The mix of how we feel, think and behave that make us

different from everyone else.

How do we define personality?

What are the2 areas that influence

our Personality:

and

Do we inherit our personalities?

What are the 2 classifications of personalities?

A person who prefers to be alone or with a few friends is an

A person who is very outgoing, likes being in

the middle of things is an

Can you tell the difference between an introvert and an extrovert

by just looking at them?

How do our personalities develop?

When do our personalities begin to develop?

learning by reward and punishment

learning by watching

and imitating others

State of being fully grown

Is there a certain age in which maturity occurs?

... how you feel about yourself

... how you view yourselfand your role in life.

What is

What is

What type of things influence our

self esteem and self concept?

Who influences

the decisions

We make?

How do you define Peer Pressure?

Pressure to do something because your friends want you to.

Is peer pressure always bad?

The pressure that results from someone who tries to convinceyou to do something you normally wouldn’t do.

What is...

What is...

The pressure that results from being swayed to

do something because people you look

up to are doing it.

How can the dynamics of a social group lead to peer

pressure?

Unfortunately, many teens wind up “going

along” with something not because they want to, but simply because they don’t

know how to respond in these situations. They are

afraid of losing a friend, looking uncool, or being

left out of the crowd. Knowing some ways to say “no” will help with

some of these situations.

Top Ten Refusal Skills for Teens1.Make a joke…Sometimes humor is the best way to

respond to a situation, as it can lighten a serious mood. It can also divert attention away from you and onto something else.

2. Give reason why it’s a bad idea…Backing up your refusal with evidence gives it more power.

3. Make an excuse why your can’t do something…Maybe you have something else to do that will interfere. Or you have to be somewhere at a specific time. Or your mom will kill you. Whatever. But say it and stick to it.

Top Ten Refusal Skills for Teens4. Just say ‘NO” plain and firm…In some situations,

just saying no without a lot of arguing and explaining is the best response.

5. Suggest an alternative activity…Lots of kids wind up doing stuff they shouldn’t because they lack other options. They’re bored. By thinking of something better to do, you’re offering everyone an “out.”

6. Ignore the suggestion…Pretend you didn’t hear it, and change the topic to something else. Act like you don’t think the idea was even worth discussing.

Top Ten Refusal Skills for Teens7. Repeat yourself if necessary…Sometimes it takes

more than once, on more than one occasion. Just because someone asks more than once, that doesn’t mean you have to cave.

8. Leave the situation…If you don’t like where things are headed, you can take off.

9. “Thanks but no thanks!”…You can be polite, but you still aren’t interested. It just isn’t something you’re into.

10. The power of numbers… Make a pact with your friends to stick to your guns. Often, knowing that your friends will back you up can help you feel more comfortable being assertive.

Conflict Resolution is the process of resolving a dispute or a conflict by meeting at least some of each side's needs and addressing their interests.

Successful conflict resolution depends on your ability to regulate stress and your

emotions

Peer mediation is a process where students of the same

age -group facilitate resolving disputes between two people or small groups.

Unhealthy responses to conflict

Healthy responses to conflict

An inability to recognize and respond to the things that matter to the other person

The capacity to recognize and respond to the things that matter to the other person

Explosive, angry, hurtful, and resentful reactions

Calm, non-defensive, and respectful reactions

The withdrawal of love, resulting in rejection, isolation, shaming, and fear of abandonment

readiness to forgive and forget, and to move past the conflict without holding resentments or anger

An inability to compromise or see the other person’s side

The ability to seek compromise and avoid punishing

The fear and avoidance of conflict; the expectation of bad outcomes

A belief that facing conflict head on is the best thing for both sides

There are healthy and unhealthy ways to respond to conflicts…

Techniques for Conflict Resolution:o Don’t negotiate when angry. o Forget the past and stay in the present. o Focus on the problem not the person. o Communicate feelings assertively, NOT aggressively. Express concerns without blaming the other side. o Expect and accept another’s right to disagree. Don’t push or force compliance; work to develop common agreement. o Don’t view the situation as a competition where one has to win and the other has to lose. Work toward a solution where both parties have some of their needs met. o Build ‘power with’ NOT ‘power over’ others. o Thank the person for listening.

If you don’t feel like the mediation is going well, seek advice from

someone not involved. They may have feedback or suggestions about

the problem solving skills being used.

Who would be a good person to go to for advice in dealing

with a conflict resolution?