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Slavery and Discipline a BDSM Skinhead Lifestyle
by Philippe L. De Coster
Slavery and Discipline have many meanings. The literal meaning of discipline
was taken from the word disciple, meaning, "a follower, one who takes another
as a teacher [therefore, if he or she is your disciple, then you will teach him or
her (discipline)]."
The definition of discipline I use is: "Training intended to produce a specified
character or pattern of behaviour." And when training is complete, this third
definition of discipline is what you have; "a state of order based on submission
to rules and authority, you are now a slave."
I have noticed that in chat and webcam performances most people seem to
believe that discipline is the same as punishment. In my opinion, the main
difference between discipline and punishment is that discipline uses training
methods that closely correlate to the misbehaviour and willing or unwilling
disobedience, whereas punishment is arbitrary, involves no training methods,
and does not have to “fit the crime”, as in contradicting the Master through
disobedience.
I assume this other view of discipline is based on this fourth definition of
discipline: "punishment intended to correct or train." This, I believe, is an
acceptable use of the word discipline if one is thinking of having a submissive
slave stick his tongue to a bar of soap to curb his bad language. If this is done
when the bad language is uttered, this form of punishment could be said to
correct or train.
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If, however, the punishment for bad language is a spanking, since there is no
correlation to the misbehaviour and the punishment used to correct it, it is not
training nor correction. If we substitute the word punishment for discipline, then
this makes more sense.
Punishment is a "penalty for wrongdoing." It does not necessarily have to fit the
crime. Punishment can be arbitrary, determined by whim. A Dominant Master
can impose any punishment he chooses for any misbehaviour (although this
needs to be set forth from the beginning so that the submissive knows what she
is risking with misbehaviour). But this is not discipline, it is not used to train the
submissive, it is used to punish him or her.
Let me bring forward an example of discipline and then some of punishment to
illustrate my point, though I am not a Master but a slave, affirming myself from
birth, being born a slave. Suppose you want your submissive or slave to focus
more on your sexual needs than his own. You wouldn't spank him for being
aroused would you? Would you send him to the corner for being horny? Of
course you wouldn't, not if your goal is to train her to focus him sexual energy
into meeting your sexual needs and not her own.
A method I would suggest is positive reinforcement. When the slave is aroused
and thinking of his own sexual needs you would have him pleasure you in some
sexual manner. He is not allowed orgasm; his pleasure will come in the form of
him satisfying his need to please you.
You can tease him a bit, get a little rough with him, and keep him excited by
your comments or expressions of pleasure (this will satisfy his need to be
controlled). After you are satisfied, be affectionate with him as a recompense.
Tell him what a wonderful "slave" he is, and how much he has pleased you, but
that is not enough you want more. Snuggle him close to you and fall asleep this
way (this will meet her needs to feel special and cared for). In this way, he will
eventually feel her sexual arousal as a need to worship your body. This is
discipline (training).
Punishment will make him feel bad about himself, afraid of you, or resentful.
Now that I have made some people angry, let me say that I understand that this
may not be what you intend to use it for, but this is the effect. As such in this
way I need to be punished.
An example of punishment might be spanking your submissive because he used
unacceptable language. Now remember this is punishment, not S/M play in the
first place, this cannot be fun for either of you for it to be real punishment if the
relation between Master and slave is serious and not just a game.
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It must not be something he likes (does he like being spanked? If he does, this is
not punishment, it is play). If this is something either of you likes, you are
reinforcing the bad behaviour rather than curbing it. If he likes being spanked,
he will use this language whenever he wants you to spank him. If he doesn't like
to be spanked, he is now in a position that is teetering on abuse.
We defend our play style and our lifestyle with the Safe, Sane, and Consensual
credo. We do this because we are aware that without consent, the physical
aspects of our play are simply abuse. If the submissive isn't aroused by intense
sensation (sensual pain), then we cannot use it, unless she has consented to it.
Why would someone consent to something he does not like? If he is submissive,
he could very well consent to it to please his dominant Master, but is it safe and
sane? If he is allowing you to do something to him that he does not like at all,
especially something that causes pain, he is creating a confusing conflict in his
own mind. This conflict is perfect for triggering memories of past pain and
abuse. There is nothing safe or sane about this.
You are putting your submissive in emotional danger by requesting that he
accepts physical pain that he does not enjoy. You could easily find yourself
dealing with some serious emotional fallout, possibly so serious, that you will
not be equipped to handle it adequately. Is this risk of emotional pain and
trauma worth it--just because you want to punish him?
Exactly what does punishment do for you or your submissive slave? How does it
benefit you? The allure, I think, is control; ultimate control. For a dominant
master to feel that he has so much control over another human being that he can
even strike this person (and not risk retaliation) to show her disapproval is a
heady feeling.
But people, this is fantasy stuff. This is like the fantasy of having your
submissive slave live in a cage in your basement. It is hot, arousing, and fills
you with a feeling of exquisite power, but it is not realistic. You may put him in
cage for a certain time, even hours, but as a punishment only.
Spanking for mutual pleasure (you can pretend he is actually being punished)
can be wonderfully fulfilling if you have these fantasies of ultimate control.
They work quite well in scene. They cannot, however, be translated into reality.
Punishing an adult simply does not work.
There is too much mental resistance to it in the adult mind. Even if he consents
to it and means for it to be effective, it rarely 'takes.' The same punishment is
needed again and again and as it continues to be administered; your submissive
slave becomes more and more emotionally damaged by it. This is not a loving,
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mutually uplifting relationship in which each partner grows and becomes her
better self.
Mental punishment is no more effective than physical punishment. Using the
'silent treatment,' pouting, avoidance, and withholding sex all create resentment
or the pain of rejection when used as punishment. These feelings eat at the
foundation of your relationship (if there is a relationship); they are silent
destroyers of love. These punishments will not alter your partner's behaviour
because they do not motivate. Adults change themselves because they are
motivated to do so.
Positive reinforcement motivates, negative reinforcement does not. When adults
are confronted with pain or unpleasantness, they simply find ways to avoid this
feeling, even if that means avoiding the person doling out the unpleasantness.
Do you avoid people who nag at you, even if they have your best interests at
heart? If negative reinforcement worked, then firing a person from a job would
motivate him to be a better worker. If negative reinforcement was effective,
when your boss upbraided you in front of your co-workers, you would become a
much more pleasant and productive employee. If it worked, when he gave you
the 'silent treatment' because you were late for a date, you would never be late
again. If it worked, you would only need to spank your submissive once.
"Discipline, like the bridle in the hand of a good rider, should exercise its
influence without appearing to do so; should be ever active, both as a support
and as a restraint, yet seem to lie easily in hand. It must always be ready to
check or to pull up, as occasion may require; and only when the horse is a
runaway should the action of the curb be perceptible".
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Mike (Metal) my Master and Friend, the Rebel
Original skinheads were
rebelling against... society
marriage and families,
managers time clocks and
work, rockers with big noisy
motorbikes and leather jackets,
mods scooters and their music
and fashion statements,
authority and the police, glam
rock music, the football team
at the other end of the ground
and many other things.
Mike (Metal) – Died young March 28, 2009
The original Skin look was shocking and a threat: bovver boots or Doctor
Martens meant thugs and Trouble. Cropped hair or shaved head and tattoos
meant convict or borstal runaway. West Ham football club terraces used to smell
of beer and piss, Chelsea and Arsenal did too. Footie skins boots were practical
even before the after-match fight. Why chuck a plastic of beer when you can
chuck a plastic of piss and not miss the match going to the bogs? Some nutter
might even drink it before you have time to throw it. Oi skin! was a challenge
not a greeting.
Footie went all-seat stadium respectable and piss fights were renamed golden
shower around the time when Skin became a gay style. Maybe the smell and
taint of the rebel has diminished as the moon stomp beat and racist tribal chants
have faded into the urban mix.
Rebel means looser in some people's eyes: the skinhead hooligan being led away
by a British bobbie and giving the press photographer a one finger salute for the
Sunday papers. That skinhead lifestyle leads to corporal punishment from the
birch, the tawse and rape in borstal. A life of submission to prison power and the
same metal gods that skinhead slaves now honour in the SM playroom.
Rebel also means glory: the local hero: the skinhead boxer fighting for the glory
of the East End of London. Glorious even if defeated, the Confederate South
will rise again. The songs and chants of the plantation, the roots of jazz, the
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original black music and now the urban rap beat. Red skins and Communards.
White power music too: Union jack for Great Britain, St Andrews cross for
England and the music beat wars. Music as race riot without the CS gas like
international sport is war without the shooting. A long way from the fifties
movie like "Rebel without a cause" that seems oh so tame viewed in the
following century.
But brown boots and green jacket are still powerful symbols; derived from
military style but not military. Black jacket and black boots isn't Original Skin
and means different and doesn't incite a riot. Black boots and black jackets are
security, the guys sent in with the sticks to stop the riot or the American hero
who saves the planet (again) in another movie.
Skin became a gay style about the second or third time the skinhead style came
round into fashion. MA1 jackets show your bum and 501 jeans with braces
feature your packet even if you're not wearing a cockring. The Skin style's
usefully ambiguous between the rebel and hooligan or the gay and the bi, the
sort of man your Mum wouldn't want you to take to her home but she'd like to
have a secret shag from. Or a soldier, on leave but still marked by his regulation
crew-cut. Those went out years ago when the crew-cuts obviously identified
soldiers travelling on British Rail who were trying to avoid being picked off by
terrorists.
But even as Skin became socially acceptable the public didn't realise just how
much gay skins just want to have fun. Much of the straight world doesn't even
want to start to imagine how and maybe for most of England it's just as well like
that. But luckily it sometimes all hangs out at public events like London's SM
Pride march and in gay pubs and clubs where it's at in the big cities.
Oh and I've known some skinheads who can cook a mean chocolate cake that's
fantastic before a night of hard submission in the playroom... just how did that
develop from the borstal skill of rolling up with one hand?
Faggots Rules
Rules every faggot that knows it's place should follow:
1. The faggot is born to obey, serve and worship Men.
2. To that end, faggots are kept in chastity as well as Male-supervised and
controlled Cock denial. (Faggot is very lusty. therefore, orgasm and Male Cock
access under control equals faggot under control. Simple formula.) This chastity
and denial trains up Respect, Adoration, and Worship for Men in faggot's mind.
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And keeps faggot eager to serve Men nicely. (This normally takes gradual
training and can be done with or without device.)
3. Men are more intelligent than faggots, and the faggot does not ever disagree
with a Man. If it does, discipline is applied to bring faggot to the proper
consciousness.
4. Every faggot has the inborn need to be under the full control of a Male. There
is no other life for the faggot. Faggot is kept under the control of Men in all
respects and is trained up to a consciousness of pleasing Men.
5. Faggot is stripped down at all times in the presence of Males, while Males are
clothed. This communicates the subordinate and degraded position of the faggot
before Males.
6. When any Male enters the room, faggot must bow down naked and offer
obeisance at the feet of the Superior Male and ask how it can serve the Male.
Faggot also bows down each time it renders a service to a Male.
7. Faggot is to provide money and wealth to Males. Faggot does not need
material things.
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Sleep discipline
Complete slavery includes regulation and control including during the hours of
sleep and the duration of sleep. Sleep deprivation leads to poor performance and
can amount to torture. Male chastity control is well-known but less familiar are
routines to ensure sleep discipline. There is a strong tendency is to sleep in the
foetal position but this instinct can be overridden by training:
Prison and Borstal1 sleep positions
Complete slavery includes regulation and control including during the hours of
sleep and the duration of sleep. Sleep deprivation leads to poor performance and
can amount to torture. Male chastity control is well-known but less familiar are
routines to ensure sleep discipline. There is a strong tendency is to sleep in the
foetal position but this instinct can be overridden by training:
1. Slave sleep positions
2. Should a slave sleep naked?: toys?
3. Military sleep positions
4. Borstal sleep positions
5. Hospital sleep positions: straitjacket and humane restraint
6. Drunk cell sleep positions
7. Waking up
Slave sleep positions
Train your slave to sleep spread-eagled face-down on a bed when he is alone;
sometimes called the starfish sleep position. If his willpower alone is
insufficient, he should attach himself to the four corners of his bed. Sleeping in
1 A borstal was a type of youth detention centre in the United Kingdom and the
Commonwealth. In India, it is known as a borstal school. Borstals were run by HM Prison
Service and intended to reform seriously delinquent young people. The word is sometimes
used loosely to apply to other kinds of youth institution or reformatory, such as Approved
Schools and Detention Centers. The court sentence was officially called "borstal training".
Borstals were originally for offenders under 21, but in the 1930s the age was increased to
under 23. The Criminal Justice Act 1982 abolished the borstal system in the UK, introducing
youth custody centers instead. In India, borstal schools are used for the imprisonment of
minors. As of 31 December 2011, there were 21 functioning borstal schools in India, with a
combined total capacity for 2,218 inmates.
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this position trains the slave to sleep in a fully-exposed position with his arse
ready for taking. It also trains him to keep his hands away from his cock and
balls.
A variation is to train your slave to sleep with one finger - maybe the middle
finger of his left hand - in his arsehole. Again he will learn to remind himself of
his slave status. Sleeping wearing a buttplug is another option: my experience is
that this leads to some good wild dreams.
Some Masters train their slave to sleep in chains or other restraints on the floor
at the foot of the Master's bed. Like a dog.
The leather goods manufacturers offer leather sleep sacks for overnight sleep
restraint or other enforced immobility.
Should a slave sleep naked?
Ordering a slave to sleep naked instils that he is not worthy of clothing.
However a slave who regularly sleeps clothed will feel unusually exposed when
he is sleeping with his Master. Sleep clothing also somewhat discourages
unauthorised masturbation. Maybe the ideal is for a slave to sleep when
unsupervised wearing a chastity device; if this is is not tolerable long-term, then
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sleeping in a jock with the cock folded downwards but the arse exposed between
the straps.
Of course to ensure that slave doesn't sleep right through you simply instruct
him to sleep wearing with a tight cockring. This is a suitable punishment for a
slave who has dropped off to sleep too early when he should be serving and
servicing his Master. Inevitably the slave will wake up with a rampant erection
and be unable to sleep again until satisfied. One method - when the slave is
sleeping with his Master is slap-on handcuffs attached to the cock or balls and
one wrist. The slave wants to jack off but can't without waking his Master.
Some slaves wear a cockring continuously. For particular effect: training,
eroticising a special session or as a punishment, then a spiked cockstrap or cock
and ball strap is indicated. Actually what you want - and maybe your slave
doesn't - is a device that's comfortable enough for him to get off to sleep but
sized so that when his erotic appetite returns, he will become erect and
consequently suffer pain from the toy you have him wear. Maybe you reserve
this for when your slave is sleeping apart from you so that he can't wake you.
Military sleep positions
Institution bunk beds are narrow: two foot (60cm) or so; this restricts the
sleeping positions. Also the mattress and springs are usually well-used. The
result is that sleeping on the side is not comfortable.
Snoring is a primary consideration when sleeping in a dormitory; usually it is
made worse by sleeping on the front. Hence the well-known but unsubstantiated
rumour that USMC soldier recruits are trained to sleep with their hands at their
sides in the position of "Attention" with the night watch empowered to correct or
report those who loose discipline during their sleep. Sleeping on the side usually
entails turning, which is noisy; training recruits to sleep on their backs is a
practical measure to minimise noise for everyone's benefit. Research suggests
that this is the position favoured by a submissive personality, as the military
recommendation predates the sleep psychologist's research, it is unclear whether
ordering a soldier to sleep in the position of "attention" also changes his
personality to be submissive and order-loving.
Readiness for action is a primary consideration. It's perhaps an overstatement to
say that military training is all about sleep deprivation and being cold and wet
but the lack of sleep resulting from long watch hours and irregular opportunities
for sleep produces an ability to sleep anywhere. Combat readiness training also
includes being ready for action within minutes of being woken: sleeping in kit,
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including boots, is part of the required technique. And sleeping with a loaded
rifle next to you in the bedding produces some interesting dream sequences...
Sleeping in kit also applies to Fire Service personnel when on duty: waterproof
neoprene suits and and rubber boots?
Hot bunking - the practice where the same bedspace is occupied at different
times by a member of a different watch - leads to other customs both designed to
minimise territorial instincts. Please get in touch if you can contribute any of
these of interest.
Sleeping dormitories at Borstal
Prison and Borstal sleep positions
These are quotes from a Borstal group so are uncorroborated
My recollection of this was that you were expected to sleep with your arms
outside of the bedding. The idea was it would keep your hands off your cock. Of
course, it never really worked because through the natural course of sleeping the
process would fall flat as your body would turn around in bed. If sleeping face
down you would often find your hands and arms inside the bedding.
That all said and done. It was funny to witness the lads during the first few days.
They would attempt to sleep as instructed, and often succeed. Only to find
themselves waking with a strong erection tenting the bedding. Unsure if they
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should place their hands under the sheet to conceal it, they would try and pass it
off as unnoticed.
A testimony
In my reformatory it was of course forbidden to wank! It was consider as
disobedience and bad behaviour...
How do they control ?
Just looking at you waking up... at the ring all guys forced to be inspected
standing naked in front of his bed...
They just controlled if you were aroused or not... if yes no problem... just a cold
shower...
If not they presumed you wanked during last night so you were punished...
How do they punish you ?
You just had to wank 3 times one after the other in front of the mates... Then
you received 6 of the cane always in front of the mates... then a cold shower and
1 week nights bound hands up on your back... Being bound for sleeping is a real
hard punishment...
We also had to show our sheets where they were looking for evidence of
wanking... I remember once both of us - and I was in- had such evidence... they
added 2 punishment : first we had to stay naked and just keep the sheet showing
the evidence on us... second : 50 of a belt... Of course we tried not to wank...
I received this punishment let's say 10 or 12 during my time... hard humiliating...
but effective...
Waking up
There are two ways of waking up: nice and nasty.
Nicely :
Natural awakening
Waking up still tired
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Nasty:
Pain from piercing or tattoo whilst healing
Cock, arse tits being fondled to arousal
Pain from spiked cockstrap
Pain from chastity device constraining arousal
Pain from stripes from previous CP
Whistle, bell, electric shock
Smell of body odour or body fluid smells
Enema that started whilst asleep
Being pissed on
These are quotes from a Borstal group so are uncorroborated:
Someone speaking …
My recollection of this was that you were expected to sleep with your
arms outside of the bedding. The idea was it would keep your hands off
your cock. Of course, it never really worked because through the natural
course of sleeping the process would fall flat as your body would turn
around in bed. If sleeping face down you would often find your hands and
arms inside the bedding.
That all said and done. It was funny to witness the lads during the first
few days. They would attempt to sleep as instructed, and often succeed.
Only to find themselves waking with a strong erection tenting the
bedding. Unsure if they should place their hands under the sheet to
conceal it, they would try and pass it off as unnoticed.
In my reformatory it was of course forbidden to wank! It was consider as
disobedience and bad behaviour...
How do they control ?
Just looking at you waking up... at the ring all guys forced to be inspected
standing naked in front of his bed... They just controlled if you were
aroused or not... if yes no problem... just a cold shower... If not they
presumed you wanked during last night so you were punished...
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How do they punish you ?
You just had to wank 3 times one after the other in front of the mates...
Then you received 6 of the cane always in front of the mates... then a cold
shower and 1 week nights bound hands up on your back... Being bound
for sleeping is a real hard punishment...
We also had to show our sheets where they were looking for evidence of
wanking... I remember once both of us - and I was in- had such
evidence... they added 2 punishment : first we had to stay naked and just
keep the sheet showing the evidence on us... second : 50 of a
belt... Of course we tried not to wank...
I received this punishment let's say 10 or 12 during my time... hard
humiliating... but effective... (Eric)
Hospital sleep positions
Strait jacket
Patients who need to be restrained for their own protection were formerly
restrained using a straitjacket. You'll find your shoulders ache quite soon from
the position and that it's impossible to lie comfortably.
Humane Restraint
More recently, the products of the Humane Restraint company have been used
to restrain a patient's wrists and ankles to the bed. This is similar to the US
prison lockdown position that became notorious in Control Unit jails in the US
in the 1980's.
Drunk cell sleep positions
Drunk cells - isolation cells - tend to have minimum facilities. The prisoner
sleeps in his own filth like an animal but the cell can be cleaned out readily with
a hose. There is an isolation
Isolation cell
Solitary confinement in isolation cells is a form of imprisonment in which an
inmate is isolated from any human contact, though often with the exception of
members of prison staff. It is sometimes employed as a form of punishment
beyond incarceration for a prisoner and has been cited as an additional measure
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of protection for the inmate. This form of punishment is also given for violations
of prison regulations. It is also used as a form of protective custody and to
prevent in the case of suicide, restriction from items that could disrupt the
prisoners health. Solitary confinement is colloquially referred to in American
English as "the hotbox", "the hole", "lockdown", "punk city", "SCU" (Solitary
Confinement Unit), "AdSeg" (Administrative Segregation), the "SHU"
(pronounced "shoe") – an acronym for "special housing unit" or "security
housing unit", or "the pound"; in British English as "the block" or "the cooler";
and in Canada it is known as the Special Handling Unit.
Waking up
There are two ways of waking up: nice and nasty.
Nice Nasty Depends
Natural awakening Waking up still
tired
Pain from piercing or tattoo
whilst healing
Cock, arse tits being
fondled to arousal
Pain from spiked
cockstrap
Pain from chastity device
constraining arousal
Pain from stripes from
previous CP
Whistle, bell,
electric shock
Smell of body odour or
body fluid smells
Enema that started whilst
asleep
Being pissed on
Submission positions
Stress positions, search and inspection positions, military drill positions;
harassment, hazing and punishment positions. Eye discipline.
Someone having been detained and supervised in many of these positions; they
appear tolerable but become increasingly uncomfortable. "Toughening up" is
currently unfashionable, for me, the time-honoured punishments are interesting
methods to study ways of becoming tougher.
Physical punishments can't be standardised. Individual reactions vary to many
physical punishments like these or CP. Some enjoy them as a challenge, others
are bored or find them unbearable.
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Unless you've endured a punishment or stress position as part of a discipline
regime it's difficult to appreciate the reaction. Doing it alone in front of a PC is
not the same.
Counter moves are possible for most of these positions as part of unarmed
combat training.
Eye discipline: the direction of subject's eyes may also be specified;
unauthorised observation or challenge to the supervisor is prohibited.
Some old-style prisoner control positions formerly used in Senior
Approved Schools, Borstal (US) and Prisons
SIT legs crossed, with EYES DOWN or HEAD BETWEEN YOUR KNEES.
KNEEL, again with EYES DOWN.
The order HANDS ON HEAD was often added for additional control.
Punishment positions include CROUCH, hands behind the back.
When crouching became intolerable, the detainee was permitted to lean his
forehead against the wall. That's a trick. It makes it easier for a short while bit
but soon becomes worse as not only do the knees hurt but the forehead hurts too.
The worst one was "CROUCH KNEES HEAD WALL AND DON'T MOVE"
which means crouch with your hands behind the back, forehead on the wall,
knees on the wall.
Moving - otherwise known as wriggling or fidgeting - was just asking to stay
there for longer.
TOUCH YOUR TOES or GRAB YOUR ANKLES are a well-known
preliminaries to the free-standing administration of corporal punishment (CP).
Crouching and squatting have the centre of gravity of the body over the heels
and as near to the ground as possible. Squatting has the feet further apart than
crouching with the heels touching, in the squat position the thighs are parallel
and in the crouch position the upper legs are at ninety degrees to each other.
Squatting as a martial arts or gym workout position has the head forward and
level (don't look down) and the back straight; feet parallel, soles flat on the
ground; for a crouch the feet are angled and the heels are off the ground. Duck
walk - that the French call marche canard - is the version where you walk in this
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position. Like the static positions, it quickly becomes tiring - or duck walk can
be viewed as an excellent, but punishing, workout for the legs.
Crouching is ready to spring into action: the crouch position is recommended to
hikers or soldiers when resting outdoors to avoid getting a damp bum from
sitting on the ground. The dictionary has this as the original meaning, the
connotation has gradually changed so that crouching now describes a submissive
posture derived from crouching before the crucifix, which has in turn become
kneeling before the crucifix.
Squatting is routinely used in Asian jails as a prisoner holding position. The
dictionary associates the word squat with animals defecating. For humans it's
akin to squatting over a hole-in-the-ground WC or "Mandy" toilet: The French
Traditional W.C. It seems particularly uncomfortable to Westerners accustomed
to sitting in chairs.
"Tug" adds
The punishment wall, used in old Senior Approved/Borstal regimes for 18-21
year olds. You were standing for hours on a four inch wide wall, about three feet
off the ground. The advantage is you can have several on the wall at once. One
Governor at Feltham had them in boots only. Kerrison Senior
Approved/Reformatory had them bare feet. More about punishments in Borstal.2
2 Borstal Punishment Block CP
"Borstal" remains the slang for punishment centres for 18-21 year olds although the
institutions previously named HMB (Her Majesty's Borstal) similarly to HMP (Her Majesty's
Prison) have been subsequently renamed YoC (Young offenders Centres) and and YoI
(Young offenders Institutions). Corporal Punishment has long since been illegal in these
institutions.
First experience
Corporeal punishment was widely used in Borstal up until I was there in 1982. It was
unofficial and it was quite common to see other lads with striped on their arses. We didn't
have punishment blocks at YoC Leicester but we had a punishment set of cells that where
"away" from the main area.....this is also where the canings and strappings took place...
Caning was more of a sadistic/sexual thing with the screws although at the time I hated it and
never wanted it we had no choice in most cases. It was either a beating or report.... AR
Second experience
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Alan adds
On a similar note of punishment, at Borstal we were made to hold a large book
(usually the Yellow Pages) and forced to hold it out at arm’s length in front of
your body. Might sound easy but after 5 minutes your arms where in agony. If
we let go within the 5 minutes is meant a hard whack over the arse with a strap...
Jeffrey adds
In the movie Chatahoochie, based on a true story that takes place in an
American mental hospital in the 1950s, there is a scene where a patient is being
punished by sitting motionless on a backless bench. The guard sits there
watching him with his feet sprawled out comfortably eating and smoking and
reading. It is implied that the prisoner had to sit there a long time.
Military Corporal Punishment: gaining your stripes
Sore-assed squaddies
Historically, flogging across the shoulders was used to impose military
discipline on an unwilling soldiery. Flogging as a sentence from a Court Martial
in the British army was abolished in 1868 by Act of Parliament (US army 1861)
army but corporal punishment has persisted unofficially at least into the 1990's -
three squaddies reportedly received 12 strokes of the birch in Shrewsbury in
1993 for taking cocaine on camp.
The "short sharp shock" of Guard Room CP has the advantages that the
punishment is immediate, the soldier does not have the infraction entered on his
Yes, we had a punishment block at Ever Thorpe HMB. I spent a couple of nights in there for
fighting with the Daddies of my Wing! All the furniture was actually made out of corrugated
cardboard was removed from the cell in the day time and brought back in at supper time. Life
in the block as they called it, was pretty boring actually with lockup for 23 hours a day and
just a Bible to read.
Third experience
In the early 1990s I met a solicitor in a bar. He told me that he had been to Feltham YOC that
day to see a client. In the visiting room the client spontaneously dropped his trousers to reveal
stripes across his buttocks which he claimed had been caused by a Prison Officer's caning.
Remember this was the early 1990s, long after this sort of thing was supposedly outlawed
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record and the CO doesn't need to know about it so promotion prospects are
unaffected by a local lapse of discipline.
Traditional authoritarian methods of correction have also persisted for those
unable to achieve perfection at drill. This provides a particularly fertile starting
point for CP in military discipline fantasy re-enactments. Bunker TQB 6/47 had
slatted benches in the mess cabin which were memorably uncomfortable to
recently striped sore-assed squaddies...
Taking corporal punishment "like a man" is also part of the process of
toughening up: including circuit training where one station includes presenting
for CP as well as callisthenic exercises such as pushups and sit-ups. The
resulting stripes and reddening can be worn with pride.
The toughening up process on soldiers is like hardening in horticulture: tender
young seedlings and buds are protected in the nursery but when older are
hardened outdoors so the plants can grow strong and thicken their skin.
Ritual plays a large part in corporal punishment: the sentence is declared but
administered some time later. Anticipation of the unknown breeds fear. In the
military context, a particular uniform is required - the infamous KD khaki drill
shorts were a favourite, more recently rugby/rugger shorts or other sports kit for
doses of CP administered in the gym by the physical training instructor (PTI).
For sentences administered in the guard room, additional stress was imposed by
requiring the defaulter to present for a kit inspection prior to punishment, with
the high likelihood that additional CP would be awarded for faults.
British army olive green (OG) lightweight trousers are particularly effective at
increasing the pain from CP when stretched tight across the buttocks. Wetting
the material immediately prior to CP further increases the effectiveness of the
punishment. These "tricks" can make CP received in uniform more painful than
CP received bare.
As these have been unofficial punishments regulations do not exist so there is
much local variation.
Search and Inspection positions
These positions aim to expose the prisoner to allow full body searches; sudden
moves or resistance are exposed and thus discouraged. Maintaining the hands
above the head or shoulders soon leads to fatigue.
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SPREADEAGLE. The classic "X" spread-eagle search position standing
vertical against a wall can be aggravated by
o requiring the detainee to maintain contact with the wall by nose,
knees and toes
o ordering the prisoner to step back from the wall, leaning against the
wall at an angle of 60 or so degrees and deliberately denying
contact with the wall except by the hands - or, worse, fingertips -
which now must support some body weight.
TOES, i.e. stand on tiptoe; the stretch is difficult to maintain.
ALL-FOURS. Hands and feet on the ground, bum in the air.
DOGGIE. Hands, knees and feet on the ground. Also known as ADOPT
THE POSITION.
These positions become stress positions if they are maintained for extended
periods. My personal experience is limited to being detained for an hour or so in
the spread-eagle position. Spread-eagle and tiptoe are frequently recommended
as prisoner holding positions prior to interrogation; with the addition of a
blindfold or hood, the prisoner can become confused and disorientated. This
may be contrary to the Geneva Convention relative to the Treatment of Prisoners
of War.
Military Drill positions
British Army: ATTENTION, AT EASE, STAND EASY
US Army: ATTENTION, PARADE REST, AT EASE
Armée du terre (F): GARDE à VOUS, REPOS
Bundeswehr (D): ACHTUNG, RUHE
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At Borstal (UK)
British Army Drill positions
A paean could be uttered on the joys of drill. Endured by all servicemen, loved
by few, detested by most, equally admired and misunderstood by civilians... the
routines of military drill underpin the discipline of service life since drill was
first foisted on an unwilling soldiery by the Prussians.
The following basic definitions are classics of British Army prose. A
punishment of the National Service era was to be detained until the defaulter
was able to recite these definitions word-perfect. The descriptions begin with the
word of caution followed by the word of command.
1. Attention
SQUAD—ATTENTION
Spring up to the following position : Heels together and in line. Feet turned out
at an angle of about 30 degrees. Knees straight. Body erect, and carried evenly
over the thighs, with the shoulders (which should be level and square to the
front) down and moderately back; this should bring the chest to its natural
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forward position without any straining or stiffening. Arms hanging down from
the shoulders as straight as the natural bend of the arm will allow. Wrists
straight. Hands closed but not clenched. Backs of the fingers touching the thigh
lightly, thumb to the front and close to the forefinger, thumb immediately behind
the seam of the trousers. Neck erect. Head balanced evenly on the neck and not
poked forward, eyes looking their own height and straight into the front.
The weight of the body should be balanced on both feet and evenly balanced
between the forepart of the feet and the heels.
The breathing must not in any way be restricted, and no part of the body should
be either drawn in or pushed out.
The position is one of readiness or expectation of the word of command and is
that adopted when addressing, or being addressed by, a superior officer.
2. Standing at Ease
STAND AT—EASE
Keeping the legs straight, carry the left foot about twelve inches to the left so
that the weight of the body rests equally on both feet. At the same time carry the
hands behind the back and place the back of the right hand in the palm of the
left, grasping it lightly with the finger and thumb, and allowing the arms to hang
at their full extent.
(i) In marching order without the rifle the arms will be retained as in the position
of attention.
(ii) When a recruit falls in he will stand at ease after he has got his dressing.
3. Standing Easy.
STAND—EASY
The limbs, head and body may be moved, but the man will not move his feet, so
that on coming to attention there is no loss of dressing. Slouching attitudes are
not to be permitted. If either foot is moved men are inclined to lose their
dressing. On the caution Squad, etc. the correct position of Stand at Ease will be
assumed.
Note that AT EASE and PARADE REST are positions which require the body
to be tensed, i.e. held taut, stressed.
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Recruit Hazing and Harassment positions
Institutional bullying of military recruits has long been formally outlawed in the
UK, EU and US, however the long-standing traditions continue. These are
positions with no purpose except the harassment of recruits by their seniors.
FRONT LEANING REST, the starting position for a set of press-ups, is another
position that is not restful if demanded and held for an extended period of time.
The position of SIT-OUT requires the junior recruit to sit against a wall with his
body trunk vertical, thighs horizontal and lower legs vertical. The arms may be
required to be held out horizontal to the front carrying a rifle. As fatigue sets in,
movement is an opportunity for shouting verbal abuse at the recruit or
humiliating him such as requiring him to sing the wash list. This position was
known as plebe's rest in the US military academies at Annapolis and West Point.
Hazing in the US military academies went much further than fagging, which
meant the allocation to the plebe class - juniors - of necessary menial duties such
as fetching food, collecting washing, opening windows and winding clocks.
Hazing was forbidden by law of the US Congress in 1901. Nonetheless black
eyes and bruises persisted among the highly-strung recruits in the military
academies. There were US Congress hearings on hazing 1901, West Point
Military Academy and 1906, Hazing at Annapolis Naval Academy.
Medical Examination Positions
Doctors and nursing staff often require access to a patient's body for an
examination or treatment. Anything from OPEN WIDE to PUT YOUR LEGS
IN THE STIRRUPS and HOP UP ON THE COUCH ON YOUR HANDS AND
KNEES for a rectal examination. Sometimes rectal examinations are carried out
with the patient lying on his left side, and crouched in the foetal position.
Anthropological slave positions
Historical slavery in Africa under colonial rule produced many subtleties of
behaviour in inhuman conditions. Illustrations in anthropological texts include
examples of slave posture with standing with head always bowed, the eyes
always downwards, through to permitted positions of sitting.
Among Soninke in Sudan only the chief was allowed to sit cross-legged, other
noblemen had to sit with at least one leg extended. Slaves were not permitted to
sit cross-legged; if permitted to sit on the ground, both the slave's legs must be
folded rearwards. Saves of lower grade were never allowed to sit but only
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allowed to kneel with one knee on the ground, the other folded rearwards, the
head and eyes always lowered submissively.
SM slave positions
1. INSPECTION. Slave stands naked with legs wide apart, back straight,
stomach pulled in, chest pushed out, head bowed, hands clasped behind
the neck.
2. ATTENTION. Slave stands naked, rigid and straight, belly in, chest out,
legs together, feet turned out at an angle of 30 degrees, arms at sides,
hands held with palms pressed to sides and fingers extended and pressed
together, head held high.
3. AT EASE. As for "Attention", but with legs apart, body relaxed and
hands clasped behind back.
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4. OFFER. Slave kneels naked with forehead pressed to the ground, legs
wide apart, backside raised high in the air, back straight and hands (if
free) reaching back to clasp and open the buttocks and expose the anus
and genitals to the Master.
5. LOO. Slave kneels naked, legs well apart and sits back on the ankles with
head tilted back and hands clasped behind the neck, mouth open, ready to
receive the stream.
6. WANK. Slave kneels naked before the Master, legs wide apart, hips
thrust forward, head up, with left hand behind the back and left forefinger
rammed up the anus and right hand used to masturbate; mouth open and
eyes fixed on the Master's face.
Punitive Medicine
Qualified modern clinicians would probably either deny the concept of punitive
medicine as being contrary to the basic professional creed as embodied in the
Hippocratic Oath or else decry it as non-existent in modern Western medical
clinical practice. However there are still substantial remnants of the concept
which have either passed to areas not generally thought of as medical or else
continue but are unrecognised by the medical profession a punitive medicine or
are justified by overriding concepts such as public health or the best interests of
the patient.
Punitive medicine is where the impact on the patient of the generally accepted
treatment has significant aspects of punishment or retribution. Some
investigations and many medical treatments are at best unpleasant or humiliating
and many are downright painful.
The context of the procedure is also important: a procedure that may be
pleasurable in a recreational sexual context can become intensely humiliating in
a medical situation with the attendant concerns about the patient's health. There
are also associations of guilt.
The expectation of the patient by clinicians is a degree of subjugation and
contrition by the patient. Medics are not generally expecting a sexual response,
for the patient to "get off" on the humiliation aspects of the procedures and
treatments they prescribe any more than in more brutal times the award of a
sentence of corporal punishment would have been expected to arouse a sexual
response in the prisoner. But a sexual response to the clinical situation is
unlikely to change the medical outcome so I see no moral or practical inhibition
to enjoying treatments if we can. There's no difference between getting off on
sore buttocks from a jab or sore buttocks from a caning.
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The following table lists some medical procedures with their interpretations in a
punishment context. This is for information only and not recommendations for
treatments; for real ailments, see a real doctor.
Procedure Comment
Intimate examination How many people do you drop your trousers for?
Fasting cholesterol
blood test
Doctor is checking you for fat so you have to not eat for
12 hours before blood test
Enema Punishment/treatment and control: removal of ability to
control bowels i.e. forcible regression to
infancy/childhood or geriatric.
Dental repair work:
tooth drilling and
filling
Punishment/treatment for not brushing teeth and eating
too many sweets.
Intimate shaving Shaved genital or perianal hair prior to an examination
or as part of treatment for lice etc.
Blocked ear, especially
when caused by
attempting to remove
ear wax using a swab
Rather than syringe blocked ears immediately of
cerumen (ear wax) clinicians order a lengthy period of
treatment intended to soften the ear wax but the effect is
to worsen temporary deafness
Plaster cast Control because you have broken a bone
Sports injuries
especially repetitive
strain type injuries
Limited sympathy from clinicians when they classify
sportsmen who overstrain as "obsessive"
Haemorrhoids Punishment/treatment for physical inactivity.
Anal penetration including sigmoidoscopy and inflation
of the rectum and lower colon
Gonorrhoea, chlamydia
and other sexually
transmitted diseases
Instructed to abstain from alcohol whilst on course of
antibiotics.
You are still infections until the course is completed;
the antibiotics work pretty much as well if you drink
alcohol but the medics assume you are more likely to
have sexual activity if your inhibitions are reduced with
alcohol so on this count they instruct you to abstain.
Syphilis treatment:
deep muscle injection
to buttocks
Punishment/treatment for sexual depravity.
Treatment requires patient to expose buttocks for
painful injection.
Discomfort and humiliation effect are similar to caning..
Tetanus injection Punishment/treatment for playing in dirty mud.
Sedation – “chemical
cosh”
Punitive psychiatry and Soviet psycho-prisons e.g. the
USSR’s Gulag as portrayed by Solzhenitsyn and
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Podrabinek, etc.
Pharmacological
"highs"
Some prescription drugs have side effects which can be
pleasurable, e.g. hallucinatory or psychotropic
experiences or sexual arousal.
Youth at Borstal
Century Slave Training through Cyber Technology
(Webcam: Skype – philippe_de_coster)
Face to face control continuing as control at a distance
Technologies are content-neutral but perverted human minds are everywhere...
The techniques of carrot and stick, reward and punishment can be included in
current hi-tech lifestyles so the BDSM beds lifestyle isn’t necessarily limited to
the weekends and the playroom or bar backroom.
Prison technology has moved on since ball and chain. The ties that bind extend
reality into cyberspace. Who wants to become a plantation slave when you can
aspire to become in sci-fi reality a drone or droid?
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Full-time visual monitoring as shown on reality television is beyond the scope of
individuals to implement but it's demonstrated a widespread fascination with
24/7 monitoring and also, that ordinary human sexuality is stimulated in such a
environment, at least for the duration of the TV show/experiment.
"Big Brother is my Master" and "Big Brother is my friend" are underlying but
unwritten themes of authoritarian control in Orwell's futuristic novel 1984.
Orwell's Big Brother was too uptight to admit he was into into cum control too,
and none of the UK reality TV shows have gone that explicit yet, but if total
control is erotic in one technology then it is in another.
There are a whole number of systems which are coming on stream now which
record our actions and which can be used to track and report. The interest in in
repurposing these for erotic control purposes and to arrange for slaves (or should
that be droids?) to actually live the fantasy.
Legacy SM technology is derived from the fetters and locks of prisons and chain
gangs so it is no surprise that modern deviant control techniques are also readily
adaptable for BDSM. And a surprising number of modern employee
management tools also need only slight adaptation: many of the software tools
required for erotic slave control are already installed on your desktops. Just do
it...
Prisoner control hardware is also available but imperfect in these applications:
skin contact is erratic, portable equipment requires waterproofing and battery
recharging. In this application, software control is actually more reliable, highly
developed and better adapted for the purpose.
Working from home - teleworking - enables some of these BDSM activities to
continue through the working day. Some designers and authors do their best
work fully-naked. It's a small step to a full-time leather slave harness or a four-
way hands and feet steel chain set.
It may well be that the tekkie responding to your online technical support
request is naked, chastity-controlled and in physical restraint; or maybe he's just
in economic slavery and has some strong fantasies. As always with tech support
- please be nice to him!
Or a telephone call centre call handler, working from home. These outfits are
run on fear: call monitoring, snooping, attitude and demeanour reports,
adherence, performance metrics and success statistics. Punishment duty is being
assigned the shift when the rude stroppy callers call in most...
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Control by screen is one aspect, withdrawal of human warmth and actual
touching warm body to warm body is a disadvantage. Distillation of fetish turn-
on to its screen representation distances the humanity. The yearning initially
enhances but gradually diminishes the human sexuality. Use it for real or loose
it. Cybersex is not a long term substitute for real boot-in-face man-to-man
master to slave encounters.
Roman Emperors threw their worthless slaves to the lions as entertainment. 21st
century slaves have rights too and should be treated with love and respect. Any
one of the following methods used singly is a powerful technique. Use in
combination may cause potentially dangerous psychological disturbance. Use at
your own risk. Keep a grasp on reality.
Texting: slave carries mobile and receives orders by text message; slave
texts his acceptance of the order and returns evidence to his Master that he
has complied. Picture phones make this control even closer and make
"cheating" more difficult. Widespread adoption of photo messaging (like
texting is now) will be another step closer to Total Control.
Web instant messaging: in-depth interrogation and by screen and
keyboard. The impersonal communication mode encourages opening up
and probes deeper.
Using personal organiser and desktop productivity tools to aggressively
manage slaves: assign targets and track tasks; computer usage tracked and
time accounted by automatic online journal: forced blogging and
accounting for every minute of every day.
Tagging and tracking by GPS or mobile-phone cell technology
Punishment self-applied and monitored by webcam, digital stills camera
etc.
Food supplements issued to maintain balanced diet without gastronomic
pleasure
Food consumption recorded, analysed and monitored for calorie and
nutrition content
Caffeine-induced performance enhancement and mood control
Fitness training: heart rate monitor, download exercise profile as proof of
completion
Muscle workout by electro-stimulation. To exhaustion.
Masturbation and cum control: chastity devices for control and electro-
genito-stimulation for cum milking and ball-emptying.
Slave prohibited or prevented from genital self-touch
Skin touch denial: barrier contact only through latex inspection gloves
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The Rules of an Intelligent Master
1. Family and job commitments come first.
2. No drugs, tricks, or force are used to obtain its full
co-operation!
3. When practical, it is nude especially when on the web.
4. The SEED produced by its body is MY PROPERTY! it will
NOT beg for relief. I will decide how and when it will
ejaculate. Deliberate ejaculation is punishable.
5. Communicate daily by web.
6. it will never question or resist a Chastity Device.
7. I will never put My slave in mortal danger.
8. it has the right to ask questions.
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9. I consider it to be MY valuable PROPERTY for MY
pleasure and enjoyment!
Brainwashing, attitude adjustment
Many organisations now run induction programmes that attempt to instil a new
set of values in recruits. These are mostly following the authoritarian basic
training routines established by the military boot camps, taken up by the
religious sects (or the other way around!) and now established as part of
corporate human resources policy. Skinhead camp programs are also being used
to attempt to correct deviant and criminal behaviour.
The skinhead principle is to take a group of people away from normal life and to
return them to productive life with specific values and culture. Brainwashing
was an extreme version notorious in the twentieth century Cold War, clearly a
human rights violation. Religious movements also uses brainwashing as many
the Scientology Church and Opus Dei, Jehovah Witness, the Evangelical
fundamentalists, and many others as India guru communities.
Six creepy everyday brainwashing techniques
The world is full of shady self-help gurus and workplace seminars telling us
how we can turn our lives around just by using the right words ("Don't say the
cheese is 'spoiled' -- say it's 'aged'!"), as if language is a form of magic that can
alter reality.
But here's the thing: The human brain is an odd, glitchy machine that is
influenced in all sorts of weird ways you never thought of. This is why
politicians and salespeople can trick you into going along with them, just by
toying with the words they use. Science is just now catching up to them, and has
found that ...
1. Repeating Your Opinion Makes People Believe It, No
Matter How Stupid It Is
This is one that, sadly, you could have guessed if you follow politics or talk
radio: Say it enough, and people will believe it. For example, how many of you
think Al Gore claims to have invented the Internet? He said no such thing -- but
pundits and comedians repeated it enough that it became truth. It's the same
reason anti-vaccination zealots stick to their guns, even while they cause
diseases to spread like wildfire. They "heard" vaccines were dangerous, and
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that's literally all it takes -- hearing it over and over. Even if the source is a total
stranger and/or an idiot.
Why It Works:
It's just the way human social behaviour works -- if a message is repeated
enough times, others will begin to accept it as a commonly held belief in the
group. In fact, studies have found that if just one person repeats the same
opinion three times, it has a whopping 90 percent chance of converting three
different people in the group to have the same opinion. Holy shit, that's how
both politics and conspiracy theories work, isn't it?
Researchers at the University of Michigan have come to call the phenomenon
memory distortion, and it's basically a brain glitch where the interplay of
repetition and assumption makes us from our beliefs around whatever opinion is
the most familiar to us.
But what makes it so treacherous is the fact that all it takes to sway people's
beliefs is one crazy person. Hell, it doesn't even work all that well with multiple
people: A study on the phenomenon exposed one group to an opinion repeated
by three different people, another to that same opinion repeated by one person
multiple times. Incredibly, the group subjected to one single guy repeating the
opinion was three times more susceptible to changing their own opinions than
the others. Even when we actively register that it's just one person spouting
bullshit, we're still likely to believe it.
In other words, people who are obsessive or dickish enough to keep repeating a
wrong idea have a natural advantage in human society, and probably always
have. Yeah, that whole "Hitler" thing is starting to make a lot more sense, right?
2. Imitating People Makes Them Give You Things
If you work in a profession where tips make up a significant portion of your
income, it's crucial that your customers see you as a pleasant enough person to,
well, tip. It's good luck, then, that it's entirely possible to use a simple "repeated
words" trick to sway people in your favour, to the point where they're way more
likely to give you money.
All you need to do is repeat the last few words they said (well, that, and
generally behave in a not-kicking-them-in-the-junk-because-they-asked-for-
more-bread-sticks manner, but we're hoping that kind of goes without saying).
And it's actually part of a broader set of techniques that every politician and con
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artist knows: You can bring people to your side -- and get them to do things for
you -- just by imitating them.
Why It Works:
It comes up in study after study -- the power of mimicry in social situations.
Humans are social animals, and we all have a switch that flips in our brain that
says, "This person is like me, therefore I should help them." In one study, they
found that customers were more likely to buy from salespeople who repeated
phrases they used, or their mannerisms. That's right, it doesn't even have to be
verbal -- in another experiment cited in the link above, if the researcher
mimicked the posture and body language of the subject, the subject was three
times as likely to help him pick up a box of pens he'd dropped.
So in the Dutch study mentioned above that explored the relationship between
mimicry and generous tips, they first went into a restaurant and calculated an
average tip, then told the server to repeat what half of her customers said after
ordering, exactly as they said it. With the other half, she would simply say what
servers normally say ("We'll get that right out!" or something to that effect). The
tips from mimicked customers were a whopping 68 percent more generous than
those from the non-mimicked ones. Regardless of factors like the accuracy of
the order and wait time, just hearing their words repeated back to them put them
in a more positive, giving state of mind.
Of course, there's presumably a limit to how much you should mimic a person.
You can test it by following people around the office, parroting their every
sentence, and log how much time passes before they finally turn around and stab
you.
3. Resist Temptation by Saying "Don't" Instead of
"Can't"
One reason why successful dieting is borderline impossible is because there is a
complicated psychology behind cravings that science barely understands. For
example, one study found that, bizarrely, you can screw up somebody's diet just
by telling them obesity is a disease.
So for example, when you have a friend who's dieting, you can usually judge
how successful they'll be based on a single word. When shown a doughnut or a
deep-fried stick of butter, do they say, "I can't eat that?"
If so, they're probably screwed. What they should have said was "I don't eat
that."
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Two letters, but all the difference in the world.
Why It Works:
Researchers did a study where participants were asked to respond with either
statement when asked to consider whether they would like an unhealthy snack.
They then reported how empowered they felt after and, in the true test, were
offered a chocolate bar or a granola bar on the way out the door. Sure enough,
64 percent of the I-don'ts went with the granola bar, while only 39 percent of the
I-can'ts took it.
It makes sense -- "don't" suggests that the desired item being spoken of is simply
never part of the speaker's life; it's something they have actively eliminated
themselves, a decision they arrived at personally. "I can't" means there's some
external reason barring the speaker from what they truly want, and if this
condition (i.e., a temporary diet) didn't exist, they'd be neck deep in chocolate-
coated fried chicken. In other words, one phrase is empowering, while the other
"inherently signifies deprivation."
These results were repeated in experiments dealing with exercise, too -- it's just
easier to resist impulses when you frame it in your mind as "I'm choosing to do
this" versus "My Nazi of a doctor is making me." Unless said doctor has a gun
to your head, you're eventually going to rebel and do what you "really" want.
4. Performing a Ritual Before Eating Makes Food Taste
Better
A human being is a creature of ritual and habit, even and especially when it
comes to food. When it's your birthday, the cake tends to come to the tune of a
discordant, unenthusiastic "Happy Birthday." If you're the religious type,
chances are you precede your meals with a little prayer you give to your deity of
choice before chowing down. Sure, there are all sorts of cultural reasons for that
stuff, but there's a very neat magic trick these chants are able to pull off: They
make whatever you're about to ingest taste better.
If you're not into saying grace before mealtime and/or the very first bars of
"Happy Birthday" send you into a murderous frenzy, pretty much any quirky
ritual will do. Mutter "Peter Piper picked a peck of pickled peppers" three times
under your breath while grinning widely and eyeballing the couple at the next
table. Stand on your head and loudly scream, "I dedicate this meal to A'grasokh,
god of turmoil and madness." It doesn't seem to matter, as long as you do it.
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Why It Works:
You already kind of knew this on some level, based on your experience at
restaurants. The steak served to you by a waiter in a tuxedo who offers it on a
polished silver platter under soft violin music might be no different from the
hunk of meat served in a plastic basket at Billy's Beef Bonanza down the street
(hell, they probably use the same supplier), but there is a ritual to the former that
makes that food seem more ... important, somehow. Kind of like if you see a
scruffy guy pull up in a limousine with five bodyguards, you assume he must be
a rock star or something. "They wouldn't go through all that hassle for some
random asshole!"
So the food we perceive as important tends to taste better, and the easiest,
cheapest way to make it important is to give it a little "Abracadabra" just before
eating it. Several different experiments involving food ranging from carrots to
chocolate have verified that this is a very real thing, and it changed the taste of
the food so much that the test subjects not only enjoyed the food more and
savoured it longer, but were actually willing to pay more for it.
In the case of the carrots, the ritual (completely non-religious in nature, by the
way) was even able to increase the subjects' anticipation of eating the next
carrot, despite knowing full well that it would clearly be just another carrot. Yes,
they managed to make fucking carrots desirable. If that's not magic, we don't
know what is.
5. Saying "I'm Excited" Reduces Stress
We want to apologize in advance, because this one really does sound like the
kind of rah-rah "Think positive!" bullshit you've heard at some HR seminar at
the office. But it turns out they might be kind of right.
We all have temporary spells of work bullshit -- maybe you're facing a
seemingly impossible deadline, or a spine-crushing triple shift, or a huge test
that your whole semester hinges on, and holy shit, it's tomorrow, you could have
sworn it's not until next Thursday. That crap happens to everybody, and your
biggest enemy is the panic itself. You're rarely at your best when you're shitting
your pants in terror.
And here's where your disgustingly positive life coach will make you stop and
say you're "excited" about the upcoming challenge, instead of "terrified," as if
merely telling that to yourself can actually change your stress level (and thus
performance) during the task.
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But the science suggests they're right.
Why It Works:
According to Alison Wood Brooks of Harvard, saying "I'm excited!" prior to a
stressful circumstance (yes, you have to say it out loud) helps to change the
pants-shitting perspective into something more positive inside your head. Once
you have the positivity thing down, it greatly reduces your stress and makes you
perform better at just about everything, from oratory skills to general work
performance.
You know what doesn't work? Trying to calm yourself down, or telling yourself
it's no big deal. That apparently is the secret -- Brooks' research discovered that
the whole "I'm excited" thing works because it doesn't deny the ball of anxiety in
your gut is there or try to make it go away. It just tricks your brain into thinking
it's a positive.
6. Adding a Reason to Your Request Is a Jedi Mind Trick
You're standing in line at a Starbucks. A busy-looking suit taps on your shoulder
and asks, "Do you mind if I cut in front of you?" A week later, an identical-
looking dude does the same thing, only this one says, "Do you mind if I cut in
front of you, because I need to get my coffee?" Which one are you more likely
to tell to fuck off?
Of course, your answer is "Both, and if he tries anything, so help me, I will
initiate a slap-fight." Ours was, too. However, should this scenario actually
happen, a whopping 93 percent of people would let the latter guy get his coffee
before them just because he gave a reason ... even if the reason adds nothing to
the situation. It's not like they dressed him in bloody surgeon's garb and had him
yell something about being late for an open-heart surgery. Just giving a reason --
even if it's stating the obvious -- works wonders.
Why It Works:
The key is that it really only works on requests that don't require a lot of time or
effort on the other person's end -- once they have a moment to think about what
was said, they usually build up some resistance. But in our day-to-day lives, our
resistance is pretty low. For instance, think about how you travelled to wherever
you're reading this article now (school/office/company bathroom). Chances are
you probably didn't have to think very hard about getting there. It was a familiar
route, so your brain operated your body on automatic, leaving you to daydream
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about whatever bullshit you'd rather be doing. While this is a useful brain-tool to
have, it also leaves us wide open to manipulation.
When the brain is in the automatic state, our reasoning becomes simplified, to
the point where almost any reason to do something is good enough for us. "Hey,
can you move a little to the left so my space orangutan can better fling his acidic
poop at the guy standing next to you?" becomes "Hey, can you move a little to
the left because of [REASON]?" in our head, and we're automatically all "Sure,
cool" and don't think twice about it until the screaming begins. If the favor is a
bigger, more inconveniencing thing, the autopilot brain is more likely to nudge
us a bit, but even then, it's likely to grant the favour if the reason presented is
somewhat plausible.
None of this makes any logical sense, of course -- there has presumably been a
reason behind every single request you've ever gotten, even if the person didn't
state one. The existence of a reason for their request isn't new information. But it
doesn't matter -- if you learn to reflexively give that "because ________" after
every request, you'll find the world bending to your will.
Some components of an induction programme:
Restricted communication with family and friends
Detachment: sleeping away from home
Fatigue and discomfort
Ritual
Communal eating
Communal travel
Programme details and schedule are not available to delegates in advance
Activities that recruits have previously desired but have not previously
experienced
These situations expose a delegate to be more likely to accept a new set of
values if these are offered. Ready availability of socially acceptable drugs such
as alcohol also assist in lowering inhibitions.
Group pressure is important in giving approval to the process and isolating
individuals.
The desired result of a successful induction course is a group of individuals with
common values and knowledge. Downsides are a loss of independence,
individuality and creativity; the ability of a recruit to question the aims of the
group is diminished; destabilisation of identity may be dangerous.
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Brainwashing in an erotic context
In an erotic context, these techniques can be used to facilitate or force changes
in the personality of the recruit. Group activities are difficult to achieve in
civilian life but the changes wrought are more deep-seated and long-lasting.
In a consensual recreational context, one on one situations are more common
and these attitude adjustment techniques can be used with a consensual, erotic
intent.
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Important to remember
Mental health is as important as physical health: the changes induced by
"brainwashing" may be permanent and/or undesirable.
"Brainwashing" techniques can be dangerous and should not be attempted
without experience, care and consideration for the recruit who is the subject.
For this reason this page specifically omits crucial details of the procedures that
may be used for successful "brainwashing".
Examples from several reported experiences:
1. A Master discovered that, despite being his willing SM slave, I had a
severe dislike fear of corporal punishment and used a combination of
sensory deprivation, the Stockholm hostage syndrome, and brainwashing
techniques to get me to a point where I would beg him for a beating. The
beating he administered was designed and intended to leave me sexually
unsatisfied and begging him for more strokes, which he declined to
administer.
I found thereafter that I craved corporal punishment and that CP had
become an erotic activity; I have had much pleasure from the erotic
connection between pain and sexual pleasure since.
2. Another Master was disappointed that I as his slave did not enjoy piss
play (yellow). He constructed a situation of dependence and worship and
used this power relationship to start a piss scene whilst I was "high" from
other SM activities that I accepted. This ensured that I accepted the piss
play that he wished to inflict on me but the effect has not been permanent.
3. A militarily-trained Master ordered me to be his slave. He arranged a
meeting in a pub, where he gave me padlocks and chains and told me to
lock them on my waist, cock and balls. I did not have access to the keys
and he said the keys were not with him.
He bought me several drinks in quick succession and then took me to his
car. I was hooded and ordered to repeat a phrase continuously while the
car moved for many minutes. When we arrived at the destination,
headphones were placed over the hood which played some music mixed
with a recording of his voice frequently repeating other phrases.
He moved me from the car to his play area and tied me up and started
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BDSM play. The techniques he had inflicted on me in transit induced
severe disorientation, humiliation and consequently passivity; the SM
scene rapidly became a failure and I insisted on stopping.
Modern army corporal punishment
Several people report anonymously and without corroboration that physical
punishments, CP and GP (gut punching as above), continue as an unofficial
punishment in modern armies. The offences it allegedly expunges are dealt with
"off the record" with no paperwork and no photos. If it still happens, army CP is
unofficial and quite possibly constitutes illegal assault.
An ex-military policeman writes as follows. No evidence is
available to confirm his assertions so this account should be
treated as fantasy and speculation.
Firstly, I was in the RMP - I was a PTI for three years before that. Both did give
above-average opportunities to experience cp.
As your website says elsewhere, there is not a formalised approach to cp in the
army. It is borne out of Regimental tradition and operational necessity more than
anything else. In my time I have come across slippers, straps, belts, the birch,
riding crops (a speciality of the RHA) and even a switch being used to
administer cp. One thing that they all seem to have in common is that they are
administered bare arse.
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In the RMP and some other Regts (such as the Green Jackets) permission had to
be obtained from a Major or above in rank. So, far from being underground, it
was even being sanctioned at a pretty high level. Also, I have been at some
canings where thirty or more have been in attendance to watch and I have even
heard of lads being wheeled bent over the horse into the Sgt mess for their
hiding in full view of NCO's enjoying a pint.
Limits for punishments seem to vary - in the RMP the punishment was given in
one session. I have heard of several punishments with a period of days, weeks or
even months between each session for the one offence. Max sentences also vary,
but most Regts start at 12 strokes and go up from there. 50 seems to be a
generally accepted maximum but a lot don't give more than 24. The guy I know
who got the switch got 3 doses of 4 strokes over a two-week period for his 12
and said it was like being 'cut with a razorblade'.
Actual offences are wide-ranging, but mostly involve petty crime and drink
(squaddies and booze never have mixed). It has also been used as a form of
initiation rite for some regiments - an unspoken tradition that older guys take the
the newbies out and get them pissed and then drop them off at the Guard Room
knowing full well what was going to happen.
In Northern Ireland, mistakes out in patrol that could have cost squad members
their lives have resulted in a caning for the guilty man - I know of at least one
case where this was done in front of the rest of the squad as a lesson to all.
Fighting, especially between Regts in the mess or off camp, is another offence
resulting in a hiding. One case I was involved with resulted in seven squaddies
bollock naked in the gym, each one in turn bent over the horse for 4 strokes and
then returning to the line-up and then after watching his fellow toe rags getting
theirs, bending back over for another 4.
The canings were very formalised but I have been at more impromptu affairs.
Gym horses are the most common thing to be bent over - or should I say on. The
RMP always got the horse out ready (we used a box-type and took the bottom
section out).
One Regt I know of favours a jockey position where the squaddy puts his hands
and feet into the hand holds on a box horse and raises his arse up like a jockey
on a race horse. Most favour a box horse with the lad being bent over one end
and resting along the top of the horse rather than being bent over the middle -
although I have seen that to. Being tied down is very rare (except in the case of
the birch being used) - more common is to be held down by a NCO pushing
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down on the shoulders. Yes we do give them a piece of leather or a gum shield
to bite down on.
Apart from the gym horse, benches and tables are also used - especially where
access to a gym horse is limited or non-existent. I know of punishments on
Salisbury Plain (squaddie went down the pub on exercise!) and also in Bosnia
where a gym horse was nowhere at hand and a stout leather belt was bought to
bare (pun intended!)
With the rise of the drug problem, more cp seems to be happening - the birch
being wielded in cases of dealing and taking substances in camp. Again, it's
quick, no paperwork and no publicity for the Regt. Whether it works or not is
another matter. Otherwise, there has been a steady decline since the mid-1980's
where it was an everyday occurrence.
I have heard stories from the 1960's and 1970's of the gym horse being wheeled
out into the middle of the parade ground and whole squads being whacked in
full view. The last time I heard of its use was in the 1978 up in Scotland. It
would be a brave officer who sanctioned such an event now.
Lads who did complain usually got short shrift - one retired Major I know had a
complaint against him when he was a Capt. The Colonel told him to get the lad
to change his mind - another dose with the cane with a Sgt was enough for the
lad to realise the error of his ways.
It was not only Privates and Corporals who got cp - I have beaten Junior
Officers in the Mess and I have heard from them of the whackings they got at
Sandhurst as part of their Officer training. Many a hooray got his behind tanned
as much as any scouser or jock lowlife.
I know of a few videos that guys have taken but have never been able to get hold
of them.
Another informs
I have known a few RN lads into cp - two claimed to have been caned on ship
but I have no other confirmation of that. One said he was bent over a table and
the other that it was done standing up with him spread-eagled. For the life of me
I cannot remember the names of the ships.
I understand that the use of the riding crop in the RHA is a fairly recent
innovation - they used the cane before. It’s not exclusively used either - it's just
been added to the mix.
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I agree with your assessment of the likelihood of being thrashed: if you were a
good soldier, or had the potential to be one, but needed to be brought into line
with a short, sharp shock or had simply fucked up (as we all do from time to
time) then a dose of the cane or strap is an effective way to sort out the issue.
I have not heard of corporal punishment (cp) with gambling in the army itself,
but after a few beers (and knowing how little we used to get paid) anything is
possible. I know the principle of cp gambling; I have just never heard of it in the
army. Do you have any examples?
Still another
I got caned once and the strap a couple of times - not for anything major. My
caning was for 'bringing the Regt into disrepute' after I punched a guy in a rugby
game - he punched me first though. I broke his nose and their CO said it was
excessive. Got 8 painful strokes for that one.
I had lessons from our RSM - three weeks on and off of whacking sacks and
bayonet dummies before we were let loose. He was a stickler for doing it right.
Effect on the recipients - no idea. I had one report that the lad had 'turned into a
bloody good little soldier' from his CO. For myself, I just accepted it as part of
the job and army traditions.
The canings that we gave were intentionally formal to instil the necessary sense
of 'dread'. The canings were very formalised but I have been at more impromptu
affairs.
As the RMP was meant to uphold the law, our punishments had to be more
judicial in nature and so were more based on the prison or borstal beatings. We
would flex the cane in front of, the sometimes naked, squaddie, for example, and
really draw out proceedings.
I personally think that a good caning is better than the birch but just the name of
the birch alone is enough.
I never compared stripes - and I am not sure if other guys did either. I have seen
guys in the showers with stripes but nobody ever asked it was just understood.
A lot of store was set by taking a beating well - I was forever being asked by
Officers if so-and-so took his caning like a man or well (whatever that meant).
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We got the full range of emotions from nothing at all (in fact I caned a black lad
once and he did not murmur, it was like caning rhino-hide and I am not even
sure he felt it) to shouting and what not. It's difficult to scream and bit down at
the same time! I did see the odd tearstained face but it was never remarked upon.
I never, ever, saw a hard-on as the squaddie obviously had other things on his
mind.
No evidence is available to confirm this assertion so this account
should be treated as fantasy and speculation.
As to gut punching hurting, it causes real pain with no traceable marks on the
surface. For this reason it was the preferred punishment among basic training
camps in the US, and in the brigs. The first was for discipline and the brigs for
punishment, but the methods and intensity was the same. The psychology of the
recipient dictated his reaction: take it like a man and become a soldier; or take it
in shame because you're being punished. The first entailed praise and honour,
the second shame and degradation. But the gut punching was the same either
way.
In the Marines, or Army, if a recruit happened to be a screw-up, making it so the
other men were getting extra rigors in their training because of him, the recruits
would gang up on the offending recruit in the shower, strip him down to his
skivvies, wrap a bar of soap in a wash cloth or towel, and pound his gut holding
that, it saved marks from the knuckles incriminating the puncher, and left no
visible marks on the victim. All the men in the barracks would take their turn on
his gut. So you can imagine what he was like after. One of these sessions usually
were enough to convince the man that he should be more considerate of his
fellows and not make life sticky for them in the eyes of their God - the Sergeant.
I had two separate reports of this practice, one from a victim who changed his
attitude; and one from my mate, who was a career Marine. I hadn't asked for the
stories, they just happened to tell me, so I can guess the veracity is reliable.
Rope bondage and rope knot body harnesses used for punishment
or as a control and ownership symbol
Rope can be used to make a body harness - there are several forms depending on
the application. Usually a double strand circles the body between the neck and
through between the legs. Knots are added at strategic places both to create
pressure points for the wearer and to keep other parts of the harness in place.
Folklore has it that the positions of these knots in a penance or punishment
harness is related to the offence being punished.
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At the time of writing this page I have been wearing a rope harness for more
than about 30 hours. It was placed on me at the beginning of a bondage session
last night while the rope was wet and as it has dried out the rope has shrunk and
the knots have tightened.
I slept ok but with some high intensity dreams.
Now the places where the rope touches my skin are getting quite sore. There are
three distinct types of sensation; the feeling that became noticeable first was
around the neck and between the legs, a sort of burning. Later a constriction
feeling around the abdominals and pectorals became apparent which is
impossible to escape by breathing in or holding in the stomach - the rope harness
adjusts to compensate; there is no relief. Finally there is a sharp cutting pain
when the harness shifts and the red raw skin underneath is exposed again. This
is not unlike the feeling when a clothes pin is removed and is most apparent
where the harness crosses my tits and around the waist.
Of course the harness can be used to retain a plug or other toys but the
endurance of this is not so great as the harness alone.
Gladly, bottom faggot, or slave even. Here’s twenty-five tasks —
more than double what you would think of. Now be a good pig
and get to work! Don’t forget to webcam with your master.
1. Stick your head in your toilet at home and flush.
2. Visit the mensroom at your local bar, fast food restaurant, gas
station—whatever’s convenient—and clean the urinals with your
tongue. Piss stains, stray pubes, loogies, cigarette butts—
whatever’s on or in the urinal should end up in your mouth, then in
your belly.
3. For a whole day, collect your piss or your Sir’s piss in bottles; at
the end of the day, use an enema to douche yourself with the piss.
4. Challenge yourself to make a tasty “cock”-tail that utilizes piss and
alcohol as main ingredients (along with whatever other mixers and
ingredients you deem appropriate), then post the recipe online for
your fellow faggots to make at home.
5. Take some empty milk jugs to the local gas station, mall, truck
stop, etc., and fill them with piss and toilet water you find in the
toilets. Take the jugs home and use them to bathe with.
6. Ask your Sir to fill a water bottle with his piss. Go to the gym and
exercise. Use His piss to hydrate.
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7. Visit a local leather or kink bar and kneel beside the urinals. Spend
an hour or two there and see what the Men do. Will they laugh?
Will they piss on you? Will they ignore you? Will they piss down
your throat? Whatever they do, you must stay put and behave like
you’re just another one of urinals.
8. Get a popsicle mould and fill it will your piss or your Sir’s piss.
Freeze. Enjoy a tasty frozen treat, or use the piss-cicle to fuck
yourself.
9. Drop three apples into a piss-filled toilet. Get on your knees. Go
bobbing for apples!
10. Visit a bar. Remove your underwear in the mensroom. Ball them
up and put them in a urinal beside the urinal cake. Return an hour
or a few hours later. Fetch your underwear, which should now be
soaked with piss. Put them back on and wear them the rest of the
night.
11. Visit your local truck stop. Scour the grounds and garbage cans to
find a “trucker bomb” (a container a truck driver used to piss in
while He was on the road). Chug it.
12. Go on Craigslist and advertise yourself as a urinal, either in your
own home or in a secure public restroom somewhere. Establish
“office hours” during which the “urinal” will be open and invite
Men to come empty their bladder. Keep a tally of how many piss
loads you drink.
13. Visit a bathhouse. Write “urinal” on your lower back and draw an
arrow pointing to your cunt. Bend over and allow Men to come
deposit their piss when they need to take a pee break.
14. Purchase a piss gag. Use it.
15. Hungry? Go to a mensroom. Bring a piece of bread with you. Use
the bread to wipe the rim of the urinals. Eat up.
16. When you brush your teeth, use piss instead of water to wet the
toothbrush.
17. Forbid yourself from using the toilet for a day. Instead, pee in
bowls, glasses, etc. Store it in the fridge. At the end of the day, you
must drink everything that you pissed out over the course of the
day.
18. Have Your Sir piss all over the toilet and floor. Use your tongue to
clean it up.
19. Instead of milk, eat your morning cereal with piss.
20. Soak a pair of underwear with your piss or your Sir’s piss. Wring
the undies out into your mouth.
21. Fill a glass with piss — yours or your Sir’s. Drink it with a straw.
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22. Fill a jug with piss. Use it to wash your hair. The piss must be used
to create lather, and to rinse the lather from your hair. Style your
hair as usual before you leave the house.
23. Piss yourself in public.
24. Make a can of condensed soup for lunch. Like chicken noodle.
Instead of adding a can of water, add a can of piss.
25. Visit a bar with your Sir. Order Him a beer. When He’s done, have
Him take it to the restroom and fill it with His piss. This is to be
your “beer,” which you will drink in front of all the other bar
patrons as if were real beer.
Sex Trophies
Trophy sex is remembering a good shag by keeping a bit of it for later or for
ever. Trophies are like badges that say "I shagged here" or "A shag to
remember". In a world where reality is increasingly simulated, sex trophies are
tokens of sexual action in the real world.
Engendering respect for military trophies for instance is a part of all BDSM
Training: the original trophies were the heavily defended standards of the
Roman legions, now military Unit Colours or Pennants and re-enacted in
paintball by capturing the other team's flag. Trophycism is part of skinhead and
military strategy hence the connection between skinheads and trophy sex.
Anything can be a sex trophy, maybe you're already a trop hypno-sex fetishist!
Trophy boys story
An attractive man makes his way across the wooden deck of the Castro's
Patio Cafe, dodging waiters who are serving diet Cokes and Bloody
Marys garnished with oversized celery stalks to a roomful of men. In the
bright, airy dining area -- under the retractable sunroof, away from the
Tiffany lamps, the hanging plants, and the speakers blasting Gloria
Gaynor disco anthems -- the tall man, who has dark, wavy hair, is noticed.
"Now there's a good-looking Italian," says Patio brunch regular Bob
Logg, catching a glimpse from a corner table. He puts down his fork to
get a closer look, but quickly changes his mind. Despite a nice build and
warm smile, some lingering laugh lines suggest the man has probably hit
30.
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"Too old," Logg determines, going back to mopping up the egg yolks on
his plate with a piece of toast.
It's a harsh assessment, considering that Logg is 70. But this
septuagenarian likes his men young, and he can afford to be picky. A
successful real estate speculator who calls himself a "rich, old queen,"
Logg is used to indulging his tastes. The double parlor in his million-
dollar Victorian home is cluttered with 19th-century antiques and artwork.
Chandeliers grace every room. Stained glass surrounds the shower. And
young, beautiful men share his canopy bed. But like his Renaissance wall
clocks and marble Roman garden statues, his men have a price.
Logg lavishes food, clothes, and other gifts on his current boyfriend -- a
stunning, grandson-age 23-year-old. He also pays the young man's rent
and college tuition bills. Since meeting Logg, the boyfriend doesn't have
to work as a waiter anymore.
"The minute I saw him I almost dropped my teeth, he was so gorgeous,"
Logg says. "I knew I'd be putting him on the payroll."
But the arrangement is not just about paying for sex. Logg and his young
boyfriend spend lots of time together outside the bedroom. They dine out,
ride bikes in Golden Gate Park, and go for walks holding hands. They are
lovers.
In this gay version of keeping a trophy wife, Logg is following a long
tradition set by his wealthy straight counterparts, who divorce early and
trade in often. Gender aside, the relationships still focus on the youth and
status each lover has, but the other wants. They still deal with being seen
and getting paid. The older gentlemen have something pretty to wear on
their arms, and their young charges make easy livings.
For Logg, the May/December spectacle is no cause for embarrassment.
Every Sunday, he takes his boyfriend to the Patio for brunch, where they -
- both of them -- are on display. All the turned heads, long stares, and
knowing winks are worth every penny.
"You think I eat in the Castro because of the food?" Logg says. "Having a
trophy boy is like having a very elegant car. One reason you get one is to
show the damn thing off."
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There is always a line out the door during weekend brunch at the Patio. It
is a popular place to be seen after a night of barhopping; the crowd is
more interesting than the menu, and sex is in the air.
"There's a lot of prime beef around: muscle men, pretty boys, S/M guys in
leather pants," says waiter Kevin Vu. "I get the impression I'm serving a
lot of people who just met the night before. I look at them and feel they
either want sex, just had sex, or want more sex."
Into that charged atmosphere, Logg and other sugar daddies bring their
young boyfriends, so the elders can prove to the others they are still
sexual competitors -- and winners. Vu says he can usually count a half-
dozen tables with May/December couples when the restaurant is full, all
quite obvious in their intentions to show off.
There are flashing glances of respect between the older men at the tables,
checking out each other's newest buy. But not all the glances are
favourable. Logg knows there are plenty of gay and straight people who
don't approve of his relationship. He doesn't care what they think,
dismissing the negative looks and hushed remarks as envy.
"All the queens, and even the straight women, drool over my boyfriend,
and I know they're saying, 'What's that old fart doing with that gorgeous
creature?' I know they just figure I have enough money to buy whatever I
want," Logg says. "Well, I look back at them as if to say, 'Don't you wish
you were fucking this?' "
If the Patio works well for the trophy-boy show, the pickup often happens
across town in Pacific Heights at the Alta Plaza bar. There, the scene is as
much about style as about sex.
"It's probably the most respectable and classiest gay bar in San Francisco,
with-out the typical 800 coats of black paint," says bartender Scott
Krumtum. "It's a place you'd have no problem taking your mother."
Live jazz music wafts up to a linen-napkin restaurant, situated on a
landing that overlooks the bar. The decor is refined elegance: soft lighting,
sleek interior design, and wood accents; the bar itself is made of fine
cherry. It's a tie-and-sweater crowd, for sure. Lots of gay doctors and
lawyers -- and the young men who like them. There's a running joke
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among the bartenders that sometimes, they should just call it Father/Son
Night at the Alta Plaza.
The older men -- the "hunters," the bartenders call them -- gather at the
third station of the bar, where it bends toward the door. The "point" offers
the best view of the low balcony that runs in front of the bar, where a line
of potential trophy boys are arrayed along a railing.
The hunters know a bar like the Alta Plaza is where they will have the
best chance to bag a young boyfriend. It's their turf, and it's where they are
comfortable. At a sex-driven dance club in SOMA, where everyone is
good-looking and under 25, the elderly hunter is out of his element.
Toys and Clothes
Reminders or souvenirs of Nazism days that you can wear without being
political (not always understood as such). Objects you can wear publicly which
appear normal but which have a special meaning to you - and him. Or intimate
garments that you wear privately to remind you secretly of your fun.
Swapping socks, jocks or cockrings after a bar backroom furtive session
Wrestling, the winner gets the Speedoes or trunks off the looser
Muddy boots, a temporary trophy till the next boot shine session
Night with a skinhead and he gives you one of his Unit’s T-shirts as a
trophy, as Metal (Mike) gave me one and still have.
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Sportskit shorts off that football player you shagged in his team strip
Punishment book where your Masters record your CP history
Slave chain, locked round the neck, ankle, waist or cock till next time
Chastity belt, locked-on jeans or chastity jock
Dildo or buttplug - remember where and when and with who it first went
in completely?
In America : Indian loincloth - in combat in the American Great Plains, it
was considered brave to capture the strip of soft, tanned skin or cloth
which was worn by men between their legs; it was folded over a belt at
the front and back.
Marks and Cuts
Everybody tells a story and our own tells the story of our lives. Short-term and
permanent body changes that record and remind us of our personal history.
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Some changes we seek, some we accept and some we dislike. External
appearances are complemented by our memories and mindset.
Going home still greased up and shag sweaty but not washing it off for a
day or two muscle sore for the rest of the week from a memorable
workout
Corporal punishment trophies you feel when you sit down - stripes weals
or scars you wear with pride
Steel bondage trophies - handcuff reddened wrists
Skinhead crop - balls and pubes shaved smooth - shiny arsehole
Rope harness burns
Tits so sore any shirt seems too heavy the next day (or week!)
The ubiquitous stretched sphincter and the permanent ones: tattoo,
piercing, scarification or branding
People
Shagging the image not the man, the mainstream heterosexual connotation of
trophy sex which may be why the professionals regard addictive sexual
trophycism with deep suspicion.
Celebrities, including having shagged a celeb before they became famous
Models
Military men - squaddies - sailors - airmen
Barmen
Bouncers
Escorts
Experiences: collecting trophies that say "I survived", "I was there" or "I did
that once"
Borstal caning - Manx birching - Cornwall barracks flogging
Cornwall Barracks Punishment
According to a video by the same title, the Cornwall Barracks punishment
consists of fifty strokes of a heavy leather strap. The prisoner is strapped
down horizontally but not gagged.The punishment is given in three sets of
ten strokes with a two minute pause between each set, then a final set of
twenty strokes. Half the strokes are given from each side. As a true
punishment, there is no warm up, the first stroke is hard. Some authorities
give a ten second interval between strokes, others wait thirty seconds to
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allow each stroke to be fully appreciated and for fear to mount in
anticipation.The name apparently comes from Cornwall Barracks, in the
John Crow range of the Blue Mountains near the Rio Grande river,
Jamaica.
Prisoner of war imprisonment - interrogation
Para wings
Bungy-jumping T-shirt
Locations
Underground - airborne - underwater
Continents - states - capital cities
Backstage - railway carriage - in a crowd
Sexual Ecstasy
Sexual ecstasy being a transient pleasure, trophy fetishism appeals to our
hoarding and collecting instincts. Safe sex guidance fuels the addiction - don't
use toys on others.
But even good things don't last for ever. It's all too easy to end up an obsessive
fetishist with an enormous collection of jocks, toys or even never-used contact
numbers and e-mail addresses. And wearing a para's boots doesn't make you a
para.
And are you shagging for him and the fun of the moment or to add his trophy to
your collection?
Is he the trophy? Are you his trophy?
Masochist workouts
Pain should be avoided on demand
"Pain is a warning and should be avoided". Generally if you get pain you should
stop immediately, especially sharp pain whilst lifting. Consider seeking
professional help if the pain does not immediately stop when you release the
weight. However an understanding of how to use pain, to work through pain, is
part of what distinguishes athletes from couch potatoes. Sports masochists are
the masters of the pain barrier! Traditional boxing training is one example of
using pain as part of the training regime as well as preparation for the ring.
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Pain is Pride
"Pain is now, Pride is Forever" is another slogan. There's a sense in which you
don't make progress with working out unless you put some effort into it and get
your back wet with sweat. If you incur some controlled discomfort then you'll be
more likely to make progress. One person's discomfort is unbearable pain to
another and injurious to a third who is not properly prepared or doesn't
understand how to enjoy working his body safely.
Enjoying pain
"Enjoy pain". Pain is a narcotic, pain is addictive. Sports masochists know they
can get high on pain, that's why it's pleasurable and addictive. Pain used
knowledgeably assists in constructing a great physique. The endorphin response
to pain is the body's narcotic that masks pain; its purpose is to allow the body to
continue functioning under severe stress, e.g. attack. We can use that endorphin
response to mask workout pain and so train deeper into muscle overload, which
will stimulate and increase in muscle strength and/or bulk.
Pain for pleasure
Workout pain is necessary in building a great physique; pain in a workout is
constructive, unlike many forms of sadomasochistic pain. Stripes from a caning
or a hamburger back from a flogging are generally kept hidden but the marks
from working out are a good physique and can be worn with pride everywhere.
As with corporal punishment masochists, the erotic charge may be at the time of
the pain or deferred until later or as a complete substitute for penetrative sex.
Working muscle hard enough to hurt causes damage but the body repairs this
and adds some more; that's how we gain strength and bulk. Hydration and
nutrition are also important. You should to prepare your body for a body
building workout and assist the reconstruction process by proper eating and
drinking.
I'm aware of (and enjoy) three sorts of pain that result from working out safely.
There's the pain whilst the body is under stress whilst you are actually lifting the
weight. There's short-term pain immediately after you have put the weight
down. Finally there's muscle stiffness and soreness that may become noticeable
twelve to forty-eight hours later, or the next time a muscle group is worked.
There are also sharp pains that are always injurious and pain (from stiffness
from previous workout) that indicates insufficient rest since the preceding
workout and also insufficient warm-up. Also pain, fatigue and poor control from
working out too far into fatigue.
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So what are the my principles to structure a workout to be specifically painful so
as to take advantage of the body's endorphin response and to be sore afterwards?
You should check your own health and physical condition before attempting any
unusual physical activity. If you attempt to emulate these workout plans you do
so at your own responsibility and risk. Don't workout when tired, intoxicated or
ill. The following links appear to give sound advice but I am in no way
responsible for them.
Ensure adequate hydration before a workout. Warm-up and stretch
adequately and correctly.
Accentuate muscle work over cardiovascular work. In practice this means
using heavy weights and performing repetitions noticeably slowly
Work to muscle failure rather than deliberately working to less than total
capacity. Safety: if you work so far that you may drop the weight you
have to be sure you will do this safely. A workout mate spotting for you
can assist and maintain your motivation.
After failure, work other related muscle groups then systematically revisit
muscle groups after a short recovery period and again work to failure
("split sets"). Example: work biceps to failure, short rest, repeat. Then
work triceps to failure then revisit both, again to failure.
Consider splitting an exercise into halves. Work from top to halfway; hold
for a count, then back up to the top. Then work from halfway down to the
bottom, back to halfway and hold, then down again. For example with
squats work from standing to three-quarter squat, hold at three-quarter
squat, and then back to standing. After set like that, do the complementary
set: start at three-quarter squat, down to half squat and hold then back to
three-quarter squat. Continue without going up to standing. This principle
also works painfully well for bicep curls, bench press, sit-ups and many
other exercises.
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One-hundred fifteen ways to use and abuse faggots
Men are entitled to use faggots as a source of pleasure, entertainment and
service. It’s a basic law of nature. And yet, some Men are not fully enlightened
about the ways in which fags can be utilized and leveraged. To assist them in
their exploitation of faggots, therefore, I have compiled a list of 115 ways for
Tops, Alphas, Doms, Superiors, Masters and Sirs to use and abuse faggots,
bottoms, betas, omegas, pigs, slaves, sluts, pups, subs and all other variety of
inferiors:
1. Sit back and make him suck your dick, nice and slow.
2. Train him to deepthroat your cock.
3. Fuck his face, balls-deep, like it’s a pussy.
4. Cock slap him.
5. Make him lick your sweaty balls.
6. Straddle his face and teabag him.
7. Spit on him.
8. Make him clean your sweaty ass after you work out.
9. Make him clean your dirty hole when you haven’t showered.
10. Piss on him.
11. Piss down his throat.
12. Piss in his ass.
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13. Make him drink your piss from a glass.
14. Piss on a pair of underwear, or a jock strap, then wring it out over his
face.
15. Finger his hole.
16. Fuck his ass.
17. Spank him.
18. Paddle him or whip him.
19. Fuck him with a dildo.
20. Make him clean a dildo after it’s been in his ass, your ass or another
faggot’s ass.
21. Tie him up and use his holes.
22. Smack or slap his face.
23. Call him names.
24. Tag team him with a buddy.
25. Gangbang him with a group of friends or strangers.
26. Whore him out to friends or strangers.
27. Make him sniff and lick your piss-, shit- and/or cum-stained
underwear.
28. Gag him with your dirty underwear, jockstrap or cum rag when you’re
fucking him.
29. Cum on his face.
30. Cum on his face and make him wear the load out in public.
31. Cum on his ass.
32. Cum directly down his throat.
33. Cum in your hand, and make him eat it from your hand like a dog.
34. Organize a buckeye and cover his face with multiple cum loads.
35. Make him eat your cum off your buddy’s cock.
36. Cum on the floor or a table and make him lick it up.
37. Make him drink your load(s) from a shot glass.
38. Cum on food and make him eat it.
39. Save your loads on a cum rag, jockstrap or pair of underwear when
you jerk off; when the cum rag is rank and full, make him suck the
cum crust out of it.
40. Double-penetrate him with another Top or with a dildo.
41. Make him suck your cock while you’re taking a shit (i.e., give you a
blumpkin).
42. Use his tongue as toilet paper after you take a dump.
43. Make him eat your shit.
44. Make him eat his own shit.
45. Make him jerk off with shit.
46. Make him smear his body with shit.
47. Flick or twist his nipples.
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48. Write names (e.g., faggot, bitch, pig, slut), pictures (e.g., a cock and
balls, a pig face, a toilet) or phrases (e.g., insert cock here, with an
arrow pointing to its holes) on his body.
49. Make him lick your dirty toilet, or a public toilet, clean.
50. Make him wear a butt plug out in public (e.g., to the bar, to the gym, to
the grocery store).
51. Piss on his underwear, or take a dump in his underwear, then make
him wear them home.
52. Fart in his faggot face.
53. Tie him to your toilet when you have guys over, and tell them to use
him instead of the toilet.
54. Fuck his face until he vomits, then make him clean the puke off your
cock.
55. Don’t let him cum.
56. Make him ask your permission to jerk off or cum.
57. Make him eat his own cum.
58. Make him jerk off or finger himself while you and/or your friends
watch.
59. Make him watch while you fuck another faggot.
60. Position him beneath you while you’re fucking another faggot and
make him lick your cock as it goes in and out of the faggot’s hole.
61. Make him eat your ass while you’re fucking another faggot.
62. Make him clean your cock off after you fuck him.
63. Make him clean your cock off after you fuck another faggot.
64. Make him eat your load out of another faggot’s ass.
65. Make him clean out another faggot’s ass after you’ve fucked it.
66. Take photos and/or videos of him servicing your cock.
67. Finger your ass, then make him sniff and/or suck your stink finger.
68. Tie his cock and balls with a shoelace.
69. Blindfold him when you use him.
70. Fist his hole.
71. Fuck him with a condom and make him drink the cum out of it.
72. Make him drink the cum out of used condoms (e.g., at a party, at the
bathhouse, at the park).
73. Cum in his ass.
74. Make him fuck another faggot, or get fucked by another faggot, while
you watch.
75. Make him and another faggot fuck themselves on a double-ended dildo
while you watch.
76. Make him lick your feet.
77. Use him as a footrest.
78. Make him give you a massage or footrub.
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79. Hock a loogie in his face or down his throat.
80. Blow your nose on him.
81. Shoot a snot rocket in his mouth.
82. Take him to a bar; when his beer’s empty, refill the glass or bottle with
your piss and make him drink it in public.
83. Make him pee at the urinal (e.g., at the movies, at the gym, at the bar)
with his pants around his ankles so everyone knows he’s a faggot.
84. Shave his body.
85. Shave his head.
86. Save your piss in a bucket, and make him bathe with it.
87. Keep him in chastity.
88. Decide what he wears.
89. Make him wear a collar and leash.
90. Keep him in a cage.
91. Make him do domestic chores for you (e.g., laundry, cleaning,
shopping).
92. Make him sniff poppers, then use him.
93. If you’re uncut, make him clean and eat the smegma from your cock.
94. Make him wear a ball gag.
95. Make him crawl in your presence, like a dog.
96. Make him eat his meals out of a dog dish.
97. Torture him with hot wax.
98. Make him give himself an enema — with water, or perhaps your piss
— while you watch.
99. Give yourself an enema, then release it all over his face or body.
100. Make him service anonymous cock at a gloryhole.
101. Engage him in forced workouts.
102. Fuck him with found objects around your home (e.g., a broom
handle, a beer bottle, a carrot, a cucumber, a wooden spoon).
103. Make him beg for your cock.
104. Feed him your pre-cum.
105. Make him lick your sweaty pits.
106. Make him call you “Master” or “Sir.”
107. Make him wear a hood while you use him so that the only sensation
he has is the feeling of your cock in his hole.
108. Cum in his ass, then make him fart your cum into his hand and eat
it.
109. Fetch your cum out of his ass, then feed it to him.
110. Make him lick you head to toe.
111. Make him pick your pubes out of your underwear or off your toilet
and eat them.
112. Make him wear a puppy tail in his ass.
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113. Make him lick your boots.
114. Make him do a strip tease for you.
115. Make him service you in a public place (e.g., a restroom, a park,
your car).
Of course, there are hundreds more ways to use and abuse a faggot. It’s my hope
that this list stimulates imaginations and facilitates more Men putting faggots to
use servicing Them as nature intended!
Ecstasy and Self-annihilation
Let me consider that phallo-centrism is not primarily the denial of power to
women but rather the denial of the value of powerlessness in both men and
women. By `powerlessness' is meant not gentleness, non-aggressiveness, or
even passivity, but rather the positive potential for a `radical disintegration and
humiliation of the self'. This is masochism in the sense of a sexual pleasure that
crosses a threshold, and which shatters psychic organization; in which 'the self is
exuberantly discarded' and there occurs 'the terrifying appeal of a loss of the
ego, of a self-abasement'. A kind of death, I would say.
This means that the problematic aspects of sexuality cannot be seen to derive
simply from bad social relations. On the contrary, 'the social structures from
which it is often said that the eroticizing of mastery and subordination derive are
perhaps themselves derivations (and sublimations) of the indissociable nature of
sexual pleasure and the exercise or loss of power'.)
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The terrifying appeal of a loss of the ego is, he continues, why men who engage
in `passive' anal sex are demonized. Let us point to the anthropological
evidence which suggests a widespread condemnation of such sex even in
cultures that have not regarded sex between men as unnatural or sinful. Even or
especially for the Athenians, to be penetrated was to abdicate power.
Let me add to what just said, in what has become a controversial passage after
all, `if the rectum is the grave in which the masculine ideal (an ideal shared —
differently — by men and women) of proud subjectivity is buried, then it should
be celebrated for its very potential for death'. And let me add, in a passage less
frequently cited, and yet a today’s problem:
Tragically, AIDS has literalized that potential as the certainty of biological death,
and has therefore reinforced the heterosexual association of anal sex with a self-
annihilation originally and primarily identified with the fantasmatic mystery of an
insatiable, unstoppable female sexuality. It may, finally, be in the gay man's rectum
that he demolishes his own perhaps otherwise uncontrollable identification with a
murderous judgment against him. Bareback may be more sensitive and enjoyable,
but using a preservative one is at the safe side.
One may wonder whether we should say, not that so-called passive sex is
'demeaning', but rather that 'the value of sexuality itself is to demean the
seriousness of efforts to redeem it'. In that sense homoerotic desire especially
might produce or enact that which society cannot endure, and it does this
because, rather than in spite of, its own intricate connections with its own social
condemnation. In short, the homo-erotically perverse encounter of the
death/desire dynamic produces a knowledge of desire unavailable elsewhere.
More generally, the challenge of desire lies in its potential for acting out an
awkward, provocative, ambivalent version of what otherwise remains culturally
and psychically disavowed. An interesting instance of this is the description of
(some) gay men's relationship to masculinity. Against the 'easy' political line
that gay machismo is straightforwardly a parodic subversion of masculinity, I
am contended that it includes a worshipful tribute to, a `yearning toward' the
straight machismo style and behaviour it defiles. And if, in Jeffrey Weeks's
phrase, gay men `gnaw at the roots of a male heterosexual identity' this is
because, 'from within their nearly mad identification with it, they never cease to
feel the appeal of its being violated' .
Instead of a straightforward identity politics which resists oppression in the
name of what we truly and healthily are or could be, given the social space to
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breathe, is this other scenario wherein identity is conflicted by desire, fantasy
and ambivalent identification; potentially
(and strangely) identity is even annihilated in the process of being affirmed. And
nowhere more so than in getting fucked, when, there occurs the terrifying appeal
of a loss of the ego, of a self-abasement. Perhaps Michel Foucault3, in his
famous essay Preface to Transgression', was saying something similar, though in
relation to transgression more generally. In transgression of the limit, he says,
the limit is suddenly `fulfilled by this alien plenitude which invades it to the core
of its being'. What is being explored here is a fundamentally different attitude to
loss. No longer is there a struggle to redeem or transcend it; rather, loss is
embraced as dynamic and liberating, the condition of ecstatic renewal.
3 Foucault was born in Poitiers, France, on October 15, 1926. His student years seem to have
been psychologically tormented but were intellectually brilliant. He became academically
established during the 1960s, when he held a series of positions at French universities, before
his election in 1969 to the ultra-prestigious Collège de France, where he was Professor of the
History of Systems of Thought until his death. From the 1970s on, Foucault was very active
politically. He was a founder of the Groupe d'information sur les prisons and often protested
on behalf of homosexuals and other marginalized groups. He frequently lectured outside
France, particularly in the United States, and in 1983 had agreed to teach annually at the
University of California at Berkeley. An early victim of AIDS, Foucault died in Paris on June
25, 1984. In addition to works published during his lifetime, his lectures at the Collège de
France, being published posthumously, contain important elucidations and extensions of his
ideas. It can be difficult to think of Foucault as a philosopher. His academic formation was in
psychology and its history as much as in philosophy, his books were mostly histories of
medical and social sciences, his passions were literary and political. Nonetheless, almost all of
Foucault's works can be fruitfully read as philosophical in either or both of two ways: as a
carrying out of philosophy's traditional critical project in a new (historical) manner; and as a
critical engagement with the thought of traditional philosophers. This article will present him
as a philosopher in these two dimensions.
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Meditation and Self-hypnosis Briefly
What's the difference between meditation and hypnosis?" I have been asked this
question a thousand times. But it's a fair question. Both meditation and hypnosis
require a certain kind of focus of mind - often (but not always) purposefully
directed. I have a great deal of experience using meditation but less so with self-
hypnosis, so the differences I cite here are my personal opinions. I welcome and
encourage any meditative types to please comment if you feel I've missed
anything.
First, let's get some kind of definition of hypnosis. A secret of hypnosis, people
will often 'sell' hypnosis as just a 'state of deep relaxation'. This doesn't really
make much sense, though. Self-hypnosis can be relaxing (and this is often how
we use it therapeutically), but really it's any state of mind that makes us, more
disassociated, more focussed and more suggestible. When people are
experiencing a horribly traumatic experience, they become infinitely more
suggestible. I've worked with people who were so traumatized that, even years
later, they still respond to environmental 'post-hypnotic suggestions' (just from a
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30-second traumatic experience) which take them right back to the original
trauma.
For instance, a war-weary veteran whose heart pounds every time he hears a car
backfiring, or a driver who feels anxious whenever she passes the corner where
she had that accident. This is pure hypnotic phenomenon, but not relaxation at
all. Or, every time I hear a telephone ringing in a shop, a frightening thrill passes
through my body, remembering the telephones ringing all the time around me at
the office a long time ago. And what's more, all emotions are, to a greater or
lesser extent, hypnotic. Emotional hypnosis, that's right, emotion is hypnotic.
Ever been in lust? In Love? A a rage? Think about how focussed and suggestible
(and disassociated) you become in these states. Anger is very hypnotic - it
focusses our attention right down and makes us suggestible. And, of course,
depression is a trance-like focus. All these states are hypnotic, which is why
they are so amenable to hypnotic treatment. Anyone who can make you more
emotional will also be making you more suggestible. When religions or cults (or
politicians even) want to influence people's belief systems, they will try to raise
the emotional pitch. And such charismatic people are naturally more hypnotic.
Really, all therapists use hypnosis to some degree (even if they are ignorant of
this). If a counsellor asks you to direct your attention to a recent break-up or the
pain of your childhood, they are encouraging disassociation from the here and
now (which can be a feature of hypnotic trance). And the state of flow, or being
'in the zone', is also very focussing and therefore shares similarities with relaxed
therapeutic hypnosis. So my point is, hypnosis isn't 'just a state of relaxation' as
you might read on a million hypnotherapists' advertising blurbs. It's actually
much more interesting than that. So what about meditation? Meditation vs.
hypnosis; alcohol and wine. Just like hypnosis, meditation may have great
benefits (1), but (I am sure) it can also have drawbacks if used unwisely. I'm
thinking here of someone who meditated up to twelve hours a day and began to
find he could no longer cope with some of life's practicalities. It's not always a
question of 'more is better'; sometimes more is just more and may even be
harmful. Taking a hundred painkillers is most certainly not better than taking
one. Hypnosis, used purposefully, will generally have a very specific
psychological (and therefore behavioural) aim. We hypnotize ourselves or
people to help them engage in the kinds of thoughts, feelings, and actions that
will stop them being depressed or drinking heavily or being traumatized or
phobic. We use hypnosis to help them switch off pain or maximize their
motivation in sports. Meditation may have, as a 'by-product', the effect of
making us calmer day-to-day, but it's not usually used to stop someone smoking
or to treat a specific phobia. Likewise, clinical hypnosis, whilst wonderful for
'just relaxing', isn't generally used with the sole intention of helping someone
achieve an 'empty' mind or objective 'mindfulness' - although we can certainly
use hypnosis for this effect very well. So one difference between hypnosis and
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meditation is for what purpose they are used. Ultimately, asking what the
difference is between hypnosis and meditation is a little like asking what the
difference is between alcohol and wine. Meditation may be a very specific,
specialized use of a type of hypnotic state, often as part of a wider 'spiritual or
psychic system'. The most famous 'meditator' in history was, of course,
Siddhārtha Gautama - otherwise known as the 'awakened one' or the Buddha.
His followers believed he had attained enlightenment through meditation.
However, the words 'meditation' and 'hypnosis' are much more recent
inventions. One aspect of the Buddha's 'awakening' was a perception of the
connectedness of all things beneath deceptive appearances. 'Meditation' and
'hypnosis' are just words and could sometimes mean exactly the same thing.
Some hypnotic states could be more like quiet meditative states, and I'm sure
some people who meditate experience profoundly hypnotic imagery sometimes.
Hypnosis and meditation can both make you happier. I have seen the judicious
use of hypnosis change lives by helping people rid themselves of unwanted
patterns of thought and emotional chaos. And there is also some research that
regular meditation or self-hypnosis can make us happier. We use hypnosis to
help people detach from destructive emotions and calmly begin to see wider and
happier possibilities (such as feeling calmer around spiders!). One meditation
technique, that of 'mindfulness', seeks the same result as the person meditating
seeks to name his or her feelings whilst not disentangling themselves from them.
In this way, meditation can help people. Hypnosis used therapeutically will
often focus on helping someone relax around memories of the past or prepare to
feel better and act differently in the future. Meditation, as I understand it, is
often an attempt to be absolutely in the present. But again, people in hypnosis
will often report feeling totally focussed in the now. So the question, "What is
the difference between hypnosis and meditation?" It is simple, but the answer is
a little more in-depth. And now I am off to do a spot of self-hypnosis/meditation
- or whatever. Hypnosis and meditation is used in psychology, but it is not a
religious practice at all, though used in the various world religions.
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Erotic Hypnosis Glossary
24/7
Lifestyle of remaining a slave 24 hours per day, 7 days per week.
Addiction
Craving a person, habit or practice to such an extent that its absence can
cause physical or emotional pain. Many submissives become addicted to
being hypnotized. In erotic mind control literature, female slaves have been
made addicted to many different things, including a sucking cock, fucking,
swallowing cum or being hypnotized.
Age Regression
Taking a subject back to a mentally younger age. Hypnotists use this
technique to increase receptiveness to suggestion. The technique can also be
used to recover lost memories to help a subject reinterpret a negative
memory in a more positive way. In personality and gender transformation
fantasies (two sub genres of erotic hypnosis), age regression is used to plant
false memories of being the other person at a younger age. This makes both
the conscious and subconscious minds more receptive to the transformation
suggestions.
Amnesia
The inability to recall certain memories. Some amnesia occurs naturally
with hypnosis because memories created in one state of mind become
accessible only when a person returns to that state of mind. Amnesia can
also be induced by a specific command to forget. Many people with a
hypnosis or mind control fetish can be sexually aroused knowing that part
of their memories are blocked by hypnotic command. Sometimes a
hypnotist will block a memory of a command until after the command has
been obeyed. Then the subject can become sexually aroused by the
realization that they have obeyed a post-hypnotic command.
BDSM
Bondage, discipline, sadism, masochism. It is sometimes considered to be a
compound abbr where the "DS" also stands for dominance and submission.
For more details, see Wikipedia.
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Bimbo, Bimbofication
A simple minded girl; one who devotes most of her energy to looking good
and attracting men's attention. Bimbos are usually cheerful because they
never think about serious problems. In erotic mind control fiction, bimbos
are usually insatiably horny; as if their whole purpose in life is to enjoy sex.
Bimbofication is the process of transforming an intelligent woman or
frumpy girl into a hot sex-starved bimbo.
Brainwashing
Brainwashing is usually defined as an intensive, forcible indoctrination,
usually political or religious, aimed at destroying a person's basic
convictions and attitudes and replacing them with an alternative set of fixed
beliefs. However, brainwashing can be more subtle. In male dominate mind
control stories, most brainwashing programs force women to focus on
wanting more sex. But in femdom mind control stories, the brainwashed
victim is often forced to believe in devotion and obedience.
Chastity
Abstaining or being forced to abstain from sexual activities. Hypnotically
forced chastity takes away a person's choice of having sex, hence making
them dependent on the hypnotist for sexual pleasure. In erotic mind control
stories, female hypnotists frequently impose chastity on males to humiliate
and enslave them, but male hypnotists rarely impose it on women.
Classical Hypnosis
A category of trance inducing methods that use guided visualization and
progressive relaxation.
Conditioned response
An involuntary response programmed into the subconscious by repeated
hypnotic commands and reinforced by positive (pleasure) or negative (pain)
feedback. For example: Becoming aroused on command.
Conditioning
The process of modifying behavior or creating a conditioned response.
Conditioning naturally occurs with any repetititive activity, i.e., when
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someone runs a mile every day, they condition their body to run more
effectively. Conditioning can also be part of a brainwashing program.
Pavlovian conditioning involves training someone to respond to simulus
(training a woman to become sexually aroused on command). Operant
conditioning conditions a person (or pet) to expect a reward or punishment
for behaving in certain ways.
D/s
Dominance and submission. A form of erotic power exchange where one
person willingly surrenders control to another during sexual encounters or
erotic play. D/s may or may not include bondage.
Erickson or Ericksonian Hypnosis
A category of methods for inducing trance by using unconventional
language patterns that confuse or bypass the conscious mind and create
mental images directly in the subconscious. Named for Milton Erickson,
who pioneered the therapeutic use of storytelling and metaphors.
Erotic Power Exchange
Consensually giving another person power over you so that they may
increase your sexual desires and pleasures.
Exhibitionist
Someone (man or woman) who displays their body to attract attention and
derives sexual pleasure from being watched. Exhibitionist fantasies can be
classified into two categories: with humiliation and without it. Exhibitionist
fantasies with humiliation tend to be passive fantasies, i.e., the woman is
publicly used by one or more men. Exhibitionist fantasies without
humiliation tend to have the woman actively participating and enjoying
sexual activities, such as dancing, stripping, or making love to another
woman while a man watches.
Fantasy
A mental image of a scene or activity you would like to experience; often
includes the thoughts and emotions you expect to experience with the
activity.
Fellatio
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Giving pleasure to a cock with the lips and tongue, a.k.a. a blow job, giving
head, sucking cock, the ultimate kiss, tickle his pickle, etc.
My recording, The Ultimate Kiss, is designed to help women feel more
pleasure from performing fellatio and thereby increase her desire for it.
Femdom
Relationships and/or activities which are controlled by a female. The
person(s) being controlled may be either male or female.
Feminization
Making someone think, act, or appear more feminine. Most often this refers to a
woman feminizing a man. But bimbofication is also a form of feminization,
which may be applied to women. Taking a cold-hearted business woman, and
making her into a warm, loving woman may also be considered feminization.
Fetish
Any object or a non-sexual part of the body that arouses instant and intense
sexual desire. With repeated conditioning, the fetish object becomes necessary
for sexual pleasure. A person with a hypnosis fetish may become sexually
aroused by being hypnotized, by hypnotizing others, by becoming aware that
they have responded to a hypnotic command, or by seeing other people respond
to hypnotic commands.
Gor, Gorean
A particularly strict style of BDSM based on John Norman's Gor series.
This series inspired my recording, Essence of a Slave.
Hentai
Animated Japanese porn that often portrays women being hypnotized and
transformed into mindless sluts or devoted sexual slaves.
Hypnosis, Hypnotism
The method or technique by which a Dom may place a submissive in a
trance. See Classical and Ericksonian Hypnosis.
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Hypnofetishism
The sexual fetish for hypnosis and similar forms of mental persuasion or
mind control.
Kajira
A special type of slave who devotes every fiber of her being to being the
most obedient and pleasing slave she can be. John Norman popularized the
concept in his Gor Series of books. Kajira experience intense and
overwhelming passions.
The kajira in Norman's Gor series inspired my recording, Essence of a
Slave.
Libido
A measure of a person's basic level of interest in sex. Hypnosis can increase
a person's libido in healthy ways or to the point of obsession. Hypnosis can
also lock a person's desires so they will only be interested in sex when given
a hypnotic command (mental chastity). My recording, The Pleasure
Principle, is designed to generate a healthy increase in a woman's libido
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Nested Stories
A story within a story within a story. Nested stories can induce a trance as
the listener's conscious mind tries to hold a mental image of the listener's
position within each story. This ties up the mind's resources, prevents
critical thought, and allows suggestions to enter the subconscious without
interference.
NLP
Neurolinguistic programming. A collection of methods for constructing
words and sentences to bypass conscious filters and influence subconscious
thought processes.
Polyamory
The practice of openly maintaining loving relationships with more than one
person. Polyamory is distinguished from cheating by honesty; all the people
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involved are fully aware of the each other’s participation in the relationship.
In erotic mind control fiction, polyamory may take on different forms: 1. a
person may maintain simultaneous relationships with their spouse and
Master or Mistress. 2. A person (usually a woman) is hypnotized into
accepting that she is part of a harem and all women love the master. 3. A
woman may be hypnotized to become bisexual and love both men and
women. For more information on polyamory, visit Wikipedia.org or
Polyamory.org
Post-Hypnotic Suggestion
A suggestion given during trance that the subject will follow sometime after
waking. Often a subject will have no memory of the suggestion until after
they've carried out the instruction. Hypnotists often suggest that once the
instruction is obeyed, the subject will recognize it as a post-hypnotic
command and become sexually aroused by the reminder of the hypnotist's
control.
Seduction
Arousing sexual desire, or subtly persuading someone to believe what you
want them to believe. In most erotic mind control stories one character uses
brainwashing to control the victim's sexual desires. Although a few stories
use sexual seductions to make a victim more susceptible to brainwashing.
Slave
In erotic mind control literature, there are several types of slaves: 1) A
person who enjoys belonging to or being totally controlled by another. 2) A
person who devotes every fiber of their being to serving or pleasing
someone. 3) A person conditioned to obey without question or hesitation. 4)
A person who is addicted to another person. In erotic mind control stories,
slaves often serve as maids or butlers and help the Master recruit other
slaves.
My upcoming recording, Essence of a Slave will encourage a woman to
think and feel like a slave (as described in #2).
Slut
A female who engages in sex with anyone. In erotic mind control literature,
many sluts are owned and will have sex only at owner's command.
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Subject
Someone being hypnotized.
Subliminal messages
Beneath the range of conscious perception but still perceptible to the
subconscious mind. In reality, much controversy exists over how effective
subliminal messages are. This is because the range of conscious and
subconscious perception varies depending on circumstances, the
environment and people's focus. In erotic mind control stories, subliminal
messages provide an effective way to influence a person's ideas, yet let
them think that the induced ideas are their own.
Submission
The act of submitting to the power of another.
Submissive
A person who enjoys being controlled by someone else under some, but not
all, circumstances. A submissive, for example, might enjoy being controlled
in sexual situations, but prefer to make their own decisions about their diet,
exercise, education and career.
Subspace
The state of mind that submissives enter during D/s scenes. Many people
consider subspace to be a form a trance. However, it is generally induced by
conditioning rather than a formal hypnotic induction.
Time Distortion
Creating the subjective experience of several days, months or years within a
few minutes of real time. This technique amplifies suggestions of being
trained or conditioned.
Trance
A natural altered state of consciousness, characterized by heightened
suggestibility and receptivity to direction. A state of mind in which a
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woman is receptive to seduction, and may experience increased sexual
desire and intense erotic pleasure. A state of mind in which a woman may
become more submissive and obedient.
Trigger
An object, word, phrase, or action that compels a response. In the
suggestion, "When say your name, you feel your clit tingling", saying the
name is the trigger. Some hypnotists are very careful to use triggers only
they can use. This gives the hypnotist considerable control over the subject's
responses. Other triggers are designed to be used by anyone anytime. This
creates a generalized response; such as having a woman become aroused
whenever anyone calls her a slut.
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Contents
Slavery and discipline a BDSM Skinhead Lifestyle 1
Like (Metal) my Master and Friend, the Rebel 5
Faggots rules 6
Sleep discipline; prison and Borstal sleep positions; slave sleep
positions
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Should a slave sleep naked? 10
Military sleep positions 10
Prison and Borstal sleep positions 11
A testimony: How do they punish you? 12
These are quotes from a Borstal group so are uncorroborated 13
How do they control? 13
How do they punish you? 14
Hospital sleep positions. Strait jacket; humane restraint; drunk cell sleep
positions; isolation cell
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Submission positions 15
Some old-style prisoner control positions formerly used in senior
approved schools, Borstal (US) and prisons
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Military corporal punishment: gaining your stripes. Sore-assed
squaddies
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Military drill positions 20
British army drill positions. 1. Attention (squad attention 21
Standing at ease; 3. Standing easy 22
Recruit hazing and harassment positions; Medical examination position;
anthropological slave positions
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SM slave positions 24
Punitive medicine 25
Century slave training through cyber technology 27
The rules of an intelligent Master 30
Brainwashing, attitude adjustment 31
Six creepy everyday brainwashing techniques 32
Some components of an induction programme 37
Brainwashing in an erotic context 38
Examples from several reported experiences 39
Modern army corporal punishment, and a testimony 40
Another informs, and still another 42
Gladly, bottom faggot, or slave even. Here’s twenty-five tasks — more
than double what you would think of. Now be a good pig and get to
work! Don’t forget to webcam with your master.
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Sex trophies, and a trophy boys story 47
Toys and clothes 51
People, experiences and locations 52
Sexual ecstasy; masochist workouts; pain should be avoided on demand 54
Pain is pride; enjoying pain; pain for pleasure 54
One-hundred fifteen ways to use and abuse faggots 56
Ecstasy and self-annihilation 60
Meditation and self-hypnosis briefly 63
Erotic hypnosis glossary 66
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