R. Henderson 12/20/09 Lesson # 51 1

Marriage & Parenting part 2

What is Parenting ?

dictionary definition – the rearing of children; their care, love and guidancebiblical view: In scripture the word “teaching” or “instructing” of your children is used many times

examples:Proverbs 1:8 Hear, my son, your father's instruction and do not forsake your mother's teaching;

Proverbs 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go, Even when he is old he will not depart from it.

2 Corinthians 12:14 Here for this third time I am ready to come to you, and I will not be a burden to you; for I do not seek what is yours, but you; for children are not responsible to save up for their parents, but parents for their children.

1 Timothy 3:4 He must be one who manages his own household well, keeping his children under control with all dignity

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Ephesians 5:31 for this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and shall be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh

leave and cleave (be joined) – quoted from Gen. 2:24

- leave – depart from, leave behind

see 1 Thess. 3:1, Acts 18:18-19

- be joined - to cleave unto, to be joined with root word (to glue one thing to another) see Acts 8:29

- become one flesh – see Matt 19:6

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Ephesians 6:1 Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right.

addressed to Children, but parents need to be involved

obey – hypakouō - “to listen under”, and so, to submit, to obey

examples: obedience to God - Heb. 5:9; Heb. 11:8; to the Gospel - Rom. 10:16; 2 Thess. 1:8 to parents - Col. 3:20

right – dikaios – in the NT denotes righteous, right conduct

literally: for this is a righteous thing.

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Ephesians 6:2 honor your father and mother (which is the first commandment with a promise),

Eph 6:2-3 is a quote from Ex. 20-12

honor – to esteem, reverence

see John 5:23, 1 Tim 5:3 and 1 Peter 2:17

promise – signifies a gift graciously bestowed by God

see 1 John 2:25, 2 Cor. 7:1

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Ephesians 6:3 so that it may be well with you, and that you may live long on the earth.

that it (all) may be well

it may be – giomai – to become (verb of change)

well - good see Matt. 25:21

that you may live long

you may (be) – eimi – to be (verb of status quo)

long life - an adjective denoting "of long duration, long-lived"

see Deut. 4:40, Deut. 17:20

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Marriage & Parenting part 2Ephesians 6:4 Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.

A Father’s list of do’s and don’t’s with his children !!

provoke to anger - to arouse to wrath, irritation or resentment

see Col. 3:21, Rom 10:19

bring them up - to nurture, to rear - see Eph 5:29

a.) discipline - paideia - denotes "the training of a child, including instruction”

see 2 Tim 3:16, Heb. 12:11

b.) instruction – literally "a putting in mind" see 1 Cor 10:11