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THE STORY OF THE MUM AND THOSE CRAZY KIDS
Every day, when the family had dinner together, the mum would go through the same routine. She just had no other way of dealing with it………
The kids would mess around, not eat their food, argue with each other and the mother would get more and more wound up until she just started shouting at them…...
DINNER KIDS PLAY UP MOTHER SHOUTS
MONDAY
DINNER KIDS PLAY UP MOTHER SHOUTS
TUESDAY
DINNER KIDS PLAY UP MOTHER SHOUTS
WEDNESDAY
DINNER KIDS PLAY UP MOTHER SHOUTS
THURSDAY
THEN ONE DAY
The lady read in a newspaper that shouting at your kids can make them even worse…….
Shouting at your kids
can reinforce their bad
behaviour!!
NEWS!
No more shouting at the dinner
table, I don’t want to make them worse
No more shouting at the dinner
table, I don’t want to make them worse
DINNER KIDS PLAY UP ………
NEXT DAY
DINNER KIDS PLAY UP ………
AND THE NEXT DAY
IT WAS REALLY DIFFICULT NOT TO REACT
so later on the mother finally lost her temper and shouted and shouted until her throat was sore…
DINNER KIDS PLAY UP MOTHER SHOUTS
AND THE NEXT DAYSHE WENT BACK TO
DINNER KIDS PLAY UP MOTHER SHOUTS
AND MORE
THEN ONE DAY
The lady heard of …..
DOSOMETHINGDIFFERENT
The next day
Instead of sitting in the same places at the dinner table and going through the same routine, the mother did something different – they all sat in different places, she tried whispering instead of shouting when the kids got rowdy and she praised them when they were behaving instead of only ever noticing their bad behaviour. With a different approach the kids ate their dinner and behaved much better.
No more shouting from
me!
No more shouting from
me!
Are you going to lose your temper?
Are you going to lose your temper?
• Children will keep doing things that get them attention or for which they get ‘rewarded’, even if the attention is negative (i.e. shouting).
• Children will assume that what their parents do is OK, and they’ll copy it.
• Ignoring your child’s bad behaviour can be a powerful way of stopping it. Rewarding behaviour that you want to see is a powerful way of encouraging more of it. Give specific praise and/or a small tangible reward.
• Do Something Different makes change easier. It weakens the chain of habits that support unwanted behaviour.
• Doing something differently can set off a whole chain of new positive events.