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Anand Karaj The Sikh Marriage Ceremony
“They are not said to be husband and wife who merely sit together.
Rather they alone are called husband and wife, who have one
soul in two bodies.” - Guru Amardas
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About The Sikh Wedding
Marriage is a spiritual identity, not just a love
affair between two people. The focus of mar-
riage is not romantic love or physical liaison,
though these aspects of marriage naturally
bring their own delight. The Sikh marriage is all
about love, but what kind of love? It is the Love
of the Soul-bride for God, that longing to merge
with the Infinite. A Sikh marriage is two people
trying to help one another in this merger. The
highest love is assisting another in the merger
of the soul with the infinite, helping the Beloved
to find the true purpose of their life.
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3 “In the third round of the marriage cere-
mony your heart is filled with Divine Love.
By my great destiny I have met the humble
Saints who love the Lord and I have found God.
I have found the pure Lord and I sing His Won-
derful Praises. I sing the Guru’s Bani. By great
good destiny I have found the humble Saints
and I speak in the silent language of the Infi-
nite. The Lord’s Name - Har, Har, Har, vibrates
and resounds within my heart. Meditating on
God, I have realized the great destiny written on
my forehead. Servant Nanak proclaims that in
this third round, the heart is full of Divine Love
of the One God.
4 ”In the fourth round of the marriage cere-
mony I have found God and my mind is
filled with peace. Living as a Gurmukh, I have
met Him with simple ease. My mind and body
are full of sweet delight. I am pleasing to God -
and night and day I lovingly focus my aware-
ness on Him. I have merged with the One in
everyone and all my desires are fulfilled. The
Lord’s Name resounds and reverberates within
me and all around me. The One God, my Lord
and Master, merges with His Divine Bride and
her heart blossoms with His Holy Naam. Servant
Nanak proclaims that in this fourth round, we
have become One with the Eternal Lord. ”
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The Four Wedding Rounds English Translation
1 ”In the first round of the marriage cere-
mony, the Lord gives you His instructions
for married life. Instead of performing rituals by
routine, embrace the righteous life of Dharma,
and do nothing that separates you from God.
Meditate on God’s Name. Embrace and practice
Simran - the continuous remembrance of your
True Identity. Worship and adore the Guru, the
Perfect True Guru, and all the errors of your
past shall be washed away. By your great des-
tiny, you shall know that bliss which passes all
understanding, and the Lord - Har, Har, will be-
come sweet to your mind. Servant Nanak pro-
claims that in this first round, the marriage
ceremony has begun.
2 “In the second round of the marriage cere-
mony, the Lord guides you to meet the True
Guru - the One Teacher. Filled with the awe of
the Infinite, your ego dissolves away. In awe of
the One who is forever pure, sing His Wonderful
Praises and see God in all. The Lord - the Su-
preme Soul, is the Master of the Universe. He
fills everything, everywhere. He fills all spaces.
Deep within you, and outside you as well, see
only One God. God’s humble servants meet to-
gether and sing the songs of joy and ecstasy.
Servant Nanak proclaims that in this second
round, the music of the spheres resounds. ”
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In the Sikh marriage ceremony we are
offered a way to bring this support into our
lives. Guru Ram Das has given us a formula for
a successful marriage in the form of four
rounds (Laavaa). In fact, he describes for us
the sacred journey of the soul merging with
the infinite. When applied to marriage it results
in happiness and fulfillment.
The Sikh man and woman marry to help one
another on the spiritual path, surely. Marriage
is also a cozy haven of love and joy in this
world. However, one's main support and main-
stay is God and in one's ability to access that
Source of Life. The gift to the Sikh is the Siri
Guru Granth Sahib. Why does the couple circle
the Siri Guru Granth Sahib as they commit to
each round? It is not just a ritual. You are
making a commitment with the Guru as wit-
ness. And as you circle the Siri Guru Granth
Sahib you are reminded that the Guru is the
center of your life, from which springs your life
and the understanding of the journey of the
soul crossing this world ocean. The Siri Guru
Granth Sahib represents the core of you. The
Sadh Sangat is your support system.
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Sikh Marriage Ceremony
Brief Overview
Kirtan— The wedding ceremony begins with
Shabad Kirtan (Spiritual Music).
Couple Arrive — The groom appears first
and is seated before the Sri Guru Granth
Sahib. The bride sits beside him on his left.
First Shabad— “Keetaa lorhee-ai kamm” is
sung.
Prayer (Ardas)— The couple and their par-
ents stand (while the rest of the congrega-
tion remains seated) for the recitation of the
Sikh Prayer called Ardas, & request God’s
support and blessings for the marriage.
Wedding Hukam (Holy Order) - Random
reading from the Siri Guru Granth Sahib.
Palaa — The father of the bride then hands
one end of the groom’s scarf/shawl to his
daughter. This act is generally done during
(or just before) the singing of the hymn
“Palai taidai laagee”
The Four Rounds - The Lavaan (Wedding
Hymn) is then recited and sung one by one.
During each Laav, the bride and groom
circle the Sri Guru Granth Sahib symbolizing
that God will be the center of their marriage
and their support in life.
The hymn “Vee -aa hoa mere baabulaa” is
sung, signifying that the wedding ceremony
is complete.
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The Four Wedding Rounds
The four nuptial rounds were written by Guru
Ram Das for his own wedding. In them he tells
us that the first commitment is for one to be
true to one's own soul, to be committed to
righteousness, be on the spiritual path and
communicate with the soul through personal
spiritual practice.
Then he tells the couple that they have met the
True Guru, they can get out of their ego
identification and sacrifice to the unity, to the
merger, and rise above their personalities and
judgments. Commit to the institution of
marriage as part of one’s spiritual path.
Next, he tells the couple that they have been
blessed to be a part of the Sadh Sangat, and
that their lives should be an example of
service and divinity to all around them, to fulfill
the great destiny they have been given.
Finally, the Guru says that the merger has taken
place with the Infinite, because one has followed
his advice. Each has inspired the other towards
that merger.
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