THREE PILLARS

OF RESPONSIBILITY

By Jackie Agnew, Counsellor, Life Coach, Motivational Speaker

The Environment

You

Beware the Bullets

OTHER PEOPLES BEHAVIOUR

NEGATIVE WORK ENVIRONMENT

Negative World View

Changing Environments

Past experiences

Determinism Theory

The Environment

You

Beware the Bullets

OTHER PEOPLES BEHAVIOUR

NEGATIVE WORK ENVIRONMENT

Negative World View

Changing Environments

Past experiences

Determinism Theory

Ouch!

What affects us at work?• Negative Work Environment• No one appreciates your contributions• Too Much Work-Not Enough Help• Unrealistic Deadlines• Longer Hours...Additional Work• Poor Management/Direction• Budget Constraints• Job Insecurity

•  Outside Influences• Family• Divorce/Custody Issues• Illness• Finances• Daycare Issues

• Other People’s Behaviour• Gossips• Complainers• Whiners• Brown nosers• Backstabbers• Walking Wounded• Clams• Exploders• Controllers• Negatives• Bulldozers• Patronisers

• Changing Environment• “The only person who likes change is a wet baby”• CHANGE...• Challenges our paradigms• Alters the way we think• Makes life more difficult for awhile• Causes Stress• Is an ongoing fact of life

Determinism Theory

GENETIC: My Grandparents did it to me.(Inherited Traits)

PSYCHIC: My parents did it to me.(Upbringing)

ENVIRONMENTAL: My Spouse, My Boss, The Company, The Economy etc... Is doing this to me.

(Surroundings)

Life’s Little Question

“Are some people just born positivethinkers...Or is it their CHOICE?”

Choose the Right Luggage

Dodge Bullets

Be Bulletproof

The Problem with Dodging Bullets?You’re going to get hit!

Wear Bulletproof Armour

Bulletproof Armour comes from

Self Change

Put on your armour by changing 3 things!

Attitude Thinking Behaviour

How to Change Your Attitude

Changes happen

personally from the

INSIDE OUT!

Attitude

Take Control

From the inside out!

How to Change Your Thinking

Thinking

THINKING

Changes come from observing

logically inevery situation

Observe Your ThinkingWhat can I do to

defuse this? I refuse to let

this hook me

This is all very interestingTomorrow it will look very different

I’d lik

e to beat

the…

It sucks to be him

Thinking

Manage Your Self-TalkIf you think you Can or think you Can’t…YOU’RE RIGHT! Henry Ford

This is going to be a wonderful

day!

This is going to be a

crappy day!

Thinking

Ce

How To Change Your Behaviour

BEHAVIOUR

Changes take true assessment,

determination & discipline

Choose Your BehaviourReactive

StimulasStimulasRespons

e

Responsible

StimulasStimulas My Choice

MyRESPONSE

BehaviourBehaviour

Steps Toward Changing Behaviour

BehaviourBehaviour

Unconscious incompetence

Conscience incompetence

Conscience Competence

Unconscious Competence

Influence Your EnvironmentAdd Posi + ive Behaviour

Replace the BAD HABITS!

Spread a SMILE aroundSprinkle some “positive” on the negativesFocus on the good each dayStay out of the “feeding frenzies”Say “Please” and “Thank You”Practice EMPATHYEvaluate YOUR BehaviourNever miss an opportunity to compliment

BehaviourBehaviour

More Posi + ive Contributions

•Before you say anything to anyone, ask yourself three things

1.Is it true?2.Is it harmful?3.Is it necessary?

•Keep promises•Have a forgiving view of people•Keep an open mind with changes•Count to 1000 if necessary•See criticism as opportunity to improve•Cultivate your sense of humour

Remember to . . .

Watch your definitions -they become thoughtsthey become thoughts

Watch your thoughts -They become wordsThey become words

Watch your words -They become actionsThey become actions

Watch your actions -They become your destinyThey become your destiny

The Choice is Yours

With a bad attitude . . .You can never have a positive day

With a positive attitude . . . you can manage any bad day!

Take Responsibility for Your LifeChoose Positive Living!