward to your daily participation and to sharing this powerful

healing process with you I would love to hear your experiences with your praxis

Please do feel free to email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom)

My mission is to Coach You Well

Sincerely amp Caringly

MALCOLM

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 31 of 33

REFERENCES

1 Chopra Deepak (1994) The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success ndash A Practical Guide to

the Fulfillment of Your Dreams p76

2 Chopra Deepak (1999) A Deepak Chopra Companion Illuminations on Health and

Human Consciousness p94

3 Dyer httpwwwyoutubecomwatchv=DC-FPorUW7gampfeature=related

4 Buber Martin (1971) I And Thou

5 Intercessory prayer httpwwwcochraneorgreviewsenab000368html

6 Leskowitz httpwholistichealingresearchcom42books12

7 Schlitz httpxnetkporgpermanentejournalsum05evidencepdf

copy2009byMFDayton

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 32 of 33

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Malcolm Dayton LPC Cht is a Licensed Counselor with more than two decades coaching individuals and families facing chronic illness He is also certified in MindBody Medicine and Hypnotherapy

Malcolms Coaching Self Healing program is unique in that he calls on his own lifelong journey with chronic illness (multiple sclerosis asthma immune deficiency) to assist you in accessing your unique healing solutions Very simply Malcolm walks his coaching

His coaching program is truly integral-- that is healing solutions are practical in focus and applied comprehensively incorporating all dimensions of your experience from symptoms to wellness from relations within self to social relations from the physical to spiritual--a truly ecological approach to Self Healing You learn to be FULLIVINGtrade ndash to thrive beyond chronic illness

Malcolms mission is to Coach You WELL

CONTACTMalcolm Dayton LPC CHt

email mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom

phone 970-689-4247

Yes Malcolm Im ready to discover

the benefits of Self Healing Coaching NOW

Sign me up now for myCOMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION

Be Well And THRIVE Beyond Chronic Illness Now

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 33 of 33

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It is this deep experience of heartfelt passion and selfless Love you are aiming to

access directly (and share) when you intend from the heart when you are

performing your shared-intentional-healingtrade praxis

So once again stop for a moment now to imagine Imagine the tremendous

healing power at your disposal when you step into your shared session each day

with the intention-to-create healing It means you are committing to heal

vowing to heal trusting your Self to heal by way of your impassioned

heart You are giving your presence to merge as one-heartbeat in

synchrony and selfless love with all other CYSH members in this moment

now Therein lies the true power of your healing intention

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 15 of 33

ldquoHEALINGrdquo (beyond ldquobeing curedrdquo)

Clearly what we intend to create during each praxis is HEALING your healing

healing for other members my healing and our healing together as one Yet do

you really know what you mean when you say ldquoI intend to healrdquo

Whenever we take time to reflect on the notion of ldquohealingrdquo typically one of the

first things that bubbles up into awareness is some hope of being ldquocuredrdquo Given

the difficulties and challenges we can face in just making it through even the

most simple of daily activities ldquocurerdquo can be so very inviting Indeed given the

opportunity who of us wouldnt want to be cured of a chronic illness And cured

NOW

Yet by seeking to ldquobe curedrdquo we can become entrenched in even more intense

challenges and symptom exacerbation How could that be What could

possibly be wrong with hoping for a cure

There is nothing wrong with hoping dreaming goal setting Indeed these

activities can provide momentum power purpose and direction to an otherwise

difficult day Yet the moment we turn our attention to ldquobeing curedrdquo our focus

immediately comes to rest on that which we desire to be ldquocured ofrdquo to ldquoget away

fromrdquo and it is here we become derailed Its like the age-old challenge to ldquonot

think of a blue elephantrdquo We must first conceive such a beast before we cannot

think about it

So too with ldquocurerdquo ndash We must first converge our attention and energies even

more intensely on the illness and the symptoms we wish to cease Clearly this

activity takes us in the opposite direction from the relief and health we are

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 16 of 33

seeking In fact it is the same process described by Cheri Huber in one of her

more remarkable books entitled That Which You Are Seeking Is Causing You To

Seek (1990) Take a moment now to think about her title in relation to ldquoThe cure

I am seeking is rdquo In short to focus on cure heightens our experience of

dis-ease

To clarify even further when we focus on such moving-away-from-activities we

have no clear vision of what it is we are moving toward Without such clarity our

odds of failing escalate exponentially Success happens only as we also move

toward clearly-defined desires and goals A simple yet powerful example is this

years 40th anniversary of the Apollo 11 moon landing Was that ldquogiant steprdquo

successful because the leaders at NASA focused energy solely on how to create

escape velocity to ldquoget away fromrdquo earth ndash or also on how to get onto the moon

Another helpful example is wanting ldquoout ofrdquo a job Im sure you know of someone

(perhaps yourself) intent on getting away from the daily grind of hisher job Yet

when she did successfully leave that employment inevitably and much too soon

the same situation landslides into the daily grind of the next job Repeating old

patterns of struggle is a very clear sign of actions based on moving-away-

from goals This is a key principle to apply to all aspects of your daily living

The reason this occurs with the get-me-outta-here script is that whatever change

may happen generally does so from ldquowithoutrdquo At best we change scenery Its

the old grass-is-greener scenario ndash which is really no change at all

The inherent problem here can be even more perilous as we see when we take a

closer look at the wording ldquobeing curedrdquo We tend to redirect our attention from

within (our source of creative power) to some force outside that causes the cure

for us (whether that be by way of a physician a healer natural substances

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 17 of 33

medications treatments or God)

On some level we tell ourselves if I could figure out what was happening to get

into this situation (ie chronic illness) I would be able to figure out how to get

out of it but (and heres the rub) since I cant I begin to believe less and less in

my innate healing power and more and more that such power must lie outside of

me ndash with an outside force greater than me (whether medical natural or

spiritual)

Please be clear on this point This is not to underplay the importance of qualified

medical professionals to your progress The same is true of the importance and

value of your spirituality and relation-with God Source Higher Power The point

to take away here is that you can only access the benefits of such healing

relations when YOU are first centered and strong in your own being ndash when you

approach your Self as a sacred Thou

Therefore in the situation where you reflexively turn over your power to heal (to

an outside agent) understand the ensuing damage you risk to your sense of Self

Not only are you diminishing belief in your inherent strength and healing power

you are also at risk of allowing others to determine what is best for your well-

being (perhaps even against your deeper intuitive knowing) all of which only

serves to further undermine Self-esteem and the tremendous power that comes

from believing in your Self

Even our religious upbringing can paradoxically weaken our beliefs regarding the

possibility of cure We learn at a deep level that ldquocurerdquo lies only in the realm of

the miraculous Such an orientation can weaken belief in the possibility of ldquome

being cured nowrdquo In fact when being completely honest many of us feel the

odds of ldquome being cured nowrdquo are as slim or slimmer than winning a million dollar

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 18 of 33

lottery And when it does not happen were faced with the more daunting issue

of how I must somehow be ldquoflawedrdquo Clearly such underlying attitudes provide

no foundation on which to construct change much less the dramatic change

required with the desire to ldquobe curedrdquo [Here I recommend another Huber book

There Is Nothing Wrong with You Going Beyond Self-Hate (2001)]

In the end when focused on ldquobeing curedrdquo you may not only become separate

from your innate healing power within but you risk the ultimate medical

mistreatment becoming an object to be worked-on mechanically From here it

can be a rapid slide into the role of ldquovictimrdquo whereby you relinquish your

responsibility for choosing altogether (ie intending-to-create) how it is you truly

desire to be In short you risk losing the creative power of intention required to

give birth to healing

By the mid eighties I had been on daily prednisone for over a decade to control

severe bouts of status asthmaticus and recurrent pneumonia Because the

deleterious side-effects of prednisone included adrenal insufficiency (an impaired

stress response) I knew in my heart-of-hearts one key to my well-being lay in

recovering my atrophied stress axis by discontinuing daily prednisone For years

I pleaded with my pulmonary specialist to assist me in tapering off and relearning

how to live prednisone-free Together we did make a few unsuccessful attempts

only to recycle back into another respiratory infection and still higher doses of

prednisone By this time his posture was that I needed to remain on daily

prednisone ldquofor the rest of my liferdquo My posture was to fire him

Fortunately and in short-order I began working with an internist who over the

next two years laid out a plan to become prednisone-free ndash which we did

together successfully Two significant points must be clearly recognized here

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1 You must believe in your innate healing power and if you do not

currently this then becomes your launch pad for your healing journey ndash

relearning to empower your Self to heal

2 You are not in this alone You require the good works of others in

alignment with you to successfully heal As such you need to be very

selective in picking those others with whom you relate to enhance your

medical well-being

If you are feeling your medical support is sapping your power and authority

they probably are but you dont throw the baby out with the bath This is

not about releasing physicians this is about being in a healing

relationship-with your medical professional(s) of choice

Additional cultural biases arise with a focus on ldquocurerdquo Any true change with

regard to chronic illness implies a change ldquofor the betterrdquo That requires us to

believe with certainty that such change can and will bring improvement After

more than fifteen years working with individuals with chronic illness (including

my Self) it is the rare individual Ive encountered who truly believes (from the

core) ldquoI will be curedrdquo We wish for cure certainly but believing with certainty ldquoI

will be curedrdquo rarely

An origin of not believing in ldquobeing curedrdquo lies in the way we traditionally use the

term One problem in particular is that ldquocurerdquo is not a ldquonowrdquo concept -- that is

something I trust to experience now rather we tend to use ldquocurerdquo in a future-

oriented manner of hoping-for-something-to-happen or (at-best) asking-for

maybe praying for cure to happen Yet it is not in the future that you and I

create anything and this is particularly relevant to healing We only create in

the NOW

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Finally even greater issues arise when we attempt to determine precisely what

we mean by the term ldquocurerdquo As one example are you cured when there is ldquoan

end to the disease processrdquo or could that be ldquoremissionrdquo

Does ldquocurerdquo mean a ldquoreturn to full functioningrdquo (ie as I was before the process

started) Is that even possible Consider the case of a disease process that has

already resulted in disfigurement or amputation What does ldquocurerdquo mean in those

situations

Does ldquocurerdquo mean ldquosymptoms are gonerdquo If so are we then cured when

medications relieve or mask the symptoms altogether Do you understand the

quagmire here

It is for all these reasons above that few people are ever truly ldquocuredrdquo of

anything even if we do allow for those who have experienced ldquomiracle curesrdquo

(which are certainly the exception not the norm) Yet when you and I consider

ldquomy situation nowrdquo we need to have the strength of certainty that improvement

is not only possible but immanent

So if not ldquocurerdquo then what You already know the answer And the answer is

ldquohealingrdquo In the end if ldquocurerdquo is anything it is a future-oriented

disempowering mechanical phenomenon at the physical level In contrast

ldquohealingrdquo is an ongoing process (in this moment) of whole-Self transformation

Consider when we truly and proactively ldquohealrdquo we are creating (now) from the

very depths of our core within We are intending-to-create with all the intensity

and power of commitment passion and agape that arises in creative

transformation It is this innate source of inner power to which we must first

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return ldquoas little childrenrdquo in order to initiate healing

We mask nothing when healing now rather we take an active and response-able

role in bringing peace joy and love directly into our daily lives and the lives of

those we touch NOW this moment and in as many moments as we allow

It is from this strong shared intentional healing foundation that we live with the

most power any human being can possibly experience in alignment with in I-

Thou relation-with in the selfless Love that is the very Source of all creation

This process of transformational healing envelops and extends beyond cure at any

level and unlike ldquocurerdquo it is not some static condition at which we arrive (by

the grace of some outside benevolent authority) Rather such transformational

healing is an ongoing process of BEING-a-certain-way in strength in power

in wisdom in loving relation-with (not only Self but Source God Higher Power)

Let this loving empowered healing be the deep transformation you intend ndash your

moment-to-moment empowered healing transformation from core within

ldquoPRAXISrdquo

We finally come to the term PRAXIS Clients often ask why I use ldquopraxisrdquo rather

than something more familiar like ldquopracticerdquo or ldquoexerciserdquo My answer is very

simple and straight-forward

First we can quickly dispense with the term ldquoexerciserdquo Do you really want to

ldquoexerciserdquo intentional healing each day ndash or would you rather just skip having to

exercise any more than you already know you need to do Enough said

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Now imagine I invite you to ldquoplease make sure and practice your intentional

healing each dayrdquo How do you feel then For me it brings up that I must not

be very good at it especially if I need to be practicing every day

Consider now how you feel when I invite you to ldquoskillfully applyrdquo the intentional

healing process in comfort Doesnt ldquoskillful applicationrdquo feel much more

empowering than ldquopracticingrdquo Since ldquopraxisrdquo means ldquoskillful applicationrdquo isnt it

much more inviting to approach your intentional healing sessions with skill

And you will as you become more comfortable applying the process each day

Other folks also ask if shared-intentional-healingtrade wouldnt be better considered

an ldquoexperimentrdquo much like Lynn McTaggarts The Intention Experiment (2007) I

can see how the notion of an ldquoexperimentrdquo carries with it some sense of intrigue

but ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately represent the experience that is shared-

intentional-healingtrade

First (as we learned in our discussion of ldquointentionalrdquo above) when we participate

in Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade we are as a matter-of-fact intending-to-create

healing Such activity cannot be an ldquoexperimentrdquo or we lose the certainty

required for healing change Rather we set out to generate an experience-of-

relating that is powered by being committed empassioned and selflessly loving

You can likely identify such a committed passionate selflessly loving experience

from some time in your life ndash whether in love among family through an

impassioned hobby in seeking some goal or perhaps spiritually As you already

know such an experience is not something we wish-for or hope-for or need to

wait and see what happens It is simply a loving relating-with experience we

already know how to have We just be it and do it

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Moreover (as I suggested above) there is palpable transformation that occurs

within each of us as we gain comfort participating in shared-intentional-healingtrade

This transformational experience happens through your participation and it will

happen for you ndash no need to experiment just simply participate

Moreover at the heart of it the notion of ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately reflect

the research to date on ldquointentionrdquo and ldquohealingrdquo As an example a 1997 review

of research on ldquoIntercessory Prayer for the Alleviation of Ill Healthrdquo by Roberts

Ahmed Hall amp Davison reports individual studies suggest a positive effect of

intercessory prayer But since they viewed other reports in which the results

were equivocal they conclude no ldquo further trials of this intervention should be

takenrdquo5

Regrettably they miss the point The fact that studies DO exist reporting a

positive correlation between intercessory prayer and the alleviation of ill health is

precisely the reason more studies should be undertaken Edison found hundreds

of approaches that were equivocal before discovering a singular lighting solution

Thank goodness he did not conclude any further trials were unnecessary before

arriving at that solution

When it comes to this uniquely intimate subject of healing Eric Leskowitz MD

(in a review of the book Healing Intention amp Energy Medicine (2002) by Wayne

Jonas MD) explains how such conflicting conclusions like Roberts etal come

about Dr Leskowitz notes when he is in discussions with his allopathic medical

colleagues regarding ldquo inexplicable phenomena like energy healing or

intercessory prayer a sort of allopathic fear reflex kicks inrdquo6 Conclusions

become tunnel-visioned and skewed against even the possibility of such

correlation existing anywhere at any time Hence no further trials

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You may however verify for yourself such positively-correlated research does

indeed already exist by reviewing the studies in Jonas book (above) In

addition Marilyn Schlitz PhD provides a brief outline of just some of those

ldquopositive correlationrdquo studies that highlight the ldquointerface of science spirituality

and medicinerdquo7

If you would like an even more in-depth review I refer you to Consciousness amp

Healing Integral Approaches to Mind-Body Medicine (2005) by Schlitz Amorok

and Micozzi as well as the more recent (2008) Holistic Nursing A Handbook for Practice

5th edition by Dossey amp Keegan

In sum although experimental research has certainly not provided the final

answers on the relation between intention and healing the research to date is

most certainly beyond the ldquoequivocalrdquo suggested by those reflexively reacting

from allopathic fear Those studies completed to date which do display a positive

correlation between intention and healing are already providing a strong practical

foundation of powerful techniques and approaches that go far beyond

ldquoexperimentingrdquo and straight to the heart of skillful-application in daily living

Shared-Intentional-Healingrdquotrade is just one such approach you may access today

and everyday simply by participating in your daily praxis

With the above foundation in mind we can now move on to

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PRAXIS GUIDELINES

Having considered in some depth the foundation on which this method rests we

may now turn to the guidelines describing ldquohow tordquo participate in your daily

Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis

Before you approach your first intentional session please read through the

description and suggestions below Remember these opportunities are for YOU

to BENEFIT YOU Again there is no right way nor wrong way for you to

participate You simply participate in your own best way Therefore as noted

previously the description below is solely meant as a guided outline to assist you

in jump-starting your participation ndash sharing with you some ideas that have

already worked well for others in our Community

For this to be beneficial for everyone please do your best to allot at least 5 to

15 minutes for each intentional session If you are already seasoned at

sitting in quiet you certainly may choose to go longer (eg 30) and you can

trust there are other CYSH members continuing in synchrony with you

To start out let your sessions be for shorter periods of time You will experience

a natural increase in length of participation without having to think about it or

plan for it This is not a race nor a test of endurance This is a nourishing of

Self and a cultivation of your best healing intentions Be gentle

In the beginning it can also be helpful if you imagine sending out your healing

intentions in a particular direction around the globe and returning to you from

the opposite direction This way as you imagine can assist you in creating a

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 26 of 33

ldquoflowrdquo with regard to directing intentional healing to all others around the globe

As you become more adept you will very naturally be able to generate healing

images radiating from your whole being equally in all directions You will

become aware there is no particular ldquoupdownrdquo in space-time There is just

ldquoeverywhere hererdquo that is always at the center of the universe ndash as you are at all

times and as is each member

Finally please know you may also invite your friends and loved ones to share

with you in these sessions If they cannot participate with you ask them (at

minimum) to set their healing intention for you and send it like a gift to you each

day This can be helpful to them as well knowing they are actively supporting

you with their selfless loving healing

So let us begin with a session description I have broken it down into 8 separate

action steps below

1 First make time to just sit and be comfortable (nothing ldquoto dordquo now)

Loosen any tight clothing

2 Begin breathing slowly until you relax into a comfortable natural pace

This is a time for gentleness Simply allow experience to happen and

follow experience moment-to-moment as you proceed

3 Slowly scan your entire being from head to toes inside and out If you

notice any part of you in tension just allow it to relax naturally and

dissolve with each out-breath

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Note It may take you 2 or more breathing cycles to notice the muscles in a

particular area begin to relax There are times as well when you may just

need to continue on with your scan trusting that the area will release as you

proceed Again this is time for gentle following

4 Once relaxed (as much as may be possible for now) INVITE your Self to

allow and receive healing intention and healing love

Note This may not feel natural or normal within and like a child the

knee-jerk reaction may indeed be to rebel You are merely sending an

invitation nothing more As you repeat this intentional healing invitation

each day you will soon begin to notice that you are indeed looking forward

to this opportunity

5 You are now comfortable relaxed and intentional within It is time now

to image all the other CYSH Members with whom you are sharing this

time Know they too are seeking to generate healing for your challenges

just as you are for theirs Depending on your beliefs it is here that you

may also invite connect with your source of spiritual power (God

Source Higher Power Buddha) to participate with you

6 Spend the next minutes imagining a Circle of Intentional Healing

Energy flowing into you from all the others and out from you to all

others Allow it to be easy natural like the earthrsquos flow of water

circulating from sky to earth and back to sky simply relax into this flow

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 28 of 33

Note It may help to imagine your healing intentions emanating from about

2 finger-widths behind and about 3 finger-widths below your navel This

site (known as the ldquolower dan tienrdquo or ldquoharardquo) is considered the physical

center of gravity around which you are in perfect balance

From this point you can imagine healing intention flowing up your trunk

through your neck and head and out the top of your head to the other

CYSH members

The healing intention returning to you can be experienced as coming into

you at the same center of gravity point from which you started

Important Do not attempt to localize your intentions to any one region

within (brain heart liver etc) the reason being that a given illness process

occurs across and between physiological systems (even though we may talk

as if it is isolated to one system) It is best to imagine your entire Self

within a cocoon or bubble of flowing healing intention ndash everywhere within

you at once You may experience color warmth safety Luxuriate in your

experience Enjoy the moment

During this intentional time it can also be helpful on a given inout cycle of

breath to silently express I send out Loving Healing On the next

inout cycle silently express I receive Loving Healing and so on

In addition if your mind wanders off task (amp it will) just gently return to

the flow of loving healing intention Remember this experience is all about

being gentle Enjoy the process

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 29 of 33

Continue in this state for as long as you desire and is easy comfortable

and natural With practice your will naturally be at ease for longer

periods of time during each session

7 When complete express gratitude to your Self as well as to all others

sharing in this moment with you Sit in this experience of gratitude for a

few moments

8 Savor the nourishing peace you have generated

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 30 of 33

8-STEP PRAXIS REVIEW

1 SIT in comfort

2 BREATHE slowly rhythmically

3 SCAN (head to toes) to relax further still

4 INVITE SELF to allow healing intention

5 RELATE-WITH all other CYSH members amp Spiritual Power

6 SENDRECEIVE intentional healing

ldquoI send out Loving Healingrdquo ldquoI receive Loving Healingrdquo

7 Sit in GRATITUDE

8 SAVOR the nourishing peace

I genuinely look forward to your daily participation and to sharing this powerful

healing process with you I would love to hear your experiences with your praxis

Please do feel free to email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom)

My mission is to Coach You Well

Sincerely amp Caringly

MALCOLM

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 31 of 33

REFERENCES

1 Chopra Deepak (1994) The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success ndash A Practical Guide to

the Fulfillment of Your Dreams p76

2 Chopra Deepak (1999) A Deepak Chopra Companion Illuminations on Health and

Human Consciousness p94

3 Dyer httpwwwyoutubecomwatchv=DC-FPorUW7gampfeature=related

4 Buber Martin (1971) I And Thou

5 Intercessory prayer httpwwwcochraneorgreviewsenab000368html

6 Leskowitz httpwholistichealingresearchcom42books12

7 Schlitz httpxnetkporgpermanentejournalsum05evidencepdf

copy2009byMFDayton

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 32 of 33

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Malcolm Dayton LPC Cht is a Licensed Counselor with more than two decades coaching individuals and families facing chronic illness He is also certified in MindBody Medicine and Hypnotherapy

Malcolms Coaching Self Healing program is unique in that he calls on his own lifelong journey with chronic illness (multiple sclerosis asthma immune deficiency) to assist you in accessing your unique healing solutions Very simply Malcolm walks his coaching

His coaching program is truly integral-- that is healing solutions are practical in focus and applied comprehensively incorporating all dimensions of your experience from symptoms to wellness from relations within self to social relations from the physical to spiritual--a truly ecological approach to Self Healing You learn to be FULLIVINGtrade ndash to thrive beyond chronic illness

Malcolms mission is to Coach You WELL

CONTACTMalcolm Dayton LPC CHt

email mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom

phone 970-689-4247

Yes Malcolm Im ready to discover

the benefits of Self Healing Coaching NOW

Sign me up now for myCOMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION

Be Well And THRIVE Beyond Chronic Illness Now

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 33 of 33

Page 16: Thriving Beyond Chronic Illness:  Shared-Intentional-Healing Praxis

ldquoHEALINGrdquo (beyond ldquobeing curedrdquo)

Clearly what we intend to create during each praxis is HEALING your healing

healing for other members my healing and our healing together as one Yet do

you really know what you mean when you say ldquoI intend to healrdquo

Whenever we take time to reflect on the notion of ldquohealingrdquo typically one of the

first things that bubbles up into awareness is some hope of being ldquocuredrdquo Given

the difficulties and challenges we can face in just making it through even the

most simple of daily activities ldquocurerdquo can be so very inviting Indeed given the

opportunity who of us wouldnt want to be cured of a chronic illness And cured

NOW

Yet by seeking to ldquobe curedrdquo we can become entrenched in even more intense

challenges and symptom exacerbation How could that be What could

possibly be wrong with hoping for a cure

There is nothing wrong with hoping dreaming goal setting Indeed these

activities can provide momentum power purpose and direction to an otherwise

difficult day Yet the moment we turn our attention to ldquobeing curedrdquo our focus

immediately comes to rest on that which we desire to be ldquocured ofrdquo to ldquoget away

fromrdquo and it is here we become derailed Its like the age-old challenge to ldquonot

think of a blue elephantrdquo We must first conceive such a beast before we cannot

think about it

So too with ldquocurerdquo ndash We must first converge our attention and energies even

more intensely on the illness and the symptoms we wish to cease Clearly this

activity takes us in the opposite direction from the relief and health we are

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 16 of 33

seeking In fact it is the same process described by Cheri Huber in one of her

more remarkable books entitled That Which You Are Seeking Is Causing You To

Seek (1990) Take a moment now to think about her title in relation to ldquoThe cure

I am seeking is rdquo In short to focus on cure heightens our experience of

dis-ease

To clarify even further when we focus on such moving-away-from-activities we

have no clear vision of what it is we are moving toward Without such clarity our

odds of failing escalate exponentially Success happens only as we also move

toward clearly-defined desires and goals A simple yet powerful example is this

years 40th anniversary of the Apollo 11 moon landing Was that ldquogiant steprdquo

successful because the leaders at NASA focused energy solely on how to create

escape velocity to ldquoget away fromrdquo earth ndash or also on how to get onto the moon

Another helpful example is wanting ldquoout ofrdquo a job Im sure you know of someone

(perhaps yourself) intent on getting away from the daily grind of hisher job Yet

when she did successfully leave that employment inevitably and much too soon

the same situation landslides into the daily grind of the next job Repeating old

patterns of struggle is a very clear sign of actions based on moving-away-

from goals This is a key principle to apply to all aspects of your daily living

The reason this occurs with the get-me-outta-here script is that whatever change

may happen generally does so from ldquowithoutrdquo At best we change scenery Its

the old grass-is-greener scenario ndash which is really no change at all

The inherent problem here can be even more perilous as we see when we take a

closer look at the wording ldquobeing curedrdquo We tend to redirect our attention from

within (our source of creative power) to some force outside that causes the cure

for us (whether that be by way of a physician a healer natural substances

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 17 of 33

medications treatments or God)

On some level we tell ourselves if I could figure out what was happening to get

into this situation (ie chronic illness) I would be able to figure out how to get

out of it but (and heres the rub) since I cant I begin to believe less and less in

my innate healing power and more and more that such power must lie outside of

me ndash with an outside force greater than me (whether medical natural or

spiritual)

Please be clear on this point This is not to underplay the importance of qualified

medical professionals to your progress The same is true of the importance and

value of your spirituality and relation-with God Source Higher Power The point

to take away here is that you can only access the benefits of such healing

relations when YOU are first centered and strong in your own being ndash when you

approach your Self as a sacred Thou

Therefore in the situation where you reflexively turn over your power to heal (to

an outside agent) understand the ensuing damage you risk to your sense of Self

Not only are you diminishing belief in your inherent strength and healing power

you are also at risk of allowing others to determine what is best for your well-

being (perhaps even against your deeper intuitive knowing) all of which only

serves to further undermine Self-esteem and the tremendous power that comes

from believing in your Self

Even our religious upbringing can paradoxically weaken our beliefs regarding the

possibility of cure We learn at a deep level that ldquocurerdquo lies only in the realm of

the miraculous Such an orientation can weaken belief in the possibility of ldquome

being cured nowrdquo In fact when being completely honest many of us feel the

odds of ldquome being cured nowrdquo are as slim or slimmer than winning a million dollar

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 18 of 33

lottery And when it does not happen were faced with the more daunting issue

of how I must somehow be ldquoflawedrdquo Clearly such underlying attitudes provide

no foundation on which to construct change much less the dramatic change

required with the desire to ldquobe curedrdquo [Here I recommend another Huber book

There Is Nothing Wrong with You Going Beyond Self-Hate (2001)]

In the end when focused on ldquobeing curedrdquo you may not only become separate

from your innate healing power within but you risk the ultimate medical

mistreatment becoming an object to be worked-on mechanically From here it

can be a rapid slide into the role of ldquovictimrdquo whereby you relinquish your

responsibility for choosing altogether (ie intending-to-create) how it is you truly

desire to be In short you risk losing the creative power of intention required to

give birth to healing

By the mid eighties I had been on daily prednisone for over a decade to control

severe bouts of status asthmaticus and recurrent pneumonia Because the

deleterious side-effects of prednisone included adrenal insufficiency (an impaired

stress response) I knew in my heart-of-hearts one key to my well-being lay in

recovering my atrophied stress axis by discontinuing daily prednisone For years

I pleaded with my pulmonary specialist to assist me in tapering off and relearning

how to live prednisone-free Together we did make a few unsuccessful attempts

only to recycle back into another respiratory infection and still higher doses of

prednisone By this time his posture was that I needed to remain on daily

prednisone ldquofor the rest of my liferdquo My posture was to fire him

Fortunately and in short-order I began working with an internist who over the

next two years laid out a plan to become prednisone-free ndash which we did

together successfully Two significant points must be clearly recognized here

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 19 of 33

1 You must believe in your innate healing power and if you do not

currently this then becomes your launch pad for your healing journey ndash

relearning to empower your Self to heal

2 You are not in this alone You require the good works of others in

alignment with you to successfully heal As such you need to be very

selective in picking those others with whom you relate to enhance your

medical well-being

If you are feeling your medical support is sapping your power and authority

they probably are but you dont throw the baby out with the bath This is

not about releasing physicians this is about being in a healing

relationship-with your medical professional(s) of choice

Additional cultural biases arise with a focus on ldquocurerdquo Any true change with

regard to chronic illness implies a change ldquofor the betterrdquo That requires us to

believe with certainty that such change can and will bring improvement After

more than fifteen years working with individuals with chronic illness (including

my Self) it is the rare individual Ive encountered who truly believes (from the

core) ldquoI will be curedrdquo We wish for cure certainly but believing with certainty ldquoI

will be curedrdquo rarely

An origin of not believing in ldquobeing curedrdquo lies in the way we traditionally use the

term One problem in particular is that ldquocurerdquo is not a ldquonowrdquo concept -- that is

something I trust to experience now rather we tend to use ldquocurerdquo in a future-

oriented manner of hoping-for-something-to-happen or (at-best) asking-for

maybe praying for cure to happen Yet it is not in the future that you and I

create anything and this is particularly relevant to healing We only create in

the NOW

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 20 of 33

Finally even greater issues arise when we attempt to determine precisely what

we mean by the term ldquocurerdquo As one example are you cured when there is ldquoan

end to the disease processrdquo or could that be ldquoremissionrdquo

Does ldquocurerdquo mean a ldquoreturn to full functioningrdquo (ie as I was before the process

started) Is that even possible Consider the case of a disease process that has

already resulted in disfigurement or amputation What does ldquocurerdquo mean in those

situations

Does ldquocurerdquo mean ldquosymptoms are gonerdquo If so are we then cured when

medications relieve or mask the symptoms altogether Do you understand the

quagmire here

It is for all these reasons above that few people are ever truly ldquocuredrdquo of

anything even if we do allow for those who have experienced ldquomiracle curesrdquo

(which are certainly the exception not the norm) Yet when you and I consider

ldquomy situation nowrdquo we need to have the strength of certainty that improvement

is not only possible but immanent

So if not ldquocurerdquo then what You already know the answer And the answer is

ldquohealingrdquo In the end if ldquocurerdquo is anything it is a future-oriented

disempowering mechanical phenomenon at the physical level In contrast

ldquohealingrdquo is an ongoing process (in this moment) of whole-Self transformation

Consider when we truly and proactively ldquohealrdquo we are creating (now) from the

very depths of our core within We are intending-to-create with all the intensity

and power of commitment passion and agape that arises in creative

transformation It is this innate source of inner power to which we must first

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 21 of 33

return ldquoas little childrenrdquo in order to initiate healing

We mask nothing when healing now rather we take an active and response-able

role in bringing peace joy and love directly into our daily lives and the lives of

those we touch NOW this moment and in as many moments as we allow

It is from this strong shared intentional healing foundation that we live with the

most power any human being can possibly experience in alignment with in I-

Thou relation-with in the selfless Love that is the very Source of all creation

This process of transformational healing envelops and extends beyond cure at any

level and unlike ldquocurerdquo it is not some static condition at which we arrive (by

the grace of some outside benevolent authority) Rather such transformational

healing is an ongoing process of BEING-a-certain-way in strength in power

in wisdom in loving relation-with (not only Self but Source God Higher Power)

Let this loving empowered healing be the deep transformation you intend ndash your

moment-to-moment empowered healing transformation from core within

ldquoPRAXISrdquo

We finally come to the term PRAXIS Clients often ask why I use ldquopraxisrdquo rather

than something more familiar like ldquopracticerdquo or ldquoexerciserdquo My answer is very

simple and straight-forward

First we can quickly dispense with the term ldquoexerciserdquo Do you really want to

ldquoexerciserdquo intentional healing each day ndash or would you rather just skip having to

exercise any more than you already know you need to do Enough said

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 22 of 33

Now imagine I invite you to ldquoplease make sure and practice your intentional

healing each dayrdquo How do you feel then For me it brings up that I must not

be very good at it especially if I need to be practicing every day

Consider now how you feel when I invite you to ldquoskillfully applyrdquo the intentional

healing process in comfort Doesnt ldquoskillful applicationrdquo feel much more

empowering than ldquopracticingrdquo Since ldquopraxisrdquo means ldquoskillful applicationrdquo isnt it

much more inviting to approach your intentional healing sessions with skill

And you will as you become more comfortable applying the process each day

Other folks also ask if shared-intentional-healingtrade wouldnt be better considered

an ldquoexperimentrdquo much like Lynn McTaggarts The Intention Experiment (2007) I

can see how the notion of an ldquoexperimentrdquo carries with it some sense of intrigue

but ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately represent the experience that is shared-

intentional-healingtrade

First (as we learned in our discussion of ldquointentionalrdquo above) when we participate

in Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade we are as a matter-of-fact intending-to-create

healing Such activity cannot be an ldquoexperimentrdquo or we lose the certainty

required for healing change Rather we set out to generate an experience-of-

relating that is powered by being committed empassioned and selflessly loving

You can likely identify such a committed passionate selflessly loving experience

from some time in your life ndash whether in love among family through an

impassioned hobby in seeking some goal or perhaps spiritually As you already

know such an experience is not something we wish-for or hope-for or need to

wait and see what happens It is simply a loving relating-with experience we

already know how to have We just be it and do it

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 23 of 33

Moreover (as I suggested above) there is palpable transformation that occurs

within each of us as we gain comfort participating in shared-intentional-healingtrade

This transformational experience happens through your participation and it will

happen for you ndash no need to experiment just simply participate

Moreover at the heart of it the notion of ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately reflect

the research to date on ldquointentionrdquo and ldquohealingrdquo As an example a 1997 review

of research on ldquoIntercessory Prayer for the Alleviation of Ill Healthrdquo by Roberts

Ahmed Hall amp Davison reports individual studies suggest a positive effect of

intercessory prayer But since they viewed other reports in which the results

were equivocal they conclude no ldquo further trials of this intervention should be

takenrdquo5

Regrettably they miss the point The fact that studies DO exist reporting a

positive correlation between intercessory prayer and the alleviation of ill health is

precisely the reason more studies should be undertaken Edison found hundreds

of approaches that were equivocal before discovering a singular lighting solution

Thank goodness he did not conclude any further trials were unnecessary before

arriving at that solution

When it comes to this uniquely intimate subject of healing Eric Leskowitz MD

(in a review of the book Healing Intention amp Energy Medicine (2002) by Wayne

Jonas MD) explains how such conflicting conclusions like Roberts etal come

about Dr Leskowitz notes when he is in discussions with his allopathic medical

colleagues regarding ldquo inexplicable phenomena like energy healing or

intercessory prayer a sort of allopathic fear reflex kicks inrdquo6 Conclusions

become tunnel-visioned and skewed against even the possibility of such

correlation existing anywhere at any time Hence no further trials

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 24 of 33

You may however verify for yourself such positively-correlated research does

indeed already exist by reviewing the studies in Jonas book (above) In

addition Marilyn Schlitz PhD provides a brief outline of just some of those

ldquopositive correlationrdquo studies that highlight the ldquointerface of science spirituality

and medicinerdquo7

If you would like an even more in-depth review I refer you to Consciousness amp

Healing Integral Approaches to Mind-Body Medicine (2005) by Schlitz Amorok

and Micozzi as well as the more recent (2008) Holistic Nursing A Handbook for Practice

5th edition by Dossey amp Keegan

In sum although experimental research has certainly not provided the final

answers on the relation between intention and healing the research to date is

most certainly beyond the ldquoequivocalrdquo suggested by those reflexively reacting

from allopathic fear Those studies completed to date which do display a positive

correlation between intention and healing are already providing a strong practical

foundation of powerful techniques and approaches that go far beyond

ldquoexperimentingrdquo and straight to the heart of skillful-application in daily living

Shared-Intentional-Healingrdquotrade is just one such approach you may access today

and everyday simply by participating in your daily praxis

With the above foundation in mind we can now move on to

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PRAXIS GUIDELINES

Having considered in some depth the foundation on which this method rests we

may now turn to the guidelines describing ldquohow tordquo participate in your daily

Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis

Before you approach your first intentional session please read through the

description and suggestions below Remember these opportunities are for YOU

to BENEFIT YOU Again there is no right way nor wrong way for you to

participate You simply participate in your own best way Therefore as noted

previously the description below is solely meant as a guided outline to assist you

in jump-starting your participation ndash sharing with you some ideas that have

already worked well for others in our Community

For this to be beneficial for everyone please do your best to allot at least 5 to

15 minutes for each intentional session If you are already seasoned at

sitting in quiet you certainly may choose to go longer (eg 30) and you can

trust there are other CYSH members continuing in synchrony with you

To start out let your sessions be for shorter periods of time You will experience

a natural increase in length of participation without having to think about it or

plan for it This is not a race nor a test of endurance This is a nourishing of

Self and a cultivation of your best healing intentions Be gentle

In the beginning it can also be helpful if you imagine sending out your healing

intentions in a particular direction around the globe and returning to you from

the opposite direction This way as you imagine can assist you in creating a

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 26 of 33

ldquoflowrdquo with regard to directing intentional healing to all others around the globe

As you become more adept you will very naturally be able to generate healing

images radiating from your whole being equally in all directions You will

become aware there is no particular ldquoupdownrdquo in space-time There is just

ldquoeverywhere hererdquo that is always at the center of the universe ndash as you are at all

times and as is each member

Finally please know you may also invite your friends and loved ones to share

with you in these sessions If they cannot participate with you ask them (at

minimum) to set their healing intention for you and send it like a gift to you each

day This can be helpful to them as well knowing they are actively supporting

you with their selfless loving healing

So let us begin with a session description I have broken it down into 8 separate

action steps below

1 First make time to just sit and be comfortable (nothing ldquoto dordquo now)

Loosen any tight clothing

2 Begin breathing slowly until you relax into a comfortable natural pace

This is a time for gentleness Simply allow experience to happen and

follow experience moment-to-moment as you proceed

3 Slowly scan your entire being from head to toes inside and out If you

notice any part of you in tension just allow it to relax naturally and

dissolve with each out-breath

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 27 of 33

Note It may take you 2 or more breathing cycles to notice the muscles in a

particular area begin to relax There are times as well when you may just

need to continue on with your scan trusting that the area will release as you

proceed Again this is time for gentle following

4 Once relaxed (as much as may be possible for now) INVITE your Self to

allow and receive healing intention and healing love

Note This may not feel natural or normal within and like a child the

knee-jerk reaction may indeed be to rebel You are merely sending an

invitation nothing more As you repeat this intentional healing invitation

each day you will soon begin to notice that you are indeed looking forward

to this opportunity

5 You are now comfortable relaxed and intentional within It is time now

to image all the other CYSH Members with whom you are sharing this

time Know they too are seeking to generate healing for your challenges

just as you are for theirs Depending on your beliefs it is here that you

may also invite connect with your source of spiritual power (God

Source Higher Power Buddha) to participate with you

6 Spend the next minutes imagining a Circle of Intentional Healing

Energy flowing into you from all the others and out from you to all

others Allow it to be easy natural like the earthrsquos flow of water

circulating from sky to earth and back to sky simply relax into this flow

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 28 of 33

Note It may help to imagine your healing intentions emanating from about

2 finger-widths behind and about 3 finger-widths below your navel This

site (known as the ldquolower dan tienrdquo or ldquoharardquo) is considered the physical

center of gravity around which you are in perfect balance

From this point you can imagine healing intention flowing up your trunk

through your neck and head and out the top of your head to the other

CYSH members

The healing intention returning to you can be experienced as coming into

you at the same center of gravity point from which you started

Important Do not attempt to localize your intentions to any one region

within (brain heart liver etc) the reason being that a given illness process

occurs across and between physiological systems (even though we may talk

as if it is isolated to one system) It is best to imagine your entire Self

within a cocoon or bubble of flowing healing intention ndash everywhere within

you at once You may experience color warmth safety Luxuriate in your

experience Enjoy the moment

During this intentional time it can also be helpful on a given inout cycle of

breath to silently express I send out Loving Healing On the next

inout cycle silently express I receive Loving Healing and so on

In addition if your mind wanders off task (amp it will) just gently return to

the flow of loving healing intention Remember this experience is all about

being gentle Enjoy the process

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 29 of 33

Continue in this state for as long as you desire and is easy comfortable

and natural With practice your will naturally be at ease for longer

periods of time during each session

7 When complete express gratitude to your Self as well as to all others

sharing in this moment with you Sit in this experience of gratitude for a

few moments

8 Savor the nourishing peace you have generated

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 30 of 33

8-STEP PRAXIS REVIEW

1 SIT in comfort

2 BREATHE slowly rhythmically

3 SCAN (head to toes) to relax further still

4 INVITE SELF to allow healing intention

5 RELATE-WITH all other CYSH members amp Spiritual Power

6 SENDRECEIVE intentional healing

ldquoI send out Loving Healingrdquo ldquoI receive Loving Healingrdquo

7 Sit in GRATITUDE

8 SAVOR the nourishing peace

I genuinely look forward to your daily participation and to sharing this powerful

healing process with you I would love to hear your experiences with your praxis

Please do feel free to email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom)

My mission is to Coach You Well

Sincerely amp Caringly

MALCOLM

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 31 of 33

REFERENCES

1 Chopra Deepak (1994) The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success ndash A Practical Guide to

the Fulfillment of Your Dreams p76

2 Chopra Deepak (1999) A Deepak Chopra Companion Illuminations on Health and

Human Consciousness p94

3 Dyer httpwwwyoutubecomwatchv=DC-FPorUW7gampfeature=related

4 Buber Martin (1971) I And Thou

5 Intercessory prayer httpwwwcochraneorgreviewsenab000368html

6 Leskowitz httpwholistichealingresearchcom42books12

7 Schlitz httpxnetkporgpermanentejournalsum05evidencepdf

copy2009byMFDayton

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 32 of 33

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Malcolm Dayton LPC Cht is a Licensed Counselor with more than two decades coaching individuals and families facing chronic illness He is also certified in MindBody Medicine and Hypnotherapy

Malcolms Coaching Self Healing program is unique in that he calls on his own lifelong journey with chronic illness (multiple sclerosis asthma immune deficiency) to assist you in accessing your unique healing solutions Very simply Malcolm walks his coaching

His coaching program is truly integral-- that is healing solutions are practical in focus and applied comprehensively incorporating all dimensions of your experience from symptoms to wellness from relations within self to social relations from the physical to spiritual--a truly ecological approach to Self Healing You learn to be FULLIVINGtrade ndash to thrive beyond chronic illness

Malcolms mission is to Coach You WELL

CONTACTMalcolm Dayton LPC CHt

email mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom

phone 970-689-4247

Yes Malcolm Im ready to discover

the benefits of Self Healing Coaching NOW

Sign me up now for myCOMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION

Be Well And THRIVE Beyond Chronic Illness Now

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 33 of 33

Page 17: Thriving Beyond Chronic Illness:  Shared-Intentional-Healing Praxis

seeking In fact it is the same process described by Cheri Huber in one of her

more remarkable books entitled That Which You Are Seeking Is Causing You To

Seek (1990) Take a moment now to think about her title in relation to ldquoThe cure

I am seeking is rdquo In short to focus on cure heightens our experience of

dis-ease

To clarify even further when we focus on such moving-away-from-activities we

have no clear vision of what it is we are moving toward Without such clarity our

odds of failing escalate exponentially Success happens only as we also move

toward clearly-defined desires and goals A simple yet powerful example is this

years 40th anniversary of the Apollo 11 moon landing Was that ldquogiant steprdquo

successful because the leaders at NASA focused energy solely on how to create

escape velocity to ldquoget away fromrdquo earth ndash or also on how to get onto the moon

Another helpful example is wanting ldquoout ofrdquo a job Im sure you know of someone

(perhaps yourself) intent on getting away from the daily grind of hisher job Yet

when she did successfully leave that employment inevitably and much too soon

the same situation landslides into the daily grind of the next job Repeating old

patterns of struggle is a very clear sign of actions based on moving-away-

from goals This is a key principle to apply to all aspects of your daily living

The reason this occurs with the get-me-outta-here script is that whatever change

may happen generally does so from ldquowithoutrdquo At best we change scenery Its

the old grass-is-greener scenario ndash which is really no change at all

The inherent problem here can be even more perilous as we see when we take a

closer look at the wording ldquobeing curedrdquo We tend to redirect our attention from

within (our source of creative power) to some force outside that causes the cure

for us (whether that be by way of a physician a healer natural substances

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 17 of 33

medications treatments or God)

On some level we tell ourselves if I could figure out what was happening to get

into this situation (ie chronic illness) I would be able to figure out how to get

out of it but (and heres the rub) since I cant I begin to believe less and less in

my innate healing power and more and more that such power must lie outside of

me ndash with an outside force greater than me (whether medical natural or

spiritual)

Please be clear on this point This is not to underplay the importance of qualified

medical professionals to your progress The same is true of the importance and

value of your spirituality and relation-with God Source Higher Power The point

to take away here is that you can only access the benefits of such healing

relations when YOU are first centered and strong in your own being ndash when you

approach your Self as a sacred Thou

Therefore in the situation where you reflexively turn over your power to heal (to

an outside agent) understand the ensuing damage you risk to your sense of Self

Not only are you diminishing belief in your inherent strength and healing power

you are also at risk of allowing others to determine what is best for your well-

being (perhaps even against your deeper intuitive knowing) all of which only

serves to further undermine Self-esteem and the tremendous power that comes

from believing in your Self

Even our religious upbringing can paradoxically weaken our beliefs regarding the

possibility of cure We learn at a deep level that ldquocurerdquo lies only in the realm of

the miraculous Such an orientation can weaken belief in the possibility of ldquome

being cured nowrdquo In fact when being completely honest many of us feel the

odds of ldquome being cured nowrdquo are as slim or slimmer than winning a million dollar

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 18 of 33

lottery And when it does not happen were faced with the more daunting issue

of how I must somehow be ldquoflawedrdquo Clearly such underlying attitudes provide

no foundation on which to construct change much less the dramatic change

required with the desire to ldquobe curedrdquo [Here I recommend another Huber book

There Is Nothing Wrong with You Going Beyond Self-Hate (2001)]

In the end when focused on ldquobeing curedrdquo you may not only become separate

from your innate healing power within but you risk the ultimate medical

mistreatment becoming an object to be worked-on mechanically From here it

can be a rapid slide into the role of ldquovictimrdquo whereby you relinquish your

responsibility for choosing altogether (ie intending-to-create) how it is you truly

desire to be In short you risk losing the creative power of intention required to

give birth to healing

By the mid eighties I had been on daily prednisone for over a decade to control

severe bouts of status asthmaticus and recurrent pneumonia Because the

deleterious side-effects of prednisone included adrenal insufficiency (an impaired

stress response) I knew in my heart-of-hearts one key to my well-being lay in

recovering my atrophied stress axis by discontinuing daily prednisone For years

I pleaded with my pulmonary specialist to assist me in tapering off and relearning

how to live prednisone-free Together we did make a few unsuccessful attempts

only to recycle back into another respiratory infection and still higher doses of

prednisone By this time his posture was that I needed to remain on daily

prednisone ldquofor the rest of my liferdquo My posture was to fire him

Fortunately and in short-order I began working with an internist who over the

next two years laid out a plan to become prednisone-free ndash which we did

together successfully Two significant points must be clearly recognized here

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 19 of 33

1 You must believe in your innate healing power and if you do not

currently this then becomes your launch pad for your healing journey ndash

relearning to empower your Self to heal

2 You are not in this alone You require the good works of others in

alignment with you to successfully heal As such you need to be very

selective in picking those others with whom you relate to enhance your

medical well-being

If you are feeling your medical support is sapping your power and authority

they probably are but you dont throw the baby out with the bath This is

not about releasing physicians this is about being in a healing

relationship-with your medical professional(s) of choice

Additional cultural biases arise with a focus on ldquocurerdquo Any true change with

regard to chronic illness implies a change ldquofor the betterrdquo That requires us to

believe with certainty that such change can and will bring improvement After

more than fifteen years working with individuals with chronic illness (including

my Self) it is the rare individual Ive encountered who truly believes (from the

core) ldquoI will be curedrdquo We wish for cure certainly but believing with certainty ldquoI

will be curedrdquo rarely

An origin of not believing in ldquobeing curedrdquo lies in the way we traditionally use the

term One problem in particular is that ldquocurerdquo is not a ldquonowrdquo concept -- that is

something I trust to experience now rather we tend to use ldquocurerdquo in a future-

oriented manner of hoping-for-something-to-happen or (at-best) asking-for

maybe praying for cure to happen Yet it is not in the future that you and I

create anything and this is particularly relevant to healing We only create in

the NOW

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 20 of 33

Finally even greater issues arise when we attempt to determine precisely what

we mean by the term ldquocurerdquo As one example are you cured when there is ldquoan

end to the disease processrdquo or could that be ldquoremissionrdquo

Does ldquocurerdquo mean a ldquoreturn to full functioningrdquo (ie as I was before the process

started) Is that even possible Consider the case of a disease process that has

already resulted in disfigurement or amputation What does ldquocurerdquo mean in those

situations

Does ldquocurerdquo mean ldquosymptoms are gonerdquo If so are we then cured when

medications relieve or mask the symptoms altogether Do you understand the

quagmire here

It is for all these reasons above that few people are ever truly ldquocuredrdquo of

anything even if we do allow for those who have experienced ldquomiracle curesrdquo

(which are certainly the exception not the norm) Yet when you and I consider

ldquomy situation nowrdquo we need to have the strength of certainty that improvement

is not only possible but immanent

So if not ldquocurerdquo then what You already know the answer And the answer is

ldquohealingrdquo In the end if ldquocurerdquo is anything it is a future-oriented

disempowering mechanical phenomenon at the physical level In contrast

ldquohealingrdquo is an ongoing process (in this moment) of whole-Self transformation

Consider when we truly and proactively ldquohealrdquo we are creating (now) from the

very depths of our core within We are intending-to-create with all the intensity

and power of commitment passion and agape that arises in creative

transformation It is this innate source of inner power to which we must first

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 21 of 33

return ldquoas little childrenrdquo in order to initiate healing

We mask nothing when healing now rather we take an active and response-able

role in bringing peace joy and love directly into our daily lives and the lives of

those we touch NOW this moment and in as many moments as we allow

It is from this strong shared intentional healing foundation that we live with the

most power any human being can possibly experience in alignment with in I-

Thou relation-with in the selfless Love that is the very Source of all creation

This process of transformational healing envelops and extends beyond cure at any

level and unlike ldquocurerdquo it is not some static condition at which we arrive (by

the grace of some outside benevolent authority) Rather such transformational

healing is an ongoing process of BEING-a-certain-way in strength in power

in wisdom in loving relation-with (not only Self but Source God Higher Power)

Let this loving empowered healing be the deep transformation you intend ndash your

moment-to-moment empowered healing transformation from core within

ldquoPRAXISrdquo

We finally come to the term PRAXIS Clients often ask why I use ldquopraxisrdquo rather

than something more familiar like ldquopracticerdquo or ldquoexerciserdquo My answer is very

simple and straight-forward

First we can quickly dispense with the term ldquoexerciserdquo Do you really want to

ldquoexerciserdquo intentional healing each day ndash or would you rather just skip having to

exercise any more than you already know you need to do Enough said

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 22 of 33

Now imagine I invite you to ldquoplease make sure and practice your intentional

healing each dayrdquo How do you feel then For me it brings up that I must not

be very good at it especially if I need to be practicing every day

Consider now how you feel when I invite you to ldquoskillfully applyrdquo the intentional

healing process in comfort Doesnt ldquoskillful applicationrdquo feel much more

empowering than ldquopracticingrdquo Since ldquopraxisrdquo means ldquoskillful applicationrdquo isnt it

much more inviting to approach your intentional healing sessions with skill

And you will as you become more comfortable applying the process each day

Other folks also ask if shared-intentional-healingtrade wouldnt be better considered

an ldquoexperimentrdquo much like Lynn McTaggarts The Intention Experiment (2007) I

can see how the notion of an ldquoexperimentrdquo carries with it some sense of intrigue

but ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately represent the experience that is shared-

intentional-healingtrade

First (as we learned in our discussion of ldquointentionalrdquo above) when we participate

in Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade we are as a matter-of-fact intending-to-create

healing Such activity cannot be an ldquoexperimentrdquo or we lose the certainty

required for healing change Rather we set out to generate an experience-of-

relating that is powered by being committed empassioned and selflessly loving

You can likely identify such a committed passionate selflessly loving experience

from some time in your life ndash whether in love among family through an

impassioned hobby in seeking some goal or perhaps spiritually As you already

know such an experience is not something we wish-for or hope-for or need to

wait and see what happens It is simply a loving relating-with experience we

already know how to have We just be it and do it

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 23 of 33

Moreover (as I suggested above) there is palpable transformation that occurs

within each of us as we gain comfort participating in shared-intentional-healingtrade

This transformational experience happens through your participation and it will

happen for you ndash no need to experiment just simply participate

Moreover at the heart of it the notion of ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately reflect

the research to date on ldquointentionrdquo and ldquohealingrdquo As an example a 1997 review

of research on ldquoIntercessory Prayer for the Alleviation of Ill Healthrdquo by Roberts

Ahmed Hall amp Davison reports individual studies suggest a positive effect of

intercessory prayer But since they viewed other reports in which the results

were equivocal they conclude no ldquo further trials of this intervention should be

takenrdquo5

Regrettably they miss the point The fact that studies DO exist reporting a

positive correlation between intercessory prayer and the alleviation of ill health is

precisely the reason more studies should be undertaken Edison found hundreds

of approaches that were equivocal before discovering a singular lighting solution

Thank goodness he did not conclude any further trials were unnecessary before

arriving at that solution

When it comes to this uniquely intimate subject of healing Eric Leskowitz MD

(in a review of the book Healing Intention amp Energy Medicine (2002) by Wayne

Jonas MD) explains how such conflicting conclusions like Roberts etal come

about Dr Leskowitz notes when he is in discussions with his allopathic medical

colleagues regarding ldquo inexplicable phenomena like energy healing or

intercessory prayer a sort of allopathic fear reflex kicks inrdquo6 Conclusions

become tunnel-visioned and skewed against even the possibility of such

correlation existing anywhere at any time Hence no further trials

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 24 of 33

You may however verify for yourself such positively-correlated research does

indeed already exist by reviewing the studies in Jonas book (above) In

addition Marilyn Schlitz PhD provides a brief outline of just some of those

ldquopositive correlationrdquo studies that highlight the ldquointerface of science spirituality

and medicinerdquo7

If you would like an even more in-depth review I refer you to Consciousness amp

Healing Integral Approaches to Mind-Body Medicine (2005) by Schlitz Amorok

and Micozzi as well as the more recent (2008) Holistic Nursing A Handbook for Practice

5th edition by Dossey amp Keegan

In sum although experimental research has certainly not provided the final

answers on the relation between intention and healing the research to date is

most certainly beyond the ldquoequivocalrdquo suggested by those reflexively reacting

from allopathic fear Those studies completed to date which do display a positive

correlation between intention and healing are already providing a strong practical

foundation of powerful techniques and approaches that go far beyond

ldquoexperimentingrdquo and straight to the heart of skillful-application in daily living

Shared-Intentional-Healingrdquotrade is just one such approach you may access today

and everyday simply by participating in your daily praxis

With the above foundation in mind we can now move on to

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 25 of 33

PRAXIS GUIDELINES

Having considered in some depth the foundation on which this method rests we

may now turn to the guidelines describing ldquohow tordquo participate in your daily

Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis

Before you approach your first intentional session please read through the

description and suggestions below Remember these opportunities are for YOU

to BENEFIT YOU Again there is no right way nor wrong way for you to

participate You simply participate in your own best way Therefore as noted

previously the description below is solely meant as a guided outline to assist you

in jump-starting your participation ndash sharing with you some ideas that have

already worked well for others in our Community

For this to be beneficial for everyone please do your best to allot at least 5 to

15 minutes for each intentional session If you are already seasoned at

sitting in quiet you certainly may choose to go longer (eg 30) and you can

trust there are other CYSH members continuing in synchrony with you

To start out let your sessions be for shorter periods of time You will experience

a natural increase in length of participation without having to think about it or

plan for it This is not a race nor a test of endurance This is a nourishing of

Self and a cultivation of your best healing intentions Be gentle

In the beginning it can also be helpful if you imagine sending out your healing

intentions in a particular direction around the globe and returning to you from

the opposite direction This way as you imagine can assist you in creating a

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 26 of 33

ldquoflowrdquo with regard to directing intentional healing to all others around the globe

As you become more adept you will very naturally be able to generate healing

images radiating from your whole being equally in all directions You will

become aware there is no particular ldquoupdownrdquo in space-time There is just

ldquoeverywhere hererdquo that is always at the center of the universe ndash as you are at all

times and as is each member

Finally please know you may also invite your friends and loved ones to share

with you in these sessions If they cannot participate with you ask them (at

minimum) to set their healing intention for you and send it like a gift to you each

day This can be helpful to them as well knowing they are actively supporting

you with their selfless loving healing

So let us begin with a session description I have broken it down into 8 separate

action steps below

1 First make time to just sit and be comfortable (nothing ldquoto dordquo now)

Loosen any tight clothing

2 Begin breathing slowly until you relax into a comfortable natural pace

This is a time for gentleness Simply allow experience to happen and

follow experience moment-to-moment as you proceed

3 Slowly scan your entire being from head to toes inside and out If you

notice any part of you in tension just allow it to relax naturally and

dissolve with each out-breath

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 27 of 33

Note It may take you 2 or more breathing cycles to notice the muscles in a

particular area begin to relax There are times as well when you may just

need to continue on with your scan trusting that the area will release as you

proceed Again this is time for gentle following

4 Once relaxed (as much as may be possible for now) INVITE your Self to

allow and receive healing intention and healing love

Note This may not feel natural or normal within and like a child the

knee-jerk reaction may indeed be to rebel You are merely sending an

invitation nothing more As you repeat this intentional healing invitation

each day you will soon begin to notice that you are indeed looking forward

to this opportunity

5 You are now comfortable relaxed and intentional within It is time now

to image all the other CYSH Members with whom you are sharing this

time Know they too are seeking to generate healing for your challenges

just as you are for theirs Depending on your beliefs it is here that you

may also invite connect with your source of spiritual power (God

Source Higher Power Buddha) to participate with you

6 Spend the next minutes imagining a Circle of Intentional Healing

Energy flowing into you from all the others and out from you to all

others Allow it to be easy natural like the earthrsquos flow of water

circulating from sky to earth and back to sky simply relax into this flow

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 28 of 33

Note It may help to imagine your healing intentions emanating from about

2 finger-widths behind and about 3 finger-widths below your navel This

site (known as the ldquolower dan tienrdquo or ldquoharardquo) is considered the physical

center of gravity around which you are in perfect balance

From this point you can imagine healing intention flowing up your trunk

through your neck and head and out the top of your head to the other

CYSH members

The healing intention returning to you can be experienced as coming into

you at the same center of gravity point from which you started

Important Do not attempt to localize your intentions to any one region

within (brain heart liver etc) the reason being that a given illness process

occurs across and between physiological systems (even though we may talk

as if it is isolated to one system) It is best to imagine your entire Self

within a cocoon or bubble of flowing healing intention ndash everywhere within

you at once You may experience color warmth safety Luxuriate in your

experience Enjoy the moment

During this intentional time it can also be helpful on a given inout cycle of

breath to silently express I send out Loving Healing On the next

inout cycle silently express I receive Loving Healing and so on

In addition if your mind wanders off task (amp it will) just gently return to

the flow of loving healing intention Remember this experience is all about

being gentle Enjoy the process

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 29 of 33

Continue in this state for as long as you desire and is easy comfortable

and natural With practice your will naturally be at ease for longer

periods of time during each session

7 When complete express gratitude to your Self as well as to all others

sharing in this moment with you Sit in this experience of gratitude for a

few moments

8 Savor the nourishing peace you have generated

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 30 of 33

8-STEP PRAXIS REVIEW

1 SIT in comfort

2 BREATHE slowly rhythmically

3 SCAN (head to toes) to relax further still

4 INVITE SELF to allow healing intention

5 RELATE-WITH all other CYSH members amp Spiritual Power

6 SENDRECEIVE intentional healing

ldquoI send out Loving Healingrdquo ldquoI receive Loving Healingrdquo

7 Sit in GRATITUDE

8 SAVOR the nourishing peace

I genuinely look forward to your daily participation and to sharing this powerful

healing process with you I would love to hear your experiences with your praxis

Please do feel free to email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom)

My mission is to Coach You Well

Sincerely amp Caringly

MALCOLM

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 31 of 33

REFERENCES

1 Chopra Deepak (1994) The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success ndash A Practical Guide to

the Fulfillment of Your Dreams p76

2 Chopra Deepak (1999) A Deepak Chopra Companion Illuminations on Health and

Human Consciousness p94

3 Dyer httpwwwyoutubecomwatchv=DC-FPorUW7gampfeature=related

4 Buber Martin (1971) I And Thou

5 Intercessory prayer httpwwwcochraneorgreviewsenab000368html

6 Leskowitz httpwholistichealingresearchcom42books12

7 Schlitz httpxnetkporgpermanentejournalsum05evidencepdf

copy2009byMFDayton

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 32 of 33

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Malcolm Dayton LPC Cht is a Licensed Counselor with more than two decades coaching individuals and families facing chronic illness He is also certified in MindBody Medicine and Hypnotherapy

Malcolms Coaching Self Healing program is unique in that he calls on his own lifelong journey with chronic illness (multiple sclerosis asthma immune deficiency) to assist you in accessing your unique healing solutions Very simply Malcolm walks his coaching

His coaching program is truly integral-- that is healing solutions are practical in focus and applied comprehensively incorporating all dimensions of your experience from symptoms to wellness from relations within self to social relations from the physical to spiritual--a truly ecological approach to Self Healing You learn to be FULLIVINGtrade ndash to thrive beyond chronic illness

Malcolms mission is to Coach You WELL

CONTACTMalcolm Dayton LPC CHt

email mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom

phone 970-689-4247

Yes Malcolm Im ready to discover

the benefits of Self Healing Coaching NOW

Sign me up now for myCOMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION

Be Well And THRIVE Beyond Chronic Illness Now

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 33 of 33

Page 18: Thriving Beyond Chronic Illness:  Shared-Intentional-Healing Praxis

medications treatments or God)

On some level we tell ourselves if I could figure out what was happening to get

into this situation (ie chronic illness) I would be able to figure out how to get

out of it but (and heres the rub) since I cant I begin to believe less and less in

my innate healing power and more and more that such power must lie outside of

me ndash with an outside force greater than me (whether medical natural or

spiritual)

Please be clear on this point This is not to underplay the importance of qualified

medical professionals to your progress The same is true of the importance and

value of your spirituality and relation-with God Source Higher Power The point

to take away here is that you can only access the benefits of such healing

relations when YOU are first centered and strong in your own being ndash when you

approach your Self as a sacred Thou

Therefore in the situation where you reflexively turn over your power to heal (to

an outside agent) understand the ensuing damage you risk to your sense of Self

Not only are you diminishing belief in your inherent strength and healing power

you are also at risk of allowing others to determine what is best for your well-

being (perhaps even against your deeper intuitive knowing) all of which only

serves to further undermine Self-esteem and the tremendous power that comes

from believing in your Self

Even our religious upbringing can paradoxically weaken our beliefs regarding the

possibility of cure We learn at a deep level that ldquocurerdquo lies only in the realm of

the miraculous Such an orientation can weaken belief in the possibility of ldquome

being cured nowrdquo In fact when being completely honest many of us feel the

odds of ldquome being cured nowrdquo are as slim or slimmer than winning a million dollar

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 18 of 33

lottery And when it does not happen were faced with the more daunting issue

of how I must somehow be ldquoflawedrdquo Clearly such underlying attitudes provide

no foundation on which to construct change much less the dramatic change

required with the desire to ldquobe curedrdquo [Here I recommend another Huber book

There Is Nothing Wrong with You Going Beyond Self-Hate (2001)]

In the end when focused on ldquobeing curedrdquo you may not only become separate

from your innate healing power within but you risk the ultimate medical

mistreatment becoming an object to be worked-on mechanically From here it

can be a rapid slide into the role of ldquovictimrdquo whereby you relinquish your

responsibility for choosing altogether (ie intending-to-create) how it is you truly

desire to be In short you risk losing the creative power of intention required to

give birth to healing

By the mid eighties I had been on daily prednisone for over a decade to control

severe bouts of status asthmaticus and recurrent pneumonia Because the

deleterious side-effects of prednisone included adrenal insufficiency (an impaired

stress response) I knew in my heart-of-hearts one key to my well-being lay in

recovering my atrophied stress axis by discontinuing daily prednisone For years

I pleaded with my pulmonary specialist to assist me in tapering off and relearning

how to live prednisone-free Together we did make a few unsuccessful attempts

only to recycle back into another respiratory infection and still higher doses of

prednisone By this time his posture was that I needed to remain on daily

prednisone ldquofor the rest of my liferdquo My posture was to fire him

Fortunately and in short-order I began working with an internist who over the

next two years laid out a plan to become prednisone-free ndash which we did

together successfully Two significant points must be clearly recognized here

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 19 of 33

1 You must believe in your innate healing power and if you do not

currently this then becomes your launch pad for your healing journey ndash

relearning to empower your Self to heal

2 You are not in this alone You require the good works of others in

alignment with you to successfully heal As such you need to be very

selective in picking those others with whom you relate to enhance your

medical well-being

If you are feeling your medical support is sapping your power and authority

they probably are but you dont throw the baby out with the bath This is

not about releasing physicians this is about being in a healing

relationship-with your medical professional(s) of choice

Additional cultural biases arise with a focus on ldquocurerdquo Any true change with

regard to chronic illness implies a change ldquofor the betterrdquo That requires us to

believe with certainty that such change can and will bring improvement After

more than fifteen years working with individuals with chronic illness (including

my Self) it is the rare individual Ive encountered who truly believes (from the

core) ldquoI will be curedrdquo We wish for cure certainly but believing with certainty ldquoI

will be curedrdquo rarely

An origin of not believing in ldquobeing curedrdquo lies in the way we traditionally use the

term One problem in particular is that ldquocurerdquo is not a ldquonowrdquo concept -- that is

something I trust to experience now rather we tend to use ldquocurerdquo in a future-

oriented manner of hoping-for-something-to-happen or (at-best) asking-for

maybe praying for cure to happen Yet it is not in the future that you and I

create anything and this is particularly relevant to healing We only create in

the NOW

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 20 of 33

Finally even greater issues arise when we attempt to determine precisely what

we mean by the term ldquocurerdquo As one example are you cured when there is ldquoan

end to the disease processrdquo or could that be ldquoremissionrdquo

Does ldquocurerdquo mean a ldquoreturn to full functioningrdquo (ie as I was before the process

started) Is that even possible Consider the case of a disease process that has

already resulted in disfigurement or amputation What does ldquocurerdquo mean in those

situations

Does ldquocurerdquo mean ldquosymptoms are gonerdquo If so are we then cured when

medications relieve or mask the symptoms altogether Do you understand the

quagmire here

It is for all these reasons above that few people are ever truly ldquocuredrdquo of

anything even if we do allow for those who have experienced ldquomiracle curesrdquo

(which are certainly the exception not the norm) Yet when you and I consider

ldquomy situation nowrdquo we need to have the strength of certainty that improvement

is not only possible but immanent

So if not ldquocurerdquo then what You already know the answer And the answer is

ldquohealingrdquo In the end if ldquocurerdquo is anything it is a future-oriented

disempowering mechanical phenomenon at the physical level In contrast

ldquohealingrdquo is an ongoing process (in this moment) of whole-Self transformation

Consider when we truly and proactively ldquohealrdquo we are creating (now) from the

very depths of our core within We are intending-to-create with all the intensity

and power of commitment passion and agape that arises in creative

transformation It is this innate source of inner power to which we must first

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 21 of 33

return ldquoas little childrenrdquo in order to initiate healing

We mask nothing when healing now rather we take an active and response-able

role in bringing peace joy and love directly into our daily lives and the lives of

those we touch NOW this moment and in as many moments as we allow

It is from this strong shared intentional healing foundation that we live with the

most power any human being can possibly experience in alignment with in I-

Thou relation-with in the selfless Love that is the very Source of all creation

This process of transformational healing envelops and extends beyond cure at any

level and unlike ldquocurerdquo it is not some static condition at which we arrive (by

the grace of some outside benevolent authority) Rather such transformational

healing is an ongoing process of BEING-a-certain-way in strength in power

in wisdom in loving relation-with (not only Self but Source God Higher Power)

Let this loving empowered healing be the deep transformation you intend ndash your

moment-to-moment empowered healing transformation from core within

ldquoPRAXISrdquo

We finally come to the term PRAXIS Clients often ask why I use ldquopraxisrdquo rather

than something more familiar like ldquopracticerdquo or ldquoexerciserdquo My answer is very

simple and straight-forward

First we can quickly dispense with the term ldquoexerciserdquo Do you really want to

ldquoexerciserdquo intentional healing each day ndash or would you rather just skip having to

exercise any more than you already know you need to do Enough said

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 22 of 33

Now imagine I invite you to ldquoplease make sure and practice your intentional

healing each dayrdquo How do you feel then For me it brings up that I must not

be very good at it especially if I need to be practicing every day

Consider now how you feel when I invite you to ldquoskillfully applyrdquo the intentional

healing process in comfort Doesnt ldquoskillful applicationrdquo feel much more

empowering than ldquopracticingrdquo Since ldquopraxisrdquo means ldquoskillful applicationrdquo isnt it

much more inviting to approach your intentional healing sessions with skill

And you will as you become more comfortable applying the process each day

Other folks also ask if shared-intentional-healingtrade wouldnt be better considered

an ldquoexperimentrdquo much like Lynn McTaggarts The Intention Experiment (2007) I

can see how the notion of an ldquoexperimentrdquo carries with it some sense of intrigue

but ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately represent the experience that is shared-

intentional-healingtrade

First (as we learned in our discussion of ldquointentionalrdquo above) when we participate

in Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade we are as a matter-of-fact intending-to-create

healing Such activity cannot be an ldquoexperimentrdquo or we lose the certainty

required for healing change Rather we set out to generate an experience-of-

relating that is powered by being committed empassioned and selflessly loving

You can likely identify such a committed passionate selflessly loving experience

from some time in your life ndash whether in love among family through an

impassioned hobby in seeking some goal or perhaps spiritually As you already

know such an experience is not something we wish-for or hope-for or need to

wait and see what happens It is simply a loving relating-with experience we

already know how to have We just be it and do it

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 23 of 33

Moreover (as I suggested above) there is palpable transformation that occurs

within each of us as we gain comfort participating in shared-intentional-healingtrade

This transformational experience happens through your participation and it will

happen for you ndash no need to experiment just simply participate

Moreover at the heart of it the notion of ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately reflect

the research to date on ldquointentionrdquo and ldquohealingrdquo As an example a 1997 review

of research on ldquoIntercessory Prayer for the Alleviation of Ill Healthrdquo by Roberts

Ahmed Hall amp Davison reports individual studies suggest a positive effect of

intercessory prayer But since they viewed other reports in which the results

were equivocal they conclude no ldquo further trials of this intervention should be

takenrdquo5

Regrettably they miss the point The fact that studies DO exist reporting a

positive correlation between intercessory prayer and the alleviation of ill health is

precisely the reason more studies should be undertaken Edison found hundreds

of approaches that were equivocal before discovering a singular lighting solution

Thank goodness he did not conclude any further trials were unnecessary before

arriving at that solution

When it comes to this uniquely intimate subject of healing Eric Leskowitz MD

(in a review of the book Healing Intention amp Energy Medicine (2002) by Wayne

Jonas MD) explains how such conflicting conclusions like Roberts etal come

about Dr Leskowitz notes when he is in discussions with his allopathic medical

colleagues regarding ldquo inexplicable phenomena like energy healing or

intercessory prayer a sort of allopathic fear reflex kicks inrdquo6 Conclusions

become tunnel-visioned and skewed against even the possibility of such

correlation existing anywhere at any time Hence no further trials

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 24 of 33

You may however verify for yourself such positively-correlated research does

indeed already exist by reviewing the studies in Jonas book (above) In

addition Marilyn Schlitz PhD provides a brief outline of just some of those

ldquopositive correlationrdquo studies that highlight the ldquointerface of science spirituality

and medicinerdquo7

If you would like an even more in-depth review I refer you to Consciousness amp

Healing Integral Approaches to Mind-Body Medicine (2005) by Schlitz Amorok

and Micozzi as well as the more recent (2008) Holistic Nursing A Handbook for Practice

5th edition by Dossey amp Keegan

In sum although experimental research has certainly not provided the final

answers on the relation between intention and healing the research to date is

most certainly beyond the ldquoequivocalrdquo suggested by those reflexively reacting

from allopathic fear Those studies completed to date which do display a positive

correlation between intention and healing are already providing a strong practical

foundation of powerful techniques and approaches that go far beyond

ldquoexperimentingrdquo and straight to the heart of skillful-application in daily living

Shared-Intentional-Healingrdquotrade is just one such approach you may access today

and everyday simply by participating in your daily praxis

With the above foundation in mind we can now move on to

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 25 of 33

PRAXIS GUIDELINES

Having considered in some depth the foundation on which this method rests we

may now turn to the guidelines describing ldquohow tordquo participate in your daily

Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis

Before you approach your first intentional session please read through the

description and suggestions below Remember these opportunities are for YOU

to BENEFIT YOU Again there is no right way nor wrong way for you to

participate You simply participate in your own best way Therefore as noted

previously the description below is solely meant as a guided outline to assist you

in jump-starting your participation ndash sharing with you some ideas that have

already worked well for others in our Community

For this to be beneficial for everyone please do your best to allot at least 5 to

15 minutes for each intentional session If you are already seasoned at

sitting in quiet you certainly may choose to go longer (eg 30) and you can

trust there are other CYSH members continuing in synchrony with you

To start out let your sessions be for shorter periods of time You will experience

a natural increase in length of participation without having to think about it or

plan for it This is not a race nor a test of endurance This is a nourishing of

Self and a cultivation of your best healing intentions Be gentle

In the beginning it can also be helpful if you imagine sending out your healing

intentions in a particular direction around the globe and returning to you from

the opposite direction This way as you imagine can assist you in creating a

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 26 of 33

ldquoflowrdquo with regard to directing intentional healing to all others around the globe

As you become more adept you will very naturally be able to generate healing

images radiating from your whole being equally in all directions You will

become aware there is no particular ldquoupdownrdquo in space-time There is just

ldquoeverywhere hererdquo that is always at the center of the universe ndash as you are at all

times and as is each member

Finally please know you may also invite your friends and loved ones to share

with you in these sessions If they cannot participate with you ask them (at

minimum) to set their healing intention for you and send it like a gift to you each

day This can be helpful to them as well knowing they are actively supporting

you with their selfless loving healing

So let us begin with a session description I have broken it down into 8 separate

action steps below

1 First make time to just sit and be comfortable (nothing ldquoto dordquo now)

Loosen any tight clothing

2 Begin breathing slowly until you relax into a comfortable natural pace

This is a time for gentleness Simply allow experience to happen and

follow experience moment-to-moment as you proceed

3 Slowly scan your entire being from head to toes inside and out If you

notice any part of you in tension just allow it to relax naturally and

dissolve with each out-breath

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 27 of 33

Note It may take you 2 or more breathing cycles to notice the muscles in a

particular area begin to relax There are times as well when you may just

need to continue on with your scan trusting that the area will release as you

proceed Again this is time for gentle following

4 Once relaxed (as much as may be possible for now) INVITE your Self to

allow and receive healing intention and healing love

Note This may not feel natural or normal within and like a child the

knee-jerk reaction may indeed be to rebel You are merely sending an

invitation nothing more As you repeat this intentional healing invitation

each day you will soon begin to notice that you are indeed looking forward

to this opportunity

5 You are now comfortable relaxed and intentional within It is time now

to image all the other CYSH Members with whom you are sharing this

time Know they too are seeking to generate healing for your challenges

just as you are for theirs Depending on your beliefs it is here that you

may also invite connect with your source of spiritual power (God

Source Higher Power Buddha) to participate with you

6 Spend the next minutes imagining a Circle of Intentional Healing

Energy flowing into you from all the others and out from you to all

others Allow it to be easy natural like the earthrsquos flow of water

circulating from sky to earth and back to sky simply relax into this flow

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 28 of 33

Note It may help to imagine your healing intentions emanating from about

2 finger-widths behind and about 3 finger-widths below your navel This

site (known as the ldquolower dan tienrdquo or ldquoharardquo) is considered the physical

center of gravity around which you are in perfect balance

From this point you can imagine healing intention flowing up your trunk

through your neck and head and out the top of your head to the other

CYSH members

The healing intention returning to you can be experienced as coming into

you at the same center of gravity point from which you started

Important Do not attempt to localize your intentions to any one region

within (brain heart liver etc) the reason being that a given illness process

occurs across and between physiological systems (even though we may talk

as if it is isolated to one system) It is best to imagine your entire Self

within a cocoon or bubble of flowing healing intention ndash everywhere within

you at once You may experience color warmth safety Luxuriate in your

experience Enjoy the moment

During this intentional time it can also be helpful on a given inout cycle of

breath to silently express I send out Loving Healing On the next

inout cycle silently express I receive Loving Healing and so on

In addition if your mind wanders off task (amp it will) just gently return to

the flow of loving healing intention Remember this experience is all about

being gentle Enjoy the process

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 29 of 33

Continue in this state for as long as you desire and is easy comfortable

and natural With practice your will naturally be at ease for longer

periods of time during each session

7 When complete express gratitude to your Self as well as to all others

sharing in this moment with you Sit in this experience of gratitude for a

few moments

8 Savor the nourishing peace you have generated

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 30 of 33

8-STEP PRAXIS REVIEW

1 SIT in comfort

2 BREATHE slowly rhythmically

3 SCAN (head to toes) to relax further still

4 INVITE SELF to allow healing intention

5 RELATE-WITH all other CYSH members amp Spiritual Power

6 SENDRECEIVE intentional healing

ldquoI send out Loving Healingrdquo ldquoI receive Loving Healingrdquo

7 Sit in GRATITUDE

8 SAVOR the nourishing peace

I genuinely look forward to your daily participation and to sharing this powerful

healing process with you I would love to hear your experiences with your praxis

Please do feel free to email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom)

My mission is to Coach You Well

Sincerely amp Caringly

MALCOLM

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 31 of 33

REFERENCES

1 Chopra Deepak (1994) The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success ndash A Practical Guide to

the Fulfillment of Your Dreams p76

2 Chopra Deepak (1999) A Deepak Chopra Companion Illuminations on Health and

Human Consciousness p94

3 Dyer httpwwwyoutubecomwatchv=DC-FPorUW7gampfeature=related

4 Buber Martin (1971) I And Thou

5 Intercessory prayer httpwwwcochraneorgreviewsenab000368html

6 Leskowitz httpwholistichealingresearchcom42books12

7 Schlitz httpxnetkporgpermanentejournalsum05evidencepdf

copy2009byMFDayton

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 32 of 33

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Malcolm Dayton LPC Cht is a Licensed Counselor with more than two decades coaching individuals and families facing chronic illness He is also certified in MindBody Medicine and Hypnotherapy

Malcolms Coaching Self Healing program is unique in that he calls on his own lifelong journey with chronic illness (multiple sclerosis asthma immune deficiency) to assist you in accessing your unique healing solutions Very simply Malcolm walks his coaching

His coaching program is truly integral-- that is healing solutions are practical in focus and applied comprehensively incorporating all dimensions of your experience from symptoms to wellness from relations within self to social relations from the physical to spiritual--a truly ecological approach to Self Healing You learn to be FULLIVINGtrade ndash to thrive beyond chronic illness

Malcolms mission is to Coach You WELL

CONTACTMalcolm Dayton LPC CHt

email mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom

phone 970-689-4247

Yes Malcolm Im ready to discover

the benefits of Self Healing Coaching NOW

Sign me up now for myCOMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION

Be Well And THRIVE Beyond Chronic Illness Now

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 33 of 33

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lottery And when it does not happen were faced with the more daunting issue

of how I must somehow be ldquoflawedrdquo Clearly such underlying attitudes provide

no foundation on which to construct change much less the dramatic change

required with the desire to ldquobe curedrdquo [Here I recommend another Huber book

There Is Nothing Wrong with You Going Beyond Self-Hate (2001)]

In the end when focused on ldquobeing curedrdquo you may not only become separate

from your innate healing power within but you risk the ultimate medical

mistreatment becoming an object to be worked-on mechanically From here it

can be a rapid slide into the role of ldquovictimrdquo whereby you relinquish your

responsibility for choosing altogether (ie intending-to-create) how it is you truly

desire to be In short you risk losing the creative power of intention required to

give birth to healing

By the mid eighties I had been on daily prednisone for over a decade to control

severe bouts of status asthmaticus and recurrent pneumonia Because the

deleterious side-effects of prednisone included adrenal insufficiency (an impaired

stress response) I knew in my heart-of-hearts one key to my well-being lay in

recovering my atrophied stress axis by discontinuing daily prednisone For years

I pleaded with my pulmonary specialist to assist me in tapering off and relearning

how to live prednisone-free Together we did make a few unsuccessful attempts

only to recycle back into another respiratory infection and still higher doses of

prednisone By this time his posture was that I needed to remain on daily

prednisone ldquofor the rest of my liferdquo My posture was to fire him

Fortunately and in short-order I began working with an internist who over the

next two years laid out a plan to become prednisone-free ndash which we did

together successfully Two significant points must be clearly recognized here

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 19 of 33

1 You must believe in your innate healing power and if you do not

currently this then becomes your launch pad for your healing journey ndash

relearning to empower your Self to heal

2 You are not in this alone You require the good works of others in

alignment with you to successfully heal As such you need to be very

selective in picking those others with whom you relate to enhance your

medical well-being

If you are feeling your medical support is sapping your power and authority

they probably are but you dont throw the baby out with the bath This is

not about releasing physicians this is about being in a healing

relationship-with your medical professional(s) of choice

Additional cultural biases arise with a focus on ldquocurerdquo Any true change with

regard to chronic illness implies a change ldquofor the betterrdquo That requires us to

believe with certainty that such change can and will bring improvement After

more than fifteen years working with individuals with chronic illness (including

my Self) it is the rare individual Ive encountered who truly believes (from the

core) ldquoI will be curedrdquo We wish for cure certainly but believing with certainty ldquoI

will be curedrdquo rarely

An origin of not believing in ldquobeing curedrdquo lies in the way we traditionally use the

term One problem in particular is that ldquocurerdquo is not a ldquonowrdquo concept -- that is

something I trust to experience now rather we tend to use ldquocurerdquo in a future-

oriented manner of hoping-for-something-to-happen or (at-best) asking-for

maybe praying for cure to happen Yet it is not in the future that you and I

create anything and this is particularly relevant to healing We only create in

the NOW

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 20 of 33

Finally even greater issues arise when we attempt to determine precisely what

we mean by the term ldquocurerdquo As one example are you cured when there is ldquoan

end to the disease processrdquo or could that be ldquoremissionrdquo

Does ldquocurerdquo mean a ldquoreturn to full functioningrdquo (ie as I was before the process

started) Is that even possible Consider the case of a disease process that has

already resulted in disfigurement or amputation What does ldquocurerdquo mean in those

situations

Does ldquocurerdquo mean ldquosymptoms are gonerdquo If so are we then cured when

medications relieve or mask the symptoms altogether Do you understand the

quagmire here

It is for all these reasons above that few people are ever truly ldquocuredrdquo of

anything even if we do allow for those who have experienced ldquomiracle curesrdquo

(which are certainly the exception not the norm) Yet when you and I consider

ldquomy situation nowrdquo we need to have the strength of certainty that improvement

is not only possible but immanent

So if not ldquocurerdquo then what You already know the answer And the answer is

ldquohealingrdquo In the end if ldquocurerdquo is anything it is a future-oriented

disempowering mechanical phenomenon at the physical level In contrast

ldquohealingrdquo is an ongoing process (in this moment) of whole-Self transformation

Consider when we truly and proactively ldquohealrdquo we are creating (now) from the

very depths of our core within We are intending-to-create with all the intensity

and power of commitment passion and agape that arises in creative

transformation It is this innate source of inner power to which we must first

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 21 of 33

return ldquoas little childrenrdquo in order to initiate healing

We mask nothing when healing now rather we take an active and response-able

role in bringing peace joy and love directly into our daily lives and the lives of

those we touch NOW this moment and in as many moments as we allow

It is from this strong shared intentional healing foundation that we live with the

most power any human being can possibly experience in alignment with in I-

Thou relation-with in the selfless Love that is the very Source of all creation

This process of transformational healing envelops and extends beyond cure at any

level and unlike ldquocurerdquo it is not some static condition at which we arrive (by

the grace of some outside benevolent authority) Rather such transformational

healing is an ongoing process of BEING-a-certain-way in strength in power

in wisdom in loving relation-with (not only Self but Source God Higher Power)

Let this loving empowered healing be the deep transformation you intend ndash your

moment-to-moment empowered healing transformation from core within

ldquoPRAXISrdquo

We finally come to the term PRAXIS Clients often ask why I use ldquopraxisrdquo rather

than something more familiar like ldquopracticerdquo or ldquoexerciserdquo My answer is very

simple and straight-forward

First we can quickly dispense with the term ldquoexerciserdquo Do you really want to

ldquoexerciserdquo intentional healing each day ndash or would you rather just skip having to

exercise any more than you already know you need to do Enough said

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 22 of 33

Now imagine I invite you to ldquoplease make sure and practice your intentional

healing each dayrdquo How do you feel then For me it brings up that I must not

be very good at it especially if I need to be practicing every day

Consider now how you feel when I invite you to ldquoskillfully applyrdquo the intentional

healing process in comfort Doesnt ldquoskillful applicationrdquo feel much more

empowering than ldquopracticingrdquo Since ldquopraxisrdquo means ldquoskillful applicationrdquo isnt it

much more inviting to approach your intentional healing sessions with skill

And you will as you become more comfortable applying the process each day

Other folks also ask if shared-intentional-healingtrade wouldnt be better considered

an ldquoexperimentrdquo much like Lynn McTaggarts The Intention Experiment (2007) I

can see how the notion of an ldquoexperimentrdquo carries with it some sense of intrigue

but ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately represent the experience that is shared-

intentional-healingtrade

First (as we learned in our discussion of ldquointentionalrdquo above) when we participate

in Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade we are as a matter-of-fact intending-to-create

healing Such activity cannot be an ldquoexperimentrdquo or we lose the certainty

required for healing change Rather we set out to generate an experience-of-

relating that is powered by being committed empassioned and selflessly loving

You can likely identify such a committed passionate selflessly loving experience

from some time in your life ndash whether in love among family through an

impassioned hobby in seeking some goal or perhaps spiritually As you already

know such an experience is not something we wish-for or hope-for or need to

wait and see what happens It is simply a loving relating-with experience we

already know how to have We just be it and do it

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 23 of 33

Moreover (as I suggested above) there is palpable transformation that occurs

within each of us as we gain comfort participating in shared-intentional-healingtrade

This transformational experience happens through your participation and it will

happen for you ndash no need to experiment just simply participate

Moreover at the heart of it the notion of ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately reflect

the research to date on ldquointentionrdquo and ldquohealingrdquo As an example a 1997 review

of research on ldquoIntercessory Prayer for the Alleviation of Ill Healthrdquo by Roberts

Ahmed Hall amp Davison reports individual studies suggest a positive effect of

intercessory prayer But since they viewed other reports in which the results

were equivocal they conclude no ldquo further trials of this intervention should be

takenrdquo5

Regrettably they miss the point The fact that studies DO exist reporting a

positive correlation between intercessory prayer and the alleviation of ill health is

precisely the reason more studies should be undertaken Edison found hundreds

of approaches that were equivocal before discovering a singular lighting solution

Thank goodness he did not conclude any further trials were unnecessary before

arriving at that solution

When it comes to this uniquely intimate subject of healing Eric Leskowitz MD

(in a review of the book Healing Intention amp Energy Medicine (2002) by Wayne

Jonas MD) explains how such conflicting conclusions like Roberts etal come

about Dr Leskowitz notes when he is in discussions with his allopathic medical

colleagues regarding ldquo inexplicable phenomena like energy healing or

intercessory prayer a sort of allopathic fear reflex kicks inrdquo6 Conclusions

become tunnel-visioned and skewed against even the possibility of such

correlation existing anywhere at any time Hence no further trials

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 24 of 33

You may however verify for yourself such positively-correlated research does

indeed already exist by reviewing the studies in Jonas book (above) In

addition Marilyn Schlitz PhD provides a brief outline of just some of those

ldquopositive correlationrdquo studies that highlight the ldquointerface of science spirituality

and medicinerdquo7

If you would like an even more in-depth review I refer you to Consciousness amp

Healing Integral Approaches to Mind-Body Medicine (2005) by Schlitz Amorok

and Micozzi as well as the more recent (2008) Holistic Nursing A Handbook for Practice

5th edition by Dossey amp Keegan

In sum although experimental research has certainly not provided the final

answers on the relation between intention and healing the research to date is

most certainly beyond the ldquoequivocalrdquo suggested by those reflexively reacting

from allopathic fear Those studies completed to date which do display a positive

correlation between intention and healing are already providing a strong practical

foundation of powerful techniques and approaches that go far beyond

ldquoexperimentingrdquo and straight to the heart of skillful-application in daily living

Shared-Intentional-Healingrdquotrade is just one such approach you may access today

and everyday simply by participating in your daily praxis

With the above foundation in mind we can now move on to

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 25 of 33

PRAXIS GUIDELINES

Having considered in some depth the foundation on which this method rests we

may now turn to the guidelines describing ldquohow tordquo participate in your daily

Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis

Before you approach your first intentional session please read through the

description and suggestions below Remember these opportunities are for YOU

to BENEFIT YOU Again there is no right way nor wrong way for you to

participate You simply participate in your own best way Therefore as noted

previously the description below is solely meant as a guided outline to assist you

in jump-starting your participation ndash sharing with you some ideas that have

already worked well for others in our Community

For this to be beneficial for everyone please do your best to allot at least 5 to

15 minutes for each intentional session If you are already seasoned at

sitting in quiet you certainly may choose to go longer (eg 30) and you can

trust there are other CYSH members continuing in synchrony with you

To start out let your sessions be for shorter periods of time You will experience

a natural increase in length of participation without having to think about it or

plan for it This is not a race nor a test of endurance This is a nourishing of

Self and a cultivation of your best healing intentions Be gentle

In the beginning it can also be helpful if you imagine sending out your healing

intentions in a particular direction around the globe and returning to you from

the opposite direction This way as you imagine can assist you in creating a

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 26 of 33

ldquoflowrdquo with regard to directing intentional healing to all others around the globe

As you become more adept you will very naturally be able to generate healing

images radiating from your whole being equally in all directions You will

become aware there is no particular ldquoupdownrdquo in space-time There is just

ldquoeverywhere hererdquo that is always at the center of the universe ndash as you are at all

times and as is each member

Finally please know you may also invite your friends and loved ones to share

with you in these sessions If they cannot participate with you ask them (at

minimum) to set their healing intention for you and send it like a gift to you each

day This can be helpful to them as well knowing they are actively supporting

you with their selfless loving healing

So let us begin with a session description I have broken it down into 8 separate

action steps below

1 First make time to just sit and be comfortable (nothing ldquoto dordquo now)

Loosen any tight clothing

2 Begin breathing slowly until you relax into a comfortable natural pace

This is a time for gentleness Simply allow experience to happen and

follow experience moment-to-moment as you proceed

3 Slowly scan your entire being from head to toes inside and out If you

notice any part of you in tension just allow it to relax naturally and

dissolve with each out-breath

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 27 of 33

Note It may take you 2 or more breathing cycles to notice the muscles in a

particular area begin to relax There are times as well when you may just

need to continue on with your scan trusting that the area will release as you

proceed Again this is time for gentle following

4 Once relaxed (as much as may be possible for now) INVITE your Self to

allow and receive healing intention and healing love

Note This may not feel natural or normal within and like a child the

knee-jerk reaction may indeed be to rebel You are merely sending an

invitation nothing more As you repeat this intentional healing invitation

each day you will soon begin to notice that you are indeed looking forward

to this opportunity

5 You are now comfortable relaxed and intentional within It is time now

to image all the other CYSH Members with whom you are sharing this

time Know they too are seeking to generate healing for your challenges

just as you are for theirs Depending on your beliefs it is here that you

may also invite connect with your source of spiritual power (God

Source Higher Power Buddha) to participate with you

6 Spend the next minutes imagining a Circle of Intentional Healing

Energy flowing into you from all the others and out from you to all

others Allow it to be easy natural like the earthrsquos flow of water

circulating from sky to earth and back to sky simply relax into this flow

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 28 of 33

Note It may help to imagine your healing intentions emanating from about

2 finger-widths behind and about 3 finger-widths below your navel This

site (known as the ldquolower dan tienrdquo or ldquoharardquo) is considered the physical

center of gravity around which you are in perfect balance

From this point you can imagine healing intention flowing up your trunk

through your neck and head and out the top of your head to the other

CYSH members

The healing intention returning to you can be experienced as coming into

you at the same center of gravity point from which you started

Important Do not attempt to localize your intentions to any one region

within (brain heart liver etc) the reason being that a given illness process

occurs across and between physiological systems (even though we may talk

as if it is isolated to one system) It is best to imagine your entire Self

within a cocoon or bubble of flowing healing intention ndash everywhere within

you at once You may experience color warmth safety Luxuriate in your

experience Enjoy the moment

During this intentional time it can also be helpful on a given inout cycle of

breath to silently express I send out Loving Healing On the next

inout cycle silently express I receive Loving Healing and so on

In addition if your mind wanders off task (amp it will) just gently return to

the flow of loving healing intention Remember this experience is all about

being gentle Enjoy the process

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 29 of 33

Continue in this state for as long as you desire and is easy comfortable

and natural With practice your will naturally be at ease for longer

periods of time during each session

7 When complete express gratitude to your Self as well as to all others

sharing in this moment with you Sit in this experience of gratitude for a

few moments

8 Savor the nourishing peace you have generated

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 30 of 33

8-STEP PRAXIS REVIEW

1 SIT in comfort

2 BREATHE slowly rhythmically

3 SCAN (head to toes) to relax further still

4 INVITE SELF to allow healing intention

5 RELATE-WITH all other CYSH members amp Spiritual Power

6 SENDRECEIVE intentional healing

ldquoI send out Loving Healingrdquo ldquoI receive Loving Healingrdquo

7 Sit in GRATITUDE

8 SAVOR the nourishing peace

I genuinely look forward to your daily participation and to sharing this powerful

healing process with you I would love to hear your experiences with your praxis

Please do feel free to email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom)

My mission is to Coach You Well

Sincerely amp Caringly

MALCOLM

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 31 of 33

REFERENCES

1 Chopra Deepak (1994) The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success ndash A Practical Guide to

the Fulfillment of Your Dreams p76

2 Chopra Deepak (1999) A Deepak Chopra Companion Illuminations on Health and

Human Consciousness p94

3 Dyer httpwwwyoutubecomwatchv=DC-FPorUW7gampfeature=related

4 Buber Martin (1971) I And Thou

5 Intercessory prayer httpwwwcochraneorgreviewsenab000368html

6 Leskowitz httpwholistichealingresearchcom42books12

7 Schlitz httpxnetkporgpermanentejournalsum05evidencepdf

copy2009byMFDayton

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 32 of 33

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Malcolm Dayton LPC Cht is a Licensed Counselor with more than two decades coaching individuals and families facing chronic illness He is also certified in MindBody Medicine and Hypnotherapy

Malcolms Coaching Self Healing program is unique in that he calls on his own lifelong journey with chronic illness (multiple sclerosis asthma immune deficiency) to assist you in accessing your unique healing solutions Very simply Malcolm walks his coaching

His coaching program is truly integral-- that is healing solutions are practical in focus and applied comprehensively incorporating all dimensions of your experience from symptoms to wellness from relations within self to social relations from the physical to spiritual--a truly ecological approach to Self Healing You learn to be FULLIVINGtrade ndash to thrive beyond chronic illness

Malcolms mission is to Coach You WELL

CONTACTMalcolm Dayton LPC CHt

email mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom

phone 970-689-4247

Yes Malcolm Im ready to discover

the benefits of Self Healing Coaching NOW

Sign me up now for myCOMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION

Be Well And THRIVE Beyond Chronic Illness Now

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 33 of 33

Page 20: Thriving Beyond Chronic Illness:  Shared-Intentional-Healing Praxis

1 You must believe in your innate healing power and if you do not

currently this then becomes your launch pad for your healing journey ndash

relearning to empower your Self to heal

2 You are not in this alone You require the good works of others in

alignment with you to successfully heal As such you need to be very

selective in picking those others with whom you relate to enhance your

medical well-being

If you are feeling your medical support is sapping your power and authority

they probably are but you dont throw the baby out with the bath This is

not about releasing physicians this is about being in a healing

relationship-with your medical professional(s) of choice

Additional cultural biases arise with a focus on ldquocurerdquo Any true change with

regard to chronic illness implies a change ldquofor the betterrdquo That requires us to

believe with certainty that such change can and will bring improvement After

more than fifteen years working with individuals with chronic illness (including

my Self) it is the rare individual Ive encountered who truly believes (from the

core) ldquoI will be curedrdquo We wish for cure certainly but believing with certainty ldquoI

will be curedrdquo rarely

An origin of not believing in ldquobeing curedrdquo lies in the way we traditionally use the

term One problem in particular is that ldquocurerdquo is not a ldquonowrdquo concept -- that is

something I trust to experience now rather we tend to use ldquocurerdquo in a future-

oriented manner of hoping-for-something-to-happen or (at-best) asking-for

maybe praying for cure to happen Yet it is not in the future that you and I

create anything and this is particularly relevant to healing We only create in

the NOW

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 20 of 33

Finally even greater issues arise when we attempt to determine precisely what

we mean by the term ldquocurerdquo As one example are you cured when there is ldquoan

end to the disease processrdquo or could that be ldquoremissionrdquo

Does ldquocurerdquo mean a ldquoreturn to full functioningrdquo (ie as I was before the process

started) Is that even possible Consider the case of a disease process that has

already resulted in disfigurement or amputation What does ldquocurerdquo mean in those

situations

Does ldquocurerdquo mean ldquosymptoms are gonerdquo If so are we then cured when

medications relieve or mask the symptoms altogether Do you understand the

quagmire here

It is for all these reasons above that few people are ever truly ldquocuredrdquo of

anything even if we do allow for those who have experienced ldquomiracle curesrdquo

(which are certainly the exception not the norm) Yet when you and I consider

ldquomy situation nowrdquo we need to have the strength of certainty that improvement

is not only possible but immanent

So if not ldquocurerdquo then what You already know the answer And the answer is

ldquohealingrdquo In the end if ldquocurerdquo is anything it is a future-oriented

disempowering mechanical phenomenon at the physical level In contrast

ldquohealingrdquo is an ongoing process (in this moment) of whole-Self transformation

Consider when we truly and proactively ldquohealrdquo we are creating (now) from the

very depths of our core within We are intending-to-create with all the intensity

and power of commitment passion and agape that arises in creative

transformation It is this innate source of inner power to which we must first

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 21 of 33

return ldquoas little childrenrdquo in order to initiate healing

We mask nothing when healing now rather we take an active and response-able

role in bringing peace joy and love directly into our daily lives and the lives of

those we touch NOW this moment and in as many moments as we allow

It is from this strong shared intentional healing foundation that we live with the

most power any human being can possibly experience in alignment with in I-

Thou relation-with in the selfless Love that is the very Source of all creation

This process of transformational healing envelops and extends beyond cure at any

level and unlike ldquocurerdquo it is not some static condition at which we arrive (by

the grace of some outside benevolent authority) Rather such transformational

healing is an ongoing process of BEING-a-certain-way in strength in power

in wisdom in loving relation-with (not only Self but Source God Higher Power)

Let this loving empowered healing be the deep transformation you intend ndash your

moment-to-moment empowered healing transformation from core within

ldquoPRAXISrdquo

We finally come to the term PRAXIS Clients often ask why I use ldquopraxisrdquo rather

than something more familiar like ldquopracticerdquo or ldquoexerciserdquo My answer is very

simple and straight-forward

First we can quickly dispense with the term ldquoexerciserdquo Do you really want to

ldquoexerciserdquo intentional healing each day ndash or would you rather just skip having to

exercise any more than you already know you need to do Enough said

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 22 of 33

Now imagine I invite you to ldquoplease make sure and practice your intentional

healing each dayrdquo How do you feel then For me it brings up that I must not

be very good at it especially if I need to be practicing every day

Consider now how you feel when I invite you to ldquoskillfully applyrdquo the intentional

healing process in comfort Doesnt ldquoskillful applicationrdquo feel much more

empowering than ldquopracticingrdquo Since ldquopraxisrdquo means ldquoskillful applicationrdquo isnt it

much more inviting to approach your intentional healing sessions with skill

And you will as you become more comfortable applying the process each day

Other folks also ask if shared-intentional-healingtrade wouldnt be better considered

an ldquoexperimentrdquo much like Lynn McTaggarts The Intention Experiment (2007) I

can see how the notion of an ldquoexperimentrdquo carries with it some sense of intrigue

but ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately represent the experience that is shared-

intentional-healingtrade

First (as we learned in our discussion of ldquointentionalrdquo above) when we participate

in Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade we are as a matter-of-fact intending-to-create

healing Such activity cannot be an ldquoexperimentrdquo or we lose the certainty

required for healing change Rather we set out to generate an experience-of-

relating that is powered by being committed empassioned and selflessly loving

You can likely identify such a committed passionate selflessly loving experience

from some time in your life ndash whether in love among family through an

impassioned hobby in seeking some goal or perhaps spiritually As you already

know such an experience is not something we wish-for or hope-for or need to

wait and see what happens It is simply a loving relating-with experience we

already know how to have We just be it and do it

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 23 of 33

Moreover (as I suggested above) there is palpable transformation that occurs

within each of us as we gain comfort participating in shared-intentional-healingtrade

This transformational experience happens through your participation and it will

happen for you ndash no need to experiment just simply participate

Moreover at the heart of it the notion of ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately reflect

the research to date on ldquointentionrdquo and ldquohealingrdquo As an example a 1997 review

of research on ldquoIntercessory Prayer for the Alleviation of Ill Healthrdquo by Roberts

Ahmed Hall amp Davison reports individual studies suggest a positive effect of

intercessory prayer But since they viewed other reports in which the results

were equivocal they conclude no ldquo further trials of this intervention should be

takenrdquo5

Regrettably they miss the point The fact that studies DO exist reporting a

positive correlation between intercessory prayer and the alleviation of ill health is

precisely the reason more studies should be undertaken Edison found hundreds

of approaches that were equivocal before discovering a singular lighting solution

Thank goodness he did not conclude any further trials were unnecessary before

arriving at that solution

When it comes to this uniquely intimate subject of healing Eric Leskowitz MD

(in a review of the book Healing Intention amp Energy Medicine (2002) by Wayne

Jonas MD) explains how such conflicting conclusions like Roberts etal come

about Dr Leskowitz notes when he is in discussions with his allopathic medical

colleagues regarding ldquo inexplicable phenomena like energy healing or

intercessory prayer a sort of allopathic fear reflex kicks inrdquo6 Conclusions

become tunnel-visioned and skewed against even the possibility of such

correlation existing anywhere at any time Hence no further trials

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 24 of 33

You may however verify for yourself such positively-correlated research does

indeed already exist by reviewing the studies in Jonas book (above) In

addition Marilyn Schlitz PhD provides a brief outline of just some of those

ldquopositive correlationrdquo studies that highlight the ldquointerface of science spirituality

and medicinerdquo7

If you would like an even more in-depth review I refer you to Consciousness amp

Healing Integral Approaches to Mind-Body Medicine (2005) by Schlitz Amorok

and Micozzi as well as the more recent (2008) Holistic Nursing A Handbook for Practice

5th edition by Dossey amp Keegan

In sum although experimental research has certainly not provided the final

answers on the relation between intention and healing the research to date is

most certainly beyond the ldquoequivocalrdquo suggested by those reflexively reacting

from allopathic fear Those studies completed to date which do display a positive

correlation between intention and healing are already providing a strong practical

foundation of powerful techniques and approaches that go far beyond

ldquoexperimentingrdquo and straight to the heart of skillful-application in daily living

Shared-Intentional-Healingrdquotrade is just one such approach you may access today

and everyday simply by participating in your daily praxis

With the above foundation in mind we can now move on to

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 25 of 33

PRAXIS GUIDELINES

Having considered in some depth the foundation on which this method rests we

may now turn to the guidelines describing ldquohow tordquo participate in your daily

Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis

Before you approach your first intentional session please read through the

description and suggestions below Remember these opportunities are for YOU

to BENEFIT YOU Again there is no right way nor wrong way for you to

participate You simply participate in your own best way Therefore as noted

previously the description below is solely meant as a guided outline to assist you

in jump-starting your participation ndash sharing with you some ideas that have

already worked well for others in our Community

For this to be beneficial for everyone please do your best to allot at least 5 to

15 minutes for each intentional session If you are already seasoned at

sitting in quiet you certainly may choose to go longer (eg 30) and you can

trust there are other CYSH members continuing in synchrony with you

To start out let your sessions be for shorter periods of time You will experience

a natural increase in length of participation without having to think about it or

plan for it This is not a race nor a test of endurance This is a nourishing of

Self and a cultivation of your best healing intentions Be gentle

In the beginning it can also be helpful if you imagine sending out your healing

intentions in a particular direction around the globe and returning to you from

the opposite direction This way as you imagine can assist you in creating a

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 26 of 33

ldquoflowrdquo with regard to directing intentional healing to all others around the globe

As you become more adept you will very naturally be able to generate healing

images radiating from your whole being equally in all directions You will

become aware there is no particular ldquoupdownrdquo in space-time There is just

ldquoeverywhere hererdquo that is always at the center of the universe ndash as you are at all

times and as is each member

Finally please know you may also invite your friends and loved ones to share

with you in these sessions If they cannot participate with you ask them (at

minimum) to set their healing intention for you and send it like a gift to you each

day This can be helpful to them as well knowing they are actively supporting

you with their selfless loving healing

So let us begin with a session description I have broken it down into 8 separate

action steps below

1 First make time to just sit and be comfortable (nothing ldquoto dordquo now)

Loosen any tight clothing

2 Begin breathing slowly until you relax into a comfortable natural pace

This is a time for gentleness Simply allow experience to happen and

follow experience moment-to-moment as you proceed

3 Slowly scan your entire being from head to toes inside and out If you

notice any part of you in tension just allow it to relax naturally and

dissolve with each out-breath

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 27 of 33

Note It may take you 2 or more breathing cycles to notice the muscles in a

particular area begin to relax There are times as well when you may just

need to continue on with your scan trusting that the area will release as you

proceed Again this is time for gentle following

4 Once relaxed (as much as may be possible for now) INVITE your Self to

allow and receive healing intention and healing love

Note This may not feel natural or normal within and like a child the

knee-jerk reaction may indeed be to rebel You are merely sending an

invitation nothing more As you repeat this intentional healing invitation

each day you will soon begin to notice that you are indeed looking forward

to this opportunity

5 You are now comfortable relaxed and intentional within It is time now

to image all the other CYSH Members with whom you are sharing this

time Know they too are seeking to generate healing for your challenges

just as you are for theirs Depending on your beliefs it is here that you

may also invite connect with your source of spiritual power (God

Source Higher Power Buddha) to participate with you

6 Spend the next minutes imagining a Circle of Intentional Healing

Energy flowing into you from all the others and out from you to all

others Allow it to be easy natural like the earthrsquos flow of water

circulating from sky to earth and back to sky simply relax into this flow

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 28 of 33

Note It may help to imagine your healing intentions emanating from about

2 finger-widths behind and about 3 finger-widths below your navel This

site (known as the ldquolower dan tienrdquo or ldquoharardquo) is considered the physical

center of gravity around which you are in perfect balance

From this point you can imagine healing intention flowing up your trunk

through your neck and head and out the top of your head to the other

CYSH members

The healing intention returning to you can be experienced as coming into

you at the same center of gravity point from which you started

Important Do not attempt to localize your intentions to any one region

within (brain heart liver etc) the reason being that a given illness process

occurs across and between physiological systems (even though we may talk

as if it is isolated to one system) It is best to imagine your entire Self

within a cocoon or bubble of flowing healing intention ndash everywhere within

you at once You may experience color warmth safety Luxuriate in your

experience Enjoy the moment

During this intentional time it can also be helpful on a given inout cycle of

breath to silently express I send out Loving Healing On the next

inout cycle silently express I receive Loving Healing and so on

In addition if your mind wanders off task (amp it will) just gently return to

the flow of loving healing intention Remember this experience is all about

being gentle Enjoy the process

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 29 of 33

Continue in this state for as long as you desire and is easy comfortable

and natural With practice your will naturally be at ease for longer

periods of time during each session

7 When complete express gratitude to your Self as well as to all others

sharing in this moment with you Sit in this experience of gratitude for a

few moments

8 Savor the nourishing peace you have generated

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 30 of 33

8-STEP PRAXIS REVIEW

1 SIT in comfort

2 BREATHE slowly rhythmically

3 SCAN (head to toes) to relax further still

4 INVITE SELF to allow healing intention

5 RELATE-WITH all other CYSH members amp Spiritual Power

6 SENDRECEIVE intentional healing

ldquoI send out Loving Healingrdquo ldquoI receive Loving Healingrdquo

7 Sit in GRATITUDE

8 SAVOR the nourishing peace

I genuinely look forward to your daily participation and to sharing this powerful

healing process with you I would love to hear your experiences with your praxis

Please do feel free to email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom)

My mission is to Coach You Well

Sincerely amp Caringly

MALCOLM

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 31 of 33

REFERENCES

1 Chopra Deepak (1994) The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success ndash A Practical Guide to

the Fulfillment of Your Dreams p76

2 Chopra Deepak (1999) A Deepak Chopra Companion Illuminations on Health and

Human Consciousness p94

3 Dyer httpwwwyoutubecomwatchv=DC-FPorUW7gampfeature=related

4 Buber Martin (1971) I And Thou

5 Intercessory prayer httpwwwcochraneorgreviewsenab000368html

6 Leskowitz httpwholistichealingresearchcom42books12

7 Schlitz httpxnetkporgpermanentejournalsum05evidencepdf

copy2009byMFDayton

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 32 of 33

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Malcolm Dayton LPC Cht is a Licensed Counselor with more than two decades coaching individuals and families facing chronic illness He is also certified in MindBody Medicine and Hypnotherapy

Malcolms Coaching Self Healing program is unique in that he calls on his own lifelong journey with chronic illness (multiple sclerosis asthma immune deficiency) to assist you in accessing your unique healing solutions Very simply Malcolm walks his coaching

His coaching program is truly integral-- that is healing solutions are practical in focus and applied comprehensively incorporating all dimensions of your experience from symptoms to wellness from relations within self to social relations from the physical to spiritual--a truly ecological approach to Self Healing You learn to be FULLIVINGtrade ndash to thrive beyond chronic illness

Malcolms mission is to Coach You WELL

CONTACTMalcolm Dayton LPC CHt

email mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom

phone 970-689-4247

Yes Malcolm Im ready to discover

the benefits of Self Healing Coaching NOW

Sign me up now for myCOMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION

Be Well And THRIVE Beyond Chronic Illness Now

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 33 of 33

Page 21: Thriving Beyond Chronic Illness:  Shared-Intentional-Healing Praxis

Finally even greater issues arise when we attempt to determine precisely what

we mean by the term ldquocurerdquo As one example are you cured when there is ldquoan

end to the disease processrdquo or could that be ldquoremissionrdquo

Does ldquocurerdquo mean a ldquoreturn to full functioningrdquo (ie as I was before the process

started) Is that even possible Consider the case of a disease process that has

already resulted in disfigurement or amputation What does ldquocurerdquo mean in those

situations

Does ldquocurerdquo mean ldquosymptoms are gonerdquo If so are we then cured when

medications relieve or mask the symptoms altogether Do you understand the

quagmire here

It is for all these reasons above that few people are ever truly ldquocuredrdquo of

anything even if we do allow for those who have experienced ldquomiracle curesrdquo

(which are certainly the exception not the norm) Yet when you and I consider

ldquomy situation nowrdquo we need to have the strength of certainty that improvement

is not only possible but immanent

So if not ldquocurerdquo then what You already know the answer And the answer is

ldquohealingrdquo In the end if ldquocurerdquo is anything it is a future-oriented

disempowering mechanical phenomenon at the physical level In contrast

ldquohealingrdquo is an ongoing process (in this moment) of whole-Self transformation

Consider when we truly and proactively ldquohealrdquo we are creating (now) from the

very depths of our core within We are intending-to-create with all the intensity

and power of commitment passion and agape that arises in creative

transformation It is this innate source of inner power to which we must first

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 21 of 33

return ldquoas little childrenrdquo in order to initiate healing

We mask nothing when healing now rather we take an active and response-able

role in bringing peace joy and love directly into our daily lives and the lives of

those we touch NOW this moment and in as many moments as we allow

It is from this strong shared intentional healing foundation that we live with the

most power any human being can possibly experience in alignment with in I-

Thou relation-with in the selfless Love that is the very Source of all creation

This process of transformational healing envelops and extends beyond cure at any

level and unlike ldquocurerdquo it is not some static condition at which we arrive (by

the grace of some outside benevolent authority) Rather such transformational

healing is an ongoing process of BEING-a-certain-way in strength in power

in wisdom in loving relation-with (not only Self but Source God Higher Power)

Let this loving empowered healing be the deep transformation you intend ndash your

moment-to-moment empowered healing transformation from core within

ldquoPRAXISrdquo

We finally come to the term PRAXIS Clients often ask why I use ldquopraxisrdquo rather

than something more familiar like ldquopracticerdquo or ldquoexerciserdquo My answer is very

simple and straight-forward

First we can quickly dispense with the term ldquoexerciserdquo Do you really want to

ldquoexerciserdquo intentional healing each day ndash or would you rather just skip having to

exercise any more than you already know you need to do Enough said

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 22 of 33

Now imagine I invite you to ldquoplease make sure and practice your intentional

healing each dayrdquo How do you feel then For me it brings up that I must not

be very good at it especially if I need to be practicing every day

Consider now how you feel when I invite you to ldquoskillfully applyrdquo the intentional

healing process in comfort Doesnt ldquoskillful applicationrdquo feel much more

empowering than ldquopracticingrdquo Since ldquopraxisrdquo means ldquoskillful applicationrdquo isnt it

much more inviting to approach your intentional healing sessions with skill

And you will as you become more comfortable applying the process each day

Other folks also ask if shared-intentional-healingtrade wouldnt be better considered

an ldquoexperimentrdquo much like Lynn McTaggarts The Intention Experiment (2007) I

can see how the notion of an ldquoexperimentrdquo carries with it some sense of intrigue

but ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately represent the experience that is shared-

intentional-healingtrade

First (as we learned in our discussion of ldquointentionalrdquo above) when we participate

in Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade we are as a matter-of-fact intending-to-create

healing Such activity cannot be an ldquoexperimentrdquo or we lose the certainty

required for healing change Rather we set out to generate an experience-of-

relating that is powered by being committed empassioned and selflessly loving

You can likely identify such a committed passionate selflessly loving experience

from some time in your life ndash whether in love among family through an

impassioned hobby in seeking some goal or perhaps spiritually As you already

know such an experience is not something we wish-for or hope-for or need to

wait and see what happens It is simply a loving relating-with experience we

already know how to have We just be it and do it

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 23 of 33

Moreover (as I suggested above) there is palpable transformation that occurs

within each of us as we gain comfort participating in shared-intentional-healingtrade

This transformational experience happens through your participation and it will

happen for you ndash no need to experiment just simply participate

Moreover at the heart of it the notion of ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately reflect

the research to date on ldquointentionrdquo and ldquohealingrdquo As an example a 1997 review

of research on ldquoIntercessory Prayer for the Alleviation of Ill Healthrdquo by Roberts

Ahmed Hall amp Davison reports individual studies suggest a positive effect of

intercessory prayer But since they viewed other reports in which the results

were equivocal they conclude no ldquo further trials of this intervention should be

takenrdquo5

Regrettably they miss the point The fact that studies DO exist reporting a

positive correlation between intercessory prayer and the alleviation of ill health is

precisely the reason more studies should be undertaken Edison found hundreds

of approaches that were equivocal before discovering a singular lighting solution

Thank goodness he did not conclude any further trials were unnecessary before

arriving at that solution

When it comes to this uniquely intimate subject of healing Eric Leskowitz MD

(in a review of the book Healing Intention amp Energy Medicine (2002) by Wayne

Jonas MD) explains how such conflicting conclusions like Roberts etal come

about Dr Leskowitz notes when he is in discussions with his allopathic medical

colleagues regarding ldquo inexplicable phenomena like energy healing or

intercessory prayer a sort of allopathic fear reflex kicks inrdquo6 Conclusions

become tunnel-visioned and skewed against even the possibility of such

correlation existing anywhere at any time Hence no further trials

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 24 of 33

You may however verify for yourself such positively-correlated research does

indeed already exist by reviewing the studies in Jonas book (above) In

addition Marilyn Schlitz PhD provides a brief outline of just some of those

ldquopositive correlationrdquo studies that highlight the ldquointerface of science spirituality

and medicinerdquo7

If you would like an even more in-depth review I refer you to Consciousness amp

Healing Integral Approaches to Mind-Body Medicine (2005) by Schlitz Amorok

and Micozzi as well as the more recent (2008) Holistic Nursing A Handbook for Practice

5th edition by Dossey amp Keegan

In sum although experimental research has certainly not provided the final

answers on the relation between intention and healing the research to date is

most certainly beyond the ldquoequivocalrdquo suggested by those reflexively reacting

from allopathic fear Those studies completed to date which do display a positive

correlation between intention and healing are already providing a strong practical

foundation of powerful techniques and approaches that go far beyond

ldquoexperimentingrdquo and straight to the heart of skillful-application in daily living

Shared-Intentional-Healingrdquotrade is just one such approach you may access today

and everyday simply by participating in your daily praxis

With the above foundation in mind we can now move on to

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 25 of 33

PRAXIS GUIDELINES

Having considered in some depth the foundation on which this method rests we

may now turn to the guidelines describing ldquohow tordquo participate in your daily

Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis

Before you approach your first intentional session please read through the

description and suggestions below Remember these opportunities are for YOU

to BENEFIT YOU Again there is no right way nor wrong way for you to

participate You simply participate in your own best way Therefore as noted

previously the description below is solely meant as a guided outline to assist you

in jump-starting your participation ndash sharing with you some ideas that have

already worked well for others in our Community

For this to be beneficial for everyone please do your best to allot at least 5 to

15 minutes for each intentional session If you are already seasoned at

sitting in quiet you certainly may choose to go longer (eg 30) and you can

trust there are other CYSH members continuing in synchrony with you

To start out let your sessions be for shorter periods of time You will experience

a natural increase in length of participation without having to think about it or

plan for it This is not a race nor a test of endurance This is a nourishing of

Self and a cultivation of your best healing intentions Be gentle

In the beginning it can also be helpful if you imagine sending out your healing

intentions in a particular direction around the globe and returning to you from

the opposite direction This way as you imagine can assist you in creating a

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 26 of 33

ldquoflowrdquo with regard to directing intentional healing to all others around the globe

As you become more adept you will very naturally be able to generate healing

images radiating from your whole being equally in all directions You will

become aware there is no particular ldquoupdownrdquo in space-time There is just

ldquoeverywhere hererdquo that is always at the center of the universe ndash as you are at all

times and as is each member

Finally please know you may also invite your friends and loved ones to share

with you in these sessions If they cannot participate with you ask them (at

minimum) to set their healing intention for you and send it like a gift to you each

day This can be helpful to them as well knowing they are actively supporting

you with their selfless loving healing

So let us begin with a session description I have broken it down into 8 separate

action steps below

1 First make time to just sit and be comfortable (nothing ldquoto dordquo now)

Loosen any tight clothing

2 Begin breathing slowly until you relax into a comfortable natural pace

This is a time for gentleness Simply allow experience to happen and

follow experience moment-to-moment as you proceed

3 Slowly scan your entire being from head to toes inside and out If you

notice any part of you in tension just allow it to relax naturally and

dissolve with each out-breath

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 27 of 33

Note It may take you 2 or more breathing cycles to notice the muscles in a

particular area begin to relax There are times as well when you may just

need to continue on with your scan trusting that the area will release as you

proceed Again this is time for gentle following

4 Once relaxed (as much as may be possible for now) INVITE your Self to

allow and receive healing intention and healing love

Note This may not feel natural or normal within and like a child the

knee-jerk reaction may indeed be to rebel You are merely sending an

invitation nothing more As you repeat this intentional healing invitation

each day you will soon begin to notice that you are indeed looking forward

to this opportunity

5 You are now comfortable relaxed and intentional within It is time now

to image all the other CYSH Members with whom you are sharing this

time Know they too are seeking to generate healing for your challenges

just as you are for theirs Depending on your beliefs it is here that you

may also invite connect with your source of spiritual power (God

Source Higher Power Buddha) to participate with you

6 Spend the next minutes imagining a Circle of Intentional Healing

Energy flowing into you from all the others and out from you to all

others Allow it to be easy natural like the earthrsquos flow of water

circulating from sky to earth and back to sky simply relax into this flow

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 28 of 33

Note It may help to imagine your healing intentions emanating from about

2 finger-widths behind and about 3 finger-widths below your navel This

site (known as the ldquolower dan tienrdquo or ldquoharardquo) is considered the physical

center of gravity around which you are in perfect balance

From this point you can imagine healing intention flowing up your trunk

through your neck and head and out the top of your head to the other

CYSH members

The healing intention returning to you can be experienced as coming into

you at the same center of gravity point from which you started

Important Do not attempt to localize your intentions to any one region

within (brain heart liver etc) the reason being that a given illness process

occurs across and between physiological systems (even though we may talk

as if it is isolated to one system) It is best to imagine your entire Self

within a cocoon or bubble of flowing healing intention ndash everywhere within

you at once You may experience color warmth safety Luxuriate in your

experience Enjoy the moment

During this intentional time it can also be helpful on a given inout cycle of

breath to silently express I send out Loving Healing On the next

inout cycle silently express I receive Loving Healing and so on

In addition if your mind wanders off task (amp it will) just gently return to

the flow of loving healing intention Remember this experience is all about

being gentle Enjoy the process

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 29 of 33

Continue in this state for as long as you desire and is easy comfortable

and natural With practice your will naturally be at ease for longer

periods of time during each session

7 When complete express gratitude to your Self as well as to all others

sharing in this moment with you Sit in this experience of gratitude for a

few moments

8 Savor the nourishing peace you have generated

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 30 of 33

8-STEP PRAXIS REVIEW

1 SIT in comfort

2 BREATHE slowly rhythmically

3 SCAN (head to toes) to relax further still

4 INVITE SELF to allow healing intention

5 RELATE-WITH all other CYSH members amp Spiritual Power

6 SENDRECEIVE intentional healing

ldquoI send out Loving Healingrdquo ldquoI receive Loving Healingrdquo

7 Sit in GRATITUDE

8 SAVOR the nourishing peace

I genuinely look forward to your daily participation and to sharing this powerful

healing process with you I would love to hear your experiences with your praxis

Please do feel free to email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom)

My mission is to Coach You Well

Sincerely amp Caringly

MALCOLM

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 31 of 33

REFERENCES

1 Chopra Deepak (1994) The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success ndash A Practical Guide to

the Fulfillment of Your Dreams p76

2 Chopra Deepak (1999) A Deepak Chopra Companion Illuminations on Health and

Human Consciousness p94

3 Dyer httpwwwyoutubecomwatchv=DC-FPorUW7gampfeature=related

4 Buber Martin (1971) I And Thou

5 Intercessory prayer httpwwwcochraneorgreviewsenab000368html

6 Leskowitz httpwholistichealingresearchcom42books12

7 Schlitz httpxnetkporgpermanentejournalsum05evidencepdf

copy2009byMFDayton

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 32 of 33

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Malcolm Dayton LPC Cht is a Licensed Counselor with more than two decades coaching individuals and families facing chronic illness He is also certified in MindBody Medicine and Hypnotherapy

Malcolms Coaching Self Healing program is unique in that he calls on his own lifelong journey with chronic illness (multiple sclerosis asthma immune deficiency) to assist you in accessing your unique healing solutions Very simply Malcolm walks his coaching

His coaching program is truly integral-- that is healing solutions are practical in focus and applied comprehensively incorporating all dimensions of your experience from symptoms to wellness from relations within self to social relations from the physical to spiritual--a truly ecological approach to Self Healing You learn to be FULLIVINGtrade ndash to thrive beyond chronic illness

Malcolms mission is to Coach You WELL

CONTACTMalcolm Dayton LPC CHt

email mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom

phone 970-689-4247

Yes Malcolm Im ready to discover

the benefits of Self Healing Coaching NOW

Sign me up now for myCOMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION

Be Well And THRIVE Beyond Chronic Illness Now

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 33 of 33

Page 22: Thriving Beyond Chronic Illness:  Shared-Intentional-Healing Praxis

return ldquoas little childrenrdquo in order to initiate healing

We mask nothing when healing now rather we take an active and response-able

role in bringing peace joy and love directly into our daily lives and the lives of

those we touch NOW this moment and in as many moments as we allow

It is from this strong shared intentional healing foundation that we live with the

most power any human being can possibly experience in alignment with in I-

Thou relation-with in the selfless Love that is the very Source of all creation

This process of transformational healing envelops and extends beyond cure at any

level and unlike ldquocurerdquo it is not some static condition at which we arrive (by

the grace of some outside benevolent authority) Rather such transformational

healing is an ongoing process of BEING-a-certain-way in strength in power

in wisdom in loving relation-with (not only Self but Source God Higher Power)

Let this loving empowered healing be the deep transformation you intend ndash your

moment-to-moment empowered healing transformation from core within

ldquoPRAXISrdquo

We finally come to the term PRAXIS Clients often ask why I use ldquopraxisrdquo rather

than something more familiar like ldquopracticerdquo or ldquoexerciserdquo My answer is very

simple and straight-forward

First we can quickly dispense with the term ldquoexerciserdquo Do you really want to

ldquoexerciserdquo intentional healing each day ndash or would you rather just skip having to

exercise any more than you already know you need to do Enough said

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 22 of 33

Now imagine I invite you to ldquoplease make sure and practice your intentional

healing each dayrdquo How do you feel then For me it brings up that I must not

be very good at it especially if I need to be practicing every day

Consider now how you feel when I invite you to ldquoskillfully applyrdquo the intentional

healing process in comfort Doesnt ldquoskillful applicationrdquo feel much more

empowering than ldquopracticingrdquo Since ldquopraxisrdquo means ldquoskillful applicationrdquo isnt it

much more inviting to approach your intentional healing sessions with skill

And you will as you become more comfortable applying the process each day

Other folks also ask if shared-intentional-healingtrade wouldnt be better considered

an ldquoexperimentrdquo much like Lynn McTaggarts The Intention Experiment (2007) I

can see how the notion of an ldquoexperimentrdquo carries with it some sense of intrigue

but ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately represent the experience that is shared-

intentional-healingtrade

First (as we learned in our discussion of ldquointentionalrdquo above) when we participate

in Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade we are as a matter-of-fact intending-to-create

healing Such activity cannot be an ldquoexperimentrdquo or we lose the certainty

required for healing change Rather we set out to generate an experience-of-

relating that is powered by being committed empassioned and selflessly loving

You can likely identify such a committed passionate selflessly loving experience

from some time in your life ndash whether in love among family through an

impassioned hobby in seeking some goal or perhaps spiritually As you already

know such an experience is not something we wish-for or hope-for or need to

wait and see what happens It is simply a loving relating-with experience we

already know how to have We just be it and do it

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 23 of 33

Moreover (as I suggested above) there is palpable transformation that occurs

within each of us as we gain comfort participating in shared-intentional-healingtrade

This transformational experience happens through your participation and it will

happen for you ndash no need to experiment just simply participate

Moreover at the heart of it the notion of ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately reflect

the research to date on ldquointentionrdquo and ldquohealingrdquo As an example a 1997 review

of research on ldquoIntercessory Prayer for the Alleviation of Ill Healthrdquo by Roberts

Ahmed Hall amp Davison reports individual studies suggest a positive effect of

intercessory prayer But since they viewed other reports in which the results

were equivocal they conclude no ldquo further trials of this intervention should be

takenrdquo5

Regrettably they miss the point The fact that studies DO exist reporting a

positive correlation between intercessory prayer and the alleviation of ill health is

precisely the reason more studies should be undertaken Edison found hundreds

of approaches that were equivocal before discovering a singular lighting solution

Thank goodness he did not conclude any further trials were unnecessary before

arriving at that solution

When it comes to this uniquely intimate subject of healing Eric Leskowitz MD

(in a review of the book Healing Intention amp Energy Medicine (2002) by Wayne

Jonas MD) explains how such conflicting conclusions like Roberts etal come

about Dr Leskowitz notes when he is in discussions with his allopathic medical

colleagues regarding ldquo inexplicable phenomena like energy healing or

intercessory prayer a sort of allopathic fear reflex kicks inrdquo6 Conclusions

become tunnel-visioned and skewed against even the possibility of such

correlation existing anywhere at any time Hence no further trials

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 24 of 33

You may however verify for yourself such positively-correlated research does

indeed already exist by reviewing the studies in Jonas book (above) In

addition Marilyn Schlitz PhD provides a brief outline of just some of those

ldquopositive correlationrdquo studies that highlight the ldquointerface of science spirituality

and medicinerdquo7

If you would like an even more in-depth review I refer you to Consciousness amp

Healing Integral Approaches to Mind-Body Medicine (2005) by Schlitz Amorok

and Micozzi as well as the more recent (2008) Holistic Nursing A Handbook for Practice

5th edition by Dossey amp Keegan

In sum although experimental research has certainly not provided the final

answers on the relation between intention and healing the research to date is

most certainly beyond the ldquoequivocalrdquo suggested by those reflexively reacting

from allopathic fear Those studies completed to date which do display a positive

correlation between intention and healing are already providing a strong practical

foundation of powerful techniques and approaches that go far beyond

ldquoexperimentingrdquo and straight to the heart of skillful-application in daily living

Shared-Intentional-Healingrdquotrade is just one such approach you may access today

and everyday simply by participating in your daily praxis

With the above foundation in mind we can now move on to

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 25 of 33

PRAXIS GUIDELINES

Having considered in some depth the foundation on which this method rests we

may now turn to the guidelines describing ldquohow tordquo participate in your daily

Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis

Before you approach your first intentional session please read through the

description and suggestions below Remember these opportunities are for YOU

to BENEFIT YOU Again there is no right way nor wrong way for you to

participate You simply participate in your own best way Therefore as noted

previously the description below is solely meant as a guided outline to assist you

in jump-starting your participation ndash sharing with you some ideas that have

already worked well for others in our Community

For this to be beneficial for everyone please do your best to allot at least 5 to

15 minutes for each intentional session If you are already seasoned at

sitting in quiet you certainly may choose to go longer (eg 30) and you can

trust there are other CYSH members continuing in synchrony with you

To start out let your sessions be for shorter periods of time You will experience

a natural increase in length of participation without having to think about it or

plan for it This is not a race nor a test of endurance This is a nourishing of

Self and a cultivation of your best healing intentions Be gentle

In the beginning it can also be helpful if you imagine sending out your healing

intentions in a particular direction around the globe and returning to you from

the opposite direction This way as you imagine can assist you in creating a

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 26 of 33

ldquoflowrdquo with regard to directing intentional healing to all others around the globe

As you become more adept you will very naturally be able to generate healing

images radiating from your whole being equally in all directions You will

become aware there is no particular ldquoupdownrdquo in space-time There is just

ldquoeverywhere hererdquo that is always at the center of the universe ndash as you are at all

times and as is each member

Finally please know you may also invite your friends and loved ones to share

with you in these sessions If they cannot participate with you ask them (at

minimum) to set their healing intention for you and send it like a gift to you each

day This can be helpful to them as well knowing they are actively supporting

you with their selfless loving healing

So let us begin with a session description I have broken it down into 8 separate

action steps below

1 First make time to just sit and be comfortable (nothing ldquoto dordquo now)

Loosen any tight clothing

2 Begin breathing slowly until you relax into a comfortable natural pace

This is a time for gentleness Simply allow experience to happen and

follow experience moment-to-moment as you proceed

3 Slowly scan your entire being from head to toes inside and out If you

notice any part of you in tension just allow it to relax naturally and

dissolve with each out-breath

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 27 of 33

Note It may take you 2 or more breathing cycles to notice the muscles in a

particular area begin to relax There are times as well when you may just

need to continue on with your scan trusting that the area will release as you

proceed Again this is time for gentle following

4 Once relaxed (as much as may be possible for now) INVITE your Self to

allow and receive healing intention and healing love

Note This may not feel natural or normal within and like a child the

knee-jerk reaction may indeed be to rebel You are merely sending an

invitation nothing more As you repeat this intentional healing invitation

each day you will soon begin to notice that you are indeed looking forward

to this opportunity

5 You are now comfortable relaxed and intentional within It is time now

to image all the other CYSH Members with whom you are sharing this

time Know they too are seeking to generate healing for your challenges

just as you are for theirs Depending on your beliefs it is here that you

may also invite connect with your source of spiritual power (God

Source Higher Power Buddha) to participate with you

6 Spend the next minutes imagining a Circle of Intentional Healing

Energy flowing into you from all the others and out from you to all

others Allow it to be easy natural like the earthrsquos flow of water

circulating from sky to earth and back to sky simply relax into this flow

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 28 of 33

Note It may help to imagine your healing intentions emanating from about

2 finger-widths behind and about 3 finger-widths below your navel This

site (known as the ldquolower dan tienrdquo or ldquoharardquo) is considered the physical

center of gravity around which you are in perfect balance

From this point you can imagine healing intention flowing up your trunk

through your neck and head and out the top of your head to the other

CYSH members

The healing intention returning to you can be experienced as coming into

you at the same center of gravity point from which you started

Important Do not attempt to localize your intentions to any one region

within (brain heart liver etc) the reason being that a given illness process

occurs across and between physiological systems (even though we may talk

as if it is isolated to one system) It is best to imagine your entire Self

within a cocoon or bubble of flowing healing intention ndash everywhere within

you at once You may experience color warmth safety Luxuriate in your

experience Enjoy the moment

During this intentional time it can also be helpful on a given inout cycle of

breath to silently express I send out Loving Healing On the next

inout cycle silently express I receive Loving Healing and so on

In addition if your mind wanders off task (amp it will) just gently return to

the flow of loving healing intention Remember this experience is all about

being gentle Enjoy the process

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 29 of 33

Continue in this state for as long as you desire and is easy comfortable

and natural With practice your will naturally be at ease for longer

periods of time during each session

7 When complete express gratitude to your Self as well as to all others

sharing in this moment with you Sit in this experience of gratitude for a

few moments

8 Savor the nourishing peace you have generated

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 30 of 33

8-STEP PRAXIS REVIEW

1 SIT in comfort

2 BREATHE slowly rhythmically

3 SCAN (head to toes) to relax further still

4 INVITE SELF to allow healing intention

5 RELATE-WITH all other CYSH members amp Spiritual Power

6 SENDRECEIVE intentional healing

ldquoI send out Loving Healingrdquo ldquoI receive Loving Healingrdquo

7 Sit in GRATITUDE

8 SAVOR the nourishing peace

I genuinely look forward to your daily participation and to sharing this powerful

healing process with you I would love to hear your experiences with your praxis

Please do feel free to email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom)

My mission is to Coach You Well

Sincerely amp Caringly

MALCOLM

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 31 of 33

REFERENCES

1 Chopra Deepak (1994) The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success ndash A Practical Guide to

the Fulfillment of Your Dreams p76

2 Chopra Deepak (1999) A Deepak Chopra Companion Illuminations on Health and

Human Consciousness p94

3 Dyer httpwwwyoutubecomwatchv=DC-FPorUW7gampfeature=related

4 Buber Martin (1971) I And Thou

5 Intercessory prayer httpwwwcochraneorgreviewsenab000368html

6 Leskowitz httpwholistichealingresearchcom42books12

7 Schlitz httpxnetkporgpermanentejournalsum05evidencepdf

copy2009byMFDayton

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 32 of 33

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Malcolm Dayton LPC Cht is a Licensed Counselor with more than two decades coaching individuals and families facing chronic illness He is also certified in MindBody Medicine and Hypnotherapy

Malcolms Coaching Self Healing program is unique in that he calls on his own lifelong journey with chronic illness (multiple sclerosis asthma immune deficiency) to assist you in accessing your unique healing solutions Very simply Malcolm walks his coaching

His coaching program is truly integral-- that is healing solutions are practical in focus and applied comprehensively incorporating all dimensions of your experience from symptoms to wellness from relations within self to social relations from the physical to spiritual--a truly ecological approach to Self Healing You learn to be FULLIVINGtrade ndash to thrive beyond chronic illness

Malcolms mission is to Coach You WELL

CONTACTMalcolm Dayton LPC CHt

email mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom

phone 970-689-4247

Yes Malcolm Im ready to discover

the benefits of Self Healing Coaching NOW

Sign me up now for myCOMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION

Be Well And THRIVE Beyond Chronic Illness Now

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 33 of 33

Page 23: Thriving Beyond Chronic Illness:  Shared-Intentional-Healing Praxis

Now imagine I invite you to ldquoplease make sure and practice your intentional

healing each dayrdquo How do you feel then For me it brings up that I must not

be very good at it especially if I need to be practicing every day

Consider now how you feel when I invite you to ldquoskillfully applyrdquo the intentional

healing process in comfort Doesnt ldquoskillful applicationrdquo feel much more

empowering than ldquopracticingrdquo Since ldquopraxisrdquo means ldquoskillful applicationrdquo isnt it

much more inviting to approach your intentional healing sessions with skill

And you will as you become more comfortable applying the process each day

Other folks also ask if shared-intentional-healingtrade wouldnt be better considered

an ldquoexperimentrdquo much like Lynn McTaggarts The Intention Experiment (2007) I

can see how the notion of an ldquoexperimentrdquo carries with it some sense of intrigue

but ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately represent the experience that is shared-

intentional-healingtrade

First (as we learned in our discussion of ldquointentionalrdquo above) when we participate

in Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade we are as a matter-of-fact intending-to-create

healing Such activity cannot be an ldquoexperimentrdquo or we lose the certainty

required for healing change Rather we set out to generate an experience-of-

relating that is powered by being committed empassioned and selflessly loving

You can likely identify such a committed passionate selflessly loving experience

from some time in your life ndash whether in love among family through an

impassioned hobby in seeking some goal or perhaps spiritually As you already

know such an experience is not something we wish-for or hope-for or need to

wait and see what happens It is simply a loving relating-with experience we

already know how to have We just be it and do it

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 23 of 33

Moreover (as I suggested above) there is palpable transformation that occurs

within each of us as we gain comfort participating in shared-intentional-healingtrade

This transformational experience happens through your participation and it will

happen for you ndash no need to experiment just simply participate

Moreover at the heart of it the notion of ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately reflect

the research to date on ldquointentionrdquo and ldquohealingrdquo As an example a 1997 review

of research on ldquoIntercessory Prayer for the Alleviation of Ill Healthrdquo by Roberts

Ahmed Hall amp Davison reports individual studies suggest a positive effect of

intercessory prayer But since they viewed other reports in which the results

were equivocal they conclude no ldquo further trials of this intervention should be

takenrdquo5

Regrettably they miss the point The fact that studies DO exist reporting a

positive correlation between intercessory prayer and the alleviation of ill health is

precisely the reason more studies should be undertaken Edison found hundreds

of approaches that were equivocal before discovering a singular lighting solution

Thank goodness he did not conclude any further trials were unnecessary before

arriving at that solution

When it comes to this uniquely intimate subject of healing Eric Leskowitz MD

(in a review of the book Healing Intention amp Energy Medicine (2002) by Wayne

Jonas MD) explains how such conflicting conclusions like Roberts etal come

about Dr Leskowitz notes when he is in discussions with his allopathic medical

colleagues regarding ldquo inexplicable phenomena like energy healing or

intercessory prayer a sort of allopathic fear reflex kicks inrdquo6 Conclusions

become tunnel-visioned and skewed against even the possibility of such

correlation existing anywhere at any time Hence no further trials

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 24 of 33

You may however verify for yourself such positively-correlated research does

indeed already exist by reviewing the studies in Jonas book (above) In

addition Marilyn Schlitz PhD provides a brief outline of just some of those

ldquopositive correlationrdquo studies that highlight the ldquointerface of science spirituality

and medicinerdquo7

If you would like an even more in-depth review I refer you to Consciousness amp

Healing Integral Approaches to Mind-Body Medicine (2005) by Schlitz Amorok

and Micozzi as well as the more recent (2008) Holistic Nursing A Handbook for Practice

5th edition by Dossey amp Keegan

In sum although experimental research has certainly not provided the final

answers on the relation between intention and healing the research to date is

most certainly beyond the ldquoequivocalrdquo suggested by those reflexively reacting

from allopathic fear Those studies completed to date which do display a positive

correlation between intention and healing are already providing a strong practical

foundation of powerful techniques and approaches that go far beyond

ldquoexperimentingrdquo and straight to the heart of skillful-application in daily living

Shared-Intentional-Healingrdquotrade is just one such approach you may access today

and everyday simply by participating in your daily praxis

With the above foundation in mind we can now move on to

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 25 of 33

PRAXIS GUIDELINES

Having considered in some depth the foundation on which this method rests we

may now turn to the guidelines describing ldquohow tordquo participate in your daily

Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis

Before you approach your first intentional session please read through the

description and suggestions below Remember these opportunities are for YOU

to BENEFIT YOU Again there is no right way nor wrong way for you to

participate You simply participate in your own best way Therefore as noted

previously the description below is solely meant as a guided outline to assist you

in jump-starting your participation ndash sharing with you some ideas that have

already worked well for others in our Community

For this to be beneficial for everyone please do your best to allot at least 5 to

15 minutes for each intentional session If you are already seasoned at

sitting in quiet you certainly may choose to go longer (eg 30) and you can

trust there are other CYSH members continuing in synchrony with you

To start out let your sessions be for shorter periods of time You will experience

a natural increase in length of participation without having to think about it or

plan for it This is not a race nor a test of endurance This is a nourishing of

Self and a cultivation of your best healing intentions Be gentle

In the beginning it can also be helpful if you imagine sending out your healing

intentions in a particular direction around the globe and returning to you from

the opposite direction This way as you imagine can assist you in creating a

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 26 of 33

ldquoflowrdquo with regard to directing intentional healing to all others around the globe

As you become more adept you will very naturally be able to generate healing

images radiating from your whole being equally in all directions You will

become aware there is no particular ldquoupdownrdquo in space-time There is just

ldquoeverywhere hererdquo that is always at the center of the universe ndash as you are at all

times and as is each member

Finally please know you may also invite your friends and loved ones to share

with you in these sessions If they cannot participate with you ask them (at

minimum) to set their healing intention for you and send it like a gift to you each

day This can be helpful to them as well knowing they are actively supporting

you with their selfless loving healing

So let us begin with a session description I have broken it down into 8 separate

action steps below

1 First make time to just sit and be comfortable (nothing ldquoto dordquo now)

Loosen any tight clothing

2 Begin breathing slowly until you relax into a comfortable natural pace

This is a time for gentleness Simply allow experience to happen and

follow experience moment-to-moment as you proceed

3 Slowly scan your entire being from head to toes inside and out If you

notice any part of you in tension just allow it to relax naturally and

dissolve with each out-breath

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 27 of 33

Note It may take you 2 or more breathing cycles to notice the muscles in a

particular area begin to relax There are times as well when you may just

need to continue on with your scan trusting that the area will release as you

proceed Again this is time for gentle following

4 Once relaxed (as much as may be possible for now) INVITE your Self to

allow and receive healing intention and healing love

Note This may not feel natural or normal within and like a child the

knee-jerk reaction may indeed be to rebel You are merely sending an

invitation nothing more As you repeat this intentional healing invitation

each day you will soon begin to notice that you are indeed looking forward

to this opportunity

5 You are now comfortable relaxed and intentional within It is time now

to image all the other CYSH Members with whom you are sharing this

time Know they too are seeking to generate healing for your challenges

just as you are for theirs Depending on your beliefs it is here that you

may also invite connect with your source of spiritual power (God

Source Higher Power Buddha) to participate with you

6 Spend the next minutes imagining a Circle of Intentional Healing

Energy flowing into you from all the others and out from you to all

others Allow it to be easy natural like the earthrsquos flow of water

circulating from sky to earth and back to sky simply relax into this flow

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 28 of 33

Note It may help to imagine your healing intentions emanating from about

2 finger-widths behind and about 3 finger-widths below your navel This

site (known as the ldquolower dan tienrdquo or ldquoharardquo) is considered the physical

center of gravity around which you are in perfect balance

From this point you can imagine healing intention flowing up your trunk

through your neck and head and out the top of your head to the other

CYSH members

The healing intention returning to you can be experienced as coming into

you at the same center of gravity point from which you started

Important Do not attempt to localize your intentions to any one region

within (brain heart liver etc) the reason being that a given illness process

occurs across and between physiological systems (even though we may talk

as if it is isolated to one system) It is best to imagine your entire Self

within a cocoon or bubble of flowing healing intention ndash everywhere within

you at once You may experience color warmth safety Luxuriate in your

experience Enjoy the moment

During this intentional time it can also be helpful on a given inout cycle of

breath to silently express I send out Loving Healing On the next

inout cycle silently express I receive Loving Healing and so on

In addition if your mind wanders off task (amp it will) just gently return to

the flow of loving healing intention Remember this experience is all about

being gentle Enjoy the process

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 29 of 33

Continue in this state for as long as you desire and is easy comfortable

and natural With practice your will naturally be at ease for longer

periods of time during each session

7 When complete express gratitude to your Self as well as to all others

sharing in this moment with you Sit in this experience of gratitude for a

few moments

8 Savor the nourishing peace you have generated

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 30 of 33

8-STEP PRAXIS REVIEW

1 SIT in comfort

2 BREATHE slowly rhythmically

3 SCAN (head to toes) to relax further still

4 INVITE SELF to allow healing intention

5 RELATE-WITH all other CYSH members amp Spiritual Power

6 SENDRECEIVE intentional healing

ldquoI send out Loving Healingrdquo ldquoI receive Loving Healingrdquo

7 Sit in GRATITUDE

8 SAVOR the nourishing peace

I genuinely look forward to your daily participation and to sharing this powerful

healing process with you I would love to hear your experiences with your praxis

Please do feel free to email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom)

My mission is to Coach You Well

Sincerely amp Caringly

MALCOLM

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 31 of 33

REFERENCES

1 Chopra Deepak (1994) The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success ndash A Practical Guide to

the Fulfillment of Your Dreams p76

2 Chopra Deepak (1999) A Deepak Chopra Companion Illuminations on Health and

Human Consciousness p94

3 Dyer httpwwwyoutubecomwatchv=DC-FPorUW7gampfeature=related

4 Buber Martin (1971) I And Thou

5 Intercessory prayer httpwwwcochraneorgreviewsenab000368html

6 Leskowitz httpwholistichealingresearchcom42books12

7 Schlitz httpxnetkporgpermanentejournalsum05evidencepdf

copy2009byMFDayton

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 32 of 33

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Malcolm Dayton LPC Cht is a Licensed Counselor with more than two decades coaching individuals and families facing chronic illness He is also certified in MindBody Medicine and Hypnotherapy

Malcolms Coaching Self Healing program is unique in that he calls on his own lifelong journey with chronic illness (multiple sclerosis asthma immune deficiency) to assist you in accessing your unique healing solutions Very simply Malcolm walks his coaching

His coaching program is truly integral-- that is healing solutions are practical in focus and applied comprehensively incorporating all dimensions of your experience from symptoms to wellness from relations within self to social relations from the physical to spiritual--a truly ecological approach to Self Healing You learn to be FULLIVINGtrade ndash to thrive beyond chronic illness

Malcolms mission is to Coach You WELL

CONTACTMalcolm Dayton LPC CHt

email mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom

phone 970-689-4247

Yes Malcolm Im ready to discover

the benefits of Self Healing Coaching NOW

Sign me up now for myCOMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION

Be Well And THRIVE Beyond Chronic Illness Now

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 33 of 33

Page 24: Thriving Beyond Chronic Illness:  Shared-Intentional-Healing Praxis

Moreover (as I suggested above) there is palpable transformation that occurs

within each of us as we gain comfort participating in shared-intentional-healingtrade

This transformational experience happens through your participation and it will

happen for you ndash no need to experiment just simply participate

Moreover at the heart of it the notion of ldquoexperimentrdquo does not accurately reflect

the research to date on ldquointentionrdquo and ldquohealingrdquo As an example a 1997 review

of research on ldquoIntercessory Prayer for the Alleviation of Ill Healthrdquo by Roberts

Ahmed Hall amp Davison reports individual studies suggest a positive effect of

intercessory prayer But since they viewed other reports in which the results

were equivocal they conclude no ldquo further trials of this intervention should be

takenrdquo5

Regrettably they miss the point The fact that studies DO exist reporting a

positive correlation between intercessory prayer and the alleviation of ill health is

precisely the reason more studies should be undertaken Edison found hundreds

of approaches that were equivocal before discovering a singular lighting solution

Thank goodness he did not conclude any further trials were unnecessary before

arriving at that solution

When it comes to this uniquely intimate subject of healing Eric Leskowitz MD

(in a review of the book Healing Intention amp Energy Medicine (2002) by Wayne

Jonas MD) explains how such conflicting conclusions like Roberts etal come

about Dr Leskowitz notes when he is in discussions with his allopathic medical

colleagues regarding ldquo inexplicable phenomena like energy healing or

intercessory prayer a sort of allopathic fear reflex kicks inrdquo6 Conclusions

become tunnel-visioned and skewed against even the possibility of such

correlation existing anywhere at any time Hence no further trials

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 24 of 33

You may however verify for yourself such positively-correlated research does

indeed already exist by reviewing the studies in Jonas book (above) In

addition Marilyn Schlitz PhD provides a brief outline of just some of those

ldquopositive correlationrdquo studies that highlight the ldquointerface of science spirituality

and medicinerdquo7

If you would like an even more in-depth review I refer you to Consciousness amp

Healing Integral Approaches to Mind-Body Medicine (2005) by Schlitz Amorok

and Micozzi as well as the more recent (2008) Holistic Nursing A Handbook for Practice

5th edition by Dossey amp Keegan

In sum although experimental research has certainly not provided the final

answers on the relation between intention and healing the research to date is

most certainly beyond the ldquoequivocalrdquo suggested by those reflexively reacting

from allopathic fear Those studies completed to date which do display a positive

correlation between intention and healing are already providing a strong practical

foundation of powerful techniques and approaches that go far beyond

ldquoexperimentingrdquo and straight to the heart of skillful-application in daily living

Shared-Intentional-Healingrdquotrade is just one such approach you may access today

and everyday simply by participating in your daily praxis

With the above foundation in mind we can now move on to

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 25 of 33

PRAXIS GUIDELINES

Having considered in some depth the foundation on which this method rests we

may now turn to the guidelines describing ldquohow tordquo participate in your daily

Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis

Before you approach your first intentional session please read through the

description and suggestions below Remember these opportunities are for YOU

to BENEFIT YOU Again there is no right way nor wrong way for you to

participate You simply participate in your own best way Therefore as noted

previously the description below is solely meant as a guided outline to assist you

in jump-starting your participation ndash sharing with you some ideas that have

already worked well for others in our Community

For this to be beneficial for everyone please do your best to allot at least 5 to

15 minutes for each intentional session If you are already seasoned at

sitting in quiet you certainly may choose to go longer (eg 30) and you can

trust there are other CYSH members continuing in synchrony with you

To start out let your sessions be for shorter periods of time You will experience

a natural increase in length of participation without having to think about it or

plan for it This is not a race nor a test of endurance This is a nourishing of

Self and a cultivation of your best healing intentions Be gentle

In the beginning it can also be helpful if you imagine sending out your healing

intentions in a particular direction around the globe and returning to you from

the opposite direction This way as you imagine can assist you in creating a

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 26 of 33

ldquoflowrdquo with regard to directing intentional healing to all others around the globe

As you become more adept you will very naturally be able to generate healing

images radiating from your whole being equally in all directions You will

become aware there is no particular ldquoupdownrdquo in space-time There is just

ldquoeverywhere hererdquo that is always at the center of the universe ndash as you are at all

times and as is each member

Finally please know you may also invite your friends and loved ones to share

with you in these sessions If they cannot participate with you ask them (at

minimum) to set their healing intention for you and send it like a gift to you each

day This can be helpful to them as well knowing they are actively supporting

you with their selfless loving healing

So let us begin with a session description I have broken it down into 8 separate

action steps below

1 First make time to just sit and be comfortable (nothing ldquoto dordquo now)

Loosen any tight clothing

2 Begin breathing slowly until you relax into a comfortable natural pace

This is a time for gentleness Simply allow experience to happen and

follow experience moment-to-moment as you proceed

3 Slowly scan your entire being from head to toes inside and out If you

notice any part of you in tension just allow it to relax naturally and

dissolve with each out-breath

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 27 of 33

Note It may take you 2 or more breathing cycles to notice the muscles in a

particular area begin to relax There are times as well when you may just

need to continue on with your scan trusting that the area will release as you

proceed Again this is time for gentle following

4 Once relaxed (as much as may be possible for now) INVITE your Self to

allow and receive healing intention and healing love

Note This may not feel natural or normal within and like a child the

knee-jerk reaction may indeed be to rebel You are merely sending an

invitation nothing more As you repeat this intentional healing invitation

each day you will soon begin to notice that you are indeed looking forward

to this opportunity

5 You are now comfortable relaxed and intentional within It is time now

to image all the other CYSH Members with whom you are sharing this

time Know they too are seeking to generate healing for your challenges

just as you are for theirs Depending on your beliefs it is here that you

may also invite connect with your source of spiritual power (God

Source Higher Power Buddha) to participate with you

6 Spend the next minutes imagining a Circle of Intentional Healing

Energy flowing into you from all the others and out from you to all

others Allow it to be easy natural like the earthrsquos flow of water

circulating from sky to earth and back to sky simply relax into this flow

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 28 of 33

Note It may help to imagine your healing intentions emanating from about

2 finger-widths behind and about 3 finger-widths below your navel This

site (known as the ldquolower dan tienrdquo or ldquoharardquo) is considered the physical

center of gravity around which you are in perfect balance

From this point you can imagine healing intention flowing up your trunk

through your neck and head and out the top of your head to the other

CYSH members

The healing intention returning to you can be experienced as coming into

you at the same center of gravity point from which you started

Important Do not attempt to localize your intentions to any one region

within (brain heart liver etc) the reason being that a given illness process

occurs across and between physiological systems (even though we may talk

as if it is isolated to one system) It is best to imagine your entire Self

within a cocoon or bubble of flowing healing intention ndash everywhere within

you at once You may experience color warmth safety Luxuriate in your

experience Enjoy the moment

During this intentional time it can also be helpful on a given inout cycle of

breath to silently express I send out Loving Healing On the next

inout cycle silently express I receive Loving Healing and so on

In addition if your mind wanders off task (amp it will) just gently return to

the flow of loving healing intention Remember this experience is all about

being gentle Enjoy the process

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 29 of 33

Continue in this state for as long as you desire and is easy comfortable

and natural With practice your will naturally be at ease for longer

periods of time during each session

7 When complete express gratitude to your Self as well as to all others

sharing in this moment with you Sit in this experience of gratitude for a

few moments

8 Savor the nourishing peace you have generated

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 30 of 33

8-STEP PRAXIS REVIEW

1 SIT in comfort

2 BREATHE slowly rhythmically

3 SCAN (head to toes) to relax further still

4 INVITE SELF to allow healing intention

5 RELATE-WITH all other CYSH members amp Spiritual Power

6 SENDRECEIVE intentional healing

ldquoI send out Loving Healingrdquo ldquoI receive Loving Healingrdquo

7 Sit in GRATITUDE

8 SAVOR the nourishing peace

I genuinely look forward to your daily participation and to sharing this powerful

healing process with you I would love to hear your experiences with your praxis

Please do feel free to email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom)

My mission is to Coach You Well

Sincerely amp Caringly

MALCOLM

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 31 of 33

REFERENCES

1 Chopra Deepak (1994) The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success ndash A Practical Guide to

the Fulfillment of Your Dreams p76

2 Chopra Deepak (1999) A Deepak Chopra Companion Illuminations on Health and

Human Consciousness p94

3 Dyer httpwwwyoutubecomwatchv=DC-FPorUW7gampfeature=related

4 Buber Martin (1971) I And Thou

5 Intercessory prayer httpwwwcochraneorgreviewsenab000368html

6 Leskowitz httpwholistichealingresearchcom42books12

7 Schlitz httpxnetkporgpermanentejournalsum05evidencepdf

copy2009byMFDayton

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 32 of 33

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Malcolm Dayton LPC Cht is a Licensed Counselor with more than two decades coaching individuals and families facing chronic illness He is also certified in MindBody Medicine and Hypnotherapy

Malcolms Coaching Self Healing program is unique in that he calls on his own lifelong journey with chronic illness (multiple sclerosis asthma immune deficiency) to assist you in accessing your unique healing solutions Very simply Malcolm walks his coaching

His coaching program is truly integral-- that is healing solutions are practical in focus and applied comprehensively incorporating all dimensions of your experience from symptoms to wellness from relations within self to social relations from the physical to spiritual--a truly ecological approach to Self Healing You learn to be FULLIVINGtrade ndash to thrive beyond chronic illness

Malcolms mission is to Coach You WELL

CONTACTMalcolm Dayton LPC CHt

email mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom

phone 970-689-4247

Yes Malcolm Im ready to discover

the benefits of Self Healing Coaching NOW

Sign me up now for myCOMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION

Be Well And THRIVE Beyond Chronic Illness Now

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 33 of 33

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You may however verify for yourself such positively-correlated research does

indeed already exist by reviewing the studies in Jonas book (above) In

addition Marilyn Schlitz PhD provides a brief outline of just some of those

ldquopositive correlationrdquo studies that highlight the ldquointerface of science spirituality

and medicinerdquo7

If you would like an even more in-depth review I refer you to Consciousness amp

Healing Integral Approaches to Mind-Body Medicine (2005) by Schlitz Amorok

and Micozzi as well as the more recent (2008) Holistic Nursing A Handbook for Practice

5th edition by Dossey amp Keegan

In sum although experimental research has certainly not provided the final

answers on the relation between intention and healing the research to date is

most certainly beyond the ldquoequivocalrdquo suggested by those reflexively reacting

from allopathic fear Those studies completed to date which do display a positive

correlation between intention and healing are already providing a strong practical

foundation of powerful techniques and approaches that go far beyond

ldquoexperimentingrdquo and straight to the heart of skillful-application in daily living

Shared-Intentional-Healingrdquotrade is just one such approach you may access today

and everyday simply by participating in your daily praxis

With the above foundation in mind we can now move on to

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 25 of 33

PRAXIS GUIDELINES

Having considered in some depth the foundation on which this method rests we

may now turn to the guidelines describing ldquohow tordquo participate in your daily

Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis

Before you approach your first intentional session please read through the

description and suggestions below Remember these opportunities are for YOU

to BENEFIT YOU Again there is no right way nor wrong way for you to

participate You simply participate in your own best way Therefore as noted

previously the description below is solely meant as a guided outline to assist you

in jump-starting your participation ndash sharing with you some ideas that have

already worked well for others in our Community

For this to be beneficial for everyone please do your best to allot at least 5 to

15 minutes for each intentional session If you are already seasoned at

sitting in quiet you certainly may choose to go longer (eg 30) and you can

trust there are other CYSH members continuing in synchrony with you

To start out let your sessions be for shorter periods of time You will experience

a natural increase in length of participation without having to think about it or

plan for it This is not a race nor a test of endurance This is a nourishing of

Self and a cultivation of your best healing intentions Be gentle

In the beginning it can also be helpful if you imagine sending out your healing

intentions in a particular direction around the globe and returning to you from

the opposite direction This way as you imagine can assist you in creating a

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 26 of 33

ldquoflowrdquo with regard to directing intentional healing to all others around the globe

As you become more adept you will very naturally be able to generate healing

images radiating from your whole being equally in all directions You will

become aware there is no particular ldquoupdownrdquo in space-time There is just

ldquoeverywhere hererdquo that is always at the center of the universe ndash as you are at all

times and as is each member

Finally please know you may also invite your friends and loved ones to share

with you in these sessions If they cannot participate with you ask them (at

minimum) to set their healing intention for you and send it like a gift to you each

day This can be helpful to them as well knowing they are actively supporting

you with their selfless loving healing

So let us begin with a session description I have broken it down into 8 separate

action steps below

1 First make time to just sit and be comfortable (nothing ldquoto dordquo now)

Loosen any tight clothing

2 Begin breathing slowly until you relax into a comfortable natural pace

This is a time for gentleness Simply allow experience to happen and

follow experience moment-to-moment as you proceed

3 Slowly scan your entire being from head to toes inside and out If you

notice any part of you in tension just allow it to relax naturally and

dissolve with each out-breath

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 27 of 33

Note It may take you 2 or more breathing cycles to notice the muscles in a

particular area begin to relax There are times as well when you may just

need to continue on with your scan trusting that the area will release as you

proceed Again this is time for gentle following

4 Once relaxed (as much as may be possible for now) INVITE your Self to

allow and receive healing intention and healing love

Note This may not feel natural or normal within and like a child the

knee-jerk reaction may indeed be to rebel You are merely sending an

invitation nothing more As you repeat this intentional healing invitation

each day you will soon begin to notice that you are indeed looking forward

to this opportunity

5 You are now comfortable relaxed and intentional within It is time now

to image all the other CYSH Members with whom you are sharing this

time Know they too are seeking to generate healing for your challenges

just as you are for theirs Depending on your beliefs it is here that you

may also invite connect with your source of spiritual power (God

Source Higher Power Buddha) to participate with you

6 Spend the next minutes imagining a Circle of Intentional Healing

Energy flowing into you from all the others and out from you to all

others Allow it to be easy natural like the earthrsquos flow of water

circulating from sky to earth and back to sky simply relax into this flow

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 28 of 33

Note It may help to imagine your healing intentions emanating from about

2 finger-widths behind and about 3 finger-widths below your navel This

site (known as the ldquolower dan tienrdquo or ldquoharardquo) is considered the physical

center of gravity around which you are in perfect balance

From this point you can imagine healing intention flowing up your trunk

through your neck and head and out the top of your head to the other

CYSH members

The healing intention returning to you can be experienced as coming into

you at the same center of gravity point from which you started

Important Do not attempt to localize your intentions to any one region

within (brain heart liver etc) the reason being that a given illness process

occurs across and between physiological systems (even though we may talk

as if it is isolated to one system) It is best to imagine your entire Self

within a cocoon or bubble of flowing healing intention ndash everywhere within

you at once You may experience color warmth safety Luxuriate in your

experience Enjoy the moment

During this intentional time it can also be helpful on a given inout cycle of

breath to silently express I send out Loving Healing On the next

inout cycle silently express I receive Loving Healing and so on

In addition if your mind wanders off task (amp it will) just gently return to

the flow of loving healing intention Remember this experience is all about

being gentle Enjoy the process

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 29 of 33

Continue in this state for as long as you desire and is easy comfortable

and natural With practice your will naturally be at ease for longer

periods of time during each session

7 When complete express gratitude to your Self as well as to all others

sharing in this moment with you Sit in this experience of gratitude for a

few moments

8 Savor the nourishing peace you have generated

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 30 of 33

8-STEP PRAXIS REVIEW

1 SIT in comfort

2 BREATHE slowly rhythmically

3 SCAN (head to toes) to relax further still

4 INVITE SELF to allow healing intention

5 RELATE-WITH all other CYSH members amp Spiritual Power

6 SENDRECEIVE intentional healing

ldquoI send out Loving Healingrdquo ldquoI receive Loving Healingrdquo

7 Sit in GRATITUDE

8 SAVOR the nourishing peace

I genuinely look forward to your daily participation and to sharing this powerful

healing process with you I would love to hear your experiences with your praxis

Please do feel free to email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom)

My mission is to Coach You Well

Sincerely amp Caringly

MALCOLM

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 31 of 33

REFERENCES

1 Chopra Deepak (1994) The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success ndash A Practical Guide to

the Fulfillment of Your Dreams p76

2 Chopra Deepak (1999) A Deepak Chopra Companion Illuminations on Health and

Human Consciousness p94

3 Dyer httpwwwyoutubecomwatchv=DC-FPorUW7gampfeature=related

4 Buber Martin (1971) I And Thou

5 Intercessory prayer httpwwwcochraneorgreviewsenab000368html

6 Leskowitz httpwholistichealingresearchcom42books12

7 Schlitz httpxnetkporgpermanentejournalsum05evidencepdf

copy2009byMFDayton

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 32 of 33

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Malcolm Dayton LPC Cht is a Licensed Counselor with more than two decades coaching individuals and families facing chronic illness He is also certified in MindBody Medicine and Hypnotherapy

Malcolms Coaching Self Healing program is unique in that he calls on his own lifelong journey with chronic illness (multiple sclerosis asthma immune deficiency) to assist you in accessing your unique healing solutions Very simply Malcolm walks his coaching

His coaching program is truly integral-- that is healing solutions are practical in focus and applied comprehensively incorporating all dimensions of your experience from symptoms to wellness from relations within self to social relations from the physical to spiritual--a truly ecological approach to Self Healing You learn to be FULLIVINGtrade ndash to thrive beyond chronic illness

Malcolms mission is to Coach You WELL

CONTACTMalcolm Dayton LPC CHt

email mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom

phone 970-689-4247

Yes Malcolm Im ready to discover

the benefits of Self Healing Coaching NOW

Sign me up now for myCOMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION

Be Well And THRIVE Beyond Chronic Illness Now

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 33 of 33

Page 26: Thriving Beyond Chronic Illness:  Shared-Intentional-Healing Praxis

PRAXIS GUIDELINES

Having considered in some depth the foundation on which this method rests we

may now turn to the guidelines describing ldquohow tordquo participate in your daily

Shared-Intentional-Healingtrade Praxis

Before you approach your first intentional session please read through the

description and suggestions below Remember these opportunities are for YOU

to BENEFIT YOU Again there is no right way nor wrong way for you to

participate You simply participate in your own best way Therefore as noted

previously the description below is solely meant as a guided outline to assist you

in jump-starting your participation ndash sharing with you some ideas that have

already worked well for others in our Community

For this to be beneficial for everyone please do your best to allot at least 5 to

15 minutes for each intentional session If you are already seasoned at

sitting in quiet you certainly may choose to go longer (eg 30) and you can

trust there are other CYSH members continuing in synchrony with you

To start out let your sessions be for shorter periods of time You will experience

a natural increase in length of participation without having to think about it or

plan for it This is not a race nor a test of endurance This is a nourishing of

Self and a cultivation of your best healing intentions Be gentle

In the beginning it can also be helpful if you imagine sending out your healing

intentions in a particular direction around the globe and returning to you from

the opposite direction This way as you imagine can assist you in creating a

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 26 of 33

ldquoflowrdquo with regard to directing intentional healing to all others around the globe

As you become more adept you will very naturally be able to generate healing

images radiating from your whole being equally in all directions You will

become aware there is no particular ldquoupdownrdquo in space-time There is just

ldquoeverywhere hererdquo that is always at the center of the universe ndash as you are at all

times and as is each member

Finally please know you may also invite your friends and loved ones to share

with you in these sessions If they cannot participate with you ask them (at

minimum) to set their healing intention for you and send it like a gift to you each

day This can be helpful to them as well knowing they are actively supporting

you with their selfless loving healing

So let us begin with a session description I have broken it down into 8 separate

action steps below

1 First make time to just sit and be comfortable (nothing ldquoto dordquo now)

Loosen any tight clothing

2 Begin breathing slowly until you relax into a comfortable natural pace

This is a time for gentleness Simply allow experience to happen and

follow experience moment-to-moment as you proceed

3 Slowly scan your entire being from head to toes inside and out If you

notice any part of you in tension just allow it to relax naturally and

dissolve with each out-breath

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 27 of 33

Note It may take you 2 or more breathing cycles to notice the muscles in a

particular area begin to relax There are times as well when you may just

need to continue on with your scan trusting that the area will release as you

proceed Again this is time for gentle following

4 Once relaxed (as much as may be possible for now) INVITE your Self to

allow and receive healing intention and healing love

Note This may not feel natural or normal within and like a child the

knee-jerk reaction may indeed be to rebel You are merely sending an

invitation nothing more As you repeat this intentional healing invitation

each day you will soon begin to notice that you are indeed looking forward

to this opportunity

5 You are now comfortable relaxed and intentional within It is time now

to image all the other CYSH Members with whom you are sharing this

time Know they too are seeking to generate healing for your challenges

just as you are for theirs Depending on your beliefs it is here that you

may also invite connect with your source of spiritual power (God

Source Higher Power Buddha) to participate with you

6 Spend the next minutes imagining a Circle of Intentional Healing

Energy flowing into you from all the others and out from you to all

others Allow it to be easy natural like the earthrsquos flow of water

circulating from sky to earth and back to sky simply relax into this flow

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 28 of 33

Note It may help to imagine your healing intentions emanating from about

2 finger-widths behind and about 3 finger-widths below your navel This

site (known as the ldquolower dan tienrdquo or ldquoharardquo) is considered the physical

center of gravity around which you are in perfect balance

From this point you can imagine healing intention flowing up your trunk

through your neck and head and out the top of your head to the other

CYSH members

The healing intention returning to you can be experienced as coming into

you at the same center of gravity point from which you started

Important Do not attempt to localize your intentions to any one region

within (brain heart liver etc) the reason being that a given illness process

occurs across and between physiological systems (even though we may talk

as if it is isolated to one system) It is best to imagine your entire Self

within a cocoon or bubble of flowing healing intention ndash everywhere within

you at once You may experience color warmth safety Luxuriate in your

experience Enjoy the moment

During this intentional time it can also be helpful on a given inout cycle of

breath to silently express I send out Loving Healing On the next

inout cycle silently express I receive Loving Healing and so on

In addition if your mind wanders off task (amp it will) just gently return to

the flow of loving healing intention Remember this experience is all about

being gentle Enjoy the process

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 29 of 33

Continue in this state for as long as you desire and is easy comfortable

and natural With practice your will naturally be at ease for longer

periods of time during each session

7 When complete express gratitude to your Self as well as to all others

sharing in this moment with you Sit in this experience of gratitude for a

few moments

8 Savor the nourishing peace you have generated

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 30 of 33

8-STEP PRAXIS REVIEW

1 SIT in comfort

2 BREATHE slowly rhythmically

3 SCAN (head to toes) to relax further still

4 INVITE SELF to allow healing intention

5 RELATE-WITH all other CYSH members amp Spiritual Power

6 SENDRECEIVE intentional healing

ldquoI send out Loving Healingrdquo ldquoI receive Loving Healingrdquo

7 Sit in GRATITUDE

8 SAVOR the nourishing peace

I genuinely look forward to your daily participation and to sharing this powerful

healing process with you I would love to hear your experiences with your praxis

Please do feel free to email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom)

My mission is to Coach You Well

Sincerely amp Caringly

MALCOLM

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 31 of 33

REFERENCES

1 Chopra Deepak (1994) The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success ndash A Practical Guide to

the Fulfillment of Your Dreams p76

2 Chopra Deepak (1999) A Deepak Chopra Companion Illuminations on Health and

Human Consciousness p94

3 Dyer httpwwwyoutubecomwatchv=DC-FPorUW7gampfeature=related

4 Buber Martin (1971) I And Thou

5 Intercessory prayer httpwwwcochraneorgreviewsenab000368html

6 Leskowitz httpwholistichealingresearchcom42books12

7 Schlitz httpxnetkporgpermanentejournalsum05evidencepdf

copy2009byMFDayton

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 32 of 33

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Malcolm Dayton LPC Cht is a Licensed Counselor with more than two decades coaching individuals and families facing chronic illness He is also certified in MindBody Medicine and Hypnotherapy

Malcolms Coaching Self Healing program is unique in that he calls on his own lifelong journey with chronic illness (multiple sclerosis asthma immune deficiency) to assist you in accessing your unique healing solutions Very simply Malcolm walks his coaching

His coaching program is truly integral-- that is healing solutions are practical in focus and applied comprehensively incorporating all dimensions of your experience from symptoms to wellness from relations within self to social relations from the physical to spiritual--a truly ecological approach to Self Healing You learn to be FULLIVINGtrade ndash to thrive beyond chronic illness

Malcolms mission is to Coach You WELL

CONTACTMalcolm Dayton LPC CHt

email mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom

phone 970-689-4247

Yes Malcolm Im ready to discover

the benefits of Self Healing Coaching NOW

Sign me up now for myCOMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION

Be Well And THRIVE Beyond Chronic Illness Now

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 33 of 33

Page 27: Thriving Beyond Chronic Illness:  Shared-Intentional-Healing Praxis

ldquoflowrdquo with regard to directing intentional healing to all others around the globe

As you become more adept you will very naturally be able to generate healing

images radiating from your whole being equally in all directions You will

become aware there is no particular ldquoupdownrdquo in space-time There is just

ldquoeverywhere hererdquo that is always at the center of the universe ndash as you are at all

times and as is each member

Finally please know you may also invite your friends and loved ones to share

with you in these sessions If they cannot participate with you ask them (at

minimum) to set their healing intention for you and send it like a gift to you each

day This can be helpful to them as well knowing they are actively supporting

you with their selfless loving healing

So let us begin with a session description I have broken it down into 8 separate

action steps below

1 First make time to just sit and be comfortable (nothing ldquoto dordquo now)

Loosen any tight clothing

2 Begin breathing slowly until you relax into a comfortable natural pace

This is a time for gentleness Simply allow experience to happen and

follow experience moment-to-moment as you proceed

3 Slowly scan your entire being from head to toes inside and out If you

notice any part of you in tension just allow it to relax naturally and

dissolve with each out-breath

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 27 of 33

Note It may take you 2 or more breathing cycles to notice the muscles in a

particular area begin to relax There are times as well when you may just

need to continue on with your scan trusting that the area will release as you

proceed Again this is time for gentle following

4 Once relaxed (as much as may be possible for now) INVITE your Self to

allow and receive healing intention and healing love

Note This may not feel natural or normal within and like a child the

knee-jerk reaction may indeed be to rebel You are merely sending an

invitation nothing more As you repeat this intentional healing invitation

each day you will soon begin to notice that you are indeed looking forward

to this opportunity

5 You are now comfortable relaxed and intentional within It is time now

to image all the other CYSH Members with whom you are sharing this

time Know they too are seeking to generate healing for your challenges

just as you are for theirs Depending on your beliefs it is here that you

may also invite connect with your source of spiritual power (God

Source Higher Power Buddha) to participate with you

6 Spend the next minutes imagining a Circle of Intentional Healing

Energy flowing into you from all the others and out from you to all

others Allow it to be easy natural like the earthrsquos flow of water

circulating from sky to earth and back to sky simply relax into this flow

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 28 of 33

Note It may help to imagine your healing intentions emanating from about

2 finger-widths behind and about 3 finger-widths below your navel This

site (known as the ldquolower dan tienrdquo or ldquoharardquo) is considered the physical

center of gravity around which you are in perfect balance

From this point you can imagine healing intention flowing up your trunk

through your neck and head and out the top of your head to the other

CYSH members

The healing intention returning to you can be experienced as coming into

you at the same center of gravity point from which you started

Important Do not attempt to localize your intentions to any one region

within (brain heart liver etc) the reason being that a given illness process

occurs across and between physiological systems (even though we may talk

as if it is isolated to one system) It is best to imagine your entire Self

within a cocoon or bubble of flowing healing intention ndash everywhere within

you at once You may experience color warmth safety Luxuriate in your

experience Enjoy the moment

During this intentional time it can also be helpful on a given inout cycle of

breath to silently express I send out Loving Healing On the next

inout cycle silently express I receive Loving Healing and so on

In addition if your mind wanders off task (amp it will) just gently return to

the flow of loving healing intention Remember this experience is all about

being gentle Enjoy the process

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 29 of 33

Continue in this state for as long as you desire and is easy comfortable

and natural With practice your will naturally be at ease for longer

periods of time during each session

7 When complete express gratitude to your Self as well as to all others

sharing in this moment with you Sit in this experience of gratitude for a

few moments

8 Savor the nourishing peace you have generated

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 30 of 33

8-STEP PRAXIS REVIEW

1 SIT in comfort

2 BREATHE slowly rhythmically

3 SCAN (head to toes) to relax further still

4 INVITE SELF to allow healing intention

5 RELATE-WITH all other CYSH members amp Spiritual Power

6 SENDRECEIVE intentional healing

ldquoI send out Loving Healingrdquo ldquoI receive Loving Healingrdquo

7 Sit in GRATITUDE

8 SAVOR the nourishing peace

I genuinely look forward to your daily participation and to sharing this powerful

healing process with you I would love to hear your experiences with your praxis

Please do feel free to email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom)

My mission is to Coach You Well

Sincerely amp Caringly

MALCOLM

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 31 of 33

REFERENCES

1 Chopra Deepak (1994) The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success ndash A Practical Guide to

the Fulfillment of Your Dreams p76

2 Chopra Deepak (1999) A Deepak Chopra Companion Illuminations on Health and

Human Consciousness p94

3 Dyer httpwwwyoutubecomwatchv=DC-FPorUW7gampfeature=related

4 Buber Martin (1971) I And Thou

5 Intercessory prayer httpwwwcochraneorgreviewsenab000368html

6 Leskowitz httpwholistichealingresearchcom42books12

7 Schlitz httpxnetkporgpermanentejournalsum05evidencepdf

copy2009byMFDayton

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 32 of 33

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Malcolm Dayton LPC Cht is a Licensed Counselor with more than two decades coaching individuals and families facing chronic illness He is also certified in MindBody Medicine and Hypnotherapy

Malcolms Coaching Self Healing program is unique in that he calls on his own lifelong journey with chronic illness (multiple sclerosis asthma immune deficiency) to assist you in accessing your unique healing solutions Very simply Malcolm walks his coaching

His coaching program is truly integral-- that is healing solutions are practical in focus and applied comprehensively incorporating all dimensions of your experience from symptoms to wellness from relations within self to social relations from the physical to spiritual--a truly ecological approach to Self Healing You learn to be FULLIVINGtrade ndash to thrive beyond chronic illness

Malcolms mission is to Coach You WELL

CONTACTMalcolm Dayton LPC CHt

email mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom

phone 970-689-4247

Yes Malcolm Im ready to discover

the benefits of Self Healing Coaching NOW

Sign me up now for myCOMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION

Be Well And THRIVE Beyond Chronic Illness Now

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 33 of 33

Page 28: Thriving Beyond Chronic Illness:  Shared-Intentional-Healing Praxis

Note It may take you 2 or more breathing cycles to notice the muscles in a

particular area begin to relax There are times as well when you may just

need to continue on with your scan trusting that the area will release as you

proceed Again this is time for gentle following

4 Once relaxed (as much as may be possible for now) INVITE your Self to

allow and receive healing intention and healing love

Note This may not feel natural or normal within and like a child the

knee-jerk reaction may indeed be to rebel You are merely sending an

invitation nothing more As you repeat this intentional healing invitation

each day you will soon begin to notice that you are indeed looking forward

to this opportunity

5 You are now comfortable relaxed and intentional within It is time now

to image all the other CYSH Members with whom you are sharing this

time Know they too are seeking to generate healing for your challenges

just as you are for theirs Depending on your beliefs it is here that you

may also invite connect with your source of spiritual power (God

Source Higher Power Buddha) to participate with you

6 Spend the next minutes imagining a Circle of Intentional Healing

Energy flowing into you from all the others and out from you to all

others Allow it to be easy natural like the earthrsquos flow of water

circulating from sky to earth and back to sky simply relax into this flow

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 28 of 33

Note It may help to imagine your healing intentions emanating from about

2 finger-widths behind and about 3 finger-widths below your navel This

site (known as the ldquolower dan tienrdquo or ldquoharardquo) is considered the physical

center of gravity around which you are in perfect balance

From this point you can imagine healing intention flowing up your trunk

through your neck and head and out the top of your head to the other

CYSH members

The healing intention returning to you can be experienced as coming into

you at the same center of gravity point from which you started

Important Do not attempt to localize your intentions to any one region

within (brain heart liver etc) the reason being that a given illness process

occurs across and between physiological systems (even though we may talk

as if it is isolated to one system) It is best to imagine your entire Self

within a cocoon or bubble of flowing healing intention ndash everywhere within

you at once You may experience color warmth safety Luxuriate in your

experience Enjoy the moment

During this intentional time it can also be helpful on a given inout cycle of

breath to silently express I send out Loving Healing On the next

inout cycle silently express I receive Loving Healing and so on

In addition if your mind wanders off task (amp it will) just gently return to

the flow of loving healing intention Remember this experience is all about

being gentle Enjoy the process

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 29 of 33

Continue in this state for as long as you desire and is easy comfortable

and natural With practice your will naturally be at ease for longer

periods of time during each session

7 When complete express gratitude to your Self as well as to all others

sharing in this moment with you Sit in this experience of gratitude for a

few moments

8 Savor the nourishing peace you have generated

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 30 of 33

8-STEP PRAXIS REVIEW

1 SIT in comfort

2 BREATHE slowly rhythmically

3 SCAN (head to toes) to relax further still

4 INVITE SELF to allow healing intention

5 RELATE-WITH all other CYSH members amp Spiritual Power

6 SENDRECEIVE intentional healing

ldquoI send out Loving Healingrdquo ldquoI receive Loving Healingrdquo

7 Sit in GRATITUDE

8 SAVOR the nourishing peace

I genuinely look forward to your daily participation and to sharing this powerful

healing process with you I would love to hear your experiences with your praxis

Please do feel free to email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom)

My mission is to Coach You Well

Sincerely amp Caringly

MALCOLM

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 31 of 33

REFERENCES

1 Chopra Deepak (1994) The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success ndash A Practical Guide to

the Fulfillment of Your Dreams p76

2 Chopra Deepak (1999) A Deepak Chopra Companion Illuminations on Health and

Human Consciousness p94

3 Dyer httpwwwyoutubecomwatchv=DC-FPorUW7gampfeature=related

4 Buber Martin (1971) I And Thou

5 Intercessory prayer httpwwwcochraneorgreviewsenab000368html

6 Leskowitz httpwholistichealingresearchcom42books12

7 Schlitz httpxnetkporgpermanentejournalsum05evidencepdf

copy2009byMFDayton

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 32 of 33

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Malcolm Dayton LPC Cht is a Licensed Counselor with more than two decades coaching individuals and families facing chronic illness He is also certified in MindBody Medicine and Hypnotherapy

Malcolms Coaching Self Healing program is unique in that he calls on his own lifelong journey with chronic illness (multiple sclerosis asthma immune deficiency) to assist you in accessing your unique healing solutions Very simply Malcolm walks his coaching

His coaching program is truly integral-- that is healing solutions are practical in focus and applied comprehensively incorporating all dimensions of your experience from symptoms to wellness from relations within self to social relations from the physical to spiritual--a truly ecological approach to Self Healing You learn to be FULLIVINGtrade ndash to thrive beyond chronic illness

Malcolms mission is to Coach You WELL

CONTACTMalcolm Dayton LPC CHt

email mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom

phone 970-689-4247

Yes Malcolm Im ready to discover

the benefits of Self Healing Coaching NOW

Sign me up now for myCOMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION

Be Well And THRIVE Beyond Chronic Illness Now

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 33 of 33

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Note It may help to imagine your healing intentions emanating from about

2 finger-widths behind and about 3 finger-widths below your navel This

site (known as the ldquolower dan tienrdquo or ldquoharardquo) is considered the physical

center of gravity around which you are in perfect balance

From this point you can imagine healing intention flowing up your trunk

through your neck and head and out the top of your head to the other

CYSH members

The healing intention returning to you can be experienced as coming into

you at the same center of gravity point from which you started

Important Do not attempt to localize your intentions to any one region

within (brain heart liver etc) the reason being that a given illness process

occurs across and between physiological systems (even though we may talk

as if it is isolated to one system) It is best to imagine your entire Self

within a cocoon or bubble of flowing healing intention ndash everywhere within

you at once You may experience color warmth safety Luxuriate in your

experience Enjoy the moment

During this intentional time it can also be helpful on a given inout cycle of

breath to silently express I send out Loving Healing On the next

inout cycle silently express I receive Loving Healing and so on

In addition if your mind wanders off task (amp it will) just gently return to

the flow of loving healing intention Remember this experience is all about

being gentle Enjoy the process

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 29 of 33

Continue in this state for as long as you desire and is easy comfortable

and natural With practice your will naturally be at ease for longer

periods of time during each session

7 When complete express gratitude to your Self as well as to all others

sharing in this moment with you Sit in this experience of gratitude for a

few moments

8 Savor the nourishing peace you have generated

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 30 of 33

8-STEP PRAXIS REVIEW

1 SIT in comfort

2 BREATHE slowly rhythmically

3 SCAN (head to toes) to relax further still

4 INVITE SELF to allow healing intention

5 RELATE-WITH all other CYSH members amp Spiritual Power

6 SENDRECEIVE intentional healing

ldquoI send out Loving Healingrdquo ldquoI receive Loving Healingrdquo

7 Sit in GRATITUDE

8 SAVOR the nourishing peace

I genuinely look forward to your daily participation and to sharing this powerful

healing process with you I would love to hear your experiences with your praxis

Please do feel free to email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom)

My mission is to Coach You Well

Sincerely amp Caringly

MALCOLM

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 31 of 33

REFERENCES

1 Chopra Deepak (1994) The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success ndash A Practical Guide to

the Fulfillment of Your Dreams p76

2 Chopra Deepak (1999) A Deepak Chopra Companion Illuminations on Health and

Human Consciousness p94

3 Dyer httpwwwyoutubecomwatchv=DC-FPorUW7gampfeature=related

4 Buber Martin (1971) I And Thou

5 Intercessory prayer httpwwwcochraneorgreviewsenab000368html

6 Leskowitz httpwholistichealingresearchcom42books12

7 Schlitz httpxnetkporgpermanentejournalsum05evidencepdf

copy2009byMFDayton

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 32 of 33

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Malcolm Dayton LPC Cht is a Licensed Counselor with more than two decades coaching individuals and families facing chronic illness He is also certified in MindBody Medicine and Hypnotherapy

Malcolms Coaching Self Healing program is unique in that he calls on his own lifelong journey with chronic illness (multiple sclerosis asthma immune deficiency) to assist you in accessing your unique healing solutions Very simply Malcolm walks his coaching

His coaching program is truly integral-- that is healing solutions are practical in focus and applied comprehensively incorporating all dimensions of your experience from symptoms to wellness from relations within self to social relations from the physical to spiritual--a truly ecological approach to Self Healing You learn to be FULLIVINGtrade ndash to thrive beyond chronic illness

Malcolms mission is to Coach You WELL

CONTACTMalcolm Dayton LPC CHt

email mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom

phone 970-689-4247

Yes Malcolm Im ready to discover

the benefits of Self Healing Coaching NOW

Sign me up now for myCOMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION

Be Well And THRIVE Beyond Chronic Illness Now

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 33 of 33

Page 30: Thriving Beyond Chronic Illness:  Shared-Intentional-Healing Praxis

Continue in this state for as long as you desire and is easy comfortable

and natural With practice your will naturally be at ease for longer

periods of time during each session

7 When complete express gratitude to your Self as well as to all others

sharing in this moment with you Sit in this experience of gratitude for a

few moments

8 Savor the nourishing peace you have generated

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 30 of 33

8-STEP PRAXIS REVIEW

1 SIT in comfort

2 BREATHE slowly rhythmically

3 SCAN (head to toes) to relax further still

4 INVITE SELF to allow healing intention

5 RELATE-WITH all other CYSH members amp Spiritual Power

6 SENDRECEIVE intentional healing

ldquoI send out Loving Healingrdquo ldquoI receive Loving Healingrdquo

7 Sit in GRATITUDE

8 SAVOR the nourishing peace

I genuinely look forward to your daily participation and to sharing this powerful

healing process with you I would love to hear your experiences with your praxis

Please do feel free to email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom)

My mission is to Coach You Well

Sincerely amp Caringly

MALCOLM

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 31 of 33

REFERENCES

1 Chopra Deepak (1994) The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success ndash A Practical Guide to

the Fulfillment of Your Dreams p76

2 Chopra Deepak (1999) A Deepak Chopra Companion Illuminations on Health and

Human Consciousness p94

3 Dyer httpwwwyoutubecomwatchv=DC-FPorUW7gampfeature=related

4 Buber Martin (1971) I And Thou

5 Intercessory prayer httpwwwcochraneorgreviewsenab000368html

6 Leskowitz httpwholistichealingresearchcom42books12

7 Schlitz httpxnetkporgpermanentejournalsum05evidencepdf

copy2009byMFDayton

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 32 of 33

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Malcolm Dayton LPC Cht is a Licensed Counselor with more than two decades coaching individuals and families facing chronic illness He is also certified in MindBody Medicine and Hypnotherapy

Malcolms Coaching Self Healing program is unique in that he calls on his own lifelong journey with chronic illness (multiple sclerosis asthma immune deficiency) to assist you in accessing your unique healing solutions Very simply Malcolm walks his coaching

His coaching program is truly integral-- that is healing solutions are practical in focus and applied comprehensively incorporating all dimensions of your experience from symptoms to wellness from relations within self to social relations from the physical to spiritual--a truly ecological approach to Self Healing You learn to be FULLIVINGtrade ndash to thrive beyond chronic illness

Malcolms mission is to Coach You WELL

CONTACTMalcolm Dayton LPC CHt

email mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom

phone 970-689-4247

Yes Malcolm Im ready to discover

the benefits of Self Healing Coaching NOW

Sign me up now for myCOMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION

Be Well And THRIVE Beyond Chronic Illness Now

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 33 of 33

Page 31: Thriving Beyond Chronic Illness:  Shared-Intentional-Healing Praxis

8-STEP PRAXIS REVIEW

1 SIT in comfort

2 BREATHE slowly rhythmically

3 SCAN (head to toes) to relax further still

4 INVITE SELF to allow healing intention

5 RELATE-WITH all other CYSH members amp Spiritual Power

6 SENDRECEIVE intentional healing

ldquoI send out Loving Healingrdquo ldquoI receive Loving Healingrdquo

7 Sit in GRATITUDE

8 SAVOR the nourishing peace

I genuinely look forward to your daily participation and to sharing this powerful

healing process with you I would love to hear your experiences with your praxis

Please do feel free to email me (mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom)

My mission is to Coach You Well

Sincerely amp Caringly

MALCOLM

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 31 of 33

REFERENCES

1 Chopra Deepak (1994) The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success ndash A Practical Guide to

the Fulfillment of Your Dreams p76

2 Chopra Deepak (1999) A Deepak Chopra Companion Illuminations on Health and

Human Consciousness p94

3 Dyer httpwwwyoutubecomwatchv=DC-FPorUW7gampfeature=related

4 Buber Martin (1971) I And Thou

5 Intercessory prayer httpwwwcochraneorgreviewsenab000368html

6 Leskowitz httpwholistichealingresearchcom42books12

7 Schlitz httpxnetkporgpermanentejournalsum05evidencepdf

copy2009byMFDayton

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 32 of 33

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Malcolm Dayton LPC Cht is a Licensed Counselor with more than two decades coaching individuals and families facing chronic illness He is also certified in MindBody Medicine and Hypnotherapy

Malcolms Coaching Self Healing program is unique in that he calls on his own lifelong journey with chronic illness (multiple sclerosis asthma immune deficiency) to assist you in accessing your unique healing solutions Very simply Malcolm walks his coaching

His coaching program is truly integral-- that is healing solutions are practical in focus and applied comprehensively incorporating all dimensions of your experience from symptoms to wellness from relations within self to social relations from the physical to spiritual--a truly ecological approach to Self Healing You learn to be FULLIVINGtrade ndash to thrive beyond chronic illness

Malcolms mission is to Coach You WELL

CONTACTMalcolm Dayton LPC CHt

email mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom

phone 970-689-4247

Yes Malcolm Im ready to discover

the benefits of Self Healing Coaching NOW

Sign me up now for myCOMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION

Be Well And THRIVE Beyond Chronic Illness Now

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 33 of 33

Page 32: Thriving Beyond Chronic Illness:  Shared-Intentional-Healing Praxis

REFERENCES

1 Chopra Deepak (1994) The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success ndash A Practical Guide to

the Fulfillment of Your Dreams p76

2 Chopra Deepak (1999) A Deepak Chopra Companion Illuminations on Health and

Human Consciousness p94

3 Dyer httpwwwyoutubecomwatchv=DC-FPorUW7gampfeature=related

4 Buber Martin (1971) I And Thou

5 Intercessory prayer httpwwwcochraneorgreviewsenab000368html

6 Leskowitz httpwholistichealingresearchcom42books12

7 Schlitz httpxnetkporgpermanentejournalsum05evidencepdf

copy2009byMFDayton

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 32 of 33

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Malcolm Dayton LPC Cht is a Licensed Counselor with more than two decades coaching individuals and families facing chronic illness He is also certified in MindBody Medicine and Hypnotherapy

Malcolms Coaching Self Healing program is unique in that he calls on his own lifelong journey with chronic illness (multiple sclerosis asthma immune deficiency) to assist you in accessing your unique healing solutions Very simply Malcolm walks his coaching

His coaching program is truly integral-- that is healing solutions are practical in focus and applied comprehensively incorporating all dimensions of your experience from symptoms to wellness from relations within self to social relations from the physical to spiritual--a truly ecological approach to Self Healing You learn to be FULLIVINGtrade ndash to thrive beyond chronic illness

Malcolms mission is to Coach You WELL

CONTACTMalcolm Dayton LPC CHt

email mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom

phone 970-689-4247

Yes Malcolm Im ready to discover

the benefits of Self Healing Coaching NOW

Sign me up now for myCOMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION

Be Well And THRIVE Beyond Chronic Illness Now

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 33 of 33

Page 33: Thriving Beyond Chronic Illness:  Shared-Intentional-Healing Praxis

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Malcolm Dayton LPC Cht is a Licensed Counselor with more than two decades coaching individuals and families facing chronic illness He is also certified in MindBody Medicine and Hypnotherapy

Malcolms Coaching Self Healing program is unique in that he calls on his own lifelong journey with chronic illness (multiple sclerosis asthma immune deficiency) to assist you in accessing your unique healing solutions Very simply Malcolm walks his coaching

His coaching program is truly integral-- that is healing solutions are practical in focus and applied comprehensively incorporating all dimensions of your experience from symptoms to wellness from relations within self to social relations from the physical to spiritual--a truly ecological approach to Self Healing You learn to be FULLIVINGtrade ndash to thrive beyond chronic illness

Malcolms mission is to Coach You WELL

CONTACTMalcolm Dayton LPC CHt

email mdaytonCoachingSelfHealingcom

phone 970-689-4247

Yes Malcolm Im ready to discover

the benefits of Self Healing Coaching NOW

Sign me up now for myCOMPLEMENTARY COACHING SESSION

Be Well And THRIVE Beyond Chronic Illness Now

HttpCoachingSelfHealingcomqualification Page 33 of 33