The Skills Of Attraction

In the last video, we

discussed the types of

attraction, now we’re going

to discuss the various skills

that are necessary to

generate attraction in the

women you are attracted

to.

The Skills Part 1

1. Teasing

2. Story-Telling

3. Warm and Cold Reading

4. Touching

5. Group Dynamics

6. Body Language

7. Frame Control

Skills Part 2

8. Being Non Reactive

9. Getting Comfortable

10. Role Playing

11.A Cocky and Playful Attitude

12. Delivery

13. Pre-selection

14. Leading

Skills Part 3

15. Humor

16. Understanding Women

17. Handling Congruence Tests

18. Willingness to walk Away

19. Proper Conversational Ratio

20. Grounding Yourself

21. Commitment Ladders

22. Emotional Fluidity

Touching

Touching is an art

For now The 3 basic rules of touching are this

1. Touch Early

2. Escalate touch

3. MAKE SURE YOU RELEASE FIRST!!!

Releasing is the key to all ESCALATION

Teasing

For right now, it’s important to understand that

teasing acts as the mechanism that breaks rapport

thus moving us forward from social comfort INTO

attraction.

Teasing is a toggle.

Toggles move us forward or backwards in the

interaction depending on how they are used.

Qualification is another toggle.

Story-Telling

Stories are a butterknife tool with many uses:

For now here’s how to use stories

1. To ground yourself. We’ll discuss grounding in depth later

2. To make girls laugh

3. To convey some IMPORTANT re ATTRACTIVE information.

Cold and Warm Reading

Cold reading is the art of telling someone something vague and making it sound profound.

Cold reads are truisms.

Cold reading establishes psychological authority a major factor in persuasion and attraction.

Warm reading is telling a woman about herself based on information she has already given you.

For example: An interior designer is attracted to beautiful things and wants to surround herself with them.

Group Dynamics

Mixed and All Girl

Singles

2 Sets

More Sets

Body Language

Girls are looking for any tells in your body language

that say you’re nervous, uncomfortable or feeling

rejected.

Stay Relaxed

Keep Good Posture

The person who moves least has the most social

power.

Frame Control

Frames are the underlying meaning of an interaction.

When two frames meet, the stronger frame absorbs the weaker frame. This process is known as frame control.

There are two types of frame control

Passive-Teasing, Value Demonstrations, Leading

Active- Controlling conversational threads, reframing, sexual framing, shaping, qualification and of course sexual framing.

Being Non-Reactive

When two people interact, much like there is a clash of frames, one person becomes more emotionally reactive than the other.

We generally only emotionally react to things that we perceive as having value.

Being Non-Reactive means to control our emotions and project an image of confidence no matter what we feel inside.

Non reactive is not non expressive.

Getting Comfortable

Getting Comfortable means to re-shape the social

group so that you are the most comfortable person

in it.

WWBPD?

Hemmoraging social value.

Role-Playing

Role-Playing is emotional stimulation at it’s finest.

Role-Plays allow distance and objectivity to allow for escalation and emotional stimulation.

Example:

LA Booty Bitches

Fan Club

Female Player

A Cocky And Playful

Attitude

A cocky and playful attitude can really amp up the attraction.

This is what I call an attraction amplifier. It doesn’t create attraction by itself, but when you already have attraction it strengthens it.

Ways to use a C and P attitude

1. Give 1 funny answer at some point

2. Act like she wants you

3. Give and take away points.

Re-cap

We learned what Attraction skills were and

were introduced to the first 11 skills of

attraction as well as where these skills fit in.

We learned:

Teasing Story-Telling Warm and Cold

Reading Touching Group Dynamics Body

Language Frame Control, etc…

Exercise

Pick 2-3 skills that you want

to work on right away.

Pick 1 skill to practice every

time you approach the next

night out, the night after

etc…

Next Time

On the next video, we’re going

to wrap up the final skills you’ll

need to master if you want to

master the attraction process.

You won’t want to miss that!