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What is Bullying?

Bullying is hurting, harming, or harassing others repeatedly and

over time.

(Facing the Schoolyard Bully: How to Raise an Assertive Child in an Aggressive World, Zarzour, 2000)

Location Reported Percentage

Playground 81%Hallways 57%Classrooms 50%Lunchroom 37%After school 35%Bathrooms 28%Before school 25%

WHERE DOES BULLYING OCCUR?

Why People Bully

There are all kinds of reasons why young people bully others, either occasionally or often. Do any of these sound familiar to you?

• Because I see others doing it; • Because it's what you do if you want to fit in; • Because it makes me feel, stronger, smarter, or better

than the person I'm bullying; • Because it's one of the best ways to keep others from

bullying me.

Factors in the Home Environment:

• Family relationships of bullies tend to be troubled.• Parents of bullies are hostile, rejecting, & indifferent.• Parents frequently use punishment that is some form of harsh power combined with violent emotional outbursts (Olweus as cited by Curtner-Smith, 2000)

• Most bullies have weak to nonexistent father figures (Berdondini & Smith as cited by Curtner-Smith)

A bully carries out negative actions on someone who has difficulty being able to defend himself/herself. The bully uses:

• Physical Contact• Words• Indirect ways such as:

- Spreading rumors - Excluding someone from a group

Group Bullying

Bullying may also be a group phenomenon with particular characteristics. This means that there are a

number of children and young people who may at times be involved in bullying, but who would NOT usually take the initiative themselves. These are

called PASSIVE BULLIES, HENCHMEN OR BYSTANDERS. The group of passive bullies is quite

mixed an may include uncertain or anxious students.

Violence Continuum•Shooting Someone with a Gun•Stabbing Someone•Flashing a Weapon•Hitting/Kicking•Shoving/Punching•Spitting/Pushing•Intimidation/Extortion•Stalking•Sexual Harassment•Damaging Property•Stealing•Taunting/Ridiculing•Name Calling•Threatening•Writing Graffiti•Staring/Leering•Gesturing•Starting Rumors/Gossiping•Eye Rolling

What do you see at your campus?

What do you tolerate?

Where do you draw the line?

Reprinted by permission from CARE (Courtesy and Respect Empower), Jim Bryngelson, 1144 Henry Rd., Billings, MT. 59102. Phone: (40) 252-2835 Website: www.wtp.net/carePut Downs

BullyingTrash Talk

ThreatsFighting

Sexual harassmentStealing

Drinking/DrugsWeapons

VandalismHate Crimes

GangsRape

MurderSuicide

Violence Continuum

To Reduce & Prevent Violence

Begin Here

Two Types of Violence

Peer/Victim Conflict:• Disagreements, misunderstanding

and conflicting desires• Two or more students who are fairly

equally matched in strength & power• Lack of conflict-resolution skills• Lack of anger management skillsWhat to Do:• Educative Response…Teach Skills,

Remediate Skills, Assign Practice• Provide Mediation & Other

Assistance Only If Needed

Bully/Victim Conflict:• Series of negative actions (violence)

repeated over time• Are unequally matched in physical

and emotional strength and power• Bullies..lack of connectedness and

sensitivity to others• Victims..lack of assertiveness skillsWhat To Do:• Re-establish Norm…it is not okay to

bully• Adult Sanctions• Consequence Plan

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Spectrum of Violence

Verbal Visual Physical

Name calling Eye rolling Hitting/kicking

Teasing Gestures Spitting/pushing

Taunting Facial gestures Shoving/punching

Laughing at Body postures Beating/slapping

Threatening/ordering Graffiti Jabbing/bumping

Sexual come-ons Invasions of space Hair pulling

Degrading/mocking Reading diaries Damaging property

Rumors/gossiping Exposing secrets Defacing locker

Derision/ridicule Voyeurism / Playing “keep away”

Intimidating Pictures/notes Spoiling homework

Ridiculing Exposing personal items Tearing clothes

If it feels like it hurts then it is bullying!

Does it have to be a part of growing up?

NoEach and every person has the right to

feel safe in his/her life and good about themselves.

The Effects of Bullying

• Too often, people just don't take bullying seriously - until something serious happens.

• It happens a lot more than some people think. Studies show that between 15-25% of U.S. students are bullied with some frequency, while 15-20% report they bully others with some frequency

• (Melton et al, 1988; Nansel et al, 2001).

Effects of Bully’s Behavior

• Many students are frightened.• A climate of fear exists in the classroom.• Some students think it is funny when they see the immature behavior of a

bully.• School time is wasted.• Students who are being bullied are threatened and become highly emotional

and upset and afraid to come to school.• Physically weak students may follow the bully for protection.• The teacher may loose power in the classroom.• A negative atmosphere is created.• The teacher may become afraid of the bully.

•Slightly bothered •More aware of a problem•Wishing the problem would stop•Thinking of ways to get out of the situation•Arousal and activity increases•Defensive/aggressive stance and voice•Taking steps to gain superiority•Believing a full commitment is necessary•Rage with both emotional and physical responses Conflict

AngerRage

Violence

Stages of Anger

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MennigerTriad

Source: FBI Behavioral Science Unit & Dr. Menniger

1. The wish to die (Suicide)

The Effects of Bulling

3. They wish to be killed(Suicide-by-Cop)

2. They wish to kill(Homicide)

COLUMBINE H.S.

Luke Woodham Pearl, MS

Kip KinkelSpringfield, OR T.J. Solomon

Conyers, GA

Charles WilliamsSantee, CA

Where are these Perpetrators/Victims?

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Ways to STOP bullying

• Tell someone • Stick with friends • Ignore the bully/walk away• Act brave• Stand up for yourself

What NOT To Do If You Are Bullied

• DON'T...Think it's your fault. Nobody deserves to be bullied!

• Keep it to yourself and just hope the bullying will "go away."

• Skip school or avoid clubs or sports because you're afraid of being bullied.

• Think that you're a "tattle tale" if you tell an adult that you've been bullied.

• Hurt yourself.

Support someone who is being bullied

Sometimes the best thing you can do for a person who is being bullied is just to be there for him or her and be a friend.

Stand up to the person doing the bullying

When kids who bully see that other kids don't think it's cool, they are more likely to stop.

The Law

The law defines bullying as “written or verbal expression or conduct that the school board determines will have the effect of physically harming a student, damaging property or placing a student in fear of harm to him/herself or his/her property, or is severe enough to create an intimidating, threatening or abusive educational environment.”

Violation of this policy is a Class C

misdemeanor!

Sent to Jail

1. Rules – Parents and school personnel must demonstrate that they are in charge and won’t tolerate any student hurting another student (physically or psychologically)

2. Rights – Every student has the right not to be hurt and the right to learn in a safe environment

3. Responsibilities – Educators must be responsible for better supervision and more observant monitoring. Students must be responsible for respecting the rights of their classmates and themselves

MAKING A DIFFERENCE

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3 examples of bullying

2 ways to STOP bullying

1 way you will help others

My Statement of Responsibility I have a responsibility to tell someone if I am

being bullied. I have a responsibility to not remain silent when someone else is bullied. I have a responsibility to speak up on behalf of all students who need help. I will honor that responsibility.

__________________Student’s name__________________Date