The Army expects a Soldier to be morally responsible and law abiding A Soldier who is socially fit...
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• The Army expects a Soldier to be morally responsible and law abiding • A Soldier who is socially fit is accepting of other peoples’ beliefs and lifestyles • A socially fit Soldier maintains basic living skills that promote a positive influence and contribute to their military and civilian communities Social (Self Awareness) - January What is Social Fitness? Leader : Discuss these expectations with your Soldiers
The Army expects a Soldier to be morally responsible and law abiding A Soldier who is socially fit is accepting of other peoples’ beliefs and lifestyles
The Army expects a Soldier to be morally responsible and law
abiding A Soldier who is socially fit is accepting of other peoples
beliefs and lifestyles A socially fit Soldier maintains basic
living skills that promote a positive influence and contribute to
their military and civilian communities Social (Self Awareness) -
January What is Social Fitness? Leader: Discuss these expectations
with your Soldi ers
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Citizenship Soldiers should be law abiding citizens Community
The Soldier should be a respected member of the community Healthy
Relationships A Soldier should maintain professional relationships
with other Soldiers in the unit Role Model A Soldier should embody
the Army Values Personal Courage The strength to do what is right,
to adhere to a higher standard of personal conduct, to lead by
example, and to make tough decisions under stress and pressure
Respect A Soldier is open in communication and practices empathy
that involve treating people justly Social (Self Awareness) -
January The Components of Social Fitness Leader: Discuss these
expectations with your Soldiers
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Unhealthy behaviors show a lack of RESPECT for ones self,
others and their cultures or beliefs Easily influenced by negative
trends Poor language choices and attitudes that are antisocial or
disrespectful Breaking laws, regulations and protocol Over
indulgent behavior or compulsive desires Reclusive or isolative
behaviors Poor self-esteem resulting in feeling inferior to others
Lying and lack of INTEGRITY Lack of interpersonal skills Being
selfish Backstabbing Social (Self Awareness) - January Unhealthy
Social Fitness Behaviors Leader: Review unhealthy behaviors with
your Soldiers
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You are SFC Manly. You are assigned as a platoon SGT in an
Infantry company and you just met your platoon leader for the first
time. 2LT Vasquez is the 1 st female platoon leader that your
company has ever had. One of your team leaders, SGT Hardy, has
approached you and says, this is wrong! Females should not be in
the Infantry. At the end of the conversation, SGT Hardy is still
upset and is requesting to transfer. What do you do? Social (Self
Awareness) - January Unhealthy Social Fitness Scenario Leader: Read
the following scenario
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Bottom Line Up Front: Icebergs are deeply held beliefs and core
values that are largely out of your awareness. They are formed from
life experiences such as childhood, school, culture etc. Icebergs
can be positive or negative. Icebergs do not always have to be
changed. When they are activated, they typically cause out of
proportion emotions and reactions. Being aware of your icebergs is
important because it helps with self regulation. Examples of
Icebergs: People should respect their elders. Family comes First.
You should finish what you start. Social (Self Awareness) - January
Scenario The Problem Leader: Ask your Soldiers what they perceive
the problem to be and then discuss Icebergs (open discussion 2
minutes).
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Detecting Icebergs: Detecting Icebergs is a critical skill
because it increases self awareness which allows us to have greater
control over our emotions and reactions. You can identify your
iceberg beliefs by asking yourself four what questions. 1. What is
the most upsetting part of that for me? 2. What does that mean to
me? 3. What is the worst part of that for me? 4. Assuming that is
true, what about that is so upsetting to me? Questions can be asked
in any order. The answer of the last question must guide the next
question. Stop when the iceberg explains the consequences (passes
the gut check). Page 6 Social (Self Awareness) - January Scenario
Icebergs Leader: Discuss some Icebergs that SGT Hardy may
have.
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SGT Hardy: This is wrong. Females should not be in the
Infantry. SFC Manly: What is the most upsetting part of that for
you? SGT Hardy: They are going to be a distraction. SFC Manly:
Assuming that they are going to be a distraction, what does that
mean to you? SGT Hardy: The mission will not get accomplished
because no one will take direction from a female platoon leader.
SFC Manly: Assuming that no one will take direction from a female,
what does that mean to you? SGT Hardy: We would have no leadership
because females cannot lead infantry Soldiers. ICEBERG BELIEF
Leader: Note that the iceberg belief is deeper than original
statement of Females should not be in the Infantry. This is the
belief that is driving SGT Hardys strong reaction to the female LTs
assignment. Social (Self Awareness) - January Scenario Icebergs
Leader: Have someone role play below script with you. Note that
this is normally an internal skill and not done with a
partner.
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Once an iceberg is found, evaluate it. Ask yourself the
following questions: 1.Is this Iceberg helping or harming me? 2.Do
I really believe this Iceberg to be true? 3.Do I value this Iceberg
belief? 4.What should I do now that I am aware of this Iceberg?
Although SGT Hardy may feel strongly about having females in the
Infantry, this Iceberg belief is harmful. Army policy is out of his
control. SFC Manly should help him focus on strategies that he can
learn to help cope with the change and help him continue to be an
effective member of the organization. Social (Self Awareness) -
January Scenario Icebergs Leader: Ask the group what can be done
now that the Iceberg has been detected. Is this Iceberg helping or
harming SGT Hardy?
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Detecting Icebergs builds upon the competency of self awareness
by helping you identify and examine beliefs that drive your
emotions and reactions. You can be a more effective Soldier by
being aware of your thoughts, feelings and reactions because some
thoughts, feelings and reactions hinder effectiveness and others
enhance effectiveness. It is critical to be aware that certain
situations trigger strong emotions that are hard for you to
control. Certain behaviors like being aggressive can be positive in
some situations but negative in others. Self awareness allows us to
use emotions when appropriate. Social (Self Awareness) - January
Self Awareness Hunt the good stuff: Positive people think
positively. Focusing on positive experiences leads to an optimistic
way of thinking. Encourage your Soldiers to share a positive
experience that they have had since last drill. (Open
discussion)
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How does Detecting Icebergs help SGT Hardy? Detecting icebergs
can help SGT Hardy move from the wrong fight to the right
conversation. Remember ACE * (any stressful situation can lead to
suicidal behavior) Ask what you can do to assist the Soldier in
succeeding. Care enough to listen and provide support. Escort the
Soldier to resources or be one yourself as a positive influence. DO
YOU HAVE AN ACE CARD? *This may not seem to be a life threatening
situation but financial problems often become overwhelming and seem
hopeless. The ACE process guides us to assist the Soldier. Have the
courage to act on behalf of a fellow Soldier. Never assume that
everything is good to go until you have checked. Social (Self
Awareness) - January Scenario Battle Buddy Aid Leader: Ask about
responsibility of Battle Buddies and how they can assist in the
situation and review ACE
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Social (Self Awareness) - January Healthy Social Fitness
Behaviors Leader: Ask your Soldiers to think of good social fitness
habits Healthy behaviors demonstrate RESPECT for ones self, others
and their cultures or beliefs: Standards and Discipline follow laws
and regulations Be honest, candid and maintain personal INTEGRITY
Be sensitive to others HONOR commitments to Family, fellow Soldiers
and unit Practice RESPECT of others Show RESPECT for the beliefs,
opinions, property and space of others Have PERSONAL COURAGE to act
on behalf of others when they do not have the ability or the
capacity to act on their own Know your community and your
responsibilities be a good citizen Develop a confident, positive
attitude
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NYARNG Family Programs Office, (877)715-7817 or
www.dmna.state.ny.us/family www.dmna.state.ny.us/family Director of
Psychological Health (DPH), (518)396-8993 Military Family Life
Consultant (MFLC), (518)925-4302 Military OneSource (NYARNG
Representative), (518)265-2901 Sexual Assault Response Coordinator
(SARC), (518)786-4734 State Chaplains Office, (518)461-2527
Military OneSource, (800)342-9647 or www.militaryonesource.com
www.militaryonesource.com Vets4Warriors peer support line,
(855)838-8255 / (855)VET-TALK, http://www.vets4warriors.com/
http://www.vets4warriors.com/ Social (Self Awareness) - January
Available Resources Leader: Reviews available resources and remind
Soldiers that seeking them is not a sign of weakness but part of
fitness