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"The *HOPELESS* Guy's Guide To Romance" version 1.01t

Copyright 2000 All Rights Reserved by Robert Meck

"Romance has NO sinister undertone... Its only purpose is to show love"

~Unknown

"Relationships are hard. It's like a full-time job, and we should treat it like one. If your boyfriend or girlfriend wants to leave you, they should give you two weeks' notice. There should be severance pay, and before they leave you, they should have to find you a temp." - Bob Ettinger

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Dedications:

To Beth ::smooches::

Who:

Written By Robert Meck. [email protected] or [email protected] screen name is destroybsd on AOL instant messenger. Idea conceived July 4th, 1999. Updated Frequently. Copyright 2000 and so on...All rights Reserved. Robert Meck

What:

A simple guide for the guy that wants to try and treat his princessright. If you are a lady, do not worry! Many, if not all of these ideascan be applied and used on your boyfriend/girlfriend/equivalent other.

Why:

Because. And I would like many other women out thereto be treated right by their boyfriends. This was originally going togo straight to a publisher, but after realizing that most guys can't evenafford dinner and/or a movie, that maybe introducing this book FREE first, more guys could get off to a good start cheaply.

Where:

The latest, most up to date version may be found at:

http://www.voicenet.com/~mdbsd/romance/

If you are interested in posting this somewhere else, contact me first.If you are a publisher, CONTACT ME! If you are fluent in more than onelanguage and want to translate this, contact me!

When:

Started July 4th, 1999. ALWAYS adding more to it! If you have anidea you think is nice and would like to place it in here, drop me aline with your idea included... my e-mail address is:

[email protected]

Why I wrote this "book" (part two):

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Well, originally I was talking to Alaina one day and shewas talking about me maybe teaching a class on how to be romantic.She was obviously just joking around, but after asking a few of my friends what they did to make their girlfriends feel special orto just be romantic, and results proved to be slim to nil, I realizedsomething. The art of Romance is dying out... and FAST! Many guysthink that saying "Excuse Me" after letting out an Earth shattering belch is romantic. Its not

How:

With a WHOLE LOT of patience and not much to do at work. Also,with extraordinarily wonderful help from friends.

UPDATE and Current Info: 11/13/1999 about 5:05PM (EST)

Ok, how many times do I have to say this? Listen CAREFULLY (guys especially)First of all.... I AM NOT A WOMAN. Secondly, I am not whipped (who cares even if I was/am? I wrote this under my own free will, not because there was a gun to my head!)Now, I keep getting emails and guestbook entries from GUYS saying that all of this stuffis just like acting like a woman. There is nothing wrong with romance damnit! (pardon mesFrançais s'il vous plaît). Why do so many guys have a problem with acting romantic andinsist that it is "wussy"? Ok, and this is my last complaint... GUYS also keep on sayingthat women do not like romance in the context that I display it. Hmmmm... ok now correctme if I am wrong, but I do think that women might just have a better perspective on what theyKNOW that they like. For example... many emails and two guestbook entries (from GUYS)insist that this is not what women really like. HOWEVER... on inspection of my othernumerous emails and guestbook entries from WOMEN, they seem to like it just fine. =)

I think thats all for now.

As Always.... Any Questions? Comments? [email protected] or [email protected]

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********************************************************************* Chapter One: Manners/Tips *********************************************************************

Burping/Belching:

Well guys, as wonderful and absolutely romantic as a well renderedbelch may SEEM, the ladies will not exactly be falling over you after thatnext ground shaking belch. Think about it.... When is the last time youheard two or more women talking about how cute a guy belches, or howmanly and sexy it is that he can belch the entire alphabet? But, iffor some god forsaken reason, you accidentally do let out a burp, try to cover your mouth, and at very least, sincerely apologize by saying"I Beg Your Pardon", "Excuse me", or "Pardon me." Sorry, Ex-squeezeme does NOT count.

No Bitching... Giving your all:

So you want to be romantic? Well, yeah, I admit, a few of the ideasin here may seem really sappy to Johnny Football Star, but they are trulyvery thoughtful and sweet (I have had this confirmed by several women). However, if you want to do this right, do NOT just do these ideas and tryand wing it, try your best, and the NUMBER ONE worst thing you can do whentrying to do something romantic is sit there and bitch about "How stupid

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this is" or "This is so (insert several profanities) stupid, I can'tbelieve I am doing this" or something like that... It only ruins it for her,and you really aren't going to come off as thoughtful, but rather justbitchy the whole time.

Why "Cheesy" or "Sappy" is ok:

(this section should be read by both men AND women)

You see, I know many guys are already reading this saying, "Oh God,How Sappy." But what you don't realize is that doing the things inhere takes much thought. Thinking up and finding these ideas takes MUCHmore. What most guys don't understand is the way that women think inrespect to treating them well and spoiling them well. (This is the waythat my Senior English teacher explained it, and He is absolutely 100% correct.Take this situation:

Some Guy buys his girlfriend, the fastest, best, shiniest,newest car around. Lets say it cost $25,000. Yikes! That is EXPENSIVE.Now of course, when he gives it to his girlfriend, she will be completelyfloored and impressed at the time. Of course he thought about her, bygetting this (that is usually why women love gifts, it shows that youwere thinking of them even when they were not near you). However... Hethought of her ONCE. Sure he may have thought long and hard aboutgetting that $25,000 car, but those thoughts only revolved around theoriginal first thought. Lets just say that now, after spending an incredible $25,000 on his girlfriend, he is FLAT broke, and hasno cash, so he will not be getting her any other surprises or gifts for A WHILE. Well, believe it or not but even as she is driving aroundin that $25,000 car she will start to want something else too. In short... To be spoiled. Sure he got her a $25,000 car, but he onlygot her ONE car, or ONE gift... translation to a woman's mind...ONE THOUGHT.

This is why the guy that is almost always flat broke but alwaysdoes little tiny things (that the other guys make fun of him for) forhis girlfriend, has the better relationship. You know why? Because,he is ALMOST ALWAYS doing something for her... translation to awoman's mind... ALWAYS thinking of her! Understand now guys? If not...try this, and just ask yourself what gets a better total reaction fromyour girlfriend. I am MORE THAN SURE she won't get mad if you do this! Try this little experiment and SEE FOR YOURSELF:

FIRST try: Buy her a dozen roses, Just for the heck of it! Give them to her and surprise her and tell her how much you love her! Be sure to take note of her reaction!

Wait a week or two, or until all the flowers are gone. Go to a florist and buy "credit" for another dozen roses, however for the next twelve times that you see her, give her ONE rose on ONE knee and tell her ONE simple reason why you love her. Be sure to take note of her reactions!

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Now tell me, what do you think will get a better TOTAL reaction? Iam absolutely sure that the second part, where you give her one roseeach time you see her, will yield better results. As a matter of fact,I am willing to bet that her friends will be getting jealous over thatscenario! And guess what guys? Translation to a woman's mind... TWELVEWONDERFUL, VERY THOUGHTFUL THOUGHTS OF HER! She will adore that!

Another Difference In Male/Female thinking:

Ok, scenario Two: A Big Ugly Bug Enters The Room....

Her: AHHH! A Bug! Oh My God!Him: WHERE?!?! WHERE?!?!?!Her: Over There.Him: Show me.... where?Her: I don't wanna go near it, but its over there!Him: Cool! I'm Gonna kill it.(yes, i am aware that this is not always the case, but most of the time, it is)

PMS: So you want to die? When she is having a bad day, NEVER EVER say"Oh, it must be that time of month." Unless of course, you want tosee her go from zero to pissed in .2 seconds, don't even think aboutit. Even though you may be 100% correct, chances are you are reallygoing to set her off by saying this. She is in for a WHOLE LOT of painpretty soon, so you better stick close to her, and pamper her the bestthat you possibly can! (think of the pain as being kicked REAL HARD inthe groin... now times that by ten or so, and let it feel that way fora week.)

Never Say Die: Ok, so you did it. You finally get the hang of being romantic and beinga sweetie to her. Well guess what. Just because you just went steady, or gotengaged, or married, or whatever, does NOT mean that you get to stop beingromantic. For those of you that like examples, here goes... Think of it likeDisney World... And say you REALLY like all the rides and stuff at Disney World.And lets just say this is comparable to your relationship with romance. Nowtake away the romance, and it is like going back to Disney World with no rides.Pretty dang boring, eh?

Mean It/ Being Sincere and NO LYING:

Don't just say "I love you." Saying "I Love you" is a BIG STEP upfrom just having an interest in someone. When she says "I Love You", don'tjust say, "Uhhhh... I guess I love you too and stuff especially if you donot mean it. Because you are just playing with her heart if you do that.It might be hard for her if you say you aren't sure, but tell her thatthe only reason that you didn't say "I Love You" is for the simple reasonthat you do not want to lie to her and especially about something as

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important as this is in a relationship. Never lie. NEVER. Look upthe meaning of NEVER in a dictionary... become familiar with this word,seeing that this is how often you will lie to her.

Do NOT Honk: There is nothing less classy, than pulling up in your car, and honkingthe horn, especially if you honk more than once. My friend's girlfriend's dadput it best when he said, "If you pull into the driveway and honk the horn, you better be dropping something off, because you are NOT picking anything up."

Do NOT be pushy...: Don't be pushy, it is a real turnoff to 99.999999999998% of all womenand if your lucky, and you are pushy, you will at best be classified as an ass.If she says that she doesn't want to do something, (like skydiving or whatever)just sit there and listen carefully for a second. SHE SAID SHE DOES NOT WANT TODO IT. That means, and let me stress, she does NOT want to do it, just nagging andnagging and nagging her about it isn't to "swell" if you know what I mean.

Ditch "The Beard" So you are in my case. I have been able to grow a FULL BEARD since I was fifteen,and I was damn proud of it. However, the girlfriend was not. Sure a few women here andthere will like the look of a scruffy face, but most likely she will not have as much funkissing it. You do not believe me? Take out a nice sheet of Velcro and start kissing itfor a few minutes? I am sure it feels soooooo sexy! If you still don't get the point,liplock with it for a while, and you will start to sympathize with her.

So you screwed up: (dumb ass)Ever try creative begging? A letter slipped under her door, leave it unsealed so shecan't resist having a tiny little look? Or you can dress up in a bunny costumewith a sign saying "Please Take Back the Dumb Bunny." Humor can help to heal the pain and earn youanother chance.

A Quick List of Good Manners and Etiquette:

-On chilly days, give her your coat.-When Picking her up go to the door, do NOT even think about honking.-Hold The door for her.-Hold Hands... even in public (its not as bad as it sounds Mr. Macho, I do it!).-When She Speaks... LISTEN.-LISTEN.-LISTEN (just wanted to make sure you got that).-Shave, ESPECIALLY for special occasions!-Say Please.-Say Thank You.-Do NOT talk with your mouth full.-Patience is a NECCESSITY!-Don't sit down before her, make sure she is taken care of FIRST!-Don't Swear (at LEAST try your best).-Don't lie... women have a 6th sense, and will find out.-On rainy days hold the umbrella for her.

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-Sit up straight!

********************************************************************* Chapter Two: The List Of Sweet Thoughts ** and Things To Do For That Special Sweetie! *********************************************************************(RS)= Reader Suggestion

Hugs, Hugs, and more hugs!

Give your sweetie a massage.

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Kiss every time you greet each other today!

Plan a last minute Friday night date together!

Write your sweetie a song!

Share your secrets.

Listen to her, no matter what she has to say. (I can't stress this one enough guys!)

Do something creative! Take an art, music or dance class together!

Save articles from magazines or newspapers that would be of interestto your love.

Return to the place where you first fell in love.

Bring home your sweetie's Favourite dessert as a surprise!

Frame the most romantic cards you have sent each other.

Make a collage of pictures of you two together and frame it and give it to her.

Write a love poem and compose one new stanza every week

Leave a loving message on your beloved's computer screen.

Record your feelings about your beloved onto a cassette or video tape andgive it to your love to listen/view when they are away.

Send the queen/king of hearts playing card with a love note written on it.

Get every recording ever made by her Favourite musical group.

Make sure when she comes over your room/house is clean. (RS)

VOLUNTEER to clean HER room. (RS)

Make a little loving gesture EVERY day, for a WHOLE YEAR!

Get every book ever written by her Favourite author.

Seal a romantic moment with a kiss!

Hide a love note somewhere where SHE will find it... if she doesn't find itfor a few weeks, give her some clues as to where it is.

Rent or go see that new movie you've been dying to see! :)

Have breakfast in bed!

Surprise your love by giving them their Favourite CD!

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Don't forget the traditional Favourites when saying "I love you"... flowers,chocolates, teddy bears... those usually always get a great positive reaction!

Go visit that city or town you've been wanting to this weekend... calla travel agent and have them send everything they can about the desireddestination and plan your weekend with your love!

Leave an unexpected love note somewhere for your love today letting themknow how much you love them!

Buy a book of love poetry and spend the night reading romantic passagesto each other.

Take a ride in a horse drawn carriage through the city at sunset or at night.

Go for a walk with your love and just relax together.

Get every movie starring her Favourite actor

Write a list: "101 Reasons Why You're the Greatest"

Stay the night at a romantic hotel in your area that offers late check-out!

Give your love a heart shaped key ring.

Send your love a CD or tape of your song.

Send your love a page full of meaningful love quotes.

Moonlit Picnics are fun, just remember to bring Mosquito repellent!

Plan your summer vacation together!

As painful as it may seem for some of you guys out there, give up controlof the TV remote for a night.

Go to a store (or kareokee) that allows you to sing and record songs andsing "your song" for your love and send them the tape.

Buy a personalized coffee cup or mug that says a sweet message on it andhas your picture or something similar. Then give it to your love to remindthem of you when you're not around.

Play together. Games like Monopoly, Chess, computer or video games, cards,etc. are great for bringing the two of you closer and after a hard day atwork it can be a great way to unwind and just talk with your partner!

Collect your love's Favourite cartoon for a long period of time and make abook out of them. Present the book when they are feeling a bit down aboutsomething to cheer them up!

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Learn how to say I love you in sign language! That way no matter what thecircumstances you can say it!

****Remember love is patient and sometimes you need a lot of it!

Talk with your partner. Find out what the both of you think "romance" is anddevise a list of things you'd both like to do. That way next time you "don'tknow what to do" just read over your list!

Mail an unexpected sentimental or humorous card "depending on you =)" toyour love.

Give your sweetie a single flower to represent they are your "one" true love.

Give your sweetie an unexpected compliment!

Give your sweetie a wonderful wake up surprise -- give them coffee in bed!

*****Say something nice to give their self esteem a boost!

Give your love a small book of pocket sonnets.

Spend quality time together.

Change that bad habit that she hates FOR HER!

Go away for a weekend to a Bed and Breakfast.

Dine by candlelight.

Write Love Letters.

Make a web site about how much you love her for all the world to see!

Leave tiny notes hidden around the house.

Share a sunset together at the beach.

Pick out a book you both like, and read a chapter a night to each other before you go to bed. (RS)

Practice kissing

Flowers, Flowers, Flowers.

Say I Love You several times a day.

Compliment the one you love (often).

Send her to work with heart shaped cookies.

Put a romantic note or card in with her lunch.

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Make her a flower petal trail to a bubble bath.

Cuddle on rainy days.

Buy a hammock and cuddle in it together on a lazy day.

For lunch have a picnic in her office.

Send her a love quote each day.

Give your sweetie candy conversation hearts!

Find out three to five things that she has always wanted to do, and make them happen!

Call in sick to work and spend the day together.

Play any of Yanni's (or her favourite artist) music softly inthe background.

Remember when taking walks together to hold hands!

Tape a love note to the bathroom mirror.

Park at "look-out point" with a great view of the city lights.

Go out for a nice Romantic dinner.

A dress up but not neccessary date- dress up all nice, eithersemi-formal, or completely formal, and goto a "Semi-casual" dress code retaurant. They will think u just came from a bigdance or something. TRUST ME! you will have a blast!

Make up a nice pet name for her, like "Sweetie" or "Honey" or"Hunny Bunny"

Find out her favourite poet, and if that poet has a love poem,memorize it and recite it to her.

Send a cookie bouquet.

Have a picnic in the middle of the living room floor.

Winter weather was made for cuddling. Cuddle in front of the fireplace.

Give your love red hots in the shape of hearts!

Renew your wedding vows. (or for the non-married... just do them pretendas a sign of your love for each other)

Make up your own wedding vows that you would use in your wedding(the married can do this too!)

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Go on a second honeymoon. (or for the non-married... PLAN the perfectone and go over it in your mind together one rainy night, make sureyou get brochures from a travel agent, and all that other neat stuff)

Run your fingers through her beautiful hair.

Just for fun...send your love a small bag of only green (or otherfavourite colour) M&M's!

Have breakfast in bed.

Drive out to the country and have a picnic under a shade tree.

If you have a drive in Diner around (McDonald's doesn't count) go there!They can be lots of fun!

While in an elevator, just kiss her out of nowhere... who cares if anyone is around?

Send her a greeting card before every holiday, everyone loves getting mail!

Share a soda like they did back in the 50's.

Take a trip on a hot air balloon together.

If you are going away, spray some of your perfume on your lovers pillow.

Some time, when the two of you are laying down together, put your headon her chest and listen to her heart beat (to this day, the sound of herheart is the most beautiful thing I have EVER heard)

Appreciate the beauty of your partner's eyes.

Leave a romantic message on your lover's answering machine.

Make a "love jar" filled with notes of exactly WHY you love him/her. Wheneverhe/she is feeling down he/she gets to pull one out.

A different twist to the above idea is to make a "wish jar" in which your sweeiteputs something that could be easily accomplished by you (like a massage, foot rub,etc., etc) and whenever your sweetie is feeling down, you can pull out one of theslips and do that thing that your sweetie asked for.

Read to each other Shakespeare's Love Sonnets or Quotes of Love

Write I LOVE YOU on the bathroom mirror in Rain-Ex so when they get out of theshower they see it.

On Sunday, each lover is to make 7 small notes referring to a favor, whetherit be a massage, romantic dinner...etc.. Each note is placed into separatebaskets, one for each lover, and every day you pick from your lover's basketand must do that favor some time during the day!!!

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Fill a small box (jewelry box) with the Hershey Kisses tags and give it toyour loved one. All to be redeemed as real kisses.

Your Sweetheart will be gone for two weeks! Make an envelope for each day shewill be gone. Each envelope contains a little love quote telling him how muchyou miss her and how much you love her. At the bottom of each letter,tape a little Hershey Kisses tag. Each tag represents a kiss, which will beredeemed when she gets home.

Have a pillow fight (be nice guys... as in GENTLEman)

During Christmas drink Egg Nog out of wine glasses while listening toWhite Christmas".

Make a bouquet of flowers out of napkins and spray your cologne on it.

Ask her out to a nice dinner (and to dress up) but cook the meal yourself. Then surprise her with it when she comes over.

Make her a card (Valentines, Birthday, Christmas, etc.) with construction paperand crayons and write like a little kid would.

Try to make sparks with peppermint Lifesavers in the dark

Brush her hair.

Bring Her a flower... and bring her another one when she'd least expectit... THE NEXT DAY!

Share a blanket and watch a movie.

Open the car door... as a matter of fact... open ALL doors (but don't be pushy about it.)

If there's a great slow dance song playing on the radio, ask your partnerto dance, even if you happen to be cooking supper or getting ready for work.

Kiss your sweetie awake in the morning.

Go camping.

Start a candle collection and use them often.

When tensions run high, book a special dinner at your Favourite restaurant andpromise each other not to talk "money" or "the house", or whatever the boneof contention is, for the entire evening.

Order one dessert after a dinner out and share it (don't forget to feed each other!)

Make a time capsule. Write down your private thoughts and dreams in lettersto each other. Then put them in a box, along with a special bottle of wine,

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perhaps, or funny souvenirs, and seal it with sealing wax. Don't open ituntil a special anniversary.

Surprise your sweetie by lip-synching a love song.

Cover her bed with rose petals.

Wake up early one morning after it snows and use KOOL-AID to write a lovemessage in the snow for her to see when she looks out her window. (it betterbe Kool-Aid and NOT something else)

Fill the room with helium balloons and have the strings all reach the floor.

If she has a car, wash it for her, without her knowing, it can also be tonsof fun to do it together too! (hose fight!)

Use chalk to write a welcome home greeting on the path to their front door.

In your own voice, record your sweetie's favourite short book, fairy tale orpoetry on tape for your partner to listen to for their commute or when they are out of town.

Draw a dozen or more silly pictures of memorable experiences the two ofyou have shared. Outline in a black marker and then have the pagescopied and bound on heavy paper at a copy shop. Give with a pack ofcrayons.

Paint a picture of her (for the more intimate, do the version from TITANIC)

Tell her good night, Every Night!

Buy two of those disposal camera deals (about $12.99 a piece. Indoor style.)Fill one up with pictures from your neck of the woods, including pictures ofyourself. Then, *without developing it*, I'm sending the camera to her, alongwith the second camera that hasn't been used, so she can do the same thing andsend hers back to me. (Please remember to send your film in a special containerfor film. Get these at the post office. You don't want the metal detectors andx-rays to destroy your special pictures.)

Buy her a relatively large stuffed animal, and Tell her that you have a friendthat *R E A L L Y* wants to meet her and they are waiting in the car. Butbefore you do this... make the stuffed animal look cute e.g. put sunglasses onthem, or dress them up...Sit the bear on the front seat of the car and put theseatbelt on him. If your car has tinted windows then all the better cause shewon't see the bear until you open the door. Well anyway lead her out to the carto meet this person and she should get a suprise when she sees the stuffedanimal you got for her!!!

Collect little things from what you do together (does that make sense??)Whenever you two do something together take a part of it and keep it in alittle box. (e.g. Movie tickets, business cards from restaurants, the cardof the first bunch of flowers she got you, a napkin from her favourite

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restaurant etc. Then put all these things in a scrapbook and write littlenotes under them, they can be as simple as "Our first dinner together" to"Remember what we did while we watched this movie??". The best thing aboutthis present is it's will be a lot of fun when both of you look through it,and you can always look through it whenever you wish. Placing a message, ora poem or message on the first page is a great touch!

Collect poems (either from the Net or write them yourself) and make abook of poems for your sweetie.

Serenade your lover- stand outside her window with a stereo and sing her a love song. It really doesn’t matter how bad your voice is or whatthe neighbors think.

Rent a romantic movie and pop some popcorn. Turn off all the lightsand cuddle.

If she says that she's sick, so you can't come over tonight, cook up somenice Chicken Noodle soup, and head over to her house. When you get there,serve it to her in bed and wait on her hand and foot. SHE WILL LOVE IT!

Choose flowers that match her eyes.

Sing her to sleep (you can do this on the phone too!).

Put on some old clothes, and play in the park like when you were kids!Throw snowballs, or jump in leaf piles. Splash in puddles, play onthe slide... etc.

Replace your sweetie's bookmark with a love note (hold onto theother bookmark).

Arrange things ahead of time. Visit a local restaurant, have specialcandles, flowers etc. put on the table, or a little gift served onthe dinner plate. A small tip will assure the success.

Help put on his or her coat, even if help is not needed.

Give her a kiss at red lights.

Learn how to braid her hair.

Give her a manicure... if you don't know exactly how to do this itWILL take a while.

Wash her hair for her. She'll love it.

If she likes wintery weather, during the warmer months, Turn theback yard into a winter wonderland! Drape the trees and fences withtiny white lights. Put spray on snow on the trees and decorate theporch. Turn on slow music and bring her out to dance under the moon.

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Go for a long bike ride in the country or backroads.

Walk arm in arm.

Bring her ice cream.

Have a water fight.

Take a nap together.

Wink at each other and make it mean something special (e.g. I LoveYou, You look beautiful, etc., etc.)

Feed ducks in the park.

Have the DJ of her Favourite radio station give her a personalized message.

Make a special tape of love songs.

Flirt just a little. Wink. Compliment her.

Try and make up your own pick up lines and pretend to try to pick her upjust like the way she is the most gorgeous woman in the world!

Camp-out in your backyard and stare up at the stars together.

Play Wrestle (and let her win sometimes too!)

Have a tickle fight.

Learn to say "I Love You" many different ways (see chapter Four)

Have a "Virtual Wedding" http://www.nadtech.com/wedding.html

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********************************************************************* Chapter Three: Gifts ********************************************************************* So you forgot about some special occasion, or just can't think of anythingto get her? Well below is a good start, and a nice list of things to get for her. Notto mention many of the things in chapter two can count as gifts too, I just think itwould be redundant to list it more than once.

A really good idea, and something that I do, is keep a list of things that shereally seems to enjoy. For example, if she says that she really likes the soundtrackto a certain movie, I will make a mental note of it, and when I get back home, I willwrite it down on a list of things that she would like to have. That way, whenever aspecial occasion comes up (or just for whatever), instead of having to rack your brainsfor hours, you already have a pre-made thoughtful list of things that you can get her.

A Surprise Gift- Say she is staring down that stuffed bear in the window...buy it later when she's not looking and give it to her for that specialoccasion.

Trinkets- Trinkets are a wonderful idea, try and find out if she likesgold or silver, and you are on your own from there.

Get Her That Thing That she's been eyeing up forever.

Classical Romantic Gift- Nice dinner out, complete with flowers and candlelight.

Perfume

A Sexy Gift- Like lingerie or something like that.

"Oh, you shouldn't have!—But I love it!"- Something expensive... but you know shewants really bad... good if you have extra money!

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A Strange Gift- Simply put... something that will make her say, "What the hell is THAT?"

Keepsakes- Wonderful things like souvenirs

"How did you find it?!"- Something that you know she wants but is really hard to get.

Homemade- Straight from the heart, and especially good if you are close to broke!

A joke Gift

Themed Gifts

Personalized Gifts- Mugs, hats, etc.

The Gift of Travel

Make a romantic, mushy toast to her at dinner.

The Gift of Food

The Gift in Her Favourite Colour- Similar to the "theme" idea, but get lots of giftsall the same colour

A Practical Gift- Something that she needs in everyday life.

First Class Gift- No Matter what it is, decorate it and present it in a matterfit for a Queen!

Home-Made Gift Certificate- Something Like I.O.U. 5 back massages, or something similar.

Gift-Within-a-Gift-Within-a-Gift- Many boxes, each one wrapped, until it gets downto something small like a ring.

Time- One thing that you should always give her, is the gift of quality timetogether!

Buy a regular vase that your girlfriend would put those flowers that you got herin. Now decorate it all nice and pretty wrap, and viola!

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********************************************************************** Chapter Four Saying I Love You MANY different ways **********************************************************************

(from http://www.geocities.com/~brillohead/languages.html )

Language Translation-------- -----------Afrikaans Ek het jou liefeAfrikaans Ek is lief vir jouAlbanian te duaAlbanian te dashurojAlentejano(Portugal) Gosto De Ti, Porra!Alsacien Ich hoan dich gearAmerican Sign Language : __ (signed with right hand) : __ ( ) : ( ) |__| : |__| __ __ | | : | |( )( )|__| __ : |__||__||__|| | / ) : | (__)(__) | / / : | |/ / : | / / : \ /Amharic AfekrishalehouArabic Ana Behibak (to a male)Arabic Ana Behibek (to a female)Arabic Ib'n hebbak.

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Arabic Ana Ba-heb-bakArabic nhebuk Arabic Ohiboke (male to female)Arabic Ohiboka (female to male)Arabic Ohibokoma (male or female to two males or twofemales)Arabic Nohiboke (more than one male or female to female)Arabic Nohiboka (male to male or female to male)Arabic Nohibokoma (m. to m. or f. to two males or twofemales)Arabic Nohibokom (m. to m. or f. to more than two males)Arabic Nohibokon (m. to m. or f. to more than two females)Arabic (not standard) Bahibak (female to male)Arabic (not standard) Bahibik (male to female)Arabic (not standard) Benhibak (more than one male or female to male)Arabic (not standard) Benhibik (male to male or female to female)Arabic (not standard) Benhibkom (m. to m. or female to more than one male)Assamese Moi tomak bhal pauBasc Nere MaiteaBatak Holong rohangku di hoBavarian I mog di narrisch gernBengali Ami tomAy bhAlobAshiBengali Ami tomake bhalobashi.Berber Lakh tirikhBicol Namumutan ta kaBolivian Quechua qanta munaniBulgarian Obicham teBurmese chit pa deCambodian Bon sro lanh oonCambodian kh_nhaum soro_lahn nhee_ahCanadian French Sh'teme (spoken, sounds like this)Cantonese Moi oiy neyaCantonese Ngo oi neyCatalan T'estim (mallorcan)Catalan T'estim molt (I love you a lot)Catalan T'estime (valencian)Catalan T'estimo (catalonian)Cebuano Gihigugma ko ikaw.Chickasaw chiholloli (first "I" nasalized)Chinese (see the entries for mandarin or cantonese!)Corsican Ti tengu cara (to female)Corsican Ti tengu caru (to male)Croatian LJUBim teCzech miluji teCzech MILUJU TE! (colloquial form)Danish Jeg elsker digDutch Ik hou van jouDutch Ik ben verliefd op jeEcuador Quechua canda munaniEnglish I love youEnglish I adore youEsperanto Mi amas vin

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Estonian Mina armastan sindEstonian Ma armastan sindFarsi Tora dust midaramFarsi AsheghetamFarsi (Persian) doostat dAramFilipino Mahal ka taFilipino Iniibig KitaFinnish Minä rakastan sinuaFlemish Ik zie oe geerneFrench Je t'aimeFrench Je t'adoreFriesian Ik hald fan deiGaelic Ta gra agam ortGerman Ich liebe DichGreek s'ayapo (spoken s'agapo, 3rd letter is lower case 'gamma')Greek (old) (Ego) philo su (ego is only needed for emphasis)Greenlandic AsavakitGujrati Hoon tane pyar karoochhoon.Hausa Ina sonkiHawaiian Aloha I'a Au OeHebrew Ani ohev otach (male to female)Hebrew Ani ohev otcha (male to male)Hebrew Ani ohevet otach (female to female)Hebrew Ani ohevet otcha (female to male)Hindi Mai tumase pyar karata hun (male to female)Hindi Mai tumase pyar karati hun (female to male)Hindi Main Tumse Prem Karta HoonHindi Mai Tumhe Pyar Karta HoonHindi Main Tumse Pyar Karta HoonHindi Mai Tumse Peyar Karta HnuHindi Mai tumse pyar karta hooHokkien Wa ai luHopi Nu' umi unangwa'taHungarian SzeretlekHungarian Szeretlek te'gedIcelandic Eg elska thigIndonesian Saya cinta padamu Indonesian Saya cinta kamu Indonesian Aku cinta padamu Indonesian Aku cinta kamu Iranian Mahn doostaht doh-rahmIrish taim I' ngra leatItalian ti amo (if it's a relationship/lover/spouse)Italian ti voglio bene (if it's a friend, or relative)Japanese Kimi o ai shiteru (used mostly by males)Japanese AishiteruJapanese Chuu shiteyoJapanese Ora omee no koto ga suki daJapanese SuitonnenJapanese SukiyanenJapanese Sukiyo

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Japanese Watashi wa anata ga suki desuJapanese Watashi wa anata wo aishite imasuJapanese Watakushi-wa anata-wo ai shimasuJapanese Suki desu (used at 1st time, like for a start, when you are not yet real lovers)Javanese Kulo tresnoKannada Naanu Ninnanu PreethisutheneKannada Naanu Ninnanu MohisutheneKiswahili NakupendaKlingon qabangKlingon qaparHa' (depends where in the galaxy you are)Korean No-rul sarang hae (man to woman in casual relation)Korean Tangsinul sarang ha yoKorean Tangshin-ul sarang hae-yoKorean Tangsinul Sarang Ha YoKorean Tangshin-i cho-a-yo (I like you, in a romantic way)Korean Nanun tangshinul sarang hamnidaKorean Nanun Dangsineul Mucheog JoahapnidaKorean Nanun Dangsineul SaranghapnidaKorean Nanun Gdaega JoaKorean Nanun Gdaereul SaranghapnidaKorean Nanun Neoreul SaranghandaKorean Gdaereul Hjanghan Naemaeum AljiKorean JoahaeyoKorean SaranghaeKorean SaranghaeyoKorean SaranghapanidaKurdish Ez te hezdikhem (?)Lao Koi muk jaoLao Khoi huk chauLatin Te amoLatin Vos amoLatin (old) (Ego) amo te (ego, for emphasis)Latvian Es milu tevi (Pronounced "Ess tevy meeloo")Lebanese BahibakLingala Nalingi yoLisbon lingo gramo-te bue', chavalinhaLithuanian TAVE MYLIU (ta-ve mee-lyu)Lojban mi do pramiLuo AheriMacedonian SAKAM TE!Madrid lingo Me molas, troncaMalagasy Tiako ianao! Malay Saya cintakan muMalay Saya sayangkan muMalay/Indonesian Saya sayangkan engkauMalay/Indonesian Saya cintakan awakMalayalam Njyaan Ninne' PreetikyunnuMalayalam Njyaan Ninne' Mohikyunnu.Malayalam Ngan Ninne SnaehikkunnuMalaysian Saya CintamuMalaysian Saya Sayangmu

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Malaysian Saya Cinta KamuMaltese InhobbokMandarin Wo ai ni (Wo3 ai4 ni3 in tonal notation)Marathi me tujhashi prem karto (male to female)Marathi me tujhashi prem karte (female to male)Marathi Mi tuzya var prem karatoMohawk KonoronhkwaNavaho Ayor anosh'niNdebele NiyakutandaNorwegian Eg elskar deg (Nynorsk)Norwegian Jeg elsker deg (Bokmaal) (pronouncedyai elske dai)Op Op Lopveop YopuopOsetian Aez dae warzynPakistani Mujhe Tumse Muhabbat HaiPersian Tora dost daramPig Latin Ie Ovele OuyePolish Kocham CiePolish Ja cie kochamPolish Yacha kochamPolish Kocham CiebiePortuguese Amo-tePortuguese (brazilian) Eu te amoPunjabi Mai taunu pyar kardaPunjabi Main Tainu Pyar KarnaQuenya Tye-mela'neRomanian Te iu bescRomanian Te AdorRussian Ya vas liubliuRussian Ya tebya liubliuRussian Ya polubeel s'tebyaRussian (malincaya) Ya Tibieh LublueScot Gaelic Tha gra\dh agam ortSerbian ljubim te (I kiss you/love you, 'lj' pronounced like 'll' in Spanish, one sound, 'ly'ish)Serbocroatian Volim teSerbocroatian Ljubim teShona NdinokudaSinhalese Mama oyata adareiSioux TechihhilaSlovak lubim taSlovene ljubim teSpanish Te quieroSpanish Te amoSrilankan Mama Oyata Arderyi Swahili Naku penda (followed by the person's name)Swedish Jag älskar dej (conversational)Swedish Jag älskar dig (more formal)Swiss-German Ch'ha di ga"rnSyrian/Lebanese BHEBBEK (to a female)Syrian/Lebanese BHEBBAK (to a male)Tagalog Mahal kita

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Tahitian Ua Here Vau Ia OeTamil Ni yaanai kaadli karen (You love me)Tamil n^An unnaik kAthalikkinREn (I love you)Tamil Naan Unnai KadalikirenTcheque MILUJI TE^Telugu Neenu ninnu pra'mistu'nnanuTelugu/india Nenu Ninnu PremistunnanuThai Phom Rak Khun (formal, male to female)Thai Ch'an Rak Khun (formal, female to male)Thai Khao Raak Thoe (affectionate, sweet, loving)Thai Phom Rak KhunTunisian Ha eh bak *Turkish Seni seviyo*rum (o* means o)Turkish Seni SeviyurumTurkish Seni SeviyorumUkrainian ja tebe koKHAju (real true love)Ukrainian ja vas koKHAjuUkrainian ja pokoKHAv tebeUkrainian ja pokoKHAv vasUrdu Mujhe tumse mohabbat haiUrdu Main Tumse Muhabbat Karta HoonVietnamese Em ye^u anh (woman to man)Vietnamese Toi yeu emVietnamese Anh ye^u em (man to woman)Vlaams Ik hue van yeVulcan Wani ra yana ro aishaWelsh 'Rwy'n dy garu di.Welsh Yr wyf I yn dy garu di (chwi)Yiddish Ich libe dichYiddish Ich han dich libYiddish Ikh Hob Dikh LibYugoslavian Ya te volim Zazi Ezhele hezdege (sp?)Zulu Mena Tanda WenaZulu Ngiyakuthanda!Zuni Tom ho' ichema(approx. 272 ways!)