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Kevin Valone
Mrs. Wilde
AP English 12
27/02/2012
Love: Fromm a Humanistic Point of View
Have you ever loved before? Then what is love? It is the magical feeling you get when
you meet someone special, right? Just like in Cinderella, Snow White, and any other cheesy
romantic film that captures the hearts and minds of all those hopeless romantics, love is
portrayed as the magical, yet unexplainable element that we all should obtain at some point in
our lives. However, love is explainable and is more a rather logical process than a mysterious
phenomenon. In The Art of Loving by Erich Fromm, love is defined and is revealed to be an art
which requires many different traits to work. Fromm utilizes logic and uses real world examples
in an informative tone in order to persuade the reader that his point of view is correct.
Before beginning with the literary piece, we should learn about Erich Fromm’s life. Erich
Fromm was born in Frankfurt-Am-Main to an Orthodox Jewish family in 1900. He became
interested in the fields of psychology and sociology after hearing of a young woman killing
herself because of her fathers own death. In 1914, World War One also pushed him to think of
the hatred of others and the divisions of mankind. After receiving a Ph.D in sociology he studied
under Frieda Reichmann to be a psychoanalyst. In 1930 he joined the renowned Frankfurt
Institute for Social Research where aligned most of his philosophy with Marxism.
In The Art of Loving, Fromm does away with society’s beliefs about love and covers
sequentially: What is love, What are the problems with love in our society, What kind of loves
are there and how to we approach love, and How we should practice love. Initially, Fromm
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introduces common misconceptions about love in society. The first belief is that love is an easy
task, but hard to target. He equates this with the quest of finding your soul mate. Secondly, the
belief that you should become lovable rather than to love others is emphasized. He again uses a
real world example of men becoming power and strong and women becoming beautiful and
complacent (1950’s society alert). The uses of these examples he uses really draw the reader into
the piece and the piece oscillates between an informative thesis and a self-help book. Lastly, he
states “the overall misconception that love isn’t an art, but a feeling” (Fromm 5). With this attack
on society’s ignorance he is literally offering the reader a chance to become better than the rest
of the populace through his reasonable statement. With this set of problems he connects with the
reader on a social level instantaneously because the reader is able to relate to the situations he
presents. He asks a question aimed directly at the reader, “Is love an art” and is able to engage
the reader on an emotional level through his ad populum (Fromm 1). His beliefs are that the vast
majority of people do not have a clue about love, so he can quickly capture their attention.
However to refute his points he makes fallacious errors (which also show his Marxist critique of
capitalism) in composition by relating the ideals of Capitalist society to all people of America in
belief that all Americans are conforming to it. For example of this, he relates “falling in love” to
becoming smitten by another just because they offer the greatest amount of “human
commodities” in exchange for ones own in the dating market. His second error focuses on how
people orient themselves to find love. He states boldly, “What most people in our culture mean
by being lovable is essentially a mixture between being popular and having sex appeal” and is
able to effectively get the reader to question their own fragile beliefs of love by berating their
previous knowledge of love (Fromm 3). Lastly, after telling the reader everything that they know
about love is basically fabricated by the media, he presents his main theory that love is an art, so
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that they will shun their former beliefs and accept his ideas. The most effective tool Fromm uses
is logic in where he is able to take preconceived notions of an indefinite abstract ideal, relate the
faults to common societal practice, and then after invoking an emotional response, offer logical
alternatives.
After introducing the reader to the grave mistakes, he presents his own views on love.
Starting off, he offers his own interpretation of Adam and Eve as the core of his ideal. Adam and
Eve are essentially at one with one another (as Eve is made from a rib of Adam) and with nature
because they do not have to worry about their well-being. When they are thrown out of Eden the
source of their shame is that they realize they are not at one because of their gender differences
and they are separate and alone. Therefore he states his main point that, “love is the answer to the
problem of human existence” (Fromm 3). This holds Meaning that through love we can become
one again with ourselves despite gender and one with nature despite our biological differences.
With his interpretation of Adam and Eve he is able to use it as an analogy to his belief. Also with
use of syllogism (Adam and Eve want to return to one-ness, we are sons and daughters of Adam
and Eve, and thus we should want to return to one-ness) he effectively relates his theory to the
reader.
He explains also the three activities people partake in to alleviate the angst of solitude in
order to delve into this mystery and explain it. One is the relief through entrance into orgiastic
state such as being drunk or in a mystical trance. The second is conformity into society such as
joining groups or holding strong nationalistic pride. Lastly, creative activities specifically
worked on rather than factory line production overcomes this aloneness (Fromm 57). His use of
examples presents logical alternatives and answers to his problem. He emphasizes a mature form
of love such as “a union under the condition of preserving one’s integrity and one’s
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individuality” and where love is primarily giving not always receiving (Fromm 34). He states
“The inverse of mature love is immature love where attachments are symbiotic and not of a
loving or meaningful connection” (Fromm 58). He means that a relationship held with another is
held with selfish reasons and is devoid of love making it immature. One is the biological
attachment such as a child and his/her mother. The other form is sado/machism where the sadist
is in a relationship to control and dominate while the masochist is passive and generally has low
self-esteem so they stay in the domineering relationship. He uses emotional appeal of a tragic
occurrence to fuel our acceptance of his beliefs. Going back to his humanist philosophy he states
that man’s desire to overcome this separation is to know the secrets of the other man. He can
achieve this violently through torture, which is evident to a “child ripping the wings off a
butterfly” (Fromm 48) or he can achieve this goal through love. However, Fromm also presents
the idea that human secrets aren’t very deep because people inadvertently put up walls and after
a while you become bored of that person and seek to start again in a new relationship unless both
persons effectively break down their walls. Through his example of the butterfly, Fromm relates
Freud’s id and ego principles and engages the reader emotionally. Although the butterfly seems a
rather biased analogy he relates a common childhood activity, like that of frying ants with a
magnifier he is again able to reach the emotional side of the reader through that emotional
connection to his/her past.
He explains the basic elements needed in all which are care, responsibility, respect, and
knowledge following up with his informative stance in order to draw the reader in through
emotional appeal. He lists various elements of love which can be reasonably seen by the reader
as logical and possibly true. He plays on the reader’s emotional desire to know love, in that by
dissecting love the reader will follow his beliefs. First he states, care is worthy because care and
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‘active concern for the life and growth of that which we love’ is the basic element without which
love cannot exist (Fromm 68). He relates this by using an example of a mother and a child where
the mother’s care helps the infant grows, so must you in a relationship so that your partner can
develop and grow too. Responsibility is a voluntary response necessary to takeover care of the
needs of the other in your relationship. How as to not become sadistic and dominating as before-
mentioned you must see invoke respect. Respect is needed to prevent dominating as you respect
the person for they are their own unique individual and you won’t control them, but rather help
them grow and develop in their own sense. Lastly, knowledge is important for so that you can
relate and hold meaningful interaction between each other. He emphasizes his point with an
example stating that if you have knowledge of the other person you can tell their emotions and
help them in their times of need. While explaining the aspects of love he connects to the reader
on an emotional love by offering real world examples like the child and the mother and all of his
beliefs seem to fit together into each other like pieces to a big puzzle piece.
There are various types of love in his philosophy in which Fromm explains logically by
offering examples where again the reader cannot deny do to his impeccable logic. Brotherly love
consists of having a capacity to love all people despite social barriers. He says that unless we
love everybody, we don’t really love anybody. This is of course part of what is behind the
difficult commandment that we must not only love those who love us, but we must also love our
enemies. Real love is based on an attitude, a way of thinking or feeling, which is directed toward
the entire world and everything in it. If I have developed the capacity for love, then I can’t help
loving my brother. If a person says that he loves just one other person, or one group of persons,
and is indifferent to the rest of his fellow men, this is not real love. Self-love emphasizes that you
love yourself for who you are. He defends this by stating it’s not selfish because you show love
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for everyone including yourself. He even takes the liberty to interpret another biblical quote of
“love thy neighbor” to mean that you love everyone in the world, so you should also love
yourself. This is an obvious dicto simplicitor. Parental love consists of love from your mother
and love from your father. Mother’s love is unconditional and she loves you just because you are
her child, while Father’s love is earned by doing tasks and deeds to be more like your father and
earn his respect. Fromm’s view is that in life you must balance these two to equalize your gender
polarity. Love for god or faith consists of not only belief of god, but a mystical and spiritual
relationship with goes where you become one with him. He idealizes Eastern religion over due to
their attempts of everything to be at one-ness and love everyone and everything, basically
pantheism. Erotic love consists of a mutual love between two people on a basis of physical
attraction. However, he states that if you keep the relationship only physical the intensity of the
relationship is bound to die. However if you incorporate brotherly love along with this physical
love you have a shared union that will last. The divisions of love given to us are aimed primarily
at our source of reason and again they overlap each other, seemingly pieces to a large puzzle, and
engage us on a humanist ground basically stating that we should love all people, but at different
levels. This is a perfect follow-up after initially bashing the readers initial beliefs as he informs
them of the truth.
Lastly, after he explains the theory of love he engages the reader on how to practice love.
General requirements that are necessary include discipline, concentration, patience, and concern
for mastery. By means of discipline he states that you should lead a normal life and devote time
to reading and exercise. However you shouldn’t engage in television or mystery novels or over
consume food or drink. By concentration he emphasizes that learning to be alone without any
distractions (eating, drinking, smoking..etc) and that we must focus on living in the present and
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disregarding the past or future, such as what Suzuki believed. Patience is required in that love is
a difficult art to master and you shouldn’t expect to easily learn it. Lastly, concern for mastery is
applied because you have to actively hold the desire to master it and that love won’t be mastered
as a complement of other activities. Fromm also recognizes qualities necessary for loving such as
absence of narcissism, development in humility, rational faith and activity. In order for any form
of love to work you must engage in them wholeheartedly without any narcissism because that
destroys the love for all things and your return to one-ness. Fromm believes in development in
humility as an important facet because as when you think objectively it is reason, but the
emotional attitude behind reason is humility which you must equally access. Rational Faith is
rooted in one’s personal experience of thought and feeling and allows people to hold faith in all
people and give you the ability to take risks. Lastly, the principle of activity is emphasized where
an internal “inner” productive use of one’s power is used where you are able to remain alone
which is his belief the main condition for loving. Through his explaining of how to practice love
he again connects with the reader after shattering his initial beliefs, telling him the truth about
love and now connects in a humanistic and emotional manner that these are the steps that are
going to improve your life. His insightful advice again peer into the life of the reader and now
mainly emotional appeal is used to entice the reader.
Fromm effectively uses examples and different sources of reasoning and logic to connect
to his reader. His pattern of initially attacking the readers beliefs, then informing him of the truth
and finally how to practice truth is an impressive persuasive tool that is used. Throughout the
book he equivocates common place events that we as humans have done, such as looking only
for romantic love, and is able to relate his philosophy to these events by effectively debunking
them in his manner. His audience is simply the reader where he engages the reader and asks them
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questions and informs them as If you are actually sitting in a room with him telling him about
your problems. Fromm effectively employs many techniques to convery his philosophy of love
and persuade the reader that it is correct.
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Works Cited
Erich , Fromm. The Art of Loving. New York: Harper Collins, 1956. Print.
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