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    By Ashram Kain

    Edited by Indigo Matthews

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    Dedicated to all of my good friends who have helped me grow

    And to all those people who deserved better from me

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    Preface

    As I begin this paragraph, in the prologue to the first book ofthree, I am twenty-eight years old, while small I doubt I will

    finish this text in the next day, week, month, or year.

    I tell you this because I believe it is important for you

    understand that the man who has begun this text will not be

    the same man that finishes it, just as you will not be thesame reader who finishes this text. As we take this journey,

    we will grow, we will evolve, and we will, I hope, reach an

    apotheosis. To understand how and why, I must explain

    what this text is. But before I do, I must ask you to do me a

    favor, my reader, whoever you are: Please read this text

    through to its end. Walk with me along this road andcomplete this journey, regardless of your bias, your beliefs,

    or your convictions, even if only to tell me Im wrong, please,

    finish this text with me, it is not long, but it does matter.

    With that said, what I hope to discover with you is a method

    of rational thought and mindfulness, which anyone can applyto achieve lasing happiness. I will not try to convince you of

    any ideas, I will not try to convert you to my way of thinking.

    I will only ask you that you think, at times in new ways, at

    times in ways that may not be immediately comfortable. I

    will no doubt struggle to choose my words very carefully, if

    at times I use a word in a context that does not immediatelymake sense, or it is one with which you are not familiar, do

    not be discouraged at all. Learning new things helps us all

    grow; be willing to learn and to question it if you do not

    immediately agree or understand.

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    This is not a self-help book. If you want mantras or self-

    actualizations, please look elsewhere. If you want to be rich,

    successful and confident, I am sure that you could be, but I

    dont think this text will cover it. But, if you want happiness,

    truth, understanding, and maybe a bit of freedom, we

    should continue. If you dont want to come along, I

    understand, and will be waiting for you when you are ready.

    I cannot yet imagine what each chapter in each book will

    contain, nor will it be an easy task to for us to understand

    this method. I can tell you that first we must examine the

    mind, thinking, and learn to question. Second, we must

    question ourselves, the nature of emotional investment,

    happiness, and thought. Lastly, we must apply the first and

    second we must master thought, decision, and choice.

    To do this, any of this, we must draw upon a hundred

    thousand years of human history, knowledge, and evolution.

    We will draw upon great thinkers and philosophers and we

    will extract the abstract essence of their ideas.

    I am eager to begin, I hope you are too.

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    Book one: Meditations

    Small StepsEverything we do, each act, takes time. The more factors,

    the more moving pieces, the more time. Time is in a

    metaphorical essence (and in many non-metaphorical ways),

    the energy that drives all things forward, but time can only

    become work as long as the time is being used, otherwise it

    flows right by. To gain any ability you must use the time to

    practice, and with practice you will grow. To accomplish any

    small feat takes an infinite number of smaller feats of which

    you are likely unaware. This is what allows for gradual

    change: a number of far smaller far less profound plateaus.

    You have already reached one, in reading andcomprehending the paragraph above. You may have had

    similar thoughts before but it has never been put exactly like

    that before, and that new knowledge has created new

    pathways in your brain. If youre quick youll already know

    what Im about to say in principle: What I hope to

    accomplish will take time and an infinite number of small

    feats. You will have those moments of sudden epiphany, but

    they will be spread out over a period time. Do not expect

    instant results, instead, expect to put in the time necessary

    to move your mind forward.

    Human learning is a complicated subject with many facets.

    What we will focus on now in this book is the principle of

    rational thought; that is practicing thinking methods that are

    constructive and healthy, while identifying unhealthy

    methods. This will take many small steps to master.

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    Thinking

    You may rightfully believe you know how to think, and may

    indeed be capable of thinking. If you questioned for amoment whether or not you know how to think rationally,

    you probably just did. The key to thinking is questioning. To

    think properly we must first be willing to question, by this I

    mean to have intellectual curiosity of those things we

    experience, our thoughts and our actions. As we are exposed

    to new ideas and knowledge we must accept them, andquestion them. This is the definition of open mindedness,

    always accepting and thinking about new ideas. This is not to

    say we should at all time doubt things, ourselves or others,

    rather what I mean is we must always look at situations and

    be willing to question what we know and what we think we

    know. The more you are certain of any fact, feeling, or belief

    you hold, the more you should be willing to question it. To

    question a thought or feeling ask:

    Does this thought help me accomplish any tasks or goals?

    Is this thought based on observable evidence?

    Can I test this thought to see if it is true or false?

    If the answer is yes to all of the above, this knowledge,

    feeling, or belief that you have questioned, has withstood

    your inquiry and examination. These are valid objects for

    making decision and forming new ideas. If you answered noto even one, then the idea, knowledge or feeling is invalid,

    and should be considered less useful for making choices.

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    Consider why we call these ideas or feelings valid or invalid;

    valid ideas are ones that can be understood rationally and

    help us accomplish things, valid ideas can also be proven to

    be invalid if they eventually lose their usefulness. Invalid

    ideas are either not useful to us, have no evidence to

    support them as a conclusion, or cannot be proven to be

    true or false. This means they cannot be used to make

    rational decisions. Would you want someone making choices

    for you based on ideas that were harmful, had no basis inevidence, or were beyond your ability to prove or question?

    Of course not!

    Questioning is not the same a doubting. Do not let doubt

    sabotage good ideas. Question your doubt if your doubt

    can be questioned, you were right to second guess an idea, if

    it cannot, then your doubt is baseless, and you should act on

    the healthy thoughts you have.

    Thinking is the ability to accept and question knowledge,

    feelings, or beliefs to ascertain their validity.

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    Feeling

    Few things are as wholly misunderstood as our feelings, and

    few languages are as poor at expressing the depth andbreadth of human emotion as English. In psychology we

    associate emotions with stimuli, behavior, mood,

    temperament, and personality. Biochemically, emotions are

    observable responses in the brain that while honed by

    experience seem, all too often, beyond our control.

    This Idea, that our emotions are beyond our control, is a very

    common fallacy.

    Many emotional responses are instinctual knowledge that,

    devoid of reason, would enable an organism to survive and

    reach some measure of success. However, we are beings

    with reason, and we must think about our emotions

    question and validate thus we can address our feelings.

    The first step to self-control, discipline, and mastery of our

    emotions is simply questioning them. Ask why you feel each

    powerful emotion and you will often find it no longer

    controls your behavior. There is nothing at all wrong with

    feeling, so long as we understand why we feel the way we

    do, and we do not make choices ruled by feelings we dont

    fully understand.

    The reason for this is to prevent bad habits and keep others

    from dictating our actions through emotional bias such as

    fear, desires, or loneliness. These are often exploited, and

    very rarely questioned in everyday life.

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    One of the most common methods by which we are

    manipulated and deceived is through emotional appeals.

    This is called Pathos, and is one of the three methods of

    persuasion; it is also the method most commonly used to

    deceive us. This is why questioning our feelings rationally is

    so important, when presented with a situation where

    someone or thing is appealing solely to your emotions, trying

    to invoke strong overpowering feelings, they are often trying

    to prevent you from thinking.

    When you are presented with strong emotional appeals,

    especially fear, practice thinking about the feelings you have.

    This makes you the master of your emotions.

    Feelings are good; understanding our feelings is better.Question what you feel, and why, to rule your emotions.

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    Practice

    Long ago people realized that with enough small steps you

    can accomplish great things; the mind is absolutely nodifferent. This process, of repeating behavior over and over

    in iteration, it is called practice. The more you practice a

    pattern of thinking the better at it you become. To think and

    master feeling takes practice questioning your ideas, feelings

    and beliefs.

    To practice this internal examination question all knowledge

    and feelings, and question new information and new

    situations. By practicing this kind of thinking, you learn to

    see the truth in yourself and in the world around you. And

    remember, we learn by doing small steps, each act is an

    improvement over the last.

    Just as you repeat the act of thinking and questioning, repeat

    the thoughts that you have examined and found to be

    helpful. This grows the ability to think new thoughts that are

    rational, provable, and healthy. Furthermore it makes your

    ability to question stronger and more able to adapt to newsituations, problems, and dilemmas.

    Repeatedly think about new and old ideas, practice

    questioning and repeating valid thoughts.

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    However, this same process of repetition and practice can

    also lead to self destructive behavior and delusions.

    Repeating bad ideas over and over will ingrain them deeply

    in the mind, it is the basis for many mental disorders,

    delusions, and cognitive dissonance. This is why you must

    question each thought and feeling:

    Does this thought help me accomplish any tasks or goals?

    Is this thought based on observable evidence?

    Can I test this thought to see if it is true or false?

    If the answer is No to any of the above, the thought is

    destructive, and probably not something you want to base

    choices on. This helps prevent delusions and breaks down

    bad thoughts in our mind.

    Ultimately, these things take practice and iteration to

    master. Consistently practicing this kind of questioning will

    build up a resistance to bad ideas and help you overcome old

    ones, but only through practice, time, and consistency.

    Practice thinking by questioning your thoughts, the things

    you learn, what you think you know, and what you feel.

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    Evidence

    We have discussed thinking and questioning what we know

    and whether it is valid. To discern if anything we think or feelis valid we must also accept evidence. Simply because an

    idea or feeling has evidence to back it does not make it true,

    rather, only if an idea or feeling has evidence that can

    withstand scrutiny of observation and explains our idea or

    feeling, or is explained by the idea, we can consider it valid

    evidence for forming our thoughts and feelings.

    Evidence cannot be its own validation, you would not believe

    a police-officer who threw you in jail and told you he was

    right, because he said he was right. You would want a Jury

    and Judge and a fair trial. Just as we question ideas, we must

    question our evidence for ideas to prevent delusion.

    We do this so that a valid idea, thought, or feeling is one we

    can use to make choices. This is paramount you must think

    about (question and observe) evidence for ideas, thoughts,

    and feelings to make good choices.

    If any idea or feeling has no evidence or source the idea

    cannot be proven wrong, therefore it is invalid, because we

    cannot properly question or understand the idea. If the idea

    or feeling is caused by another idea or feeling, we must

    question that idea or feeling, and if that idea or feeling has

    no evidence, it is also invalid.

    The key to thinking about your ideas is respecting the need

    for evidence or correctness for an idea or feeling.

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    Mindfulness

    For our purposes, mindfulness is an awareness of self and

    our surroundings in any given moment. Practicingmindfulness allows us to examine others and our selves, be

    keenly aware of our bodies, thoughts, feelings, and the

    actions of others around us. Awareness and wisdom grow

    from mindfulness.

    For those that have never experienced this kind of mental

    state, it can be exceedingly challenging at first. A

    mindfulness state requires considering each thought as it

    arises, being aware of the sensations of the body and

    environment, and not succumbing to distraction or negative

    thought patterns.

    To be mindful requires practice, but explaining how to

    practice mindfulness is a serious challenge that has confused

    and confounded eastern philosophers for millennia, and

    psychologists recently for decades. However, mindfulness is

    a constant ever present thing, you dont need to follow strict

    steps and spend an hour a day being mindful. Yet we stillneed a guide, to show us where to begin practicing mindful

    thought.

    But the truth is, if you have practiced thinking about the

    thoughts and feelings you have in any moment, you have

    begun practicing mindfulness. We can develop mindfulness

    by taking a quiet moment, and considering all those things in

    our mind, surroundings, and what we are doing and feeling.

    Think on these, consider their validity. Be present in the

    moment and in your mind. This is mindfulness.

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    Mindfulness is awareness born from practicing thinking. As

    you develop your ability to question and experience

    understanding of your thoughts, feelings, and ideas, you

    develop mindfulness.

    It becomes clear which are successful ideas and which arent

    as you question more and more of our thoughts and feelings.

    Thoughts that are destructives stand out as they inhibit your

    ability to perform or succeed, they lack any basis in

    evidence, or they cannot be tested.

    To be Mindful, be present in the moment and aware of

    your thoughts and feelings as they come.

    Try to focus on the things that are happening now, right

    around you, and inside you.

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    Book Two: Truths

    Lasting HappinessIt is a difficult subject to broach with people, that of

    happiness and its definition. People have very interesting

    and wholly destructive ideas of happiness, and few have

    ever been contradicted. Worse, English is a rather poor

    language to discuss the topic, as most emotional topics,

    because it is very short of finite and specific words for

    emotional states.

    Because this idea is so nebulous and so complicated I want

    to first clearly define what I mean when I say Lasting

    Happiness, and what that isnt. It is important because ideas

    like bliss, contentment, even comfort and safety are notlasting happiness, but often confused with lasting happiness,

    or worse, sought in place of lasting happiness. So what is

    lasting happiness?

    Lasting Happiness is a ground state of optimistic,

    content well-being. When I say ground state, Imean when all other stimuli and impetuses have

    been removed, the state of mind is one that is

    optimistic, alert, content, and accepting.

    Because Lasting Happiness becomes the ground state, the

    normal position of the mind, this happiness will pervade all

    other aspects of life. This state will breed benevolence and

    confidence which in turn create further happiness.

    Unfortunately, most societies fail to recognize this for a

    variety of reasons. People who have attained lasting

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    happiness tend often to question authority and bring about

    innovative new ideas. Most cultural ideas of happiness are

    transitory happiness, the kind that can be lost in an instant,

    or require consistent gratification.

    The truth is that love, wealth, entertainment, indulgences,

    narcotics, and sexual gratifications are all often confused

    with or cited as sources of happiness. While all these things

    will bring about bliss, and even joy, none will create lasting

    happiness.

    Once achieved, lasting happiness cannot be stolen, lost or

    taken in life. It will always be a part of your thoughts and

    feelings and define you.

    People with Lasting Happiness have no need of Stone Agemorals and antiquated dogmas, they dont harm other

    people. Why? Because lasting happiness is watered by other

    peoples happiness. In the success of others we find the keys

    to our own success. In others happiness is a community that

    is happy, successful, and free of the petty demons of

    jealousy, greed, and violence. All this things are thesymptoms of an unhappy mind.

    Stop wanting to be happy and just smile.

    Fake it if you have to.

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    That was the first step, and it is the only one that is easy,

    because the rest of the trials and complications that come

    with seeking lasting happiness are not simple, are difficult to

    understand, and will test our world view.

    We will not achieve happiness by sitting there reading this

    wanting happiness, you will achieve it by smiling and

    thinking about things rationally, practicing happiness. You

    wouldnt expect to achieve getting to the store by sitting on

    the couch wanting to get to the store would you? No, you

    achieve getting there by getting up and taking one step at a

    time until, before you know it, youre there.

    Lasting Happiness is the same way so lets keep walking.

    The second step you have hopefully already taken, and thatis thinking and developing mindfulness. To move forward we

    need to understand what creates lasting happiness.

    Lasting Happiness is built upon a foundation of mindfulness,

    wise emotional investments, ownership of successes, and

    firm correctness in decisions.

    The journey is getting interesting, Let us move forward and

    confront emotional investments, owning success and

    failures, and succeeding more when we do fail.

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    Realize Emotional Investments

    We only have so much emotional effort to give, and where

    we are investing that effort is very important if you want toachieve lasting happiness. Part of lasting happiness is being a

    wise investor of emotional effort; knowing what gives a solid

    emotional return, and what does not, and how to spot an

    emotional sinkhole.

    Everything we let in to our lives requires an emotional

    investment; some measure of emotional effort is spent on

    everything, from our job, hobbies, loved ones or friends, to

    our problems, worries, debts and conflicts.

    Investing emotional effort is just like investing money you

    should only invest it in things that have a high return rate:

    people who treat you well, jobs that are rewarding, hobbies

    that are fulfilling, and problems you can solve. When we

    begin investing in things that have little or no return; people

    who treat us poorly, jobs we hate, problems we cannot

    solve, or conflicts that are self-perpetuating, we quickly run

    out of emotional energy and must borrow that energyfrom somewhere.

    We borrow this from our lasting happiness. This creates

    emotional debt, a state of stressed exhaustion brought

    about by poor emotional investments eating up our

    emotional effort and then burning away our lasting

    happiness with interest.

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    When thinking about our emotional investments, we can use

    the basic criteria set forth in book one to analyze each thing

    we have invested emotional effort in:

    Does this investment help me accomplish any tasks or goals?

    Does this investment return based on observable evidence?

    Can I test this investment to see if it is positive or negative?

    This is a great chance to practice thinking; looking at thethings in your life, what is rewarding, what is not? If the

    answer is No to any of these, then withdrawing your

    investment and letting go of this element in your life is

    essential to your wellbeing.

    But letting go is easier said than done, isnt it? After all,youre invested.

    Practice thinking you know this investment is bad, you can

    demonstrate it is bad because it fails to meet criteria for a

    good investment. Making bad investments with your

    emotional effort does not make you feel better, nor does itmake you a good person.

    We want to be good people, because benevolence waters

    our own happiness. Yet we also want to be able to share our

    happiness in the form of emotional effort invested in people

    and things that return to us happiness. A common myth is

    that good people sacrifice their happiness for another

    persons.

    This is an incredible lie, and it uses pathos to deceive us,

    because we want to be good and benevolent.

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    Good people elevate the happiness of others through

    sharing a little bit more emotional effort than they initially

    receive, if they will receive more from this investment than

    they gave. If someone in your life is constantly taking your

    emotional effort, and never has any to give they are a thief

    stealing from you.

    Being a good person means investing emotional effort wisely

    to elevate peoples happiness, not sacrificing your own

    energy and wellbeing for others. By elevating their happiness

    you create a healthy cycle of emotional returns for them,

    and for yourself.

    The more you consider your good investment vs. your bad

    investments the easier it will be to withdraw your effort

    from them. Letting go of investments means slowly limiting

    their place in your life, each time more effort is required

    question why you should and if there is a return. If there is

    not, do not continue to invest. This is a process that takes

    time and practice.

    Worrying about issues we cannot or will not be able to solveis a poor investment there will be no return and it takes a

    lot of emotional effort.

    Addressing small problems in your life that you have a

    solution for already is a great investment because the return

    is slightly higher than the original effort.

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    Own Success and Failure

    Taking responsibility is often associated with taking the

    blame (or stealing anothers glory) for some failure oraccomplishment. But ownership has a very different

    connotation. When we hear ownership we think of

    possession, physicality, and maybe responsibility.

    When I speak of owning both successes and failures, I dont

    mean taking responsibility or getting bragging rights, I mean

    that you need to take possession of each decision you made,

    you need to think about the things that led to that success or

    failure and why. Remember, when I say think, I mean

    question and analyze. In owning each success and each

    failure you make them a part of you and your story, you

    learn from them how to repeat successes and how toprevent failures. This is accomplished by simply thinking

    about each and how you behaved, where your emotional

    effort investments were at the time of each, and what

    qualified as a positive return.

    There is more to understanding ownership, but we need toexamine other elements of decision making first. For now we

    can understand that lasting happiness is impacted by our

    ability to accept ownership of our successes as much as our

    failure, from here we can grow an understanding of choices

    and why we make them. By thinking we can develop

    mindfulness and learn to be aware of ourselves and ourenvironment, simply by observing and questioning, and most

    importantly, practicing thinking.

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    Succeed More When You Fail

    This is really the basic foundation of lasting happiness. In

    many cases our mistakes and failures haunt us. If we arepracticing thinking, rather than recriminate ourselves for our

    mistakes we can critically analyze them, why we took that

    action, and what ideas we gained from it. We can determine

    valid vs. invalid ideas and emotions form this. Most

    importantly we can learn from what happened by

    questioning our thoughts and feelings.

    Bad things do not happen to us because of karma or fate

    Bad things do not happen because of some supernatural

    force at work in the universe. We do not suffer for some

    beings grand plan or evil forces working against us.

    Bad things happen because we are either in the wrong place

    at the wrong time or we make choices that bring about

    misfortune. This is hard to accept but it is true.

    When faced with mistakes, challenges, and failures you

    should practice thinking; why did you think that way, why

    did you feel that way, was it beneficial, was there any

    evidence to support these thoughts or feelings, can these

    thoughts or feelings be proven true or false?

    These basic questions can help you understand, and more

    importantly, not repeat mistakes and failures.

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    Book Three: The Golden Path

    ActualizationBook One and Book Two laid out a framework of ideas to

    support and hopefully help us reach the following concepts.

    Understanding the above was essential to understanding the

    following.

    We have been armed with an understanding of whatthinking is and how to do it. You have been presented with

    an idea of lasting happiness, why it is good, and been shown

    some of the obstacles that prevent you from achieving it. So

    let us begin understanding how to live happily.

    Lasting Happiness is actualized by accepting that choicesonce made cannot be changed, you cannot doubt choices;

    such requires that decisions are made and accepted

    equanimously, with calm consideration.

    Accept and own our choices; they cannot be changed, but

    we cannot let ourselves feel regret or resigned to these

    choices. They are our own. Own them.

    Each decision, if you have thought about it, you must accept

    with firm correctness this is the acceptance that there was

    no other choice you could have made given the same

    information and situation, you have to understand that you

    were doing the right thing if you have been mindful and

    have thought about the things that drove you to this choice

    then it was the right thing.

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    Firm Correctness

    This is a term borrowed with some interpretation from

    Chinese. It can be summarized as simply this:

    Do the right thing by your choices.

    The right thing this is not an ambiguous idea; morality,

    ethics and all the social constructs can be ignored.

    The right thing is the choice that maintains your lastinghappiness while supporting the wellbeing of those around

    you. I do not imply this is simple.

    There is no choice that harms another person that brings

    about lasting happiness, and there is no choice that harms

    you that brings about lasting happiness. Encouraging thelasting happiness in others builds the firmament of your own

    happiness through benevolence.

    To act in firm correctness we must think about our thoughts

    and feelings, questioning whether our actions are rational;

    you must consider why you make each choice, understand

    them and yourself. And we must help others think and

    understand themselves and their choices.

    We must stand by our choices, especially when wrong.

    In acting with firm correctness we act rationally, with

    mindfulness and consideration, and we make choices that

    are beneficial for ourselves and others.

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    Benevolence Grows Happiness

    Perhaps you are beginning to realize lasting happiness is

    cultivated by acceptance of your choices and making choicesyou think are the right thing because you have used reason

    and evidence to evaluate them.

    The next step is to fertilize happiness in yourself and the

    world around you. This is accomplished through firm

    correctness, treating others with respect, and encouraging

    their happiness through rational thought; sowing the seeds

    of lasting happiness in their minds.

    Helping others will fertilize your mind for happiness, and

    creates a lasting feeling of success. Beyond the mental

    effects, as you help others you will create lasting positive

    impacts on their lives that may grow in to loyal friendships,

    and may also help you identify those who only take but do

    not reciprocate your benevolence.

    This increases the social happiness of your immediate

    environment, and by extension removes elements that may

    inhibit the development of your lasting happiness. To

    understand this, we must understand our emotional

    investments and avoid emotional debt.

    Employ benevolence and wise emotional investments to

    create an environment of lasting happiness, within, and

    with-out.

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    Choice Hypotheses

    The final step to Lasting Happiness is the understanding of

    choices, and learning to make Choice Hypotheses.

    Making a choice and owning the decision is a process of

    commitment and learning. Each choice is a hypothesis,

    which is experimentally tested by the outcome. The next

    time the situation is similar, looking at the validation or

    invalidation of the choice determines the course of action.

    This prepares you to repeat good choices, and by owning

    choices frees you from regret and resentment.

    Testing emotional process is difficult and challenging. If you

    feel a way about a choice, the best option is to remain

    uninvolved or to choose something opposing your feelings,

    so that you can observe the validity of your awareness and

    emotional responses. You must remember these key

    decisions, however, and keenly observe the outcome.

    From this you will learn when to trust your instincts and

    emotions, and when not to. You will learn what choices youare ill equipped to make and those where you are acutely

    aware of the most desired outcome.

    This experimental method is the accumulation of all of the

    above, and it means making mistakes, sometimes

    intentionally, so that you may learn from them.

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    Choose Happiness

    Finally, Lasting Happiness is a choice, one we must commit

    to, and it is difficult. It is unfortunate that we have heard thisso often that the power of the statement is lost.

    Lasting Happiness means owning even the most disastrous

    outcomes as your own and accepting them, it means owning

    every misfortune, every ounce of powerlessness, and

    building happiness by rationally considering all the things in

    your past you cannot change.

    Because you can change what becomes of tomorrow.

    You have an entire life of experiences and information upon

    which to learn and make better choices, you have the

    faculties to think, question, and reason a solution to all of

    your problems.

    The Golden Path is one you walk a step at a time. It is paved

    in rational thought, open mindedness, and awareness. It is

    happiness that cannot be stolen, taken, or touched.

    We have begun that path.

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    Final Thoughts

    I encourage you to question and think about my conclusions. I am in no

    way shape or form wholly responsible for the sum accumulated

    information that informed my conclusions and I encourage you to look

    into these subjects for yourself.

    My thoughts on thinking and valid thoughts are fundamentally identical tothe basic principles of the scientific method, as well as rudimentary logic

    and critical thinking.

    I extensively researched the work by Matthieu Ricard, Nancy Etcoff, and

    Daniel Kahneman in understanding happiness and peak human

    experience. For much information about neurological aspects of happiness

    I looked closely at the work of Dan Gilbert, and Srikumar Rao.

    Mindfulness as an idea presented here is a synthesis and extrapolation of

    ideas in Buddhist, Zen, and Taoist philosophy and strongly encouraged by

    the work of Jon Kabat-Zinn, whom I encourage you to look into if

    awareness-based cognitive development is of any interest.

    Lastly the idea for this book was inspired by the 14th Dalai Lama, Jetsun

    Jamphel Ngawang Lobsang Yeshe Tenzin Gyatso who once said thatreligion has a foundation in nurturing the happiness and spiritual needs of

    people, and will not disappear until a secular philosophy arises to fill that

    need. Im paraphrasing, that is not exactly his quote.

    Any mistakes, fallacies, or faults in this work are, however, mine and mine

    alone and should not be attributed to any of the wonderful and brilliant

    minds whose ideas informed me.

    Thank you for reading.

    I hope you gained something worth having from this.