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SDS PODCAST EPISODE 320 FIVE MINUTE FRIDAY: MENTORSHIP

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Page 1: SDS PODCAST EPISODE 320 FIVE MINUTE FRIDAY: MENTORSHIP · personality tests, whether we are introvert or extrovert, but we already covered that in another podcast episode. Vitaly:

SDS PODCAST

EPISODE 320

FIVE MINUTE

FRIDAY:

MENTORSHIP

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Kirill: This is Five Minute Friday, Mentorship.

Kirill: Welcome back to the SuperDataScience podcast, ladies

and gentlemen, super excited to have you on this

episode. So today I have with me here Vitaly and

Hadelin, my two good friends and people who I

actually consider my mentors. And we are in New

Zealand. We're doing a motorbike trip and the

background noise you hear is because we're at a

restaurant, something different. Decided to try it out.

So let me know what you think about this kind of

format. Very casual. We're having dinner and let's say

hi to our guests. Vitaly, how are you going?

Vitaly: Good guys, I'm doing really well and great company,

great country, great food.

Kirill: Awesome. Hadelin?

Hadelin: I'm exhausted. We've just ride for 8 or 10 hours and

we did 500 kilometers. I'm just freaking exhausted.

Kirill: Awesome. Okay, so we're just having some dinner and

some wine and we decided to talk a bit about

mentorship because it's a topic that's come up for us

over the past couple of days. As you may know from

the podcast, Vitaly is my mentor and he's really helped

me out with becoming an entrepreneur and growing

my business and yeah. So just, guys, what are your

thoughts on mentorship? What's it all about?

Vitaly: It's a must thing to have and I think pretty much

everyone has either formal or informal mentors. I think

the sooner you formalize and realize whom you want to

learn from and what you want to learn the better. The

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same way Kirill mentioned that I'm his mentor, which

I'm honored to hear. I think the same way Kirill acts

for me as a mentor in areas that he's good at, being an

entrepreneur, working together in a team with Hadelin

and many other guys from SuperDataScience, building

the business, trying different projects, succeeding,

failing, succeeding again. That's an amazing skill to

have and I'm still learning that. So, mentors are a

must. I have quite a few of my own and if you as

listeners don't have any at this stage or you can't come

up with your top three mentors, it's a good time to

pause and take a piece of paper and a pen and write

down and think about it a little bit more. What do you

think Hadelin, do you have any, do you have any

mentors of your own?

Hadelin: I don't right now, but I'm actually looking for one. I

was not convinced about a mentorship until recently. I

thought I could you know, I thought I didn't need a

mentor. But recently I've been doing a lot of a personal

development. I've been reading a lot of books, I've

studied a lot of success in business, successful

business stories. And I figured out that most of the

most successful entrepreneurs, even celebrities, sport

people, most of them have a mentor. So this got me

pretty convinced that I also need a mentor. And so yes,

for the past few weeks I've been looking for one and I

hope to find one soon. Because now, I honestly believe

that it's really necessary, as you say. You can grow by

yourself, you can develop your business and grow, as

well personally, as professionally. But I am totally

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convinced that you will do it much more efficiently

with a mentor.

Kirill: But how are you going to find a mentor? These are the

past few weeks you've been looking for one. What does

that mean?

Hadelin: Yeah, I've been looking for one. So I looked at some

websites, I contacted mentors that are recognized in

the field and yeah, I guess I'll find it. When you look

for something you, you, you'll find it.`

Kirill: Very interesting. My experience with mentors has been

different. For me, it's always got to happen naturally

except for when you got a business coach. Like I have

a business coach, but there as well, you have to look

that that's kind of more what I think that's the part

where I was looking for someone and going through

different people and finding the right person. In terms

of mentors like the way Vitaly and I met was just, I

was moving furniture for him.

Vitaly: Would you like to tell him the story?

Kirill: So I was moving furniture to Artem Vladimirov and I

we worked at Deloitte and then we had another friend

there who worked there as well his name is Dimitri.

He's also been on the podcast at the very start. Then

Dimitri one day asked us, "Hey guys, could you help

me to come move furniture? We're moving to a

different place." So we came over helped him move

furniture, at the very end, his roommate Vitaly comes

over and like I look at Vitaly and in his eyes I see like

so much passion, energy, intellect. Then in there is

like love from first sight. I decided that he has to

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become, I need to make him my mentor or ask him to

be my mentor and yeah. Oh and wait, wait, wait. Do

you remember what happened after that?

Vitaly: Yes, I do. So I'll take like 10 minutes back. I see Kirill

for the first time. I see he's kind of like a wild eyes, like

crazy craving for learning. And he said, "oh Vitaly do

you mind like, we'll catch up sometime for an hour

just for informal chat. I would like to ask you some

questions" and I kind of like half-hearted listen. "Yeah,

of course. Sure." Thinking that he'll forget it like

tomorrow. And I'll be all good.

Vitaly: Half a day later I kind of like received a text message,

like asking for the place and location. And a day later

Kirill rocks up with a notepad and like 25 or 30

questions and written down and I realize that's going

to take time. And by the end of it I was like extremely

happy. The questions that Kirill asked were like

profound. They started simple like how do I manage

my time, what do I use to manage my commitments?

Like in terms of the calendar and whatnot. And it went

all the way to how do I decide whether I'm happy in

life. And those things started to make me think and I

realized that the questions Kirill was asking were quite

profound and useful for me even to reflect on. That's

how it started like three hours later and like a half of a

notebook written with a handwriting and that was an

amazing session. So yeah, thanks a lot for setting up

and asking those questions.

Kirill: Thanks man for helping me out. And I remember you

recommended the Tim Ferris book "The 4-Hour

Workweek". That's where I found out about it and

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really helped me out in that part of my career

professional journey. And since then like I've, I've also,

I don't know, I guess I've acted as a mentor to some

people and I always try to recommend a book that is

relevant to them in their career journey at that point in

time. Like I know many good books, maybe like 5 or 10

that have affected me profoundly, but I only

recommend one and I choose that based on where they

are.

Vitaly: Interesting you said that because Hadelin and I our

last night discussed exactly that. Do you remember

Hadelin? About the books and movies, the role they

play in our lives. What was our conclusion from, what

are your takeaways from our dinner last night?

Hadelin: Let's see.

Hadelin: Okay, so first of all I was happy to see that I was not

the only one who could be really, really inspired by

characters and movie to whom you identify. So yes, I

thought it was pretty cool to see that movies can

inspire and help you also a lot. So we talked about the

personality tests, whether we are introvert or extrovert,

but we already covered that in another podcast

episode.

Vitaly: Could you mention, your top three, top three books?

Hadelin: Oh yes. Okay. So my favorite one is The Power of Now,

which I actually have right now during this motorcycle

trip in New Zealand.

Hadelin: The second one is Sapiens and the third one is A

Father, A Son, An Odessey. In French? In French is

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[inaudible 00:09:14]. So yeah. Okay. We talked about

this yesterday. We talked about a Greek mythology, so

I don't want to reveal the story, but it's, it's kind of the

same stories as in the Greek mythology and yeah, it's

a, it's about a relationship between a father and a son.

And so I really, I really liked it because I could also

actually identify to the story even if it happens in some

ancient time. And it was written a long time ago. So,

yeah, I don't know, what about you? What were your

main takeaways?

Vitaly: I think you've covered it pretty well, but I think my

main takeaway was that if you don't have always a

person, physical person that you talk to that you

consider a mentor, a lot of times you have characters.

It could be a fictional, could be real that you tried to

aspire to be like, and you watch their behaviors you

reread the same books. Re watch the same movies, so

that was an interesting observation that we had last

night about that. Kirill, do you think you identify

yourself to any of the characters of the movies or

books? Do you think books and movies or maybe

theater plays acted as a mentor, as a in lieu of a

mentor for you?

Kirill: Cool question. I don't identify any like any specific one

character, but like when I always watch movies, the

movies I like the most is where I can identify. In terms

of books, I read very cool fictional book recently called

Red Rising about colonization of Mars and I actually

read Red Rising, then what is the second one? Golden

Sun and Morning Stars like a trilogy by Pierce Brown I

think. That is just really cool. Very Sci-Fi, futuristic,

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amazing book. Highly recommend to everyone and

there, it's really served like a great mentor to me in

terms of leadership, like the leadership skills that are

portrayed during a war, during difficult times, during

space battles and things like that. Like I learned so

much from that and friendships even how to maintain,

nurture friendships. I learned so much from that, from

those three books. I don't think I could've, I had

known those things before. I could have learned that it

would've taken me years to learn those on my own.

Was really really cool. I enjoy that a lot.

Vitaly: So having said that, like the discussion that we had,

what would be the call to action? What would be the

suggestion to the podcast listeners right now?

Kirill: We've already did the go-to action. I think a good

question for you guys is because we discuss like

movies, books, you can listen to podcasts and have

mentors that way, right? You can, I don't know, like

attend webinars, go to seminars and so on, like have

mentors in a passive way that the other person might

not even know that they are your mentor. My question

would be is there a difference between in-person

mentorship versus passive mentorship where you're

just absorbing information, not having those one on

one conversations? What do you reckon?

Hadelin: No, no, no, no, no. For me, you must have the one on

one conversations because I guess the most valuable

help of a mentor is not only to guide but also to push

to take action and you can only be pushed to take

action with the one on one sessions, but then yes, I'm

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new to mentorship. I actually don't even have a mentor

yet, but I'm interested to know what you think.

Vitaly: I think it's a good one. I think if you have what would

probably we called a passive mentorship, there was no

one to objectively, or at least to look at you from

another point of view.

Vitaly: If you learn by yourself, you are identifying your own

gaps and trying to feel them with what you observe

them from a mentor. In one on one interactions there

is a person to tell you something that you didn't know

like to make an observation about your behavior or to

ask a question that you are not able to ask yourself

otherwise. So I think there is a difference. There is an

increased value in having those active mentors and

having those conversations to hear an awesome like $1

million question from a mentor is worth a lot. It could

change your life. You might not be able to hear that

tailored question through a passive mean like through

a podcast through a book. What do you reckon Kirill?

Kirill: I think there's value to both whether passive or active,

but I definitely think the person should not limit

themselves to just passive mentors. The amount of

information insights I've gotten from podcasts, books, I

don't know, webinars, seminars, excuse me and so on

is incredible. However, like Vitaly can say during our

chats, we were talking about this earlier, sometimes

Vitaly says like it's just like one sentence and changes

the course of my whole career because I respect him so

much and because he understands my situation very

deeply, it's not so generalized, the advice is specifically

to me.

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Kirill: So like for instance, those of you who have taken our

Deep Learning, Artificial Intelligence A-Z courses,

whether on Udemy or the SuperDataScience, Hadelin

and I did the Machine Learning A-Z course and the

mentor that pushed me to do that was actually my

mom. That was my mom, yeah, Machine Learning A-Z

because Hadelin translated the Data Science A-Z

course into French, which you did super efficiently like

in this space of a month, which was incredible for a 20

hour course. And then I was like "Ahh, let's translate

some more courses" and so on, but you wanted to do

something really cool. And I talked to my mom and she

was like, this guy is super-efficient. Super cool. Of

course you got to do something together. And like

bam, I was being a bit lazy, but my mom pushed me to

go ahead and do it.

Hadelin: That's what I'm talking about the mentor helps you,

what pushes you to take action and to take action in

the right path.

Kirill: Yeah, exactly. And so then we buckled down, it took

us another two or three months to do the Machine

Learning A-Z course is now like the bestselling

machine learning course in the world as far as I know.

Kirill: And it's got like what, 300,000 students and

everything. And you know, that was a push from my

mom. But then after that I again, I relaxed. I was

focusing on other courses or other things I thought we

should do like maybe other topics and data science

and so on, but you were like, let's do an artificial

intelligence course. Remember that?

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Hadelin: Yeah.

Kirill: And then, and then so I was, I wasn't sure should we,

and anyway, I was basically, I've always said in my

view that we should do other topics, branch out into

visualization and other things. And I chatted to Vitaly.

I said, hey Vitaly, by the way, this wasn't, I remember

this wasn't a central topic of our discussion. It was like

a "by the way" type of thing, but anyway, "Vitaly this

guy Hadelin and I created a course together when we,

well, you know, he's really excited, enthusiastic to do

another course on AI and things like that. I'm not sure

about it. What do you think? "And so Vitaly is like

"Well, where does most of your revenue come from?"

Do you remember that conversation?

Kirill: So Vitaly is like, "where's the most of your revenue

come from? How good is that course?" Like, "that

course is amazing. It's doing really well. You know,

80% of our results are coming from that course. And

he was like, "well, there's your answer. Just do more of

that course, you know, like focused on that for a

while." And then bam, we did the Deep Learning A-Z,

launching Kickstarter, raised about $150,000, 150 on

Deep Learning and then AI A-Z raised $200,000 plus

launched the course.

Vitaly: Yeah. And the revenue is the proxy for the interest and

for the value that you guys provide to to the

customers. So while we talk about the numbers, that's

a objective measure of how much you value the

contribution the guys are making in the educational

space. So there is no better way to look at it. Like if

you are willing to give me the money it means the

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product must be good and it's a feedback that I think

Kirill and Hadelin listened to like where the money

comes from, where you guys are putting your money

and you're willing to spend and learn these things and

do more of that. Do more of what the listeners want.

Kirill: Exactly. Very, very good point. And all of that came

from one sentence you said we were just having all the

usual catch up one sentence you said, bam done. I can

numerous times you can name like probably a dozen

more of the times, there was somebody

underperforming in the team. I asked you what to do,

you gave me some advice and now this person has

grown, flourished over the past two years and now

we're, Hadelin and I are working on now,

Hadelin: He's becoming our partner.

Kirill: He's becoming our partner in the business. It's crazy.

So highly, I think the value of in-person mentorship, if

you find the right person, if you actually feel it, that's

like Vitaly asked me that question today, right? Like

how did you know? Why did you pick me as a mentor?

You just feel it. It's really hard to like calculate. You

just feel it.

Vitaly: It was an interesting question that other one prompted

me actually to ask and that's something that he asked

me last night, [inaudible 00:19:05] so that was a good.

Hadelin: It's actually, it's really important. How or why do we

find a mentor? Why are we convinced that a mentor is

the one that can help us? So you actually answered it

at the beginning of this podcast episode. You said it

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happens naturally, but would you like to tell more of

how it happened between Vitaly and yourself?

Kirill: Yeah, yeah. As we, as we like as I mentioned a bit like

I just saw it in his eyes and I don't know, it was just

like I felt it. Is just a feeling for me. I don't know if it

works the same way for everyone. Yeah. It's not a,

Vitaly's making the heart sign as if I felt love.

Hadelin: Yep. For me what you're saying totally makes sense.

Because I also feel that I can understand someone and

see if a person is nice through his eyes. You know, as

we say, the eyes are the reflection of the soul. So by

looking really deeply at someone's eyes, you can have

a good idea of how good is the soul.

Kirill: Yeah, I totally agree. That's probably for me the same

thing. But Vitaly you have a few mentors yourself. Who

are they and how did you choose them?

Vitaly: Good question and Hadelin asked me that question

last night. That's why we came about the topic of this

podcast. For me the mentors, specific mentors

changed all the time like at different times of my life

and career, there were different people. And my

current set of mentors actually relate more to what I

want to achieve in life today, they are related to family

and to becoming a great husband and future father of

my kids. So a number of people that are not in the

business world are great mentors for me. If I

mentioned some names they wouldn't probably mean

anything to the listeners in the business world.

Actually I look up to you guys quite a lot of the way

you provide a value to the listeners of this podcast to

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other data scientists is intriguing for me to look at and

I want to be at proxy in my own line of career to do a

similar thing to scale the impact you do with your

abilities.

Vitaly: There are number of professional consultants that I

look up to because of their skills. One of them is Victor

Cheng or the ex-McKinsey guy who currently runs his

company and his website is www.caseinterview.com.

He prepares people for management consulting career,

like very narrow specific niche and also gives a general

advice. So he definitely has been my mentor for a

while. There are a number of close friends and

relatives that were cherry picked who I want to

emulate and mimic. Yeah, I would say there is a

bunch. It takes a village, I guess, any specific skills

from different individuals that I want to combine and

learn from and to become myself. So it's not a

copycatting I like, I'm not doing a very bad thing. Kind

of like coping of a person. It's speaking things that

relate to you the most. Could be one skill or one value,

one type of behavior and saying, this is what I want to

be. I want to emulate, I want to learn, I want to grow

combining them and it becomes you. So yeah, that'll

be my answer.

Kirill: Interesting. So for me it was like a feeling, for you is

these are people in your life or people you know like

I'm assuming Victor Chen is someone not directly in

your life, but somebody you knew about and then and

then you decide, okay, this person has a certain skill.

This is what I need now I want, I'm going to approach

them as my mentor. I'm going to like learn from them.

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Right? But before you talked about formalizing the

relationship, do you every time formalize this

relationship or not? And what does that mean to

formalize a mentorship relationship?

Vitaly: I guess it's if I mentioned formalize, what I meant is to

acknowledge for yourself that this person is a mentor

and make a regular time and effort commitments to

learn from that person. It could be through a one on

one meetings, through a call, through an email

subscription. There are many ways to formalize it, but

just to not to think about it like I'm being like ad hoc,

spontaneous, I believe might not work as effectively as

if you did it regularly. So big things are usually done in

a lot of small, consistent steps and that's what I

believe the good mentorship is about. A lot of small,

consistent quality advice from people that you've

deliberately chosen.

Kirill: Totally agree. Consistency is key, right? If we hadn't

meet, we catch up maybe… Before we'd catch up, they

were being usually weekly. We would catch up like

once a quarter. There've been years where we'd catch

up once every six months. Recently we've been

catching up more often I think because now we have

more interests to do, like just have crazy adventures

together. I am talking about partners, no we have

partners.

Vitaly: Now we are just talking about our partners in life that

also we bring them together like to dinners and

whatnot. And the frequent listeners know that about

your relationship. No. Well here's the spoiler. It's nice

to meet not only like individually but also with

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significant others, introduce them and find even more

of common interests. So Hadelin, I think you're next

right? In terms of finding your passion, love and

joining the crew.

Hadelin: Absolutely. And you know when I wonder about my

purpose in life, it seems to be finding love and it's so

hard, but I believe in it. And you know what, I'm going

to reveal something. The reason why I'm looking for a

mentor is more on this personal side of life than for a

professional or, [inaudible 00:25:17].

Kirill: Wow. Very interesting. Tell us more, why? Why is that?

Hadelin: Well, I mean in business I don't really feel the need for

a mentor right now. I'm sure I'll have one one day

cause it's the same thing. A mentor in business can

help you save a lot of time, grow more efficiently and

all. So I'm sure I'll have one day, but what I'm looking

for is more a personal development mentor. That's why

it's probably more difficult to find because it's less

common, but yes. Vitaly, since you are a mentor

yourself, I have a question for you. What advice would

you give me to find a mentor?

Vitaly: Sounds like it's another huge topic that we're just

about, we're just about to open another can of worms,

I guess. A good question. I don't think I'm a master in

this. I think I was like damn lucky finding my own love

and my passion, my significant other. I don't think I

did any deliberate moves or actions to find that

person. So my, the observation that I have, it came at

a moment where I has been looking the least. So if

you're really looking for your love, that's where you are

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likely not to find one because you are being so

thorough and methodical in your search. There was

always like a checklist. It removes a lot of spontaneity

and opportunity for a random spark. When you let it

go and be and trying to be yourself do business and

something. You find that people emerge in your life

and sparks happen like left and right. And one day you

will look in the eyes of a person and say, I think I want

to spend, I want to grow up, grow old together with

that person and that might be the one.

Hadelin: Okay. I agree with what you're saying and actually I

heard that before. You know, you'll find love when you

don't look for it. However you know, the past four

years I was not looking for that. I was only focusing on

the business, growing the business, making it

successful, create online courses and I was not looking

for it. And it turns out that, I ended up in a situation

where, you know, because I was an entrepreneur

growing my business in a community of data

scientists, well it turned, I rationally understood that it

was hard for me to find love.

Hadelin: So I guess you're right. But I guess I should do some

some kind of required steps and some efforts in order

to find it because my situation today would lead me, if

I'm not looking for it, my situation today would lead

me to find love with a very low probability.

Vitaly: There was one thing that occurred to me while you

Hadelin was talking about this. Tony Robins is a

probably a common mentor of ours in many ways and

we're planning to go like together to the Date with

Destiny this year, 2020. One of the takeaways from

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last date with destiny that we attended Kirill, you and I

attended two years ago now, was forgiveness to some

of your, forgiveness and gratitude to some of your past

relationships in order to be topping up to future

opportunities. It was something like one exercise I

remember Tony Robins made us to do is to write a

thank you letter and forgiveness letter and I did it to

my, one of my ex-girlfriends like that also I didn't have

great relationship with in the past, made myself close

up a little bit. So that might be something that an

exercise that is due.

Hadelin: Wow all right.

Vitaly: Kirill?

Kirill: As per Vitaly's spoiler, I am in a relationship now and

I'm pretty excited. Pretty stoked about it, actually very

stoked. And what I would say Hadelin is, you've been

there the whole time, right as I've been going through

different relationships and dates. So the one thing, I

wasn't looking for it as well, but one thing I

understood, like what I did was I worked on myself. I

worked on opening up more and with different

psychologists in order to open my heart and started

feeling more. And then not necessarily looking for love,

but then it kind of just like happened so. But I don't

know, you know like everybody's journey is different in

that way.

Kirill: Yeah. I guess in the matters of the heart for me is not

not finding a mentor to help me find love, but a mentor

to help me become a better person, to be more, to

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attract the right type of person that I want to be with.

What do you think of that?

Hadelin: I definitely think that a psychologist can help. Mentors

can help, but I still think I should take actions. I

should do something. By that I just mean not, I should

not stay passive.

Kirill: Perfect I think that's some great insights.

Vitaly: Speaking of, not being passive and about mentors who

are there to push people to do, what do you think guys

is the take away for the listeners of this podcast? What

are the immediate steps they could do in the next

week?

Kirill: I'll start. I'll say find a, obviously if you don't have

passive mentors, start there. Find, well, if you're

listening to this podcast, that's already a good start,

right? So you're, that's a good step. Maybe find more

passive mentors. See what kind of books you've read

in the past that can be your passive mentors, but find

an active mentor. Like identify that one person in your

life who right now, doesn't necessarily mean for the

next year or two years, but right now there's a gap that

you, you need to fill in your life and a person that has

that skill, that can help you fill that gap. So identify

that person and formalize that relationship in your

own mind and go and talk to them on a regular basis

and see what happens. But basically like Hadelin said,

keep looking. And even if that person doesn't work out,

second person, third person will work out. Maybe by

the fifth one you will find a really good mentor.

Kirill: All right. What do you think Hadelin?

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Hadelin: I think that's a, the major takeaway, and I'll say this

just to be very clear, is find a mentor, very simply, find

a mentor. You won't regret it. I don't have a mentor

yet. I know, but I studied a lot the question, I thought

a lot about this. And having a mentor really can help

you save a lot of time in life and also take the right

path, the more meaningful path, a more successful

path, and a better life. So now I'm convinced, I hope I

will find my mentor soon. I already had two interviews,

but I didn't like, I didn't have the connection with

them. So I'm going to look more and more and more

and have more interviews and I'll find the mentor.

Vitaly: And the way you, how would you find out whether you

found one or not? Kirill I think you've said something

important. It's about identifying that vacuum, whether

it's a skill or value or something that you want to feel.

What are the criteria for a mentor? Like someone with

more experience or demonstrated capability to do

something. What are the things mentorship process...

Hadelin, can you answer that one?

Hadelin: Yes, of course. So someone with experience and all is

important. But I think the most important is that this

mentor must understand you. I see myself as a pretty

complex person, with a very complex psychology. So

the key to find a mentor for me will be to find someone

who understands me. I think that's the most

important because the first step to guidance is to

understand.

Kirill: I think I'll redirect discussion back to Vitaly cause like

for me it's, I find mentors based on a feeling, not a

specific skill. I need to feel you're better at that than

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me. For me, it's like as long as I feel I'm getting value,

I'm getting takeaways every time I talk to them, that's

valuable. But in terms of skill that's how you find

mentors. So what would you say?

Vitaly: Yeah, raising such a good topic about feeling versus

understanding and thinking about a particular issue,

like a mentor selection. I don't know. I think building

on what Hadelin said, I think there should be

connection in values. I feel and think that it's difficult

to learn from a person who has a mismatch like on a

personal and professional values. Like if I don't trust,

if I don't want to associate myself, want to be a part of

the family with that person, then it will be hard for me

to learn any professional or other skills. So I think that

connection on the value side of things would be a

must. And obviously seeing that person being miles

ahead on any topic, what creates that vacuum gap

that I want to close by spending time with a person, by

asking him questions or her questions or waiting to

answer those questions that he or she will ask me.

Kirill: Awesome. Fantastic advice. Yeah. Okay, I see. I think

we'll leave that there, that touches on a cool topic on

thinking versus feeling and something were really

chatted deeply about already on this trip. We'll

continue that on another episode, so thanks very

much guys and thank you to [inaudible 00:36:46] for

powering this conversation with energy. And yeah,

we'll continue on the future FiveMinuteFriday episode

we're actually thinking of recording, yeah, this has

been a 41 minute, FiveMinuteFriday, but we were

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thinking of recording a longer episode as well. Okay,

everybody, cheers.

Vitaly: Bye.

Hadelin: Bye bye.

Kirill: Awesome. Happy analyzing until next time. Bye.