The Crock - I Told You So

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  • The Crock Those Four Little Words

    I dont profess to be the smartest guy on the planet but I do have my moments. The

    Dear Abby column in last Sundays paper confirms what I have said all along about the

    Factory and her quest to alienate her children against her. A letter written to Abigail Van Buren

    (real name of Jeanne Phillips) demonstrates the stress a 13 year old boy feels when his mother

    fails to support his efforts in sports. He tells of how his mother is so negative and asks Abbys

    advice on how to get his mother to support him and stop spewing untruths about his father who

    encourages and supports him as an athlete or at very least, his desire to be one.

    SUNDAY, JUNE 29, 2014

    Jeanne Phillips

    Dear Abby

    Syndicated Columnist

    DEAR ABBY:

    Im a 13-year old boy who loves to play baseball and football. Because of my hard work and dedication over the years, along with the help of my

    coaches and my dad, Im pretty good at both sports. The issue is, my mom does not support me and repeatedly tells me Im not good at either one. When she says it, it cuts my heart out.

    My parents have been divorced since I was 2, and Dad has always done

    everything for me. Even though he gives me encouragement, it still stings

    when Mom tells me Im not good. She constantly says negative and bad things about my dad that I know are not true, but when I defend him she goes crazy

    with rage. What can I do to get her to stop being so negative?

    -VERY DISCOURAGED IN TEXAS

    Response:

    DEAR VERY DISCOURAGED:

    Your letter made me sad because there is nothing you can do to make

    your mother change her attitude. She appears to be an angry and unhappy

    person, who may perceive your closeness with your father as a threat to her.

    What you CAN do is stop placing so much importance on receiving her

    approval. If your coach thinks your doing well, and these sports bring you a

    sense of closeness with your father, then you should enjoy then for those

    reasons.

    STOP TRAFFIC! You mean the causation of all the bitterness, control, anger,

    maliciousness, vexatious, evil, condescending, behavior the Factory has inflicted on me

    and her children the past 6 years can be answered for free from a newspaper column? If I

  • had known this, I would have not spent hundreds of thousands of dollars on attorneys

    shrinks and witch doctors to find the answers. I could have saved hundreds by not putting

    the Hecate Hex on Mr. 3 Inch and I damn sure would not have spent any time combing the

    psychological articles on the internet to find out what the hell is wrong with this idiot. I

    could have simply written a 2 paragraph letter to AbbyFor Free!

    The letter this poor boy writes to her is EXACTLY the feelings of my sons. The

    contents of the letter are almost verbatim to the actions of the Factory with the exception

    that the Factory doesnt think the kids suck at baseball. She knows better. The problem

    for her is that she recognizes that me, the dad and baseball coach is largely credited with

    teaching my sons what they know.

    If you havent seen them play, it is difficult for this humble father to describe as I will

    abstain from bragging on them. The best proof is to see them play or rely on others who

    are qualified to assess their talent and have them tell you how good they are. What the

    Factory has said is; You should not be coaching anybody. Oh yeah? Why not? I have

    coached over 500 kids, many whom have gone onto high school to be stars or become

    significant players for their teams. When the Factory makes disparaging comments about

    me, she is telling her children that at least half of their makeup is jacked up! That they

    are not worthy of being ballplayers because they have learned from their father.

    This is where Abby adequately points out that the mother has some serious issues by

    attempting to interfere with the emotional development of this young boy and his

    closeness with his father. Again, the Factory has been allowed to say whatever she

    wants about me without any immediate consequence. The ultimate consequence is that her

    sons do not want to live with her any longer and have filed affidavits with the Court to

    come and live full time with me. The affidavits are not pretty. They both make claims

    very similar to the letter inserted herein. They speak of control, unhappiness, anger and

    loss of respect for their mother, which I find disheartening. The words of the Factorys

    children had to pierce her heart like an arrow. As harsh as the words were, they were

    deserved.

    If you to ensure loneliness for years to come when your children leave the nest, make

    sure that you control their every move, speak to them as they are always children and not

    human beings, make disparaging comments about family members they have no control of

  • relations and work really hard to keep the kids from their father or mother and you will be

    as lonely as the Maytag repair man. Just remember the four little words I reminded

    youof.. I Told You So

    John D. Lee

    One Great Dad!