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4 . T H E O V E R L Y D E M A N D I N GT Y P E : F u l l y expec t s that 37 years wor tho f h a b i t u a l l y being la t e to m e e t i n g s ,missing appoin tment s an d forge t t ingb i r t hdays w i l l be ins tant lysolved by af r ee pock et c a l e n d a r he j u s t got in themai l f r o m hi s insurance agent .5. T H E S E N T I M E N T A L T Y P E : H adw h a t w a s t h e p e r f e c t o rg an i z a t i o n a l sys-t e m i n h e r b e l o v e d D ay R u n n e r , w h i c hsh e u n f o r t u n a t e l y lo s t t o a l u g g a g e m i s -h a p b a c k i n ' 89 . H a s b e e n t r y i n g t o createth e s a m e s y n e r g y w i t h a D a y T i m e r e v e rs ince . B u t s om e h o w t h e m a g i c i s m i s s -i n g , a l o n g w i t h ha l f - t h e addresses an dp h o n e n u m b e r s .6. T H E ^APPRECIATIVE T Y P E :H is s e n s i b l e v i n y l - b o u n d M o n t h - a t- a -G l a n c e h as f a i t h f u l l y k e p t h i m o n s c h e d -ul e f o r t h e l a s t 2 3 years. T h e n on e d a y ,w i t h o u t w a r n i n g , h e tosses it a s i d e fo r aa s l e e k l e a t h e r b r e a s t - p o c k e t d i a r y . Soona f t e r , h e t r a d e s hi s f o u r -do o r H o n da C i v -i c f o r a s p o r t y re d C o r v e t t e . N ot l o n g af -te r t h a t , h e s u d d e n l y h a s a p i n k y r i n gan d a h a i r l i n e .P e r s o n a l l y , I f ind i t i r o n i c t h a t in t h i s .t h e d e c a d e o f m o n o g a m y , t h e v e r y p l a c ew h e r e w e used to k e e p t r a c k of al l o f o u rho t d a t e s s h o u l d now i t s e l f b e t he o bje c tof ou r d e s i r eB ut t h e r e i t i s. T h a t s a u c y l e a t h e r e t t en u m b e r p o p p i n g o f f t h e c a t a l o g c o v e r .t a u n t i n g y o u w i t h I t s d o u b l e p e n h o l d e ran d a c e t a t e b u s i n e s s - c a r d p o c k e t .T h a t s m o o t h - o p e r a t i n g s o f t w a r e p a c k -a g e y o u j u s t s a w o n T V . t a n t a l i z i n g yo uw i t h it s u n l i m i t e d s t o r a g e c a p a c i t yN o w , if o n l y th e t h i n g s w e h a d t o w r i t ein ou r c a l e n d a r s w e r e h a l f as s c i n t i l l a t -in g a s t h e c a l e n d a r s t h e m s e l v e s .M i c k ey Gu i s c w i te Is a syndicated col-umni s t w i th K i ng Features SyndicateInc.

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TreatmentPrograms Help Those Suffering From AnxietyC7 , M . \^J g /By NANCY ROSS-FLANIGANKnight-Ridder Newspapers

Sh e rea l i zed th ings were ge t t ing out ofhand w h e n sh e s tar ted t agging a long w i t hhe r h u s b a n d to his job , jus t so she wouldn ' thave to s t ay home a lone .For 10 yea rs , Del ia M i l b a n k wouldn ' t goa n y w h e r e w i t h o u t he r husband, Bob. Soc ia l -ly para lyzed by a n x i e t y , she cou ldn ' t shopfo r groceries, go to a m o v i e or e v e n run outfo r a Big M a c .Hol idays? She h a t e d t h e m .Lots of people f e e l t w i n g e s of a p p r e h e n -sion tha t t i m e of y e a r , w i t h the chal lenges ofa new y e a r a h e a d . But fo r some , l i ke Mi l -b a n k , the re ' s no escape f r o m a n x i e t y - th econst an t w o r r y an d i r ra t ional fears , s le ep-less n i g h t s and rest less days, the sense ofi m p e n d i n g d o o m .It becomes such an ominous presence inthei r l i v e s t h a t they begin to f e a r an d d r e a dth e a n x i o u s fe e l i n g s t h e m s e l v e s . It can e v e nm a k e t h e m p h y s i c a l l y i l l .Bo th sexes s u f f e r f r o m a n x i e t y , a n d i tseems to a f f e c t t h e m i n s i m i l a r w a y s , b utw o m e n ar e t w i c e as l i k e l y a s m e n t o s e ekt r e a t m e n t It h a s n ' t b e e n c l e a r w h e t h e rt h a t ' s because m o r e w o m e n t h a n m e n h a v ea n x i e t y d i s o r d e r s o r b e c a u s e w o m e n ar ej u s t m o r e l i k e l y t o g e t p r o f e s s i on a l h e l p fo rth e p r o b l e m .B ut i n t h e p a s t y e a r , s t u d i e s h a v e h i n t e dt h a t w o m e n d o e x p e r i e n c e m o r e e m o t i o n a ldistress t h a n m e n . R e s e a r c h e r s a ls o h a v eb e g u n to d o c u m e n t ho w an x i e t y u n d e r m i n e sw o m e n ' s h e a l t h . A nd p e r h a p s th e b e s t

n e w s fo r a n y o n e w h o s e a n x i e t y ha s g o t t e nout o f h a n d -- p r o g r a m s h a v e s p r u n g up t os u c c e s s fu l ly t r e a t a n x i e t y d i s o r d e r s , e v e nt h o s e as severe as D e l i a M i l b a n k ' s . I n f a c t ,a n x i e t y disorders ar e a m o n g th e m o s t treat-a b l e e m o t i o n a l i l l ne s s e s .

Some Facts On A n x i e t y DisordersBy NANCY ROSS-FLANIGANKnight-Ridder Newspapers

A n es t imated 23 mil l ion Am er icansexpe r i ence an anx ie ty d i sorde r some-t ime dur ing the i r l ives . Women and menboth s u f f e r from the problem, bu t w o m e noutnumber men in cer ta in ca tegor ies/Here i s the approximate breakdown forsome specific d isorder s: Panic d i sorde r an d agoraphobia(fear 'of l eav ing h o m e ) : 7 5 percent w o m -en Obsess ive -compuls ive d i sorde r : 50percent w o m e n A n i m a l phobias : 95 percent women Height phobias : 45 percent w o m e n Genera l i zed anxie ty disorder : 50percent w o m e n

W H A T CAUSES A N X I E T Y D I S OR-DERS?T h e u n d e r l y i n g causes a ren ' t w e l l u n -derstood. Th e disorders o f t e n run in f a m -i l ies, but i t i sn ' t clear w h e t h e r tha t ' s be -cause of s imi lar g en es or s i m i l a r envi-ronment s . R esea r c h e r s ar e i nvest i ga t i ngpossible causes , inc lud ing chemical im-balances , enzyme de f i c i enc i e s , hormonesa n d emot ional t raumas .W H A T HE LPS CONTROLS OCCA-S I ON A L A N X I E T Y ? E n g a g e in egular ae robic exe rc i s e . Talk to a trusted conf idan t a b o u ty o u r problems . L e a r n t i m e - m a n a g e m e n t s k i l l s . C ut do wn o n caffeine a nd alcohol SeeFACTS, Page68

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A s s o c i a t i o n .In t e l e p h o n e i n t e r v i e w s , s u r v e y p a r t i c i -p a n t s w e r e a s k e d ho w m a n y o f t h e l a s t s e v -e n d a y s t h e y h ad e x p e r i e n c e d s a d n e s s , h a p -p i n e s s , a n g e r , a n x i e t y , m a l a i s e a n d p h y s i -ca l a c h e s a n d p a i n s .W o m e n reported s y m p t o m s of a l l t h en e g a t i v e e m o t i o n s o n m o r e d a y s t h a n d idm e n W o m e n e x p e r i e n c e d h a p p i n e s s s l i g h t -ly less o f t e n t h a n m e nT h e s t u d y a l s o s h o w e d t h a t a m o n g m e nan d w o m e n w h o w e r e e q u a l l y d e p r e s s e d ,th e w o m e n w e r e a n g r i e r an d m o r e a n x i o u sT h a t a n g e r an d a n x i e t y c a n t r a n s l a t e i n t oh e a l t h p r o b l e m s .In a p a p e r p r e s e n t e d l a s t s p r i n g a t t h eA m e r i c a n P s y c h o l o g i c a l A s s o c i a t i o n ' s f i r s t

m a j o r c o n f e r e n c e o n w o m e n ' s h e a l t h , re-searchers f r o m f o u r u n i v e r s i t i e s e x a m i n e dlo n g- t e rm records o f a b o u t 3 00- w omen t o s e eh o w h o s t i l i t y an d a n x i e t y a f f e c t e d t h e i rh e a l t h .T he s t u dy i n v o l v e d t h r e e g r o u p s o f w o m -e n, e a c h s t u d i e d a t t w o t i m e s in t h e i r l i v e s .O ne g r o u p w a s s t u d i e d a t a g e 2 7 an d a g a i nat 52 ; th e s e c o n d g r o u p a t 44 a n d 48, a n d thet h i rd g ro u p a t 24 a n d 46 . E a c h t i m e th ew o m e n w e r e g i v e n a q u e s t i o n n a i r e d e s i g n e dto m e a s u r e p e r s o n a l i t y t r a i t s . T h e y a l sow e r e a s k e d to rate t h e i r o w n h e a l t h a n d t or e p o r t a n y s e r io u s h e a l t h p r o b l e m s , s u c h a sc a n c e r o r h e a r t disease.A l t h o u g h results v a r i e d s o m e f ro m g r o u pto g ro u p , th e g e n e r a l conclusion w a s t h a tgood p h y s i c a l h e a l t h w e n t h a n d - i n - h a n dw i t h lo w l e v e l s of h o s t i l i t y an d a n x i e t y .E a r l i e r research h ad l i n k e d a n x i e t y tou l c e r s , a r t h r i t i s , h e a d a c h e s an d o t h e r m a l a -d i e s , bu t m o s t of t h o s e s t u d i e s i n v o l v e d o n l ym en or m i x e d g r o u p s o f m e n a n d w o m e n .T he r e c e n t s t u d y w a s o n e o f t h e f e w t ol o o k s p e c i f i c a l l y a t t h e e f f e c t s o f an x i e t y o nw o m e n ' s h e a l t h , says O r S a l l y A d a m s ofth e U n i v e r s i t y of C a l i f o r n i a . B e r k e l e y , w hoc o l l ab o ra t e d on t he w o r k w i t h D r. L i l l i a nC a r t w r i g h t o f t h e U n i v e r s i t y o f C a l i f o r n i a .Sa n F r a n c i s c o . O r P a u l W i n k o f W e l l e s le yC o l l e g e ; a n d D r . A b i g a i l S t e w a r t an d P h T )c a n d i d a t e J o a n O s l r o v e . b o t h of t he U n i v e r -s i t y o f Mi c h i g an .O n n ' t l e t a l l t h i s t a l k a b o u t t h e n e g a t i v ee f f e c t s of a n x i e t y a d d t o y o u r w o r r i e s J u s tb e c a u s e y o u ' r e a n x i o u s o n c e in a w h i l edo e s n ' t n e c e s s a r i l y m e a n y o u ' r e g o i n g toge t s i ckH u t y o u r a n x i e t y i t s e l f m i g h t r e q u i r et r e a t m e n t i f i t gets out o f h a n dH ow d o you k n o w if y o u ' v e r e a c h e d t h a t SeeANXIETY, Page 6B