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RECOGNIZE AND CONTROL
JUDGEMENTAL TENDENCIES
I expect that my therapist to be compassionate listener who will
address their concerns in a
reasonable and non biased manner.
Of course my professional role as a
therapist implies reserving personal
judgment and focusing on patients needs.
The patient will typically be more
open and less resistant if the
therapist models the ability to weigh
the problem without judging the
person
WOW, you are extremely irritating
to me.
Do your friends or family ever
seem to be exasperated or short-tempered
with you?
Lets talk about some possible triggers for
that.
Elicit Input and Feedback
A contemporary collaboration include an active exchange of information and shared
decision making.
The therapist is reasonable for structuring both individual session and the therapy as a whole, this objective can only be achieved with active input
and feedback from the patient.
This important process of negotiation between patient and therapist (Safran & Muran, 2000) is more than
superficial consensus; it is both a necessary condition and an intrinsic part of a change process.
PROBLEMS IN COLLABORATION
With other patients, more specific effort is needed because there
are particular problems in therapeutic collaboration.
Two types of problematic collaboration
1. Passive Noncollaboration- may stem from low expectations for success.
2. Active Avoidance- suggests negative, personalized meaning such as distrust of therapy or externalized blame.
To avoid problems in collaboration How do you feel about your progress so far in
overcoming your anxiety and doing
things are difficult for you to do?
Frustrated. I want to be a lot further along.
What do you think has gotten in your way, or
held you back?
Nothing really, but I think I need someone to force me to do what is difficult.
I'm not very good at disciplining myself, and I
need a demanding taskmaster to make me do what I don’t want to
do.
Id like to hear about your homework, which if I remember
correctly, was to schedule an hour for doing something just for yourself that you might enjoy. We discussed some ideas, as I recall. Were I able
to try out any of the things we considered, or did you try something
completely different?
Well, I thought about the
assignment a lot, but didn’t actually
do anything
That sounds like some important cognitive work. Can we talk further about that?
Okay, but I don’t know
what there is to talk about. I
didn’t do anything
That’s okay; what is important is to understand your thought process. Can you tell me about
your internal conversation about this idea? Was there sort
of a back-and-forth deliberation?
Yeah, there was. I really sort of wanted to do
something just for me. The idea sounded good,
like something I never do. I even called and
scheduled an appointment at a nail
salon to get a pedicure and was looking forward
to a nice treat.
There is a coffee shop next to the salon, and I was going to get one of those delicious caramel
frappachinos and just relax and enjoy being pampered for a little bit. But then I realized that I would be taking time away from my family and spending money on myself, and I just didn’t feel right about it. I guess I felt that taking time for
me was going to turn me into one of those selfish, uncaring, “high maintenance” types and I just couldn’t do it. If I took that time for myself, I felt like I would be letting my family down. So I
spent the afternoon ironing clothes instead.
I noticed you winced just then, and seemed a bit
agitated. Was there something that crossed
your mind just then?
Actually, I was feeling irritated.
Was the irritation related to the topic
we are discussing, or possibly something in
my manner?
Well, I don’t like answering
question. I feel uncomfortable
trying to put my feelings into
words. I wish you already know what
is bothering me
I really appreciate your effort to be thorough in telling me how you are doing.
I want to ensure that we stay productively focused, but it’s a little hard to do that and take everything in. I’d like to check out a possibility with you that might help us be more efficient.
Do you think that it is necessary for me to know everything that has happened to fully understand and help you? Is that maybe one reason why you work so hard to tell me everything?
Well, yes. I don’t really know what is
important. So I need to get all the information to you so that you can figure out how to solve
my problems.
So your assumption is that I need to know everything so that I can figure out the solution to your problems.
Yes. Is that strategy working very well so far?
Not really. I’m working really hard and I haven’t really gotten to hear what you think I should
do yet.
How about if we consider some different ideas
about how to make our work
more productive?
Five Indications of a Good Working Relationship1. There is a desire to have contact.2. Information is shared.3. Positive affect is expressed.4. Sense of teamwork.5. Negative sentiment is productive.