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Fall 2011

An Interview with the Mother of the Year

Raising a Volunteer

Crafts with Kids

Featuring…

Published by American Mothers, Inc.®

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American Mothers, Inc™ is dedicated to recognizing the important role of motherhood through educational programs and community outreach. By annually selecting the National Mother of the Year® and Young Mother from candidates across the United States, District of Columbia and Puerto Rico, it continues to promote mothers and the key role they play in the foundation of families

The first National Mother of the Year® award was presented by Honorary Chair, Sarah Delano Roosevelt, in 1935 at the Waldorf Astoria in New York City. Every year since then, American Mothers, Inc.™ has continued its tradition.

Mother of theYear

YoungMother of

theYear

To qualify for Mother of the Year®, the nominee’s children must be 18+To qualify for Young Mother of the Year, the nominee’s children must be under the age 18.

If you know someone you would like to nominate for the 2012 Mother of the Year®/ Young Mother of the Year, the nomination packet with detailed instructions will be available this Fall online at www.americanmothers.org

1666 K. Street, NW, Ste. 260 Washington, DC, 20006 1-877-242-4264 [email protected]

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4 Letter from the President

5 State Updates

10 Parenting: Seven Steps to Raising A Volunteer

12 Feature: 2011 Mother of The Year: Ernestine Allen

14 Feature: 2011 Young Mother of The Year: Shawnalee Pothier

16 Relationships: College Transitions

18 Profile: Crafts For Kids

19 Holiday: Grandparents Day

20 Perspective: The Invisible Mom

23 Essay: What My Mother Means to Me

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Letter from the DirectorAutumn is rapidly approaching. Are your pencils sharp-ened and planners ready to add all the extra carpool runs, sports, tutors

and earlier bedtimes? School shopping, extracurricular activities and help-ing with homework adds many extra responsibilities to your daily routine and makes this time of year particularly challenging for Mom. Make sure you remember these steps to make your back-to-school transition frazzle free.

1. Plan ahead. With all of the activ-ity that comes with back-to-school time, it is extremely important to keep yourself organized. One way you can do this is to plan for events ahead of time. That way, you won’t be rushed when the time comes to attend that parent-teacher conference, have that soccer uniform clean or prepare your child for that field trip.

2. Schedule in some “Mom time”. Even though our kids are our number one priority, it is also essential to take some time for ourselves. That will keep us from becoming stressed or frustrated when things begin to get a little too hectic and allow us to con-tinue to be the best mom we can for our family.

3. Connect with your “Mom network”. In addition to taking time for ourselves, it is also important that we take time to connect with our family, friends and of course, our AMI sisterhood. Spending time with others allows us to share as well as learn, both of which are extremely important in our motherhood journey.

American Mothers has had a busy summer, and we are planning a fall that is just as eventful. We are actively spreading the word of American Moth-ers to moms across the country and are working hard to connect women of all

ages for mentoring, advice and building lifelong relationships with their fel-low AMI members. In August, we had the opportunity to attend the MOPS (Mothers of Preschoolers) conference in Nashville, TN. This event allowed us to meet and network with many new moms and promote American Moth-ers in the process. We will be bringing American Mothers leadership to the nation’s capital for a board meeting in September and then again for the annual American Mothers National Convention on May 3 – 6, 2012. Mark your calendars to attend!

Help us continue to reach, teach and honor moms and the extraordinary jobs they do! Please tell your friends about American Mothers and encourage them to become part of our national network.

- Andrea Ball, Executive Director American Mothers, Inc.®

American Mothers, Inc™ is dedicated to recognizing the important role of motherhood through educational programs and community outreach. By annually selecting the National Mother of the Year® and Young Mother from candidates across the United States, District of Columbia and Puerto Rico, it continues to promote mothers and the key role they play in the foundation of families

The first National Mother of the Year® award was presented by Honorary Chair, Sarah Delano Roosevelt, in 1935 at the Waldorf Astoria in New York City. Every year since then, American Mothers, Inc.™ has continued its tradition.

Mother of theYear

YoungMother of

theYear

To qualify for Mother of the Year®, the nominee’s children must be 18+To qualify for Young Mother of the Year, the nominee’s children must be under the age 18.

If you know someone you would like to nominate for the 2012 Mother of the Year®/ Young Mother of the Year, the nomination packet with detailed instructions will be available this Fall online at www.americanmothers.org

1666 K. Street, NW, Ste. 260 Washington, DC, 20006 1-877-242-4264 [email protected]

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American Mothers, Inc.®Executive Director: Andrea BallCommunications: Sandy SponaugleMembership: Jacquie [email protected]

2011 AMI Board of DirectorsPresident: Connell Branan1st Vice President: Joan Braitsch2nd Vice President: Cristi Bulloch3rd Vice President: Kimberley SheltonSecretary: Sondra AndersonTreasurer: Valerie EarnshawArea I Coordinator: Sherri ZirkerArea III Coordinator: Tonia NantkesArea IV Coordinator: Mary ComptonArea VI Coordinator: Vivian DibbArea VII Coordinator: Johanna BuitArea VIII Coordinator: Marian MorrisonArea IX Coordinator: Genevieve ChampanaArea X Coordinator: Carolyn BranaganImmediate Past-President: Deanne TaylorBylaws Chairman: Yolanda PerezMother of the Year Search Chairman: Irene CostilowYoung Mother Search Chairman: Betsy LoweNominating Chairman: Sherri BoydPublic Relations: Dianne CallisterMembership Chairman: Kimberly WrightEducation Chairman: Julie StarrAwards Chairman: Miki FarrisLiteracy Chairman: Renee DunifonSpecial Projects Chairman: Jan Du PlainNational Mother of the Year®: Ernestine AllenNational Young Mother of the Year: Shawni Pothier

The American Mother MagazineEditor-In-Chief Sandy [email protected]

EditorDawn [email protected]

ContributorsJaimee Borger, Krista Brick, Tyler Miller, Mitzi Vince

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As my children head back to school I often wonder how the dog days of summer quickly faded into days of

homework, carpools and after-school activities. This summer, my son, who will be a sophomore in high school, be-gan the tedious and thought-provoking process of thinking about college. In fact, we recently toured several of them, large and small, in five differ-ent states and if we learned anything from this mini-adventure it was that he would rather be a small fish in a big pond and prefers a larger univer-sity setting over the atmosphere of a smaller college campus. I’ll admit, he gets that trait from his mother! I have always enjoyed being a part of some-thing big, which is why I am passion-ate about American Mothers!

An organization rich in history, Ameri-can Mothers has been honoring and recognizing outstanding moms for over seventy-five years. We have recognized mothers who are courageous, bold, in-novative and creative; moms who come from all walks of life, different states, different faiths and various cultural

and educational backgrounds. Mothers who are making a significant differ-ence, not just with their own children and families, but in their communities, states and our country. It is an organi-zation comprised of strong moms who strengthen families! Just imagine how much we can learn by their extraordi-nary example.

I encourage you to help us maintain and preserve this rich tradition by getting involved with AMI at the local or national level. Participate in one of our national service projects; nominate someone for Mother of the Year, Young Mother or one of our new Mother of Achievement awards in your state. You can also join our online conversation by logging on to our website, www.americanmothers.org.

As your children and grandchildren head back to school, American Moth-ers also begins a new and exciting year of reaching, teaching and honoring outstanding moms across the country. Join us in our journey of promoting the important role of motherhood and be a part of something big!

— Connell Branan, President American Mothers, Inc.®

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From the States

AlabamaAlabama has been in a little slump for a few years. However, there are two members who will never be in a slump when it comes to Ameri-can Mothers. Jean Pryor and Mary Martin have enjoyed AMI meetings, conventions and members since 1983. Jean was the Alabama Mother of the Year that year.

Jean has only missed one convention, and Mary has only missed two in all of these years. In 1994, Jean and Mary missed the convention because a tornado destroyed their homes just as they were getting ready to leave. This year, they could not help but remember the 1994 tornado, since during the 2011 Convention a terrible tornado destroyed many homes in Tuscaloosa, Alabama, not too far from where they live.

The two women have enjoyed all of the events throughout the years. Jean and Mary have served on the National Board and have been giants in their love and involvement in AMI, but they say that the best thing each year has been seeing their huge group of long-time friends and getting hugs from each of them. Jean and Mary will never forget these friends and just want to say, “Thanks, AMI, for the wonderful memories.”

– Dover Currie, Alabama State President

ArizonaThe Arizona Mothers Association of American Mothers, Inc. is excited to announce their new blog and website! This updated site is more in-teractive and allows members to post photos and content in a timelier manner than the current email. The association will continue their “Mon-day Smile” and “Monday Message”, but it will no longer be e-mailed. Bookmark the site, http://azmothers.com, for more information. Remem-ber to check it weekly for updates! The associa-tion welcomes your input and is also looking for mothers who would like to share experiences and ideas on the site and blog. It is a great way to stay

involved with other mothers, and it requires little time or commitment when you are away from home! If you would like more information, please contact Lynn Johnson at [email protected].

– Janeen Wright, Arizona State President

CaliforniaThe California mothers who attended the Nation-al Convention in Salt Lake City in April enjoyed being together and being a part of the wonderful events. We felt that all aspects of the convention were well planned, interesting and very educa-tional as well as delightful and entertaining. The venue was perfect with beautiful rooms and con-venient access to the events. We salute all those who worked so diligently in preparing for the Convention. We returned home feeling enthused and committed to AMI. Those who were attend-ing for the first time were amazed and delighted to be part of such an inspiring organization.

In other news, our 2010 California and National MOY, Dianne Callister; 2010 YMOY, Sara Dawn Mayer and the 2011 California YM, Tina HoCh-ing, have been invited to speak to many groups.

Send Us Your News!AMI wants to share your good news and experiences with our members!

Send your State Association updates and photos (must be 300+ dpi) to: [email protected].

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We have also delivered ABC quilts and baby hats to infants at Loma Linda UMC, and the 2011 California Gala received great publicity as we honored five California mothers. We are excited about the California Mothers Association of AMI, and we are on the MOVE!

– Dorothy DeVore, California State President

ColoradoMembers of the Colorado Mothers Association enjoyed our annual meeting in June. We heard re-ports from President Eleaner Scot and Secretary Lori Keeler who enjoyed attending the American Mothers National Convention in Utah. We were very happy to hear that they would have support from American Mothers in creating a website for the Colorado Mothers. They are waiting to hear the next step in getting this website created.

The Colorado Mothers Association is thrilled to see previous members becoming active members again. We are especially excited to have new, younger members joining the Association. We will collaborate with them in identifying resources that will help them in their roles as young moth-ers. The Association looks forward to learning

from these young mothers about the interaction of busy mothers through the use of blogging.

It appears that the Colorado Mothers Association of American Mothers, Inc. will have a great year in 2011-2012.

– Eleaner Scott, Colorado State President

GeorgiaThe Georgia Mothers Association has been very busy. The nine that attended the National Convention are sharing their experiences with everyone. On Mother’s Day, the Georgia Mothers held a breakfast for 100 homeless mothers and their children at a homeless shelter in downtown Atlanta. It was highly publicized on television and in the Atlanta Journal/Constitution, the number one paper in Georgia. There were 41 helpers who served and cared for the guests. Money was raised for this event through a grant.

The 2011 Georgia MOY, Terri Brown, has been very busy giving science lessons to the children at the same homeless shelter. She has also had the children brought to the local science center where she teaches for classroom lessons and instruction at the planetarium. The 2011 Georgia YM, Brandi

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The California 2011 Gala. Left to right: Christine “Tina” HoChing (CA YMOY), and Tauvaga HoChing from Upland, CA, Mandana (Los Angeles MOY) and Jamie Anvaripour from Palos Verdes, Karen (CA MOY) and Jim Nelson from Santa Barbara, Diana (Outstanding Service to Children Worldwide) and Scott Haskins from Santa Barbara, and Carol (San Diego MOY) and Chris Waddell.

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Allgood, has also been busy helping young chil-dren who are home from school for the summer. She has been highly featured in local newspapers.

Georgia Mothers member, Melissa Faye Green, has another great book on the market. No Biking in the House Without a Helmet, is a wonderful book about adopting children. Melissa has four children of her own (only one is still at home), and she and her husband have adopted five children from different parts of Africa. She has been on national and local television in the past two weeks. Melissa has won many national and international awards for the other five books she has written. Some may remember when Melissa was a guest speaker at the 1998 National Convention in Atlanta.

Georgia Mothers member, Ella Young, has won yet another great award for her books of poetry. Ella has won the Diamond Homer Poetry Award for Realities of Life and has been named to the Famous Poets Society of America. Her poem, “A Mother’s Wish” was a winner of the AMI poetry contest a few years ago.

The “Books for Babies” program is very important to the Georgia Mothers. The latest book, written by one of the members, has already been distrib-uted to over 6,000 children.

Members love the work they do through and for the Georgia Mothers Association of Ameri-can Mothers, Inc. and seeing the difference it can make in the lives of many mothers and their families.

– Emily Gunnells, Georgia State President

IllinoisThe Illinois Mothers Association of American Mothers, Inc. is pleased to announce the 2011 winners of the Illinois 5th Grade Essay Contest. They are students from the Gombert Elementary School in Aurora, Illinois. The first place win-ner is Kyria Lauren Wolf, and the second place winner is Ana Nikol Peduk. They were both given monetary prizes for their awards. Angela Halliday has served as the contest chairman for the past few years. She and her committee of judges have done an outstanding job.

Our next meeting will be on October 1, 2011, in Chatham, at the home of Deanna Langheim, the 2009 Illinois MOY. We plan to welcome the new members in the Quincy area at that time.

Bobbie Goettler, the 2010 Illinois YMOY, is gathering news for the Association’s website. We look forward to the search for the 2012 Illinois MOY and YMOY. There are many mothers and young mothers in the state who are qualified for this honor.

Dot Mau, 2000 Illinois MOY, was recently hon-ored by the City of Springfield as the Outstand-ing Citizen of Springfield for her fine services to the city. She gave the National Board members of AMI nice gift books on Abraham Lincoln and special historic bookmarks when they held their board meeting in Springfield.

The Illinois Mothers Association sends congratu-lations to the new National Board! We look for-ward to serving with all of you during your term.

– Dot Beldon, Illinois State President

IndianaThe Indiana Mothers Association of American Mothers, Inc. has been busy. We have chosen a new charity, “Healthier Moms and Babies”, and are hoping to be more involved in our communi-ties. This program will help moms and support them when they are having difficult pregnan-cies and/or life changes. We hope that we can help bring healthy babies into the world. We are excited about this mission and hope we can make a difference.

– Darlene Cyr, Indiana State President

KansasService in the heartland is the focus of the Kansas Mothers Association. We have put together comfort bags with a blanket, stuffed animals and books for the children af-fected by the tornadoes. There was help from an LDS quilting group. Books for Babies Chair, Karen Taylor, and Quilts for Children Chair, Kaye Gruver, coordinated the event. Connec-

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From the StatesYoung Mother, Ruth Ann Sullivan, and the 2011 Kentucky Mother of the Year, Susan Hill, were honored.The Kentucky Mothers continue to run the best program in their “Power of Positive Parenting” classes taught all around Oldham County to all interested parents. We are teaching in churches, schools and to special needs groups. You may view all of our events on www.kentucky-AMI.blogspot.com.

– Betsy Lowe, Kentucky State President

New HampshireThe New Hampshire Mothers Association of American Mothers, Inc. is focusing on the “Books for Babies” program with emphasis on moth-ers reading to their newborn babies and young children. We are also promoting the need for strong families in today’s society. Finally, we are honoring both mature and young mothers who are working hard to have strong families and are passing it on to other moms and families.

– Valerie Earnshaw, New Hampshire State President

North DakotaNorth Dakota had seven members attend the AMI National event in Salt Lake City, Utah. It was a great Convention. The Utah Convention Committee did a great job. They are to be com-mended for their work.

In the state, there is work on the Charter. The chapter is making baby quilts for the nursery at Trinity Hospital and have made over 200 cancer caps. These caps are given to cancer patients. The patients love them, and the caps help them out a lot, if and when they lose their hair.

The last State Meeting took place on June 25th at the home of Maybelle Opland. It’s now time to begin thinking about the search for the 2012 North Dakota MOY and YMOY.

–MayBelle Opland, North Dakota State President

MOY and YMOY Nominations!

Do you know a special mother? If so, nominate her for Mother of the Year, Young Mother or one of our new Mother of Achieve-ment Awards by visiting www.ameri-canmothers.org.

Nomination forms with the necessary information will be available this fall.

tions were made with a group that would hand-deliver the bags to families who have lost everything.

The 2011 Kansas Mother of the Year, Shari Barber, and her family were honored at the state’s annual Honors Gala. It was a night to remember with its great talent, wonderful food, beautiful decorations and superb company!

In September, Shari will be honored at the State Fair by Kansas Governor Sam Brownback.

“Celebrate Families the Hawaiian Way” was the theme of the June Family Picnic, talent show and family run. Guests were invited to attend, and hopefully, they saw the merits of the Kansas Mothers Association and of American Mothers and have asked to become members of this very worthy and needed organization.

– Louise Thiebaud, Kansas State President

KentuckyThe members of the Kentucky Mothers Associa-tion of American Mothers, Inc. are busy sharing the good works ofAMI. There have been 850 copies of the “Be Strong” and “In Control” book-lets distributed to the middle schools in North Oldham. There have been 60 ABC quilts do-nated to the Kosair Children’s Hospital, and our members have met with the community outreach manager at the Mayor of Louisville’s office. The annual “Celebration of Motherhood” event was held at the state capitol where the winners of the 5th grade essay contest; the 2011 Kentucky

Members of the Kentucky Association of American Mothers, Inc.

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was hosted by Senator Itzamar Peña, the former Las Piedras City Mayor, and a true supporter of the Puerto Rico Association of American Moth-ers. Our dear past National President, Deanne Taylor, and Mr. Devon Taylor witnessed the oc-casion with the Puerto Rico members. Deanne’s remarks were well accepted by the large audience in attendance. A reception followed the unveiling of the name of Norma Iris Colon, which is now engraved in the MOY’s plaque located in the main entrance corridor of the capitol building.

– Yolanda Perez, Puerto Rico State President

Texas

The Texas Association had a wonderful honors luncheon on April 18th before hurrying off to Utah for “Motherhood Elevated”. It was a great conference. Our San Antonio Chapter has a blog that is growing in popularity along with the chapter. They have held an honors luncheon and an “I Believe” meeting which were well at-tended. We honored our 5th Grade Essay Con-testant winners and received great feedback. We are planning on a State Quilting Bee along with a parenting conference that we hope to hold within the next year. We are happy to say that our AMI – Texas Association is growing.

– Marjorie Barton, Texas State President

Oklahoma After a WONDERFUL time in Salt Lake City, we are settling into summer and planning our fall events with renewed enthusiasm! We are proud of our national officers, President Connell Branan and Search Chairman Irene Costilow. We are also proud of our 5th Grade Essay National Winner, Andrea Perez. Our 2011 Mother of the Year, Miki Farris, continues to work hard with her service to Oklahoma babies and just celebrated serving her 150,000th baby with Infant Crisis Services! Our Young Mother, Jennifer King, is working with the state legislature to find help for families who home-school, specifically those who deal with learning disabilities. Jennifer also volunteers her time to work with the Leukemia Lymphoma support organization. Our mothers are working in women’s prisons, homeless shelters and are supporting families of soldiers returning from war with post traumatic stress disorder, single moth-ers and students from foreign countries who are living in our state.

–Sherri Boyd, Oklahoma State President & Irene Costilow, Oklahoma Search Chairman

OregonOn June 5, 2011, the Oregon Mothers Associa-tion proudly celebrated the completion of second phase of the Walk of the Heroines Garden. Phase two includes the addition of the stage and stage wall, beautiful sculptures and the engraving of new heroine names, including the Oregon Moth-ers Association. The ceremony was held at Hoff-man Hall, next to the Gardens, on the campus of the Portland State University campus. The name of Jacki Hunlow, the 2011 Oregon MOY, is en-graved on this wall. A plaque with all of the names of the Oregon Mothers of the Year since 1945 is included.

– Jeanne Card, Oregon State President

Puerto RicoThe thirteen 2011Merit Mothers and the 2011 Puerto Rico Mother of the Year, Norma Iris Colon, were honored on May 26, 2011, by the Senate of Puerto Rico. The recognition ceremony

Marjorie T. Barton, President, AMI - Texas Association and Alijah Burrell, 5th Grade Essay Contest State Winner.

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Seven Steps for Raising a

Raising children can be hard work. In addition to being responsible, compassionate and intel-ligent individuals, we often hope that our chil-dren will grow up to be good citizens, actively engaged in making our communities better places to live and work. The following tips are great ways to begin exposing your child to the world of service and volunteerism.

1. Lead by example. In the words of James Baldwin, “Children have never been very good at listening to their elders, but they have never failed to imitate them.” As we know – and sometimes to our detriment –children are very observant. If they are given ex-amples of service and volunteerism from elders

that they respect, like their parents or guard-ians, chances are likely that they will follow in the same footsteps. Show your child ways he or she can make a positive difference in the world by talking about your own volunteer efforts and showing him or her how you dedicate your time to helping others.

2. Harvest your child’s interests for good. Think about what interests your child and consider ways they could use that passion to help others. Do you have a little artist in your household? Encourage him or her to create something and share it with children at a local hospital. Is your child all about animals and pets? Take him or her to the local animal shelter and see if there are any easy tasks for them to do. We are more motivated to spend our time doing something we’re passionate about, and volunteerism is no exception.

3. Volunteer as a family. As children, we may have thought of family outings as boring or “uncool” things that we were forced to do with our parents, but as we get older, we start to appreciate those times and desire to have those same experiences with our own children. Volunteering as a family could have the same effect. Not only will you have an opportunity to spend time together as a family, but you’ll be making a difference in your com-munity and planting a seed of service in your child for the future.

About the AuthorMitzi Vince is the communications coordinator for Volunteer West Virginia, the state’s Commission for National and Com-munity Service. The agency administers federal grant funds to AmeriCorps* State programs throughout West Virginia, which help address issues relating to education, health and public safety, the environment and veterans. The agency also manages the statewide West Virginia Citizen Corps program, helping individuals and organizations prepare themselves and their communities for emergencies. In addition to these critical programs, Volunteer West Virginia coordinates the West Vir-ginia Business Volunteer Council, an online volunteer matching database, and the largest statewide conference on service and volunteerism in the state. For more information about Volun-teer West Virginia, visit www.volunteerwv.org.

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Vol unteer4. Educate your child on local needs. We don’t always know the specific needs in our communities. Maybe your local food shel-ters are struggling to collect food donations. Perhaps your community has a growing home-less population. Teaching children about the specific needs “in your own backyard” can help them open their eyes to issues that their own neighbors and peers could be facing, and thus create more motivation to help out those that we see that are in need.

5. Encourage a charity donation. If you give your child an allowance for chores accomplished around the house, consider encouraging him or her to save a portion to give to a cause of their choice. You could also get your child involved in fundraising efforts by allowing him or her to have a lemonade stand or mini yard sale with a portion of the proceeds going to charity. National studies show that by encouraging children to give at a young age, they continue to give as adults. This includes both time and money.

6. Allow time for reflection. After each volunteer experience, take the time to reflect on the event and encourage your child to do the same. Think about what was learned, enjoyed or disliked. By reflecting on your vol-unteer experiences with your child, the lines of communication are opened, and volunteerism can become a more important factor in your day-to-day discussions and behaviors.

7. Learn about national service opportunities. National service programs like AmeriCorps are great service tools for people of all ages. For your child, serving as an AmeriCorps member could help him or her gain valuable skills and scholarship money for college. Encourage your child to research these popular opportunities or gather the information yourself for your child’s future if he or she is too young to serve at this time. Visit www.americorps.gov for more information.

There are many other ways to get your child in-volved in volunteerism, but these tips can help you get started. The main factor is to make vol-unteerism a fun activity that is relevant to your family’s life and interests. Happy volunteering!

By: Mitzi Vince

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Ernestine Allen is recognized as a loving caregiver by all who know her. She has never limited her mothering to her own children only, but extended herself to the children of her com-munity, her church family and the students she taught in school.

Ernestine represented Washington, D.C. as their “2011 Mother of the Year”, and she still expresses her surprise over when she was cho-sen in April to represent the entire country as “National Mother of the Year” at the 76th An-nual American Mothers National Convention. “I met so many wonderful women there. I am humbled by this great honor. All of the ladies exemplified the best in motherhood, which is the foundation of a strong society,” Ernestine says. “I asked myself- ‘why should I get an award for something that is so natural for me?’ Motherhood flows through my blood; so, I’m questioning what God’s purpose is for me here.”

Ernestine grew up on a farm in Louisburg, North Carolina. She was the 10th of 18 chil-dren. She describes her childhood as “happy but full of hard work”. “We didn’t have a whole lot, but we had unconditional love, and we learned to appreciate what we had. I learned early in my life that I had to exceed my parents’ expectations, and I always had a desire to excel. My parents always encouraged us to do our best and to help others whenever it was possible.”

Ernestine says it was these lessons that mo-tivated her to pursue her education. Ernes-tine earned a bachelor’s degree in elementary education from the University of the District of Columbia and later, a Master’s degree in Education Administration from Trinity College. She also achieved an Administrative Service Credential.

Ernestine began her teaching career at a Chris-tian Academy where she taught kindergarten through fourth grade for 11 years. However, it

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wasn’t until she began teaching in the DC Public School System that she felt she was making the most difference in her students’ lives. “Teaching in the public school system was one of the most rewarding times of my life,” she states. It was there that Ernestine felt she had really touched the hearts and minds of her students. Many of her students thought of her as “mom” and some even called her that. Some still keep in contact with her and thank her for the positive impact she had on their lives. “I deeply appreciate knowing that the knowledge I shared with my students en-riched their lives and has not been forgotten,” Ernestine says.

Ernestine and her husband Ronald have been married 42 years, and she considers their union a team, and is proud of the work they do together at home, church and in the commu-nity. Their oldest son, Ronald Jr., is an artist manager for gospel groups. Son Omar has a courier business. Ernestine and Ronald have six grandchildren ages 1 to 12 with only one girl. “I consider the grandchildren the joy of my life and spend as much time as possible with them,” Ernestine describes.

Ernestine’s most admirable qualities are her obvious strength of character, Christian faith and her genuine concern for the needs of others. She was able to face life after the death of her youngest son in 2006 due to her inner strength and faith in God. She and her husband Ronald found solace in the “Bereaved Parent Support Group” they established. This is a ministry that encourages and supports other parents who are suffering the loss a child to death. The group meets once a month, and Ernestine and Ronald even visit the homes of those who are grieving but do not feel comfortable in a group setting. “We talk and pray together, and I let them know they are not alone,” she explains.

In addition to the support group, Ernestine is active in numerous other community and church activities. She is a certified HIV tester and counselor, as well as a pre-marriage and marriage counselor at her church. She assists in a food and clothing bank and also makes a monthly visit with a group of ministers to Fairview Women’s Facility. In her free time, Ernestine enjoys family life and her hobbies of cooking, sewing and reading.

There are two pieces of advice that Ernestine believes are important to share with other moms. “My first piece of advice is something I learned very early as a mom. If you have more than one child, treat them as individuals because they have their own minds and personalities. Never compare them,” she says. “The second piece of advice that I learned as a mom was to not address everything your children do. As parents we must learn to slowly let go and allow them to grow and make their own decisions. This builds their confidence in themselves, and we, as parents, can feel more secure.”

For her year as the 2011 National Mother, Ernestine has set goals and is very passionate about her desire to educate young mothers in knowing the importance and joys of motherhood.” I want to be the voice of this great organiza-tion and be an example of the American Mothers Pledge,” she says. “It is also my desire to reach as many young mothers as I can during my year as National Mother especially African American mothers and encourage them to join this great orga-nization.” Ernestine has been making appearances on behalf of American Mothers and shares the news of the organization. She is truly a mom who makes a difference.

National Mother Year: Ernestine Allen

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Raised by a mother and father who authored several parenting books, Shawnalee “Shawni” Pothier was destined for motherhood. Yet, it came as a surprise to her when she was named the 2011 National Young Mother of the Year at the American Mothers National Convention in April. “I was overwhelmed, but very humbled,” she describes. “It is quite an honor.”

Born in Alexandria, Virginia, as the second of nine children, Shawni’s childhood was full of adventure. “Since my parents wrote and did consulting work, we were flexible to travel. I lived in several different countries when I was younger,” she explains. England, Japan, Mexico and the Philippines were just a few countries that Shawni called home as a child. She also lived in D.C. and Utah. Yet out of all of her experi-ences, Shawni recalls one of her favorite childhood memories taking place in the mountains of Oregon. “One summer, we built a log cabin. It was hard work that we did together as a family, but it bonded us and taught us value,” she says.

Shawni expanded her love of traveling into her college years. She at-tended Boston University for her freshman year and studied abroad in Jerusalem. Then, she served as a missionary in Romania before heading to Brigham Young University to complete a degree in social work. Shawni credits traveling and the opportunity to experience other cultures for helping her overcome her shyness and also teach her an important lesson about motherhood. “It helped me come out of my shell, but it also showed me that motherhood is the same all over the world,” she explains. “Mothers want what is best for their children in the Philippines just the same as they do in Japan or the United States.”

Motherhood is Shawni’s career as well as her passion, and it is evident in her daily life. With a popular blog, a published book and frequent speaking engagements with Time Out for Women, Shawni works hard to promote the journey and magic of motherhood.

Shawni’s blog, 71toes.blogspot.com, began as a way to keep in touch with her family but is now read my thousands. “My blog has just sort of taken off mainly by word-of-mouth. It’s just a way for me to give and get ideas about parenting while sharing stories about my family,” Shawni explains. “I love the motherhood journey that I am on, and that is one of the reasons I keep my blog. I want to share the beauty of motherhood, and I hope to help other mothers feel the joy that I do as a mom. My wish is that the posts I write there not only help me truly cherish the moments that make up my own mothering, but that I can help enrich the experiences of other mothers through the ideas and epiphanies I share.”

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Shawni’s first book, A Mother’s Book of Secrets, was co-written with her mother and includes “secrets” on how to make motherhood “more meaningful, memorable and magnificent”. The book is comprised of 40 “secrets”. Twenty are from Shawni, who describes herself as being in the “trenches” of motherhood with her five children, and twenty are from her mother, who has raised 9 children and has become a parenting expert along the way.

In addition to her blog and book, Shawni also presents ideas on motherhood alongside her own mother for Time Out for Women, a pro-gram with a mission to “be one more encour-aging voice in this often challenging world”. It reaches out to women by putting on events all over the United States and has recently added events in Canada and Australia.”My mom and I have felt so lucky to get to meet so many inspiring women as we speak in different cities and share our message of joy in the journey of motherhood,” Shawni says.

As for life at home, Shawni and her husband, David, have been happily married for 16 years. They have five children: Max, 14; Elle, 13; Grace, 10; Claire, 7 and Lucy, 4. Shawni uses her favorite hobby, photography to capture family moments. To bond, the family has a “Family Home Evening” once a week where they pray, sing, discuss “family business” and have lessons on things that Shawni or David have noticed around the house that needs to be worked on – such as how to be more respectful or putting dirty socks in the hamper. Another activity that connects the Pothiers and builds their strength as a family is ad-vocating for the Foundation Fighting Blind-ness. “My daughter, Lucy, has a rare genetic syndrome called Bardet-Biedl which causes, amidst a myriad of other health issues, blind-ness. As my husband and I have come to grips with the heartbreak of how to help prepare

a child to someday lose her vision, we have found organizations that are doing aggressive research to help change the future of vision loss. As we adhere ourselves to them help-ing with ‘Vision Walks’ and making donations however we can, our family has become more united and more aware of so many needs oth-ers face in the world. Being involved in our community has enriched my life as well

as the life of my family. It has bonded us together and made us stronger than we could have imagined,” Shawni explains.

An active member in her church, Shawni has served in numerous positions within her congregation. Currently, she works with 32 young women helping them make good deci-sions and establish strong values in their lives as they grow in their faith. Shawni has also served as a member of the Stake Pri-mary Presidency, represent-ing 10 smaller churches in her area, and as a counselor in numerous presidencies that work with youth.

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Mother-daughter relationships are never easy to explain. They can be hard for an outsider to understand or even decipher. They are a complex mixture of arguments, laughter and unconditional love, but most of all, they are one of the strongest bonds that we share.

My own personal relationship with my mother was nothing less. I have always described myself as more of a “daddy’s girl”, growing up as an only child from a middle class family in the Midwest, being somewhat spoiled and having my father seemingly wrapped around my finger. The parenting roles in my family were simple. My father always said “yes” while my mother was the enforcer, the voice of reason and often times, the one who told me “no”. My mother and I had our fair share of fights as I was approaching my teens and entering high school. However, since moving away and going off to college two years ago, I have found that my once foreseen enemy has now become my best friend and the person I find myself turning to the most.

I now live over 300 miles and a state away from my family, and while it has enabled me to become more independent and learn about myself, it has also taught me the lesson that most women don’t want to admit. My mother was right. Now, I cannot go more than a day without calling her up to dish about the latest news in my life and to get a little advice about everything from relationships to my weekend plans. I have also come to realize what made us argue in the first place. I may be a daddy’s girl, but deep down and more than anything, I am my mother’s daughter. In a strange way I see a lot of my mother in me. I will catch myself doing things that I once ridiculed her for doing because I thought of them as embarrassing. As I get older I look back at the decisions

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that she has made and the wise words that she tried so hard to bestow upon me, and I am able to understand her and see her not just as my mom but the amazing, independent woman that she is.

I now appreciate and value our relationship more than I thought I ever would, and I just try to remember that for every “I told you so” I may hear, there seems to be a hundred “I love you” moments that make us forget what we were even fighting about in the first place. That is what our relationship is in a nutshell. We may disagree at times, but I understand that mothers are truly the most influential people in our lives. They shape our personalities and have a profound impact on the people we have become. I consider myself to be fortunate enough to be able to recognize the strengths and weaknesses in the relationship between my mother and I, but I wouldn’t change a thing. We are who are mothers help us to become, and my mother is my biggest cheerleader.

So, when times seem stressful and almost unbearable or when you think you have reached your breaking point with us, remember mothers, that we do appreciate all that you do whether or not we show it in the most obvious (or gracious) ways.

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When we are on our own for the first time, it is comforting to know that we still have our parents to depend on and that you’re still there for us to turn to. However, the first year away at school is one filled with new experiences, decisions and even some mistakes that we have to make for ourselves. It is a time to mature, grow and find our own sense of independence. A quick call or text once a day or every other day is great, and it lets us know that you’re thinking about us. However, don’t pressure us to tell you every detail of our new lives.

Care packages are always encouraged!

Giving us a small gift with a reminder of home is always an appreciated surprise. Life away from home can be hard, and we certainly aren’t living the way we’re used to (think Ramen noodles, dining hall food, stressful classes and homework, all while trying to make new friends and have fun). Care packages with a mixture of needs and desires are something to keep in mind. Include favorite foods or treats you know we like, essentials like toothpaste or deodorant, photos and of course, a little note from mom!

Make sure to say “good-bye” before the day actually arrives.

My mother and I were so caught up with trying to make sure I had everything I needed before school started that when the day came to move into my dorm I felt as though time had run out. Make sure to plan special things for you and your children to do before it is time for them to go. This will also give you both some lasting memories and fun experiences to share together.

Tyler Miller is a junior at Shepherd University majoring in communications / new media. She interned for Platinum PR in summer 2011, where she was able to experience different aspects of public relations for a variety of organizations including American Mothers.

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Cari Aliveto Rosen is a young mother of two identical six year old girls, Eve and Zoe, from Shepherdstown, W. Va. She is an art-ist and silversmith by trade, making custom jewelry and other unique crafts at her store, Plum, which she co-owns with her husband, David Rosen.

Cari never saw herself as much of an artist in the beginning, having majored in elementary education in college and received her Masters in elementary administration, but after teaching for seven years and having her two daughters, Cari made the decision to become a full-time mom so she could devote more time to her girls. That is when her artistic side started to take over.

“I needed a creative outlet at the time and jewelry making was something that I enjoyed doing,” said Cari.

Cari’s hobby soon took flight as friends and family members began to notice her artistic abilities.

“It started out as me just making jewelry out of our home and selling some of my work online, but I soon decided that I wanted a studio space of my own. That’s how the first store came to be,” said Cari.

This past June, Cari moved her store to a new and bigger location in Shepherdstown, expand-ing and growing her business.

“Moving to the new location is probably the best thing we’ve done for the business so far. It has allowed us to do so much more with the shop than I ever thought possible,” she explains.

Now, Cari is able to offer classes in a much larg-er space, which can accommodate more students that want to learn the art of jewelry making.

“The new space allows us to do so much more,” Cari says. “It is such an open and inviting atmosphere that is kid-friendly and really encourages creativity.”

Cari offers a wide range of classes for all skill levels, but one of her most popular classes so far has been for a much younger group of learners. The children’s classes that Cari teaches allows young girls and boys to come and explore different art forms and be creative, making things such as shrinky-dink jewelry, crystal beaded bracelets and rings, friendship bracelets and more.

“I try to find projects that I think children will be interested in and are appropriate for their age and skill level,” says Cari. “But what I have found surprising is the amount of creativity and artistic ability that such young children possess.”

Somehow, Rosen manages to have it all, balanc-ing her family, career ambitions, an outlet for her creativity and teaching.

“I get my inspiration as well as my motivation from other mothers like myself who seem to manage it all,” said Rosen. “It is comforting to know that there are other moms out there just like me, and I always love hearing their stories of how they do it all.”

Cari’s daughters, Eve and Zoe, with other young children creating shrinky dink jewelry during one of the classes at Plum.

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It seems that there is a holiday for everything. There is Boss’s Day in Oc-tober, National Doctors’ Day in March, Sister’s Day in August and Administra-tive Professionals’ Day in April.

Yet, squeezed between Labor Day and Citizenship Day, is a day to honor some of the most important people in the lives of families.

National Grandparents Day, a holiday to honor the oldest members of the family, is September 11, 2011, this year. It is always observed on the first Sunday after Labor Day.

Marian Lucille Herndon McQuade, who lived in West Virginia and worked with senior citizens for many years, founded the holiday. She campaigned locally in 1970, and with the help of U.S. Senator Jennings Randolph (D-W.Va.), McQuade was able to convince West Virginia Governor Arch Moore to declare a state holiday for grandpar-ents in 1973.

Randolph introduced a similar resolu-tion in Congress that same year, but it floundered until it gained enough votes to enact National Grandparents Day in 1978. President Jimmy Carter officially proclaimed the holiday in September to coincide with the “autumn years” of life. The purpose of the day is not only to honor grandparents but to also help younger generations be aware of the strength, information and guidance that can be gained from seniors.

For her effort, The U.S. Postal Service honored McQuade with a commemorative envelope bearing her likeness on the tenth anniversary of the holiday. McQuade died at the age of 91. She was the mother of 15 children, grandmother of 43 and great-grandmother of 15.

According to the AARP, there are an estimated 70 to 80 million grandpar-ents in the United States, and more than 2.4 million of those grandparents are the primary caretakers for their grandchildren.

To help celebrate the holiday, card stores carry special greetings to send to grandparents living out of the area. There are cards with sound, recordable voice cards and cards with large print. For tech-savvy grandparents, several companies like Blue Mountain Greet-ings, E-Cards and Hallmark.com offer online cards. Skyping a long-distance grandparent can also be a fun way to celebrate the holiday.

Amy Goyer, Coordinator of the AARP Grandparent Information Center, sug-gests finding ways to make a grandpar-ent or even an elderly family friend feel important on Grandparents Day. Plan-ning an outing or a special dinner is a great way to make their day. Writing a letter describing how important they are to the family is something they can read over and over again.

Goyer suggests helping grandchildren write a series of cards to mail to their

grandparents once a week to keep in touch even when schedules get busy. Creating a memory book highlight-ing pictures of family get-togethers is another excellent way to show the importance of the older generation to the family unit.

Since this year’s holiday falls on September 11th, the National Grand-parents Council, the non-profit corpo-ration established by a descendent of McQuade’s to enhance celebrations of this holiday, created a special honor.

In addition to honoring a National Grandparent of the Year, this year the group is accepting nominations to honor the heroes of September 11th. The award is called the “National Grandparents/Patriots of the Year” and is open to grandparents who served in the military, were onsite at the Twin Towers on September 11 or lost a loved one due to the September 11, 2001 terrorist attacks.

By Krista Brick

Krista Brick is a mother of four and an established writer. She has worked as a reporter for several newspapers and magazines in the Maryland area. Currently, she is a writer at Platinum PR.

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It started to happen gradually. One day I was walking my son Jake to school. I was holding his hand, and we were about to cross the street when the crossing guard asked him, “Who is that with you young fella?” ‘Nobody,’ he shrugged. Nobody? The crossing guard and I laughed. My son is only five, but as we crossed the street I thought, “Oh my goodness… nobody?”

I would walk into a room and no one would notice. I would say something to my family – like “turn the TV down, please” – and nothing would happen. Nobody would get up or even make a move for the remote. I would stand there for a minute, and then, I would say it again, a little louder. “Would someone turn the TV down?” Nothing.

Just the other night, my husband and I were out at a party. We’d been there for about three hours, and I was ready to leave. I noticed he was talking to a friend from work. So I walked over, and when there was a break in the conver-sation, I whispered, “I’m ready to go when you are.” He just kept right on talking.

That’s when I started to put all the pieces together. I don’t think he can see me. I don’t think anyone can see me.

I’m invisible. It all began to make sense, the blank stares, the lack of response, the way one of the kids will walk into the room while I’m on the phone and ask to be taken to the store. Inside, I’m thinking. “Can’t you see that I’m on the phone?” Obviously not. No one can see if I’m on the phone, cooking, sweeping the floor or even standing on my head in the corner, because no one can see me at all.

I’m invisible.

Some days I am only a pair of hands and noth-ing more. “Can you fix this? Can you tie this? Can you open this?”

Some days I’m not a pair of hands: I’m not even a human being. I’m a clock to ask, “What time is it?” I’m a satellite guide to answer, “What number is the Disney Channel?” I’m a car to order, “Right around 5:30, please.” I

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much time carving that bird into a beam that will be covered by the roof? No one will ever see it.” The workman replied, “Because God sees it.”

I closed the book, feeling the missing piece fall into place. It was almost as if I heard God whispering to me, “I see you, Charlotte. I see the sacrifices you make every day, even when no one around you does. No act of kindness you’ve done, no sequin you’ve sewn on and no cupcake you’ve baked is too small for me to notice and smile. You are building a great cathedral, but you can’t see what it will become right now.”

At times, my invisibility feels like an affliction, but it is not a disease that is erasing my life. It is the cure for the disease of my own self-centeredness. It is the antidote to my strong, stubborn pride. I keep the right perspective when I see myself as a great builder. I see myself as one of the people who show up for a job that they will never see finished, to work on something that their name will never be on. The writer of the book went so far as to say that no cathedrals could ever be built in our lifetime because there are so few people willing to sacri-fice to that degree.

When I really think about it, I don’t want my son to tell his friend he’s brought home from college for Thanksgiving, “My mom gets up at 4 a.m. and bakes homemade pies, and then she hand bastes a turkey for three hours and press-es all the lines for the table.” That would mean I’d built a shrine or a monument to myself. I just want him to want to come home, and then if there is anything more to say to his friend, he’d add “You’re going to love it there.”

As mothers, we are building great cathedrals. We cannot be seen if we’re doing it right, but one day, it is very possible that the world will marvel not only at what we have built, but at the beauty that has been added to the world by the sacrifices of invisible mothers.

was certain that these were the hands that once held books, the eyes that studied history and the mind that graduated summa cum laude, but now they had disappeared into the peanut but-ter, never to be seen again.

She’s going…she’s going…she’s gone!

One night, a group of us were having dinner, celebrating the return of a friend from England. Janice had just gotten back from a fabulous trip, and she was going on and on about the hotel she stayed in. I was sitting there, look-ing around at the others all put together so well. It was hard not to compare and feel sorry for myself as I looked down at my out-of-style dress. It was the only thing I could find that was clean. My unwashed hair was pulled up in a banana clip, and I was afraid I could actually smell peanut butter in it. I was feeling pretty pathetic when Janice turned to me with a beau-tifully wrapped package and said, “I brought you this.”

It was a book on the great cathedrals of Europe. I wasn’t exactly sure why she’d given it to me until I read her inscription. “To Charlotte, with admiration for the greatness of what you are building when no one sees.”

In the days ahead, I would read – no devour – the book, and I would discover what would become for me, four life-changing truths, after which I would pattern my work:

1. No one can say who built the great cathedrals.

2. We have no record of their names.

3. These builders gave their whole lives for a work they would never see finished.

4. They made great sacrifices and expected no credit. The passion of their building was fueled by their faith that the eyes of God saw everything.

A legendary story in the book told of a rich man who came to visit the cathedral while it was be-ing built, and he saw a workman carving a tiny bird on the inside of a beam. He was puzzled and asked the man, “Why are you spending so

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Motherhood has taught Shawni many things, but there is one particular lesson in which she lives her life. “Be present and enjoy the moments.” This mantra is important because Shawni knows that the motherhood “mo-ments” with small children will be gone before she knows it. Her favorite quote on mother-hood comes from Anna Quindlen and reminds her of this. “...the biggest mistake I made is the one that most of us make...I did not live in the moment enough.” Shawni attests that this is particularly clear once the moment has passed and can only be remembered through photographs. “There is one picture of three of my children sitting in the grass on a quilt in the shadow of the swing-set on a summer day when they were 6, 4 and 1, and I wish I could remember what we ate, what we talked about, how they sounded and how they looked when they slept that night. I wish I had not been in such a hurry to get on to the next thing: din-ner, bath, book and bed. I wish I had trea-sured the ‘doing’ a little more and the ‘getting it done’ a little less,” she says.

Shawni says that her mother always used to tell her that “life is long”, and she tries to remind herself of that on a regular basis. “We have all of our lives to develop and do differ-ent things; so we need to stop and enjoy the moments of motherhood amidst the chaos because they will be gone before we know it,” she adds.

Motherhood has power. It can transform fami-lies, and strong families can change societies. Shawni hopes that through being involved with American Mothers, Inc. she will be able to help promote the wonder of motherhood and in turn, strengthen families. One of the ways that Shawni will work towards this goal is by hosting a “motherhood retreat” in Phoenix in conjunction with her sister, who runs an or-ganization called “Power of Moms” (powerof-moms.com). “It will strive to empower mothers in their ‘job’. One of the most important ones there are,” she exclaims. With her adoration of motherhood and her enthusiasm about sharing its importance to others, Shawni is no doubt a mom making a difference.

UtahWhat a wonderful National Convention! Utah has been so blessed to have hosted the Convention this year. Our State Association truly loved meet-ing everyone and making friendships that will last forever. The Association will continue to be busy throughout the summer and into the fall. In July, we volunteered to help with a triathlon race that was held on July 9th. This was a great fundraiser for us. In August, all of our moms will be offered a Lagoon (amusement park) Day Pass. In the fall, we will have our Mini-Conferences and begin the search for the 2012 MOY and YMOY. We would also like to do more with the 5th Grade Essay Contest this year and get more schools across the state to participate.

We feel really blessed to have two wonderful mothers as the representatives from our state this year. Both Emi and Sally have had numerous opportunities to speak and attend many events honoring mothers. They have been on local TV and radio stations. They have also had some great articles written about them and AMI in the news-papers. They both will be riding in several differ-ent parades throughout the state this summer.

The Utah Mothers are grateful for all of the mothers in the states and the nation who strive each day to fulfill their most important role, that of a mother. Mothers truly bless lives every day. They are always in our thoughts and prayers.

– Jenneice Beckstrand, Utah State President

Washington StateThe Washington Association of AMI found a wonderful endearment of love for a mother from our 5th Grade Essay Contest. Rachel Smith, from Little Cedars Elementary School in Snohomish, and the other entries showed their appreciation for all that their mothers do for them with their personal essays. When describing her mother, Rachel says, “...she is the ray of sunshine and the light that guides the way”. Rachel received a $25 gift certificate of her choice in which she purchased some gardening supplies at the local store for Mother’s Day. We are very happy to be another reason that these students’ relationships with their mothers are strengthening from their thoughtful words.

– Pam Shinsato, Washington State President

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My mother means comfort. She’s always there for me and makes me feel comfortable even in odd situations. Home is my mother. Home is always where she is.

Love and Mom are the same words for me. She kisses all my boo-boos and hugs away my pains. I have let her down plenty of times, but she has never stopped telling me she loves me.

My mother means courage. She has gone through a lot in life and has kept a good spirit. Mom has never stopped trying to do what’s right.

Mom means faith to me. She has unlimited faith in my brothers and me. My mother believes we can always do whatever we want. She prays for us.

My mother means life. She gave me life when she could have chosen otherwise. She gave me life and wants me to live it to the best of my ability.

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