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Social Skills for All Six strategies for tackling remarks which

target appearance

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This is not an anti-bullying tool

When it's bullying your school's anti-bullying policy applies. So it’s important to distinguish between what is bullying and what is an unthinking, unkind or mis-judged remark about how someone looks.

This is a social skills tool

When everyone has better social skills, bullying happens less.

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Six social skills tools coming up…

• Think Power 1• Think Power 2• Think Power 3• Body Power• Talk Power• Fog Power

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Think Power - 1

• Think Positive - think friendly

• How?

• Start by asking yourself why people are being hurtful and then think the best of them.

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They think they're being funny.

They're just mucking around.

It's okay. They don't mean any harm.

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Think Power - 2

• Reassure yourself

• Think about your real self, yourself at your best. Remember tough times that you came through, good things that you did.

• Tell yourself something reassuring.

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I'm cool. I can handle this.

Stuff happens. It doesn't get me down.

There's more to me than what you see.

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Think Power – 3

• Distract yourself

• Think about your favourite music, food, stuff you like, the nice people in your life, your pet if you have one ...

• Go through the alphabet - each letter, another nice thing...

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A - ……B - …….C – chocolateD - …….

W - ……X – X -BoxY - YouTubeZ - ......

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Body Power

• Body language: - look the other person in the eye- head up- shoulders squared- straight back

• Strong voice

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Talk power

• Talk positive

• Say what’s good and what’s true

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Does the way I look bother you? I think it's okay for me to be me.

Y'know what? It doesn't matter. We're all okay just as we are.

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Fog Power

Pupil A - Hey, wart-zone, was your father a toad?Pupil B - Excuse me, is there a problem?

Pupil A - The aliens have landed! Pupil B - I'm sorry, I'm not sure what

point you're trying to make.

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Quick recap - revision …

• Think Power 1• Think Power 2• Think Power 3• Body Power• Talk Power• Fog Power

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• Your turn …

• Practice Practice Practice…

• Your power …