STUDENT SUCCESS FOR LIFE:

An Integration of Life Coaching and Academic Advising

Dr. Brian Yates – bcyates@liberty.edu

NACADA’s International Conference: Dublin, Ireland 2018

Why integrate Life Coaching into Academic Advising?

Changing Students?

“Emotions are data not directions.” Susan David, author of Emotional Agility

• Our technology has given us so much, but it has also robbed us of some very important real

life and relationship skills.

“There should be two educations; one should teach you how to make a living, the other how to live.” John Adams - 2nd U.S. President

• Recent Time Magazine article stated, “Our teens are not alright. They are experiencing the highest rates of stress, anxiety and depression than any other generation.”

Thrive in Real Life Skills

1. Self ________________________

2. __________________ - Management

3. Social _____________________

4. _____________ ‐ Management

“Academic coaching is an interactive process that focuses on the personal relationship created between the student and the coach. The coach challenges the student to think about his or her personal and/or professional goals in order to relate them to his or her academic/educational

goals. In this learning process, it is important for the coach to encourage the student to become more self‐aware by understanding his or her strengths, values, interests, purpose, and passion.”

NACADA

ICF Life Coaching Skills for Advising

Establishing ________________

Listening with ____________________

Trusting the Student’s Resourcefulness

Emotional ________________________

Planning and ______________________________

Ask Powerful Questions

1. First, tap into your natural curiosity.

2. Ask open‐ended questions that start with “what” “how” or “what if”. 3. Keep your question simple. Don’t layer questions. 4. Just ask one question then stop talking. 5. Listen empathetically to the student’s answer. 6. Repeat steps1‐5.

Sample Powerful Coaching Questions

1. What is holding you back? 2. What is it costing you to continue holding back? 3. How do you want to change the way you think about that? 4. What is the most meaningful action you could take now? 5. What new skill or support system do you need to succeed at that? 6. What story do you most often hear yourself telling? 7. What excuses will you use to not do that? 8. What do you need to do first? 9. When will you start? 10. What am I not asking you that you really want me to ask?

Growth Mindset

I can learn anything I want to

When I’m frustrated I persevere

I want to challenge myself

When I fail I learn

Tell me I try hard

If you succeed I’m inspired

My effort and attitude determine everything

Fixed Mindset

I’m either good at it or I’m not

When I’m frustrated I give up

I don’t like to be challenged

When I fail, I’m no good

Tell me I’m smart

If you succeed I feel threatened

My abilities determine everything

REFLECTIVE EXERCISES

THE WHEEL OF LIFE EXERCISE

In each wedge, write a number from 0 being the worst and 10 being the best for how you think you are doing in each area.

Coaching Questions

Looking at your wheel what jumps out at you?

If you were to choose one wedge to increase by one point what would that action be?

What other wedges would you like to

increase?

Learn – Be – Do Exercise

This is one of the most powerful coaching exercises. It helps a student balance their learning with their being and their doing.

Coaching Questions

• What are you learning about yourself? • Who do you want to be in this situation? • What do you need to do?

Empathy Exercise

Have the student think of someone in their life that they would like to have more empathy for.

Coaching Questions

• What would it feel like to be them? • What causes them the most stress? • What are their greatest fears and worries?

THE WHEEL OF LIFE EXERCISE

LEARN – BE - DO EXERCISE

LEARN BE

DO

EMPATHY EXERCISE

Stress Management Exercise

Red Zone – Stressed out!

Yellow Zone – On the way toward stressed out Green Zone – Relatively calm Blue Zone – Peaceful and at rest

Coaching Question

Where would you say you are on the Stress Chart today? The goal is to work towards the Blue Zone.

Inner-Critic Exercise

Your inner‐critic is the negative words, images and feelings that make up your self-talk.

Coaching Questions

What kind of negative things do you say to yourself?

If you could imagine someone saying these to you, what would they look like?

What would their name be?

Have the student give them a new assignment.

Future‐Self Exercise The future‐self is the positive vision of themselves 10-15 years from now.

Coaching Questions

• What does your future‐self look like?

• What does a typical day look like for your

future-self?

• What message does your future‐self want

to tell you today?

Resources

• Frejd, S., (2013). The Digital Invasion: How Technology is Shaping You and Your Relationships. Grand Rapids, Michigan: Baker Books.

• Bradberry, T., (2009). Emotional Intelligence 2.0. San Diego, CA: TalentSmart. • Williams, J.A., (2012). Essential Life Coaching. Portland, OR: Academic Life Coaching. • David, S., (2016). Emotional Agility. New York, NY: Penguin Random House • Guise, S., (2013). Mini Habits: Smaller Habits, Bigger Results, www.Minihabits.com.

• Website ‐ International Coaching Federation – www.CoachFederation.org • Website - Center for Digital Wellness – www.CenterforDigitalWellness.com

STRESS MANAGEMENT EXERCISE

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INNER -CRITIC EXERCISE

FUTURE- SELF EXERCISE