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SECRETS OF HAPPY LIVING
Kiruthigha .E.B MBA 09053
Sankar Rajan MBA 09091
Saraswat Bhattacharya MBA 09093
Vinay Gupta MBA 09121
Vivek Ramdas MBA 09123
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W HY IS HAPPY LIFE SO
IMPORTANT2
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LOOK AROUND YOU ,LOOK AT YOURSELF
Look at a bookstore , is the personal
development and self help books are growing at
an alarming rate
Do you find many shows and columns innewspaper too improve life ,reduce stress
Why is there so much importance attached today
to work life balance,(did you find your
grandparents ever talk about it)
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LOOK AROUND YOU , LOOK AT YOURSELF
How many times have we come across people
with anxiety disorder
People with addictions
THE ANSWER:
Many times ,Almost Daily !!!!
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THE WORLD HEALTH ORGANIZATION
POINTS OUT «..
30% of the adult population suffer from
recognized psychiatric disorder
Depression is the fourth biggest disease and by
2020 it will become the second biggest 1 in 4 adults suffer from serious addictions
1 in 2 people will go through a stage in life where
they consider suicide
1 in 10 people attempt suicide
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W HY IS IT SO DIFFICULT TO BE
HAPPY6
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LETS TAKE A JOURNEY BACK IN TIME
Primitive human mind being ² was to look out for
any danger and avoid it or kill it- survival
Another important aspect ²Must belong to a clan
The stone age persons ambition-The more thebetter
Comparing amongst members to identify the
chief
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A ND WE CONTINUE DOING THIS EVEN
TODAY
Our mind is in constant look out for trouble-
Is it good or bad ? Dangerous or safe
Our we going to lose our jobs, embarrass our
selves in public, will we get cancer (oh no!!!) We need to have more money, power to be
accepted in society
We keep comparing to identify our worth
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THE EVOLUTION OF M AN
Our mind has evolved over the last thousand
years, since the very first species
Our minds evolved to help us survive
With each generation our mind has becomeextremely skilled at predicting danger and
avoiding danger
So evolution has shaped or mind to suffer
psychologically
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SO W HAT IS HAPPINESS10
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THERE ARE TWO VERY DIFFERENT MEANINGS
A feeling of gratification ² we all enjoy happy
feeling so no wonder we chase
The True meaning of happiness is: A rich, full and meaningful life , where are
actions come from our values close to our heart
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THE HAPPINESS TRAPS12
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CERTAIN MYTHS ABOUT HAPPINESS
Myth 1: happiness is a natural state for all
human beings
Myth 2: If you re not happy you are defective
Myth 3: To create a better life , we must get rid of negative feelings
Myth4 : You should be able to control what you
think and feel
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THE ILLUSION OF CONTROL
The Mind enables us to shape our world ²the
things we want, the food we eat, our career ..
This amazing ability helps us control our
environment Breaking News: This will work in material world,
but what about our internal world ²thoughts
,urges memories
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C AN WE CONTROL OUR INNER WORLD
Here is a simple experiment:
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We can control but we have very little control
over our inner mind
Culture teach us to control our feelings, thoughts
etc
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THE A CCEPTANCE AND
COMMITMENT THERAPY17
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DIFFUSION TECHNIQUE
´Relate to your thought in a new way ²accept it ´
The mind is a great story teller hence we all fall
prey to cognitive fusion
y
Thoughts= words in our headsy Images =pictures inside our head
y Sensation feelings inside our body
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HOW TO DEFUSE A THOUGHT ² COGNITIVE
DIFFUSION
Musical thought ² sing a thought to the rhythm
of the birthday tune
Naming your story
Find out whether a thought is useful to you doesit motivate you
Thoughts are stories, so hold on to your values
lightly not tightly !!!
Silly voice technique
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WHAT IS DIFFUSION
Diffusion is all about seeing them for what they
really are and making peace with them; allowing
them to be there without fighting them
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EMOTIONS AND BEHAVIOR
Emotions never control our behavior
It creates a tendency , and tendencies can be
changed
So never try changing your emotions to changeyourself !!
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EMOTIONS ARE LIKE WEATHER
´ they are always present and constantly
changingµ
A Significant
event
Get Ready
for action
The Mind
gets involved
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STRUGGLE SWITCH ² PUT IT OFF
With struggle switch off :
Our emotions are free to move
We don·t waste time and energy fighting or
avoiding them We don·t generate all that dirty discomfort
With the struggle switch on:
Our emotions are stuck
We waste huge energy
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JUDGING EMOTIONS !!!
W hy am i feeling like this Tries to pinpoint feelings leads
to the thought that life isproblems
What have I done to deserve this This sets you on self blame
Why am I like this Search entire life history for reasons
why you are like this. This leads to
anger, resentment and it often ends
up blaming your parents
What is wrong with me Shifting through your faults, flaws
and defects
I cant handle this Your mind is feeding you the story
that your weak, something bad is
going to happenI shouldn·t feel like this Your mind is trying to fight reality
that reality is wrong ² ´give me my
realityµ
I wish I didn·t feel like this Wishful thinking
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EXPANSION
Making room for unpleasant feeling sensation
and urges
The key :observe and be aware of yourself
y
Step 1:observey Step2 breath
y Step3 Allow and acknowledge those feelings
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URGE SURFING
OBSERVE
y O=observe
y B=Breathe
y
S=surf y E=expand
y R=refocus
y V=value
y E=engage
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CONNECTION
Connection means fully living in the present;
focusing on and engaging on fully whatever we do
²Being in present
The simple 5 things technique Connecting with morning routine:)
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V ALUES
Values are ideas and beliefs we hold dear to
heart- how we want to live be treated and so on.
Be in connect with your values- and make clear
what is important to you
-The Bulls eye worksheet
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THE BULL·S EYE EFFECT«.
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COMMITTED ACTION
Take effective actions
- Guided by values
Take actions again and again
Happiness is not pleasure, success, mood,
it·s a stable state of mind
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A WARENESS LEADS TO H APPINESS
What is awareness?
It·s having a 3600 vision of our surroundings
It is having awareness
About me Within me
Without me
Relevant to me
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A WARENESS: UNDERSTANDING THE VIEWS
Reality
Your
ViewMy
View
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WHAT IS AWARENESS
Wis
L ve / Neg ,
Neur tic
Awareness
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WHAT SHOULD ONE DO FOR BEING AWARE
Effort, Hard
work
DisciplineKnowledge
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H APPY LIVING WHAT IS A HEALTHY
PROCESS
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Being Doing Having
Healthy Process
Having Doing Being
Unhealthy Process
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HEALTHY PROCESS BEINGDOINGHAVING
Excellence happens because ones ¶being·
(sum total of his strengths, interests and innate
talents)
Flows into his ¶doing·
(the work or profession that he has chosen)
The ¶havings· or the rewards associated with the workin terms of promotions, monetary rewards, name,
fame, respect etc. accrue to him because of his
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THE CHANNEL OF FLOW: STATE OF BLISS
A very highly skilled person is engaged in a task,
which is difficult and complex enough to engage
his complete attention.
The person gets completely immersed in the taskthat he loves to do as well is very good at.
In such cases the work becomes a joy and hours
can pass in a state of bliss such that he forgets
himself
So, to be happy at the cognitive level, a person
has to not only be very skilled at some vocation
but also has to find opportunities to express his
skill 41
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CRITICAL A SPECT: CONTROL OF EMOTIONS
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IDENTIFYING YOURSELF
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NormalSelf
Narcissistic
Self
Real Person: Weak , Vulnerable
Artificial Person: Superhero, Sky high ego
We may give more credit to ourselves than
required Bottom-line: Find out our own weakness and
address the problem
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INTEGRATED PERSON
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Self
actualizing
man
Spirit
(Spiritual)
Heart(Emotional)
Mind
(Cognitive)
Body
(Physiological)
Respects his body; Follows
healthy ha bits
Invests constantly in their
chosen vocation; deals with
infor mation ver y effectively
Emotionally free; invests in nourishing relationshi ps
Enjoys what he does;
encourages & su pports
growth of other s
Self
actualizing
man
Spirit
(Spiritual)
Heart(Emotional)
Mind
(Cognitive)
Body
(Physiological)
Respects his body; Follows
healthy ha bits
Invests constantly in their
chosen vocation; deals with
infor mation ver y effectively
Emotionally free; invests in nourishing relationshi ps
Enjoys what he does;
encourages & su pports
growth of other s
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SPAN OF ATTENTION AND ITS QUALITY
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HU
H HH
H UU
H
H
HH
UH H
H
H UU
H
H
H
Mind as a bucket which accumulates ha ppiness as H and unha ppines s as U
Self ObjectQuality o attention
Causes quality o
ex perience
Self ObjectQuality o attention
Causes quality o
ex perience
The quality of the self·s attention to the experiencewhich ensures happiness or lack of it
This is one of the main reason even rich people may notbe happy
E.g. Enjoying a cup of coffee, Natural beauty etc. Paying attention to each and every pleasurable activity
can go a very long way to enjoy our material prosperityand adding to our overall happiness and gratitudelevels.
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MEMORIES : A PERMANENT IMPRESSION
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HU
H HH
H UU
H
H
HH
UH H
H
H UU
H
H
H
Mind as a bucket which accumulates ha ppiness as H and unha ppines s as U
One needs to be constantly aware of what ishappening in one·s life on a moment-to-moment
basis.
This helps one to collect ¶H·s from pleasurable
experiences and to avoid ¶U·s as much as possible. An awareness of this fact may help one to sort out
many of one·s bad habits, which generate
unpleasantness
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V ALUES OF A HAPPY PERSON
Truth
Honesty
Integrity
Respect for human dignity: Love & Compassion Belief in the virtues of hard
work or industriousness
Respect for laws and norms
Cooperativeness
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WHY PEOPLE ARE UNHAPPY
Thoughts Produces feelings
Feelings like
y Frustration
y
Procrastinationy Pressure
y Jealousy
y Greed
y Anger
y Guilt
y Revenge
y Anxiety
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FORMULA FOR HAPPINESS!!
X+Y+Z+W= Happiness
y X Work
y Y Play
y Z Mouth shut!
y W Meditation/ Reflection
Whatever is happening is happening and
whatever is not happening is not happening!!
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Control the life-shaping power of
your thoughts and attitudes
Old Traditional View
Pessimism Optimism
New View
Optimism
Low HighPessimism
Low High 51
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Hard optimism is all about not thinking negative.
Think positive vs Eliminating negative thoughts.
An attitude of positive expectancy energizes us, calls out
our potential and heightens our awareness of opportunity.
A negative frame of mind saps your energy as well as the
energy of people around you, weakens your confidence,
hurts your creativity and problem solving skills.
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Hard optimism doesn·t come from merely repeating
positive statements to ourselves to ourselves.
It comes when we change how we deal with our negative
thoughts and feelings.
Positive thinking is important but nonnegative thinking is
the essence of hard optimism.
Optimism or pessimism - ultimately it·s your choice
´What an interesting life I had. And how I wish I had realized it
sooner.µ53
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Assess your current level of
optimism
A lot of people are reading themselves wrong.
Is optimism inherited?
To a certain extent.
But it can also be developed over time i.e. shaped by
your early upbringing plus the influence of life·s ups and
downs.
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Children rank particularly high on optimism but it drops
significantly once they enter puberty.
Females have greater emotional range than men i.e.
more optimism and pessimism.
Fate doesn·t determine our emotional fortune.
Fate is one thing, but how we choose to face it is quite
another.
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Circumstances are going to affect your attitude.
DNA also has its say in who you are and how you feel.
But your own consciousness bats last.
Change the way you look at life and you literally shape a
different life for yourself.
´Be careful how you interpret the world: It is like that.µ
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Develop the explanatory style of an
optimist
Each of us has an inner voice that only we can hear.
Those of us who end up with an optimistic explanatory
style have an inner self that reaffirms our ability and
predicts good fortune.
Those who have a pessimistic explanatory style have an
inner voice that criticizes our performance and warns of
trouble to come. 57
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How optimists interpret bad events :-
� Transient
� External
� Specific to the situation i.e. not pervasive.
How optimists interpret good events :-
� Long lasting
� Internal
� Pervasive
´What the caterpillar calls a tragedy, the master calls a
butterfly.µ
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Eliminate the explanatory style
that pessimists use
Where do you think most of the bad news comes from
that·s floating around in your head?
From yourself since you talk more to yourself than to
anyone else in the world.
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Pessimists warped explanations for good events :-
� Success gets attributed to external factors.
� Good fortune is a random event i.e. temporary.
� Causes of good events are specific in nature.
´Whenever he thought about it he felt terrible. And so, at last,
he came to a fateful decision. He decided not to think about it.´
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Recognize and dispute pessimistic
thoughts
Five enemies of optimism :-
� Concern
� Complaining
� Commiserating
�
Criticizing
� Catastrophizing
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Kill negative thinking while it·s young.
When worry first sets in take a moment to reflect on past
successes.
Deliberately change your inner voice from ´problem
talkµto ´solution talkµ.
If you·re hit with the urge to complain put it on hold until
you·ve scanned for good news.
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Resist the urge to commiserate with others. It is not
rewarding and just sucks all the optimism out of the air.
Beware of falling into the trap of criticizing.
Never catastrophize. Catastrophizing is a feeding frenzy
of brooding about the past and imagining worst-case
scenarios for the future.
´The door to hell is locked from the inside.´ 64
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Use positive reappraisal to handle
problems and disappointments
When adversity hits, our innate response is to focus
sharply on the dangers,difficulties and downside.
Nothing wrong with this. But how long should we let it
continue.
After the initial shock wears off, shift your focus away
from what·s troubling about the situation and search
intensely for what·s potentially good. 65
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Optical illusion ² Ugly old woman vs Beautiful young
woman.
Positive reappraisal refers to deliberate switching of your
attention from worst-case to best-case thinking.
Eyeing adversity from a positive angle opens up our field
of view.We start looking at the situation with a broader and
longer-term perspective. 66
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People who practice positive reappraisal have a way of
emerging from difficulties stronger, happier and better off
than before.
How you construe a situation literally helps create the
reality.
Learn to exploit adversity.
´No sense being pessimistic. Wouldn·t work anyway.´ 67
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Make hope a habit
Research shows that hope plays a surprisingly potent role
in giving people a measurable advantage in realms as
diverse as academic achievement, bearing up in onerous
jobs and coping with tragic illness.
Hope helps move us in the direction of our goals and
ambitions.
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Most of us make the mistake of counting on hope to ´just
happenµ.
We should realize that this is a skill we should develop.
Always give hope a fighting chance.
´What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters
compared to what lies within us.´
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VIEW OF EDWARD DE BONO«
´Just as burning is the proper function of fire,
happiness is the proper function of man·s
existence.µ
Twin aims of living in current meta-system, -
Happiness & Dignity.
Dignity is happiness with one·s self.
Happiness must be realized here, in this life.
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IT IS A DELIBERATE EFFORT«.
Myth is that to try to culture happiness may
seem to destroy spontaneity of nature.
Today·s world is not that peaceful & romantic.
World became complex and pressures are greatand confusing.
Deliberate effort must be made to culture
essential ingredients of happiness.
Self awareness and acknowledgement is the key.
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COUNTER PARTS OF H APPINESS«..
Pleasure
Its very real. So real that brain·s Pleasure centre can
be stimulated externally.
Natural purpose is like the sugar coating on pill to
make man do necessary thing to survive. Over indulgence is like a child eating a full bottle of
iron pill and gets poisoned.
Greed, selfishness and self indulgent is the
consequence.
No natural cut off to it. So its us who have to balance.
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Excitement
Highly short ter. Soon wears off and demands more
and more effort.
Boredom, ingredient for further unhappiness, is
created by excitement. Most of the time counter productive, blunt our
senses.
Have to be cultured very carefully.
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Enthusiasm
Opposite of apathy, so life enhancing.
Can be attached to anything.
Not that counter productive without balance.
But excessive enthusiasm can lead to frequent
switching of interest.
Possibility of being carried away, unable to invest
effort and interest in absence of it.
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Joy
Pleasure of more aesthetic and intellectual type. Circumstances arouse joy may be recognized, but not easily
produced on demand.
A combination of circumstances and mood.
Interest Permanent source of pleasure.
Distinct source of happiness in itself.
Durable, dependable and permanent.
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Relief
Freedom from fear and worry, freedom from guilt,
freedom from pressure.
Though brief, covers specific moments of happiness,
but still very important. In today·s world, relief from complexity and confusion
is real happiness.
Relief from being able to make a difficult effective
decision is also real happiness.
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Peace
More than just the absence of discomfort.
More than just relief, complacency and smugness.
Proper functioning of human system.
No excess friction or strain, unconstrained happiness.
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CONCEPT OF SELF SPACE, AND LIFE
SPACE«.
Life SpaceSelf Space
Near
Happiness
Ego
Near
Dignity
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THE LUMP EFFECT«..
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TO STRIKE A PROPER BALANCE«..
Problem of happiness is the problem of balance.
We prefer to deal with polarized, either/or
decision.
Concept of ´Cut Offsµ and ´Trade Offµ is very
important.
Awareness of one·s own temperament and past
experiences.
Development of will power and discipline, also
sensitization through deliberate training.
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L ANCE AMSTRONG
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THE LIFE AND CAREER OF L ANCE A RMSTRONG
Lance has won the Tour De France, the toughest
and most prestigious cycling event for 7
consecutive years 1999 -2005.
What makes this record even more remarkable is
his well documented recovery from a near fatalattack of cancer.
Lance recovered from this painful experience to
become, against all expectations the most
successful cyclist of his generation.
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F ACING THE DEATH«
He had symptoms of pain in testicles earlier. He
ignored.
Later started coughing up blood, and went for
diagonosis.
Though mispredicted by some doctors as sinius,
finally Advanced Testicular Cancer was
diagnosed.
Due to late discovery it turned to metastasis, and
spread to lungs and brain from abdomen. Immediate surgery and chemotherapy was
needed, still leaving less than 40% chance of
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DWELL WITH DEATH..
Only one thing, beyond everything, that immense
will power and trust in himself.
Didn't panicked, didn·t lost focus
Took intelligent rational decision.
Chose a different combination of chemotherapy
medicines.
Etoposide, Ifosfamide, and Cisplatin. Using
Ifosfamide instead of Bleomycin, to avoid lung
toxicity. Decision saved his career.
Fought internally a lot, came back in training
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