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RULES & EXPECTATIONS RULES & EXPECTATIONS FOR CLOSE FOR CLOSE
RELATIONSHIPSRELATIONSHIPS
THE NATURE OF RELATIONSHIP THE NATURE OF RELATIONSHIP RULES/EXPECTATIONSRULES/EXPECTATIONS
CULTURAL AND PERSONAL EXPECTATIONS– Assist With Predictability– Set Standards To Be Negotiated
COME FROM MEDIA, FAMILY, FRIENDS, PARTNER, GROUP MEMBERSHIP STANDARDS, ETC.
GUESS THE %GUESS THE %
USE: 32%; 30%; 26%; 12% IN 1998, AMERICAN HOUSEHOLDS
CONSISTED OF:– Not Married With Children _________ %– Not Married Without Children _______%– Married With Children _____________%– Married Without Children __________ %
COMMON COMMON MISCONCEPTIONS ABOUT MISCONCEPTIONS ABOUT
COMMUNICATION IN COMMUNICATION IN CLOSE RELATIONSHIPSCLOSE RELATIONSHIPS
WE WILL COMMUNICATE CONSISTENTLY RELATIONSHIPS TAKE LESS EFFORT ONCE
CLOSENESS IS ESTABLISHED PROBLEMS WILL ARISE, BUT WE WILL
SOLVE THEM AND MOVE ON COMMUNICATION PROBLEMS CAN BE
TRACED TO ONE PARTNER OR THE OTHER
““UNIVERSAL” UNIVERSAL” RELATIONSHIP RULESRELATIONSHIP RULES
RESPECT THE OTHER’S PRIVACY LOOK THE OTHER PERSON IN THE
EYE DURING CONVERSATION DON’T DISCUSS THAT WHICH IS SAID
IN CONFIDENCE WITH ANOTHER PERSON
RULES/EXPECTATIONS FOR RULES/EXPECTATIONS FOR ROMANTIC ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPSRELATIONSHIPS SHORT TERM
– APPEARANCE– SOCIAL INTEGRATION– FREEDOM
LONG TERM– RELAXATION– EMOTIONAL ATTACHMENT– AFFECTION DEMONSTRATION– RELIABILITY– PHYSICAL INTIMACY
RULES/EXPECTATIONS RULES/EXPECTATIONS MOST COMMONLY MOST COMMONLY
VIOLATED IN VIOLATED IN ROMANTIC ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPSRELATIONSHIPS
RESPECT ENJOYMENT TWOSOME OTHER DIRECTED PRESENCE
RULES/EXPECTATIONS RULES/EXPECTATIONS FOR FOR FRIENDSHIPSFRIENDSHIPS
GIVE EMOTIONAL SUPPORT OFFER HELP WHEN NEEDED REPAY DEBTS AND FAVORS ESTABLISH RULES ABOUT 3rd PARTY
POTENTIAL PROBLEMS ESTABLISH RULES ABOUT
PREVENTING CONFLICT
MOST PROBLEMATIC MOST PROBLEMATIC VIOLATIONS IN VIOLATIONS IN FRIENDSHIPSFRIENDSHIPS
BEING JEALOUS/CRITICAL OF YOUR OTHER RELATIONSHIPS
NOT KEEPING CONFIDENCES CRITICIZING YOU IN PUBLIC NOT VOLUNTEERING HELP IN TIME OF
NEED
NOT SHOWING POSITIVE REGARD FOR YOU
NOT STANDING UP FOR YOU IN YOUR ABSENCE
NOT GIVING EMOTIONAL SUPPORT