The Process Manuscript Intro and First Chapter

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VOLUME 1

CESS

PRO

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AN

AMAZIN

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NEW

APPROACH

TO DISCOVER

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ACHIEVE

YOUR LIFE'S

MEANING

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SUCCESS

LONNIE

HUDSPETH,

PH.D.


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Copyright 2012 Lonnie James Hudspeth

All rights reserved.ISBN-13: 978-1470078485

ISBN-10: 1470078481


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DEDICATION

To my mother and father, Louise and James, both of whom have

passed on to the next stage of their process.


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Table of Contents

DEDICATION ......................................................................... 3

INTRODUCTION ..................................................................... 10

This Books Purpose.............................................................. 11

The Process Brings Us Together Through This Book ........... 12

What This Book Can Do For You ......................................... 13

This Book Could Help To Improve Our World ..................... 14

Imagine How Different Our World Could Be If................ 14

PART ITHE PROCESS: HOW IT WORKS AND WHY YOU

SHOULD CARE TO KNOW ABOUT AND USE IT .............. 16

CHAPTER 1TRIAL AND ERROR LEARNING VERSUS

MINDFUL LEARNING ............................................................ 17

Personal Story: Little Lonnie - Superman! ............................ 17

Mindful Learning ................................................................... 18

Mindful Learning and The Process ........................................ 19

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CHAPTER 3 - EMOTIONALLY-CHARGED EVENTS YOU

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Your Ego Conscious Defined .Error! Bookmark not defined.

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Superior Intelligence Exists In The Unconscious ...........Error!


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CHAPTER 4YOUR BLUEPRINT FOR SELF-

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DIRECT EXPERIENCE EXERCISE #2DISTURBING

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Preconditions to Learning A Lesson From The Process . Error!Bookmark not defined.

What Kinds Of Lessons Can Learn You About Yourself?

.................................................Error! Bookmark not defined.Emotions: The Glue Making Human Relationships Sticky

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Key To Discovering The Common Theme Of Meaning: Two

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Guiding Principle #1: Let Your Feelings Be Your Guide.

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CHAPTER 9ITS YOUR TURN! THE FIRST SCENARIO: A

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A Familiar Situation Illustrating The Process Operating In

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CHAPTER 10THE FUNCTION OF YOUR ASSUMPTIONS

.....................................................Error! Bookmark not defined.Assumptions, Perceptions, Thoughts/Thinking, and Behavior

.................................................Error! Bookmark not defined.Typical Reactions To Emotionally-Charged Mirroring Events

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SOMEONE DIRECTING HIS ATTENTION INTO OTHER

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Guiding Principle Three: Pay Attention To What You Pay

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CHAPTER 12RECOGNIZING THE DEEPER LESSON

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Discovering And Decoding My Lesson-To-Be-Learned Error!Bookmark not defined.Personal Story: The Birth And Suppression Of An Open

Emotional Wound ...................Error! Bookmark not defined.

I Forgot About The Emotional Wound; It Never Forgot Me

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The Processs Lesson..............Error! Bookmark not defined.

CHAPTER 13ITS YOUR TURN! THIRD SCENARIO: ACOMMON BUT OFTEN UNSPOKEN WORKPLACE

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CHAPTER 15ITS YOUR TURN! FOURTH SCENARIO: A

COMMON DRAMA BETWEEN CLOSE FRIENDS .......Error!


Scenario: A Common Drama Between Close Friends .... Error!


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(Core Idea #3 - But You Improperly Interpret The Others

Behavior As Being About Them When Its About YOU)

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CHAPTER 16ADVANCING TO THROUGH THE STAGES

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PART IIGOING DEEPER INTO UNDERSTANDING THE

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CHAPTER 18 - INVISIBILITYYOU MUST LEARN TO

SEE THE PROCESSAND THEN EACH NEW LESSON

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The Process: Your Inner Guide To Self-Actualization And A

Successful Life ........................Error! Bookmark not defined.

Each New Lesson Is Invisible .Error! Bookmark not defined.The Natives Could Not See The Pirate Ship............... Error!


Todays Natives Cant See The Process.................. Error!


DIRECT EXPERIENCE EXERCISE #4PERPETUAL

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CHAPTER 19 - WHY IS THE PROCESSIN YOURLIFE?

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EVER BEEN EMOTIONALLY INVESTED IN THE

PERSONAL BUSINESS OF SOMEONE CLOSE TO YOU?

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PROCESS, SUMMARY OF MAIN IDEAS, SUGGESTIONS

TO ADVANCE YOUR LESSON-LEARNING AND

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SUGGESTIONS TO ADVANCE YOUR LESSON-LEARNING

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INTRODUCTIONIf youre trying to make sense of your life, this book is

for you. This book is about one core idea: the process. Theprocessis an invisible force manipulating events in your life.

Through the people and situations it brings into your life,

the process seeks to teach you lessons about yourself. For each

lesson it wants you to learn, the process arranges several

different events involving different people doing different things

at different points in time.

Yes, this book will teach you to recall several past

experiences and discover their interconnection. Thatinterconnection is linked to a lesson that the process has be

trying to teach you.

The process prods you to discover your lesson through

these related events. Once you discover your lesson at stake, the

process baits you to learn it through additional events that will

follow.

Whether or not youre aware, the process does this

purposely. The process wants you to self-actualize, whichmeans: to realize your potential to become the person youre

meant to be1.

Self-actualization is a major life milestone for you to

achieve. Along the way towards self-actualization, youll make

sense of your life.

Towards this end, the process influenced your past

events. The process wants you to answer questions like, Are

1Maslow, A. H. (1943). A Theory of Human Motivation. Psychological

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you meant to be a caterpillar or a butterfly? or Are you meant

to be chicken or an eagle?

The processwill intrude in your future experiences. The

processnudges you to evolve so that you soar like a butterfly or

eagle. The process doesnt want you earth-bound like a

caterpillar or chicken.You must participate in your self-actualization to achieve

significant progress. So, self-actualization is as much a life

process as a life goal. Thatswhy I call this force the process.

By the way, Im using the namethe processas a matter

of convenience. This name does not matter. You can call this

force whatever you want. All that matters is what the process

can do for you.

Several concepts in this book help you understand howthe processintrudes, communicates with, and guides you. These

concepts are like puzzle pieces. When you correctly put together

puzzle pieces, you produce the same picture thats on the puzzle

box cover.

Similarly, these related concepts will help you understand

the big picture of the process. Also, throughout this book,

youll be asked to doseveral exercises. These exercises give you

a glimpse of how the process operates in your life. Some ofthese exercises will teach you new concepts.

This brings us to the purpose of this book.

This Books Purpose

Countless books discuss the general themes of self-

actualization and divine forces working to assist you. Most of

these books offer impressive and helpful insights.

This book is different because it focuses on specifics.The processoperates in your life every day in specific ways for

specific reasons. This book aims to show you how the process

works and how to access it.

Once you learn how to engage in the process, it will

guide you to learn lessons.

The premise of this book is: the processhas always been

present in your life. However, unless you become aware of the

process, you cant deliberately benefit from it.The process is not something to believe in but discover.

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If the processis real, then youll discover it for yourself.

After reading this book, I hope that you at least consider the

possibility that the processis real. If you do, then this book will

have achieved modest success.

Why? If youre open to the processspossible existence,

your experiences will confirm this truth in due time. If you dothe exercises in this book, youll experience the evidence that the

processis real.

Once you understand and use the process, you wont

need to be dependent upon anyone or anything for guidance.

The process is governed by an infinite intelligence.

Therefore, by accessing the process, youll have a direct pipeline

to the source that knows all things.

The processknows you better than you know yourself. Itknows your potential, destiny, and purpose. The processknows

what is right for you. The processwill guide you to achieve your

lifes purpose, meaning, and success.

The processknows the best ways for you to achieve your

destiny. Also, it knows what you need to learn and how your

need to develop.

Finally, this book stresses active learning. Youre asked

to actively apply the ideas in this book. Chapters called ItsYour Turn! ask you apply ideas in this book to real-world

situations. Also, at the end of other chapters are Direct

Experience Exercises. These exercises are designed help you to

discover, understand, and use the process.

Sharing and interacting with other people is one of the

best ways to learn. Plus, such social learning is fun. Therefore,

share and discuss the Its Your Turn! stories and Direct

Experience Exercises with other people. Ask them for theirinterpretations of the situations.

Youve already noticed that certain terms in italic form,

like the process. There arent many such terms in this book.

Consider such terms like words of a new language. These new

terms have a distinct meaning. Other italicized words and

phrases are used for emphasis.

The Process Brings Us Together Through This Book

Youre reading this book, this page, at this moment,

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book for people like you. The process guided you (and others

like you) to obtain this book.

Quantum theory teaches that each of us is meaningfully

interrelated, interdependent, and interconnected2.

Life experience can teach you the same thing. The

processprovides such a way for you and others to discover thistruth.

What This Book Can Do For You

This is Volume One of a multi-book series. This volume

focuses on teaching you how to learn lessons from the process.

When you finish reading this book, you should:

1. be able to use the processto guide you to learn lessons;2. experience many pleasant experiences from following the

process;

3. know how to advance through each of the 4 stages of lesson-learning from the process;

Writing this book has been a joy for me. Im excited

about how it will help you become your greater self.

However, writing this book has also been a learning

journey for me. The process continues to guide and teach melessons too.

Ill share one of these life lessons with you in the next

two chapters. The processtaught me this life lesson in time for

me to use it as an example for you.

The first time you see the process for yourself, youll

experience an aha!moment3.

So, if youre willing to learn from the process, youll get

many benefits. Specifically, you will:

feel excitement every time you learn a new lesson; look forward to experiencing lifes magic every day;

2Stapp, H. elementaryparticles are in essence, a set of relationships thatreach outward to other things. (Stapp, quoted in Capra, The Turning Point:

Science, Society and Rising Culture, 1983). This means our reality is not

fundamentally composed of things but of changing combinations of

energies that physicists call the wave-particle duality. More recently, somephysicists have refined this theoretical insight to see our reality in more

musical terms as composed fundamentally of combinations of vibrating

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appreciate lifes meaningful moments that occurdaily;

experience positive feelings of well-being, hope,optimism, peace of mind, satisfaction, and happiness;

see your life as fun, interesting, meaningful,purposeful, rewarding, and exciting;

value your uniqueness; appreciate other people as divinely arranged

messengers for you;

love your life;This Book Could Help To Improve Our World

This book represents my contribution to helping peoplereinterpret and solve problems they perceive. My intent is to

contribute to the greater good of humanity. I truly believe that

the ideas in this book can help people.

I sincerely hope this book helps you to improve the

quality of your life.

Imagine How Different Our World Could Be If.

Before you begin this learning and growth journey in thenext chapter, think about the following quote that shows how this

book could positively change state of our world:

Imagine how different our world would be if we

appreciated everyone in our lives. Envision a world where we

equally value the people we like and dont like. Imagine a world

where we see everyone in our lives as a messenger.

What if we no longer saw people as objects to be

consumed or rejected?Instead, what if we saw people as messengers from God?

This world would change the nature and quality of our

relationships. Such a world would establish peace on earth.

That world would reduce, and maybe eliminate, most of the

conflict, harm, and hurt we see today.

Today, too many people scorn others because of who they

appear to be (or not be). Too many people dont connect to

others because they perceive them to be different. They see thesepeople not representing what they believe.

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We could learn to see our conflicts with others from a

different perspective. We could learn the deeper meaning of the

disturbances that others trigger in us.

Conflict with another person is really about you--not

them. When someone triggers a conflict within you, a higher

intelligence brought that person into your life to do just that.That person knows nothing about this but was used as a medium

by this higher intelligence.

Nevertheless, your conflict with him or her points to a

lesson YOU need to discover and learn about yourself.

When humanity understands this fundamental truth, life

will be splendid for all. Such persons triggering the disturbance

will be appreciated as divine messengers, not evil victimizers.

New Key Terms:

The Process; Self-actualize/Self-actualization;


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PART I THE PROCESS: HOW IT WORKS

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CHAPTER 1 TRIAL AND ERROR

LEARNING VERSUS MINDFUL

LEARNING

Respond; dont react.

Listen; dont talk.

Think; dont assume.

Raji Lukkoor4

You already learn life lessons by trial and error. Trialand error learning occurs after the fact. When you were going

through the experiences that led to learning the lesson, you

werent aware that lesson-learning was happening. Trial and

error learning occurs while youre unaware that youre learning a

lesson, before the fact or during the fact.

The process teaches you lessons by trial and error too.

When you arent aware it exists, trial and error is the only way

the processcan teach you.

Personal Story: Little Lonnie - Superman!

Some trial and error lessons can be learned rather

quickly. For example, as a child, my favorite hero was

Superman. I walked around the house with my Supermans

cape. My cape was actually a towel tied around my shoulders.

I even imagined that I could fly like Superman. Such

imagining led me to a painful but well-learned lesson. One day

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my imagination got the best of me. I decided to fly like

Superman.

I dove off my front porch. Fortunately, the porch was on

the first-floor.

That day, I learned two lessons and made one discovery.

Lesson one, I learned I wasnt Superman. Lesson two, I learnedI couldnt fly. My discovery, during my flight, I discovered

this thing called the law of gravity.

Gravity gave me a not-so-gentle acquaintance with the

grounds concrete pavement.

Oh well, Isaac Newton had his apple, and I had my

painful, concrete experience. Pun intended.

Mindful LearningMindful learning is a better way to learn. Mindful

learning occurs, before the fact, and during the fact, that youre

learning a lesson. You know that youre going to learn a lesson

or youre in the midst of learning a lesson.

Mindfulness is a state of mental awareness, openness, and

engagement. When youre mindful, you: (1) appreciate multiple

ways of viewing a person or situation; (2) are open to new

information; and (3) arent a slave to habitual thinking,emotional reactions, or behaviors

5.

When you learn mindfully, youre mentally awake,

aware, and actively seeking the information you want. For

example, to learn certain information, you may enroll in a class.

In such a class, youre learning mindfully: (1) you allow the

instructor to teach you; (2) you willingly participate in the

instruction; (3) you actively seek answers to questions you raise.

Young children are some of the best mindful learners.Childrens minds are open to new information. If allowed,

children naturally ask lots of questions. Children arent self-

conscious enough to worry about asking a dumb question.

Natural curiosity compels children to wonder what things are and

why things happen.

Also, young children arent bound by habitual thinking

and behaviors. Children tend to be flexible and adaptable, before

theyre raised to fit into society and culture. After children are

5Langer, E. J. (1989). Mindfulness. Reading, MA: A Merloyd Lawrence

Book/Addison-Wesley Publishing Company.


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socialized and acculturated, they often become less creative,

flexible, and adaptive.

Finally, young children fluidly use their powerful

imagination to view things from multiple perspectives.

Unfortunately, as children become more socialized and

acculturated, their imaginations tend to become less fluid.

Mindful Learning and The ProcessSelf-actualization requires you to learn lots of lessons. If

you mindfully learn from the process, youll self-actualize.

Youll transform into the butterfly or eagle youre meant to be.

The processdesigned your lesson plan and has arranged

many lessons for you. Your lessons are organized and

sequenced.Therefore, you must learn certain lessons before you can

learn subsequent lessons. If you get stuck learning one lesson,

you must learn it before you can learn the lessons that follow it.

The more lessons you learn from the process, the more

you self-actualize. The more you self-actualize, the more youre

able to discover and fulfill your lifes destiny.

However, to receive guidance from the processyou must

pay a price. The price: you must change in three ways.One, you must be willing to discover and learn new

lessons. So, being mindfully open to new information helps you

here.

Two, you must make new or different choices. Mindful

appreciation of multiple points of view helps you see the

different choices available to you. Holding onto a one-sided

perspective disables you from seeing different choices.

Three, you must change the ways you perceive, think andbehave. Not being a slave to habitual thinking, emotional

reactions, or behaviors helps you here.

Whether or not youre aware, the processperforms three

continuous activities in your life. To nudge you to learn lessons,

the process: (1) intrudes in your life; (2) communicates with you;

and (3) guides you.

First, the process gets involved in your life, whether or

not youre aware. Mindful learning requires you to be awarewhen this force is intruding in your life. Therefore, you must

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Second, the process communicates with you in multiple

ways. Mindful learning requires you to learn the language this

force uses to communicate with you. Once you do, you can

receive and learn its lessons.

Finally, the process seeks to guide you through 4 stages

of lesson-learning and 4 levels of growth. Besides learning torecognize and communicate with the process, you must follow it.

Following the processmay appear to be simple. Its not.

There are somebarriers youll struggle to overcome.

Your free will presents one huge barrier. Your free will

gives you the power to choose what you do. Therefore, free will

empowers you to follow or not follow the process.

Consequently, you can choose conduct that either

promote or delay your self-actualization. The process seeks toguide you towards self-actualization but it cant make you

choose wisely.

Other barriers to following this intelligence include your

wants, desires, and emotions. Your mind might be willing to

follow the guidance youve received. However, your desires for

immediate pleasure could influence you to choose behavior

thats against the processsguidance.

Finally, there are two creative habits of mind that blockyour ability to follow the process. The two-heads of this mental

monster are: rationalization and imagination.

To rationalize means using logical, good-sounding

reasons to justify behavior you know is wrong. Rationalization

becomes more convincing when done with the creative use of

strong logical and persuasion skills. The effect: you persuade

yourself that your wrong deed is not wrong.

You also rationalize to make yourself or others feel betterabout such wrong behavior. Your ability to rationalize doing the

wrong thing is powerful.

Imagination is an equally powerful barrier to following

the process. You can use your imagination creatively to see

things that arent real or not see things that are real. So, you can

improperly use your imagination to avoid following wise

guidance.

If your desires, wants, emotions, rational mind, andimagination were people, theyd be a team. These team

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free will to choose to not follow the process but make more

selfish and gratifying choices instead.

Therefore, your learning journey with the processignites

an internal struggle in you. When the processis guiding you to

act, you could: (1) imagine its not; (2) act on your desires, wants

and emotions; and (3) rationalize your conduct to not feel shameor guilt.

Therefore, to advance your learning journey with the

process, youd need to discover and overcome these barriers.

Much of the rest of this book addresses the internal

struggle youll confront as you interact with the process. These

discussions and explanations of this internal struggle will give

you exciting new insights about yourself. The next begins this

discussion by explaining how the processworks.

New Key Terms:

Trial And Error Learning; Mindfulness/Mindful Learning;

Documents

The Process Manuscript Intro and First Chapter