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The Cross of Christ

Over-emphasis On the Vertical Relationship

Over-emphasis on

the Horizontal Relationship

They Work Together

The managers, teachers, curators, CEO=s of the home:

PARENTS

The Role of Parents• Bible Teachers• Carpenters• Chiefs of Police• Detectives• Doctors• Entertainers• Executive Chefs• Faith Healers• Gardeners• Guardian Angels• Hotel Managers• Lawyers• Librarians• Massage Therapists• Mechanics

• Miracle Workers• Nurses• Ophthalmologists • Pastors• Philosophers• Politicians• Psychologists• Referees • Sex Educators• Social Workers• Standup Comedians• Surgeons• Tile Layers• Watchmen• Weird

It’s an awesome responsibility

The church preaches the gospel, but it’s in the HOME we LIVE the gospel.

“Every family is a church over which parents preside. The first consideration of parents should be to work for the salvation of their children.” Child Guidance 549

“The greatest evidence of the power of Christianity that can be presented to the world is a well-ordered, well-disciplined family. . . .

Adventist Home Page 31

“One well-ordered, well- disciplined family tells more in behalf of Christianity than all the sermons that can be preached . . .”

Adventist Home page 31

Bahamian Families 2000 Statistics

37,321 Bahamian homes where married parents live

together

50,140 Bahamian homes where no married parents

live together.  7, 342 Common Law Households

87,742 Households in the Bahamas

42.5%

57.5%

Take off 20,000 homes with absentee parents

17,321 Bahamian homes where married parents live

together

70,140 Bahamian homes where no married parents

live together.  7, 342 Common Law Households

87,742 Households in the Bahamas

19.7%

79.3%

What kind of parent are you?

If your children were asked to pin a TITLE on you, your children will most likely label you as:

• Helper• Thinker• Boss• Talker• Sweet• Generous

• Okay• Stubborn• Troublesome• Cantankerous• Grouchy• Military Leader

Task Master

Pleaser

“Train up a child in the way he should go: and when heis old, he will not depart from it.”

Proverbs 22:6King James Version

New Living Translation

“Teach your children to choose the right path, and when they are older, they will remain upon it.”

Deuteronomy 11:19-21

19. Teach them to your children. Talk about them when you are at home and when you are away on a journey, when you are lying down and when you are getting up again.

20. Write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates,

21. So that as long as the sky remains above the earth, you and your children may flourish in the land the LORD swore to give your ancestors.

What are parents to teach?Deut 11: 1 & 8

1. You must love the LORD your God and obey all his requirements, laws, regulations, and commands

8. "Therefore, be careful to obey every command I am giving you today, so you may have strength to go in and occupy the land you are about to enter.

RulesRelationships

or

Rules without relationships

breedChaos

Four Parenting Styles

AUTHORITARIAN 1.

Little love, plenty rules. National Results:

Violent Society, unsafe communities.

Four Parenting Styles

PERMISSIVE 2.

High on love and low on limits. National Results:

Permissive society. Anything goes.

Four Parenting Styles

REJECTINGNEGLECTING

3.

Low on love and limits.

National Results:Cold and indifferent society.

Four Parenting Styles

DEMOCRATIC4.

High on love and high on limits. National Results:

Responsive, caring, non-violent, and educated society

Balanced parenting style

“Those we must change we must first love.”

Dr. Martin Luther King

DisciplinePunishment

or

Discipline is a PROCESSnot a single event.

Discipline is an ENVIRONMENTnot just a circumstance.

Discipline is a LIFESTYLEnot just a one-shot deal.

Punishment is correcting a specific wrong.

Discipline is the building of lives.

Parents’ primary responsibilities are to teach their children to act responsibly, and to think independently and critically.  

Basic Individual Values Needed for Healthy Nation

Building

• Literacy• Community• Equality• Faithfulness• Friendliness• Industriousness• Integrity

• Loyalty• Justice• Mercy• Reliability• Selflessness• Sobriety• Righteousness

Ten Basic Principles of Family Life that Affect Nation Building

Respond to your handout

The Brennen's 1 Corinthians 13

"If I speak in tongues of nations and of angels, but have not a loving attitude, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have no love in my heart, I am nothing.

If I am a vegetarian, and do not eat dairy products to reduce my sinus problem, and I cannot share lovingly with others, my diet is in vain. If I exercise five times a week at the gym or on sports track, and I cannot share my energy in a loving way, my walking and running will be in vain. I can still die of a heart attack.

If I am financially independent and able to give to all church projects but I have not love, my giving will be in vain. If I eat lots of broccoli soup to reduce the cancer risk, make my own gluten, or eat only boiled fish for meat, and refuse to share in loving relationships, my life will be meaningless. I can still die prematurely.

Love never fails. College degrees, beautiful houses, gorgeous clothing, speaking in tongues, evangelistic crusades, and health seminars, will all pass away.

Now these five remain: financial independence, a healthy lifestyle, faith, hope, and loving relationships. But the greatest of all of these is

LOVING RELATIONSHIPS."

Go and change the nation

The End