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A MAGAZINE FOR WOMEN
#16 | February 2012
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FEATURES6 EngagedTo do list for Brides-to-Be.
10 The DressShop for the perfect bridal gown.
16 Extreme Makeover WeddingNatalie & Scott Ely’s wedding.
18 Destination WeddingWeddings in far away places.
22 Behind the ScenesDestination Weddings “ Close to Home.”
28 Love StoriesLocal readers share their love stories.
EXTRAS12 Wedding DebtHow to avoid wedding induced money problems.
14 I Now Pronounce You...Local ministers share their experiences.
24 FlowersWedding flowers depend on the wedding colors.
26 CakeLots of color on modern wedding cakes.
32 Wedding DJ
Local DJ plays just the right music.
DEPARTMENTS5 From the EditorRomance is in the air.
8 Fantastic FindsCheck out the gift ideas available at local retailers.
34 Bridal ResourcesA list of local advertisers with products and servicesfor the soon-to-be newlyweds.
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PHOTOGRAPHER: Kenny Felt is based in Fort Scott Kansas. More of his work can be seen at: kennyfelt.blogspot.com and kennyfelt.com.
Welcome to our annual issue celebrating
love, romance, weddings and lifetimes of to-
getherness.
What, exactly, is this thing we call love? Is it
flowers and candy? Holding hands and stealing
a kiss at the front door by moonlight? Is it find-
ing that special someone who makes your world
a better place?
Maybe it’s some of these things; maybe it’s all of
them. Maybe, for you, it’s something else completely.
We asked readers to share their love stories with us,
and so many shared their stories that we couldn’t publish
them all!
So we’ve included several of them — each one is
unique, and each one is a moving story of true love.
Enjoy!
And once again, thank you for reading, and don’t
forget to tell our advertisers you saw it in SHE
magazine!
John Fox and Jordan Newell plan to be married May 31, 2012 in Turks and Caicos Islands, British West Indies.
Jordan is the marketing manager at Peerless, Fort Scott. John is a physician at Mercy Health Center, Fort Scott, Ks.
Both graduated from Pittsburg State University and reside in Fort Scott.
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Preparing for the big day means planning a multitude of details; everything from the flower arrangements to that something blue must be de-cided upon well in advance of the ceremony. Here are some tips to help ensure your big day goes off without a hitch.
A to-do list for brides-to-be
(Family Features)
The Big Decisions
The decision to get married is the first of many big decisions you will be making in the weeks and months to come. Here are some things to consider right away:
• Pick a date. Talk with your fiancé and fam-ily (and your fiancé’s family) about potential wedding dates to ensure the important people in both your lives will be able to take part.
• Select your guests. The number of guests you invite will directly influence the cost of your wedding.
• Set a budget. Budgeting for your wedding is crucial, as this will have a great impact on ev-ery other aspect of your day, as well as your honeymoon. Plan for a little wiggle room for unexpected expenses.
• Choose a location. Because most popular bridal spots are just that — popular — you may want to start searching for a location quickly.
• Organize the bridal party. Make careful de-cisions about who you want supporting you leading up to the big day, and who will be dis-played in front of everyone in your life.
• Pick a style. Many brides choose wedding styles that are reflected in their save-the-dates, invitations, ceremonies, receptions and thank-you cards. Choosing a theme and color scheme in the beginning will help narrow down options later.
• Hire a caterer. Take into account the dietary needs of your guests by offering a variety of menu options, including a vegetarian dish.
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• Order the cake. Whether you choose a large multi-tiered cake or cupcakes, re-member to keep your budget in mind-and pick flavors you and your fiancé truly en-joy.
• Make the announcement. Decide how you want to let the community know of your planned nuptials. Do you want to take professional engagement photos? Do you plan to contact The Fort Scott Tribune or the Nevada Daily Mail? Will you in-clude a link to a wedding day website on your save-the-date or your wedding invi-tations?
• Get the gown. On your wedding day, ev-eryone will be awaiting a glimpse of your gown. Listen to your instincts and choose a gown that “feels right” and reflects your personality and style.
• Dress your party. Once you have chosen the wedding dress of your dreams, speak with your fiancé about his wishes for his suit, as well as the bridal party attire.
• Hire a photographer. Choose your pro-fessional photographer wisely. With a walk down the aisle, father/daughter dance and toast, your father is sure to get photographed, but your mother might get overlooked. Make sure to ask the pho-tographer to get shots of your mother throughout the day as well.
• Choose your flowers. Once you set the date, discuss with your florists which flowers are in season to help narrow down your selection. You may love tulips, but if you have a winter wedding, they may be hard to come by, and may be more expen-sive.
• Book the entertainment. Do you want a DJ or a live band? Talk with your fiancé about your music preferences, as well as the types of tunes you want played at your reception to keep your guests on the dance floor.
Before the Big Day
• Create a website for your wedding to keep guests informed of events and for easy access to registry information. Pro-vide accommodation information for those guests traveling from out of town.
• Insure your engagement and wedding rings against loss, damage, theft or mys-terious disappearance. According to a survey conducted by Jewelers Mutual Insurance Company, 44 percent of mar-ried women either don’t insure their en-gagement ring, or don’t know for certain whether their engagement and wedding rings are insured.
• Make sure your marriage license, travel documentation and insurance information are ready to go and stored in a safe place in advance of the wedding day.
• Practice reciting your vows and speeches until you feel comfortable.
• Wear your wedding heels around the house to “break them in.” Pack a back-up pair of flats to wear during the reception.
• Remember to ask for help. Designate members of your family or close friends to specific assignments.
Wedding Day Details
• Provide bottled water for your wedding party. To ensure no one gets over-heated, hide water near your bridal party during the ceremony for emergencies.
• Choose meaningful gifts for your wed-ding party. Necklaces, earrings or brace-lets are great for bridesmaids; cufflinks are perfect for groomsmen.
• Create individual envelopes for tipping drivers, caterers, musicians, etc. Separate envelopes will help ensure you don’t for-get anyone.
Plan for Weather
• In case of rain - Order a tent or choose a venue with indoor space for last-minute protection from the elements. Offer extra umbrellas to usher people from their ve-hicles to the venue.
• In case of heat - Place fans throughout the venue and provide plenty of water for guests.
• In case of cold - Space heaters can be placed throughout the space to warm up the room in advance of the event.
• Over-estimate the amount of parking needed for guests.
Following the Honeymoon
• Open wedding gifts and keep an accurate list of each guest in correspondence with their gift.
• Write thoughtful, personalized hand-written thank you cards.
The Big Day Bridal Kit Supplies
Bobby pins, elastic hair bands
Hairbrush
Hairspray
Panty hose
Nail file, nail polish, remover
Baby powder
Makeup
Stain remover
Tissues
Sewing kit with scissors
Ballet flats
Pocket mirror
Extra post-earring backs
Static cling spray
Antacid
Pain reliever
Bandages
Deodorant
Dental floss
Eye drops
Bottled water
Breath mints
Duct tape - (for last-minute dress fix-ups and to adhere to the bottom
of slippery dress shoes) For more information about protecting your bridal jewelry, visit www.insureyourjewelry.com.
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Brooches- Vintage brooch-es used for brooch bou-quets- range in price from $5 to $25, from Iron Star Antiques & Such, Fort Scott.
Fine Metal Ware from Interior Motives, Nevada, Mo. Prices range from under $20 to $149.99
This 16 inch cultured pearl, diamond and Sterling silver necklace is $155 and can be purchased for a bride, her mother or bridesmaid at Hacker’s Fine Jewelers, 505 E. Cherry St. in Nevada.
This “Old World Christ-mas” beautiful glass orna-ment set comes with a bride, groom and chapel and can be stored from year to year in the cus-tom satin covered and lined box. The boxed set includes other ornaments and a congratulatory card for $49.99 at May’s Floral and Gifts on the Nevada Square.
These bridesmaids and groomsmen picture frames are terrific gifts for the newlyweds or members of a wedding party. They are avail-able at May’s Floral and Gifts on the Nevada Square for $15.99 each.
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This “Promise” resin figurine by Willow Tree is 10 inches high and will lend an air of romance to a curio shelf. It and others are available for $30.95 at May’s Floral and Gifts on the Nevada Square.
Cross pen and pencil set has a satin chrome finish and would make an ideal gift for any member of a wedding party. It is available at Hacker’s Fine Jewelers on east Cherry Street in Nevada.
This pair of glass doves makes an elegant cake topper and is available for $20 at Herztberg Furniture on east Cherry Street in Nevada.
Nine inch cut lead crystal candelabras will dress up any wedding celebration. They are manufactured by the Mikasa Co. and can be purchased for $31 at the Cherry Street location of Herztberg Furniture just east of the Nevada Square.
Colorful wedding bouquet from Belle Rose, Nevada, Mo.
Martini glasses- Western chic pewter and glass martini glasses as bridal registry gift- $45 for set of two, from Iron Star Antiques & Such, Fort Scott.
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The Dress!Shopping for the perfect bridal gown is an adventure in personal fashion that’s unique to every bride, and designer couture is more in reach of a bride’s budget than ever.
Ministers, planners and local wedding service providers all say the right bridal attire varies substantially and is generally chosen with the venue, season and level of elegance desired in mind.
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here are hundreds of choices, so here are some questions to ask to help narrow the field.Is there an heirloom or special necklace or pin you plan to wear? Are their tattoos the bride or bridesmaids want to show off or cover up? What kind of neckline do you want? Waistline? Hemline? If the wedding or reception is outdoors, consider tea length gowns. What kind of fabric would you like thedress to be made of? Do you want pockets? Some bride’s and bridesmaid’s gowns even come with pockets — many women find this feature irresistible, and it’s surprising how many elegant selections have hidden pockets tucked into them — the perfect place to tuck a tissue or to keep a safety pin or a hairpin or two handy — just in case.
The Bride: Order the gown as early as you can; up to a year before the wedding. Allow plenty of time for altera-tions and, if you can, arrange a fitting within a few weeks of the wedding to address any fit issues that come up in the meantime. To show off curves, a mermaid style or sheath style can do the trick. The sheath, which follows the bride’s body contour closely, can give short brides a visual boost in height. Empire dresses flatter most body types, with a raised waistline just below the bust. Ball gowns with a fitted bodice and full skirt can hide hips, and A-line shapes — with no marked waistline — flatter wom-en who carry more weight in the middle.
Bridesmaids Always choose the bride’s gown before choosing the bridesmaid’s gowns to ensure that the bridesmaids’ gowns are a proper complement to the bride’s gown. It’s also important to give some thought to how the dresses look from behind, because the audience will have a good view of the backs of the gowns at vari-ous moments. Experts recommend starting with the styling needs of the larg-est bridesmaid, then moving on to color. Brides sometimes opt to get a different yet complementary gown for the maid or matron of honor than for other bridesmaids.
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Money problems, including too much debt, can cause significant disharmony in a marriage and can even lead to divorce. Fortunately, some careful bud-geting and smart use of credit can help you prevent wedding-induced money problems from interfering with your marital bliss. As soon as you set a wedding date, you need to be-gin thinking about and discussing how you’ll pay for your big day. Your conversation should encompass several key financial talking points, including:
Credit - Discuss candidly how you’ve both used it in the past, how you’ll use it going forward and what, if any, role credit will play in funding your wedding. If you haven’t already done it, exchange your credit scores, and discuss how you both ar-rived at your respective credit statuses.
Consider enrolling together in a credit monitoring product. Keeping a close eye on your credit leading up to marriage may help you better understand if and how you should use credit in funding your wedding. Websites like Freecreditscore.com allow you to see your credit score, which is a snapshot of your credit. The site’s Credit Score Center can help you understand how your score works, how it’s calculated, what factors impact it and when is the best time to apply for credit. For example, every budget includes income. You’ll need to realistically discuss your wedding “income” - funding sources you can rely on to help defray the overall wedding cost. Will your parents contribute? Will you dip into some savings? Will you pay for some things with credit?
Savings - Saving money is often an exercise in compromise. For example, you may want a new car, but to save money you may buy a slight-ly used one instead of a current model. Saving money on wedding costs is the same. You’ll need to look for creative ways to save money.
Fortunately, there are many ways to do this. Changing the time of your wedding to off-peak seasons or days of the week, opting to hold it at a different venue like a park, botanical garden or even a zoo, choosing less-costly dinner selections and even making invitations and favors yourself, can all save you money. Many people find it difficult to reconcile the idea of financial matters and romance. But don’t underestimate the romantic ap-peal of starting out your life together free of wedding debt. Hav-ing good credit, solid credit scores and little or no debt can be a great foundation for creating financial bliss in your marriage.
Budgeting - A budget will be key to financial security throughout your married life. Establish-ing and sticking to a budget for your wedding is not only a good way to avoid overspending, it’s a good team-building exercise for future spouses. You can learn a lot about each other based on how you manage your wedding-planning budget.
The average wedding now costs more than $25,000, multiple studies show. Few couples starting their lives together have that kind of cash, and many will fund their weddings - wholly or in part - with credit. While it’s normal to want the wedding of your dreams, your special day shouldn’t lead to years of unmanageable debt.
How to start your married life...
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Bill Cox, the senior minister at Nevada’s First Baptist Church for the last 33 years has conducted 201 services, beginning with one in 1973. Nancy Mitchell, the parish ministry as-sociate at St. Paul Lutheran Church in Nevada has been the officiant in 12 ceremonies, since 1999, when she began doing Interim Ministry work. Two of these were performed in her cur-rent position in Nevada. Lester Thornton, a retired United Methodist minister living near Nevada, conducted his first wedding in 1962, soon after he was appointed to his first church in Archie, Missouri. He recently conducted the service for his grandson and his new wife. Nancy Mitchell believes if a couple choos-es to be married in the church, Christ should take center stage. She advises there needs to be a balance between the wishes of the bride and groom and the rituals of the Lutheran faith and teachings. For example, if the couple wishes to have a popular secular song sung, it can be before the ceremony, or at the reception, but during the actual wedding, which is viewed as a worship service, the music should also be worshipful. She added it certainly could be joyfully worshipful. Meaningful additions can be added such as the Unity Candle or, in the case of a second marriage, ceremonies includ-ing the children of former relationships are important. In that case, it isn’t just a marriage of two people. It is a marriage of two (or more) families. The Lutheran Church requests pre-marital counseling with the minister, and Nancy says she likes to make these sessions enjoyable, even though they serve a serious purpose. If some problem is uncovered, she is glad the couple will have the opportunity to have God in their ceremony. As we were posing the ac-companying picture, a beautiful white embroi-dered handkerchief fell from her Bible. She explained she always tucks a similar hankie in each time, in case the bride or some of the wedding party should shed tears. She added that there aren’t any pockets in most wedding gowns. Bill Cox shared the strong feeling that a church wedding should incorporate church doctrines such as Scripture, hymns and liturgy. He even prefers the music for the procession-al be some religious music instead of “Here
Comes the Bride.” If the wedding is in a place other than the church, he still insists the ser-vice itself follow the usual Order of Service. He mentioned some outdoor weddings he had performed that were very nice, only one was on an unusually hot day and the entire assem-bly suffered. He likes to give the couple some choices within the usual Order of Service. He did mention at the rehearsal, he becomes a Sergeant at Arms in order to keep order and establish who is in charge. He even mentioned one minister who would not perform wedding ceremonies after he retired because he disliked the confusion and loss of authority during re-hearsals. Bill Cox wants the couple to incorpo-rate the Communion of the Lord’s Supper as part of their service so one of the first acts as a married couple is to share this service. Lester Thornton also has kept a usual or-der of service in his ceremonies throughout the years. The Methodist Church had changed the wording of the pronouncement of ‘hus-band and wife’ from that of ‘man and wife’ before he was ordained. However, many still remembered the old phrase or remarked on the difference. Other changes both Bill Cox and Lester Thornton mentioned was many who are asking for a marriage ceremony have already been ‘cohabitating’ for some time before the request of a ceremony. All three ministers agreed the marriage is an opportunity to let the church and God become a part of the couples’ life and the couples cohabitation should not keep a church marriage from being performed. Lester also mentioned that weddings seem to be taking different forms than in the past. It was fairly common in the past for a couple to be married either at the bride’s home, or per-haps in the parsonage. Receptions commonly were a matter of punch and cake and maybe some music. The idea of a dinner or a dance was not needed in most cases. Some couples now incorporate unusual interests and set-tings.
Memorable matrimonial moments
All three ministers chose at least one funny incident that happened during a wedding cer-emony. Bill Cox mentioned a time when the best
I NOW PRONOUNCE YOU HUSBAND AND WIFE
Three ministers share thoughts and memories about weddings.
Nancy Mitchell stands in the St. Paul Lutheran Sanctuary as the bridal couple approaches.
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By Carolyn Gray Thornton
Memories of weddings are shared by most of us. It might have been our own, one of our chil-dren’s or a close friend. Ministers have a wealth of both pleasant and stressful memories. We interviewed three differ-ent ministers about their professional experiences in the ceremonies.
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man began to show he was very ner-vous. He began to put his hands in his pockets and pull them out again hur-riedly, spewing out cigarettes from his pants pockets. Finally the groom noticed his friend’s actions and whis-pered, “What on earth is the matter?” The best man replied he couldn’t find the rings. The groom replied, “The ring bearer has the rings, you idiot!” So the best man relaxed even though he was standing among many single cigarettes he had pulled out of his pockets in his frenzy. Along that same line, Lester Thorn-ton reported at one of his first weddings the little ring bearer was doing a great job holding the small pillow with the rings pinned on top. When it was time to retrieve the rings, Lester unpinned them, and then stuck the pins back in the cushion. As he did, he heard the little boy suck in his breath and realized the pin had gone through the pillow into the palms of the ring bearer who didn’t make any other sign he was in distress. Nancy Mitchell told of a couple who were cowboys at heart. The bride wore turquoise boots under her dress and the man wanted to wear his cowboy hat during the wedding. She insisted that couldn’t be done but relented to let him
put his hat behind some flowers and put it on for the recessional. After he grabbed the hat, he let out a “whoopee!’ during the march. Twice, Lester Thornton has con-ducted a wedding with the groom be-ing barefooted. The first time the small wedding party was waiting for time to begin and Lester noticed the groom had not put on his shoes. Thinking he would do it in a minute, Lester went ahead with preparations and as the music be-gan he noticed the groom was coming forward, still “unshod”. The second time not only the groom, but the bride and both attendants were barefooted, wore shorts and t-shirts for the ceremony on the deck of the back-yard swimming pool. Lester wore a suit and tie. Although there are many funny mo-ments in weddings, all three ministers agreed the ceremony itself is an im-portant worship experience and not to be taken lightly. They each felt it was a privilege to be a part of premarital counseling and the actual service.
ABOVE: Bill Cox performs the wedding ceremony for Brach and Courtney Pisciotta, formerly of Nevada.BELOW: Lester Thornton officiates at his grandson’s unique wedding in Illinois as great grandchildren watch on the swimming pool deck.
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By She Magazine Staff
The final ABC’s “Extreme Makeover: Home Edition,” aired January16th, 2012 for the “7 Homes in 7 Days” Joplin, Missouri build.
Natalie Gozalez, Scott Ely and Natalie’s 10-year-old son Augie huddled together in the bathtub to protect themselves from the EF5 tornado that ripped through Joplin on May 22, 2011.
Both Natalie and Scott were divorced, and didn’t think another marriage would be for them. But as the tempest raged, mauling the three and tossing them about, hurling debris all around them and onto them, they decided that if they survived, they’d get married. Months later, Natalie and Scott made it official with a wedding at Disney World, as ABC’s Extreme Makeover, Home Edi-tion, built seven homes in Joplin in Octo-ber, one of which is now their new home. According to information from an ABC press release, in that bathtub, Scott was on top of the other two, holding on to a mattress. Augie was wearing a bicycle helmet, because his mother had seen an earthquake documentary that suggested a bicycle helmet could save a child’s life in a disaster. The roof flew off, and suddenly the family was facing the full brunt of the tornado. Scott was lifted up, the press re-lease said, then thrown back down in the bathroom. A toilet from the second bath-room flew through the air and hit Augie. The helmet he was wearing was shattered, but it saved his life. Natalie was pelted with debris while trying to protect her
son, and she suffered serious back injuries. Scott realized that, if they all survived, he wanted to marry Natalie and become a legal stepfather to Augie. When the wind calmed briefly, Natalie realized they were in the eye of the tornado, that their house was gone and that they wouldn’t survive the second wave, so the family rushed over to a drainage ditch to find cover. Watching Scott carry her son with his good arm (the other had suffered a compound fracture), Natalie knew Scott would be her husband. All three survived; and while workers connected with a seven-day build of sev-en houses in Joplin by ABC’s” Extreme Makeover: Home Edition,” all the fami-lies traveled to Disney World where they attended Natalie and Scott’s wedding. Men’s Wearhouse outfitted the groom and his groomsmen to assure they looked their very best for the big day. “The wedding was everything I dream-
ed of and more,” Natalie said, noting that the men all “looked very handsome.” Natalie said the wedding was a sur-prise, and the Men’s Wearhouse folks “actually came to our hotel to do the tuxe-do measurements and alterations for all of the guys in the wedding party, they were very accommodating.” “After a disaster like the one we ex-perienced, you wonder how you are ever going to pick up the pieces, but Extreme Makeover: Home Edition and Men’s Wearhouse gave us the opportunity to start over, as a family, in a brand new home.” Men’s Wearhouse, known for its gen-erous giving, most notably the annual Na-tional Suit Drive, believes that every man has the right to a good suit, and through philanthropic outreach is making that happen, one man at a time.
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trend growing in popularity is weddings that don’t take place where the bride and groom currently live.
By Lynn A. Wade
Ideas for destination weddings come from many aspects of the bride and groom’s life. Sometimes it’s connected to where or how they met. Sometimes it’s a place that holds special memories for one or both. Maybe it’s the quaint little church you saw on that first trip together. Or maybe it’s a vacation destination you’ve always dreamed of, where your new dreams will begin to unfold. Many resorts offer full service destination wedding planning in-house; there also are services like www.destinationweddings.com that can help with popular vacation-spot destinations, providing resources for everything from the caterer, to the officiant, to the photographer, to lodging for the happy couple, the wedding party and even suggest-ing lodging choices for other guests who choose to attend. Destination weddings are far less expensive than one might think and a wide range of choices are available to fit the bride and groom’s budget, the Web site indicates. In fact, the site prominently announces, “Destination weddings usually cost less than traditional weddings.” Group discounts are often available for those attending, too. Ne-vada natives Claire Hissink and Kyle Hooe chose a destination wed-ding in Cabo San Lucas, Mexico. As a child, Claire had seen couples getting married on the beach during family vacations, and she’d dreamed of one day getting married on the beach at a sunny, romantic destination. Kyle had never been to Mexico and was more than willing to go. The daughter of Catherine and Tom Hissink, Nevada, Claire mar-ried Kyle in a small but elegant ceremony on the Mexican beach on June 4. 2010. Due to Mexican matrimonial laws, they would have had to arrive three days earlier for paperwork and blood tests in order to be legally married on that day; so earlier in the year the two were legally married in a brief civil ceremony conducted in the Hissinks’ living room in March. “If you get married in a foreign country, it’s important to know the laws and customs where you will be going,” Catherine said, but noted that a reputable planner will make sure the couple is made aware of such things well in advance. It takes eight days, for example, to get a marriage license in the U.S. Virgin Islands, from the time the island
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receives the notarized application. Caribbean weddings can mean arduous paperwork requirements. In England, the bride and groom must reside there for seven days before applying for a license; then it’s another 15 days before you can get legally married. For Claire and Kyle, the brief legal ceremony at home solved any such issues that might otherwise have come up. And the Cabo San Lucas beach wedding — this time a religious ceremo-ny — was “really beautifully done.” The ceremony took place at sunset, and was perfectly timed and orchestrated, Catherine said. Using destinationweddings.com, Catherine said she was able to plan the whole affair via e-mail. “It was very easy,” and al-though she naturally had some concerns about whether the cer-emony would meet all their expectations; those concerns turned out to be unfounded and the event went very smoothly. There’s a small deposit that’s deducted from the cost of the package, and there’s a wide range of options available. The resort had a wedding planner, so once the resort was selected, details were worked out with the planner. “You can choose the level of resort where you want to go, whether you want it all-inclusive or not,” as well as the amount of wedding amenities are desired, Catherine said. “You can get all sorts of things. You could get a horse-drawn carriage,” for example; but Claire and Kyle didn’t. The package they selected included a rehearsal dinner, flow-ers, music, the minister, wedding cake, a reception with dinner and photographer who spent several hours with them and pro-vided them with a CD from which they could make their own prints. Catherine said as the mother of the bride, planning the wed-ding this way made the whole experience “relaxing and fun,” but more importantly, for Claire “it was a dream come true.” Comprised of a total of 15 of family and friends, Claire and Kyle Hooe’s wedding was intimate and small, and the couple honeymooned on site as well. Oftentimes, when a couple chooses a destination wedding, a local reception is arranged afterwards, in the couple’s home town, so friends and family can celebrate the occasion. That’s what the Claire and Kyle did. A local reception was held later to give others the chance to join the celebration.
When the destination is your home town.
• When brides and grooms make this choice, it’s usually a larger affair and couples choose to do more of the planning themselves.
• To plan a hometown wedding from afar, enlist the help of rela-tives and friends who can take care of many of the onsite issues in person; or, if one’s available, a wedding planner who’s lo-cally connected.
• It’s important to start planning early — it’s not too soon to start planning for an event that’s to take place next winter or even in the spring or summer of 2013.
Destination wedding etiquetteCompiled from destinationweddings.com
The couple: There are mixed opinions on just who pays for what; but it’s generally accepted that the couple or one of the couples families pays for the ceremony, reception, and anything that’s “required” of the wedding party, such as a rehearsal din-ner, that sort of thing.
The parents: Divvy it up in whatever way best fits the situa-tion — just make sure who pays for what is cleared up before the trip. Traditionally, the groom’s family pays for the rehearsal dinner.
The guests: Generally responsible for their own travel expenses and incidentals, just as they would if they were traveling to the couple’s home town for the event. Guests are expected to bring a gift unless otherwise notified; but send them to the couple’s home or to a place they can pick them up when they return home, such as one of the parents’ homes.
Invitations: Send invitations only to those expected to be able to attend; an announcement can be sent to others before or after the wedding; and may or may not include an invitation to a later reception if one is planned.
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2.1 MILLIONThe number of marriages that took place in the United States in 2009. That breaks down to nearly 5,800 a day.Source: National Center for Health Statistics 28.7 & 26.5 YEARSMedian age at first marriage in 2011 for men and women, respectively. 53.1 PERCENTThe overall percentage of adults who reported being mar-ried.
69 PERCENTPercentage of people 15 and older in 2011 who had been married at some point in their lives — either currently or formerly. 74.5 PERCENT Among women who married for the first time between 1990 and 1994, the percentage who marked their 10th an-niversary. This compares with 83 percent of women who married for the first time between 1960 and 1964.
6.2 PERCENTAs of 2009, the percentage of currently married women who had been married for at least 50 years. A little more than half of currently married women had been married for at least 15 years.
Source: U.S. Census Bureau
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Although the latest Brides Amer-ican Wedding Study shows the aver-age cost of a wedding in 2010 was $26,501, a decrease of 5 percent from 2009, weddings continue to be big business. But many couples are opting to cut the guest list instead of big ticket items like wedding gowns. In fact, the average wedding gown cost $1,289 in 2010, a 20 per-cent increase over 2009, according to the study. This is no surprise to the millions who were glued to their television sets this past April during the most talked about wedding since the 1981 royal wedding of Lady Diana to Prince Charles. Many brides are now emulating the elegant lace gown worn by Catherine Middleton, now the Duchess of Cambridge. In addition to beautiful lace, the newest trends in wedding gowns include color, soft sleeves, short hemlines and eco-friend-ly materials. Whether it is Chantilly, Alencon, duchesse, guipure, or rib-bon, lace has become one of the hottest trends this year. “De-signers at all price points have debuted collections featuring full frothy skirts, wildflowers and lace used in both traditional and modern ways,” says Kate Campbell, department chair of Fashion & Retail Management at The Art Institute of Tampa, a branch of Miami International University of Art & Design. “This particular trend parallels the more feminine, elegant trends we see in fashion everywhere - including more fitted and ladylike styles reminiscent of Grace Kelly and Jacqueline Bouvier Kennedy.” While not for everyone, the use of col-or in wedding gowns has been growing in popularity. Rich and vibrant, or more sub-dued, color in bridal wear is everywhere. Some brides choose soft pastel colors, such as blush, rose or skin-tone. Others opt to wear vibrant hues of lavender, green and deep pink. Less bold brides are more likely to use hints of accent color on sashes, bows, embroidery, hems, necklines or beading. “The bride who chooses to add color to her dress is fashion forward and confident - it’s not for the faint of heart,” says Amber Chat-elain, lead faculty for the Fashion & Retail Management program at The Art Institute of Tennessee - Nashville, a branch of The Art Institute of Atlanta. Another interesting new trend in bridal wear is short gowns, especially for brides choosing destination and beach weddings. While they may be short in length, these dresses are not short on style. Some offer sophisticated laces, chic feathers or multi-layered organza mini-skirts.
Soft sleeves are enjoying a come-back. Designers have debuted soft, romantic sleeves, including traditional cap sleeves in florals and tulle, mod-ern silhouettes using vintage elements, sequin fringe and flutter sleeves, and romantic off-the-shoulder versions. “The softness and elegance of the sleeves in bridal wear mirrors today’s general fashion trends, where design-ers are highlighting the elegance and beauty of the female form in very soft
ways,” says Charlene Parsons, who heads the fashion programs at Miami International University of Art & Design. Eco-friendly options have also increased in popularity. “There are now numerous eco-friendly designers whose sole business is to create wedding dresses made with earth-friendly fabrics and materials, using techniques that are in harmony with the earth,” says Crystal Shamblee, department chair of Fashion Design for The Art Institute of Philadelphia. Secondhand and vintage wed-ding dresses are another eco-friendly choice. Whatever fashion trends a bride chooses, one that will never go out of style is a gown that fits well, is figure flattering and makes the bride feel like she’s the most beautiful woman in the world on her big day. To learn more about The Art Institutes visit www.artinsti-tutes.edu.
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The destination wedding you seek may be quite close to home. The auditorium housed in the Scottish Rite Temple, 110 S. Main St., Fort Scott, features 108 backdrops, handpainted by Thomas G. Moses. Since it takes three to five backdrops to cre-ate one complete scene, the 108 scenes work together to create 49 different sets depicting scenes from around the world, a trea-sure room, outdoor terraces and many others. The way the scenes are created gives them a three-dimen-sional feel. The scenes were painted in 1904. Born in Liver-pool, England, in July 1856, Moses traveled the United States, painting scenery for theaters and Masonic Temples. He also became an accomplished landscape painter. The temple is also available for family reunions and clubs and organizations that want to hold fundraisers. The dining room can hold up to 350 people and has a large kitchen. The 500-seat auditorium can accommodate concerts, weddings and medium-to-large business seminars. The facility also includes a dance floor and stage, which is available for music and dancing. For more information, call (620) 223-1330 or (620) 224-6488, or visit ftscottishrite.org/.
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WWhen it comes to wedding traditions these days, there are none — at least when it comes to flowers. Flowers depend on the
wedding color scheme, and many times, that starts with the bridesmaids’ dresses, said Russ Gordon, a designer at Designer’s Florist by SEKAN in Fort Scott. “A lot of times they’ll bring in something from online or their favor-ite flower,” Gordon said. “… Younger brides want more of a brighter color look; more fun.” As they get older, bride’s tastes turn toward classic white. “I wouldn’t say there was a tra-ditional look. Everybody comes in with a dif-ferent type or look. They match vests on the groomsmen with the bridesmaids’ dresses.” Most of the time, Gordon said he and co-designer Deb Banwart use fresh and silk flowers for weddings — fresh for the bridal bouquet, boutonnieres and corsages and silk for the reception. On the other hand, there are weddings SEKAN does that are all fresh or all silk flowers. When planning weddings, some want de-sign expertise and others go with the flow. In the last few years, Gordon said there has been a trend where SEKAN is as busy in October as it is in June. People here don’t have to plan very far in advance to tie the knot. “I don’t know if they like the cooler tem-peratures or less chance of rain,” he said. “There will be four or five weekends of the year there will be five or six weddings on the same date. It limits the time and preparation on each. But we hardly ever turn anyone away unless we’re doing a specifically large (wed-ding).” People typically plan three months ahead for their weddings, although there are some
who wait until three weeks before the big day. These, however, are usually the smaller occa-sions. Some people get married during the holi-days when churches are already decorated for Christmas, but it depends on the bride’s sched-ule. “It’s just kind of unpredictable,” Gordon said. He points out that it’s different planning a wedding in Fort Scott than a larger city where venues and vendors book up fast. SEKAN’s wholesalers can typically find what brides are looking for within one or two weeks. Troy Alexander, manager of May’s Flora in Nevada, Mo., said they do a lot of combined fresh and silk flower weddings. “The color realm is kind of whatever the bride likes. This weekend, we had a white and kind of an aqua blue color,” Alexander said. Other upcoming weddings will feature ivory, red and burgundy or hot pink and lime green. “They all make up pretty,” he said. “They’re just all different in their own way. A
lot of times they choose things that are sea-sonal. We’ve got one coming up in May where they want pink peonies.” May’s usually has a wedding every week-end in June, but January this year features nup-tials every weekend, and there are one or two in February. April and May area also busy for the shop. Fall weddings are one of Alexander’s fa-vorite types “because you can use mums, fall leaves and pumpkins.” Christmas weddings are also an option, but Alexander notes it is a “chaotic time” to have a wedding because people are traveling and try-ing to celebrate the holidays. “So it’s hard to get family together,” he said.
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It’s been a part of the wedding tradition for centuries, although it’s form has varied through the ages. Numerous resources say the wedding cake was originally a dry cake broken over the bride’s head; but, thank good-ness, that hasn’t been the case for centuries. Fruitcakes are still popular as wedding cakes in the United Kingdom; but in the Unit-ed States, the multi-tiered, lavishly decorated, uniquely designed confection has long been the mainstay of wedding receptions. For years a white cake with white frosting and perhaps some color in the trim were the norm — now the norm has transformed into wedding cakes as individual as the people getting married. Many still begin with the tradition of a tiered cake, but now the tiers might be arranged side by side, or in a clus-ter rather than stacked on top of one another.
Colors used generally coordinate with the wedding theme; sometimes a groom’s cake, which can be almost any design, is used as well. She magazine talked with Rebec-ca Sutterby, a well-known southeast Kansas cake decorator, about trends and traditions. Although Rebecca hasn’t seen it yet in southeast Kansas, she’s heard that “tangerine orange is the ‘hot’ color for 2012. “But it could be a really fun color and I’ll be look-ing forward to trying it.” Brides, she said, seem to be gravitating toward lots of color on the cake, and are ask-ing for modern elements.
Receptions, she noted, seem to be slightly smaller, but there’s no indication as to whether that change is generational or related to the economy. “Either way, small intimate recep-tions can be lovely and allow room in the bud-get for fabulous details like the dream dress and an over-the-top cake,” Rebecca said. Rebecca, a two-time participant in the Food Network Challenge, makes all sorts of cakes and other items and plans to open a shop in Uniontown, Kan., in 2012.
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When God Closes a Door, He Opens a Window -My Forever Love - By Sandy Stapleton
On November 9, 1979, there was a knock on my door. I remember thinking, “Who’s here at this time of the morning?” There in the entryway stood my father
and a stranger — my heart skipped a beat. They were there to tell me my 11-year -old son Todd had been killed. I thought my life was over. In February of the following year, I got sick and needed to see a doctor, but I
didn’t know any. Then, I thought of that stranger at my door, Dr. Stapleton; I would go see him. During my office visit, Dr. Stapleton asked me how I was doing. I told him I
didn’t care about anything, and didn’t want to go anywhere. He asked me if I liked Carmel by the Sea —“Of course, who doesn’t?”
He said, “A dose of sunshine and the ocean breeze is what the doctor ordered; would you like to go to Carmel this Saturday?” I was numb, and for whatever reason (because I was never going
anywhere again) I said yes. We walked on the pier, soaked up the sunshine and ocean breeze, and spent the day talking about Todd.
Michael was wonderful; so patient, so kind. I remember thinking when I got home, “I could spend a lifetime with this man.” One year later, on Todd’s birthday, we were married at my mother’s home in Kentucky.
While in Kentucky, we noticed how wonderful and down to earth the people were. We returned to San Francisco and talked about moving to somewhere in the Midwest or the South. Michael always wanted to get out of what he called “assembly-line surgery” and have a family practice in a rural area. We looked in the back of JAMA magazines and found lists of practices/clinics searching for family practitioners. I definitely wanted out of the big city, so for the next two months we flew to five different states to be interviewed (wined and dined). We decided on Mansfield, Missouri, population 1,000. “Are you kidding me?” After ten years of a solo family practice, we were broke. Delivering babies and taking care of the poor was soul fulfilling, but not finan-cially rewarding. Michael never knew a stranger and never turned a patient away. We were paid in chickens and tomatoes, and lots of good faith, but we were freezing, with no heat. We decided we couldn’t save the world, so to speak, if we didn’t save ourselves. So, we packed up again and moved to Butler, Missouri. We fell in love with the people, and enjoyed another 11 years of the small-town life. Whenever I had a bad day, or acted in a hateful manner, Michael would say, “remember — let everything you do be done in love.” Michael just didn’t get “down.” He was so gentle, so kind, and so compassionate — a better person I have yet to meet! A day didn’t go by without hearing, “I just adore you.” On January 9, 2002, Michael went to be with Todd. At his memorial service I remember my son Chad saying “Michael, you always wanted to learn to fish, but never got the chance — now you can go fishing.” At that moment, I totally lost it, but now, whenever I feel down, I picture Todd teaching Michael to fish, standing on the bank of a creek, laughing and enjoying God’s creations. And everyday I think of Michael’s favorite Bible verse — “let everything you do be done with love.” What a wonderful man — my mentor, my soul mate, my Mikey!
Love stories
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First love. Love that survives
the test of time.
We dream of those special moments; we cherish them, we think of them often. And now readers of SHE magazine are sharing their stories of ever-present, ever-growing, everlast-ing love. Be prepared to laugh, to cry, and to share in the joy of their unique stories.
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I met my husband Clarence through letter writing. He has been dead 16 years and I’m still writing letters to him.
I now have 1,235 written pages. My roommate was on her way to Wisconsin during the first year of World War II and met two servicemen and sent their names and addresses to me and our other roommate. At this time we were working in St. Louis defense plants.I have always been an avid letter writer, I wrote to friends and relatives when I was old enough to write and still do so at 91 when I can hold my pen. I chose my husband’s name, Clarence Rosenau, at random and wrote my first letter telling him who I was and how much I enjoyed letter writing and would he like a pen pal. He answered and about six months later he came through St. Louis on his way home to visit his parents in Willow City, North Dakota, and we arranged to meet at the station. I told him I would be wearing a pink bowtie lapel pin for him to recognize me. We had lunch, got better acquainted, and decided to keep writing letters. He was stationed at Fort Bragg, North Carolina, at this time and my hometown was Hornersville, Missouri, so after more letter writing I decided to introduce him to my family and he came to visit one weekend. They thought he was a very nice person and by this time I agreed. He was transferred to Fort Abilene, Texas, and received orders to go overseas but was allowed a visit home to his parents’ family. He invited me to come along and meet his family. I accepted and while there he asked me to marry him.I did feel I really knew him from all the letters but we decided it would be best to wait until his return from overseas to marry. After three years, three months, and three days overseas and many, many letters he returned and we were married on April 17, 1946 in the Baptist Church of Hornersville. On the way in to the wedding the best man hit a horse so we had to substitute for him. We had a few more bumps along the way but with our faith in God and our family — which consisted of a son Nick and two daughters, Candace and Melanie, three grandchildren and one great grandson — we had a wonderful 49 years together. When he died on July 18, 1995, my first thought was what will I do, I’ve not only lost a husband but my best friend, so I began the letters again. At first they were daily but have grown considerably less over the years, down to one about every two weeks now. I’ve always liked having the last word and I can almost hear him saying, “You have.” Josephine Rosenu
LOVE AT FIRST SERVE
By Pookie DeCocq
Almost 26 years ago at a small YMCA in Lake Wales, Florida, I signed up to participate in a women’s racquetball tournament. Much to my disappointment only one other female also signed up, which wouldn’t have been much of a tour-
nament. The Y offered to allow us to participate in the beginners men’s bracket or would gladly refund our money. Anxious to meet other people to play with I agreed
to play against the men. The Y simply set up the brackets, provided names and phone numbers and left it up
to the participants to set up mutually convenient game times. After winning my first round I contacted my next opponent to set up a mutually convenient playing time while working around
his schedule as a WalMart Assistant Manager. I mentioned to my 65-year-old mother who I was playing and her response was that I shouldn’t
have a problem with that match as she understood he was her age. She also added that she also heard he was single and that perhaps I should introduce him to her.
So, I headed down to the courts on the scheduled day in search of my senior citizen opponent. On the other hand, my opponent knew he was scheduled to play a girl named Pookie Jackson, and wasn’t quite sure exactly what he was looking for. Checking through the window of each court I only saw a rather nice looking young guy.
Hesitantly, I opened the door inquiring if he was Gary DeCocq. Looking just as surprised as I was, his response was, “Yeah and you are Pookie Jackson?” This July 25th Gary and I will celebrate our 25th wedding anniversary. And, on occasion, we still head down to our local Osage Prairie YMCA and enjoy a competitive game of racquetball. Gary’s response to how we met many years ago has often been, “It was love at first serve!”
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My First Valentine — 1959Bobby and Debbie Barlow
It began in third grade, when I met this fifth-grader at church. Bobby Bar-low. We began staring at each other upside down under the pews at church, during services. I loved him. My daddy made sure he was always his Sunday school teacher because “I loved him.” As we grew older, my daddy spied on him working as a sacker at a grocery store to see what kind of worker he was. No matter what my parents did, they could not get my attention away from Bobby. They grew to love him, too — what else could they do? Bobby was drafted into the U.S. Army in 1971, during the Vietnam War. He promised me he would marry me as soon as he became a sergeant. Eight months later, Bobby became a sergeant (E-5) and we were married Nov. 20, 1971. To this union, five years later, were born two beautiful daughters, Amy and Angela, and many years later there were two grandsons, Kaghan and Case. We decided to be hairdressers together because we do not like to be apart. So we play together, and we work together! Now, 40 years later, I love that man!My valentine. My husband. My love.
He was flirting with me. I realized he was younger but was still surprised when they told me he was only 18 years old. I was 22. He was terribly shy. When Valentine’s Day came in 1970, he was broke and couldn’t afford a gift, so he wrote me a poem and colored a big red heart on it.
In June of 1971, we were married and on the next Valentine’s Day, I received my second hand-written valentine.
Each year, I’ve received one that he has crafted from wood, paper, or snow and through the years they have become more precious. This year we will have been married 44 years in
June, and I have kept each valentine carefully placed away in an album or on a shelf to love and adore the rest of my life.
How could I ask for more than our three wonderful kids and a life of adventure, love, and respect? What God has joined together, let no man put asunder. Phyllis Brown, Nevada
We met each other by chance at the county fair back in Ohio when we were just 14 and 15 years old. We met on a ride that was swings and he kept kicking the seat I was in. I turned around to ask him to stop, our eyes met, and we have been inseparable since. We married in high school, just two young teenagers taking on the world on that May 22. We have truly grown up with each other and have raised a family together. Three children all have grown now with the passing of the years. I remember the day each was born. My husband couldn’t have been more proud in holding each one with a little tear in his eye.
Now we’re grandparents to three little grandsons, and with each day, I see that amazing man that I watched grow up beside me help nurture them with the love he did his own children. He’s a
strong, hardworking family man and I could have never imagined the kindred spirits we have become. I look back at the last 23 years and I wonder how the time has gone by so quickly. I still get that little bit
of butterfly feeling in my stomach and the can’t-catch-your-breath every time I hold his hand, or he grins that smirky little smile he gets. As with all couples, we have had rough and troublesome times, but with each other there together, we have made it through. I look back on that day when destiny stepped in and made the footprints for the life I would lead being a married woman, a mother, then a grandmother and still getting to stand beside the man meant for me. Our love story will continue for more years to come as long as we are able to walk this earth together. I am thankful for the days, all the many treasured time and memories we have made together. Soon it will be our 24th anniversary and I still look forward to the days when he smiles that smile at me and takes me by the hand for many more years to come — together, the teenagers at heart, taking on the world.
Written by Cathy Widder
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One June, Friday evening, two of my over-40-lady friends and I traveled to Joplin, Missouri for shopping, dinner and dancing. After leaving one nightclub, swearing to never darken the door of another bar due to a lewd offer from my dance partner,
I found myself entering the front door of Lee’s Supper Club as “he” entered the back door. Our eyes met across the dance floor. I smiled and said “hello” to him as we passed by.
“He” followed me to my chair and asked me to dance as he handed my purse to my friends. Of course, I accepted because he was good looking! We went to the dance
floor to dance and got acquainted. He learned I was 25, from Pittsburg, Kansas, divorced for four years, and had one son. I learned he was from Lamar, Missouri, was 32 years old,
divorced for two years and had two sons. His eldest and my son have the same first name and his second son and my son were both born on the same day of the month. He and I both had a brother
named Charles and sister/sister-in-law named Margaret. I also learned that one of his hobbies is stock car racing. In fact, the reason he was in Joplin that evening was to find a Trophy Queen for the races at the
Nevada, Speedway the following evening. He asked if I would be interested. I said, “Sure, why not?” As we left the club, I gave him my phone number and he promised he would call me the next day. (Quite frankly, I never
expected to hear from him again.) Early the next morning, “he” called to confirm our date for the evening and if I still planned to come be the Trophy Queen. I told him I would. After I hung up, I phoned mutual acquaintances for a rundown on his reputation. I learned he was a wonderful man who was well respected in his community. So I was comfortable going out with him. That evening we traveled to the Nevada Speedway, visiting as though we were long-lost friends. When we arrived, he introduced me to the gentleman who was to escort me onto the speedway to present the trophy. I was to give the winner a kiss and present him with the trophy when he won the “Trophy Dash.” Lo and behold: “he” won the Trophy Dash! It was the first time ever that he had won this race! He said he never had any incentive to win before, but I was so pretty, he just had to be the winner! So, my driver escorted me to the winner’s area. I was escorted out of the car and presented to the winner of the race — “him.” I gave him a kiss, which was nice! I gave him his trophy and returned to the car to be escorted from the field. I returned to the bleachers to view the remainder of the evenings’ races. “He” took me home at the end of the evening and asked to see me again the next day. I met his father on that date, which happened to be Father’s Day. I also met his sons and his sister, Margaret, and I received a tour of Lamar, Missouri — my first trip ever to Lamar. We had a date every evening from that point on. In fact, he was waiting on my doorstep every day when I returned home from work. After meeting my family and my son he finally proposed to me (no pun intended). He said, “I am willing to care for one full-time son if you think you could care for two part-time sons. Will you marry me?” Thirteen days after our first meeting, I became Mrs. Ronald Berryhill! That will be exactly 40 years ago on July 3, 2012! We have definitely had some bumps in the road, as most marriages do, but, most of all it has been a beautiful romance. HE IS MY PRINCE!Happy 40th Anniversary, Farmer. I Love You more every day!Joan Berryhill
My Best Friend& Lover
Ronald and Joan Berryhill
I graduated from St. Francis Academy in 1958. Shortly thereafter a couple of the nuns were visiting with my mother, Bernice Rooney, and told her that they had noticed that I paused between classes several times each day to enter the chapel, genuflect, and say a brief prayer. They told my mother that they expected me to become a nun. My mother shared their conversation with me and I explained to Mom that I was pray-ing for a good husband. DeVerne Denning was a meat cutter at the Maxwell grocery store on Atlantic Street. A mutual friend who shopped there told me that he had asked her about me, saying that most Sundays he had been sitting behind me in church. He noticed my purple coat. She had offered to introduce us. Shortly thereafter I was serving cake at a church ice cream social and he came through the line, instead of sitting down, he stood beside me visiting. I was in my sec-ond year at Cottey College and I took the initiative to invite him to our Christmas dance. I graduated May 1960. We were married Valentine’s Day 1961. I worked at Farm and Home as a key punch operator in the IBM department and he had started January 2nd to work as a meat cutter at the A & P grocery in the building that is now the Nevada Public Library. He is still cutting meat — now for Woods Supermarket. We have four children, twelve grand-children, seven great-grandchildren and two more on the way. I think God answered my prayers.Connie Denning, Nevada
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Nowadays, photos of hands with rings on is a big part of capturing the memory of the wed-ding; and your hands need to look as good as you do. As with everything else you’ve had to do, you’ll need to plan the care of your handst. Start with getting manicures about three months in advance, this way you can talk with a professional to help decide what you want; he or she will be able to get a feel for your per-sonal style and be better able to help you plan out what you want. Use a gentle exfoliating regimen a few times a week to keep your skin smooth. House hold items such as olive oil and sugar can be mixed together to create a cheap but affective exfoliant. Don’t forget to keep your nails clean. Clean, well taken care of nails are a symbol of healthy hands. Before your big day arrives, start narrowing down what you want your nails to look like. Do you want square or round tips? Do you want color? Do you want acrylic nails at all? The questions are almost limitless. There are so many options for jazzing up nails, you’ll need time to sift through all of them. It wouldn’t be a bad idea to bring along your mother or a close friend to help you choose. You may also want to experiment with different nail styles and how they compliment your dress.
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Wedding DJ relies on experience, attentiveness to bride
and groom
Wedding DJ relies on experience, attentiveness to bride
and groomBy James R. Campbell
You can’t get married without the mu-sic, but if you’re a typical couple, which is to say unlike any other, it’s got to be just the right music. Fort Scott wedding disc jockey Larry Gazaway says pleasing each bride and groom takes planning and experience.
“With the technology we have nowadays, anybody can walk in and play music,” the
KOMB-KMDO DJ said. “Not a lot of people can take control and introduce everything from
the grand entrance all the way through the special dances.” Charging $400 for three hours’ work by Gaz Music Entertain-
ment, he has worked from Kansas City to Springdale, Ark., “and everywhere in-between. I give the couple a planner for what kind of music they like so when they
walk in, they know what’s going to happen and they can relax and let me take of the selection,” said Gazaway, who has played over 200 weddings and receptions.
“It’s an emotional time for the bride and father and we’ve played everything for their dance from ‘Butterfly Kisses’ to ‘Daddy’s Hands’ and Pink Floyd. I have 40,000 songs in my
MP3 files, but surprisingly people still request things I don’t have. “The bride’s and groom’s first dance is something special. I’ve played ‘When You Say Nothing
at All’ by Alison Krauss, ‘At Last’ by Etta James and ‘Because You Loved Me’ by Celine Dion. I think back to when my wife Karen and I got married in 1987 — two broke kids who had to wait to have our reception until our
20th anniversary. “Getting married takes faith and you see deep love, respect, trust, all those emotions in that first dance. Then when the
groom steps away and the father steps in, you see the transfer from being daddy’s girl to the bride. The key to success is knowing what songs are popular and how to engage the entire crowd from grandparents and great-grandparents through infants. Grandma doesn’t want to hear rap.” The Gazaways’ two children are 16-year-old Caleb, who is learning to be a wedding DJ, and Sarah, a Cottey College freshman. Gazaway’s dad is Galen of Nevada, Mo. His brothers are Jim of Hutchinson, Kan., Blake of Pittsburg, Kan., and John of Nevada. He graduated from Bronaugh High in 1983, having played center on two conference champion basketball teams, attended Missouri Southern State at Joplin and did radio work in Fort Scott and at Nevada’s KNEM-KNMO before spending four years as a Nevada policeman in the 1980s and ’90s. After last year’s closing of Topco, his family-owned laminated counter tops business, Gaz-away rejoined KOMB-KMDO, working from 6 to 9 a.m. on weekdays and doing play-by-play sports in Hume, Mo., and Fort Scott, Uniontown and Linn County, Kan. One of his best friends, Jim Sather of Fort Scott, says the energetic 46-year-old is an entertaining conversationalist in any setting. “Pick a topic and Larry will have input on it,” Sather said. “I’ve traveled with him and it is interesting to see how he communi-cates. He has a genuine interest in the well-being of others and it shows. He is well-read and does not lack confidence.” “Larry has always been driven and Topco’s going down was not for a lack of ef-fort on his part. He worked extremely hard. He didn’t let a lot of people know it was a struggle and when the time came that he couldn’t do it anymore, we watched him pick up and move on. I can’t say enough about what the Fort Scott community thinks about the way he stepped up. Tim McKenney, Gazw the Fort Scott radio station, said Gazaway’s success as an an-nouncer and wedding DJ is attributable to “his enjoyment of his work”.
