Seven Habits of Highly Effective People
Powerful Lessons in Personal Change
By Stephen Covey
Seven Habits of Highly Effective PeopleStephen R. Covey is a renowned writer, speaker, academic and humanist. He is also the founder and chairman of the Board of Franklin Covey , an organization devoted to the development of principle-centered leadership on which many of the ideas of this book are based. This books goal resounds with the goal of this organization
To empower people and organizations to significantly increase their performance capability in order to achieve worthwhile purposes through understanding and living principle-centered leadership. About the Author In the Seven Habits of Highly Effective People Stephen R. Covey presents an holistic, integrated and principle-centered approach for solving personal and professional problems. With penetrating insights and pointed anecdotes, Covey reveals a step-by-step pathway for living with fairness, integrity, honesty and human dignity principles that give us the security to adapt to change, and wisdom and power to take advantage of the opportunities that change creates. The objective is to help a person achieve true interdependent "effectiveness. An Overview
1 Be proactiveA ParadigmA paradigm is :A frame of reference, a model; A perception, assumption; The way we perceive, understand & accordingly interpret and judge things. A mental map.
4Before you can adopt the seven habits, you'll need to accomplish what Covey calls a "paradigm shift"--a change in perception and interpretation of how the world works.We are what we repeatedly do Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit Habits are learned and unlearned We are not the habits, hence we can change them
Paradigms and Principles
5 DOTake the initiativeFocus on yourselfMake a choice, and Take responsibility for it
Habit One: Be Proactive DONTPlay the victimBlame your circumstances, orBe influenced by external factors
Each of us guard a gate of change that can only be opened from the inside6Responsibility Ability to choose your ResponseYour reaction to something that hurts you is more influential than what is actually hurting you!
Habit One: Be ProactiveOur behavior is a function of our decisions, not our conditions.
Habit 2: Begin with the End in MindHave a clear understanding of your destinationKnow where you are now and where you want to be. Make every day count
Everything is created twice: mentally, then physically. Blueprint and BuildingPlan and ExecutionBlueprintBecome your own 'builderMake clear decisions and opinions based on your own moralsBuildingLet no one influence your end product. Create the building you originally designed!
Habit 2: Begin with the End in MindLead Yourself!Focus on YOUR prioritiesKnow the difference between 'important' and 'urgentMake your own Time Management MatrixIt's OK to say no
The key is not to prioritize whats on your schedule, but to schedule your priorities.Effective people are not problem-minded; theyre opportunity minded.They feed opportunities and starve problems.
Habit 3: Put First Things First
.Crisis. Pressing problems. Deadline-driven projects, meetings, preparations. Preparation. Prevention. Values clarification. Planning. Relationship building. True re-creation. Empowerment. Interruptions, some phone calls. Some mail, some reports . Some meetings. Many proximate,pressing matters. Many popular activities. Trivia, busywork. Some phone calls. Time wasters. Escape activities.Irrelevant mail. Excessive TVI IIIIIIVUrgentNot UrgentImportantNot Important ProcrastinatorPrioritizerYes ManSlackerTime Management MatrixIt recognizes that time management is really a misnomer the challenge is not to manage time, but to manage ourselves.11IndependencePrivate VictoryThese steps are all about becoming an independent person, thinking for yourself, and becoming confident and comfortable with who you are and what you want.12Win-LoseLose-WinLose-LoseWinWin-WinWin-Win or No DealHabit 4:Think Win-WinWin-Lose People:"My way or the highwayWin-Win People:"Not your way, or my way; a better way"Lose-Lose People:"As long as theyre losing, too!Win-Win or No Deal:"We agree to disagree, agreeably"Win People:"Every man for himselfLose-Win People:Being the "nice guy" to help others instead of focusing on themselvesBe cooperative, not competitiveWin-Win People,
Balance courage and considerationHave integrity - stick with your true values and commitmentsBe mature - express your ideas, but give consideration to others values as wellHave an abundance mentality - believe that there is a solution for everyone's benefitHabit 4:Think Win-Win
The essence of empathic listening is not that you agree with someone; it is that you fully, deeply, understand that person, emotionally as well as intellectually.
Habit 5: Seek First to Understand, Then to be UnderstoodDont intend to listen for the sake of Evaluating, Interpreting, Advising or Probing.15In order to be effective, any presentations should include:Ethos - your credibilityPathos - your compassion Logos - your logic Habit 5: Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood
Seeking to be understoodRequires high level of courage Equally critical in reaching win/win solutions. UnderstandingHave an open mindSeek an alternativeValue differences in opinionThis will create new insights that a singular mind may not have thought of initiallyHabit 6: Synergize
Habit 6: SynergizeTo Synergize isResults-oriented, positive synergy
Examining exploring, seeking diverse perspectives openly enough to alter or complete your paradigm
Having a mutually agreed-upon end in mind.
Worth the effort and highly effective
A process.To Synergize is NotA brainstorming free-for-all.
Accepting others ideas as full truth.
Group think (giving in to peer pressure).
Only a negotiation technique. After mastering your own thoughts through the first three Habits, look to effectively collaborate with others with the following three. Habits 4, 5, and 6 focus mainly on taking the next step from being independent to being interdependent.InterdependentPublic VictoryLife is, by nature, highly interdependent.
Take time to Sharpen the SawTake out time for YOURSELFTheres an Upward Spiral of Growth along with Change and Improvement.Habit Seven: Renewal
Continuous ImprovementThis Upward Spiral model consists of three parts: learn, commit, do.One must be increasingly educating the conscience in order to grow and develop on the upward spiral.20
The greatest asset that we have is WE. ME Time!DuplicityUnkindnessViolatedexpectationsOutside stressand pressuresTime wastersInterruptionsPressingproblemsCrises
Live the Seven HabitsSpend timein Quadrant IIFollow correctprinciplesControl own lifeMaintain highEmotional BankAccount with selfand othersMaintain reservecapacityBe resilientEmpower andserve othersCommunicateEmpathicallySynergize withothers using awin-win approachSow a thought, reap an action; sow an action, reap a habit; sow a habit, reap a character; sow a character, reap a destiny.PARADIGM SHIFTSA BREAK FROMTRADITIONAL WISDOMTOWARD7 HABITS PRINCIPLESHabit 1We are a product of our environment and upbringing.Habit 2Society is the source of our values. Habit 3Reactive to the tyranny of the urgent. Acted upon by the environment. Habit 4Win-lose.One-sided benefit.Habit 5Fight, flight, or compromise when faced with conflict.Habit 6Differences are threats. Independence is the highest value. Unity means sameness.Habit 7Entropy.Burnout on one track - typically work.We are a product of our choices to our environment and upbringing.Values are self-chosen and provide foundation for decision making. Values flow out of principles.Actions flow from that which is important.Win-win.Mutual benefit.Communication solves problems.Differences are values and are opportunities for synergy.Continuous self-renewal and self-improvement.The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People presents an "inside-out" approach to effectiveness that is centred on principles and character. Inside-out means that the change starts within oneself. For many people, this approach represents a paradigm shift away from the Personality Ethic and toward the Character Ethic.
According to Covey himself, these habits bring about the maximum long-term beneficial results possible. In our opinion, they can change our lives for the better. This book is a must-use rather than a must-read. This is an ultimate guide to a better personal, professional and social life. Get your own copy! 24Any Questions?