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““Relationships That Stick: Relationships That Stick: How to Reach Your Friends How to Reach Your Friends with What Matters Most!”with What Matters Most!”
Eric KellyEric KellyNational Juvenile Justice DirectorNational Juvenile Justice Director
Youth for Christ USAYouth for Christ [email protected]@hotmail.com
Who do you love?Who do you love?
Think of 3 people who you Think of 3 people who you
want to connect with.want to connect with.
What does it mean to be What does it mean to be genuinegenuine
It is like offering someone a “back stage pass” to my life, so they can see who I really am and that I really, desperately need Jesus.
So what about usSo what about us
"Preach the gospel always, If necessary use words." "Preach the gospel always, If necessary use words." ~ St. Francis of Assisi~ St. Francis of Assisi
Story of the good SamaritanStory of the good Samaritan
Are we living the life we are trying to share?Are we living the life we are trying to share?
That’s being genuine!That’s being genuine!
See it really only works this See it really only works this way….way….
John 15:1-11John 15:1-11
AbidingAbidingThey get connected because we are They get connected because we are
connected.connected.They know when we aren't being real They know when we aren't being real
(the alarms turn on)(the alarms turn on)
Grab someone nearby and share an area Grab someone nearby and share an area of your life that needs to get of your life that needs to get reconnected to the vinereconnected to the vine
People Listen to People Who Listen!
Laws of ListeningLaws of Listening Somebody has to go first---help them feel safeSomebody has to go first---help them feel safe
Don’t compete for airtime-listen more then you talkDon’t compete for airtime-listen more then you talk
Some of the best questions have no questions marks at the Some of the best questions have no questions marks at the endend
Say it again---tell your friend what you think you heard so she Say it again---tell your friend what you think you heard so she or he can correct your false perceptionsor he can correct your false perceptions
Gently ask the tough questions—be prepared to answer what Gently ask the tough questions—be prepared to answer what you askyou ask
If your friend believes you’re listening because you have an If your friend believes you’re listening because you have an agenda, they may stop trusting you. Listening well means agenda, they may stop trusting you. Listening well means listening in order to love – not to convert them. God will draw listening in order to love – not to convert them. God will draw people to himself in His time.people to himself in His time.
Love others . . .Love others . . .
1. It's tough to show up in their 1. It's tough to show up in their world when we're not always wanted. world when we're not always wanted.2. It's tough to show interest when we 2. It's tough to show interest when we can't relate to what they're into. can't relate to what they're into.3. It's tough to release our time when it 3. It's tough to release our time when it doesn't seem pay off in a meaningful doesn't seem pay off in a meaningful way. way.
1 Peter 3:15 (NIV)1 Peter 3:15 (NIV)
But in your hearts set apart Christ as Lord. But in your hearts set apart Christ as Lord. Always be prepared to give an answer to Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who everyone who asks youasks you to give the reason to give the reason for the hope that you have. But do this for the hope that you have. But do this with gentleness and respect.with gentleness and respect.
Well now they have asked you….What do you say???
How do I share?How do I share?
1. I remember Jesus‘ 1. I remember Jesus‘ compassioncompassion so I seek so I seek first to first to understandunderstand rather than fix or rather than fix or judge others. judge others.
2. I talk about Jesus 2. I talk about Jesus naturallynaturally, in ways that , in ways that reveal who He is and what he means to me. reveal who He is and what he means to me.
3. I talk about Jesus early on 3. I talk about Jesus early on inin relationshipsrelationships..
4. Remember…BE REAL Share your struggles, share what you 4. Remember…BE REAL Share your struggles, share what you
don’t know. You don’t have to have an answer for everythingdon’t know. You don’t have to have an answer for everything
How don’t I share?How don’t I share?
Vomit EvangelismVomit Evangelism
Confrontation EvangelismConfrontation Evangelism ““People don’t care what you know until they People don’t care what you know until they
know that you care”know that you care”
It is more important to tell others how much It is more important to tell others how much youyou need Jesus Christ than to tell them how need Jesus Christ than to tell them how much much theythey need Jesus Christ! need Jesus Christ!
Be wise in the way you act toward outsiders; make the Be wise in the way you act toward outsiders; make the most of every opportunity. Let your conversation be most of every opportunity. Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone. know how to answer everyone. Colossians 4:5-6 (NIV)Colossians 4:5-6 (NIV)
Eric KellyEric Kelly
National Juvenile Justice DirectorNational Juvenile Justice Director
Youth for Christ USAYouth for Christ USA
[email protected]@hotmail.com
