“The Position of the Church on Soul Mates”

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The Position of the Church on Soul Mates

Kayla WalkerREL 333 Teachings of the Liing Pro!hets

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*ro$ the attache+ research( , fin+ the !osition of the Church on the issue of soul $ates to

%e that the church +oes not %eliee in the i+ea of soul $ates- The church %eliees that once you

are $arrie+( your s!ouse essentially %eco$es your soul $ate %ut as for the i+ea that there is only

one !erson .e are inten+e+ to $arry a!!ears to %e false- /!on $y research( , foun+ this !osition

to %e 0uite clear an+ un+erstan+ing %ut .ith a lot of e1!lanation- The church +oes not %eliee in

soul $ates an+ seeral Presi+ents hae +iscusse+ this to!ic at great length throughout the years

in firesi+es( general conference an+ other church relate+ scenarios- Presi+ent S!encer W- Ki$%all

sai+ 2Soul $ates2 are fiction an+ an illusion an+ .hile ery young $an an+ young .o$an .ill

seek .ith all +iligence an+ !rayerfulness to fin+ a $ate .ith .ho$ life can %e $ost co$!ati%le

an+ %eautiful( yet it is certain that al$ost any goo+ $an an+ any goo+ .o$an can hae

ha!!iness an+ a successful $arriage if %oth are .illing to !ay the !rice- 4Presi+ent S!encer W-

Ki$%all 5neness in Marriage( lds.org htt!677...-l+s-org7ensign7'8997)37 oneness:in:$arriage

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the first $o$ent , sa. her- #eertheless( A , +on2t %eliee she .as $y one chance at ha!!iness

in this life( nor .as , hers- A 4Presi+ent ?ieter *- /cht+orf ,s there such thing as soul $atesB

Current ,ssue :New Era#oe$%er &)'3; ,n another seg$ent recently foun+ in that sa$e #e.

Era of #oe$%er &)'3( it states the !osition of the church on this su%=ect the short ans.er is

no( not really- Een though you $ay feel es!ecially connecte+ to so$eone of the o!!osite se1

right no.( the true %on+ %et.een a $an an+ .o$an co$es only after they2e co$$itte+ to

$arry one another an+ +eci+e+ to .ork at it- 4,s there such thing as soul $atesB Current

,ssue :New Era#oe$%er &)'3;

@aing a soul $ate is the i+ea that there is only one s!ecial !erson .ho$ you are to

$arry an+ .as create+ s!ecifically for you- The church clearly states that there is no such thing

as that one an+ only an+ that there are $ulti!le !eo!le in the .orl+ that .e coul+ !otentially

s!en+ the rest of our lies .ith- Choosing that !erson an+ $aking it .ork is !rocess of our

s!ouse %eco$ing our soul $ate- When t.o !eo!le +eci+e to get $arrie+ an+ a!!roach the altar(

together they $ust realie that in or+er to o%tain a ha!!y an+ successful $arriage( it is going to

re0uire sacrifice( sharing an+ a lot of selflessness- >ecause there is no such thing as a soul $ate(

!eo!le shoul+ e1!ect +ifficulties( trials an+ struggles .ithin a relationshi!- #o relationshi! is

!erfect( an+ therefore there is no such thing as a soul $ate-

My na$e is Kayla Walker an+ , a$ fro$ Centerille( /tah- , co$e fro$ a fa$ily of

seen an+ a$ the ol+est of fie ki+s- , a$ D2D22 .ith long( %lon+e hair( %right %lue eyes( one

+i$!le locate+ on $y u!!er left cheek an+ slightly larger ears than your aerage fe$ale- , a$ '8

years ol+ an+ a so!ho$ore in college a%out to finish $y thir+ se$ester stu+ying +ance at

>righa$ oung /niersity- , a$ a $e$%er of the >/ Cougarettes an+ as!ire to %e a

!rofessional +ancer .hen , gro. u!- , a$ also an actie $e$%er of the L?S Church- My

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The to!ic that , chose to research an+ talk a%out is the i+ea of soul $ates an+ fin+ing our

eternal co$!anion- Gs a $e$%er of the Church of - @inckley counsele+ that $arriage .ill %e the $ost i$!ortant

+ecision of your lifeA- $arry the right !erson in the right !lace at the right ti$e- /nfortunately(

for $ost !eo!le( this is easier sai+ than +one- Who is the right !ersonB When is the right ti$eB

Where is the right !laceB These are so$e of the 0uestions that '8 year ol+( %lon+e hair( %lue:eye+

girls like $e ask the$seles eery +ay- That is the reason .hy , chose to research this to!ic of

soul $ates an+ fin+ing our one an+ only to %e seale+ to in the te$!le-

My !ersonal +ating e1!erience has %een 0uite +ifferent than that of others an+ een $y

closest frien+s- Gt $i+night on $y si1teenth %irth+ay , got $y first kiss fro$ a %oy .ho later

.oul+ steal $y heart an+ $ake $e the ha!!iest !erson on earth- @is na$e is >ro+y >agsha.-

>ro+y an+ , +ate+ for t.o years %efore he left to ?es Moines( ,o.a( .here he is currently sering

an L?S $ission- My =unior an+ senior year of high school( .e .ere !ractically inse!ara%le- We

+i+ eerything together an+ %oth of us agree+ that .hen he co$es ho$e( .e .oul+ get $arrie+

in the te$!le an+ start our life together- So +oes this $ean that he is $y soul $ateB

Gfter a lot of thought an+ research on this !articular su%=ect .ithin the church( , hae

co$e to the conclusion that there is no such thing as soul $ates- , agree .ith .hat the Presi+ents

of the Church hae sai+ concerning this i+ea an+ fin+ing the right !erson to $arry- , %eliee that

instea+ of there %eing a one an+ only( that there are $any !eo!le in this .orl+ that .e coul+

start a life .ith an+ %e seale+ to- With that sai+( , think there are $any factors that go into the

!rocess of $aking such an i$!ortant an+ crucial +ecision- We shoul+ fin+ so$eone of the sa$e

religious faith( !ossessing the sa$e stan+ar+s an+ o!inions a%out the church- We shoul+ look for


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so$eone that .e are attracte+ to an+ en=oy %eing aroun+ an+ s!en+ing a lot of ti$e .ith- The

!erson .e choose to $arry shoul+ !ossess 0ualities that .e .oul+ .ant our ki+s to hae an+

look u! to- We shoul+ choose so$eone .ho is liing .orthy enough to enter in the te$!le an+ is

actiely follo.ing the co$$an+$ents- 5ur choice shoul+ strie to $ake us a %etter !erson an+

hae !assion( +rie an+ +eter$ination- We shoul+ choose our loe( an+ loe our choice- The

last thing that .e shoul+ +o %efore .e officially $arry so$eone is to !ray a%out our +ecision an+

try to feel if it is right or not- , hae faith that the Lor+ really +oes kno. .ho .e are- @e is a.are

of us an+ realies the struggle( confusion an+ confliction that .e hae .hen it co$es to choosing

an eternal co$!anion-

Glthough , kno. , .ant to $arry $y $issionary an+ +o %eliee that he is the one for $e(

, +o not think that he is the only one that , coul+ !otentially s!en+ the rest of $y life .ith- , +o

not think that he is $y soul $ate( %ut , +o %eliee that once .e are $arrie+ .orking together

to.ar+s a ha!!y an+ successful $arriage( that he .ill essentially %eco$e $y soul $ate- Settling

on one !erson an+ $aking that crucial +ecision is scary an+ re0uires a lot of faith an+ %lin+ ho!e

that he is going to $ake $e ha!!y for the rest of $y life an+ %e faithful to $e throughout the

years- That is .hy , a$ e1tre$ely grateful for the Pro!het an+ G!ostles that receie reelation

an+ gie us gui+ance on such i$!ortant +ecisions in our life- , hae faith in their .or+s an+ their

actions to.ar+s the su%=ect of soul $ates an+ therefore kno. that if , choose >ro+y to %e $y

eternal co$!anion that .e can $ake it .ork together an+ .ith the hel! of the Lor+-

RESEARCH:

*actors to Consi+er6

We reco$$en+ that !eo!le $arry those .ho are of the sa$e racial %ackgroun+

generally( an+ of so$e.hat the sa$e econo$ic an+ social an+ e+ucational %ackgroun+ 4so$e of

those are not an a%solute necessity( %ut !referre+;( an+ a%oe all( the sa$e religious %ackgroun+(


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.ithout 0uestion 4Marriage an+ ?iorce( in '89" ?eotional S!eeches of the ear IProo6

>righa$ oung /niersity Press( '899J( !- ';-

Total unselfishness is sure to acco$!lish another factor in successful $arriage- ,f one is

foreer seeking the interests( co$forts( an+ ha!!iness of the other( the loe foun+ in courtshi!

an+ ce$ente+ in $arriage .ill gro. into $ighty !ro!ortions- 4S!encer W- Ki$%all 5neness inMarriage(EnsignMarch '899;

Choose a co$!anion of your o.n faith- ou are $uch $ore likely to %e ha!!y( sai+Presi+ent @inckley- Choose a co$!anion you can al.ays honor( you can al.ays res!ect( one

.ho .ill co$!le$ent you in your o.n life( one to .ho$ you can gie your entire heart( your

entire loe( your entire allegiance( your entire loyalty- 4Tho$as >- @ol$an( Choosing an+

>eing the Right S!ouseEnsignSe!te$%er &))&;

*irst( .e nee+ to kno. a lot a%out the !erson .e are thinking of $arrying- Gs El+er Scott

suggeste+( the !erson2s %eliefs a%out fa$ily life are ery i$!ortant- Research confir$s that the

$ore a !otential s!ouse alues $arriage an+ fa$ily life( the %etter that $arriage can %e-4Tho$as >- @ol$an( Choosing an+ >eing the Right S!ouseEnsignSe!te$%er &))&;

Soul Mates6

A 5nce you co$$it to %eing $arrie+( your s!ouse %eco$es your soul $ate( an+ it isyour +uty an+ res!onsi%ility to .ork eery +ay to kee! it that .ay 4The Reflection in the

Water IChurch E+ucational Syste$ firesi+e for young a+ults( #o- '( &))8J;- 4,s there such

thing as soul $atesB Current ,ssue :New Era#oe$%er &)'3;

Though you $ay hae strong feelings for so$eone( as a teenager you2re not in a !ositionto $arry( so .on+ering if so$eone is your soul $ate +oesn2t $ake $uch sensean+ it

shoul+n2t %e the focus of your a+ult courtshi!( either- ,n your youth( focus on %uil+ing goo+

frien+shi!s .ith $any !eo!le- ,t2s natural to feel es!ecially close to so$eone %ecause they haeinterests or !ersonality traits that a!!eal to you( %ut %e careful not to let yourself get carrie+ a.ay

%y your feelings- 4,s there such thing as soul $atesB Current ,ssue :New Era#oe$%er

&)'3;

Presi+ent S!encer W- Ki$%all state+ in his %ook( The Teachings of Spencer W. Kimball

that al$ost any goo+ $an an+ any goo+ .o$an can hae ha!!iness an+ a successful $arriage if

%oth are .illing to !ay the !rice- 4Presi+ent S!encer W- Ki$%all( The Teachings of Spencer W.Kimball( Ch- ' @onora%le( @a!!y( Successful Marriage( l+s-org 4&))"; '8:&)';

While , a$ sure so$e young cou!les hae so$e s!ecial gui+ance in getting together( ,+o not %eliee in !re+estine+ loe- ,f you +esire the ins!iration of the Lor+ in this crucial

+ecision( you $ust lie the stan+ar+s of the Church( an+ you $ust !ray constantly for the

.is+o$ to recognie those 0ualities u!on .hich a successful union $ay %e %ase+- ou $ust +othe choosing( rather than to seek for so$e one:an+:only so:calle+ soul $ate( chosen for you %y

so$eone else an+ .aiting for you- ou are to +o the choosing- ou $ust %e .ise %eyon+ your

years an+ hu$%ly !rayerful unless you choose a$iss 4Eternal Loe ISalt Lake City6 ?eseret

>ook Co-( '893J( !- '';-


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Making the ?ecision6

,t is i$!ortant to hae fa$ily an+ frien+s on our si+e an+ su!!ortie of the u!co$ing

$arriage( El+er Richar+ L- Eans 4'8)"9'; of the Nuoru$ of the T.ele G!ostles a+ise+-

?on2t let this choice Iof a $arriage !artnerJ eer %e $a+e e1ce!t .ith earnest( searching(!rayerful consi+eration( confi+ing in !arents( Ian+J in faithful( $ature( trust.orthy frien+s-

4Tho$as >- @ol$an( Choosing an+ >eing the Right S!ouseEnsignSe!te$%er &))&;

,n selecting a co$!anion for life an+ for eternity( certainly the $ost careful !lanning an+

thinking an+ !raying an+ fasting shoul+ %e +one to %e sure that( of all the +ecisions( this one

$ust not %e .rong- ,n true $arriage there $ust %e a union of $in+s as .ell as of hearts-

E$otions $ust not .holly +eter$ine +ecisions( %ut the $in+ an+ the heart( strengthene+ %yfasting an+ !rayer an+ serious consi+eration( .ill gie one a $a1i$u$ chance of $arital

ha!!iness 4Presi+ent S!encer W- Ki$%all Marriage an+ ?iorce( lds.org

htt!677...-l+s-org7ensign7'87)D 7$arriage:an+:+iorce'89";-

T.o in+ii+uals a!!roaching the $arriage altar $ust realie that to attain the ha!!y

$arriage .hich they ho!e for they $ust kno. that $arriage is not a legal coerall( %ut it $eanssacrifice( sharing( an+ een a re+uction of so$e !ersonal li%erties- ,t $eans long( har+

econo$iing- ,t $eans chil+ren .ho %ring .ith the$ financial %ur+ens( serice %ur+ens( care an+

.orry %ur+ens %ut also it $eans the +ee!est an+ s.eetest e$otions of all- 4S!encer W- Ki$%all5neness in Marriage(EnsignMarch '899;
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“The Position of the Church on Soul Mates”