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Late BloomerMoms & Dads

Grandparents Seeking Guardianship

Entering Parenthood Later in Life

The debate over human milk donation

Responding to babies' needs during the first months

Can YouSpoil a Baby?

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Cabbage soup diet, pills, shakes and programs—in her lifelong struggle with weight, Tiffany Bernabe had tried them

all. Nothing seemed to work, so in 2008, at 330 pounds, she decided to have weight-loss surgery.

“I knew the yo-yo dieting was harder on my body than surgery would be,” she says. “I didn’t have…diabetes or high blood pressure, but it was just a matter of time.”

After orientation classes and working with a team of doctors, dietitians and counselors, bariatric surgeon Paul Dally, MD performed a Roux-en-Y gastric bypass procedure. For Tiffany,

surgery meant weight loss, increased energy and freedom from pain. Now she watches what she eats and attends Southwest’s ongoing weight-loss surgery support group.

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September ’11FEATURE ARTICLES

Late Bloomer Moms and Dads The pitfalls and pleasures of entering parenthood later in life Human Milk Sharing The debate over human milk donation Can You Spoil a Baby? Responding to babies' needs during the first months

Brothers & Sisters Sharing a Room Benefits, logistics and boundaries of sharing a room

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6 Editor’s Notes

8 Dear Dana When is it appropriate for grandparents to seek guardianship of grandchildren?

10 Your Money’s Worth Create your own coupon organizer

24 Family Flicks Mars Needs Moms and Glee: the 3D Concert Movie

26 Calendar of Events & Activities

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On the Cover:Sweet Baby Rehrer lives in Vancouver with her parents who recently moved to the pacific northwest.

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Child rearing trends come and go over time, fickle as

runway fashion. Forty years ago, parents spanked their children as a matter of course. Today, parents fear a visit from Child Protective Services if they so much as raise their voices. When my grandmother was raising her children 50 years ago, only those

who couldn’t afford formula breastfed their babies. Now, it’s common to see women breastfeeding their babies in public places—a huge step for women and babies.

But while breastfeeding is accepted and encouraged by today’s medical professionals and parents alike, the sharing of breast milk between mothers, once commonplace, remains taboo. It is true that every effort must be made to ensure the quality of human milk, just as blood donors are thoroughly screened and their blood tested and safely preserved for future life saving use. However, beyond the safety concerns lies a societal aversion to breast milk sharing that, once shattered, could save the lives of our smallest and most vulnerable citizens. See page 16 to learn more about local efforts to make breast milk available to those who need it most.

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Dear Dana is a regular, interactive feature in Vancouver Family Magazine. Each month, professional mediator Dana Greyson tackles tough questions with insightful advice and suggestions.

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Dear DanaI love my grown children, but at this moment, I’m not so sure I like them. Mostly, though, I’m worried about my grandchildren. When I dropped in, my grandchildren were hungry and it sure looked to me like it was because my son and daughter-in-law once again partied too hard to be good parents the next day. I recently retired and am seriously considering taking my grandkids in. At 2 and 4, it seems like they need a much more stable place to live. I’ve tried talking with my son and daughter-in-law about it but when I do, it just gets ugly. Not too sure what to do next. – Become More Than a Grandmother?

Dear BMTG:This is indeed a delicate area and there’s not an easy answer.

“In Washington State, grandparents have no legal rights to invade the sanctity of the family, to remove children from their biological parents,” explains Jeff Foster, a local licensed individual family therapist (LMFT) and clinical psychotherapist. Foster, with A Fresh Start, is sometimes contracted when guardianship changes are under consideration.

There are options, processes and consequences if you decide to seriously consider a much more active role. There’s a big difference between a general “it should be better” concern and what’s legally required for someone other than a child’s biological parents to suddenly find themselves in a position to make their medical and schooling decisions. Setting up some form of guardianship is generally required, which requires bringing outsiders into your making those decisions for your family.

A call to Department of Children and Family Services (DCFS) Child Protective Services (CPS) may trigger an investigation. While children’s safety is taken very seriously, unfounded concerns are not uncommon. It takes clear evidence of abuse or neglect for biological parents to be required to give up their rights as primary caregivers of their children, explains a DCFS source. In your case, you might

be asked: Is there repeatedly no food in the home? Are the children malnourished? What are their health issues? Are they left alone in the home? If there are substance abuse issues, what are they?

Once a call is made, a CPS social caseworker can keep you informed on the well being of your grandchildren. CPS’s decision about what to do would be based on meeting with the children when their parents are not present, at home or at school, and talking to their parents. You would not be informed of how likely it is your grandchildren will remain with their parents, what if any service plan CPS has with the parents and how well or poorly they’re complying with that. The bias, as long as it is safe, is to keep or reunify children with their biological parents.

If the children are removed from their parents, there is a strong preference in placement with relatives, rather than

placing children in foster care. If you were approved, and your grandchildren were placed with you, you will not be told how long they would stay.

Alternatively, you could file a petition for an Order of Temporary Dependency, which might eventually convert to a Non-Parental Custody Decree through Family Court Services. Parental substance abuse, sometimes along with mental health issues, are the most common causes for the courts

to consider a change in a child’s caregiver. Like the CPS process, the courts will be most concerned about whether or not your children are adequate parents. If you and your grandchildren’s parents disagree, the courts will look at what it would take for the children’s biological parents to be considered competent from the court’s perspective.

As part of the court rulings, a very specific parental visitation plan is outlined, dictating when and where, and under what circumstances parents are to see their children. Once a Non-Parental Custody Decree is awarded, the arrangement becomes permanent, unless you and your children officially agree to change it, and the court approves it. If CPS were involved, they too would be part of the approval process.

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Grandma, now that you have a better sense of what ‘s involved, are there some other approaches you might consider for your grandchildren’s sake? Is there a mutually trusted friend, clergy or family member that can help you express your concerns in a way your children can better hear them, and you can as well better understand your children’s perspective? Or, Children’s Home Society, a local family resource, could suggest some resources to help assess and address your grandchildren’s welfare.

You have an opportunity to provide the best of both. By finding a way to be a caring, doting, involved grandparent and loving parent to your children, you can be appreciated for what you have to offer both. As long as your grandchildren are safe, ultimately, lovingly helping your children become better parents in the most likely outcome, and will cause the least heartache in the long run. May you choose well, and wisely.

A monthly Vancouver Family Magazine columnist since 2007, Dana Greyson’s purpose is to embrace life fully, inspire others and change the world. Curious? Check out www.danagreyson.com.

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YOUR MONEY'S WORTH

My Money Savingby Davi Nabors

Read each month as Battle Ground mother, Davi Nabors, coaches us on the art of penny pinching.

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Watching my kids head back to school with their fresh, clean binders and notebooks always inspires me to get organized myself. This year, my back to school tidying trend took the form of digging out my Personal Coupon Organizer, dumping out all the expired coupons, and reloading it with new deals.

It’s been a while since I’ve shopped with a formal organizer. My coupon clipping tends to go in waves. I’ll use coupons extensively some months and taper off when my schedule gets too busy. But each time I do shop with Big Blue, my royal blue binder that fits perfectly across the child seat of a shopping cart, I get a chuckle from the looks I receive. Inquisitive strangers actually stop and ask me, “Where did you get that?” “How can I get one?” “Does it really help you save money?” I beam as I introduce them to my valuable shopping companion and proudly share how it saves me hundreds of dollars a month. Since so many have asked me how to make one, I’m happy to explain.

What you will need:

A zipper-enclosed, three ring binder with pockets or loops for storage. (Yes, you can use an ordinary 3 ring binder, but I like to zip my binder closed for safe keeping. Also, the extra stretchy pockets in the mesh, zipped binders are handy for storing receipts, rebates, and weekly circular ads).

30-35 plastic trading card pages (search Amazon or Ebay for deals on a box of 100 sleeves. They typically have 9 pockets per page and can be used front and back). Self-stick tab dividers and a pen for labeling the tabs.

A small pair of scissors.

Instructions:

Decide how you’d like to categorize your pages. Some people organize by store layout or by expiration date, but I’ve labeled my tabs by type of grocery (in alphabetical order). My tabs include: Baking, Bread, Candy, Canned (Fruit and Veggie), Canned (Fish), Cereal Bars, Cereal Boxes, etc.

Label one tab for each plastic sleeve.

Place plastic sleeves in binder, and stick tabs onto page edges.

Clip coupons from weekly ads, Sunday newspapers, and online sources like www.couponmom.com and www.thekrazycouponlady.com, and slip them into designated sleeves.

Store a pair of scissors in one of the binder pockets for handy coupon clipping.

Shop and Save!

Many people steer away from coupon clipping, considering it a waste of time or too much of a hassle. I’ll admit: coupon clipping does take time. However, if planned strategically, you can transform daily down-time into money-saving moments. I try

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It’s pretty incredible how quickly the

savings add up, and watching my weekly grocery bills shrink

motivates me to keep clipping.

to keep Big Blue stuffed with the latest store circular ads and RedPlum and SmartSource inserts; and I take it with me wherever I go. While waiting to pick up my kids from school, sitting alongside their sports practices and events, or hanging out in the waiting room at the doctor’s office, I unzip Big Blue, grab my scissors and search for deals. It’s pretty incredible how quickly the savings add up, and watching my weekly grocery bills shrink motivates me to keep clipping. Besides, now that my more animated shopping buddies are back in school (and no longer buzzing around my grocery cart), it’s nice to have Big Blue along for the company.

For more tips on how to maximize coupon savings by “stacking them” or pairing them with local in-store specials, visit www.frugallivingnw.com.

Davi is a married mom of 2 boys who are turning into quite the coupon-using, bargain-spotting, frugal shoppers themselves.

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Feature Story: Late Bloomer Mom and Dads: the Pitfall and Pleasures of Entering Parenting Later in Life

Nicole Kidman, Madonna, Jayne Seymour, Geena Davis and Susan Sarandon all delivered babies after turning 40. At 44, Vice Presidential candidate Sarah Palin’s fifth child arrived the same year she became a grandmother.

“Oh my gosh! I forgot to have a baby!” was once a smart-aleck response from the permanently childless. It’s now becoming a real refrain for 40-something women not yet ready for their biological clock to stop ticking. Too busy, college, career and financial stability first, partnering and remarrying later, fertility challenges and breakthroughs—reasons for becoming a mom later in life abound.

As a whole, more women are bearing babies later. “The New Demography of American Motherhood” Pew 2010 research cites that since 1990, the rate for women ages 40 and older who have babies tripled. Along with the trends, today there is greater social acceptance for older new moms. Locally, Washington State ranks ninth nationally for older first-time moms. Yet the December 2010 National Vital Statistics Reports reveal that only 1 percent of women between 40 and 44 are bearing babies.

Attempting parenting later in life comes with a different set of worries . . . and wonders. How late is too late to wait? What does it take to make it work?

Worries

Bottom line: as women age, their fertility drops, their risk of having a child with learning or other disabilities increases, as does the likelihood of health issues for the mother.

Has the biological clock ticked too long?

The need to find out if all the parts are in full enough working order to have children is often a big surprise for prospective parents. Media coverage, coupled with an exaggerated awareness of older moms, belies the facts. While the percentage of older women having babies is growing, that percentage is still small. There are basic biological reasons most women enter motherhood in there 20s and 30s. Even in those prime childbearing years, a 25 percent miscarriage rate is not unusual.

Kathleen Hensch-Fleming, owner of Pacific Midwifery, Menopause and Women’s Health elaborates, “Women only have so many eggs. As we age, we produce less and less eggs. We don’t ovulate as regularly or as predictably. Like chicken eggs past their exportation date, the quality is lower. Fertility drugs don’t make more or better eggs, they just kick out more of what we do have. That’s why with fertility drugs there is a greater likelihood of twins or other multiple births.”

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of ENTERING PARENTING LATER in LIFE by Dana Greyson


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Hensch-Fleming emphatically advises, “Don’t wait until the last minute. I see women who get their IUD out at 40, only to discover they’re no longer ovulating. If you want to have children, before you turn 35 go off pills and on condoms, get a sense of your fertility.”

Risks to the mother

According to the Mayo Clinic, additional concerns for later-in-life moms also include:

More likely to develop diabetes for part of the pregnancy. Like all diabetes, a doctor advised program of reduced dietary sugar and engaging in an appropriate level of physical activity is critical. Left untreated, gestational diabetes can cause a baby to grow too large—which increases the risk of injuries during delivery.

More likely to develop high blood pressure during pregnancy. Some studies suggest that high blood pressure during pregnancy might be more common in older women. Health care providers should carefully monitor blood pressure and the baby’s growth and development to avoid complications.

Greater likelihood of a cesarean section. Labor complications are more common among older women, and make C-sections a more likely possibility.

Risks to the baby

The likelihood of a baby born with chromosomal problems, often leading to development issues, such as Down syndrome, increases considerably, to nearly 5 percent for women above age 45. For moms-to-be who are 35 years or older, going to a genetic counselor is considered the norm, as is ultrasound, particularly for detecting heart defects. Checking early for chromosomal abnormalities through amniocenteses is also more common with later-in-life pregnancies. Recent research implies that children with fathers above age 40 also may face an increased incidence of autism and other cognitive disorders.

The challenge of relinquishing control

Often, Hensch-Fleming finds more mature first-time moms have a difficult time giving up their established habits: a glass of wine with dinner, career-dedicated time, a good eight hours of sleep a night. “They have no idea what having a baby is really like. A baby will teach: you have control over nothing. It’s about letting go. ‘I have to have a baby, and we want to have a baby in October.’ It just doesn’t work that way.”

The other side of the numbers game

While the risks are higher among babies born or older moms, there’s still a 95 percent chance that a child born of a 40-something-year-old mom won’t have a chromosomal aberration, and will be perfectly healthy. One of Hensch-Fleming’s deliveries was with a 52-year-old “menopausal” woman; another had her thirteenth child when she was 65.

Emotional and financial stability

“I was more relaxed as an older mom, or maybe because he wasn’t my first,” recalls Joy Imboden Overstreet of Vancouver. “I was just plain wiser. I didn’t have to prove anything to anyone. I was able to have more fun with him.” She brought her son Wylie into the world when she was 43. Perhaps there’s something to Canadian humorist Richard Needham’s quip “The first child is made of glass, the second porcelain, the rest of rubber, steel and granite.” Overstreet is particularly grateful that her then 13-year-old son and 15-year-old daughter eagerly rallied around, as “a second set of parents,” helping raise Wylie. Today, all now successful adults, the children are still close.

The need for support

Despite her older children’s help, Overstreet found it necessary to also hire help to continue her established writing career. Women in their 20s and 30s might have

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a harder time relating to the pressure that parenthood demands overlaid with decades-long career obligations and decreasing energy levels that come later in life. Today it is easier for later-in-life moms to find peers who can relate to similar issues and share solutions. The need for support becomes even more essential for parents of children with special needs.

The final numbers game

Initially, as a mom with two teens from a prior marriage, Oversteet resented her marital agreement with her husband to have another child. “I did the math, realizing I’d be almost 60 when he was graduating from high school.” Even now, vibrant and fit, Overstreet confesses that it disturbed her when, out with Wylie and her teenage daughter, passersby would presume she was the grandmother and her daughter, the mother. Her voice catches when she wonders how many milestones she’ll be around to share with her youngest. Marriage? The birth of his children? Grandmother time with them? This is a case where one does keenly know what they could potentially miss.

Vancouver dad, Gary Bock, continued his family’s paternal 40-plus fatherhood tradition. His dad was 44 when he was born. His daughter was born when he was 41. Much as he’d love to ask his father for his perspective, he has passed away, and Bock can only hope he will be there for his daughter longer than his father was for him.

Better late than never

When asked why they decided to have their first child, 87 percent of the parents in a Pew survey answered, “The joy of having children.” That passion, yearning, and desire to bring new life to have, hold and cherish for many late-in-the-game parents, trumps all, and can be well worth it, with the proper care and support.

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Since 1970, the average age of first time mothers in the U.S. has risen


Feature Story: Human Milk Sharing


In recent years, breast milk donation and breast milk sharing programs have proved a controversial topic for new parents. But the concept of human milk sharing is not a new one. In the beginning of the twentieth century most children were fed human milk, either maternally or by donated breast milk.

“We have had ‘wet nurses’ throughout time,” says Northwest mom, Becky Dahm, who great up in Vancouver, “but from the 1970s forward, we have somehow, as a society changed the perception of breast feeding another child into something close to taboo. Milk donation is a truly valuable service to many, but there are not enough people to support it in a comprehensive way. Mother’s milk donation should be completely supported.”

For Vancouver naturopathic practitioner, Dr. Heather Boyd-Roberts, there wasn’t any other alternative. She and her husband adopted two young girls and milk sharing was the only alternative she had available to provide human breast milk to her children. “I think kids need breast milk,” she says.

While experts and parents alike agree on the benefits of mother’s milk, it’s important to be cautious about where this “liquid gold” comes from. In a 2005 press release, La Leche League, the world’s largest resource for breastfeeding and related information, cautioned, “Health care providers and researchers have expressed concern that the casual exchange of human milk could be a potential route of transmission for drugs and viruses.” The Food and Drug Administration has issued similar warnings. For this reason,

screening of milk donors for health issues and concerns is crucial to provide the best quality milk to babies in need.

Milk Sharing OptionsToday, there are two options for donating breast milk: formal breast milk banking, and casual breast milk sharing programs. Breast milk banking programs provide breast milk for children who are suffering from health issues and whose own mothers cannot provide sufficient nutrition. Casual milk sharing programs involve two or more families that offer to share breast milk donations for their children’s consumption.

Local Breast Milk Bank Offers Hope to Children in NeedThe Northwest Mothers Milk Bank (NWMMB), a member of the Human Milk Banking Association of America, (HMBANA) is located in Portland. “We facilitate, through our ten donor drop-off sites [in Oregon and Washington] the shipping of donor breast milk to the California and Colorado processing milk banks,” says June Winfield, Board Chair of NWMMB. Current fundraising efforts are being made to establish NWMMB as a fully functioning milk bank in the Pacific Northwest.

Donors for NWMMB must be non-smokers, and cannot consume any regular medications or alcohol. Lactating mothers are screened for health behaviors and communicable diseases; testing that is similar to those done for blood banks.

Donated breast milk is dispersed to hospitals and individual families who have a doctor’s prescription. Milk bank breast milk is not available for public purchase.

Human Milk SharingBy Melissa Lindberg

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Donated Human Breast Milk for Healthy Children

For healthy babies without a prescription whose mothers are unable to provide sufficient breast milk, a milk bank may not be a viable option. This is the basis for casual milk sharing programs.

Human Milk 4 Human Babies (HM4HB), established in March 2011, is dedicated to providing a global networking support system that helps mothers in need of breast milk donations locate mothers with a breast milk surplus. The breast milk is “shared,” not sold. The donors and the recipients are not screened; screening and interviews are the responsibility of the consenting parties involved in the milk sharing process.

Dr. Boyd-Roberts suggests that interested parents should take the time to interview and meet the prospective donor prior to receiving the breast milk. She advises that parents ask the “difficult questions” during the initial milk sharing interview.

“With prenatal care comes a complete blood work-up that includes AIDS and hepatitis,” says Kate (last name withheld), a breast milk donor and Clark County mom who has provided extra breast milk through a milk sharing relationship. “I don’t think it is unreasonable to ask to see the results of this test before taking someone’s milk, especially if you don’t know them.”

“Milk banks tend to be inaccessible to people who want breast milk to feed their ‘normal’ [healthy] baby,” says Kate. “Milk sharing can be a viable option if you can get connected. I gave my excess pumped milk to a friend of a friend who had just adopted a baby and couldn’t produce enough milk for all her new adopted baby’s needs. It felt good to be able to provide milk to another baby.”

The Human Milk Banking Association of North America urges those who can donate breast milk to do so, in order to improve the health of babies for many years to come. Visit www.nwmmb.org/donate-breast-milk.html to find a local milk drop-off site.

Melissa Lindberg is an educator and freelance writer. She lives in Battle Ground with her husband and three sons.

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Feature Story: Can you Spoil a Baby?

By Jennifer Margulis, Ph.D.“I couldn’t believe they let me out of the hospital with my son,” confided a new mom to me as we chatted in the parenting aisle of the bookstore. “I had no idea what I was doing.”

By definition the parents of infants are amateurs—full of love, wonder, and worry at the prospect of caring for a new baby that seems so . . . floppy and breakable. Amidst the sleep deprivation, dirty diapers, and feedings, we want to do it right. We want to raise our babies to blossom into graceful children and responsible adults. So when you rush to your newborn’s side and a well meaning relative tells you with a disapproving look to let your baby “cry it out,” it’s only natural that you would wonder if by responding to your infant right away you are spoiling her.

But can you spoil a baby?

Meredith Small, Ph.D., professor of anthropology at Cornell University and the author of Our Babies, Ourselves: How Biology and Culture Shape the Way we Parent says the answer is unequivocally, no. “Human babies are biologically designed to be physically and emotionally attached to somebody and if they don’t have that attachment all the time, 24 hours a day, they are unhappy,” says Small. “It’s sort of like we’re designed to eat . . . it’s that fundamental.”

So don’t be afraid to kiss your baby’s little head at least a hundred times a day, to carry him close to you, and to nurse him when he makes a hungry cry. If that fancy new crib with its matching bumper and blankets goes unused in the baby’s nursery because your infant is sleeping with you most of the time, that’s okay too.


What do you say? “Oh Jenny, put her down,” my mother chided as I scooped my three-day-old into my arms. My daughter quieted immediately but I seethed. My need to hold her was physical. When she cried I ached. But in the hormonal aftermath of giving birth I had no idea how to answer my mom.

“Somehow people always want to give you advice about parenting,” says Meredith Small, Ph.D., author of Our Babies, Ourselves: How Biology and Culture Shape the Way we Parent. “Strangers will come up and tell you things.”

The older generation was taught that babies could be spoiled. And they may feel bad about the way they treated their children. “Some of them are a little jealous,” Small says. “They wish they had done more when their kids were little.”

So what do you say? Getting angry, which is what I did, just made my mother defensive. Instead, Small recommends cuddling your baby close and saying sweetly, “I’m having a great time with this baby. I love holding this baby. Isn’t she happy? Isn’t she beautiful?”

And now that my daughter has morphed into a confident 5-year-old, the scolding has stopped. “When they see how self-assured your child is, they shut up,” says Small.

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But that doesn’t mean caring for an infant is easy. When my daughter was tiny I remember wondering how such a little creature could produce that much poop. And getting up many times a night to nurse a newborn is no picnic.

“There is nothing wrong with babies waking up every two hours,” says Small. “That is what they are supposed to do, and mothers are going to be tired.”

To combat the exhaustion, Small recommends napping: “Naps are essential. People who don’t take

naps are in for a really hard time because sleep deprivation can make you crazy. But you can’t blame the baby. Babies don’t act like adults, they’re babies.”

Babies love and need to be held, they need to be fed when they are hungry, changed when they are wet, and showered with love. Talking to them teaches them language, smiling at them helps them learn to smile back at you, and keeping them close helps them develop a strong sense of security.

“All the research has shown that children whose parents respond to their needs have better self-esteem and self-assurance than children who have not had their needs met,” says Small.

Coo at your baby, “spoil” her often, put your feet up whenever you can, and make sure you have people in your life who will “spoil” you too.

Jennifer Margulis, Ph.D., is an award-winning travel, culture, and parenting writer. She lives in the Northwest with her husband and four children.


Why Car Seat Outreach? A properly used car seat reduces the risk of death by 71 percent for infants and 54 percent for toddlers. Yet studies show as much as 73 percent of car seats are incorrectly installed or do not fit the child properly.

Together with Kohl’s and ACTS Oregon, the Tom Sargent Safety Center at OHSU Doernbecher is launching a yearlong car seat outreach program to help reduce the number of children exposed to improp-er car seat use. Each month, certified child passenger safety technicians will check car seats for correct instal-lation, damage, recalls, and size/age appropriateness.

Car seats are available due to a generous donation from Kohl’s. These events are free to the general public.

What: Bring your car seats in your family vehicle for inspection to ensure they are being used correctly and properly installed. Replacement car seats may be available to families, when deemed necessary. Proof of financial assistance, i.e. WIC, Oregon Health Plan etc. and valid Oregon ID are required.

Where: Hillsboro Kohl’s Department Store: 7360 NE Butler Street, Hillsboro

When: Saturday, October 29, 2011, car seat check up 10 a.m. to 1 p.m.

Learn More!We’ll hold several of these programs this fall. To find out when and where a car seat check up event is happening in your community, please visit the OHSU Tom Sargent Children’s Safety Center website:

www.ohsu.edu/childsafety

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Feature Story: Brothers and Sisters Sharing a Room


By Laura Amann Even before Marna Louis’ second child was born, she and her husband knew that the baby would be a sharing a room with their older daughter, regardless of if it were a boy or a girl. Kari and Matt Lee desperately needed a music room to give private lessons in, so they moved their son into a room with his two sisters.

Fifty years ago, sharing a room was common. Then it went out of fashion. Families got smaller, houses grew into mini mansions. But today due to the economy or just a choice to live smaller and smarter, kids are starting to share rooms again. And sometimes those siblings are a brother and a sister, either through necessity or by

choice.

Benefits of sharing a room

Many parents have fond memories of sharing a room. Or at the very least they recognize

the value of the lessons they learned while sharing. “Sharing a room teaches kids how to share and respect private space. Those are related issues but different,” explains Russell Hyken, an Educational Diagnostican and psychotherapist and creator of www.ed-psy.com. “You need those skills in life. They’re good to learn at an early age with natural consequences.”

Many parents find that when brothers and sisters share a room, the squabbling is much less than between the same-sex siblings.

“There is usually more competitiveness and rivalry with same sex siblings,” explains James J. Crist, Ph.D. author of Siblings, You’re Stuck with Each Other, So Stick Together! “Siblings of the opposite sex just don’t

breed that same conflict. It’s the same way that girls in the classroom can moderate boys.”

Frequently, boys and girls have different interests so there isn’t the same competition for toys, clothes, and even friends. It can actually be a happier, healthier experience than same gender sharing.

Logistics for boys and girlsLouis’ daughter and son have been sharing a room since birth. They’re now ten and eight. “For us, the decision was a space issue so early on we felt it was easy for them to do. It’s worked out really well and been a great experience for them. It’s a nice time for them to share together and it’s definitely brought them closer.”

In fact, parents may find that kids spend so little time in their rooms that it’s not much of an issue. Rory Leahy has boy/girl twins who shared a room until fourth grade. “It wasn’t like they made it a social space. They get along really well and it was a nice experience for them.”

First lady Michelle Obama shared a room with her brother Craig Robinson while growing up. Today both of them speak openly about how this set the foundation for an extremely close brother/sister relationship over the years.

Hyken recommends that any time siblings share a room, parents should sit down and talk about boundaries. “When friends come over, where does the other sibling go, do they play with the friends? Are any toys or areas

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off limits? Are they treating other siblings appropriately? These are conversations all parents should have if their kids share a room.”

As they growEventually some special accommodations need to be made, particularly as kids

approach puberty. This doesn’t mean that they need to be split up, just be respectful

of privacy issues. For Louis’ family, this meant rotating the morning and evening routines. “Usually, we’ll have one of them get ready and get dressed in the bedroom while the other is brushing their teeth in the bathroom. That kind of time management really eases some of the tension.” Crist agrees. “The one issue that gets problematic as they get older is the sense of modesty,” he notes. Often a simple adjustment is all that’s needed. “Once they are aware of the differences, they just shouldn’t undress in front of each other. Use the room

for sleep and play. If parents are concerned, have a rule of leaving the door open.”

It’s always important to talk to kids directly and see how they feel about it. If parents set ground rules and discuss privacy and boundary issues in advance, they’re much less likely to see conflict.

Overwhelming benefitsBrothers and sisters who share a room receive a lifelong lesson in how the opposite sex thinks and acts. They learn how boys and girls are different and how they are the same. They’re not nearly as prone to stealing each other’s toys and they’re more likely to be protective of each other. They are also more likely to have a healthier attitude towards the opposite sex.

Besides, all that talking and giggling at bedtime, annoying though it can be at the time, will be remembered well into adulthood.

Laura Amann is a freelance writer and the mother of three girls and one boy. Her son and daughter choose to share a room.


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NEW IN THEATERS

NEW ON DVDMars Needs Moms

Glee: The 3D Concert Movie

Whether or not concert footage belongs at the multiplex is debatable -- it's not really a movie. On the other hand you have a good idea what you're getting and it's much cheaper than an actual concert. It can also be highly entertaining. The Michael Jackson rehearsal footage that became the concert film "This Is It" is a good example.

For fans of the hit Fox show Glee, "Glee: The 3D Concert Movie" is a no-brainer—they’ll love it. But even those who aren't familiar with the show or its talented cast can enjoy this.

The cast stays in character for the performance so it’s the New Directions gang rather than their real-life counterparts on stage. And the music selection is designed, as in the show, to appeal to all ages; from Journey's "Don't Stop Believin'" opener to Lady Gaga, The Beatles, and Barbara Streisand. Some numbers are stronger than others but the show is pumped-up and moves fast, there's no time to be disappointed in anything -- it's all fun!

One of Glee's core fan groups is current and former band and choir, or glee club, ‘gleeks,’ and a resounding theme of the show is celebrating differences. To that end, the concert is also threaded with narratives of real teens who have embraced their own diversity.

"Glee: The 3D Concert Movie" is rated PG for suggestive dance moves, suggestive lyrics, and some mature content in the real-life narratives. None of it overwhelms, though. It's tamer than its television counterpart and a great "concert" to take your teens to.

Theater Release: 8/12/2011; Rated PG - Concert film; 88 minutes.

Grade: B+

"Mars Needs Moms" is based on the Berkeley Breathed children's book of the same name. Young Milo has had enough of his mother, she's always nagging him. When he says it out loud -- "I wish my mother weren't around" -- she gets kidnapped by Martians and Milo, understandably, thinks it's his fault. Mars, though, just has unconventional child-rearing methods and wants to clone the ones it sees on earth. Mars wants earth moms, and the Martians steal Milo's mother for a prototype.

I liked the book, although critics have bristled at its portrayal of mothers and women (grumpy housecleaning harridans). And I like the storyline -- what kid hasn't wished his or her mother would disappear? The movie, however, may take it a bit far. First of all, it's complex. Milo goes to Mars to bring his mom back and we get a lot of space-looking things but few solid characters to follow. Not too far into the movie I wanted him to just find his mom and get home so I could catch a rerun of "Wizards of Waverly Place."

Also, I felt it tugged at the heartstrings unnecessarily. A boy's irritation about eating his vegetables should not result in the end of his mother. My children, even, thought that extreme.

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Blu-Ray and DVD release: 8/9/2011; Rated PG; 88 minutes.Grade: C-

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1 Thursday

Salmon Creek Farmers’ Market Thursdays rain or shine through September on NE 134th St. in Vancouver, just west of the I-5 southbound on-ramp. Features The Barnyard Family Fun Zone with crafts, games and activities for kids, as well as fresh produce and locally made crafts. Visit www.salmoncreekfarmersmarket.com for more information. 3-7 pm

2 Friday

Portland Children’s Museum Free First Friday. Enjoy the museum free of charge, sponsored by Target. 4015 SW Canyon Rd., Portland. www.portlandcm.org. 4-8 pm

Free Movie Nights at Café Sip ‘n’ Play, 3000 SE 164th Ave., Vancouver – Aladdin. 5 pm

Friday Fun Night at Kids Club Fun and Fitness, 13914 NE 3rd Ct.,

Vancouver. First and third Fridays of the month, parents can drop kids ages 4-12 off for a night of fun while parents have a night out. $12.95 per child. To register, visit www.kidsclubfunandfitness.com or call 360-546-KIDS. 6:30-10:30 pm

3 Saturday

Home Depot Kids’ Workshop. Free, monthly hands-on, “how-to” craft workshops designed for kids ages 5-12. First Saturday of each month at Home Depot, 8601 NE Andresen Rd., Vancouver. 9 am-12 pm

Soar with Books on the first Saturday of each month at Pearson Air Museum, 1115 E 5th St., Vancouver. Includes an age-appropriate tour of the museum, an airplane story read beneath the wings of a historic aircraft, and a craft project. Museum admission applies. Children under age 6 are admitted for free. Admission for students ages 6 to 17, seniors or active military with ID is $5. Adult admission is $7. For more information, contact Pearson Air Museum at 360-694-7026 or visit www.pearsonairmuseum.org 10 am

Barnes & Noble Children’s Story Time at 7700 NE 4th Plain Blvd., Vancouver. Free snack, activity, and story. 11 am

Chelatchie Prairie Railroad ride through the farmland and forests of Clark County, along the Lewis River with

a stop at Big Creek Falls. Fares: Adults $15, Seniors $14, Children 5-11 years - $10; 2-4 years - $8; Under 2 – Free. Trains leave from the station located at 207 S. Railroad Ave., Yacolt. Call 360-686-3559 or visit www.bycx.com for reservations, operating schedule, and more information. 12 pm & 2:30 pm

Free Movie Nights at Café Sip ‘n’ Play, 3000 SE 164th Ave., Vancouver – Aladdin. 5 pm

4 Sunday

Chelatchie Prairie Railroad (See Sept. 3) 12 pm & 2:30 pm

5 Monday Chelatchie Prairie Railroad (See Sept. 3) 12 pm & 2:30 pm 6 Tuesday Café Learn and Play. Free storytelling, songs and ABC’s for ages 5 and under every Tuesday at Café Sip ‘n’ Play, 3000 SE 164th Ave., Vancouver. 10 am

Kazoodles Toys East Side Stories and Songs for Preschoolers. Free every Tuesday at 13503 SE Mill Plain Blvd. #B-3, Vancouver. 10:30 amAfter-School Special for grades 4-12 Tuesdays at Three Creeks Community Library, 800-C NE Tenney Rd., Vancouver. Bring YuGiOh or Magic-the-

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Gathering cards, or play with library’s board games, dice, cards and puzzles. 4-6 pm 7 Wednesday Barnes & Noble Children’s Story Time. (See Sept 3) 11 am

InBeTweens activities for ages 8-12 Wednesdays at Cascade Park Community Library, 600 NE 136th Ave., Vancouver. First Wednesday - Book Discussion, Second Wednesday – Games, Third Wednesday – Art, Fourth Wednesday - Tween Choice. 5 pmStep into Fashion benefit for Second Step Housing at the Hilton Vancouver, 301 W. 6th St., Vancouver. Includes a runway show, silent auction, and dinner

to benefit Second Step Housing, which helps move women from homelessness to independence in the Vancouver area. This night of celebrating style will showcase local clothes designers, hair stylists, and models as well as celebrity models Vancouver Mayor Tim Leavitt and Battle Ground Mayor Mike Curaulo. Call 360-993-5301 or email [email protected] for tickets. 5:30-8:30 pm 8 Thursday

Comedian Rick Huddle at Café Sip ‘n’ Play, 3000 SE 164th Ave., Vancouver. Join in the fun as Rick takes you on a zany pirate adventure. Free with paid admission to play areas. 10 am

Salmon Creek Farmers’ Market Thursdays through September. (See Sept. 1) 3-7 pm 9 Friday

Free Movie Nights at Café Sip ‘n’ Play, 3000 SE 164th Ave., Vancouver – Cinderella. 5 pm

“Twi-Lite,” a stage parody of the film “Twilight” at Loves Street Playhouse, 126 Loves Ave., Woodland. Tickets $10 advance, $12 at the door. The show is family-friendly and appropriate for ages 4 to 104. Tickets can be purchased online at www.Twi-LiteShow.com or by calling 888-473-7869. 7:30 pm

Vancouver Sausage Festival at St. Joseph Catholic School, 6500 Highland Dr., Vancouver. Carnival, food, entertainment, 5K run, and more. Admission $2, or $1 with non-perishable food donation. Event schedule and more information at



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10 Saturday

Compassion Ridgefield free medical and dental clinic at View Ridge Middle School, 510 Pioneer St. Ridgefield. Free meal also provided. Visit www.compassionridgefield.com for more information. 9 am-3 pm

8th annual Vancouver Peace and Justice Fair at Esther Short Park, Vancouver. Free festival with children’s activities and more than 50 organizations within the greater Clark County area working for environmental issues, fair trade, animal rights, religious rights, gender issues, peace, economic and social justice represented. 9 am-5 pm

Vancouver Sausage Festival at St. Joseph Catholic School, 6500 Highland Dr., Vancouver. (See Sept. 9) 10:30 am-11 pm

Barnes & Noble Children’s Story Time. (See Sept 3) 11 am

Pearson Air Museum’s Second Saturday Cinema, 1115 E 5th St., Vancouver. With regular admission, visitors can enjoy a classic aviation-themed film in the museum’s Tex Rankin Theater. Adult admission is $7. Admission for students ages 6 to 17, seniors or active military with ID is $5. Children under age 6 are admitted for free. For movie schedule and other details, call 360-694-7026 or visit www.pearsonairmuseum.org. 12 pm

Second Saturdays at the Water Resources Education Center, 4600 SE Columbia Way, Vancouver. Each second Saturday of the month, kids and their families are invited to explore a different topic through hands-on activities, games and stories. September’s Second Saturday event is part of the annual Columbia Flyway Wildlife Show, including a wood carving show and various bird-related activities. Children

can paint little wooden birds or color and learn about different types of birds. Children must be accompanied by a parent or guardian. 1-3 pm Free Movie Nights at Café Sip ‘n’ Play, 3000 SE 164th Ave., Vancouver – Cinderella. 5 pm

“Twi-Lite,” a stage parody of the film “Twilight” at Loves Street Playhouse, 126 Loves Ave., Woodland. (See Sept. 9) 7:30 pm 11 Sunday

Vancouver Sausage Festival at St. Joseph Catholic School, 6500 Highland Dr., Vancouver. (See Sept. 9) 10:30 am-8 pm

“Twi-Lite,” a stage parody of the film “Twilight” at Loves Street Playhouse, 126 Loves Ave., Woodland. (See Sept. 9) 2 pm

13 Tuesday

Café Learn and Play. Storytelling every Tuesday at Café Sip ‘n’ Play. (See Sept. 6) 10 am

Kazoodles Toys East Side Stories and Songs for Preschoolers. (See Sept. 6) 10:30 am

After-School Special for grades 4-12 at Three Creeks Community Library. (See Sept. 6) 4-6 pm

14 Wednesday


InBeTweens activities for ages 8-12 Wednesdays at Cascade Park Community Library (See Sept. 7) 5 pm

15 Thursday

Salmon Creek Farmers’ Market Thursdays through September. (See Sept. 1) 3-7 pm

16 Friday

Free Movie Nights at Café Sip ‘n’ Play, 3000 SE 164th Ave., Vancouver – Ratatouille. 5 pmFriday Fun Night at Kids Club Fun and Fitness. (See Sept. 2) 6:30-10:30 pm

Magenta Improv Theater at Magenta Theater, 606 Main St., Vancouver. Always family-friendly and audience participation is completely voluntary. Tickets: $7, at the door only. 7:30 pm

“Twi-Lite,” a stage parody of the film “Twilight” at Loves Street Playhouse, 126 Loves Ave., Woodland. (See Sept. 9) 7:30 pm

17 Saturday

Sturgeon Festival at the Water Resources Education Center, 4600 SE Columbia Way, Vancouver. Free opportunity for the entire family to learn about fish and other animals in and around the Columbia River, with fish dissections and the Creature Feature reptile show. Visit www.cityofvancouver.us/watercenter for more details.9 am-1 pm

Chelatchie Prairie Railroad(See Sept. 3) 12 pm & 2:30 pm

Pearson Air Museum’s Second Saturday

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“Twi-Lite,” a stage parody of the film “Twilight” at Loves Street Playhouse, 126 Loves Ave., Woodland. (See Sept. 9) 7:30 pm

18 Sunday

Chelatchie Prairie Railroad (See Sept. 3) 12 pm & 2:30 pm


20 Tuesday


Kazoodles Toys East Side Stories and Songs for Preschoolers. (See Sept. 6) 10:30 amAfter-School Special for grades 4-12 at Three Creeks Community Library. (See Sept. 6) 4-6 pm

21 Wednesday


InBeTweens activities for ages 8-12 Wednesdays at Cascade Park Community Library (See Sept. 7) 5 pm 22 Thursday Salmon Creek Farmers’ Market Thursdays through September. (See Sept. 1) 3-7 pm 23 Friday Free Movie Nights at Café Sip ‘n’ Play, 3000 SE 164th Ave., Vancouver – Bambi. 5 pm

“Twi-Lite,” a stage parody of the film “Twilight” at Loves Street Playhouse,

126 Loves Ave., Woodland. (See Sept. 9) 7:30 pm

24 Saturday

Compassion Vancouver East free medical and dental clinic at Mill Plain Elementary, 400 SE 164th Ave., Vancouver. Visit www.compassionvancouver.com for more information. 9 am-3 pm

Harvest Fun Day at 78th Street Heritage Farm in Hazel Dell. Clark County Historical Museum’s annual free-family-fun-on-the-farm day with scarecrow-making, face-painting, pie-eating and corn-shucking contests, live music, and farming demonstrations and activities. Call 360-993-5679 for more information or to register for contests. 10 am-4 pm

Free Movie Nights at Café Sip ‘n’ Play, 3000 SE 164th Ave., Vancouver – Bambi. 5 pm “Twi-Lite,” a stage parody of the film “Twilight” at Loves Street Playhouse, 126 Loves Ave., Woodland. (See Sept. 9) 7:30 pm

25 Sunday


27 Tuesday


Kazoodles Toys East Side Stories and Songs for Preschoolers. (See Sept. 6) 10:30 am

After-School Special for grades 4-12 at Three Creeks Community Library. (See Sept. 6) 4-6 pm

28 Wednesday


InBeTweens activities for ages 8-12 Wednesdays at Cascade Park Community Library (See Sept. 7) 5 pm 29 Thursday

Salmon Creek Farmers’ Market Thursdays through September. (See Sept. 1) 3-7 pm

30 Friday Free Movie Nights at Café Sip ‘n’ Play, 3000 SE 164th Ave., Vancouver – Beauty and the Beast. 5 pm

The Kids Cooking Corner anniversary celebration and fundraiser, 5206 NE 78th St., Vancouver. Reception, tour, presentation, and auction followed by an ask and a small auction. Beer and wine provided. Tickets: $29, table sponsors for eight: $400. Tickets available at the door, or at www.thekidscookingcorner.com. Table sponsors call 360-433-9114 to reserve. 6-9 pm

The Kids Cooking Corner

Anniversary celebration

and auction, September 30

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EventsKohl's Car Set Community

Outreach Program ................. 19

Dance

Danceworks ............................. 5

FitnessMountain View Ice Arena ......... 5Naydenov Gymnastics............. 9YMCA Clark County............... 17

HealthAdventure Dental ................... 27Doernbecher .......................... 23Evergreen Pediatrics ..............11 Firstenburg ............................ 32Legacy Health System........... 13Pacific Midwifery .................... 15PeaceHealth Southwest .......... 2Sante Mama .......................... 17Under the Sea Kids Dentist ..... 5Vancouver Pediatric Dentistry ........ 3Women’s Clinic of Vancouver ..... 7

Parties & EntertainmentMountain View Ice Arena ......... 5Naydenov Gymnastics............. 9

Radio Radio Disney ......................... 31

Real EstateCapstone ............................... 21

Retail Kazoodles ................................ 7Westfield Vancouver .............. 25

ResourcesDSHS (foster care) ................ 25Einsteinwise............................. 7

Restaurant

Blind Onion .............................. 9

SchoolsSt Andrew Christian Preschool . 17

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