CRISIS SITUATIONS

Safety and Injury Prevention

TYPES OF ABUSE Abuse- Contact intended to cause feelings of

intimidation, injury, or other physical suffering or bodily harm

Child Abuse - maltreatment of a child under the age of 18; can be physical, emotional, neglect or sexual abuse

Physical Abuse - maltreatment that harms the body Neglect - maltreatment that involves lack of proper

care and guidance Emotional Abuse - maltreatment that involves

assault in a nonphysical way Sexual Abuse - maltreatment that involves

inappropriate sexual behavior Drug Abuse - misuse of drugs; can be prescription or

nonprescription; can be legal or illegal Alcohol Abuse - misuse of alcohol

VIOLENCE TERMS Molestation - inappropriate touching of another Assault - threatening action that causes a person to

fear for his/her safety Battery - illegal touching of another in a threatening or

insulting manner Verbal Abuse - disrespectful/threatening language to

another person Domestic Violence - verbal and/or physical fighting

with another member who lives in the same home Rape – act of sexual intercourse forced upon a person Date Rape – Rape committed by the victim’s

partner/date. Acquaintance Rape - rape committed by someone

known by the victim Stranger Rape - rape committed by someone not

known by the victim Statutory Rape – sexual intercourse with a minor.

FEELINGS OF ABUSEPeople who have been abused need help in sorting out their feelings. They may feel:

Confused - The person may not know if he/she should tell anyone about the abuse.

Guilty - The person may feel blame themselves and wonder “Is this my fault?”

Afraid - The person may be afraid of the abuser and keep the abuse a secret.

Distrustful - The person may not trust others who say they care about them.

Depressed - The person may feel sad and withdrawn from others.

Angry - The person may take anger out on others and become a perpetrator of violence.

CODEPENDENCE Codependence is a mental disorder in

which a person loses their personal identity and is unaware of their personal thoughts and feelings.

Codependence often occurs in Dysfunctional families.

DYSFUNCTIONAL FAMILIES A Dysfunctional Family is one in which

there is no guidelines for responsible behavior or consequences for inappropriate behavior. This leads to:DistrustLack of affectionLack of cooperation

MESSAGES LEARNED:Dysfunctional families: Destroy the ability to form healthful

relationships with those outside the family Contribute to risk-taking behavior Alcohol and drug use are more common Risks seem to offer temporary relief

rather deal with painful issues

* Recovery always involves dealing with painful issues and learning to express feelings and get needs met in healthful ways.

CYCLE OF VIOLENCE What are the 3 types of abuse?

List 3 warning signs that indicate a problem is brewing.

What does an abuser do to gain control?

CYCLE OF VIOLENCE What are the 3 phases of the Cycle of

Violence?

List 3 resources victims can go to for help.

CYCLE OF VIOLENCE Honeymoon Phase

The abuser shows loving behavior such as gifts, flowers, and doing special things for the victim.

The victim is trusting, hoping for change and wants to believe the partner’s promises.

Tension-Building Phase The abuser is edgy, has minor explosions; may become

verbally abusive, minor hitting and slapping The victim feels tense and afraid like “walking on

eggshells”; feels helpless and compliant, accepts blame

Serious Battering Phase The tension becomes unbearable. The victim may

provoke the incident to get it over with. The victim may try to cover up the injury or may look

for help. The cycle starts all over again.

ABUSIVE BEHAVIOR TERMS Enabler – a person who knowingly or

unknowingly supports abusive behavior (drug, alcohol, physical, emotional, sexual, etc.)

Domestic shelter – where families can go to stay safe away from abuse

Formal Intervention – an action by people to help a person get treatment; often involves family and friends but can also involve a counselor or other important people in the person’s life

Mentor – a person who can provide support for another person; teacher, coach, religious leader

HAPPY….

NOT SO HAPPY…

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NOT SO HAPPY…

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NOT SO HAPPY…

IT CAN MEAN EVEN DEATH…

23 YEARS

DATING VIOLENCEEarly Warning Signs: Is jealous or possessive towards you Tries to control you Is scary Is violent or has history of fighting Pressures you for sex Abuses drugs or alcohol Blames you when they mistreat you Has history of bad relationships Believes men should be dominate and in

control Your friends and family have warned you

about him/her and are worried for your safety

UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIPSPeople who hit: Usually come from violent homes Think men should be dominate “the

boss” Often feel powerless Blame others for making them angry Don’t know any other ways to handle

their feelings Often have poor self-esteem

UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIPSPeople who stay in the bad relationships: Often come from violent homes

themselves– they think it’s normal behavior

Think anyone is better than no one at all Accept blame, even if it’s not their fault Believe if they love him/her enough

he/she will change Make excuses for his/her behavior

YOU THINK IT WON’T HAPPEN TO YOU….BUT THE STATISTICS SHOW IT CAN

One in four women are victims of rape or attempted rape

84 % of those women knew their attacker 57 % of the rapes have happened while

on dates About 42 % of the victims told no one 38 % of the women raped are between

the ages of 14-17. 75 % of men and 55 % of the women

involved in date rape had been drinking or taking drugs before the attack occurred. 

RAPE STATS

STEPS TO AVOID ACQUAINTANCE RAPE: Be leery of men who appear dominant or

demanding Do not get in risk situations

Go in groups, avoid isolated places Verbalize any feelings specifically and forcefully Verbalize where you stand in regard to physical

intimacy Learn to resist and respond to unwanted sexual

advances Screaming, fighting, scratching, kicking, self-defense

classes Avoid drinking alcohol or using other drugs that

interfere with your judgment

DATE RAPE DRUGS Drugs like Rohypnol “Roofies” and GHB

can easily be mixed in drinks to make a person black out and forget things that happen.

DATE RAPE DRUGS

THE NEW STYLE OF DATINGOR A LACK OF SELF RESPECT FOR YOURSELF?

SEXUAL HARASSMENT What is it?

Sexual harassment is intimidation, bullying or coercion of a sexual nature, or the unwelcome or inappropriate promise of rewards in exchange for sexual favors.

It is illegal. It does not have to be of a sexual nature,

however, and can include offensive remarks about a person’s sex.

Both victim and harasser can be either a woman or a man

How is this different than flirting? Flirting is mutual and wanted where is

harassment is 1-sided and not wanted

TYPES OF SEXUAL HARASSMENT

PhysicalVerbal Nonverbal•Insulting

sounds, ogling someone’s

body or obscene gestures

•Comments about a

persons body, clothing or

sexual activity.•Jokes or teasing

•Requests or demands

•Touching or pinching, constant

brushing up against

someone’s body •Sexual

touching

SEXUAL HARASSMENT

What feelings are associated with being a victim of sexual harassment?Vulnerable, sad, afraid, embarrassed,

intimidated, guilty, threatened

What is a hostile environment?Any place you do not want to be.The feelings associated with harassment

are experienced.

SEXUAL HARASSMENT Can school ever be a hostile environment?

Yes

In what ways can sexual harassment affect a student’s academic progress? May affect attendance May affect participation May affect seating arrangements and group

work situations

Why might individuals be afraid to intervene if they are witnesses to sexual harassment? Afraid of becoming a victim themselves May feel intimidated by the harasser

IS THIS AN EXAMPLE OF SEXUAL HARASSMENT?

A boss says to an employee, “If you sleep with me, I’ll make sure you get that promotion.”

IS THIS AN EXAMPLE OF SEXUAL HARASSMENT?

A guy says to his girlfriend, “You look so sexy in that dress that

I want to have sex with you.”

IS THIS AN EXAMPLE OF SEXUAL HARASSMENT?

A professor jokes to his students, “I’m not

sure why so many women are taking this class. Your place is at home in the kitchen.”

IS THIS AN EXAMPLE OF SEXUAL HARASSMENT?

A male teacher invites a female student to meet him late at night at his place to study for an exam. He tells her that he wants to get to

know her better. She shows up and he’s got candles and

soft music playing and doesn’t seem to want to study.

IS THIS AN EXAMPLE OF SEXUAL HARASSMENT?

A boss pats his secretary on the rear as she passes by his

desk.

IS THIS AN EXAMPLE OF SEXUAL HARASSMENT?

A woman congratulates her male employees who win the employee-of-the-month award with a kiss on the lips. She always

threatens that if they don’t kiss her, she’ll take their

award away.

CASE STUDY Stanley works at the local drug store as a store

clerk. His supervisor, Lillian, is 35 years old and married. When Stanley is restocking shelves, Lillian often comes up behind him and gives him a big, tight hug. Other times, she will lean close to him and reach around his body to get an item off the shelf. Stanley feels uncomfortable about this; but thinks its not hurting him, so he feels funny complaining.

What should Stanley do?

What makes someone a target of Bullying?

BULLYING PSA

What are some ways you can prevent

bullying?

Something or someone is making them feel insecure. Therefore they bully to make themselves

feel better.

As you watch this video, Listen to the lyrics and be ready to describe lyrics you heard that relate to bullying.

NO LOVE

It's a little too late to say that you're sorry nowYou kicked me when I was downBut what you say, just don't hurt me, don't hurt me no moreThat's right: and I don't need you, don't want to see youyou get no loveYou showed me nothing but hateYou ran me into the groundBut what comes around goes aroundI don't need you don't hurt meYou don't hurt me no moreThat's right, and I don't need you, don't want to see youYou get no loveAnd I don't need you

LETTER FROM THE BULLYThink of a time you may have been a bully. I want you to write a letter apologizing for what you did. Elements of a letter.1. Explain why you are writing the letter.2. Explain what you did.3. Explain how you could of changed the

situation.

DIRECTIONS You are going to be grouped with other students in the class, using the number you picked up.

You will go around to the different stations and complete the activity described at each station.

DIRECTIONS Ms. Linton will use the timer, you will have 1 ½ minutes at each station.

Ms. Linton will then tell you to move to the next station.

Make sure you move around the room in order of the numbers.

DIRECTIONS Work with your group to come up with a response for each Station’s question.

Limit the response on the Station’s paper to one answer per question since everyone will respond.

As a group you will write on the Station’s Paper or whiteboards (depending on the station) AND YOUR individual worksheet.

DIRECTIONS

Make sure to write in the correct area on your paper, If you start at station 4, respond on your worksheet at station 4.

DIRECTIONS Make sure you work quickly, once the timer goes off you will move to the next station, going in the order of the station numbers.

Once everyone is done we will review all the information.

You will turn your paper in for credit.

Remember you only have

1 ½ MINUTES at each station!

Work Quickly!

GO!

STATION 1Describe what teen dating violence means to you and your group.

Actual Definition:- Teen dating violence: a pattern of destructive behaviors used to exert power and control over a dating partner.

STATION 2As a group come up with one thing you might consider a “warning sign” that your partner may be controlling or abusive.

Warning Signs: Checking your cell phone or email without

permission Constantly putting you down Extreme jealousy or insecurity Explosive temper Isolating you from family or friends

-Making false accusations-Mood swings-Physically hurting you in any way-Possessiveness-Telling you what to do

STATION 3Look and read about the Cycle of Violence. Discuss with your group why this is called the “cycle of violence” & write your response.

A repeating pattern of physical abuse which occurs in abusive relationships

Come back we're running right back.Here we go againIt's so insane cause when it's going good, it's going greatI'm Superman with the wind at his back, she's Lois LaneBut when it's bad it's awful, I feel so ashamed I snappedWho's that dude? I don't even know his nameI laid hands on her, I'll never stoop so low againI guess I don't know my own strength

LOVE THE WAY YOU LIE

STATION 4

As a group come up with strategies which could help prevent dating violence.

Talk to someoneEducate yourselfDouble DateBe Prepared

STATION 5Name some potential Health Problems which could come from abuse.

Eating disordersDepressionSuicideUnwanted sexSexually transmitted diseasesPregnancy

STATION 6Why could the play Romeo and Juliet be compared in the following two categories. Come up with a response for each category.

A Great Love Story A compelling story of love addiction

STATION 7Write down one ADJECTIVE to describe the two questions.

How does it feel to be loved?

How does it feel to be controlled?

STATION 8Lets Pretend: You are interested in a girl or guy and you two start talking. Come up with a question that you could ask to insure he/she is not controlling or abusive.

STATION 9

What can YOU do if you know or Suspect someone is being

abused?

STATION 10Each group member will respond to the following questions by putting tally marks in the boxes if the question applies to you.Do you know someone who has been a victim of abuse?

Was it a teen or adult?

Teen Adult

MUSIC THAT BEST DESCRIBES THE CYCLE OF ABUSE

Love the way you lie

Come back we're running right back.Here we go againIt's so insane cause when it's going good, it's going greatI'm Superman with the wind at his back, she's Lois LaneBut when it's bad it's awful, I feel so ashamed I snappedWho's that dude? I don't even know his nameI laid hands on her, I'll never stoop so low againI guess I don't know my own strength

LOVE THE WAY YOU LIE

You will be given a song that relates to violence, abuse or rape.

You are going to analyze (examine in

detail) the lyrics. You will Highlight parts of the song that discuss abuse, rape, or violence.

You will then share with the class the lyrics you found.

We will then play the video to view how the video corresponds with the lyrics.

Taylor Swift - Tell me Why Eminem & Rihanna - Love the Way You Lie Rihanna - Love the way you lie - Part 2 Lady Gaga - Bad Romance Miranda Lambert - Gunpowder & Lead Red Jumpsuit Apparatus - Face Down Martina McBride - Independence Day Nickleback - Never Again Papa Roach - Broken Home Beatles - Run for Your Life Dixie Chicks - Goodbye Earl Pink Floyd - Dont leave me now

Students in our school get along well. Students in my school know how to report

harassment, bullying and racial abuse to school officials.

Students in my school would feel comfortable reporting harassment, bullying and racial abuse to school officials.

Teachers in my school actively work to create a safe and welcoming environment for every student.

Every student in my school feels like he or she belongs here.

My school creates opportunities for students to get to know each other.

At my school, adults and students listen to each other.