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Stress Management
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Learn to enjoy the simple pleasures of life Do not wait for others to make you happy
(maintain an internal locus of control) You cannot control how you feel - but you
can control what you do with those feelings and how long you keep them (example: when you are angry, do something fun after 30 minutes)
Find the positive part of every situation
Stop wasting time worrying - develop a plan to approach the problem and do something
Be prepared to wait - carry book to read, a portable cassette player, or hobby materials
Be wary of “the grass is always greener” syndrome before you leave your current situation
Always have a back-up plan Decide now what is really important
Catastrophizing - anticipating a terrible outcome; overexagerating the importance of a situation
“I can’t stand it” - deciding that you cannot handle a situation, without trying
- alternative: “I can handle this!” “Should” statements e.g. “I should always be happy” - alternative: “I’m human. I am allowed to make a mistake or have a bad day.”
“Beating yourself up” about past mistakes that you cannot change
Worrying about situations over which you have no control, or cannot change
e.g., “If only I had 20/20 vision” Overgeneralizing - viewing one
negative event as predicting a never-ending pattern of defeat
e.g., “My girlfriend dumped me. I will never date again!”
Emotional reasoning - thinking, “I feel it, so it must be true.”
e.g., “I am anxious today, so something terrible will happen!”
Personalizing - blaming yourself for something that is not your fault
Fairness fallacy - becoming angry when something disappoints you because you think, “life is supposed to be fair!”
Recognize your faulty thought patterns
Replace irrational ideas with more accurate and realistic ideas
You can choose to control how you express your anger (others won’t respect you if you curse, yell, or use violence - and you are too important to let situations control you)
Speak calmly when disagreeing If you are about to lose control - count
to “10” slowly, breathe deeply, and walk away if necessary
Set limits on how long you choose to be angry - then do something nice for yourself
When you disagree with someone, stick to the present issue (and avoid dredging up past hurts)
Criticize someone’s behavior, not their character
Ask for what you desire Refuse a “tasker” if you do not really
want to do it, or if you lack the time to do it well
When you make a request, give a reason Be specific with your request (tell the
receiver exactly what you want done) Be a good listener - give your full
attention, show interest, and summarize what you heard
Inhale slowly through your mouth or nose for 5 seconds, while allowing your stomach to push out
Without pausing, exhale slowly for 5 seconds, and tell yourself to relax
Perform this techniques for at least 5 minutes whenever you feel stressed, angry, anxious, overwhelmed, or unable to sleep
Sit in a comfortable chair or lie down
Practice slow deep breathing for several minutes
Then, tighten and relax each major muscle group in turn (you may choose to relax each muscle group twice)
Practice slow deep breathing for several minutes
Then, practice progressive muscle relaxation
Finally, imagine yourself in a pleasant, relaxing setting (example, the beach)
Use all of your senses to observe your surroundings