Shhh!

Your Secret weaponto finding Love!

By Anika DiGloria

This is the first step to doing the work that can help you find and keep your DREAMGUY. Let's get started!

First things first. You can not LOVE anyone else until you LOVE yourself.

In this workbook you are going to learn how to boost your self confidence and get intouch with why you are W_O_N_D_E_R_F_U_L !!.

You will also discover what women need to focus on when it comes to love andrelationships so you feel empowered by who you are.

Sounds good, yes?

Next, we will look at understanding men and how confidence plays such a big role inhaving a great relationship- men respect a woman who knows her worth!

I have mentioned before that they are 6 stages to finding love. Keep going, you are onyour way. After we finish with 1. Mental Readiness (Confidence and Self Love)

There is stage 2. The Dance. In my coaching program we will dive deeper into thedynamics of men and women. Why you attract a certain type of guy, how you caninterrupt the same old patterns, etc.

Ready? It's is time to go within and and unleash that GLOW.

*Always act like you are wearing an invisible crown.

*"Don't be a woman that needs a man... Be a woman that a man needs!!"

Anika DiGloria

Welcome

How to boost Your Confidence

Women, Love & Self Image

Confidence is to have full TRUST and FAITH in one's ability.

Generally you develop a skill or craft that you are proud of. You learn something well. Ittakes practice & consistency. It is not a mysterious quality that some have and others justdon't. It is something that you can build up for yourself.

Of all the things to work on, building confidence is a quality that I think makes every area inlife better. When it comes to finding your soulmate ladies, building up your self esteem willdo wonders in the love department.

When it comes to finding love- Women need to practice TRUST in themselves and payattention to what they FOCUS on about themselves.

TRUST in your ability to rely on yourself. Trust in your value. Trust in your worth. Trustthat you are enough. FOCUS on what works about you, your assets. Focus on why youwould be a catch. Focus on what you have to offer someone.

Why I am awesome: Why I am a catch:

List 20 different reasons why any man would be lucky to have you

1.2.3.4.5.6.7.8.9.10.

1.2.3.4.5.6.7.8.9.10.

The Secret Weapon

What are your defining moments about love, what left an imprint on your self esteem? ie. First heartbreak or breaking up

How have you minimized getting hurt again? What did you decide about yourself?

What did you learn from your parents about love and how did it impact your self esteemor the way you see yourself? ie. Feeling unlovable due to parent leaving from divorce.

How do you protect yourself from feeling vulnerable when dating?

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Getting in touch with your self image and your beliefs about love is a great tool todiscover barriers and remove them. I believe that what we have in our life is a matchfor what our dominant thoughts and feelings we have. So lets look, where are youinsecure or doubtful? These feelings are conflicting and in the way of your happiness.

your Self Image

Any thoughts and feelings about your self that "You Do Not Deserve Love" needto be released, then replaced with feelings of SELF WORTH and your VALUE.

You have the power to choose what you think about yourself.

There is nothing to do with the old limiting thoughts. Bring your consciousness tothem with the intention to release them. Let them fade away.

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What are you most critical of about yourself? Where did that ideal come from? ________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

Out with the old, in with the new...

What lessons about yourself/or love from your childhood are you letting go?__________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

You have to be willing to risk getting hurt again

for the ultimate reward of true love.

Starting today what would be a more empowering statement about yourselfthat you can stand in as your new truth?______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

What negative experience from your first heart break are you releasing becauseyou see it is getting in the way?______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

What protective habits can you setting aside that might be getting in the way?______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

What would be a more compassionate opinion you could have about yourself?Instead of being critical, could you be accepting?______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

Notice your small accomplishments. Learn to cook something well. Study & know a lot about your passions. Keep your promises to yourself. Practice self acceptance. See the glass half full. Fake it 'til you make it. Use goodbody posture: stand tall, give good eye contact and speak clearly! Focus on yourstrengths. List at least 3 things big or small that you do really well.

Your SELF IMAGE is an idea you created in your mind. To create a better picture ofyourself, you have think more positive thoughts about yourself than negative ones. Tryto have it be a 5 good thoughts for every bad thought. 5:1 ratio.

You can only think one thought at a time. So if you are not consciously thinkingpositive thoughts, you are most likely to be thinking negative ones. What is the mostcommon thought you have about your self?_____________________________________________________________________

If you are too hard on yourself or too self critical, you will attract a partner who isequally judgmental and critical of you. You can shift your perception. For everycomplaint see what you can be grateful for.

Things to do to build confidence

Self Image

What do I do well:1.2.3.

What are you critical about: What is the silver lining? 1. 1.2. 2.3. 3.

For example: 1. want to loose weight 1. grateful I have enough to eat.

How to practice SELF LOVE

MIND: Sign up for a new class. Clean your house. Buy something you'vealways wanted. Be grateful for something today. Be patient & compassionatewith yourself. Define & follow your passion.

BODY: Choose food that nourishes. DANCE, move that body. Book amassage. Take a day off from work & relax. Notice how lovely you looktoday. Give yourself a compliment every time yuo pass a mirror!!

SOUL: Buy yourself flowers. Plan a girls night. Host a dinner party withloved ones. SMILE a lot. Hold a hug for 60 seconds. SING. Laugh out loud.Be still & Meditate. Watch a sunset with a glass of wine and be happy forthis moment!

Express your feminine sideFrom spending all day in your head getting things done. Switch & connect to yourheart center. Find joy from your feminine perspective. Experience things you Love.

SET THE MOOD: play music, light candles, buy flowers, wear something pretty.

BE CREATIVE: craft, paint, cook, dance, write poetry.

EXPERIENCE PLEASURE: take a bath, enjoy a piece of chocolate, etc.

APPRECIATE BEAUTY: Walk in nature, visit a museum, watch the sunset/sunrise.

Things you do that show a man you have confidence...

When you show a willingness to counter offer. He asks you out lastminute, you say "Im busy then, how about next Wednesday?" Heknows you aren't a push over.

Express your opinion when deciding what to do. When he asks"Where do you want to go to dinner?" You say "I would like to go toItalian food" versus "whatever you want."

Be graceful when he gives you a compliment. Say "thank you"versus saying something to dismiss it "Oh no, not really. They needwork.."

You have your own life that you are happy with. You are busy withyour friends and your own hobbies.

If something is missing from your life. Odds are, you can give it toyourself instead of thinking a man can fill a void.

Ideally a relationship enhances your life, not completes it.

By having confidence, it makes him MORE interested. You see,by showing him you know your value you become a bigger prizein his eyes.

What a man thinks...

Congratulations on a job well done!

You have just spent some serious time developing your most important assetand that is your Self Esteem. It takes practice and courage and YOU CAN DO iT!

If you would like to go deeper and find out what it would be like to work withme one on one, send me a quick email and we can set up a free discovery call.love@AnikaDiGloria.com

From now on, anytime you find yourself feeling a little insecure, refer back tothe work you just did. Remember why you are awesome. Remember whatmakes you a catch. Remind yourself of what you do well. No one can take thataway from you.

"You have been criticizing yourself for years, and it hasn’t worked. Tryapproving of yourself and see what happens.”– Louise L. Hay

“To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance”– Oscar Wilde

“The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat,known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out ofthe depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity and anunderstanding of life that fills them with compassions, gentleness, and a deeploving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.”– Elizabeth Kubler-Ross

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