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Special thanks to God Ron Paulson and Deborah Spencley Helpers
Pls sign in and give us your email if you want to get monthly reminders
Snacks and water You can donate some money for it
Pls clean up after yourselveshellip Brmhellip
Freedom Quest
Freedom 1 the state of being free or at liberty rather than in confinement or under physical restraint 2 Exemption from external control interference and regulation 3 Power to determine action without restraint
Quest 1 a search or pursuit made in order to find or obtain something 2 an adventurous expedition undertaken by a knight(s) to secure or achieve something
House of HopeFreedom Quest
Feb 2014
Freedom from Anger
Godrsquos design for Tripartite Humans
bull May God himself the God of peace sanctify you through and through May your whole spirit soul and body be kept blameless at the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ 1Thes 523
bull For the word of God is alive and active Sharper than any double-edged sword it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit joints and marrow it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart Heb 412
Tripartite Human
Human Spirit
Human Soul
Human Body
Pneuma RuachRighter-Wronger
Communer Knower
PsycheMind (Thinker)
Emotion (Feeler)
Will (Willer)
SomaSeer
HearerTaster
ToucherSmeller
Basic Human Needs Bodily Needs Air food water
space light touch exercise Emotional Needs love patience
kindness courage affirmation greatness importance pleasure honesty passion
Social Needs Free will comradery family community unity acceptance contribution
Mind needs intellect challenges like-mindedness exploration fascination excellence
Spiritual Needs
Somethingsomeone greater than self a need to worship
Guidance standard Identity Purpose Destiny Growth expansion industry work Justice and Righteousness
TimePowerOrder
Human seed createdGod breathe His breath into humans
Human Spirit is crafted by God to be an image of Himself Identity goodness worth importance guidance purpose and destiny are all defined by God and written into our DNA
Godrsquos Design
bull Human Mind fed by Godrsquos truths knowledge wisdom order organization guidance creativity dreams
bull Human Emotions fed by Godrsquos care provision love joy hope acceptance
Human Spirit
(identity worth
goodness
importance
guidance purpose
and destiny)Defined by God
Relationship with God
Human Will comes in agreement and the humanrsquos spirit soul and body starts to grow and manifest the image of God
Body grows and it along with spirit mind emotions and will continues to be fed by relationship and Godrsquos nutrients
Over time
TimePowerOrderBears fruit
God is the provision source of Life
Human
Spirit
Human BodyLike leaves
MindEmotion
Tru
th
Human Will Agrees
Tree of Life has seeds in it and has capability for reproducing
And God said ldquo I give you every seed-bearing plant on the face of the whole earth and every tree that has fruit with seed in it They will be yours for foodrdquo Gen 129
And the Lord God planted a garden toward the east in Eden and there He placed the man whom He had formed And out of the ground the Lord God caused to grow every tree that is pleasing to the sight and good for food the tree of life also in the midst of the garden and the tree of the knowledge of good and evil Gen 28-9
The LORD God took the man and put him in the Garden of Eden to work it and take care of it
Genesis 215
GOD Inward out
movementHuman
SpiritHuman
SoulHuman Body
Human spirit communes with God and gets download mind and emotion analyze it Will decides on a response and body expresses that response
Free Will in the Fall
Sin did not just happen to Eve She had to use her will to choose what evidence she uses for her decision
Sin did not just happen to Adam He actively chose to be passive and did not subdue the serpent and his lies His will had to actively choose action or inaction
Evidence via bodily senses (eye touch hearing etc)
Evidence is processed by
Mind amp Emo and
The Will chooses
Eating Fruit of Knowledge of Good amp Evil
Outward in
movement
Human Body
Human Soul
Human Spirit
Spirit is shaped by what the
will decidesSerpent
After the fall spirit of human bull Cut off from God is
no longer lsquodefinedrsquo by God
bull Is lost without identity belonging significance purpose destiny
bull Seeks to be defined by something
Afterthe Fall
Current and past
experiences
Body collects evidence
How I feel
What I know
Will chooses
Body does
Human spiritidentity
defined by actions feelings evidence
Before the fallmdashinward out growth
I know who I am soul and body grows out of that
After the fallmdashoutward in movement
I donrsquot know who I am so I get information from my soul and that tells me (spirit)who I am what Irsquom worth etc
Root system is changed
SpiritMind
Emotions
Past experiences evidence in the natural realm
EmotionsBody SensationsMind
Human Spirit is lost
without identity worth
Human mind emotions and body is subjecta slave to accept evidence in the natural realm as truth
God still showers us but there is limited absorption
LiesDeception
AccusationsDoubts
Emotional slave to
shame guilt confusion
Human Will comes in
agreement evidence received from the
body emotion and
mind and defines spiritrsquos
identity and worth
Human grows
Over time
TimePowerOrderBears fruit
Human Will
Guilt
Shame
Anger Judgments
Pride
Idolatry
Fear
LustCriticism
Death
PassivityUnforgivene
ss
Evidence based on senses of
the body
Knowledge based on feelings
Rational Logic
Doubt lies and accusations
Mind Emotions
Body
Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil is good for food Every fruit that has seed in it is good for food Therefore Fruit of Knowledge of Good and Evil has seeds in it
Seeds reproduces
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
God gave humans the charge of tending our gardens So lets take a look at how a plant of anger can be
growing in our garden
Common questions and beliefs God gets angry why canrsquot I
How is anger binding to me I have forgiven so many times why
is it still hurting or why am I still angry
Irsquom not bitter or angry anymore do I still have to forgive
As long as they do whatrsquos right I wonrsquot get angry They are the ones with the problem
If I donrsquot get angry they will just keep doing it
My anger is justified (righteous anger)
Itrsquos an emotion I canrsquot help it or control it
Anger management = keeping my mouth shut and be a doormat
Forgiving others makes them think that they are right and they can continue to behave that way
Dropping an issue = admitting guilt Give it time and anger will blow over
by itself If I suppress my anger Irsquom not
hurting anyone What if I am angry at God
Anatomy Growth Cycle of
AngerHow does one grow and
multiply an ldquoAnger Treerdquo
What is anger
Word associated with Fury rage wrath mad violence yelling hitting destruction hatred fits irate belligerence vengeful
Euphemisms
Frustrated
Aggravated
Upset Irritated Annoyed Indignan
t Tried incensed
Animosity
At odds Sore Injured Impatien
t Peeved Cold tiff
Passionate
Vexed Bitter Displeas
ed Exasper
ate Aggressi
ve Resentfu
l antagoni
ze
Call it what it is
Anger is typically described as an emotional preservation response to violation of personal worth needs and convictions (A threat or a wound)
But it is not just an emotion
The Seed Trigger Phase (a threat or wound is encountered)bull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
bull Red Alert ldquoIrsquom in dangerrdquo Triggers stress response Fight Flight Freeze or Fawn
Fight Flight Freeze Fawn Response
Fight Stay and fight the danger (Anger)
Flight Run away (FearAnxiety) Freeze Play dead and let danger
blow pass (Depression) Fawn Co-dependency Let me
serve you and join your cause
Fight or Flight Response Is a physiological reaction that
occurs in response to a perceived harmful event attack threat to survival in humans and animals
First described by Walter Bradford Cannon
Animals reacts to threats with a general discharge of the sympathetic nervous system that primes the animal for fighting or fleeing
Adrenal Medulla produces a hormonal cascade resulting in secretion of adrenaline and noradrenaline (epinephrinenorepinephrine)
Effects of AdrenalineNoradrenaline
Acceleration of heart and lung action
Inhibition of digestive system
Constriction of blood vessels to shunt blood to heart lungs and muscles
Auditory exclusion (hearing loss)
Dilation of pupils to see with increased clarity but with tunnel vision (loss of peripheral vision)
Increased blood pressure heart rate blood sugar and fats to supply muscles with more energy (chronic triggers sets one up for heart disease high blood pressure diabetes etc)
Speeds up blood clotting function to prevent excess blood loss (can contribute to lsquostickiness of blood and strokes)
Increased perspiration to prevent over-heating due to increased metabolism
The physiological response and serge of energy that one has as a result of the fightflight response been triggered is in and of itself not a sin
All the other phases are up for scrutiny
Anger is not sinful God gets angry Jesus got angry
Mark 35 Matthew 2112-13 Mark 1115-18 John 213-22
Anger in and of itself it is not sinful but bitterness dwelling (meditation) in anger is
Be ANGRY (orgizo provoked aroused to anger) and yet DO NOT SIN do not let the sun go down on your ANGER (parorgismos bitterness exasperation indignation wrath)
Eph 426
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Gathering of evidence and
presentation of the evidence before the court judge of me myself and I (Though we can hold a trial before a third party we usually have done it in our heads already)
Germination of the SeedDevelopment of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge (usually of me myself
and I) render a judgment of guilt of the accused the sentencedebt owed
Sprouting Phase (the first visible sign of anger) Choice Phase One chooses a reaction pathway to fight Open aggression Passive aggression Suppressed aggression Digressive aggression
Growth phase Reaction and Expression Phase bull Various modalities of
ldquofightingrdquo is expressedbull Reaction by the accused
can cause more retaliation and provide additional evidencenutrients
Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the
wound offense and roots due to unforgiveness or retaliation
bull Greater expression of the discontent
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Disclaimer
These are illustrative understanding of anger
I will attempt to show you pitfalls and where the doors to the enemy and root issues might be
It is not meant to be exhaustive to do list but to show you the power and freedom of choice
I do not claim understand the fullness of Godrsquos or human anger
The Seed Trigger Phasebull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
Pitfall We assume that the world should be like us which would be reasonable if we were all defined by God But the world we live in now is define by self--relativism that onersquos needs and convictions is different than others
Questions for the Trigger Phase Who is defining my worth
(safeguard this and reserve it only for God)
Am I jumping to conclusions about a personrsquos motivation
Do I have a hypersensitivity due to past wounds
Questions for the Trigger Phase Is the other person aware that a
violation had occurred Is the other person aware of my convictions
Can I accept differences in the convictions Accept the other person as is--different
Is the other person aware of my needs
Are my expectations reasonable
Reasonable Expectations are
Realized (Am I even aware that I have expectations and what they are)
Realistic (Is the expectation executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (expectation Agreed Upon)
The Seed Trigger Phasebull To not assume what is known
and right for me is known to the other person
bull God as source of worth identity Ultimately God is the source of fulfilling needs and the other person is all but human
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Choice of evidence source
VS VS
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where is the evidence been
presentedbull Who gets to present evidence
Is the Trial Fair Where is the trial taking place
Usually in our heads Does the defense even have a chance to present a plead
Is it a one sided argument and presentation of evidence Do you really have all the evidence
Are you retrying old evidence and old verdicts Stacking up condemning evidence
bull Exasperationbull Identity vs
behavior
Who can be the defense attorney
Is the accused allowed to have Jesus as the attorney
This means allowing yourself to see the person through Jesusrsquo eyes
Perhaps letting Him plead a case of mercy
ldquoChrist redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us for it is written ldquoCursed is everyone who is hung on a polerdquo (Gal 313)
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull What are you doing with the
evidence
Judging Anakrino ἀνακρίνω (Strongrsquos
G350)
examine or judge to investigate examine enquire into
scrutinise sift question specifically in a forensic sense of a judge to
hold an investigation to interrogate examine the accused or
witnesses to judge of estimate determine (the
excellence or defects of any person or thing)
(1 Cor 215 43 44 1424)
But he that is spiritual judgeth (anakrino) all things yet he himself is judged (anakrino) of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ 1 Cor 215-6
But he that is spiritual investigates examines inquires scrutinizes questions all things yet he himself determines (is determined by) the excellence or defects of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ
Krinō κρίνω (Strongrsquos G2919)
to separate select choose approve prefer to be of opinion determine to pronounce an opinion concerning right and wrong pronounce judgment to rulegovernpreside over with the power of giving judicial decisions to contend have suite at law go to law
Do ye not know that the saints shall judge (krino) the world and if the world shall be judged (krino) by you are ye unworthy to judge (kritērion) the smallest matters 1 Cor 62
Krinō comes with guidelines I can of mine own self do nothing
as I hear I judge and my judgment is just because I seek not mine own will but the will of the Father which hath sent me (Jesus in John 530)
We must have our will in submission to Godrsquos will and purposes Humility before God and men
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose And when he had looked round
about on them with anger being grieved for the hardness of their hearts he saith unto the man Stretch forth thine hand And he stretched it out and his hand was restored whole as the other Mark 35
And they were bringing unto him little children that he should touch them and the disciples rebuked them But when Jesus saw it he was moved with indignation and said unto them ldquoSuffer the little children to come unto me forbid them not for to such belongeth the kingdom of Godrdquo Mark 1013-4
Godrsquos Restorative purpose And the Passover of the Jews was at
hand and Jesus went up to Jerusalem And he found in the temple those that sold oxen and sheep and doves and the changers of money sitting and he made a scourge of cords and cast all out of the temple both the sheep and the oxen and he poured out the changers money and overthrew their tables and to them that sold the doves he said Take these things hence make not my Fathers house a house of merchandise His disciples remembered that it was written Zeal for thy house shall eat me up John213-7
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another Forgive as the Lord forgave youput on love which binds them all together in perfect unityrdquo Col 312-4
We should not base judgments on malicious lies or evil misrepresetations Speak not evil one of another
brethren He that speaketh evil of his brother and judgeth his brother speaketh evil of the law and judgeth the law but if thou judge the law thou art not a doer of the law but a judge There is one lawgiver who is able to save and to destroy who art thou that judgest another James 411-2
You shall not spread a false report You shall not join hands with a wicked man to be a malicious witness You shall not fall in with the many to do evil nor shall you bear witness in a lawsuit siding with the many so as to pervert justice nor shall you be partial to a poor man in his lawsuit Exodus 231-2
There are six things that the LORD strongly dislikes seven that are an abomination to him haughty eyes a lying tongue and hands that shed innocent blood a heart that devises wicked plans feet that make haste to run to evil a false witness who breathes out lies and one who sows discord among brothers Prov 616-19
ldquoYe judge after the flesh I judge no man And yet if I judge my judgment is true for I am not alone but I and the Father that sent merdquo (Jesus in John 815-6)
Judge not according to the appearance but judge righteous judgment John 724
Judge via Godrsquos standards not by appearances (evidence that we gathered) Also James 41-2
We must not be hypocrites when judging others for we are judged by our own standards Judge not and ye shall not be
judged condemn not and ye shall not be condemned forgive and ye shall be forgiven Luke 637
Matt 71-5 Luke 637-42 Romans 21-5 Romans 220-23 2 Sam 121-7
We are not to judge others regarding legalistic adherence to ordinances (holidays observances what to eat etc) for such are matters of faith Romans 141-23 2 Cor 87-13
Colossians 216-23 Romans 821 1 Cor 1023 Romans 45 23 Romans 1413 Romans 932 1 Cor 89 Galatians 51 13
We should not judge anyonersquos eternal destiny eternal worth and identity Therefore do not pronounce
judgment before the time before the Lord comes who will bring to light the things now hidden in darkness and will disclose the purposes of the heart Then each one will receive his commendation from God 1 Corinthians 45
Jesus said ldquoBut I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment Again anyone who says to his brother Raca is answerable to the Sanhedrin But anyone who says You fool will be in danger of the fire of hellrdquo Matt 522
Concerning Angels
But Michael the archangel when he disputed with the devil and argued about the body of Moses did not dare pronounce against him a railing judgment but said The Lord rebuke you Jude 19
Concerning God
We are not to judge (condemn God) but He does invite us to ask him questions and to reason with Him
Come now let us reason together says the Lord Isaiah 118
If any of you lack wisdom he should ask God who give generously to all without finding fault James 15
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull To whom are you presenting
evidence to
Who is the Judge
Me God Other people Society norm Whose standards are we using Do
we dare say that we have the fullness of Godrsquos knowledge wisdom justice mercy and authority to be in that role
The Father judges no one but has given all judgment to the Son that all may honor the Son just as they honor the Father John 522
For the LORD is our judge the LORD is our lawgiver the LORD is our king he will save us
Isaiah 3322
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where to have the trialbull What evidence I use bull Who or what am I putting on trial
A person a lifetime of behavior or one fixable behavior
bull How I am sifting through the evidence
bull Who is the judge and attorneybull Humility
We can judge a behavior That is wrong and it inflicted pain on me or it is not something God desires
We cannot judge a personrsquos worth identity and character
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Freedom Quest
Freedom 1 the state of being free or at liberty rather than in confinement or under physical restraint 2 Exemption from external control interference and regulation 3 Power to determine action without restraint
Quest 1 a search or pursuit made in order to find or obtain something 2 an adventurous expedition undertaken by a knight(s) to secure or achieve something
House of HopeFreedom Quest
Feb 2014
Freedom from Anger
Godrsquos design for Tripartite Humans
bull May God himself the God of peace sanctify you through and through May your whole spirit soul and body be kept blameless at the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ 1Thes 523
bull For the word of God is alive and active Sharper than any double-edged sword it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit joints and marrow it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart Heb 412
Tripartite Human
Human Spirit
Human Soul
Human Body
Pneuma RuachRighter-Wronger
Communer Knower
PsycheMind (Thinker)
Emotion (Feeler)
Will (Willer)
SomaSeer
HearerTaster
ToucherSmeller
Basic Human Needs Bodily Needs Air food water
space light touch exercise Emotional Needs love patience
kindness courage affirmation greatness importance pleasure honesty passion
Social Needs Free will comradery family community unity acceptance contribution
Mind needs intellect challenges like-mindedness exploration fascination excellence
Spiritual Needs
Somethingsomeone greater than self a need to worship
Guidance standard Identity Purpose Destiny Growth expansion industry work Justice and Righteousness
TimePowerOrder
Human seed createdGod breathe His breath into humans
Human Spirit is crafted by God to be an image of Himself Identity goodness worth importance guidance purpose and destiny are all defined by God and written into our DNA
Godrsquos Design
bull Human Mind fed by Godrsquos truths knowledge wisdom order organization guidance creativity dreams
bull Human Emotions fed by Godrsquos care provision love joy hope acceptance
Human Spirit
(identity worth
goodness
importance
guidance purpose
and destiny)Defined by God
Relationship with God
Human Will comes in agreement and the humanrsquos spirit soul and body starts to grow and manifest the image of God
Body grows and it along with spirit mind emotions and will continues to be fed by relationship and Godrsquos nutrients
Over time
TimePowerOrderBears fruit
God is the provision source of Life
Human
Spirit
Human BodyLike leaves
MindEmotion
Tru
th
Human Will Agrees
Tree of Life has seeds in it and has capability for reproducing
And God said ldquo I give you every seed-bearing plant on the face of the whole earth and every tree that has fruit with seed in it They will be yours for foodrdquo Gen 129
And the Lord God planted a garden toward the east in Eden and there He placed the man whom He had formed And out of the ground the Lord God caused to grow every tree that is pleasing to the sight and good for food the tree of life also in the midst of the garden and the tree of the knowledge of good and evil Gen 28-9
The LORD God took the man and put him in the Garden of Eden to work it and take care of it
Genesis 215
GOD Inward out
movementHuman
SpiritHuman
SoulHuman Body
Human spirit communes with God and gets download mind and emotion analyze it Will decides on a response and body expresses that response
Free Will in the Fall
Sin did not just happen to Eve She had to use her will to choose what evidence she uses for her decision
Sin did not just happen to Adam He actively chose to be passive and did not subdue the serpent and his lies His will had to actively choose action or inaction
Evidence via bodily senses (eye touch hearing etc)
Evidence is processed by
Mind amp Emo and
The Will chooses
Eating Fruit of Knowledge of Good amp Evil
Outward in
movement
Human Body
Human Soul
Human Spirit
Spirit is shaped by what the
will decidesSerpent
After the fall spirit of human bull Cut off from God is
no longer lsquodefinedrsquo by God
bull Is lost without identity belonging significance purpose destiny
bull Seeks to be defined by something
Afterthe Fall
Current and past
experiences
Body collects evidence
How I feel
What I know
Will chooses
Body does
Human spiritidentity
defined by actions feelings evidence
Before the fallmdashinward out growth
I know who I am soul and body grows out of that
After the fallmdashoutward in movement
I donrsquot know who I am so I get information from my soul and that tells me (spirit)who I am what Irsquom worth etc
Root system is changed
SpiritMind
Emotions
Past experiences evidence in the natural realm
EmotionsBody SensationsMind
Human Spirit is lost
without identity worth
Human mind emotions and body is subjecta slave to accept evidence in the natural realm as truth
God still showers us but there is limited absorption
LiesDeception
AccusationsDoubts
Emotional slave to
shame guilt confusion
Human Will comes in
agreement evidence received from the
body emotion and
mind and defines spiritrsquos
identity and worth
Human grows
Over time
TimePowerOrderBears fruit
Human Will
Guilt
Shame
Anger Judgments
Pride
Idolatry
Fear
LustCriticism
Death
PassivityUnforgivene
ss
Evidence based on senses of
the body
Knowledge based on feelings
Rational Logic
Doubt lies and accusations
Mind Emotions
Body
Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil is good for food Every fruit that has seed in it is good for food Therefore Fruit of Knowledge of Good and Evil has seeds in it
Seeds reproduces
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
God gave humans the charge of tending our gardens So lets take a look at how a plant of anger can be
growing in our garden
Common questions and beliefs God gets angry why canrsquot I
How is anger binding to me I have forgiven so many times why
is it still hurting or why am I still angry
Irsquom not bitter or angry anymore do I still have to forgive
As long as they do whatrsquos right I wonrsquot get angry They are the ones with the problem
If I donrsquot get angry they will just keep doing it
My anger is justified (righteous anger)
Itrsquos an emotion I canrsquot help it or control it
Anger management = keeping my mouth shut and be a doormat
Forgiving others makes them think that they are right and they can continue to behave that way
Dropping an issue = admitting guilt Give it time and anger will blow over
by itself If I suppress my anger Irsquom not
hurting anyone What if I am angry at God
Anatomy Growth Cycle of
AngerHow does one grow and
multiply an ldquoAnger Treerdquo
What is anger
Word associated with Fury rage wrath mad violence yelling hitting destruction hatred fits irate belligerence vengeful
Euphemisms
Frustrated
Aggravated
Upset Irritated Annoyed Indignan
t Tried incensed
Animosity
At odds Sore Injured Impatien
t Peeved Cold tiff
Passionate
Vexed Bitter Displeas
ed Exasper
ate Aggressi
ve Resentfu
l antagoni
ze
Call it what it is
Anger is typically described as an emotional preservation response to violation of personal worth needs and convictions (A threat or a wound)
But it is not just an emotion
The Seed Trigger Phase (a threat or wound is encountered)bull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
bull Red Alert ldquoIrsquom in dangerrdquo Triggers stress response Fight Flight Freeze or Fawn
Fight Flight Freeze Fawn Response
Fight Stay and fight the danger (Anger)
Flight Run away (FearAnxiety) Freeze Play dead and let danger
blow pass (Depression) Fawn Co-dependency Let me
serve you and join your cause
Fight or Flight Response Is a physiological reaction that
occurs in response to a perceived harmful event attack threat to survival in humans and animals
First described by Walter Bradford Cannon
Animals reacts to threats with a general discharge of the sympathetic nervous system that primes the animal for fighting or fleeing
Adrenal Medulla produces a hormonal cascade resulting in secretion of adrenaline and noradrenaline (epinephrinenorepinephrine)
Effects of AdrenalineNoradrenaline
Acceleration of heart and lung action
Inhibition of digestive system
Constriction of blood vessels to shunt blood to heart lungs and muscles
Auditory exclusion (hearing loss)
Dilation of pupils to see with increased clarity but with tunnel vision (loss of peripheral vision)
Increased blood pressure heart rate blood sugar and fats to supply muscles with more energy (chronic triggers sets one up for heart disease high blood pressure diabetes etc)
Speeds up blood clotting function to prevent excess blood loss (can contribute to lsquostickiness of blood and strokes)
Increased perspiration to prevent over-heating due to increased metabolism
The physiological response and serge of energy that one has as a result of the fightflight response been triggered is in and of itself not a sin
All the other phases are up for scrutiny
Anger is not sinful God gets angry Jesus got angry
Mark 35 Matthew 2112-13 Mark 1115-18 John 213-22
Anger in and of itself it is not sinful but bitterness dwelling (meditation) in anger is
Be ANGRY (orgizo provoked aroused to anger) and yet DO NOT SIN do not let the sun go down on your ANGER (parorgismos bitterness exasperation indignation wrath)
Eph 426
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Gathering of evidence and
presentation of the evidence before the court judge of me myself and I (Though we can hold a trial before a third party we usually have done it in our heads already)
Germination of the SeedDevelopment of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge (usually of me myself
and I) render a judgment of guilt of the accused the sentencedebt owed
Sprouting Phase (the first visible sign of anger) Choice Phase One chooses a reaction pathway to fight Open aggression Passive aggression Suppressed aggression Digressive aggression
Growth phase Reaction and Expression Phase bull Various modalities of
ldquofightingrdquo is expressedbull Reaction by the accused
can cause more retaliation and provide additional evidencenutrients
Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the
wound offense and roots due to unforgiveness or retaliation
bull Greater expression of the discontent
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Disclaimer
These are illustrative understanding of anger
I will attempt to show you pitfalls and where the doors to the enemy and root issues might be
It is not meant to be exhaustive to do list but to show you the power and freedom of choice
I do not claim understand the fullness of Godrsquos or human anger
The Seed Trigger Phasebull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
Pitfall We assume that the world should be like us which would be reasonable if we were all defined by God But the world we live in now is define by self--relativism that onersquos needs and convictions is different than others
Questions for the Trigger Phase Who is defining my worth
(safeguard this and reserve it only for God)
Am I jumping to conclusions about a personrsquos motivation
Do I have a hypersensitivity due to past wounds
Questions for the Trigger Phase Is the other person aware that a
violation had occurred Is the other person aware of my convictions
Can I accept differences in the convictions Accept the other person as is--different
Is the other person aware of my needs
Are my expectations reasonable
Reasonable Expectations are
Realized (Am I even aware that I have expectations and what they are)
Realistic (Is the expectation executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (expectation Agreed Upon)
The Seed Trigger Phasebull To not assume what is known
and right for me is known to the other person
bull God as source of worth identity Ultimately God is the source of fulfilling needs and the other person is all but human
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Choice of evidence source
VS VS
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where is the evidence been
presentedbull Who gets to present evidence
Is the Trial Fair Where is the trial taking place
Usually in our heads Does the defense even have a chance to present a plead
Is it a one sided argument and presentation of evidence Do you really have all the evidence
Are you retrying old evidence and old verdicts Stacking up condemning evidence
bull Exasperationbull Identity vs
behavior
Who can be the defense attorney
Is the accused allowed to have Jesus as the attorney
This means allowing yourself to see the person through Jesusrsquo eyes
Perhaps letting Him plead a case of mercy
ldquoChrist redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us for it is written ldquoCursed is everyone who is hung on a polerdquo (Gal 313)
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull What are you doing with the
evidence
Judging Anakrino ἀνακρίνω (Strongrsquos
G350)
examine or judge to investigate examine enquire into
scrutinise sift question specifically in a forensic sense of a judge to
hold an investigation to interrogate examine the accused or
witnesses to judge of estimate determine (the
excellence or defects of any person or thing)
(1 Cor 215 43 44 1424)
But he that is spiritual judgeth (anakrino) all things yet he himself is judged (anakrino) of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ 1 Cor 215-6
But he that is spiritual investigates examines inquires scrutinizes questions all things yet he himself determines (is determined by) the excellence or defects of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ
Krinō κρίνω (Strongrsquos G2919)
to separate select choose approve prefer to be of opinion determine to pronounce an opinion concerning right and wrong pronounce judgment to rulegovernpreside over with the power of giving judicial decisions to contend have suite at law go to law
Do ye not know that the saints shall judge (krino) the world and if the world shall be judged (krino) by you are ye unworthy to judge (kritērion) the smallest matters 1 Cor 62
Krinō comes with guidelines I can of mine own self do nothing
as I hear I judge and my judgment is just because I seek not mine own will but the will of the Father which hath sent me (Jesus in John 530)
We must have our will in submission to Godrsquos will and purposes Humility before God and men
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose And when he had looked round
about on them with anger being grieved for the hardness of their hearts he saith unto the man Stretch forth thine hand And he stretched it out and his hand was restored whole as the other Mark 35
And they were bringing unto him little children that he should touch them and the disciples rebuked them But when Jesus saw it he was moved with indignation and said unto them ldquoSuffer the little children to come unto me forbid them not for to such belongeth the kingdom of Godrdquo Mark 1013-4
Godrsquos Restorative purpose And the Passover of the Jews was at
hand and Jesus went up to Jerusalem And he found in the temple those that sold oxen and sheep and doves and the changers of money sitting and he made a scourge of cords and cast all out of the temple both the sheep and the oxen and he poured out the changers money and overthrew their tables and to them that sold the doves he said Take these things hence make not my Fathers house a house of merchandise His disciples remembered that it was written Zeal for thy house shall eat me up John213-7
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another Forgive as the Lord forgave youput on love which binds them all together in perfect unityrdquo Col 312-4
We should not base judgments on malicious lies or evil misrepresetations Speak not evil one of another
brethren He that speaketh evil of his brother and judgeth his brother speaketh evil of the law and judgeth the law but if thou judge the law thou art not a doer of the law but a judge There is one lawgiver who is able to save and to destroy who art thou that judgest another James 411-2
You shall not spread a false report You shall not join hands with a wicked man to be a malicious witness You shall not fall in with the many to do evil nor shall you bear witness in a lawsuit siding with the many so as to pervert justice nor shall you be partial to a poor man in his lawsuit Exodus 231-2
There are six things that the LORD strongly dislikes seven that are an abomination to him haughty eyes a lying tongue and hands that shed innocent blood a heart that devises wicked plans feet that make haste to run to evil a false witness who breathes out lies and one who sows discord among brothers Prov 616-19
ldquoYe judge after the flesh I judge no man And yet if I judge my judgment is true for I am not alone but I and the Father that sent merdquo (Jesus in John 815-6)
Judge not according to the appearance but judge righteous judgment John 724
Judge via Godrsquos standards not by appearances (evidence that we gathered) Also James 41-2
We must not be hypocrites when judging others for we are judged by our own standards Judge not and ye shall not be
judged condemn not and ye shall not be condemned forgive and ye shall be forgiven Luke 637
Matt 71-5 Luke 637-42 Romans 21-5 Romans 220-23 2 Sam 121-7
We are not to judge others regarding legalistic adherence to ordinances (holidays observances what to eat etc) for such are matters of faith Romans 141-23 2 Cor 87-13
Colossians 216-23 Romans 821 1 Cor 1023 Romans 45 23 Romans 1413 Romans 932 1 Cor 89 Galatians 51 13
We should not judge anyonersquos eternal destiny eternal worth and identity Therefore do not pronounce
judgment before the time before the Lord comes who will bring to light the things now hidden in darkness and will disclose the purposes of the heart Then each one will receive his commendation from God 1 Corinthians 45
Jesus said ldquoBut I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment Again anyone who says to his brother Raca is answerable to the Sanhedrin But anyone who says You fool will be in danger of the fire of hellrdquo Matt 522
Concerning Angels
But Michael the archangel when he disputed with the devil and argued about the body of Moses did not dare pronounce against him a railing judgment but said The Lord rebuke you Jude 19
Concerning God
We are not to judge (condemn God) but He does invite us to ask him questions and to reason with Him
Come now let us reason together says the Lord Isaiah 118
If any of you lack wisdom he should ask God who give generously to all without finding fault James 15
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull To whom are you presenting
evidence to
Who is the Judge
Me God Other people Society norm Whose standards are we using Do
we dare say that we have the fullness of Godrsquos knowledge wisdom justice mercy and authority to be in that role
The Father judges no one but has given all judgment to the Son that all may honor the Son just as they honor the Father John 522
For the LORD is our judge the LORD is our lawgiver the LORD is our king he will save us
Isaiah 3322
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where to have the trialbull What evidence I use bull Who or what am I putting on trial
A person a lifetime of behavior or one fixable behavior
bull How I am sifting through the evidence
bull Who is the judge and attorneybull Humility
We can judge a behavior That is wrong and it inflicted pain on me or it is not something God desires
We cannot judge a personrsquos worth identity and character
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
House of HopeFreedom Quest
Feb 2014
Freedom from Anger
Godrsquos design for Tripartite Humans
bull May God himself the God of peace sanctify you through and through May your whole spirit soul and body be kept blameless at the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ 1Thes 523
bull For the word of God is alive and active Sharper than any double-edged sword it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit joints and marrow it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart Heb 412
Tripartite Human
Human Spirit
Human Soul
Human Body
Pneuma RuachRighter-Wronger
Communer Knower
PsycheMind (Thinker)
Emotion (Feeler)
Will (Willer)
SomaSeer
HearerTaster
ToucherSmeller
Basic Human Needs Bodily Needs Air food water
space light touch exercise Emotional Needs love patience
kindness courage affirmation greatness importance pleasure honesty passion
Social Needs Free will comradery family community unity acceptance contribution
Mind needs intellect challenges like-mindedness exploration fascination excellence
Spiritual Needs
Somethingsomeone greater than self a need to worship
Guidance standard Identity Purpose Destiny Growth expansion industry work Justice and Righteousness
TimePowerOrder
Human seed createdGod breathe His breath into humans
Human Spirit is crafted by God to be an image of Himself Identity goodness worth importance guidance purpose and destiny are all defined by God and written into our DNA
Godrsquos Design
bull Human Mind fed by Godrsquos truths knowledge wisdom order organization guidance creativity dreams
bull Human Emotions fed by Godrsquos care provision love joy hope acceptance
Human Spirit
(identity worth
goodness
importance
guidance purpose
and destiny)Defined by God
Relationship with God
Human Will comes in agreement and the humanrsquos spirit soul and body starts to grow and manifest the image of God
Body grows and it along with spirit mind emotions and will continues to be fed by relationship and Godrsquos nutrients
Over time
TimePowerOrderBears fruit
God is the provision source of Life
Human
Spirit
Human BodyLike leaves
MindEmotion
Tru
th
Human Will Agrees
Tree of Life has seeds in it and has capability for reproducing
And God said ldquo I give you every seed-bearing plant on the face of the whole earth and every tree that has fruit with seed in it They will be yours for foodrdquo Gen 129
And the Lord God planted a garden toward the east in Eden and there He placed the man whom He had formed And out of the ground the Lord God caused to grow every tree that is pleasing to the sight and good for food the tree of life also in the midst of the garden and the tree of the knowledge of good and evil Gen 28-9
The LORD God took the man and put him in the Garden of Eden to work it and take care of it
Genesis 215
GOD Inward out
movementHuman
SpiritHuman
SoulHuman Body
Human spirit communes with God and gets download mind and emotion analyze it Will decides on a response and body expresses that response
Free Will in the Fall
Sin did not just happen to Eve She had to use her will to choose what evidence she uses for her decision
Sin did not just happen to Adam He actively chose to be passive and did not subdue the serpent and his lies His will had to actively choose action or inaction
Evidence via bodily senses (eye touch hearing etc)
Evidence is processed by
Mind amp Emo and
The Will chooses
Eating Fruit of Knowledge of Good amp Evil
Outward in
movement
Human Body
Human Soul
Human Spirit
Spirit is shaped by what the
will decidesSerpent
After the fall spirit of human bull Cut off from God is
no longer lsquodefinedrsquo by God
bull Is lost without identity belonging significance purpose destiny
bull Seeks to be defined by something
Afterthe Fall
Current and past
experiences
Body collects evidence
How I feel
What I know
Will chooses
Body does
Human spiritidentity
defined by actions feelings evidence
Before the fallmdashinward out growth
I know who I am soul and body grows out of that
After the fallmdashoutward in movement
I donrsquot know who I am so I get information from my soul and that tells me (spirit)who I am what Irsquom worth etc
Root system is changed
SpiritMind
Emotions
Past experiences evidence in the natural realm
EmotionsBody SensationsMind
Human Spirit is lost
without identity worth
Human mind emotions and body is subjecta slave to accept evidence in the natural realm as truth
God still showers us but there is limited absorption
LiesDeception
AccusationsDoubts
Emotional slave to
shame guilt confusion
Human Will comes in
agreement evidence received from the
body emotion and
mind and defines spiritrsquos
identity and worth
Human grows
Over time
TimePowerOrderBears fruit
Human Will
Guilt
Shame
Anger Judgments
Pride
Idolatry
Fear
LustCriticism
Death
PassivityUnforgivene
ss
Evidence based on senses of
the body
Knowledge based on feelings
Rational Logic
Doubt lies and accusations
Mind Emotions
Body
Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil is good for food Every fruit that has seed in it is good for food Therefore Fruit of Knowledge of Good and Evil has seeds in it
Seeds reproduces
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
God gave humans the charge of tending our gardens So lets take a look at how a plant of anger can be
growing in our garden
Common questions and beliefs God gets angry why canrsquot I
How is anger binding to me I have forgiven so many times why
is it still hurting or why am I still angry
Irsquom not bitter or angry anymore do I still have to forgive
As long as they do whatrsquos right I wonrsquot get angry They are the ones with the problem
If I donrsquot get angry they will just keep doing it
My anger is justified (righteous anger)
Itrsquos an emotion I canrsquot help it or control it
Anger management = keeping my mouth shut and be a doormat
Forgiving others makes them think that they are right and they can continue to behave that way
Dropping an issue = admitting guilt Give it time and anger will blow over
by itself If I suppress my anger Irsquom not
hurting anyone What if I am angry at God
Anatomy Growth Cycle of
AngerHow does one grow and
multiply an ldquoAnger Treerdquo
What is anger
Word associated with Fury rage wrath mad violence yelling hitting destruction hatred fits irate belligerence vengeful
Euphemisms
Frustrated
Aggravated
Upset Irritated Annoyed Indignan
t Tried incensed
Animosity
At odds Sore Injured Impatien
t Peeved Cold tiff
Passionate
Vexed Bitter Displeas
ed Exasper
ate Aggressi
ve Resentfu
l antagoni
ze
Call it what it is
Anger is typically described as an emotional preservation response to violation of personal worth needs and convictions (A threat or a wound)
But it is not just an emotion
The Seed Trigger Phase (a threat or wound is encountered)bull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
bull Red Alert ldquoIrsquom in dangerrdquo Triggers stress response Fight Flight Freeze or Fawn
Fight Flight Freeze Fawn Response
Fight Stay and fight the danger (Anger)
Flight Run away (FearAnxiety) Freeze Play dead and let danger
blow pass (Depression) Fawn Co-dependency Let me
serve you and join your cause
Fight or Flight Response Is a physiological reaction that
occurs in response to a perceived harmful event attack threat to survival in humans and animals
First described by Walter Bradford Cannon
Animals reacts to threats with a general discharge of the sympathetic nervous system that primes the animal for fighting or fleeing
Adrenal Medulla produces a hormonal cascade resulting in secretion of adrenaline and noradrenaline (epinephrinenorepinephrine)
Effects of AdrenalineNoradrenaline
Acceleration of heart and lung action
Inhibition of digestive system
Constriction of blood vessels to shunt blood to heart lungs and muscles
Auditory exclusion (hearing loss)
Dilation of pupils to see with increased clarity but with tunnel vision (loss of peripheral vision)
Increased blood pressure heart rate blood sugar and fats to supply muscles with more energy (chronic triggers sets one up for heart disease high blood pressure diabetes etc)
Speeds up blood clotting function to prevent excess blood loss (can contribute to lsquostickiness of blood and strokes)
Increased perspiration to prevent over-heating due to increased metabolism
The physiological response and serge of energy that one has as a result of the fightflight response been triggered is in and of itself not a sin
All the other phases are up for scrutiny
Anger is not sinful God gets angry Jesus got angry
Mark 35 Matthew 2112-13 Mark 1115-18 John 213-22
Anger in and of itself it is not sinful but bitterness dwelling (meditation) in anger is
Be ANGRY (orgizo provoked aroused to anger) and yet DO NOT SIN do not let the sun go down on your ANGER (parorgismos bitterness exasperation indignation wrath)
Eph 426
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Gathering of evidence and
presentation of the evidence before the court judge of me myself and I (Though we can hold a trial before a third party we usually have done it in our heads already)
Germination of the SeedDevelopment of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge (usually of me myself
and I) render a judgment of guilt of the accused the sentencedebt owed
Sprouting Phase (the first visible sign of anger) Choice Phase One chooses a reaction pathway to fight Open aggression Passive aggression Suppressed aggression Digressive aggression
Growth phase Reaction and Expression Phase bull Various modalities of
ldquofightingrdquo is expressedbull Reaction by the accused
can cause more retaliation and provide additional evidencenutrients
Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the
wound offense and roots due to unforgiveness or retaliation
bull Greater expression of the discontent
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Disclaimer
These are illustrative understanding of anger
I will attempt to show you pitfalls and where the doors to the enemy and root issues might be
It is not meant to be exhaustive to do list but to show you the power and freedom of choice
I do not claim understand the fullness of Godrsquos or human anger
The Seed Trigger Phasebull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
Pitfall We assume that the world should be like us which would be reasonable if we were all defined by God But the world we live in now is define by self--relativism that onersquos needs and convictions is different than others
Questions for the Trigger Phase Who is defining my worth
(safeguard this and reserve it only for God)
Am I jumping to conclusions about a personrsquos motivation
Do I have a hypersensitivity due to past wounds
Questions for the Trigger Phase Is the other person aware that a
violation had occurred Is the other person aware of my convictions
Can I accept differences in the convictions Accept the other person as is--different
Is the other person aware of my needs
Are my expectations reasonable
Reasonable Expectations are
Realized (Am I even aware that I have expectations and what they are)
Realistic (Is the expectation executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (expectation Agreed Upon)
The Seed Trigger Phasebull To not assume what is known
and right for me is known to the other person
bull God as source of worth identity Ultimately God is the source of fulfilling needs and the other person is all but human
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Choice of evidence source
VS VS
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where is the evidence been
presentedbull Who gets to present evidence
Is the Trial Fair Where is the trial taking place
Usually in our heads Does the defense even have a chance to present a plead
Is it a one sided argument and presentation of evidence Do you really have all the evidence
Are you retrying old evidence and old verdicts Stacking up condemning evidence
bull Exasperationbull Identity vs
behavior
Who can be the defense attorney
Is the accused allowed to have Jesus as the attorney
This means allowing yourself to see the person through Jesusrsquo eyes
Perhaps letting Him plead a case of mercy
ldquoChrist redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us for it is written ldquoCursed is everyone who is hung on a polerdquo (Gal 313)
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull What are you doing with the
evidence
Judging Anakrino ἀνακρίνω (Strongrsquos
G350)
examine or judge to investigate examine enquire into
scrutinise sift question specifically in a forensic sense of a judge to
hold an investigation to interrogate examine the accused or
witnesses to judge of estimate determine (the
excellence or defects of any person or thing)
(1 Cor 215 43 44 1424)
But he that is spiritual judgeth (anakrino) all things yet he himself is judged (anakrino) of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ 1 Cor 215-6
But he that is spiritual investigates examines inquires scrutinizes questions all things yet he himself determines (is determined by) the excellence or defects of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ
Krinō κρίνω (Strongrsquos G2919)
to separate select choose approve prefer to be of opinion determine to pronounce an opinion concerning right and wrong pronounce judgment to rulegovernpreside over with the power of giving judicial decisions to contend have suite at law go to law
Do ye not know that the saints shall judge (krino) the world and if the world shall be judged (krino) by you are ye unworthy to judge (kritērion) the smallest matters 1 Cor 62
Krinō comes with guidelines I can of mine own self do nothing
as I hear I judge and my judgment is just because I seek not mine own will but the will of the Father which hath sent me (Jesus in John 530)
We must have our will in submission to Godrsquos will and purposes Humility before God and men
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose And when he had looked round
about on them with anger being grieved for the hardness of their hearts he saith unto the man Stretch forth thine hand And he stretched it out and his hand was restored whole as the other Mark 35
And they were bringing unto him little children that he should touch them and the disciples rebuked them But when Jesus saw it he was moved with indignation and said unto them ldquoSuffer the little children to come unto me forbid them not for to such belongeth the kingdom of Godrdquo Mark 1013-4
Godrsquos Restorative purpose And the Passover of the Jews was at
hand and Jesus went up to Jerusalem And he found in the temple those that sold oxen and sheep and doves and the changers of money sitting and he made a scourge of cords and cast all out of the temple both the sheep and the oxen and he poured out the changers money and overthrew their tables and to them that sold the doves he said Take these things hence make not my Fathers house a house of merchandise His disciples remembered that it was written Zeal for thy house shall eat me up John213-7
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another Forgive as the Lord forgave youput on love which binds them all together in perfect unityrdquo Col 312-4
We should not base judgments on malicious lies or evil misrepresetations Speak not evil one of another
brethren He that speaketh evil of his brother and judgeth his brother speaketh evil of the law and judgeth the law but if thou judge the law thou art not a doer of the law but a judge There is one lawgiver who is able to save and to destroy who art thou that judgest another James 411-2
You shall not spread a false report You shall not join hands with a wicked man to be a malicious witness You shall not fall in with the many to do evil nor shall you bear witness in a lawsuit siding with the many so as to pervert justice nor shall you be partial to a poor man in his lawsuit Exodus 231-2
There are six things that the LORD strongly dislikes seven that are an abomination to him haughty eyes a lying tongue and hands that shed innocent blood a heart that devises wicked plans feet that make haste to run to evil a false witness who breathes out lies and one who sows discord among brothers Prov 616-19
ldquoYe judge after the flesh I judge no man And yet if I judge my judgment is true for I am not alone but I and the Father that sent merdquo (Jesus in John 815-6)
Judge not according to the appearance but judge righteous judgment John 724
Judge via Godrsquos standards not by appearances (evidence that we gathered) Also James 41-2
We must not be hypocrites when judging others for we are judged by our own standards Judge not and ye shall not be
judged condemn not and ye shall not be condemned forgive and ye shall be forgiven Luke 637
Matt 71-5 Luke 637-42 Romans 21-5 Romans 220-23 2 Sam 121-7
We are not to judge others regarding legalistic adherence to ordinances (holidays observances what to eat etc) for such are matters of faith Romans 141-23 2 Cor 87-13
Colossians 216-23 Romans 821 1 Cor 1023 Romans 45 23 Romans 1413 Romans 932 1 Cor 89 Galatians 51 13
We should not judge anyonersquos eternal destiny eternal worth and identity Therefore do not pronounce
judgment before the time before the Lord comes who will bring to light the things now hidden in darkness and will disclose the purposes of the heart Then each one will receive his commendation from God 1 Corinthians 45
Jesus said ldquoBut I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment Again anyone who says to his brother Raca is answerable to the Sanhedrin But anyone who says You fool will be in danger of the fire of hellrdquo Matt 522
Concerning Angels
But Michael the archangel when he disputed with the devil and argued about the body of Moses did not dare pronounce against him a railing judgment but said The Lord rebuke you Jude 19
Concerning God
We are not to judge (condemn God) but He does invite us to ask him questions and to reason with Him
Come now let us reason together says the Lord Isaiah 118
If any of you lack wisdom he should ask God who give generously to all without finding fault James 15
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull To whom are you presenting
evidence to
Who is the Judge
Me God Other people Society norm Whose standards are we using Do
we dare say that we have the fullness of Godrsquos knowledge wisdom justice mercy and authority to be in that role
The Father judges no one but has given all judgment to the Son that all may honor the Son just as they honor the Father John 522
For the LORD is our judge the LORD is our lawgiver the LORD is our king he will save us
Isaiah 3322
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where to have the trialbull What evidence I use bull Who or what am I putting on trial
A person a lifetime of behavior or one fixable behavior
bull How I am sifting through the evidence
bull Who is the judge and attorneybull Humility
We can judge a behavior That is wrong and it inflicted pain on me or it is not something God desires
We cannot judge a personrsquos worth identity and character
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Godrsquos design for Tripartite Humans
bull May God himself the God of peace sanctify you through and through May your whole spirit soul and body be kept blameless at the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ 1Thes 523
bull For the word of God is alive and active Sharper than any double-edged sword it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit joints and marrow it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart Heb 412
Tripartite Human
Human Spirit
Human Soul
Human Body
Pneuma RuachRighter-Wronger
Communer Knower
PsycheMind (Thinker)
Emotion (Feeler)
Will (Willer)
SomaSeer
HearerTaster
ToucherSmeller
Basic Human Needs Bodily Needs Air food water
space light touch exercise Emotional Needs love patience
kindness courage affirmation greatness importance pleasure honesty passion
Social Needs Free will comradery family community unity acceptance contribution
Mind needs intellect challenges like-mindedness exploration fascination excellence
Spiritual Needs
Somethingsomeone greater than self a need to worship
Guidance standard Identity Purpose Destiny Growth expansion industry work Justice and Righteousness
TimePowerOrder
Human seed createdGod breathe His breath into humans
Human Spirit is crafted by God to be an image of Himself Identity goodness worth importance guidance purpose and destiny are all defined by God and written into our DNA
Godrsquos Design
bull Human Mind fed by Godrsquos truths knowledge wisdom order organization guidance creativity dreams
bull Human Emotions fed by Godrsquos care provision love joy hope acceptance
Human Spirit
(identity worth
goodness
importance
guidance purpose
and destiny)Defined by God
Relationship with God
Human Will comes in agreement and the humanrsquos spirit soul and body starts to grow and manifest the image of God
Body grows and it along with spirit mind emotions and will continues to be fed by relationship and Godrsquos nutrients
Over time
TimePowerOrderBears fruit
God is the provision source of Life
Human
Spirit
Human BodyLike leaves
MindEmotion
Tru
th
Human Will Agrees
Tree of Life has seeds in it and has capability for reproducing
And God said ldquo I give you every seed-bearing plant on the face of the whole earth and every tree that has fruit with seed in it They will be yours for foodrdquo Gen 129
And the Lord God planted a garden toward the east in Eden and there He placed the man whom He had formed And out of the ground the Lord God caused to grow every tree that is pleasing to the sight and good for food the tree of life also in the midst of the garden and the tree of the knowledge of good and evil Gen 28-9
The LORD God took the man and put him in the Garden of Eden to work it and take care of it
Genesis 215
GOD Inward out
movementHuman
SpiritHuman
SoulHuman Body
Human spirit communes with God and gets download mind and emotion analyze it Will decides on a response and body expresses that response
Free Will in the Fall
Sin did not just happen to Eve She had to use her will to choose what evidence she uses for her decision
Sin did not just happen to Adam He actively chose to be passive and did not subdue the serpent and his lies His will had to actively choose action or inaction
Evidence via bodily senses (eye touch hearing etc)
Evidence is processed by
Mind amp Emo and
The Will chooses
Eating Fruit of Knowledge of Good amp Evil
Outward in
movement
Human Body
Human Soul
Human Spirit
Spirit is shaped by what the
will decidesSerpent
After the fall spirit of human bull Cut off from God is
no longer lsquodefinedrsquo by God
bull Is lost without identity belonging significance purpose destiny
bull Seeks to be defined by something
Afterthe Fall
Current and past
experiences
Body collects evidence
How I feel
What I know
Will chooses
Body does
Human spiritidentity
defined by actions feelings evidence
Before the fallmdashinward out growth
I know who I am soul and body grows out of that
After the fallmdashoutward in movement
I donrsquot know who I am so I get information from my soul and that tells me (spirit)who I am what Irsquom worth etc
Root system is changed
SpiritMind
Emotions
Past experiences evidence in the natural realm
EmotionsBody SensationsMind
Human Spirit is lost
without identity worth
Human mind emotions and body is subjecta slave to accept evidence in the natural realm as truth
God still showers us but there is limited absorption
LiesDeception
AccusationsDoubts
Emotional slave to
shame guilt confusion
Human Will comes in
agreement evidence received from the
body emotion and
mind and defines spiritrsquos
identity and worth
Human grows
Over time
TimePowerOrderBears fruit
Human Will
Guilt
Shame
Anger Judgments
Pride
Idolatry
Fear
LustCriticism
Death
PassivityUnforgivene
ss
Evidence based on senses of
the body
Knowledge based on feelings
Rational Logic
Doubt lies and accusations
Mind Emotions
Body
Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil is good for food Every fruit that has seed in it is good for food Therefore Fruit of Knowledge of Good and Evil has seeds in it
Seeds reproduces
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
God gave humans the charge of tending our gardens So lets take a look at how a plant of anger can be
growing in our garden
Common questions and beliefs God gets angry why canrsquot I
How is anger binding to me I have forgiven so many times why
is it still hurting or why am I still angry
Irsquom not bitter or angry anymore do I still have to forgive
As long as they do whatrsquos right I wonrsquot get angry They are the ones with the problem
If I donrsquot get angry they will just keep doing it
My anger is justified (righteous anger)
Itrsquos an emotion I canrsquot help it or control it
Anger management = keeping my mouth shut and be a doormat
Forgiving others makes them think that they are right and they can continue to behave that way
Dropping an issue = admitting guilt Give it time and anger will blow over
by itself If I suppress my anger Irsquom not
hurting anyone What if I am angry at God
Anatomy Growth Cycle of
AngerHow does one grow and
multiply an ldquoAnger Treerdquo
What is anger
Word associated with Fury rage wrath mad violence yelling hitting destruction hatred fits irate belligerence vengeful
Euphemisms
Frustrated
Aggravated
Upset Irritated Annoyed Indignan
t Tried incensed
Animosity
At odds Sore Injured Impatien
t Peeved Cold tiff
Passionate
Vexed Bitter Displeas
ed Exasper
ate Aggressi
ve Resentfu
l antagoni
ze
Call it what it is
Anger is typically described as an emotional preservation response to violation of personal worth needs and convictions (A threat or a wound)
But it is not just an emotion
The Seed Trigger Phase (a threat or wound is encountered)bull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
bull Red Alert ldquoIrsquom in dangerrdquo Triggers stress response Fight Flight Freeze or Fawn
Fight Flight Freeze Fawn Response
Fight Stay and fight the danger (Anger)
Flight Run away (FearAnxiety) Freeze Play dead and let danger
blow pass (Depression) Fawn Co-dependency Let me
serve you and join your cause
Fight or Flight Response Is a physiological reaction that
occurs in response to a perceived harmful event attack threat to survival in humans and animals
First described by Walter Bradford Cannon
Animals reacts to threats with a general discharge of the sympathetic nervous system that primes the animal for fighting or fleeing
Adrenal Medulla produces a hormonal cascade resulting in secretion of adrenaline and noradrenaline (epinephrinenorepinephrine)
Effects of AdrenalineNoradrenaline
Acceleration of heart and lung action
Inhibition of digestive system
Constriction of blood vessels to shunt blood to heart lungs and muscles
Auditory exclusion (hearing loss)
Dilation of pupils to see with increased clarity but with tunnel vision (loss of peripheral vision)
Increased blood pressure heart rate blood sugar and fats to supply muscles with more energy (chronic triggers sets one up for heart disease high blood pressure diabetes etc)
Speeds up blood clotting function to prevent excess blood loss (can contribute to lsquostickiness of blood and strokes)
Increased perspiration to prevent over-heating due to increased metabolism
The physiological response and serge of energy that one has as a result of the fightflight response been triggered is in and of itself not a sin
All the other phases are up for scrutiny
Anger is not sinful God gets angry Jesus got angry
Mark 35 Matthew 2112-13 Mark 1115-18 John 213-22
Anger in and of itself it is not sinful but bitterness dwelling (meditation) in anger is
Be ANGRY (orgizo provoked aroused to anger) and yet DO NOT SIN do not let the sun go down on your ANGER (parorgismos bitterness exasperation indignation wrath)
Eph 426
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Gathering of evidence and
presentation of the evidence before the court judge of me myself and I (Though we can hold a trial before a third party we usually have done it in our heads already)
Germination of the SeedDevelopment of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge (usually of me myself
and I) render a judgment of guilt of the accused the sentencedebt owed
Sprouting Phase (the first visible sign of anger) Choice Phase One chooses a reaction pathway to fight Open aggression Passive aggression Suppressed aggression Digressive aggression
Growth phase Reaction and Expression Phase bull Various modalities of
ldquofightingrdquo is expressedbull Reaction by the accused
can cause more retaliation and provide additional evidencenutrients
Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the
wound offense and roots due to unforgiveness or retaliation
bull Greater expression of the discontent
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Disclaimer
These are illustrative understanding of anger
I will attempt to show you pitfalls and where the doors to the enemy and root issues might be
It is not meant to be exhaustive to do list but to show you the power and freedom of choice
I do not claim understand the fullness of Godrsquos or human anger
The Seed Trigger Phasebull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
Pitfall We assume that the world should be like us which would be reasonable if we were all defined by God But the world we live in now is define by self--relativism that onersquos needs and convictions is different than others
Questions for the Trigger Phase Who is defining my worth
(safeguard this and reserve it only for God)
Am I jumping to conclusions about a personrsquos motivation
Do I have a hypersensitivity due to past wounds
Questions for the Trigger Phase Is the other person aware that a
violation had occurred Is the other person aware of my convictions
Can I accept differences in the convictions Accept the other person as is--different
Is the other person aware of my needs
Are my expectations reasonable
Reasonable Expectations are
Realized (Am I even aware that I have expectations and what they are)
Realistic (Is the expectation executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (expectation Agreed Upon)
The Seed Trigger Phasebull To not assume what is known
and right for me is known to the other person
bull God as source of worth identity Ultimately God is the source of fulfilling needs and the other person is all but human
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Choice of evidence source
VS VS
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where is the evidence been
presentedbull Who gets to present evidence
Is the Trial Fair Where is the trial taking place
Usually in our heads Does the defense even have a chance to present a plead
Is it a one sided argument and presentation of evidence Do you really have all the evidence
Are you retrying old evidence and old verdicts Stacking up condemning evidence
bull Exasperationbull Identity vs
behavior
Who can be the defense attorney
Is the accused allowed to have Jesus as the attorney
This means allowing yourself to see the person through Jesusrsquo eyes
Perhaps letting Him plead a case of mercy
ldquoChrist redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us for it is written ldquoCursed is everyone who is hung on a polerdquo (Gal 313)
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull What are you doing with the
evidence
Judging Anakrino ἀνακρίνω (Strongrsquos
G350)
examine or judge to investigate examine enquire into
scrutinise sift question specifically in a forensic sense of a judge to
hold an investigation to interrogate examine the accused or
witnesses to judge of estimate determine (the
excellence or defects of any person or thing)
(1 Cor 215 43 44 1424)
But he that is spiritual judgeth (anakrino) all things yet he himself is judged (anakrino) of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ 1 Cor 215-6
But he that is spiritual investigates examines inquires scrutinizes questions all things yet he himself determines (is determined by) the excellence or defects of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ
Krinō κρίνω (Strongrsquos G2919)
to separate select choose approve prefer to be of opinion determine to pronounce an opinion concerning right and wrong pronounce judgment to rulegovernpreside over with the power of giving judicial decisions to contend have suite at law go to law
Do ye not know that the saints shall judge (krino) the world and if the world shall be judged (krino) by you are ye unworthy to judge (kritērion) the smallest matters 1 Cor 62
Krinō comes with guidelines I can of mine own self do nothing
as I hear I judge and my judgment is just because I seek not mine own will but the will of the Father which hath sent me (Jesus in John 530)
We must have our will in submission to Godrsquos will and purposes Humility before God and men
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose And when he had looked round
about on them with anger being grieved for the hardness of their hearts he saith unto the man Stretch forth thine hand And he stretched it out and his hand was restored whole as the other Mark 35
And they were bringing unto him little children that he should touch them and the disciples rebuked them But when Jesus saw it he was moved with indignation and said unto them ldquoSuffer the little children to come unto me forbid them not for to such belongeth the kingdom of Godrdquo Mark 1013-4
Godrsquos Restorative purpose And the Passover of the Jews was at
hand and Jesus went up to Jerusalem And he found in the temple those that sold oxen and sheep and doves and the changers of money sitting and he made a scourge of cords and cast all out of the temple both the sheep and the oxen and he poured out the changers money and overthrew their tables and to them that sold the doves he said Take these things hence make not my Fathers house a house of merchandise His disciples remembered that it was written Zeal for thy house shall eat me up John213-7
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another Forgive as the Lord forgave youput on love which binds them all together in perfect unityrdquo Col 312-4
We should not base judgments on malicious lies or evil misrepresetations Speak not evil one of another
brethren He that speaketh evil of his brother and judgeth his brother speaketh evil of the law and judgeth the law but if thou judge the law thou art not a doer of the law but a judge There is one lawgiver who is able to save and to destroy who art thou that judgest another James 411-2
You shall not spread a false report You shall not join hands with a wicked man to be a malicious witness You shall not fall in with the many to do evil nor shall you bear witness in a lawsuit siding with the many so as to pervert justice nor shall you be partial to a poor man in his lawsuit Exodus 231-2
There are six things that the LORD strongly dislikes seven that are an abomination to him haughty eyes a lying tongue and hands that shed innocent blood a heart that devises wicked plans feet that make haste to run to evil a false witness who breathes out lies and one who sows discord among brothers Prov 616-19
ldquoYe judge after the flesh I judge no man And yet if I judge my judgment is true for I am not alone but I and the Father that sent merdquo (Jesus in John 815-6)
Judge not according to the appearance but judge righteous judgment John 724
Judge via Godrsquos standards not by appearances (evidence that we gathered) Also James 41-2
We must not be hypocrites when judging others for we are judged by our own standards Judge not and ye shall not be
judged condemn not and ye shall not be condemned forgive and ye shall be forgiven Luke 637
Matt 71-5 Luke 637-42 Romans 21-5 Romans 220-23 2 Sam 121-7
We are not to judge others regarding legalistic adherence to ordinances (holidays observances what to eat etc) for such are matters of faith Romans 141-23 2 Cor 87-13
Colossians 216-23 Romans 821 1 Cor 1023 Romans 45 23 Romans 1413 Romans 932 1 Cor 89 Galatians 51 13
We should not judge anyonersquos eternal destiny eternal worth and identity Therefore do not pronounce
judgment before the time before the Lord comes who will bring to light the things now hidden in darkness and will disclose the purposes of the heart Then each one will receive his commendation from God 1 Corinthians 45
Jesus said ldquoBut I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment Again anyone who says to his brother Raca is answerable to the Sanhedrin But anyone who says You fool will be in danger of the fire of hellrdquo Matt 522
Concerning Angels
But Michael the archangel when he disputed with the devil and argued about the body of Moses did not dare pronounce against him a railing judgment but said The Lord rebuke you Jude 19
Concerning God
We are not to judge (condemn God) but He does invite us to ask him questions and to reason with Him
Come now let us reason together says the Lord Isaiah 118
If any of you lack wisdom he should ask God who give generously to all without finding fault James 15
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull To whom are you presenting
evidence to
Who is the Judge
Me God Other people Society norm Whose standards are we using Do
we dare say that we have the fullness of Godrsquos knowledge wisdom justice mercy and authority to be in that role
The Father judges no one but has given all judgment to the Son that all may honor the Son just as they honor the Father John 522
For the LORD is our judge the LORD is our lawgiver the LORD is our king he will save us
Isaiah 3322
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where to have the trialbull What evidence I use bull Who or what am I putting on trial
A person a lifetime of behavior or one fixable behavior
bull How I am sifting through the evidence
bull Who is the judge and attorneybull Humility
We can judge a behavior That is wrong and it inflicted pain on me or it is not something God desires
We cannot judge a personrsquos worth identity and character
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Tripartite Human
Human Spirit
Human Soul
Human Body
Pneuma RuachRighter-Wronger
Communer Knower
PsycheMind (Thinker)
Emotion (Feeler)
Will (Willer)
SomaSeer
HearerTaster
ToucherSmeller
Basic Human Needs Bodily Needs Air food water
space light touch exercise Emotional Needs love patience
kindness courage affirmation greatness importance pleasure honesty passion
Social Needs Free will comradery family community unity acceptance contribution
Mind needs intellect challenges like-mindedness exploration fascination excellence
Spiritual Needs
Somethingsomeone greater than self a need to worship
Guidance standard Identity Purpose Destiny Growth expansion industry work Justice and Righteousness
TimePowerOrder
Human seed createdGod breathe His breath into humans
Human Spirit is crafted by God to be an image of Himself Identity goodness worth importance guidance purpose and destiny are all defined by God and written into our DNA
Godrsquos Design
bull Human Mind fed by Godrsquos truths knowledge wisdom order organization guidance creativity dreams
bull Human Emotions fed by Godrsquos care provision love joy hope acceptance
Human Spirit
(identity worth
goodness
importance
guidance purpose
and destiny)Defined by God
Relationship with God
Human Will comes in agreement and the humanrsquos spirit soul and body starts to grow and manifest the image of God
Body grows and it along with spirit mind emotions and will continues to be fed by relationship and Godrsquos nutrients
Over time
TimePowerOrderBears fruit
God is the provision source of Life
Human
Spirit
Human BodyLike leaves
MindEmotion
Tru
th
Human Will Agrees
Tree of Life has seeds in it and has capability for reproducing
And God said ldquo I give you every seed-bearing plant on the face of the whole earth and every tree that has fruit with seed in it They will be yours for foodrdquo Gen 129
And the Lord God planted a garden toward the east in Eden and there He placed the man whom He had formed And out of the ground the Lord God caused to grow every tree that is pleasing to the sight and good for food the tree of life also in the midst of the garden and the tree of the knowledge of good and evil Gen 28-9
The LORD God took the man and put him in the Garden of Eden to work it and take care of it
Genesis 215
GOD Inward out
movementHuman
SpiritHuman
SoulHuman Body
Human spirit communes with God and gets download mind and emotion analyze it Will decides on a response and body expresses that response
Free Will in the Fall
Sin did not just happen to Eve She had to use her will to choose what evidence she uses for her decision
Sin did not just happen to Adam He actively chose to be passive and did not subdue the serpent and his lies His will had to actively choose action or inaction
Evidence via bodily senses (eye touch hearing etc)
Evidence is processed by
Mind amp Emo and
The Will chooses
Eating Fruit of Knowledge of Good amp Evil
Outward in
movement
Human Body
Human Soul
Human Spirit
Spirit is shaped by what the
will decidesSerpent
After the fall spirit of human bull Cut off from God is
no longer lsquodefinedrsquo by God
bull Is lost without identity belonging significance purpose destiny
bull Seeks to be defined by something
Afterthe Fall
Current and past
experiences
Body collects evidence
How I feel
What I know
Will chooses
Body does
Human spiritidentity
defined by actions feelings evidence
Before the fallmdashinward out growth
I know who I am soul and body grows out of that
After the fallmdashoutward in movement
I donrsquot know who I am so I get information from my soul and that tells me (spirit)who I am what Irsquom worth etc
Root system is changed
SpiritMind
Emotions
Past experiences evidence in the natural realm
EmotionsBody SensationsMind
Human Spirit is lost
without identity worth
Human mind emotions and body is subjecta slave to accept evidence in the natural realm as truth
God still showers us but there is limited absorption
LiesDeception
AccusationsDoubts
Emotional slave to
shame guilt confusion
Human Will comes in
agreement evidence received from the
body emotion and
mind and defines spiritrsquos
identity and worth
Human grows
Over time
TimePowerOrderBears fruit
Human Will
Guilt
Shame
Anger Judgments
Pride
Idolatry
Fear
LustCriticism
Death
PassivityUnforgivene
ss
Evidence based on senses of
the body
Knowledge based on feelings
Rational Logic
Doubt lies and accusations
Mind Emotions
Body
Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil is good for food Every fruit that has seed in it is good for food Therefore Fruit of Knowledge of Good and Evil has seeds in it
Seeds reproduces
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
God gave humans the charge of tending our gardens So lets take a look at how a plant of anger can be
growing in our garden
Common questions and beliefs God gets angry why canrsquot I
How is anger binding to me I have forgiven so many times why
is it still hurting or why am I still angry
Irsquom not bitter or angry anymore do I still have to forgive
As long as they do whatrsquos right I wonrsquot get angry They are the ones with the problem
If I donrsquot get angry they will just keep doing it
My anger is justified (righteous anger)
Itrsquos an emotion I canrsquot help it or control it
Anger management = keeping my mouth shut and be a doormat
Forgiving others makes them think that they are right and they can continue to behave that way
Dropping an issue = admitting guilt Give it time and anger will blow over
by itself If I suppress my anger Irsquom not
hurting anyone What if I am angry at God
Anatomy Growth Cycle of
AngerHow does one grow and
multiply an ldquoAnger Treerdquo
What is anger
Word associated with Fury rage wrath mad violence yelling hitting destruction hatred fits irate belligerence vengeful
Euphemisms
Frustrated
Aggravated
Upset Irritated Annoyed Indignan
t Tried incensed
Animosity
At odds Sore Injured Impatien
t Peeved Cold tiff
Passionate
Vexed Bitter Displeas
ed Exasper
ate Aggressi
ve Resentfu
l antagoni
ze
Call it what it is
Anger is typically described as an emotional preservation response to violation of personal worth needs and convictions (A threat or a wound)
But it is not just an emotion
The Seed Trigger Phase (a threat or wound is encountered)bull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
bull Red Alert ldquoIrsquom in dangerrdquo Triggers stress response Fight Flight Freeze or Fawn
Fight Flight Freeze Fawn Response
Fight Stay and fight the danger (Anger)
Flight Run away (FearAnxiety) Freeze Play dead and let danger
blow pass (Depression) Fawn Co-dependency Let me
serve you and join your cause
Fight or Flight Response Is a physiological reaction that
occurs in response to a perceived harmful event attack threat to survival in humans and animals
First described by Walter Bradford Cannon
Animals reacts to threats with a general discharge of the sympathetic nervous system that primes the animal for fighting or fleeing
Adrenal Medulla produces a hormonal cascade resulting in secretion of adrenaline and noradrenaline (epinephrinenorepinephrine)
Effects of AdrenalineNoradrenaline
Acceleration of heart and lung action
Inhibition of digestive system
Constriction of blood vessels to shunt blood to heart lungs and muscles
Auditory exclusion (hearing loss)
Dilation of pupils to see with increased clarity but with tunnel vision (loss of peripheral vision)
Increased blood pressure heart rate blood sugar and fats to supply muscles with more energy (chronic triggers sets one up for heart disease high blood pressure diabetes etc)
Speeds up blood clotting function to prevent excess blood loss (can contribute to lsquostickiness of blood and strokes)
Increased perspiration to prevent over-heating due to increased metabolism
The physiological response and serge of energy that one has as a result of the fightflight response been triggered is in and of itself not a sin
All the other phases are up for scrutiny
Anger is not sinful God gets angry Jesus got angry
Mark 35 Matthew 2112-13 Mark 1115-18 John 213-22
Anger in and of itself it is not sinful but bitterness dwelling (meditation) in anger is
Be ANGRY (orgizo provoked aroused to anger) and yet DO NOT SIN do not let the sun go down on your ANGER (parorgismos bitterness exasperation indignation wrath)
Eph 426
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Gathering of evidence and
presentation of the evidence before the court judge of me myself and I (Though we can hold a trial before a third party we usually have done it in our heads already)
Germination of the SeedDevelopment of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge (usually of me myself
and I) render a judgment of guilt of the accused the sentencedebt owed
Sprouting Phase (the first visible sign of anger) Choice Phase One chooses a reaction pathway to fight Open aggression Passive aggression Suppressed aggression Digressive aggression
Growth phase Reaction and Expression Phase bull Various modalities of
ldquofightingrdquo is expressedbull Reaction by the accused
can cause more retaliation and provide additional evidencenutrients
Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the
wound offense and roots due to unforgiveness or retaliation
bull Greater expression of the discontent
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Disclaimer
These are illustrative understanding of anger
I will attempt to show you pitfalls and where the doors to the enemy and root issues might be
It is not meant to be exhaustive to do list but to show you the power and freedom of choice
I do not claim understand the fullness of Godrsquos or human anger
The Seed Trigger Phasebull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
Pitfall We assume that the world should be like us which would be reasonable if we were all defined by God But the world we live in now is define by self--relativism that onersquos needs and convictions is different than others
Questions for the Trigger Phase Who is defining my worth
(safeguard this and reserve it only for God)
Am I jumping to conclusions about a personrsquos motivation
Do I have a hypersensitivity due to past wounds
Questions for the Trigger Phase Is the other person aware that a
violation had occurred Is the other person aware of my convictions
Can I accept differences in the convictions Accept the other person as is--different
Is the other person aware of my needs
Are my expectations reasonable
Reasonable Expectations are
Realized (Am I even aware that I have expectations and what they are)
Realistic (Is the expectation executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (expectation Agreed Upon)
The Seed Trigger Phasebull To not assume what is known
and right for me is known to the other person
bull God as source of worth identity Ultimately God is the source of fulfilling needs and the other person is all but human
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Choice of evidence source
VS VS
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where is the evidence been
presentedbull Who gets to present evidence
Is the Trial Fair Where is the trial taking place
Usually in our heads Does the defense even have a chance to present a plead
Is it a one sided argument and presentation of evidence Do you really have all the evidence
Are you retrying old evidence and old verdicts Stacking up condemning evidence
bull Exasperationbull Identity vs
behavior
Who can be the defense attorney
Is the accused allowed to have Jesus as the attorney
This means allowing yourself to see the person through Jesusrsquo eyes
Perhaps letting Him plead a case of mercy
ldquoChrist redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us for it is written ldquoCursed is everyone who is hung on a polerdquo (Gal 313)
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull What are you doing with the
evidence
Judging Anakrino ἀνακρίνω (Strongrsquos
G350)
examine or judge to investigate examine enquire into
scrutinise sift question specifically in a forensic sense of a judge to
hold an investigation to interrogate examine the accused or
witnesses to judge of estimate determine (the
excellence or defects of any person or thing)
(1 Cor 215 43 44 1424)
But he that is spiritual judgeth (anakrino) all things yet he himself is judged (anakrino) of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ 1 Cor 215-6
But he that is spiritual investigates examines inquires scrutinizes questions all things yet he himself determines (is determined by) the excellence or defects of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ
Krinō κρίνω (Strongrsquos G2919)
to separate select choose approve prefer to be of opinion determine to pronounce an opinion concerning right and wrong pronounce judgment to rulegovernpreside over with the power of giving judicial decisions to contend have suite at law go to law
Do ye not know that the saints shall judge (krino) the world and if the world shall be judged (krino) by you are ye unworthy to judge (kritērion) the smallest matters 1 Cor 62
Krinō comes with guidelines I can of mine own self do nothing
as I hear I judge and my judgment is just because I seek not mine own will but the will of the Father which hath sent me (Jesus in John 530)
We must have our will in submission to Godrsquos will and purposes Humility before God and men
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose And when he had looked round
about on them with anger being grieved for the hardness of their hearts he saith unto the man Stretch forth thine hand And he stretched it out and his hand was restored whole as the other Mark 35
And they were bringing unto him little children that he should touch them and the disciples rebuked them But when Jesus saw it he was moved with indignation and said unto them ldquoSuffer the little children to come unto me forbid them not for to such belongeth the kingdom of Godrdquo Mark 1013-4
Godrsquos Restorative purpose And the Passover of the Jews was at
hand and Jesus went up to Jerusalem And he found in the temple those that sold oxen and sheep and doves and the changers of money sitting and he made a scourge of cords and cast all out of the temple both the sheep and the oxen and he poured out the changers money and overthrew their tables and to them that sold the doves he said Take these things hence make not my Fathers house a house of merchandise His disciples remembered that it was written Zeal for thy house shall eat me up John213-7
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another Forgive as the Lord forgave youput on love which binds them all together in perfect unityrdquo Col 312-4
We should not base judgments on malicious lies or evil misrepresetations Speak not evil one of another
brethren He that speaketh evil of his brother and judgeth his brother speaketh evil of the law and judgeth the law but if thou judge the law thou art not a doer of the law but a judge There is one lawgiver who is able to save and to destroy who art thou that judgest another James 411-2
You shall not spread a false report You shall not join hands with a wicked man to be a malicious witness You shall not fall in with the many to do evil nor shall you bear witness in a lawsuit siding with the many so as to pervert justice nor shall you be partial to a poor man in his lawsuit Exodus 231-2
There are six things that the LORD strongly dislikes seven that are an abomination to him haughty eyes a lying tongue and hands that shed innocent blood a heart that devises wicked plans feet that make haste to run to evil a false witness who breathes out lies and one who sows discord among brothers Prov 616-19
ldquoYe judge after the flesh I judge no man And yet if I judge my judgment is true for I am not alone but I and the Father that sent merdquo (Jesus in John 815-6)
Judge not according to the appearance but judge righteous judgment John 724
Judge via Godrsquos standards not by appearances (evidence that we gathered) Also James 41-2
We must not be hypocrites when judging others for we are judged by our own standards Judge not and ye shall not be
judged condemn not and ye shall not be condemned forgive and ye shall be forgiven Luke 637
Matt 71-5 Luke 637-42 Romans 21-5 Romans 220-23 2 Sam 121-7
We are not to judge others regarding legalistic adherence to ordinances (holidays observances what to eat etc) for such are matters of faith Romans 141-23 2 Cor 87-13
Colossians 216-23 Romans 821 1 Cor 1023 Romans 45 23 Romans 1413 Romans 932 1 Cor 89 Galatians 51 13
We should not judge anyonersquos eternal destiny eternal worth and identity Therefore do not pronounce
judgment before the time before the Lord comes who will bring to light the things now hidden in darkness and will disclose the purposes of the heart Then each one will receive his commendation from God 1 Corinthians 45
Jesus said ldquoBut I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment Again anyone who says to his brother Raca is answerable to the Sanhedrin But anyone who says You fool will be in danger of the fire of hellrdquo Matt 522
Concerning Angels
But Michael the archangel when he disputed with the devil and argued about the body of Moses did not dare pronounce against him a railing judgment but said The Lord rebuke you Jude 19
Concerning God
We are not to judge (condemn God) but He does invite us to ask him questions and to reason with Him
Come now let us reason together says the Lord Isaiah 118
If any of you lack wisdom he should ask God who give generously to all without finding fault James 15
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull To whom are you presenting
evidence to
Who is the Judge
Me God Other people Society norm Whose standards are we using Do
we dare say that we have the fullness of Godrsquos knowledge wisdom justice mercy and authority to be in that role
The Father judges no one but has given all judgment to the Son that all may honor the Son just as they honor the Father John 522
For the LORD is our judge the LORD is our lawgiver the LORD is our king he will save us
Isaiah 3322
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where to have the trialbull What evidence I use bull Who or what am I putting on trial
A person a lifetime of behavior or one fixable behavior
bull How I am sifting through the evidence
bull Who is the judge and attorneybull Humility
We can judge a behavior That is wrong and it inflicted pain on me or it is not something God desires
We cannot judge a personrsquos worth identity and character
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Basic Human Needs Bodily Needs Air food water
space light touch exercise Emotional Needs love patience
kindness courage affirmation greatness importance pleasure honesty passion
Social Needs Free will comradery family community unity acceptance contribution
Mind needs intellect challenges like-mindedness exploration fascination excellence
Spiritual Needs
Somethingsomeone greater than self a need to worship
Guidance standard Identity Purpose Destiny Growth expansion industry work Justice and Righteousness
TimePowerOrder
Human seed createdGod breathe His breath into humans
Human Spirit is crafted by God to be an image of Himself Identity goodness worth importance guidance purpose and destiny are all defined by God and written into our DNA
Godrsquos Design
bull Human Mind fed by Godrsquos truths knowledge wisdom order organization guidance creativity dreams
bull Human Emotions fed by Godrsquos care provision love joy hope acceptance
Human Spirit
(identity worth
goodness
importance
guidance purpose
and destiny)Defined by God
Relationship with God
Human Will comes in agreement and the humanrsquos spirit soul and body starts to grow and manifest the image of God
Body grows and it along with spirit mind emotions and will continues to be fed by relationship and Godrsquos nutrients
Over time
TimePowerOrderBears fruit
God is the provision source of Life
Human
Spirit
Human BodyLike leaves
MindEmotion
Tru
th
Human Will Agrees
Tree of Life has seeds in it and has capability for reproducing
And God said ldquo I give you every seed-bearing plant on the face of the whole earth and every tree that has fruit with seed in it They will be yours for foodrdquo Gen 129
And the Lord God planted a garden toward the east in Eden and there He placed the man whom He had formed And out of the ground the Lord God caused to grow every tree that is pleasing to the sight and good for food the tree of life also in the midst of the garden and the tree of the knowledge of good and evil Gen 28-9
The LORD God took the man and put him in the Garden of Eden to work it and take care of it
Genesis 215
GOD Inward out
movementHuman
SpiritHuman
SoulHuman Body
Human spirit communes with God and gets download mind and emotion analyze it Will decides on a response and body expresses that response
Free Will in the Fall
Sin did not just happen to Eve She had to use her will to choose what evidence she uses for her decision
Sin did not just happen to Adam He actively chose to be passive and did not subdue the serpent and his lies His will had to actively choose action or inaction
Evidence via bodily senses (eye touch hearing etc)
Evidence is processed by
Mind amp Emo and
The Will chooses
Eating Fruit of Knowledge of Good amp Evil
Outward in
movement
Human Body
Human Soul
Human Spirit
Spirit is shaped by what the
will decidesSerpent
After the fall spirit of human bull Cut off from God is
no longer lsquodefinedrsquo by God
bull Is lost without identity belonging significance purpose destiny
bull Seeks to be defined by something
Afterthe Fall
Current and past
experiences
Body collects evidence
How I feel
What I know
Will chooses
Body does
Human spiritidentity
defined by actions feelings evidence
Before the fallmdashinward out growth
I know who I am soul and body grows out of that
After the fallmdashoutward in movement
I donrsquot know who I am so I get information from my soul and that tells me (spirit)who I am what Irsquom worth etc
Root system is changed
SpiritMind
Emotions
Past experiences evidence in the natural realm
EmotionsBody SensationsMind
Human Spirit is lost
without identity worth
Human mind emotions and body is subjecta slave to accept evidence in the natural realm as truth
God still showers us but there is limited absorption
LiesDeception
AccusationsDoubts
Emotional slave to
shame guilt confusion
Human Will comes in
agreement evidence received from the
body emotion and
mind and defines spiritrsquos
identity and worth
Human grows
Over time
TimePowerOrderBears fruit
Human Will
Guilt
Shame
Anger Judgments
Pride
Idolatry
Fear
LustCriticism
Death
PassivityUnforgivene
ss
Evidence based on senses of
the body
Knowledge based on feelings
Rational Logic
Doubt lies and accusations
Mind Emotions
Body
Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil is good for food Every fruit that has seed in it is good for food Therefore Fruit of Knowledge of Good and Evil has seeds in it
Seeds reproduces
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
God gave humans the charge of tending our gardens So lets take a look at how a plant of anger can be
growing in our garden
Common questions and beliefs God gets angry why canrsquot I
How is anger binding to me I have forgiven so many times why
is it still hurting or why am I still angry
Irsquom not bitter or angry anymore do I still have to forgive
As long as they do whatrsquos right I wonrsquot get angry They are the ones with the problem
If I donrsquot get angry they will just keep doing it
My anger is justified (righteous anger)
Itrsquos an emotion I canrsquot help it or control it
Anger management = keeping my mouth shut and be a doormat
Forgiving others makes them think that they are right and they can continue to behave that way
Dropping an issue = admitting guilt Give it time and anger will blow over
by itself If I suppress my anger Irsquom not
hurting anyone What if I am angry at God
Anatomy Growth Cycle of
AngerHow does one grow and
multiply an ldquoAnger Treerdquo
What is anger
Word associated with Fury rage wrath mad violence yelling hitting destruction hatred fits irate belligerence vengeful
Euphemisms
Frustrated
Aggravated
Upset Irritated Annoyed Indignan
t Tried incensed
Animosity
At odds Sore Injured Impatien
t Peeved Cold tiff
Passionate
Vexed Bitter Displeas
ed Exasper
ate Aggressi
ve Resentfu
l antagoni
ze
Call it what it is
Anger is typically described as an emotional preservation response to violation of personal worth needs and convictions (A threat or a wound)
But it is not just an emotion
The Seed Trigger Phase (a threat or wound is encountered)bull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
bull Red Alert ldquoIrsquom in dangerrdquo Triggers stress response Fight Flight Freeze or Fawn
Fight Flight Freeze Fawn Response
Fight Stay and fight the danger (Anger)
Flight Run away (FearAnxiety) Freeze Play dead and let danger
blow pass (Depression) Fawn Co-dependency Let me
serve you and join your cause
Fight or Flight Response Is a physiological reaction that
occurs in response to a perceived harmful event attack threat to survival in humans and animals
First described by Walter Bradford Cannon
Animals reacts to threats with a general discharge of the sympathetic nervous system that primes the animal for fighting or fleeing
Adrenal Medulla produces a hormonal cascade resulting in secretion of adrenaline and noradrenaline (epinephrinenorepinephrine)
Effects of AdrenalineNoradrenaline
Acceleration of heart and lung action
Inhibition of digestive system
Constriction of blood vessels to shunt blood to heart lungs and muscles
Auditory exclusion (hearing loss)
Dilation of pupils to see with increased clarity but with tunnel vision (loss of peripheral vision)
Increased blood pressure heart rate blood sugar and fats to supply muscles with more energy (chronic triggers sets one up for heart disease high blood pressure diabetes etc)
Speeds up blood clotting function to prevent excess blood loss (can contribute to lsquostickiness of blood and strokes)
Increased perspiration to prevent over-heating due to increased metabolism
The physiological response and serge of energy that one has as a result of the fightflight response been triggered is in and of itself not a sin
All the other phases are up for scrutiny
Anger is not sinful God gets angry Jesus got angry
Mark 35 Matthew 2112-13 Mark 1115-18 John 213-22
Anger in and of itself it is not sinful but bitterness dwelling (meditation) in anger is
Be ANGRY (orgizo provoked aroused to anger) and yet DO NOT SIN do not let the sun go down on your ANGER (parorgismos bitterness exasperation indignation wrath)
Eph 426
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Gathering of evidence and
presentation of the evidence before the court judge of me myself and I (Though we can hold a trial before a third party we usually have done it in our heads already)
Germination of the SeedDevelopment of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge (usually of me myself
and I) render a judgment of guilt of the accused the sentencedebt owed
Sprouting Phase (the first visible sign of anger) Choice Phase One chooses a reaction pathway to fight Open aggression Passive aggression Suppressed aggression Digressive aggression
Growth phase Reaction and Expression Phase bull Various modalities of
ldquofightingrdquo is expressedbull Reaction by the accused
can cause more retaliation and provide additional evidencenutrients
Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the
wound offense and roots due to unforgiveness or retaliation
bull Greater expression of the discontent
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Disclaimer
These are illustrative understanding of anger
I will attempt to show you pitfalls and where the doors to the enemy and root issues might be
It is not meant to be exhaustive to do list but to show you the power and freedom of choice
I do not claim understand the fullness of Godrsquos or human anger
The Seed Trigger Phasebull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
Pitfall We assume that the world should be like us which would be reasonable if we were all defined by God But the world we live in now is define by self--relativism that onersquos needs and convictions is different than others
Questions for the Trigger Phase Who is defining my worth
(safeguard this and reserve it only for God)
Am I jumping to conclusions about a personrsquos motivation
Do I have a hypersensitivity due to past wounds
Questions for the Trigger Phase Is the other person aware that a
violation had occurred Is the other person aware of my convictions
Can I accept differences in the convictions Accept the other person as is--different
Is the other person aware of my needs
Are my expectations reasonable
Reasonable Expectations are
Realized (Am I even aware that I have expectations and what they are)
Realistic (Is the expectation executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (expectation Agreed Upon)
The Seed Trigger Phasebull To not assume what is known
and right for me is known to the other person
bull God as source of worth identity Ultimately God is the source of fulfilling needs and the other person is all but human
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Choice of evidence source
VS VS
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where is the evidence been
presentedbull Who gets to present evidence
Is the Trial Fair Where is the trial taking place
Usually in our heads Does the defense even have a chance to present a plead
Is it a one sided argument and presentation of evidence Do you really have all the evidence
Are you retrying old evidence and old verdicts Stacking up condemning evidence
bull Exasperationbull Identity vs
behavior
Who can be the defense attorney
Is the accused allowed to have Jesus as the attorney
This means allowing yourself to see the person through Jesusrsquo eyes
Perhaps letting Him plead a case of mercy
ldquoChrist redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us for it is written ldquoCursed is everyone who is hung on a polerdquo (Gal 313)
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull What are you doing with the
evidence
Judging Anakrino ἀνακρίνω (Strongrsquos
G350)
examine or judge to investigate examine enquire into
scrutinise sift question specifically in a forensic sense of a judge to
hold an investigation to interrogate examine the accused or
witnesses to judge of estimate determine (the
excellence or defects of any person or thing)
(1 Cor 215 43 44 1424)
But he that is spiritual judgeth (anakrino) all things yet he himself is judged (anakrino) of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ 1 Cor 215-6
But he that is spiritual investigates examines inquires scrutinizes questions all things yet he himself determines (is determined by) the excellence or defects of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ
Krinō κρίνω (Strongrsquos G2919)
to separate select choose approve prefer to be of opinion determine to pronounce an opinion concerning right and wrong pronounce judgment to rulegovernpreside over with the power of giving judicial decisions to contend have suite at law go to law
Do ye not know that the saints shall judge (krino) the world and if the world shall be judged (krino) by you are ye unworthy to judge (kritērion) the smallest matters 1 Cor 62
Krinō comes with guidelines I can of mine own self do nothing
as I hear I judge and my judgment is just because I seek not mine own will but the will of the Father which hath sent me (Jesus in John 530)
We must have our will in submission to Godrsquos will and purposes Humility before God and men
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose And when he had looked round
about on them with anger being grieved for the hardness of their hearts he saith unto the man Stretch forth thine hand And he stretched it out and his hand was restored whole as the other Mark 35
And they were bringing unto him little children that he should touch them and the disciples rebuked them But when Jesus saw it he was moved with indignation and said unto them ldquoSuffer the little children to come unto me forbid them not for to such belongeth the kingdom of Godrdquo Mark 1013-4
Godrsquos Restorative purpose And the Passover of the Jews was at
hand and Jesus went up to Jerusalem And he found in the temple those that sold oxen and sheep and doves and the changers of money sitting and he made a scourge of cords and cast all out of the temple both the sheep and the oxen and he poured out the changers money and overthrew their tables and to them that sold the doves he said Take these things hence make not my Fathers house a house of merchandise His disciples remembered that it was written Zeal for thy house shall eat me up John213-7
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another Forgive as the Lord forgave youput on love which binds them all together in perfect unityrdquo Col 312-4
We should not base judgments on malicious lies or evil misrepresetations Speak not evil one of another
brethren He that speaketh evil of his brother and judgeth his brother speaketh evil of the law and judgeth the law but if thou judge the law thou art not a doer of the law but a judge There is one lawgiver who is able to save and to destroy who art thou that judgest another James 411-2
You shall not spread a false report You shall not join hands with a wicked man to be a malicious witness You shall not fall in with the many to do evil nor shall you bear witness in a lawsuit siding with the many so as to pervert justice nor shall you be partial to a poor man in his lawsuit Exodus 231-2
There are six things that the LORD strongly dislikes seven that are an abomination to him haughty eyes a lying tongue and hands that shed innocent blood a heart that devises wicked plans feet that make haste to run to evil a false witness who breathes out lies and one who sows discord among brothers Prov 616-19
ldquoYe judge after the flesh I judge no man And yet if I judge my judgment is true for I am not alone but I and the Father that sent merdquo (Jesus in John 815-6)
Judge not according to the appearance but judge righteous judgment John 724
Judge via Godrsquos standards not by appearances (evidence that we gathered) Also James 41-2
We must not be hypocrites when judging others for we are judged by our own standards Judge not and ye shall not be
judged condemn not and ye shall not be condemned forgive and ye shall be forgiven Luke 637
Matt 71-5 Luke 637-42 Romans 21-5 Romans 220-23 2 Sam 121-7
We are not to judge others regarding legalistic adherence to ordinances (holidays observances what to eat etc) for such are matters of faith Romans 141-23 2 Cor 87-13
Colossians 216-23 Romans 821 1 Cor 1023 Romans 45 23 Romans 1413 Romans 932 1 Cor 89 Galatians 51 13
We should not judge anyonersquos eternal destiny eternal worth and identity Therefore do not pronounce
judgment before the time before the Lord comes who will bring to light the things now hidden in darkness and will disclose the purposes of the heart Then each one will receive his commendation from God 1 Corinthians 45
Jesus said ldquoBut I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment Again anyone who says to his brother Raca is answerable to the Sanhedrin But anyone who says You fool will be in danger of the fire of hellrdquo Matt 522
Concerning Angels
But Michael the archangel when he disputed with the devil and argued about the body of Moses did not dare pronounce against him a railing judgment but said The Lord rebuke you Jude 19
Concerning God
We are not to judge (condemn God) but He does invite us to ask him questions and to reason with Him
Come now let us reason together says the Lord Isaiah 118
If any of you lack wisdom he should ask God who give generously to all without finding fault James 15
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull To whom are you presenting
evidence to
Who is the Judge
Me God Other people Society norm Whose standards are we using Do
we dare say that we have the fullness of Godrsquos knowledge wisdom justice mercy and authority to be in that role
The Father judges no one but has given all judgment to the Son that all may honor the Son just as they honor the Father John 522
For the LORD is our judge the LORD is our lawgiver the LORD is our king he will save us
Isaiah 3322
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where to have the trialbull What evidence I use bull Who or what am I putting on trial
A person a lifetime of behavior or one fixable behavior
bull How I am sifting through the evidence
bull Who is the judge and attorneybull Humility
We can judge a behavior That is wrong and it inflicted pain on me or it is not something God desires
We cannot judge a personrsquos worth identity and character
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Spiritual Needs
Somethingsomeone greater than self a need to worship
Guidance standard Identity Purpose Destiny Growth expansion industry work Justice and Righteousness
TimePowerOrder
Human seed createdGod breathe His breath into humans
Human Spirit is crafted by God to be an image of Himself Identity goodness worth importance guidance purpose and destiny are all defined by God and written into our DNA
Godrsquos Design
bull Human Mind fed by Godrsquos truths knowledge wisdom order organization guidance creativity dreams
bull Human Emotions fed by Godrsquos care provision love joy hope acceptance
Human Spirit
(identity worth
goodness
importance
guidance purpose
and destiny)Defined by God
Relationship with God
Human Will comes in agreement and the humanrsquos spirit soul and body starts to grow and manifest the image of God
Body grows and it along with spirit mind emotions and will continues to be fed by relationship and Godrsquos nutrients
Over time
TimePowerOrderBears fruit
God is the provision source of Life
Human
Spirit
Human BodyLike leaves
MindEmotion
Tru
th
Human Will Agrees
Tree of Life has seeds in it and has capability for reproducing
And God said ldquo I give you every seed-bearing plant on the face of the whole earth and every tree that has fruit with seed in it They will be yours for foodrdquo Gen 129
And the Lord God planted a garden toward the east in Eden and there He placed the man whom He had formed And out of the ground the Lord God caused to grow every tree that is pleasing to the sight and good for food the tree of life also in the midst of the garden and the tree of the knowledge of good and evil Gen 28-9
The LORD God took the man and put him in the Garden of Eden to work it and take care of it
Genesis 215
GOD Inward out
movementHuman
SpiritHuman
SoulHuman Body
Human spirit communes with God and gets download mind and emotion analyze it Will decides on a response and body expresses that response
Free Will in the Fall
Sin did not just happen to Eve She had to use her will to choose what evidence she uses for her decision
Sin did not just happen to Adam He actively chose to be passive and did not subdue the serpent and his lies His will had to actively choose action or inaction
Evidence via bodily senses (eye touch hearing etc)
Evidence is processed by
Mind amp Emo and
The Will chooses
Eating Fruit of Knowledge of Good amp Evil
Outward in
movement
Human Body
Human Soul
Human Spirit
Spirit is shaped by what the
will decidesSerpent
After the fall spirit of human bull Cut off from God is
no longer lsquodefinedrsquo by God
bull Is lost without identity belonging significance purpose destiny
bull Seeks to be defined by something
Afterthe Fall
Current and past
experiences
Body collects evidence
How I feel
What I know
Will chooses
Body does
Human spiritidentity
defined by actions feelings evidence
Before the fallmdashinward out growth
I know who I am soul and body grows out of that
After the fallmdashoutward in movement
I donrsquot know who I am so I get information from my soul and that tells me (spirit)who I am what Irsquom worth etc
Root system is changed
SpiritMind
Emotions
Past experiences evidence in the natural realm
EmotionsBody SensationsMind
Human Spirit is lost
without identity worth
Human mind emotions and body is subjecta slave to accept evidence in the natural realm as truth
God still showers us but there is limited absorption
LiesDeception
AccusationsDoubts
Emotional slave to
shame guilt confusion
Human Will comes in
agreement evidence received from the
body emotion and
mind and defines spiritrsquos
identity and worth
Human grows
Over time
TimePowerOrderBears fruit
Human Will
Guilt
Shame
Anger Judgments
Pride
Idolatry
Fear
LustCriticism
Death
PassivityUnforgivene
ss
Evidence based on senses of
the body
Knowledge based on feelings
Rational Logic
Doubt lies and accusations
Mind Emotions
Body
Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil is good for food Every fruit that has seed in it is good for food Therefore Fruit of Knowledge of Good and Evil has seeds in it
Seeds reproduces
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
God gave humans the charge of tending our gardens So lets take a look at how a plant of anger can be
growing in our garden
Common questions and beliefs God gets angry why canrsquot I
How is anger binding to me I have forgiven so many times why
is it still hurting or why am I still angry
Irsquom not bitter or angry anymore do I still have to forgive
As long as they do whatrsquos right I wonrsquot get angry They are the ones with the problem
If I donrsquot get angry they will just keep doing it
My anger is justified (righteous anger)
Itrsquos an emotion I canrsquot help it or control it
Anger management = keeping my mouth shut and be a doormat
Forgiving others makes them think that they are right and they can continue to behave that way
Dropping an issue = admitting guilt Give it time and anger will blow over
by itself If I suppress my anger Irsquom not
hurting anyone What if I am angry at God
Anatomy Growth Cycle of
AngerHow does one grow and
multiply an ldquoAnger Treerdquo
What is anger
Word associated with Fury rage wrath mad violence yelling hitting destruction hatred fits irate belligerence vengeful
Euphemisms
Frustrated
Aggravated
Upset Irritated Annoyed Indignan
t Tried incensed
Animosity
At odds Sore Injured Impatien
t Peeved Cold tiff
Passionate
Vexed Bitter Displeas
ed Exasper
ate Aggressi
ve Resentfu
l antagoni
ze
Call it what it is
Anger is typically described as an emotional preservation response to violation of personal worth needs and convictions (A threat or a wound)
But it is not just an emotion
The Seed Trigger Phase (a threat or wound is encountered)bull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
bull Red Alert ldquoIrsquom in dangerrdquo Triggers stress response Fight Flight Freeze or Fawn
Fight Flight Freeze Fawn Response
Fight Stay and fight the danger (Anger)
Flight Run away (FearAnxiety) Freeze Play dead and let danger
blow pass (Depression) Fawn Co-dependency Let me
serve you and join your cause
Fight or Flight Response Is a physiological reaction that
occurs in response to a perceived harmful event attack threat to survival in humans and animals
First described by Walter Bradford Cannon
Animals reacts to threats with a general discharge of the sympathetic nervous system that primes the animal for fighting or fleeing
Adrenal Medulla produces a hormonal cascade resulting in secretion of adrenaline and noradrenaline (epinephrinenorepinephrine)
Effects of AdrenalineNoradrenaline
Acceleration of heart and lung action
Inhibition of digestive system
Constriction of blood vessels to shunt blood to heart lungs and muscles
Auditory exclusion (hearing loss)
Dilation of pupils to see with increased clarity but with tunnel vision (loss of peripheral vision)
Increased blood pressure heart rate blood sugar and fats to supply muscles with more energy (chronic triggers sets one up for heart disease high blood pressure diabetes etc)
Speeds up blood clotting function to prevent excess blood loss (can contribute to lsquostickiness of blood and strokes)
Increased perspiration to prevent over-heating due to increased metabolism
The physiological response and serge of energy that one has as a result of the fightflight response been triggered is in and of itself not a sin
All the other phases are up for scrutiny
Anger is not sinful God gets angry Jesus got angry
Mark 35 Matthew 2112-13 Mark 1115-18 John 213-22
Anger in and of itself it is not sinful but bitterness dwelling (meditation) in anger is
Be ANGRY (orgizo provoked aroused to anger) and yet DO NOT SIN do not let the sun go down on your ANGER (parorgismos bitterness exasperation indignation wrath)
Eph 426
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Gathering of evidence and
presentation of the evidence before the court judge of me myself and I (Though we can hold a trial before a third party we usually have done it in our heads already)
Germination of the SeedDevelopment of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge (usually of me myself
and I) render a judgment of guilt of the accused the sentencedebt owed
Sprouting Phase (the first visible sign of anger) Choice Phase One chooses a reaction pathway to fight Open aggression Passive aggression Suppressed aggression Digressive aggression
Growth phase Reaction and Expression Phase bull Various modalities of
ldquofightingrdquo is expressedbull Reaction by the accused
can cause more retaliation and provide additional evidencenutrients
Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the
wound offense and roots due to unforgiveness or retaliation
bull Greater expression of the discontent
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Disclaimer
These are illustrative understanding of anger
I will attempt to show you pitfalls and where the doors to the enemy and root issues might be
It is not meant to be exhaustive to do list but to show you the power and freedom of choice
I do not claim understand the fullness of Godrsquos or human anger
The Seed Trigger Phasebull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
Pitfall We assume that the world should be like us which would be reasonable if we were all defined by God But the world we live in now is define by self--relativism that onersquos needs and convictions is different than others
Questions for the Trigger Phase Who is defining my worth
(safeguard this and reserve it only for God)
Am I jumping to conclusions about a personrsquos motivation
Do I have a hypersensitivity due to past wounds
Questions for the Trigger Phase Is the other person aware that a
violation had occurred Is the other person aware of my convictions
Can I accept differences in the convictions Accept the other person as is--different
Is the other person aware of my needs
Are my expectations reasonable
Reasonable Expectations are
Realized (Am I even aware that I have expectations and what they are)
Realistic (Is the expectation executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (expectation Agreed Upon)
The Seed Trigger Phasebull To not assume what is known
and right for me is known to the other person
bull God as source of worth identity Ultimately God is the source of fulfilling needs and the other person is all but human
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Choice of evidence source
VS VS
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where is the evidence been
presentedbull Who gets to present evidence
Is the Trial Fair Where is the trial taking place
Usually in our heads Does the defense even have a chance to present a plead
Is it a one sided argument and presentation of evidence Do you really have all the evidence
Are you retrying old evidence and old verdicts Stacking up condemning evidence
bull Exasperationbull Identity vs
behavior
Who can be the defense attorney
Is the accused allowed to have Jesus as the attorney
This means allowing yourself to see the person through Jesusrsquo eyes
Perhaps letting Him plead a case of mercy
ldquoChrist redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us for it is written ldquoCursed is everyone who is hung on a polerdquo (Gal 313)
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull What are you doing with the
evidence
Judging Anakrino ἀνακρίνω (Strongrsquos
G350)
examine or judge to investigate examine enquire into
scrutinise sift question specifically in a forensic sense of a judge to
hold an investigation to interrogate examine the accused or
witnesses to judge of estimate determine (the
excellence or defects of any person or thing)
(1 Cor 215 43 44 1424)
But he that is spiritual judgeth (anakrino) all things yet he himself is judged (anakrino) of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ 1 Cor 215-6
But he that is spiritual investigates examines inquires scrutinizes questions all things yet he himself determines (is determined by) the excellence or defects of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ
Krinō κρίνω (Strongrsquos G2919)
to separate select choose approve prefer to be of opinion determine to pronounce an opinion concerning right and wrong pronounce judgment to rulegovernpreside over with the power of giving judicial decisions to contend have suite at law go to law
Do ye not know that the saints shall judge (krino) the world and if the world shall be judged (krino) by you are ye unworthy to judge (kritērion) the smallest matters 1 Cor 62
Krinō comes with guidelines I can of mine own self do nothing
as I hear I judge and my judgment is just because I seek not mine own will but the will of the Father which hath sent me (Jesus in John 530)
We must have our will in submission to Godrsquos will and purposes Humility before God and men
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose And when he had looked round
about on them with anger being grieved for the hardness of their hearts he saith unto the man Stretch forth thine hand And he stretched it out and his hand was restored whole as the other Mark 35
And they were bringing unto him little children that he should touch them and the disciples rebuked them But when Jesus saw it he was moved with indignation and said unto them ldquoSuffer the little children to come unto me forbid them not for to such belongeth the kingdom of Godrdquo Mark 1013-4
Godrsquos Restorative purpose And the Passover of the Jews was at
hand and Jesus went up to Jerusalem And he found in the temple those that sold oxen and sheep and doves and the changers of money sitting and he made a scourge of cords and cast all out of the temple both the sheep and the oxen and he poured out the changers money and overthrew their tables and to them that sold the doves he said Take these things hence make not my Fathers house a house of merchandise His disciples remembered that it was written Zeal for thy house shall eat me up John213-7
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another Forgive as the Lord forgave youput on love which binds them all together in perfect unityrdquo Col 312-4
We should not base judgments on malicious lies or evil misrepresetations Speak not evil one of another
brethren He that speaketh evil of his brother and judgeth his brother speaketh evil of the law and judgeth the law but if thou judge the law thou art not a doer of the law but a judge There is one lawgiver who is able to save and to destroy who art thou that judgest another James 411-2
You shall not spread a false report You shall not join hands with a wicked man to be a malicious witness You shall not fall in with the many to do evil nor shall you bear witness in a lawsuit siding with the many so as to pervert justice nor shall you be partial to a poor man in his lawsuit Exodus 231-2
There are six things that the LORD strongly dislikes seven that are an abomination to him haughty eyes a lying tongue and hands that shed innocent blood a heart that devises wicked plans feet that make haste to run to evil a false witness who breathes out lies and one who sows discord among brothers Prov 616-19
ldquoYe judge after the flesh I judge no man And yet if I judge my judgment is true for I am not alone but I and the Father that sent merdquo (Jesus in John 815-6)
Judge not according to the appearance but judge righteous judgment John 724
Judge via Godrsquos standards not by appearances (evidence that we gathered) Also James 41-2
We must not be hypocrites when judging others for we are judged by our own standards Judge not and ye shall not be
judged condemn not and ye shall not be condemned forgive and ye shall be forgiven Luke 637
Matt 71-5 Luke 637-42 Romans 21-5 Romans 220-23 2 Sam 121-7
We are not to judge others regarding legalistic adherence to ordinances (holidays observances what to eat etc) for such are matters of faith Romans 141-23 2 Cor 87-13
Colossians 216-23 Romans 821 1 Cor 1023 Romans 45 23 Romans 1413 Romans 932 1 Cor 89 Galatians 51 13
We should not judge anyonersquos eternal destiny eternal worth and identity Therefore do not pronounce
judgment before the time before the Lord comes who will bring to light the things now hidden in darkness and will disclose the purposes of the heart Then each one will receive his commendation from God 1 Corinthians 45
Jesus said ldquoBut I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment Again anyone who says to his brother Raca is answerable to the Sanhedrin But anyone who says You fool will be in danger of the fire of hellrdquo Matt 522
Concerning Angels
But Michael the archangel when he disputed with the devil and argued about the body of Moses did not dare pronounce against him a railing judgment but said The Lord rebuke you Jude 19
Concerning God
We are not to judge (condemn God) but He does invite us to ask him questions and to reason with Him
Come now let us reason together says the Lord Isaiah 118
If any of you lack wisdom he should ask God who give generously to all without finding fault James 15
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull To whom are you presenting
evidence to
Who is the Judge
Me God Other people Society norm Whose standards are we using Do
we dare say that we have the fullness of Godrsquos knowledge wisdom justice mercy and authority to be in that role
The Father judges no one but has given all judgment to the Son that all may honor the Son just as they honor the Father John 522
For the LORD is our judge the LORD is our lawgiver the LORD is our king he will save us
Isaiah 3322
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where to have the trialbull What evidence I use bull Who or what am I putting on trial
A person a lifetime of behavior or one fixable behavior
bull How I am sifting through the evidence
bull Who is the judge and attorneybull Humility
We can judge a behavior That is wrong and it inflicted pain on me or it is not something God desires
We cannot judge a personrsquos worth identity and character
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
TimePowerOrder
Human seed createdGod breathe His breath into humans
Human Spirit is crafted by God to be an image of Himself Identity goodness worth importance guidance purpose and destiny are all defined by God and written into our DNA
Godrsquos Design
bull Human Mind fed by Godrsquos truths knowledge wisdom order organization guidance creativity dreams
bull Human Emotions fed by Godrsquos care provision love joy hope acceptance
Human Spirit
(identity worth
goodness
importance
guidance purpose
and destiny)Defined by God
Relationship with God
Human Will comes in agreement and the humanrsquos spirit soul and body starts to grow and manifest the image of God
Body grows and it along with spirit mind emotions and will continues to be fed by relationship and Godrsquos nutrients
Over time
TimePowerOrderBears fruit
God is the provision source of Life
Human
Spirit
Human BodyLike leaves
MindEmotion
Tru
th
Human Will Agrees
Tree of Life has seeds in it and has capability for reproducing
And God said ldquo I give you every seed-bearing plant on the face of the whole earth and every tree that has fruit with seed in it They will be yours for foodrdquo Gen 129
And the Lord God planted a garden toward the east in Eden and there He placed the man whom He had formed And out of the ground the Lord God caused to grow every tree that is pleasing to the sight and good for food the tree of life also in the midst of the garden and the tree of the knowledge of good and evil Gen 28-9
The LORD God took the man and put him in the Garden of Eden to work it and take care of it
Genesis 215
GOD Inward out
movementHuman
SpiritHuman
SoulHuman Body
Human spirit communes with God and gets download mind and emotion analyze it Will decides on a response and body expresses that response
Free Will in the Fall
Sin did not just happen to Eve She had to use her will to choose what evidence she uses for her decision
Sin did not just happen to Adam He actively chose to be passive and did not subdue the serpent and his lies His will had to actively choose action or inaction
Evidence via bodily senses (eye touch hearing etc)
Evidence is processed by
Mind amp Emo and
The Will chooses
Eating Fruit of Knowledge of Good amp Evil
Outward in
movement
Human Body
Human Soul
Human Spirit
Spirit is shaped by what the
will decidesSerpent
After the fall spirit of human bull Cut off from God is
no longer lsquodefinedrsquo by God
bull Is lost without identity belonging significance purpose destiny
bull Seeks to be defined by something
Afterthe Fall
Current and past
experiences
Body collects evidence
How I feel
What I know
Will chooses
Body does
Human spiritidentity
defined by actions feelings evidence
Before the fallmdashinward out growth
I know who I am soul and body grows out of that
After the fallmdashoutward in movement
I donrsquot know who I am so I get information from my soul and that tells me (spirit)who I am what Irsquom worth etc
Root system is changed
SpiritMind
Emotions
Past experiences evidence in the natural realm
EmotionsBody SensationsMind
Human Spirit is lost
without identity worth
Human mind emotions and body is subjecta slave to accept evidence in the natural realm as truth
God still showers us but there is limited absorption
LiesDeception
AccusationsDoubts
Emotional slave to
shame guilt confusion
Human Will comes in
agreement evidence received from the
body emotion and
mind and defines spiritrsquos
identity and worth
Human grows
Over time
TimePowerOrderBears fruit
Human Will
Guilt
Shame
Anger Judgments
Pride
Idolatry
Fear
LustCriticism
Death
PassivityUnforgivene
ss
Evidence based on senses of
the body
Knowledge based on feelings
Rational Logic
Doubt lies and accusations
Mind Emotions
Body
Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil is good for food Every fruit that has seed in it is good for food Therefore Fruit of Knowledge of Good and Evil has seeds in it
Seeds reproduces
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
God gave humans the charge of tending our gardens So lets take a look at how a plant of anger can be
growing in our garden
Common questions and beliefs God gets angry why canrsquot I
How is anger binding to me I have forgiven so many times why
is it still hurting or why am I still angry
Irsquom not bitter or angry anymore do I still have to forgive
As long as they do whatrsquos right I wonrsquot get angry They are the ones with the problem
If I donrsquot get angry they will just keep doing it
My anger is justified (righteous anger)
Itrsquos an emotion I canrsquot help it or control it
Anger management = keeping my mouth shut and be a doormat
Forgiving others makes them think that they are right and they can continue to behave that way
Dropping an issue = admitting guilt Give it time and anger will blow over
by itself If I suppress my anger Irsquom not
hurting anyone What if I am angry at God
Anatomy Growth Cycle of
AngerHow does one grow and
multiply an ldquoAnger Treerdquo
What is anger
Word associated with Fury rage wrath mad violence yelling hitting destruction hatred fits irate belligerence vengeful
Euphemisms
Frustrated
Aggravated
Upset Irritated Annoyed Indignan
t Tried incensed
Animosity
At odds Sore Injured Impatien
t Peeved Cold tiff
Passionate
Vexed Bitter Displeas
ed Exasper
ate Aggressi
ve Resentfu
l antagoni
ze
Call it what it is
Anger is typically described as an emotional preservation response to violation of personal worth needs and convictions (A threat or a wound)
But it is not just an emotion
The Seed Trigger Phase (a threat or wound is encountered)bull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
bull Red Alert ldquoIrsquom in dangerrdquo Triggers stress response Fight Flight Freeze or Fawn
Fight Flight Freeze Fawn Response
Fight Stay and fight the danger (Anger)
Flight Run away (FearAnxiety) Freeze Play dead and let danger
blow pass (Depression) Fawn Co-dependency Let me
serve you and join your cause
Fight or Flight Response Is a physiological reaction that
occurs in response to a perceived harmful event attack threat to survival in humans and animals
First described by Walter Bradford Cannon
Animals reacts to threats with a general discharge of the sympathetic nervous system that primes the animal for fighting or fleeing
Adrenal Medulla produces a hormonal cascade resulting in secretion of adrenaline and noradrenaline (epinephrinenorepinephrine)
Effects of AdrenalineNoradrenaline
Acceleration of heart and lung action
Inhibition of digestive system
Constriction of blood vessels to shunt blood to heart lungs and muscles
Auditory exclusion (hearing loss)
Dilation of pupils to see with increased clarity but with tunnel vision (loss of peripheral vision)
Increased blood pressure heart rate blood sugar and fats to supply muscles with more energy (chronic triggers sets one up for heart disease high blood pressure diabetes etc)
Speeds up blood clotting function to prevent excess blood loss (can contribute to lsquostickiness of blood and strokes)
Increased perspiration to prevent over-heating due to increased metabolism
The physiological response and serge of energy that one has as a result of the fightflight response been triggered is in and of itself not a sin
All the other phases are up for scrutiny
Anger is not sinful God gets angry Jesus got angry
Mark 35 Matthew 2112-13 Mark 1115-18 John 213-22
Anger in and of itself it is not sinful but bitterness dwelling (meditation) in anger is
Be ANGRY (orgizo provoked aroused to anger) and yet DO NOT SIN do not let the sun go down on your ANGER (parorgismos bitterness exasperation indignation wrath)
Eph 426
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Gathering of evidence and
presentation of the evidence before the court judge of me myself and I (Though we can hold a trial before a third party we usually have done it in our heads already)
Germination of the SeedDevelopment of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge (usually of me myself
and I) render a judgment of guilt of the accused the sentencedebt owed
Sprouting Phase (the first visible sign of anger) Choice Phase One chooses a reaction pathway to fight Open aggression Passive aggression Suppressed aggression Digressive aggression
Growth phase Reaction and Expression Phase bull Various modalities of
ldquofightingrdquo is expressedbull Reaction by the accused
can cause more retaliation and provide additional evidencenutrients
Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the
wound offense and roots due to unforgiveness or retaliation
bull Greater expression of the discontent
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Disclaimer
These are illustrative understanding of anger
I will attempt to show you pitfalls and where the doors to the enemy and root issues might be
It is not meant to be exhaustive to do list but to show you the power and freedom of choice
I do not claim understand the fullness of Godrsquos or human anger
The Seed Trigger Phasebull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
Pitfall We assume that the world should be like us which would be reasonable if we were all defined by God But the world we live in now is define by self--relativism that onersquos needs and convictions is different than others
Questions for the Trigger Phase Who is defining my worth
(safeguard this and reserve it only for God)
Am I jumping to conclusions about a personrsquos motivation
Do I have a hypersensitivity due to past wounds
Questions for the Trigger Phase Is the other person aware that a
violation had occurred Is the other person aware of my convictions
Can I accept differences in the convictions Accept the other person as is--different
Is the other person aware of my needs
Are my expectations reasonable
Reasonable Expectations are
Realized (Am I even aware that I have expectations and what they are)
Realistic (Is the expectation executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (expectation Agreed Upon)
The Seed Trigger Phasebull To not assume what is known
and right for me is known to the other person
bull God as source of worth identity Ultimately God is the source of fulfilling needs and the other person is all but human
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Choice of evidence source
VS VS
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where is the evidence been
presentedbull Who gets to present evidence
Is the Trial Fair Where is the trial taking place
Usually in our heads Does the defense even have a chance to present a plead
Is it a one sided argument and presentation of evidence Do you really have all the evidence
Are you retrying old evidence and old verdicts Stacking up condemning evidence
bull Exasperationbull Identity vs
behavior
Who can be the defense attorney
Is the accused allowed to have Jesus as the attorney
This means allowing yourself to see the person through Jesusrsquo eyes
Perhaps letting Him plead a case of mercy
ldquoChrist redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us for it is written ldquoCursed is everyone who is hung on a polerdquo (Gal 313)
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull What are you doing with the
evidence
Judging Anakrino ἀνακρίνω (Strongrsquos
G350)
examine or judge to investigate examine enquire into
scrutinise sift question specifically in a forensic sense of a judge to
hold an investigation to interrogate examine the accused or
witnesses to judge of estimate determine (the
excellence or defects of any person or thing)
(1 Cor 215 43 44 1424)
But he that is spiritual judgeth (anakrino) all things yet he himself is judged (anakrino) of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ 1 Cor 215-6
But he that is spiritual investigates examines inquires scrutinizes questions all things yet he himself determines (is determined by) the excellence or defects of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ
Krinō κρίνω (Strongrsquos G2919)
to separate select choose approve prefer to be of opinion determine to pronounce an opinion concerning right and wrong pronounce judgment to rulegovernpreside over with the power of giving judicial decisions to contend have suite at law go to law
Do ye not know that the saints shall judge (krino) the world and if the world shall be judged (krino) by you are ye unworthy to judge (kritērion) the smallest matters 1 Cor 62
Krinō comes with guidelines I can of mine own self do nothing
as I hear I judge and my judgment is just because I seek not mine own will but the will of the Father which hath sent me (Jesus in John 530)
We must have our will in submission to Godrsquos will and purposes Humility before God and men
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose And when he had looked round
about on them with anger being grieved for the hardness of their hearts he saith unto the man Stretch forth thine hand And he stretched it out and his hand was restored whole as the other Mark 35
And they were bringing unto him little children that he should touch them and the disciples rebuked them But when Jesus saw it he was moved with indignation and said unto them ldquoSuffer the little children to come unto me forbid them not for to such belongeth the kingdom of Godrdquo Mark 1013-4
Godrsquos Restorative purpose And the Passover of the Jews was at
hand and Jesus went up to Jerusalem And he found in the temple those that sold oxen and sheep and doves and the changers of money sitting and he made a scourge of cords and cast all out of the temple both the sheep and the oxen and he poured out the changers money and overthrew their tables and to them that sold the doves he said Take these things hence make not my Fathers house a house of merchandise His disciples remembered that it was written Zeal for thy house shall eat me up John213-7
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another Forgive as the Lord forgave youput on love which binds them all together in perfect unityrdquo Col 312-4
We should not base judgments on malicious lies or evil misrepresetations Speak not evil one of another
brethren He that speaketh evil of his brother and judgeth his brother speaketh evil of the law and judgeth the law but if thou judge the law thou art not a doer of the law but a judge There is one lawgiver who is able to save and to destroy who art thou that judgest another James 411-2
You shall not spread a false report You shall not join hands with a wicked man to be a malicious witness You shall not fall in with the many to do evil nor shall you bear witness in a lawsuit siding with the many so as to pervert justice nor shall you be partial to a poor man in his lawsuit Exodus 231-2
There are six things that the LORD strongly dislikes seven that are an abomination to him haughty eyes a lying tongue and hands that shed innocent blood a heart that devises wicked plans feet that make haste to run to evil a false witness who breathes out lies and one who sows discord among brothers Prov 616-19
ldquoYe judge after the flesh I judge no man And yet if I judge my judgment is true for I am not alone but I and the Father that sent merdquo (Jesus in John 815-6)
Judge not according to the appearance but judge righteous judgment John 724
Judge via Godrsquos standards not by appearances (evidence that we gathered) Also James 41-2
We must not be hypocrites when judging others for we are judged by our own standards Judge not and ye shall not be
judged condemn not and ye shall not be condemned forgive and ye shall be forgiven Luke 637
Matt 71-5 Luke 637-42 Romans 21-5 Romans 220-23 2 Sam 121-7
We are not to judge others regarding legalistic adherence to ordinances (holidays observances what to eat etc) for such are matters of faith Romans 141-23 2 Cor 87-13
Colossians 216-23 Romans 821 1 Cor 1023 Romans 45 23 Romans 1413 Romans 932 1 Cor 89 Galatians 51 13
We should not judge anyonersquos eternal destiny eternal worth and identity Therefore do not pronounce
judgment before the time before the Lord comes who will bring to light the things now hidden in darkness and will disclose the purposes of the heart Then each one will receive his commendation from God 1 Corinthians 45
Jesus said ldquoBut I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment Again anyone who says to his brother Raca is answerable to the Sanhedrin But anyone who says You fool will be in danger of the fire of hellrdquo Matt 522
Concerning Angels
But Michael the archangel when he disputed with the devil and argued about the body of Moses did not dare pronounce against him a railing judgment but said The Lord rebuke you Jude 19
Concerning God
We are not to judge (condemn God) but He does invite us to ask him questions and to reason with Him
Come now let us reason together says the Lord Isaiah 118
If any of you lack wisdom he should ask God who give generously to all without finding fault James 15
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull To whom are you presenting
evidence to
Who is the Judge
Me God Other people Society norm Whose standards are we using Do
we dare say that we have the fullness of Godrsquos knowledge wisdom justice mercy and authority to be in that role
The Father judges no one but has given all judgment to the Son that all may honor the Son just as they honor the Father John 522
For the LORD is our judge the LORD is our lawgiver the LORD is our king he will save us
Isaiah 3322
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where to have the trialbull What evidence I use bull Who or what am I putting on trial
A person a lifetime of behavior or one fixable behavior
bull How I am sifting through the evidence
bull Who is the judge and attorneybull Humility
We can judge a behavior That is wrong and it inflicted pain on me or it is not something God desires
We cannot judge a personrsquos worth identity and character
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Human seed createdGod breathe His breath into humans
Human Spirit is crafted by God to be an image of Himself Identity goodness worth importance guidance purpose and destiny are all defined by God and written into our DNA
Godrsquos Design
bull Human Mind fed by Godrsquos truths knowledge wisdom order organization guidance creativity dreams
bull Human Emotions fed by Godrsquos care provision love joy hope acceptance
Human Spirit
(identity worth
goodness
importance
guidance purpose
and destiny)Defined by God
Relationship with God
Human Will comes in agreement and the humanrsquos spirit soul and body starts to grow and manifest the image of God
Body grows and it along with spirit mind emotions and will continues to be fed by relationship and Godrsquos nutrients
Over time
TimePowerOrderBears fruit
God is the provision source of Life
Human
Spirit
Human BodyLike leaves
MindEmotion
Tru
th
Human Will Agrees
Tree of Life has seeds in it and has capability for reproducing
And God said ldquo I give you every seed-bearing plant on the face of the whole earth and every tree that has fruit with seed in it They will be yours for foodrdquo Gen 129
And the Lord God planted a garden toward the east in Eden and there He placed the man whom He had formed And out of the ground the Lord God caused to grow every tree that is pleasing to the sight and good for food the tree of life also in the midst of the garden and the tree of the knowledge of good and evil Gen 28-9
The LORD God took the man and put him in the Garden of Eden to work it and take care of it
Genesis 215
GOD Inward out
movementHuman
SpiritHuman
SoulHuman Body
Human spirit communes with God and gets download mind and emotion analyze it Will decides on a response and body expresses that response
Free Will in the Fall
Sin did not just happen to Eve She had to use her will to choose what evidence she uses for her decision
Sin did not just happen to Adam He actively chose to be passive and did not subdue the serpent and his lies His will had to actively choose action or inaction
Evidence via bodily senses (eye touch hearing etc)
Evidence is processed by
Mind amp Emo and
The Will chooses
Eating Fruit of Knowledge of Good amp Evil
Outward in
movement
Human Body
Human Soul
Human Spirit
Spirit is shaped by what the
will decidesSerpent
After the fall spirit of human bull Cut off from God is
no longer lsquodefinedrsquo by God
bull Is lost without identity belonging significance purpose destiny
bull Seeks to be defined by something
Afterthe Fall
Current and past
experiences
Body collects evidence
How I feel
What I know
Will chooses
Body does
Human spiritidentity
defined by actions feelings evidence
Before the fallmdashinward out growth
I know who I am soul and body grows out of that
After the fallmdashoutward in movement
I donrsquot know who I am so I get information from my soul and that tells me (spirit)who I am what Irsquom worth etc
Root system is changed
SpiritMind
Emotions
Past experiences evidence in the natural realm
EmotionsBody SensationsMind
Human Spirit is lost
without identity worth
Human mind emotions and body is subjecta slave to accept evidence in the natural realm as truth
God still showers us but there is limited absorption
LiesDeception
AccusationsDoubts
Emotional slave to
shame guilt confusion
Human Will comes in
agreement evidence received from the
body emotion and
mind and defines spiritrsquos
identity and worth
Human grows
Over time
TimePowerOrderBears fruit
Human Will
Guilt
Shame
Anger Judgments
Pride
Idolatry
Fear
LustCriticism
Death
PassivityUnforgivene
ss
Evidence based on senses of
the body
Knowledge based on feelings
Rational Logic
Doubt lies and accusations
Mind Emotions
Body
Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil is good for food Every fruit that has seed in it is good for food Therefore Fruit of Knowledge of Good and Evil has seeds in it
Seeds reproduces
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
God gave humans the charge of tending our gardens So lets take a look at how a plant of anger can be
growing in our garden
Common questions and beliefs God gets angry why canrsquot I
How is anger binding to me I have forgiven so many times why
is it still hurting or why am I still angry
Irsquom not bitter or angry anymore do I still have to forgive
As long as they do whatrsquos right I wonrsquot get angry They are the ones with the problem
If I donrsquot get angry they will just keep doing it
My anger is justified (righteous anger)
Itrsquos an emotion I canrsquot help it or control it
Anger management = keeping my mouth shut and be a doormat
Forgiving others makes them think that they are right and they can continue to behave that way
Dropping an issue = admitting guilt Give it time and anger will blow over
by itself If I suppress my anger Irsquom not
hurting anyone What if I am angry at God
Anatomy Growth Cycle of
AngerHow does one grow and
multiply an ldquoAnger Treerdquo
What is anger
Word associated with Fury rage wrath mad violence yelling hitting destruction hatred fits irate belligerence vengeful
Euphemisms
Frustrated
Aggravated
Upset Irritated Annoyed Indignan
t Tried incensed
Animosity
At odds Sore Injured Impatien
t Peeved Cold tiff
Passionate
Vexed Bitter Displeas
ed Exasper
ate Aggressi
ve Resentfu
l antagoni
ze
Call it what it is
Anger is typically described as an emotional preservation response to violation of personal worth needs and convictions (A threat or a wound)
But it is not just an emotion
The Seed Trigger Phase (a threat or wound is encountered)bull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
bull Red Alert ldquoIrsquom in dangerrdquo Triggers stress response Fight Flight Freeze or Fawn
Fight Flight Freeze Fawn Response
Fight Stay and fight the danger (Anger)
Flight Run away (FearAnxiety) Freeze Play dead and let danger
blow pass (Depression) Fawn Co-dependency Let me
serve you and join your cause
Fight or Flight Response Is a physiological reaction that
occurs in response to a perceived harmful event attack threat to survival in humans and animals
First described by Walter Bradford Cannon
Animals reacts to threats with a general discharge of the sympathetic nervous system that primes the animal for fighting or fleeing
Adrenal Medulla produces a hormonal cascade resulting in secretion of adrenaline and noradrenaline (epinephrinenorepinephrine)
Effects of AdrenalineNoradrenaline
Acceleration of heart and lung action
Inhibition of digestive system
Constriction of blood vessels to shunt blood to heart lungs and muscles
Auditory exclusion (hearing loss)
Dilation of pupils to see with increased clarity but with tunnel vision (loss of peripheral vision)
Increased blood pressure heart rate blood sugar and fats to supply muscles with more energy (chronic triggers sets one up for heart disease high blood pressure diabetes etc)
Speeds up blood clotting function to prevent excess blood loss (can contribute to lsquostickiness of blood and strokes)
Increased perspiration to prevent over-heating due to increased metabolism
The physiological response and serge of energy that one has as a result of the fightflight response been triggered is in and of itself not a sin
All the other phases are up for scrutiny
Anger is not sinful God gets angry Jesus got angry
Mark 35 Matthew 2112-13 Mark 1115-18 John 213-22
Anger in and of itself it is not sinful but bitterness dwelling (meditation) in anger is
Be ANGRY (orgizo provoked aroused to anger) and yet DO NOT SIN do not let the sun go down on your ANGER (parorgismos bitterness exasperation indignation wrath)
Eph 426
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Gathering of evidence and
presentation of the evidence before the court judge of me myself and I (Though we can hold a trial before a third party we usually have done it in our heads already)
Germination of the SeedDevelopment of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge (usually of me myself
and I) render a judgment of guilt of the accused the sentencedebt owed
Sprouting Phase (the first visible sign of anger) Choice Phase One chooses a reaction pathway to fight Open aggression Passive aggression Suppressed aggression Digressive aggression
Growth phase Reaction and Expression Phase bull Various modalities of
ldquofightingrdquo is expressedbull Reaction by the accused
can cause more retaliation and provide additional evidencenutrients
Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the
wound offense and roots due to unforgiveness or retaliation
bull Greater expression of the discontent
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Disclaimer
These are illustrative understanding of anger
I will attempt to show you pitfalls and where the doors to the enemy and root issues might be
It is not meant to be exhaustive to do list but to show you the power and freedom of choice
I do not claim understand the fullness of Godrsquos or human anger
The Seed Trigger Phasebull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
Pitfall We assume that the world should be like us which would be reasonable if we were all defined by God But the world we live in now is define by self--relativism that onersquos needs and convictions is different than others
Questions for the Trigger Phase Who is defining my worth
(safeguard this and reserve it only for God)
Am I jumping to conclusions about a personrsquos motivation
Do I have a hypersensitivity due to past wounds
Questions for the Trigger Phase Is the other person aware that a
violation had occurred Is the other person aware of my convictions
Can I accept differences in the convictions Accept the other person as is--different
Is the other person aware of my needs
Are my expectations reasonable
Reasonable Expectations are
Realized (Am I even aware that I have expectations and what they are)
Realistic (Is the expectation executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (expectation Agreed Upon)
The Seed Trigger Phasebull To not assume what is known
and right for me is known to the other person
bull God as source of worth identity Ultimately God is the source of fulfilling needs and the other person is all but human
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Choice of evidence source
VS VS
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where is the evidence been
presentedbull Who gets to present evidence
Is the Trial Fair Where is the trial taking place
Usually in our heads Does the defense even have a chance to present a plead
Is it a one sided argument and presentation of evidence Do you really have all the evidence
Are you retrying old evidence and old verdicts Stacking up condemning evidence
bull Exasperationbull Identity vs
behavior
Who can be the defense attorney
Is the accused allowed to have Jesus as the attorney
This means allowing yourself to see the person through Jesusrsquo eyes
Perhaps letting Him plead a case of mercy
ldquoChrist redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us for it is written ldquoCursed is everyone who is hung on a polerdquo (Gal 313)
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull What are you doing with the
evidence
Judging Anakrino ἀνακρίνω (Strongrsquos
G350)
examine or judge to investigate examine enquire into
scrutinise sift question specifically in a forensic sense of a judge to
hold an investigation to interrogate examine the accused or
witnesses to judge of estimate determine (the
excellence or defects of any person or thing)
(1 Cor 215 43 44 1424)
But he that is spiritual judgeth (anakrino) all things yet he himself is judged (anakrino) of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ 1 Cor 215-6
But he that is spiritual investigates examines inquires scrutinizes questions all things yet he himself determines (is determined by) the excellence or defects of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ
Krinō κρίνω (Strongrsquos G2919)
to separate select choose approve prefer to be of opinion determine to pronounce an opinion concerning right and wrong pronounce judgment to rulegovernpreside over with the power of giving judicial decisions to contend have suite at law go to law
Do ye not know that the saints shall judge (krino) the world and if the world shall be judged (krino) by you are ye unworthy to judge (kritērion) the smallest matters 1 Cor 62
Krinō comes with guidelines I can of mine own self do nothing
as I hear I judge and my judgment is just because I seek not mine own will but the will of the Father which hath sent me (Jesus in John 530)
We must have our will in submission to Godrsquos will and purposes Humility before God and men
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose And when he had looked round
about on them with anger being grieved for the hardness of their hearts he saith unto the man Stretch forth thine hand And he stretched it out and his hand was restored whole as the other Mark 35
And they were bringing unto him little children that he should touch them and the disciples rebuked them But when Jesus saw it he was moved with indignation and said unto them ldquoSuffer the little children to come unto me forbid them not for to such belongeth the kingdom of Godrdquo Mark 1013-4
Godrsquos Restorative purpose And the Passover of the Jews was at
hand and Jesus went up to Jerusalem And he found in the temple those that sold oxen and sheep and doves and the changers of money sitting and he made a scourge of cords and cast all out of the temple both the sheep and the oxen and he poured out the changers money and overthrew their tables and to them that sold the doves he said Take these things hence make not my Fathers house a house of merchandise His disciples remembered that it was written Zeal for thy house shall eat me up John213-7
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another Forgive as the Lord forgave youput on love which binds them all together in perfect unityrdquo Col 312-4
We should not base judgments on malicious lies or evil misrepresetations Speak not evil one of another
brethren He that speaketh evil of his brother and judgeth his brother speaketh evil of the law and judgeth the law but if thou judge the law thou art not a doer of the law but a judge There is one lawgiver who is able to save and to destroy who art thou that judgest another James 411-2
You shall not spread a false report You shall not join hands with a wicked man to be a malicious witness You shall not fall in with the many to do evil nor shall you bear witness in a lawsuit siding with the many so as to pervert justice nor shall you be partial to a poor man in his lawsuit Exodus 231-2
There are six things that the LORD strongly dislikes seven that are an abomination to him haughty eyes a lying tongue and hands that shed innocent blood a heart that devises wicked plans feet that make haste to run to evil a false witness who breathes out lies and one who sows discord among brothers Prov 616-19
ldquoYe judge after the flesh I judge no man And yet if I judge my judgment is true for I am not alone but I and the Father that sent merdquo (Jesus in John 815-6)
Judge not according to the appearance but judge righteous judgment John 724
Judge via Godrsquos standards not by appearances (evidence that we gathered) Also James 41-2
We must not be hypocrites when judging others for we are judged by our own standards Judge not and ye shall not be
judged condemn not and ye shall not be condemned forgive and ye shall be forgiven Luke 637
Matt 71-5 Luke 637-42 Romans 21-5 Romans 220-23 2 Sam 121-7
We are not to judge others regarding legalistic adherence to ordinances (holidays observances what to eat etc) for such are matters of faith Romans 141-23 2 Cor 87-13
Colossians 216-23 Romans 821 1 Cor 1023 Romans 45 23 Romans 1413 Romans 932 1 Cor 89 Galatians 51 13
We should not judge anyonersquos eternal destiny eternal worth and identity Therefore do not pronounce
judgment before the time before the Lord comes who will bring to light the things now hidden in darkness and will disclose the purposes of the heart Then each one will receive his commendation from God 1 Corinthians 45
Jesus said ldquoBut I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment Again anyone who says to his brother Raca is answerable to the Sanhedrin But anyone who says You fool will be in danger of the fire of hellrdquo Matt 522
Concerning Angels
But Michael the archangel when he disputed with the devil and argued about the body of Moses did not dare pronounce against him a railing judgment but said The Lord rebuke you Jude 19
Concerning God
We are not to judge (condemn God) but He does invite us to ask him questions and to reason with Him
Come now let us reason together says the Lord Isaiah 118
If any of you lack wisdom he should ask God who give generously to all without finding fault James 15
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull To whom are you presenting
evidence to
Who is the Judge
Me God Other people Society norm Whose standards are we using Do
we dare say that we have the fullness of Godrsquos knowledge wisdom justice mercy and authority to be in that role
The Father judges no one but has given all judgment to the Son that all may honor the Son just as they honor the Father John 522
For the LORD is our judge the LORD is our lawgiver the LORD is our king he will save us
Isaiah 3322
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where to have the trialbull What evidence I use bull Who or what am I putting on trial
A person a lifetime of behavior or one fixable behavior
bull How I am sifting through the evidence
bull Who is the judge and attorneybull Humility
We can judge a behavior That is wrong and it inflicted pain on me or it is not something God desires
We cannot judge a personrsquos worth identity and character
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
bull Human Mind fed by Godrsquos truths knowledge wisdom order organization guidance creativity dreams
bull Human Emotions fed by Godrsquos care provision love joy hope acceptance
Human Spirit
(identity worth
goodness
importance
guidance purpose
and destiny)Defined by God
Relationship with God
Human Will comes in agreement and the humanrsquos spirit soul and body starts to grow and manifest the image of God
Body grows and it along with spirit mind emotions and will continues to be fed by relationship and Godrsquos nutrients
Over time
TimePowerOrderBears fruit
God is the provision source of Life
Human
Spirit
Human BodyLike leaves
MindEmotion
Tru
th
Human Will Agrees
Tree of Life has seeds in it and has capability for reproducing
And God said ldquo I give you every seed-bearing plant on the face of the whole earth and every tree that has fruit with seed in it They will be yours for foodrdquo Gen 129
And the Lord God planted a garden toward the east in Eden and there He placed the man whom He had formed And out of the ground the Lord God caused to grow every tree that is pleasing to the sight and good for food the tree of life also in the midst of the garden and the tree of the knowledge of good and evil Gen 28-9
The LORD God took the man and put him in the Garden of Eden to work it and take care of it
Genesis 215
GOD Inward out
movementHuman
SpiritHuman
SoulHuman Body
Human spirit communes with God and gets download mind and emotion analyze it Will decides on a response and body expresses that response
Free Will in the Fall
Sin did not just happen to Eve She had to use her will to choose what evidence she uses for her decision
Sin did not just happen to Adam He actively chose to be passive and did not subdue the serpent and his lies His will had to actively choose action or inaction
Evidence via bodily senses (eye touch hearing etc)
Evidence is processed by
Mind amp Emo and
The Will chooses
Eating Fruit of Knowledge of Good amp Evil
Outward in
movement
Human Body
Human Soul
Human Spirit
Spirit is shaped by what the
will decidesSerpent
After the fall spirit of human bull Cut off from God is
no longer lsquodefinedrsquo by God
bull Is lost without identity belonging significance purpose destiny
bull Seeks to be defined by something
Afterthe Fall
Current and past
experiences
Body collects evidence
How I feel
What I know
Will chooses
Body does
Human spiritidentity
defined by actions feelings evidence
Before the fallmdashinward out growth
I know who I am soul and body grows out of that
After the fallmdashoutward in movement
I donrsquot know who I am so I get information from my soul and that tells me (spirit)who I am what Irsquom worth etc
Root system is changed
SpiritMind
Emotions
Past experiences evidence in the natural realm
EmotionsBody SensationsMind
Human Spirit is lost
without identity worth
Human mind emotions and body is subjecta slave to accept evidence in the natural realm as truth
God still showers us but there is limited absorption
LiesDeception
AccusationsDoubts
Emotional slave to
shame guilt confusion
Human Will comes in
agreement evidence received from the
body emotion and
mind and defines spiritrsquos
identity and worth
Human grows
Over time
TimePowerOrderBears fruit
Human Will
Guilt
Shame
Anger Judgments
Pride
Idolatry
Fear
LustCriticism
Death
PassivityUnforgivene
ss
Evidence based on senses of
the body
Knowledge based on feelings
Rational Logic
Doubt lies and accusations
Mind Emotions
Body
Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil is good for food Every fruit that has seed in it is good for food Therefore Fruit of Knowledge of Good and Evil has seeds in it
Seeds reproduces
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
God gave humans the charge of tending our gardens So lets take a look at how a plant of anger can be
growing in our garden
Common questions and beliefs God gets angry why canrsquot I
How is anger binding to me I have forgiven so many times why
is it still hurting or why am I still angry
Irsquom not bitter or angry anymore do I still have to forgive
As long as they do whatrsquos right I wonrsquot get angry They are the ones with the problem
If I donrsquot get angry they will just keep doing it
My anger is justified (righteous anger)
Itrsquos an emotion I canrsquot help it or control it
Anger management = keeping my mouth shut and be a doormat
Forgiving others makes them think that they are right and they can continue to behave that way
Dropping an issue = admitting guilt Give it time and anger will blow over
by itself If I suppress my anger Irsquom not
hurting anyone What if I am angry at God
Anatomy Growth Cycle of
AngerHow does one grow and
multiply an ldquoAnger Treerdquo
What is anger
Word associated with Fury rage wrath mad violence yelling hitting destruction hatred fits irate belligerence vengeful
Euphemisms
Frustrated
Aggravated
Upset Irritated Annoyed Indignan
t Tried incensed
Animosity
At odds Sore Injured Impatien
t Peeved Cold tiff
Passionate
Vexed Bitter Displeas
ed Exasper
ate Aggressi
ve Resentfu
l antagoni
ze
Call it what it is
Anger is typically described as an emotional preservation response to violation of personal worth needs and convictions (A threat or a wound)
But it is not just an emotion
The Seed Trigger Phase (a threat or wound is encountered)bull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
bull Red Alert ldquoIrsquom in dangerrdquo Triggers stress response Fight Flight Freeze or Fawn
Fight Flight Freeze Fawn Response
Fight Stay and fight the danger (Anger)
Flight Run away (FearAnxiety) Freeze Play dead and let danger
blow pass (Depression) Fawn Co-dependency Let me
serve you and join your cause
Fight or Flight Response Is a physiological reaction that
occurs in response to a perceived harmful event attack threat to survival in humans and animals
First described by Walter Bradford Cannon
Animals reacts to threats with a general discharge of the sympathetic nervous system that primes the animal for fighting or fleeing
Adrenal Medulla produces a hormonal cascade resulting in secretion of adrenaline and noradrenaline (epinephrinenorepinephrine)
Effects of AdrenalineNoradrenaline
Acceleration of heart and lung action
Inhibition of digestive system
Constriction of blood vessels to shunt blood to heart lungs and muscles
Auditory exclusion (hearing loss)
Dilation of pupils to see with increased clarity but with tunnel vision (loss of peripheral vision)
Increased blood pressure heart rate blood sugar and fats to supply muscles with more energy (chronic triggers sets one up for heart disease high blood pressure diabetes etc)
Speeds up blood clotting function to prevent excess blood loss (can contribute to lsquostickiness of blood and strokes)
Increased perspiration to prevent over-heating due to increased metabolism
The physiological response and serge of energy that one has as a result of the fightflight response been triggered is in and of itself not a sin
All the other phases are up for scrutiny
Anger is not sinful God gets angry Jesus got angry
Mark 35 Matthew 2112-13 Mark 1115-18 John 213-22
Anger in and of itself it is not sinful but bitterness dwelling (meditation) in anger is
Be ANGRY (orgizo provoked aroused to anger) and yet DO NOT SIN do not let the sun go down on your ANGER (parorgismos bitterness exasperation indignation wrath)
Eph 426
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Gathering of evidence and
presentation of the evidence before the court judge of me myself and I (Though we can hold a trial before a third party we usually have done it in our heads already)
Germination of the SeedDevelopment of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge (usually of me myself
and I) render a judgment of guilt of the accused the sentencedebt owed
Sprouting Phase (the first visible sign of anger) Choice Phase One chooses a reaction pathway to fight Open aggression Passive aggression Suppressed aggression Digressive aggression
Growth phase Reaction and Expression Phase bull Various modalities of
ldquofightingrdquo is expressedbull Reaction by the accused
can cause more retaliation and provide additional evidencenutrients
Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the
wound offense and roots due to unforgiveness or retaliation
bull Greater expression of the discontent
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Disclaimer
These are illustrative understanding of anger
I will attempt to show you pitfalls and where the doors to the enemy and root issues might be
It is not meant to be exhaustive to do list but to show you the power and freedom of choice
I do not claim understand the fullness of Godrsquos or human anger
The Seed Trigger Phasebull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
Pitfall We assume that the world should be like us which would be reasonable if we were all defined by God But the world we live in now is define by self--relativism that onersquos needs and convictions is different than others
Questions for the Trigger Phase Who is defining my worth
(safeguard this and reserve it only for God)
Am I jumping to conclusions about a personrsquos motivation
Do I have a hypersensitivity due to past wounds
Questions for the Trigger Phase Is the other person aware that a
violation had occurred Is the other person aware of my convictions
Can I accept differences in the convictions Accept the other person as is--different
Is the other person aware of my needs
Are my expectations reasonable
Reasonable Expectations are
Realized (Am I even aware that I have expectations and what they are)
Realistic (Is the expectation executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (expectation Agreed Upon)
The Seed Trigger Phasebull To not assume what is known
and right for me is known to the other person
bull God as source of worth identity Ultimately God is the source of fulfilling needs and the other person is all but human
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Choice of evidence source
VS VS
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where is the evidence been
presentedbull Who gets to present evidence
Is the Trial Fair Where is the trial taking place
Usually in our heads Does the defense even have a chance to present a plead
Is it a one sided argument and presentation of evidence Do you really have all the evidence
Are you retrying old evidence and old verdicts Stacking up condemning evidence
bull Exasperationbull Identity vs
behavior
Who can be the defense attorney
Is the accused allowed to have Jesus as the attorney
This means allowing yourself to see the person through Jesusrsquo eyes
Perhaps letting Him plead a case of mercy
ldquoChrist redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us for it is written ldquoCursed is everyone who is hung on a polerdquo (Gal 313)
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull What are you doing with the
evidence
Judging Anakrino ἀνακρίνω (Strongrsquos
G350)
examine or judge to investigate examine enquire into
scrutinise sift question specifically in a forensic sense of a judge to
hold an investigation to interrogate examine the accused or
witnesses to judge of estimate determine (the
excellence or defects of any person or thing)
(1 Cor 215 43 44 1424)
But he that is spiritual judgeth (anakrino) all things yet he himself is judged (anakrino) of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ 1 Cor 215-6
But he that is spiritual investigates examines inquires scrutinizes questions all things yet he himself determines (is determined by) the excellence or defects of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ
Krinō κρίνω (Strongrsquos G2919)
to separate select choose approve prefer to be of opinion determine to pronounce an opinion concerning right and wrong pronounce judgment to rulegovernpreside over with the power of giving judicial decisions to contend have suite at law go to law
Do ye not know that the saints shall judge (krino) the world and if the world shall be judged (krino) by you are ye unworthy to judge (kritērion) the smallest matters 1 Cor 62
Krinō comes with guidelines I can of mine own self do nothing
as I hear I judge and my judgment is just because I seek not mine own will but the will of the Father which hath sent me (Jesus in John 530)
We must have our will in submission to Godrsquos will and purposes Humility before God and men
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose And when he had looked round
about on them with anger being grieved for the hardness of their hearts he saith unto the man Stretch forth thine hand And he stretched it out and his hand was restored whole as the other Mark 35
And they were bringing unto him little children that he should touch them and the disciples rebuked them But when Jesus saw it he was moved with indignation and said unto them ldquoSuffer the little children to come unto me forbid them not for to such belongeth the kingdom of Godrdquo Mark 1013-4
Godrsquos Restorative purpose And the Passover of the Jews was at
hand and Jesus went up to Jerusalem And he found in the temple those that sold oxen and sheep and doves and the changers of money sitting and he made a scourge of cords and cast all out of the temple both the sheep and the oxen and he poured out the changers money and overthrew their tables and to them that sold the doves he said Take these things hence make not my Fathers house a house of merchandise His disciples remembered that it was written Zeal for thy house shall eat me up John213-7
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another Forgive as the Lord forgave youput on love which binds them all together in perfect unityrdquo Col 312-4
We should not base judgments on malicious lies or evil misrepresetations Speak not evil one of another
brethren He that speaketh evil of his brother and judgeth his brother speaketh evil of the law and judgeth the law but if thou judge the law thou art not a doer of the law but a judge There is one lawgiver who is able to save and to destroy who art thou that judgest another James 411-2
You shall not spread a false report You shall not join hands with a wicked man to be a malicious witness You shall not fall in with the many to do evil nor shall you bear witness in a lawsuit siding with the many so as to pervert justice nor shall you be partial to a poor man in his lawsuit Exodus 231-2
There are six things that the LORD strongly dislikes seven that are an abomination to him haughty eyes a lying tongue and hands that shed innocent blood a heart that devises wicked plans feet that make haste to run to evil a false witness who breathes out lies and one who sows discord among brothers Prov 616-19
ldquoYe judge after the flesh I judge no man And yet if I judge my judgment is true for I am not alone but I and the Father that sent merdquo (Jesus in John 815-6)
Judge not according to the appearance but judge righteous judgment John 724
Judge via Godrsquos standards not by appearances (evidence that we gathered) Also James 41-2
We must not be hypocrites when judging others for we are judged by our own standards Judge not and ye shall not be
judged condemn not and ye shall not be condemned forgive and ye shall be forgiven Luke 637
Matt 71-5 Luke 637-42 Romans 21-5 Romans 220-23 2 Sam 121-7
We are not to judge others regarding legalistic adherence to ordinances (holidays observances what to eat etc) for such are matters of faith Romans 141-23 2 Cor 87-13
Colossians 216-23 Romans 821 1 Cor 1023 Romans 45 23 Romans 1413 Romans 932 1 Cor 89 Galatians 51 13
We should not judge anyonersquos eternal destiny eternal worth and identity Therefore do not pronounce
judgment before the time before the Lord comes who will bring to light the things now hidden in darkness and will disclose the purposes of the heart Then each one will receive his commendation from God 1 Corinthians 45
Jesus said ldquoBut I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment Again anyone who says to his brother Raca is answerable to the Sanhedrin But anyone who says You fool will be in danger of the fire of hellrdquo Matt 522
Concerning Angels
But Michael the archangel when he disputed with the devil and argued about the body of Moses did not dare pronounce against him a railing judgment but said The Lord rebuke you Jude 19
Concerning God
We are not to judge (condemn God) but He does invite us to ask him questions and to reason with Him
Come now let us reason together says the Lord Isaiah 118
If any of you lack wisdom he should ask God who give generously to all without finding fault James 15
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull To whom are you presenting
evidence to
Who is the Judge
Me God Other people Society norm Whose standards are we using Do
we dare say that we have the fullness of Godrsquos knowledge wisdom justice mercy and authority to be in that role
The Father judges no one but has given all judgment to the Son that all may honor the Son just as they honor the Father John 522
For the LORD is our judge the LORD is our lawgiver the LORD is our king he will save us
Isaiah 3322
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where to have the trialbull What evidence I use bull Who or what am I putting on trial
A person a lifetime of behavior or one fixable behavior
bull How I am sifting through the evidence
bull Who is the judge and attorneybull Humility
We can judge a behavior That is wrong and it inflicted pain on me or it is not something God desires
We cannot judge a personrsquos worth identity and character
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Body grows and it along with spirit mind emotions and will continues to be fed by relationship and Godrsquos nutrients
Over time
TimePowerOrderBears fruit
God is the provision source of Life
Human
Spirit
Human BodyLike leaves
MindEmotion
Tru
th
Human Will Agrees
Tree of Life has seeds in it and has capability for reproducing
And God said ldquo I give you every seed-bearing plant on the face of the whole earth and every tree that has fruit with seed in it They will be yours for foodrdquo Gen 129
And the Lord God planted a garden toward the east in Eden and there He placed the man whom He had formed And out of the ground the Lord God caused to grow every tree that is pleasing to the sight and good for food the tree of life also in the midst of the garden and the tree of the knowledge of good and evil Gen 28-9
The LORD God took the man and put him in the Garden of Eden to work it and take care of it
Genesis 215
GOD Inward out
movementHuman
SpiritHuman
SoulHuman Body
Human spirit communes with God and gets download mind and emotion analyze it Will decides on a response and body expresses that response
Free Will in the Fall
Sin did not just happen to Eve She had to use her will to choose what evidence she uses for her decision
Sin did not just happen to Adam He actively chose to be passive and did not subdue the serpent and his lies His will had to actively choose action or inaction
Evidence via bodily senses (eye touch hearing etc)
Evidence is processed by
Mind amp Emo and
The Will chooses
Eating Fruit of Knowledge of Good amp Evil
Outward in
movement
Human Body
Human Soul
Human Spirit
Spirit is shaped by what the
will decidesSerpent
After the fall spirit of human bull Cut off from God is
no longer lsquodefinedrsquo by God
bull Is lost without identity belonging significance purpose destiny
bull Seeks to be defined by something
Afterthe Fall
Current and past
experiences
Body collects evidence
How I feel
What I know
Will chooses
Body does
Human spiritidentity
defined by actions feelings evidence
Before the fallmdashinward out growth
I know who I am soul and body grows out of that
After the fallmdashoutward in movement
I donrsquot know who I am so I get information from my soul and that tells me (spirit)who I am what Irsquom worth etc
Root system is changed
SpiritMind
Emotions
Past experiences evidence in the natural realm
EmotionsBody SensationsMind
Human Spirit is lost
without identity worth
Human mind emotions and body is subjecta slave to accept evidence in the natural realm as truth
God still showers us but there is limited absorption
LiesDeception
AccusationsDoubts
Emotional slave to
shame guilt confusion
Human Will comes in
agreement evidence received from the
body emotion and
mind and defines spiritrsquos
identity and worth
Human grows
Over time
TimePowerOrderBears fruit
Human Will
Guilt
Shame
Anger Judgments
Pride
Idolatry
Fear
LustCriticism
Death
PassivityUnforgivene
ss
Evidence based on senses of
the body
Knowledge based on feelings
Rational Logic
Doubt lies and accusations
Mind Emotions
Body
Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil is good for food Every fruit that has seed in it is good for food Therefore Fruit of Knowledge of Good and Evil has seeds in it
Seeds reproduces
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
God gave humans the charge of tending our gardens So lets take a look at how a plant of anger can be
growing in our garden
Common questions and beliefs God gets angry why canrsquot I
How is anger binding to me I have forgiven so many times why
is it still hurting or why am I still angry
Irsquom not bitter or angry anymore do I still have to forgive
As long as they do whatrsquos right I wonrsquot get angry They are the ones with the problem
If I donrsquot get angry they will just keep doing it
My anger is justified (righteous anger)
Itrsquos an emotion I canrsquot help it or control it
Anger management = keeping my mouth shut and be a doormat
Forgiving others makes them think that they are right and they can continue to behave that way
Dropping an issue = admitting guilt Give it time and anger will blow over
by itself If I suppress my anger Irsquom not
hurting anyone What if I am angry at God
Anatomy Growth Cycle of
AngerHow does one grow and
multiply an ldquoAnger Treerdquo
What is anger
Word associated with Fury rage wrath mad violence yelling hitting destruction hatred fits irate belligerence vengeful
Euphemisms
Frustrated
Aggravated
Upset Irritated Annoyed Indignan
t Tried incensed
Animosity
At odds Sore Injured Impatien
t Peeved Cold tiff
Passionate
Vexed Bitter Displeas
ed Exasper
ate Aggressi
ve Resentfu
l antagoni
ze
Call it what it is
Anger is typically described as an emotional preservation response to violation of personal worth needs and convictions (A threat or a wound)
But it is not just an emotion
The Seed Trigger Phase (a threat or wound is encountered)bull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
bull Red Alert ldquoIrsquom in dangerrdquo Triggers stress response Fight Flight Freeze or Fawn
Fight Flight Freeze Fawn Response
Fight Stay and fight the danger (Anger)
Flight Run away (FearAnxiety) Freeze Play dead and let danger
blow pass (Depression) Fawn Co-dependency Let me
serve you and join your cause
Fight or Flight Response Is a physiological reaction that
occurs in response to a perceived harmful event attack threat to survival in humans and animals
First described by Walter Bradford Cannon
Animals reacts to threats with a general discharge of the sympathetic nervous system that primes the animal for fighting or fleeing
Adrenal Medulla produces a hormonal cascade resulting in secretion of adrenaline and noradrenaline (epinephrinenorepinephrine)
Effects of AdrenalineNoradrenaline
Acceleration of heart and lung action
Inhibition of digestive system
Constriction of blood vessels to shunt blood to heart lungs and muscles
Auditory exclusion (hearing loss)
Dilation of pupils to see with increased clarity but with tunnel vision (loss of peripheral vision)
Increased blood pressure heart rate blood sugar and fats to supply muscles with more energy (chronic triggers sets one up for heart disease high blood pressure diabetes etc)
Speeds up blood clotting function to prevent excess blood loss (can contribute to lsquostickiness of blood and strokes)
Increased perspiration to prevent over-heating due to increased metabolism
The physiological response and serge of energy that one has as a result of the fightflight response been triggered is in and of itself not a sin
All the other phases are up for scrutiny
Anger is not sinful God gets angry Jesus got angry
Mark 35 Matthew 2112-13 Mark 1115-18 John 213-22
Anger in and of itself it is not sinful but bitterness dwelling (meditation) in anger is
Be ANGRY (orgizo provoked aroused to anger) and yet DO NOT SIN do not let the sun go down on your ANGER (parorgismos bitterness exasperation indignation wrath)
Eph 426
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Gathering of evidence and
presentation of the evidence before the court judge of me myself and I (Though we can hold a trial before a third party we usually have done it in our heads already)
Germination of the SeedDevelopment of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge (usually of me myself
and I) render a judgment of guilt of the accused the sentencedebt owed
Sprouting Phase (the first visible sign of anger) Choice Phase One chooses a reaction pathway to fight Open aggression Passive aggression Suppressed aggression Digressive aggression
Growth phase Reaction and Expression Phase bull Various modalities of
ldquofightingrdquo is expressedbull Reaction by the accused
can cause more retaliation and provide additional evidencenutrients
Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the
wound offense and roots due to unforgiveness or retaliation
bull Greater expression of the discontent
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Disclaimer
These are illustrative understanding of anger
I will attempt to show you pitfalls and where the doors to the enemy and root issues might be
It is not meant to be exhaustive to do list but to show you the power and freedom of choice
I do not claim understand the fullness of Godrsquos or human anger
The Seed Trigger Phasebull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
Pitfall We assume that the world should be like us which would be reasonable if we were all defined by God But the world we live in now is define by self--relativism that onersquos needs and convictions is different than others
Questions for the Trigger Phase Who is defining my worth
(safeguard this and reserve it only for God)
Am I jumping to conclusions about a personrsquos motivation
Do I have a hypersensitivity due to past wounds
Questions for the Trigger Phase Is the other person aware that a
violation had occurred Is the other person aware of my convictions
Can I accept differences in the convictions Accept the other person as is--different
Is the other person aware of my needs
Are my expectations reasonable
Reasonable Expectations are
Realized (Am I even aware that I have expectations and what they are)
Realistic (Is the expectation executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (expectation Agreed Upon)
The Seed Trigger Phasebull To not assume what is known
and right for me is known to the other person
bull God as source of worth identity Ultimately God is the source of fulfilling needs and the other person is all but human
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Choice of evidence source
VS VS
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where is the evidence been
presentedbull Who gets to present evidence
Is the Trial Fair Where is the trial taking place
Usually in our heads Does the defense even have a chance to present a plead
Is it a one sided argument and presentation of evidence Do you really have all the evidence
Are you retrying old evidence and old verdicts Stacking up condemning evidence
bull Exasperationbull Identity vs
behavior
Who can be the defense attorney
Is the accused allowed to have Jesus as the attorney
This means allowing yourself to see the person through Jesusrsquo eyes
Perhaps letting Him plead a case of mercy
ldquoChrist redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us for it is written ldquoCursed is everyone who is hung on a polerdquo (Gal 313)
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull What are you doing with the
evidence
Judging Anakrino ἀνακρίνω (Strongrsquos
G350)
examine or judge to investigate examine enquire into
scrutinise sift question specifically in a forensic sense of a judge to
hold an investigation to interrogate examine the accused or
witnesses to judge of estimate determine (the
excellence or defects of any person or thing)
(1 Cor 215 43 44 1424)
But he that is spiritual judgeth (anakrino) all things yet he himself is judged (anakrino) of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ 1 Cor 215-6
But he that is spiritual investigates examines inquires scrutinizes questions all things yet he himself determines (is determined by) the excellence or defects of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ
Krinō κρίνω (Strongrsquos G2919)
to separate select choose approve prefer to be of opinion determine to pronounce an opinion concerning right and wrong pronounce judgment to rulegovernpreside over with the power of giving judicial decisions to contend have suite at law go to law
Do ye not know that the saints shall judge (krino) the world and if the world shall be judged (krino) by you are ye unworthy to judge (kritērion) the smallest matters 1 Cor 62
Krinō comes with guidelines I can of mine own self do nothing
as I hear I judge and my judgment is just because I seek not mine own will but the will of the Father which hath sent me (Jesus in John 530)
We must have our will in submission to Godrsquos will and purposes Humility before God and men
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose And when he had looked round
about on them with anger being grieved for the hardness of their hearts he saith unto the man Stretch forth thine hand And he stretched it out and his hand was restored whole as the other Mark 35
And they were bringing unto him little children that he should touch them and the disciples rebuked them But when Jesus saw it he was moved with indignation and said unto them ldquoSuffer the little children to come unto me forbid them not for to such belongeth the kingdom of Godrdquo Mark 1013-4
Godrsquos Restorative purpose And the Passover of the Jews was at
hand and Jesus went up to Jerusalem And he found in the temple those that sold oxen and sheep and doves and the changers of money sitting and he made a scourge of cords and cast all out of the temple both the sheep and the oxen and he poured out the changers money and overthrew their tables and to them that sold the doves he said Take these things hence make not my Fathers house a house of merchandise His disciples remembered that it was written Zeal for thy house shall eat me up John213-7
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another Forgive as the Lord forgave youput on love which binds them all together in perfect unityrdquo Col 312-4
We should not base judgments on malicious lies or evil misrepresetations Speak not evil one of another
brethren He that speaketh evil of his brother and judgeth his brother speaketh evil of the law and judgeth the law but if thou judge the law thou art not a doer of the law but a judge There is one lawgiver who is able to save and to destroy who art thou that judgest another James 411-2
You shall not spread a false report You shall not join hands with a wicked man to be a malicious witness You shall not fall in with the many to do evil nor shall you bear witness in a lawsuit siding with the many so as to pervert justice nor shall you be partial to a poor man in his lawsuit Exodus 231-2
There are six things that the LORD strongly dislikes seven that are an abomination to him haughty eyes a lying tongue and hands that shed innocent blood a heart that devises wicked plans feet that make haste to run to evil a false witness who breathes out lies and one who sows discord among brothers Prov 616-19
ldquoYe judge after the flesh I judge no man And yet if I judge my judgment is true for I am not alone but I and the Father that sent merdquo (Jesus in John 815-6)
Judge not according to the appearance but judge righteous judgment John 724
Judge via Godrsquos standards not by appearances (evidence that we gathered) Also James 41-2
We must not be hypocrites when judging others for we are judged by our own standards Judge not and ye shall not be
judged condemn not and ye shall not be condemned forgive and ye shall be forgiven Luke 637
Matt 71-5 Luke 637-42 Romans 21-5 Romans 220-23 2 Sam 121-7
We are not to judge others regarding legalistic adherence to ordinances (holidays observances what to eat etc) for such are matters of faith Romans 141-23 2 Cor 87-13
Colossians 216-23 Romans 821 1 Cor 1023 Romans 45 23 Romans 1413 Romans 932 1 Cor 89 Galatians 51 13
We should not judge anyonersquos eternal destiny eternal worth and identity Therefore do not pronounce
judgment before the time before the Lord comes who will bring to light the things now hidden in darkness and will disclose the purposes of the heart Then each one will receive his commendation from God 1 Corinthians 45
Jesus said ldquoBut I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment Again anyone who says to his brother Raca is answerable to the Sanhedrin But anyone who says You fool will be in danger of the fire of hellrdquo Matt 522
Concerning Angels
But Michael the archangel when he disputed with the devil and argued about the body of Moses did not dare pronounce against him a railing judgment but said The Lord rebuke you Jude 19
Concerning God
We are not to judge (condemn God) but He does invite us to ask him questions and to reason with Him
Come now let us reason together says the Lord Isaiah 118
If any of you lack wisdom he should ask God who give generously to all without finding fault James 15
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull To whom are you presenting
evidence to
Who is the Judge
Me God Other people Society norm Whose standards are we using Do
we dare say that we have the fullness of Godrsquos knowledge wisdom justice mercy and authority to be in that role
The Father judges no one but has given all judgment to the Son that all may honor the Son just as they honor the Father John 522
For the LORD is our judge the LORD is our lawgiver the LORD is our king he will save us
Isaiah 3322
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where to have the trialbull What evidence I use bull Who or what am I putting on trial
A person a lifetime of behavior or one fixable behavior
bull How I am sifting through the evidence
bull Who is the judge and attorneybull Humility
We can judge a behavior That is wrong and it inflicted pain on me or it is not something God desires
We cannot judge a personrsquos worth identity and character
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
God is the provision source of Life
Human
Spirit
Human BodyLike leaves
MindEmotion
Tru
th
Human Will Agrees
Tree of Life has seeds in it and has capability for reproducing
And God said ldquo I give you every seed-bearing plant on the face of the whole earth and every tree that has fruit with seed in it They will be yours for foodrdquo Gen 129
And the Lord God planted a garden toward the east in Eden and there He placed the man whom He had formed And out of the ground the Lord God caused to grow every tree that is pleasing to the sight and good for food the tree of life also in the midst of the garden and the tree of the knowledge of good and evil Gen 28-9
The LORD God took the man and put him in the Garden of Eden to work it and take care of it
Genesis 215
GOD Inward out
movementHuman
SpiritHuman
SoulHuman Body
Human spirit communes with God and gets download mind and emotion analyze it Will decides on a response and body expresses that response
Free Will in the Fall
Sin did not just happen to Eve She had to use her will to choose what evidence she uses for her decision
Sin did not just happen to Adam He actively chose to be passive and did not subdue the serpent and his lies His will had to actively choose action or inaction
Evidence via bodily senses (eye touch hearing etc)
Evidence is processed by
Mind amp Emo and
The Will chooses
Eating Fruit of Knowledge of Good amp Evil
Outward in
movement
Human Body
Human Soul
Human Spirit
Spirit is shaped by what the
will decidesSerpent
After the fall spirit of human bull Cut off from God is
no longer lsquodefinedrsquo by God
bull Is lost without identity belonging significance purpose destiny
bull Seeks to be defined by something
Afterthe Fall
Current and past
experiences
Body collects evidence
How I feel
What I know
Will chooses
Body does
Human spiritidentity
defined by actions feelings evidence
Before the fallmdashinward out growth
I know who I am soul and body grows out of that
After the fallmdashoutward in movement
I donrsquot know who I am so I get information from my soul and that tells me (spirit)who I am what Irsquom worth etc
Root system is changed
SpiritMind
Emotions
Past experiences evidence in the natural realm
EmotionsBody SensationsMind
Human Spirit is lost
without identity worth
Human mind emotions and body is subjecta slave to accept evidence in the natural realm as truth
God still showers us but there is limited absorption
LiesDeception
AccusationsDoubts
Emotional slave to
shame guilt confusion
Human Will comes in
agreement evidence received from the
body emotion and
mind and defines spiritrsquos
identity and worth
Human grows
Over time
TimePowerOrderBears fruit
Human Will
Guilt
Shame
Anger Judgments
Pride
Idolatry
Fear
LustCriticism
Death
PassivityUnforgivene
ss
Evidence based on senses of
the body
Knowledge based on feelings
Rational Logic
Doubt lies and accusations
Mind Emotions
Body
Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil is good for food Every fruit that has seed in it is good for food Therefore Fruit of Knowledge of Good and Evil has seeds in it
Seeds reproduces
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
God gave humans the charge of tending our gardens So lets take a look at how a plant of anger can be
growing in our garden
Common questions and beliefs God gets angry why canrsquot I
How is anger binding to me I have forgiven so many times why
is it still hurting or why am I still angry
Irsquom not bitter or angry anymore do I still have to forgive
As long as they do whatrsquos right I wonrsquot get angry They are the ones with the problem
If I donrsquot get angry they will just keep doing it
My anger is justified (righteous anger)
Itrsquos an emotion I canrsquot help it or control it
Anger management = keeping my mouth shut and be a doormat
Forgiving others makes them think that they are right and they can continue to behave that way
Dropping an issue = admitting guilt Give it time and anger will blow over
by itself If I suppress my anger Irsquom not
hurting anyone What if I am angry at God
Anatomy Growth Cycle of
AngerHow does one grow and
multiply an ldquoAnger Treerdquo
What is anger
Word associated with Fury rage wrath mad violence yelling hitting destruction hatred fits irate belligerence vengeful
Euphemisms
Frustrated
Aggravated
Upset Irritated Annoyed Indignan
t Tried incensed
Animosity
At odds Sore Injured Impatien
t Peeved Cold tiff
Passionate
Vexed Bitter Displeas
ed Exasper
ate Aggressi
ve Resentfu
l antagoni
ze
Call it what it is
Anger is typically described as an emotional preservation response to violation of personal worth needs and convictions (A threat or a wound)
But it is not just an emotion
The Seed Trigger Phase (a threat or wound is encountered)bull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
bull Red Alert ldquoIrsquom in dangerrdquo Triggers stress response Fight Flight Freeze or Fawn
Fight Flight Freeze Fawn Response
Fight Stay and fight the danger (Anger)
Flight Run away (FearAnxiety) Freeze Play dead and let danger
blow pass (Depression) Fawn Co-dependency Let me
serve you and join your cause
Fight or Flight Response Is a physiological reaction that
occurs in response to a perceived harmful event attack threat to survival in humans and animals
First described by Walter Bradford Cannon
Animals reacts to threats with a general discharge of the sympathetic nervous system that primes the animal for fighting or fleeing
Adrenal Medulla produces a hormonal cascade resulting in secretion of adrenaline and noradrenaline (epinephrinenorepinephrine)
Effects of AdrenalineNoradrenaline
Acceleration of heart and lung action
Inhibition of digestive system
Constriction of blood vessels to shunt blood to heart lungs and muscles
Auditory exclusion (hearing loss)
Dilation of pupils to see with increased clarity but with tunnel vision (loss of peripheral vision)
Increased blood pressure heart rate blood sugar and fats to supply muscles with more energy (chronic triggers sets one up for heart disease high blood pressure diabetes etc)
Speeds up blood clotting function to prevent excess blood loss (can contribute to lsquostickiness of blood and strokes)
Increased perspiration to prevent over-heating due to increased metabolism
The physiological response and serge of energy that one has as a result of the fightflight response been triggered is in and of itself not a sin
All the other phases are up for scrutiny
Anger is not sinful God gets angry Jesus got angry
Mark 35 Matthew 2112-13 Mark 1115-18 John 213-22
Anger in and of itself it is not sinful but bitterness dwelling (meditation) in anger is
Be ANGRY (orgizo provoked aroused to anger) and yet DO NOT SIN do not let the sun go down on your ANGER (parorgismos bitterness exasperation indignation wrath)
Eph 426
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Gathering of evidence and
presentation of the evidence before the court judge of me myself and I (Though we can hold a trial before a third party we usually have done it in our heads already)
Germination of the SeedDevelopment of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge (usually of me myself
and I) render a judgment of guilt of the accused the sentencedebt owed
Sprouting Phase (the first visible sign of anger) Choice Phase One chooses a reaction pathway to fight Open aggression Passive aggression Suppressed aggression Digressive aggression
Growth phase Reaction and Expression Phase bull Various modalities of
ldquofightingrdquo is expressedbull Reaction by the accused
can cause more retaliation and provide additional evidencenutrients
Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the
wound offense and roots due to unforgiveness or retaliation
bull Greater expression of the discontent
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Disclaimer
These are illustrative understanding of anger
I will attempt to show you pitfalls and where the doors to the enemy and root issues might be
It is not meant to be exhaustive to do list but to show you the power and freedom of choice
I do not claim understand the fullness of Godrsquos or human anger
The Seed Trigger Phasebull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
Pitfall We assume that the world should be like us which would be reasonable if we were all defined by God But the world we live in now is define by self--relativism that onersquos needs and convictions is different than others
Questions for the Trigger Phase Who is defining my worth
(safeguard this and reserve it only for God)
Am I jumping to conclusions about a personrsquos motivation
Do I have a hypersensitivity due to past wounds
Questions for the Trigger Phase Is the other person aware that a
violation had occurred Is the other person aware of my convictions
Can I accept differences in the convictions Accept the other person as is--different
Is the other person aware of my needs
Are my expectations reasonable
Reasonable Expectations are
Realized (Am I even aware that I have expectations and what they are)
Realistic (Is the expectation executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (expectation Agreed Upon)
The Seed Trigger Phasebull To not assume what is known
and right for me is known to the other person
bull God as source of worth identity Ultimately God is the source of fulfilling needs and the other person is all but human
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Choice of evidence source
VS VS
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where is the evidence been
presentedbull Who gets to present evidence
Is the Trial Fair Where is the trial taking place
Usually in our heads Does the defense even have a chance to present a plead
Is it a one sided argument and presentation of evidence Do you really have all the evidence
Are you retrying old evidence and old verdicts Stacking up condemning evidence
bull Exasperationbull Identity vs
behavior
Who can be the defense attorney
Is the accused allowed to have Jesus as the attorney
This means allowing yourself to see the person through Jesusrsquo eyes
Perhaps letting Him plead a case of mercy
ldquoChrist redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us for it is written ldquoCursed is everyone who is hung on a polerdquo (Gal 313)
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull What are you doing with the
evidence
Judging Anakrino ἀνακρίνω (Strongrsquos
G350)
examine or judge to investigate examine enquire into
scrutinise sift question specifically in a forensic sense of a judge to
hold an investigation to interrogate examine the accused or
witnesses to judge of estimate determine (the
excellence or defects of any person or thing)
(1 Cor 215 43 44 1424)
But he that is spiritual judgeth (anakrino) all things yet he himself is judged (anakrino) of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ 1 Cor 215-6
But he that is spiritual investigates examines inquires scrutinizes questions all things yet he himself determines (is determined by) the excellence or defects of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ
Krinō κρίνω (Strongrsquos G2919)
to separate select choose approve prefer to be of opinion determine to pronounce an opinion concerning right and wrong pronounce judgment to rulegovernpreside over with the power of giving judicial decisions to contend have suite at law go to law
Do ye not know that the saints shall judge (krino) the world and if the world shall be judged (krino) by you are ye unworthy to judge (kritērion) the smallest matters 1 Cor 62
Krinō comes with guidelines I can of mine own self do nothing
as I hear I judge and my judgment is just because I seek not mine own will but the will of the Father which hath sent me (Jesus in John 530)
We must have our will in submission to Godrsquos will and purposes Humility before God and men
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose And when he had looked round
about on them with anger being grieved for the hardness of their hearts he saith unto the man Stretch forth thine hand And he stretched it out and his hand was restored whole as the other Mark 35
And they were bringing unto him little children that he should touch them and the disciples rebuked them But when Jesus saw it he was moved with indignation and said unto them ldquoSuffer the little children to come unto me forbid them not for to such belongeth the kingdom of Godrdquo Mark 1013-4
Godrsquos Restorative purpose And the Passover of the Jews was at
hand and Jesus went up to Jerusalem And he found in the temple those that sold oxen and sheep and doves and the changers of money sitting and he made a scourge of cords and cast all out of the temple both the sheep and the oxen and he poured out the changers money and overthrew their tables and to them that sold the doves he said Take these things hence make not my Fathers house a house of merchandise His disciples remembered that it was written Zeal for thy house shall eat me up John213-7
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another Forgive as the Lord forgave youput on love which binds them all together in perfect unityrdquo Col 312-4
We should not base judgments on malicious lies or evil misrepresetations Speak not evil one of another
brethren He that speaketh evil of his brother and judgeth his brother speaketh evil of the law and judgeth the law but if thou judge the law thou art not a doer of the law but a judge There is one lawgiver who is able to save and to destroy who art thou that judgest another James 411-2
You shall not spread a false report You shall not join hands with a wicked man to be a malicious witness You shall not fall in with the many to do evil nor shall you bear witness in a lawsuit siding with the many so as to pervert justice nor shall you be partial to a poor man in his lawsuit Exodus 231-2
There are six things that the LORD strongly dislikes seven that are an abomination to him haughty eyes a lying tongue and hands that shed innocent blood a heart that devises wicked plans feet that make haste to run to evil a false witness who breathes out lies and one who sows discord among brothers Prov 616-19
ldquoYe judge after the flesh I judge no man And yet if I judge my judgment is true for I am not alone but I and the Father that sent merdquo (Jesus in John 815-6)
Judge not according to the appearance but judge righteous judgment John 724
Judge via Godrsquos standards not by appearances (evidence that we gathered) Also James 41-2
We must not be hypocrites when judging others for we are judged by our own standards Judge not and ye shall not be
judged condemn not and ye shall not be condemned forgive and ye shall be forgiven Luke 637
Matt 71-5 Luke 637-42 Romans 21-5 Romans 220-23 2 Sam 121-7
We are not to judge others regarding legalistic adherence to ordinances (holidays observances what to eat etc) for such are matters of faith Romans 141-23 2 Cor 87-13
Colossians 216-23 Romans 821 1 Cor 1023 Romans 45 23 Romans 1413 Romans 932 1 Cor 89 Galatians 51 13
We should not judge anyonersquos eternal destiny eternal worth and identity Therefore do not pronounce
judgment before the time before the Lord comes who will bring to light the things now hidden in darkness and will disclose the purposes of the heart Then each one will receive his commendation from God 1 Corinthians 45
Jesus said ldquoBut I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment Again anyone who says to his brother Raca is answerable to the Sanhedrin But anyone who says You fool will be in danger of the fire of hellrdquo Matt 522
Concerning Angels
But Michael the archangel when he disputed with the devil and argued about the body of Moses did not dare pronounce against him a railing judgment but said The Lord rebuke you Jude 19
Concerning God
We are not to judge (condemn God) but He does invite us to ask him questions and to reason with Him
Come now let us reason together says the Lord Isaiah 118
If any of you lack wisdom he should ask God who give generously to all without finding fault James 15
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull To whom are you presenting
evidence to
Who is the Judge
Me God Other people Society norm Whose standards are we using Do
we dare say that we have the fullness of Godrsquos knowledge wisdom justice mercy and authority to be in that role
The Father judges no one but has given all judgment to the Son that all may honor the Son just as they honor the Father John 522
For the LORD is our judge the LORD is our lawgiver the LORD is our king he will save us
Isaiah 3322
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where to have the trialbull What evidence I use bull Who or what am I putting on trial
A person a lifetime of behavior or one fixable behavior
bull How I am sifting through the evidence
bull Who is the judge and attorneybull Humility
We can judge a behavior That is wrong and it inflicted pain on me or it is not something God desires
We cannot judge a personrsquos worth identity and character
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Tree of Life has seeds in it and has capability for reproducing
And God said ldquo I give you every seed-bearing plant on the face of the whole earth and every tree that has fruit with seed in it They will be yours for foodrdquo Gen 129
And the Lord God planted a garden toward the east in Eden and there He placed the man whom He had formed And out of the ground the Lord God caused to grow every tree that is pleasing to the sight and good for food the tree of life also in the midst of the garden and the tree of the knowledge of good and evil Gen 28-9
The LORD God took the man and put him in the Garden of Eden to work it and take care of it
Genesis 215
GOD Inward out
movementHuman
SpiritHuman
SoulHuman Body
Human spirit communes with God and gets download mind and emotion analyze it Will decides on a response and body expresses that response
Free Will in the Fall
Sin did not just happen to Eve She had to use her will to choose what evidence she uses for her decision
Sin did not just happen to Adam He actively chose to be passive and did not subdue the serpent and his lies His will had to actively choose action or inaction
Evidence via bodily senses (eye touch hearing etc)
Evidence is processed by
Mind amp Emo and
The Will chooses
Eating Fruit of Knowledge of Good amp Evil
Outward in
movement
Human Body
Human Soul
Human Spirit
Spirit is shaped by what the
will decidesSerpent
After the fall spirit of human bull Cut off from God is
no longer lsquodefinedrsquo by God
bull Is lost without identity belonging significance purpose destiny
bull Seeks to be defined by something
Afterthe Fall
Current and past
experiences
Body collects evidence
How I feel
What I know
Will chooses
Body does
Human spiritidentity
defined by actions feelings evidence
Before the fallmdashinward out growth
I know who I am soul and body grows out of that
After the fallmdashoutward in movement
I donrsquot know who I am so I get information from my soul and that tells me (spirit)who I am what Irsquom worth etc
Root system is changed
SpiritMind
Emotions
Past experiences evidence in the natural realm
EmotionsBody SensationsMind
Human Spirit is lost
without identity worth
Human mind emotions and body is subjecta slave to accept evidence in the natural realm as truth
God still showers us but there is limited absorption
LiesDeception
AccusationsDoubts
Emotional slave to
shame guilt confusion
Human Will comes in
agreement evidence received from the
body emotion and
mind and defines spiritrsquos
identity and worth
Human grows
Over time
TimePowerOrderBears fruit
Human Will
Guilt
Shame
Anger Judgments
Pride
Idolatry
Fear
LustCriticism
Death
PassivityUnforgivene
ss
Evidence based on senses of
the body
Knowledge based on feelings
Rational Logic
Doubt lies and accusations
Mind Emotions
Body
Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil is good for food Every fruit that has seed in it is good for food Therefore Fruit of Knowledge of Good and Evil has seeds in it
Seeds reproduces
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
God gave humans the charge of tending our gardens So lets take a look at how a plant of anger can be
growing in our garden
Common questions and beliefs God gets angry why canrsquot I
How is anger binding to me I have forgiven so many times why
is it still hurting or why am I still angry
Irsquom not bitter or angry anymore do I still have to forgive
As long as they do whatrsquos right I wonrsquot get angry They are the ones with the problem
If I donrsquot get angry they will just keep doing it
My anger is justified (righteous anger)
Itrsquos an emotion I canrsquot help it or control it
Anger management = keeping my mouth shut and be a doormat
Forgiving others makes them think that they are right and they can continue to behave that way
Dropping an issue = admitting guilt Give it time and anger will blow over
by itself If I suppress my anger Irsquom not
hurting anyone What if I am angry at God
Anatomy Growth Cycle of
AngerHow does one grow and
multiply an ldquoAnger Treerdquo
What is anger
Word associated with Fury rage wrath mad violence yelling hitting destruction hatred fits irate belligerence vengeful
Euphemisms
Frustrated
Aggravated
Upset Irritated Annoyed Indignan
t Tried incensed
Animosity
At odds Sore Injured Impatien
t Peeved Cold tiff
Passionate
Vexed Bitter Displeas
ed Exasper
ate Aggressi
ve Resentfu
l antagoni
ze
Call it what it is
Anger is typically described as an emotional preservation response to violation of personal worth needs and convictions (A threat or a wound)
But it is not just an emotion
The Seed Trigger Phase (a threat or wound is encountered)bull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
bull Red Alert ldquoIrsquom in dangerrdquo Triggers stress response Fight Flight Freeze or Fawn
Fight Flight Freeze Fawn Response
Fight Stay and fight the danger (Anger)
Flight Run away (FearAnxiety) Freeze Play dead and let danger
blow pass (Depression) Fawn Co-dependency Let me
serve you and join your cause
Fight or Flight Response Is a physiological reaction that
occurs in response to a perceived harmful event attack threat to survival in humans and animals
First described by Walter Bradford Cannon
Animals reacts to threats with a general discharge of the sympathetic nervous system that primes the animal for fighting or fleeing
Adrenal Medulla produces a hormonal cascade resulting in secretion of adrenaline and noradrenaline (epinephrinenorepinephrine)
Effects of AdrenalineNoradrenaline
Acceleration of heart and lung action
Inhibition of digestive system
Constriction of blood vessels to shunt blood to heart lungs and muscles
Auditory exclusion (hearing loss)
Dilation of pupils to see with increased clarity but with tunnel vision (loss of peripheral vision)
Increased blood pressure heart rate blood sugar and fats to supply muscles with more energy (chronic triggers sets one up for heart disease high blood pressure diabetes etc)
Speeds up blood clotting function to prevent excess blood loss (can contribute to lsquostickiness of blood and strokes)
Increased perspiration to prevent over-heating due to increased metabolism
The physiological response and serge of energy that one has as a result of the fightflight response been triggered is in and of itself not a sin
All the other phases are up for scrutiny
Anger is not sinful God gets angry Jesus got angry
Mark 35 Matthew 2112-13 Mark 1115-18 John 213-22
Anger in and of itself it is not sinful but bitterness dwelling (meditation) in anger is
Be ANGRY (orgizo provoked aroused to anger) and yet DO NOT SIN do not let the sun go down on your ANGER (parorgismos bitterness exasperation indignation wrath)
Eph 426
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Gathering of evidence and
presentation of the evidence before the court judge of me myself and I (Though we can hold a trial before a third party we usually have done it in our heads already)
Germination of the SeedDevelopment of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge (usually of me myself
and I) render a judgment of guilt of the accused the sentencedebt owed
Sprouting Phase (the first visible sign of anger) Choice Phase One chooses a reaction pathway to fight Open aggression Passive aggression Suppressed aggression Digressive aggression
Growth phase Reaction and Expression Phase bull Various modalities of
ldquofightingrdquo is expressedbull Reaction by the accused
can cause more retaliation and provide additional evidencenutrients
Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the
wound offense and roots due to unforgiveness or retaliation
bull Greater expression of the discontent
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Disclaimer
These are illustrative understanding of anger
I will attempt to show you pitfalls and where the doors to the enemy and root issues might be
It is not meant to be exhaustive to do list but to show you the power and freedom of choice
I do not claim understand the fullness of Godrsquos or human anger
The Seed Trigger Phasebull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
Pitfall We assume that the world should be like us which would be reasonable if we were all defined by God But the world we live in now is define by self--relativism that onersquos needs and convictions is different than others
Questions for the Trigger Phase Who is defining my worth
(safeguard this and reserve it only for God)
Am I jumping to conclusions about a personrsquos motivation
Do I have a hypersensitivity due to past wounds
Questions for the Trigger Phase Is the other person aware that a
violation had occurred Is the other person aware of my convictions
Can I accept differences in the convictions Accept the other person as is--different
Is the other person aware of my needs
Are my expectations reasonable
Reasonable Expectations are
Realized (Am I even aware that I have expectations and what they are)
Realistic (Is the expectation executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (expectation Agreed Upon)
The Seed Trigger Phasebull To not assume what is known
and right for me is known to the other person
bull God as source of worth identity Ultimately God is the source of fulfilling needs and the other person is all but human
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Choice of evidence source
VS VS
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where is the evidence been
presentedbull Who gets to present evidence
Is the Trial Fair Where is the trial taking place
Usually in our heads Does the defense even have a chance to present a plead
Is it a one sided argument and presentation of evidence Do you really have all the evidence
Are you retrying old evidence and old verdicts Stacking up condemning evidence
bull Exasperationbull Identity vs
behavior
Who can be the defense attorney
Is the accused allowed to have Jesus as the attorney
This means allowing yourself to see the person through Jesusrsquo eyes
Perhaps letting Him plead a case of mercy
ldquoChrist redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us for it is written ldquoCursed is everyone who is hung on a polerdquo (Gal 313)
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull What are you doing with the
evidence
Judging Anakrino ἀνακρίνω (Strongrsquos
G350)
examine or judge to investigate examine enquire into
scrutinise sift question specifically in a forensic sense of a judge to
hold an investigation to interrogate examine the accused or
witnesses to judge of estimate determine (the
excellence or defects of any person or thing)
(1 Cor 215 43 44 1424)
But he that is spiritual judgeth (anakrino) all things yet he himself is judged (anakrino) of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ 1 Cor 215-6
But he that is spiritual investigates examines inquires scrutinizes questions all things yet he himself determines (is determined by) the excellence or defects of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ
Krinō κρίνω (Strongrsquos G2919)
to separate select choose approve prefer to be of opinion determine to pronounce an opinion concerning right and wrong pronounce judgment to rulegovernpreside over with the power of giving judicial decisions to contend have suite at law go to law
Do ye not know that the saints shall judge (krino) the world and if the world shall be judged (krino) by you are ye unworthy to judge (kritērion) the smallest matters 1 Cor 62
Krinō comes with guidelines I can of mine own self do nothing
as I hear I judge and my judgment is just because I seek not mine own will but the will of the Father which hath sent me (Jesus in John 530)
We must have our will in submission to Godrsquos will and purposes Humility before God and men
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose And when he had looked round
about on them with anger being grieved for the hardness of their hearts he saith unto the man Stretch forth thine hand And he stretched it out and his hand was restored whole as the other Mark 35
And they were bringing unto him little children that he should touch them and the disciples rebuked them But when Jesus saw it he was moved with indignation and said unto them ldquoSuffer the little children to come unto me forbid them not for to such belongeth the kingdom of Godrdquo Mark 1013-4
Godrsquos Restorative purpose And the Passover of the Jews was at
hand and Jesus went up to Jerusalem And he found in the temple those that sold oxen and sheep and doves and the changers of money sitting and he made a scourge of cords and cast all out of the temple both the sheep and the oxen and he poured out the changers money and overthrew their tables and to them that sold the doves he said Take these things hence make not my Fathers house a house of merchandise His disciples remembered that it was written Zeal for thy house shall eat me up John213-7
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another Forgive as the Lord forgave youput on love which binds them all together in perfect unityrdquo Col 312-4
We should not base judgments on malicious lies or evil misrepresetations Speak not evil one of another
brethren He that speaketh evil of his brother and judgeth his brother speaketh evil of the law and judgeth the law but if thou judge the law thou art not a doer of the law but a judge There is one lawgiver who is able to save and to destroy who art thou that judgest another James 411-2
You shall not spread a false report You shall not join hands with a wicked man to be a malicious witness You shall not fall in with the many to do evil nor shall you bear witness in a lawsuit siding with the many so as to pervert justice nor shall you be partial to a poor man in his lawsuit Exodus 231-2
There are six things that the LORD strongly dislikes seven that are an abomination to him haughty eyes a lying tongue and hands that shed innocent blood a heart that devises wicked plans feet that make haste to run to evil a false witness who breathes out lies and one who sows discord among brothers Prov 616-19
ldquoYe judge after the flesh I judge no man And yet if I judge my judgment is true for I am not alone but I and the Father that sent merdquo (Jesus in John 815-6)
Judge not according to the appearance but judge righteous judgment John 724
Judge via Godrsquos standards not by appearances (evidence that we gathered) Also James 41-2
We must not be hypocrites when judging others for we are judged by our own standards Judge not and ye shall not be
judged condemn not and ye shall not be condemned forgive and ye shall be forgiven Luke 637
Matt 71-5 Luke 637-42 Romans 21-5 Romans 220-23 2 Sam 121-7
We are not to judge others regarding legalistic adherence to ordinances (holidays observances what to eat etc) for such are matters of faith Romans 141-23 2 Cor 87-13
Colossians 216-23 Romans 821 1 Cor 1023 Romans 45 23 Romans 1413 Romans 932 1 Cor 89 Galatians 51 13
We should not judge anyonersquos eternal destiny eternal worth and identity Therefore do not pronounce
judgment before the time before the Lord comes who will bring to light the things now hidden in darkness and will disclose the purposes of the heart Then each one will receive his commendation from God 1 Corinthians 45
Jesus said ldquoBut I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment Again anyone who says to his brother Raca is answerable to the Sanhedrin But anyone who says You fool will be in danger of the fire of hellrdquo Matt 522
Concerning Angels
But Michael the archangel when he disputed with the devil and argued about the body of Moses did not dare pronounce against him a railing judgment but said The Lord rebuke you Jude 19
Concerning God
We are not to judge (condemn God) but He does invite us to ask him questions and to reason with Him
Come now let us reason together says the Lord Isaiah 118
If any of you lack wisdom he should ask God who give generously to all without finding fault James 15
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull To whom are you presenting
evidence to
Who is the Judge
Me God Other people Society norm Whose standards are we using Do
we dare say that we have the fullness of Godrsquos knowledge wisdom justice mercy and authority to be in that role
The Father judges no one but has given all judgment to the Son that all may honor the Son just as they honor the Father John 522
For the LORD is our judge the LORD is our lawgiver the LORD is our king he will save us
Isaiah 3322
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where to have the trialbull What evidence I use bull Who or what am I putting on trial
A person a lifetime of behavior or one fixable behavior
bull How I am sifting through the evidence
bull Who is the judge and attorneybull Humility
We can judge a behavior That is wrong and it inflicted pain on me or it is not something God desires
We cannot judge a personrsquos worth identity and character
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
The LORD God took the man and put him in the Garden of Eden to work it and take care of it
Genesis 215
GOD Inward out
movementHuman
SpiritHuman
SoulHuman Body
Human spirit communes with God and gets download mind and emotion analyze it Will decides on a response and body expresses that response
Free Will in the Fall
Sin did not just happen to Eve She had to use her will to choose what evidence she uses for her decision
Sin did not just happen to Adam He actively chose to be passive and did not subdue the serpent and his lies His will had to actively choose action or inaction
Evidence via bodily senses (eye touch hearing etc)
Evidence is processed by
Mind amp Emo and
The Will chooses
Eating Fruit of Knowledge of Good amp Evil
Outward in
movement
Human Body
Human Soul
Human Spirit
Spirit is shaped by what the
will decidesSerpent
After the fall spirit of human bull Cut off from God is
no longer lsquodefinedrsquo by God
bull Is lost without identity belonging significance purpose destiny
bull Seeks to be defined by something
Afterthe Fall
Current and past
experiences
Body collects evidence
How I feel
What I know
Will chooses
Body does
Human spiritidentity
defined by actions feelings evidence
Before the fallmdashinward out growth
I know who I am soul and body grows out of that
After the fallmdashoutward in movement
I donrsquot know who I am so I get information from my soul and that tells me (spirit)who I am what Irsquom worth etc
Root system is changed
SpiritMind
Emotions
Past experiences evidence in the natural realm
EmotionsBody SensationsMind
Human Spirit is lost
without identity worth
Human mind emotions and body is subjecta slave to accept evidence in the natural realm as truth
God still showers us but there is limited absorption
LiesDeception
AccusationsDoubts
Emotional slave to
shame guilt confusion
Human Will comes in
agreement evidence received from the
body emotion and
mind and defines spiritrsquos
identity and worth
Human grows
Over time
TimePowerOrderBears fruit
Human Will
Guilt
Shame
Anger Judgments
Pride
Idolatry
Fear
LustCriticism
Death
PassivityUnforgivene
ss
Evidence based on senses of
the body
Knowledge based on feelings
Rational Logic
Doubt lies and accusations
Mind Emotions
Body
Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil is good for food Every fruit that has seed in it is good for food Therefore Fruit of Knowledge of Good and Evil has seeds in it
Seeds reproduces
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
God gave humans the charge of tending our gardens So lets take a look at how a plant of anger can be
growing in our garden
Common questions and beliefs God gets angry why canrsquot I
How is anger binding to me I have forgiven so many times why
is it still hurting or why am I still angry
Irsquom not bitter or angry anymore do I still have to forgive
As long as they do whatrsquos right I wonrsquot get angry They are the ones with the problem
If I donrsquot get angry they will just keep doing it
My anger is justified (righteous anger)
Itrsquos an emotion I canrsquot help it or control it
Anger management = keeping my mouth shut and be a doormat
Forgiving others makes them think that they are right and they can continue to behave that way
Dropping an issue = admitting guilt Give it time and anger will blow over
by itself If I suppress my anger Irsquom not
hurting anyone What if I am angry at God
Anatomy Growth Cycle of
AngerHow does one grow and
multiply an ldquoAnger Treerdquo
What is anger
Word associated with Fury rage wrath mad violence yelling hitting destruction hatred fits irate belligerence vengeful
Euphemisms
Frustrated
Aggravated
Upset Irritated Annoyed Indignan
t Tried incensed
Animosity
At odds Sore Injured Impatien
t Peeved Cold tiff
Passionate
Vexed Bitter Displeas
ed Exasper
ate Aggressi
ve Resentfu
l antagoni
ze
Call it what it is
Anger is typically described as an emotional preservation response to violation of personal worth needs and convictions (A threat or a wound)
But it is not just an emotion
The Seed Trigger Phase (a threat or wound is encountered)bull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
bull Red Alert ldquoIrsquom in dangerrdquo Triggers stress response Fight Flight Freeze or Fawn
Fight Flight Freeze Fawn Response
Fight Stay and fight the danger (Anger)
Flight Run away (FearAnxiety) Freeze Play dead and let danger
blow pass (Depression) Fawn Co-dependency Let me
serve you and join your cause
Fight or Flight Response Is a physiological reaction that
occurs in response to a perceived harmful event attack threat to survival in humans and animals
First described by Walter Bradford Cannon
Animals reacts to threats with a general discharge of the sympathetic nervous system that primes the animal for fighting or fleeing
Adrenal Medulla produces a hormonal cascade resulting in secretion of adrenaline and noradrenaline (epinephrinenorepinephrine)
Effects of AdrenalineNoradrenaline
Acceleration of heart and lung action
Inhibition of digestive system
Constriction of blood vessels to shunt blood to heart lungs and muscles
Auditory exclusion (hearing loss)
Dilation of pupils to see with increased clarity but with tunnel vision (loss of peripheral vision)
Increased blood pressure heart rate blood sugar and fats to supply muscles with more energy (chronic triggers sets one up for heart disease high blood pressure diabetes etc)
Speeds up blood clotting function to prevent excess blood loss (can contribute to lsquostickiness of blood and strokes)
Increased perspiration to prevent over-heating due to increased metabolism
The physiological response and serge of energy that one has as a result of the fightflight response been triggered is in and of itself not a sin
All the other phases are up for scrutiny
Anger is not sinful God gets angry Jesus got angry
Mark 35 Matthew 2112-13 Mark 1115-18 John 213-22
Anger in and of itself it is not sinful but bitterness dwelling (meditation) in anger is
Be ANGRY (orgizo provoked aroused to anger) and yet DO NOT SIN do not let the sun go down on your ANGER (parorgismos bitterness exasperation indignation wrath)
Eph 426
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Gathering of evidence and
presentation of the evidence before the court judge of me myself and I (Though we can hold a trial before a third party we usually have done it in our heads already)
Germination of the SeedDevelopment of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge (usually of me myself
and I) render a judgment of guilt of the accused the sentencedebt owed
Sprouting Phase (the first visible sign of anger) Choice Phase One chooses a reaction pathway to fight Open aggression Passive aggression Suppressed aggression Digressive aggression
Growth phase Reaction and Expression Phase bull Various modalities of
ldquofightingrdquo is expressedbull Reaction by the accused
can cause more retaliation and provide additional evidencenutrients
Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the
wound offense and roots due to unforgiveness or retaliation
bull Greater expression of the discontent
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Disclaimer
These are illustrative understanding of anger
I will attempt to show you pitfalls and where the doors to the enemy and root issues might be
It is not meant to be exhaustive to do list but to show you the power and freedom of choice
I do not claim understand the fullness of Godrsquos or human anger
The Seed Trigger Phasebull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
Pitfall We assume that the world should be like us which would be reasonable if we were all defined by God But the world we live in now is define by self--relativism that onersquos needs and convictions is different than others
Questions for the Trigger Phase Who is defining my worth
(safeguard this and reserve it only for God)
Am I jumping to conclusions about a personrsquos motivation
Do I have a hypersensitivity due to past wounds
Questions for the Trigger Phase Is the other person aware that a
violation had occurred Is the other person aware of my convictions
Can I accept differences in the convictions Accept the other person as is--different
Is the other person aware of my needs
Are my expectations reasonable
Reasonable Expectations are
Realized (Am I even aware that I have expectations and what they are)
Realistic (Is the expectation executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (expectation Agreed Upon)
The Seed Trigger Phasebull To not assume what is known
and right for me is known to the other person
bull God as source of worth identity Ultimately God is the source of fulfilling needs and the other person is all but human
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Choice of evidence source
VS VS
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where is the evidence been
presentedbull Who gets to present evidence
Is the Trial Fair Where is the trial taking place
Usually in our heads Does the defense even have a chance to present a plead
Is it a one sided argument and presentation of evidence Do you really have all the evidence
Are you retrying old evidence and old verdicts Stacking up condemning evidence
bull Exasperationbull Identity vs
behavior
Who can be the defense attorney
Is the accused allowed to have Jesus as the attorney
This means allowing yourself to see the person through Jesusrsquo eyes
Perhaps letting Him plead a case of mercy
ldquoChrist redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us for it is written ldquoCursed is everyone who is hung on a polerdquo (Gal 313)
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull What are you doing with the
evidence
Judging Anakrino ἀνακρίνω (Strongrsquos
G350)
examine or judge to investigate examine enquire into
scrutinise sift question specifically in a forensic sense of a judge to
hold an investigation to interrogate examine the accused or
witnesses to judge of estimate determine (the
excellence or defects of any person or thing)
(1 Cor 215 43 44 1424)
But he that is spiritual judgeth (anakrino) all things yet he himself is judged (anakrino) of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ 1 Cor 215-6
But he that is spiritual investigates examines inquires scrutinizes questions all things yet he himself determines (is determined by) the excellence or defects of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ
Krinō κρίνω (Strongrsquos G2919)
to separate select choose approve prefer to be of opinion determine to pronounce an opinion concerning right and wrong pronounce judgment to rulegovernpreside over with the power of giving judicial decisions to contend have suite at law go to law
Do ye not know that the saints shall judge (krino) the world and if the world shall be judged (krino) by you are ye unworthy to judge (kritērion) the smallest matters 1 Cor 62
Krinō comes with guidelines I can of mine own self do nothing
as I hear I judge and my judgment is just because I seek not mine own will but the will of the Father which hath sent me (Jesus in John 530)
We must have our will in submission to Godrsquos will and purposes Humility before God and men
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose And when he had looked round
about on them with anger being grieved for the hardness of their hearts he saith unto the man Stretch forth thine hand And he stretched it out and his hand was restored whole as the other Mark 35
And they were bringing unto him little children that he should touch them and the disciples rebuked them But when Jesus saw it he was moved with indignation and said unto them ldquoSuffer the little children to come unto me forbid them not for to such belongeth the kingdom of Godrdquo Mark 1013-4
Godrsquos Restorative purpose And the Passover of the Jews was at
hand and Jesus went up to Jerusalem And he found in the temple those that sold oxen and sheep and doves and the changers of money sitting and he made a scourge of cords and cast all out of the temple both the sheep and the oxen and he poured out the changers money and overthrew their tables and to them that sold the doves he said Take these things hence make not my Fathers house a house of merchandise His disciples remembered that it was written Zeal for thy house shall eat me up John213-7
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another Forgive as the Lord forgave youput on love which binds them all together in perfect unityrdquo Col 312-4
We should not base judgments on malicious lies or evil misrepresetations Speak not evil one of another
brethren He that speaketh evil of his brother and judgeth his brother speaketh evil of the law and judgeth the law but if thou judge the law thou art not a doer of the law but a judge There is one lawgiver who is able to save and to destroy who art thou that judgest another James 411-2
You shall not spread a false report You shall not join hands with a wicked man to be a malicious witness You shall not fall in with the many to do evil nor shall you bear witness in a lawsuit siding with the many so as to pervert justice nor shall you be partial to a poor man in his lawsuit Exodus 231-2
There are six things that the LORD strongly dislikes seven that are an abomination to him haughty eyes a lying tongue and hands that shed innocent blood a heart that devises wicked plans feet that make haste to run to evil a false witness who breathes out lies and one who sows discord among brothers Prov 616-19
ldquoYe judge after the flesh I judge no man And yet if I judge my judgment is true for I am not alone but I and the Father that sent merdquo (Jesus in John 815-6)
Judge not according to the appearance but judge righteous judgment John 724
Judge via Godrsquos standards not by appearances (evidence that we gathered) Also James 41-2
We must not be hypocrites when judging others for we are judged by our own standards Judge not and ye shall not be
judged condemn not and ye shall not be condemned forgive and ye shall be forgiven Luke 637
Matt 71-5 Luke 637-42 Romans 21-5 Romans 220-23 2 Sam 121-7
We are not to judge others regarding legalistic adherence to ordinances (holidays observances what to eat etc) for such are matters of faith Romans 141-23 2 Cor 87-13
Colossians 216-23 Romans 821 1 Cor 1023 Romans 45 23 Romans 1413 Romans 932 1 Cor 89 Galatians 51 13
We should not judge anyonersquos eternal destiny eternal worth and identity Therefore do not pronounce
judgment before the time before the Lord comes who will bring to light the things now hidden in darkness and will disclose the purposes of the heart Then each one will receive his commendation from God 1 Corinthians 45
Jesus said ldquoBut I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment Again anyone who says to his brother Raca is answerable to the Sanhedrin But anyone who says You fool will be in danger of the fire of hellrdquo Matt 522
Concerning Angels
But Michael the archangel when he disputed with the devil and argued about the body of Moses did not dare pronounce against him a railing judgment but said The Lord rebuke you Jude 19
Concerning God
We are not to judge (condemn God) but He does invite us to ask him questions and to reason with Him
Come now let us reason together says the Lord Isaiah 118
If any of you lack wisdom he should ask God who give generously to all without finding fault James 15
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull To whom are you presenting
evidence to
Who is the Judge
Me God Other people Society norm Whose standards are we using Do
we dare say that we have the fullness of Godrsquos knowledge wisdom justice mercy and authority to be in that role
The Father judges no one but has given all judgment to the Son that all may honor the Son just as they honor the Father John 522
For the LORD is our judge the LORD is our lawgiver the LORD is our king he will save us
Isaiah 3322
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where to have the trialbull What evidence I use bull Who or what am I putting on trial
A person a lifetime of behavior or one fixable behavior
bull How I am sifting through the evidence
bull Who is the judge and attorneybull Humility
We can judge a behavior That is wrong and it inflicted pain on me or it is not something God desires
We cannot judge a personrsquos worth identity and character
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
GOD Inward out
movementHuman
SpiritHuman
SoulHuman Body
Human spirit communes with God and gets download mind and emotion analyze it Will decides on a response and body expresses that response
Free Will in the Fall
Sin did not just happen to Eve She had to use her will to choose what evidence she uses for her decision
Sin did not just happen to Adam He actively chose to be passive and did not subdue the serpent and his lies His will had to actively choose action or inaction
Evidence via bodily senses (eye touch hearing etc)
Evidence is processed by
Mind amp Emo and
The Will chooses
Eating Fruit of Knowledge of Good amp Evil
Outward in
movement
Human Body
Human Soul
Human Spirit
Spirit is shaped by what the
will decidesSerpent
After the fall spirit of human bull Cut off from God is
no longer lsquodefinedrsquo by God
bull Is lost without identity belonging significance purpose destiny
bull Seeks to be defined by something
Afterthe Fall
Current and past
experiences
Body collects evidence
How I feel
What I know
Will chooses
Body does
Human spiritidentity
defined by actions feelings evidence
Before the fallmdashinward out growth
I know who I am soul and body grows out of that
After the fallmdashoutward in movement
I donrsquot know who I am so I get information from my soul and that tells me (spirit)who I am what Irsquom worth etc
Root system is changed
SpiritMind
Emotions
Past experiences evidence in the natural realm
EmotionsBody SensationsMind
Human Spirit is lost
without identity worth
Human mind emotions and body is subjecta slave to accept evidence in the natural realm as truth
God still showers us but there is limited absorption
LiesDeception
AccusationsDoubts
Emotional slave to
shame guilt confusion
Human Will comes in
agreement evidence received from the
body emotion and
mind and defines spiritrsquos
identity and worth
Human grows
Over time
TimePowerOrderBears fruit
Human Will
Guilt
Shame
Anger Judgments
Pride
Idolatry
Fear
LustCriticism
Death
PassivityUnforgivene
ss
Evidence based on senses of
the body
Knowledge based on feelings
Rational Logic
Doubt lies and accusations
Mind Emotions
Body
Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil is good for food Every fruit that has seed in it is good for food Therefore Fruit of Knowledge of Good and Evil has seeds in it
Seeds reproduces
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
God gave humans the charge of tending our gardens So lets take a look at how a plant of anger can be
growing in our garden
Common questions and beliefs God gets angry why canrsquot I
How is anger binding to me I have forgiven so many times why
is it still hurting or why am I still angry
Irsquom not bitter or angry anymore do I still have to forgive
As long as they do whatrsquos right I wonrsquot get angry They are the ones with the problem
If I donrsquot get angry they will just keep doing it
My anger is justified (righteous anger)
Itrsquos an emotion I canrsquot help it or control it
Anger management = keeping my mouth shut and be a doormat
Forgiving others makes them think that they are right and they can continue to behave that way
Dropping an issue = admitting guilt Give it time and anger will blow over
by itself If I suppress my anger Irsquom not
hurting anyone What if I am angry at God
Anatomy Growth Cycle of
AngerHow does one grow and
multiply an ldquoAnger Treerdquo
What is anger
Word associated with Fury rage wrath mad violence yelling hitting destruction hatred fits irate belligerence vengeful
Euphemisms
Frustrated
Aggravated
Upset Irritated Annoyed Indignan
t Tried incensed
Animosity
At odds Sore Injured Impatien
t Peeved Cold tiff
Passionate
Vexed Bitter Displeas
ed Exasper
ate Aggressi
ve Resentfu
l antagoni
ze
Call it what it is
Anger is typically described as an emotional preservation response to violation of personal worth needs and convictions (A threat or a wound)
But it is not just an emotion
The Seed Trigger Phase (a threat or wound is encountered)bull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
bull Red Alert ldquoIrsquom in dangerrdquo Triggers stress response Fight Flight Freeze or Fawn
Fight Flight Freeze Fawn Response
Fight Stay and fight the danger (Anger)
Flight Run away (FearAnxiety) Freeze Play dead and let danger
blow pass (Depression) Fawn Co-dependency Let me
serve you and join your cause
Fight or Flight Response Is a physiological reaction that
occurs in response to a perceived harmful event attack threat to survival in humans and animals
First described by Walter Bradford Cannon
Animals reacts to threats with a general discharge of the sympathetic nervous system that primes the animal for fighting or fleeing
Adrenal Medulla produces a hormonal cascade resulting in secretion of adrenaline and noradrenaline (epinephrinenorepinephrine)
Effects of AdrenalineNoradrenaline
Acceleration of heart and lung action
Inhibition of digestive system
Constriction of blood vessels to shunt blood to heart lungs and muscles
Auditory exclusion (hearing loss)
Dilation of pupils to see with increased clarity but with tunnel vision (loss of peripheral vision)
Increased blood pressure heart rate blood sugar and fats to supply muscles with more energy (chronic triggers sets one up for heart disease high blood pressure diabetes etc)
Speeds up blood clotting function to prevent excess blood loss (can contribute to lsquostickiness of blood and strokes)
Increased perspiration to prevent over-heating due to increased metabolism
The physiological response and serge of energy that one has as a result of the fightflight response been triggered is in and of itself not a sin
All the other phases are up for scrutiny
Anger is not sinful God gets angry Jesus got angry
Mark 35 Matthew 2112-13 Mark 1115-18 John 213-22
Anger in and of itself it is not sinful but bitterness dwelling (meditation) in anger is
Be ANGRY (orgizo provoked aroused to anger) and yet DO NOT SIN do not let the sun go down on your ANGER (parorgismos bitterness exasperation indignation wrath)
Eph 426
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Gathering of evidence and
presentation of the evidence before the court judge of me myself and I (Though we can hold a trial before a third party we usually have done it in our heads already)
Germination of the SeedDevelopment of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge (usually of me myself
and I) render a judgment of guilt of the accused the sentencedebt owed
Sprouting Phase (the first visible sign of anger) Choice Phase One chooses a reaction pathway to fight Open aggression Passive aggression Suppressed aggression Digressive aggression
Growth phase Reaction and Expression Phase bull Various modalities of
ldquofightingrdquo is expressedbull Reaction by the accused
can cause more retaliation and provide additional evidencenutrients
Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the
wound offense and roots due to unforgiveness or retaliation
bull Greater expression of the discontent
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Disclaimer
These are illustrative understanding of anger
I will attempt to show you pitfalls and where the doors to the enemy and root issues might be
It is not meant to be exhaustive to do list but to show you the power and freedom of choice
I do not claim understand the fullness of Godrsquos or human anger
The Seed Trigger Phasebull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
Pitfall We assume that the world should be like us which would be reasonable if we were all defined by God But the world we live in now is define by self--relativism that onersquos needs and convictions is different than others
Questions for the Trigger Phase Who is defining my worth
(safeguard this and reserve it only for God)
Am I jumping to conclusions about a personrsquos motivation
Do I have a hypersensitivity due to past wounds
Questions for the Trigger Phase Is the other person aware that a
violation had occurred Is the other person aware of my convictions
Can I accept differences in the convictions Accept the other person as is--different
Is the other person aware of my needs
Are my expectations reasonable
Reasonable Expectations are
Realized (Am I even aware that I have expectations and what they are)
Realistic (Is the expectation executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (expectation Agreed Upon)
The Seed Trigger Phasebull To not assume what is known
and right for me is known to the other person
bull God as source of worth identity Ultimately God is the source of fulfilling needs and the other person is all but human
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Choice of evidence source
VS VS
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where is the evidence been
presentedbull Who gets to present evidence
Is the Trial Fair Where is the trial taking place
Usually in our heads Does the defense even have a chance to present a plead
Is it a one sided argument and presentation of evidence Do you really have all the evidence
Are you retrying old evidence and old verdicts Stacking up condemning evidence
bull Exasperationbull Identity vs
behavior
Who can be the defense attorney
Is the accused allowed to have Jesus as the attorney
This means allowing yourself to see the person through Jesusrsquo eyes
Perhaps letting Him plead a case of mercy
ldquoChrist redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us for it is written ldquoCursed is everyone who is hung on a polerdquo (Gal 313)
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull What are you doing with the
evidence
Judging Anakrino ἀνακρίνω (Strongrsquos
G350)
examine or judge to investigate examine enquire into
scrutinise sift question specifically in a forensic sense of a judge to
hold an investigation to interrogate examine the accused or
witnesses to judge of estimate determine (the
excellence or defects of any person or thing)
(1 Cor 215 43 44 1424)
But he that is spiritual judgeth (anakrino) all things yet he himself is judged (anakrino) of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ 1 Cor 215-6
But he that is spiritual investigates examines inquires scrutinizes questions all things yet he himself determines (is determined by) the excellence or defects of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ
Krinō κρίνω (Strongrsquos G2919)
to separate select choose approve prefer to be of opinion determine to pronounce an opinion concerning right and wrong pronounce judgment to rulegovernpreside over with the power of giving judicial decisions to contend have suite at law go to law
Do ye not know that the saints shall judge (krino) the world and if the world shall be judged (krino) by you are ye unworthy to judge (kritērion) the smallest matters 1 Cor 62
Krinō comes with guidelines I can of mine own self do nothing
as I hear I judge and my judgment is just because I seek not mine own will but the will of the Father which hath sent me (Jesus in John 530)
We must have our will in submission to Godrsquos will and purposes Humility before God and men
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose And when he had looked round
about on them with anger being grieved for the hardness of their hearts he saith unto the man Stretch forth thine hand And he stretched it out and his hand was restored whole as the other Mark 35
And they were bringing unto him little children that he should touch them and the disciples rebuked them But when Jesus saw it he was moved with indignation and said unto them ldquoSuffer the little children to come unto me forbid them not for to such belongeth the kingdom of Godrdquo Mark 1013-4
Godrsquos Restorative purpose And the Passover of the Jews was at
hand and Jesus went up to Jerusalem And he found in the temple those that sold oxen and sheep and doves and the changers of money sitting and he made a scourge of cords and cast all out of the temple both the sheep and the oxen and he poured out the changers money and overthrew their tables and to them that sold the doves he said Take these things hence make not my Fathers house a house of merchandise His disciples remembered that it was written Zeal for thy house shall eat me up John213-7
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another Forgive as the Lord forgave youput on love which binds them all together in perfect unityrdquo Col 312-4
We should not base judgments on malicious lies or evil misrepresetations Speak not evil one of another
brethren He that speaketh evil of his brother and judgeth his brother speaketh evil of the law and judgeth the law but if thou judge the law thou art not a doer of the law but a judge There is one lawgiver who is able to save and to destroy who art thou that judgest another James 411-2
You shall not spread a false report You shall not join hands with a wicked man to be a malicious witness You shall not fall in with the many to do evil nor shall you bear witness in a lawsuit siding with the many so as to pervert justice nor shall you be partial to a poor man in his lawsuit Exodus 231-2
There are six things that the LORD strongly dislikes seven that are an abomination to him haughty eyes a lying tongue and hands that shed innocent blood a heart that devises wicked plans feet that make haste to run to evil a false witness who breathes out lies and one who sows discord among brothers Prov 616-19
ldquoYe judge after the flesh I judge no man And yet if I judge my judgment is true for I am not alone but I and the Father that sent merdquo (Jesus in John 815-6)
Judge not according to the appearance but judge righteous judgment John 724
Judge via Godrsquos standards not by appearances (evidence that we gathered) Also James 41-2
We must not be hypocrites when judging others for we are judged by our own standards Judge not and ye shall not be
judged condemn not and ye shall not be condemned forgive and ye shall be forgiven Luke 637
Matt 71-5 Luke 637-42 Romans 21-5 Romans 220-23 2 Sam 121-7
We are not to judge others regarding legalistic adherence to ordinances (holidays observances what to eat etc) for such are matters of faith Romans 141-23 2 Cor 87-13
Colossians 216-23 Romans 821 1 Cor 1023 Romans 45 23 Romans 1413 Romans 932 1 Cor 89 Galatians 51 13
We should not judge anyonersquos eternal destiny eternal worth and identity Therefore do not pronounce
judgment before the time before the Lord comes who will bring to light the things now hidden in darkness and will disclose the purposes of the heart Then each one will receive his commendation from God 1 Corinthians 45
Jesus said ldquoBut I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment Again anyone who says to his brother Raca is answerable to the Sanhedrin But anyone who says You fool will be in danger of the fire of hellrdquo Matt 522
Concerning Angels
But Michael the archangel when he disputed with the devil and argued about the body of Moses did not dare pronounce against him a railing judgment but said The Lord rebuke you Jude 19
Concerning God
We are not to judge (condemn God) but He does invite us to ask him questions and to reason with Him
Come now let us reason together says the Lord Isaiah 118
If any of you lack wisdom he should ask God who give generously to all without finding fault James 15
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull To whom are you presenting
evidence to
Who is the Judge
Me God Other people Society norm Whose standards are we using Do
we dare say that we have the fullness of Godrsquos knowledge wisdom justice mercy and authority to be in that role
The Father judges no one but has given all judgment to the Son that all may honor the Son just as they honor the Father John 522
For the LORD is our judge the LORD is our lawgiver the LORD is our king he will save us
Isaiah 3322
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where to have the trialbull What evidence I use bull Who or what am I putting on trial
A person a lifetime of behavior or one fixable behavior
bull How I am sifting through the evidence
bull Who is the judge and attorneybull Humility
We can judge a behavior That is wrong and it inflicted pain on me or it is not something God desires
We cannot judge a personrsquos worth identity and character
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Free Will in the Fall
Sin did not just happen to Eve She had to use her will to choose what evidence she uses for her decision
Sin did not just happen to Adam He actively chose to be passive and did not subdue the serpent and his lies His will had to actively choose action or inaction
Evidence via bodily senses (eye touch hearing etc)
Evidence is processed by
Mind amp Emo and
The Will chooses
Eating Fruit of Knowledge of Good amp Evil
Outward in
movement
Human Body
Human Soul
Human Spirit
Spirit is shaped by what the
will decidesSerpent
After the fall spirit of human bull Cut off from God is
no longer lsquodefinedrsquo by God
bull Is lost without identity belonging significance purpose destiny
bull Seeks to be defined by something
Afterthe Fall
Current and past
experiences
Body collects evidence
How I feel
What I know
Will chooses
Body does
Human spiritidentity
defined by actions feelings evidence
Before the fallmdashinward out growth
I know who I am soul and body grows out of that
After the fallmdashoutward in movement
I donrsquot know who I am so I get information from my soul and that tells me (spirit)who I am what Irsquom worth etc
Root system is changed
SpiritMind
Emotions
Past experiences evidence in the natural realm
EmotionsBody SensationsMind
Human Spirit is lost
without identity worth
Human mind emotions and body is subjecta slave to accept evidence in the natural realm as truth
God still showers us but there is limited absorption
LiesDeception
AccusationsDoubts
Emotional slave to
shame guilt confusion
Human Will comes in
agreement evidence received from the
body emotion and
mind and defines spiritrsquos
identity and worth
Human grows
Over time
TimePowerOrderBears fruit
Human Will
Guilt
Shame
Anger Judgments
Pride
Idolatry
Fear
LustCriticism
Death
PassivityUnforgivene
ss
Evidence based on senses of
the body
Knowledge based on feelings
Rational Logic
Doubt lies and accusations
Mind Emotions
Body
Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil is good for food Every fruit that has seed in it is good for food Therefore Fruit of Knowledge of Good and Evil has seeds in it
Seeds reproduces
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
God gave humans the charge of tending our gardens So lets take a look at how a plant of anger can be
growing in our garden
Common questions and beliefs God gets angry why canrsquot I
How is anger binding to me I have forgiven so many times why
is it still hurting or why am I still angry
Irsquom not bitter or angry anymore do I still have to forgive
As long as they do whatrsquos right I wonrsquot get angry They are the ones with the problem
If I donrsquot get angry they will just keep doing it
My anger is justified (righteous anger)
Itrsquos an emotion I canrsquot help it or control it
Anger management = keeping my mouth shut and be a doormat
Forgiving others makes them think that they are right and they can continue to behave that way
Dropping an issue = admitting guilt Give it time and anger will blow over
by itself If I suppress my anger Irsquom not
hurting anyone What if I am angry at God
Anatomy Growth Cycle of
AngerHow does one grow and
multiply an ldquoAnger Treerdquo
What is anger
Word associated with Fury rage wrath mad violence yelling hitting destruction hatred fits irate belligerence vengeful
Euphemisms
Frustrated
Aggravated
Upset Irritated Annoyed Indignan
t Tried incensed
Animosity
At odds Sore Injured Impatien
t Peeved Cold tiff
Passionate
Vexed Bitter Displeas
ed Exasper
ate Aggressi
ve Resentfu
l antagoni
ze
Call it what it is
Anger is typically described as an emotional preservation response to violation of personal worth needs and convictions (A threat or a wound)
But it is not just an emotion
The Seed Trigger Phase (a threat or wound is encountered)bull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
bull Red Alert ldquoIrsquom in dangerrdquo Triggers stress response Fight Flight Freeze or Fawn
Fight Flight Freeze Fawn Response
Fight Stay and fight the danger (Anger)
Flight Run away (FearAnxiety) Freeze Play dead and let danger
blow pass (Depression) Fawn Co-dependency Let me
serve you and join your cause
Fight or Flight Response Is a physiological reaction that
occurs in response to a perceived harmful event attack threat to survival in humans and animals
First described by Walter Bradford Cannon
Animals reacts to threats with a general discharge of the sympathetic nervous system that primes the animal for fighting or fleeing
Adrenal Medulla produces a hormonal cascade resulting in secretion of adrenaline and noradrenaline (epinephrinenorepinephrine)
Effects of AdrenalineNoradrenaline
Acceleration of heart and lung action
Inhibition of digestive system
Constriction of blood vessels to shunt blood to heart lungs and muscles
Auditory exclusion (hearing loss)
Dilation of pupils to see with increased clarity but with tunnel vision (loss of peripheral vision)
Increased blood pressure heart rate blood sugar and fats to supply muscles with more energy (chronic triggers sets one up for heart disease high blood pressure diabetes etc)
Speeds up blood clotting function to prevent excess blood loss (can contribute to lsquostickiness of blood and strokes)
Increased perspiration to prevent over-heating due to increased metabolism
The physiological response and serge of energy that one has as a result of the fightflight response been triggered is in and of itself not a sin
All the other phases are up for scrutiny
Anger is not sinful God gets angry Jesus got angry
Mark 35 Matthew 2112-13 Mark 1115-18 John 213-22
Anger in and of itself it is not sinful but bitterness dwelling (meditation) in anger is
Be ANGRY (orgizo provoked aroused to anger) and yet DO NOT SIN do not let the sun go down on your ANGER (parorgismos bitterness exasperation indignation wrath)
Eph 426
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Gathering of evidence and
presentation of the evidence before the court judge of me myself and I (Though we can hold a trial before a third party we usually have done it in our heads already)
Germination of the SeedDevelopment of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge (usually of me myself
and I) render a judgment of guilt of the accused the sentencedebt owed
Sprouting Phase (the first visible sign of anger) Choice Phase One chooses a reaction pathway to fight Open aggression Passive aggression Suppressed aggression Digressive aggression
Growth phase Reaction and Expression Phase bull Various modalities of
ldquofightingrdquo is expressedbull Reaction by the accused
can cause more retaliation and provide additional evidencenutrients
Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the
wound offense and roots due to unforgiveness or retaliation
bull Greater expression of the discontent
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Disclaimer
These are illustrative understanding of anger
I will attempt to show you pitfalls and where the doors to the enemy and root issues might be
It is not meant to be exhaustive to do list but to show you the power and freedom of choice
I do not claim understand the fullness of Godrsquos or human anger
The Seed Trigger Phasebull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
Pitfall We assume that the world should be like us which would be reasonable if we were all defined by God But the world we live in now is define by self--relativism that onersquos needs and convictions is different than others
Questions for the Trigger Phase Who is defining my worth
(safeguard this and reserve it only for God)
Am I jumping to conclusions about a personrsquos motivation
Do I have a hypersensitivity due to past wounds
Questions for the Trigger Phase Is the other person aware that a
violation had occurred Is the other person aware of my convictions
Can I accept differences in the convictions Accept the other person as is--different
Is the other person aware of my needs
Are my expectations reasonable
Reasonable Expectations are
Realized (Am I even aware that I have expectations and what they are)
Realistic (Is the expectation executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (expectation Agreed Upon)
The Seed Trigger Phasebull To not assume what is known
and right for me is known to the other person
bull God as source of worth identity Ultimately God is the source of fulfilling needs and the other person is all but human
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Choice of evidence source
VS VS
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where is the evidence been
presentedbull Who gets to present evidence
Is the Trial Fair Where is the trial taking place
Usually in our heads Does the defense even have a chance to present a plead
Is it a one sided argument and presentation of evidence Do you really have all the evidence
Are you retrying old evidence and old verdicts Stacking up condemning evidence
bull Exasperationbull Identity vs
behavior
Who can be the defense attorney
Is the accused allowed to have Jesus as the attorney
This means allowing yourself to see the person through Jesusrsquo eyes
Perhaps letting Him plead a case of mercy
ldquoChrist redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us for it is written ldquoCursed is everyone who is hung on a polerdquo (Gal 313)
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull What are you doing with the
evidence
Judging Anakrino ἀνακρίνω (Strongrsquos
G350)
examine or judge to investigate examine enquire into
scrutinise sift question specifically in a forensic sense of a judge to
hold an investigation to interrogate examine the accused or
witnesses to judge of estimate determine (the
excellence or defects of any person or thing)
(1 Cor 215 43 44 1424)
But he that is spiritual judgeth (anakrino) all things yet he himself is judged (anakrino) of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ 1 Cor 215-6
But he that is spiritual investigates examines inquires scrutinizes questions all things yet he himself determines (is determined by) the excellence or defects of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ
Krinō κρίνω (Strongrsquos G2919)
to separate select choose approve prefer to be of opinion determine to pronounce an opinion concerning right and wrong pronounce judgment to rulegovernpreside over with the power of giving judicial decisions to contend have suite at law go to law
Do ye not know that the saints shall judge (krino) the world and if the world shall be judged (krino) by you are ye unworthy to judge (kritērion) the smallest matters 1 Cor 62
Krinō comes with guidelines I can of mine own self do nothing
as I hear I judge and my judgment is just because I seek not mine own will but the will of the Father which hath sent me (Jesus in John 530)
We must have our will in submission to Godrsquos will and purposes Humility before God and men
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose And when he had looked round
about on them with anger being grieved for the hardness of their hearts he saith unto the man Stretch forth thine hand And he stretched it out and his hand was restored whole as the other Mark 35
And they were bringing unto him little children that he should touch them and the disciples rebuked them But when Jesus saw it he was moved with indignation and said unto them ldquoSuffer the little children to come unto me forbid them not for to such belongeth the kingdom of Godrdquo Mark 1013-4
Godrsquos Restorative purpose And the Passover of the Jews was at
hand and Jesus went up to Jerusalem And he found in the temple those that sold oxen and sheep and doves and the changers of money sitting and he made a scourge of cords and cast all out of the temple both the sheep and the oxen and he poured out the changers money and overthrew their tables and to them that sold the doves he said Take these things hence make not my Fathers house a house of merchandise His disciples remembered that it was written Zeal for thy house shall eat me up John213-7
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another Forgive as the Lord forgave youput on love which binds them all together in perfect unityrdquo Col 312-4
We should not base judgments on malicious lies or evil misrepresetations Speak not evil one of another
brethren He that speaketh evil of his brother and judgeth his brother speaketh evil of the law and judgeth the law but if thou judge the law thou art not a doer of the law but a judge There is one lawgiver who is able to save and to destroy who art thou that judgest another James 411-2
You shall not spread a false report You shall not join hands with a wicked man to be a malicious witness You shall not fall in with the many to do evil nor shall you bear witness in a lawsuit siding with the many so as to pervert justice nor shall you be partial to a poor man in his lawsuit Exodus 231-2
There are six things that the LORD strongly dislikes seven that are an abomination to him haughty eyes a lying tongue and hands that shed innocent blood a heart that devises wicked plans feet that make haste to run to evil a false witness who breathes out lies and one who sows discord among brothers Prov 616-19
ldquoYe judge after the flesh I judge no man And yet if I judge my judgment is true for I am not alone but I and the Father that sent merdquo (Jesus in John 815-6)
Judge not according to the appearance but judge righteous judgment John 724
Judge via Godrsquos standards not by appearances (evidence that we gathered) Also James 41-2
We must not be hypocrites when judging others for we are judged by our own standards Judge not and ye shall not be
judged condemn not and ye shall not be condemned forgive and ye shall be forgiven Luke 637
Matt 71-5 Luke 637-42 Romans 21-5 Romans 220-23 2 Sam 121-7
We are not to judge others regarding legalistic adherence to ordinances (holidays observances what to eat etc) for such are matters of faith Romans 141-23 2 Cor 87-13
Colossians 216-23 Romans 821 1 Cor 1023 Romans 45 23 Romans 1413 Romans 932 1 Cor 89 Galatians 51 13
We should not judge anyonersquos eternal destiny eternal worth and identity Therefore do not pronounce
judgment before the time before the Lord comes who will bring to light the things now hidden in darkness and will disclose the purposes of the heart Then each one will receive his commendation from God 1 Corinthians 45
Jesus said ldquoBut I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment Again anyone who says to his brother Raca is answerable to the Sanhedrin But anyone who says You fool will be in danger of the fire of hellrdquo Matt 522
Concerning Angels
But Michael the archangel when he disputed with the devil and argued about the body of Moses did not dare pronounce against him a railing judgment but said The Lord rebuke you Jude 19
Concerning God
We are not to judge (condemn God) but He does invite us to ask him questions and to reason with Him
Come now let us reason together says the Lord Isaiah 118
If any of you lack wisdom he should ask God who give generously to all without finding fault James 15
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull To whom are you presenting
evidence to
Who is the Judge
Me God Other people Society norm Whose standards are we using Do
we dare say that we have the fullness of Godrsquos knowledge wisdom justice mercy and authority to be in that role
The Father judges no one but has given all judgment to the Son that all may honor the Son just as they honor the Father John 522
For the LORD is our judge the LORD is our lawgiver the LORD is our king he will save us
Isaiah 3322
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where to have the trialbull What evidence I use bull Who or what am I putting on trial
A person a lifetime of behavior or one fixable behavior
bull How I am sifting through the evidence
bull Who is the judge and attorneybull Humility
We can judge a behavior That is wrong and it inflicted pain on me or it is not something God desires
We cannot judge a personrsquos worth identity and character
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Evidence via bodily senses (eye touch hearing etc)
Evidence is processed by
Mind amp Emo and
The Will chooses
Eating Fruit of Knowledge of Good amp Evil
Outward in
movement
Human Body
Human Soul
Human Spirit
Spirit is shaped by what the
will decidesSerpent
After the fall spirit of human bull Cut off from God is
no longer lsquodefinedrsquo by God
bull Is lost without identity belonging significance purpose destiny
bull Seeks to be defined by something
Afterthe Fall
Current and past
experiences
Body collects evidence
How I feel
What I know
Will chooses
Body does
Human spiritidentity
defined by actions feelings evidence
Before the fallmdashinward out growth
I know who I am soul and body grows out of that
After the fallmdashoutward in movement
I donrsquot know who I am so I get information from my soul and that tells me (spirit)who I am what Irsquom worth etc
Root system is changed
SpiritMind
Emotions
Past experiences evidence in the natural realm
EmotionsBody SensationsMind
Human Spirit is lost
without identity worth
Human mind emotions and body is subjecta slave to accept evidence in the natural realm as truth
God still showers us but there is limited absorption
LiesDeception
AccusationsDoubts
Emotional slave to
shame guilt confusion
Human Will comes in
agreement evidence received from the
body emotion and
mind and defines spiritrsquos
identity and worth
Human grows
Over time
TimePowerOrderBears fruit
Human Will
Guilt
Shame
Anger Judgments
Pride
Idolatry
Fear
LustCriticism
Death
PassivityUnforgivene
ss
Evidence based on senses of
the body
Knowledge based on feelings
Rational Logic
Doubt lies and accusations
Mind Emotions
Body
Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil is good for food Every fruit that has seed in it is good for food Therefore Fruit of Knowledge of Good and Evil has seeds in it
Seeds reproduces
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
God gave humans the charge of tending our gardens So lets take a look at how a plant of anger can be
growing in our garden
Common questions and beliefs God gets angry why canrsquot I
How is anger binding to me I have forgiven so many times why
is it still hurting or why am I still angry
Irsquom not bitter or angry anymore do I still have to forgive
As long as they do whatrsquos right I wonrsquot get angry They are the ones with the problem
If I donrsquot get angry they will just keep doing it
My anger is justified (righteous anger)
Itrsquos an emotion I canrsquot help it or control it
Anger management = keeping my mouth shut and be a doormat
Forgiving others makes them think that they are right and they can continue to behave that way
Dropping an issue = admitting guilt Give it time and anger will blow over
by itself If I suppress my anger Irsquom not
hurting anyone What if I am angry at God
Anatomy Growth Cycle of
AngerHow does one grow and
multiply an ldquoAnger Treerdquo
What is anger
Word associated with Fury rage wrath mad violence yelling hitting destruction hatred fits irate belligerence vengeful
Euphemisms
Frustrated
Aggravated
Upset Irritated Annoyed Indignan
t Tried incensed
Animosity
At odds Sore Injured Impatien
t Peeved Cold tiff
Passionate
Vexed Bitter Displeas
ed Exasper
ate Aggressi
ve Resentfu
l antagoni
ze
Call it what it is
Anger is typically described as an emotional preservation response to violation of personal worth needs and convictions (A threat or a wound)
But it is not just an emotion
The Seed Trigger Phase (a threat or wound is encountered)bull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
bull Red Alert ldquoIrsquom in dangerrdquo Triggers stress response Fight Flight Freeze or Fawn
Fight Flight Freeze Fawn Response
Fight Stay and fight the danger (Anger)
Flight Run away (FearAnxiety) Freeze Play dead and let danger
blow pass (Depression) Fawn Co-dependency Let me
serve you and join your cause
Fight or Flight Response Is a physiological reaction that
occurs in response to a perceived harmful event attack threat to survival in humans and animals
First described by Walter Bradford Cannon
Animals reacts to threats with a general discharge of the sympathetic nervous system that primes the animal for fighting or fleeing
Adrenal Medulla produces a hormonal cascade resulting in secretion of adrenaline and noradrenaline (epinephrinenorepinephrine)
Effects of AdrenalineNoradrenaline
Acceleration of heart and lung action
Inhibition of digestive system
Constriction of blood vessels to shunt blood to heart lungs and muscles
Auditory exclusion (hearing loss)
Dilation of pupils to see with increased clarity but with tunnel vision (loss of peripheral vision)
Increased blood pressure heart rate blood sugar and fats to supply muscles with more energy (chronic triggers sets one up for heart disease high blood pressure diabetes etc)
Speeds up blood clotting function to prevent excess blood loss (can contribute to lsquostickiness of blood and strokes)
Increased perspiration to prevent over-heating due to increased metabolism
The physiological response and serge of energy that one has as a result of the fightflight response been triggered is in and of itself not a sin
All the other phases are up for scrutiny
Anger is not sinful God gets angry Jesus got angry
Mark 35 Matthew 2112-13 Mark 1115-18 John 213-22
Anger in and of itself it is not sinful but bitterness dwelling (meditation) in anger is
Be ANGRY (orgizo provoked aroused to anger) and yet DO NOT SIN do not let the sun go down on your ANGER (parorgismos bitterness exasperation indignation wrath)
Eph 426
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Gathering of evidence and
presentation of the evidence before the court judge of me myself and I (Though we can hold a trial before a third party we usually have done it in our heads already)
Germination of the SeedDevelopment of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge (usually of me myself
and I) render a judgment of guilt of the accused the sentencedebt owed
Sprouting Phase (the first visible sign of anger) Choice Phase One chooses a reaction pathway to fight Open aggression Passive aggression Suppressed aggression Digressive aggression
Growth phase Reaction and Expression Phase bull Various modalities of
ldquofightingrdquo is expressedbull Reaction by the accused
can cause more retaliation and provide additional evidencenutrients
Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the
wound offense and roots due to unforgiveness or retaliation
bull Greater expression of the discontent
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Disclaimer
These are illustrative understanding of anger
I will attempt to show you pitfalls and where the doors to the enemy and root issues might be
It is not meant to be exhaustive to do list but to show you the power and freedom of choice
I do not claim understand the fullness of Godrsquos or human anger
The Seed Trigger Phasebull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
Pitfall We assume that the world should be like us which would be reasonable if we were all defined by God But the world we live in now is define by self--relativism that onersquos needs and convictions is different than others
Questions for the Trigger Phase Who is defining my worth
(safeguard this and reserve it only for God)
Am I jumping to conclusions about a personrsquos motivation
Do I have a hypersensitivity due to past wounds
Questions for the Trigger Phase Is the other person aware that a
violation had occurred Is the other person aware of my convictions
Can I accept differences in the convictions Accept the other person as is--different
Is the other person aware of my needs
Are my expectations reasonable
Reasonable Expectations are
Realized (Am I even aware that I have expectations and what they are)
Realistic (Is the expectation executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (expectation Agreed Upon)
The Seed Trigger Phasebull To not assume what is known
and right for me is known to the other person
bull God as source of worth identity Ultimately God is the source of fulfilling needs and the other person is all but human
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Choice of evidence source
VS VS
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where is the evidence been
presentedbull Who gets to present evidence
Is the Trial Fair Where is the trial taking place
Usually in our heads Does the defense even have a chance to present a plead
Is it a one sided argument and presentation of evidence Do you really have all the evidence
Are you retrying old evidence and old verdicts Stacking up condemning evidence
bull Exasperationbull Identity vs
behavior
Who can be the defense attorney
Is the accused allowed to have Jesus as the attorney
This means allowing yourself to see the person through Jesusrsquo eyes
Perhaps letting Him plead a case of mercy
ldquoChrist redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us for it is written ldquoCursed is everyone who is hung on a polerdquo (Gal 313)
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull What are you doing with the
evidence
Judging Anakrino ἀνακρίνω (Strongrsquos
G350)
examine or judge to investigate examine enquire into
scrutinise sift question specifically in a forensic sense of a judge to
hold an investigation to interrogate examine the accused or
witnesses to judge of estimate determine (the
excellence or defects of any person or thing)
(1 Cor 215 43 44 1424)
But he that is spiritual judgeth (anakrino) all things yet he himself is judged (anakrino) of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ 1 Cor 215-6
But he that is spiritual investigates examines inquires scrutinizes questions all things yet he himself determines (is determined by) the excellence or defects of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ
Krinō κρίνω (Strongrsquos G2919)
to separate select choose approve prefer to be of opinion determine to pronounce an opinion concerning right and wrong pronounce judgment to rulegovernpreside over with the power of giving judicial decisions to contend have suite at law go to law
Do ye not know that the saints shall judge (krino) the world and if the world shall be judged (krino) by you are ye unworthy to judge (kritērion) the smallest matters 1 Cor 62
Krinō comes with guidelines I can of mine own self do nothing
as I hear I judge and my judgment is just because I seek not mine own will but the will of the Father which hath sent me (Jesus in John 530)
We must have our will in submission to Godrsquos will and purposes Humility before God and men
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose And when he had looked round
about on them with anger being grieved for the hardness of their hearts he saith unto the man Stretch forth thine hand And he stretched it out and his hand was restored whole as the other Mark 35
And they were bringing unto him little children that he should touch them and the disciples rebuked them But when Jesus saw it he was moved with indignation and said unto them ldquoSuffer the little children to come unto me forbid them not for to such belongeth the kingdom of Godrdquo Mark 1013-4
Godrsquos Restorative purpose And the Passover of the Jews was at
hand and Jesus went up to Jerusalem And he found in the temple those that sold oxen and sheep and doves and the changers of money sitting and he made a scourge of cords and cast all out of the temple both the sheep and the oxen and he poured out the changers money and overthrew their tables and to them that sold the doves he said Take these things hence make not my Fathers house a house of merchandise His disciples remembered that it was written Zeal for thy house shall eat me up John213-7
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another Forgive as the Lord forgave youput on love which binds them all together in perfect unityrdquo Col 312-4
We should not base judgments on malicious lies or evil misrepresetations Speak not evil one of another
brethren He that speaketh evil of his brother and judgeth his brother speaketh evil of the law and judgeth the law but if thou judge the law thou art not a doer of the law but a judge There is one lawgiver who is able to save and to destroy who art thou that judgest another James 411-2
You shall not spread a false report You shall not join hands with a wicked man to be a malicious witness You shall not fall in with the many to do evil nor shall you bear witness in a lawsuit siding with the many so as to pervert justice nor shall you be partial to a poor man in his lawsuit Exodus 231-2
There are six things that the LORD strongly dislikes seven that are an abomination to him haughty eyes a lying tongue and hands that shed innocent blood a heart that devises wicked plans feet that make haste to run to evil a false witness who breathes out lies and one who sows discord among brothers Prov 616-19
ldquoYe judge after the flesh I judge no man And yet if I judge my judgment is true for I am not alone but I and the Father that sent merdquo (Jesus in John 815-6)
Judge not according to the appearance but judge righteous judgment John 724
Judge via Godrsquos standards not by appearances (evidence that we gathered) Also James 41-2
We must not be hypocrites when judging others for we are judged by our own standards Judge not and ye shall not be
judged condemn not and ye shall not be condemned forgive and ye shall be forgiven Luke 637
Matt 71-5 Luke 637-42 Romans 21-5 Romans 220-23 2 Sam 121-7
We are not to judge others regarding legalistic adherence to ordinances (holidays observances what to eat etc) for such are matters of faith Romans 141-23 2 Cor 87-13
Colossians 216-23 Romans 821 1 Cor 1023 Romans 45 23 Romans 1413 Romans 932 1 Cor 89 Galatians 51 13
We should not judge anyonersquos eternal destiny eternal worth and identity Therefore do not pronounce
judgment before the time before the Lord comes who will bring to light the things now hidden in darkness and will disclose the purposes of the heart Then each one will receive his commendation from God 1 Corinthians 45
Jesus said ldquoBut I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment Again anyone who says to his brother Raca is answerable to the Sanhedrin But anyone who says You fool will be in danger of the fire of hellrdquo Matt 522
Concerning Angels
But Michael the archangel when he disputed with the devil and argued about the body of Moses did not dare pronounce against him a railing judgment but said The Lord rebuke you Jude 19
Concerning God
We are not to judge (condemn God) but He does invite us to ask him questions and to reason with Him
Come now let us reason together says the Lord Isaiah 118
If any of you lack wisdom he should ask God who give generously to all without finding fault James 15
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull To whom are you presenting
evidence to
Who is the Judge
Me God Other people Society norm Whose standards are we using Do
we dare say that we have the fullness of Godrsquos knowledge wisdom justice mercy and authority to be in that role
The Father judges no one but has given all judgment to the Son that all may honor the Son just as they honor the Father John 522
For the LORD is our judge the LORD is our lawgiver the LORD is our king he will save us
Isaiah 3322
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where to have the trialbull What evidence I use bull Who or what am I putting on trial
A person a lifetime of behavior or one fixable behavior
bull How I am sifting through the evidence
bull Who is the judge and attorneybull Humility
We can judge a behavior That is wrong and it inflicted pain on me or it is not something God desires
We cannot judge a personrsquos worth identity and character
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
After the fall spirit of human bull Cut off from God is
no longer lsquodefinedrsquo by God
bull Is lost without identity belonging significance purpose destiny
bull Seeks to be defined by something
Afterthe Fall
Current and past
experiences
Body collects evidence
How I feel
What I know
Will chooses
Body does
Human spiritidentity
defined by actions feelings evidence
Before the fallmdashinward out growth
I know who I am soul and body grows out of that
After the fallmdashoutward in movement
I donrsquot know who I am so I get information from my soul and that tells me (spirit)who I am what Irsquom worth etc
Root system is changed
SpiritMind
Emotions
Past experiences evidence in the natural realm
EmotionsBody SensationsMind
Human Spirit is lost
without identity worth
Human mind emotions and body is subjecta slave to accept evidence in the natural realm as truth
God still showers us but there is limited absorption
LiesDeception
AccusationsDoubts
Emotional slave to
shame guilt confusion
Human Will comes in
agreement evidence received from the
body emotion and
mind and defines spiritrsquos
identity and worth
Human grows
Over time
TimePowerOrderBears fruit
Human Will
Guilt
Shame
Anger Judgments
Pride
Idolatry
Fear
LustCriticism
Death
PassivityUnforgivene
ss
Evidence based on senses of
the body
Knowledge based on feelings
Rational Logic
Doubt lies and accusations
Mind Emotions
Body
Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil is good for food Every fruit that has seed in it is good for food Therefore Fruit of Knowledge of Good and Evil has seeds in it
Seeds reproduces
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
God gave humans the charge of tending our gardens So lets take a look at how a plant of anger can be
growing in our garden
Common questions and beliefs God gets angry why canrsquot I
How is anger binding to me I have forgiven so many times why
is it still hurting or why am I still angry
Irsquom not bitter or angry anymore do I still have to forgive
As long as they do whatrsquos right I wonrsquot get angry They are the ones with the problem
If I donrsquot get angry they will just keep doing it
My anger is justified (righteous anger)
Itrsquos an emotion I canrsquot help it or control it
Anger management = keeping my mouth shut and be a doormat
Forgiving others makes them think that they are right and they can continue to behave that way
Dropping an issue = admitting guilt Give it time and anger will blow over
by itself If I suppress my anger Irsquom not
hurting anyone What if I am angry at God
Anatomy Growth Cycle of
AngerHow does one grow and
multiply an ldquoAnger Treerdquo
What is anger
Word associated with Fury rage wrath mad violence yelling hitting destruction hatred fits irate belligerence vengeful
Euphemisms
Frustrated
Aggravated
Upset Irritated Annoyed Indignan
t Tried incensed
Animosity
At odds Sore Injured Impatien
t Peeved Cold tiff
Passionate
Vexed Bitter Displeas
ed Exasper
ate Aggressi
ve Resentfu
l antagoni
ze
Call it what it is
Anger is typically described as an emotional preservation response to violation of personal worth needs and convictions (A threat or a wound)
But it is not just an emotion
The Seed Trigger Phase (a threat or wound is encountered)bull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
bull Red Alert ldquoIrsquom in dangerrdquo Triggers stress response Fight Flight Freeze or Fawn
Fight Flight Freeze Fawn Response
Fight Stay and fight the danger (Anger)
Flight Run away (FearAnxiety) Freeze Play dead and let danger
blow pass (Depression) Fawn Co-dependency Let me
serve you and join your cause
Fight or Flight Response Is a physiological reaction that
occurs in response to a perceived harmful event attack threat to survival in humans and animals
First described by Walter Bradford Cannon
Animals reacts to threats with a general discharge of the sympathetic nervous system that primes the animal for fighting or fleeing
Adrenal Medulla produces a hormonal cascade resulting in secretion of adrenaline and noradrenaline (epinephrinenorepinephrine)
Effects of AdrenalineNoradrenaline
Acceleration of heart and lung action
Inhibition of digestive system
Constriction of blood vessels to shunt blood to heart lungs and muscles
Auditory exclusion (hearing loss)
Dilation of pupils to see with increased clarity but with tunnel vision (loss of peripheral vision)
Increased blood pressure heart rate blood sugar and fats to supply muscles with more energy (chronic triggers sets one up for heart disease high blood pressure diabetes etc)
Speeds up blood clotting function to prevent excess blood loss (can contribute to lsquostickiness of blood and strokes)
Increased perspiration to prevent over-heating due to increased metabolism
The physiological response and serge of energy that one has as a result of the fightflight response been triggered is in and of itself not a sin
All the other phases are up for scrutiny
Anger is not sinful God gets angry Jesus got angry
Mark 35 Matthew 2112-13 Mark 1115-18 John 213-22
Anger in and of itself it is not sinful but bitterness dwelling (meditation) in anger is
Be ANGRY (orgizo provoked aroused to anger) and yet DO NOT SIN do not let the sun go down on your ANGER (parorgismos bitterness exasperation indignation wrath)
Eph 426
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Gathering of evidence and
presentation of the evidence before the court judge of me myself and I (Though we can hold a trial before a third party we usually have done it in our heads already)
Germination of the SeedDevelopment of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge (usually of me myself
and I) render a judgment of guilt of the accused the sentencedebt owed
Sprouting Phase (the first visible sign of anger) Choice Phase One chooses a reaction pathway to fight Open aggression Passive aggression Suppressed aggression Digressive aggression
Growth phase Reaction and Expression Phase bull Various modalities of
ldquofightingrdquo is expressedbull Reaction by the accused
can cause more retaliation and provide additional evidencenutrients
Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the
wound offense and roots due to unforgiveness or retaliation
bull Greater expression of the discontent
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Disclaimer
These are illustrative understanding of anger
I will attempt to show you pitfalls and where the doors to the enemy and root issues might be
It is not meant to be exhaustive to do list but to show you the power and freedom of choice
I do not claim understand the fullness of Godrsquos or human anger
The Seed Trigger Phasebull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
Pitfall We assume that the world should be like us which would be reasonable if we were all defined by God But the world we live in now is define by self--relativism that onersquos needs and convictions is different than others
Questions for the Trigger Phase Who is defining my worth
(safeguard this and reserve it only for God)
Am I jumping to conclusions about a personrsquos motivation
Do I have a hypersensitivity due to past wounds
Questions for the Trigger Phase Is the other person aware that a
violation had occurred Is the other person aware of my convictions
Can I accept differences in the convictions Accept the other person as is--different
Is the other person aware of my needs
Are my expectations reasonable
Reasonable Expectations are
Realized (Am I even aware that I have expectations and what they are)
Realistic (Is the expectation executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (expectation Agreed Upon)
The Seed Trigger Phasebull To not assume what is known
and right for me is known to the other person
bull God as source of worth identity Ultimately God is the source of fulfilling needs and the other person is all but human
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Choice of evidence source
VS VS
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where is the evidence been
presentedbull Who gets to present evidence
Is the Trial Fair Where is the trial taking place
Usually in our heads Does the defense even have a chance to present a plead
Is it a one sided argument and presentation of evidence Do you really have all the evidence
Are you retrying old evidence and old verdicts Stacking up condemning evidence
bull Exasperationbull Identity vs
behavior
Who can be the defense attorney
Is the accused allowed to have Jesus as the attorney
This means allowing yourself to see the person through Jesusrsquo eyes
Perhaps letting Him plead a case of mercy
ldquoChrist redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us for it is written ldquoCursed is everyone who is hung on a polerdquo (Gal 313)
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull What are you doing with the
evidence
Judging Anakrino ἀνακρίνω (Strongrsquos
G350)
examine or judge to investigate examine enquire into
scrutinise sift question specifically in a forensic sense of a judge to
hold an investigation to interrogate examine the accused or
witnesses to judge of estimate determine (the
excellence or defects of any person or thing)
(1 Cor 215 43 44 1424)
But he that is spiritual judgeth (anakrino) all things yet he himself is judged (anakrino) of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ 1 Cor 215-6
But he that is spiritual investigates examines inquires scrutinizes questions all things yet he himself determines (is determined by) the excellence or defects of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ
Krinō κρίνω (Strongrsquos G2919)
to separate select choose approve prefer to be of opinion determine to pronounce an opinion concerning right and wrong pronounce judgment to rulegovernpreside over with the power of giving judicial decisions to contend have suite at law go to law
Do ye not know that the saints shall judge (krino) the world and if the world shall be judged (krino) by you are ye unworthy to judge (kritērion) the smallest matters 1 Cor 62
Krinō comes with guidelines I can of mine own self do nothing
as I hear I judge and my judgment is just because I seek not mine own will but the will of the Father which hath sent me (Jesus in John 530)
We must have our will in submission to Godrsquos will and purposes Humility before God and men
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose And when he had looked round
about on them with anger being grieved for the hardness of their hearts he saith unto the man Stretch forth thine hand And he stretched it out and his hand was restored whole as the other Mark 35
And they were bringing unto him little children that he should touch them and the disciples rebuked them But when Jesus saw it he was moved with indignation and said unto them ldquoSuffer the little children to come unto me forbid them not for to such belongeth the kingdom of Godrdquo Mark 1013-4
Godrsquos Restorative purpose And the Passover of the Jews was at
hand and Jesus went up to Jerusalem And he found in the temple those that sold oxen and sheep and doves and the changers of money sitting and he made a scourge of cords and cast all out of the temple both the sheep and the oxen and he poured out the changers money and overthrew their tables and to them that sold the doves he said Take these things hence make not my Fathers house a house of merchandise His disciples remembered that it was written Zeal for thy house shall eat me up John213-7
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another Forgive as the Lord forgave youput on love which binds them all together in perfect unityrdquo Col 312-4
We should not base judgments on malicious lies or evil misrepresetations Speak not evil one of another
brethren He that speaketh evil of his brother and judgeth his brother speaketh evil of the law and judgeth the law but if thou judge the law thou art not a doer of the law but a judge There is one lawgiver who is able to save and to destroy who art thou that judgest another James 411-2
You shall not spread a false report You shall not join hands with a wicked man to be a malicious witness You shall not fall in with the many to do evil nor shall you bear witness in a lawsuit siding with the many so as to pervert justice nor shall you be partial to a poor man in his lawsuit Exodus 231-2
There are six things that the LORD strongly dislikes seven that are an abomination to him haughty eyes a lying tongue and hands that shed innocent blood a heart that devises wicked plans feet that make haste to run to evil a false witness who breathes out lies and one who sows discord among brothers Prov 616-19
ldquoYe judge after the flesh I judge no man And yet if I judge my judgment is true for I am not alone but I and the Father that sent merdquo (Jesus in John 815-6)
Judge not according to the appearance but judge righteous judgment John 724
Judge via Godrsquos standards not by appearances (evidence that we gathered) Also James 41-2
We must not be hypocrites when judging others for we are judged by our own standards Judge not and ye shall not be
judged condemn not and ye shall not be condemned forgive and ye shall be forgiven Luke 637
Matt 71-5 Luke 637-42 Romans 21-5 Romans 220-23 2 Sam 121-7
We are not to judge others regarding legalistic adherence to ordinances (holidays observances what to eat etc) for such are matters of faith Romans 141-23 2 Cor 87-13
Colossians 216-23 Romans 821 1 Cor 1023 Romans 45 23 Romans 1413 Romans 932 1 Cor 89 Galatians 51 13
We should not judge anyonersquos eternal destiny eternal worth and identity Therefore do not pronounce
judgment before the time before the Lord comes who will bring to light the things now hidden in darkness and will disclose the purposes of the heart Then each one will receive his commendation from God 1 Corinthians 45
Jesus said ldquoBut I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment Again anyone who says to his brother Raca is answerable to the Sanhedrin But anyone who says You fool will be in danger of the fire of hellrdquo Matt 522
Concerning Angels
But Michael the archangel when he disputed with the devil and argued about the body of Moses did not dare pronounce against him a railing judgment but said The Lord rebuke you Jude 19
Concerning God
We are not to judge (condemn God) but He does invite us to ask him questions and to reason with Him
Come now let us reason together says the Lord Isaiah 118
If any of you lack wisdom he should ask God who give generously to all without finding fault James 15
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull To whom are you presenting
evidence to
Who is the Judge
Me God Other people Society norm Whose standards are we using Do
we dare say that we have the fullness of Godrsquos knowledge wisdom justice mercy and authority to be in that role
The Father judges no one but has given all judgment to the Son that all may honor the Son just as they honor the Father John 522
For the LORD is our judge the LORD is our lawgiver the LORD is our king he will save us
Isaiah 3322
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where to have the trialbull What evidence I use bull Who or what am I putting on trial
A person a lifetime of behavior or one fixable behavior
bull How I am sifting through the evidence
bull Who is the judge and attorneybull Humility
We can judge a behavior That is wrong and it inflicted pain on me or it is not something God desires
We cannot judge a personrsquos worth identity and character
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Current and past
experiences
Body collects evidence
How I feel
What I know
Will chooses
Body does
Human spiritidentity
defined by actions feelings evidence
Before the fallmdashinward out growth
I know who I am soul and body grows out of that
After the fallmdashoutward in movement
I donrsquot know who I am so I get information from my soul and that tells me (spirit)who I am what Irsquom worth etc
Root system is changed
SpiritMind
Emotions
Past experiences evidence in the natural realm
EmotionsBody SensationsMind
Human Spirit is lost
without identity worth
Human mind emotions and body is subjecta slave to accept evidence in the natural realm as truth
God still showers us but there is limited absorption
LiesDeception
AccusationsDoubts
Emotional slave to
shame guilt confusion
Human Will comes in
agreement evidence received from the
body emotion and
mind and defines spiritrsquos
identity and worth
Human grows
Over time
TimePowerOrderBears fruit
Human Will
Guilt
Shame
Anger Judgments
Pride
Idolatry
Fear
LustCriticism
Death
PassivityUnforgivene
ss
Evidence based on senses of
the body
Knowledge based on feelings
Rational Logic
Doubt lies and accusations
Mind Emotions
Body
Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil is good for food Every fruit that has seed in it is good for food Therefore Fruit of Knowledge of Good and Evil has seeds in it
Seeds reproduces
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
God gave humans the charge of tending our gardens So lets take a look at how a plant of anger can be
growing in our garden
Common questions and beliefs God gets angry why canrsquot I
How is anger binding to me I have forgiven so many times why
is it still hurting or why am I still angry
Irsquom not bitter or angry anymore do I still have to forgive
As long as they do whatrsquos right I wonrsquot get angry They are the ones with the problem
If I donrsquot get angry they will just keep doing it
My anger is justified (righteous anger)
Itrsquos an emotion I canrsquot help it or control it
Anger management = keeping my mouth shut and be a doormat
Forgiving others makes them think that they are right and they can continue to behave that way
Dropping an issue = admitting guilt Give it time and anger will blow over
by itself If I suppress my anger Irsquom not
hurting anyone What if I am angry at God
Anatomy Growth Cycle of
AngerHow does one grow and
multiply an ldquoAnger Treerdquo
What is anger
Word associated with Fury rage wrath mad violence yelling hitting destruction hatred fits irate belligerence vengeful
Euphemisms
Frustrated
Aggravated
Upset Irritated Annoyed Indignan
t Tried incensed
Animosity
At odds Sore Injured Impatien
t Peeved Cold tiff
Passionate
Vexed Bitter Displeas
ed Exasper
ate Aggressi
ve Resentfu
l antagoni
ze
Call it what it is
Anger is typically described as an emotional preservation response to violation of personal worth needs and convictions (A threat or a wound)
But it is not just an emotion
The Seed Trigger Phase (a threat or wound is encountered)bull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
bull Red Alert ldquoIrsquom in dangerrdquo Triggers stress response Fight Flight Freeze or Fawn
Fight Flight Freeze Fawn Response
Fight Stay and fight the danger (Anger)
Flight Run away (FearAnxiety) Freeze Play dead and let danger
blow pass (Depression) Fawn Co-dependency Let me
serve you and join your cause
Fight or Flight Response Is a physiological reaction that
occurs in response to a perceived harmful event attack threat to survival in humans and animals
First described by Walter Bradford Cannon
Animals reacts to threats with a general discharge of the sympathetic nervous system that primes the animal for fighting or fleeing
Adrenal Medulla produces a hormonal cascade resulting in secretion of adrenaline and noradrenaline (epinephrinenorepinephrine)
Effects of AdrenalineNoradrenaline
Acceleration of heart and lung action
Inhibition of digestive system
Constriction of blood vessels to shunt blood to heart lungs and muscles
Auditory exclusion (hearing loss)
Dilation of pupils to see with increased clarity but with tunnel vision (loss of peripheral vision)
Increased blood pressure heart rate blood sugar and fats to supply muscles with more energy (chronic triggers sets one up for heart disease high blood pressure diabetes etc)
Speeds up blood clotting function to prevent excess blood loss (can contribute to lsquostickiness of blood and strokes)
Increased perspiration to prevent over-heating due to increased metabolism
The physiological response and serge of energy that one has as a result of the fightflight response been triggered is in and of itself not a sin
All the other phases are up for scrutiny
Anger is not sinful God gets angry Jesus got angry
Mark 35 Matthew 2112-13 Mark 1115-18 John 213-22
Anger in and of itself it is not sinful but bitterness dwelling (meditation) in anger is
Be ANGRY (orgizo provoked aroused to anger) and yet DO NOT SIN do not let the sun go down on your ANGER (parorgismos bitterness exasperation indignation wrath)
Eph 426
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Gathering of evidence and
presentation of the evidence before the court judge of me myself and I (Though we can hold a trial before a third party we usually have done it in our heads already)
Germination of the SeedDevelopment of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge (usually of me myself
and I) render a judgment of guilt of the accused the sentencedebt owed
Sprouting Phase (the first visible sign of anger) Choice Phase One chooses a reaction pathway to fight Open aggression Passive aggression Suppressed aggression Digressive aggression
Growth phase Reaction and Expression Phase bull Various modalities of
ldquofightingrdquo is expressedbull Reaction by the accused
can cause more retaliation and provide additional evidencenutrients
Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the
wound offense and roots due to unforgiveness or retaliation
bull Greater expression of the discontent
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Disclaimer
These are illustrative understanding of anger
I will attempt to show you pitfalls and where the doors to the enemy and root issues might be
It is not meant to be exhaustive to do list but to show you the power and freedom of choice
I do not claim understand the fullness of Godrsquos or human anger
The Seed Trigger Phasebull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
Pitfall We assume that the world should be like us which would be reasonable if we were all defined by God But the world we live in now is define by self--relativism that onersquos needs and convictions is different than others
Questions for the Trigger Phase Who is defining my worth
(safeguard this and reserve it only for God)
Am I jumping to conclusions about a personrsquos motivation
Do I have a hypersensitivity due to past wounds
Questions for the Trigger Phase Is the other person aware that a
violation had occurred Is the other person aware of my convictions
Can I accept differences in the convictions Accept the other person as is--different
Is the other person aware of my needs
Are my expectations reasonable
Reasonable Expectations are
Realized (Am I even aware that I have expectations and what they are)
Realistic (Is the expectation executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (expectation Agreed Upon)
The Seed Trigger Phasebull To not assume what is known
and right for me is known to the other person
bull God as source of worth identity Ultimately God is the source of fulfilling needs and the other person is all but human
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Choice of evidence source
VS VS
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where is the evidence been
presentedbull Who gets to present evidence
Is the Trial Fair Where is the trial taking place
Usually in our heads Does the defense even have a chance to present a plead
Is it a one sided argument and presentation of evidence Do you really have all the evidence
Are you retrying old evidence and old verdicts Stacking up condemning evidence
bull Exasperationbull Identity vs
behavior
Who can be the defense attorney
Is the accused allowed to have Jesus as the attorney
This means allowing yourself to see the person through Jesusrsquo eyes
Perhaps letting Him plead a case of mercy
ldquoChrist redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us for it is written ldquoCursed is everyone who is hung on a polerdquo (Gal 313)
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull What are you doing with the
evidence
Judging Anakrino ἀνακρίνω (Strongrsquos
G350)
examine or judge to investigate examine enquire into
scrutinise sift question specifically in a forensic sense of a judge to
hold an investigation to interrogate examine the accused or
witnesses to judge of estimate determine (the
excellence or defects of any person or thing)
(1 Cor 215 43 44 1424)
But he that is spiritual judgeth (anakrino) all things yet he himself is judged (anakrino) of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ 1 Cor 215-6
But he that is spiritual investigates examines inquires scrutinizes questions all things yet he himself determines (is determined by) the excellence or defects of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ
Krinō κρίνω (Strongrsquos G2919)
to separate select choose approve prefer to be of opinion determine to pronounce an opinion concerning right and wrong pronounce judgment to rulegovernpreside over with the power of giving judicial decisions to contend have suite at law go to law
Do ye not know that the saints shall judge (krino) the world and if the world shall be judged (krino) by you are ye unworthy to judge (kritērion) the smallest matters 1 Cor 62
Krinō comes with guidelines I can of mine own self do nothing
as I hear I judge and my judgment is just because I seek not mine own will but the will of the Father which hath sent me (Jesus in John 530)
We must have our will in submission to Godrsquos will and purposes Humility before God and men
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose And when he had looked round
about on them with anger being grieved for the hardness of their hearts he saith unto the man Stretch forth thine hand And he stretched it out and his hand was restored whole as the other Mark 35
And they were bringing unto him little children that he should touch them and the disciples rebuked them But when Jesus saw it he was moved with indignation and said unto them ldquoSuffer the little children to come unto me forbid them not for to such belongeth the kingdom of Godrdquo Mark 1013-4
Godrsquos Restorative purpose And the Passover of the Jews was at
hand and Jesus went up to Jerusalem And he found in the temple those that sold oxen and sheep and doves and the changers of money sitting and he made a scourge of cords and cast all out of the temple both the sheep and the oxen and he poured out the changers money and overthrew their tables and to them that sold the doves he said Take these things hence make not my Fathers house a house of merchandise His disciples remembered that it was written Zeal for thy house shall eat me up John213-7
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another Forgive as the Lord forgave youput on love which binds them all together in perfect unityrdquo Col 312-4
We should not base judgments on malicious lies or evil misrepresetations Speak not evil one of another
brethren He that speaketh evil of his brother and judgeth his brother speaketh evil of the law and judgeth the law but if thou judge the law thou art not a doer of the law but a judge There is one lawgiver who is able to save and to destroy who art thou that judgest another James 411-2
You shall not spread a false report You shall not join hands with a wicked man to be a malicious witness You shall not fall in with the many to do evil nor shall you bear witness in a lawsuit siding with the many so as to pervert justice nor shall you be partial to a poor man in his lawsuit Exodus 231-2
There are six things that the LORD strongly dislikes seven that are an abomination to him haughty eyes a lying tongue and hands that shed innocent blood a heart that devises wicked plans feet that make haste to run to evil a false witness who breathes out lies and one who sows discord among brothers Prov 616-19
ldquoYe judge after the flesh I judge no man And yet if I judge my judgment is true for I am not alone but I and the Father that sent merdquo (Jesus in John 815-6)
Judge not according to the appearance but judge righteous judgment John 724
Judge via Godrsquos standards not by appearances (evidence that we gathered) Also James 41-2
We must not be hypocrites when judging others for we are judged by our own standards Judge not and ye shall not be
judged condemn not and ye shall not be condemned forgive and ye shall be forgiven Luke 637
Matt 71-5 Luke 637-42 Romans 21-5 Romans 220-23 2 Sam 121-7
We are not to judge others regarding legalistic adherence to ordinances (holidays observances what to eat etc) for such are matters of faith Romans 141-23 2 Cor 87-13
Colossians 216-23 Romans 821 1 Cor 1023 Romans 45 23 Romans 1413 Romans 932 1 Cor 89 Galatians 51 13
We should not judge anyonersquos eternal destiny eternal worth and identity Therefore do not pronounce
judgment before the time before the Lord comes who will bring to light the things now hidden in darkness and will disclose the purposes of the heart Then each one will receive his commendation from God 1 Corinthians 45
Jesus said ldquoBut I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment Again anyone who says to his brother Raca is answerable to the Sanhedrin But anyone who says You fool will be in danger of the fire of hellrdquo Matt 522
Concerning Angels
But Michael the archangel when he disputed with the devil and argued about the body of Moses did not dare pronounce against him a railing judgment but said The Lord rebuke you Jude 19
Concerning God
We are not to judge (condemn God) but He does invite us to ask him questions and to reason with Him
Come now let us reason together says the Lord Isaiah 118
If any of you lack wisdom he should ask God who give generously to all without finding fault James 15
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull To whom are you presenting
evidence to
Who is the Judge
Me God Other people Society norm Whose standards are we using Do
we dare say that we have the fullness of Godrsquos knowledge wisdom justice mercy and authority to be in that role
The Father judges no one but has given all judgment to the Son that all may honor the Son just as they honor the Father John 522
For the LORD is our judge the LORD is our lawgiver the LORD is our king he will save us
Isaiah 3322
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where to have the trialbull What evidence I use bull Who or what am I putting on trial
A person a lifetime of behavior or one fixable behavior
bull How I am sifting through the evidence
bull Who is the judge and attorneybull Humility
We can judge a behavior That is wrong and it inflicted pain on me or it is not something God desires
We cannot judge a personrsquos worth identity and character
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Before the fallmdashinward out growth
I know who I am soul and body grows out of that
After the fallmdashoutward in movement
I donrsquot know who I am so I get information from my soul and that tells me (spirit)who I am what Irsquom worth etc
Root system is changed
SpiritMind
Emotions
Past experiences evidence in the natural realm
EmotionsBody SensationsMind
Human Spirit is lost
without identity worth
Human mind emotions and body is subjecta slave to accept evidence in the natural realm as truth
God still showers us but there is limited absorption
LiesDeception
AccusationsDoubts
Emotional slave to
shame guilt confusion
Human Will comes in
agreement evidence received from the
body emotion and
mind and defines spiritrsquos
identity and worth
Human grows
Over time
TimePowerOrderBears fruit
Human Will
Guilt
Shame
Anger Judgments
Pride
Idolatry
Fear
LustCriticism
Death
PassivityUnforgivene
ss
Evidence based on senses of
the body
Knowledge based on feelings
Rational Logic
Doubt lies and accusations
Mind Emotions
Body
Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil is good for food Every fruit that has seed in it is good for food Therefore Fruit of Knowledge of Good and Evil has seeds in it
Seeds reproduces
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
God gave humans the charge of tending our gardens So lets take a look at how a plant of anger can be
growing in our garden
Common questions and beliefs God gets angry why canrsquot I
How is anger binding to me I have forgiven so many times why
is it still hurting or why am I still angry
Irsquom not bitter or angry anymore do I still have to forgive
As long as they do whatrsquos right I wonrsquot get angry They are the ones with the problem
If I donrsquot get angry they will just keep doing it
My anger is justified (righteous anger)
Itrsquos an emotion I canrsquot help it or control it
Anger management = keeping my mouth shut and be a doormat
Forgiving others makes them think that they are right and they can continue to behave that way
Dropping an issue = admitting guilt Give it time and anger will blow over
by itself If I suppress my anger Irsquom not
hurting anyone What if I am angry at God
Anatomy Growth Cycle of
AngerHow does one grow and
multiply an ldquoAnger Treerdquo
What is anger
Word associated with Fury rage wrath mad violence yelling hitting destruction hatred fits irate belligerence vengeful
Euphemisms
Frustrated
Aggravated
Upset Irritated Annoyed Indignan
t Tried incensed
Animosity
At odds Sore Injured Impatien
t Peeved Cold tiff
Passionate
Vexed Bitter Displeas
ed Exasper
ate Aggressi
ve Resentfu
l antagoni
ze
Call it what it is
Anger is typically described as an emotional preservation response to violation of personal worth needs and convictions (A threat or a wound)
But it is not just an emotion
The Seed Trigger Phase (a threat or wound is encountered)bull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
bull Red Alert ldquoIrsquom in dangerrdquo Triggers stress response Fight Flight Freeze or Fawn
Fight Flight Freeze Fawn Response
Fight Stay and fight the danger (Anger)
Flight Run away (FearAnxiety) Freeze Play dead and let danger
blow pass (Depression) Fawn Co-dependency Let me
serve you and join your cause
Fight or Flight Response Is a physiological reaction that
occurs in response to a perceived harmful event attack threat to survival in humans and animals
First described by Walter Bradford Cannon
Animals reacts to threats with a general discharge of the sympathetic nervous system that primes the animal for fighting or fleeing
Adrenal Medulla produces a hormonal cascade resulting in secretion of adrenaline and noradrenaline (epinephrinenorepinephrine)
Effects of AdrenalineNoradrenaline
Acceleration of heart and lung action
Inhibition of digestive system
Constriction of blood vessels to shunt blood to heart lungs and muscles
Auditory exclusion (hearing loss)
Dilation of pupils to see with increased clarity but with tunnel vision (loss of peripheral vision)
Increased blood pressure heart rate blood sugar and fats to supply muscles with more energy (chronic triggers sets one up for heart disease high blood pressure diabetes etc)
Speeds up blood clotting function to prevent excess blood loss (can contribute to lsquostickiness of blood and strokes)
Increased perspiration to prevent over-heating due to increased metabolism
The physiological response and serge of energy that one has as a result of the fightflight response been triggered is in and of itself not a sin
All the other phases are up for scrutiny
Anger is not sinful God gets angry Jesus got angry
Mark 35 Matthew 2112-13 Mark 1115-18 John 213-22
Anger in and of itself it is not sinful but bitterness dwelling (meditation) in anger is
Be ANGRY (orgizo provoked aroused to anger) and yet DO NOT SIN do not let the sun go down on your ANGER (parorgismos bitterness exasperation indignation wrath)
Eph 426
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Gathering of evidence and
presentation of the evidence before the court judge of me myself and I (Though we can hold a trial before a third party we usually have done it in our heads already)
Germination of the SeedDevelopment of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge (usually of me myself
and I) render a judgment of guilt of the accused the sentencedebt owed
Sprouting Phase (the first visible sign of anger) Choice Phase One chooses a reaction pathway to fight Open aggression Passive aggression Suppressed aggression Digressive aggression
Growth phase Reaction and Expression Phase bull Various modalities of
ldquofightingrdquo is expressedbull Reaction by the accused
can cause more retaliation and provide additional evidencenutrients
Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the
wound offense and roots due to unforgiveness or retaliation
bull Greater expression of the discontent
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Disclaimer
These are illustrative understanding of anger
I will attempt to show you pitfalls and where the doors to the enemy and root issues might be
It is not meant to be exhaustive to do list but to show you the power and freedom of choice
I do not claim understand the fullness of Godrsquos or human anger
The Seed Trigger Phasebull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
Pitfall We assume that the world should be like us which would be reasonable if we were all defined by God But the world we live in now is define by self--relativism that onersquos needs and convictions is different than others
Questions for the Trigger Phase Who is defining my worth
(safeguard this and reserve it only for God)
Am I jumping to conclusions about a personrsquos motivation
Do I have a hypersensitivity due to past wounds
Questions for the Trigger Phase Is the other person aware that a
violation had occurred Is the other person aware of my convictions
Can I accept differences in the convictions Accept the other person as is--different
Is the other person aware of my needs
Are my expectations reasonable
Reasonable Expectations are
Realized (Am I even aware that I have expectations and what they are)
Realistic (Is the expectation executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (expectation Agreed Upon)
The Seed Trigger Phasebull To not assume what is known
and right for me is known to the other person
bull God as source of worth identity Ultimately God is the source of fulfilling needs and the other person is all but human
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Choice of evidence source
VS VS
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where is the evidence been
presentedbull Who gets to present evidence
Is the Trial Fair Where is the trial taking place
Usually in our heads Does the defense even have a chance to present a plead
Is it a one sided argument and presentation of evidence Do you really have all the evidence
Are you retrying old evidence and old verdicts Stacking up condemning evidence
bull Exasperationbull Identity vs
behavior
Who can be the defense attorney
Is the accused allowed to have Jesus as the attorney
This means allowing yourself to see the person through Jesusrsquo eyes
Perhaps letting Him plead a case of mercy
ldquoChrist redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us for it is written ldquoCursed is everyone who is hung on a polerdquo (Gal 313)
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull What are you doing with the
evidence
Judging Anakrino ἀνακρίνω (Strongrsquos
G350)
examine or judge to investigate examine enquire into
scrutinise sift question specifically in a forensic sense of a judge to
hold an investigation to interrogate examine the accused or
witnesses to judge of estimate determine (the
excellence or defects of any person or thing)
(1 Cor 215 43 44 1424)
But he that is spiritual judgeth (anakrino) all things yet he himself is judged (anakrino) of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ 1 Cor 215-6
But he that is spiritual investigates examines inquires scrutinizes questions all things yet he himself determines (is determined by) the excellence or defects of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ
Krinō κρίνω (Strongrsquos G2919)
to separate select choose approve prefer to be of opinion determine to pronounce an opinion concerning right and wrong pronounce judgment to rulegovernpreside over with the power of giving judicial decisions to contend have suite at law go to law
Do ye not know that the saints shall judge (krino) the world and if the world shall be judged (krino) by you are ye unworthy to judge (kritērion) the smallest matters 1 Cor 62
Krinō comes with guidelines I can of mine own self do nothing
as I hear I judge and my judgment is just because I seek not mine own will but the will of the Father which hath sent me (Jesus in John 530)
We must have our will in submission to Godrsquos will and purposes Humility before God and men
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose And when he had looked round
about on them with anger being grieved for the hardness of their hearts he saith unto the man Stretch forth thine hand And he stretched it out and his hand was restored whole as the other Mark 35
And they were bringing unto him little children that he should touch them and the disciples rebuked them But when Jesus saw it he was moved with indignation and said unto them ldquoSuffer the little children to come unto me forbid them not for to such belongeth the kingdom of Godrdquo Mark 1013-4
Godrsquos Restorative purpose And the Passover of the Jews was at
hand and Jesus went up to Jerusalem And he found in the temple those that sold oxen and sheep and doves and the changers of money sitting and he made a scourge of cords and cast all out of the temple both the sheep and the oxen and he poured out the changers money and overthrew their tables and to them that sold the doves he said Take these things hence make not my Fathers house a house of merchandise His disciples remembered that it was written Zeal for thy house shall eat me up John213-7
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another Forgive as the Lord forgave youput on love which binds them all together in perfect unityrdquo Col 312-4
We should not base judgments on malicious lies or evil misrepresetations Speak not evil one of another
brethren He that speaketh evil of his brother and judgeth his brother speaketh evil of the law and judgeth the law but if thou judge the law thou art not a doer of the law but a judge There is one lawgiver who is able to save and to destroy who art thou that judgest another James 411-2
You shall not spread a false report You shall not join hands with a wicked man to be a malicious witness You shall not fall in with the many to do evil nor shall you bear witness in a lawsuit siding with the many so as to pervert justice nor shall you be partial to a poor man in his lawsuit Exodus 231-2
There are six things that the LORD strongly dislikes seven that are an abomination to him haughty eyes a lying tongue and hands that shed innocent blood a heart that devises wicked plans feet that make haste to run to evil a false witness who breathes out lies and one who sows discord among brothers Prov 616-19
ldquoYe judge after the flesh I judge no man And yet if I judge my judgment is true for I am not alone but I and the Father that sent merdquo (Jesus in John 815-6)
Judge not according to the appearance but judge righteous judgment John 724
Judge via Godrsquos standards not by appearances (evidence that we gathered) Also James 41-2
We must not be hypocrites when judging others for we are judged by our own standards Judge not and ye shall not be
judged condemn not and ye shall not be condemned forgive and ye shall be forgiven Luke 637
Matt 71-5 Luke 637-42 Romans 21-5 Romans 220-23 2 Sam 121-7
We are not to judge others regarding legalistic adherence to ordinances (holidays observances what to eat etc) for such are matters of faith Romans 141-23 2 Cor 87-13
Colossians 216-23 Romans 821 1 Cor 1023 Romans 45 23 Romans 1413 Romans 932 1 Cor 89 Galatians 51 13
We should not judge anyonersquos eternal destiny eternal worth and identity Therefore do not pronounce
judgment before the time before the Lord comes who will bring to light the things now hidden in darkness and will disclose the purposes of the heart Then each one will receive his commendation from God 1 Corinthians 45
Jesus said ldquoBut I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment Again anyone who says to his brother Raca is answerable to the Sanhedrin But anyone who says You fool will be in danger of the fire of hellrdquo Matt 522
Concerning Angels
But Michael the archangel when he disputed with the devil and argued about the body of Moses did not dare pronounce against him a railing judgment but said The Lord rebuke you Jude 19
Concerning God
We are not to judge (condemn God) but He does invite us to ask him questions and to reason with Him
Come now let us reason together says the Lord Isaiah 118
If any of you lack wisdom he should ask God who give generously to all without finding fault James 15
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull To whom are you presenting
evidence to
Who is the Judge
Me God Other people Society norm Whose standards are we using Do
we dare say that we have the fullness of Godrsquos knowledge wisdom justice mercy and authority to be in that role
The Father judges no one but has given all judgment to the Son that all may honor the Son just as they honor the Father John 522
For the LORD is our judge the LORD is our lawgiver the LORD is our king he will save us
Isaiah 3322
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where to have the trialbull What evidence I use bull Who or what am I putting on trial
A person a lifetime of behavior or one fixable behavior
bull How I am sifting through the evidence
bull Who is the judge and attorneybull Humility
We can judge a behavior That is wrong and it inflicted pain on me or it is not something God desires
We cannot judge a personrsquos worth identity and character
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Root system is changed
SpiritMind
Emotions
Past experiences evidence in the natural realm
EmotionsBody SensationsMind
Human Spirit is lost
without identity worth
Human mind emotions and body is subjecta slave to accept evidence in the natural realm as truth
God still showers us but there is limited absorption
LiesDeception
AccusationsDoubts
Emotional slave to
shame guilt confusion
Human Will comes in
agreement evidence received from the
body emotion and
mind and defines spiritrsquos
identity and worth
Human grows
Over time
TimePowerOrderBears fruit
Human Will
Guilt
Shame
Anger Judgments
Pride
Idolatry
Fear
LustCriticism
Death
PassivityUnforgivene
ss
Evidence based on senses of
the body
Knowledge based on feelings
Rational Logic
Doubt lies and accusations
Mind Emotions
Body
Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil is good for food Every fruit that has seed in it is good for food Therefore Fruit of Knowledge of Good and Evil has seeds in it
Seeds reproduces
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
God gave humans the charge of tending our gardens So lets take a look at how a plant of anger can be
growing in our garden
Common questions and beliefs God gets angry why canrsquot I
How is anger binding to me I have forgiven so many times why
is it still hurting or why am I still angry
Irsquom not bitter or angry anymore do I still have to forgive
As long as they do whatrsquos right I wonrsquot get angry They are the ones with the problem
If I donrsquot get angry they will just keep doing it
My anger is justified (righteous anger)
Itrsquos an emotion I canrsquot help it or control it
Anger management = keeping my mouth shut and be a doormat
Forgiving others makes them think that they are right and they can continue to behave that way
Dropping an issue = admitting guilt Give it time and anger will blow over
by itself If I suppress my anger Irsquom not
hurting anyone What if I am angry at God
Anatomy Growth Cycle of
AngerHow does one grow and
multiply an ldquoAnger Treerdquo
What is anger
Word associated with Fury rage wrath mad violence yelling hitting destruction hatred fits irate belligerence vengeful
Euphemisms
Frustrated
Aggravated
Upset Irritated Annoyed Indignan
t Tried incensed
Animosity
At odds Sore Injured Impatien
t Peeved Cold tiff
Passionate
Vexed Bitter Displeas
ed Exasper
ate Aggressi
ve Resentfu
l antagoni
ze
Call it what it is
Anger is typically described as an emotional preservation response to violation of personal worth needs and convictions (A threat or a wound)
But it is not just an emotion
The Seed Trigger Phase (a threat or wound is encountered)bull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
bull Red Alert ldquoIrsquom in dangerrdquo Triggers stress response Fight Flight Freeze or Fawn
Fight Flight Freeze Fawn Response
Fight Stay and fight the danger (Anger)
Flight Run away (FearAnxiety) Freeze Play dead and let danger
blow pass (Depression) Fawn Co-dependency Let me
serve you and join your cause
Fight or Flight Response Is a physiological reaction that
occurs in response to a perceived harmful event attack threat to survival in humans and animals
First described by Walter Bradford Cannon
Animals reacts to threats with a general discharge of the sympathetic nervous system that primes the animal for fighting or fleeing
Adrenal Medulla produces a hormonal cascade resulting in secretion of adrenaline and noradrenaline (epinephrinenorepinephrine)
Effects of AdrenalineNoradrenaline
Acceleration of heart and lung action
Inhibition of digestive system
Constriction of blood vessels to shunt blood to heart lungs and muscles
Auditory exclusion (hearing loss)
Dilation of pupils to see with increased clarity but with tunnel vision (loss of peripheral vision)
Increased blood pressure heart rate blood sugar and fats to supply muscles with more energy (chronic triggers sets one up for heart disease high blood pressure diabetes etc)
Speeds up blood clotting function to prevent excess blood loss (can contribute to lsquostickiness of blood and strokes)
Increased perspiration to prevent over-heating due to increased metabolism
The physiological response and serge of energy that one has as a result of the fightflight response been triggered is in and of itself not a sin
All the other phases are up for scrutiny
Anger is not sinful God gets angry Jesus got angry
Mark 35 Matthew 2112-13 Mark 1115-18 John 213-22
Anger in and of itself it is not sinful but bitterness dwelling (meditation) in anger is
Be ANGRY (orgizo provoked aroused to anger) and yet DO NOT SIN do not let the sun go down on your ANGER (parorgismos bitterness exasperation indignation wrath)
Eph 426
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Gathering of evidence and
presentation of the evidence before the court judge of me myself and I (Though we can hold a trial before a third party we usually have done it in our heads already)
Germination of the SeedDevelopment of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge (usually of me myself
and I) render a judgment of guilt of the accused the sentencedebt owed
Sprouting Phase (the first visible sign of anger) Choice Phase One chooses a reaction pathway to fight Open aggression Passive aggression Suppressed aggression Digressive aggression
Growth phase Reaction and Expression Phase bull Various modalities of
ldquofightingrdquo is expressedbull Reaction by the accused
can cause more retaliation and provide additional evidencenutrients
Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the
wound offense and roots due to unforgiveness or retaliation
bull Greater expression of the discontent
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Disclaimer
These are illustrative understanding of anger
I will attempt to show you pitfalls and where the doors to the enemy and root issues might be
It is not meant to be exhaustive to do list but to show you the power and freedom of choice
I do not claim understand the fullness of Godrsquos or human anger
The Seed Trigger Phasebull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
Pitfall We assume that the world should be like us which would be reasonable if we were all defined by God But the world we live in now is define by self--relativism that onersquos needs and convictions is different than others
Questions for the Trigger Phase Who is defining my worth
(safeguard this and reserve it only for God)
Am I jumping to conclusions about a personrsquos motivation
Do I have a hypersensitivity due to past wounds
Questions for the Trigger Phase Is the other person aware that a
violation had occurred Is the other person aware of my convictions
Can I accept differences in the convictions Accept the other person as is--different
Is the other person aware of my needs
Are my expectations reasonable
Reasonable Expectations are
Realized (Am I even aware that I have expectations and what they are)
Realistic (Is the expectation executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (expectation Agreed Upon)
The Seed Trigger Phasebull To not assume what is known
and right for me is known to the other person
bull God as source of worth identity Ultimately God is the source of fulfilling needs and the other person is all but human
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Choice of evidence source
VS VS
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where is the evidence been
presentedbull Who gets to present evidence
Is the Trial Fair Where is the trial taking place
Usually in our heads Does the defense even have a chance to present a plead
Is it a one sided argument and presentation of evidence Do you really have all the evidence
Are you retrying old evidence and old verdicts Stacking up condemning evidence
bull Exasperationbull Identity vs
behavior
Who can be the defense attorney
Is the accused allowed to have Jesus as the attorney
This means allowing yourself to see the person through Jesusrsquo eyes
Perhaps letting Him plead a case of mercy
ldquoChrist redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us for it is written ldquoCursed is everyone who is hung on a polerdquo (Gal 313)
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull What are you doing with the
evidence
Judging Anakrino ἀνακρίνω (Strongrsquos
G350)
examine or judge to investigate examine enquire into
scrutinise sift question specifically in a forensic sense of a judge to
hold an investigation to interrogate examine the accused or
witnesses to judge of estimate determine (the
excellence or defects of any person or thing)
(1 Cor 215 43 44 1424)
But he that is spiritual judgeth (anakrino) all things yet he himself is judged (anakrino) of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ 1 Cor 215-6
But he that is spiritual investigates examines inquires scrutinizes questions all things yet he himself determines (is determined by) the excellence or defects of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ
Krinō κρίνω (Strongrsquos G2919)
to separate select choose approve prefer to be of opinion determine to pronounce an opinion concerning right and wrong pronounce judgment to rulegovernpreside over with the power of giving judicial decisions to contend have suite at law go to law
Do ye not know that the saints shall judge (krino) the world and if the world shall be judged (krino) by you are ye unworthy to judge (kritērion) the smallest matters 1 Cor 62
Krinō comes with guidelines I can of mine own self do nothing
as I hear I judge and my judgment is just because I seek not mine own will but the will of the Father which hath sent me (Jesus in John 530)
We must have our will in submission to Godrsquos will and purposes Humility before God and men
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose And when he had looked round
about on them with anger being grieved for the hardness of their hearts he saith unto the man Stretch forth thine hand And he stretched it out and his hand was restored whole as the other Mark 35
And they were bringing unto him little children that he should touch them and the disciples rebuked them But when Jesus saw it he was moved with indignation and said unto them ldquoSuffer the little children to come unto me forbid them not for to such belongeth the kingdom of Godrdquo Mark 1013-4
Godrsquos Restorative purpose And the Passover of the Jews was at
hand and Jesus went up to Jerusalem And he found in the temple those that sold oxen and sheep and doves and the changers of money sitting and he made a scourge of cords and cast all out of the temple both the sheep and the oxen and he poured out the changers money and overthrew their tables and to them that sold the doves he said Take these things hence make not my Fathers house a house of merchandise His disciples remembered that it was written Zeal for thy house shall eat me up John213-7
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another Forgive as the Lord forgave youput on love which binds them all together in perfect unityrdquo Col 312-4
We should not base judgments on malicious lies or evil misrepresetations Speak not evil one of another
brethren He that speaketh evil of his brother and judgeth his brother speaketh evil of the law and judgeth the law but if thou judge the law thou art not a doer of the law but a judge There is one lawgiver who is able to save and to destroy who art thou that judgest another James 411-2
You shall not spread a false report You shall not join hands with a wicked man to be a malicious witness You shall not fall in with the many to do evil nor shall you bear witness in a lawsuit siding with the many so as to pervert justice nor shall you be partial to a poor man in his lawsuit Exodus 231-2
There are six things that the LORD strongly dislikes seven that are an abomination to him haughty eyes a lying tongue and hands that shed innocent blood a heart that devises wicked plans feet that make haste to run to evil a false witness who breathes out lies and one who sows discord among brothers Prov 616-19
ldquoYe judge after the flesh I judge no man And yet if I judge my judgment is true for I am not alone but I and the Father that sent merdquo (Jesus in John 815-6)
Judge not according to the appearance but judge righteous judgment John 724
Judge via Godrsquos standards not by appearances (evidence that we gathered) Also James 41-2
We must not be hypocrites when judging others for we are judged by our own standards Judge not and ye shall not be
judged condemn not and ye shall not be condemned forgive and ye shall be forgiven Luke 637
Matt 71-5 Luke 637-42 Romans 21-5 Romans 220-23 2 Sam 121-7
We are not to judge others regarding legalistic adherence to ordinances (holidays observances what to eat etc) for such are matters of faith Romans 141-23 2 Cor 87-13
Colossians 216-23 Romans 821 1 Cor 1023 Romans 45 23 Romans 1413 Romans 932 1 Cor 89 Galatians 51 13
We should not judge anyonersquos eternal destiny eternal worth and identity Therefore do not pronounce
judgment before the time before the Lord comes who will bring to light the things now hidden in darkness and will disclose the purposes of the heart Then each one will receive his commendation from God 1 Corinthians 45
Jesus said ldquoBut I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment Again anyone who says to his brother Raca is answerable to the Sanhedrin But anyone who says You fool will be in danger of the fire of hellrdquo Matt 522
Concerning Angels
But Michael the archangel when he disputed with the devil and argued about the body of Moses did not dare pronounce against him a railing judgment but said The Lord rebuke you Jude 19
Concerning God
We are not to judge (condemn God) but He does invite us to ask him questions and to reason with Him
Come now let us reason together says the Lord Isaiah 118
If any of you lack wisdom he should ask God who give generously to all without finding fault James 15
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull To whom are you presenting
evidence to
Who is the Judge
Me God Other people Society norm Whose standards are we using Do
we dare say that we have the fullness of Godrsquos knowledge wisdom justice mercy and authority to be in that role
The Father judges no one but has given all judgment to the Son that all may honor the Son just as they honor the Father John 522
For the LORD is our judge the LORD is our lawgiver the LORD is our king he will save us
Isaiah 3322
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where to have the trialbull What evidence I use bull Who or what am I putting on trial
A person a lifetime of behavior or one fixable behavior
bull How I am sifting through the evidence
bull Who is the judge and attorneybull Humility
We can judge a behavior That is wrong and it inflicted pain on me or it is not something God desires
We cannot judge a personrsquos worth identity and character
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Human Spirit is lost
without identity worth
Human mind emotions and body is subjecta slave to accept evidence in the natural realm as truth
God still showers us but there is limited absorption
LiesDeception
AccusationsDoubts
Emotional slave to
shame guilt confusion
Human Will comes in
agreement evidence received from the
body emotion and
mind and defines spiritrsquos
identity and worth
Human grows
Over time
TimePowerOrderBears fruit
Human Will
Guilt
Shame
Anger Judgments
Pride
Idolatry
Fear
LustCriticism
Death
PassivityUnforgivene
ss
Evidence based on senses of
the body
Knowledge based on feelings
Rational Logic
Doubt lies and accusations
Mind Emotions
Body
Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil is good for food Every fruit that has seed in it is good for food Therefore Fruit of Knowledge of Good and Evil has seeds in it
Seeds reproduces
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
God gave humans the charge of tending our gardens So lets take a look at how a plant of anger can be
growing in our garden
Common questions and beliefs God gets angry why canrsquot I
How is anger binding to me I have forgiven so many times why
is it still hurting or why am I still angry
Irsquom not bitter or angry anymore do I still have to forgive
As long as they do whatrsquos right I wonrsquot get angry They are the ones with the problem
If I donrsquot get angry they will just keep doing it
My anger is justified (righteous anger)
Itrsquos an emotion I canrsquot help it or control it
Anger management = keeping my mouth shut and be a doormat
Forgiving others makes them think that they are right and they can continue to behave that way
Dropping an issue = admitting guilt Give it time and anger will blow over
by itself If I suppress my anger Irsquom not
hurting anyone What if I am angry at God
Anatomy Growth Cycle of
AngerHow does one grow and
multiply an ldquoAnger Treerdquo
What is anger
Word associated with Fury rage wrath mad violence yelling hitting destruction hatred fits irate belligerence vengeful
Euphemisms
Frustrated
Aggravated
Upset Irritated Annoyed Indignan
t Tried incensed
Animosity
At odds Sore Injured Impatien
t Peeved Cold tiff
Passionate
Vexed Bitter Displeas
ed Exasper
ate Aggressi
ve Resentfu
l antagoni
ze
Call it what it is
Anger is typically described as an emotional preservation response to violation of personal worth needs and convictions (A threat or a wound)
But it is not just an emotion
The Seed Trigger Phase (a threat or wound is encountered)bull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
bull Red Alert ldquoIrsquom in dangerrdquo Triggers stress response Fight Flight Freeze or Fawn
Fight Flight Freeze Fawn Response
Fight Stay and fight the danger (Anger)
Flight Run away (FearAnxiety) Freeze Play dead and let danger
blow pass (Depression) Fawn Co-dependency Let me
serve you and join your cause
Fight or Flight Response Is a physiological reaction that
occurs in response to a perceived harmful event attack threat to survival in humans and animals
First described by Walter Bradford Cannon
Animals reacts to threats with a general discharge of the sympathetic nervous system that primes the animal for fighting or fleeing
Adrenal Medulla produces a hormonal cascade resulting in secretion of adrenaline and noradrenaline (epinephrinenorepinephrine)
Effects of AdrenalineNoradrenaline
Acceleration of heart and lung action
Inhibition of digestive system
Constriction of blood vessels to shunt blood to heart lungs and muscles
Auditory exclusion (hearing loss)
Dilation of pupils to see with increased clarity but with tunnel vision (loss of peripheral vision)
Increased blood pressure heart rate blood sugar and fats to supply muscles with more energy (chronic triggers sets one up for heart disease high blood pressure diabetes etc)
Speeds up blood clotting function to prevent excess blood loss (can contribute to lsquostickiness of blood and strokes)
Increased perspiration to prevent over-heating due to increased metabolism
The physiological response and serge of energy that one has as a result of the fightflight response been triggered is in and of itself not a sin
All the other phases are up for scrutiny
Anger is not sinful God gets angry Jesus got angry
Mark 35 Matthew 2112-13 Mark 1115-18 John 213-22
Anger in and of itself it is not sinful but bitterness dwelling (meditation) in anger is
Be ANGRY (orgizo provoked aroused to anger) and yet DO NOT SIN do not let the sun go down on your ANGER (parorgismos bitterness exasperation indignation wrath)
Eph 426
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Gathering of evidence and
presentation of the evidence before the court judge of me myself and I (Though we can hold a trial before a third party we usually have done it in our heads already)
Germination of the SeedDevelopment of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge (usually of me myself
and I) render a judgment of guilt of the accused the sentencedebt owed
Sprouting Phase (the first visible sign of anger) Choice Phase One chooses a reaction pathway to fight Open aggression Passive aggression Suppressed aggression Digressive aggression
Growth phase Reaction and Expression Phase bull Various modalities of
ldquofightingrdquo is expressedbull Reaction by the accused
can cause more retaliation and provide additional evidencenutrients
Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the
wound offense and roots due to unforgiveness or retaliation
bull Greater expression of the discontent
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Disclaimer
These are illustrative understanding of anger
I will attempt to show you pitfalls and where the doors to the enemy and root issues might be
It is not meant to be exhaustive to do list but to show you the power and freedom of choice
I do not claim understand the fullness of Godrsquos or human anger
The Seed Trigger Phasebull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
Pitfall We assume that the world should be like us which would be reasonable if we were all defined by God But the world we live in now is define by self--relativism that onersquos needs and convictions is different than others
Questions for the Trigger Phase Who is defining my worth
(safeguard this and reserve it only for God)
Am I jumping to conclusions about a personrsquos motivation
Do I have a hypersensitivity due to past wounds
Questions for the Trigger Phase Is the other person aware that a
violation had occurred Is the other person aware of my convictions
Can I accept differences in the convictions Accept the other person as is--different
Is the other person aware of my needs
Are my expectations reasonable
Reasonable Expectations are
Realized (Am I even aware that I have expectations and what they are)
Realistic (Is the expectation executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (expectation Agreed Upon)
The Seed Trigger Phasebull To not assume what is known
and right for me is known to the other person
bull God as source of worth identity Ultimately God is the source of fulfilling needs and the other person is all but human
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Choice of evidence source
VS VS
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where is the evidence been
presentedbull Who gets to present evidence
Is the Trial Fair Where is the trial taking place
Usually in our heads Does the defense even have a chance to present a plead
Is it a one sided argument and presentation of evidence Do you really have all the evidence
Are you retrying old evidence and old verdicts Stacking up condemning evidence
bull Exasperationbull Identity vs
behavior
Who can be the defense attorney
Is the accused allowed to have Jesus as the attorney
This means allowing yourself to see the person through Jesusrsquo eyes
Perhaps letting Him plead a case of mercy
ldquoChrist redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us for it is written ldquoCursed is everyone who is hung on a polerdquo (Gal 313)
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull What are you doing with the
evidence
Judging Anakrino ἀνακρίνω (Strongrsquos
G350)
examine or judge to investigate examine enquire into
scrutinise sift question specifically in a forensic sense of a judge to
hold an investigation to interrogate examine the accused or
witnesses to judge of estimate determine (the
excellence or defects of any person or thing)
(1 Cor 215 43 44 1424)
But he that is spiritual judgeth (anakrino) all things yet he himself is judged (anakrino) of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ 1 Cor 215-6
But he that is spiritual investigates examines inquires scrutinizes questions all things yet he himself determines (is determined by) the excellence or defects of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ
Krinō κρίνω (Strongrsquos G2919)
to separate select choose approve prefer to be of opinion determine to pronounce an opinion concerning right and wrong pronounce judgment to rulegovernpreside over with the power of giving judicial decisions to contend have suite at law go to law
Do ye not know that the saints shall judge (krino) the world and if the world shall be judged (krino) by you are ye unworthy to judge (kritērion) the smallest matters 1 Cor 62
Krinō comes with guidelines I can of mine own self do nothing
as I hear I judge and my judgment is just because I seek not mine own will but the will of the Father which hath sent me (Jesus in John 530)
We must have our will in submission to Godrsquos will and purposes Humility before God and men
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose And when he had looked round
about on them with anger being grieved for the hardness of their hearts he saith unto the man Stretch forth thine hand And he stretched it out and his hand was restored whole as the other Mark 35
And they were bringing unto him little children that he should touch them and the disciples rebuked them But when Jesus saw it he was moved with indignation and said unto them ldquoSuffer the little children to come unto me forbid them not for to such belongeth the kingdom of Godrdquo Mark 1013-4
Godrsquos Restorative purpose And the Passover of the Jews was at
hand and Jesus went up to Jerusalem And he found in the temple those that sold oxen and sheep and doves and the changers of money sitting and he made a scourge of cords and cast all out of the temple both the sheep and the oxen and he poured out the changers money and overthrew their tables and to them that sold the doves he said Take these things hence make not my Fathers house a house of merchandise His disciples remembered that it was written Zeal for thy house shall eat me up John213-7
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another Forgive as the Lord forgave youput on love which binds them all together in perfect unityrdquo Col 312-4
We should not base judgments on malicious lies or evil misrepresetations Speak not evil one of another
brethren He that speaketh evil of his brother and judgeth his brother speaketh evil of the law and judgeth the law but if thou judge the law thou art not a doer of the law but a judge There is one lawgiver who is able to save and to destroy who art thou that judgest another James 411-2
You shall not spread a false report You shall not join hands with a wicked man to be a malicious witness You shall not fall in with the many to do evil nor shall you bear witness in a lawsuit siding with the many so as to pervert justice nor shall you be partial to a poor man in his lawsuit Exodus 231-2
There are six things that the LORD strongly dislikes seven that are an abomination to him haughty eyes a lying tongue and hands that shed innocent blood a heart that devises wicked plans feet that make haste to run to evil a false witness who breathes out lies and one who sows discord among brothers Prov 616-19
ldquoYe judge after the flesh I judge no man And yet if I judge my judgment is true for I am not alone but I and the Father that sent merdquo (Jesus in John 815-6)
Judge not according to the appearance but judge righteous judgment John 724
Judge via Godrsquos standards not by appearances (evidence that we gathered) Also James 41-2
We must not be hypocrites when judging others for we are judged by our own standards Judge not and ye shall not be
judged condemn not and ye shall not be condemned forgive and ye shall be forgiven Luke 637
Matt 71-5 Luke 637-42 Romans 21-5 Romans 220-23 2 Sam 121-7
We are not to judge others regarding legalistic adherence to ordinances (holidays observances what to eat etc) for such are matters of faith Romans 141-23 2 Cor 87-13
Colossians 216-23 Romans 821 1 Cor 1023 Romans 45 23 Romans 1413 Romans 932 1 Cor 89 Galatians 51 13
We should not judge anyonersquos eternal destiny eternal worth and identity Therefore do not pronounce
judgment before the time before the Lord comes who will bring to light the things now hidden in darkness and will disclose the purposes of the heart Then each one will receive his commendation from God 1 Corinthians 45
Jesus said ldquoBut I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment Again anyone who says to his brother Raca is answerable to the Sanhedrin But anyone who says You fool will be in danger of the fire of hellrdquo Matt 522
Concerning Angels
But Michael the archangel when he disputed with the devil and argued about the body of Moses did not dare pronounce against him a railing judgment but said The Lord rebuke you Jude 19
Concerning God
We are not to judge (condemn God) but He does invite us to ask him questions and to reason with Him
Come now let us reason together says the Lord Isaiah 118
If any of you lack wisdom he should ask God who give generously to all without finding fault James 15
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull To whom are you presenting
evidence to
Who is the Judge
Me God Other people Society norm Whose standards are we using Do
we dare say that we have the fullness of Godrsquos knowledge wisdom justice mercy and authority to be in that role
The Father judges no one but has given all judgment to the Son that all may honor the Son just as they honor the Father John 522
For the LORD is our judge the LORD is our lawgiver the LORD is our king he will save us
Isaiah 3322
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where to have the trialbull What evidence I use bull Who or what am I putting on trial
A person a lifetime of behavior or one fixable behavior
bull How I am sifting through the evidence
bull Who is the judge and attorneybull Humility
We can judge a behavior That is wrong and it inflicted pain on me or it is not something God desires
We cannot judge a personrsquos worth identity and character
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Human grows
Over time
TimePowerOrderBears fruit
Human Will
Guilt
Shame
Anger Judgments
Pride
Idolatry
Fear
LustCriticism
Death
PassivityUnforgivene
ss
Evidence based on senses of
the body
Knowledge based on feelings
Rational Logic
Doubt lies and accusations
Mind Emotions
Body
Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil is good for food Every fruit that has seed in it is good for food Therefore Fruit of Knowledge of Good and Evil has seeds in it
Seeds reproduces
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
God gave humans the charge of tending our gardens So lets take a look at how a plant of anger can be
growing in our garden
Common questions and beliefs God gets angry why canrsquot I
How is anger binding to me I have forgiven so many times why
is it still hurting or why am I still angry
Irsquom not bitter or angry anymore do I still have to forgive
As long as they do whatrsquos right I wonrsquot get angry They are the ones with the problem
If I donrsquot get angry they will just keep doing it
My anger is justified (righteous anger)
Itrsquos an emotion I canrsquot help it or control it
Anger management = keeping my mouth shut and be a doormat
Forgiving others makes them think that they are right and they can continue to behave that way
Dropping an issue = admitting guilt Give it time and anger will blow over
by itself If I suppress my anger Irsquom not
hurting anyone What if I am angry at God
Anatomy Growth Cycle of
AngerHow does one grow and
multiply an ldquoAnger Treerdquo
What is anger
Word associated with Fury rage wrath mad violence yelling hitting destruction hatred fits irate belligerence vengeful
Euphemisms
Frustrated
Aggravated
Upset Irritated Annoyed Indignan
t Tried incensed
Animosity
At odds Sore Injured Impatien
t Peeved Cold tiff
Passionate
Vexed Bitter Displeas
ed Exasper
ate Aggressi
ve Resentfu
l antagoni
ze
Call it what it is
Anger is typically described as an emotional preservation response to violation of personal worth needs and convictions (A threat or a wound)
But it is not just an emotion
The Seed Trigger Phase (a threat or wound is encountered)bull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
bull Red Alert ldquoIrsquom in dangerrdquo Triggers stress response Fight Flight Freeze or Fawn
Fight Flight Freeze Fawn Response
Fight Stay and fight the danger (Anger)
Flight Run away (FearAnxiety) Freeze Play dead and let danger
blow pass (Depression) Fawn Co-dependency Let me
serve you and join your cause
Fight or Flight Response Is a physiological reaction that
occurs in response to a perceived harmful event attack threat to survival in humans and animals
First described by Walter Bradford Cannon
Animals reacts to threats with a general discharge of the sympathetic nervous system that primes the animal for fighting or fleeing
Adrenal Medulla produces a hormonal cascade resulting in secretion of adrenaline and noradrenaline (epinephrinenorepinephrine)
Effects of AdrenalineNoradrenaline
Acceleration of heart and lung action
Inhibition of digestive system
Constriction of blood vessels to shunt blood to heart lungs and muscles
Auditory exclusion (hearing loss)
Dilation of pupils to see with increased clarity but with tunnel vision (loss of peripheral vision)
Increased blood pressure heart rate blood sugar and fats to supply muscles with more energy (chronic triggers sets one up for heart disease high blood pressure diabetes etc)
Speeds up blood clotting function to prevent excess blood loss (can contribute to lsquostickiness of blood and strokes)
Increased perspiration to prevent over-heating due to increased metabolism
The physiological response and serge of energy that one has as a result of the fightflight response been triggered is in and of itself not a sin
All the other phases are up for scrutiny
Anger is not sinful God gets angry Jesus got angry
Mark 35 Matthew 2112-13 Mark 1115-18 John 213-22
Anger in and of itself it is not sinful but bitterness dwelling (meditation) in anger is
Be ANGRY (orgizo provoked aroused to anger) and yet DO NOT SIN do not let the sun go down on your ANGER (parorgismos bitterness exasperation indignation wrath)
Eph 426
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Gathering of evidence and
presentation of the evidence before the court judge of me myself and I (Though we can hold a trial before a third party we usually have done it in our heads already)
Germination of the SeedDevelopment of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge (usually of me myself
and I) render a judgment of guilt of the accused the sentencedebt owed
Sprouting Phase (the first visible sign of anger) Choice Phase One chooses a reaction pathway to fight Open aggression Passive aggression Suppressed aggression Digressive aggression
Growth phase Reaction and Expression Phase bull Various modalities of
ldquofightingrdquo is expressedbull Reaction by the accused
can cause more retaliation and provide additional evidencenutrients
Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the
wound offense and roots due to unforgiveness or retaliation
bull Greater expression of the discontent
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Disclaimer
These are illustrative understanding of anger
I will attempt to show you pitfalls and where the doors to the enemy and root issues might be
It is not meant to be exhaustive to do list but to show you the power and freedom of choice
I do not claim understand the fullness of Godrsquos or human anger
The Seed Trigger Phasebull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
Pitfall We assume that the world should be like us which would be reasonable if we were all defined by God But the world we live in now is define by self--relativism that onersquos needs and convictions is different than others
Questions for the Trigger Phase Who is defining my worth
(safeguard this and reserve it only for God)
Am I jumping to conclusions about a personrsquos motivation
Do I have a hypersensitivity due to past wounds
Questions for the Trigger Phase Is the other person aware that a
violation had occurred Is the other person aware of my convictions
Can I accept differences in the convictions Accept the other person as is--different
Is the other person aware of my needs
Are my expectations reasonable
Reasonable Expectations are
Realized (Am I even aware that I have expectations and what they are)
Realistic (Is the expectation executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (expectation Agreed Upon)
The Seed Trigger Phasebull To not assume what is known
and right for me is known to the other person
bull God as source of worth identity Ultimately God is the source of fulfilling needs and the other person is all but human
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Choice of evidence source
VS VS
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where is the evidence been
presentedbull Who gets to present evidence
Is the Trial Fair Where is the trial taking place
Usually in our heads Does the defense even have a chance to present a plead
Is it a one sided argument and presentation of evidence Do you really have all the evidence
Are you retrying old evidence and old verdicts Stacking up condemning evidence
bull Exasperationbull Identity vs
behavior
Who can be the defense attorney
Is the accused allowed to have Jesus as the attorney
This means allowing yourself to see the person through Jesusrsquo eyes
Perhaps letting Him plead a case of mercy
ldquoChrist redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us for it is written ldquoCursed is everyone who is hung on a polerdquo (Gal 313)
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull What are you doing with the
evidence
Judging Anakrino ἀνακρίνω (Strongrsquos
G350)
examine or judge to investigate examine enquire into
scrutinise sift question specifically in a forensic sense of a judge to
hold an investigation to interrogate examine the accused or
witnesses to judge of estimate determine (the
excellence or defects of any person or thing)
(1 Cor 215 43 44 1424)
But he that is spiritual judgeth (anakrino) all things yet he himself is judged (anakrino) of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ 1 Cor 215-6
But he that is spiritual investigates examines inquires scrutinizes questions all things yet he himself determines (is determined by) the excellence or defects of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ
Krinō κρίνω (Strongrsquos G2919)
to separate select choose approve prefer to be of opinion determine to pronounce an opinion concerning right and wrong pronounce judgment to rulegovernpreside over with the power of giving judicial decisions to contend have suite at law go to law
Do ye not know that the saints shall judge (krino) the world and if the world shall be judged (krino) by you are ye unworthy to judge (kritērion) the smallest matters 1 Cor 62
Krinō comes with guidelines I can of mine own self do nothing
as I hear I judge and my judgment is just because I seek not mine own will but the will of the Father which hath sent me (Jesus in John 530)
We must have our will in submission to Godrsquos will and purposes Humility before God and men
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose And when he had looked round
about on them with anger being grieved for the hardness of their hearts he saith unto the man Stretch forth thine hand And he stretched it out and his hand was restored whole as the other Mark 35
And they were bringing unto him little children that he should touch them and the disciples rebuked them But when Jesus saw it he was moved with indignation and said unto them ldquoSuffer the little children to come unto me forbid them not for to such belongeth the kingdom of Godrdquo Mark 1013-4
Godrsquos Restorative purpose And the Passover of the Jews was at
hand and Jesus went up to Jerusalem And he found in the temple those that sold oxen and sheep and doves and the changers of money sitting and he made a scourge of cords and cast all out of the temple both the sheep and the oxen and he poured out the changers money and overthrew their tables and to them that sold the doves he said Take these things hence make not my Fathers house a house of merchandise His disciples remembered that it was written Zeal for thy house shall eat me up John213-7
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another Forgive as the Lord forgave youput on love which binds them all together in perfect unityrdquo Col 312-4
We should not base judgments on malicious lies or evil misrepresetations Speak not evil one of another
brethren He that speaketh evil of his brother and judgeth his brother speaketh evil of the law and judgeth the law but if thou judge the law thou art not a doer of the law but a judge There is one lawgiver who is able to save and to destroy who art thou that judgest another James 411-2
You shall not spread a false report You shall not join hands with a wicked man to be a malicious witness You shall not fall in with the many to do evil nor shall you bear witness in a lawsuit siding with the many so as to pervert justice nor shall you be partial to a poor man in his lawsuit Exodus 231-2
There are six things that the LORD strongly dislikes seven that are an abomination to him haughty eyes a lying tongue and hands that shed innocent blood a heart that devises wicked plans feet that make haste to run to evil a false witness who breathes out lies and one who sows discord among brothers Prov 616-19
ldquoYe judge after the flesh I judge no man And yet if I judge my judgment is true for I am not alone but I and the Father that sent merdquo (Jesus in John 815-6)
Judge not according to the appearance but judge righteous judgment John 724
Judge via Godrsquos standards not by appearances (evidence that we gathered) Also James 41-2
We must not be hypocrites when judging others for we are judged by our own standards Judge not and ye shall not be
judged condemn not and ye shall not be condemned forgive and ye shall be forgiven Luke 637
Matt 71-5 Luke 637-42 Romans 21-5 Romans 220-23 2 Sam 121-7
We are not to judge others regarding legalistic adherence to ordinances (holidays observances what to eat etc) for such are matters of faith Romans 141-23 2 Cor 87-13
Colossians 216-23 Romans 821 1 Cor 1023 Romans 45 23 Romans 1413 Romans 932 1 Cor 89 Galatians 51 13
We should not judge anyonersquos eternal destiny eternal worth and identity Therefore do not pronounce
judgment before the time before the Lord comes who will bring to light the things now hidden in darkness and will disclose the purposes of the heart Then each one will receive his commendation from God 1 Corinthians 45
Jesus said ldquoBut I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment Again anyone who says to his brother Raca is answerable to the Sanhedrin But anyone who says You fool will be in danger of the fire of hellrdquo Matt 522
Concerning Angels
But Michael the archangel when he disputed with the devil and argued about the body of Moses did not dare pronounce against him a railing judgment but said The Lord rebuke you Jude 19
Concerning God
We are not to judge (condemn God) but He does invite us to ask him questions and to reason with Him
Come now let us reason together says the Lord Isaiah 118
If any of you lack wisdom he should ask God who give generously to all without finding fault James 15
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull To whom are you presenting
evidence to
Who is the Judge
Me God Other people Society norm Whose standards are we using Do
we dare say that we have the fullness of Godrsquos knowledge wisdom justice mercy and authority to be in that role
The Father judges no one but has given all judgment to the Son that all may honor the Son just as they honor the Father John 522
For the LORD is our judge the LORD is our lawgiver the LORD is our king he will save us
Isaiah 3322
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where to have the trialbull What evidence I use bull Who or what am I putting on trial
A person a lifetime of behavior or one fixable behavior
bull How I am sifting through the evidence
bull Who is the judge and attorneybull Humility
We can judge a behavior That is wrong and it inflicted pain on me or it is not something God desires
We cannot judge a personrsquos worth identity and character
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Human Will
Guilt
Shame
Anger Judgments
Pride
Idolatry
Fear
LustCriticism
Death
PassivityUnforgivene
ss
Evidence based on senses of
the body
Knowledge based on feelings
Rational Logic
Doubt lies and accusations
Mind Emotions
Body
Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil is good for food Every fruit that has seed in it is good for food Therefore Fruit of Knowledge of Good and Evil has seeds in it
Seeds reproduces
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
God gave humans the charge of tending our gardens So lets take a look at how a plant of anger can be
growing in our garden
Common questions and beliefs God gets angry why canrsquot I
How is anger binding to me I have forgiven so many times why
is it still hurting or why am I still angry
Irsquom not bitter or angry anymore do I still have to forgive
As long as they do whatrsquos right I wonrsquot get angry They are the ones with the problem
If I donrsquot get angry they will just keep doing it
My anger is justified (righteous anger)
Itrsquos an emotion I canrsquot help it or control it
Anger management = keeping my mouth shut and be a doormat
Forgiving others makes them think that they are right and they can continue to behave that way
Dropping an issue = admitting guilt Give it time and anger will blow over
by itself If I suppress my anger Irsquom not
hurting anyone What if I am angry at God
Anatomy Growth Cycle of
AngerHow does one grow and
multiply an ldquoAnger Treerdquo
What is anger
Word associated with Fury rage wrath mad violence yelling hitting destruction hatred fits irate belligerence vengeful
Euphemisms
Frustrated
Aggravated
Upset Irritated Annoyed Indignan
t Tried incensed
Animosity
At odds Sore Injured Impatien
t Peeved Cold tiff
Passionate
Vexed Bitter Displeas
ed Exasper
ate Aggressi
ve Resentfu
l antagoni
ze
Call it what it is
Anger is typically described as an emotional preservation response to violation of personal worth needs and convictions (A threat or a wound)
But it is not just an emotion
The Seed Trigger Phase (a threat or wound is encountered)bull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
bull Red Alert ldquoIrsquom in dangerrdquo Triggers stress response Fight Flight Freeze or Fawn
Fight Flight Freeze Fawn Response
Fight Stay and fight the danger (Anger)
Flight Run away (FearAnxiety) Freeze Play dead and let danger
blow pass (Depression) Fawn Co-dependency Let me
serve you and join your cause
Fight or Flight Response Is a physiological reaction that
occurs in response to a perceived harmful event attack threat to survival in humans and animals
First described by Walter Bradford Cannon
Animals reacts to threats with a general discharge of the sympathetic nervous system that primes the animal for fighting or fleeing
Adrenal Medulla produces a hormonal cascade resulting in secretion of adrenaline and noradrenaline (epinephrinenorepinephrine)
Effects of AdrenalineNoradrenaline
Acceleration of heart and lung action
Inhibition of digestive system
Constriction of blood vessels to shunt blood to heart lungs and muscles
Auditory exclusion (hearing loss)
Dilation of pupils to see with increased clarity but with tunnel vision (loss of peripheral vision)
Increased blood pressure heart rate blood sugar and fats to supply muscles with more energy (chronic triggers sets one up for heart disease high blood pressure diabetes etc)
Speeds up blood clotting function to prevent excess blood loss (can contribute to lsquostickiness of blood and strokes)
Increased perspiration to prevent over-heating due to increased metabolism
The physiological response and serge of energy that one has as a result of the fightflight response been triggered is in and of itself not a sin
All the other phases are up for scrutiny
Anger is not sinful God gets angry Jesus got angry
Mark 35 Matthew 2112-13 Mark 1115-18 John 213-22
Anger in and of itself it is not sinful but bitterness dwelling (meditation) in anger is
Be ANGRY (orgizo provoked aroused to anger) and yet DO NOT SIN do not let the sun go down on your ANGER (parorgismos bitterness exasperation indignation wrath)
Eph 426
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Gathering of evidence and
presentation of the evidence before the court judge of me myself and I (Though we can hold a trial before a third party we usually have done it in our heads already)
Germination of the SeedDevelopment of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge (usually of me myself
and I) render a judgment of guilt of the accused the sentencedebt owed
Sprouting Phase (the first visible sign of anger) Choice Phase One chooses a reaction pathway to fight Open aggression Passive aggression Suppressed aggression Digressive aggression
Growth phase Reaction and Expression Phase bull Various modalities of
ldquofightingrdquo is expressedbull Reaction by the accused
can cause more retaliation and provide additional evidencenutrients
Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the
wound offense and roots due to unforgiveness or retaliation
bull Greater expression of the discontent
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Disclaimer
These are illustrative understanding of anger
I will attempt to show you pitfalls and where the doors to the enemy and root issues might be
It is not meant to be exhaustive to do list but to show you the power and freedom of choice
I do not claim understand the fullness of Godrsquos or human anger
The Seed Trigger Phasebull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
Pitfall We assume that the world should be like us which would be reasonable if we were all defined by God But the world we live in now is define by self--relativism that onersquos needs and convictions is different than others
Questions for the Trigger Phase Who is defining my worth
(safeguard this and reserve it only for God)
Am I jumping to conclusions about a personrsquos motivation
Do I have a hypersensitivity due to past wounds
Questions for the Trigger Phase Is the other person aware that a
violation had occurred Is the other person aware of my convictions
Can I accept differences in the convictions Accept the other person as is--different
Is the other person aware of my needs
Are my expectations reasonable
Reasonable Expectations are
Realized (Am I even aware that I have expectations and what they are)
Realistic (Is the expectation executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (expectation Agreed Upon)
The Seed Trigger Phasebull To not assume what is known
and right for me is known to the other person
bull God as source of worth identity Ultimately God is the source of fulfilling needs and the other person is all but human
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Choice of evidence source
VS VS
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where is the evidence been
presentedbull Who gets to present evidence
Is the Trial Fair Where is the trial taking place
Usually in our heads Does the defense even have a chance to present a plead
Is it a one sided argument and presentation of evidence Do you really have all the evidence
Are you retrying old evidence and old verdicts Stacking up condemning evidence
bull Exasperationbull Identity vs
behavior
Who can be the defense attorney
Is the accused allowed to have Jesus as the attorney
This means allowing yourself to see the person through Jesusrsquo eyes
Perhaps letting Him plead a case of mercy
ldquoChrist redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us for it is written ldquoCursed is everyone who is hung on a polerdquo (Gal 313)
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull What are you doing with the
evidence
Judging Anakrino ἀνακρίνω (Strongrsquos
G350)
examine or judge to investigate examine enquire into
scrutinise sift question specifically in a forensic sense of a judge to
hold an investigation to interrogate examine the accused or
witnesses to judge of estimate determine (the
excellence or defects of any person or thing)
(1 Cor 215 43 44 1424)
But he that is spiritual judgeth (anakrino) all things yet he himself is judged (anakrino) of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ 1 Cor 215-6
But he that is spiritual investigates examines inquires scrutinizes questions all things yet he himself determines (is determined by) the excellence or defects of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ
Krinō κρίνω (Strongrsquos G2919)
to separate select choose approve prefer to be of opinion determine to pronounce an opinion concerning right and wrong pronounce judgment to rulegovernpreside over with the power of giving judicial decisions to contend have suite at law go to law
Do ye not know that the saints shall judge (krino) the world and if the world shall be judged (krino) by you are ye unworthy to judge (kritērion) the smallest matters 1 Cor 62
Krinō comes with guidelines I can of mine own self do nothing
as I hear I judge and my judgment is just because I seek not mine own will but the will of the Father which hath sent me (Jesus in John 530)
We must have our will in submission to Godrsquos will and purposes Humility before God and men
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose And when he had looked round
about on them with anger being grieved for the hardness of their hearts he saith unto the man Stretch forth thine hand And he stretched it out and his hand was restored whole as the other Mark 35
And they were bringing unto him little children that he should touch them and the disciples rebuked them But when Jesus saw it he was moved with indignation and said unto them ldquoSuffer the little children to come unto me forbid them not for to such belongeth the kingdom of Godrdquo Mark 1013-4
Godrsquos Restorative purpose And the Passover of the Jews was at
hand and Jesus went up to Jerusalem And he found in the temple those that sold oxen and sheep and doves and the changers of money sitting and he made a scourge of cords and cast all out of the temple both the sheep and the oxen and he poured out the changers money and overthrew their tables and to them that sold the doves he said Take these things hence make not my Fathers house a house of merchandise His disciples remembered that it was written Zeal for thy house shall eat me up John213-7
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another Forgive as the Lord forgave youput on love which binds them all together in perfect unityrdquo Col 312-4
We should not base judgments on malicious lies or evil misrepresetations Speak not evil one of another
brethren He that speaketh evil of his brother and judgeth his brother speaketh evil of the law and judgeth the law but if thou judge the law thou art not a doer of the law but a judge There is one lawgiver who is able to save and to destroy who art thou that judgest another James 411-2
You shall not spread a false report You shall not join hands with a wicked man to be a malicious witness You shall not fall in with the many to do evil nor shall you bear witness in a lawsuit siding with the many so as to pervert justice nor shall you be partial to a poor man in his lawsuit Exodus 231-2
There are six things that the LORD strongly dislikes seven that are an abomination to him haughty eyes a lying tongue and hands that shed innocent blood a heart that devises wicked plans feet that make haste to run to evil a false witness who breathes out lies and one who sows discord among brothers Prov 616-19
ldquoYe judge after the flesh I judge no man And yet if I judge my judgment is true for I am not alone but I and the Father that sent merdquo (Jesus in John 815-6)
Judge not according to the appearance but judge righteous judgment John 724
Judge via Godrsquos standards not by appearances (evidence that we gathered) Also James 41-2
We must not be hypocrites when judging others for we are judged by our own standards Judge not and ye shall not be
judged condemn not and ye shall not be condemned forgive and ye shall be forgiven Luke 637
Matt 71-5 Luke 637-42 Romans 21-5 Romans 220-23 2 Sam 121-7
We are not to judge others regarding legalistic adherence to ordinances (holidays observances what to eat etc) for such are matters of faith Romans 141-23 2 Cor 87-13
Colossians 216-23 Romans 821 1 Cor 1023 Romans 45 23 Romans 1413 Romans 932 1 Cor 89 Galatians 51 13
We should not judge anyonersquos eternal destiny eternal worth and identity Therefore do not pronounce
judgment before the time before the Lord comes who will bring to light the things now hidden in darkness and will disclose the purposes of the heart Then each one will receive his commendation from God 1 Corinthians 45
Jesus said ldquoBut I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment Again anyone who says to his brother Raca is answerable to the Sanhedrin But anyone who says You fool will be in danger of the fire of hellrdquo Matt 522
Concerning Angels
But Michael the archangel when he disputed with the devil and argued about the body of Moses did not dare pronounce against him a railing judgment but said The Lord rebuke you Jude 19
Concerning God
We are not to judge (condemn God) but He does invite us to ask him questions and to reason with Him
Come now let us reason together says the Lord Isaiah 118
If any of you lack wisdom he should ask God who give generously to all without finding fault James 15
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull To whom are you presenting
evidence to
Who is the Judge
Me God Other people Society norm Whose standards are we using Do
we dare say that we have the fullness of Godrsquos knowledge wisdom justice mercy and authority to be in that role
The Father judges no one but has given all judgment to the Son that all may honor the Son just as they honor the Father John 522
For the LORD is our judge the LORD is our lawgiver the LORD is our king he will save us
Isaiah 3322
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where to have the trialbull What evidence I use bull Who or what am I putting on trial
A person a lifetime of behavior or one fixable behavior
bull How I am sifting through the evidence
bull Who is the judge and attorneybull Humility
We can judge a behavior That is wrong and it inflicted pain on me or it is not something God desires
We cannot judge a personrsquos worth identity and character
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil is good for food Every fruit that has seed in it is good for food Therefore Fruit of Knowledge of Good and Evil has seeds in it
Seeds reproduces
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
God gave humans the charge of tending our gardens So lets take a look at how a plant of anger can be
growing in our garden
Common questions and beliefs God gets angry why canrsquot I
How is anger binding to me I have forgiven so many times why
is it still hurting or why am I still angry
Irsquom not bitter or angry anymore do I still have to forgive
As long as they do whatrsquos right I wonrsquot get angry They are the ones with the problem
If I donrsquot get angry they will just keep doing it
My anger is justified (righteous anger)
Itrsquos an emotion I canrsquot help it or control it
Anger management = keeping my mouth shut and be a doormat
Forgiving others makes them think that they are right and they can continue to behave that way
Dropping an issue = admitting guilt Give it time and anger will blow over
by itself If I suppress my anger Irsquom not
hurting anyone What if I am angry at God
Anatomy Growth Cycle of
AngerHow does one grow and
multiply an ldquoAnger Treerdquo
What is anger
Word associated with Fury rage wrath mad violence yelling hitting destruction hatred fits irate belligerence vengeful
Euphemisms
Frustrated
Aggravated
Upset Irritated Annoyed Indignan
t Tried incensed
Animosity
At odds Sore Injured Impatien
t Peeved Cold tiff
Passionate
Vexed Bitter Displeas
ed Exasper
ate Aggressi
ve Resentfu
l antagoni
ze
Call it what it is
Anger is typically described as an emotional preservation response to violation of personal worth needs and convictions (A threat or a wound)
But it is not just an emotion
The Seed Trigger Phase (a threat or wound is encountered)bull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
bull Red Alert ldquoIrsquom in dangerrdquo Triggers stress response Fight Flight Freeze or Fawn
Fight Flight Freeze Fawn Response
Fight Stay and fight the danger (Anger)
Flight Run away (FearAnxiety) Freeze Play dead and let danger
blow pass (Depression) Fawn Co-dependency Let me
serve you and join your cause
Fight or Flight Response Is a physiological reaction that
occurs in response to a perceived harmful event attack threat to survival in humans and animals
First described by Walter Bradford Cannon
Animals reacts to threats with a general discharge of the sympathetic nervous system that primes the animal for fighting or fleeing
Adrenal Medulla produces a hormonal cascade resulting in secretion of adrenaline and noradrenaline (epinephrinenorepinephrine)
Effects of AdrenalineNoradrenaline
Acceleration of heart and lung action
Inhibition of digestive system
Constriction of blood vessels to shunt blood to heart lungs and muscles
Auditory exclusion (hearing loss)
Dilation of pupils to see with increased clarity but with tunnel vision (loss of peripheral vision)
Increased blood pressure heart rate blood sugar and fats to supply muscles with more energy (chronic triggers sets one up for heart disease high blood pressure diabetes etc)
Speeds up blood clotting function to prevent excess blood loss (can contribute to lsquostickiness of blood and strokes)
Increased perspiration to prevent over-heating due to increased metabolism
The physiological response and serge of energy that one has as a result of the fightflight response been triggered is in and of itself not a sin
All the other phases are up for scrutiny
Anger is not sinful God gets angry Jesus got angry
Mark 35 Matthew 2112-13 Mark 1115-18 John 213-22
Anger in and of itself it is not sinful but bitterness dwelling (meditation) in anger is
Be ANGRY (orgizo provoked aroused to anger) and yet DO NOT SIN do not let the sun go down on your ANGER (parorgismos bitterness exasperation indignation wrath)
Eph 426
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Gathering of evidence and
presentation of the evidence before the court judge of me myself and I (Though we can hold a trial before a third party we usually have done it in our heads already)
Germination of the SeedDevelopment of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge (usually of me myself
and I) render a judgment of guilt of the accused the sentencedebt owed
Sprouting Phase (the first visible sign of anger) Choice Phase One chooses a reaction pathway to fight Open aggression Passive aggression Suppressed aggression Digressive aggression
Growth phase Reaction and Expression Phase bull Various modalities of
ldquofightingrdquo is expressedbull Reaction by the accused
can cause more retaliation and provide additional evidencenutrients
Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the
wound offense and roots due to unforgiveness or retaliation
bull Greater expression of the discontent
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Disclaimer
These are illustrative understanding of anger
I will attempt to show you pitfalls and where the doors to the enemy and root issues might be
It is not meant to be exhaustive to do list but to show you the power and freedom of choice
I do not claim understand the fullness of Godrsquos or human anger
The Seed Trigger Phasebull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
Pitfall We assume that the world should be like us which would be reasonable if we were all defined by God But the world we live in now is define by self--relativism that onersquos needs and convictions is different than others
Questions for the Trigger Phase Who is defining my worth
(safeguard this and reserve it only for God)
Am I jumping to conclusions about a personrsquos motivation
Do I have a hypersensitivity due to past wounds
Questions for the Trigger Phase Is the other person aware that a
violation had occurred Is the other person aware of my convictions
Can I accept differences in the convictions Accept the other person as is--different
Is the other person aware of my needs
Are my expectations reasonable
Reasonable Expectations are
Realized (Am I even aware that I have expectations and what they are)
Realistic (Is the expectation executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (expectation Agreed Upon)
The Seed Trigger Phasebull To not assume what is known
and right for me is known to the other person
bull God as source of worth identity Ultimately God is the source of fulfilling needs and the other person is all but human
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Choice of evidence source
VS VS
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where is the evidence been
presentedbull Who gets to present evidence
Is the Trial Fair Where is the trial taking place
Usually in our heads Does the defense even have a chance to present a plead
Is it a one sided argument and presentation of evidence Do you really have all the evidence
Are you retrying old evidence and old verdicts Stacking up condemning evidence
bull Exasperationbull Identity vs
behavior
Who can be the defense attorney
Is the accused allowed to have Jesus as the attorney
This means allowing yourself to see the person through Jesusrsquo eyes
Perhaps letting Him plead a case of mercy
ldquoChrist redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us for it is written ldquoCursed is everyone who is hung on a polerdquo (Gal 313)
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull What are you doing with the
evidence
Judging Anakrino ἀνακρίνω (Strongrsquos
G350)
examine or judge to investigate examine enquire into
scrutinise sift question specifically in a forensic sense of a judge to
hold an investigation to interrogate examine the accused or
witnesses to judge of estimate determine (the
excellence or defects of any person or thing)
(1 Cor 215 43 44 1424)
But he that is spiritual judgeth (anakrino) all things yet he himself is judged (anakrino) of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ 1 Cor 215-6
But he that is spiritual investigates examines inquires scrutinizes questions all things yet he himself determines (is determined by) the excellence or defects of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ
Krinō κρίνω (Strongrsquos G2919)
to separate select choose approve prefer to be of opinion determine to pronounce an opinion concerning right and wrong pronounce judgment to rulegovernpreside over with the power of giving judicial decisions to contend have suite at law go to law
Do ye not know that the saints shall judge (krino) the world and if the world shall be judged (krino) by you are ye unworthy to judge (kritērion) the smallest matters 1 Cor 62
Krinō comes with guidelines I can of mine own self do nothing
as I hear I judge and my judgment is just because I seek not mine own will but the will of the Father which hath sent me (Jesus in John 530)
We must have our will in submission to Godrsquos will and purposes Humility before God and men
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose And when he had looked round
about on them with anger being grieved for the hardness of their hearts he saith unto the man Stretch forth thine hand And he stretched it out and his hand was restored whole as the other Mark 35
And they were bringing unto him little children that he should touch them and the disciples rebuked them But when Jesus saw it he was moved with indignation and said unto them ldquoSuffer the little children to come unto me forbid them not for to such belongeth the kingdom of Godrdquo Mark 1013-4
Godrsquos Restorative purpose And the Passover of the Jews was at
hand and Jesus went up to Jerusalem And he found in the temple those that sold oxen and sheep and doves and the changers of money sitting and he made a scourge of cords and cast all out of the temple both the sheep and the oxen and he poured out the changers money and overthrew their tables and to them that sold the doves he said Take these things hence make not my Fathers house a house of merchandise His disciples remembered that it was written Zeal for thy house shall eat me up John213-7
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another Forgive as the Lord forgave youput on love which binds them all together in perfect unityrdquo Col 312-4
We should not base judgments on malicious lies or evil misrepresetations Speak not evil one of another
brethren He that speaketh evil of his brother and judgeth his brother speaketh evil of the law and judgeth the law but if thou judge the law thou art not a doer of the law but a judge There is one lawgiver who is able to save and to destroy who art thou that judgest another James 411-2
You shall not spread a false report You shall not join hands with a wicked man to be a malicious witness You shall not fall in with the many to do evil nor shall you bear witness in a lawsuit siding with the many so as to pervert justice nor shall you be partial to a poor man in his lawsuit Exodus 231-2
There are six things that the LORD strongly dislikes seven that are an abomination to him haughty eyes a lying tongue and hands that shed innocent blood a heart that devises wicked plans feet that make haste to run to evil a false witness who breathes out lies and one who sows discord among brothers Prov 616-19
ldquoYe judge after the flesh I judge no man And yet if I judge my judgment is true for I am not alone but I and the Father that sent merdquo (Jesus in John 815-6)
Judge not according to the appearance but judge righteous judgment John 724
Judge via Godrsquos standards not by appearances (evidence that we gathered) Also James 41-2
We must not be hypocrites when judging others for we are judged by our own standards Judge not and ye shall not be
judged condemn not and ye shall not be condemned forgive and ye shall be forgiven Luke 637
Matt 71-5 Luke 637-42 Romans 21-5 Romans 220-23 2 Sam 121-7
We are not to judge others regarding legalistic adherence to ordinances (holidays observances what to eat etc) for such are matters of faith Romans 141-23 2 Cor 87-13
Colossians 216-23 Romans 821 1 Cor 1023 Romans 45 23 Romans 1413 Romans 932 1 Cor 89 Galatians 51 13
We should not judge anyonersquos eternal destiny eternal worth and identity Therefore do not pronounce
judgment before the time before the Lord comes who will bring to light the things now hidden in darkness and will disclose the purposes of the heart Then each one will receive his commendation from God 1 Corinthians 45
Jesus said ldquoBut I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment Again anyone who says to his brother Raca is answerable to the Sanhedrin But anyone who says You fool will be in danger of the fire of hellrdquo Matt 522
Concerning Angels
But Michael the archangel when he disputed with the devil and argued about the body of Moses did not dare pronounce against him a railing judgment but said The Lord rebuke you Jude 19
Concerning God
We are not to judge (condemn God) but He does invite us to ask him questions and to reason with Him
Come now let us reason together says the Lord Isaiah 118
If any of you lack wisdom he should ask God who give generously to all without finding fault James 15
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull To whom are you presenting
evidence to
Who is the Judge
Me God Other people Society norm Whose standards are we using Do
we dare say that we have the fullness of Godrsquos knowledge wisdom justice mercy and authority to be in that role
The Father judges no one but has given all judgment to the Son that all may honor the Son just as they honor the Father John 522
For the LORD is our judge the LORD is our lawgiver the LORD is our king he will save us
Isaiah 3322
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where to have the trialbull What evidence I use bull Who or what am I putting on trial
A person a lifetime of behavior or one fixable behavior
bull How I am sifting through the evidence
bull Who is the judge and attorneybull Humility
We can judge a behavior That is wrong and it inflicted pain on me or it is not something God desires
We cannot judge a personrsquos worth identity and character
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
God gave humans the charge of tending our gardens So lets take a look at how a plant of anger can be
growing in our garden
Common questions and beliefs God gets angry why canrsquot I
How is anger binding to me I have forgiven so many times why
is it still hurting or why am I still angry
Irsquom not bitter or angry anymore do I still have to forgive
As long as they do whatrsquos right I wonrsquot get angry They are the ones with the problem
If I donrsquot get angry they will just keep doing it
My anger is justified (righteous anger)
Itrsquos an emotion I canrsquot help it or control it
Anger management = keeping my mouth shut and be a doormat
Forgiving others makes them think that they are right and they can continue to behave that way
Dropping an issue = admitting guilt Give it time and anger will blow over
by itself If I suppress my anger Irsquom not
hurting anyone What if I am angry at God
Anatomy Growth Cycle of
AngerHow does one grow and
multiply an ldquoAnger Treerdquo
What is anger
Word associated with Fury rage wrath mad violence yelling hitting destruction hatred fits irate belligerence vengeful
Euphemisms
Frustrated
Aggravated
Upset Irritated Annoyed Indignan
t Tried incensed
Animosity
At odds Sore Injured Impatien
t Peeved Cold tiff
Passionate
Vexed Bitter Displeas
ed Exasper
ate Aggressi
ve Resentfu
l antagoni
ze
Call it what it is
Anger is typically described as an emotional preservation response to violation of personal worth needs and convictions (A threat or a wound)
But it is not just an emotion
The Seed Trigger Phase (a threat or wound is encountered)bull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
bull Red Alert ldquoIrsquom in dangerrdquo Triggers stress response Fight Flight Freeze or Fawn
Fight Flight Freeze Fawn Response
Fight Stay and fight the danger (Anger)
Flight Run away (FearAnxiety) Freeze Play dead and let danger
blow pass (Depression) Fawn Co-dependency Let me
serve you and join your cause
Fight or Flight Response Is a physiological reaction that
occurs in response to a perceived harmful event attack threat to survival in humans and animals
First described by Walter Bradford Cannon
Animals reacts to threats with a general discharge of the sympathetic nervous system that primes the animal for fighting or fleeing
Adrenal Medulla produces a hormonal cascade resulting in secretion of adrenaline and noradrenaline (epinephrinenorepinephrine)
Effects of AdrenalineNoradrenaline
Acceleration of heart and lung action
Inhibition of digestive system
Constriction of blood vessels to shunt blood to heart lungs and muscles
Auditory exclusion (hearing loss)
Dilation of pupils to see with increased clarity but with tunnel vision (loss of peripheral vision)
Increased blood pressure heart rate blood sugar and fats to supply muscles with more energy (chronic triggers sets one up for heart disease high blood pressure diabetes etc)
Speeds up blood clotting function to prevent excess blood loss (can contribute to lsquostickiness of blood and strokes)
Increased perspiration to prevent over-heating due to increased metabolism
The physiological response and serge of energy that one has as a result of the fightflight response been triggered is in and of itself not a sin
All the other phases are up for scrutiny
Anger is not sinful God gets angry Jesus got angry
Mark 35 Matthew 2112-13 Mark 1115-18 John 213-22
Anger in and of itself it is not sinful but bitterness dwelling (meditation) in anger is
Be ANGRY (orgizo provoked aroused to anger) and yet DO NOT SIN do not let the sun go down on your ANGER (parorgismos bitterness exasperation indignation wrath)
Eph 426
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Gathering of evidence and
presentation of the evidence before the court judge of me myself and I (Though we can hold a trial before a third party we usually have done it in our heads already)
Germination of the SeedDevelopment of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge (usually of me myself
and I) render a judgment of guilt of the accused the sentencedebt owed
Sprouting Phase (the first visible sign of anger) Choice Phase One chooses a reaction pathway to fight Open aggression Passive aggression Suppressed aggression Digressive aggression
Growth phase Reaction and Expression Phase bull Various modalities of
ldquofightingrdquo is expressedbull Reaction by the accused
can cause more retaliation and provide additional evidencenutrients
Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the
wound offense and roots due to unforgiveness or retaliation
bull Greater expression of the discontent
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Disclaimer
These are illustrative understanding of anger
I will attempt to show you pitfalls and where the doors to the enemy and root issues might be
It is not meant to be exhaustive to do list but to show you the power and freedom of choice
I do not claim understand the fullness of Godrsquos or human anger
The Seed Trigger Phasebull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
Pitfall We assume that the world should be like us which would be reasonable if we were all defined by God But the world we live in now is define by self--relativism that onersquos needs and convictions is different than others
Questions for the Trigger Phase Who is defining my worth
(safeguard this and reserve it only for God)
Am I jumping to conclusions about a personrsquos motivation
Do I have a hypersensitivity due to past wounds
Questions for the Trigger Phase Is the other person aware that a
violation had occurred Is the other person aware of my convictions
Can I accept differences in the convictions Accept the other person as is--different
Is the other person aware of my needs
Are my expectations reasonable
Reasonable Expectations are
Realized (Am I even aware that I have expectations and what they are)
Realistic (Is the expectation executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (expectation Agreed Upon)
The Seed Trigger Phasebull To not assume what is known
and right for me is known to the other person
bull God as source of worth identity Ultimately God is the source of fulfilling needs and the other person is all but human
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Choice of evidence source
VS VS
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where is the evidence been
presentedbull Who gets to present evidence
Is the Trial Fair Where is the trial taking place
Usually in our heads Does the defense even have a chance to present a plead
Is it a one sided argument and presentation of evidence Do you really have all the evidence
Are you retrying old evidence and old verdicts Stacking up condemning evidence
bull Exasperationbull Identity vs
behavior
Who can be the defense attorney
Is the accused allowed to have Jesus as the attorney
This means allowing yourself to see the person through Jesusrsquo eyes
Perhaps letting Him plead a case of mercy
ldquoChrist redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us for it is written ldquoCursed is everyone who is hung on a polerdquo (Gal 313)
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull What are you doing with the
evidence
Judging Anakrino ἀνακρίνω (Strongrsquos
G350)
examine or judge to investigate examine enquire into
scrutinise sift question specifically in a forensic sense of a judge to
hold an investigation to interrogate examine the accused or
witnesses to judge of estimate determine (the
excellence or defects of any person or thing)
(1 Cor 215 43 44 1424)
But he that is spiritual judgeth (anakrino) all things yet he himself is judged (anakrino) of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ 1 Cor 215-6
But he that is spiritual investigates examines inquires scrutinizes questions all things yet he himself determines (is determined by) the excellence or defects of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ
Krinō κρίνω (Strongrsquos G2919)
to separate select choose approve prefer to be of opinion determine to pronounce an opinion concerning right and wrong pronounce judgment to rulegovernpreside over with the power of giving judicial decisions to contend have suite at law go to law
Do ye not know that the saints shall judge (krino) the world and if the world shall be judged (krino) by you are ye unworthy to judge (kritērion) the smallest matters 1 Cor 62
Krinō comes with guidelines I can of mine own self do nothing
as I hear I judge and my judgment is just because I seek not mine own will but the will of the Father which hath sent me (Jesus in John 530)
We must have our will in submission to Godrsquos will and purposes Humility before God and men
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose And when he had looked round
about on them with anger being grieved for the hardness of their hearts he saith unto the man Stretch forth thine hand And he stretched it out and his hand was restored whole as the other Mark 35
And they were bringing unto him little children that he should touch them and the disciples rebuked them But when Jesus saw it he was moved with indignation and said unto them ldquoSuffer the little children to come unto me forbid them not for to such belongeth the kingdom of Godrdquo Mark 1013-4
Godrsquos Restorative purpose And the Passover of the Jews was at
hand and Jesus went up to Jerusalem And he found in the temple those that sold oxen and sheep and doves and the changers of money sitting and he made a scourge of cords and cast all out of the temple both the sheep and the oxen and he poured out the changers money and overthrew their tables and to them that sold the doves he said Take these things hence make not my Fathers house a house of merchandise His disciples remembered that it was written Zeal for thy house shall eat me up John213-7
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another Forgive as the Lord forgave youput on love which binds them all together in perfect unityrdquo Col 312-4
We should not base judgments on malicious lies or evil misrepresetations Speak not evil one of another
brethren He that speaketh evil of his brother and judgeth his brother speaketh evil of the law and judgeth the law but if thou judge the law thou art not a doer of the law but a judge There is one lawgiver who is able to save and to destroy who art thou that judgest another James 411-2
You shall not spread a false report You shall not join hands with a wicked man to be a malicious witness You shall not fall in with the many to do evil nor shall you bear witness in a lawsuit siding with the many so as to pervert justice nor shall you be partial to a poor man in his lawsuit Exodus 231-2
There are six things that the LORD strongly dislikes seven that are an abomination to him haughty eyes a lying tongue and hands that shed innocent blood a heart that devises wicked plans feet that make haste to run to evil a false witness who breathes out lies and one who sows discord among brothers Prov 616-19
ldquoYe judge after the flesh I judge no man And yet if I judge my judgment is true for I am not alone but I and the Father that sent merdquo (Jesus in John 815-6)
Judge not according to the appearance but judge righteous judgment John 724
Judge via Godrsquos standards not by appearances (evidence that we gathered) Also James 41-2
We must not be hypocrites when judging others for we are judged by our own standards Judge not and ye shall not be
judged condemn not and ye shall not be condemned forgive and ye shall be forgiven Luke 637
Matt 71-5 Luke 637-42 Romans 21-5 Romans 220-23 2 Sam 121-7
We are not to judge others regarding legalistic adherence to ordinances (holidays observances what to eat etc) for such are matters of faith Romans 141-23 2 Cor 87-13
Colossians 216-23 Romans 821 1 Cor 1023 Romans 45 23 Romans 1413 Romans 932 1 Cor 89 Galatians 51 13
We should not judge anyonersquos eternal destiny eternal worth and identity Therefore do not pronounce
judgment before the time before the Lord comes who will bring to light the things now hidden in darkness and will disclose the purposes of the heart Then each one will receive his commendation from God 1 Corinthians 45
Jesus said ldquoBut I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment Again anyone who says to his brother Raca is answerable to the Sanhedrin But anyone who says You fool will be in danger of the fire of hellrdquo Matt 522
Concerning Angels
But Michael the archangel when he disputed with the devil and argued about the body of Moses did not dare pronounce against him a railing judgment but said The Lord rebuke you Jude 19
Concerning God
We are not to judge (condemn God) but He does invite us to ask him questions and to reason with Him
Come now let us reason together says the Lord Isaiah 118
If any of you lack wisdom he should ask God who give generously to all without finding fault James 15
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull To whom are you presenting
evidence to
Who is the Judge
Me God Other people Society norm Whose standards are we using Do
we dare say that we have the fullness of Godrsquos knowledge wisdom justice mercy and authority to be in that role
The Father judges no one but has given all judgment to the Son that all may honor the Son just as they honor the Father John 522
For the LORD is our judge the LORD is our lawgiver the LORD is our king he will save us
Isaiah 3322
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where to have the trialbull What evidence I use bull Who or what am I putting on trial
A person a lifetime of behavior or one fixable behavior
bull How I am sifting through the evidence
bull Who is the judge and attorneybull Humility
We can judge a behavior That is wrong and it inflicted pain on me or it is not something God desires
We cannot judge a personrsquos worth identity and character
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
God gave humans the charge of tending our gardens So lets take a look at how a plant of anger can be
growing in our garden
Common questions and beliefs God gets angry why canrsquot I
How is anger binding to me I have forgiven so many times why
is it still hurting or why am I still angry
Irsquom not bitter or angry anymore do I still have to forgive
As long as they do whatrsquos right I wonrsquot get angry They are the ones with the problem
If I donrsquot get angry they will just keep doing it
My anger is justified (righteous anger)
Itrsquos an emotion I canrsquot help it or control it
Anger management = keeping my mouth shut and be a doormat
Forgiving others makes them think that they are right and they can continue to behave that way
Dropping an issue = admitting guilt Give it time and anger will blow over
by itself If I suppress my anger Irsquom not
hurting anyone What if I am angry at God
Anatomy Growth Cycle of
AngerHow does one grow and
multiply an ldquoAnger Treerdquo
What is anger
Word associated with Fury rage wrath mad violence yelling hitting destruction hatred fits irate belligerence vengeful
Euphemisms
Frustrated
Aggravated
Upset Irritated Annoyed Indignan
t Tried incensed
Animosity
At odds Sore Injured Impatien
t Peeved Cold tiff
Passionate
Vexed Bitter Displeas
ed Exasper
ate Aggressi
ve Resentfu
l antagoni
ze
Call it what it is
Anger is typically described as an emotional preservation response to violation of personal worth needs and convictions (A threat or a wound)
But it is not just an emotion
The Seed Trigger Phase (a threat or wound is encountered)bull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
bull Red Alert ldquoIrsquom in dangerrdquo Triggers stress response Fight Flight Freeze or Fawn
Fight Flight Freeze Fawn Response
Fight Stay and fight the danger (Anger)
Flight Run away (FearAnxiety) Freeze Play dead and let danger
blow pass (Depression) Fawn Co-dependency Let me
serve you and join your cause
Fight or Flight Response Is a physiological reaction that
occurs in response to a perceived harmful event attack threat to survival in humans and animals
First described by Walter Bradford Cannon
Animals reacts to threats with a general discharge of the sympathetic nervous system that primes the animal for fighting or fleeing
Adrenal Medulla produces a hormonal cascade resulting in secretion of adrenaline and noradrenaline (epinephrinenorepinephrine)
Effects of AdrenalineNoradrenaline
Acceleration of heart and lung action
Inhibition of digestive system
Constriction of blood vessels to shunt blood to heart lungs and muscles
Auditory exclusion (hearing loss)
Dilation of pupils to see with increased clarity but with tunnel vision (loss of peripheral vision)
Increased blood pressure heart rate blood sugar and fats to supply muscles with more energy (chronic triggers sets one up for heart disease high blood pressure diabetes etc)
Speeds up blood clotting function to prevent excess blood loss (can contribute to lsquostickiness of blood and strokes)
Increased perspiration to prevent over-heating due to increased metabolism
The physiological response and serge of energy that one has as a result of the fightflight response been triggered is in and of itself not a sin
All the other phases are up for scrutiny
Anger is not sinful God gets angry Jesus got angry
Mark 35 Matthew 2112-13 Mark 1115-18 John 213-22
Anger in and of itself it is not sinful but bitterness dwelling (meditation) in anger is
Be ANGRY (orgizo provoked aroused to anger) and yet DO NOT SIN do not let the sun go down on your ANGER (parorgismos bitterness exasperation indignation wrath)
Eph 426
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Gathering of evidence and
presentation of the evidence before the court judge of me myself and I (Though we can hold a trial before a third party we usually have done it in our heads already)
Germination of the SeedDevelopment of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge (usually of me myself
and I) render a judgment of guilt of the accused the sentencedebt owed
Sprouting Phase (the first visible sign of anger) Choice Phase One chooses a reaction pathway to fight Open aggression Passive aggression Suppressed aggression Digressive aggression
Growth phase Reaction and Expression Phase bull Various modalities of
ldquofightingrdquo is expressedbull Reaction by the accused
can cause more retaliation and provide additional evidencenutrients
Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the
wound offense and roots due to unforgiveness or retaliation
bull Greater expression of the discontent
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Disclaimer
These are illustrative understanding of anger
I will attempt to show you pitfalls and where the doors to the enemy and root issues might be
It is not meant to be exhaustive to do list but to show you the power and freedom of choice
I do not claim understand the fullness of Godrsquos or human anger
The Seed Trigger Phasebull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
Pitfall We assume that the world should be like us which would be reasonable if we were all defined by God But the world we live in now is define by self--relativism that onersquos needs and convictions is different than others
Questions for the Trigger Phase Who is defining my worth
(safeguard this and reserve it only for God)
Am I jumping to conclusions about a personrsquos motivation
Do I have a hypersensitivity due to past wounds
Questions for the Trigger Phase Is the other person aware that a
violation had occurred Is the other person aware of my convictions
Can I accept differences in the convictions Accept the other person as is--different
Is the other person aware of my needs
Are my expectations reasonable
Reasonable Expectations are
Realized (Am I even aware that I have expectations and what they are)
Realistic (Is the expectation executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (expectation Agreed Upon)
The Seed Trigger Phasebull To not assume what is known
and right for me is known to the other person
bull God as source of worth identity Ultimately God is the source of fulfilling needs and the other person is all but human
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Choice of evidence source
VS VS
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where is the evidence been
presentedbull Who gets to present evidence
Is the Trial Fair Where is the trial taking place
Usually in our heads Does the defense even have a chance to present a plead
Is it a one sided argument and presentation of evidence Do you really have all the evidence
Are you retrying old evidence and old verdicts Stacking up condemning evidence
bull Exasperationbull Identity vs
behavior
Who can be the defense attorney
Is the accused allowed to have Jesus as the attorney
This means allowing yourself to see the person through Jesusrsquo eyes
Perhaps letting Him plead a case of mercy
ldquoChrist redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us for it is written ldquoCursed is everyone who is hung on a polerdquo (Gal 313)
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull What are you doing with the
evidence
Judging Anakrino ἀνακρίνω (Strongrsquos
G350)
examine or judge to investigate examine enquire into
scrutinise sift question specifically in a forensic sense of a judge to
hold an investigation to interrogate examine the accused or
witnesses to judge of estimate determine (the
excellence or defects of any person or thing)
(1 Cor 215 43 44 1424)
But he that is spiritual judgeth (anakrino) all things yet he himself is judged (anakrino) of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ 1 Cor 215-6
But he that is spiritual investigates examines inquires scrutinizes questions all things yet he himself determines (is determined by) the excellence or defects of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ
Krinō κρίνω (Strongrsquos G2919)
to separate select choose approve prefer to be of opinion determine to pronounce an opinion concerning right and wrong pronounce judgment to rulegovernpreside over with the power of giving judicial decisions to contend have suite at law go to law
Do ye not know that the saints shall judge (krino) the world and if the world shall be judged (krino) by you are ye unworthy to judge (kritērion) the smallest matters 1 Cor 62
Krinō comes with guidelines I can of mine own self do nothing
as I hear I judge and my judgment is just because I seek not mine own will but the will of the Father which hath sent me (Jesus in John 530)
We must have our will in submission to Godrsquos will and purposes Humility before God and men
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose And when he had looked round
about on them with anger being grieved for the hardness of their hearts he saith unto the man Stretch forth thine hand And he stretched it out and his hand was restored whole as the other Mark 35
And they were bringing unto him little children that he should touch them and the disciples rebuked them But when Jesus saw it he was moved with indignation and said unto them ldquoSuffer the little children to come unto me forbid them not for to such belongeth the kingdom of Godrdquo Mark 1013-4
Godrsquos Restorative purpose And the Passover of the Jews was at
hand and Jesus went up to Jerusalem And he found in the temple those that sold oxen and sheep and doves and the changers of money sitting and he made a scourge of cords and cast all out of the temple both the sheep and the oxen and he poured out the changers money and overthrew their tables and to them that sold the doves he said Take these things hence make not my Fathers house a house of merchandise His disciples remembered that it was written Zeal for thy house shall eat me up John213-7
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another Forgive as the Lord forgave youput on love which binds them all together in perfect unityrdquo Col 312-4
We should not base judgments on malicious lies or evil misrepresetations Speak not evil one of another
brethren He that speaketh evil of his brother and judgeth his brother speaketh evil of the law and judgeth the law but if thou judge the law thou art not a doer of the law but a judge There is one lawgiver who is able to save and to destroy who art thou that judgest another James 411-2
You shall not spread a false report You shall not join hands with a wicked man to be a malicious witness You shall not fall in with the many to do evil nor shall you bear witness in a lawsuit siding with the many so as to pervert justice nor shall you be partial to a poor man in his lawsuit Exodus 231-2
There are six things that the LORD strongly dislikes seven that are an abomination to him haughty eyes a lying tongue and hands that shed innocent blood a heart that devises wicked plans feet that make haste to run to evil a false witness who breathes out lies and one who sows discord among brothers Prov 616-19
ldquoYe judge after the flesh I judge no man And yet if I judge my judgment is true for I am not alone but I and the Father that sent merdquo (Jesus in John 815-6)
Judge not according to the appearance but judge righteous judgment John 724
Judge via Godrsquos standards not by appearances (evidence that we gathered) Also James 41-2
We must not be hypocrites when judging others for we are judged by our own standards Judge not and ye shall not be
judged condemn not and ye shall not be condemned forgive and ye shall be forgiven Luke 637
Matt 71-5 Luke 637-42 Romans 21-5 Romans 220-23 2 Sam 121-7
We are not to judge others regarding legalistic adherence to ordinances (holidays observances what to eat etc) for such are matters of faith Romans 141-23 2 Cor 87-13
Colossians 216-23 Romans 821 1 Cor 1023 Romans 45 23 Romans 1413 Romans 932 1 Cor 89 Galatians 51 13
We should not judge anyonersquos eternal destiny eternal worth and identity Therefore do not pronounce
judgment before the time before the Lord comes who will bring to light the things now hidden in darkness and will disclose the purposes of the heart Then each one will receive his commendation from God 1 Corinthians 45
Jesus said ldquoBut I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment Again anyone who says to his brother Raca is answerable to the Sanhedrin But anyone who says You fool will be in danger of the fire of hellrdquo Matt 522
Concerning Angels
But Michael the archangel when he disputed with the devil and argued about the body of Moses did not dare pronounce against him a railing judgment but said The Lord rebuke you Jude 19
Concerning God
We are not to judge (condemn God) but He does invite us to ask him questions and to reason with Him
Come now let us reason together says the Lord Isaiah 118
If any of you lack wisdom he should ask God who give generously to all without finding fault James 15
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull To whom are you presenting
evidence to
Who is the Judge
Me God Other people Society norm Whose standards are we using Do
we dare say that we have the fullness of Godrsquos knowledge wisdom justice mercy and authority to be in that role
The Father judges no one but has given all judgment to the Son that all may honor the Son just as they honor the Father John 522
For the LORD is our judge the LORD is our lawgiver the LORD is our king he will save us
Isaiah 3322
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where to have the trialbull What evidence I use bull Who or what am I putting on trial
A person a lifetime of behavior or one fixable behavior
bull How I am sifting through the evidence
bull Who is the judge and attorneybull Humility
We can judge a behavior That is wrong and it inflicted pain on me or it is not something God desires
We cannot judge a personrsquos worth identity and character
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Common questions and beliefs God gets angry why canrsquot I
How is anger binding to me I have forgiven so many times why
is it still hurting or why am I still angry
Irsquom not bitter or angry anymore do I still have to forgive
As long as they do whatrsquos right I wonrsquot get angry They are the ones with the problem
If I donrsquot get angry they will just keep doing it
My anger is justified (righteous anger)
Itrsquos an emotion I canrsquot help it or control it
Anger management = keeping my mouth shut and be a doormat
Forgiving others makes them think that they are right and they can continue to behave that way
Dropping an issue = admitting guilt Give it time and anger will blow over
by itself If I suppress my anger Irsquom not
hurting anyone What if I am angry at God
Anatomy Growth Cycle of
AngerHow does one grow and
multiply an ldquoAnger Treerdquo
What is anger
Word associated with Fury rage wrath mad violence yelling hitting destruction hatred fits irate belligerence vengeful
Euphemisms
Frustrated
Aggravated
Upset Irritated Annoyed Indignan
t Tried incensed
Animosity
At odds Sore Injured Impatien
t Peeved Cold tiff
Passionate
Vexed Bitter Displeas
ed Exasper
ate Aggressi
ve Resentfu
l antagoni
ze
Call it what it is
Anger is typically described as an emotional preservation response to violation of personal worth needs and convictions (A threat or a wound)
But it is not just an emotion
The Seed Trigger Phase (a threat or wound is encountered)bull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
bull Red Alert ldquoIrsquom in dangerrdquo Triggers stress response Fight Flight Freeze or Fawn
Fight Flight Freeze Fawn Response
Fight Stay and fight the danger (Anger)
Flight Run away (FearAnxiety) Freeze Play dead and let danger
blow pass (Depression) Fawn Co-dependency Let me
serve you and join your cause
Fight or Flight Response Is a physiological reaction that
occurs in response to a perceived harmful event attack threat to survival in humans and animals
First described by Walter Bradford Cannon
Animals reacts to threats with a general discharge of the sympathetic nervous system that primes the animal for fighting or fleeing
Adrenal Medulla produces a hormonal cascade resulting in secretion of adrenaline and noradrenaline (epinephrinenorepinephrine)
Effects of AdrenalineNoradrenaline
Acceleration of heart and lung action
Inhibition of digestive system
Constriction of blood vessels to shunt blood to heart lungs and muscles
Auditory exclusion (hearing loss)
Dilation of pupils to see with increased clarity but with tunnel vision (loss of peripheral vision)
Increased blood pressure heart rate blood sugar and fats to supply muscles with more energy (chronic triggers sets one up for heart disease high blood pressure diabetes etc)
Speeds up blood clotting function to prevent excess blood loss (can contribute to lsquostickiness of blood and strokes)
Increased perspiration to prevent over-heating due to increased metabolism
The physiological response and serge of energy that one has as a result of the fightflight response been triggered is in and of itself not a sin
All the other phases are up for scrutiny
Anger is not sinful God gets angry Jesus got angry
Mark 35 Matthew 2112-13 Mark 1115-18 John 213-22
Anger in and of itself it is not sinful but bitterness dwelling (meditation) in anger is
Be ANGRY (orgizo provoked aroused to anger) and yet DO NOT SIN do not let the sun go down on your ANGER (parorgismos bitterness exasperation indignation wrath)
Eph 426
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Gathering of evidence and
presentation of the evidence before the court judge of me myself and I (Though we can hold a trial before a third party we usually have done it in our heads already)
Germination of the SeedDevelopment of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge (usually of me myself
and I) render a judgment of guilt of the accused the sentencedebt owed
Sprouting Phase (the first visible sign of anger) Choice Phase One chooses a reaction pathway to fight Open aggression Passive aggression Suppressed aggression Digressive aggression
Growth phase Reaction and Expression Phase bull Various modalities of
ldquofightingrdquo is expressedbull Reaction by the accused
can cause more retaliation and provide additional evidencenutrients
Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the
wound offense and roots due to unforgiveness or retaliation
bull Greater expression of the discontent
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Disclaimer
These are illustrative understanding of anger
I will attempt to show you pitfalls and where the doors to the enemy and root issues might be
It is not meant to be exhaustive to do list but to show you the power and freedom of choice
I do not claim understand the fullness of Godrsquos or human anger
The Seed Trigger Phasebull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
Pitfall We assume that the world should be like us which would be reasonable if we were all defined by God But the world we live in now is define by self--relativism that onersquos needs and convictions is different than others
Questions for the Trigger Phase Who is defining my worth
(safeguard this and reserve it only for God)
Am I jumping to conclusions about a personrsquos motivation
Do I have a hypersensitivity due to past wounds
Questions for the Trigger Phase Is the other person aware that a
violation had occurred Is the other person aware of my convictions
Can I accept differences in the convictions Accept the other person as is--different
Is the other person aware of my needs
Are my expectations reasonable
Reasonable Expectations are
Realized (Am I even aware that I have expectations and what they are)
Realistic (Is the expectation executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (expectation Agreed Upon)
The Seed Trigger Phasebull To not assume what is known
and right for me is known to the other person
bull God as source of worth identity Ultimately God is the source of fulfilling needs and the other person is all but human
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Choice of evidence source
VS VS
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where is the evidence been
presentedbull Who gets to present evidence
Is the Trial Fair Where is the trial taking place
Usually in our heads Does the defense even have a chance to present a plead
Is it a one sided argument and presentation of evidence Do you really have all the evidence
Are you retrying old evidence and old verdicts Stacking up condemning evidence
bull Exasperationbull Identity vs
behavior
Who can be the defense attorney
Is the accused allowed to have Jesus as the attorney
This means allowing yourself to see the person through Jesusrsquo eyes
Perhaps letting Him plead a case of mercy
ldquoChrist redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us for it is written ldquoCursed is everyone who is hung on a polerdquo (Gal 313)
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull What are you doing with the
evidence
Judging Anakrino ἀνακρίνω (Strongrsquos
G350)
examine or judge to investigate examine enquire into
scrutinise sift question specifically in a forensic sense of a judge to
hold an investigation to interrogate examine the accused or
witnesses to judge of estimate determine (the
excellence or defects of any person or thing)
(1 Cor 215 43 44 1424)
But he that is spiritual judgeth (anakrino) all things yet he himself is judged (anakrino) of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ 1 Cor 215-6
But he that is spiritual investigates examines inquires scrutinizes questions all things yet he himself determines (is determined by) the excellence or defects of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ
Krinō κρίνω (Strongrsquos G2919)
to separate select choose approve prefer to be of opinion determine to pronounce an opinion concerning right and wrong pronounce judgment to rulegovernpreside over with the power of giving judicial decisions to contend have suite at law go to law
Do ye not know that the saints shall judge (krino) the world and if the world shall be judged (krino) by you are ye unworthy to judge (kritērion) the smallest matters 1 Cor 62
Krinō comes with guidelines I can of mine own self do nothing
as I hear I judge and my judgment is just because I seek not mine own will but the will of the Father which hath sent me (Jesus in John 530)
We must have our will in submission to Godrsquos will and purposes Humility before God and men
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose And when he had looked round
about on them with anger being grieved for the hardness of their hearts he saith unto the man Stretch forth thine hand And he stretched it out and his hand was restored whole as the other Mark 35
And they were bringing unto him little children that he should touch them and the disciples rebuked them But when Jesus saw it he was moved with indignation and said unto them ldquoSuffer the little children to come unto me forbid them not for to such belongeth the kingdom of Godrdquo Mark 1013-4
Godrsquos Restorative purpose And the Passover of the Jews was at
hand and Jesus went up to Jerusalem And he found in the temple those that sold oxen and sheep and doves and the changers of money sitting and he made a scourge of cords and cast all out of the temple both the sheep and the oxen and he poured out the changers money and overthrew their tables and to them that sold the doves he said Take these things hence make not my Fathers house a house of merchandise His disciples remembered that it was written Zeal for thy house shall eat me up John213-7
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another Forgive as the Lord forgave youput on love which binds them all together in perfect unityrdquo Col 312-4
We should not base judgments on malicious lies or evil misrepresetations Speak not evil one of another
brethren He that speaketh evil of his brother and judgeth his brother speaketh evil of the law and judgeth the law but if thou judge the law thou art not a doer of the law but a judge There is one lawgiver who is able to save and to destroy who art thou that judgest another James 411-2
You shall not spread a false report You shall not join hands with a wicked man to be a malicious witness You shall not fall in with the many to do evil nor shall you bear witness in a lawsuit siding with the many so as to pervert justice nor shall you be partial to a poor man in his lawsuit Exodus 231-2
There are six things that the LORD strongly dislikes seven that are an abomination to him haughty eyes a lying tongue and hands that shed innocent blood a heart that devises wicked plans feet that make haste to run to evil a false witness who breathes out lies and one who sows discord among brothers Prov 616-19
ldquoYe judge after the flesh I judge no man And yet if I judge my judgment is true for I am not alone but I and the Father that sent merdquo (Jesus in John 815-6)
Judge not according to the appearance but judge righteous judgment John 724
Judge via Godrsquos standards not by appearances (evidence that we gathered) Also James 41-2
We must not be hypocrites when judging others for we are judged by our own standards Judge not and ye shall not be
judged condemn not and ye shall not be condemned forgive and ye shall be forgiven Luke 637
Matt 71-5 Luke 637-42 Romans 21-5 Romans 220-23 2 Sam 121-7
We are not to judge others regarding legalistic adherence to ordinances (holidays observances what to eat etc) for such are matters of faith Romans 141-23 2 Cor 87-13
Colossians 216-23 Romans 821 1 Cor 1023 Romans 45 23 Romans 1413 Romans 932 1 Cor 89 Galatians 51 13
We should not judge anyonersquos eternal destiny eternal worth and identity Therefore do not pronounce
judgment before the time before the Lord comes who will bring to light the things now hidden in darkness and will disclose the purposes of the heart Then each one will receive his commendation from God 1 Corinthians 45
Jesus said ldquoBut I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment Again anyone who says to his brother Raca is answerable to the Sanhedrin But anyone who says You fool will be in danger of the fire of hellrdquo Matt 522
Concerning Angels
But Michael the archangel when he disputed with the devil and argued about the body of Moses did not dare pronounce against him a railing judgment but said The Lord rebuke you Jude 19
Concerning God
We are not to judge (condemn God) but He does invite us to ask him questions and to reason with Him
Come now let us reason together says the Lord Isaiah 118
If any of you lack wisdom he should ask God who give generously to all without finding fault James 15
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull To whom are you presenting
evidence to
Who is the Judge
Me God Other people Society norm Whose standards are we using Do
we dare say that we have the fullness of Godrsquos knowledge wisdom justice mercy and authority to be in that role
The Father judges no one but has given all judgment to the Son that all may honor the Son just as they honor the Father John 522
For the LORD is our judge the LORD is our lawgiver the LORD is our king he will save us
Isaiah 3322
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where to have the trialbull What evidence I use bull Who or what am I putting on trial
A person a lifetime of behavior or one fixable behavior
bull How I am sifting through the evidence
bull Who is the judge and attorneybull Humility
We can judge a behavior That is wrong and it inflicted pain on me or it is not something God desires
We cannot judge a personrsquos worth identity and character
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
My anger is justified (righteous anger)
Itrsquos an emotion I canrsquot help it or control it
Anger management = keeping my mouth shut and be a doormat
Forgiving others makes them think that they are right and they can continue to behave that way
Dropping an issue = admitting guilt Give it time and anger will blow over
by itself If I suppress my anger Irsquom not
hurting anyone What if I am angry at God
Anatomy Growth Cycle of
AngerHow does one grow and
multiply an ldquoAnger Treerdquo
What is anger
Word associated with Fury rage wrath mad violence yelling hitting destruction hatred fits irate belligerence vengeful
Euphemisms
Frustrated
Aggravated
Upset Irritated Annoyed Indignan
t Tried incensed
Animosity
At odds Sore Injured Impatien
t Peeved Cold tiff
Passionate
Vexed Bitter Displeas
ed Exasper
ate Aggressi
ve Resentfu
l antagoni
ze
Call it what it is
Anger is typically described as an emotional preservation response to violation of personal worth needs and convictions (A threat or a wound)
But it is not just an emotion
The Seed Trigger Phase (a threat or wound is encountered)bull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
bull Red Alert ldquoIrsquom in dangerrdquo Triggers stress response Fight Flight Freeze or Fawn
Fight Flight Freeze Fawn Response
Fight Stay and fight the danger (Anger)
Flight Run away (FearAnxiety) Freeze Play dead and let danger
blow pass (Depression) Fawn Co-dependency Let me
serve you and join your cause
Fight or Flight Response Is a physiological reaction that
occurs in response to a perceived harmful event attack threat to survival in humans and animals
First described by Walter Bradford Cannon
Animals reacts to threats with a general discharge of the sympathetic nervous system that primes the animal for fighting or fleeing
Adrenal Medulla produces a hormonal cascade resulting in secretion of adrenaline and noradrenaline (epinephrinenorepinephrine)
Effects of AdrenalineNoradrenaline
Acceleration of heart and lung action
Inhibition of digestive system
Constriction of blood vessels to shunt blood to heart lungs and muscles
Auditory exclusion (hearing loss)
Dilation of pupils to see with increased clarity but with tunnel vision (loss of peripheral vision)
Increased blood pressure heart rate blood sugar and fats to supply muscles with more energy (chronic triggers sets one up for heart disease high blood pressure diabetes etc)
Speeds up blood clotting function to prevent excess blood loss (can contribute to lsquostickiness of blood and strokes)
Increased perspiration to prevent over-heating due to increased metabolism
The physiological response and serge of energy that one has as a result of the fightflight response been triggered is in and of itself not a sin
All the other phases are up for scrutiny
Anger is not sinful God gets angry Jesus got angry
Mark 35 Matthew 2112-13 Mark 1115-18 John 213-22
Anger in and of itself it is not sinful but bitterness dwelling (meditation) in anger is
Be ANGRY (orgizo provoked aroused to anger) and yet DO NOT SIN do not let the sun go down on your ANGER (parorgismos bitterness exasperation indignation wrath)
Eph 426
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Gathering of evidence and
presentation of the evidence before the court judge of me myself and I (Though we can hold a trial before a third party we usually have done it in our heads already)
Germination of the SeedDevelopment of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge (usually of me myself
and I) render a judgment of guilt of the accused the sentencedebt owed
Sprouting Phase (the first visible sign of anger) Choice Phase One chooses a reaction pathway to fight Open aggression Passive aggression Suppressed aggression Digressive aggression
Growth phase Reaction and Expression Phase bull Various modalities of
ldquofightingrdquo is expressedbull Reaction by the accused
can cause more retaliation and provide additional evidencenutrients
Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the
wound offense and roots due to unforgiveness or retaliation
bull Greater expression of the discontent
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Disclaimer
These are illustrative understanding of anger
I will attempt to show you pitfalls and where the doors to the enemy and root issues might be
It is not meant to be exhaustive to do list but to show you the power and freedom of choice
I do not claim understand the fullness of Godrsquos or human anger
The Seed Trigger Phasebull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
Pitfall We assume that the world should be like us which would be reasonable if we were all defined by God But the world we live in now is define by self--relativism that onersquos needs and convictions is different than others
Questions for the Trigger Phase Who is defining my worth
(safeguard this and reserve it only for God)
Am I jumping to conclusions about a personrsquos motivation
Do I have a hypersensitivity due to past wounds
Questions for the Trigger Phase Is the other person aware that a
violation had occurred Is the other person aware of my convictions
Can I accept differences in the convictions Accept the other person as is--different
Is the other person aware of my needs
Are my expectations reasonable
Reasonable Expectations are
Realized (Am I even aware that I have expectations and what they are)
Realistic (Is the expectation executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (expectation Agreed Upon)
The Seed Trigger Phasebull To not assume what is known
and right for me is known to the other person
bull God as source of worth identity Ultimately God is the source of fulfilling needs and the other person is all but human
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Choice of evidence source
VS VS
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where is the evidence been
presentedbull Who gets to present evidence
Is the Trial Fair Where is the trial taking place
Usually in our heads Does the defense even have a chance to present a plead
Is it a one sided argument and presentation of evidence Do you really have all the evidence
Are you retrying old evidence and old verdicts Stacking up condemning evidence
bull Exasperationbull Identity vs
behavior
Who can be the defense attorney
Is the accused allowed to have Jesus as the attorney
This means allowing yourself to see the person through Jesusrsquo eyes
Perhaps letting Him plead a case of mercy
ldquoChrist redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us for it is written ldquoCursed is everyone who is hung on a polerdquo (Gal 313)
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull What are you doing with the
evidence
Judging Anakrino ἀνακρίνω (Strongrsquos
G350)
examine or judge to investigate examine enquire into
scrutinise sift question specifically in a forensic sense of a judge to
hold an investigation to interrogate examine the accused or
witnesses to judge of estimate determine (the
excellence or defects of any person or thing)
(1 Cor 215 43 44 1424)
But he that is spiritual judgeth (anakrino) all things yet he himself is judged (anakrino) of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ 1 Cor 215-6
But he that is spiritual investigates examines inquires scrutinizes questions all things yet he himself determines (is determined by) the excellence or defects of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ
Krinō κρίνω (Strongrsquos G2919)
to separate select choose approve prefer to be of opinion determine to pronounce an opinion concerning right and wrong pronounce judgment to rulegovernpreside over with the power of giving judicial decisions to contend have suite at law go to law
Do ye not know that the saints shall judge (krino) the world and if the world shall be judged (krino) by you are ye unworthy to judge (kritērion) the smallest matters 1 Cor 62
Krinō comes with guidelines I can of mine own self do nothing
as I hear I judge and my judgment is just because I seek not mine own will but the will of the Father which hath sent me (Jesus in John 530)
We must have our will in submission to Godrsquos will and purposes Humility before God and men
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose And when he had looked round
about on them with anger being grieved for the hardness of their hearts he saith unto the man Stretch forth thine hand And he stretched it out and his hand was restored whole as the other Mark 35
And they were bringing unto him little children that he should touch them and the disciples rebuked them But when Jesus saw it he was moved with indignation and said unto them ldquoSuffer the little children to come unto me forbid them not for to such belongeth the kingdom of Godrdquo Mark 1013-4
Godrsquos Restorative purpose And the Passover of the Jews was at
hand and Jesus went up to Jerusalem And he found in the temple those that sold oxen and sheep and doves and the changers of money sitting and he made a scourge of cords and cast all out of the temple both the sheep and the oxen and he poured out the changers money and overthrew their tables and to them that sold the doves he said Take these things hence make not my Fathers house a house of merchandise His disciples remembered that it was written Zeal for thy house shall eat me up John213-7
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another Forgive as the Lord forgave youput on love which binds them all together in perfect unityrdquo Col 312-4
We should not base judgments on malicious lies or evil misrepresetations Speak not evil one of another
brethren He that speaketh evil of his brother and judgeth his brother speaketh evil of the law and judgeth the law but if thou judge the law thou art not a doer of the law but a judge There is one lawgiver who is able to save and to destroy who art thou that judgest another James 411-2
You shall not spread a false report You shall not join hands with a wicked man to be a malicious witness You shall not fall in with the many to do evil nor shall you bear witness in a lawsuit siding with the many so as to pervert justice nor shall you be partial to a poor man in his lawsuit Exodus 231-2
There are six things that the LORD strongly dislikes seven that are an abomination to him haughty eyes a lying tongue and hands that shed innocent blood a heart that devises wicked plans feet that make haste to run to evil a false witness who breathes out lies and one who sows discord among brothers Prov 616-19
ldquoYe judge after the flesh I judge no man And yet if I judge my judgment is true for I am not alone but I and the Father that sent merdquo (Jesus in John 815-6)
Judge not according to the appearance but judge righteous judgment John 724
Judge via Godrsquos standards not by appearances (evidence that we gathered) Also James 41-2
We must not be hypocrites when judging others for we are judged by our own standards Judge not and ye shall not be
judged condemn not and ye shall not be condemned forgive and ye shall be forgiven Luke 637
Matt 71-5 Luke 637-42 Romans 21-5 Romans 220-23 2 Sam 121-7
We are not to judge others regarding legalistic adherence to ordinances (holidays observances what to eat etc) for such are matters of faith Romans 141-23 2 Cor 87-13
Colossians 216-23 Romans 821 1 Cor 1023 Romans 45 23 Romans 1413 Romans 932 1 Cor 89 Galatians 51 13
We should not judge anyonersquos eternal destiny eternal worth and identity Therefore do not pronounce
judgment before the time before the Lord comes who will bring to light the things now hidden in darkness and will disclose the purposes of the heart Then each one will receive his commendation from God 1 Corinthians 45
Jesus said ldquoBut I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment Again anyone who says to his brother Raca is answerable to the Sanhedrin But anyone who says You fool will be in danger of the fire of hellrdquo Matt 522
Concerning Angels
But Michael the archangel when he disputed with the devil and argued about the body of Moses did not dare pronounce against him a railing judgment but said The Lord rebuke you Jude 19
Concerning God
We are not to judge (condemn God) but He does invite us to ask him questions and to reason with Him
Come now let us reason together says the Lord Isaiah 118
If any of you lack wisdom he should ask God who give generously to all without finding fault James 15
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull To whom are you presenting
evidence to
Who is the Judge
Me God Other people Society norm Whose standards are we using Do
we dare say that we have the fullness of Godrsquos knowledge wisdom justice mercy and authority to be in that role
The Father judges no one but has given all judgment to the Son that all may honor the Son just as they honor the Father John 522
For the LORD is our judge the LORD is our lawgiver the LORD is our king he will save us
Isaiah 3322
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where to have the trialbull What evidence I use bull Who or what am I putting on trial
A person a lifetime of behavior or one fixable behavior
bull How I am sifting through the evidence
bull Who is the judge and attorneybull Humility
We can judge a behavior That is wrong and it inflicted pain on me or it is not something God desires
We cannot judge a personrsquos worth identity and character
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Anatomy Growth Cycle of
AngerHow does one grow and
multiply an ldquoAnger Treerdquo
What is anger
Word associated with Fury rage wrath mad violence yelling hitting destruction hatred fits irate belligerence vengeful
Euphemisms
Frustrated
Aggravated
Upset Irritated Annoyed Indignan
t Tried incensed
Animosity
At odds Sore Injured Impatien
t Peeved Cold tiff
Passionate
Vexed Bitter Displeas
ed Exasper
ate Aggressi
ve Resentfu
l antagoni
ze
Call it what it is
Anger is typically described as an emotional preservation response to violation of personal worth needs and convictions (A threat or a wound)
But it is not just an emotion
The Seed Trigger Phase (a threat or wound is encountered)bull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
bull Red Alert ldquoIrsquom in dangerrdquo Triggers stress response Fight Flight Freeze or Fawn
Fight Flight Freeze Fawn Response
Fight Stay and fight the danger (Anger)
Flight Run away (FearAnxiety) Freeze Play dead and let danger
blow pass (Depression) Fawn Co-dependency Let me
serve you and join your cause
Fight or Flight Response Is a physiological reaction that
occurs in response to a perceived harmful event attack threat to survival in humans and animals
First described by Walter Bradford Cannon
Animals reacts to threats with a general discharge of the sympathetic nervous system that primes the animal for fighting or fleeing
Adrenal Medulla produces a hormonal cascade resulting in secretion of adrenaline and noradrenaline (epinephrinenorepinephrine)
Effects of AdrenalineNoradrenaline
Acceleration of heart and lung action
Inhibition of digestive system
Constriction of blood vessels to shunt blood to heart lungs and muscles
Auditory exclusion (hearing loss)
Dilation of pupils to see with increased clarity but with tunnel vision (loss of peripheral vision)
Increased blood pressure heart rate blood sugar and fats to supply muscles with more energy (chronic triggers sets one up for heart disease high blood pressure diabetes etc)
Speeds up blood clotting function to prevent excess blood loss (can contribute to lsquostickiness of blood and strokes)
Increased perspiration to prevent over-heating due to increased metabolism
The physiological response and serge of energy that one has as a result of the fightflight response been triggered is in and of itself not a sin
All the other phases are up for scrutiny
Anger is not sinful God gets angry Jesus got angry
Mark 35 Matthew 2112-13 Mark 1115-18 John 213-22
Anger in and of itself it is not sinful but bitterness dwelling (meditation) in anger is
Be ANGRY (orgizo provoked aroused to anger) and yet DO NOT SIN do not let the sun go down on your ANGER (parorgismos bitterness exasperation indignation wrath)
Eph 426
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Gathering of evidence and
presentation of the evidence before the court judge of me myself and I (Though we can hold a trial before a third party we usually have done it in our heads already)
Germination of the SeedDevelopment of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge (usually of me myself
and I) render a judgment of guilt of the accused the sentencedebt owed
Sprouting Phase (the first visible sign of anger) Choice Phase One chooses a reaction pathway to fight Open aggression Passive aggression Suppressed aggression Digressive aggression
Growth phase Reaction and Expression Phase bull Various modalities of
ldquofightingrdquo is expressedbull Reaction by the accused
can cause more retaliation and provide additional evidencenutrients
Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the
wound offense and roots due to unforgiveness or retaliation
bull Greater expression of the discontent
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Disclaimer
These are illustrative understanding of anger
I will attempt to show you pitfalls and where the doors to the enemy and root issues might be
It is not meant to be exhaustive to do list but to show you the power and freedom of choice
I do not claim understand the fullness of Godrsquos or human anger
The Seed Trigger Phasebull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
Pitfall We assume that the world should be like us which would be reasonable if we were all defined by God But the world we live in now is define by self--relativism that onersquos needs and convictions is different than others
Questions for the Trigger Phase Who is defining my worth
(safeguard this and reserve it only for God)
Am I jumping to conclusions about a personrsquos motivation
Do I have a hypersensitivity due to past wounds
Questions for the Trigger Phase Is the other person aware that a
violation had occurred Is the other person aware of my convictions
Can I accept differences in the convictions Accept the other person as is--different
Is the other person aware of my needs
Are my expectations reasonable
Reasonable Expectations are
Realized (Am I even aware that I have expectations and what they are)
Realistic (Is the expectation executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (expectation Agreed Upon)
The Seed Trigger Phasebull To not assume what is known
and right for me is known to the other person
bull God as source of worth identity Ultimately God is the source of fulfilling needs and the other person is all but human
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Choice of evidence source
VS VS
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where is the evidence been
presentedbull Who gets to present evidence
Is the Trial Fair Where is the trial taking place
Usually in our heads Does the defense even have a chance to present a plead
Is it a one sided argument and presentation of evidence Do you really have all the evidence
Are you retrying old evidence and old verdicts Stacking up condemning evidence
bull Exasperationbull Identity vs
behavior
Who can be the defense attorney
Is the accused allowed to have Jesus as the attorney
This means allowing yourself to see the person through Jesusrsquo eyes
Perhaps letting Him plead a case of mercy
ldquoChrist redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us for it is written ldquoCursed is everyone who is hung on a polerdquo (Gal 313)
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull What are you doing with the
evidence
Judging Anakrino ἀνακρίνω (Strongrsquos
G350)
examine or judge to investigate examine enquire into
scrutinise sift question specifically in a forensic sense of a judge to
hold an investigation to interrogate examine the accused or
witnesses to judge of estimate determine (the
excellence or defects of any person or thing)
(1 Cor 215 43 44 1424)
But he that is spiritual judgeth (anakrino) all things yet he himself is judged (anakrino) of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ 1 Cor 215-6
But he that is spiritual investigates examines inquires scrutinizes questions all things yet he himself determines (is determined by) the excellence or defects of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ
Krinō κρίνω (Strongrsquos G2919)
to separate select choose approve prefer to be of opinion determine to pronounce an opinion concerning right and wrong pronounce judgment to rulegovernpreside over with the power of giving judicial decisions to contend have suite at law go to law
Do ye not know that the saints shall judge (krino) the world and if the world shall be judged (krino) by you are ye unworthy to judge (kritērion) the smallest matters 1 Cor 62
Krinō comes with guidelines I can of mine own self do nothing
as I hear I judge and my judgment is just because I seek not mine own will but the will of the Father which hath sent me (Jesus in John 530)
We must have our will in submission to Godrsquos will and purposes Humility before God and men
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose And when he had looked round
about on them with anger being grieved for the hardness of their hearts he saith unto the man Stretch forth thine hand And he stretched it out and his hand was restored whole as the other Mark 35
And they were bringing unto him little children that he should touch them and the disciples rebuked them But when Jesus saw it he was moved with indignation and said unto them ldquoSuffer the little children to come unto me forbid them not for to such belongeth the kingdom of Godrdquo Mark 1013-4
Godrsquos Restorative purpose And the Passover of the Jews was at
hand and Jesus went up to Jerusalem And he found in the temple those that sold oxen and sheep and doves and the changers of money sitting and he made a scourge of cords and cast all out of the temple both the sheep and the oxen and he poured out the changers money and overthrew their tables and to them that sold the doves he said Take these things hence make not my Fathers house a house of merchandise His disciples remembered that it was written Zeal for thy house shall eat me up John213-7
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another Forgive as the Lord forgave youput on love which binds them all together in perfect unityrdquo Col 312-4
We should not base judgments on malicious lies or evil misrepresetations Speak not evil one of another
brethren He that speaketh evil of his brother and judgeth his brother speaketh evil of the law and judgeth the law but if thou judge the law thou art not a doer of the law but a judge There is one lawgiver who is able to save and to destroy who art thou that judgest another James 411-2
You shall not spread a false report You shall not join hands with a wicked man to be a malicious witness You shall not fall in with the many to do evil nor shall you bear witness in a lawsuit siding with the many so as to pervert justice nor shall you be partial to a poor man in his lawsuit Exodus 231-2
There are six things that the LORD strongly dislikes seven that are an abomination to him haughty eyes a lying tongue and hands that shed innocent blood a heart that devises wicked plans feet that make haste to run to evil a false witness who breathes out lies and one who sows discord among brothers Prov 616-19
ldquoYe judge after the flesh I judge no man And yet if I judge my judgment is true for I am not alone but I and the Father that sent merdquo (Jesus in John 815-6)
Judge not according to the appearance but judge righteous judgment John 724
Judge via Godrsquos standards not by appearances (evidence that we gathered) Also James 41-2
We must not be hypocrites when judging others for we are judged by our own standards Judge not and ye shall not be
judged condemn not and ye shall not be condemned forgive and ye shall be forgiven Luke 637
Matt 71-5 Luke 637-42 Romans 21-5 Romans 220-23 2 Sam 121-7
We are not to judge others regarding legalistic adherence to ordinances (holidays observances what to eat etc) for such are matters of faith Romans 141-23 2 Cor 87-13
Colossians 216-23 Romans 821 1 Cor 1023 Romans 45 23 Romans 1413 Romans 932 1 Cor 89 Galatians 51 13
We should not judge anyonersquos eternal destiny eternal worth and identity Therefore do not pronounce
judgment before the time before the Lord comes who will bring to light the things now hidden in darkness and will disclose the purposes of the heart Then each one will receive his commendation from God 1 Corinthians 45
Jesus said ldquoBut I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment Again anyone who says to his brother Raca is answerable to the Sanhedrin But anyone who says You fool will be in danger of the fire of hellrdquo Matt 522
Concerning Angels
But Michael the archangel when he disputed with the devil and argued about the body of Moses did not dare pronounce against him a railing judgment but said The Lord rebuke you Jude 19
Concerning God
We are not to judge (condemn God) but He does invite us to ask him questions and to reason with Him
Come now let us reason together says the Lord Isaiah 118
If any of you lack wisdom he should ask God who give generously to all without finding fault James 15
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull To whom are you presenting
evidence to
Who is the Judge
Me God Other people Society norm Whose standards are we using Do
we dare say that we have the fullness of Godrsquos knowledge wisdom justice mercy and authority to be in that role
The Father judges no one but has given all judgment to the Son that all may honor the Son just as they honor the Father John 522
For the LORD is our judge the LORD is our lawgiver the LORD is our king he will save us
Isaiah 3322
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where to have the trialbull What evidence I use bull Who or what am I putting on trial
A person a lifetime of behavior or one fixable behavior
bull How I am sifting through the evidence
bull Who is the judge and attorneybull Humility
We can judge a behavior That is wrong and it inflicted pain on me or it is not something God desires
We cannot judge a personrsquos worth identity and character
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
What is anger
Word associated with Fury rage wrath mad violence yelling hitting destruction hatred fits irate belligerence vengeful
Euphemisms
Frustrated
Aggravated
Upset Irritated Annoyed Indignan
t Tried incensed
Animosity
At odds Sore Injured Impatien
t Peeved Cold tiff
Passionate
Vexed Bitter Displeas
ed Exasper
ate Aggressi
ve Resentfu
l antagoni
ze
Call it what it is
Anger is typically described as an emotional preservation response to violation of personal worth needs and convictions (A threat or a wound)
But it is not just an emotion
The Seed Trigger Phase (a threat or wound is encountered)bull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
bull Red Alert ldquoIrsquom in dangerrdquo Triggers stress response Fight Flight Freeze or Fawn
Fight Flight Freeze Fawn Response
Fight Stay and fight the danger (Anger)
Flight Run away (FearAnxiety) Freeze Play dead and let danger
blow pass (Depression) Fawn Co-dependency Let me
serve you and join your cause
Fight or Flight Response Is a physiological reaction that
occurs in response to a perceived harmful event attack threat to survival in humans and animals
First described by Walter Bradford Cannon
Animals reacts to threats with a general discharge of the sympathetic nervous system that primes the animal for fighting or fleeing
Adrenal Medulla produces a hormonal cascade resulting in secretion of adrenaline and noradrenaline (epinephrinenorepinephrine)
Effects of AdrenalineNoradrenaline
Acceleration of heart and lung action
Inhibition of digestive system
Constriction of blood vessels to shunt blood to heart lungs and muscles
Auditory exclusion (hearing loss)
Dilation of pupils to see with increased clarity but with tunnel vision (loss of peripheral vision)
Increased blood pressure heart rate blood sugar and fats to supply muscles with more energy (chronic triggers sets one up for heart disease high blood pressure diabetes etc)
Speeds up blood clotting function to prevent excess blood loss (can contribute to lsquostickiness of blood and strokes)
Increased perspiration to prevent over-heating due to increased metabolism
The physiological response and serge of energy that one has as a result of the fightflight response been triggered is in and of itself not a sin
All the other phases are up for scrutiny
Anger is not sinful God gets angry Jesus got angry
Mark 35 Matthew 2112-13 Mark 1115-18 John 213-22
Anger in and of itself it is not sinful but bitterness dwelling (meditation) in anger is
Be ANGRY (orgizo provoked aroused to anger) and yet DO NOT SIN do not let the sun go down on your ANGER (parorgismos bitterness exasperation indignation wrath)
Eph 426
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Gathering of evidence and
presentation of the evidence before the court judge of me myself and I (Though we can hold a trial before a third party we usually have done it in our heads already)
Germination of the SeedDevelopment of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge (usually of me myself
and I) render a judgment of guilt of the accused the sentencedebt owed
Sprouting Phase (the first visible sign of anger) Choice Phase One chooses a reaction pathway to fight Open aggression Passive aggression Suppressed aggression Digressive aggression
Growth phase Reaction and Expression Phase bull Various modalities of
ldquofightingrdquo is expressedbull Reaction by the accused
can cause more retaliation and provide additional evidencenutrients
Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the
wound offense and roots due to unforgiveness or retaliation
bull Greater expression of the discontent
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Disclaimer
These are illustrative understanding of anger
I will attempt to show you pitfalls and where the doors to the enemy and root issues might be
It is not meant to be exhaustive to do list but to show you the power and freedom of choice
I do not claim understand the fullness of Godrsquos or human anger
The Seed Trigger Phasebull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
Pitfall We assume that the world should be like us which would be reasonable if we were all defined by God But the world we live in now is define by self--relativism that onersquos needs and convictions is different than others
Questions for the Trigger Phase Who is defining my worth
(safeguard this and reserve it only for God)
Am I jumping to conclusions about a personrsquos motivation
Do I have a hypersensitivity due to past wounds
Questions for the Trigger Phase Is the other person aware that a
violation had occurred Is the other person aware of my convictions
Can I accept differences in the convictions Accept the other person as is--different
Is the other person aware of my needs
Are my expectations reasonable
Reasonable Expectations are
Realized (Am I even aware that I have expectations and what they are)
Realistic (Is the expectation executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (expectation Agreed Upon)
The Seed Trigger Phasebull To not assume what is known
and right for me is known to the other person
bull God as source of worth identity Ultimately God is the source of fulfilling needs and the other person is all but human
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Choice of evidence source
VS VS
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where is the evidence been
presentedbull Who gets to present evidence
Is the Trial Fair Where is the trial taking place
Usually in our heads Does the defense even have a chance to present a plead
Is it a one sided argument and presentation of evidence Do you really have all the evidence
Are you retrying old evidence and old verdicts Stacking up condemning evidence
bull Exasperationbull Identity vs
behavior
Who can be the defense attorney
Is the accused allowed to have Jesus as the attorney
This means allowing yourself to see the person through Jesusrsquo eyes
Perhaps letting Him plead a case of mercy
ldquoChrist redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us for it is written ldquoCursed is everyone who is hung on a polerdquo (Gal 313)
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull What are you doing with the
evidence
Judging Anakrino ἀνακρίνω (Strongrsquos
G350)
examine or judge to investigate examine enquire into
scrutinise sift question specifically in a forensic sense of a judge to
hold an investigation to interrogate examine the accused or
witnesses to judge of estimate determine (the
excellence or defects of any person or thing)
(1 Cor 215 43 44 1424)
But he that is spiritual judgeth (anakrino) all things yet he himself is judged (anakrino) of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ 1 Cor 215-6
But he that is spiritual investigates examines inquires scrutinizes questions all things yet he himself determines (is determined by) the excellence or defects of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ
Krinō κρίνω (Strongrsquos G2919)
to separate select choose approve prefer to be of opinion determine to pronounce an opinion concerning right and wrong pronounce judgment to rulegovernpreside over with the power of giving judicial decisions to contend have suite at law go to law
Do ye not know that the saints shall judge (krino) the world and if the world shall be judged (krino) by you are ye unworthy to judge (kritērion) the smallest matters 1 Cor 62
Krinō comes with guidelines I can of mine own self do nothing
as I hear I judge and my judgment is just because I seek not mine own will but the will of the Father which hath sent me (Jesus in John 530)
We must have our will in submission to Godrsquos will and purposes Humility before God and men
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose And when he had looked round
about on them with anger being grieved for the hardness of their hearts he saith unto the man Stretch forth thine hand And he stretched it out and his hand was restored whole as the other Mark 35
And they were bringing unto him little children that he should touch them and the disciples rebuked them But when Jesus saw it he was moved with indignation and said unto them ldquoSuffer the little children to come unto me forbid them not for to such belongeth the kingdom of Godrdquo Mark 1013-4
Godrsquos Restorative purpose And the Passover of the Jews was at
hand and Jesus went up to Jerusalem And he found in the temple those that sold oxen and sheep and doves and the changers of money sitting and he made a scourge of cords and cast all out of the temple both the sheep and the oxen and he poured out the changers money and overthrew their tables and to them that sold the doves he said Take these things hence make not my Fathers house a house of merchandise His disciples remembered that it was written Zeal for thy house shall eat me up John213-7
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another Forgive as the Lord forgave youput on love which binds them all together in perfect unityrdquo Col 312-4
We should not base judgments on malicious lies or evil misrepresetations Speak not evil one of another
brethren He that speaketh evil of his brother and judgeth his brother speaketh evil of the law and judgeth the law but if thou judge the law thou art not a doer of the law but a judge There is one lawgiver who is able to save and to destroy who art thou that judgest another James 411-2
You shall not spread a false report You shall not join hands with a wicked man to be a malicious witness You shall not fall in with the many to do evil nor shall you bear witness in a lawsuit siding with the many so as to pervert justice nor shall you be partial to a poor man in his lawsuit Exodus 231-2
There are six things that the LORD strongly dislikes seven that are an abomination to him haughty eyes a lying tongue and hands that shed innocent blood a heart that devises wicked plans feet that make haste to run to evil a false witness who breathes out lies and one who sows discord among brothers Prov 616-19
ldquoYe judge after the flesh I judge no man And yet if I judge my judgment is true for I am not alone but I and the Father that sent merdquo (Jesus in John 815-6)
Judge not according to the appearance but judge righteous judgment John 724
Judge via Godrsquos standards not by appearances (evidence that we gathered) Also James 41-2
We must not be hypocrites when judging others for we are judged by our own standards Judge not and ye shall not be
judged condemn not and ye shall not be condemned forgive and ye shall be forgiven Luke 637
Matt 71-5 Luke 637-42 Romans 21-5 Romans 220-23 2 Sam 121-7
We are not to judge others regarding legalistic adherence to ordinances (holidays observances what to eat etc) for such are matters of faith Romans 141-23 2 Cor 87-13
Colossians 216-23 Romans 821 1 Cor 1023 Romans 45 23 Romans 1413 Romans 932 1 Cor 89 Galatians 51 13
We should not judge anyonersquos eternal destiny eternal worth and identity Therefore do not pronounce
judgment before the time before the Lord comes who will bring to light the things now hidden in darkness and will disclose the purposes of the heart Then each one will receive his commendation from God 1 Corinthians 45
Jesus said ldquoBut I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment Again anyone who says to his brother Raca is answerable to the Sanhedrin But anyone who says You fool will be in danger of the fire of hellrdquo Matt 522
Concerning Angels
But Michael the archangel when he disputed with the devil and argued about the body of Moses did not dare pronounce against him a railing judgment but said The Lord rebuke you Jude 19
Concerning God
We are not to judge (condemn God) but He does invite us to ask him questions and to reason with Him
Come now let us reason together says the Lord Isaiah 118
If any of you lack wisdom he should ask God who give generously to all without finding fault James 15
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull To whom are you presenting
evidence to
Who is the Judge
Me God Other people Society norm Whose standards are we using Do
we dare say that we have the fullness of Godrsquos knowledge wisdom justice mercy and authority to be in that role
The Father judges no one but has given all judgment to the Son that all may honor the Son just as they honor the Father John 522
For the LORD is our judge the LORD is our lawgiver the LORD is our king he will save us
Isaiah 3322
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where to have the trialbull What evidence I use bull Who or what am I putting on trial
A person a lifetime of behavior or one fixable behavior
bull How I am sifting through the evidence
bull Who is the judge and attorneybull Humility
We can judge a behavior That is wrong and it inflicted pain on me or it is not something God desires
We cannot judge a personrsquos worth identity and character
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Euphemisms
Frustrated
Aggravated
Upset Irritated Annoyed Indignan
t Tried incensed
Animosity
At odds Sore Injured Impatien
t Peeved Cold tiff
Passionate
Vexed Bitter Displeas
ed Exasper
ate Aggressi
ve Resentfu
l antagoni
ze
Call it what it is
Anger is typically described as an emotional preservation response to violation of personal worth needs and convictions (A threat or a wound)
But it is not just an emotion
The Seed Trigger Phase (a threat or wound is encountered)bull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
bull Red Alert ldquoIrsquom in dangerrdquo Triggers stress response Fight Flight Freeze or Fawn
Fight Flight Freeze Fawn Response
Fight Stay and fight the danger (Anger)
Flight Run away (FearAnxiety) Freeze Play dead and let danger
blow pass (Depression) Fawn Co-dependency Let me
serve you and join your cause
Fight or Flight Response Is a physiological reaction that
occurs in response to a perceived harmful event attack threat to survival in humans and animals
First described by Walter Bradford Cannon
Animals reacts to threats with a general discharge of the sympathetic nervous system that primes the animal for fighting or fleeing
Adrenal Medulla produces a hormonal cascade resulting in secretion of adrenaline and noradrenaline (epinephrinenorepinephrine)
Effects of AdrenalineNoradrenaline
Acceleration of heart and lung action
Inhibition of digestive system
Constriction of blood vessels to shunt blood to heart lungs and muscles
Auditory exclusion (hearing loss)
Dilation of pupils to see with increased clarity but with tunnel vision (loss of peripheral vision)
Increased blood pressure heart rate blood sugar and fats to supply muscles with more energy (chronic triggers sets one up for heart disease high blood pressure diabetes etc)
Speeds up blood clotting function to prevent excess blood loss (can contribute to lsquostickiness of blood and strokes)
Increased perspiration to prevent over-heating due to increased metabolism
The physiological response and serge of energy that one has as a result of the fightflight response been triggered is in and of itself not a sin
All the other phases are up for scrutiny
Anger is not sinful God gets angry Jesus got angry
Mark 35 Matthew 2112-13 Mark 1115-18 John 213-22
Anger in and of itself it is not sinful but bitterness dwelling (meditation) in anger is
Be ANGRY (orgizo provoked aroused to anger) and yet DO NOT SIN do not let the sun go down on your ANGER (parorgismos bitterness exasperation indignation wrath)
Eph 426
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Gathering of evidence and
presentation of the evidence before the court judge of me myself and I (Though we can hold a trial before a third party we usually have done it in our heads already)
Germination of the SeedDevelopment of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge (usually of me myself
and I) render a judgment of guilt of the accused the sentencedebt owed
Sprouting Phase (the first visible sign of anger) Choice Phase One chooses a reaction pathway to fight Open aggression Passive aggression Suppressed aggression Digressive aggression
Growth phase Reaction and Expression Phase bull Various modalities of
ldquofightingrdquo is expressedbull Reaction by the accused
can cause more retaliation and provide additional evidencenutrients
Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the
wound offense and roots due to unforgiveness or retaliation
bull Greater expression of the discontent
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Disclaimer
These are illustrative understanding of anger
I will attempt to show you pitfalls and where the doors to the enemy and root issues might be
It is not meant to be exhaustive to do list but to show you the power and freedom of choice
I do not claim understand the fullness of Godrsquos or human anger
The Seed Trigger Phasebull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
Pitfall We assume that the world should be like us which would be reasonable if we were all defined by God But the world we live in now is define by self--relativism that onersquos needs and convictions is different than others
Questions for the Trigger Phase Who is defining my worth
(safeguard this and reserve it only for God)
Am I jumping to conclusions about a personrsquos motivation
Do I have a hypersensitivity due to past wounds
Questions for the Trigger Phase Is the other person aware that a
violation had occurred Is the other person aware of my convictions
Can I accept differences in the convictions Accept the other person as is--different
Is the other person aware of my needs
Are my expectations reasonable
Reasonable Expectations are
Realized (Am I even aware that I have expectations and what they are)
Realistic (Is the expectation executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (expectation Agreed Upon)
The Seed Trigger Phasebull To not assume what is known
and right for me is known to the other person
bull God as source of worth identity Ultimately God is the source of fulfilling needs and the other person is all but human
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Choice of evidence source
VS VS
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where is the evidence been
presentedbull Who gets to present evidence
Is the Trial Fair Where is the trial taking place
Usually in our heads Does the defense even have a chance to present a plead
Is it a one sided argument and presentation of evidence Do you really have all the evidence
Are you retrying old evidence and old verdicts Stacking up condemning evidence
bull Exasperationbull Identity vs
behavior
Who can be the defense attorney
Is the accused allowed to have Jesus as the attorney
This means allowing yourself to see the person through Jesusrsquo eyes
Perhaps letting Him plead a case of mercy
ldquoChrist redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us for it is written ldquoCursed is everyone who is hung on a polerdquo (Gal 313)
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull What are you doing with the
evidence
Judging Anakrino ἀνακρίνω (Strongrsquos
G350)
examine or judge to investigate examine enquire into
scrutinise sift question specifically in a forensic sense of a judge to
hold an investigation to interrogate examine the accused or
witnesses to judge of estimate determine (the
excellence or defects of any person or thing)
(1 Cor 215 43 44 1424)
But he that is spiritual judgeth (anakrino) all things yet he himself is judged (anakrino) of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ 1 Cor 215-6
But he that is spiritual investigates examines inquires scrutinizes questions all things yet he himself determines (is determined by) the excellence or defects of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ
Krinō κρίνω (Strongrsquos G2919)
to separate select choose approve prefer to be of opinion determine to pronounce an opinion concerning right and wrong pronounce judgment to rulegovernpreside over with the power of giving judicial decisions to contend have suite at law go to law
Do ye not know that the saints shall judge (krino) the world and if the world shall be judged (krino) by you are ye unworthy to judge (kritērion) the smallest matters 1 Cor 62
Krinō comes with guidelines I can of mine own self do nothing
as I hear I judge and my judgment is just because I seek not mine own will but the will of the Father which hath sent me (Jesus in John 530)
We must have our will in submission to Godrsquos will and purposes Humility before God and men
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose And when he had looked round
about on them with anger being grieved for the hardness of their hearts he saith unto the man Stretch forth thine hand And he stretched it out and his hand was restored whole as the other Mark 35
And they were bringing unto him little children that he should touch them and the disciples rebuked them But when Jesus saw it he was moved with indignation and said unto them ldquoSuffer the little children to come unto me forbid them not for to such belongeth the kingdom of Godrdquo Mark 1013-4
Godrsquos Restorative purpose And the Passover of the Jews was at
hand and Jesus went up to Jerusalem And he found in the temple those that sold oxen and sheep and doves and the changers of money sitting and he made a scourge of cords and cast all out of the temple both the sheep and the oxen and he poured out the changers money and overthrew their tables and to them that sold the doves he said Take these things hence make not my Fathers house a house of merchandise His disciples remembered that it was written Zeal for thy house shall eat me up John213-7
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another Forgive as the Lord forgave youput on love which binds them all together in perfect unityrdquo Col 312-4
We should not base judgments on malicious lies or evil misrepresetations Speak not evil one of another
brethren He that speaketh evil of his brother and judgeth his brother speaketh evil of the law and judgeth the law but if thou judge the law thou art not a doer of the law but a judge There is one lawgiver who is able to save and to destroy who art thou that judgest another James 411-2
You shall not spread a false report You shall not join hands with a wicked man to be a malicious witness You shall not fall in with the many to do evil nor shall you bear witness in a lawsuit siding with the many so as to pervert justice nor shall you be partial to a poor man in his lawsuit Exodus 231-2
There are six things that the LORD strongly dislikes seven that are an abomination to him haughty eyes a lying tongue and hands that shed innocent blood a heart that devises wicked plans feet that make haste to run to evil a false witness who breathes out lies and one who sows discord among brothers Prov 616-19
ldquoYe judge after the flesh I judge no man And yet if I judge my judgment is true for I am not alone but I and the Father that sent merdquo (Jesus in John 815-6)
Judge not according to the appearance but judge righteous judgment John 724
Judge via Godrsquos standards not by appearances (evidence that we gathered) Also James 41-2
We must not be hypocrites when judging others for we are judged by our own standards Judge not and ye shall not be
judged condemn not and ye shall not be condemned forgive and ye shall be forgiven Luke 637
Matt 71-5 Luke 637-42 Romans 21-5 Romans 220-23 2 Sam 121-7
We are not to judge others regarding legalistic adherence to ordinances (holidays observances what to eat etc) for such are matters of faith Romans 141-23 2 Cor 87-13
Colossians 216-23 Romans 821 1 Cor 1023 Romans 45 23 Romans 1413 Romans 932 1 Cor 89 Galatians 51 13
We should not judge anyonersquos eternal destiny eternal worth and identity Therefore do not pronounce
judgment before the time before the Lord comes who will bring to light the things now hidden in darkness and will disclose the purposes of the heart Then each one will receive his commendation from God 1 Corinthians 45
Jesus said ldquoBut I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment Again anyone who says to his brother Raca is answerable to the Sanhedrin But anyone who says You fool will be in danger of the fire of hellrdquo Matt 522
Concerning Angels
But Michael the archangel when he disputed with the devil and argued about the body of Moses did not dare pronounce against him a railing judgment but said The Lord rebuke you Jude 19
Concerning God
We are not to judge (condemn God) but He does invite us to ask him questions and to reason with Him
Come now let us reason together says the Lord Isaiah 118
If any of you lack wisdom he should ask God who give generously to all without finding fault James 15
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull To whom are you presenting
evidence to
Who is the Judge
Me God Other people Society norm Whose standards are we using Do
we dare say that we have the fullness of Godrsquos knowledge wisdom justice mercy and authority to be in that role
The Father judges no one but has given all judgment to the Son that all may honor the Son just as they honor the Father John 522
For the LORD is our judge the LORD is our lawgiver the LORD is our king he will save us
Isaiah 3322
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where to have the trialbull What evidence I use bull Who or what am I putting on trial
A person a lifetime of behavior or one fixable behavior
bull How I am sifting through the evidence
bull Who is the judge and attorneybull Humility
We can judge a behavior That is wrong and it inflicted pain on me or it is not something God desires
We cannot judge a personrsquos worth identity and character
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Call it what it is
Anger is typically described as an emotional preservation response to violation of personal worth needs and convictions (A threat or a wound)
But it is not just an emotion
The Seed Trigger Phase (a threat or wound is encountered)bull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
bull Red Alert ldquoIrsquom in dangerrdquo Triggers stress response Fight Flight Freeze or Fawn
Fight Flight Freeze Fawn Response
Fight Stay and fight the danger (Anger)
Flight Run away (FearAnxiety) Freeze Play dead and let danger
blow pass (Depression) Fawn Co-dependency Let me
serve you and join your cause
Fight or Flight Response Is a physiological reaction that
occurs in response to a perceived harmful event attack threat to survival in humans and animals
First described by Walter Bradford Cannon
Animals reacts to threats with a general discharge of the sympathetic nervous system that primes the animal for fighting or fleeing
Adrenal Medulla produces a hormonal cascade resulting in secretion of adrenaline and noradrenaline (epinephrinenorepinephrine)
Effects of AdrenalineNoradrenaline
Acceleration of heart and lung action
Inhibition of digestive system
Constriction of blood vessels to shunt blood to heart lungs and muscles
Auditory exclusion (hearing loss)
Dilation of pupils to see with increased clarity but with tunnel vision (loss of peripheral vision)
Increased blood pressure heart rate blood sugar and fats to supply muscles with more energy (chronic triggers sets one up for heart disease high blood pressure diabetes etc)
Speeds up blood clotting function to prevent excess blood loss (can contribute to lsquostickiness of blood and strokes)
Increased perspiration to prevent over-heating due to increased metabolism
The physiological response and serge of energy that one has as a result of the fightflight response been triggered is in and of itself not a sin
All the other phases are up for scrutiny
Anger is not sinful God gets angry Jesus got angry
Mark 35 Matthew 2112-13 Mark 1115-18 John 213-22
Anger in and of itself it is not sinful but bitterness dwelling (meditation) in anger is
Be ANGRY (orgizo provoked aroused to anger) and yet DO NOT SIN do not let the sun go down on your ANGER (parorgismos bitterness exasperation indignation wrath)
Eph 426
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Gathering of evidence and
presentation of the evidence before the court judge of me myself and I (Though we can hold a trial before a third party we usually have done it in our heads already)
Germination of the SeedDevelopment of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge (usually of me myself
and I) render a judgment of guilt of the accused the sentencedebt owed
Sprouting Phase (the first visible sign of anger) Choice Phase One chooses a reaction pathway to fight Open aggression Passive aggression Suppressed aggression Digressive aggression
Growth phase Reaction and Expression Phase bull Various modalities of
ldquofightingrdquo is expressedbull Reaction by the accused
can cause more retaliation and provide additional evidencenutrients
Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the
wound offense and roots due to unforgiveness or retaliation
bull Greater expression of the discontent
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Disclaimer
These are illustrative understanding of anger
I will attempt to show you pitfalls and where the doors to the enemy and root issues might be
It is not meant to be exhaustive to do list but to show you the power and freedom of choice
I do not claim understand the fullness of Godrsquos or human anger
The Seed Trigger Phasebull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
Pitfall We assume that the world should be like us which would be reasonable if we were all defined by God But the world we live in now is define by self--relativism that onersquos needs and convictions is different than others
Questions for the Trigger Phase Who is defining my worth
(safeguard this and reserve it only for God)
Am I jumping to conclusions about a personrsquos motivation
Do I have a hypersensitivity due to past wounds
Questions for the Trigger Phase Is the other person aware that a
violation had occurred Is the other person aware of my convictions
Can I accept differences in the convictions Accept the other person as is--different
Is the other person aware of my needs
Are my expectations reasonable
Reasonable Expectations are
Realized (Am I even aware that I have expectations and what they are)
Realistic (Is the expectation executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (expectation Agreed Upon)
The Seed Trigger Phasebull To not assume what is known
and right for me is known to the other person
bull God as source of worth identity Ultimately God is the source of fulfilling needs and the other person is all but human
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Choice of evidence source
VS VS
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where is the evidence been
presentedbull Who gets to present evidence
Is the Trial Fair Where is the trial taking place
Usually in our heads Does the defense even have a chance to present a plead
Is it a one sided argument and presentation of evidence Do you really have all the evidence
Are you retrying old evidence and old verdicts Stacking up condemning evidence
bull Exasperationbull Identity vs
behavior
Who can be the defense attorney
Is the accused allowed to have Jesus as the attorney
This means allowing yourself to see the person through Jesusrsquo eyes
Perhaps letting Him plead a case of mercy
ldquoChrist redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us for it is written ldquoCursed is everyone who is hung on a polerdquo (Gal 313)
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull What are you doing with the
evidence
Judging Anakrino ἀνακρίνω (Strongrsquos
G350)
examine or judge to investigate examine enquire into
scrutinise sift question specifically in a forensic sense of a judge to
hold an investigation to interrogate examine the accused or
witnesses to judge of estimate determine (the
excellence or defects of any person or thing)
(1 Cor 215 43 44 1424)
But he that is spiritual judgeth (anakrino) all things yet he himself is judged (anakrino) of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ 1 Cor 215-6
But he that is spiritual investigates examines inquires scrutinizes questions all things yet he himself determines (is determined by) the excellence or defects of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ
Krinō κρίνω (Strongrsquos G2919)
to separate select choose approve prefer to be of opinion determine to pronounce an opinion concerning right and wrong pronounce judgment to rulegovernpreside over with the power of giving judicial decisions to contend have suite at law go to law
Do ye not know that the saints shall judge (krino) the world and if the world shall be judged (krino) by you are ye unworthy to judge (kritērion) the smallest matters 1 Cor 62
Krinō comes with guidelines I can of mine own self do nothing
as I hear I judge and my judgment is just because I seek not mine own will but the will of the Father which hath sent me (Jesus in John 530)
We must have our will in submission to Godrsquos will and purposes Humility before God and men
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose And when he had looked round
about on them with anger being grieved for the hardness of their hearts he saith unto the man Stretch forth thine hand And he stretched it out and his hand was restored whole as the other Mark 35
And they were bringing unto him little children that he should touch them and the disciples rebuked them But when Jesus saw it he was moved with indignation and said unto them ldquoSuffer the little children to come unto me forbid them not for to such belongeth the kingdom of Godrdquo Mark 1013-4
Godrsquos Restorative purpose And the Passover of the Jews was at
hand and Jesus went up to Jerusalem And he found in the temple those that sold oxen and sheep and doves and the changers of money sitting and he made a scourge of cords and cast all out of the temple both the sheep and the oxen and he poured out the changers money and overthrew their tables and to them that sold the doves he said Take these things hence make not my Fathers house a house of merchandise His disciples remembered that it was written Zeal for thy house shall eat me up John213-7
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another Forgive as the Lord forgave youput on love which binds them all together in perfect unityrdquo Col 312-4
We should not base judgments on malicious lies or evil misrepresetations Speak not evil one of another
brethren He that speaketh evil of his brother and judgeth his brother speaketh evil of the law and judgeth the law but if thou judge the law thou art not a doer of the law but a judge There is one lawgiver who is able to save and to destroy who art thou that judgest another James 411-2
You shall not spread a false report You shall not join hands with a wicked man to be a malicious witness You shall not fall in with the many to do evil nor shall you bear witness in a lawsuit siding with the many so as to pervert justice nor shall you be partial to a poor man in his lawsuit Exodus 231-2
There are six things that the LORD strongly dislikes seven that are an abomination to him haughty eyes a lying tongue and hands that shed innocent blood a heart that devises wicked plans feet that make haste to run to evil a false witness who breathes out lies and one who sows discord among brothers Prov 616-19
ldquoYe judge after the flesh I judge no man And yet if I judge my judgment is true for I am not alone but I and the Father that sent merdquo (Jesus in John 815-6)
Judge not according to the appearance but judge righteous judgment John 724
Judge via Godrsquos standards not by appearances (evidence that we gathered) Also James 41-2
We must not be hypocrites when judging others for we are judged by our own standards Judge not and ye shall not be
judged condemn not and ye shall not be condemned forgive and ye shall be forgiven Luke 637
Matt 71-5 Luke 637-42 Romans 21-5 Romans 220-23 2 Sam 121-7
We are not to judge others regarding legalistic adherence to ordinances (holidays observances what to eat etc) for such are matters of faith Romans 141-23 2 Cor 87-13
Colossians 216-23 Romans 821 1 Cor 1023 Romans 45 23 Romans 1413 Romans 932 1 Cor 89 Galatians 51 13
We should not judge anyonersquos eternal destiny eternal worth and identity Therefore do not pronounce
judgment before the time before the Lord comes who will bring to light the things now hidden in darkness and will disclose the purposes of the heart Then each one will receive his commendation from God 1 Corinthians 45
Jesus said ldquoBut I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment Again anyone who says to his brother Raca is answerable to the Sanhedrin But anyone who says You fool will be in danger of the fire of hellrdquo Matt 522
Concerning Angels
But Michael the archangel when he disputed with the devil and argued about the body of Moses did not dare pronounce against him a railing judgment but said The Lord rebuke you Jude 19
Concerning God
We are not to judge (condemn God) but He does invite us to ask him questions and to reason with Him
Come now let us reason together says the Lord Isaiah 118
If any of you lack wisdom he should ask God who give generously to all without finding fault James 15
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull To whom are you presenting
evidence to
Who is the Judge
Me God Other people Society norm Whose standards are we using Do
we dare say that we have the fullness of Godrsquos knowledge wisdom justice mercy and authority to be in that role
The Father judges no one but has given all judgment to the Son that all may honor the Son just as they honor the Father John 522
For the LORD is our judge the LORD is our lawgiver the LORD is our king he will save us
Isaiah 3322
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where to have the trialbull What evidence I use bull Who or what am I putting on trial
A person a lifetime of behavior or one fixable behavior
bull How I am sifting through the evidence
bull Who is the judge and attorneybull Humility
We can judge a behavior That is wrong and it inflicted pain on me or it is not something God desires
We cannot judge a personrsquos worth identity and character
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Anger is typically described as an emotional preservation response to violation of personal worth needs and convictions (A threat or a wound)
But it is not just an emotion
The Seed Trigger Phase (a threat or wound is encountered)bull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
bull Red Alert ldquoIrsquom in dangerrdquo Triggers stress response Fight Flight Freeze or Fawn
Fight Flight Freeze Fawn Response
Fight Stay and fight the danger (Anger)
Flight Run away (FearAnxiety) Freeze Play dead and let danger
blow pass (Depression) Fawn Co-dependency Let me
serve you and join your cause
Fight or Flight Response Is a physiological reaction that
occurs in response to a perceived harmful event attack threat to survival in humans and animals
First described by Walter Bradford Cannon
Animals reacts to threats with a general discharge of the sympathetic nervous system that primes the animal for fighting or fleeing
Adrenal Medulla produces a hormonal cascade resulting in secretion of adrenaline and noradrenaline (epinephrinenorepinephrine)
Effects of AdrenalineNoradrenaline
Acceleration of heart and lung action
Inhibition of digestive system
Constriction of blood vessels to shunt blood to heart lungs and muscles
Auditory exclusion (hearing loss)
Dilation of pupils to see with increased clarity but with tunnel vision (loss of peripheral vision)
Increased blood pressure heart rate blood sugar and fats to supply muscles with more energy (chronic triggers sets one up for heart disease high blood pressure diabetes etc)
Speeds up blood clotting function to prevent excess blood loss (can contribute to lsquostickiness of blood and strokes)
Increased perspiration to prevent over-heating due to increased metabolism
The physiological response and serge of energy that one has as a result of the fightflight response been triggered is in and of itself not a sin
All the other phases are up for scrutiny
Anger is not sinful God gets angry Jesus got angry
Mark 35 Matthew 2112-13 Mark 1115-18 John 213-22
Anger in and of itself it is not sinful but bitterness dwelling (meditation) in anger is
Be ANGRY (orgizo provoked aroused to anger) and yet DO NOT SIN do not let the sun go down on your ANGER (parorgismos bitterness exasperation indignation wrath)
Eph 426
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Gathering of evidence and
presentation of the evidence before the court judge of me myself and I (Though we can hold a trial before a third party we usually have done it in our heads already)
Germination of the SeedDevelopment of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge (usually of me myself
and I) render a judgment of guilt of the accused the sentencedebt owed
Sprouting Phase (the first visible sign of anger) Choice Phase One chooses a reaction pathway to fight Open aggression Passive aggression Suppressed aggression Digressive aggression
Growth phase Reaction and Expression Phase bull Various modalities of
ldquofightingrdquo is expressedbull Reaction by the accused
can cause more retaliation and provide additional evidencenutrients
Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the
wound offense and roots due to unforgiveness or retaliation
bull Greater expression of the discontent
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Disclaimer
These are illustrative understanding of anger
I will attempt to show you pitfalls and where the doors to the enemy and root issues might be
It is not meant to be exhaustive to do list but to show you the power and freedom of choice
I do not claim understand the fullness of Godrsquos or human anger
The Seed Trigger Phasebull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
Pitfall We assume that the world should be like us which would be reasonable if we were all defined by God But the world we live in now is define by self--relativism that onersquos needs and convictions is different than others
Questions for the Trigger Phase Who is defining my worth
(safeguard this and reserve it only for God)
Am I jumping to conclusions about a personrsquos motivation
Do I have a hypersensitivity due to past wounds
Questions for the Trigger Phase Is the other person aware that a
violation had occurred Is the other person aware of my convictions
Can I accept differences in the convictions Accept the other person as is--different
Is the other person aware of my needs
Are my expectations reasonable
Reasonable Expectations are
Realized (Am I even aware that I have expectations and what they are)
Realistic (Is the expectation executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (expectation Agreed Upon)
The Seed Trigger Phasebull To not assume what is known
and right for me is known to the other person
bull God as source of worth identity Ultimately God is the source of fulfilling needs and the other person is all but human
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Choice of evidence source
VS VS
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where is the evidence been
presentedbull Who gets to present evidence
Is the Trial Fair Where is the trial taking place
Usually in our heads Does the defense even have a chance to present a plead
Is it a one sided argument and presentation of evidence Do you really have all the evidence
Are you retrying old evidence and old verdicts Stacking up condemning evidence
bull Exasperationbull Identity vs
behavior
Who can be the defense attorney
Is the accused allowed to have Jesus as the attorney
This means allowing yourself to see the person through Jesusrsquo eyes
Perhaps letting Him plead a case of mercy
ldquoChrist redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us for it is written ldquoCursed is everyone who is hung on a polerdquo (Gal 313)
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull What are you doing with the
evidence
Judging Anakrino ἀνακρίνω (Strongrsquos
G350)
examine or judge to investigate examine enquire into
scrutinise sift question specifically in a forensic sense of a judge to
hold an investigation to interrogate examine the accused or
witnesses to judge of estimate determine (the
excellence or defects of any person or thing)
(1 Cor 215 43 44 1424)
But he that is spiritual judgeth (anakrino) all things yet he himself is judged (anakrino) of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ 1 Cor 215-6
But he that is spiritual investigates examines inquires scrutinizes questions all things yet he himself determines (is determined by) the excellence or defects of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ
Krinō κρίνω (Strongrsquos G2919)
to separate select choose approve prefer to be of opinion determine to pronounce an opinion concerning right and wrong pronounce judgment to rulegovernpreside over with the power of giving judicial decisions to contend have suite at law go to law
Do ye not know that the saints shall judge (krino) the world and if the world shall be judged (krino) by you are ye unworthy to judge (kritērion) the smallest matters 1 Cor 62
Krinō comes with guidelines I can of mine own self do nothing
as I hear I judge and my judgment is just because I seek not mine own will but the will of the Father which hath sent me (Jesus in John 530)
We must have our will in submission to Godrsquos will and purposes Humility before God and men
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose And when he had looked round
about on them with anger being grieved for the hardness of their hearts he saith unto the man Stretch forth thine hand And he stretched it out and his hand was restored whole as the other Mark 35
And they were bringing unto him little children that he should touch them and the disciples rebuked them But when Jesus saw it he was moved with indignation and said unto them ldquoSuffer the little children to come unto me forbid them not for to such belongeth the kingdom of Godrdquo Mark 1013-4
Godrsquos Restorative purpose And the Passover of the Jews was at
hand and Jesus went up to Jerusalem And he found in the temple those that sold oxen and sheep and doves and the changers of money sitting and he made a scourge of cords and cast all out of the temple both the sheep and the oxen and he poured out the changers money and overthrew their tables and to them that sold the doves he said Take these things hence make not my Fathers house a house of merchandise His disciples remembered that it was written Zeal for thy house shall eat me up John213-7
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another Forgive as the Lord forgave youput on love which binds them all together in perfect unityrdquo Col 312-4
We should not base judgments on malicious lies or evil misrepresetations Speak not evil one of another
brethren He that speaketh evil of his brother and judgeth his brother speaketh evil of the law and judgeth the law but if thou judge the law thou art not a doer of the law but a judge There is one lawgiver who is able to save and to destroy who art thou that judgest another James 411-2
You shall not spread a false report You shall not join hands with a wicked man to be a malicious witness You shall not fall in with the many to do evil nor shall you bear witness in a lawsuit siding with the many so as to pervert justice nor shall you be partial to a poor man in his lawsuit Exodus 231-2
There are six things that the LORD strongly dislikes seven that are an abomination to him haughty eyes a lying tongue and hands that shed innocent blood a heart that devises wicked plans feet that make haste to run to evil a false witness who breathes out lies and one who sows discord among brothers Prov 616-19
ldquoYe judge after the flesh I judge no man And yet if I judge my judgment is true for I am not alone but I and the Father that sent merdquo (Jesus in John 815-6)
Judge not according to the appearance but judge righteous judgment John 724
Judge via Godrsquos standards not by appearances (evidence that we gathered) Also James 41-2
We must not be hypocrites when judging others for we are judged by our own standards Judge not and ye shall not be
judged condemn not and ye shall not be condemned forgive and ye shall be forgiven Luke 637
Matt 71-5 Luke 637-42 Romans 21-5 Romans 220-23 2 Sam 121-7
We are not to judge others regarding legalistic adherence to ordinances (holidays observances what to eat etc) for such are matters of faith Romans 141-23 2 Cor 87-13
Colossians 216-23 Romans 821 1 Cor 1023 Romans 45 23 Romans 1413 Romans 932 1 Cor 89 Galatians 51 13
We should not judge anyonersquos eternal destiny eternal worth and identity Therefore do not pronounce
judgment before the time before the Lord comes who will bring to light the things now hidden in darkness and will disclose the purposes of the heart Then each one will receive his commendation from God 1 Corinthians 45
Jesus said ldquoBut I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment Again anyone who says to his brother Raca is answerable to the Sanhedrin But anyone who says You fool will be in danger of the fire of hellrdquo Matt 522
Concerning Angels
But Michael the archangel when he disputed with the devil and argued about the body of Moses did not dare pronounce against him a railing judgment but said The Lord rebuke you Jude 19
Concerning God
We are not to judge (condemn God) but He does invite us to ask him questions and to reason with Him
Come now let us reason together says the Lord Isaiah 118
If any of you lack wisdom he should ask God who give generously to all without finding fault James 15
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull To whom are you presenting
evidence to
Who is the Judge
Me God Other people Society norm Whose standards are we using Do
we dare say that we have the fullness of Godrsquos knowledge wisdom justice mercy and authority to be in that role
The Father judges no one but has given all judgment to the Son that all may honor the Son just as they honor the Father John 522
For the LORD is our judge the LORD is our lawgiver the LORD is our king he will save us
Isaiah 3322
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where to have the trialbull What evidence I use bull Who or what am I putting on trial
A person a lifetime of behavior or one fixable behavior
bull How I am sifting through the evidence
bull Who is the judge and attorneybull Humility
We can judge a behavior That is wrong and it inflicted pain on me or it is not something God desires
We cannot judge a personrsquos worth identity and character
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
The Seed Trigger Phase (a threat or wound is encountered)bull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
bull Red Alert ldquoIrsquom in dangerrdquo Triggers stress response Fight Flight Freeze or Fawn
Fight Flight Freeze Fawn Response
Fight Stay and fight the danger (Anger)
Flight Run away (FearAnxiety) Freeze Play dead and let danger
blow pass (Depression) Fawn Co-dependency Let me
serve you and join your cause
Fight or Flight Response Is a physiological reaction that
occurs in response to a perceived harmful event attack threat to survival in humans and animals
First described by Walter Bradford Cannon
Animals reacts to threats with a general discharge of the sympathetic nervous system that primes the animal for fighting or fleeing
Adrenal Medulla produces a hormonal cascade resulting in secretion of adrenaline and noradrenaline (epinephrinenorepinephrine)
Effects of AdrenalineNoradrenaline
Acceleration of heart and lung action
Inhibition of digestive system
Constriction of blood vessels to shunt blood to heart lungs and muscles
Auditory exclusion (hearing loss)
Dilation of pupils to see with increased clarity but with tunnel vision (loss of peripheral vision)
Increased blood pressure heart rate blood sugar and fats to supply muscles with more energy (chronic triggers sets one up for heart disease high blood pressure diabetes etc)
Speeds up blood clotting function to prevent excess blood loss (can contribute to lsquostickiness of blood and strokes)
Increased perspiration to prevent over-heating due to increased metabolism
The physiological response and serge of energy that one has as a result of the fightflight response been triggered is in and of itself not a sin
All the other phases are up for scrutiny
Anger is not sinful God gets angry Jesus got angry
Mark 35 Matthew 2112-13 Mark 1115-18 John 213-22
Anger in and of itself it is not sinful but bitterness dwelling (meditation) in anger is
Be ANGRY (orgizo provoked aroused to anger) and yet DO NOT SIN do not let the sun go down on your ANGER (parorgismos bitterness exasperation indignation wrath)
Eph 426
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Gathering of evidence and
presentation of the evidence before the court judge of me myself and I (Though we can hold a trial before a third party we usually have done it in our heads already)
Germination of the SeedDevelopment of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge (usually of me myself
and I) render a judgment of guilt of the accused the sentencedebt owed
Sprouting Phase (the first visible sign of anger) Choice Phase One chooses a reaction pathway to fight Open aggression Passive aggression Suppressed aggression Digressive aggression
Growth phase Reaction and Expression Phase bull Various modalities of
ldquofightingrdquo is expressedbull Reaction by the accused
can cause more retaliation and provide additional evidencenutrients
Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the
wound offense and roots due to unforgiveness or retaliation
bull Greater expression of the discontent
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Disclaimer
These are illustrative understanding of anger
I will attempt to show you pitfalls and where the doors to the enemy and root issues might be
It is not meant to be exhaustive to do list but to show you the power and freedom of choice
I do not claim understand the fullness of Godrsquos or human anger
The Seed Trigger Phasebull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
Pitfall We assume that the world should be like us which would be reasonable if we were all defined by God But the world we live in now is define by self--relativism that onersquos needs and convictions is different than others
Questions for the Trigger Phase Who is defining my worth
(safeguard this and reserve it only for God)
Am I jumping to conclusions about a personrsquos motivation
Do I have a hypersensitivity due to past wounds
Questions for the Trigger Phase Is the other person aware that a
violation had occurred Is the other person aware of my convictions
Can I accept differences in the convictions Accept the other person as is--different
Is the other person aware of my needs
Are my expectations reasonable
Reasonable Expectations are
Realized (Am I even aware that I have expectations and what they are)
Realistic (Is the expectation executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (expectation Agreed Upon)
The Seed Trigger Phasebull To not assume what is known
and right for me is known to the other person
bull God as source of worth identity Ultimately God is the source of fulfilling needs and the other person is all but human
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Choice of evidence source
VS VS
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where is the evidence been
presentedbull Who gets to present evidence
Is the Trial Fair Where is the trial taking place
Usually in our heads Does the defense even have a chance to present a plead
Is it a one sided argument and presentation of evidence Do you really have all the evidence
Are you retrying old evidence and old verdicts Stacking up condemning evidence
bull Exasperationbull Identity vs
behavior
Who can be the defense attorney
Is the accused allowed to have Jesus as the attorney
This means allowing yourself to see the person through Jesusrsquo eyes
Perhaps letting Him plead a case of mercy
ldquoChrist redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us for it is written ldquoCursed is everyone who is hung on a polerdquo (Gal 313)
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull What are you doing with the
evidence
Judging Anakrino ἀνακρίνω (Strongrsquos
G350)
examine or judge to investigate examine enquire into
scrutinise sift question specifically in a forensic sense of a judge to
hold an investigation to interrogate examine the accused or
witnesses to judge of estimate determine (the
excellence or defects of any person or thing)
(1 Cor 215 43 44 1424)
But he that is spiritual judgeth (anakrino) all things yet he himself is judged (anakrino) of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ 1 Cor 215-6
But he that is spiritual investigates examines inquires scrutinizes questions all things yet he himself determines (is determined by) the excellence or defects of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ
Krinō κρίνω (Strongrsquos G2919)
to separate select choose approve prefer to be of opinion determine to pronounce an opinion concerning right and wrong pronounce judgment to rulegovernpreside over with the power of giving judicial decisions to contend have suite at law go to law
Do ye not know that the saints shall judge (krino) the world and if the world shall be judged (krino) by you are ye unworthy to judge (kritērion) the smallest matters 1 Cor 62
Krinō comes with guidelines I can of mine own self do nothing
as I hear I judge and my judgment is just because I seek not mine own will but the will of the Father which hath sent me (Jesus in John 530)
We must have our will in submission to Godrsquos will and purposes Humility before God and men
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose And when he had looked round
about on them with anger being grieved for the hardness of their hearts he saith unto the man Stretch forth thine hand And he stretched it out and his hand was restored whole as the other Mark 35
And they were bringing unto him little children that he should touch them and the disciples rebuked them But when Jesus saw it he was moved with indignation and said unto them ldquoSuffer the little children to come unto me forbid them not for to such belongeth the kingdom of Godrdquo Mark 1013-4
Godrsquos Restorative purpose And the Passover of the Jews was at
hand and Jesus went up to Jerusalem And he found in the temple those that sold oxen and sheep and doves and the changers of money sitting and he made a scourge of cords and cast all out of the temple both the sheep and the oxen and he poured out the changers money and overthrew their tables and to them that sold the doves he said Take these things hence make not my Fathers house a house of merchandise His disciples remembered that it was written Zeal for thy house shall eat me up John213-7
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another Forgive as the Lord forgave youput on love which binds them all together in perfect unityrdquo Col 312-4
We should not base judgments on malicious lies or evil misrepresetations Speak not evil one of another
brethren He that speaketh evil of his brother and judgeth his brother speaketh evil of the law and judgeth the law but if thou judge the law thou art not a doer of the law but a judge There is one lawgiver who is able to save and to destroy who art thou that judgest another James 411-2
You shall not spread a false report You shall not join hands with a wicked man to be a malicious witness You shall not fall in with the many to do evil nor shall you bear witness in a lawsuit siding with the many so as to pervert justice nor shall you be partial to a poor man in his lawsuit Exodus 231-2
There are six things that the LORD strongly dislikes seven that are an abomination to him haughty eyes a lying tongue and hands that shed innocent blood a heart that devises wicked plans feet that make haste to run to evil a false witness who breathes out lies and one who sows discord among brothers Prov 616-19
ldquoYe judge after the flesh I judge no man And yet if I judge my judgment is true for I am not alone but I and the Father that sent merdquo (Jesus in John 815-6)
Judge not according to the appearance but judge righteous judgment John 724
Judge via Godrsquos standards not by appearances (evidence that we gathered) Also James 41-2
We must not be hypocrites when judging others for we are judged by our own standards Judge not and ye shall not be
judged condemn not and ye shall not be condemned forgive and ye shall be forgiven Luke 637
Matt 71-5 Luke 637-42 Romans 21-5 Romans 220-23 2 Sam 121-7
We are not to judge others regarding legalistic adherence to ordinances (holidays observances what to eat etc) for such are matters of faith Romans 141-23 2 Cor 87-13
Colossians 216-23 Romans 821 1 Cor 1023 Romans 45 23 Romans 1413 Romans 932 1 Cor 89 Galatians 51 13
We should not judge anyonersquos eternal destiny eternal worth and identity Therefore do not pronounce
judgment before the time before the Lord comes who will bring to light the things now hidden in darkness and will disclose the purposes of the heart Then each one will receive his commendation from God 1 Corinthians 45
Jesus said ldquoBut I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment Again anyone who says to his brother Raca is answerable to the Sanhedrin But anyone who says You fool will be in danger of the fire of hellrdquo Matt 522
Concerning Angels
But Michael the archangel when he disputed with the devil and argued about the body of Moses did not dare pronounce against him a railing judgment but said The Lord rebuke you Jude 19
Concerning God
We are not to judge (condemn God) but He does invite us to ask him questions and to reason with Him
Come now let us reason together says the Lord Isaiah 118
If any of you lack wisdom he should ask God who give generously to all without finding fault James 15
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull To whom are you presenting
evidence to
Who is the Judge
Me God Other people Society norm Whose standards are we using Do
we dare say that we have the fullness of Godrsquos knowledge wisdom justice mercy and authority to be in that role
The Father judges no one but has given all judgment to the Son that all may honor the Son just as they honor the Father John 522
For the LORD is our judge the LORD is our lawgiver the LORD is our king he will save us
Isaiah 3322
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where to have the trialbull What evidence I use bull Who or what am I putting on trial
A person a lifetime of behavior or one fixable behavior
bull How I am sifting through the evidence
bull Who is the judge and attorneybull Humility
We can judge a behavior That is wrong and it inflicted pain on me or it is not something God desires
We cannot judge a personrsquos worth identity and character
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Fight Flight Freeze Fawn Response
Fight Stay and fight the danger (Anger)
Flight Run away (FearAnxiety) Freeze Play dead and let danger
blow pass (Depression) Fawn Co-dependency Let me
serve you and join your cause
Fight or Flight Response Is a physiological reaction that
occurs in response to a perceived harmful event attack threat to survival in humans and animals
First described by Walter Bradford Cannon
Animals reacts to threats with a general discharge of the sympathetic nervous system that primes the animal for fighting or fleeing
Adrenal Medulla produces a hormonal cascade resulting in secretion of adrenaline and noradrenaline (epinephrinenorepinephrine)
Effects of AdrenalineNoradrenaline
Acceleration of heart and lung action
Inhibition of digestive system
Constriction of blood vessels to shunt blood to heart lungs and muscles
Auditory exclusion (hearing loss)
Dilation of pupils to see with increased clarity but with tunnel vision (loss of peripheral vision)
Increased blood pressure heart rate blood sugar and fats to supply muscles with more energy (chronic triggers sets one up for heart disease high blood pressure diabetes etc)
Speeds up blood clotting function to prevent excess blood loss (can contribute to lsquostickiness of blood and strokes)
Increased perspiration to prevent over-heating due to increased metabolism
The physiological response and serge of energy that one has as a result of the fightflight response been triggered is in and of itself not a sin
All the other phases are up for scrutiny
Anger is not sinful God gets angry Jesus got angry
Mark 35 Matthew 2112-13 Mark 1115-18 John 213-22
Anger in and of itself it is not sinful but bitterness dwelling (meditation) in anger is
Be ANGRY (orgizo provoked aroused to anger) and yet DO NOT SIN do not let the sun go down on your ANGER (parorgismos bitterness exasperation indignation wrath)
Eph 426
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Gathering of evidence and
presentation of the evidence before the court judge of me myself and I (Though we can hold a trial before a third party we usually have done it in our heads already)
Germination of the SeedDevelopment of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge (usually of me myself
and I) render a judgment of guilt of the accused the sentencedebt owed
Sprouting Phase (the first visible sign of anger) Choice Phase One chooses a reaction pathway to fight Open aggression Passive aggression Suppressed aggression Digressive aggression
Growth phase Reaction and Expression Phase bull Various modalities of
ldquofightingrdquo is expressedbull Reaction by the accused
can cause more retaliation and provide additional evidencenutrients
Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the
wound offense and roots due to unforgiveness or retaliation
bull Greater expression of the discontent
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Disclaimer
These are illustrative understanding of anger
I will attempt to show you pitfalls and where the doors to the enemy and root issues might be
It is not meant to be exhaustive to do list but to show you the power and freedom of choice
I do not claim understand the fullness of Godrsquos or human anger
The Seed Trigger Phasebull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
Pitfall We assume that the world should be like us which would be reasonable if we were all defined by God But the world we live in now is define by self--relativism that onersquos needs and convictions is different than others
Questions for the Trigger Phase Who is defining my worth
(safeguard this and reserve it only for God)
Am I jumping to conclusions about a personrsquos motivation
Do I have a hypersensitivity due to past wounds
Questions for the Trigger Phase Is the other person aware that a
violation had occurred Is the other person aware of my convictions
Can I accept differences in the convictions Accept the other person as is--different
Is the other person aware of my needs
Are my expectations reasonable
Reasonable Expectations are
Realized (Am I even aware that I have expectations and what they are)
Realistic (Is the expectation executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (expectation Agreed Upon)
The Seed Trigger Phasebull To not assume what is known
and right for me is known to the other person
bull God as source of worth identity Ultimately God is the source of fulfilling needs and the other person is all but human
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Choice of evidence source
VS VS
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where is the evidence been
presentedbull Who gets to present evidence
Is the Trial Fair Where is the trial taking place
Usually in our heads Does the defense even have a chance to present a plead
Is it a one sided argument and presentation of evidence Do you really have all the evidence
Are you retrying old evidence and old verdicts Stacking up condemning evidence
bull Exasperationbull Identity vs
behavior
Who can be the defense attorney
Is the accused allowed to have Jesus as the attorney
This means allowing yourself to see the person through Jesusrsquo eyes
Perhaps letting Him plead a case of mercy
ldquoChrist redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us for it is written ldquoCursed is everyone who is hung on a polerdquo (Gal 313)
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull What are you doing with the
evidence
Judging Anakrino ἀνακρίνω (Strongrsquos
G350)
examine or judge to investigate examine enquire into
scrutinise sift question specifically in a forensic sense of a judge to
hold an investigation to interrogate examine the accused or
witnesses to judge of estimate determine (the
excellence or defects of any person or thing)
(1 Cor 215 43 44 1424)
But he that is spiritual judgeth (anakrino) all things yet he himself is judged (anakrino) of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ 1 Cor 215-6
But he that is spiritual investigates examines inquires scrutinizes questions all things yet he himself determines (is determined by) the excellence or defects of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ
Krinō κρίνω (Strongrsquos G2919)
to separate select choose approve prefer to be of opinion determine to pronounce an opinion concerning right and wrong pronounce judgment to rulegovernpreside over with the power of giving judicial decisions to contend have suite at law go to law
Do ye not know that the saints shall judge (krino) the world and if the world shall be judged (krino) by you are ye unworthy to judge (kritērion) the smallest matters 1 Cor 62
Krinō comes with guidelines I can of mine own self do nothing
as I hear I judge and my judgment is just because I seek not mine own will but the will of the Father which hath sent me (Jesus in John 530)
We must have our will in submission to Godrsquos will and purposes Humility before God and men
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose And when he had looked round
about on them with anger being grieved for the hardness of their hearts he saith unto the man Stretch forth thine hand And he stretched it out and his hand was restored whole as the other Mark 35
And they were bringing unto him little children that he should touch them and the disciples rebuked them But when Jesus saw it he was moved with indignation and said unto them ldquoSuffer the little children to come unto me forbid them not for to such belongeth the kingdom of Godrdquo Mark 1013-4
Godrsquos Restorative purpose And the Passover of the Jews was at
hand and Jesus went up to Jerusalem And he found in the temple those that sold oxen and sheep and doves and the changers of money sitting and he made a scourge of cords and cast all out of the temple both the sheep and the oxen and he poured out the changers money and overthrew their tables and to them that sold the doves he said Take these things hence make not my Fathers house a house of merchandise His disciples remembered that it was written Zeal for thy house shall eat me up John213-7
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another Forgive as the Lord forgave youput on love which binds them all together in perfect unityrdquo Col 312-4
We should not base judgments on malicious lies or evil misrepresetations Speak not evil one of another
brethren He that speaketh evil of his brother and judgeth his brother speaketh evil of the law and judgeth the law but if thou judge the law thou art not a doer of the law but a judge There is one lawgiver who is able to save and to destroy who art thou that judgest another James 411-2
You shall not spread a false report You shall not join hands with a wicked man to be a malicious witness You shall not fall in with the many to do evil nor shall you bear witness in a lawsuit siding with the many so as to pervert justice nor shall you be partial to a poor man in his lawsuit Exodus 231-2
There are six things that the LORD strongly dislikes seven that are an abomination to him haughty eyes a lying tongue and hands that shed innocent blood a heart that devises wicked plans feet that make haste to run to evil a false witness who breathes out lies and one who sows discord among brothers Prov 616-19
ldquoYe judge after the flesh I judge no man And yet if I judge my judgment is true for I am not alone but I and the Father that sent merdquo (Jesus in John 815-6)
Judge not according to the appearance but judge righteous judgment John 724
Judge via Godrsquos standards not by appearances (evidence that we gathered) Also James 41-2
We must not be hypocrites when judging others for we are judged by our own standards Judge not and ye shall not be
judged condemn not and ye shall not be condemned forgive and ye shall be forgiven Luke 637
Matt 71-5 Luke 637-42 Romans 21-5 Romans 220-23 2 Sam 121-7
We are not to judge others regarding legalistic adherence to ordinances (holidays observances what to eat etc) for such are matters of faith Romans 141-23 2 Cor 87-13
Colossians 216-23 Romans 821 1 Cor 1023 Romans 45 23 Romans 1413 Romans 932 1 Cor 89 Galatians 51 13
We should not judge anyonersquos eternal destiny eternal worth and identity Therefore do not pronounce
judgment before the time before the Lord comes who will bring to light the things now hidden in darkness and will disclose the purposes of the heart Then each one will receive his commendation from God 1 Corinthians 45
Jesus said ldquoBut I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment Again anyone who says to his brother Raca is answerable to the Sanhedrin But anyone who says You fool will be in danger of the fire of hellrdquo Matt 522
Concerning Angels
But Michael the archangel when he disputed with the devil and argued about the body of Moses did not dare pronounce against him a railing judgment but said The Lord rebuke you Jude 19
Concerning God
We are not to judge (condemn God) but He does invite us to ask him questions and to reason with Him
Come now let us reason together says the Lord Isaiah 118
If any of you lack wisdom he should ask God who give generously to all without finding fault James 15
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull To whom are you presenting
evidence to
Who is the Judge
Me God Other people Society norm Whose standards are we using Do
we dare say that we have the fullness of Godrsquos knowledge wisdom justice mercy and authority to be in that role
The Father judges no one but has given all judgment to the Son that all may honor the Son just as they honor the Father John 522
For the LORD is our judge the LORD is our lawgiver the LORD is our king he will save us
Isaiah 3322
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where to have the trialbull What evidence I use bull Who or what am I putting on trial
A person a lifetime of behavior or one fixable behavior
bull How I am sifting through the evidence
bull Who is the judge and attorneybull Humility
We can judge a behavior That is wrong and it inflicted pain on me or it is not something God desires
We cannot judge a personrsquos worth identity and character
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Fight or Flight Response Is a physiological reaction that
occurs in response to a perceived harmful event attack threat to survival in humans and animals
First described by Walter Bradford Cannon
Animals reacts to threats with a general discharge of the sympathetic nervous system that primes the animal for fighting or fleeing
Adrenal Medulla produces a hormonal cascade resulting in secretion of adrenaline and noradrenaline (epinephrinenorepinephrine)
Effects of AdrenalineNoradrenaline
Acceleration of heart and lung action
Inhibition of digestive system
Constriction of blood vessels to shunt blood to heart lungs and muscles
Auditory exclusion (hearing loss)
Dilation of pupils to see with increased clarity but with tunnel vision (loss of peripheral vision)
Increased blood pressure heart rate blood sugar and fats to supply muscles with more energy (chronic triggers sets one up for heart disease high blood pressure diabetes etc)
Speeds up blood clotting function to prevent excess blood loss (can contribute to lsquostickiness of blood and strokes)
Increased perspiration to prevent over-heating due to increased metabolism
The physiological response and serge of energy that one has as a result of the fightflight response been triggered is in and of itself not a sin
All the other phases are up for scrutiny
Anger is not sinful God gets angry Jesus got angry
Mark 35 Matthew 2112-13 Mark 1115-18 John 213-22
Anger in and of itself it is not sinful but bitterness dwelling (meditation) in anger is
Be ANGRY (orgizo provoked aroused to anger) and yet DO NOT SIN do not let the sun go down on your ANGER (parorgismos bitterness exasperation indignation wrath)
Eph 426
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Gathering of evidence and
presentation of the evidence before the court judge of me myself and I (Though we can hold a trial before a third party we usually have done it in our heads already)
Germination of the SeedDevelopment of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge (usually of me myself
and I) render a judgment of guilt of the accused the sentencedebt owed
Sprouting Phase (the first visible sign of anger) Choice Phase One chooses a reaction pathway to fight Open aggression Passive aggression Suppressed aggression Digressive aggression
Growth phase Reaction and Expression Phase bull Various modalities of
ldquofightingrdquo is expressedbull Reaction by the accused
can cause more retaliation and provide additional evidencenutrients
Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the
wound offense and roots due to unforgiveness or retaliation
bull Greater expression of the discontent
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Disclaimer
These are illustrative understanding of anger
I will attempt to show you pitfalls and where the doors to the enemy and root issues might be
It is not meant to be exhaustive to do list but to show you the power and freedom of choice
I do not claim understand the fullness of Godrsquos or human anger
The Seed Trigger Phasebull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
Pitfall We assume that the world should be like us which would be reasonable if we were all defined by God But the world we live in now is define by self--relativism that onersquos needs and convictions is different than others
Questions for the Trigger Phase Who is defining my worth
(safeguard this and reserve it only for God)
Am I jumping to conclusions about a personrsquos motivation
Do I have a hypersensitivity due to past wounds
Questions for the Trigger Phase Is the other person aware that a
violation had occurred Is the other person aware of my convictions
Can I accept differences in the convictions Accept the other person as is--different
Is the other person aware of my needs
Are my expectations reasonable
Reasonable Expectations are
Realized (Am I even aware that I have expectations and what they are)
Realistic (Is the expectation executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (expectation Agreed Upon)
The Seed Trigger Phasebull To not assume what is known
and right for me is known to the other person
bull God as source of worth identity Ultimately God is the source of fulfilling needs and the other person is all but human
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Choice of evidence source
VS VS
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where is the evidence been
presentedbull Who gets to present evidence
Is the Trial Fair Where is the trial taking place
Usually in our heads Does the defense even have a chance to present a plead
Is it a one sided argument and presentation of evidence Do you really have all the evidence
Are you retrying old evidence and old verdicts Stacking up condemning evidence
bull Exasperationbull Identity vs
behavior
Who can be the defense attorney
Is the accused allowed to have Jesus as the attorney
This means allowing yourself to see the person through Jesusrsquo eyes
Perhaps letting Him plead a case of mercy
ldquoChrist redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us for it is written ldquoCursed is everyone who is hung on a polerdquo (Gal 313)
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull What are you doing with the
evidence
Judging Anakrino ἀνακρίνω (Strongrsquos
G350)
examine or judge to investigate examine enquire into
scrutinise sift question specifically in a forensic sense of a judge to
hold an investigation to interrogate examine the accused or
witnesses to judge of estimate determine (the
excellence or defects of any person or thing)
(1 Cor 215 43 44 1424)
But he that is spiritual judgeth (anakrino) all things yet he himself is judged (anakrino) of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ 1 Cor 215-6
But he that is spiritual investigates examines inquires scrutinizes questions all things yet he himself determines (is determined by) the excellence or defects of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ
Krinō κρίνω (Strongrsquos G2919)
to separate select choose approve prefer to be of opinion determine to pronounce an opinion concerning right and wrong pronounce judgment to rulegovernpreside over with the power of giving judicial decisions to contend have suite at law go to law
Do ye not know that the saints shall judge (krino) the world and if the world shall be judged (krino) by you are ye unworthy to judge (kritērion) the smallest matters 1 Cor 62
Krinō comes with guidelines I can of mine own self do nothing
as I hear I judge and my judgment is just because I seek not mine own will but the will of the Father which hath sent me (Jesus in John 530)
We must have our will in submission to Godrsquos will and purposes Humility before God and men
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose And when he had looked round
about on them with anger being grieved for the hardness of their hearts he saith unto the man Stretch forth thine hand And he stretched it out and his hand was restored whole as the other Mark 35
And they were bringing unto him little children that he should touch them and the disciples rebuked them But when Jesus saw it he was moved with indignation and said unto them ldquoSuffer the little children to come unto me forbid them not for to such belongeth the kingdom of Godrdquo Mark 1013-4
Godrsquos Restorative purpose And the Passover of the Jews was at
hand and Jesus went up to Jerusalem And he found in the temple those that sold oxen and sheep and doves and the changers of money sitting and he made a scourge of cords and cast all out of the temple both the sheep and the oxen and he poured out the changers money and overthrew their tables and to them that sold the doves he said Take these things hence make not my Fathers house a house of merchandise His disciples remembered that it was written Zeal for thy house shall eat me up John213-7
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another Forgive as the Lord forgave youput on love which binds them all together in perfect unityrdquo Col 312-4
We should not base judgments on malicious lies or evil misrepresetations Speak not evil one of another
brethren He that speaketh evil of his brother and judgeth his brother speaketh evil of the law and judgeth the law but if thou judge the law thou art not a doer of the law but a judge There is one lawgiver who is able to save and to destroy who art thou that judgest another James 411-2
You shall not spread a false report You shall not join hands with a wicked man to be a malicious witness You shall not fall in with the many to do evil nor shall you bear witness in a lawsuit siding with the many so as to pervert justice nor shall you be partial to a poor man in his lawsuit Exodus 231-2
There are six things that the LORD strongly dislikes seven that are an abomination to him haughty eyes a lying tongue and hands that shed innocent blood a heart that devises wicked plans feet that make haste to run to evil a false witness who breathes out lies and one who sows discord among brothers Prov 616-19
ldquoYe judge after the flesh I judge no man And yet if I judge my judgment is true for I am not alone but I and the Father that sent merdquo (Jesus in John 815-6)
Judge not according to the appearance but judge righteous judgment John 724
Judge via Godrsquos standards not by appearances (evidence that we gathered) Also James 41-2
We must not be hypocrites when judging others for we are judged by our own standards Judge not and ye shall not be
judged condemn not and ye shall not be condemned forgive and ye shall be forgiven Luke 637
Matt 71-5 Luke 637-42 Romans 21-5 Romans 220-23 2 Sam 121-7
We are not to judge others regarding legalistic adherence to ordinances (holidays observances what to eat etc) for such are matters of faith Romans 141-23 2 Cor 87-13
Colossians 216-23 Romans 821 1 Cor 1023 Romans 45 23 Romans 1413 Romans 932 1 Cor 89 Galatians 51 13
We should not judge anyonersquos eternal destiny eternal worth and identity Therefore do not pronounce
judgment before the time before the Lord comes who will bring to light the things now hidden in darkness and will disclose the purposes of the heart Then each one will receive his commendation from God 1 Corinthians 45
Jesus said ldquoBut I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment Again anyone who says to his brother Raca is answerable to the Sanhedrin But anyone who says You fool will be in danger of the fire of hellrdquo Matt 522
Concerning Angels
But Michael the archangel when he disputed with the devil and argued about the body of Moses did not dare pronounce against him a railing judgment but said The Lord rebuke you Jude 19
Concerning God
We are not to judge (condemn God) but He does invite us to ask him questions and to reason with Him
Come now let us reason together says the Lord Isaiah 118
If any of you lack wisdom he should ask God who give generously to all without finding fault James 15
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull To whom are you presenting
evidence to
Who is the Judge
Me God Other people Society norm Whose standards are we using Do
we dare say that we have the fullness of Godrsquos knowledge wisdom justice mercy and authority to be in that role
The Father judges no one but has given all judgment to the Son that all may honor the Son just as they honor the Father John 522
For the LORD is our judge the LORD is our lawgiver the LORD is our king he will save us
Isaiah 3322
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where to have the trialbull What evidence I use bull Who or what am I putting on trial
A person a lifetime of behavior or one fixable behavior
bull How I am sifting through the evidence
bull Who is the judge and attorneybull Humility
We can judge a behavior That is wrong and it inflicted pain on me or it is not something God desires
We cannot judge a personrsquos worth identity and character
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Effects of AdrenalineNoradrenaline
Acceleration of heart and lung action
Inhibition of digestive system
Constriction of blood vessels to shunt blood to heart lungs and muscles
Auditory exclusion (hearing loss)
Dilation of pupils to see with increased clarity but with tunnel vision (loss of peripheral vision)
Increased blood pressure heart rate blood sugar and fats to supply muscles with more energy (chronic triggers sets one up for heart disease high blood pressure diabetes etc)
Speeds up blood clotting function to prevent excess blood loss (can contribute to lsquostickiness of blood and strokes)
Increased perspiration to prevent over-heating due to increased metabolism
The physiological response and serge of energy that one has as a result of the fightflight response been triggered is in and of itself not a sin
All the other phases are up for scrutiny
Anger is not sinful God gets angry Jesus got angry
Mark 35 Matthew 2112-13 Mark 1115-18 John 213-22
Anger in and of itself it is not sinful but bitterness dwelling (meditation) in anger is
Be ANGRY (orgizo provoked aroused to anger) and yet DO NOT SIN do not let the sun go down on your ANGER (parorgismos bitterness exasperation indignation wrath)
Eph 426
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Gathering of evidence and
presentation of the evidence before the court judge of me myself and I (Though we can hold a trial before a third party we usually have done it in our heads already)
Germination of the SeedDevelopment of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge (usually of me myself
and I) render a judgment of guilt of the accused the sentencedebt owed
Sprouting Phase (the first visible sign of anger) Choice Phase One chooses a reaction pathway to fight Open aggression Passive aggression Suppressed aggression Digressive aggression
Growth phase Reaction and Expression Phase bull Various modalities of
ldquofightingrdquo is expressedbull Reaction by the accused
can cause more retaliation and provide additional evidencenutrients
Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the
wound offense and roots due to unforgiveness or retaliation
bull Greater expression of the discontent
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Disclaimer
These are illustrative understanding of anger
I will attempt to show you pitfalls and where the doors to the enemy and root issues might be
It is not meant to be exhaustive to do list but to show you the power and freedom of choice
I do not claim understand the fullness of Godrsquos or human anger
The Seed Trigger Phasebull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
Pitfall We assume that the world should be like us which would be reasonable if we were all defined by God But the world we live in now is define by self--relativism that onersquos needs and convictions is different than others
Questions for the Trigger Phase Who is defining my worth
(safeguard this and reserve it only for God)
Am I jumping to conclusions about a personrsquos motivation
Do I have a hypersensitivity due to past wounds
Questions for the Trigger Phase Is the other person aware that a
violation had occurred Is the other person aware of my convictions
Can I accept differences in the convictions Accept the other person as is--different
Is the other person aware of my needs
Are my expectations reasonable
Reasonable Expectations are
Realized (Am I even aware that I have expectations and what they are)
Realistic (Is the expectation executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (expectation Agreed Upon)
The Seed Trigger Phasebull To not assume what is known
and right for me is known to the other person
bull God as source of worth identity Ultimately God is the source of fulfilling needs and the other person is all but human
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Choice of evidence source
VS VS
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where is the evidence been
presentedbull Who gets to present evidence
Is the Trial Fair Where is the trial taking place
Usually in our heads Does the defense even have a chance to present a plead
Is it a one sided argument and presentation of evidence Do you really have all the evidence
Are you retrying old evidence and old verdicts Stacking up condemning evidence
bull Exasperationbull Identity vs
behavior
Who can be the defense attorney
Is the accused allowed to have Jesus as the attorney
This means allowing yourself to see the person through Jesusrsquo eyes
Perhaps letting Him plead a case of mercy
ldquoChrist redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us for it is written ldquoCursed is everyone who is hung on a polerdquo (Gal 313)
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull What are you doing with the
evidence
Judging Anakrino ἀνακρίνω (Strongrsquos
G350)
examine or judge to investigate examine enquire into
scrutinise sift question specifically in a forensic sense of a judge to
hold an investigation to interrogate examine the accused or
witnesses to judge of estimate determine (the
excellence or defects of any person or thing)
(1 Cor 215 43 44 1424)
But he that is spiritual judgeth (anakrino) all things yet he himself is judged (anakrino) of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ 1 Cor 215-6
But he that is spiritual investigates examines inquires scrutinizes questions all things yet he himself determines (is determined by) the excellence or defects of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ
Krinō κρίνω (Strongrsquos G2919)
to separate select choose approve prefer to be of opinion determine to pronounce an opinion concerning right and wrong pronounce judgment to rulegovernpreside over with the power of giving judicial decisions to contend have suite at law go to law
Do ye not know that the saints shall judge (krino) the world and if the world shall be judged (krino) by you are ye unworthy to judge (kritērion) the smallest matters 1 Cor 62
Krinō comes with guidelines I can of mine own self do nothing
as I hear I judge and my judgment is just because I seek not mine own will but the will of the Father which hath sent me (Jesus in John 530)
We must have our will in submission to Godrsquos will and purposes Humility before God and men
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose And when he had looked round
about on them with anger being grieved for the hardness of their hearts he saith unto the man Stretch forth thine hand And he stretched it out and his hand was restored whole as the other Mark 35
And they were bringing unto him little children that he should touch them and the disciples rebuked them But when Jesus saw it he was moved with indignation and said unto them ldquoSuffer the little children to come unto me forbid them not for to such belongeth the kingdom of Godrdquo Mark 1013-4
Godrsquos Restorative purpose And the Passover of the Jews was at
hand and Jesus went up to Jerusalem And he found in the temple those that sold oxen and sheep and doves and the changers of money sitting and he made a scourge of cords and cast all out of the temple both the sheep and the oxen and he poured out the changers money and overthrew their tables and to them that sold the doves he said Take these things hence make not my Fathers house a house of merchandise His disciples remembered that it was written Zeal for thy house shall eat me up John213-7
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another Forgive as the Lord forgave youput on love which binds them all together in perfect unityrdquo Col 312-4
We should not base judgments on malicious lies or evil misrepresetations Speak not evil one of another
brethren He that speaketh evil of his brother and judgeth his brother speaketh evil of the law and judgeth the law but if thou judge the law thou art not a doer of the law but a judge There is one lawgiver who is able to save and to destroy who art thou that judgest another James 411-2
You shall not spread a false report You shall not join hands with a wicked man to be a malicious witness You shall not fall in with the many to do evil nor shall you bear witness in a lawsuit siding with the many so as to pervert justice nor shall you be partial to a poor man in his lawsuit Exodus 231-2
There are six things that the LORD strongly dislikes seven that are an abomination to him haughty eyes a lying tongue and hands that shed innocent blood a heart that devises wicked plans feet that make haste to run to evil a false witness who breathes out lies and one who sows discord among brothers Prov 616-19
ldquoYe judge after the flesh I judge no man And yet if I judge my judgment is true for I am not alone but I and the Father that sent merdquo (Jesus in John 815-6)
Judge not according to the appearance but judge righteous judgment John 724
Judge via Godrsquos standards not by appearances (evidence that we gathered) Also James 41-2
We must not be hypocrites when judging others for we are judged by our own standards Judge not and ye shall not be
judged condemn not and ye shall not be condemned forgive and ye shall be forgiven Luke 637
Matt 71-5 Luke 637-42 Romans 21-5 Romans 220-23 2 Sam 121-7
We are not to judge others regarding legalistic adherence to ordinances (holidays observances what to eat etc) for such are matters of faith Romans 141-23 2 Cor 87-13
Colossians 216-23 Romans 821 1 Cor 1023 Romans 45 23 Romans 1413 Romans 932 1 Cor 89 Galatians 51 13
We should not judge anyonersquos eternal destiny eternal worth and identity Therefore do not pronounce
judgment before the time before the Lord comes who will bring to light the things now hidden in darkness and will disclose the purposes of the heart Then each one will receive his commendation from God 1 Corinthians 45
Jesus said ldquoBut I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment Again anyone who says to his brother Raca is answerable to the Sanhedrin But anyone who says You fool will be in danger of the fire of hellrdquo Matt 522
Concerning Angels
But Michael the archangel when he disputed with the devil and argued about the body of Moses did not dare pronounce against him a railing judgment but said The Lord rebuke you Jude 19
Concerning God
We are not to judge (condemn God) but He does invite us to ask him questions and to reason with Him
Come now let us reason together says the Lord Isaiah 118
If any of you lack wisdom he should ask God who give generously to all without finding fault James 15
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull To whom are you presenting
evidence to
Who is the Judge
Me God Other people Society norm Whose standards are we using Do
we dare say that we have the fullness of Godrsquos knowledge wisdom justice mercy and authority to be in that role
The Father judges no one but has given all judgment to the Son that all may honor the Son just as they honor the Father John 522
For the LORD is our judge the LORD is our lawgiver the LORD is our king he will save us
Isaiah 3322
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where to have the trialbull What evidence I use bull Who or what am I putting on trial
A person a lifetime of behavior or one fixable behavior
bull How I am sifting through the evidence
bull Who is the judge and attorneybull Humility
We can judge a behavior That is wrong and it inflicted pain on me or it is not something God desires
We cannot judge a personrsquos worth identity and character
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Increased blood pressure heart rate blood sugar and fats to supply muscles with more energy (chronic triggers sets one up for heart disease high blood pressure diabetes etc)
Speeds up blood clotting function to prevent excess blood loss (can contribute to lsquostickiness of blood and strokes)
Increased perspiration to prevent over-heating due to increased metabolism
The physiological response and serge of energy that one has as a result of the fightflight response been triggered is in and of itself not a sin
All the other phases are up for scrutiny
Anger is not sinful God gets angry Jesus got angry
Mark 35 Matthew 2112-13 Mark 1115-18 John 213-22
Anger in and of itself it is not sinful but bitterness dwelling (meditation) in anger is
Be ANGRY (orgizo provoked aroused to anger) and yet DO NOT SIN do not let the sun go down on your ANGER (parorgismos bitterness exasperation indignation wrath)
Eph 426
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Gathering of evidence and
presentation of the evidence before the court judge of me myself and I (Though we can hold a trial before a third party we usually have done it in our heads already)
Germination of the SeedDevelopment of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge (usually of me myself
and I) render a judgment of guilt of the accused the sentencedebt owed
Sprouting Phase (the first visible sign of anger) Choice Phase One chooses a reaction pathway to fight Open aggression Passive aggression Suppressed aggression Digressive aggression
Growth phase Reaction and Expression Phase bull Various modalities of
ldquofightingrdquo is expressedbull Reaction by the accused
can cause more retaliation and provide additional evidencenutrients
Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the
wound offense and roots due to unforgiveness or retaliation
bull Greater expression of the discontent
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Disclaimer
These are illustrative understanding of anger
I will attempt to show you pitfalls and where the doors to the enemy and root issues might be
It is not meant to be exhaustive to do list but to show you the power and freedom of choice
I do not claim understand the fullness of Godrsquos or human anger
The Seed Trigger Phasebull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
Pitfall We assume that the world should be like us which would be reasonable if we were all defined by God But the world we live in now is define by self--relativism that onersquos needs and convictions is different than others
Questions for the Trigger Phase Who is defining my worth
(safeguard this and reserve it only for God)
Am I jumping to conclusions about a personrsquos motivation
Do I have a hypersensitivity due to past wounds
Questions for the Trigger Phase Is the other person aware that a
violation had occurred Is the other person aware of my convictions
Can I accept differences in the convictions Accept the other person as is--different
Is the other person aware of my needs
Are my expectations reasonable
Reasonable Expectations are
Realized (Am I even aware that I have expectations and what they are)
Realistic (Is the expectation executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (expectation Agreed Upon)
The Seed Trigger Phasebull To not assume what is known
and right for me is known to the other person
bull God as source of worth identity Ultimately God is the source of fulfilling needs and the other person is all but human
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Choice of evidence source
VS VS
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where is the evidence been
presentedbull Who gets to present evidence
Is the Trial Fair Where is the trial taking place
Usually in our heads Does the defense even have a chance to present a plead
Is it a one sided argument and presentation of evidence Do you really have all the evidence
Are you retrying old evidence and old verdicts Stacking up condemning evidence
bull Exasperationbull Identity vs
behavior
Who can be the defense attorney
Is the accused allowed to have Jesus as the attorney
This means allowing yourself to see the person through Jesusrsquo eyes
Perhaps letting Him plead a case of mercy
ldquoChrist redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us for it is written ldquoCursed is everyone who is hung on a polerdquo (Gal 313)
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull What are you doing with the
evidence
Judging Anakrino ἀνακρίνω (Strongrsquos
G350)
examine or judge to investigate examine enquire into
scrutinise sift question specifically in a forensic sense of a judge to
hold an investigation to interrogate examine the accused or
witnesses to judge of estimate determine (the
excellence or defects of any person or thing)
(1 Cor 215 43 44 1424)
But he that is spiritual judgeth (anakrino) all things yet he himself is judged (anakrino) of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ 1 Cor 215-6
But he that is spiritual investigates examines inquires scrutinizes questions all things yet he himself determines (is determined by) the excellence or defects of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ
Krinō κρίνω (Strongrsquos G2919)
to separate select choose approve prefer to be of opinion determine to pronounce an opinion concerning right and wrong pronounce judgment to rulegovernpreside over with the power of giving judicial decisions to contend have suite at law go to law
Do ye not know that the saints shall judge (krino) the world and if the world shall be judged (krino) by you are ye unworthy to judge (kritērion) the smallest matters 1 Cor 62
Krinō comes with guidelines I can of mine own self do nothing
as I hear I judge and my judgment is just because I seek not mine own will but the will of the Father which hath sent me (Jesus in John 530)
We must have our will in submission to Godrsquos will and purposes Humility before God and men
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose And when he had looked round
about on them with anger being grieved for the hardness of their hearts he saith unto the man Stretch forth thine hand And he stretched it out and his hand was restored whole as the other Mark 35
And they were bringing unto him little children that he should touch them and the disciples rebuked them But when Jesus saw it he was moved with indignation and said unto them ldquoSuffer the little children to come unto me forbid them not for to such belongeth the kingdom of Godrdquo Mark 1013-4
Godrsquos Restorative purpose And the Passover of the Jews was at
hand and Jesus went up to Jerusalem And he found in the temple those that sold oxen and sheep and doves and the changers of money sitting and he made a scourge of cords and cast all out of the temple both the sheep and the oxen and he poured out the changers money and overthrew their tables and to them that sold the doves he said Take these things hence make not my Fathers house a house of merchandise His disciples remembered that it was written Zeal for thy house shall eat me up John213-7
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another Forgive as the Lord forgave youput on love which binds them all together in perfect unityrdquo Col 312-4
We should not base judgments on malicious lies or evil misrepresetations Speak not evil one of another
brethren He that speaketh evil of his brother and judgeth his brother speaketh evil of the law and judgeth the law but if thou judge the law thou art not a doer of the law but a judge There is one lawgiver who is able to save and to destroy who art thou that judgest another James 411-2
You shall not spread a false report You shall not join hands with a wicked man to be a malicious witness You shall not fall in with the many to do evil nor shall you bear witness in a lawsuit siding with the many so as to pervert justice nor shall you be partial to a poor man in his lawsuit Exodus 231-2
There are six things that the LORD strongly dislikes seven that are an abomination to him haughty eyes a lying tongue and hands that shed innocent blood a heart that devises wicked plans feet that make haste to run to evil a false witness who breathes out lies and one who sows discord among brothers Prov 616-19
ldquoYe judge after the flesh I judge no man And yet if I judge my judgment is true for I am not alone but I and the Father that sent merdquo (Jesus in John 815-6)
Judge not according to the appearance but judge righteous judgment John 724
Judge via Godrsquos standards not by appearances (evidence that we gathered) Also James 41-2
We must not be hypocrites when judging others for we are judged by our own standards Judge not and ye shall not be
judged condemn not and ye shall not be condemned forgive and ye shall be forgiven Luke 637
Matt 71-5 Luke 637-42 Romans 21-5 Romans 220-23 2 Sam 121-7
We are not to judge others regarding legalistic adherence to ordinances (holidays observances what to eat etc) for such are matters of faith Romans 141-23 2 Cor 87-13
Colossians 216-23 Romans 821 1 Cor 1023 Romans 45 23 Romans 1413 Romans 932 1 Cor 89 Galatians 51 13
We should not judge anyonersquos eternal destiny eternal worth and identity Therefore do not pronounce
judgment before the time before the Lord comes who will bring to light the things now hidden in darkness and will disclose the purposes of the heart Then each one will receive his commendation from God 1 Corinthians 45
Jesus said ldquoBut I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment Again anyone who says to his brother Raca is answerable to the Sanhedrin But anyone who says You fool will be in danger of the fire of hellrdquo Matt 522
Concerning Angels
But Michael the archangel when he disputed with the devil and argued about the body of Moses did not dare pronounce against him a railing judgment but said The Lord rebuke you Jude 19
Concerning God
We are not to judge (condemn God) but He does invite us to ask him questions and to reason with Him
Come now let us reason together says the Lord Isaiah 118
If any of you lack wisdom he should ask God who give generously to all without finding fault James 15
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull To whom are you presenting
evidence to
Who is the Judge
Me God Other people Society norm Whose standards are we using Do
we dare say that we have the fullness of Godrsquos knowledge wisdom justice mercy and authority to be in that role
The Father judges no one but has given all judgment to the Son that all may honor the Son just as they honor the Father John 522
For the LORD is our judge the LORD is our lawgiver the LORD is our king he will save us
Isaiah 3322
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where to have the trialbull What evidence I use bull Who or what am I putting on trial
A person a lifetime of behavior or one fixable behavior
bull How I am sifting through the evidence
bull Who is the judge and attorneybull Humility
We can judge a behavior That is wrong and it inflicted pain on me or it is not something God desires
We cannot judge a personrsquos worth identity and character
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
The physiological response and serge of energy that one has as a result of the fightflight response been triggered is in and of itself not a sin
All the other phases are up for scrutiny
Anger is not sinful God gets angry Jesus got angry
Mark 35 Matthew 2112-13 Mark 1115-18 John 213-22
Anger in and of itself it is not sinful but bitterness dwelling (meditation) in anger is
Be ANGRY (orgizo provoked aroused to anger) and yet DO NOT SIN do not let the sun go down on your ANGER (parorgismos bitterness exasperation indignation wrath)
Eph 426
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Gathering of evidence and
presentation of the evidence before the court judge of me myself and I (Though we can hold a trial before a third party we usually have done it in our heads already)
Germination of the SeedDevelopment of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge (usually of me myself
and I) render a judgment of guilt of the accused the sentencedebt owed
Sprouting Phase (the first visible sign of anger) Choice Phase One chooses a reaction pathway to fight Open aggression Passive aggression Suppressed aggression Digressive aggression
Growth phase Reaction and Expression Phase bull Various modalities of
ldquofightingrdquo is expressedbull Reaction by the accused
can cause more retaliation and provide additional evidencenutrients
Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the
wound offense and roots due to unforgiveness or retaliation
bull Greater expression of the discontent
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Disclaimer
These are illustrative understanding of anger
I will attempt to show you pitfalls and where the doors to the enemy and root issues might be
It is not meant to be exhaustive to do list but to show you the power and freedom of choice
I do not claim understand the fullness of Godrsquos or human anger
The Seed Trigger Phasebull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
Pitfall We assume that the world should be like us which would be reasonable if we were all defined by God But the world we live in now is define by self--relativism that onersquos needs and convictions is different than others
Questions for the Trigger Phase Who is defining my worth
(safeguard this and reserve it only for God)
Am I jumping to conclusions about a personrsquos motivation
Do I have a hypersensitivity due to past wounds
Questions for the Trigger Phase Is the other person aware that a
violation had occurred Is the other person aware of my convictions
Can I accept differences in the convictions Accept the other person as is--different
Is the other person aware of my needs
Are my expectations reasonable
Reasonable Expectations are
Realized (Am I even aware that I have expectations and what they are)
Realistic (Is the expectation executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (expectation Agreed Upon)
The Seed Trigger Phasebull To not assume what is known
and right for me is known to the other person
bull God as source of worth identity Ultimately God is the source of fulfilling needs and the other person is all but human
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Choice of evidence source
VS VS
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where is the evidence been
presentedbull Who gets to present evidence
Is the Trial Fair Where is the trial taking place
Usually in our heads Does the defense even have a chance to present a plead
Is it a one sided argument and presentation of evidence Do you really have all the evidence
Are you retrying old evidence and old verdicts Stacking up condemning evidence
bull Exasperationbull Identity vs
behavior
Who can be the defense attorney
Is the accused allowed to have Jesus as the attorney
This means allowing yourself to see the person through Jesusrsquo eyes
Perhaps letting Him plead a case of mercy
ldquoChrist redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us for it is written ldquoCursed is everyone who is hung on a polerdquo (Gal 313)
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull What are you doing with the
evidence
Judging Anakrino ἀνακρίνω (Strongrsquos
G350)
examine or judge to investigate examine enquire into
scrutinise sift question specifically in a forensic sense of a judge to
hold an investigation to interrogate examine the accused or
witnesses to judge of estimate determine (the
excellence or defects of any person or thing)
(1 Cor 215 43 44 1424)
But he that is spiritual judgeth (anakrino) all things yet he himself is judged (anakrino) of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ 1 Cor 215-6
But he that is spiritual investigates examines inquires scrutinizes questions all things yet he himself determines (is determined by) the excellence or defects of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ
Krinō κρίνω (Strongrsquos G2919)
to separate select choose approve prefer to be of opinion determine to pronounce an opinion concerning right and wrong pronounce judgment to rulegovernpreside over with the power of giving judicial decisions to contend have suite at law go to law
Do ye not know that the saints shall judge (krino) the world and if the world shall be judged (krino) by you are ye unworthy to judge (kritērion) the smallest matters 1 Cor 62
Krinō comes with guidelines I can of mine own self do nothing
as I hear I judge and my judgment is just because I seek not mine own will but the will of the Father which hath sent me (Jesus in John 530)
We must have our will in submission to Godrsquos will and purposes Humility before God and men
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose And when he had looked round
about on them with anger being grieved for the hardness of their hearts he saith unto the man Stretch forth thine hand And he stretched it out and his hand was restored whole as the other Mark 35
And they were bringing unto him little children that he should touch them and the disciples rebuked them But when Jesus saw it he was moved with indignation and said unto them ldquoSuffer the little children to come unto me forbid them not for to such belongeth the kingdom of Godrdquo Mark 1013-4
Godrsquos Restorative purpose And the Passover of the Jews was at
hand and Jesus went up to Jerusalem And he found in the temple those that sold oxen and sheep and doves and the changers of money sitting and he made a scourge of cords and cast all out of the temple both the sheep and the oxen and he poured out the changers money and overthrew their tables and to them that sold the doves he said Take these things hence make not my Fathers house a house of merchandise His disciples remembered that it was written Zeal for thy house shall eat me up John213-7
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another Forgive as the Lord forgave youput on love which binds them all together in perfect unityrdquo Col 312-4
We should not base judgments on malicious lies or evil misrepresetations Speak not evil one of another
brethren He that speaketh evil of his brother and judgeth his brother speaketh evil of the law and judgeth the law but if thou judge the law thou art not a doer of the law but a judge There is one lawgiver who is able to save and to destroy who art thou that judgest another James 411-2
You shall not spread a false report You shall not join hands with a wicked man to be a malicious witness You shall not fall in with the many to do evil nor shall you bear witness in a lawsuit siding with the many so as to pervert justice nor shall you be partial to a poor man in his lawsuit Exodus 231-2
There are six things that the LORD strongly dislikes seven that are an abomination to him haughty eyes a lying tongue and hands that shed innocent blood a heart that devises wicked plans feet that make haste to run to evil a false witness who breathes out lies and one who sows discord among brothers Prov 616-19
ldquoYe judge after the flesh I judge no man And yet if I judge my judgment is true for I am not alone but I and the Father that sent merdquo (Jesus in John 815-6)
Judge not according to the appearance but judge righteous judgment John 724
Judge via Godrsquos standards not by appearances (evidence that we gathered) Also James 41-2
We must not be hypocrites when judging others for we are judged by our own standards Judge not and ye shall not be
judged condemn not and ye shall not be condemned forgive and ye shall be forgiven Luke 637
Matt 71-5 Luke 637-42 Romans 21-5 Romans 220-23 2 Sam 121-7
We are not to judge others regarding legalistic adherence to ordinances (holidays observances what to eat etc) for such are matters of faith Romans 141-23 2 Cor 87-13
Colossians 216-23 Romans 821 1 Cor 1023 Romans 45 23 Romans 1413 Romans 932 1 Cor 89 Galatians 51 13
We should not judge anyonersquos eternal destiny eternal worth and identity Therefore do not pronounce
judgment before the time before the Lord comes who will bring to light the things now hidden in darkness and will disclose the purposes of the heart Then each one will receive his commendation from God 1 Corinthians 45
Jesus said ldquoBut I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment Again anyone who says to his brother Raca is answerable to the Sanhedrin But anyone who says You fool will be in danger of the fire of hellrdquo Matt 522
Concerning Angels
But Michael the archangel when he disputed with the devil and argued about the body of Moses did not dare pronounce against him a railing judgment but said The Lord rebuke you Jude 19
Concerning God
We are not to judge (condemn God) but He does invite us to ask him questions and to reason with Him
Come now let us reason together says the Lord Isaiah 118
If any of you lack wisdom he should ask God who give generously to all without finding fault James 15
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull To whom are you presenting
evidence to
Who is the Judge
Me God Other people Society norm Whose standards are we using Do
we dare say that we have the fullness of Godrsquos knowledge wisdom justice mercy and authority to be in that role
The Father judges no one but has given all judgment to the Son that all may honor the Son just as they honor the Father John 522
For the LORD is our judge the LORD is our lawgiver the LORD is our king he will save us
Isaiah 3322
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where to have the trialbull What evidence I use bull Who or what am I putting on trial
A person a lifetime of behavior or one fixable behavior
bull How I am sifting through the evidence
bull Who is the judge and attorneybull Humility
We can judge a behavior That is wrong and it inflicted pain on me or it is not something God desires
We cannot judge a personrsquos worth identity and character
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Anger is not sinful God gets angry Jesus got angry
Mark 35 Matthew 2112-13 Mark 1115-18 John 213-22
Anger in and of itself it is not sinful but bitterness dwelling (meditation) in anger is
Be ANGRY (orgizo provoked aroused to anger) and yet DO NOT SIN do not let the sun go down on your ANGER (parorgismos bitterness exasperation indignation wrath)
Eph 426
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Gathering of evidence and
presentation of the evidence before the court judge of me myself and I (Though we can hold a trial before a third party we usually have done it in our heads already)
Germination of the SeedDevelopment of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge (usually of me myself
and I) render a judgment of guilt of the accused the sentencedebt owed
Sprouting Phase (the first visible sign of anger) Choice Phase One chooses a reaction pathway to fight Open aggression Passive aggression Suppressed aggression Digressive aggression
Growth phase Reaction and Expression Phase bull Various modalities of
ldquofightingrdquo is expressedbull Reaction by the accused
can cause more retaliation and provide additional evidencenutrients
Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the
wound offense and roots due to unforgiveness or retaliation
bull Greater expression of the discontent
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Disclaimer
These are illustrative understanding of anger
I will attempt to show you pitfalls and where the doors to the enemy and root issues might be
It is not meant to be exhaustive to do list but to show you the power and freedom of choice
I do not claim understand the fullness of Godrsquos or human anger
The Seed Trigger Phasebull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
Pitfall We assume that the world should be like us which would be reasonable if we were all defined by God But the world we live in now is define by self--relativism that onersquos needs and convictions is different than others
Questions for the Trigger Phase Who is defining my worth
(safeguard this and reserve it only for God)
Am I jumping to conclusions about a personrsquos motivation
Do I have a hypersensitivity due to past wounds
Questions for the Trigger Phase Is the other person aware that a
violation had occurred Is the other person aware of my convictions
Can I accept differences in the convictions Accept the other person as is--different
Is the other person aware of my needs
Are my expectations reasonable
Reasonable Expectations are
Realized (Am I even aware that I have expectations and what they are)
Realistic (Is the expectation executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (expectation Agreed Upon)
The Seed Trigger Phasebull To not assume what is known
and right for me is known to the other person
bull God as source of worth identity Ultimately God is the source of fulfilling needs and the other person is all but human
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Choice of evidence source
VS VS
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where is the evidence been
presentedbull Who gets to present evidence
Is the Trial Fair Where is the trial taking place
Usually in our heads Does the defense even have a chance to present a plead
Is it a one sided argument and presentation of evidence Do you really have all the evidence
Are you retrying old evidence and old verdicts Stacking up condemning evidence
bull Exasperationbull Identity vs
behavior
Who can be the defense attorney
Is the accused allowed to have Jesus as the attorney
This means allowing yourself to see the person through Jesusrsquo eyes
Perhaps letting Him plead a case of mercy
ldquoChrist redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us for it is written ldquoCursed is everyone who is hung on a polerdquo (Gal 313)
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull What are you doing with the
evidence
Judging Anakrino ἀνακρίνω (Strongrsquos
G350)
examine or judge to investigate examine enquire into
scrutinise sift question specifically in a forensic sense of a judge to
hold an investigation to interrogate examine the accused or
witnesses to judge of estimate determine (the
excellence or defects of any person or thing)
(1 Cor 215 43 44 1424)
But he that is spiritual judgeth (anakrino) all things yet he himself is judged (anakrino) of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ 1 Cor 215-6
But he that is spiritual investigates examines inquires scrutinizes questions all things yet he himself determines (is determined by) the excellence or defects of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ
Krinō κρίνω (Strongrsquos G2919)
to separate select choose approve prefer to be of opinion determine to pronounce an opinion concerning right and wrong pronounce judgment to rulegovernpreside over with the power of giving judicial decisions to contend have suite at law go to law
Do ye not know that the saints shall judge (krino) the world and if the world shall be judged (krino) by you are ye unworthy to judge (kritērion) the smallest matters 1 Cor 62
Krinō comes with guidelines I can of mine own self do nothing
as I hear I judge and my judgment is just because I seek not mine own will but the will of the Father which hath sent me (Jesus in John 530)
We must have our will in submission to Godrsquos will and purposes Humility before God and men
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose And when he had looked round
about on them with anger being grieved for the hardness of their hearts he saith unto the man Stretch forth thine hand And he stretched it out and his hand was restored whole as the other Mark 35
And they were bringing unto him little children that he should touch them and the disciples rebuked them But when Jesus saw it he was moved with indignation and said unto them ldquoSuffer the little children to come unto me forbid them not for to such belongeth the kingdom of Godrdquo Mark 1013-4
Godrsquos Restorative purpose And the Passover of the Jews was at
hand and Jesus went up to Jerusalem And he found in the temple those that sold oxen and sheep and doves and the changers of money sitting and he made a scourge of cords and cast all out of the temple both the sheep and the oxen and he poured out the changers money and overthrew their tables and to them that sold the doves he said Take these things hence make not my Fathers house a house of merchandise His disciples remembered that it was written Zeal for thy house shall eat me up John213-7
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another Forgive as the Lord forgave youput on love which binds them all together in perfect unityrdquo Col 312-4
We should not base judgments on malicious lies or evil misrepresetations Speak not evil one of another
brethren He that speaketh evil of his brother and judgeth his brother speaketh evil of the law and judgeth the law but if thou judge the law thou art not a doer of the law but a judge There is one lawgiver who is able to save and to destroy who art thou that judgest another James 411-2
You shall not spread a false report You shall not join hands with a wicked man to be a malicious witness You shall not fall in with the many to do evil nor shall you bear witness in a lawsuit siding with the many so as to pervert justice nor shall you be partial to a poor man in his lawsuit Exodus 231-2
There are six things that the LORD strongly dislikes seven that are an abomination to him haughty eyes a lying tongue and hands that shed innocent blood a heart that devises wicked plans feet that make haste to run to evil a false witness who breathes out lies and one who sows discord among brothers Prov 616-19
ldquoYe judge after the flesh I judge no man And yet if I judge my judgment is true for I am not alone but I and the Father that sent merdquo (Jesus in John 815-6)
Judge not according to the appearance but judge righteous judgment John 724
Judge via Godrsquos standards not by appearances (evidence that we gathered) Also James 41-2
We must not be hypocrites when judging others for we are judged by our own standards Judge not and ye shall not be
judged condemn not and ye shall not be condemned forgive and ye shall be forgiven Luke 637
Matt 71-5 Luke 637-42 Romans 21-5 Romans 220-23 2 Sam 121-7
We are not to judge others regarding legalistic adherence to ordinances (holidays observances what to eat etc) for such are matters of faith Romans 141-23 2 Cor 87-13
Colossians 216-23 Romans 821 1 Cor 1023 Romans 45 23 Romans 1413 Romans 932 1 Cor 89 Galatians 51 13
We should not judge anyonersquos eternal destiny eternal worth and identity Therefore do not pronounce
judgment before the time before the Lord comes who will bring to light the things now hidden in darkness and will disclose the purposes of the heart Then each one will receive his commendation from God 1 Corinthians 45
Jesus said ldquoBut I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment Again anyone who says to his brother Raca is answerable to the Sanhedrin But anyone who says You fool will be in danger of the fire of hellrdquo Matt 522
Concerning Angels
But Michael the archangel when he disputed with the devil and argued about the body of Moses did not dare pronounce against him a railing judgment but said The Lord rebuke you Jude 19
Concerning God
We are not to judge (condemn God) but He does invite us to ask him questions and to reason with Him
Come now let us reason together says the Lord Isaiah 118
If any of you lack wisdom he should ask God who give generously to all without finding fault James 15
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull To whom are you presenting
evidence to
Who is the Judge
Me God Other people Society norm Whose standards are we using Do
we dare say that we have the fullness of Godrsquos knowledge wisdom justice mercy and authority to be in that role
The Father judges no one but has given all judgment to the Son that all may honor the Son just as they honor the Father John 522
For the LORD is our judge the LORD is our lawgiver the LORD is our king he will save us
Isaiah 3322
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where to have the trialbull What evidence I use bull Who or what am I putting on trial
A person a lifetime of behavior or one fixable behavior
bull How I am sifting through the evidence
bull Who is the judge and attorneybull Humility
We can judge a behavior That is wrong and it inflicted pain on me or it is not something God desires
We cannot judge a personrsquos worth identity and character
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Gathering of evidence and
presentation of the evidence before the court judge of me myself and I (Though we can hold a trial before a third party we usually have done it in our heads already)
Germination of the SeedDevelopment of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge (usually of me myself
and I) render a judgment of guilt of the accused the sentencedebt owed
Sprouting Phase (the first visible sign of anger) Choice Phase One chooses a reaction pathway to fight Open aggression Passive aggression Suppressed aggression Digressive aggression
Growth phase Reaction and Expression Phase bull Various modalities of
ldquofightingrdquo is expressedbull Reaction by the accused
can cause more retaliation and provide additional evidencenutrients
Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the
wound offense and roots due to unforgiveness or retaliation
bull Greater expression of the discontent
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Disclaimer
These are illustrative understanding of anger
I will attempt to show you pitfalls and where the doors to the enemy and root issues might be
It is not meant to be exhaustive to do list but to show you the power and freedom of choice
I do not claim understand the fullness of Godrsquos or human anger
The Seed Trigger Phasebull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
Pitfall We assume that the world should be like us which would be reasonable if we were all defined by God But the world we live in now is define by self--relativism that onersquos needs and convictions is different than others
Questions for the Trigger Phase Who is defining my worth
(safeguard this and reserve it only for God)
Am I jumping to conclusions about a personrsquos motivation
Do I have a hypersensitivity due to past wounds
Questions for the Trigger Phase Is the other person aware that a
violation had occurred Is the other person aware of my convictions
Can I accept differences in the convictions Accept the other person as is--different
Is the other person aware of my needs
Are my expectations reasonable
Reasonable Expectations are
Realized (Am I even aware that I have expectations and what they are)
Realistic (Is the expectation executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (expectation Agreed Upon)
The Seed Trigger Phasebull To not assume what is known
and right for me is known to the other person
bull God as source of worth identity Ultimately God is the source of fulfilling needs and the other person is all but human
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Choice of evidence source
VS VS
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where is the evidence been
presentedbull Who gets to present evidence
Is the Trial Fair Where is the trial taking place
Usually in our heads Does the defense even have a chance to present a plead
Is it a one sided argument and presentation of evidence Do you really have all the evidence
Are you retrying old evidence and old verdicts Stacking up condemning evidence
bull Exasperationbull Identity vs
behavior
Who can be the defense attorney
Is the accused allowed to have Jesus as the attorney
This means allowing yourself to see the person through Jesusrsquo eyes
Perhaps letting Him plead a case of mercy
ldquoChrist redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us for it is written ldquoCursed is everyone who is hung on a polerdquo (Gal 313)
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull What are you doing with the
evidence
Judging Anakrino ἀνακρίνω (Strongrsquos
G350)
examine or judge to investigate examine enquire into
scrutinise sift question specifically in a forensic sense of a judge to
hold an investigation to interrogate examine the accused or
witnesses to judge of estimate determine (the
excellence or defects of any person or thing)
(1 Cor 215 43 44 1424)
But he that is spiritual judgeth (anakrino) all things yet he himself is judged (anakrino) of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ 1 Cor 215-6
But he that is spiritual investigates examines inquires scrutinizes questions all things yet he himself determines (is determined by) the excellence or defects of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ
Krinō κρίνω (Strongrsquos G2919)
to separate select choose approve prefer to be of opinion determine to pronounce an opinion concerning right and wrong pronounce judgment to rulegovernpreside over with the power of giving judicial decisions to contend have suite at law go to law
Do ye not know that the saints shall judge (krino) the world and if the world shall be judged (krino) by you are ye unworthy to judge (kritērion) the smallest matters 1 Cor 62
Krinō comes with guidelines I can of mine own self do nothing
as I hear I judge and my judgment is just because I seek not mine own will but the will of the Father which hath sent me (Jesus in John 530)
We must have our will in submission to Godrsquos will and purposes Humility before God and men
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose And when he had looked round
about on them with anger being grieved for the hardness of their hearts he saith unto the man Stretch forth thine hand And he stretched it out and his hand was restored whole as the other Mark 35
And they were bringing unto him little children that he should touch them and the disciples rebuked them But when Jesus saw it he was moved with indignation and said unto them ldquoSuffer the little children to come unto me forbid them not for to such belongeth the kingdom of Godrdquo Mark 1013-4
Godrsquos Restorative purpose And the Passover of the Jews was at
hand and Jesus went up to Jerusalem And he found in the temple those that sold oxen and sheep and doves and the changers of money sitting and he made a scourge of cords and cast all out of the temple both the sheep and the oxen and he poured out the changers money and overthrew their tables and to them that sold the doves he said Take these things hence make not my Fathers house a house of merchandise His disciples remembered that it was written Zeal for thy house shall eat me up John213-7
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another Forgive as the Lord forgave youput on love which binds them all together in perfect unityrdquo Col 312-4
We should not base judgments on malicious lies or evil misrepresetations Speak not evil one of another
brethren He that speaketh evil of his brother and judgeth his brother speaketh evil of the law and judgeth the law but if thou judge the law thou art not a doer of the law but a judge There is one lawgiver who is able to save and to destroy who art thou that judgest another James 411-2
You shall not spread a false report You shall not join hands with a wicked man to be a malicious witness You shall not fall in with the many to do evil nor shall you bear witness in a lawsuit siding with the many so as to pervert justice nor shall you be partial to a poor man in his lawsuit Exodus 231-2
There are six things that the LORD strongly dislikes seven that are an abomination to him haughty eyes a lying tongue and hands that shed innocent blood a heart that devises wicked plans feet that make haste to run to evil a false witness who breathes out lies and one who sows discord among brothers Prov 616-19
ldquoYe judge after the flesh I judge no man And yet if I judge my judgment is true for I am not alone but I and the Father that sent merdquo (Jesus in John 815-6)
Judge not according to the appearance but judge righteous judgment John 724
Judge via Godrsquos standards not by appearances (evidence that we gathered) Also James 41-2
We must not be hypocrites when judging others for we are judged by our own standards Judge not and ye shall not be
judged condemn not and ye shall not be condemned forgive and ye shall be forgiven Luke 637
Matt 71-5 Luke 637-42 Romans 21-5 Romans 220-23 2 Sam 121-7
We are not to judge others regarding legalistic adherence to ordinances (holidays observances what to eat etc) for such are matters of faith Romans 141-23 2 Cor 87-13
Colossians 216-23 Romans 821 1 Cor 1023 Romans 45 23 Romans 1413 Romans 932 1 Cor 89 Galatians 51 13
We should not judge anyonersquos eternal destiny eternal worth and identity Therefore do not pronounce
judgment before the time before the Lord comes who will bring to light the things now hidden in darkness and will disclose the purposes of the heart Then each one will receive his commendation from God 1 Corinthians 45
Jesus said ldquoBut I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment Again anyone who says to his brother Raca is answerable to the Sanhedrin But anyone who says You fool will be in danger of the fire of hellrdquo Matt 522
Concerning Angels
But Michael the archangel when he disputed with the devil and argued about the body of Moses did not dare pronounce against him a railing judgment but said The Lord rebuke you Jude 19
Concerning God
We are not to judge (condemn God) but He does invite us to ask him questions and to reason with Him
Come now let us reason together says the Lord Isaiah 118
If any of you lack wisdom he should ask God who give generously to all without finding fault James 15
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull To whom are you presenting
evidence to
Who is the Judge
Me God Other people Society norm Whose standards are we using Do
we dare say that we have the fullness of Godrsquos knowledge wisdom justice mercy and authority to be in that role
The Father judges no one but has given all judgment to the Son that all may honor the Son just as they honor the Father John 522
For the LORD is our judge the LORD is our lawgiver the LORD is our king he will save us
Isaiah 3322
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where to have the trialbull What evidence I use bull Who or what am I putting on trial
A person a lifetime of behavior or one fixable behavior
bull How I am sifting through the evidence
bull Who is the judge and attorneybull Humility
We can judge a behavior That is wrong and it inflicted pain on me or it is not something God desires
We cannot judge a personrsquos worth identity and character
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Germination of the SeedDevelopment of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge (usually of me myself
and I) render a judgment of guilt of the accused the sentencedebt owed
Sprouting Phase (the first visible sign of anger) Choice Phase One chooses a reaction pathway to fight Open aggression Passive aggression Suppressed aggression Digressive aggression
Growth phase Reaction and Expression Phase bull Various modalities of
ldquofightingrdquo is expressedbull Reaction by the accused
can cause more retaliation and provide additional evidencenutrients
Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the
wound offense and roots due to unforgiveness or retaliation
bull Greater expression of the discontent
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Disclaimer
These are illustrative understanding of anger
I will attempt to show you pitfalls and where the doors to the enemy and root issues might be
It is not meant to be exhaustive to do list but to show you the power and freedom of choice
I do not claim understand the fullness of Godrsquos or human anger
The Seed Trigger Phasebull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
Pitfall We assume that the world should be like us which would be reasonable if we were all defined by God But the world we live in now is define by self--relativism that onersquos needs and convictions is different than others
Questions for the Trigger Phase Who is defining my worth
(safeguard this and reserve it only for God)
Am I jumping to conclusions about a personrsquos motivation
Do I have a hypersensitivity due to past wounds
Questions for the Trigger Phase Is the other person aware that a
violation had occurred Is the other person aware of my convictions
Can I accept differences in the convictions Accept the other person as is--different
Is the other person aware of my needs
Are my expectations reasonable
Reasonable Expectations are
Realized (Am I even aware that I have expectations and what they are)
Realistic (Is the expectation executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (expectation Agreed Upon)
The Seed Trigger Phasebull To not assume what is known
and right for me is known to the other person
bull God as source of worth identity Ultimately God is the source of fulfilling needs and the other person is all but human
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Choice of evidence source
VS VS
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where is the evidence been
presentedbull Who gets to present evidence
Is the Trial Fair Where is the trial taking place
Usually in our heads Does the defense even have a chance to present a plead
Is it a one sided argument and presentation of evidence Do you really have all the evidence
Are you retrying old evidence and old verdicts Stacking up condemning evidence
bull Exasperationbull Identity vs
behavior
Who can be the defense attorney
Is the accused allowed to have Jesus as the attorney
This means allowing yourself to see the person through Jesusrsquo eyes
Perhaps letting Him plead a case of mercy
ldquoChrist redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us for it is written ldquoCursed is everyone who is hung on a polerdquo (Gal 313)
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull What are you doing with the
evidence
Judging Anakrino ἀνακρίνω (Strongrsquos
G350)
examine or judge to investigate examine enquire into
scrutinise sift question specifically in a forensic sense of a judge to
hold an investigation to interrogate examine the accused or
witnesses to judge of estimate determine (the
excellence or defects of any person or thing)
(1 Cor 215 43 44 1424)
But he that is spiritual judgeth (anakrino) all things yet he himself is judged (anakrino) of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ 1 Cor 215-6
But he that is spiritual investigates examines inquires scrutinizes questions all things yet he himself determines (is determined by) the excellence or defects of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ
Krinō κρίνω (Strongrsquos G2919)
to separate select choose approve prefer to be of opinion determine to pronounce an opinion concerning right and wrong pronounce judgment to rulegovernpreside over with the power of giving judicial decisions to contend have suite at law go to law
Do ye not know that the saints shall judge (krino) the world and if the world shall be judged (krino) by you are ye unworthy to judge (kritērion) the smallest matters 1 Cor 62
Krinō comes with guidelines I can of mine own self do nothing
as I hear I judge and my judgment is just because I seek not mine own will but the will of the Father which hath sent me (Jesus in John 530)
We must have our will in submission to Godrsquos will and purposes Humility before God and men
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose And when he had looked round
about on them with anger being grieved for the hardness of their hearts he saith unto the man Stretch forth thine hand And he stretched it out and his hand was restored whole as the other Mark 35
And they were bringing unto him little children that he should touch them and the disciples rebuked them But when Jesus saw it he was moved with indignation and said unto them ldquoSuffer the little children to come unto me forbid them not for to such belongeth the kingdom of Godrdquo Mark 1013-4
Godrsquos Restorative purpose And the Passover of the Jews was at
hand and Jesus went up to Jerusalem And he found in the temple those that sold oxen and sheep and doves and the changers of money sitting and he made a scourge of cords and cast all out of the temple both the sheep and the oxen and he poured out the changers money and overthrew their tables and to them that sold the doves he said Take these things hence make not my Fathers house a house of merchandise His disciples remembered that it was written Zeal for thy house shall eat me up John213-7
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another Forgive as the Lord forgave youput on love which binds them all together in perfect unityrdquo Col 312-4
We should not base judgments on malicious lies or evil misrepresetations Speak not evil one of another
brethren He that speaketh evil of his brother and judgeth his brother speaketh evil of the law and judgeth the law but if thou judge the law thou art not a doer of the law but a judge There is one lawgiver who is able to save and to destroy who art thou that judgest another James 411-2
You shall not spread a false report You shall not join hands with a wicked man to be a malicious witness You shall not fall in with the many to do evil nor shall you bear witness in a lawsuit siding with the many so as to pervert justice nor shall you be partial to a poor man in his lawsuit Exodus 231-2
There are six things that the LORD strongly dislikes seven that are an abomination to him haughty eyes a lying tongue and hands that shed innocent blood a heart that devises wicked plans feet that make haste to run to evil a false witness who breathes out lies and one who sows discord among brothers Prov 616-19
ldquoYe judge after the flesh I judge no man And yet if I judge my judgment is true for I am not alone but I and the Father that sent merdquo (Jesus in John 815-6)
Judge not according to the appearance but judge righteous judgment John 724
Judge via Godrsquos standards not by appearances (evidence that we gathered) Also James 41-2
We must not be hypocrites when judging others for we are judged by our own standards Judge not and ye shall not be
judged condemn not and ye shall not be condemned forgive and ye shall be forgiven Luke 637
Matt 71-5 Luke 637-42 Romans 21-5 Romans 220-23 2 Sam 121-7
We are not to judge others regarding legalistic adherence to ordinances (holidays observances what to eat etc) for such are matters of faith Romans 141-23 2 Cor 87-13
Colossians 216-23 Romans 821 1 Cor 1023 Romans 45 23 Romans 1413 Romans 932 1 Cor 89 Galatians 51 13
We should not judge anyonersquos eternal destiny eternal worth and identity Therefore do not pronounce
judgment before the time before the Lord comes who will bring to light the things now hidden in darkness and will disclose the purposes of the heart Then each one will receive his commendation from God 1 Corinthians 45
Jesus said ldquoBut I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment Again anyone who says to his brother Raca is answerable to the Sanhedrin But anyone who says You fool will be in danger of the fire of hellrdquo Matt 522
Concerning Angels
But Michael the archangel when he disputed with the devil and argued about the body of Moses did not dare pronounce against him a railing judgment but said The Lord rebuke you Jude 19
Concerning God
We are not to judge (condemn God) but He does invite us to ask him questions and to reason with Him
Come now let us reason together says the Lord Isaiah 118
If any of you lack wisdom he should ask God who give generously to all without finding fault James 15
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull To whom are you presenting
evidence to
Who is the Judge
Me God Other people Society norm Whose standards are we using Do
we dare say that we have the fullness of Godrsquos knowledge wisdom justice mercy and authority to be in that role
The Father judges no one but has given all judgment to the Son that all may honor the Son just as they honor the Father John 522
For the LORD is our judge the LORD is our lawgiver the LORD is our king he will save us
Isaiah 3322
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where to have the trialbull What evidence I use bull Who or what am I putting on trial
A person a lifetime of behavior or one fixable behavior
bull How I am sifting through the evidence
bull Who is the judge and attorneybull Humility
We can judge a behavior That is wrong and it inflicted pain on me or it is not something God desires
We cannot judge a personrsquos worth identity and character
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Sprouting Phase (the first visible sign of anger) Choice Phase One chooses a reaction pathway to fight Open aggression Passive aggression Suppressed aggression Digressive aggression
Growth phase Reaction and Expression Phase bull Various modalities of
ldquofightingrdquo is expressedbull Reaction by the accused
can cause more retaliation and provide additional evidencenutrients
Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the
wound offense and roots due to unforgiveness or retaliation
bull Greater expression of the discontent
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Disclaimer
These are illustrative understanding of anger
I will attempt to show you pitfalls and where the doors to the enemy and root issues might be
It is not meant to be exhaustive to do list but to show you the power and freedom of choice
I do not claim understand the fullness of Godrsquos or human anger
The Seed Trigger Phasebull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
Pitfall We assume that the world should be like us which would be reasonable if we were all defined by God But the world we live in now is define by self--relativism that onersquos needs and convictions is different than others
Questions for the Trigger Phase Who is defining my worth
(safeguard this and reserve it only for God)
Am I jumping to conclusions about a personrsquos motivation
Do I have a hypersensitivity due to past wounds
Questions for the Trigger Phase Is the other person aware that a
violation had occurred Is the other person aware of my convictions
Can I accept differences in the convictions Accept the other person as is--different
Is the other person aware of my needs
Are my expectations reasonable
Reasonable Expectations are
Realized (Am I even aware that I have expectations and what they are)
Realistic (Is the expectation executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (expectation Agreed Upon)
The Seed Trigger Phasebull To not assume what is known
and right for me is known to the other person
bull God as source of worth identity Ultimately God is the source of fulfilling needs and the other person is all but human
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Choice of evidence source
VS VS
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where is the evidence been
presentedbull Who gets to present evidence
Is the Trial Fair Where is the trial taking place
Usually in our heads Does the defense even have a chance to present a plead
Is it a one sided argument and presentation of evidence Do you really have all the evidence
Are you retrying old evidence and old verdicts Stacking up condemning evidence
bull Exasperationbull Identity vs
behavior
Who can be the defense attorney
Is the accused allowed to have Jesus as the attorney
This means allowing yourself to see the person through Jesusrsquo eyes
Perhaps letting Him plead a case of mercy
ldquoChrist redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us for it is written ldquoCursed is everyone who is hung on a polerdquo (Gal 313)
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull What are you doing with the
evidence
Judging Anakrino ἀνακρίνω (Strongrsquos
G350)
examine or judge to investigate examine enquire into
scrutinise sift question specifically in a forensic sense of a judge to
hold an investigation to interrogate examine the accused or
witnesses to judge of estimate determine (the
excellence or defects of any person or thing)
(1 Cor 215 43 44 1424)
But he that is spiritual judgeth (anakrino) all things yet he himself is judged (anakrino) of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ 1 Cor 215-6
But he that is spiritual investigates examines inquires scrutinizes questions all things yet he himself determines (is determined by) the excellence or defects of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ
Krinō κρίνω (Strongrsquos G2919)
to separate select choose approve prefer to be of opinion determine to pronounce an opinion concerning right and wrong pronounce judgment to rulegovernpreside over with the power of giving judicial decisions to contend have suite at law go to law
Do ye not know that the saints shall judge (krino) the world and if the world shall be judged (krino) by you are ye unworthy to judge (kritērion) the smallest matters 1 Cor 62
Krinō comes with guidelines I can of mine own self do nothing
as I hear I judge and my judgment is just because I seek not mine own will but the will of the Father which hath sent me (Jesus in John 530)
We must have our will in submission to Godrsquos will and purposes Humility before God and men
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose And when he had looked round
about on them with anger being grieved for the hardness of their hearts he saith unto the man Stretch forth thine hand And he stretched it out and his hand was restored whole as the other Mark 35
And they were bringing unto him little children that he should touch them and the disciples rebuked them But when Jesus saw it he was moved with indignation and said unto them ldquoSuffer the little children to come unto me forbid them not for to such belongeth the kingdom of Godrdquo Mark 1013-4
Godrsquos Restorative purpose And the Passover of the Jews was at
hand and Jesus went up to Jerusalem And he found in the temple those that sold oxen and sheep and doves and the changers of money sitting and he made a scourge of cords and cast all out of the temple both the sheep and the oxen and he poured out the changers money and overthrew their tables and to them that sold the doves he said Take these things hence make not my Fathers house a house of merchandise His disciples remembered that it was written Zeal for thy house shall eat me up John213-7
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another Forgive as the Lord forgave youput on love which binds them all together in perfect unityrdquo Col 312-4
We should not base judgments on malicious lies or evil misrepresetations Speak not evil one of another
brethren He that speaketh evil of his brother and judgeth his brother speaketh evil of the law and judgeth the law but if thou judge the law thou art not a doer of the law but a judge There is one lawgiver who is able to save and to destroy who art thou that judgest another James 411-2
You shall not spread a false report You shall not join hands with a wicked man to be a malicious witness You shall not fall in with the many to do evil nor shall you bear witness in a lawsuit siding with the many so as to pervert justice nor shall you be partial to a poor man in his lawsuit Exodus 231-2
There are six things that the LORD strongly dislikes seven that are an abomination to him haughty eyes a lying tongue and hands that shed innocent blood a heart that devises wicked plans feet that make haste to run to evil a false witness who breathes out lies and one who sows discord among brothers Prov 616-19
ldquoYe judge after the flesh I judge no man And yet if I judge my judgment is true for I am not alone but I and the Father that sent merdquo (Jesus in John 815-6)
Judge not according to the appearance but judge righteous judgment John 724
Judge via Godrsquos standards not by appearances (evidence that we gathered) Also James 41-2
We must not be hypocrites when judging others for we are judged by our own standards Judge not and ye shall not be
judged condemn not and ye shall not be condemned forgive and ye shall be forgiven Luke 637
Matt 71-5 Luke 637-42 Romans 21-5 Romans 220-23 2 Sam 121-7
We are not to judge others regarding legalistic adherence to ordinances (holidays observances what to eat etc) for such are matters of faith Romans 141-23 2 Cor 87-13
Colossians 216-23 Romans 821 1 Cor 1023 Romans 45 23 Romans 1413 Romans 932 1 Cor 89 Galatians 51 13
We should not judge anyonersquos eternal destiny eternal worth and identity Therefore do not pronounce
judgment before the time before the Lord comes who will bring to light the things now hidden in darkness and will disclose the purposes of the heart Then each one will receive his commendation from God 1 Corinthians 45
Jesus said ldquoBut I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment Again anyone who says to his brother Raca is answerable to the Sanhedrin But anyone who says You fool will be in danger of the fire of hellrdquo Matt 522
Concerning Angels
But Michael the archangel when he disputed with the devil and argued about the body of Moses did not dare pronounce against him a railing judgment but said The Lord rebuke you Jude 19
Concerning God
We are not to judge (condemn God) but He does invite us to ask him questions and to reason with Him
Come now let us reason together says the Lord Isaiah 118
If any of you lack wisdom he should ask God who give generously to all without finding fault James 15
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull To whom are you presenting
evidence to
Who is the Judge
Me God Other people Society norm Whose standards are we using Do
we dare say that we have the fullness of Godrsquos knowledge wisdom justice mercy and authority to be in that role
The Father judges no one but has given all judgment to the Son that all may honor the Son just as they honor the Father John 522
For the LORD is our judge the LORD is our lawgiver the LORD is our king he will save us
Isaiah 3322
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where to have the trialbull What evidence I use bull Who or what am I putting on trial
A person a lifetime of behavior or one fixable behavior
bull How I am sifting through the evidence
bull Who is the judge and attorneybull Humility
We can judge a behavior That is wrong and it inflicted pain on me or it is not something God desires
We cannot judge a personrsquos worth identity and character
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Growth phase Reaction and Expression Phase bull Various modalities of
ldquofightingrdquo is expressedbull Reaction by the accused
can cause more retaliation and provide additional evidencenutrients
Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the
wound offense and roots due to unforgiveness or retaliation
bull Greater expression of the discontent
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Disclaimer
These are illustrative understanding of anger
I will attempt to show you pitfalls and where the doors to the enemy and root issues might be
It is not meant to be exhaustive to do list but to show you the power and freedom of choice
I do not claim understand the fullness of Godrsquos or human anger
The Seed Trigger Phasebull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
Pitfall We assume that the world should be like us which would be reasonable if we were all defined by God But the world we live in now is define by self--relativism that onersquos needs and convictions is different than others
Questions for the Trigger Phase Who is defining my worth
(safeguard this and reserve it only for God)
Am I jumping to conclusions about a personrsquos motivation
Do I have a hypersensitivity due to past wounds
Questions for the Trigger Phase Is the other person aware that a
violation had occurred Is the other person aware of my convictions
Can I accept differences in the convictions Accept the other person as is--different
Is the other person aware of my needs
Are my expectations reasonable
Reasonable Expectations are
Realized (Am I even aware that I have expectations and what they are)
Realistic (Is the expectation executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (expectation Agreed Upon)
The Seed Trigger Phasebull To not assume what is known
and right for me is known to the other person
bull God as source of worth identity Ultimately God is the source of fulfilling needs and the other person is all but human
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Choice of evidence source
VS VS
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where is the evidence been
presentedbull Who gets to present evidence
Is the Trial Fair Where is the trial taking place
Usually in our heads Does the defense even have a chance to present a plead
Is it a one sided argument and presentation of evidence Do you really have all the evidence
Are you retrying old evidence and old verdicts Stacking up condemning evidence
bull Exasperationbull Identity vs
behavior
Who can be the defense attorney
Is the accused allowed to have Jesus as the attorney
This means allowing yourself to see the person through Jesusrsquo eyes
Perhaps letting Him plead a case of mercy
ldquoChrist redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us for it is written ldquoCursed is everyone who is hung on a polerdquo (Gal 313)
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull What are you doing with the
evidence
Judging Anakrino ἀνακρίνω (Strongrsquos
G350)
examine or judge to investigate examine enquire into
scrutinise sift question specifically in a forensic sense of a judge to
hold an investigation to interrogate examine the accused or
witnesses to judge of estimate determine (the
excellence or defects of any person or thing)
(1 Cor 215 43 44 1424)
But he that is spiritual judgeth (anakrino) all things yet he himself is judged (anakrino) of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ 1 Cor 215-6
But he that is spiritual investigates examines inquires scrutinizes questions all things yet he himself determines (is determined by) the excellence or defects of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ
Krinō κρίνω (Strongrsquos G2919)
to separate select choose approve prefer to be of opinion determine to pronounce an opinion concerning right and wrong pronounce judgment to rulegovernpreside over with the power of giving judicial decisions to contend have suite at law go to law
Do ye not know that the saints shall judge (krino) the world and if the world shall be judged (krino) by you are ye unworthy to judge (kritērion) the smallest matters 1 Cor 62
Krinō comes with guidelines I can of mine own self do nothing
as I hear I judge and my judgment is just because I seek not mine own will but the will of the Father which hath sent me (Jesus in John 530)
We must have our will in submission to Godrsquos will and purposes Humility before God and men
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose And when he had looked round
about on them with anger being grieved for the hardness of their hearts he saith unto the man Stretch forth thine hand And he stretched it out and his hand was restored whole as the other Mark 35
And they were bringing unto him little children that he should touch them and the disciples rebuked them But when Jesus saw it he was moved with indignation and said unto them ldquoSuffer the little children to come unto me forbid them not for to such belongeth the kingdom of Godrdquo Mark 1013-4
Godrsquos Restorative purpose And the Passover of the Jews was at
hand and Jesus went up to Jerusalem And he found in the temple those that sold oxen and sheep and doves and the changers of money sitting and he made a scourge of cords and cast all out of the temple both the sheep and the oxen and he poured out the changers money and overthrew their tables and to them that sold the doves he said Take these things hence make not my Fathers house a house of merchandise His disciples remembered that it was written Zeal for thy house shall eat me up John213-7
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another Forgive as the Lord forgave youput on love which binds them all together in perfect unityrdquo Col 312-4
We should not base judgments on malicious lies or evil misrepresetations Speak not evil one of another
brethren He that speaketh evil of his brother and judgeth his brother speaketh evil of the law and judgeth the law but if thou judge the law thou art not a doer of the law but a judge There is one lawgiver who is able to save and to destroy who art thou that judgest another James 411-2
You shall not spread a false report You shall not join hands with a wicked man to be a malicious witness You shall not fall in with the many to do evil nor shall you bear witness in a lawsuit siding with the many so as to pervert justice nor shall you be partial to a poor man in his lawsuit Exodus 231-2
There are six things that the LORD strongly dislikes seven that are an abomination to him haughty eyes a lying tongue and hands that shed innocent blood a heart that devises wicked plans feet that make haste to run to evil a false witness who breathes out lies and one who sows discord among brothers Prov 616-19
ldquoYe judge after the flesh I judge no man And yet if I judge my judgment is true for I am not alone but I and the Father that sent merdquo (Jesus in John 815-6)
Judge not according to the appearance but judge righteous judgment John 724
Judge via Godrsquos standards not by appearances (evidence that we gathered) Also James 41-2
We must not be hypocrites when judging others for we are judged by our own standards Judge not and ye shall not be
judged condemn not and ye shall not be condemned forgive and ye shall be forgiven Luke 637
Matt 71-5 Luke 637-42 Romans 21-5 Romans 220-23 2 Sam 121-7
We are not to judge others regarding legalistic adherence to ordinances (holidays observances what to eat etc) for such are matters of faith Romans 141-23 2 Cor 87-13
Colossians 216-23 Romans 821 1 Cor 1023 Romans 45 23 Romans 1413 Romans 932 1 Cor 89 Galatians 51 13
We should not judge anyonersquos eternal destiny eternal worth and identity Therefore do not pronounce
judgment before the time before the Lord comes who will bring to light the things now hidden in darkness and will disclose the purposes of the heart Then each one will receive his commendation from God 1 Corinthians 45
Jesus said ldquoBut I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment Again anyone who says to his brother Raca is answerable to the Sanhedrin But anyone who says You fool will be in danger of the fire of hellrdquo Matt 522
Concerning Angels
But Michael the archangel when he disputed with the devil and argued about the body of Moses did not dare pronounce against him a railing judgment but said The Lord rebuke you Jude 19
Concerning God
We are not to judge (condemn God) but He does invite us to ask him questions and to reason with Him
Come now let us reason together says the Lord Isaiah 118
If any of you lack wisdom he should ask God who give generously to all without finding fault James 15
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull To whom are you presenting
evidence to
Who is the Judge
Me God Other people Society norm Whose standards are we using Do
we dare say that we have the fullness of Godrsquos knowledge wisdom justice mercy and authority to be in that role
The Father judges no one but has given all judgment to the Son that all may honor the Son just as they honor the Father John 522
For the LORD is our judge the LORD is our lawgiver the LORD is our king he will save us
Isaiah 3322
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where to have the trialbull What evidence I use bull Who or what am I putting on trial
A person a lifetime of behavior or one fixable behavior
bull How I am sifting through the evidence
bull Who is the judge and attorneybull Humility
We can judge a behavior That is wrong and it inflicted pain on me or it is not something God desires
We cannot judge a personrsquos worth identity and character
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the
wound offense and roots due to unforgiveness or retaliation
bull Greater expression of the discontent
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Disclaimer
These are illustrative understanding of anger
I will attempt to show you pitfalls and where the doors to the enemy and root issues might be
It is not meant to be exhaustive to do list but to show you the power and freedom of choice
I do not claim understand the fullness of Godrsquos or human anger
The Seed Trigger Phasebull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
Pitfall We assume that the world should be like us which would be reasonable if we were all defined by God But the world we live in now is define by self--relativism that onersquos needs and convictions is different than others
Questions for the Trigger Phase Who is defining my worth
(safeguard this and reserve it only for God)
Am I jumping to conclusions about a personrsquos motivation
Do I have a hypersensitivity due to past wounds
Questions for the Trigger Phase Is the other person aware that a
violation had occurred Is the other person aware of my convictions
Can I accept differences in the convictions Accept the other person as is--different
Is the other person aware of my needs
Are my expectations reasonable
Reasonable Expectations are
Realized (Am I even aware that I have expectations and what they are)
Realistic (Is the expectation executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (expectation Agreed Upon)
The Seed Trigger Phasebull To not assume what is known
and right for me is known to the other person
bull God as source of worth identity Ultimately God is the source of fulfilling needs and the other person is all but human
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Choice of evidence source
VS VS
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where is the evidence been
presentedbull Who gets to present evidence
Is the Trial Fair Where is the trial taking place
Usually in our heads Does the defense even have a chance to present a plead
Is it a one sided argument and presentation of evidence Do you really have all the evidence
Are you retrying old evidence and old verdicts Stacking up condemning evidence
bull Exasperationbull Identity vs
behavior
Who can be the defense attorney
Is the accused allowed to have Jesus as the attorney
This means allowing yourself to see the person through Jesusrsquo eyes
Perhaps letting Him plead a case of mercy
ldquoChrist redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us for it is written ldquoCursed is everyone who is hung on a polerdquo (Gal 313)
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull What are you doing with the
evidence
Judging Anakrino ἀνακρίνω (Strongrsquos
G350)
examine or judge to investigate examine enquire into
scrutinise sift question specifically in a forensic sense of a judge to
hold an investigation to interrogate examine the accused or
witnesses to judge of estimate determine (the
excellence or defects of any person or thing)
(1 Cor 215 43 44 1424)
But he that is spiritual judgeth (anakrino) all things yet he himself is judged (anakrino) of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ 1 Cor 215-6
But he that is spiritual investigates examines inquires scrutinizes questions all things yet he himself determines (is determined by) the excellence or defects of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ
Krinō κρίνω (Strongrsquos G2919)
to separate select choose approve prefer to be of opinion determine to pronounce an opinion concerning right and wrong pronounce judgment to rulegovernpreside over with the power of giving judicial decisions to contend have suite at law go to law
Do ye not know that the saints shall judge (krino) the world and if the world shall be judged (krino) by you are ye unworthy to judge (kritērion) the smallest matters 1 Cor 62
Krinō comes with guidelines I can of mine own self do nothing
as I hear I judge and my judgment is just because I seek not mine own will but the will of the Father which hath sent me (Jesus in John 530)
We must have our will in submission to Godrsquos will and purposes Humility before God and men
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose And when he had looked round
about on them with anger being grieved for the hardness of their hearts he saith unto the man Stretch forth thine hand And he stretched it out and his hand was restored whole as the other Mark 35
And they were bringing unto him little children that he should touch them and the disciples rebuked them But when Jesus saw it he was moved with indignation and said unto them ldquoSuffer the little children to come unto me forbid them not for to such belongeth the kingdom of Godrdquo Mark 1013-4
Godrsquos Restorative purpose And the Passover of the Jews was at
hand and Jesus went up to Jerusalem And he found in the temple those that sold oxen and sheep and doves and the changers of money sitting and he made a scourge of cords and cast all out of the temple both the sheep and the oxen and he poured out the changers money and overthrew their tables and to them that sold the doves he said Take these things hence make not my Fathers house a house of merchandise His disciples remembered that it was written Zeal for thy house shall eat me up John213-7
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another Forgive as the Lord forgave youput on love which binds them all together in perfect unityrdquo Col 312-4
We should not base judgments on malicious lies or evil misrepresetations Speak not evil one of another
brethren He that speaketh evil of his brother and judgeth his brother speaketh evil of the law and judgeth the law but if thou judge the law thou art not a doer of the law but a judge There is one lawgiver who is able to save and to destroy who art thou that judgest another James 411-2
You shall not spread a false report You shall not join hands with a wicked man to be a malicious witness You shall not fall in with the many to do evil nor shall you bear witness in a lawsuit siding with the many so as to pervert justice nor shall you be partial to a poor man in his lawsuit Exodus 231-2
There are six things that the LORD strongly dislikes seven that are an abomination to him haughty eyes a lying tongue and hands that shed innocent blood a heart that devises wicked plans feet that make haste to run to evil a false witness who breathes out lies and one who sows discord among brothers Prov 616-19
ldquoYe judge after the flesh I judge no man And yet if I judge my judgment is true for I am not alone but I and the Father that sent merdquo (Jesus in John 815-6)
Judge not according to the appearance but judge righteous judgment John 724
Judge via Godrsquos standards not by appearances (evidence that we gathered) Also James 41-2
We must not be hypocrites when judging others for we are judged by our own standards Judge not and ye shall not be
judged condemn not and ye shall not be condemned forgive and ye shall be forgiven Luke 637
Matt 71-5 Luke 637-42 Romans 21-5 Romans 220-23 2 Sam 121-7
We are not to judge others regarding legalistic adherence to ordinances (holidays observances what to eat etc) for such are matters of faith Romans 141-23 2 Cor 87-13
Colossians 216-23 Romans 821 1 Cor 1023 Romans 45 23 Romans 1413 Romans 932 1 Cor 89 Galatians 51 13
We should not judge anyonersquos eternal destiny eternal worth and identity Therefore do not pronounce
judgment before the time before the Lord comes who will bring to light the things now hidden in darkness and will disclose the purposes of the heart Then each one will receive his commendation from God 1 Corinthians 45
Jesus said ldquoBut I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment Again anyone who says to his brother Raca is answerable to the Sanhedrin But anyone who says You fool will be in danger of the fire of hellrdquo Matt 522
Concerning Angels
But Michael the archangel when he disputed with the devil and argued about the body of Moses did not dare pronounce against him a railing judgment but said The Lord rebuke you Jude 19
Concerning God
We are not to judge (condemn God) but He does invite us to ask him questions and to reason with Him
Come now let us reason together says the Lord Isaiah 118
If any of you lack wisdom he should ask God who give generously to all without finding fault James 15
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull To whom are you presenting
evidence to
Who is the Judge
Me God Other people Society norm Whose standards are we using Do
we dare say that we have the fullness of Godrsquos knowledge wisdom justice mercy and authority to be in that role
The Father judges no one but has given all judgment to the Son that all may honor the Son just as they honor the Father John 522
For the LORD is our judge the LORD is our lawgiver the LORD is our king he will save us
Isaiah 3322
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where to have the trialbull What evidence I use bull Who or what am I putting on trial
A person a lifetime of behavior or one fixable behavior
bull How I am sifting through the evidence
bull Who is the judge and attorneybull Humility
We can judge a behavior That is wrong and it inflicted pain on me or it is not something God desires
We cannot judge a personrsquos worth identity and character
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Disclaimer
These are illustrative understanding of anger
I will attempt to show you pitfalls and where the doors to the enemy and root issues might be
It is not meant to be exhaustive to do list but to show you the power and freedom of choice
I do not claim understand the fullness of Godrsquos or human anger
The Seed Trigger Phasebull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
Pitfall We assume that the world should be like us which would be reasonable if we were all defined by God But the world we live in now is define by self--relativism that onersquos needs and convictions is different than others
Questions for the Trigger Phase Who is defining my worth
(safeguard this and reserve it only for God)
Am I jumping to conclusions about a personrsquos motivation
Do I have a hypersensitivity due to past wounds
Questions for the Trigger Phase Is the other person aware that a
violation had occurred Is the other person aware of my convictions
Can I accept differences in the convictions Accept the other person as is--different
Is the other person aware of my needs
Are my expectations reasonable
Reasonable Expectations are
Realized (Am I even aware that I have expectations and what they are)
Realistic (Is the expectation executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (expectation Agreed Upon)
The Seed Trigger Phasebull To not assume what is known
and right for me is known to the other person
bull God as source of worth identity Ultimately God is the source of fulfilling needs and the other person is all but human
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Choice of evidence source
VS VS
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where is the evidence been
presentedbull Who gets to present evidence
Is the Trial Fair Where is the trial taking place
Usually in our heads Does the defense even have a chance to present a plead
Is it a one sided argument and presentation of evidence Do you really have all the evidence
Are you retrying old evidence and old verdicts Stacking up condemning evidence
bull Exasperationbull Identity vs
behavior
Who can be the defense attorney
Is the accused allowed to have Jesus as the attorney
This means allowing yourself to see the person through Jesusrsquo eyes
Perhaps letting Him plead a case of mercy
ldquoChrist redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us for it is written ldquoCursed is everyone who is hung on a polerdquo (Gal 313)
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull What are you doing with the
evidence
Judging Anakrino ἀνακρίνω (Strongrsquos
G350)
examine or judge to investigate examine enquire into
scrutinise sift question specifically in a forensic sense of a judge to
hold an investigation to interrogate examine the accused or
witnesses to judge of estimate determine (the
excellence or defects of any person or thing)
(1 Cor 215 43 44 1424)
But he that is spiritual judgeth (anakrino) all things yet he himself is judged (anakrino) of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ 1 Cor 215-6
But he that is spiritual investigates examines inquires scrutinizes questions all things yet he himself determines (is determined by) the excellence or defects of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ
Krinō κρίνω (Strongrsquos G2919)
to separate select choose approve prefer to be of opinion determine to pronounce an opinion concerning right and wrong pronounce judgment to rulegovernpreside over with the power of giving judicial decisions to contend have suite at law go to law
Do ye not know that the saints shall judge (krino) the world and if the world shall be judged (krino) by you are ye unworthy to judge (kritērion) the smallest matters 1 Cor 62
Krinō comes with guidelines I can of mine own self do nothing
as I hear I judge and my judgment is just because I seek not mine own will but the will of the Father which hath sent me (Jesus in John 530)
We must have our will in submission to Godrsquos will and purposes Humility before God and men
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose And when he had looked round
about on them with anger being grieved for the hardness of their hearts he saith unto the man Stretch forth thine hand And he stretched it out and his hand was restored whole as the other Mark 35
And they were bringing unto him little children that he should touch them and the disciples rebuked them But when Jesus saw it he was moved with indignation and said unto them ldquoSuffer the little children to come unto me forbid them not for to such belongeth the kingdom of Godrdquo Mark 1013-4
Godrsquos Restorative purpose And the Passover of the Jews was at
hand and Jesus went up to Jerusalem And he found in the temple those that sold oxen and sheep and doves and the changers of money sitting and he made a scourge of cords and cast all out of the temple both the sheep and the oxen and he poured out the changers money and overthrew their tables and to them that sold the doves he said Take these things hence make not my Fathers house a house of merchandise His disciples remembered that it was written Zeal for thy house shall eat me up John213-7
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another Forgive as the Lord forgave youput on love which binds them all together in perfect unityrdquo Col 312-4
We should not base judgments on malicious lies or evil misrepresetations Speak not evil one of another
brethren He that speaketh evil of his brother and judgeth his brother speaketh evil of the law and judgeth the law but if thou judge the law thou art not a doer of the law but a judge There is one lawgiver who is able to save and to destroy who art thou that judgest another James 411-2
You shall not spread a false report You shall not join hands with a wicked man to be a malicious witness You shall not fall in with the many to do evil nor shall you bear witness in a lawsuit siding with the many so as to pervert justice nor shall you be partial to a poor man in his lawsuit Exodus 231-2
There are six things that the LORD strongly dislikes seven that are an abomination to him haughty eyes a lying tongue and hands that shed innocent blood a heart that devises wicked plans feet that make haste to run to evil a false witness who breathes out lies and one who sows discord among brothers Prov 616-19
ldquoYe judge after the flesh I judge no man And yet if I judge my judgment is true for I am not alone but I and the Father that sent merdquo (Jesus in John 815-6)
Judge not according to the appearance but judge righteous judgment John 724
Judge via Godrsquos standards not by appearances (evidence that we gathered) Also James 41-2
We must not be hypocrites when judging others for we are judged by our own standards Judge not and ye shall not be
judged condemn not and ye shall not be condemned forgive and ye shall be forgiven Luke 637
Matt 71-5 Luke 637-42 Romans 21-5 Romans 220-23 2 Sam 121-7
We are not to judge others regarding legalistic adherence to ordinances (holidays observances what to eat etc) for such are matters of faith Romans 141-23 2 Cor 87-13
Colossians 216-23 Romans 821 1 Cor 1023 Romans 45 23 Romans 1413 Romans 932 1 Cor 89 Galatians 51 13
We should not judge anyonersquos eternal destiny eternal worth and identity Therefore do not pronounce
judgment before the time before the Lord comes who will bring to light the things now hidden in darkness and will disclose the purposes of the heart Then each one will receive his commendation from God 1 Corinthians 45
Jesus said ldquoBut I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment Again anyone who says to his brother Raca is answerable to the Sanhedrin But anyone who says You fool will be in danger of the fire of hellrdquo Matt 522
Concerning Angels
But Michael the archangel when he disputed with the devil and argued about the body of Moses did not dare pronounce against him a railing judgment but said The Lord rebuke you Jude 19
Concerning God
We are not to judge (condemn God) but He does invite us to ask him questions and to reason with Him
Come now let us reason together says the Lord Isaiah 118
If any of you lack wisdom he should ask God who give generously to all without finding fault James 15
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull To whom are you presenting
evidence to
Who is the Judge
Me God Other people Society norm Whose standards are we using Do
we dare say that we have the fullness of Godrsquos knowledge wisdom justice mercy and authority to be in that role
The Father judges no one but has given all judgment to the Son that all may honor the Son just as they honor the Father John 522
For the LORD is our judge the LORD is our lawgiver the LORD is our king he will save us
Isaiah 3322
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where to have the trialbull What evidence I use bull Who or what am I putting on trial
A person a lifetime of behavior or one fixable behavior
bull How I am sifting through the evidence
bull Who is the judge and attorneybull Humility
We can judge a behavior That is wrong and it inflicted pain on me or it is not something God desires
We cannot judge a personrsquos worth identity and character
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Disclaimer
These are illustrative understanding of anger
I will attempt to show you pitfalls and where the doors to the enemy and root issues might be
It is not meant to be exhaustive to do list but to show you the power and freedom of choice
I do not claim understand the fullness of Godrsquos or human anger
The Seed Trigger Phasebull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
Pitfall We assume that the world should be like us which would be reasonable if we were all defined by God But the world we live in now is define by self--relativism that onersquos needs and convictions is different than others
Questions for the Trigger Phase Who is defining my worth
(safeguard this and reserve it only for God)
Am I jumping to conclusions about a personrsquos motivation
Do I have a hypersensitivity due to past wounds
Questions for the Trigger Phase Is the other person aware that a
violation had occurred Is the other person aware of my convictions
Can I accept differences in the convictions Accept the other person as is--different
Is the other person aware of my needs
Are my expectations reasonable
Reasonable Expectations are
Realized (Am I even aware that I have expectations and what they are)
Realistic (Is the expectation executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (expectation Agreed Upon)
The Seed Trigger Phasebull To not assume what is known
and right for me is known to the other person
bull God as source of worth identity Ultimately God is the source of fulfilling needs and the other person is all but human
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Choice of evidence source
VS VS
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where is the evidence been
presentedbull Who gets to present evidence
Is the Trial Fair Where is the trial taking place
Usually in our heads Does the defense even have a chance to present a plead
Is it a one sided argument and presentation of evidence Do you really have all the evidence
Are you retrying old evidence and old verdicts Stacking up condemning evidence
bull Exasperationbull Identity vs
behavior
Who can be the defense attorney
Is the accused allowed to have Jesus as the attorney
This means allowing yourself to see the person through Jesusrsquo eyes
Perhaps letting Him plead a case of mercy
ldquoChrist redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us for it is written ldquoCursed is everyone who is hung on a polerdquo (Gal 313)
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull What are you doing with the
evidence
Judging Anakrino ἀνακρίνω (Strongrsquos
G350)
examine or judge to investigate examine enquire into
scrutinise sift question specifically in a forensic sense of a judge to
hold an investigation to interrogate examine the accused or
witnesses to judge of estimate determine (the
excellence or defects of any person or thing)
(1 Cor 215 43 44 1424)
But he that is spiritual judgeth (anakrino) all things yet he himself is judged (anakrino) of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ 1 Cor 215-6
But he that is spiritual investigates examines inquires scrutinizes questions all things yet he himself determines (is determined by) the excellence or defects of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ
Krinō κρίνω (Strongrsquos G2919)
to separate select choose approve prefer to be of opinion determine to pronounce an opinion concerning right and wrong pronounce judgment to rulegovernpreside over with the power of giving judicial decisions to contend have suite at law go to law
Do ye not know that the saints shall judge (krino) the world and if the world shall be judged (krino) by you are ye unworthy to judge (kritērion) the smallest matters 1 Cor 62
Krinō comes with guidelines I can of mine own self do nothing
as I hear I judge and my judgment is just because I seek not mine own will but the will of the Father which hath sent me (Jesus in John 530)
We must have our will in submission to Godrsquos will and purposes Humility before God and men
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose And when he had looked round
about on them with anger being grieved for the hardness of their hearts he saith unto the man Stretch forth thine hand And he stretched it out and his hand was restored whole as the other Mark 35
And they were bringing unto him little children that he should touch them and the disciples rebuked them But when Jesus saw it he was moved with indignation and said unto them ldquoSuffer the little children to come unto me forbid them not for to such belongeth the kingdom of Godrdquo Mark 1013-4
Godrsquos Restorative purpose And the Passover of the Jews was at
hand and Jesus went up to Jerusalem And he found in the temple those that sold oxen and sheep and doves and the changers of money sitting and he made a scourge of cords and cast all out of the temple both the sheep and the oxen and he poured out the changers money and overthrew their tables and to them that sold the doves he said Take these things hence make not my Fathers house a house of merchandise His disciples remembered that it was written Zeal for thy house shall eat me up John213-7
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another Forgive as the Lord forgave youput on love which binds them all together in perfect unityrdquo Col 312-4
We should not base judgments on malicious lies or evil misrepresetations Speak not evil one of another
brethren He that speaketh evil of his brother and judgeth his brother speaketh evil of the law and judgeth the law but if thou judge the law thou art not a doer of the law but a judge There is one lawgiver who is able to save and to destroy who art thou that judgest another James 411-2
You shall not spread a false report You shall not join hands with a wicked man to be a malicious witness You shall not fall in with the many to do evil nor shall you bear witness in a lawsuit siding with the many so as to pervert justice nor shall you be partial to a poor man in his lawsuit Exodus 231-2
There are six things that the LORD strongly dislikes seven that are an abomination to him haughty eyes a lying tongue and hands that shed innocent blood a heart that devises wicked plans feet that make haste to run to evil a false witness who breathes out lies and one who sows discord among brothers Prov 616-19
ldquoYe judge after the flesh I judge no man And yet if I judge my judgment is true for I am not alone but I and the Father that sent merdquo (Jesus in John 815-6)
Judge not according to the appearance but judge righteous judgment John 724
Judge via Godrsquos standards not by appearances (evidence that we gathered) Also James 41-2
We must not be hypocrites when judging others for we are judged by our own standards Judge not and ye shall not be
judged condemn not and ye shall not be condemned forgive and ye shall be forgiven Luke 637
Matt 71-5 Luke 637-42 Romans 21-5 Romans 220-23 2 Sam 121-7
We are not to judge others regarding legalistic adherence to ordinances (holidays observances what to eat etc) for such are matters of faith Romans 141-23 2 Cor 87-13
Colossians 216-23 Romans 821 1 Cor 1023 Romans 45 23 Romans 1413 Romans 932 1 Cor 89 Galatians 51 13
We should not judge anyonersquos eternal destiny eternal worth and identity Therefore do not pronounce
judgment before the time before the Lord comes who will bring to light the things now hidden in darkness and will disclose the purposes of the heart Then each one will receive his commendation from God 1 Corinthians 45
Jesus said ldquoBut I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment Again anyone who says to his brother Raca is answerable to the Sanhedrin But anyone who says You fool will be in danger of the fire of hellrdquo Matt 522
Concerning Angels
But Michael the archangel when he disputed with the devil and argued about the body of Moses did not dare pronounce against him a railing judgment but said The Lord rebuke you Jude 19
Concerning God
We are not to judge (condemn God) but He does invite us to ask him questions and to reason with Him
Come now let us reason together says the Lord Isaiah 118
If any of you lack wisdom he should ask God who give generously to all without finding fault James 15
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull To whom are you presenting
evidence to
Who is the Judge
Me God Other people Society norm Whose standards are we using Do
we dare say that we have the fullness of Godrsquos knowledge wisdom justice mercy and authority to be in that role
The Father judges no one but has given all judgment to the Son that all may honor the Son just as they honor the Father John 522
For the LORD is our judge the LORD is our lawgiver the LORD is our king he will save us
Isaiah 3322
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where to have the trialbull What evidence I use bull Who or what am I putting on trial
A person a lifetime of behavior or one fixable behavior
bull How I am sifting through the evidence
bull Who is the judge and attorneybull Humility
We can judge a behavior That is wrong and it inflicted pain on me or it is not something God desires
We cannot judge a personrsquos worth identity and character
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
The Seed Trigger Phasebull Violation of my personal
worthbull Violation of my personal
needsbull Violation of my personal
convictions
Pitfall We assume that the world should be like us which would be reasonable if we were all defined by God But the world we live in now is define by self--relativism that onersquos needs and convictions is different than others
Questions for the Trigger Phase Who is defining my worth
(safeguard this and reserve it only for God)
Am I jumping to conclusions about a personrsquos motivation
Do I have a hypersensitivity due to past wounds
Questions for the Trigger Phase Is the other person aware that a
violation had occurred Is the other person aware of my convictions
Can I accept differences in the convictions Accept the other person as is--different
Is the other person aware of my needs
Are my expectations reasonable
Reasonable Expectations are
Realized (Am I even aware that I have expectations and what they are)
Realistic (Is the expectation executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (expectation Agreed Upon)
The Seed Trigger Phasebull To not assume what is known
and right for me is known to the other person
bull God as source of worth identity Ultimately God is the source of fulfilling needs and the other person is all but human
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Choice of evidence source
VS VS
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where is the evidence been
presentedbull Who gets to present evidence
Is the Trial Fair Where is the trial taking place
Usually in our heads Does the defense even have a chance to present a plead
Is it a one sided argument and presentation of evidence Do you really have all the evidence
Are you retrying old evidence and old verdicts Stacking up condemning evidence
bull Exasperationbull Identity vs
behavior
Who can be the defense attorney
Is the accused allowed to have Jesus as the attorney
This means allowing yourself to see the person through Jesusrsquo eyes
Perhaps letting Him plead a case of mercy
ldquoChrist redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us for it is written ldquoCursed is everyone who is hung on a polerdquo (Gal 313)
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull What are you doing with the
evidence
Judging Anakrino ἀνακρίνω (Strongrsquos
G350)
examine or judge to investigate examine enquire into
scrutinise sift question specifically in a forensic sense of a judge to
hold an investigation to interrogate examine the accused or
witnesses to judge of estimate determine (the
excellence or defects of any person or thing)
(1 Cor 215 43 44 1424)
But he that is spiritual judgeth (anakrino) all things yet he himself is judged (anakrino) of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ 1 Cor 215-6
But he that is spiritual investigates examines inquires scrutinizes questions all things yet he himself determines (is determined by) the excellence or defects of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ
Krinō κρίνω (Strongrsquos G2919)
to separate select choose approve prefer to be of opinion determine to pronounce an opinion concerning right and wrong pronounce judgment to rulegovernpreside over with the power of giving judicial decisions to contend have suite at law go to law
Do ye not know that the saints shall judge (krino) the world and if the world shall be judged (krino) by you are ye unworthy to judge (kritērion) the smallest matters 1 Cor 62
Krinō comes with guidelines I can of mine own self do nothing
as I hear I judge and my judgment is just because I seek not mine own will but the will of the Father which hath sent me (Jesus in John 530)
We must have our will in submission to Godrsquos will and purposes Humility before God and men
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose And when he had looked round
about on them with anger being grieved for the hardness of their hearts he saith unto the man Stretch forth thine hand And he stretched it out and his hand was restored whole as the other Mark 35
And they were bringing unto him little children that he should touch them and the disciples rebuked them But when Jesus saw it he was moved with indignation and said unto them ldquoSuffer the little children to come unto me forbid them not for to such belongeth the kingdom of Godrdquo Mark 1013-4
Godrsquos Restorative purpose And the Passover of the Jews was at
hand and Jesus went up to Jerusalem And he found in the temple those that sold oxen and sheep and doves and the changers of money sitting and he made a scourge of cords and cast all out of the temple both the sheep and the oxen and he poured out the changers money and overthrew their tables and to them that sold the doves he said Take these things hence make not my Fathers house a house of merchandise His disciples remembered that it was written Zeal for thy house shall eat me up John213-7
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another Forgive as the Lord forgave youput on love which binds them all together in perfect unityrdquo Col 312-4
We should not base judgments on malicious lies or evil misrepresetations Speak not evil one of another
brethren He that speaketh evil of his brother and judgeth his brother speaketh evil of the law and judgeth the law but if thou judge the law thou art not a doer of the law but a judge There is one lawgiver who is able to save and to destroy who art thou that judgest another James 411-2
You shall not spread a false report You shall not join hands with a wicked man to be a malicious witness You shall not fall in with the many to do evil nor shall you bear witness in a lawsuit siding with the many so as to pervert justice nor shall you be partial to a poor man in his lawsuit Exodus 231-2
There are six things that the LORD strongly dislikes seven that are an abomination to him haughty eyes a lying tongue and hands that shed innocent blood a heart that devises wicked plans feet that make haste to run to evil a false witness who breathes out lies and one who sows discord among brothers Prov 616-19
ldquoYe judge after the flesh I judge no man And yet if I judge my judgment is true for I am not alone but I and the Father that sent merdquo (Jesus in John 815-6)
Judge not according to the appearance but judge righteous judgment John 724
Judge via Godrsquos standards not by appearances (evidence that we gathered) Also James 41-2
We must not be hypocrites when judging others for we are judged by our own standards Judge not and ye shall not be
judged condemn not and ye shall not be condemned forgive and ye shall be forgiven Luke 637
Matt 71-5 Luke 637-42 Romans 21-5 Romans 220-23 2 Sam 121-7
We are not to judge others regarding legalistic adherence to ordinances (holidays observances what to eat etc) for such are matters of faith Romans 141-23 2 Cor 87-13
Colossians 216-23 Romans 821 1 Cor 1023 Romans 45 23 Romans 1413 Romans 932 1 Cor 89 Galatians 51 13
We should not judge anyonersquos eternal destiny eternal worth and identity Therefore do not pronounce
judgment before the time before the Lord comes who will bring to light the things now hidden in darkness and will disclose the purposes of the heart Then each one will receive his commendation from God 1 Corinthians 45
Jesus said ldquoBut I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment Again anyone who says to his brother Raca is answerable to the Sanhedrin But anyone who says You fool will be in danger of the fire of hellrdquo Matt 522
Concerning Angels
But Michael the archangel when he disputed with the devil and argued about the body of Moses did not dare pronounce against him a railing judgment but said The Lord rebuke you Jude 19
Concerning God
We are not to judge (condemn God) but He does invite us to ask him questions and to reason with Him
Come now let us reason together says the Lord Isaiah 118
If any of you lack wisdom he should ask God who give generously to all without finding fault James 15
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull To whom are you presenting
evidence to
Who is the Judge
Me God Other people Society norm Whose standards are we using Do
we dare say that we have the fullness of Godrsquos knowledge wisdom justice mercy and authority to be in that role
The Father judges no one but has given all judgment to the Son that all may honor the Son just as they honor the Father John 522
For the LORD is our judge the LORD is our lawgiver the LORD is our king he will save us
Isaiah 3322
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where to have the trialbull What evidence I use bull Who or what am I putting on trial
A person a lifetime of behavior or one fixable behavior
bull How I am sifting through the evidence
bull Who is the judge and attorneybull Humility
We can judge a behavior That is wrong and it inflicted pain on me or it is not something God desires
We cannot judge a personrsquos worth identity and character
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Questions for the Trigger Phase Who is defining my worth
(safeguard this and reserve it only for God)
Am I jumping to conclusions about a personrsquos motivation
Do I have a hypersensitivity due to past wounds
Questions for the Trigger Phase Is the other person aware that a
violation had occurred Is the other person aware of my convictions
Can I accept differences in the convictions Accept the other person as is--different
Is the other person aware of my needs
Are my expectations reasonable
Reasonable Expectations are
Realized (Am I even aware that I have expectations and what they are)
Realistic (Is the expectation executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (expectation Agreed Upon)
The Seed Trigger Phasebull To not assume what is known
and right for me is known to the other person
bull God as source of worth identity Ultimately God is the source of fulfilling needs and the other person is all but human
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Choice of evidence source
VS VS
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where is the evidence been
presentedbull Who gets to present evidence
Is the Trial Fair Where is the trial taking place
Usually in our heads Does the defense even have a chance to present a plead
Is it a one sided argument and presentation of evidence Do you really have all the evidence
Are you retrying old evidence and old verdicts Stacking up condemning evidence
bull Exasperationbull Identity vs
behavior
Who can be the defense attorney
Is the accused allowed to have Jesus as the attorney
This means allowing yourself to see the person through Jesusrsquo eyes
Perhaps letting Him plead a case of mercy
ldquoChrist redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us for it is written ldquoCursed is everyone who is hung on a polerdquo (Gal 313)
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull What are you doing with the
evidence
Judging Anakrino ἀνακρίνω (Strongrsquos
G350)
examine or judge to investigate examine enquire into
scrutinise sift question specifically in a forensic sense of a judge to
hold an investigation to interrogate examine the accused or
witnesses to judge of estimate determine (the
excellence or defects of any person or thing)
(1 Cor 215 43 44 1424)
But he that is spiritual judgeth (anakrino) all things yet he himself is judged (anakrino) of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ 1 Cor 215-6
But he that is spiritual investigates examines inquires scrutinizes questions all things yet he himself determines (is determined by) the excellence or defects of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ
Krinō κρίνω (Strongrsquos G2919)
to separate select choose approve prefer to be of opinion determine to pronounce an opinion concerning right and wrong pronounce judgment to rulegovernpreside over with the power of giving judicial decisions to contend have suite at law go to law
Do ye not know that the saints shall judge (krino) the world and if the world shall be judged (krino) by you are ye unworthy to judge (kritērion) the smallest matters 1 Cor 62
Krinō comes with guidelines I can of mine own self do nothing
as I hear I judge and my judgment is just because I seek not mine own will but the will of the Father which hath sent me (Jesus in John 530)
We must have our will in submission to Godrsquos will and purposes Humility before God and men
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose And when he had looked round
about on them with anger being grieved for the hardness of their hearts he saith unto the man Stretch forth thine hand And he stretched it out and his hand was restored whole as the other Mark 35
And they were bringing unto him little children that he should touch them and the disciples rebuked them But when Jesus saw it he was moved with indignation and said unto them ldquoSuffer the little children to come unto me forbid them not for to such belongeth the kingdom of Godrdquo Mark 1013-4
Godrsquos Restorative purpose And the Passover of the Jews was at
hand and Jesus went up to Jerusalem And he found in the temple those that sold oxen and sheep and doves and the changers of money sitting and he made a scourge of cords and cast all out of the temple both the sheep and the oxen and he poured out the changers money and overthrew their tables and to them that sold the doves he said Take these things hence make not my Fathers house a house of merchandise His disciples remembered that it was written Zeal for thy house shall eat me up John213-7
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another Forgive as the Lord forgave youput on love which binds them all together in perfect unityrdquo Col 312-4
We should not base judgments on malicious lies or evil misrepresetations Speak not evil one of another
brethren He that speaketh evil of his brother and judgeth his brother speaketh evil of the law and judgeth the law but if thou judge the law thou art not a doer of the law but a judge There is one lawgiver who is able to save and to destroy who art thou that judgest another James 411-2
You shall not spread a false report You shall not join hands with a wicked man to be a malicious witness You shall not fall in with the many to do evil nor shall you bear witness in a lawsuit siding with the many so as to pervert justice nor shall you be partial to a poor man in his lawsuit Exodus 231-2
There are six things that the LORD strongly dislikes seven that are an abomination to him haughty eyes a lying tongue and hands that shed innocent blood a heart that devises wicked plans feet that make haste to run to evil a false witness who breathes out lies and one who sows discord among brothers Prov 616-19
ldquoYe judge after the flesh I judge no man And yet if I judge my judgment is true for I am not alone but I and the Father that sent merdquo (Jesus in John 815-6)
Judge not according to the appearance but judge righteous judgment John 724
Judge via Godrsquos standards not by appearances (evidence that we gathered) Also James 41-2
We must not be hypocrites when judging others for we are judged by our own standards Judge not and ye shall not be
judged condemn not and ye shall not be condemned forgive and ye shall be forgiven Luke 637
Matt 71-5 Luke 637-42 Romans 21-5 Romans 220-23 2 Sam 121-7
We are not to judge others regarding legalistic adherence to ordinances (holidays observances what to eat etc) for such are matters of faith Romans 141-23 2 Cor 87-13
Colossians 216-23 Romans 821 1 Cor 1023 Romans 45 23 Romans 1413 Romans 932 1 Cor 89 Galatians 51 13
We should not judge anyonersquos eternal destiny eternal worth and identity Therefore do not pronounce
judgment before the time before the Lord comes who will bring to light the things now hidden in darkness and will disclose the purposes of the heart Then each one will receive his commendation from God 1 Corinthians 45
Jesus said ldquoBut I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment Again anyone who says to his brother Raca is answerable to the Sanhedrin But anyone who says You fool will be in danger of the fire of hellrdquo Matt 522
Concerning Angels
But Michael the archangel when he disputed with the devil and argued about the body of Moses did not dare pronounce against him a railing judgment but said The Lord rebuke you Jude 19
Concerning God
We are not to judge (condemn God) but He does invite us to ask him questions and to reason with Him
Come now let us reason together says the Lord Isaiah 118
If any of you lack wisdom he should ask God who give generously to all without finding fault James 15
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull To whom are you presenting
evidence to
Who is the Judge
Me God Other people Society norm Whose standards are we using Do
we dare say that we have the fullness of Godrsquos knowledge wisdom justice mercy and authority to be in that role
The Father judges no one but has given all judgment to the Son that all may honor the Son just as they honor the Father John 522
For the LORD is our judge the LORD is our lawgiver the LORD is our king he will save us
Isaiah 3322
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where to have the trialbull What evidence I use bull Who or what am I putting on trial
A person a lifetime of behavior or one fixable behavior
bull How I am sifting through the evidence
bull Who is the judge and attorneybull Humility
We can judge a behavior That is wrong and it inflicted pain on me or it is not something God desires
We cannot judge a personrsquos worth identity and character
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Questions for the Trigger Phase Is the other person aware that a
violation had occurred Is the other person aware of my convictions
Can I accept differences in the convictions Accept the other person as is--different
Is the other person aware of my needs
Are my expectations reasonable
Reasonable Expectations are
Realized (Am I even aware that I have expectations and what they are)
Realistic (Is the expectation executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (expectation Agreed Upon)
The Seed Trigger Phasebull To not assume what is known
and right for me is known to the other person
bull God as source of worth identity Ultimately God is the source of fulfilling needs and the other person is all but human
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Choice of evidence source
VS VS
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where is the evidence been
presentedbull Who gets to present evidence
Is the Trial Fair Where is the trial taking place
Usually in our heads Does the defense even have a chance to present a plead
Is it a one sided argument and presentation of evidence Do you really have all the evidence
Are you retrying old evidence and old verdicts Stacking up condemning evidence
bull Exasperationbull Identity vs
behavior
Who can be the defense attorney
Is the accused allowed to have Jesus as the attorney
This means allowing yourself to see the person through Jesusrsquo eyes
Perhaps letting Him plead a case of mercy
ldquoChrist redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us for it is written ldquoCursed is everyone who is hung on a polerdquo (Gal 313)
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull What are you doing with the
evidence
Judging Anakrino ἀνακρίνω (Strongrsquos
G350)
examine or judge to investigate examine enquire into
scrutinise sift question specifically in a forensic sense of a judge to
hold an investigation to interrogate examine the accused or
witnesses to judge of estimate determine (the
excellence or defects of any person or thing)
(1 Cor 215 43 44 1424)
But he that is spiritual judgeth (anakrino) all things yet he himself is judged (anakrino) of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ 1 Cor 215-6
But he that is spiritual investigates examines inquires scrutinizes questions all things yet he himself determines (is determined by) the excellence or defects of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ
Krinō κρίνω (Strongrsquos G2919)
to separate select choose approve prefer to be of opinion determine to pronounce an opinion concerning right and wrong pronounce judgment to rulegovernpreside over with the power of giving judicial decisions to contend have suite at law go to law
Do ye not know that the saints shall judge (krino) the world and if the world shall be judged (krino) by you are ye unworthy to judge (kritērion) the smallest matters 1 Cor 62
Krinō comes with guidelines I can of mine own self do nothing
as I hear I judge and my judgment is just because I seek not mine own will but the will of the Father which hath sent me (Jesus in John 530)
We must have our will in submission to Godrsquos will and purposes Humility before God and men
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose And when he had looked round
about on them with anger being grieved for the hardness of their hearts he saith unto the man Stretch forth thine hand And he stretched it out and his hand was restored whole as the other Mark 35
And they were bringing unto him little children that he should touch them and the disciples rebuked them But when Jesus saw it he was moved with indignation and said unto them ldquoSuffer the little children to come unto me forbid them not for to such belongeth the kingdom of Godrdquo Mark 1013-4
Godrsquos Restorative purpose And the Passover of the Jews was at
hand and Jesus went up to Jerusalem And he found in the temple those that sold oxen and sheep and doves and the changers of money sitting and he made a scourge of cords and cast all out of the temple both the sheep and the oxen and he poured out the changers money and overthrew their tables and to them that sold the doves he said Take these things hence make not my Fathers house a house of merchandise His disciples remembered that it was written Zeal for thy house shall eat me up John213-7
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another Forgive as the Lord forgave youput on love which binds them all together in perfect unityrdquo Col 312-4
We should not base judgments on malicious lies or evil misrepresetations Speak not evil one of another
brethren He that speaketh evil of his brother and judgeth his brother speaketh evil of the law and judgeth the law but if thou judge the law thou art not a doer of the law but a judge There is one lawgiver who is able to save and to destroy who art thou that judgest another James 411-2
You shall not spread a false report You shall not join hands with a wicked man to be a malicious witness You shall not fall in with the many to do evil nor shall you bear witness in a lawsuit siding with the many so as to pervert justice nor shall you be partial to a poor man in his lawsuit Exodus 231-2
There are six things that the LORD strongly dislikes seven that are an abomination to him haughty eyes a lying tongue and hands that shed innocent blood a heart that devises wicked plans feet that make haste to run to evil a false witness who breathes out lies and one who sows discord among brothers Prov 616-19
ldquoYe judge after the flesh I judge no man And yet if I judge my judgment is true for I am not alone but I and the Father that sent merdquo (Jesus in John 815-6)
Judge not according to the appearance but judge righteous judgment John 724
Judge via Godrsquos standards not by appearances (evidence that we gathered) Also James 41-2
We must not be hypocrites when judging others for we are judged by our own standards Judge not and ye shall not be
judged condemn not and ye shall not be condemned forgive and ye shall be forgiven Luke 637
Matt 71-5 Luke 637-42 Romans 21-5 Romans 220-23 2 Sam 121-7
We are not to judge others regarding legalistic adherence to ordinances (holidays observances what to eat etc) for such are matters of faith Romans 141-23 2 Cor 87-13
Colossians 216-23 Romans 821 1 Cor 1023 Romans 45 23 Romans 1413 Romans 932 1 Cor 89 Galatians 51 13
We should not judge anyonersquos eternal destiny eternal worth and identity Therefore do not pronounce
judgment before the time before the Lord comes who will bring to light the things now hidden in darkness and will disclose the purposes of the heart Then each one will receive his commendation from God 1 Corinthians 45
Jesus said ldquoBut I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment Again anyone who says to his brother Raca is answerable to the Sanhedrin But anyone who says You fool will be in danger of the fire of hellrdquo Matt 522
Concerning Angels
But Michael the archangel when he disputed with the devil and argued about the body of Moses did not dare pronounce against him a railing judgment but said The Lord rebuke you Jude 19
Concerning God
We are not to judge (condemn God) but He does invite us to ask him questions and to reason with Him
Come now let us reason together says the Lord Isaiah 118
If any of you lack wisdom he should ask God who give generously to all without finding fault James 15
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull To whom are you presenting
evidence to
Who is the Judge
Me God Other people Society norm Whose standards are we using Do
we dare say that we have the fullness of Godrsquos knowledge wisdom justice mercy and authority to be in that role
The Father judges no one but has given all judgment to the Son that all may honor the Son just as they honor the Father John 522
For the LORD is our judge the LORD is our lawgiver the LORD is our king he will save us
Isaiah 3322
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where to have the trialbull What evidence I use bull Who or what am I putting on trial
A person a lifetime of behavior or one fixable behavior
bull How I am sifting through the evidence
bull Who is the judge and attorneybull Humility
We can judge a behavior That is wrong and it inflicted pain on me or it is not something God desires
We cannot judge a personrsquos worth identity and character
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Reasonable Expectations are
Realized (Am I even aware that I have expectations and what they are)
Realistic (Is the expectation executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (expectation Agreed Upon)
The Seed Trigger Phasebull To not assume what is known
and right for me is known to the other person
bull God as source of worth identity Ultimately God is the source of fulfilling needs and the other person is all but human
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Choice of evidence source
VS VS
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where is the evidence been
presentedbull Who gets to present evidence
Is the Trial Fair Where is the trial taking place
Usually in our heads Does the defense even have a chance to present a plead
Is it a one sided argument and presentation of evidence Do you really have all the evidence
Are you retrying old evidence and old verdicts Stacking up condemning evidence
bull Exasperationbull Identity vs
behavior
Who can be the defense attorney
Is the accused allowed to have Jesus as the attorney
This means allowing yourself to see the person through Jesusrsquo eyes
Perhaps letting Him plead a case of mercy
ldquoChrist redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us for it is written ldquoCursed is everyone who is hung on a polerdquo (Gal 313)
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull What are you doing with the
evidence
Judging Anakrino ἀνακρίνω (Strongrsquos
G350)
examine or judge to investigate examine enquire into
scrutinise sift question specifically in a forensic sense of a judge to
hold an investigation to interrogate examine the accused or
witnesses to judge of estimate determine (the
excellence or defects of any person or thing)
(1 Cor 215 43 44 1424)
But he that is spiritual judgeth (anakrino) all things yet he himself is judged (anakrino) of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ 1 Cor 215-6
But he that is spiritual investigates examines inquires scrutinizes questions all things yet he himself determines (is determined by) the excellence or defects of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ
Krinō κρίνω (Strongrsquos G2919)
to separate select choose approve prefer to be of opinion determine to pronounce an opinion concerning right and wrong pronounce judgment to rulegovernpreside over with the power of giving judicial decisions to contend have suite at law go to law
Do ye not know that the saints shall judge (krino) the world and if the world shall be judged (krino) by you are ye unworthy to judge (kritērion) the smallest matters 1 Cor 62
Krinō comes with guidelines I can of mine own self do nothing
as I hear I judge and my judgment is just because I seek not mine own will but the will of the Father which hath sent me (Jesus in John 530)
We must have our will in submission to Godrsquos will and purposes Humility before God and men
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose And when he had looked round
about on them with anger being grieved for the hardness of their hearts he saith unto the man Stretch forth thine hand And he stretched it out and his hand was restored whole as the other Mark 35
And they were bringing unto him little children that he should touch them and the disciples rebuked them But when Jesus saw it he was moved with indignation and said unto them ldquoSuffer the little children to come unto me forbid them not for to such belongeth the kingdom of Godrdquo Mark 1013-4
Godrsquos Restorative purpose And the Passover of the Jews was at
hand and Jesus went up to Jerusalem And he found in the temple those that sold oxen and sheep and doves and the changers of money sitting and he made a scourge of cords and cast all out of the temple both the sheep and the oxen and he poured out the changers money and overthrew their tables and to them that sold the doves he said Take these things hence make not my Fathers house a house of merchandise His disciples remembered that it was written Zeal for thy house shall eat me up John213-7
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another Forgive as the Lord forgave youput on love which binds them all together in perfect unityrdquo Col 312-4
We should not base judgments on malicious lies or evil misrepresetations Speak not evil one of another
brethren He that speaketh evil of his brother and judgeth his brother speaketh evil of the law and judgeth the law but if thou judge the law thou art not a doer of the law but a judge There is one lawgiver who is able to save and to destroy who art thou that judgest another James 411-2
You shall not spread a false report You shall not join hands with a wicked man to be a malicious witness You shall not fall in with the many to do evil nor shall you bear witness in a lawsuit siding with the many so as to pervert justice nor shall you be partial to a poor man in his lawsuit Exodus 231-2
There are six things that the LORD strongly dislikes seven that are an abomination to him haughty eyes a lying tongue and hands that shed innocent blood a heart that devises wicked plans feet that make haste to run to evil a false witness who breathes out lies and one who sows discord among brothers Prov 616-19
ldquoYe judge after the flesh I judge no man And yet if I judge my judgment is true for I am not alone but I and the Father that sent merdquo (Jesus in John 815-6)
Judge not according to the appearance but judge righteous judgment John 724
Judge via Godrsquos standards not by appearances (evidence that we gathered) Also James 41-2
We must not be hypocrites when judging others for we are judged by our own standards Judge not and ye shall not be
judged condemn not and ye shall not be condemned forgive and ye shall be forgiven Luke 637
Matt 71-5 Luke 637-42 Romans 21-5 Romans 220-23 2 Sam 121-7
We are not to judge others regarding legalistic adherence to ordinances (holidays observances what to eat etc) for such are matters of faith Romans 141-23 2 Cor 87-13
Colossians 216-23 Romans 821 1 Cor 1023 Romans 45 23 Romans 1413 Romans 932 1 Cor 89 Galatians 51 13
We should not judge anyonersquos eternal destiny eternal worth and identity Therefore do not pronounce
judgment before the time before the Lord comes who will bring to light the things now hidden in darkness and will disclose the purposes of the heart Then each one will receive his commendation from God 1 Corinthians 45
Jesus said ldquoBut I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment Again anyone who says to his brother Raca is answerable to the Sanhedrin But anyone who says You fool will be in danger of the fire of hellrdquo Matt 522
Concerning Angels
But Michael the archangel when he disputed with the devil and argued about the body of Moses did not dare pronounce against him a railing judgment but said The Lord rebuke you Jude 19
Concerning God
We are not to judge (condemn God) but He does invite us to ask him questions and to reason with Him
Come now let us reason together says the Lord Isaiah 118
If any of you lack wisdom he should ask God who give generously to all without finding fault James 15
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull To whom are you presenting
evidence to
Who is the Judge
Me God Other people Society norm Whose standards are we using Do
we dare say that we have the fullness of Godrsquos knowledge wisdom justice mercy and authority to be in that role
The Father judges no one but has given all judgment to the Son that all may honor the Son just as they honor the Father John 522
For the LORD is our judge the LORD is our lawgiver the LORD is our king he will save us
Isaiah 3322
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where to have the trialbull What evidence I use bull Who or what am I putting on trial
A person a lifetime of behavior or one fixable behavior
bull How I am sifting through the evidence
bull Who is the judge and attorneybull Humility
We can judge a behavior That is wrong and it inflicted pain on me or it is not something God desires
We cannot judge a personrsquos worth identity and character
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
The Seed Trigger Phasebull To not assume what is known
and right for me is known to the other person
bull God as source of worth identity Ultimately God is the source of fulfilling needs and the other person is all but human
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Choice of evidence source
VS VS
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where is the evidence been
presentedbull Who gets to present evidence
Is the Trial Fair Where is the trial taking place
Usually in our heads Does the defense even have a chance to present a plead
Is it a one sided argument and presentation of evidence Do you really have all the evidence
Are you retrying old evidence and old verdicts Stacking up condemning evidence
bull Exasperationbull Identity vs
behavior
Who can be the defense attorney
Is the accused allowed to have Jesus as the attorney
This means allowing yourself to see the person through Jesusrsquo eyes
Perhaps letting Him plead a case of mercy
ldquoChrist redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us for it is written ldquoCursed is everyone who is hung on a polerdquo (Gal 313)
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull What are you doing with the
evidence
Judging Anakrino ἀνακρίνω (Strongrsquos
G350)
examine or judge to investigate examine enquire into
scrutinise sift question specifically in a forensic sense of a judge to
hold an investigation to interrogate examine the accused or
witnesses to judge of estimate determine (the
excellence or defects of any person or thing)
(1 Cor 215 43 44 1424)
But he that is spiritual judgeth (anakrino) all things yet he himself is judged (anakrino) of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ 1 Cor 215-6
But he that is spiritual investigates examines inquires scrutinizes questions all things yet he himself determines (is determined by) the excellence or defects of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ
Krinō κρίνω (Strongrsquos G2919)
to separate select choose approve prefer to be of opinion determine to pronounce an opinion concerning right and wrong pronounce judgment to rulegovernpreside over with the power of giving judicial decisions to contend have suite at law go to law
Do ye not know that the saints shall judge (krino) the world and if the world shall be judged (krino) by you are ye unworthy to judge (kritērion) the smallest matters 1 Cor 62
Krinō comes with guidelines I can of mine own self do nothing
as I hear I judge and my judgment is just because I seek not mine own will but the will of the Father which hath sent me (Jesus in John 530)
We must have our will in submission to Godrsquos will and purposes Humility before God and men
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose And when he had looked round
about on them with anger being grieved for the hardness of their hearts he saith unto the man Stretch forth thine hand And he stretched it out and his hand was restored whole as the other Mark 35
And they were bringing unto him little children that he should touch them and the disciples rebuked them But when Jesus saw it he was moved with indignation and said unto them ldquoSuffer the little children to come unto me forbid them not for to such belongeth the kingdom of Godrdquo Mark 1013-4
Godrsquos Restorative purpose And the Passover of the Jews was at
hand and Jesus went up to Jerusalem And he found in the temple those that sold oxen and sheep and doves and the changers of money sitting and he made a scourge of cords and cast all out of the temple both the sheep and the oxen and he poured out the changers money and overthrew their tables and to them that sold the doves he said Take these things hence make not my Fathers house a house of merchandise His disciples remembered that it was written Zeal for thy house shall eat me up John213-7
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another Forgive as the Lord forgave youput on love which binds them all together in perfect unityrdquo Col 312-4
We should not base judgments on malicious lies or evil misrepresetations Speak not evil one of another
brethren He that speaketh evil of his brother and judgeth his brother speaketh evil of the law and judgeth the law but if thou judge the law thou art not a doer of the law but a judge There is one lawgiver who is able to save and to destroy who art thou that judgest another James 411-2
You shall not spread a false report You shall not join hands with a wicked man to be a malicious witness You shall not fall in with the many to do evil nor shall you bear witness in a lawsuit siding with the many so as to pervert justice nor shall you be partial to a poor man in his lawsuit Exodus 231-2
There are six things that the LORD strongly dislikes seven that are an abomination to him haughty eyes a lying tongue and hands that shed innocent blood a heart that devises wicked plans feet that make haste to run to evil a false witness who breathes out lies and one who sows discord among brothers Prov 616-19
ldquoYe judge after the flesh I judge no man And yet if I judge my judgment is true for I am not alone but I and the Father that sent merdquo (Jesus in John 815-6)
Judge not according to the appearance but judge righteous judgment John 724
Judge via Godrsquos standards not by appearances (evidence that we gathered) Also James 41-2
We must not be hypocrites when judging others for we are judged by our own standards Judge not and ye shall not be
judged condemn not and ye shall not be condemned forgive and ye shall be forgiven Luke 637
Matt 71-5 Luke 637-42 Romans 21-5 Romans 220-23 2 Sam 121-7
We are not to judge others regarding legalistic adherence to ordinances (holidays observances what to eat etc) for such are matters of faith Romans 141-23 2 Cor 87-13
Colossians 216-23 Romans 821 1 Cor 1023 Romans 45 23 Romans 1413 Romans 932 1 Cor 89 Galatians 51 13
We should not judge anyonersquos eternal destiny eternal worth and identity Therefore do not pronounce
judgment before the time before the Lord comes who will bring to light the things now hidden in darkness and will disclose the purposes of the heart Then each one will receive his commendation from God 1 Corinthians 45
Jesus said ldquoBut I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment Again anyone who says to his brother Raca is answerable to the Sanhedrin But anyone who says You fool will be in danger of the fire of hellrdquo Matt 522
Concerning Angels
But Michael the archangel when he disputed with the devil and argued about the body of Moses did not dare pronounce against him a railing judgment but said The Lord rebuke you Jude 19
Concerning God
We are not to judge (condemn God) but He does invite us to ask him questions and to reason with Him
Come now let us reason together says the Lord Isaiah 118
If any of you lack wisdom he should ask God who give generously to all without finding fault James 15
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull To whom are you presenting
evidence to
Who is the Judge
Me God Other people Society norm Whose standards are we using Do
we dare say that we have the fullness of Godrsquos knowledge wisdom justice mercy and authority to be in that role
The Father judges no one but has given all judgment to the Son that all may honor the Son just as they honor the Father John 522
For the LORD is our judge the LORD is our lawgiver the LORD is our king he will save us
Isaiah 3322
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where to have the trialbull What evidence I use bull Who or what am I putting on trial
A person a lifetime of behavior or one fixable behavior
bull How I am sifting through the evidence
bull Who is the judge and attorneybull Humility
We can judge a behavior That is wrong and it inflicted pain on me or it is not something God desires
We cannot judge a personrsquos worth identity and character
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Choice of evidence source
VS VS
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where is the evidence been
presentedbull Who gets to present evidence
Is the Trial Fair Where is the trial taking place
Usually in our heads Does the defense even have a chance to present a plead
Is it a one sided argument and presentation of evidence Do you really have all the evidence
Are you retrying old evidence and old verdicts Stacking up condemning evidence
bull Exasperationbull Identity vs
behavior
Who can be the defense attorney
Is the accused allowed to have Jesus as the attorney
This means allowing yourself to see the person through Jesusrsquo eyes
Perhaps letting Him plead a case of mercy
ldquoChrist redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us for it is written ldquoCursed is everyone who is hung on a polerdquo (Gal 313)
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull What are you doing with the
evidence
Judging Anakrino ἀνακρίνω (Strongrsquos
G350)
examine or judge to investigate examine enquire into
scrutinise sift question specifically in a forensic sense of a judge to
hold an investigation to interrogate examine the accused or
witnesses to judge of estimate determine (the
excellence or defects of any person or thing)
(1 Cor 215 43 44 1424)
But he that is spiritual judgeth (anakrino) all things yet he himself is judged (anakrino) of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ 1 Cor 215-6
But he that is spiritual investigates examines inquires scrutinizes questions all things yet he himself determines (is determined by) the excellence or defects of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ
Krinō κρίνω (Strongrsquos G2919)
to separate select choose approve prefer to be of opinion determine to pronounce an opinion concerning right and wrong pronounce judgment to rulegovernpreside over with the power of giving judicial decisions to contend have suite at law go to law
Do ye not know that the saints shall judge (krino) the world and if the world shall be judged (krino) by you are ye unworthy to judge (kritērion) the smallest matters 1 Cor 62
Krinō comes with guidelines I can of mine own self do nothing
as I hear I judge and my judgment is just because I seek not mine own will but the will of the Father which hath sent me (Jesus in John 530)
We must have our will in submission to Godrsquos will and purposes Humility before God and men
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose And when he had looked round
about on them with anger being grieved for the hardness of their hearts he saith unto the man Stretch forth thine hand And he stretched it out and his hand was restored whole as the other Mark 35
And they were bringing unto him little children that he should touch them and the disciples rebuked them But when Jesus saw it he was moved with indignation and said unto them ldquoSuffer the little children to come unto me forbid them not for to such belongeth the kingdom of Godrdquo Mark 1013-4
Godrsquos Restorative purpose And the Passover of the Jews was at
hand and Jesus went up to Jerusalem And he found in the temple those that sold oxen and sheep and doves and the changers of money sitting and he made a scourge of cords and cast all out of the temple both the sheep and the oxen and he poured out the changers money and overthrew their tables and to them that sold the doves he said Take these things hence make not my Fathers house a house of merchandise His disciples remembered that it was written Zeal for thy house shall eat me up John213-7
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another Forgive as the Lord forgave youput on love which binds them all together in perfect unityrdquo Col 312-4
We should not base judgments on malicious lies or evil misrepresetations Speak not evil one of another
brethren He that speaketh evil of his brother and judgeth his brother speaketh evil of the law and judgeth the law but if thou judge the law thou art not a doer of the law but a judge There is one lawgiver who is able to save and to destroy who art thou that judgest another James 411-2
You shall not spread a false report You shall not join hands with a wicked man to be a malicious witness You shall not fall in with the many to do evil nor shall you bear witness in a lawsuit siding with the many so as to pervert justice nor shall you be partial to a poor man in his lawsuit Exodus 231-2
There are six things that the LORD strongly dislikes seven that are an abomination to him haughty eyes a lying tongue and hands that shed innocent blood a heart that devises wicked plans feet that make haste to run to evil a false witness who breathes out lies and one who sows discord among brothers Prov 616-19
ldquoYe judge after the flesh I judge no man And yet if I judge my judgment is true for I am not alone but I and the Father that sent merdquo (Jesus in John 815-6)
Judge not according to the appearance but judge righteous judgment John 724
Judge via Godrsquos standards not by appearances (evidence that we gathered) Also James 41-2
We must not be hypocrites when judging others for we are judged by our own standards Judge not and ye shall not be
judged condemn not and ye shall not be condemned forgive and ye shall be forgiven Luke 637
Matt 71-5 Luke 637-42 Romans 21-5 Romans 220-23 2 Sam 121-7
We are not to judge others regarding legalistic adherence to ordinances (holidays observances what to eat etc) for such are matters of faith Romans 141-23 2 Cor 87-13
Colossians 216-23 Romans 821 1 Cor 1023 Romans 45 23 Romans 1413 Romans 932 1 Cor 89 Galatians 51 13
We should not judge anyonersquos eternal destiny eternal worth and identity Therefore do not pronounce
judgment before the time before the Lord comes who will bring to light the things now hidden in darkness and will disclose the purposes of the heart Then each one will receive his commendation from God 1 Corinthians 45
Jesus said ldquoBut I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment Again anyone who says to his brother Raca is answerable to the Sanhedrin But anyone who says You fool will be in danger of the fire of hellrdquo Matt 522
Concerning Angels
But Michael the archangel when he disputed with the devil and argued about the body of Moses did not dare pronounce against him a railing judgment but said The Lord rebuke you Jude 19
Concerning God
We are not to judge (condemn God) but He does invite us to ask him questions and to reason with Him
Come now let us reason together says the Lord Isaiah 118
If any of you lack wisdom he should ask God who give generously to all without finding fault James 15
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull To whom are you presenting
evidence to
Who is the Judge
Me God Other people Society norm Whose standards are we using Do
we dare say that we have the fullness of Godrsquos knowledge wisdom justice mercy and authority to be in that role
The Father judges no one but has given all judgment to the Son that all may honor the Son just as they honor the Father John 522
For the LORD is our judge the LORD is our lawgiver the LORD is our king he will save us
Isaiah 3322
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where to have the trialbull What evidence I use bull Who or what am I putting on trial
A person a lifetime of behavior or one fixable behavior
bull How I am sifting through the evidence
bull Who is the judge and attorneybull Humility
We can judge a behavior That is wrong and it inflicted pain on me or it is not something God desires
We cannot judge a personrsquos worth identity and character
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where is the evidence been
presentedbull Who gets to present evidence
Is the Trial Fair Where is the trial taking place
Usually in our heads Does the defense even have a chance to present a plead
Is it a one sided argument and presentation of evidence Do you really have all the evidence
Are you retrying old evidence and old verdicts Stacking up condemning evidence
bull Exasperationbull Identity vs
behavior
Who can be the defense attorney
Is the accused allowed to have Jesus as the attorney
This means allowing yourself to see the person through Jesusrsquo eyes
Perhaps letting Him plead a case of mercy
ldquoChrist redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us for it is written ldquoCursed is everyone who is hung on a polerdquo (Gal 313)
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull What are you doing with the
evidence
Judging Anakrino ἀνακρίνω (Strongrsquos
G350)
examine or judge to investigate examine enquire into
scrutinise sift question specifically in a forensic sense of a judge to
hold an investigation to interrogate examine the accused or
witnesses to judge of estimate determine (the
excellence or defects of any person or thing)
(1 Cor 215 43 44 1424)
But he that is spiritual judgeth (anakrino) all things yet he himself is judged (anakrino) of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ 1 Cor 215-6
But he that is spiritual investigates examines inquires scrutinizes questions all things yet he himself determines (is determined by) the excellence or defects of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ
Krinō κρίνω (Strongrsquos G2919)
to separate select choose approve prefer to be of opinion determine to pronounce an opinion concerning right and wrong pronounce judgment to rulegovernpreside over with the power of giving judicial decisions to contend have suite at law go to law
Do ye not know that the saints shall judge (krino) the world and if the world shall be judged (krino) by you are ye unworthy to judge (kritērion) the smallest matters 1 Cor 62
Krinō comes with guidelines I can of mine own self do nothing
as I hear I judge and my judgment is just because I seek not mine own will but the will of the Father which hath sent me (Jesus in John 530)
We must have our will in submission to Godrsquos will and purposes Humility before God and men
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose And when he had looked round
about on them with anger being grieved for the hardness of their hearts he saith unto the man Stretch forth thine hand And he stretched it out and his hand was restored whole as the other Mark 35
And they were bringing unto him little children that he should touch them and the disciples rebuked them But when Jesus saw it he was moved with indignation and said unto them ldquoSuffer the little children to come unto me forbid them not for to such belongeth the kingdom of Godrdquo Mark 1013-4
Godrsquos Restorative purpose And the Passover of the Jews was at
hand and Jesus went up to Jerusalem And he found in the temple those that sold oxen and sheep and doves and the changers of money sitting and he made a scourge of cords and cast all out of the temple both the sheep and the oxen and he poured out the changers money and overthrew their tables and to them that sold the doves he said Take these things hence make not my Fathers house a house of merchandise His disciples remembered that it was written Zeal for thy house shall eat me up John213-7
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another Forgive as the Lord forgave youput on love which binds them all together in perfect unityrdquo Col 312-4
We should not base judgments on malicious lies or evil misrepresetations Speak not evil one of another
brethren He that speaketh evil of his brother and judgeth his brother speaketh evil of the law and judgeth the law but if thou judge the law thou art not a doer of the law but a judge There is one lawgiver who is able to save and to destroy who art thou that judgest another James 411-2
You shall not spread a false report You shall not join hands with a wicked man to be a malicious witness You shall not fall in with the many to do evil nor shall you bear witness in a lawsuit siding with the many so as to pervert justice nor shall you be partial to a poor man in his lawsuit Exodus 231-2
There are six things that the LORD strongly dislikes seven that are an abomination to him haughty eyes a lying tongue and hands that shed innocent blood a heart that devises wicked plans feet that make haste to run to evil a false witness who breathes out lies and one who sows discord among brothers Prov 616-19
ldquoYe judge after the flesh I judge no man And yet if I judge my judgment is true for I am not alone but I and the Father that sent merdquo (Jesus in John 815-6)
Judge not according to the appearance but judge righteous judgment John 724
Judge via Godrsquos standards not by appearances (evidence that we gathered) Also James 41-2
We must not be hypocrites when judging others for we are judged by our own standards Judge not and ye shall not be
judged condemn not and ye shall not be condemned forgive and ye shall be forgiven Luke 637
Matt 71-5 Luke 637-42 Romans 21-5 Romans 220-23 2 Sam 121-7
We are not to judge others regarding legalistic adherence to ordinances (holidays observances what to eat etc) for such are matters of faith Romans 141-23 2 Cor 87-13
Colossians 216-23 Romans 821 1 Cor 1023 Romans 45 23 Romans 1413 Romans 932 1 Cor 89 Galatians 51 13
We should not judge anyonersquos eternal destiny eternal worth and identity Therefore do not pronounce
judgment before the time before the Lord comes who will bring to light the things now hidden in darkness and will disclose the purposes of the heart Then each one will receive his commendation from God 1 Corinthians 45
Jesus said ldquoBut I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment Again anyone who says to his brother Raca is answerable to the Sanhedrin But anyone who says You fool will be in danger of the fire of hellrdquo Matt 522
Concerning Angels
But Michael the archangel when he disputed with the devil and argued about the body of Moses did not dare pronounce against him a railing judgment but said The Lord rebuke you Jude 19
Concerning God
We are not to judge (condemn God) but He does invite us to ask him questions and to reason with Him
Come now let us reason together says the Lord Isaiah 118
If any of you lack wisdom he should ask God who give generously to all without finding fault James 15
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull To whom are you presenting
evidence to
Who is the Judge
Me God Other people Society norm Whose standards are we using Do
we dare say that we have the fullness of Godrsquos knowledge wisdom justice mercy and authority to be in that role
The Father judges no one but has given all judgment to the Son that all may honor the Son just as they honor the Father John 522
For the LORD is our judge the LORD is our lawgiver the LORD is our king he will save us
Isaiah 3322
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where to have the trialbull What evidence I use bull Who or what am I putting on trial
A person a lifetime of behavior or one fixable behavior
bull How I am sifting through the evidence
bull Who is the judge and attorneybull Humility
We can judge a behavior That is wrong and it inflicted pain on me or it is not something God desires
We cannot judge a personrsquos worth identity and character
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Is the Trial Fair Where is the trial taking place
Usually in our heads Does the defense even have a chance to present a plead
Is it a one sided argument and presentation of evidence Do you really have all the evidence
Are you retrying old evidence and old verdicts Stacking up condemning evidence
bull Exasperationbull Identity vs
behavior
Who can be the defense attorney
Is the accused allowed to have Jesus as the attorney
This means allowing yourself to see the person through Jesusrsquo eyes
Perhaps letting Him plead a case of mercy
ldquoChrist redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us for it is written ldquoCursed is everyone who is hung on a polerdquo (Gal 313)
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull What are you doing with the
evidence
Judging Anakrino ἀνακρίνω (Strongrsquos
G350)
examine or judge to investigate examine enquire into
scrutinise sift question specifically in a forensic sense of a judge to
hold an investigation to interrogate examine the accused or
witnesses to judge of estimate determine (the
excellence or defects of any person or thing)
(1 Cor 215 43 44 1424)
But he that is spiritual judgeth (anakrino) all things yet he himself is judged (anakrino) of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ 1 Cor 215-6
But he that is spiritual investigates examines inquires scrutinizes questions all things yet he himself determines (is determined by) the excellence or defects of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ
Krinō κρίνω (Strongrsquos G2919)
to separate select choose approve prefer to be of opinion determine to pronounce an opinion concerning right and wrong pronounce judgment to rulegovernpreside over with the power of giving judicial decisions to contend have suite at law go to law
Do ye not know that the saints shall judge (krino) the world and if the world shall be judged (krino) by you are ye unworthy to judge (kritērion) the smallest matters 1 Cor 62
Krinō comes with guidelines I can of mine own self do nothing
as I hear I judge and my judgment is just because I seek not mine own will but the will of the Father which hath sent me (Jesus in John 530)
We must have our will in submission to Godrsquos will and purposes Humility before God and men
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose And when he had looked round
about on them with anger being grieved for the hardness of their hearts he saith unto the man Stretch forth thine hand And he stretched it out and his hand was restored whole as the other Mark 35
And they were bringing unto him little children that he should touch them and the disciples rebuked them But when Jesus saw it he was moved with indignation and said unto them ldquoSuffer the little children to come unto me forbid them not for to such belongeth the kingdom of Godrdquo Mark 1013-4
Godrsquos Restorative purpose And the Passover of the Jews was at
hand and Jesus went up to Jerusalem And he found in the temple those that sold oxen and sheep and doves and the changers of money sitting and he made a scourge of cords and cast all out of the temple both the sheep and the oxen and he poured out the changers money and overthrew their tables and to them that sold the doves he said Take these things hence make not my Fathers house a house of merchandise His disciples remembered that it was written Zeal for thy house shall eat me up John213-7
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another Forgive as the Lord forgave youput on love which binds them all together in perfect unityrdquo Col 312-4
We should not base judgments on malicious lies or evil misrepresetations Speak not evil one of another
brethren He that speaketh evil of his brother and judgeth his brother speaketh evil of the law and judgeth the law but if thou judge the law thou art not a doer of the law but a judge There is one lawgiver who is able to save and to destroy who art thou that judgest another James 411-2
You shall not spread a false report You shall not join hands with a wicked man to be a malicious witness You shall not fall in with the many to do evil nor shall you bear witness in a lawsuit siding with the many so as to pervert justice nor shall you be partial to a poor man in his lawsuit Exodus 231-2
There are six things that the LORD strongly dislikes seven that are an abomination to him haughty eyes a lying tongue and hands that shed innocent blood a heart that devises wicked plans feet that make haste to run to evil a false witness who breathes out lies and one who sows discord among brothers Prov 616-19
ldquoYe judge after the flesh I judge no man And yet if I judge my judgment is true for I am not alone but I and the Father that sent merdquo (Jesus in John 815-6)
Judge not according to the appearance but judge righteous judgment John 724
Judge via Godrsquos standards not by appearances (evidence that we gathered) Also James 41-2
We must not be hypocrites when judging others for we are judged by our own standards Judge not and ye shall not be
judged condemn not and ye shall not be condemned forgive and ye shall be forgiven Luke 637
Matt 71-5 Luke 637-42 Romans 21-5 Romans 220-23 2 Sam 121-7
We are not to judge others regarding legalistic adherence to ordinances (holidays observances what to eat etc) for such are matters of faith Romans 141-23 2 Cor 87-13
Colossians 216-23 Romans 821 1 Cor 1023 Romans 45 23 Romans 1413 Romans 932 1 Cor 89 Galatians 51 13
We should not judge anyonersquos eternal destiny eternal worth and identity Therefore do not pronounce
judgment before the time before the Lord comes who will bring to light the things now hidden in darkness and will disclose the purposes of the heart Then each one will receive his commendation from God 1 Corinthians 45
Jesus said ldquoBut I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment Again anyone who says to his brother Raca is answerable to the Sanhedrin But anyone who says You fool will be in danger of the fire of hellrdquo Matt 522
Concerning Angels
But Michael the archangel when he disputed with the devil and argued about the body of Moses did not dare pronounce against him a railing judgment but said The Lord rebuke you Jude 19
Concerning God
We are not to judge (condemn God) but He does invite us to ask him questions and to reason with Him
Come now let us reason together says the Lord Isaiah 118
If any of you lack wisdom he should ask God who give generously to all without finding fault James 15
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull To whom are you presenting
evidence to
Who is the Judge
Me God Other people Society norm Whose standards are we using Do
we dare say that we have the fullness of Godrsquos knowledge wisdom justice mercy and authority to be in that role
The Father judges no one but has given all judgment to the Son that all may honor the Son just as they honor the Father John 522
For the LORD is our judge the LORD is our lawgiver the LORD is our king he will save us
Isaiah 3322
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where to have the trialbull What evidence I use bull Who or what am I putting on trial
A person a lifetime of behavior or one fixable behavior
bull How I am sifting through the evidence
bull Who is the judge and attorneybull Humility
We can judge a behavior That is wrong and it inflicted pain on me or it is not something God desires
We cannot judge a personrsquos worth identity and character
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Who can be the defense attorney
Is the accused allowed to have Jesus as the attorney
This means allowing yourself to see the person through Jesusrsquo eyes
Perhaps letting Him plead a case of mercy
ldquoChrist redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us for it is written ldquoCursed is everyone who is hung on a polerdquo (Gal 313)
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull What are you doing with the
evidence
Judging Anakrino ἀνακρίνω (Strongrsquos
G350)
examine or judge to investigate examine enquire into
scrutinise sift question specifically in a forensic sense of a judge to
hold an investigation to interrogate examine the accused or
witnesses to judge of estimate determine (the
excellence or defects of any person or thing)
(1 Cor 215 43 44 1424)
But he that is spiritual judgeth (anakrino) all things yet he himself is judged (anakrino) of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ 1 Cor 215-6
But he that is spiritual investigates examines inquires scrutinizes questions all things yet he himself determines (is determined by) the excellence or defects of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ
Krinō κρίνω (Strongrsquos G2919)
to separate select choose approve prefer to be of opinion determine to pronounce an opinion concerning right and wrong pronounce judgment to rulegovernpreside over with the power of giving judicial decisions to contend have suite at law go to law
Do ye not know that the saints shall judge (krino) the world and if the world shall be judged (krino) by you are ye unworthy to judge (kritērion) the smallest matters 1 Cor 62
Krinō comes with guidelines I can of mine own self do nothing
as I hear I judge and my judgment is just because I seek not mine own will but the will of the Father which hath sent me (Jesus in John 530)
We must have our will in submission to Godrsquos will and purposes Humility before God and men
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose And when he had looked round
about on them with anger being grieved for the hardness of their hearts he saith unto the man Stretch forth thine hand And he stretched it out and his hand was restored whole as the other Mark 35
And they were bringing unto him little children that he should touch them and the disciples rebuked them But when Jesus saw it he was moved with indignation and said unto them ldquoSuffer the little children to come unto me forbid them not for to such belongeth the kingdom of Godrdquo Mark 1013-4
Godrsquos Restorative purpose And the Passover of the Jews was at
hand and Jesus went up to Jerusalem And he found in the temple those that sold oxen and sheep and doves and the changers of money sitting and he made a scourge of cords and cast all out of the temple both the sheep and the oxen and he poured out the changers money and overthrew their tables and to them that sold the doves he said Take these things hence make not my Fathers house a house of merchandise His disciples remembered that it was written Zeal for thy house shall eat me up John213-7
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another Forgive as the Lord forgave youput on love which binds them all together in perfect unityrdquo Col 312-4
We should not base judgments on malicious lies or evil misrepresetations Speak not evil one of another
brethren He that speaketh evil of his brother and judgeth his brother speaketh evil of the law and judgeth the law but if thou judge the law thou art not a doer of the law but a judge There is one lawgiver who is able to save and to destroy who art thou that judgest another James 411-2
You shall not spread a false report You shall not join hands with a wicked man to be a malicious witness You shall not fall in with the many to do evil nor shall you bear witness in a lawsuit siding with the many so as to pervert justice nor shall you be partial to a poor man in his lawsuit Exodus 231-2
There are six things that the LORD strongly dislikes seven that are an abomination to him haughty eyes a lying tongue and hands that shed innocent blood a heart that devises wicked plans feet that make haste to run to evil a false witness who breathes out lies and one who sows discord among brothers Prov 616-19
ldquoYe judge after the flesh I judge no man And yet if I judge my judgment is true for I am not alone but I and the Father that sent merdquo (Jesus in John 815-6)
Judge not according to the appearance but judge righteous judgment John 724
Judge via Godrsquos standards not by appearances (evidence that we gathered) Also James 41-2
We must not be hypocrites when judging others for we are judged by our own standards Judge not and ye shall not be
judged condemn not and ye shall not be condemned forgive and ye shall be forgiven Luke 637
Matt 71-5 Luke 637-42 Romans 21-5 Romans 220-23 2 Sam 121-7
We are not to judge others regarding legalistic adherence to ordinances (holidays observances what to eat etc) for such are matters of faith Romans 141-23 2 Cor 87-13
Colossians 216-23 Romans 821 1 Cor 1023 Romans 45 23 Romans 1413 Romans 932 1 Cor 89 Galatians 51 13
We should not judge anyonersquos eternal destiny eternal worth and identity Therefore do not pronounce
judgment before the time before the Lord comes who will bring to light the things now hidden in darkness and will disclose the purposes of the heart Then each one will receive his commendation from God 1 Corinthians 45
Jesus said ldquoBut I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment Again anyone who says to his brother Raca is answerable to the Sanhedrin But anyone who says You fool will be in danger of the fire of hellrdquo Matt 522
Concerning Angels
But Michael the archangel when he disputed with the devil and argued about the body of Moses did not dare pronounce against him a railing judgment but said The Lord rebuke you Jude 19
Concerning God
We are not to judge (condemn God) but He does invite us to ask him questions and to reason with Him
Come now let us reason together says the Lord Isaiah 118
If any of you lack wisdom he should ask God who give generously to all without finding fault James 15
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull To whom are you presenting
evidence to
Who is the Judge
Me God Other people Society norm Whose standards are we using Do
we dare say that we have the fullness of Godrsquos knowledge wisdom justice mercy and authority to be in that role
The Father judges no one but has given all judgment to the Son that all may honor the Son just as they honor the Father John 522
For the LORD is our judge the LORD is our lawgiver the LORD is our king he will save us
Isaiah 3322
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where to have the trialbull What evidence I use bull Who or what am I putting on trial
A person a lifetime of behavior or one fixable behavior
bull How I am sifting through the evidence
bull Who is the judge and attorneybull Humility
We can judge a behavior That is wrong and it inflicted pain on me or it is not something God desires
We cannot judge a personrsquos worth identity and character
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull What are you doing with the
evidence
Judging Anakrino ἀνακρίνω (Strongrsquos
G350)
examine or judge to investigate examine enquire into
scrutinise sift question specifically in a forensic sense of a judge to
hold an investigation to interrogate examine the accused or
witnesses to judge of estimate determine (the
excellence or defects of any person or thing)
(1 Cor 215 43 44 1424)
But he that is spiritual judgeth (anakrino) all things yet he himself is judged (anakrino) of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ 1 Cor 215-6
But he that is spiritual investigates examines inquires scrutinizes questions all things yet he himself determines (is determined by) the excellence or defects of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ
Krinō κρίνω (Strongrsquos G2919)
to separate select choose approve prefer to be of opinion determine to pronounce an opinion concerning right and wrong pronounce judgment to rulegovernpreside over with the power of giving judicial decisions to contend have suite at law go to law
Do ye not know that the saints shall judge (krino) the world and if the world shall be judged (krino) by you are ye unworthy to judge (kritērion) the smallest matters 1 Cor 62
Krinō comes with guidelines I can of mine own self do nothing
as I hear I judge and my judgment is just because I seek not mine own will but the will of the Father which hath sent me (Jesus in John 530)
We must have our will in submission to Godrsquos will and purposes Humility before God and men
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose And when he had looked round
about on them with anger being grieved for the hardness of their hearts he saith unto the man Stretch forth thine hand And he stretched it out and his hand was restored whole as the other Mark 35
And they were bringing unto him little children that he should touch them and the disciples rebuked them But when Jesus saw it he was moved with indignation and said unto them ldquoSuffer the little children to come unto me forbid them not for to such belongeth the kingdom of Godrdquo Mark 1013-4
Godrsquos Restorative purpose And the Passover of the Jews was at
hand and Jesus went up to Jerusalem And he found in the temple those that sold oxen and sheep and doves and the changers of money sitting and he made a scourge of cords and cast all out of the temple both the sheep and the oxen and he poured out the changers money and overthrew their tables and to them that sold the doves he said Take these things hence make not my Fathers house a house of merchandise His disciples remembered that it was written Zeal for thy house shall eat me up John213-7
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another Forgive as the Lord forgave youput on love which binds them all together in perfect unityrdquo Col 312-4
We should not base judgments on malicious lies or evil misrepresetations Speak not evil one of another
brethren He that speaketh evil of his brother and judgeth his brother speaketh evil of the law and judgeth the law but if thou judge the law thou art not a doer of the law but a judge There is one lawgiver who is able to save and to destroy who art thou that judgest another James 411-2
You shall not spread a false report You shall not join hands with a wicked man to be a malicious witness You shall not fall in with the many to do evil nor shall you bear witness in a lawsuit siding with the many so as to pervert justice nor shall you be partial to a poor man in his lawsuit Exodus 231-2
There are six things that the LORD strongly dislikes seven that are an abomination to him haughty eyes a lying tongue and hands that shed innocent blood a heart that devises wicked plans feet that make haste to run to evil a false witness who breathes out lies and one who sows discord among brothers Prov 616-19
ldquoYe judge after the flesh I judge no man And yet if I judge my judgment is true for I am not alone but I and the Father that sent merdquo (Jesus in John 815-6)
Judge not according to the appearance but judge righteous judgment John 724
Judge via Godrsquos standards not by appearances (evidence that we gathered) Also James 41-2
We must not be hypocrites when judging others for we are judged by our own standards Judge not and ye shall not be
judged condemn not and ye shall not be condemned forgive and ye shall be forgiven Luke 637
Matt 71-5 Luke 637-42 Romans 21-5 Romans 220-23 2 Sam 121-7
We are not to judge others regarding legalistic adherence to ordinances (holidays observances what to eat etc) for such are matters of faith Romans 141-23 2 Cor 87-13
Colossians 216-23 Romans 821 1 Cor 1023 Romans 45 23 Romans 1413 Romans 932 1 Cor 89 Galatians 51 13
We should not judge anyonersquos eternal destiny eternal worth and identity Therefore do not pronounce
judgment before the time before the Lord comes who will bring to light the things now hidden in darkness and will disclose the purposes of the heart Then each one will receive his commendation from God 1 Corinthians 45
Jesus said ldquoBut I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment Again anyone who says to his brother Raca is answerable to the Sanhedrin But anyone who says You fool will be in danger of the fire of hellrdquo Matt 522
Concerning Angels
But Michael the archangel when he disputed with the devil and argued about the body of Moses did not dare pronounce against him a railing judgment but said The Lord rebuke you Jude 19
Concerning God
We are not to judge (condemn God) but He does invite us to ask him questions and to reason with Him
Come now let us reason together says the Lord Isaiah 118
If any of you lack wisdom he should ask God who give generously to all without finding fault James 15
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull To whom are you presenting
evidence to
Who is the Judge
Me God Other people Society norm Whose standards are we using Do
we dare say that we have the fullness of Godrsquos knowledge wisdom justice mercy and authority to be in that role
The Father judges no one but has given all judgment to the Son that all may honor the Son just as they honor the Father John 522
For the LORD is our judge the LORD is our lawgiver the LORD is our king he will save us
Isaiah 3322
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where to have the trialbull What evidence I use bull Who or what am I putting on trial
A person a lifetime of behavior or one fixable behavior
bull How I am sifting through the evidence
bull Who is the judge and attorneybull Humility
We can judge a behavior That is wrong and it inflicted pain on me or it is not something God desires
We cannot judge a personrsquos worth identity and character
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Judging Anakrino ἀνακρίνω (Strongrsquos
G350)
examine or judge to investigate examine enquire into
scrutinise sift question specifically in a forensic sense of a judge to
hold an investigation to interrogate examine the accused or
witnesses to judge of estimate determine (the
excellence or defects of any person or thing)
(1 Cor 215 43 44 1424)
But he that is spiritual judgeth (anakrino) all things yet he himself is judged (anakrino) of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ 1 Cor 215-6
But he that is spiritual investigates examines inquires scrutinizes questions all things yet he himself determines (is determined by) the excellence or defects of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ
Krinō κρίνω (Strongrsquos G2919)
to separate select choose approve prefer to be of opinion determine to pronounce an opinion concerning right and wrong pronounce judgment to rulegovernpreside over with the power of giving judicial decisions to contend have suite at law go to law
Do ye not know that the saints shall judge (krino) the world and if the world shall be judged (krino) by you are ye unworthy to judge (kritērion) the smallest matters 1 Cor 62
Krinō comes with guidelines I can of mine own self do nothing
as I hear I judge and my judgment is just because I seek not mine own will but the will of the Father which hath sent me (Jesus in John 530)
We must have our will in submission to Godrsquos will and purposes Humility before God and men
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose And when he had looked round
about on them with anger being grieved for the hardness of their hearts he saith unto the man Stretch forth thine hand And he stretched it out and his hand was restored whole as the other Mark 35
And they were bringing unto him little children that he should touch them and the disciples rebuked them But when Jesus saw it he was moved with indignation and said unto them ldquoSuffer the little children to come unto me forbid them not for to such belongeth the kingdom of Godrdquo Mark 1013-4
Godrsquos Restorative purpose And the Passover of the Jews was at
hand and Jesus went up to Jerusalem And he found in the temple those that sold oxen and sheep and doves and the changers of money sitting and he made a scourge of cords and cast all out of the temple both the sheep and the oxen and he poured out the changers money and overthrew their tables and to them that sold the doves he said Take these things hence make not my Fathers house a house of merchandise His disciples remembered that it was written Zeal for thy house shall eat me up John213-7
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another Forgive as the Lord forgave youput on love which binds them all together in perfect unityrdquo Col 312-4
We should not base judgments on malicious lies or evil misrepresetations Speak not evil one of another
brethren He that speaketh evil of his brother and judgeth his brother speaketh evil of the law and judgeth the law but if thou judge the law thou art not a doer of the law but a judge There is one lawgiver who is able to save and to destroy who art thou that judgest another James 411-2
You shall not spread a false report You shall not join hands with a wicked man to be a malicious witness You shall not fall in with the many to do evil nor shall you bear witness in a lawsuit siding with the many so as to pervert justice nor shall you be partial to a poor man in his lawsuit Exodus 231-2
There are six things that the LORD strongly dislikes seven that are an abomination to him haughty eyes a lying tongue and hands that shed innocent blood a heart that devises wicked plans feet that make haste to run to evil a false witness who breathes out lies and one who sows discord among brothers Prov 616-19
ldquoYe judge after the flesh I judge no man And yet if I judge my judgment is true for I am not alone but I and the Father that sent merdquo (Jesus in John 815-6)
Judge not according to the appearance but judge righteous judgment John 724
Judge via Godrsquos standards not by appearances (evidence that we gathered) Also James 41-2
We must not be hypocrites when judging others for we are judged by our own standards Judge not and ye shall not be
judged condemn not and ye shall not be condemned forgive and ye shall be forgiven Luke 637
Matt 71-5 Luke 637-42 Romans 21-5 Romans 220-23 2 Sam 121-7
We are not to judge others regarding legalistic adherence to ordinances (holidays observances what to eat etc) for such are matters of faith Romans 141-23 2 Cor 87-13
Colossians 216-23 Romans 821 1 Cor 1023 Romans 45 23 Romans 1413 Romans 932 1 Cor 89 Galatians 51 13
We should not judge anyonersquos eternal destiny eternal worth and identity Therefore do not pronounce
judgment before the time before the Lord comes who will bring to light the things now hidden in darkness and will disclose the purposes of the heart Then each one will receive his commendation from God 1 Corinthians 45
Jesus said ldquoBut I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment Again anyone who says to his brother Raca is answerable to the Sanhedrin But anyone who says You fool will be in danger of the fire of hellrdquo Matt 522
Concerning Angels
But Michael the archangel when he disputed with the devil and argued about the body of Moses did not dare pronounce against him a railing judgment but said The Lord rebuke you Jude 19
Concerning God
We are not to judge (condemn God) but He does invite us to ask him questions and to reason with Him
Come now let us reason together says the Lord Isaiah 118
If any of you lack wisdom he should ask God who give generously to all without finding fault James 15
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull To whom are you presenting
evidence to
Who is the Judge
Me God Other people Society norm Whose standards are we using Do
we dare say that we have the fullness of Godrsquos knowledge wisdom justice mercy and authority to be in that role
The Father judges no one but has given all judgment to the Son that all may honor the Son just as they honor the Father John 522
For the LORD is our judge the LORD is our lawgiver the LORD is our king he will save us
Isaiah 3322
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where to have the trialbull What evidence I use bull Who or what am I putting on trial
A person a lifetime of behavior or one fixable behavior
bull How I am sifting through the evidence
bull Who is the judge and attorneybull Humility
We can judge a behavior That is wrong and it inflicted pain on me or it is not something God desires
We cannot judge a personrsquos worth identity and character
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
But he that is spiritual judgeth (anakrino) all things yet he himself is judged (anakrino) of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ 1 Cor 215-6
But he that is spiritual investigates examines inquires scrutinizes questions all things yet he himself determines (is determined by) the excellence or defects of no man For who hath known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him But we have the mind of Christ
Krinō κρίνω (Strongrsquos G2919)
to separate select choose approve prefer to be of opinion determine to pronounce an opinion concerning right and wrong pronounce judgment to rulegovernpreside over with the power of giving judicial decisions to contend have suite at law go to law
Do ye not know that the saints shall judge (krino) the world and if the world shall be judged (krino) by you are ye unworthy to judge (kritērion) the smallest matters 1 Cor 62
Krinō comes with guidelines I can of mine own self do nothing
as I hear I judge and my judgment is just because I seek not mine own will but the will of the Father which hath sent me (Jesus in John 530)
We must have our will in submission to Godrsquos will and purposes Humility before God and men
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose And when he had looked round
about on them with anger being grieved for the hardness of their hearts he saith unto the man Stretch forth thine hand And he stretched it out and his hand was restored whole as the other Mark 35
And they were bringing unto him little children that he should touch them and the disciples rebuked them But when Jesus saw it he was moved with indignation and said unto them ldquoSuffer the little children to come unto me forbid them not for to such belongeth the kingdom of Godrdquo Mark 1013-4
Godrsquos Restorative purpose And the Passover of the Jews was at
hand and Jesus went up to Jerusalem And he found in the temple those that sold oxen and sheep and doves and the changers of money sitting and he made a scourge of cords and cast all out of the temple both the sheep and the oxen and he poured out the changers money and overthrew their tables and to them that sold the doves he said Take these things hence make not my Fathers house a house of merchandise His disciples remembered that it was written Zeal for thy house shall eat me up John213-7
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another Forgive as the Lord forgave youput on love which binds them all together in perfect unityrdquo Col 312-4
We should not base judgments on malicious lies or evil misrepresetations Speak not evil one of another
brethren He that speaketh evil of his brother and judgeth his brother speaketh evil of the law and judgeth the law but if thou judge the law thou art not a doer of the law but a judge There is one lawgiver who is able to save and to destroy who art thou that judgest another James 411-2
You shall not spread a false report You shall not join hands with a wicked man to be a malicious witness You shall not fall in with the many to do evil nor shall you bear witness in a lawsuit siding with the many so as to pervert justice nor shall you be partial to a poor man in his lawsuit Exodus 231-2
There are six things that the LORD strongly dislikes seven that are an abomination to him haughty eyes a lying tongue and hands that shed innocent blood a heart that devises wicked plans feet that make haste to run to evil a false witness who breathes out lies and one who sows discord among brothers Prov 616-19
ldquoYe judge after the flesh I judge no man And yet if I judge my judgment is true for I am not alone but I and the Father that sent merdquo (Jesus in John 815-6)
Judge not according to the appearance but judge righteous judgment John 724
Judge via Godrsquos standards not by appearances (evidence that we gathered) Also James 41-2
We must not be hypocrites when judging others for we are judged by our own standards Judge not and ye shall not be
judged condemn not and ye shall not be condemned forgive and ye shall be forgiven Luke 637
Matt 71-5 Luke 637-42 Romans 21-5 Romans 220-23 2 Sam 121-7
We are not to judge others regarding legalistic adherence to ordinances (holidays observances what to eat etc) for such are matters of faith Romans 141-23 2 Cor 87-13
Colossians 216-23 Romans 821 1 Cor 1023 Romans 45 23 Romans 1413 Romans 932 1 Cor 89 Galatians 51 13
We should not judge anyonersquos eternal destiny eternal worth and identity Therefore do not pronounce
judgment before the time before the Lord comes who will bring to light the things now hidden in darkness and will disclose the purposes of the heart Then each one will receive his commendation from God 1 Corinthians 45
Jesus said ldquoBut I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment Again anyone who says to his brother Raca is answerable to the Sanhedrin But anyone who says You fool will be in danger of the fire of hellrdquo Matt 522
Concerning Angels
But Michael the archangel when he disputed with the devil and argued about the body of Moses did not dare pronounce against him a railing judgment but said The Lord rebuke you Jude 19
Concerning God
We are not to judge (condemn God) but He does invite us to ask him questions and to reason with Him
Come now let us reason together says the Lord Isaiah 118
If any of you lack wisdom he should ask God who give generously to all without finding fault James 15
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull To whom are you presenting
evidence to
Who is the Judge
Me God Other people Society norm Whose standards are we using Do
we dare say that we have the fullness of Godrsquos knowledge wisdom justice mercy and authority to be in that role
The Father judges no one but has given all judgment to the Son that all may honor the Son just as they honor the Father John 522
For the LORD is our judge the LORD is our lawgiver the LORD is our king he will save us
Isaiah 3322
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where to have the trialbull What evidence I use bull Who or what am I putting on trial
A person a lifetime of behavior or one fixable behavior
bull How I am sifting through the evidence
bull Who is the judge and attorneybull Humility
We can judge a behavior That is wrong and it inflicted pain on me or it is not something God desires
We cannot judge a personrsquos worth identity and character
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Krinō κρίνω (Strongrsquos G2919)
to separate select choose approve prefer to be of opinion determine to pronounce an opinion concerning right and wrong pronounce judgment to rulegovernpreside over with the power of giving judicial decisions to contend have suite at law go to law
Do ye not know that the saints shall judge (krino) the world and if the world shall be judged (krino) by you are ye unworthy to judge (kritērion) the smallest matters 1 Cor 62
Krinō comes with guidelines I can of mine own self do nothing
as I hear I judge and my judgment is just because I seek not mine own will but the will of the Father which hath sent me (Jesus in John 530)
We must have our will in submission to Godrsquos will and purposes Humility before God and men
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose And when he had looked round
about on them with anger being grieved for the hardness of their hearts he saith unto the man Stretch forth thine hand And he stretched it out and his hand was restored whole as the other Mark 35
And they were bringing unto him little children that he should touch them and the disciples rebuked them But when Jesus saw it he was moved with indignation and said unto them ldquoSuffer the little children to come unto me forbid them not for to such belongeth the kingdom of Godrdquo Mark 1013-4
Godrsquos Restorative purpose And the Passover of the Jews was at
hand and Jesus went up to Jerusalem And he found in the temple those that sold oxen and sheep and doves and the changers of money sitting and he made a scourge of cords and cast all out of the temple both the sheep and the oxen and he poured out the changers money and overthrew their tables and to them that sold the doves he said Take these things hence make not my Fathers house a house of merchandise His disciples remembered that it was written Zeal for thy house shall eat me up John213-7
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another Forgive as the Lord forgave youput on love which binds them all together in perfect unityrdquo Col 312-4
We should not base judgments on malicious lies or evil misrepresetations Speak not evil one of another
brethren He that speaketh evil of his brother and judgeth his brother speaketh evil of the law and judgeth the law but if thou judge the law thou art not a doer of the law but a judge There is one lawgiver who is able to save and to destroy who art thou that judgest another James 411-2
You shall not spread a false report You shall not join hands with a wicked man to be a malicious witness You shall not fall in with the many to do evil nor shall you bear witness in a lawsuit siding with the many so as to pervert justice nor shall you be partial to a poor man in his lawsuit Exodus 231-2
There are six things that the LORD strongly dislikes seven that are an abomination to him haughty eyes a lying tongue and hands that shed innocent blood a heart that devises wicked plans feet that make haste to run to evil a false witness who breathes out lies and one who sows discord among brothers Prov 616-19
ldquoYe judge after the flesh I judge no man And yet if I judge my judgment is true for I am not alone but I and the Father that sent merdquo (Jesus in John 815-6)
Judge not according to the appearance but judge righteous judgment John 724
Judge via Godrsquos standards not by appearances (evidence that we gathered) Also James 41-2
We must not be hypocrites when judging others for we are judged by our own standards Judge not and ye shall not be
judged condemn not and ye shall not be condemned forgive and ye shall be forgiven Luke 637
Matt 71-5 Luke 637-42 Romans 21-5 Romans 220-23 2 Sam 121-7
We are not to judge others regarding legalistic adherence to ordinances (holidays observances what to eat etc) for such are matters of faith Romans 141-23 2 Cor 87-13
Colossians 216-23 Romans 821 1 Cor 1023 Romans 45 23 Romans 1413 Romans 932 1 Cor 89 Galatians 51 13
We should not judge anyonersquos eternal destiny eternal worth and identity Therefore do not pronounce
judgment before the time before the Lord comes who will bring to light the things now hidden in darkness and will disclose the purposes of the heart Then each one will receive his commendation from God 1 Corinthians 45
Jesus said ldquoBut I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment Again anyone who says to his brother Raca is answerable to the Sanhedrin But anyone who says You fool will be in danger of the fire of hellrdquo Matt 522
Concerning Angels
But Michael the archangel when he disputed with the devil and argued about the body of Moses did not dare pronounce against him a railing judgment but said The Lord rebuke you Jude 19
Concerning God
We are not to judge (condemn God) but He does invite us to ask him questions and to reason with Him
Come now let us reason together says the Lord Isaiah 118
If any of you lack wisdom he should ask God who give generously to all without finding fault James 15
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull To whom are you presenting
evidence to
Who is the Judge
Me God Other people Society norm Whose standards are we using Do
we dare say that we have the fullness of Godrsquos knowledge wisdom justice mercy and authority to be in that role
The Father judges no one but has given all judgment to the Son that all may honor the Son just as they honor the Father John 522
For the LORD is our judge the LORD is our lawgiver the LORD is our king he will save us
Isaiah 3322
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where to have the trialbull What evidence I use bull Who or what am I putting on trial
A person a lifetime of behavior or one fixable behavior
bull How I am sifting through the evidence
bull Who is the judge and attorneybull Humility
We can judge a behavior That is wrong and it inflicted pain on me or it is not something God desires
We cannot judge a personrsquos worth identity and character
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Do ye not know that the saints shall judge (krino) the world and if the world shall be judged (krino) by you are ye unworthy to judge (kritērion) the smallest matters 1 Cor 62
Krinō comes with guidelines I can of mine own self do nothing
as I hear I judge and my judgment is just because I seek not mine own will but the will of the Father which hath sent me (Jesus in John 530)
We must have our will in submission to Godrsquos will and purposes Humility before God and men
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose And when he had looked round
about on them with anger being grieved for the hardness of their hearts he saith unto the man Stretch forth thine hand And he stretched it out and his hand was restored whole as the other Mark 35
And they were bringing unto him little children that he should touch them and the disciples rebuked them But when Jesus saw it he was moved with indignation and said unto them ldquoSuffer the little children to come unto me forbid them not for to such belongeth the kingdom of Godrdquo Mark 1013-4
Godrsquos Restorative purpose And the Passover of the Jews was at
hand and Jesus went up to Jerusalem And he found in the temple those that sold oxen and sheep and doves and the changers of money sitting and he made a scourge of cords and cast all out of the temple both the sheep and the oxen and he poured out the changers money and overthrew their tables and to them that sold the doves he said Take these things hence make not my Fathers house a house of merchandise His disciples remembered that it was written Zeal for thy house shall eat me up John213-7
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another Forgive as the Lord forgave youput on love which binds them all together in perfect unityrdquo Col 312-4
We should not base judgments on malicious lies or evil misrepresetations Speak not evil one of another
brethren He that speaketh evil of his brother and judgeth his brother speaketh evil of the law and judgeth the law but if thou judge the law thou art not a doer of the law but a judge There is one lawgiver who is able to save and to destroy who art thou that judgest another James 411-2
You shall not spread a false report You shall not join hands with a wicked man to be a malicious witness You shall not fall in with the many to do evil nor shall you bear witness in a lawsuit siding with the many so as to pervert justice nor shall you be partial to a poor man in his lawsuit Exodus 231-2
There are six things that the LORD strongly dislikes seven that are an abomination to him haughty eyes a lying tongue and hands that shed innocent blood a heart that devises wicked plans feet that make haste to run to evil a false witness who breathes out lies and one who sows discord among brothers Prov 616-19
ldquoYe judge after the flesh I judge no man And yet if I judge my judgment is true for I am not alone but I and the Father that sent merdquo (Jesus in John 815-6)
Judge not according to the appearance but judge righteous judgment John 724
Judge via Godrsquos standards not by appearances (evidence that we gathered) Also James 41-2
We must not be hypocrites when judging others for we are judged by our own standards Judge not and ye shall not be
judged condemn not and ye shall not be condemned forgive and ye shall be forgiven Luke 637
Matt 71-5 Luke 637-42 Romans 21-5 Romans 220-23 2 Sam 121-7
We are not to judge others regarding legalistic adherence to ordinances (holidays observances what to eat etc) for such are matters of faith Romans 141-23 2 Cor 87-13
Colossians 216-23 Romans 821 1 Cor 1023 Romans 45 23 Romans 1413 Romans 932 1 Cor 89 Galatians 51 13
We should not judge anyonersquos eternal destiny eternal worth and identity Therefore do not pronounce
judgment before the time before the Lord comes who will bring to light the things now hidden in darkness and will disclose the purposes of the heart Then each one will receive his commendation from God 1 Corinthians 45
Jesus said ldquoBut I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment Again anyone who says to his brother Raca is answerable to the Sanhedrin But anyone who says You fool will be in danger of the fire of hellrdquo Matt 522
Concerning Angels
But Michael the archangel when he disputed with the devil and argued about the body of Moses did not dare pronounce against him a railing judgment but said The Lord rebuke you Jude 19
Concerning God
We are not to judge (condemn God) but He does invite us to ask him questions and to reason with Him
Come now let us reason together says the Lord Isaiah 118
If any of you lack wisdom he should ask God who give generously to all without finding fault James 15
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull To whom are you presenting
evidence to
Who is the Judge
Me God Other people Society norm Whose standards are we using Do
we dare say that we have the fullness of Godrsquos knowledge wisdom justice mercy and authority to be in that role
The Father judges no one but has given all judgment to the Son that all may honor the Son just as they honor the Father John 522
For the LORD is our judge the LORD is our lawgiver the LORD is our king he will save us
Isaiah 3322
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where to have the trialbull What evidence I use bull Who or what am I putting on trial
A person a lifetime of behavior or one fixable behavior
bull How I am sifting through the evidence
bull Who is the judge and attorneybull Humility
We can judge a behavior That is wrong and it inflicted pain on me or it is not something God desires
We cannot judge a personrsquos worth identity and character
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Krinō comes with guidelines I can of mine own self do nothing
as I hear I judge and my judgment is just because I seek not mine own will but the will of the Father which hath sent me (Jesus in John 530)
We must have our will in submission to Godrsquos will and purposes Humility before God and men
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose And when he had looked round
about on them with anger being grieved for the hardness of their hearts he saith unto the man Stretch forth thine hand And he stretched it out and his hand was restored whole as the other Mark 35
And they were bringing unto him little children that he should touch them and the disciples rebuked them But when Jesus saw it he was moved with indignation and said unto them ldquoSuffer the little children to come unto me forbid them not for to such belongeth the kingdom of Godrdquo Mark 1013-4
Godrsquos Restorative purpose And the Passover of the Jews was at
hand and Jesus went up to Jerusalem And he found in the temple those that sold oxen and sheep and doves and the changers of money sitting and he made a scourge of cords and cast all out of the temple both the sheep and the oxen and he poured out the changers money and overthrew their tables and to them that sold the doves he said Take these things hence make not my Fathers house a house of merchandise His disciples remembered that it was written Zeal for thy house shall eat me up John213-7
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another Forgive as the Lord forgave youput on love which binds them all together in perfect unityrdquo Col 312-4
We should not base judgments on malicious lies or evil misrepresetations Speak not evil one of another
brethren He that speaketh evil of his brother and judgeth his brother speaketh evil of the law and judgeth the law but if thou judge the law thou art not a doer of the law but a judge There is one lawgiver who is able to save and to destroy who art thou that judgest another James 411-2
You shall not spread a false report You shall not join hands with a wicked man to be a malicious witness You shall not fall in with the many to do evil nor shall you bear witness in a lawsuit siding with the many so as to pervert justice nor shall you be partial to a poor man in his lawsuit Exodus 231-2
There are six things that the LORD strongly dislikes seven that are an abomination to him haughty eyes a lying tongue and hands that shed innocent blood a heart that devises wicked plans feet that make haste to run to evil a false witness who breathes out lies and one who sows discord among brothers Prov 616-19
ldquoYe judge after the flesh I judge no man And yet if I judge my judgment is true for I am not alone but I and the Father that sent merdquo (Jesus in John 815-6)
Judge not according to the appearance but judge righteous judgment John 724
Judge via Godrsquos standards not by appearances (evidence that we gathered) Also James 41-2
We must not be hypocrites when judging others for we are judged by our own standards Judge not and ye shall not be
judged condemn not and ye shall not be condemned forgive and ye shall be forgiven Luke 637
Matt 71-5 Luke 637-42 Romans 21-5 Romans 220-23 2 Sam 121-7
We are not to judge others regarding legalistic adherence to ordinances (holidays observances what to eat etc) for such are matters of faith Romans 141-23 2 Cor 87-13
Colossians 216-23 Romans 821 1 Cor 1023 Romans 45 23 Romans 1413 Romans 932 1 Cor 89 Galatians 51 13
We should not judge anyonersquos eternal destiny eternal worth and identity Therefore do not pronounce
judgment before the time before the Lord comes who will bring to light the things now hidden in darkness and will disclose the purposes of the heart Then each one will receive his commendation from God 1 Corinthians 45
Jesus said ldquoBut I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment Again anyone who says to his brother Raca is answerable to the Sanhedrin But anyone who says You fool will be in danger of the fire of hellrdquo Matt 522
Concerning Angels
But Michael the archangel when he disputed with the devil and argued about the body of Moses did not dare pronounce against him a railing judgment but said The Lord rebuke you Jude 19
Concerning God
We are not to judge (condemn God) but He does invite us to ask him questions and to reason with Him
Come now let us reason together says the Lord Isaiah 118
If any of you lack wisdom he should ask God who give generously to all without finding fault James 15
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull To whom are you presenting
evidence to
Who is the Judge
Me God Other people Society norm Whose standards are we using Do
we dare say that we have the fullness of Godrsquos knowledge wisdom justice mercy and authority to be in that role
The Father judges no one but has given all judgment to the Son that all may honor the Son just as they honor the Father John 522
For the LORD is our judge the LORD is our lawgiver the LORD is our king he will save us
Isaiah 3322
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where to have the trialbull What evidence I use bull Who or what am I putting on trial
A person a lifetime of behavior or one fixable behavior
bull How I am sifting through the evidence
bull Who is the judge and attorneybull Humility
We can judge a behavior That is wrong and it inflicted pain on me or it is not something God desires
We cannot judge a personrsquos worth identity and character
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose And when he had looked round
about on them with anger being grieved for the hardness of their hearts he saith unto the man Stretch forth thine hand And he stretched it out and his hand was restored whole as the other Mark 35
And they were bringing unto him little children that he should touch them and the disciples rebuked them But when Jesus saw it he was moved with indignation and said unto them ldquoSuffer the little children to come unto me forbid them not for to such belongeth the kingdom of Godrdquo Mark 1013-4
Godrsquos Restorative purpose And the Passover of the Jews was at
hand and Jesus went up to Jerusalem And he found in the temple those that sold oxen and sheep and doves and the changers of money sitting and he made a scourge of cords and cast all out of the temple both the sheep and the oxen and he poured out the changers money and overthrew their tables and to them that sold the doves he said Take these things hence make not my Fathers house a house of merchandise His disciples remembered that it was written Zeal for thy house shall eat me up John213-7
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another Forgive as the Lord forgave youput on love which binds them all together in perfect unityrdquo Col 312-4
We should not base judgments on malicious lies or evil misrepresetations Speak not evil one of another
brethren He that speaketh evil of his brother and judgeth his brother speaketh evil of the law and judgeth the law but if thou judge the law thou art not a doer of the law but a judge There is one lawgiver who is able to save and to destroy who art thou that judgest another James 411-2
You shall not spread a false report You shall not join hands with a wicked man to be a malicious witness You shall not fall in with the many to do evil nor shall you bear witness in a lawsuit siding with the many so as to pervert justice nor shall you be partial to a poor man in his lawsuit Exodus 231-2
There are six things that the LORD strongly dislikes seven that are an abomination to him haughty eyes a lying tongue and hands that shed innocent blood a heart that devises wicked plans feet that make haste to run to evil a false witness who breathes out lies and one who sows discord among brothers Prov 616-19
ldquoYe judge after the flesh I judge no man And yet if I judge my judgment is true for I am not alone but I and the Father that sent merdquo (Jesus in John 815-6)
Judge not according to the appearance but judge righteous judgment John 724
Judge via Godrsquos standards not by appearances (evidence that we gathered) Also James 41-2
We must not be hypocrites when judging others for we are judged by our own standards Judge not and ye shall not be
judged condemn not and ye shall not be condemned forgive and ye shall be forgiven Luke 637
Matt 71-5 Luke 637-42 Romans 21-5 Romans 220-23 2 Sam 121-7
We are not to judge others regarding legalistic adherence to ordinances (holidays observances what to eat etc) for such are matters of faith Romans 141-23 2 Cor 87-13
Colossians 216-23 Romans 821 1 Cor 1023 Romans 45 23 Romans 1413 Romans 932 1 Cor 89 Galatians 51 13
We should not judge anyonersquos eternal destiny eternal worth and identity Therefore do not pronounce
judgment before the time before the Lord comes who will bring to light the things now hidden in darkness and will disclose the purposes of the heart Then each one will receive his commendation from God 1 Corinthians 45
Jesus said ldquoBut I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment Again anyone who says to his brother Raca is answerable to the Sanhedrin But anyone who says You fool will be in danger of the fire of hellrdquo Matt 522
Concerning Angels
But Michael the archangel when he disputed with the devil and argued about the body of Moses did not dare pronounce against him a railing judgment but said The Lord rebuke you Jude 19
Concerning God
We are not to judge (condemn God) but He does invite us to ask him questions and to reason with Him
Come now let us reason together says the Lord Isaiah 118
If any of you lack wisdom he should ask God who give generously to all without finding fault James 15
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull To whom are you presenting
evidence to
Who is the Judge
Me God Other people Society norm Whose standards are we using Do
we dare say that we have the fullness of Godrsquos knowledge wisdom justice mercy and authority to be in that role
The Father judges no one but has given all judgment to the Son that all may honor the Son just as they honor the Father John 522
For the LORD is our judge the LORD is our lawgiver the LORD is our king he will save us
Isaiah 3322
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where to have the trialbull What evidence I use bull Who or what am I putting on trial
A person a lifetime of behavior or one fixable behavior
bull How I am sifting through the evidence
bull Who is the judge and attorneybull Humility
We can judge a behavior That is wrong and it inflicted pain on me or it is not something God desires
We cannot judge a personrsquos worth identity and character
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Godrsquos Restorative purpose And the Passover of the Jews was at
hand and Jesus went up to Jerusalem And he found in the temple those that sold oxen and sheep and doves and the changers of money sitting and he made a scourge of cords and cast all out of the temple both the sheep and the oxen and he poured out the changers money and overthrew their tables and to them that sold the doves he said Take these things hence make not my Fathers house a house of merchandise His disciples remembered that it was written Zeal for thy house shall eat me up John213-7
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another Forgive as the Lord forgave youput on love which binds them all together in perfect unityrdquo Col 312-4
We should not base judgments on malicious lies or evil misrepresetations Speak not evil one of another
brethren He that speaketh evil of his brother and judgeth his brother speaketh evil of the law and judgeth the law but if thou judge the law thou art not a doer of the law but a judge There is one lawgiver who is able to save and to destroy who art thou that judgest another James 411-2
You shall not spread a false report You shall not join hands with a wicked man to be a malicious witness You shall not fall in with the many to do evil nor shall you bear witness in a lawsuit siding with the many so as to pervert justice nor shall you be partial to a poor man in his lawsuit Exodus 231-2
There are six things that the LORD strongly dislikes seven that are an abomination to him haughty eyes a lying tongue and hands that shed innocent blood a heart that devises wicked plans feet that make haste to run to evil a false witness who breathes out lies and one who sows discord among brothers Prov 616-19
ldquoYe judge after the flesh I judge no man And yet if I judge my judgment is true for I am not alone but I and the Father that sent merdquo (Jesus in John 815-6)
Judge not according to the appearance but judge righteous judgment John 724
Judge via Godrsquos standards not by appearances (evidence that we gathered) Also James 41-2
We must not be hypocrites when judging others for we are judged by our own standards Judge not and ye shall not be
judged condemn not and ye shall not be condemned forgive and ye shall be forgiven Luke 637
Matt 71-5 Luke 637-42 Romans 21-5 Romans 220-23 2 Sam 121-7
We are not to judge others regarding legalistic adherence to ordinances (holidays observances what to eat etc) for such are matters of faith Romans 141-23 2 Cor 87-13
Colossians 216-23 Romans 821 1 Cor 1023 Romans 45 23 Romans 1413 Romans 932 1 Cor 89 Galatians 51 13
We should not judge anyonersquos eternal destiny eternal worth and identity Therefore do not pronounce
judgment before the time before the Lord comes who will bring to light the things now hidden in darkness and will disclose the purposes of the heart Then each one will receive his commendation from God 1 Corinthians 45
Jesus said ldquoBut I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment Again anyone who says to his brother Raca is answerable to the Sanhedrin But anyone who says You fool will be in danger of the fire of hellrdquo Matt 522
Concerning Angels
But Michael the archangel when he disputed with the devil and argued about the body of Moses did not dare pronounce against him a railing judgment but said The Lord rebuke you Jude 19
Concerning God
We are not to judge (condemn God) but He does invite us to ask him questions and to reason with Him
Come now let us reason together says the Lord Isaiah 118
If any of you lack wisdom he should ask God who give generously to all without finding fault James 15
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull To whom are you presenting
evidence to
Who is the Judge
Me God Other people Society norm Whose standards are we using Do
we dare say that we have the fullness of Godrsquos knowledge wisdom justice mercy and authority to be in that role
The Father judges no one but has given all judgment to the Son that all may honor the Son just as they honor the Father John 522
For the LORD is our judge the LORD is our lawgiver the LORD is our king he will save us
Isaiah 3322
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where to have the trialbull What evidence I use bull Who or what am I putting on trial
A person a lifetime of behavior or one fixable behavior
bull How I am sifting through the evidence
bull Who is the judge and attorneybull Humility
We can judge a behavior That is wrong and it inflicted pain on me or it is not something God desires
We cannot judge a personrsquos worth identity and character
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Godrsquos Restorative Purpose
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another Forgive as the Lord forgave youput on love which binds them all together in perfect unityrdquo Col 312-4
We should not base judgments on malicious lies or evil misrepresetations Speak not evil one of another
brethren He that speaketh evil of his brother and judgeth his brother speaketh evil of the law and judgeth the law but if thou judge the law thou art not a doer of the law but a judge There is one lawgiver who is able to save and to destroy who art thou that judgest another James 411-2
You shall not spread a false report You shall not join hands with a wicked man to be a malicious witness You shall not fall in with the many to do evil nor shall you bear witness in a lawsuit siding with the many so as to pervert justice nor shall you be partial to a poor man in his lawsuit Exodus 231-2
There are six things that the LORD strongly dislikes seven that are an abomination to him haughty eyes a lying tongue and hands that shed innocent blood a heart that devises wicked plans feet that make haste to run to evil a false witness who breathes out lies and one who sows discord among brothers Prov 616-19
ldquoYe judge after the flesh I judge no man And yet if I judge my judgment is true for I am not alone but I and the Father that sent merdquo (Jesus in John 815-6)
Judge not according to the appearance but judge righteous judgment John 724
Judge via Godrsquos standards not by appearances (evidence that we gathered) Also James 41-2
We must not be hypocrites when judging others for we are judged by our own standards Judge not and ye shall not be
judged condemn not and ye shall not be condemned forgive and ye shall be forgiven Luke 637
Matt 71-5 Luke 637-42 Romans 21-5 Romans 220-23 2 Sam 121-7
We are not to judge others regarding legalistic adherence to ordinances (holidays observances what to eat etc) for such are matters of faith Romans 141-23 2 Cor 87-13
Colossians 216-23 Romans 821 1 Cor 1023 Romans 45 23 Romans 1413 Romans 932 1 Cor 89 Galatians 51 13
We should not judge anyonersquos eternal destiny eternal worth and identity Therefore do not pronounce
judgment before the time before the Lord comes who will bring to light the things now hidden in darkness and will disclose the purposes of the heart Then each one will receive his commendation from God 1 Corinthians 45
Jesus said ldquoBut I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment Again anyone who says to his brother Raca is answerable to the Sanhedrin But anyone who says You fool will be in danger of the fire of hellrdquo Matt 522
Concerning Angels
But Michael the archangel when he disputed with the devil and argued about the body of Moses did not dare pronounce against him a railing judgment but said The Lord rebuke you Jude 19
Concerning God
We are not to judge (condemn God) but He does invite us to ask him questions and to reason with Him
Come now let us reason together says the Lord Isaiah 118
If any of you lack wisdom he should ask God who give generously to all without finding fault James 15
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull To whom are you presenting
evidence to
Who is the Judge
Me God Other people Society norm Whose standards are we using Do
we dare say that we have the fullness of Godrsquos knowledge wisdom justice mercy and authority to be in that role
The Father judges no one but has given all judgment to the Son that all may honor the Son just as they honor the Father John 522
For the LORD is our judge the LORD is our lawgiver the LORD is our king he will save us
Isaiah 3322
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where to have the trialbull What evidence I use bull Who or what am I putting on trial
A person a lifetime of behavior or one fixable behavior
bull How I am sifting through the evidence
bull Who is the judge and attorneybull Humility
We can judge a behavior That is wrong and it inflicted pain on me or it is not something God desires
We cannot judge a personrsquos worth identity and character
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
We should not base judgments on malicious lies or evil misrepresetations Speak not evil one of another
brethren He that speaketh evil of his brother and judgeth his brother speaketh evil of the law and judgeth the law but if thou judge the law thou art not a doer of the law but a judge There is one lawgiver who is able to save and to destroy who art thou that judgest another James 411-2
You shall not spread a false report You shall not join hands with a wicked man to be a malicious witness You shall not fall in with the many to do evil nor shall you bear witness in a lawsuit siding with the many so as to pervert justice nor shall you be partial to a poor man in his lawsuit Exodus 231-2
There are six things that the LORD strongly dislikes seven that are an abomination to him haughty eyes a lying tongue and hands that shed innocent blood a heart that devises wicked plans feet that make haste to run to evil a false witness who breathes out lies and one who sows discord among brothers Prov 616-19
ldquoYe judge after the flesh I judge no man And yet if I judge my judgment is true for I am not alone but I and the Father that sent merdquo (Jesus in John 815-6)
Judge not according to the appearance but judge righteous judgment John 724
Judge via Godrsquos standards not by appearances (evidence that we gathered) Also James 41-2
We must not be hypocrites when judging others for we are judged by our own standards Judge not and ye shall not be
judged condemn not and ye shall not be condemned forgive and ye shall be forgiven Luke 637
Matt 71-5 Luke 637-42 Romans 21-5 Romans 220-23 2 Sam 121-7
We are not to judge others regarding legalistic adherence to ordinances (holidays observances what to eat etc) for such are matters of faith Romans 141-23 2 Cor 87-13
Colossians 216-23 Romans 821 1 Cor 1023 Romans 45 23 Romans 1413 Romans 932 1 Cor 89 Galatians 51 13
We should not judge anyonersquos eternal destiny eternal worth and identity Therefore do not pronounce
judgment before the time before the Lord comes who will bring to light the things now hidden in darkness and will disclose the purposes of the heart Then each one will receive his commendation from God 1 Corinthians 45
Jesus said ldquoBut I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment Again anyone who says to his brother Raca is answerable to the Sanhedrin But anyone who says You fool will be in danger of the fire of hellrdquo Matt 522
Concerning Angels
But Michael the archangel when he disputed with the devil and argued about the body of Moses did not dare pronounce against him a railing judgment but said The Lord rebuke you Jude 19
Concerning God
We are not to judge (condemn God) but He does invite us to ask him questions and to reason with Him
Come now let us reason together says the Lord Isaiah 118
If any of you lack wisdom he should ask God who give generously to all without finding fault James 15
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull To whom are you presenting
evidence to
Who is the Judge
Me God Other people Society norm Whose standards are we using Do
we dare say that we have the fullness of Godrsquos knowledge wisdom justice mercy and authority to be in that role
The Father judges no one but has given all judgment to the Son that all may honor the Son just as they honor the Father John 522
For the LORD is our judge the LORD is our lawgiver the LORD is our king he will save us
Isaiah 3322
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where to have the trialbull What evidence I use bull Who or what am I putting on trial
A person a lifetime of behavior or one fixable behavior
bull How I am sifting through the evidence
bull Who is the judge and attorneybull Humility
We can judge a behavior That is wrong and it inflicted pain on me or it is not something God desires
We cannot judge a personrsquos worth identity and character
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
You shall not spread a false report You shall not join hands with a wicked man to be a malicious witness You shall not fall in with the many to do evil nor shall you bear witness in a lawsuit siding with the many so as to pervert justice nor shall you be partial to a poor man in his lawsuit Exodus 231-2
There are six things that the LORD strongly dislikes seven that are an abomination to him haughty eyes a lying tongue and hands that shed innocent blood a heart that devises wicked plans feet that make haste to run to evil a false witness who breathes out lies and one who sows discord among brothers Prov 616-19
ldquoYe judge after the flesh I judge no man And yet if I judge my judgment is true for I am not alone but I and the Father that sent merdquo (Jesus in John 815-6)
Judge not according to the appearance but judge righteous judgment John 724
Judge via Godrsquos standards not by appearances (evidence that we gathered) Also James 41-2
We must not be hypocrites when judging others for we are judged by our own standards Judge not and ye shall not be
judged condemn not and ye shall not be condemned forgive and ye shall be forgiven Luke 637
Matt 71-5 Luke 637-42 Romans 21-5 Romans 220-23 2 Sam 121-7
We are not to judge others regarding legalistic adherence to ordinances (holidays observances what to eat etc) for such are matters of faith Romans 141-23 2 Cor 87-13
Colossians 216-23 Romans 821 1 Cor 1023 Romans 45 23 Romans 1413 Romans 932 1 Cor 89 Galatians 51 13
We should not judge anyonersquos eternal destiny eternal worth and identity Therefore do not pronounce
judgment before the time before the Lord comes who will bring to light the things now hidden in darkness and will disclose the purposes of the heart Then each one will receive his commendation from God 1 Corinthians 45
Jesus said ldquoBut I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment Again anyone who says to his brother Raca is answerable to the Sanhedrin But anyone who says You fool will be in danger of the fire of hellrdquo Matt 522
Concerning Angels
But Michael the archangel when he disputed with the devil and argued about the body of Moses did not dare pronounce against him a railing judgment but said The Lord rebuke you Jude 19
Concerning God
We are not to judge (condemn God) but He does invite us to ask him questions and to reason with Him
Come now let us reason together says the Lord Isaiah 118
If any of you lack wisdom he should ask God who give generously to all without finding fault James 15
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull To whom are you presenting
evidence to
Who is the Judge
Me God Other people Society norm Whose standards are we using Do
we dare say that we have the fullness of Godrsquos knowledge wisdom justice mercy and authority to be in that role
The Father judges no one but has given all judgment to the Son that all may honor the Son just as they honor the Father John 522
For the LORD is our judge the LORD is our lawgiver the LORD is our king he will save us
Isaiah 3322
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where to have the trialbull What evidence I use bull Who or what am I putting on trial
A person a lifetime of behavior or one fixable behavior
bull How I am sifting through the evidence
bull Who is the judge and attorneybull Humility
We can judge a behavior That is wrong and it inflicted pain on me or it is not something God desires
We cannot judge a personrsquos worth identity and character
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
ldquoYe judge after the flesh I judge no man And yet if I judge my judgment is true for I am not alone but I and the Father that sent merdquo (Jesus in John 815-6)
Judge not according to the appearance but judge righteous judgment John 724
Judge via Godrsquos standards not by appearances (evidence that we gathered) Also James 41-2
We must not be hypocrites when judging others for we are judged by our own standards Judge not and ye shall not be
judged condemn not and ye shall not be condemned forgive and ye shall be forgiven Luke 637
Matt 71-5 Luke 637-42 Romans 21-5 Romans 220-23 2 Sam 121-7
We are not to judge others regarding legalistic adherence to ordinances (holidays observances what to eat etc) for such are matters of faith Romans 141-23 2 Cor 87-13
Colossians 216-23 Romans 821 1 Cor 1023 Romans 45 23 Romans 1413 Romans 932 1 Cor 89 Galatians 51 13
We should not judge anyonersquos eternal destiny eternal worth and identity Therefore do not pronounce
judgment before the time before the Lord comes who will bring to light the things now hidden in darkness and will disclose the purposes of the heart Then each one will receive his commendation from God 1 Corinthians 45
Jesus said ldquoBut I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment Again anyone who says to his brother Raca is answerable to the Sanhedrin But anyone who says You fool will be in danger of the fire of hellrdquo Matt 522
Concerning Angels
But Michael the archangel when he disputed with the devil and argued about the body of Moses did not dare pronounce against him a railing judgment but said The Lord rebuke you Jude 19
Concerning God
We are not to judge (condemn God) but He does invite us to ask him questions and to reason with Him
Come now let us reason together says the Lord Isaiah 118
If any of you lack wisdom he should ask God who give generously to all without finding fault James 15
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull To whom are you presenting
evidence to
Who is the Judge
Me God Other people Society norm Whose standards are we using Do
we dare say that we have the fullness of Godrsquos knowledge wisdom justice mercy and authority to be in that role
The Father judges no one but has given all judgment to the Son that all may honor the Son just as they honor the Father John 522
For the LORD is our judge the LORD is our lawgiver the LORD is our king he will save us
Isaiah 3322
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where to have the trialbull What evidence I use bull Who or what am I putting on trial
A person a lifetime of behavior or one fixable behavior
bull How I am sifting through the evidence
bull Who is the judge and attorneybull Humility
We can judge a behavior That is wrong and it inflicted pain on me or it is not something God desires
We cannot judge a personrsquos worth identity and character
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
We must not be hypocrites when judging others for we are judged by our own standards Judge not and ye shall not be
judged condemn not and ye shall not be condemned forgive and ye shall be forgiven Luke 637
Matt 71-5 Luke 637-42 Romans 21-5 Romans 220-23 2 Sam 121-7
We are not to judge others regarding legalistic adherence to ordinances (holidays observances what to eat etc) for such are matters of faith Romans 141-23 2 Cor 87-13
Colossians 216-23 Romans 821 1 Cor 1023 Romans 45 23 Romans 1413 Romans 932 1 Cor 89 Galatians 51 13
We should not judge anyonersquos eternal destiny eternal worth and identity Therefore do not pronounce
judgment before the time before the Lord comes who will bring to light the things now hidden in darkness and will disclose the purposes of the heart Then each one will receive his commendation from God 1 Corinthians 45
Jesus said ldquoBut I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment Again anyone who says to his brother Raca is answerable to the Sanhedrin But anyone who says You fool will be in danger of the fire of hellrdquo Matt 522
Concerning Angels
But Michael the archangel when he disputed with the devil and argued about the body of Moses did not dare pronounce against him a railing judgment but said The Lord rebuke you Jude 19
Concerning God
We are not to judge (condemn God) but He does invite us to ask him questions and to reason with Him
Come now let us reason together says the Lord Isaiah 118
If any of you lack wisdom he should ask God who give generously to all without finding fault James 15
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull To whom are you presenting
evidence to
Who is the Judge
Me God Other people Society norm Whose standards are we using Do
we dare say that we have the fullness of Godrsquos knowledge wisdom justice mercy and authority to be in that role
The Father judges no one but has given all judgment to the Son that all may honor the Son just as they honor the Father John 522
For the LORD is our judge the LORD is our lawgiver the LORD is our king he will save us
Isaiah 3322
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where to have the trialbull What evidence I use bull Who or what am I putting on trial
A person a lifetime of behavior or one fixable behavior
bull How I am sifting through the evidence
bull Who is the judge and attorneybull Humility
We can judge a behavior That is wrong and it inflicted pain on me or it is not something God desires
We cannot judge a personrsquos worth identity and character
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
We are not to judge others regarding legalistic adherence to ordinances (holidays observances what to eat etc) for such are matters of faith Romans 141-23 2 Cor 87-13
Colossians 216-23 Romans 821 1 Cor 1023 Romans 45 23 Romans 1413 Romans 932 1 Cor 89 Galatians 51 13
We should not judge anyonersquos eternal destiny eternal worth and identity Therefore do not pronounce
judgment before the time before the Lord comes who will bring to light the things now hidden in darkness and will disclose the purposes of the heart Then each one will receive his commendation from God 1 Corinthians 45
Jesus said ldquoBut I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment Again anyone who says to his brother Raca is answerable to the Sanhedrin But anyone who says You fool will be in danger of the fire of hellrdquo Matt 522
Concerning Angels
But Michael the archangel when he disputed with the devil and argued about the body of Moses did not dare pronounce against him a railing judgment but said The Lord rebuke you Jude 19
Concerning God
We are not to judge (condemn God) but He does invite us to ask him questions and to reason with Him
Come now let us reason together says the Lord Isaiah 118
If any of you lack wisdom he should ask God who give generously to all without finding fault James 15
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull To whom are you presenting
evidence to
Who is the Judge
Me God Other people Society norm Whose standards are we using Do
we dare say that we have the fullness of Godrsquos knowledge wisdom justice mercy and authority to be in that role
The Father judges no one but has given all judgment to the Son that all may honor the Son just as they honor the Father John 522
For the LORD is our judge the LORD is our lawgiver the LORD is our king he will save us
Isaiah 3322
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where to have the trialbull What evidence I use bull Who or what am I putting on trial
A person a lifetime of behavior or one fixable behavior
bull How I am sifting through the evidence
bull Who is the judge and attorneybull Humility
We can judge a behavior That is wrong and it inflicted pain on me or it is not something God desires
We cannot judge a personrsquos worth identity and character
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
We should not judge anyonersquos eternal destiny eternal worth and identity Therefore do not pronounce
judgment before the time before the Lord comes who will bring to light the things now hidden in darkness and will disclose the purposes of the heart Then each one will receive his commendation from God 1 Corinthians 45
Jesus said ldquoBut I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment Again anyone who says to his brother Raca is answerable to the Sanhedrin But anyone who says You fool will be in danger of the fire of hellrdquo Matt 522
Concerning Angels
But Michael the archangel when he disputed with the devil and argued about the body of Moses did not dare pronounce against him a railing judgment but said The Lord rebuke you Jude 19
Concerning God
We are not to judge (condemn God) but He does invite us to ask him questions and to reason with Him
Come now let us reason together says the Lord Isaiah 118
If any of you lack wisdom he should ask God who give generously to all without finding fault James 15
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull To whom are you presenting
evidence to
Who is the Judge
Me God Other people Society norm Whose standards are we using Do
we dare say that we have the fullness of Godrsquos knowledge wisdom justice mercy and authority to be in that role
The Father judges no one but has given all judgment to the Son that all may honor the Son just as they honor the Father John 522
For the LORD is our judge the LORD is our lawgiver the LORD is our king he will save us
Isaiah 3322
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where to have the trialbull What evidence I use bull Who or what am I putting on trial
A person a lifetime of behavior or one fixable behavior
bull How I am sifting through the evidence
bull Who is the judge and attorneybull Humility
We can judge a behavior That is wrong and it inflicted pain on me or it is not something God desires
We cannot judge a personrsquos worth identity and character
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Concerning Angels
But Michael the archangel when he disputed with the devil and argued about the body of Moses did not dare pronounce against him a railing judgment but said The Lord rebuke you Jude 19
Concerning God
We are not to judge (condemn God) but He does invite us to ask him questions and to reason with Him
Come now let us reason together says the Lord Isaiah 118
If any of you lack wisdom he should ask God who give generously to all without finding fault James 15
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull To whom are you presenting
evidence to
Who is the Judge
Me God Other people Society norm Whose standards are we using Do
we dare say that we have the fullness of Godrsquos knowledge wisdom justice mercy and authority to be in that role
The Father judges no one but has given all judgment to the Son that all may honor the Son just as they honor the Father John 522
For the LORD is our judge the LORD is our lawgiver the LORD is our king he will save us
Isaiah 3322
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where to have the trialbull What evidence I use bull Who or what am I putting on trial
A person a lifetime of behavior or one fixable behavior
bull How I am sifting through the evidence
bull Who is the judge and attorneybull Humility
We can judge a behavior That is wrong and it inflicted pain on me or it is not something God desires
We cannot judge a personrsquos worth identity and character
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Concerning God
We are not to judge (condemn God) but He does invite us to ask him questions and to reason with Him
Come now let us reason together says the Lord Isaiah 118
If any of you lack wisdom he should ask God who give generously to all without finding fault James 15
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull To whom are you presenting
evidence to
Who is the Judge
Me God Other people Society norm Whose standards are we using Do
we dare say that we have the fullness of Godrsquos knowledge wisdom justice mercy and authority to be in that role
The Father judges no one but has given all judgment to the Son that all may honor the Son just as they honor the Father John 522
For the LORD is our judge the LORD is our lawgiver the LORD is our king he will save us
Isaiah 3322
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where to have the trialbull What evidence I use bull Who or what am I putting on trial
A person a lifetime of behavior or one fixable behavior
bull How I am sifting through the evidence
bull Who is the judge and attorneybull Humility
We can judge a behavior That is wrong and it inflicted pain on me or it is not something God desires
We cannot judge a personrsquos worth identity and character
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull To whom are you presenting
evidence to
Who is the Judge
Me God Other people Society norm Whose standards are we using Do
we dare say that we have the fullness of Godrsquos knowledge wisdom justice mercy and authority to be in that role
The Father judges no one but has given all judgment to the Son that all may honor the Son just as they honor the Father John 522
For the LORD is our judge the LORD is our lawgiver the LORD is our king he will save us
Isaiah 3322
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where to have the trialbull What evidence I use bull Who or what am I putting on trial
A person a lifetime of behavior or one fixable behavior
bull How I am sifting through the evidence
bull Who is the judge and attorneybull Humility
We can judge a behavior That is wrong and it inflicted pain on me or it is not something God desires
We cannot judge a personrsquos worth identity and character
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Who is the Judge
Me God Other people Society norm Whose standards are we using Do
we dare say that we have the fullness of Godrsquos knowledge wisdom justice mercy and authority to be in that role
The Father judges no one but has given all judgment to the Son that all may honor the Son just as they honor the Father John 522
For the LORD is our judge the LORD is our lawgiver the LORD is our king he will save us
Isaiah 3322
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where to have the trialbull What evidence I use bull Who or what am I putting on trial
A person a lifetime of behavior or one fixable behavior
bull How I am sifting through the evidence
bull Who is the judge and attorneybull Humility
We can judge a behavior That is wrong and it inflicted pain on me or it is not something God desires
We cannot judge a personrsquos worth identity and character
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
The Father judges no one but has given all judgment to the Son that all may honor the Son just as they honor the Father John 522
For the LORD is our judge the LORD is our lawgiver the LORD is our king he will save us
Isaiah 3322
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where to have the trialbull What evidence I use bull Who or what am I putting on trial
A person a lifetime of behavior or one fixable behavior
bull How I am sifting through the evidence
bull Who is the judge and attorneybull Humility
We can judge a behavior That is wrong and it inflicted pain on me or it is not something God desires
We cannot judge a personrsquos worth identity and character
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Activation of the SeedTrial and Deliberation Phasebull Where to have the trialbull What evidence I use bull Who or what am I putting on trial
A person a lifetime of behavior or one fixable behavior
bull How I am sifting through the evidence
bull Who is the judge and attorneybull Humility
We can judge a behavior That is wrong and it inflicted pain on me or it is not something God desires
We cannot judge a personrsquos worth identity and character
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
We can judge a behavior That is wrong and it inflicted pain on me or it is not something God desires
We cannot judge a personrsquos worth identity and character
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Germination of the Seed Development of Root The Judgment Phasebull Presentation of the evidence is
done bull The judge of me myself and I
renders a judgment
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Judgment
Pronouncement of guilt ____ I find you of the charge(s) of _______ committed against me on _____
What is owed I now sentence you to serve the sentence of punishment or pay the restitution of _____
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Practical Issues of Judgment
Understand that the world lsquooutside the written law of the landrsquo operates under subjective judgments Two people looking at the same evidence can come up with 2 different conclusions -- story
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned To her and said Do you want to talk Flights go quicker if you strike Up a conversation with your fellow passenger
The little girl who had just started to read her book replied to the total Stranger What would you want to talk about
Oh I dont know said the atheist How about why there is no God Or no Heaven or Hell or no life after death as he smiled smugly
Okay she said Those could be interesting topics but let me ask You a question first A horse a cow and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass Yet a deer excretes little pellets while a cow turns out a flat patty but a horse produces clumps Why do you suppose that is
The atheist visibly surprised by the little girls intelligence thinks about it and says Hmmm I have no idea To which the little girl replies Do you really feel qualified to discuss God Heaven and Hell or life after death when you dont know shit
And then she went back to reading her book
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Practical Issues of Judgment
Realized (Am I even aware that I want pay back and what it would be)
Realistic (Is what is owed realistic executable by a human or is it something only God can do)
Related ( I have made the other person aware)
Reasonable (Allow the person to negotiate to what they think is doable)
Recognized (Agreed Upon)
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Pitfalls of judgment Reap what you sow
In taking the role of a judge you are also reap the role of rendering a punishment or restitution and the means of executing justice If you pass down a restitution of an
apology from someone you will need to collect that debt If you render a punishment of eternal pain for the other person your soul wonrsquot rest until itrsquos pay in full
Unforgiving servant thrown into eternal torment The torment is re-experiencing the pain hurt bc restitutionpunishment has not been collected
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Righteous Judgment
We all have an innate God given desire to make things right However do we really understand Godrsquos judgment or have the capacity for it
Do we really have Godrsquos knowledge Wisdom Mercy patience Restoration plan Timing
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Pitfalls of judging (krino)
Reap what you sow Krima Do not judge or you too will be
judged For in the same way (krima judgment in KJV) you judge others you will be judged and with the same measure you use it will be measured to you Matt 712
Krima κρίμα (Strongrsquos G2917) in a forensic sense
the sentence of a judge the punishment with which one is sentenced condemnatory sentence penal judgment
sentence
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment (krima) on someone else for at whatever point you judge the other you are condemning yourself bc you who pass judgment (krima) do the same things
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Judgment Reaps Condemnation
You therefore have no excuse you who pass judgment on someone else for at whatever point you judge another you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things 2 Now we know that Godrsquos judgment (krima) against those who do such things is based on truth 3 So when you a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things do you think you will escape Godrsquos judgment (krima) Romans 21-3
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Never take your own revenge beloved but leave room for the wrath of God for it is written VENGEANCE IS MINE I WILL REPAY says the Lord
Romans 1219
It is mine to avenge I will repay In due time their foot will slip their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon themrdquo The LORD will vindicate his people and relent concerning his servants when he sees their strength is gone and no one is left slave or free
Deut 3235-6
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
The conclusion when all has been heard is fear God and keep His commandments because this applies to every person 14 For God will bring every act to judgment everything which is hidden whether it is good or evil Eccl1213-4
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God for which you are also suffering-- since indeed God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to grant relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with his mighty angels in flaming fire inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus They will suffer the punishment of
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
eternal destruction away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might when he comes on that day to be glorified in his saints and to be marveled at among all who have believed because our testimony to you was believed
2 Thessalonians 15-10
For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father and then he will repay each person according to what he has done Matthew 1627
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
(I will revisit the phases that are skipped) Maturation Phase Bitterness Phasebull Deepening of the wound
offense and roots Digging in the Bitter Roots
bull Greater expression of the discontent
bull Law of increase (sow a seed get a tree sow wind get whirlwind Hosea 87)
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Pitfalls of Judgment Reap what you sow
Marinating in thoughts of anger critical judgment of someone due to unforgiveness repeating offense or a deep wound can result in will result in parorgismos (indignation wrath bitterness resentment) BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS
Do not let the sun go down on your parorgismos and do not give the devil a foothold Eph 426-7
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Bitter Root Judgment Opinion formed out of bitterness
about a personrsquos character and identity Crosses the line btw examining behavior to judging character
Condemning them to a label A firm belief that this person will not
change ____ is controlling ____ is a liar ____ is uncaring ____ is incapable of showing affection ____ is evilbad
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Footholds of Bitterness Indignation
Likely condemning that person as ldquohopelessly unchangeablerdquordquoforever sinfulrdquo even before God Doing the devilrsquos work of accusing for him
Accusing God of been unfair inactive or incapable to change the person
Digging roots in to not forgive Emotional hardnessdepression
Self-righteous rootcriticisms and negativity
Binding self to the wound
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Blocks Godrsquos intervention and blessings
John 2023 ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo
Proverbs 1821 ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Reapings of Bitter Root Judgments
See to ithellip that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Heb 1215 We defile self -- We become what we
judged (Romans 21) Releases rights to the enemy to confirm
that characteristic in that person Puts a human curse on the person that blocks the blessings of God ExDad
Releases right to the enemy to put blinders on our eyes so we cannot see change in the person (conrsquot to misread them in the way we painted them) or cannot see them through Godrsquos eyes
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Judgments hurts our body Qinah אה נ (Strongrsquos H7068) ק
Ardour zeal jealousy ardour of anger indignation A sound heart is the life of the flesh but
Qinah the rottenness of the bones Prov 1430
Type A personality and depression (anger turned inwards) have both been linked as risks factors for stress illnesses such as stroke heart disease as much as high blood pressure and high cholesterol are risk factors
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Unforgiveness blocks our relationship with God and blocks Him from hearing us and forgiving us ldquoBut your iniquities have separated
you from your God your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hearrdquo Isaiah 592
ldquoIf I had cherished sin in my heart the Lord would not have listenedrdquo
Ps 6618 ldquoFor if you forgive men when they sin
against you your heavenly Father will also forgive you But if you do not forgive men their sins your Father will not forgive your sinsrdquo
Matt 614-5
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Self sustaining Fruit Bearing Phase (Defensive Reproduction)bull Inner vowsbull Bitter root
expectanciesbull lsquoLaws of lifersquo
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Bitter Root Expectancies
A negative belief system that is established in your heart that expects the lsquoworstrsquo in people self God and situations
This negative belief system lsquoprotectsrsquo one from disappointments in hoping (Hoping for change hurts bc people fall short so itrsquos better not to hope)
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Bitter Expectancies Reap
A Self fulfilling prophecy It multiplies on the spiritual law of faith
According to your faith will it be done to you Matt 929
For as a man thinks in his heart so is he Prov 237
A man thinks he will act accordingly and in so doing actually brings about what he expects to happen
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Examples of Bitter Root Expectancies
I never fit in People always think Irsquom weird
Irsquom always the odd one out People always reject me People always use me No one ever listens to me No one understands me No one loves me Everyone always
leaves me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Bitterness bitter laws of life
Judgments sets up a hypothesis we have about how life is Over time and repetition of the same scenarios it becomes a generalized false lsquolaw of lifersquo that we live by Bitterness at not been promoted turns
into ldquoOnly charismatic people get promotedrdquo
Bitterness at a husbandrsquos unfaithfulness becomes ldquoMen cannot be trustedrdquo
Bitterness at wife becomes ldquoall women are manipulativerdquo
Bitterness at abandonment = Irsquom on my own
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
My Bitterness bitter laws of life
bitter expectancies Dad is harsh Dad will always criticize me Irsquoll never be good enough I will always fails at achieving
Guys only likes beautiful girls No one is interested in me There is always someone more beautiful than I that the guy will go for
The guys donrsquot take chances They are not brave The guys never make the first move
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
People only will listen to greatness I will be laughed off the stage
Friends donrsquot care about me They will always leave me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Bitterness Bitterness
BitternesB
s
Inner vowsInner vows
Inner vows
ExpectanciesExpectanciesExpec
tanci
es
Laws of Life
Law
s of
Life
Law
s of L
ife
Corruption of Root SystemFurther Biased Intake of Evidence
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Human Will
Addictions
Perversions
Eating DisordersJudgmentsPrideSicknesses
Idolatry
Anxiety OCD Panic
Attacks
Pornography
Criticism
Death
Passivity
Inner Vows and defense mechanisms
Unforgiveness
Suicide
EvidencePride
False Belief
Systems
Doubt Lies and
accusationsMindBody
Emotions
Self
Righteousnes
s
Instant
gratification
FearDepression
Shame GuiltBitterness
Hatred
OccultsManipulatio
n
Control
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
BREAK TIME
Followed by group
Then a short conclusion
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Be not overwhelmed
There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed or hidden that will not be made know Matt 1026
But ldquoWait till the Lord comes He will bring to light what is hidden in darkeness and will expose the motives of menrsquos heartsrdquo 1 Cor 45
Let God help you untangle the mess
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Letrsquos ask God
Father God am I harboring any bitterness that you want to address tonight
Father when did the bitterness enter my life
Father what lie have I believed What bitter expectancy do I have
because of it What false law of life do I have
because of it
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Group Time(respect confidentiality)
Ice break Whatrsquos your name interests in life favorite person in your life (past or present)
What scenario tends to replay itself in your life (abandonment betrayal forgotten left out) If you examine it now do you see any bitterness that lead to it Bitter expectancies Bitter laws of life
Did you get any revelation during the corporate time in inquiring God about your bitterness
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
My Choicebull Remove self from
judgment seat and let God be the judge who determines and executes the judgment and restitution in His timing
bull To Forgive
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Forgiveness is
Aphiemi = to send away leave alone abandon let alone leave
To grant pardon for or remission of an offense offender sin etc to absolve (to set free from an obligation guilt debt penalty) to acquit to cancel a debt to cease resentment against
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Forgiveness is
Withdrawing my label and judgment of a person
Count the debt punishment as paid (in full) Removing self from having to hunt down the payment and restitution (an apology an explanation an acknowledgement)
Choosing to let go of my right to hold on to the pain and recount the hurt To not recharge the person for the same episode
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Forgiveness is not
A feeling
Not a one time thing
Condoning the offending behavior
Saying that the hurtful behavior is okay
Forgiveness is
A choice to realign with God
Can be a journey
Accepting that a hurt has been inflicted
Admitting that I have been hurt and itrsquos not okay
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Forgiveness is not Releasing the
other person from the consequences
Forgiveness is
Releasing oneself from the seat of judgment in determining what that consequence is
Freeing God to intervene To decide what how and when the restitution will be Not tracking Godrsquos progress
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Forgiveness is not Conditional
upon the personrsquos acknowledgement of guilt
Forgiveness is Acknowledging
the person owes me something (an apology etc) I am willing to
let go of needing the repayment
I am willing to accept Jesusrsquo death as a repayment
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Forgiveness is not Forgetting the
pain
Forgiveness is
Acknowledging the pain but willingness to let Jesus carry the pain on the cross Jesus lsquoboughtrsquo our suffering on the cross Give to Jesus what He bought
Event based
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive
As long as I forgive in my heart I donrsquot need to say it
Conditional forgiveness is healthy setting up boundaries and helps the person to change (if I donrsquot get angry they wonrsquot change)
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Myths about Forgiveness If God agrees with me and itrsquos
righteous anger I am justified and donrsquot need to forgive Same measure of judgment and
condemnation will be on us It is commanded Blocks God from
hearing and forgiving us Playing the role of God Puts us in a place where bitterness
will breed
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Myths about Forgiveness As long as I forgive in my heart I
donrsquot need to say it (They didnrsquot ask so why do I need to say it) And what I have forgiven--I have
forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo2 Cor 211
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Prov 1821
James 39-11 ldquoWith the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse men who have been made in Gods likeness Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing My brothers this should not berdquo James 39-11
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Myths about Forgiveness I have to stop hurting before I
forgive I donrsquot ruminated about it I donrsquot hurt anymore and I am not angry anymore so I have forgiven As time passes the energy of the
lsquostressrsquo response and zeal of anger subsides (so long as itrsquos not triggered)
But there may be repressed pain that will awaken when triggered There be a hypersensitive spot of bitter root judgments bitter expectancies inner vows laws of life that are set up bc of the wound
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Myths about Forgiveness Forgiveness is a one time thing
ldquoIf your brother sins rebuke him and if he repents forgive him If he sins against you seven times in a day and seven times comes back to you and says lsquoI repentrsquo forgive himrdquo
Luke 1734 Forgiveness has many components
and is a journey
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change ldquoIf anyone has caused grief The
punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him Now instead you ought to forgive and comfort him so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow I urge you therefore to reaffirm your love for himIf you forgive anyone I also forgive him And what I have forgiven--I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake in order that Satan might not outwit us For we are not unaware of his schemesrdquo
2 Cor 25-11
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Myths about Forgiveness Conditional forgiveness is healthy
setting up boundaries and helps the person to change Judgment sets up a recurring cycle
and word curse which actually prevents them from changing
ldquoThe tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruitrdquo Proverbs 1821
ldquoIf you forgive anyone his sins they are forgiven if you do not forgive them they are not forgivenrdquo John 2023
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Forgiveness prayerFather forgive me that out of my anger I have judged ____ and condemned hisher character and identity before you I now choose to forgive ____ for ________ I choose to release ____ into the freedom of my forgiveness I choose to retract any labels and word curses that I spoke against ___ that prevented you from working in hisher life Forgive me for taking the judgment seat pronouncing a punishment sentence I release___ from my judgments I release ___ from any debt that was owed to me I now recant the judgment I demanded and free you to intervene
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
in Your way and Your timing Forgive me for judging you The ldquoI owe yourdquo that are written on my heart I now detach myself from needing them to be fulfilled Forgive me for rejecting Your comfort Break the hold of coldness and loneliness of my heart I release this pain to you for I no longer want to hold ithelliphellip Jesus what do you give to me in exchange
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
Repentance PrayerFather I ask you to forgive me to forming a protective mechanism of bitter expectations as a response to the wound that ____ inflicted on me Forgive me for forming false ldquolaws of liferdquo and belief systems as a response to the wound I no longer want to protect myself that way I now renounce them and forgive myself for putting these restrictions on my life I break itrsquos power over me What you replace it with How will you protect me
