7/31/2019 Robert Carr Memorial Lecture: Speech by Cheryl Overs AIDS 2012
myself the impact of stigma, abuse and discrimination in my life. He enabled me to own my
experience and therefore move on. So for me Robert was a great friend and a great counsellor
and a brilliant teacher. Unfortunately he was never able to teach me how to be graceful and
dignified as he was in the face of bullshit. Meeting Roberts dad after the session made me
think that maybe that is inherited not taught.
I have great memories of good times with Robert. I am so glad I got to eat roti with him at his
favorite place in Trinidad. Laughing in London. Some that cant be mentioned. I miss him
terribly and remember him with lots of smiles and love as well as the gratitude for his truly
empowering support and I break the silence in his memory.
Post Script : After the session I was surprised by how many people came to tell me they have
had similar struggles with discrimination within HIV/AIDS NGOs and had difficulty recognising
that particular form of bullshit and dealing with its consequences.
Cheryl Overs works at the Michael Kirby Centre for Health and Human Rights, Monash
University School of Epidemiology and Preventive Medicine in Australia. Cheryl is founder of
the Global Network of Sex Work Projects and a member of the Technical Advisory Group of the
Global Commission on HIV and the Law.