Promoting the positive involvement of fathers in their children’s lives

The Fatherhood Kit

The Fatherhood Initiative is a program ofThe Massachusetts Children’s Trust Fund

Photo credits: Philip Porcella, of Shadow Catcher Inc., Boston. From the “They Have YourEyes” advertising campaign for the Massachusetts Children’s Trust Fund. Advertising agencyCGN developed the ads, pro bono, as part of 1998 public service campaign of The Ad Club ofBoston.

Special thanks to Kyle Pruett, clinical professor of psychiatry at the Yale Child Study Center, forhis review of the the Reseach & Evidence section.

The Massachusetts Children’s Trust Fund 294 Washington St. Suite 640Boston, MA 02108Web: www.mctf.orgPhone: (617) 727-8957 or

(888) 775-4KIDS (Toll free in Massachusetts)Fax: (617) 727-8997July 2004

Dear Friends,

Being a dad takes more than simply being there – it requires energy, patience, andskills. Sometimes it’s difficult to keep those attributes at hand; but the payoff iswell worth it. Good parenting benefits both the child and the man. Researchshows that children do better in school, are less prone to violence, and have bettermental health when dad is involved. Engaged fathers have better health, self-esteem, and work satisfaction.

The Massachusetts Children’s Trust Fund and its Board of Directors hope this newedition of the Fatherhood Kit results in better quality of life for fathers and theirchildren. You’ll find resources, activities, and ideas that will enhance both the livesof fathers and their families, and the professionals who work with them.

CTF leads statewide efforts to prevent child abuse and neglect by supporting par-ents and strengthening families. We work with over 100 community agenciesstatewide to provide parents with access to skills, knowledge, and resources tobecome the best parents they can. As an important part of that effort, CTF spon-sors many programs that benefit fathers and family support professionals. In 1996,CTF launched the Fathers & Family Network, which has grown to include over1,500 professionals working with and learning from fathers throughoutMassachusetts.

Remember, anyone can become a father. It takes time and commitment to be agood dad.

Sincerely,

Suzin Bartley Edward Bailey, M.D.Executive Director Board Chair

LETTER OF WELCOME

CTF: EXPANDING RESOURCES FOR FATHERS

CTF’s Fatherhood Initiative works . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 2

EVIDENCE THAT DADS MAKE A DIFFERENCE

Benefits of dad involvement . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 4

Risks of father absence . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 5

PROGRAMS AND RESOURCES

Massachusetts listings . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 10

Statewide . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 11

East region . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 13

Central region . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 20

Northeast region . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 22

Southeast region . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 25

West region . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 28

National listing . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 34

Internet listing . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 38

ACTIVITIES AND IDEAS

Ten ways to be a better dad . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 44

Books for dads to share with their children . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 46

Fatherhood Reference . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 48

Activities to do with your children . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 50

Awareness of your children . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 52

Tips for non-married parents . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 52

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Created in 1988 by theMassachusetts Legislature,the Children’s Trust Fund is

dedicated to helping parents raisehealthy and happy children by pro-viding funding, training, and pro-gram models to over 100 organiza-tions that help families.

CTF recognizes the important rolefathers play in their children’s livesand is committed to providing dadswith the resources they need to be thebest parents they can.

In 1996, CTF launched itsFatherhood Initiative to advanceactivities that support fathers, theirfamilies and the family support pro-fessionals who work with them.

The Fatherhood Initiative has beenrecognized as a national model bygroups such as The NationalPractitioners Network for Fathers andFamilies in Washington, D.C.

Developing and fundingprograms for fathers

Included in CTF’s FatherhoodInitiative are the following programsand activities.

• Parenting Education and Support

Programs provide fathers a chance tomeet with other dads, interact with theirchildren, connect to resources in theircommunities and exchange parentinginformation.

• Massachusetts Family Centersoffer a wide range of resources forfathers including activities, parentingeducation groups, and counseling.

• MELD for Young Dads bringstogether groups of young dads who havesimilar parenting needs and interests.The structured groups meet once a weekfor two years. Participants address theroles fathers play in children’s lives andwork to prevent barriers that can dam-age these relationships. This program isbased on a national program and its cur-ricula.

• Healthy Families Massachusettsis a statewide program that supportsfirst-time parents age 20 and under byoffering trained home visitors who cananswer questions common to all newparents. also offered are new groups foryoung fathers to meet and discuss issuesspecific to their needs and interests.

Convening and leading thestatewide Fathers &Family Network

CTF�s Fatherhood Initiative promotes dads� important role in their children�s lives

THE FATHERHOOD INITIATIVE

Over the years, the Fathers & FamilyNetwork (FFN) has expanded toinclude nearly 1,500 individuals andorganizations working with and learn-ing from fathers. The network pro-vides training and best practice infor-mation to human service professionalswho work with fathers. FFN holdsregular meetings in five Massachusettsareas: Amherst, Boston, North Shore,Southeastern, and Worcester.

CTF influences public policy byworking with national leaders includ-ing the State’s Initiative Committee ofthe National Practitioners Networkfor Fathers and Families.

Engaging the mediato forward a positiveimages of fathers

CTF promotes the importance ofdads’ participation in the lives of theirfamilies. This includes developingpartnerships with the media andworking to develop public serviceannouncements that promote father-hood involvement.

For a listing of CTF programs andcontacts, please see page 10.

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�CTF�s Fatherhood Initiative is leading the way in the growingnational effort to recognize and support the important role thatfathers play in child rearing and family preservation.�

Preston Garrison,

National Practitioners Network for Fathers and Families,Washington, D.C.

When boys and girls areraised by engagedfathers, they demon-

strate “a greater ability to take initia-tive and evidence self-control,”according to Dr. Kyle Pruett, clinicalprofessor of psychiatry at the YaleChild Study.

Pruett found that when a father playsa visible and nurturing role in his chil-dren’s lives, the situation leads to bet-ter outcomes for his children andhimself.

Children are more likely to:

• have stronger coping and adaptationskills

• be better equipped to solve problem• stay in school longer• have longer lasting relationship• have higher work productivity.

Fathers are more likely to:

• have better overall health• have higher self-esteem and a more

positive self image• have more satisfaction with work.1

Emotional well-being

Fathers who spend time with theirkids are affectionate, and have a posi-tive attitude about parenting are morelikely to bond with their infants.2

When fathers are highly engaged withtheir children's lives, children havebetter self-esteem and better control oftheir actions.3

A 26-year longitudinal study conclud-ed that the most important childhoodfactor in developing empathy is pater-nal involvement.4

Girls’ positive relationships with resi-dential fathers in childhood can bufferdepressive outcomes in adulthood.5

Continued contact with non-residen-

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Children grow up happier,healthier with nurturingfathers involved

1 Pruett, K.D. The Nurturing Father. New York: Warner Books, 1987.2 Cox, M.J., et al. (1992). Prediction of infant-father and infant-mother attachment. Developmental Psychology, 28, 474-483.3 Pleck, J.H. (1997). Paternal involvement: Levels, sources, and consequences. In M.E. Lamb (Ed.), Pleck, J.H. (1997). Paternal involvement: Levels, sources,

and consequences. In M.E. Lamb (Ed.), The role of the father in child development. Hillsdale, NJ: Erlbaum; Radin, N. (1994). Primary caretaking fathers inintact families. In A.E. Gottfried & A.W. Gottfried (Eds.). Redefining families: Implications for children’s development (pp.11-51). New York: Plenum Press.

4 Koestner, R., Franz, C., & Weinberger, J. (1990). The family origins of empathic concern: A twenty-six year longitudinal study. Journal of Personality andSocial Psychology, 58, 709-717.

5 Brook, J.S., Whiteman, M., Brook, S.W., & Gordon, S. (1983). Depressive mood in female college students: Father-daughter interactional patterns. Journal ofGenetic Psychology, 149, 485-504.

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tial fathers who are loving, supportive,and nurturing increases the emotionalwell-being and adjustment of femalechildren.6

Availability, contact, and parentalinvolvement with fathers reduce boys’aggression.7

More reading, more A�sin school

When fathers are involved in kids’education, including attending schoolmeetings and volunteering at school,kids are more likely to get A’s, enjoyschool, and participate in extracurric-ular activities. They are less likely torepeat a grade.8

A study of low-income families foundthat fathers who were satisfied withparenting, contributed financially tothe family, and were nurturing duringplay had children with better cogni-tive and language competence at agethree.9

The unique quality of father-childplay boosts children’s cognitive devel-opment10 and fosters social skills thatare necessary for success in peer inter-actions.11

Risks of father absence

Fathers offer unique and essential con-tributions to children’s development.Yet, too many children are missing

6 Furstenberg, F.F., Jr., & Nord, C.W. (1985). Parenting apart: Patterns of child rearing after marital disruption. Journal of Marriage and Family, 47, 893-904;Ibid.

7 Mott, F.L. (1994). Sons, daughters, and fathers’ absence: Differentials in father-leaving probabilities and in-home environments. Journal of Family Issues,15(1), 97-128.

8 Federal Interagency Forum on Child and Family Statistics (1999). America’s children: Key national indicators of well-being, 1999.9 Black, M.M., Dubowitz, H., & Starr, R.H. (1999). African American fathers in low income, urban families: Development, behavior, and home environ-

ment of their three-year-old children. Child Development, 70(4), 967-978.10 Yogman, M.W., Kindlon, D., & Earls, F. (1995). Father infant involvement and cognitive/behavioral outcomes of preterm infants. Journal of the American

Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry, 34, 58-66.11 Parke, R.D., MacDonald, K.B., Burks, V.M., Bhanagri, N., Barth, J.M., & Beitel, A. (1989). Family and peer systems: In search of linkages. IN N.

He waits to make a baby until he is prepared emotionally andfinancially to support his child.

He establishes his legal paternity.

He actively shares the continuing emotional and physical care oftheir child, from pregnancy onwards.

He shares the continuing financial support of their child, frompregnancy onwards.12

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their fathers.

According to 1998 U.S. CensusBureau figures, 24.7 million children(36.3 percent) in this country live inhomes where fathers are absent.13

But even when fathers live with theirchildren, they may not be fulfillingtheir responsibilities as a parent. Forexample, fathers can be “technicallypresent but functionally absent.” 14

A lack of father involvement may betransmitted from one generation to thenext. The National Center on Fathersand Families examined research find-ing that the quality of men’s relation-ships with their own fathers is the sin-gle greatest predictor of their participa-tion with their children.15

Compounded risk factors forchildren

Children are at greater risk for adverseconsequences when born into a single-parent setting because the social, emo-tional, and financial resources available

to the family may be more limited.16

Increased risk of poverty

In 1996, young children living withunmarried mothers were five times aslikely to be poor and 10 times as likelyto be extremely poor.17

Almost half of U.S. children in female-headed households were poor in 1997.Only 34 percent received child supportor alimony in 1996.18

Children living in families that arepoor are more likely to have difficultyin school than children in other fami-lies, and to earn less and be unem-ployed more frequently as adults.19

Impacts on child developmentand emotional well-being

Children with one parent are substan-tially more likely to have difficulty per-forming everyday activities such as eat-ing, dressing, walking, communicat-ing, and understanding school workthan in families where both parents arepresent.20

EVIDENCE THAT DADS MAKE A DIFFERENCE

Kreppner & R.M. Lerner (Eds.), Family systems and life-span development (pp.65-92). Hillsdale, NJ: Erlbaum.12 Nurturing Fatherhood: Improving Data and Research on Male Fertility, Family Formation and Fatherhood, June 1998, . Washington, D.C.: U.S.

Department of Health and Human Services.13 The Institute for Responsible Fatherhood and Family Revitalization: A Corporate Capability Report, (2000) Washington, D.C.14 LaRossa, R., & LaRossa, M. (1989). Baby care: Fathers vs. mothers. In B. Risma & P. Schwartz (Eds.), Gender in intimate relationships: A microstructural

approach (pp. 138-154). Belmont, CA: Wadsworth.15 National Center on Fathers and Families. (1999). Literature Review Brief. Co-parenting: A review of the literature.

http://www.ncoff.gse.upenn.edu/litrev/cpbrief.htm.16 McLanahan, S. (1995). The consequences of nonmarital childbearing for women, children, and society. In National Center for Health Statistics, Report to

Congress on out-of-wedlock childbearing. Hyattsville, MD: National Center for Health Statistics.17 National Center for Children in Poverty. (1996). One in Four: America’s Youngest Poor.18 U.S. Bureau of the Census. (1998). Poverty in the United States: 1997. Current Population Reports, Series P60-201, U.S. Government Printing Office,

Washington, D.C. Table 2.19 Duncan, G., & Brooks-Gunn, J., (Eds.) (1997). Consequences of growing up poor. New York: Russell Sage Press.20 Federal Interagency Forum on Child and Family Statistics (1999). America’s children: Key national indicators of well-being, 1999.

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Children from father-absent homes aremore likely to experience emotionaldisorders and depression.21

Fatherless children are at a dramaticallygreater risk for suicide.22

Fatherless children are at a dramaticallygreater risk of drug and alcoholabuse.23

Poorer performance in school

Fatherless children are twice as likelyto drop out of school. 24

In studies of more than 25,000 partici-pants, children who lived with oneparent had lower grade point averages,lower college aspirations, poorer atten-dance records, and higher drop-outrates than students who lived withboth parents. 25

Higher rates of teen sexualactivity

Adolescent females between the ages of15 to 19 reared in homes withoutfathers are significantly more likely to

engage in premarital sex than adoles-cent females reared in homes with twoparents.26

Children in single-parent families aremore likely to get pregnant asteenagers than their peers who growup with two parents,27 with girls beingthree times more likely to becomeunwed teen mothers.28

More likely to land in jail

Youths raised in fatherless familieswere much more likely to be incarcer-ated even after controlling for otherfactors such as poverty.29

Most of the time while growing up, 43percent of inmates lived in single-par-ent households.30

Relative to the general population,female inmates were nearly twice aslikely to have grown up in a single-par-ent household.31

Some 72 percent of adolescent mur-derers grew up without their fathers.32

21 Amato, P.R. (1991). Parental absence during childhood and depression in later life. Sociological Quarterly, 32(4), 543-556; Bayder, N. (1988). Effects ofparental separation and re-entry into union on the emotional well-being of children. Journal of Marriage and the Family, 50, 967-982.

22 National Center for Health Statistics. (1993). Survey on Child Health. Washington, D.C.: U.S. Department of Health and Human Services.23 U.S. Department of Health and Human Services. National Center for Health Statistics. (1993). Survey on Child Health. Washington, D.C.24 U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, National Center for Health Statistics (1993). Survey on Child Health. Washington, D.C., GPO.25 McLanahan, S., & Sandefur, G. (1994). Growing up with a single parent: What hurts, what helps. Cambridge: Harvard University Press.26 Billy, J.O.G., Brewster, K.L., & Grady, W.R. (1994). Contextual effects on the sexual behavior of adolescent women. Journal of Marriage and the Family,

56, 381-404.27 U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, National Center for Health Statistics. (1988). National Health Interview Survey. Hyattsville, MD.28 Annie E. Casey Foundation. (1995). Kids Count Data Book, State Profiles of Child Well-Being. 29 Harper, C.C., & McLanahan, S.S. (August, 1998). Father absence and youth incarceration. Paper delivered at the Annual Meeting of the American

Sociological Association. San Francisco.30 U.S. Department of Justice, Bureau of Justice Statistics. (1991). Survey of State Prison Inmates.31 U.S. Department of Justice, Bureau of Justice Statistics (1991). Survey of State Prison Inmates: Women in Prison, Special Report.32 Cornell, D. et al. (1987). Characteristics of adolescents charged with homicide. Behavioral Sciences and the Law, 5, 11-23.

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Greater risk for welfaredependency

Children born to single mothers aremore likely to drop out of school, togive birth out of wedlock, to divorceor separate, and to be dependent onwelfare.33

Challenges of teen fatherhood

It is estimated that 2 percent to 7 per-cent of male teenagers are fathers.34

This may be a low estimate becauseyoung mothers are less likely to reportpaternity.

Delinquents are more than twice aslikely than non-delinquents to become

teen dads.35 The more risk behaviorsyoung men engage in, such as delin-quency or chronic drug use, the morelikely they are to become teen fathers.

Fathering a child as a teen is associatedwith an increase in delinquent behav-ior. Teen dads are 7.5 times more likelythan non-dads to commit seriousdelinquent acts within the first year oftheir child's birth.36

Adolescent fathers, like mothers, areoften ill-equipped for the responsibili-ties of parenthood; they are less likelyto complete high school, to find desir-able jobs, and they experience higherunemployment rates than their non-parenting peers.37

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33 Garfinkel, I., & McLanahan, S.S. (1986). Single mothers and their children. The Urban Institute. Washington, D.C., pp. 1-2.34 Sonenstein, F.L., Pleck, J.H., & Ku, L.C. (1993). Paternity risk among adolescent males. In R.I. Lerman & T.J. Ooms (Eds.). Young unwed fathers:

Changing roles and emerging policies (pp. 97-116). Philadelphia, PA: Temple University Press.35 Thornberry, T.P., Wei, E.H., Stouthamer-Loeber, M., & Van Dyke, J. (2000). Teenage fatherhood and delinquent behavior. U.S. Department of Justice,

Office of Juvenile Justice and Delinquency Prevention. 36 Ibid.37 Marsiglio, W. (1986). Teenage fatherhood: High school completion and educational attainment. In A.B. Elster & M.E. Lamb (Eds.), Adolescent father-

hood (pp. 67-87). Hillsdale, NJ: Erlbaum; Robinson, B. (1988). Psychological adjustment of teenage fathers. In B. Robinson (Ed.), Teenage fathers (pp.53-67); Maynard, R. (Ed.). (1996). Kids having kids: A special report on the costs of adolescent childbearing. Robin Hood Foundation.

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RESOURCESPROGRAMS

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The Massachusetts Children'sTrust Fund hopes this listingof programs and resources will

fulfill several important roles. First, itwill help fathers locate programs thatmeet their needs and interests. Second,it will bring together human serviceprofessionals to further their work forfathers.

CTF created this listing based on asurvey of human service and otheragencies that were requested to provideinformation about activities thataddress fatherhood issues.

Although CTF has made greatattempts to verify this information, itcannot be held responsible for incor-rect or inaccurate listings.

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The Massachusetts Children's Trust Fund (CTF)294 Washington St., Suite 640Boston, MA 02108Phone: (617) 727-8957 or (888) 775-4KID (toll free in MA)Fax: (617) 727-8997Email: generalinfo@mctf.state.ma.us Web: www.MCTF.org

Fatherhood InitiativeAt the core of CTF's FatherhoodInitiative is the Fathers & FamilyNetwork (FFN), an information shar-ing and training group of nearly 1,500

professionals meeting in five locations.The purpose of these meetings is toshare information across a wide rangeof programs that meet the diverseneeds and interests of men and theirfamilies. The result is better coordina-tion of services, new training opportu-nities for professionals, and greaterpublic awareness of the important rolethat fathers have in child and familydevelopment. The following is a list ofCTF Fathers & Family Network meet-ing leaders:

Massachusetts:Jack Miller Director of Programs Children's Trust Fund 294 Washington St., Suite 640Boston, MA 02108Phone: (617) 727-8957 ext. 308 or

(888) 775-4KID (toll free in MA)Email: jmiller@mctf.state.ma.org

Northeastern MassachusettsDick MuzzyCatholic Charities North55 Lynn Shore Dr.Lynn, MA 01902Phone: (781) 593-2312

Southeastern Massachusetts:Bob Smith Barnstable District Court3195 Main St., Route 6ABarnstable, MA 02630Phone: (508) 362-2511

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Central MassachusettsJack BoninaFamily Service of CentralMassachusetts 31 Harvard St.Worcester, MA 01609Phone: (508) 756-4646

Western Massachusetts Allan ArnaboldiMen's Resource Center of WesternMassachusetts236 North Pleasant St.Amherst, MA 01002Phone: (413) 253-9887 ext. 10

Healthy Families MassachusettsContact: Sarita RogersPhone: (617) 727-8957 ext. 331Email: srogers@mctf.state.ma.usHealthy Families Massachusetts is astatewide home-visiting program thatsupports first-time parents age 20 andunder. Through a network of localagencies, young parents meet withtrained home visitors who can answerquestions common to all new parents.Groups provide opportunities for teenfathers to meet and discuss issues spe-cific to their situation. HealthyFamilies is funded and administeredthrough CTF. See regional listings tocontact a local Healthy Familiesagency.

Massachusetts Family CentersContact: Karole RosePhone (617) 727-8957 ext. 325Email: krose@mctf.state.ma.usCTF-funded family centers are opento all parents of young children new-born to age 6 years, offering a widerange of parent-child activities, parent-ing education programs, counselingreferrals, special events, and otherresources. CTF's work expands on theDepartment of Education'sMassachusetts Family Network by pro-viding additional funding for servicesto parents of children ages 3 to 6. Seeregional listing to contact a local fami-ly center.

MELD Parenting ProgramsContact: Kathy KelleyPhone: (617) 727-8957 ext. 333Email: kkelley@mctf.state.ma.usMELD is an information and supportprogram that offers long-term, group-based services to parents. This national-ly recognized curriculum is a compre-hensive, two-year program designed tobe responsive to the needs of parents ateach phase of their children's lives.Topics cover five subject areas: health,child guidance, child development,family management, and personalgrowth. CTF funds MELD YoungMoms, for mothers under age 20;MELD Young Dads, for fathers underage 25; and MELD Growing Families,at sites in Massachusetts. See regionallisting to contact a MELD program.

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Parenting Education and SupportProgramsContact: Anitza GuadarramaPhone: (617) 727-8957 ext. 309Email: aguadarrama@mctf.state.ma.usParenting Education and SupportPrograms (PESP) bring together par-ents to share information and skills,and to create support networks incommunities. Topics are selected tomeet the needs and interest of localparents. Groups are easily accessible toencourage participation, with all offer-ing transportation, child care, andrefreshments. Massachusetts Children'sTrust Fund provides two-year grants ofup to $5,000 to local human serviceagencies to conduct two, eight-weekgroups. See regional listing to contact alocal PESP program.

Massachusetts Department ofEducation Early Learning ServicesMassachusetts Family Network350 Main St.Malden, MA 02148Phone: (781) 388-3300Web: www.doe.mass.eduMassachusetts Family Network worksto develop and implement variousmodels of parent outreach, educationand support that are effective withfamilies with children age 0 through 3years. The initiative strives to createcollaborative, comprehensive, highquality networks of family services thatare culturally sensitive, welcoming, andaccessible to families with young chil-

dren by providing direct services,information, and referrals.

Family Support Training CenterPhone: (617) 727-8957 ext. 317The center offers family support pro-fessionals throughout Massachusettswith opportunities to enhance theirskills and broaden their base of knowl-edge. One of the most effective waysto strengthen communities is toenrich, educate, and empower theindividuals working each day toimprove the lives of families and chil-dren.

Massachusetts Department of RevenueAccess and Visitation ProjectChild Enforcement DivisionPO Box 9492Boston, MA 02205Phone: (617) 626-4182Fax: (617) 626-4169The Department of Revenue is thestate agency responsible for the collec-tion and distribution of child supportpayments. Current initiatives include:Boston Healthy Start-Father FriendlyInitiative, Responsible FatherhoodLegal Consultation, Partners for FragileFamilies, Responsible FatherhoodWorkforce Development Initiative,Parental Responsibility EmploymentProgram, and the Offender ResponsibleFatherhood Initiative.

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Parents Helping ParentsThe Roundtable of Support140 Clarendon St.Boston, MA 02116Phone: (800) 882-1250Fax: (617) 266-9837Email: php.ma@verizon.netWeb: www.parentshelpingparents.orgParents Helping Parents is a statewidenetwork of support groups for parentswho want to improve relationshipswith their children. Weekly meetingsare free, confidential, and open to par-ents or other caregivers who feel isolat-ed, overwhelmed, or afraid of theiranger toward their children. Meetingsare led by a trained volunteer facilita-tor and, wherever possible, providechildcare. Fathers are welcome in mostgroups, and a group just for fathersmeets in Arlington.

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Action for Boston CommunityDevelopmentGood Guys in Head Start 178 Tremont St., 4th FloorBoston, MA 02111 Phone: (617) 357-6000E-mail: delgado@bostonabcd.org Web: www.bostonabcd.org Brings Head Start and Early HeadStart males and children together toshare in educational, athletic, culturaland other activities. This helps maleshave a positive influence on their chil-dren and understand how important

involvement is.

Action for Boston CommunityDevelopmentGood Fellas in Early Head Start 198 Geneva AveBoston MA 02121 Phone: (617) 288-5580 ext. 261Fax: (617) 282-0994Email: oliveira@bostonabcd.orgHelps men to emotionally and finan-cially support their children and fami-lies. The initiative holds several meet-ings every month to provide peer sup-port. Also, assists fathers in employ-ment that leads to promising careerswith financial growth; links fatherswith health, education and employ-ment services, and assists fathers inareas of mediation, legal assistance,access, and visitation.

Brookline Adult Education16 Verndale St.Brookline, MA 02446Phone: (617) 731-8973Offers the Fatherhood Workshop formarried, single, divorced, or absentfathers to become more involved inparenting, connecting with their chil-dren, and learning more about devel-opmental changes of children andteens.

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Cambridge Head Start Child Care 432 Columbia St. Cambridge, MA 01760 Phone: (617) 577-7880 ext. 13Fax: (617) 577-8367Email: shawnahegarty@yahoo.comProvides services for parents thatinclude trainings, workshops, class-room and advisory group activities.

Center for Development of HumanServicesHealthy Families Framingham DadsProgram100 Concord St., 1st FloorFramingham, MA 01702 Phone: (508) 620-6587Fax: (508) 620-9312Email: jshaw@cdhsgroup.orgOffers parent support and educationto young families. Healthy Familiesprovides new parents with informationon child development, support, and alink to community resources. HealthyFamilies also provides developmentalscreenings every 4-6 months, groupsfor fathers and mothers, prenatalgroups, parent-child groups, andmonthly socials and field trips duringthe summer.

The Center for Families of NorthCambridgeThe Fitzgerald School 70 Rindge AvenueCambridge, MA 02140 Phone: (617) 349-6385Fax: (617) 349-6386

Web: www.cicambridge.ma.us Provides free information and referral,newborn home visits, parent and childactivities, parent support groups in dif-ferent languages, and parent work-shops for all families living in NorthCambridge or whose children attendthe Fitzgerald School. The center alsooffers a weekly fathers group onSaturdays.

Children's Hospital YPP/PHA HunngThe Young Father's Program 300 Longwood Avenue, Boston MA, 02115 Phone: (617) 355-7521Fax: (617) 739-5458Email: sherry@tch.harvard.edu Offers both individual and group serv-ices in office or at home to youngfathers aged 14-25 years. Individualservices include educational and jobreferral, court advocacy, and healthcare. Group topics include self-suffi-ciency, fathering, and paternityacknowledgement, among others. Alsooffers bilingual/bicultural fathers'advocate and Spanish speaking socialworker.

Community Care for Kids 1509 Hancock St. Quincy, MA 02169 Phone: (617) 471-6473 ext. 138Fax: (617) 773-5860Email: cck@Qcap.orgWeb: www.communitycareforkids.org Assists families in finding quality and

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affordable child care along with deter-mining eligibility for state subsidies.We also act as a support system forboth families and providers.

Comprehensive School-Age Parenting PO Box 776Boston, MA 02130 Phone: (617) 524-4951Fax: (617) 524-7345 Provides counseling, case management,advocacy, outreach, information andreferral around day care, educationalprograms, health care, employment,and benefits to teen fathers in EnglishHigh School, West Roxbury HighSchool, Charlestown High School,Grover Cleveland Middle School,Horace Mann School for the Deaf &Hard of Hearing and Edison MiddleSchool.

Concord Public Schools Center for Parents & Teachers 120 Meriam Rd Concord, MA 01742 Phone: (978) 318-1510 ext. 145 Fax: (978) 318-1538Email: pnelson@colonial.net Offers programs for parents of childrenfrom birth through adolescence.Several programs each year aredesigned specifically for fathers,including "Dad and Me: A SaturdayMorning Playgroup." Other programsinclude Raising Your ChallengingChild, How to Talk so Kids WillListen & Listen so Kids will Talk.

Families First Parenting Programs 99 Bishop Richard Allen Dr. Cambridge, MA 02139 Phone: (617) 868-7687Fax: (617) 354-2902Email: edinerman@families-first.org Provides parenting education and sup-port through seminars, workshops, andconsultations to help parents buildpositive, rewarding and satisfying rela-tionships with their children. Fathersmay attend any host site programs.Family First also trains professionalsfrom diverse disciplines to enhancetheir capacity to support families.

Family Day Care Program 29 Harvard St.Brookline, MA 02445 Phone: (617) 738-0703Fax: (617) 734-8361Offers subsidized child care for parentswith employment, school, and trainingcommitments; voucher child care forfamilies receiving transitional assis-tance; supportive child care and casemanagement services for familiesreferred by the Department of SocialServices; and a range of specializedchild care, outreach, and counselingservices for teenage parents and theirchildren. State-licensed family childcare providers are supervised and sup-ported by a team of early childhoodspecialists that monitor the develop-ment of children in these programs.

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The Family Nurturing Center The Nurturing Father's Program200 Bowdoin St.Dorchester, MA 02122 Phone: (617) 474-1143 ext. 251 Fax: (617) 474-1261Email: hshearer@familynurturing.org Offers a structured group that dadscan participate in to get a betterunderstanding of themselves and theirroles in the family. Each groupexplores family patterns in fathering,families as a team sport, problem-solv-ing with co-parent, fathering sons anddaughters, work and fathering, andmany other issues. Each session allowsample time for participants to sharetheir experiences. The groups are facili-tated by nurturing fathers once a weekfor 13 weeks and meet in various loca-tions around Boston.

Family Service of Greater BostonYoung Fathers Program31 Heath St.Jamaica Plain, MA 02130Phone: (617) 523-6408Fax: (617) 523-3034E-mail: mjackson@fsgb.org Meets the needs of young fathers ofchildren residing in Teen LivingProgram. The program seeks toincrease the responsible involvement offathers in lives of children and toimprove their employment opportuni-ties.

Federation for Children with SpecialNeeds1135 Tremont St., Suite 420 Boston, MA 02120 Phone: (617) 236-7210Fax: (617) 572-2094Emails: fcsninfo@fcsn.org Web: www.fcsn.orgProvides information, support, andassistance to parents of children withdisabilities, their professional partners,and their communities.

First Connections Community Agencies BldgEmerson HospitalConcord, MA 01742 Phone: (978) 287-0221Fax: (978) 371-1463lEmail: matthews@cafas.orgFocus is on parenting pre-school chil-dren. The group is led by a male facili-tator who is a LICSW and father.Topics are decided by the group andcan include issues such as balancingwork, life, and family life, definingroles and responsibilities of spouses,reconciling child rearing differences,discipline, and communication, infantmassage for dads, Dad and Me ScienceProgram and toddler playgroup fordads.

Gertrude E. Townsend Head Start Good Guys in Head Start 198 Geneva Avenue Dorchester, MA 02121 Phone: (617) 288-9150

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Fax: (617) 282-1023 Web: www.bostonabcd.org Provides services to males involved intheir children's lives. Focused activitiesand monthly meetings held in loca-tions throughout the city. End-of-yearevent may include a sporting competi-tion.

Good Start MSPCC Metro Region 63 Fountain St.Framingham, MA 01702 Phone: (508) 872-8827Fax: (508) 820-3121Email: gina_Battaglia@mspcc.org Web: www.mspcc.org Offers small group and conference-type trainings for providers who wantto learn more about working withmen. Program has the capacity to offersupport groups, workshops, and one-on-one support for fathers with chil-dren birth through age four.

Healthy Families Massachusetts*See page 11 for program description.

Boston Neighborhoods HealthyFamiliesCrittenton Hastings House10 Perthshire RoadBrighton, MA 02135Phone: (617) 782-7600Fax: (617) 254-7966

Harbor Area Healthy FamiliesROCA, Inc.101 Park Street

Chelsea, MA 02150Phone: (617) 889-5210 ext. 219Fax: (617) 889-2145

Healthy Families of Cambridgeand SomervilleThe Guidance Center, Inc.Infant-Toddler Services61 Medford StreetSomerville, MA 02143Phone: (617) 629-3919Fax: (617) 629-4644

Healthy Families Dorchester /South BostonCatholic Charities35 Bird St.Dorchester, MA 02125Phone: (617) 287-1150Fax: (617) 282-3483

Healthy Families JamaicaPlain/RoxburyCatholic Charities35 Bird St.Dorchester, MA 02125Phone: (617) 287-1150Fax: (617) 282-3483

Healthy Families West SuburbanJewish Family & Children’s Service1340 Centre StreetNewton, MA 02459Phone: (617) 558-1278Fax: (617) 558-5250

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Healthy FamiliesMelrose/WakefieldHallmark Health585 Lebanon StreetMelrose, MA 02176Phone: (781) 979-6550Fax: (781) 979-6551

Roslindale/Mattapan/Hyde ParkHealthy FamiliesCrittenton Hastings House10 Perthshire RoadBoston, MA 02135Phone: (617) 782-7600Fax: (617) 254-7966

Jewish Family & Children's Service New Fathers Support Groups*1340 Centre St. Newton, MA 02459 Phone: (617) 558-1278Fax: (617) 558-5250Email: pkaufman@jfcsboston.orgWeb: www.jfcsboston.org Provides fathers the opportunity toshare the excitement and concernsabout being a new father. They canexchange information and begin tobuild a network of support. Fathersand their babies enjoy a warm andnurturing environment. Bi-weeklygroups led by an experienced dad.

Massachusetts Alliance on TeenPregnancy105 Chauncy St. 8th FloorBoston, MA 02111 Phone: (800) 645-3750

Fax: (617) 482-9129Email: info@massteenpregnancy.orgWeb: www.massteenpregnancy.org Offers a free hotline for teen parentswho have questions about public bene-fits i.e. TANF, food stamps, and daycare, housing, and other services. Alsoprovides statewide leadership to pre-vent adolescent pregnancy and to pro-mote quality services for pregnant andparenting teens and their children.

Medford Public SchoolsMedford Family Network*Medford High School489 Winthrop St.Medford, MA 02155 Phone: (781) 393-2106Fax: (781) 393-2123Email: cassim@medford.k12.ma.us Web: www.medford.k12.ma.us Serves all Medford families with chil-dren birth through age five. Offersparenting enrichment workshops, par-ent-child home visitation program,information and referral, parent-to-parent discussion group, special familyevents, groups for dads (playgroups,specialized workshops, and field trips),lending libraries, leadership develop-ment, newsletter; resource centers,child care, transportation.

Middlesex Probate & Family Court Cambridge Fatherhood Program874 Main St. Cambridge, MA 02142 Phone: (781) 963-3863

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Seeks to improve fathers' understand-ing of responsibility by improvingfathers' self-esteem, increasing theirunderstanding of their importance inlives of their children, and by improv-ing their parenting skills. Each nightthere is an interactive discussion onvarious topics facilitated by a profes-sional from the community. Groupsessions run twice a year for 13 weeks.

The Medical Foundation For Fathering Project95 Berkley St. Boston, MA 02116 Phone: (617) 451-0049 ext. 285 Fax: (617) 451-0062Email: tpalomba@tmfnet.orgWeb: www.tmfnet.org Supports and celebrates fathering byraising public awareness about thevalue of responsible fathering andbuilding institutional support forincreased programming, institutionalchange and father-friendly public poli-cy. In addition to sponsoring and col-laborating on educational programs,FFP sponsors an annual "Dads MakeA Difference: A Celebration ofFathering and Families" on Father'sDay.

Network of Dads 79 Amory St. Cambridge, MA 02139 Phone: (617) 354-6471 Provide referrals and counseling by alicensed social worker.

Newton Community Service CentersThe Parents Program 492 Waltham St. West Newton, MA 02465 Phone: (617) 969-5906 ext. 133 Fax: (617) 964-3975Email: njohnson@ncscueb.org Supports all dads in playing a visibleand nurturing role in the lives of theirchildren. Services include individualcounseling, couples counseling, andadvocacy.

Parents Forum 99 Bishop Allen Dr. Cambridge, MA 02139-3425 Phone: (617) 864-3801 Email: info@parentsforum.org Web: www.parentsforum.org Offers groups or one-on-one practicein effective ways to manage conflicts infamily life. Parent groups also organizebook and toy exchanges and partici-pate in other events that support fami-ly life.

Quincy Community Action ProgramsQuincy Family Network Inc.South West Community Center 388 Granite St. Quincy, MA 02169 Phone: (617) 471-0796 ext. 111 Fax: (617) 471-4239Email: mcampbel@qcap.org Provides parent-child activities andparenting workshops open to fathers.Also offers a Dad & Tot group on

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Saturday mornings and occasional spe-cial events for fathers.

Somerville Early Head Start 474 Brd.way St.Somerville, MA 02145 Phone: (617) 629-6652Fax: (617) 629-6644 Provides home visits and center-basedactivities at no cost to 120 low-incomefamilies in Somerville. Each familyincludes a pregnant woman and/or aninfant or toddler under age three.Services are provided by nine multi-lingual family support workers andprofessional specialists/supervisorsfrom the fields of social work, mentalhealth, early intervention and nursing.

South Boston Neighborhood House 521 East Seventh St. South Boston, MA 02127 Phone: (617) 268-1619 Fax: (617) 268-4059 Web: www.sbnh.orgOffers an on going parent educationconsultation service. Provides opportu-nities throughout the year for parentsto participate in parent education andsupport groups, as well as topicfocused workshops.

South Shore Hospital Boot Camp forNew Dads South Shore Hospital Weymouth, MA 02189 Phone: (781) 340-8332 Web: www.newdads.com

Hosts meetings between recent dads,their babies, and first time expectantdads to help prepare them for the hugetransition. Classes are lead by two malefacilitators and are offered one timeper month.

Stepfamily Associates1368 Beacon St. #108Brookline, MA 02446 Phone: (617) 731-5767 Web: www.stepfamilyboston.com Provides a roadmap to becoming anew couple after separation/divorce -and taking care of kids' needs, too.Individual and couple consultation byappointment. Workshop for couplesalso available monthly.

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Family Services of CentralMassachusettsThe Parenting for Father: Connectingwith Your Kids Program 31 Harvard St. Worcester, MA 01609 Phone: (508) 756-4646Fax: (508) 791-4755 Email: fscm@ma.ultranet.com Supports the role of fathers living inthe Worcester area, through group andindividual counseling services. Focus isto build on existing skills of fathers,help them develop a vision of thefather they want to be, and understandtheir needs and children's needs. The

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program also incorporates a social /recreational component, where fatherscan attend events with their children.It also convenes the Fathers & FamilyNetwork in conjunction withChildren's Trust Fund.

The Family Partnership Center Family Ties Page Hilltop School115 Washington St. Ayer, MA 01432 Phone: (978) 772-8600 ext. 409 Fax: (978) 772-1863 Offers dad and child playgroups.

Healthy Families Massachusetts*See page 11 for program description.

Healthy FamiliesFramingham/MilfordCriterion Child Enrichment150 Main StreetMilford, MA 01757Phone: (508) 482-5939(800) 482-5620Fax: (508) 482-5940

Healthy Families of GreaterWorcesterMassachusetts Society for thePrevention of Cruelty to Children286 Lincoln St.Worcester, MA 01605Phone: (508) 753-2967

or (800) 422-3035Main Fax: (508) 753-5540Confidential Fax: (508) 767-3095

Healthy Families of SouthernWorcester CountyWorcester Community ActionCouncil670 Main St.North Oxford, MA 01537

Northern Worcester CountyHealthy FamiliesHealthAlliance Diversified VNAHealthy DirectionsThe Cottage375 Nichols RoadFitchburg, MA 01420Phone: (978) 348-1702Fax: (978) 345-6473

School Linked Services C/O Eagle House 25 Memorial Dr. Lunenburg, MA 01462 Phone: (978) 582-4129 Offers weekly parent and child play-group sessions. Special events and pro-grams for dads. Parenting Networkworkshops offered both mornings andevenings on topics of concern to par-ents with young children e.g., disci-pline, self esteem, communicating withchildren, sibling rivalry and others asrequested. Childcare is provided formorning workshops. All programs arefree.

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Worcester Public Schools Title 1Program20 Irving St. Worcester, MA 01609 Phone: (508) 799-3110 Fax: (508) 799-3621 Family Centers are open for activitiesand workshops in 17 of 40 elementaryschools. The Parent Child HomeProgram helps families prepare theirtwo-year-old children for pre-school.

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Beverly Hospital Boot Camp for New Dads 85 Herrick St. Beverly, MA 01915 Phone: (978) 927-9103 Web: www.nhshealth.org Helps boost a new father's confidenceand knowledge. Under the guidance ofveteran dads, new dad learn to feed,diaper and comfort a newborn. OurBoot Camp coach facilitates lively dis-cussions on forming a 'new' familyand providing safety and caring for thenew baby and its mom.

Cape Ann Families of WellspringHouse 28 Emerson Avenue Gloucester, MA 01930 Phone: (978) 281-7856Fax: (978) 281-8800Email: cafam@wellspringhouse.org Web: www.wellspringhouse.orgOffers a variety of free programs for

fathers. Eight-week spring father'sgroup is for fathers only, but all otherofferings are open to both genders.The programs are: Parent Connectiona support and education group,Nurturing Program, Father's Group,and Parent Aide.

Community Teamwork Inc. 126 Phoenix AvenueLowell, MA 01852 Phone: (978) 454-5100 ext. 188 Fax: (978) 970-1965Email: familyfoundation@comteam.org Provides parenting education, groups,and support and referral service to anyparent or caregiver with a child 0-3years of age. Our Fathers' Program isdesigned to meet the different needs ofdads and father figures as they seek totake an active role in their children'slives.

Catholic Charities Fathers' Support Services55 Lynn Shore Dr.Lynn, MA 01902 Phone: (781) 593-2312Fax: (781) 581-3270 Provides comprehensive social serviceswithout regard for religion, race, sex,ethnicity, or age. The Fathers SupportServices help men identify theirstrengths as fathers through a varietyof services including: 12-week cycles ofFatherhood Groups in Lynn andBeverly, the Cooperative ParentingOutreach Program linking non-custo-

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dial fathers and the mothers of theirchildren, and the Incarcerated FathersProgram at the Essex County House ofCorrection. Fathers receive individualoutreach in employment, education, orlegal concerns. Program provides lead-ership to the Fathers and FamilyNetwork in the Northeast region.

Child Care CircuitLawrence/Methuen Family Network 190 Hampshire St. Lawrence, MA 01840 Phone: (888) 525-6500Fax: (978) 691-5902Email: mzammuto@childcarecircuit.org Web: www.childcarecircuit.org Provides services at no cost to familieswith children under age four living inLawrence or Methuen. Services includ-ing parent-child playgroups, integratedplaygroups, parent support groups,workshops and access to children'sclothing and equipment. All programsare offered in English and Spanish.

Community ActionHaverhill Family Network346 Brd.way Haverhill, MA 01830 Phone: (978) 374-2198Fax: (978) 374-3205Email: hfn@communityactioninc.orgWeb: www.family-network.org Provides universal family support pro-grams for Haverhill families with chil-dren age birth through three. Servicesinclude: parent education and support

programs, integrated toddler groupswith early intervention, father'sgroups, Grandparents as Parents,Parents Helping Parents, story times,children's groups, family events, andspecial education advocacy.Head Start Lynn Economic Opportunity156 Brd. St. Lynn, MA 01902 Phone: (978) 532-3458 Provides information to fathers onESL, college prep, GED, family coun-seling, parenting classes, WIC, etc.

Healthy Families Massachusetts*See page 11 for program description.

Healthy Families HaverhillVNA Care Network, Inc.25D Washington SquareHaverhill, MA 01830Phone: (978) 372-1285 ext. 6104

or (888) 663-3688 ext. 6104Fax: (978) 372-4586

Healthy Families North ShoreCatholic Charities55 Lynn Shore DriveLynn, MA 01902Phone: (781) 586-8350Fax: (781) 586-8364

Healthy Families LowellMassachusetts Society for thePrevention of Cruelty to Children175 Cabot St., B-10Lowell, MA 01854

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Phone: (978) 937-3087Fax: (978) 937-8695

Healthy Families LawrenceMassachusetts Society for thePrevention of Cruelty to Children439 South Union StreetLawrence, MA 01843Phone: (978) 681-9504Fax: (978) 681-9508

Holy Family Hospital Responsible Fatherhood Program 70 East St.Methuen, MA 01844 Phone: (978) 687-0156 x4233 Fax: (978) 974-9050Email: doug_gaudette@cchcs.orgWeb: www.holyfamilyhosp.org Offers a 12-week program for custodi-al and non-custodial fathers who havebeen abusive to their intimate partners.Groups are open and ongoing and arefacilitated by a clinician trained in thearea of responsible parenting anddomestic violence. Services are provid-ed without cost.

Lynn Economic Opportunity, Inc.Head Start Programs Good Guys in Head Start 113 Munroe St. Lynn, MA 01901 Phone: (781) 581-7220 ext. 218 Fax: (781) 595-2077Email: leohdstrt@aol.com Increases father involvement in HeadStart. Activities include special events

throughout the year. The projectincludes a standing committee offathers and other significant males,who work alongside staff to plan GoodGuys in Head Start activities through-out the year. North Shore Head Start 39 Cross St. Peabody, MA 01960 Phone: (978) 532-1179 Fax: (978) 532-1923Email: headstrt@concentic.net Offers monthly activities for chilrenand dads such as supper, breakfast,story night, cooking class, woodwork-ing class, and discipline workshops forfathers only. Weekend family eventsare also offered such as field trips.

Pathways for Children29 Emerson Ave. Gloucester, MA 01930 Phone: (978) 281-2400Fax: (978) 283-7485 Arranges support groups for parents inHead Start, school-age care and familychildcare. It also provides opportuni-ties for father/child activities. Trainingis provided on issues important tomales. A monthly planning meetingon developing activities also happens.

Successful Parents17 Peacock Farm Rd. Lexington, MA 02421 Phone: (781) 863-1023Fax: (781) 863-1023Email: jeff@successfulparents.com

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Web: www.successfulparents.com Offers a five-session workshop thatgives participants experience workingwith and applying the four keys tosuccessful parenting. Fathers who havelearned to use the four keys feel clearerand more effective, more confidentand relaxed, happier in their familylife, and closer to their children.

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Attleboro School Department Project Connect Family Network908 Oak Hill Ave. Attleboro, MA 02703 Phone: (508) 226-2883Fax: (508) 223-4974Email: ksullivan@attleboroschools.comOffers an eight-session series teachespractical positive discipline techniquesand describes typical development intoddlers and preschoolers.

Barnstable Fatherhood Program Barnstable District Court Barnstable, MA 02630 Phone: (508) 375-6807Fax: (508) 362-1130 Educates court-involved dads on prin-ciples of fatherhood, and utilizes edu-cational materials, videos, and weeklyguest speakers from a number of dif-ferent professions and communityagencies. Weekly topics include: childsupport enforcement, probate and pro-bation, spirituality, substance abuse,job training and employment, commu-

nication without violence, domesticabuse, marriage encounter, parentingskills, financial planning, and attitude.

Brockton District Court Brockton Area Fatherhood Program215 Main St. Brockton, MA 02301 Phone: (508) 587-8000 ext. 2716Email: doherty_s@jud.state.ma.us Provides program based on five keyprincipals of fatherhood. This programis free to all participants.

Health Care of Southeastern MA Young Parents Initiative 185 Lincon St. 310-CHingham, MA 02043 Phone: (781) 749-2882Fax: (781) 749-9776Email: hfblue1@1x.netcom.com Offers father and family need assess-ment, counseling, advocacy, informa-tion referral, support services, outreachand education.

Healthy Families Massachusetts*See page 11 for program description.

Blue Hills Healthy FamiliesHealth Care of Southeastern Mass.185 Lincoln St., No. 310-CHingham, MA 02043Phone: (781) 749-2882Fax: (781) 749-9776

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Cape Cod Healthy Families EarlyChildbearing ProgramHealth Care of Southeatern Mass.155 Katherine Lee Bates RoadFalmouth, MA 02540Phone: (508) 540-2968Fax: (508) 457-6525

Greater Brockton Healthy FamiliesHealth Care of Southeastern Mass.130 Liberty Street, Unit #8Brockton, MA 02301Phone: (508) 894-8543Fax: (508) 580-2015

Healthy Families New BedfordKennedy-Donovan Center389 County StreetNew Bedford MA 02740Phone: (508) 997-1570Fax: (508) 997-5370

Greater Fall River HealthyFamilies CollaborativePeople Inc.636 Rock St.Fall River, MA 02720Phone: (508) 679-3078Fax: (508) 672-6024

Healthy Families of TauntonCommunity Care Services70 Main St.Taunton, MA 02780

Healthy Families PlymouthKennedy-Donovan Center64 Industrial Park Road

Plymouth, MA 02360Phone:(508) 747-2012Fax: (508) 747-4898

Jordan Hospital, Inc Boot Camp for New Dads 275 Sandwich St.Plymouth, MA 02360 Phone: (800) 750-5343 Fax: (508) 830-2511 Brings together veteran dads and newdads to share their experiences. Thegroups, facilitated by a licensed CPRinstructor, meet once per month innight or weekend sessions.

Martha's Vineyard Community Services, Inc.The Family Network/ Family Center111 Edgartown Rd. Vineyard Haven, MA 02568 Phone: (508) 693-7900 x 285 Fax: (503) 696-0597Email: mvcsecp@vineyard.net Web: www.familynetworker.orgHosts a variety of activities where dadsare always welcome. Dads' Playgroup,Fathers' Group, Saturday Playgroup,Potluck Suppers, Family Hikes, andAdoptive Family activities. The activi-ties are free and open to all fatherswith a child age 0-6 years. Childcareand transportation are provided asneeded.

New Hope, Inc.140 Park St. Attleboro, MA 02703

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Phone: (508) 226-4015Fax: (508) 226-6917 Email: new-hope@new-hope.org Provides supervised family visitation.

Norfolk Probate and Family CourtDedham Fatherhood Program35 Shawmut Rd. Canton, MA 02021 Phone: 781-830-1249 x413Offers a 12-week program for fatherswho wish to increase their responsiblebehavior toward their children and themothers of their children. Topics to becovered include affection, guidance,financial support, respect, and a drug-free lifestyle. Groups meet once a weekfor two hours. Fathers who completethe course may receive a reduction intheir court costs, fines, probation fees,or the length of their probation.

North River Collaborative FamilyNetworkBuddy Night34 James St. Rockland, MA 02370 Phone: (781) 681-9736Fax: (781) 681-9813Email: familynetwork@nrcollab.orgOffers a chance for a child and theirspecial adult male (dad, grandpa, uncleor friend) to have a special evening offun together. Each month is a differenttheme and includes stories, activitiesand snacks. Space is limited, registra-tion is required.

Parents & Provider NetworkAssociation P.O. Box 1721 848 Main St. Brockton, MA 02301 Phone: (508) 583-3004Fax: (508) 583-2940 Offers support to dads of all ages, witha focus on bringing about an under-standing of the job that dads must per-form. Offers round-table discussion ina non-judgmental atmosphere.

Plymouth Family Network 91 Carver Rd. Plymouth, MA 02360 Phone: (508) 732-0166 Fax: (508) 732-0299Email: pfnpps@rcn.netProvides programs where you can meetfamilies with young children and shareparenting information. Dad's play-groups offered on Saturdays and Dad'sNight Out monthly. Funded by agrant from the Mass. Dept ofEducation to the Plymouth PublicSchools.

Self Help, Inc.Head Start The Dad's Program /Brockton311 Quincy St. Brockton, MA 02302 Phone: (508) 588-5190 Fax: (508) 580-6409 Offers a confidential group that meetsmonthly, joining with other men forsharing of new ideas and activities to

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enrich their bond with their childrenand other people in their lives.

Self Help, Inc., Head Start Whitman 168 Whitman AvenueWhitman, MA 02382 Phone: (781) 447-7110 Offers open groups, confidentiality,and monthly scheduled meeting dates.Participants can join other men andpeers in talking out concerns andlearning creative ideas and activities toenrich your bond with the childrenand people in your lives.

South Norfolk ARC Father's SupportGroup 789 Clapboardtree Westwood, MA 02090 Phone: (781) 762-4001 x239 Fax: (781) 461-5950Email: jo'brien@snarc.orgHosts a professionally facilitatedmonthly support group for fathers ofchildren and teens with autism. Thegroup identifies areas of interest andresources are provided. Jerry S. Jacobs,LICSW, father of a child with specialneeds, is the facilitator.

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The Association for CommunityLiving Family Empowerment Program 243 King St. Suite 248Northampton, MA 01060

Phone: (413) 586-8196Fax: (413) 582-9098 Web: www.theassn.org Serves families of individuals withdevelopmental disabilities. The pro-gram provides a variety of servicesincluding information and referral,financial support, and case manage-ment in the Franklin and Hampshirecounties service area of theDepartment of Mental Retardation.

Baystate Medical Center Boot Camp for New Dads 759 Chestnut St. Springfield, MA 01199 Phone: (413) 794-BABY (2229) Fax: (413) 794-8166Email: convy.stahl@bhs.orgUses a man-to-man training approachin which veteran fathers orient newdads in a three-hour workshop. Underthe direction of an experienced dad,Boot Camp prepares men to be dads,beginning with holding and comfort-ing a real baby. Veteran dads demon-strate burping, changing & swaddlingbabies while telling about their experi-ences and giving advice to first timedads.

Community Education Project 317 Main St. HolyokeMA01040 Phone: (413) 538-5770 Email: ceproj@massed.net Offers Spanish language literacy andESL classes for Latino parents. Themes

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covered in courses include several top-ics relevant for fathers: employmentpreparation, working with our chil-dren's teachers/schools, Latino andAnglo family's cultural dynamics.

Cooley Dickinson HospitalParent Education Program 30 Locust St.PO Box 5001 Northampton, MA 01061-5001 Phone: (413) 582-2736Fax: (413) 582-2950Offers classes for parents with babiesup to 4 months of age. Weekly sup-port meeting combining informationwith friendship with the goal ofstrengthening the parent's self confi-dence and encouraging relationships togrow amongst parents.

Criterion-Heritage Early InterventionProgram5 Ferry St.South Hadley, MA 01075 Phone: (413) 533-7140Fax: (413) 538-9757Email: hcdc@ultranet.com Serves children birth to three and theirfamilies. We also serve developmentallydelayed children or at risk of beingdelayed. Towns Served: S. Hadley,Holyoke, Chicopee, Granby,Southampton, Palmer, Manson, Ware,Three Rivers, Belchertown, Ludlow.

Diversified Visiting NursesAssociationHealthy Directions North Worcester 375 Nichols Rd. Fitchburg, MA 01420Phone: (978) 348-1702Fax: (978) 345-6473 Provides a comprehensive newbornhome-visiting program that offers par-enting support and information to allfirst-time parents age 20 and under.

Environments For Children14 Mountain Laurel PathFlorence, MA 01062 Phone: (413)584-1323 Email: farkas@umassk12.netProvides training for parents, parenteducators and teachers on raising andworking with boys. We look at thepsychology of boys, and brainstormways to meet their needs and guidethem forward toward positive behav-iors.

Family Network of CommunityHealth Program, Inc. P.O. Box 30 940 S. Main St. Great Barrington, MA 01230 Phone: (413) 528-0721Fax: (413) 528-6027Email: familysu@berkshire.net Provides Parent Education workshopsand the program's library containsbooks and videos especially for fathers.

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Greenfield Public School &Greenfield Preschool Program141 Davis St. Greenfield, MA 01301 Phone: (413) 772-1327Fax: (413) 774-7940Email: ssutton@greenfield.mass.edu Offers parenting workshops focused onearly learning for all children includingfamily literacy activities and parentingdevelopmentally delayed children andchildren with special education needs.Family fun night events occur one totwo times per year. Educational enter-tainment for the entire family withrefreshments after the CPC event toallow time for parents to talk with oneanother.

Hampshire Community ActionCommission, Inc.557 Easthampton Rd. NorthhamptonMA01060 Phone: (413) 582-4200Fax: (413) 582-4202Email: admin@hcac.org Web: www.hcac.orgProvides Head Start and childcare pro-grams to actively involve fathers inearly education and family supportactivities. Family Partnerships Programand Hilltown Social Services use anempowerment approach to work withfathers and other family members tohelp address basic needs and increaseeconomic stability. First Call for Helpis available to anyone needing supportsand services.

Healthy Families Massachusetts*See page 11 for program description.

Berkshire County HealthyFamilies - PittsfieldChild Care of the Berkshires 152 North Street, Suite 135Pittsfield, MA 01201Phone: (413) 445-4324Fax: (413) 443-7442

Berkshire County HealthyFamilies - North AdamsChild Care of the Berkshires 210 State Street.P.O. Box 172North Adams, MA 01247Phone: (413) 664-6104Fax: (413) 664-6253

Healthy Families Franklin CountyFranklin Community ActionCorp.393 Main StreetGreenfield, MA 01301Phone: (413) 376-1119 x 127 for

Franklin County residents(978) 544-5423 x 127 for North Quabbin residents

Fax: (413) 773-3834

Healthy Families HolyokeMassachusetts Society for thePrevention of Cruelty to Children113 Hampden StreetHolyoke, MA 01040Phone: (413) 532-9446Fax: (413) 533-1598

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Healthy Families HampshireCountyChildren's Aid & Family Service8 Trumbull RoadNorthampton, MA 01060Phone: (413) 584-5690Fax: (413) 586-9436

Holyoke Family Network /Enlace de FamiliasNurturing Fathers Program299 Main St. Holyoke, MA 01040 Phone: (413) 532-9300Fax: (413) 552-3991Email: roy@hfn.orgProvides a 13 week program that focus-es on strengthening attitudes neededfor creating nurturing relationshipswithin families. Also offers childcare, adinner, and transportation. Graduationceremony upon completion.

Head Start, Inc Dads Make a Difference/ MILK -Men Involved in the Lives of Kids30 Madison Avenue Springfield, MA 01105 Phone: (413) 788-6522 Fax: (413) 788-6679 Offers interactive, educational, andrecreational activities that promotehealthy, happy relationships betweenmen and children. The MILK initia-tive is for families currently enrolled inHead Start to get more men involvedin the lives of their children. It doesnot need to be the child's biological

father - uncles, boyfriends, grandfa-thers, and any significant male figureinvolved in the child's life is invited toparticipate.

Men's Resource Center Fathers andFamily Network - Western Region 236 N. Pleasant St. Amherst, MA 01002 Phone: (413) 253-9887 x10 Fax: (413) 253-4801Web: www.mensresourcecenter.orgOffers a range of services for men,including support groups, resource andreferral information, and short-termsupport programs (e.g. a series for Menand Divorce) which are relevant forfathers. The MRC is also the coordina-tor of the Children's Trust Fund'sFathers and Family Network meetingsin western Massachusetts, providingfour programs a year on fatheringissues for service providers in theregion. In its magazine, Voice Male,the center regularly runs "Fathering"columns, as well as book reviews andresource listings relating to fathers andfathering. Presentations and workshopson various men's issues includingfathering concerns are available uponrequest.

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Montague Catholic Social MinistriesGill/Montague Family Center,Turners Falls Afterschool Playgroup41 Third St. Turners Falls, MA 01376Phone: (413) 863-4805Fax: (413 863-85930 Email: mcsm@shaysnet.com Sponsors the Turners Falls playgroupfor children 0-4 years and the KidsPlace after-school program for childrenin grades K-5. All programs are free.Also offers information and resourceservices, parent support groups, a par-ent resource library, computer lab, anda free children's clothing, Kids Placeexchange. Parent workshops are alsoavailable through the community liv-ing room project. Office hours areMonday-Friday 9:00-5:00pm.

Massachusetts Society for thePrevention of Cruelty to Children ofGreenfield The Children's Visitation Program 479 Main St. Greenfield, MA 01301 Phone: (413) 773-3608 Fax: (413) 773-9459Offers a safe child-friendly space fornon-custodial parents to visit theirchildren. Professional staff supervisevisits at multiple sites, primarily inFranklin County. Saturday visits occurat a day care site where security isavailable. Supervised visitation on-andoff-site is available as well as therapeu-tic visitation.

Northampton Parents Center 297 Main St. Northampton, MA 01060 Phone: (413) 582-2636 Provides opportunities for parents tofind support for the demanding andimportant work of raising a family,and for young children to connectwith each other. The Parents Centerprovides a site and services to facilitateparent-to-parent exchange, to strength-en families' connection to the commu-nity, and to be source of information,enjoyment, and encouragement. Drop-in Center for parents and children tosocialize and play.

Springfield Family Support ProgramsPO Box 1489Springfield, MA 01101 Phone: (413) 733-7699Fax: (413) 737-2321Email: spfldfsc@aol.com Activities and playtime are held twice amonth with father and child. Homevisits and follow up to ensure consis-tent participation by the young fathers.Also field trips twice per year. Referralservices are provided to fathers andtheir families. Both use the same cur-riculum and supportive staff fromBaystate Medical Center.

Springfield Rescue Mission 19 Bliss St. Springfield, MA01105 Phone: (413) 732-0808 Fax: (413) 732-5512

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Email: srm@spfldrescuemission.orgWeb: www.spfldrescuemission.orgProvides food, shelter, clothing, med-ical attention, counseling, advocacyand literacy training. Free of charge.Our Men's New Life Program is a one-year program for men seeking victoryover their addiction. Serves GreaterSpringfield and Hampden County.

Tapestry Health Systems Wise Guys100 Wendell Ave. Pittsfield, MA 01201 Phone: (413 443-2844Fax: (413) 499-3467Email: emonyahan@tapestryhealth.org Web: www.tapestryhealth.org Promotes male responsibility as itrelates to attitudes, behaviors, anddecision-making that surround humansexuality and relationships. This pro-gram takes place in and outside ofschool. One of its goals is to reducethe rate of sexually transmitted infec-tious diseases, including HIV.

Valuing Our Children217 Walnut St. Athol, MA 01331 Phone: (978) 249-8467Fax: (978) 249-8228Email: khardie1@aol.com Provides support and education forfamilies in the North Quabbin Region.Programs are open to all families in theNorth Quabbin region at no charge.Transportation and childcare are avail-

able. Valuing Our Children offers: par-enting classes, volunteer opportunities,information and referral, family sup-port, lending library, leadership devel-opment, community and familyevents, playgroups, and Jumping Beansnewsletter.

Western Massachusetts Center forHealthy Families 489 Whitney Ave., 2nd Fl. Holyoke, MA 01040 Phone: (800) 850-3880 Fax: (413) 540-0340Email: info@westernmasshealthy-communities.org Web: www.westernmasshealthy-communities.orgOffers a public health resource librarywith videos, books, curricula, and visu-al aids on a variety of health topics,including parenting. Hosts theChildren's Trust Fund WesternMassschusetts satellite library. Providestraining and consulting services on avariety of health topics and organiza-tional development topics.

YMCA of Greater Springfield 275 Chestnut St.Springfield, MA 01104 Phone: (413) 739-6951Fax: (413) 736-4861 Web: www.springfieldY.orgOffers parent/child exercise classes,swim lessons youth & preschoolsports, parent workshops with child-care for children 4 weeks - 13 years.

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Scholarships available for all programs.

YWCA of Western Massachusetts Father's Outreach Program120 Maple St. Springfield, MA 01103 Phone: (413) 732-3121Fax: (413) 747-0542Email: jsmith@yoorks.org Web: www.ywworks.org Provides case management and out-reach services to fathers of children liv-ing in statewide network of teen livingprograms - can also serve limited num-ber of fathers not associated with teenliving program.

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All Men Are SonsJohn Badalament, Ed. ME-mail: john@allmenaresons.com Web site: www.allmenaresons.com Presents workshops and keynoteaddresses on father-child relationshipsto school faculties and students, parentgroups, mental health professionals,non-profits, and colleges. A Harvard-trained human development specialist,Badalament also works with both gen-ders to improve skills and capacitiesfor healthy relationships. Badalamentis the director of the PBS film, "AllMen Are Sons."

Bexar County Adult DetentionCenterMatch/Patch Program200 N. Comal San Antonio, TX 78207 Phone: (210) 335-6330Fax: (210) 335-6118E-mail: matchpatch@bexar.org Provides parents in jail with parentingand knowledge of life skills.Participants earn a weekly contact visitwith their children by attending classesthroughout the week and maintaininggood behavior in the facility.

Boot Camp for Dads230 Commerce Suite 210Irvine, CA 92602 Phone: (714) 838-9392 Ext. 108Fax: (714) 838-9675E-mail: debbie@newdads.com Web site: www.newdads.com Brings out the best in new dads andhelp them feel confident when theirfirst baby arrives. Boot Camp for NewDads is a non-profit organization.

Center For Successful Fathering, Inc. 13740 Research Blvd G4 Austin, TX 78750 Phone: (512) 335-0761Fax: (512) 336-5861E-mail: info@fathering.org Web site: www.fathering.org Seeks to reconnect fathers with theirchildren and with traditions of respon-sible fatherhood. Using its curriculum"Accepting the Challenges of

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Fatherhood", the CSF has trained par-ent educators and has worked withthousands of dads, moms, childrenand professionals. CSF also released"Bonding Through Play", a video andcurriculum set for use with fathers ofchildren ages 0-5.

Center on Fathering 325 North El Paso St.Colorado Springs, CO 80903 Phone: (719) 634-7797, 800-mydad34 Fax: (719) 634-7852E-mail: ctrfthring@aol.comProvides programs and services thatstrengthen, encourage and supportfathers in the care and development oftheir children. The center providesongoing weekly father support groupswith discussions, current events, guestspeakers. A resource library is alsoavailable.

Early Education Services FatherhoodInvolvement 130 Birge St. Brattleboro, VT 05301 Phone: (802) 254-3742Fax: (802) 254-3750 Works with Early Headstart andHeadstart families in WindhamCounty, VT., providing males anopportunity to participate in programsthat aid them in becoming well-round-ed, educated, and experienced parents.It also serves the whole communitywith support and referral services.

Father Friendly Initiative National Fatherhood Initiative 101 Lake Forest Blvd Suite 360Gaithersburg, MD 20877 Phone: (301) 948-0599Fax: (301) 948-4325E-mail: info@fatherhood.orgWeb site: www.fatherhood.org Works to confront the growing prob-lem of father absence by increasing thenumber of children growing up withinvolved, committed, and responsiblefathers.

Great Dads PO Box 7537Fairfax Station, VA 22039-7537 Phone: (703) 830-7500Fax: (703) 968-2811E-mail: grtdads@aol.com Web site: www.greatdads.org Provides seminars to dads on "The 6Basics of Being a Great Dad" that arehosted by companies, churches, andother organizations across America.

Manchester Memorial HospitalFamily Development Center71 Haynes St. Manchester, CT 06040 Phone: (860) 644-2065Fax: (860) 644-2012E-mail: kodell@rghosp.chime.orgEncourages parent-child interaction viasocial /recreational activities such asjob training and "Dad and Me FunNights," as well as referrals to on-goingsupport groups.

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National Parenting Association 1841 Broadway, Room 808New York, NY 10113 Phone: (212) 315-2333Fax: (212) 315-2336E-mail: info@parentsunite.org Web site: www.parentsunite.org Works to make parenting a higher pri-ority in Americans' lives and on thepublic agenda through research, com-munications and non-partisan advoca-cy. Web site provides information andresources.

National Center for Fathering 10200 W. 75th St. Suite 267Shawnee Mission, KS 66204 Phone: (913) 384-4661Fax: (913) 384-4665E-mail: ncf@fathers.comWeb site: www.fathers.com Inspires and equips men to be betterfathers, the center maintains one of thenation's largest archives of research onfathers and fathering. It offers a rangeof practical training programs forfathers in precarious situations.Additionally, instructors are trainedthrough the center's train-the-trainerprogram.

National Practitioners Network ForFathers and Families, Inc.1003 K St., NW Suite 565Washington, DC 20001 Phone: (800) 346-7633

Fax: (202) 737-6683 E-mail: info@npnff.org Web site: www.npnff.org Strengthens supports to children infragile families by enhancing theinvolvement of fathers and to fostercommunication, program develop-ment, education, and collaborationamong service providers. NPNFF'sgoal is to build the profession of prac-titioners working to increase theresponsible involvement of fathers inthe lives of their children. Throughpublications, conferences, advocacy,training and technical assistance, col-laboration with other fathers and fami-lies organizations, and the creation ofnetworking opportunities for practi-tioners.

Rhode Island Children's Friend &Service 153 Summer St. Providence, RI 02903 Phone: 401-276-4300Fax: 401-331-3285Email: nhebert@cfsri.org Web: www.childrensfriendservice.orgOffers home visiting and drop-in serv-ices for parents. Services include: assis-tance with parenting and child devel-opment, counseling, ESL and familyliteracy, resource linkage and drop-inservices, emergency assistance, andparent groups. There are specific

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groups just for fathers. All services arein English and Spanish. Cities servedare: Central Falls, Pawtucket, andProvidence.

Visiting Nurse Alliance of Vermontand New Hampshire Upper Valley Fatherhood Network 325 Mt. Support Rd.Lebanon, NH 03766 Phone: (603) 443-5154 E-mail: richard.k.wesson@hitchcock.orgOffers individual and group servicesincluding 1) Fatherhood DiscussionGroup: An open, solutions-focuseddiscussion group for fathers aboutenhanced parenting skills, healthy rela-tionships, blended families, separa-tion/divorce, and custody issues; and2) Adventures in Fatherhood: Guideddiscussion group for expecting fathers.

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INTERNET RESOURCES

ww.aafc.org

American Coalition for Fathers and Children publishes studies and reports,membership information, legal resources and surveys for all fathers concernedwith their rights.

www.newdads.com

Boot Camp for New Dads provides programs teaching men to be dads.

www.fathering.org

The Center for Successful Fathering promotes the benefits of involved fathers.Info available on seminars, research and other materials.

www.dadscan.org

Dads Can looks to build father involvement through fathering tools, chatrooms, an information network directory, and related links.

www.adopt.org

The Dave Thomas Foundation for Adoption features news, a photo listing, andinformation on the adoption quest.

www.fatherhoodproject.org

Families & Work Institute examines the future of fatherhood. Website offersinsights into fatherhood and links to other support services.

www.famres.org

The Family Resource Coalition of America and the National Center on ChildAbuse and Neglect team up to provide resource info, education, technical assis-tance, and a virtual resource center.

www.parentsplace.com

The Fathers Page offers resources, essays, books, excerpts, and articles. Also pro-vides links to other organizations. The Fathers Forum provides programs fornew and expectant fathers.

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www.domani.net/richard/gaydads.html

Gay Dads is a guide for gay fathers and their family, including books, supportgroups, personal accounts and related links.

www.greatdads.org

Great Dads provides seminars to dads on "The Six Basics of Being a Great Dad"that are hosted by companies, churches, and other organizations across theUnited States.

www.maddadsnational.com

MAD DADS is Men Against Destruction- Defending Against Drugs andSocial-Disorder. Site has info on the organization, state chapters, and their pro-gram providing positive adult male role models on urban streets.

www.meld.org

MELD for Young Dads is a parenting information and support program whichoffers long-term group based services to fathers.

www.ctfalliance.org

National Alliance of Children's Trust and Prevention Funds provides links tostate Children's Trust Funds.

www.fathers.com

National Center for Fathering offers practical tips for dads, humor, and info onservices.

www.ncoff.gse.upenn.edu

The National Center on Fathers and Families (NCOFF) is dedicated to researchand practice that expands the knowledge base on father involvement and familydevelopment. Website offers a search engine on fathering literature.

www.nlffi.org

National Latino Fatherhood and Family Institute works to promote the involve-ment of Latino men in the lives of their children.

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www.fatherhood.org

National Fatherhood Initiative is a non-profit organization that promotesresponsible fatherhood through resources for dads, such as Dad's Columns,fatherly advice, tips, and links.

www.fathersnetwork.org

National Fathers' Network provides support and resources for fathers and fami-lies of children with special needs. Includes articles by men, disability links, anda providers' section.

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www.parentsunite.org

National Parenting Association is spearheading a parents' movement to givemothers and fathers a greater voice in the public arena.

www.npnff.org

National Practitioners Network For Fathers and Families' mission is to strength-en supports to children in fragile families by enhancing the involvement offathers and to foster communication, program development, education, andcollaboration among service providers.

www.scfn.org

Single & Custodial Father's Network, Inc. is an international nonprofit networkthat provides support through research, publications, and interactive communi-cations.

www.cffpp.org

The Center on Fathers, Families, and Public Policy (CFFPP) is a nationally-focused public policy organization conducting policy research, technical assis-tance, training, litigation and public education in order to focus attention onthe barriers faced by never-married, low-income fathers and their families.

www.brandnewdad.com

Brand New Dad is an online community, resource center and search engine fornew and expectant Fathers.

www.fathersunited.com

United Fathers of America is a nonprofit organization dedicated to educatingdivorced or custodial fathers about their rights. Offers court assistance, legaladvice, and related links.

www.responsiblefatherhood.com

The Institute for Responsible Fatherhood & Family Revitilization is dedicatedto promoting fathers to become involved in the lives of their children in a lov-ing, compassionate, and nurturing way.

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www.nlffi.org

National Latino Fatherhood and Family Institute highlights programs for serv-ing Latino fathers and families. "Each issue of this quarterly newsletter willfocus on issues affecting Latino and other communities, and hopefully, willoffer ideas and approaches that will make a difference in your community." Itcontains updated info on male responsibility, mentoring, fatherhood and more.

www.fathersresourcecenter.org/articles.htm

Fathers Resource Center provides info, education and support focused on posi-tive parenting. Includes info on studies about fathers' positive impact ondaughters, custody/visitation issues, the importance of fathers and more.

http://fatherwork.byu.edu

Father Work provides stories, ideas, and activities to encourage generativefathering. Over 300 pages of info, including stories, metaphors for fathering inmany contexts and hundreds of activities that fathers can do with children ofvarious ages. Also includes a fathering survey.

www.dadsanddaughters.org

Dads and Daughters is the web site for the national nonprofit membershiporganization of fathers and daughters. Includes many feature articles, emailupdates, research and ideas, FAQs and more. Their mission is to strengthen thefather-daughter relationship.

http://fatherhood.hhs.gov/index.shtml

This website by the Department of Health and Human Services featuresresearch articles and various other material to support and strengthen the role offathers in families.

www.igc.org/fatherhood

The Fatherhood Project® (part of the Families and Work Institute) is a nationalresearch and education project that is examining the future of fatherhood anddeveloping ways to support men's involvement in child rearing. Its books, films,consultation, seminars, and training all present practical strategies to supportfathers and mothers in their parenting roles.

ACTIVITESIDEAS

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Respect your child's motherIf you are married, keep your marriage strong and vital. If you aren't mar-

ried, it is still important to respect and support the mother of your chil-

dren.

Spend time with your childrenHow a father spends his time tells his children what's important to him.

Kids grow up so quickly … missed opportunities are lost forever.

Earn the right to be heardToo often a father only speaks to his children when they have done some-

thing wrong. Begin talking with your kids when they are young, praise

them often and take time to listen to their ideas and problems.

Discipline with loveAll children need guidance and discipline, not as punishment, but to set

reasonable limits. Remind your children of the consequences of their

actions and provide meaningful rewards for good behavior.

Read to your childrenBegin reading to your children when they are very young. Instilling your

children with a love for reading is one of the best ways to ensure they will

have a lifetime of personal and career growth.

Show affectionChildren need the security that comes from knowing they are wanted and

loved by their family. Parents, especially fathers, need to feel comfortable

and willing to hug their children. Showing affection every day is the best

way to let your children know that you love them.

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Eat together as a familySharing a meal together can be an important part of family life. It gives kids

the chance to talk about what they are doing and is a good time for fathers

to listen and give advice.

Be a teacher and role modelA father who teaches his children about right and wrong, and encourages

them to do their best, will see his children make good choices. As a role

model, fathers can show their children what is important in life by demon-

strating honesty, humility, and responsibility. A girl who spends time with a

loving father grows up knowing she deserves to be treated with respect.

Realize that a father's job is never doneEven after children are grown and leave the home, they will still look to their

fathers for wisdom and advice. Fathers continue to play an essential part in

the lives of their children as they make decisions about schooling, jobs, mar-

riage, and starting their own families.

Join a fathers groupTake your responsibilities as a dad seriously and equip yourself with the tools

to do the job right. By meeting with other fathers you gain guidance and

connection with men who share the same experiences as you.

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Dads are great storytellers andstorytime can be anytime youand your child are together.

Take a break before dinner time, lazyafternoon time, bedtime ... anytime isright for sharing a story or reading abook.

Visit your local public library tochoose one of the books on this list orask the librarian to help you findsomething else just right for your fami-ly.

The Summer My Father was Ten.Brisson, Pat. (1998) A father tells hisdaughter the story of how he damageda neighbor’s tomato garden when hewas a boy, and what he did to makeamends to old Mr. Bellavista.

If I were Your Father. Park-Bridges,Margaret. (1999) Warm and humor-ous conversation between a boy andfather. The boy offers his fantastic wis-dom of what a father might do.

Born in the Gravy. Cazet, Denys.(1993) A young Chicana tells herfather all the things she did on her firstday of Kindergarten.

Room for a Stepdaddy. Cook, JeanThor. (1995) Joey has trouble accept-ing his new stepfather but the constantlove of his father, mother, and stepfa-ther finally convince him that there islove enough for everyone.

Night Driving. Coy, John. (1996)As father and son drive into the night,they watch the sunset, talk about base-

ball, sing cowboy songs, and evenchange a flat tire before pitching campat daybreak.

The Father Who Had 10 Children.Guettier, Benedicte. (2001) Lovingstory of a dad caring for his 10 chil-dren and, even when he takes time forhimself he still misses his children,shortens his trip and hurries back.

Papa Tells Chita a Story. Howard,Elizabeth Fitzgerald. (1995) AnAfrican American girl shares time withher father as he tells her about whenhe was a soldier in Cuba during theSpanish American War.

Me, Dad and Number 6. Jennings,Dana Andrew. (1997) A father, hisfriends, and his six-year-old sonrebuild an old car together and driveit in races.

Your Dad was Just Like You.Johnson, Dolores. (1993) While visit-ing his grandfather, an AfricanAmerican boy hears a story about hisfather’s childhood that helps himunderstand his father.

Guess How Much I Love You.McBratney, Sam. (1994) BabyNutbrown hare wants to show hisDaddy how much he loves him - butlove as big as this is very hard to meas-ure.

Daddy Will You Miss Me?McCormick, Wendy. (1999) When adaddy must leave on a trip, a fatherand son help ease the pain of separa-tion by creating rituals for each passing

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day. These simple activities help themremain close in their hearts while theyare apart.

Just Me and My Dad. Meyer,Mercer. (1977) Lil’ Critters campingtrip with his Dad shows his attemptsto be bigger than his Dad.

My Daddy. Paradis, Susan. (1998)The bond between a boy and hisfather is profound. Exploring it fromthe point of view of a child, the wealthof feelings evoked by everyday events isdepicted in simple words, and deeplymoving pictures.

The Car Washing Street. Patrick,Denise. (1993) Even though his par-ents do not own a car, Matthew looksforward to Saturday mornings to seethe people on his street wash their cars.

I Love My Daddy Because... Porter-Gaylord, Laurel. (1991) Clever textborrows simple phrases from a child’sexperience with her Daddy to showthat animal daddies take care of theiryoung, too.

Kevin and His Dad. Smalls, Irene.(1999) A young boy spends a wholeday with his Dad. This lovely picturebook celebrates the excitement, pride,love and pleasure a boy can experiencewith a father who includes him inboth work and play.

Daddies are for Catching Fireflies.Ziefert, Harriet. (1999) Inexpensive,flip-flap book with delightful ways ofdaddies.

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�Perhaps the greatest social service that can be rendered by any-body to the country and to mankind is to bring up a family.�

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FATHERHOOD REFERENCE BOOKS

Parenting and childdevelopment

The Father's Guide: Raising aHealthy Child. Barkin, R. (1998).Golden, CO: Fulcrum.

The Seven Secrets of Effective Fathers.Canfield, K. (1992). Wheaton, IL:Tyndale.

Finding the Time for Fathering.Gurian, M. and Golant, S. (1992).New York: Fawcett.

The Wonder of Boys. Gurian, M.(1996). New York: Putnam.

The Role of the Father in ChildDevelopment. Lamb, M. E. (1996). 3rdedition. New York: John Wiley andSons.

Between Father and Child. Levant,R. and Kelly, J. (1991). New York:Penguin.

Fathers and Toddlers. (1994) andFathers and Babies. (1993) Marzollo,Jean. New York: HarperCollins

Fathers of Children with SpecialNeeds. May, J. (1991). New Horizons.Bethesda, MD: Association for theCare of Children's Health.

Community building

Creating a Father FriendlyNeighborhood. (1995) Lancaster, PA:National Fatherhood Initiative.

Getting Men Involved: Strategies for Early Childhood Programs. Levine, J.A.

Murphy, T., and Wilson S. (1993).New York: Scholastic, Inc., EarlyChildhood Division. Available fromFamilies and Work Institute: (212)465-2044.

Working Fathers: New Strategies forBalancing Work and Family. Levine,James A. and Todd Pittinskey (1998).San Diego, CA: Harcourt.

New Expectations: CommunityStrategies for Responsible Fatherhood.Available from Families and WorkInstitute: (212) 465-2044.

Teenage Fathers. Robinson, Bryan(1990). Massachusetts: D.C. Health,Lexington Books.

Working With Fathers. TheMinnesota Fathering Alliance.Stillwater, MN: Nu Ink Unlimited.

Social and cultural issues

Boyhood - Growing up Male: AMulticultural Anthology. Abbot, F.(1993). Freedom, CA: The CrossingPress.

Fatherhood and Families in CulturalContext. Bozett, F. and Hanson, S.(Eds) (1998). New York: Springer.

Fatherhood Today: Men's ChangingRole in the Family. Brownstein, P. andCowan, C.P. (Eds). (1998). New York:John Wiley and Sons.

Father-Child Relations: Cultural andBiosocial Contexts. Hewlett, B.S. (Ed.)(1992). New York: Adline de Gruyter.

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Black Fatherhood: The Guide toMale Parenting. Hutchinson, E.O.(1995). Los Angeles, CA: MiddlePassage Press.

Nurturing Young Black Males:Challenges to Agencies, Programs andSocial Policy. Mincy, R.B. (1994).Washington, D.C.: Urban InstitutePress.

General reading

The Father Factor. Biller, H.B. andTrotter, R.J. (1994). New York: Simonand Schuster.

The Prodigal Father: ReunitingFathers and their Children. Bryan,M.A. (1998). New York: ClarksonPotter.

The Dad Zone: Report from theTender, Bewildering and HilariousWorld of Fatherhood. Burkett, M.(1993). New York: Simon andSchuster.

Fatherhood. Cosby, W. (1986). NewYork: Dolphin.

The Gift of Fatherhood: How Men'sLives are Transformed by their Children.Hass, A. (1994). New York: Simonand Schuster.

Father's Rights. Leving, J.M. (1997).New York: Basic Books.

Fatherlove:What We Seek; What WeMust Create. Louv, R. (1993). NewYork: Pocket.

Father's Day. McCoy, W. (1995)New York: Times Books.

Out of the Shadows: Birthfathers'Stories. Mason, M. (1995). Edina,MN: O.J. Howard Publishing.

Boys will be Boys: Breaking the LinkBetween Masculinity and Violence.Miedzian, M. (1991). New York:Doubleday.

Passions of Fatherhood. Osherson, S.(1995). New York: Fawcett.

The Nurturing Father. Pruett, K.(1987). New York: Warner Books.

The Measure of a Man: Becomingthe Father You Wish Your Father HadBeen. Sapiro, J.L. (1993). New York:Delacorte Press.

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ACTIVITIES TO DO WITH YOUR CHILDREN

For infants and toddlers

• Babies love to be held close to their father's chest. Holding and rocking your baby helps your baby feel secure.

• Sing favorite songs to your baby.

• As your baby grows, talk to your baby and repeat the sounds that yourbaby makes. This helps them learn language skills more quickly.

• Babies like to look at faces. Try nodding your head, talking quietly, and smiling. Make a homemade book of faces cut from magazines.

• Say "I love you" often. Talk with your children about people, colors, food, animals, and feelings. Babies like to hear you talk and learn lan-guage by listening to your voice.

• Babies love to watch you and copy what you do. Get down on the floor and do some exercises. Make sure they are movements that your baby can copy, such as lifting head and arms off the floor.

• Take your baby outside for walks. Talk about what you see in your neighborhood.

• This age is when humans experience the fastest rate of brain development.Language is an important part of thisgrowth. Read to your child. It may seem that very young children do not understand what you are saying.

But, the more language that babies hear, the more their brains grow and develop.

Adapted from Positive Parenting: Tips on Fathering,the Wisconsin Children's Trust Fund

Two to three year olds

• Provide a safe place for your child to run and play. Take your child outsideto play in the yard or the park.

• Read to your child every day. Do notworry if they're not following along with every word. At this point, it's still your voice, not the text, that interests them. Picture books are perfect.

• Play ball with your child. Children of this age can begin to run and kicka ball. They can throw balls with a fair amount of accuracy and can catch, too.

• All children will have potty acci-dents. Help them get cleaned up. Praise them for trying their best. Assure them that accidents happen, but soon they can stay dry almost all the time. Toilet training is a very dif-ficult development task to master. Never punish a child for an accident.

• Say "I love you" often. Do not end sentences with "okay?". For example,"Time for bed, okay?" This condi-tional language can confuse children,be direct. "Time for bed."

• Answer your child's questions in

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short, simple sentences. Try to be patient with a child who asks "why" over and over again.

• Try not to respond to "potty" words and swear words. Quietly explain that you do not like to hear such lan-guage. The truth is you'll probably hear it again before the child grows out of this stage.

• Because they have vivid imagina-tions, many children develop fears at this age. Tuck your child in bed at a regular time each night. Give your child a night light, a special blanket, and a stuffed animal if the child is feeling insecure at bedtime. Do notminimize these fears - they are real. Send your child to sleep knowing they are safe and loved. Promise to check on them often.

Four years and older

• During meals, ask everyone to share a thought from that day.

• Go for walks together.

• Get to know your children's friends and their families.

• Volunteer in your children's school or classroom. Meet her teacher. Chaperone a field trip.

• Watch your children as they play; observe their creativity and join in the fun.

• Introduce your children to other cul-tures by inviting ethnic and interna-

tional friends to your home.

• Kids love to copy you. Include your children in an activity that they would like to learn.

• Put an encouraging note in the textbook of your children's most difficultsubject.

• Go to the library and give your chil-dren time to browse and check out books. Most libraries offer family passes to area museums. Plan a fami-ly visit.

• Share a funny or important story about your childhood.

• Discuss some goals for the school year - theirs and yours. Ask about ways your children would like to achieve these goals.

• Listen to your children's favorite music. Ask what they like about it. Introduce them to music you enjoy.

• Encourage your children to join vari-ous clubs and organizations.

• Read with your children. Even when they can read on their own, they still enjoy sharing a book with dad.

• Ask your children what they want to be as an adult. Visit such a work place.

• Discuss an area in which you and your child disagree - and listen!

Reprinted with permission from theColorado Father's Resource Guide

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TIPS FOR NON-MARRIED PARENTS

Children need to feel loved by bothparents and know that they do nothave to choose one parent over theother.

Keep a flexible routine and leave timefor spontaneity. Help your childrenfeel that they have two homes, mom'sand dad's, where they feel free to comeand go. Live as close to each other aspossible.

Share time with your children.Schedule visits, excursions and trips.Have lunch or dinner together fre-quently. Talk over the phone and cre-ate a schedule for telephone calls.

Help to prepare your children for vis-its. Be positive about the experience.

Talk directly to the mother of yourchildren and keep the discussionfocused on your children. Childrenshould not serve as the line of commu-nication between the two of you.

Take the anger out of your communi-cations. Do not use your children as away to get back at each other or vali-date your anger with each other.

Get help dealing with the inevitableanger from a broken relationship. Youmay wish to join a support group ortalk to a counselor. Learn to commu-nicate in a less reactive way

Share information. Have a calendarwith all the family engagements writ-ten on it and let the other parent know

of any changed plans.

Set up a system for monthly phonecalls or meetings with your child'smother to discuss performance inschool, health, activities, schedules andother issues.

Never talk badly about the other parentin front of your children.

Reprinted with permission from theColorado Father's Resource Guide.

• Who is your child’s all time hero?• What are your child’s most prized

possessions?• Who is your child’s closest friend? • What causes your child the great-

est stress?• What is your child’s most prized

accomplishment?• What was your child’s biggest dis-

couragement this past year?• What is your child’s favorite food?• What would your child like to be

when he or she grows up?• What does your child like to do

in his or her spare time?• What is something that really

upsets your child?• What does your child like to do

with you?• What is the most important thing

you need to discuss with yourchild in the next six months?

Adapted from the National Center on Fathering.

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