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Swimming for Sophie: A Story of Strengths, Resilience
and Success
Dr. Alex Linley
Capp
www.cappeu.com
Introduction
On Saturday 29 January 2011, I completed a 200m swim in water of 0-
1C across Britain‟s coldest lake, Llyn Llydaw on Snowdon.
“Why?!” you might legitimately ask! My extreme swim was in aid of
the Children‟s Heart Appeal at Birmingham Children‟s Hospital,
who saved my youngest daughter Sophie‟s life when she was just
13 months old.
I set out to raise £20,000 towards the Appeal target of £2m. What I
didn‟t realise was just how much I would learn along the way. This
is what I want to share with you through this presentation.
This is my story of Swimming for Sophie.
A Story in Six Parts
Part 1: In the Beginning
Part 2: The Call
Part 3: The Spark
Part 4: The Trials
Part 5: The Challenge
Part 6: The Homecoming
Part 1: In the Beginning
Sophie was born on Wednesday 4
December 2002 at 8.12pm.
Between the ages of 6 and 13 months,
she was admitted to hospital eight
times, with a range of chest
complications.
Ultimately, on Thursday 29 January 2004,
she was transferred by ambulance to
Birmingham Children‟s Hospital for
further investigation.
We didn‟t know it at the time, but she
was born with co-arctation of the
aorta, or a narrowed artery. Dr. De
Giovanni at BCH diagnosed this and
operated on the same day.
Sophie aged 8 months
Part 1: In the Beginning
Watching my little girl go to sleep with
the anaesthetic was the hardest thing
I have ever had to do. I felt so
powerless as her questioning eyes
looked at me as if to say “What‟s
happening, Dad?” and there was
nothing I could do to answer her.
Within hours, Sophie was fine and well on
the way to making a full recovery.
She was on six different medications for a
time, with the last one finishing after
three years.
We resolved that one day we would do
something to say thank you to BCH
for saving our daughter‟s life. We just
didn‟t know what it would be...
Sophie aged 8 months
Life Lesson 1: Growth through Adversity
The five dimensions of posttraumatic
growth:
• Relating to others
• New possibilities
• Personal strength
• Spiritual change
• Appreciation of life
“You judge a man by the size of the problems
he can cope with. Judging by that, you
have broad shoulders, son.”
Part 2: The Call
The desire to thank Birmingham Children‟s
Hospital still rested deep within me.
The catalyst which sparked it into life was
seeing the launch of the Children‟s
Heart Appeal on BBC Midlands Today.
What to do?
As Founding Director of Capp, I knew I had
an organisation I could persuade to
support me.
As a Catalyst myself, I knew I could do
something that would inspire others.
And through all of our work on strengths, I
knew that this was the place to begin.
Life Lesson 2: Aligning Strengths to Goals
Aligning strengths to goals with the
Realise2 4M model (see
www.Realise2.com):
Marshal Realised Strengths - use them
appropriately for your situation and
context.
Moderate Learned Behaviours - use them
in moderation and only when you
need to.
Minimise Weaknesses - use them as little
as possible and only where necessary.
Maximise Unrealised Strengths - find
opportunities to use them more.
Alex’s Strengths for the Swim
v
v
v
1) Adventure
2) Mission
3) Courage
4) Centred
5) Curiosity
1) Legacy
2) Catalyst
3) Innovation
4) Drive
5) Scribe
1) Work Ethic
2) Spotlight
3) Resolver
1) Adherence
2) Persistence
3) Planful
Marshalling Realised Strengths
Some of my realised strengths easily lent themselves to the project
that would become “Alex‟s Extreme Swim”:
Legacy: I‟m always focused on doing something that will leave a
lasting positive difference.
Catalyst: I love to inspire people to take action for themselves.
Innovation: I feel like I was born to do things that are new and
original.
Drive: I‟m prepared to go above and beyond.
Scribe: I love writing things for others to read.
Moderating Learned Behaviours
Some of my learned behaviours gave us pause for caution, others
actually suggested opportunities – as long as they weren‟t
overplayed!
Work Ethic: I‟m prepared to work hard and put in the effort that‟s
needed to get things done.
Spotlight: I‟m quite happy being the centre of attention (as long as
it‟s not all the time!).
Resolver: I can sort out problems when they arise, but it‟s not
something I would want to do constantly.
Minimising Weaknesses
Some of my weaknesses required careful attention, to ensure they
weren‟t going to trip us up along the way:
Adherence: I‟m not at all someone who sticks to the rules, following
guidelines and procedures – far from it!
Persistence: I‟m not known for always sticking with things (although I
prefer to think of this as being about better judgement and „the
dip‟ – see below).
Planful: I‟m not that good at making plans for the future or being
organised in terms of what should be done by when.
Maximising Unrealised Strengths
My unrealised strengths provided a real opportunity. One of my driving
questions was “How can I use this fundraising challenge as an
opportunity to use and develop these unrealised strengths more?”
Adventure: I wanted to take more risks and push the boundaries.
Mission: I wanted to develop a greater sense of purpose and
contribution.
Courage: I wanted to do more to face up to my fears.
Centred: I wanted to do more to challenge my calmness.
Curiosity: I wanted a reason to explore new areas.
Part 3: The Spark
I have always been a swimmer.
As my strengths profile suggests, I was
looking for a challenge that would
stretch me and leave a legacy.
On 8 August, 2010, Lewis Pugh was
featured in The Sunday Times
Magazine.
Lewis Pugh is the cold water endurance
swimmer par excellence, having
completed 1km swims in the five
oceans of the world, including at the
North Pole on 15 July 2007.
This was the spark that started the
adventure...
Llyn Llydaw, Snowdon
Llyn Llydaw on Snowdon – the coldest
lake in Britain.
c. 450m above sea level; half way up
Snowdon.
Accessed via the Miner‟s Track on the
ascent to Snowdon.
Featured in Robson Green‟s “Wild
Swimming Adventures” where he
swam Llyn Llydaw with Lewis Pugh.
Lewis Pugh used Llyn Llydaw as a training
base for his North Pole swim.
Llyn Llydaw and the Miner‟s Track Source: www.beenthere-donethat.org.uk
Life Lesson 3: Learning from your Heroes
We can learn from our heroes, as long as:
1. We believe we are capable of change
ourselves.
2. We pay attention to the individual
characteristics, attitudes, and
behaviours that we can emulate, and
NOT to becoming that person as a
whole.
3. We focus on deeply understanding
the target and choose to compare on
what we can change, rather than
what we can’t.
Inferiority,
jealousy,
regret
Inspiration,
learning,
relationship
Superiority,
confidence,
relief
Anxiety,
self-doubt
Contrast Assimilation
Up
Dow
n
(Michael Cohn, 2004)
Part 4: The Trials
My first “wild swim” was in the River
Lowther, in the Lake District, at the
end of October 2010.
The air temperature had dropped to -5C
the night before.
Water temperature unknown, but I would
estimate about 10C – so quite warm
by the standards that were to come!
I was in the water for 5 minutes this
time.
River Lowther, Lake District
Wed 27 October – 3 months to go...
In the Ice Training Pool
“I feel very scared. When I think about
why, it‟s clear that it‟s the fear of
failure, not fear of pain or discomfort
or consequences. I can take the pain
and discomfort for the time it takes –
and more – after all, I have a choice.
Sick children don‟t.
But failure – fear of not achieving
something I set out to do – for me,
that is real fear. But it‟s a fear that
inspires, not that cripples. I know
that when I overcome it, the
exhilaration will be great, the
achievement significant. And it‟s this
that always pushes me through.”
Sat 27 November – 2 months to go...
Air temp: 1.1C
Water temp: 0.1C – 80 secs
Ice 8mm thick on entry
Ice Bath Training at Warwick Sport
Three ice bath immersions:
• 10.5 mins @ 8.8C – any excuse not
to get in at first!
• 20 mins @ 8.7C – I was definitely
hypothermic after this one.
• 12 mins @ 10.1C – because my body
heat was warming the ice bath and
we couldn‟t get it any colder!
• Video available at http://www.cappeu.com/About/Birmingham
HeartAppeal.aspx
Warwick Ice Bath Training
Tues 18 January 2011 – 11 days to
go...
Llyn Llydaw Test Swims
Friday 21 January 2011 – 30% frozen...
40m across lake at narrowest point
Water temperature of 1.6C (“Don‟t worry,
it won‟t be this cold next week!”)
Video available at http://www.cappeu.com/About/BirminghamHeart
Appeal.aspx
Friday 28 January 2011 – none frozen...
Again, 40m across the lake
Water temp 1.7C, air temp -0.5C
And back in for a Coca Cola can!
Llyn Llydaw test swims
Fri 21 January 2011 – 8 days to go...
Fri 28 January 2011 – 1 day to go...
The Dip...21 January 2011
“And when you gaze long into an abyss, the abyss also gazes into you.”
Friedrich Nietzsche, Beyond Good and Evil (1886)
Effort
Results
Life Lesson 4: Distinguishing the Dip
Curve 1: The Dip: Short term pain, long term gain
Best advice: Stick through it
(Seth Godin, 2007)
Effort
Results
Life Lesson 4: Distinguishing the Dip
Curve 2: The Cul-de-sac: Short term pain, long term failure
Best advice: Know when to quit
(Seth Godin, 2007)
Effort
Results
Life Lesson 4: Distinguishing the Dip
Curve 3: The Cliff: Short term benefit, long term disaster
Best advice: Avoid the temptation
(Seth Godin, 2007)
When to Stick and When to Quit
When to Stick
1. You‟re tired
2. You doubt yourself
3. You have multiple options
4. You can see the future pay-off
When to Quit
1. When it isn‟t working
2. You don‟t have options to get to
the outcome
3. You can‟t see the future pay-off
4. Quit irrespective of sunk costs
Five Ways of Quitting
1. Strategic quitting – quitting to do something better for the long term.
2. Reactive quitting – quitting when it gets tough – don‟t!
3. Serial quitting – quitting time and again, for the wrong reasons.
4. Coping – persevering when you shouldn‟t.
5. Failing – not knowing the difference of when to stick and when to quit.
How do you know? Measure your progress against your goals. If you‟re making progress,
stick. If you‟re not, re-evaluate – it may be time to quit.
The best advice: 1. Decide in advance when to quit.
2. Never quit for short term reasons, always quit for long term ones.
3. The long term will be here before you know it!
Part 5: The Challenge
I had completed a test swim on Friday 28
January 2011 and there was no ice.
We returned on Saturday 29 January 2011,
to be told by a walker that the car park
had been -8.5C when he arrived at
0630.
We arrived at Llyn Llydaw to find it 90%
frozen – with ice of 3-4cm thick –
overnight.
We had to change the route and adapt the
plan. Everyone offered to come another
day, but no, this was the day.
Video available at: http://www.cappeu.com/About/Birmingham
HeartAppeal.aspx
Everyone at Llyn Llydaw
Getting Ready
David clearing the ice for entry “Just one more!”
The Swim
Almost there
Just keep going, even though you can‟t feel
your feet, legs or hands...
The Result
• Water temp 0-1C, ice across the water.
• Air temp -3C.
• 200m swim across the bay.
• Diversion to avoid ice.
• In the water for c. 4 mins.
• Couldn‟t feel feet, legs, or hands.
• Couldn‟t stand.
• Lifted out of the water.
• Into the support vehicle.
• Rushed down to the hot shower with a Dr. on each side.
• Body temp dropped by 2.5C in 10 mins (38.52C – 35.96C).
Being lifted out of the water
Life Lesson 5: Mix Up and Move Forward
Strengths Rotation:
• Using different strengths at different
times to avoid boredom and fatigue.
Strengths Dynamics:
• Using strengths in combination to
generate powerful results.
Strengths Partnering:
• Using the strengths of others as a
complement to your own strengths
and weaknesses – the essence of
great teamwork.
My Amazing Support Team
• Chris “Cool Guy” Byrne
• David “007” Stephenson
• Tony “Fix it” Andrews
• Ilias “The Doc” Macheridis
• Alex “Ice Man” Linley
• Dean “The Muscle” Lockton
• Chris “Made it Float” Holden
• Lesley “Look Out” Holden
• Mike “Drive Safe” Round
• Justin “Action Man” Owen
• Paul “Gotcha” Kay – who took the photographs!
Part 6: The Homecoming
Sense of delirium for 2-3 days after the
event – with what felt like nothing to
think about!
Sophie had her wish – she was on
television – twice! BBC Midlands
Today and ITV Central News.
Life divided into two stages – “Before the
swim” and “After the swim”.
But above all, the sense of massive
achievement – for having pushed
through the dip and come out on the
other side.
Sophie with Prayer Bear
Life Lesson 6: Our Greatest Contribution
What have I learned?
1. We are capable of more than we
might ever believe
2. Overcome the resistance inside you
3. Start the work
4. The positive spiral of goal attainment
5. Establish a new baseline
6. Open the door of possibility
“Things lead to things”
Prof. Adrian Furnham
Frequently Asked Questions
The questions I am most often asked following my extreme swim are:
• What was the hardest part? [Overcoming every sensation that tells
you not to do what you are about to do]
• What was the best part? [Completing the swim, followed by the
point when my body temperature started to rise about 40 mins
later]
• Did you ever feel like giving up? [On one level, often. On the level
that mattered, never]
• Would you do it again? [Yes, in a heartbeat...]
• What‟s next?! [Watch this space!]
Acknowledgements
This project would not have been possible without the support of many
amazing people, who gave of their own strengths in the service of others:
Tony Andrews, Trudy Bailey, Baron Hill Estate, Dr. Chris Byrne, Nicky Garcea,
Reena Govindji, Chris and Lesley Holden, Fidelis Hynam, Sally Jones, Paul
Kay, Dean Lockton, Dr. Ilias Macheridis, Gurpal Minhas, Brynmor Morgan,
Kissa Mwenelupembe, Prof. Tim Noakes, Justin Owen, Lewis Pugh, Mike
Round, Snowdonia National Park Authority, David Stephenson, Emma
Trenier.
And of course, my family, who were more scared about me doing this than I
could ever have imagined: Mum, Dad, Jenny, Jack, Lucy, Sophie and Ben.
And finally, thank you, for your donation and for supporting the
amazing work of BCH. We raised over £25,500 by the end!
We did it team!