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Pathways to Careers The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens. The Relationship Bank Account. Starter. In your Journal or a separate sheet of paper… Write down the nicest thing your best friend has ever done or said to you. - PowerPoint PPT Presentation
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Pathways to CareersThe 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens
Starter
In your Journal or a separate sheet of paper…1. Write down the nicest thing your best
friend has ever done or said to you.2. Write down the meanest thing your
worst enemy has ever done or said to you. (Don’t use actual bad words)
3. Write down the meanest thing your best friend has ever done or said to you. (Don’t use actual bad words)
4. Write down the nicest thing your worst enemy has ever done or said to you.
The Stuff Life is Made Of“On their deathbed nobody has ever wished they has spent more time at the office.”
What do you think they wished they had spent more time doing?What do you think you will say when you are on your death bed?
Your Relationships
Rate your relationships from 1-5 (1 bad; 5 Great)
1.Friends2.Parents or guardians3.Significant other (if you have one)4.Teachers
Previous Information
In Habits 1-3 we discussed1. Be Proactive- take control of your life,
don’t let other people run you2. Begin With the End in Mind- have goals
and work toward them3. Put First Things First- Now that you
have goals, prioritize your actions to accomplish those goals
These are all internal actions
Habits 4-6- External
Each have to do with relationships1.Habit 4- Think Win-Win2. Habit 5- Seek first to understand,
then be understood3. Habit 6- Synergize
Relationships
The key to mastering relationships is mastering yourself first- that was the first 3 Habits
What makes a successful relationship?
Who is usually the problem in your relationship issues?
Why are relationships important? Personal happiness- who wants to
hang out with people who don’t enjoy themselves
Family happiness- who likes the parents that always nags; who likes the teenager who always complains
PROFESSIONAL HAPPINESS- being able to get along with others will determine how successful you are in your career or job
Today- January 10
Starter
Write down the last bit of gossip you heard about someone. Don’t use names, just write what was said (don’t use bad words either)
The Relationship Bank Account It works like a checking account
Positive things improve a relationship Negative things hurt a relationship
A strong and healthy relationship is always a result of steady deposits made over a long period
Three Things about the RBA1. You have a Relationship Bank
Account with everyone you meet2. You can never close an RBA once it
opens3. Deposits evaporate (are forgotten)
and withdrawals turn to stone (never forgotten)
Continually make small deposits into the RBA with people
Keeping Promises
Read Excerpt page 134 (Sean)- 135 (ends with again)
Keeping Promises
Build Trust By keeping small commitments and
promises Do what you say you are going to do Give out promises sparingly
Too many promises stretch your ability to keep up (Yes Man!)
If you can’t keep a promise Tell the person Tell them why, they will understand if you
mean it
Do Small Acts of Kindness Read the excerpt on page 136-137
(When I was in 9th grade)
“one kind word can warm three winter months”
~Japanese saying
Do Small Acts of Kindness To build friendships
Keep your promises Do small things that make others happy
They don’t have to be all the time They don’t have to cost money They don’t have to be big
It can be as simple as a compliment or just saying “hi”
Do Small Acts of Kindness Read the example on page 137
If you have something nice to say… SAY IT!!!
Be Loyal
Read the paragraph on page 138 (as a junior)
Be loyal to people not only when they are with you, but when they are not. Don’t talk behind people’s backs
Be Loyal
Not being loyal hurts you in 2 ways1. It is a withdrawal from the PBA of
people hearing you.- If you are talking about your friend when
they are not around, what will you say about these guys when they are not around?
2. Invisible withdrawal- somehow people know when you have talked bad about them
Be Loyal
Gossip Girls do it more than boys (we use
physical aggression) It makes the gossiper feel powerful-
reputations in the palm of your hand Is a sign of insecurity Usually aimed at someone who
Looks different Is confident Thinks different
Be Loyal
Read the story on page 139 (the summer following)
Be Loyal
Keep secrets Avoid gossip
You can talk about others, but do it in a constructive way
Stick up for others Read passage on page 140 (one day)
Listen
Just listening to someone can be the greatest and easiest deposit into the RBA Most people don’t listen Listening heals wounds (read top of
page 141) Helps build friendships
Say your Sorry
Saying your sorry makes a deposit into an overdrawn RBA
Lets people know you are willing to admit you are wrong
It is hard to admit you when you are wrong
Don’t let pride get in the way Don’t let fear get in the way Saying sorry disarms people who are mad Read bottom of 141
Set clear expectations
We have a tendency to try to be nice.
We often say things that DON’T hurt feelings, even when we don’t mean it
This leads people on Let people know what you can/can’t
or are willing/not willing to do upfront.